The native American., 1839-10-12

misery. lhe issue GependS upon that pru-
dent. amiable, uniform conduct which wisdom
and virtue SO strongly recommend, on the one
hand or that impsudence which want of rehec
ton or passion may prompt on the other.
You are allied to man OF honor, OF talents,
and of an open, generous disposition. y on have,
therefore. in your power all the essential ingredi-
cnts Of domestic happiness: il cannot be married,
It YOU reflect upon a system OF conduct which
You ought invariably to pursue-if You see clear
" the path from which You will resolve never to
dcvia,e. Oar conduct is often the result ofwhm
or caprice, often such will give many a
p>ng, unless we sec beforehand what is always
most praisewor,hy, and the most essential to hap
pness.
'rhe first maxim you should follow is, never to
attempt TO control your husband by opposition,
by displeasurc, or any other mark Of anger. \
man Of sense, Of prudence, warm feelings, can
not. and will not bear an opposition Of any kind,
which is attended with an angry look or express
sion. The current of his affections is suddenly
stopped; his attachment is weakened ; lie begins
to feel modification the most pungenl he isbe-
Titled, even in his own eve and be assured, the
wife who once excites those sentiments in the
breast of husband, will never regain the high
ground which she might and ought to have re-
tanned. When he marres her, If he be good
man, lie expects to find in her who is not to
control him-not TO take from him the freedom
Of acting as his own Judgment shall direct, but
one who will place such confidence in him rs to
believe that his prudence is his best guide. Little
things. which in realilg mcre trifles in them
selves, often produce chickering's, and even quar-
rals. Never permit them TO be a sub ect O! dis
pnte yield them with pleasure, with a smile of
atiastion. Be assured that one difference out
weighs them all III ousanA or ten thousand times.
AZ Il i, T.
sidered as the greatest caalnily--as what is to be
studiously guarded against It is demon which
must never be permitted 10 enter a hahila,ion
where all should be peace, unimpared confidence
and heartfelt affection. Besides, what can a wo-
man gain by opposition or Indifference? Moth
ing. But she loses everything she loses hert
husbands respect for her virtues; she loses his
love, and with that. all pros pet Of future happ-
ness. She creates her own misery, and then ~
ters idle and silly complaints. but uters them in
vain. The love OF husband can he retained on
~ by the high opinion which he cnter,ans Of
his wCe's goodness 81 heart Of her amiablo dis
position, Of the sweetness OF her temper; Of her
prudence, of her devotion to him. Let nothing.
upon any occasion, ever lessen that opinion. On
the contrary, it should augment every day; he
should have much more reason to admire her for
those excellent qualities which viii cast lusre
over virtuous woman when her personal attrac-
tons are no more.
Has your husband stall on, longer ,han you
expected! When he returns receive him as the
partner Of your heart. Has he disappointed YOU
il something you expected, whether Of ornament,
0r furniture, or Of any coaveniencv? Never
evincc discontent; receive his apology with cheer
tuness. Does he invite company without infor-
ming YOU Of it, or bring home with him frend2
Whatever may be Your repast. however scantv