Lexington union. (Lexington, Miss.) 1838-18??, 1839-01-05

c'o'y' O"'.es l'ossessPo ol these Il is NEXT
to impossible, to relish the con,ponu :,
those Of gentle and cour,ly bearing. :, :, "
ccye from, or impart TO them, am,seme,,
pleasure or enjoyment. II is disaercc,ls'
and painful TO see those in good socie,"
who are ignorant Of its rules--i.s frs, "
dimcnts. They are like blind ho,s.
surrounded by dikes, in constant leor ,nS
danger of tnmbling into, or over, Soma i
the bitches, or hedges with which tho a
tercourse OF the refined with each o,he, !,
fenced. Their numerous errors and hlnm
ders arcnlike Notifying to .llcm and n.
spectators.
To the Indy, Chesterfield Commend,
doicacy of sentiment, and modesty in Do
meanor and conversation with all, I'M
particularly ncp acqnaintances. Ton
great familiarity with ycstrddys acquaint
ances is improper imprudent, and disgust.
ing; improper and disgusting because ii. I
Extremely lmprudent and not treatinr
such acquaintance with due respect i'm
prudent because we may thus attach on,
selves to persons unworthy, whom il M, \
be afterwards difficult TO get rid q
Every thing in woman like mascula,Oa
herself, our author scouts and condemn
And where is the man, who ever admI,a
or loved woman destitute of feminiD.
dclcacy, grace and retiring modestv
These qualities she cannot cultivate to, B
assiduously; Tor they win, charm and hs
cinate the manly heart, and will enshuae
her in his bosom, as gem more rich aDi II
precious than ever dccked old occan'shel Y
True poltencss teaches US not to rl !
others unnecessary pain. Our authorfr
bids our saying any thing that will cam
lcssy wound, hurt or rritate the feeEg (
) Of those into whose company we mb
thrown. We should not, then, speatd
, uginess in the company Of lady who's
I'm Narcissa-like in appearance-of ank
/ wardness if she is ungracelu-of isnc
' rance, if illlterate--or any thing else thai
, would directly or by reflection or contras
. disparage her in her own, or in other
= eyes. Much less should we give then
l physical pain by squeezing too tightly
/ their taper hands, and ! had like TO have
: added, Mr.. Editor, that they should nd
3, intlict upon the gentlemen similar pain y
} striking them, &C., but Of this ] am sun
a none who make any pretensions to refine
ment or decency, are guilty.
S Some of the fair sex for fear of being
4 thought too forward in the company 4
t gentlemen, never say any thing but "ye'
!. or "no"--othcrs, lest they may he deemd
r too modest, talk necessarily. Boh Ties
1 extremes are alike violations of the car
mons of poIilencss. 70 hear occasionalr
/, The silvery voice and purely fresh ,hOualA
= of young, beautiful, and lovely girl, de-
C lights and exalts our leclings-refincs our
. nature, and gives us loreiaste Of the jon
|, If Heaven. But their pe!vertial Sound
n and flow, satia,cs- disgus,s. even witt
!. their very sweetness. You, then, my 'r
j. readers, who say but eyes" or "no," d
d your Leauxs talk more. You, wbcsI
n voices are scarcely ever still, say lcaI
d Observe this rule, and you will he moH
G agreeable and moro esteemed.
r, Some persons are SO petulant, or con-
IS ceited that they can hear nothing wIIh@I
n contradicting it, and thus stab the pear
/, and sclf-esteem Of him or her who ventura
IS the opinion. There is nothing more Tudl
!. or impolite from this practice; let me en-
il trent all who have any Of the "m'S 4
n human kindness y in their bosoms, tOaF|
stain.
v have often seen with mortIficalIdI
n aud regret, some wretched wight, vi
a happened to be in bad odour with lhI
v community, made the butt of ridicue
j. the amusement of the crowd--like casj
g bear, his ears would be rung, and 500
ickled TO make him bawl and roar
IS afford laughter and merriment for other
r. This good breeding. humaniiy-andeVsI
= generous impulse Of the soul condemns
5, This cup OF those possess not the e@1
II will of society, is sufficiently bitter T''1
le out this Ingredient.
C. The rules necessary for governing o.
he conduct in refined society, nre not ea,'
obtained in a new country. In our auln'j
OF they are admirably laid down. Tou
III youth | would say, ucqnaint yourself "ll|
n, them and you will not find their npp'lc''
n. ton difficult or impracticable. Ihlses|
lie mabIe work (Chesterfcld) should Oe
" every dody's boudoir, and not be aee''I
e. unworthy of gcntlemen's consultation,
ne The above observations are no! Cav
m lated particularly for Lexington. IVY
ar not have it thought that l consider
low other villages in refinement.
such charge no one would repe' sO%
than myself; or regard it fouler s'a"a
Yet, am not so blind as to think W"
cannot be in this respect, improved
* Anxious eleganiiam mo'a"