The Charlotte journal. [volume] (Charlotte, N.C.) 1835-1851, 1839-10-31
MARRIAGE.


, make for him help mate This domes.
) tic constitution is distinguishing cbarac.
, tetistic of christianity, is essential to the
! elevation and happiness Of our race.
; Every young man should, therefore, il
possible, contemplate being married. IL Is
christian duty, as well as privilege to
have companion 10 share with you the
responsibilities, interests aud enjoymenls
of life. If man IS in circumstances to be
married he is usually less useful TO society,
and perhaps always less happy for remain.
ing ia the single SIT ,e. That he may be
perfect and entire wanting nothing be
must have wife.
When man lives single beyond the pro.
per time for being married, there Is a pre-.
Vaent Suspicion among the other sex that
he is addicted TO vice. do not know but
that this judgment is a little severe-for
there are some bachelors Of UnquestionabIe
virtue. But thar there is foundation for
a general suspicion Of this sort, will hardly
be questioned and the vicious tendency Of
ceiibacy, IN communities, is very generally
Known aud acknowledged.
The time for marrying after the period
indicated by nature las arrived. must Of
cacfse vary somewhat with circumstances.
As general rule, early marriages are de
-irable but then they should be under one
or two conditions, either that Of property
inherited, or already acquired, adequate TO
/ the usual expense or tina, Of simplicity and
/ lfugality IN the style Of living sufficient to
reduce the expense within the present earn
tngs. The latter is always the best. 1t is
! the happest aud mos, vlrtuous state of soci
ETY., IN which the husband and @,fe set on,
early together, make thelf property togeth.
r, and with periec, sympathy OF soul grad
Date all their expenses, plans, calculations
and desires, with reference 10 the present
means and TO their future and common IN
/ 'erests.
Nothing delights me more than TO enter
The neat little tenement Of The young couple,
Who, within perhaps two or three years,
without any resources but their own knorl
edge and industry, have joined heart and
! hand, engaged to share together the resDon.
sibriItIes, duties, interests, trials and pleas
ures Of llte. The industrious wifi as cheer.
folly emp wing her own hands IN domestic
duties, putting her house 10 order, or mend
ing her husbands clothes, or preparing the
dinner, while perhaps the little darling sits
ptattiing upon the floor, or lies sleeping IN
The cradle-and every thing seems prepar
ng welcome 20 the happest Of husbands and
the best of fathers v hen he shall come from
his toll to enjoy the sweets Of his little par
idise. This IS the true domestic pleasure,
the only bliss that survived the fall
| Health, couteutmeni, love, abundance and
bright prospects are all here.
Bur il has become prevailing sentiment,
that man must acquire his fortune before
he marries,--that the wife must have no
sympathy nor share with him IN the pursuit
otIt IN which most of the pleasure truly con
sists; and that young married people mus,
SET out with as barge and expensive an es
adjustment as is becoming those who have
been welded Tor twenty yesH.
This is very unhappy. It fills the CON
munity with bachelors, who are waiting to
make their fortunes, endangenug virtue and
promoting vice, il mars the true economy
aud design If the domestic institution and
Il promotes ldleness and inetficiencv among
females who are expecting to be taken up
by fortune and passlvey sustained with.
out any care or concern on their part--and
thus many a modern wife becomes, as a
genilemau once remarked, not a helpmate
but help eat.
This is another unpleasant evil attending
this, especially as II bears pretty severely
on the far sex. When Bachelors have
made their fortunes and become some forty
or fifty years old, they do not usually take
wives of their own age, but they then aban
don those with whom they have hitherto as
soclated, requlte all the pleasures which
their society has afforded them with utter
negiect they then select for their ccmpan
IONS the young and blooming, aud thus leave
TO their fate a numerous class Of worthy
maidens.
Great disparity in matrimony is an evil IN
many particulars; and what is more unuai
ural than TO see young Miss welded to a
man old enough TO be her father lie
ought 10 have sense enough TO know, that
unless she is on eccentric character, she
never married him for love and she ought
also TO know, that in consentlug to marry
him, che in all probability consented to make
herself wretcbed slave--to put herself in
the power Of man who had already expen
ded his first and warmest love on others and
who by hls-superior age, his matured habits
of pleasing himself and Of having his own
way, and the selfimportance which property
gives, was well qualified to act the part of II
tyrant, rather than that Of husband.
If "a young man has property, he may of
course marry at suitable age, aud adopt
the style OF living, which is justified by his
means. But if he rs destitute Of property,
he has three alternatives, and he can take
his choice between them. Selecting pru.
dent industrious person for his wife, he may
marry young aud live in style of simplicI,
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