Cheraw gazette and Pee Dee farmer. [volume] (Cheraw S.C.) 1838-1839, 1839-09-06

moral or immoral habits Of the last conse-
quence. If they perceive you happy and
lifted up with the visit or countenance ol
persons of high rank, solicitous to entertain
them properly, submissive and fatterlng in
your name, Of speaking to them, vain and
apt to boast ofyour connection with Them :
and if, on the contrary, they perceive you
hardly civil 10 persons of inferior stations,
or narrow circumstances. impatient of their
company, and Immediately seizing The op.
portunty of their departure TO despise or
expose them; will not this naturally lead the
young mind 10 consider riches and high
station, as the great sources Of earthly hap
piness? Will itnot give s;rong bias TO
their whole desires and studies, as we'll as
visibly effect their behaviour 10 others in so.
cial life Do not think that this is too
nice and refined the first impressions npon
young persons. though inconsiderable in
themselves, have often great as we'll as a
lasting effect.
remember to have read many years ago,
in the archbishop Of Cambray's education
of a.danghler, an advice to parents TO let
their children perceive that they esteem 9th.
ers, not according TO their station or out.
ward splendour, but their virtue and real
worth. 1t must be acknowledged that there
are some marks Of respect due to men,
according to their place in civil Ilie, which
a good man would not fail to give them,
even for conscience sake. But it is an easy
matter, in perfec, consistency with this, by
more frequent voluntary intercourse. as
we'll as by our usual manner Of speaking, to
pay that homage which is due TO piety. TO
express oar contemp, or indignation atvice,
or meanaess Of every kind. | think it no
inconsiderable addition to this remark, that
we should be as cautious of estimating hap
piness as ,irtue by outward station; and keep
at the same distance from envyIng as from
fa,tering the great.
rul what must particularly recommend
to you is to avoid that common, but detes.
table custom of receiving persons with
courtesy, and all the marks OF real friend
ship in your house and the moment they
are gone, falling upon their character and
conduct with unmerciiul severity. | am
sensible there are some cases, though they
are not numerous, in which it may be law.
ful 10 say of Others behind their back, what
it would be at least imprudcnt or unsafe to
say in their own presence. Neither would
exclude parents from the advantage OF
pointing on, to their children the mistakes
and vices of others, rs warning or lesson
Of instruction to themselves. Yet as de
traction in general is 10 be avoided at all
times so Of all others the most improper
season to speak to any mans prejudice, Is
after you havejust received and treated him
in an hospitabIe manner, as a friend. There
is something mean in ii, and something so
nearly allied to hypocrisy and d'singenuity,
that would not choose to act such part
even to those whom would take another
opportunity of pointing out to my children.
as persons whose conversation they should
avoid, and whose conduct they should ab.
hor.
In every station, and among all ranks,
this rule is often iransgressed ;but there is
one point in which i. is more frequently and
more universally transgressed than IN any
other, and that is by turning the absent into
ridicule, for any thing odd or awkward in
their behaviour. am sorry 10 say that this
is an indecorum tha, prevails in several
families of high rank. A man Of inferior
station, for some particular, renson Sd
mitt.d to their company. lie 's perhaps
not we'll acquainted with the rules OF polite
ness, and the presence ofh!s superiors' to
which he IS unaccuslomed, increase his EN-.
barrassment. Immediatey y on his departure,
petu'ent boy rgddy girl will set about
mimicking his motions and repeating his
phrases, TO tho great entertainment OF the
company, who apparently derive much selt.
satisfaction frem circumstance IN which
there is no meri, at all. lfany person rem
ders himself Justly ridiculous, by affecting
character which he is unable TO sustain
let him be treated with the contempt he de.
serves. But there is something very un.
generous in people treating their interiors
with dsdain, merely because the same
Providence that made their ancestors great,
left the o.hcrs in lower sphere.
1t has oaen given me great indignation
to see gentleman or his wife, Of real
worth, good understanding, but SIMPLE man.
ners, despscd and rldiculed for defect
which they cou!dno RENE y, and that often
by persons the mos, insignificant and friv.
olous, who never uttered sentence N their
lives that deserved to be remembered or re-.
peated. But ifthis conduct is ungenerous
IN the great, how diverins is it 10 see the