Southern Argus. [volume] (Columbus, Miss.) 1834-1842, 1839-05-21
COLUMBUS QIIl TUESDAY, MAY q. 1895:

on any occasion ever lessen that opinioa.
On the contrary, it should augment every
day he should have much more reason
to admire her for those excellent qualities,
which viii cast a lustre over a virtuous
woman, when her personal attractions are
no more.
Has your husband staid out longer than
you expected When he returns receive
him as the partner of your heart. Has
he disappointed you in something you ex.
pected, whether Of ornament, or furniture,
or Of any conyenieEcy Never eyince
discomfort, receive his apology with
cheerfulness. Does he, when You are
housekeeper, invite company without in.
forming you oft, or bring home with him
friend ? Whatever may be your repast,
however scanty it may be, however i'm.
possible it may be 20 add to it, receive
them witha pleasing countenance, adorn
your table with cheerfulness, give to your
husband and TO your company hearty
welcome; twill more than compensate
for every other deficiency; it VIII esince
love for your husband, good sense in your
self, and that politeness of manners, which
acts as the most powerful charm! 1t will
give TO the pluinest fare a zest superior TO
all that luxury can boast. Never be dis
contented on any occasion of this nature.
In the next place, as your husbands
success in his profession will depend upon
his popularity, and as the manners Of a
wife have no little influence in extending
or lessening the respect and esteem of
others for her husband, you should take
care to be affable and polite to the poor
est as well as the richest. A reserved
haughiiness is a sure indication of weak
mind and an unfeeIing heart.
With respect to your servants, teach
them to respect and love you, while you
expect from them a reasonable discharge
of their respective duties. Never tease
yourself, or them, by scolding it has no
other effect than to render them discon-
tented and impertinent. Admonish them
with calm firmness
Cultivate your mind by the perusal Of
those books which instruct while they
amuse. Do not devote. much of your
time to novels; there are a fewSwhich
may be useful and improving in giving a
higher tone to our moral sensibilitY; but
they tend to vitiate the taste and produce
a disrelish for substantial intellectual food.
Most plays are of the same cast they are
not friendly to the delicacy which is one
of the ornaments of the female character.
History, geography, poetry, moral essays,
biography, travels, sermons, and other
well written religious productions, will not
fail to enlarge your understanding, 10 rem.
der you a more agreeable companion,
and to exalt your virtue. A woman de.
void of rational religion, has no secu-
rity for her virtue; it is sacrificed to her
passions, whose voice, not that of God, is
her only governing principle. Besides, in
those hours of calamity to which families
must be exposed, where will she find sup
port, If it be not in her just reflections up.
on that all.ruling Providence which gov
ernS the universe. whether inanimate or
animate.
Mutual polileness between the most in
innate friends, is essential to that harmony,
which should never be once broken or in-
terrupted. How important then is it be.
tween man and wife The more warm
the attachment, the less viii either party
bear to be sighted, OF treated with the
smallest degree of rudeness or inattention.
This polteness, then, if il be not in itself a
virtue, IS at least the means Of giving TO
real goodness a new lustre; 1t is the
means Of preventing discomfort, and even
quarrels it is the oil Of intercourse, it re.
moves asperities, and gives to everything
a smooth, an even, and pleasing move
ment.<
will only add, that matrimonial happi.
ness does not depend upon wealth; no, it
is not TO be found in wealth; but in minds
properly tempered and united to our re-
spectiye situations. Competency is ne
cessary; all beyond that point, is ideal.
Do not suppose, however, that would not
advise your husband to augment his prop
perty by all honest and commendable
means. would wish to see him actively
engaged in such pursuit, because en-
gagement, sedulous employment, in OBJ
tanning some laudable end, is essential &c
happiness. In the attainment of a for
tune, by honorable means, and particular
| " BY professional exertion, man derives
particular satisfaction, in self.applause, as
well as from the increasing estimation il
which he is held by those around him.
In the management of your domestic
concerns, let prudence and wise. economy
prevail. Let neataess, order, and ludg.
nent be seen 10 ill your different depart.
Ements. Unite literally with a just fru.
gality always reserve something for The
q hand Of charity and never let your dooi
be closed 10 the voice Of suffering hei
mainly. Your servants, u particular
win have the strongest claim upon youl
charity; let them Be wei fed, well cloth
ed, nursed ID sickness, md never LET then
Be unjustly treated.
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