Cheraw gazette and Pee Dee farmer. [volume] (Cheraw S.C.) 1838-1839, 1839-08-16

riaqe. Some have found fault with giving
them, for doing well, little rewards OF sweet:
meats and playthings, as tending TO make
them mercensry, and leading them to look
upon the indulge Of appetite as the chief
good. This apprehend, is rather refining
too much : the great point is, that .hey oe
rewarded for dong good. and not Tor dong
evil. When they are cross and iroWard,
would never buy peace, but force it. Notn.
ing can be more weak and foolish, or more
destructive Of authority, than when children
are noisy and in an i'll humor, to give them
or promise them something to oaPpease 'hem.
When the Roman emperors btgan to give
pensions and subsidies to the Northern ma
tons TO keep them quiet, man might nave
foreseeu without the spirit of prophecy,
! who would be master in liule time. The
| case is exactly the same with children. They
| will soon avail themselves oflhis easness IN
their parents, command favours instead .of
teggiug them, and be insolent when they
should bcgraleful.
The same conduct ought to be uniformly
preserved as children advance in years and
understanding. Let parents try 10 convince
them how much they have ,heirreal interest
a, heart. Sometimes children wall rnakn
REQUEST, and receive hastv or froward
denial vet upon reflection the thing ap-
pears not to be unreasonable, and finally 1t
is granted and whether it be right or wrong,
sometimes by the force Of importantly, it
is extorted. If parents expect either gratl-
tude or submission for favours so un:
graciously bestowed, they will find
themselves egregously mistaken. 1t is
their duty to prosecute, and it ought TO
be their comfort to See, the happiness of
their children and therefore they ought 10
lay it down as rule, never 10 give sud-
den Or haslv refusal but when any thing
is proposed to them, consider deliberately
ana fully whether it is proper-and after
that, either grant it cheerfuly, or deny it
firmly.
1t is noble support Of authority, when it
is really and visbly directed to the most I'M
poriani end. My meaning in this, hope.
IS no, obscure. The end consider as mos,
important is, the glory Of God in the eternal
happiness and salvation of children. Who.
ever believes in future state, whoever has
a just sense of the importance of eternity TO
himself canno, lal to have a like concern
for his offspring This should be his end
both in instruction and government and
whenit ysibly appears that he is under the
consraint of conscience, and that either re.
proof or correclionarc the fruit Of sanctlfind
love, it will give them irresistible force. |
will tell you here, with all the simplicity ne
cessary in such situation, what ! have
ofen said in my course of pastoral visitation
in families, whera there is in many cases,
through want Of jadgmeu', as well as want
! of principle, a great Hegle lee; of authority.
" Use your authority for God, and he
will support ii. Let it always be
seen that you are more displeased
at sin than at folly. What shame is it,
that if q child shall, through the inatten.
ton and levity OF youth, break dish or
a pane of the window, by which you may
lose the value of a few pence; you should
Storm and rage at him with the utmost fury,
or perhaps beat him with unmercful sever.
,y but il he tells a lie. or takes the name
of God in vain, or quarrels with his neigh
bours, he shall easily obtain pardon or
perhaps, If he is reproved by others you will
Justify him and take his part"
You cannot easily believe the weight that
il gives to family authority, when it appears
yisibly to proceed from a sense Of duy. and
10 be itself an act of obedience to God.-
This will produce GOODNESS and composure
in the manner it will direct and enable a
parent to mix every expression OF heart felt
tenderness, with the most severe and need.
iul rcproofs. 1t will make it quite consis-
ten, to affirm, that the rod Itself is an evil
dence oflove, and that it is true Of every pl-
ous parent on earth, what is said ofour Ia.
,her in heaven" Whom the Lord love,h,
he chastenelh, and scourgeih every son
whom he receiyet. Ifye endure chasten-
ing, God dealeth with you as with sons ; for
what son is he whom the Father chasteneth
not ! But ifye are without chastisement,
whereof all are partakers, then are ye bas.
;ards and not sons" With this maxim in
YOUR eye, would recommend, that solem.
ni,y, take the place OF, and be substituted
for severity. When child, for example,
discovers very depraved disposition. in
stead of multiplying stripes in proportion to
the reiterated provocatons, every circum-
stance should be introduced, whether in re.
proof or punishment, that can ether dlscov.
er the seriousness of your mind, or make an
impression of awe and reverence upon his.
The time may be fixed before hand-at
some distance--,he Lords day-his own
birth -day-wi,b many other circun stances
that may be so special thatit is impossible
to enulnera,e them. Ishal just repeat what