The Ohio Democrat and Dover advertiser. [volume] (Canal Dover, Ohio) 1839-1840, 1839-11-07

Iyou nfe hOnsekespef, invite company
without informing you of il, or. bring
homo with him { iendi Whatever
Imay beYour repast, however scanty it
may Be or how impraclicsble il may be
to addio il, receive them with a pleasing
oouptenance, adorn your table with
chseffulnsss, give to your husband and
TO your Company hearty welcome; 4
will more than compensate for every
ftotber deficiency; it will evince love
for your husband, good sense in your
self, and that politeness Of manners
which acts as the most powerful cbarml
II will give TO the plainest fare zest
superior to all, that luxury can boast.
Never be discontenied on any occa.
sion Of this nature.
ln the ne1i place, a. your husband's
success in his profession will depend
upon his popularity, aud as the manners
Of wife have no little influence in ex-
tending or lessening the respect and
esteem OF others for her husband, you
should take care to be affabls and po-
lite to the poorest as we'll as the richest.
A reserved baughtiness 10 a sure in
dication ofa weak mind and an nnfeel~
ing heart.
With respect 10 your servants, teach
them to respect and love you while you
expect from them a reasonable dis
charge Of their respective duties. Nov
er tease yourself or them, by scoldlug,
il has no other effect than to render
them disconnected and impertinenl,- -
: Admonish them with a calm firmness.
! Cultivate your mind by the perusal of
those books which instruct while they
amuse. DO not devote much of your
time 10 novels; there are a few which
may be useful and improving IN giving
a higher tone to our moral sensibllity,
but they tend TO vItiate the taste, and 10
producs dlsTelish for substantial lnlel-
leclurl food. Mos! plays have the same
cast; they are not friendly to the deli-
cacy which is one Of the ornaments Of
the female character. History, geog-
rapby, poetry, moral essays, biography,
travels, sermons, and other we'll written
religious productions, will not fail to
enlarge your understanding, to render
you more agreeable companion, and
to exalt your virtue. A woman devoid
of rational ideas Of religion, has no Sc.
curity for her virtue; it is sacnticed to
her passions, whose voice, not that Of
God, 10 her only governing principle.
Bes des, IN those hours Of cslauni,, /,
which families must be exposed, where
will she find support, If ii be not in hel
just reflections upon that all-ruling
} providence which governs the universe,
whether ANIMATE or ,nsnimate? Mu-
tusl politeness between the most inti-
mate friends is essential to that bar
I moDy which should never BE once bro-
ken or interrupted. How important
then is it between man and wife The
! more warm the attachment, the less
will either party bear 10 be eligh,ed, or
treated with The smallest degree of rude
ness or inatlention. This politeness,
} then il il be not itselfa virtue, is at east
} tie means ofgivIng to real goodness a
new lustre; It is the means Of preven-
ing discomfort, and even qsarrels; it IS
the oil of intercourse. 1t removes as
perites, an0 It gives 10 every thing a
smooth an even, and pleasing move
ment.
| will only add, that matrimonial hap.
9iness Joes not depend upon wealth;no
it is not TO be found in The wealthy, bul
10 minds properly tempered aud united
10 our respective situations. Compe-
tency ie necessary; all beyond that point
ideal. Do not suppose however. tha,
| would not advise your husband to aug
meDt his property BY all honest, and
. commendable means; WouIn wish to
J zee him actively engaged in such pur'
suil, because engagement, a sedulous
: enjoyment, in obtaining some laudable
end, is essential to happiness. 10 the
attainment ofa fortune, by honorable
, means, man derives satisfaction Ia
self applause, as we'll as from the in
> creasing estimation in which he is held
by those around him.
10 the management Of your domestic
concerns let prudence and wise econ
my prevail. Let neainess, order. ant
judgement be seen, all your difleren
: departments. Unite libetali,y with {
just frugalty, always reserveas some
thug for the hand of charity, and sle.
er let your door be closed to sufSil9,
humanity. 4
Your servants, in particular, viii +,
, the strongest claim upon your ~ =
: lei them be well clothed, nurses wv
D ness. and never let them bsR lL-,sa a1th
, treated. -
0 ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS *,
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