Staunton spectator, and general advertiser. [volume] (Staunton, Va.) 183?-1849, 1838-03-29

make him in love with il. Command his
attention, by being always attentive to him.
Never exact aay thing, aud you will obtain
much. Appear always fattered by the lii.
lie he does for you which u i'll excite him to
perform more. Men, as well as women,
| are vain. Never wound this vanity, not e..
ven in the most trifling instance. A wife
| may have more sense than her husband bu,
she should never seem 10 know il. When
| a man gives wrong counsel, never make him
feel that he has done 60, but lead him On nv
degrees TO " hat is rational, with mildness and
genileness. When he is convinced, leave
him all the merit of having found out wha,
IS reasonable and just. When husband is
out OF temper, behave obligingly to him II
he 10 abusive, never retori, and never prevail
on him TO humble himself; but enter thy
closet, and pour out thy complaints in prayer
10 God IN his behalf The prayers of The
| righteous avail much. Choose carefully YOUR
female friends. Have but few, ant be back
| ward to follow their advice-par,icularly il
inImical to the foregoing instructions. Cher
ish neatness without luxury, and pleasure
| without excess. Dress with taste, and ,ar
iicularly with modesty. "Whose adoraing.
lei II mt! be that outward adjoining, of plait.
ing OF hair, and of wearing OF gold, or ofput.
ting on OF apparel" Vary the fashions Of
your dress in regard 10 colors. IL gives
change 10 ideas, and recalls pleasing recol.
iections. Such things may appear trtling,
but they are of more importance than ina
gined. Likewise ye wives. be in subi.c-
ton To your own husbands" Husbands
love your wives, even az Christ also loved
the Church and gave himself for it," "Sub.
nit yourselves one 10 another in the fear of
Cod JPY
The above was first published in the Yves
tern Christian Advocate. Many persons es>
peclally gentlemen, would finish reading il
with The impression that it is all wholesome
! advice, and so il is. But when do we ever
see any counsels for gentlemen? One would
suppose by the abundance OF newspaper es-
says and books for the special benefi, of the
ladies', that they not only have an endless
| catalogue OF duties 10 perform, hut that they
are excessively deficient in the performance
OF them, and moreover, as we never see any
counsels for husbands, that they have no du-
! lies al all y, no they are excnsable ifihey
censure and read lectures TO their wives
hey may command and give advice-hey
may exact attention, and yet be inaiteptive
'hemseives,-they may give wong caunsel,
ge! out OF temper, and he abusive, but the
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and calmness, and mildness, and obedience.
| Well. 81 they should be bot is it any less
the husbands duty to be so, with the excep-
ton OF the last named quality? Who will
say that il is any less The duty of The husband?
Why, then, is all this good counsel lavished
| upon the ladies?
| A writer in the same paper, has replied 10
J. p. Y.'s COUNSEL FOR LADIES. under
the head of COUNSEL FOR GENrLEMEN.
We ware glad TO see this j. +. Y. shsuld
have done this, and then his article would
have been finished one We recommend
the reply (Which we give below to the spe.
cial attention OF husbands. II they want
good wives, let them learn, first 10 be good
| themselves. There 10 certainly nothing un>
reasonable in this, as they claim to be head
and master and those occupying this rea-
ton, should always set good example II
| they then fail, which is sometimes The case
they will have the satisfactory reflection, that
they have done their duty. Zion's Herald.
COUNSEL FOR GENTLEMEN.
Suggested by reading j. p. Us counsel for
Ladies'.
| Let every married man be assured that The
responsibility Is great, and that much depends
upon himself, in governing his family He
is the acknowled edged head, and he claims il ;
consequently knotos and feels his power; there
lore II depends upon him whether he will
glide along sweetly and smoothly in love and
hatDony, or whether his home shalt be a
scene OF continual Earring and dscord. Lei
him feel that he has duties to perform, so
lemn vows to fulfil, and an equal 10 deal with
not an .nferior-one that is deeply interest,
ed In all that concerns him in veal or wo.
| When man assumes he attitude of dicts.
tor, he may very naturally look tor, and ex.
pect TO find rebellious subject, no matter
how smiable and yielding his wife may be
therefore, Dhe wants a good ,Uife he must be
a good husband. There is not the least dan
ger Of having his ears salu,ed with ri will
or 81 WON'T if be sells the example of kind,
ness, gentleness s, forbearance Avoid eve
ry thing like an authoritative manner, re-
memberIng if you pluck rose too rashly
you may be stung by its thorns.
Much ado is made about the duty of wives
and much advice given 10 make them what
is thought 10y their councillors they ought to
be ; but am of opinion they ore not such I'm.
reasonable beings after all, if they do arro-
gate little now and then TO themselves
They certainly have high claims on their
husbands, and are entitled TO their respectful
attention, indulgence, confidence, time, and
property, as far as justice and reason dictate
| d reasonable woman asks no more A hus,
band that wi,bholds that much, rs blind 10 hi.
best interest, and can claim very little of hi.
wife's good feeling or respectful obedience.
w oman is taught 10 look upon man rs a
superior being. She believes him so, until
experience teaches her better; and tbs, will
| be soon enough, when such serviIe subiec-