Southern telegraph., 1838-09-26
MARRYING.

"marry Tor love ana Work LOT Iredsufeg
Then spend your time in peace and Pleasure''
If this principle generally prevailed, the
earth would be paradise; with no restless
old maids, crusty old bachelors, and incon-
nruous matches. But, alas, more malig-
nant star rules its luckless destiny. Riches
is the grand incentive that moves the great
err part of the world to worship at Hymen's
altar; and the sly little archer but seldom
penetrates the heart of his object unless his
arrow be tipped with gold. The first ques-
ton asked by the old folks respecting the
suffer of a daughter is, Is HE RICH? Is HE
RICH? With many gay and thoughtless
young daughters this, too, is the chief inqul-
ry; and no wonder, when the parents are
swallowed up in solcitude on this point a
lone. And with all light headed, lazy and
naughty young men, wealth is the great sine
qua non. There is no charm, no virtue, no
accomplishment without it. Though she
be as beautiful as Helen and vrtuous as Lu-
cretia, if she be not as rich as Cresus, the
lonely damseI is left to sigh her life away
in the shades ofneglect.
Is this wise is it just? reasonable2 How
many signs are heard, how many tears are
shed, how many hearts are broken, and how
many lives are rendered unusually ntolera-
BILE by this shocking mania? Intended unions
are frustrated. The hectic flush, the hoarse
cough, and premature death, follow in rapid
succession. Connexions are formed by ar
tifice or compulsion. Then comes domes-
tic dis :ord. Careless Indifference, cold ne
glect, angry frowns, and fierce contention,
succeed each other quick as thought, "but
fly not half so quick away" longs, SHOW
els, brooms, knives and forks, are made to
play a curious game, for which they were
not intended and whiskey. waste, want, woe
and wretchedness, close the drama.
These are not the picture offancy. Would
to heaven they were They are drawn
from real life-from scenes with which the
| world is but too familiar. The causes has
already been told; and as knowledge Of
this is half the cure, we will proceed to give
the other haIf-the remedy. As in nature
heterogeneous bodies never will mix togeth-
er tremendously, so Ms idle to suppose that
peace and happiness can result from princi-
Piles so widely variant, in every respect, as
vice and virtue-rudeness and refinement
Let, then, riches be a secondary considera-
ton. Follow the dictates Of reason; get in
to business, be temperate, Industrious, and
economical, and when you want companion
to share your joys and sooth your sorrows,
make virtue, not property, the test of quail
ifcation. DR. Johnson well observes, she
must expect to be wretched, who pays to
beauty, riches or politeness, that regard
which only pity can claim" Purple and
fino linen may cover vicious person; rich
es may take to themselves wings and fly a
way. But neither of these can make bru-
fish man a good husband, nor foolish wo-
man good wife. Solomon says sit is bet
ter to dwell on the house-top, than 10 live
with contentious woman" and it is GER
tainly better to enjoy the sweets of "single
bIessedness" than to live with a swlnish
husband, though he feed in golden through.
Then ask not, is he rich2 is she rich? But
is he virtuous? is he honorable? is he sensi-
BILE? is he diigent in businessp Is she
PRUDENT and has qualities ofmind and heart
necessary for the management and hapPi-
ness of a familys Let mutual respect, conf
dence and affection subsist, founded upon
these qualifications, and due conformity
of temper and disposition; then form the ma
trimonial tie; and your days shall be pros
porous and happy.