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people is involved in their conduc
during the first year. than ia any sue
tceeding renod OF their connubiai asso
citation. There are probably but feu
instances where persons newly married
| do not discover. and that too Ia an ear
ny period Of their matrimonial relation
each IA the other. some trait Of charac,
ter which bad before escaped their OBJ.
servation- and much, very much. o.
the felicity Of their lives, depends or
the course they may pursue on those
occasions. Should the newly discover.
ed faults or tollies or the husband an.
pear to be such AZ TO preclude the hone
OF their being corrected, however I'M.
pleasant the task. the wife's easies,
course will be 10 endeavor TO accom-.
modate herself to them. II she cannc,
bring her circumstances to her mind.
the alternative is, to try TO bring her
mind to her circumstances. Custom
and habit tend 10 Lessen the effect OF
evils which cannot be DESTROYED: and
common prudence will induce her 10
conceal from her husband the know
ledge of those faults OF his which she
cannot expect TO obviaie, because /,
Will not increase his affections for her.
should he think that hers for him are
IN the wane. ia woman would COR
rect the faults or follies Of her husband
she should reflect that she can only do
II by means Of her influence over him
that she has in general, no other in :
huence than what arises from his afiec-
tons for her-that the continuance Of
these depends on the continuance Of
the causes by which lha-y INST were
kindled: and you may rest assured.
that whatever female patience. mild.
ness, good humor, and tender affection
cannot accomplish with a husband,
frowns. sulkS. sharp reproofs, and i'll
natuIed reproaches. never can achieve.
| By The former be may be soothed and
softened into complaisance, and vii.
ingly led to abandon foibIe or fault;
but the latter will inevitably tend to
sour his mind, TO curdIe all the milk Of
human kindness in his bosom, warm
his resentment, excite his opposition,
and confirm him ia error.
! My acquaintance with your husband,
has induced me to believe, that bis
whole heart and soul accompany his
affections and aveTsions; add that Il de.
ponds much or mostly on the exercise
!of your prudence and discretion, whe.
Their be will be to you a kinG and ten
der husband, or an unpleasant and IN
interesting associate. Perhaps you are
now about to ask, II The wife must make
I all. and the husband no sacrifice to pro-
mote connubial concord and domestic
lpeaees / mean no such thing--on
the contrary, so much depends on
your mutual endsavors, that without
the husbands the wilo's cannot sue
coed. But The path have pointed
out for you 10 take, Is the suresl, nav
the only one 60 be pursued 20 produce
or continue ia him the disposition TO I
corresponding course Of measurea.-
Can that be called q sacrifice which
promotes domestic bliss AS well
may he be said 10 sacrifice bis none
who gives il for larger sum.
| You viii be disappointed II you
expect your husbands face always Ia
be the sporting place Of smiles and
graees, or his mind al al timeS attuned
to the sOn melody Of harmoniour
strains
I"As zen expect s,srnsl sunshine, slOudIes
skies,
AZ mes Iorsvsr sempsrats. saim asd ~iss.''
Sickness. disappointment. end per.
plexity in bis business, and . thousand
nsmeless causes, cannot but sometimel
operate 70 disturb bis mind, depresI
his spirits; and becloud BIS yisage; pro.
ducing perhaps unusua; lacilufnity, o.
q strain Of language not remarkable
for lie mellifnent cadences. This il
nos the occasion on which be Is to Be
lmet with corresponding department.
on She part Of be wife. n il raihe'
'Ithe tiins WIEN zoe txeTclse oi aii hel
PHILOSOPHY Is indispensable, time
when her temper Is 70 be tired, hsl
heart probed, and her affections pu
10 the test: the time when by her kind
sofi aud sympaihiziog Language, and Z
eountenahce and condnct bearing tee.
;imOAy 70 iis sincerity, that be b 70 *
c6mforled az least with the reflection
that be has a friend ia adversely a. well
az IN property, e partner 10 bic sog-
rows a. well g. 10 hmj Joys. ] may posi-
bIybo singular 10 the opinion but could
never entertain the luiiesi confidence
even 10 she virtue Of that female whose
syinpsthies could not be excited By
the torowB Of Others; end surely
Wiio can never appear 90 interesting
and amisble 10 The eyes Of her hue,
band. az when he sees begmelling will
Kindness 10 him. and sorrowing foi
his soryows. Ia short. il should Be- ths
object Of your unremiiicd attention
lto make him feel That he home e
place Of refuge from his cares q sane.
inaFy from ihc ffowna Of adverse for
tune. and Be viii seek 4 80 naturally
- Be would desire hls own felicity
Y But when husband Csasos TO Fegare
BE home as the happiegt place o.
earth. he will shun il aa be would iiJ
I bic troubles. and De Il often happens
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