Cheraw gazette. [volume] (Cheraw, S.C.) 1835-1838, 1837-09-27
From the Western Christian Advocate
COUNSEL FOR LADIES

COUNSEL FOR LADIES
Let every married woman be persuaded
that thcr" arc two ways of governing a
family. The first is by the expression of
that will which threatens force. The sec.
oad is by the power of love, to which even
strength will yield. Over the mind Of tie
husband, awife should never employ any
other power than gentlcness. When a wo.
man accus,oms herself to say, l wW,"
she deserves to lose her empire. Avoid
contradIctIng your husband. When we
smell a rose We expect to imbibc the sweet
ness ofIts odor-so we look for every thing
amiable in woman. Whoever Is often con-
tradicted, feels insensible an aversion for the
person wco contradicts, which gains Strength
by time. Employ yourself in household
affairs. Wait till your husband confidcs to
you those of a higher importance and do
not give your advice till he asks it. Never
take upon yourself to be censor of your
husbands morals. to read lectures 10 him.
Let your preaching be, a good example.
Practice virtue yourself, to make him in
love with it. Command his attention by be-
ing always attentive to him. Never cxac
any thing and you will obtain much. Ap.
pear always fattered by the little he does
for you, which will excite him 10 perform
more. Men, as well as woman. are vain.
Never wound this vanity, not even in the
most triiing instance. A wife may have
more sense than her husband, but she
should never seem TO know it. When a
man gives wrong council, never make him
feel that he has done SO but Lead him on by
degrees to what is rational with miIdness
and gcn.lencss. When he is convi iced
leave him all the merit of having found out
what is reasonably and just. When hus.
bandis out Of temper behave oblgingly to
him. If he is abusive, never never rctort,
and never prevail on him 10 humble him.
self; but enter thy closet, and pour out thy
complaints in prayer to God in behalf. The
prayers Of the righteous avail much.--
Choose carefully your female friends.
Have but few, and be backward to follow
their advice--particularly if nimical to the
foregoing instructions. Cherish neatness
without luxury, and pleasure without ex.
cess. "Whose adorning, let it not be that
outward adorning, Of plating of hair and
of wearing ofgold or putting on ofappare.
Vary the fashions your dress in regard
10 colors. 1t gives change to ideas, and
recalls pleasing recollections. Such things
may appear trifing, but they are of more
importance than imagined. "Likewisc ye
wives, be in subsection to your own hus.
bands" "Husbands, love your wives;
even as Christ also loved the church and
gave hinseffo for it, "Submit yourselves
one 10 another in the fear of God.
J.P.Y.
A COOP WIFE.-She loves her home be.
lieyiDg with Milton, that
"The wife where danger and dshonor turks,
Safest and seemest by her husband stays,
'Tho guards her,v u. with irrT tire wvIst eu'
dures
The place Of woman is, eminently at the
fireside. 1t is at home that you must sec
her to know what she is. 1t is less mate.
rial what she is abroad; but what she is in
family circle, is all important. 1t is bad
merchandise in any department Of trade, TO
pay premium for other mems opinions; IN
matrimony, he who selects wife for he
applause or wonder Of his nei ghbors, is in
a fair way towards domestic bankruptcy.
Having got a wife, there is but one rule
Honor and lore her. Seek to improve her
understanding and her heart. Strive to
make her, more and, more, such one as
yon can cordially respect. Shame on TIC
brute in mans shape, who can atfront or
vex, not say to neglect, the woman who
has embarked with him for life, '.for
better, for worse" and whose happiness if
severed from his smiles must be unnatural
and monstrous. In fine, | am proud Of
nothing in America so much as of our
American wives.