The herald. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1835-1837, 1837-01-11

If there was more practical good sense-more en-
ghtened reason-more intellectually and less ofani-
mallsm and passion how many whe find out, when
1t is too late that love in cottage, log hut or mar
rage in straened circumstances, is not what it is
cracked up to be- would have deferred a connection
Till they were able as it regards pecuniary matters TO
make that connection comfortable and happy.
Although the warm and fervid feelings Of youthful
passion may surround with the celors OF vivid fancy
discomfort and poverty-and by a fond deluson, be-
'eve that love will be more holy and genuine, and
happiness more perfect, when covered with atered
garments-provided with scanty fare and rude hab-
tahons OF want. STILL when stern reality makes her
voice heard-when the wants of nature crave without
beng satsfied-when privatons grievances, and dis
tresses come upon the married pair from lack of PEE
cuniary means-then- rhen-rapdly do the fond and
illusory hopes of love dwindle away, and practical
good sensetoo late alas Occupies place of fond
1t is an undoubted truth of political economy sane
toned and confirmed by the experience of all time
that population has rioIent tendency TO transcend
the limits Fred by the dereoped resources Of indvid
uais and communities. And this tendency is increas
ed IL an alarming degree when young people impro.
ridsntiy rush into the marriage state. state most
desirable indeed when worldly circumstances fair
prospects warrant individuals in forming the holy and
blessed alliance. But most undesirable, when the
means OF supporting IN comfort and competency the
married parties and the almost necessary concomi-
tant forthcoming oifspring-ha! ha! ha!-are
wanting
Lastly-We are Strickland pretty hard, too, in
the foregoing story-wth the evil of elopemenls. Pa
rents and guardians are the natural advisers of their
children and wards, and generally have their true and
best interests nearly at heart Their views and wish
es on the subject of marriage should be- unques
uonably, consulted. And even their commands, with
reference to the matter, should almost universally be
obeyed
Although thoughtless young man, or passionate
and volatile girl may, filled with false independence
OF SOUL see tit in their consummate wisdom frus
trate the wishes-hurt the feelngs-mar the happi-
ness-and disObey the requirements of fend and iu-
dlcious parents and elope-stl the after consequent
ces-thc most unhappy results, universally arising
from such procedure, should cause to dread and
look with horror on course unsanctioned by fal
obigation-by practical wisdom or the sage princi-
Piles Of experience. However unnatural or guilty
father may be in refusing his to MATCH the
only objection TO which is poverty on one side-hOw
ever mean and parsimonious his vie ws-however mig
gardy and vile in threatening to withhold and actu-
ally withholding, the marriage portion from a son or
daughter because the connection does not meet his
views in all particulars yet there is hardly any thing
there very few cases, that will justify
an elopement
If say wrong, fair reader set me right. May my
unpretendng tale and the accompanying remarks bo
looked upon with indugent eye and exercise their
legitimate influence on the minds of my kind goed
gentle, fair, and gracious readers.
And now happy new year TO you friend Bennett
"a happy new year TO you, good reader-a happy
new year TO all the dwellers in Gotham, and the
world Yours most respectfully and profoundly,
A GoTHAMITH.