Cheraw gazette. [volume] (Cheraw, S.C.) 1835-1838, 1837-06-14

probably but few instances where persons
newly married do not discover, and that
too in an early period Of their matrimonial
relation, each in the other, some trat OF
character which much, of the felicity OF
their lives depends on the course they may
pursue on those occasions. Should the
newly discovered faults or follcs OF tne
husband appear to be such as to preclude
the hope Of their being corrected, however
unpleasant the task, the wife's easiest
course will be to endeavor TO accommodate
herself to them. If she cannot bring her
circumstances to her mind, the alternative
is to try to bring her mind to her circum'
stances. Custom and habit tend to lessen
the effect of evils which cannot be destroy.
ed; and common prudence will induce ler
to conceal from her husband the knowl.
edge of those faults of his which she cam
not expect to obviate, because it will not
increase his affections for her, should he
think that hers for him are in the wane.-
If a woman would correct the faults or fol-
Hssof her husband, she should reflect that
she can only do it by means Of her lnfiu-
ence over him-that she has, in general,
no other influence than that which arises
from his affections for her--that the con-
tinuance of the causes by which they first
we're kindled: and you may rest assured,
that whatever female patience, mldness,
GOOD humor, and tender affection cannot
accomplish wifi, husband, frowns, sulks,
sharp reproofs, and il.natured reproaches
can never achieve. By the former he may
be soothed and softened into complaisance,
and willingly led to abandon a foible or a
fault; but the latter will inevitably tend to
sour his mind, TO curdle all the milk ofhu.
man kindness in his bosom, warm his re.
sentiment. excite his opposition, and con.
firm him in error.
"My acquaintance witk your husband
has induced me to believe that his whole
heart and soul accompany his affections
and aversions; and that depends much or
mostly on the exercise of your prudence
and discretion whether he will be to you
a kind and tender husband, or an unpleas-
ant and uninteresting associate.
"Perhaps you are now about to ask, II
the wife must make all and the husband
no sacrifice to promote connubia concord
and domestic peace? | mean no such
thing-on the contrary, so much depends
on YOUR mutual endeavors, that, without
the husbands the wife's cannot succeed.
But the path I have pointed out for you to
take is the surest, may, the only one to be
pursued to produce or continue in him the
disposition to corresponding course OF
measures. Can that be called sacrifice
which promotes domestic bliss? AS well
nav he be said to sacrifice his money who
gives for it larger sum.
"You will be disappointed if you eS-
pect Your husbands face always TO be tho
sporting place Of smiles and graccs, or his
mind at all times atluned to the soft mclo-
dyof harmonious strains.
.Aswel expect eternalsunshinc. cloudless skies
AS men forever temperate, calm, and wise.
Sickness, disappointment, and perplexity
in his business, and thousand nameless
causes, cannot but sometimes operate to
disturb his mind, depress his spirits, and
becloud his visage; producing perhaps un.
usual taciturnity, or strain of language
not remarkable for its melliflucnt cadences.
This is not the occasion on which he is to
be met with corresponding department,
on the part of his wife. 1t is rather the
time when the exercise of all her philoso.
ply s'indispensable; time when her tenn
per is to be tried, her heart probed, and
her affections putto the test; the time when,
by her kind, soft, and sympathizing lam
guagc, and countenance and conduct
bearing testimony to its sincerity, he has
to be comforted at leas: with the reflection
that he has friend in adversely as we'll as
in prospority-a partner in his sorrows as
in his joys. may possibl, be singular
in the opinion, but | could never entertain
the fullest confidence even in the rirlue of
that female whose sympathes could not
be excited by the sorrows of others; and
surely wife can never appear so inter.
esting and amiable in the eyes of her hus-
band, as when he sees her melting with
kindness TO him, and sorrowing for his
sorrows. In short, it should be the object
of YOUR unremittcd attention to make him
feel that his home is place ofrefuge from
his cares, sanctuary from the frowns of
adverse fortune, and he will seek it as
naturally as ne would desire his own fell
city. But, when husband ceases to re-
gard his home as the happiest place on
earth. he will shun it as he would fly his
troubles; and, as it often happens, will
take the road to ruin, and seek, at the alc-
house, the gambling table, or more inde-
cent places, refuge from domestic broils.
the consequence of which, though often
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