Burlington free press. [volume] (Burlington, Vt.) 1827-1865, 1837-04-07

we may Cnancc 10 De put lDtO,-to uep a..
on the tact and kindness Of those near Vs.
This is not very pleasant; but II we Gu,
not submit to it for while, we can"o'
boast much of our humility, nor OF our r--
tience. We must submit 10 be usually IN
significant, and sometimes ridiculous. 10
not be dismayed, dear companions. 'ihic
necessity will not last long, and it is well
worth while undergoing It. Those VINO
| have strength of mind to seek society un.
der this humiliation, and TO keep their
tempers through it, cannot long remain IN
| significant there. They must rise to their
| proper place, if they do but abstain from
pressing beyond it. 1t is astonishing how
every thing brigh'ens sooner or later. Inc
nlgh'ingales and the harp will be still out
Of the question, but they will be gwen up
almost without pain, because it is settled
matter TO every body present that they are
out Of the question. Fiends will nave
discovered that jokes arc not the things 70
be repeated; and that which Is repeated
will be taken as coming in due course, ana
will at length consist Of all that Is rea''y
worth hearing Of what has been sald.-
Other people may laugh without OCCASION
ing a nervous distortion in your counte-
nance and it is quite certain that it your
temper has stood your trial, you Will never
pass an evening without meeting with some
attention which will touch, some frank
kindness which will elevate your feelings.
and send you home wiser and happier than
you came forth.
This can only be. however, IL you have
| stood your trial well, if you bring an open
temper and an open countenance. l 10 q
matter Of wonder that we are addressed
so much as we are and if, in addition TO
the difficulty of making Us hear, we offer
the disagreeableness of mot constrained,
that will be pilied, bul) n frowning coun-
| tenance, we may betake ourselves to tho
books of prints on the table, but may as
we'll give up all hope Of conversation. AS
o general rule, nothing can be worse than
for people to think at all about their coun'
tenances; but in our case it is worth while
for time. and to a certain extent. l was
kindly told, few years ago. that many
people wished to converse with me, bue
that looked as if I had rather not be spo>
ken to. We'll might; for then dlscov-
cred that in trying to check one bad habit,
| | had fallen into another. | had trick OF
signing, to cover which used to twist my
fingers almost out Of joint, land so do you,
[ dare say.) and the pain Of this process
very naturally made me frown. My friends
INIT put me on my guard. Instead OF
twisting my fingers, recalled my vow OF
patience. and this made me smile: and tho
world has been different place to me since.
Some such little rule as turning every sigh
into a smile will help you over multitude
Of difficulties and save you, at length, the
trouble of thinking about either smiling OF
signing.
1t has always been my rule never 10 ask
what is going forward; and the conse-
quence has well compensated all l had to
60 through from the reproaches of kind
friends, who were very anxious that |
should trouble them IN that way. Our
principle plainly forbids the practice; and
nothing can therefore justify 1t. There is
at first no temp alton, for we had then
rather miss the sayings of the wise men of
Greece, than obtain them by such means;
but the practice once begun. there is no
telling where it will stop. Have we not
seen- it sickens me to think of it-restless,
nQulsilive, deaf people, who will have
every insignificant thing repeated to them.
to their own lnces>ant disappointment, and
the suffering of every body about them.
whom they make, by their appeals, almost
as ridiculous as themselves? never could
tolerate The idea of any approach to tha
condition of one Of these. ] felt, besides.
that it was impossible for me 10 Judge of
what might fairly oe asked for, and what
had better be lie, pass. therefore obst;.
natey adhered to my rules and l believe
that no one whom have met in any soce.
~ land have seen great deal has been
enabled 10 carry away more that is valua-
n / hnr
myself. was sure that might trust 10
he kindness OF my neighbours, if was
but careful not to veX and weary it; and
my confidence has been fully justified -
The duty extends to not looking as if you
want ed to be amused, Your friends can
nave little satisfaction in your presence, if
they believe that when you are not CONVEX.
sing you are no longer amused. 81 won-
der every day." SAID young friend 10 me.
when was staying in large well filled
country house, "what you do with your
self during our long dinners, when 10 one
Of US talks with you, because we have talk
ed So much more comfortably on the lawn
all the morning. cannot think how you
help going to seep."-'I watch how you
help the SOUP" was my inconsiderate re-
ply was not aware how inconslderate,
I'll saw how she blushed every day after
IN taking up the IafIe. | mentioned tho
soup only as specimen Of my occupations
during Dinner. There were also the sum
set lights and shadows on the lawn 10 be
watched, and the never ceasing play ofhu
man countenances,- our grand resource
when we have once gained case enough 10
enjoy them at leisure. There were grace
fu and light hearted girls. and there was
an originality of actio in the whole family.
which amused me from morning till night.
| The very apparatus OF the table, and the