Cheraw gazette. [volume] (Cheraw, S.C.) 1835-1838, 1837-02-07

nately the poorer classes in society have
equal advantages with the rich, with IN
comparabiy fewer temptations TO iorsake
the path of duty, which is the only path OF
safety. 1t may not be improper, in this
! place, to give a word of caution to those
young men who peruse our pages-if they
hope to enjoy the blessings of welded life,
remember, that what most men seek in a
wife, Solomon faithfully guards them
against. He says, "Favor is deceitiul,
and beauty is vain; but woman that
feareth the Lord, she shall be praised"-
"Al,, and chosen too," said a wise young
man, who was about to select companion
for life. ...,....
1t may be further remarked, that those
young women who, by display Of beauty,
wit, ornament, or dress, seek to gain ad-
mirers, cannot be expected to possess the
requisite qualifications for duriful and
afectionate wife or mother; for, it may be
added, no Young woman who is conscien-
| tiously serving the Lord, will spend her
time in employments which. instead of
bene6tting mankind, serve but to initiate
herself with pride !; nor will she resort to
such fading vanities, "to kill time" or to
"drive away dull care," or for the sake OF
being "amused."
Said Mrs. S., as she sat trotting upon
| her knee her first grandchild, Il fear my
poor Margaret will never be able to nurse
her children" "And why?" inquired
Mrs. B. "Because, poor thing, she has
destroyed her health and constitution by
conforming to the ridiculous fashions OF
of the day. have often trembled for her,
as observed her slender form, so mach
admired by Mrs. T., her dressmaker, but
to her mother was the pren,oni,ion Of CEN
sumption. But in spite Of all my rcmon-
strances, she would attend the theatre
she would attend late balls and parties
she would lace tight-she would walk out
in thin shoes and thin dresses, notwith'
standing for more than two years she has
been subject to fainting fits. You, who
have never had daughter, Mrs. B., Won
der perhaps why did not control Marga-
ret in these matters; but as well might
I a mother think to stem torrent, as TO
control a girl ofsixteen, who "came out"
into society at fourteen, and who of course,
has yielded for two years to the tyranny OF
fashion. fear, Mrs. B., that the gener-
ali,y of our young mothers will make but
| noor nurses" +
What an acknowledgements to be ex-
tracted from mother!
! But the question returns, when a young
lady during the period of her inority is
! confined at school, or has been allowed to
pass her time in loling in the drawing
| room, reading novels, =" flirting" at gay
parties, in short, going the whole round OF
fashionable life; what is there in the ma
ture of things, that shall at once transform
her into the healthy, dsinterested, and at.
tentiye wife and mother. "
In these stations, will she have no need
of firm health-no need of firm nerves.
no need of fortitude, patience, and SELF
denial3
If fneithcr her heart nor her mind has
been fortified to bear up under trials, how
| will she bear with vexations family mat
tiers l-how will she bear with disappelnt-
| ments which may meet her at every step :!
--how will she bear with interruptions, not
only in her retiremcnts, but in her most
| important and necessary plans of useful
| ness ?-how will she bear with the way
| wardness, the petulance, the weaknesses
of her children? with the impertinence,
the ignorance, the dullness and caprice of
her domestics ?-How, / ask, illshe bear
up under these, and ten thousand other
| dificultios and temptations, if she has nei-
ther health of body, or vigor of mind. 10
! resist or overcome them?
In the training of our daughters, we
should not for a day lose sight of the tre-
mendous fact, that there arc two worlds,
and that the present life is absolutely
probationary state to one which is unchan-
| ging.
The fact cannot be controverted, that
woman was not formed for listless or
| sedentary life, neither was she made for
life of pleasure. On the contrary, her
duties are of the most active kind, and
perpetually recurring. Nor can these du-
ties be thoroughly learned, but in the
school of experience. How much wiser
then that she begin her apprenticeship at
! home, under the watchful eye OF fond
mother, whose patience and parialty.
ever, will far exceed that OF devoted
husband, whose youthful imagination has
always pictured his wife as paragon OF
female excelIence-at home, where it may
be supposed that fathers pecuniary cir
cumstances will allow Of some prodigality
| in needful experiments, rather than those
of young man, just set up in business for
himself, and who, perhaps, in commencing
the early family establishment, had to re-.