Litchfield enquirer., 1837-10-19
From ths Boston Courier.
DOMESTIC EDucATION or LADIr

| OQMESTlC EDEGATl0N OF LANTEA. Why is it that English ladies make bet. l ter wives than the American, occupying the same relative position in society? Tha such is the fact, ms one, who has been there and rendered himself familiar with the fea lures of Their household economy, or. il the absence "f this personal observation made himself acquainted with the hones representations of others, can for mOmen doubt. The source of this disparity will he found in the character 1f their domestic education. The English girl is trained, from her earliest years, to the discharge, or supervision, of household duties. Her education is thoroughly superintended by her mother, who ever treats her as a younger sister, and connects this education, in ccery stage fit, with q participation in her own cares aud responsibilities. She is IaUght to consider any defect, or derange- ment in the affairs of the house, as reflect ing on her own good taste or fidelity, aud she is allowed to connect the beauty, har- mony, and perfection with which the duties of the family are conducted, with her own prIu1 aUIu nf-.-ALSa Sad fDr her ;ew. els, she modes,ly refers you to theneatness
 
 she is married herself, so far iron, being under the necessity of commencing an cd- ucation to fit her for this new sphere, she has only to take her every day habits, dis positions, and tastes, from one hearth lo another. As her marriage is not the re- suit of any brilliant display in society, of any affected airs, or shallow pretensions, her husband knows what he has got, aud what he can depend upon.
 Now, how is the education of daughters among us conducted? With those who can afford it, she is literally schooled out from her infancy to that premature period when she is to be ushered into s0ciety.-- Her education is utterly reversed, from the duties of the household; and this excmp- ton from domestic care, SO far from being to her source of regret, is made subject of vanity and pride. She congratnlaies herself on her ignorance of all tha. intor- nation, which alone cIM qualify her to be- come good, economical, and safe wife, She is taught to regard. as the most felici- tous feature of her condition, that which places her above any necessary connection with the duties of the house. Her mother is either a fashionable mistress, or drudge. In either case, the daughter seldom looks upon her fathers hearth as her home; she has no participation in the duties ot the household; no ambition in their despatch, or harmony no shame in their neglect. or confusion. Though scarcely out of her teens, she soon pants for an establishment of her own; glances about tt the church, theatre, or assembly, till her eye rests up- an sn.no youth. as ignorant as she is s'iis'' invites him to her house, treats hlm to some onfec,ionary kisses, talks about the love. scenes in tho last novel. asks the youtl, Il he loves music, aud looking tenderIy into his languishing eyes, sings hinl----
 "Come rest in this bosom, my own stricken dear 7
 Thus ends the frivoli,ies of the thought less girl, and thus, without single qualifi- cation for the situation, commence the cares and gathering responsibilities ot the marriage slate. As she had no domestic habits, tastes, or aptitudes, before marriage she will probably have none after, and the resul, will be, that her affections will never have shrine, and her husband will never have home. Were ship to ga to sea. as un6, for the voyage as this girl is for the duties of the married state upon which she had entered, her owners would never be able to obtain an insurance for her, eveil from the most venluresome underwriters n the land and if she ever reached her des- tination. it would be little less than a mira cie.
 How unlike to this, that retiring Englisl girl, reared by her mother, and who leave her fathers hearth with tin,idisy and tears bu, who takes with her habits and affection that can make another happy, and elevat' her to dignity and influence. Her hearli is indeed home, and happy the man tina enjoys it.. Let parents who would study the happiness ofiheir offspring, look to this and le, the young men who would consult their future welfare, look to it; let them determine never to connect themselves with any one without these domestic habi;s, and the acquisition of ihsse habits will ins- vilabiy Dc ,he consequence ;--for women are ever wEa, the men in their requirements and example, mako them. God, nature, and education, make the men; but men, with their virtues or their vices. make the women. DEAN oWiFT.
 THE MISTAKE.
 T was once in such scrape myself,