Martinsburg gazette. [volume] (Martinsburg, Va. [W. Va.]) 1833-1855, 1837-06-28

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pear TO be such as 10 preclude the hope
OF their being corrected, however un.
pleasant the task, the wiie's easiest
course will be to endeavor to accomo.
date herself to them. Ii she cannot
bring her circumstances 10 her mind,
the alternative is to try to bring her
mind 10 her circumstances. Custom
and habit tend to lessen the effect of
evils which cannot be destroyed /; and
common prudence will induce hor to
conceal from her husband the know.
ledge of those faults of his which she
cannot expect TO obviate, because il
will not Increase his affection for her,
should he think that hers for him are
in the wane. Ii a woman would corr
rect the faults or follies of her husband
she should reflect that she can only do
it by means OF her influence over him
that she has in general, no other in.
nuence than what arises from his nf-
fcctons for her---that the continuance
of these depends on the continuance of
the causes by which they first were
kindled--and you may rest assured,
that whatever female patience, mild.
ness, good humor, and tender affection
cannot accomplish with husband,
frowns, sulks, sharp reproofs, and ILL
natured reproaches, never can achieve.
By the former he may be soothod and
softened into complaisancc, and will
lnply led TO abandon foible or fault
but the latter will inevitably tend to
sour his MAD, to curdle all the milk of
human kindness in his bosom, warm
his resentment, excite his opposition,
and confirm him in error.
Ny acquaintance with your husband
has induced me to believe that his
whole heart and soul accompany his
affections and aversons and that It
depends much or mostly on the exer-
else of your prudence and discretion,
whether he will be 10 you n kind and
tender husband, or an unpleasant and
uninteresting associate. Perhaps you
are now about to ask, if the wife must
make all, and the husband no sacrifice
to promote connubial concord ond do.
nestle peace ? ! mean no such thing
--on the contrary, so much depends
on your mutual endeavors, that with
out the husbands the wi(e's cannot
succeed. But the path have pointed
out for you to take, is the sures,, nay
the oal0 one 10 be pursued to produce
\ or continue in him the disposition 10 Il
corresponding course of measures. -
| Can that DO called sacrifice which
promotes n domestic bliss As well
may he be said to sacrifice his money
who gives it for larger sum.
You will be disappointed if you ex-
pect your husbands face always TO be
the sporting place of smiles and gra-
ces, or his mind at all times attuned to
the soft melody Of harmonious strains
"As well expect eternal sunshine, cioudiccs
| skies,
| As men forever temperate, calm, and wise"
Sickness, disappointment, and perplex.
Ity in his business, and thousand
nameless causes, cannot but sometimes
operate 10 disturb his mind, depress his
spirits, and becloud his vsage produ-
cling perhaps unusual taclturnlty, or
strain Of language not remarkable for
its melilluent cadenccs. This is not
the occasion on which he is TO be met
with corresponding department on
the part Of his wife. Ii is rather the
time when the exercise Of all her phi.
losophy is Indispensable, time when
her temper is 10 be tried, her heart
probed, and her affections put to the
test the time when by her kind, soft,
and sympathizing language, and
countenance and conduct bearing tes-
timony to its sincerity, that he IS 10 be
comCorted at least with the reflection,
that he has friend in adversely as
well as in prosperity, partner IN bis
sDrrows as well as in his joys. ! may
possibly be singular IN the opinion, but
/ could never entertain the fullest con-
fdence even in the ririue Of that female
whose sympathies could not be excl
ted by the SORROWS ofothers; and sure
10 a wife can never appear SO interes.
tino and amiable in the eyes OF her
husband, as when he sees her melting
with kindness to him, ana sorrowlng
for his sorrows. In short, il should be
the object Of your unremitted attention,
TO make him feel that his home is
place of refuge from his cares, sane
tuary from the frowns of adverse Tor
tune. and he will seek it as naturally
as he would desire his own felicity
p,, when n husband ceases to regard
his home as the happiest place on earth,
he will shun it as lie would fly his trou-
HES. and as j, often happens, will take |
,be road to ruin, and seek at the ale
house, the gambling table, or more IN
decent places, a refuge from domestic |
broils, the consequences OF which,
though often seen, are too disgusting |
for detail.