Cheraw gazette. [volume] (Cheraw, S.C.) 1835-1838, 1837-07-05
From the New England Farmer.

From the New England Farmer.
BROTHER JoNATHAN:s w1FE's ADVICE TO
HER DAUGHTER on THE DAY OF HER
MARRIAGE.
Now Mary, as you are about to leave
US, few words seem appropriate 10 the
occasion. Although regret the separa-
ton, yet | am pleased that your prospects
are good. You must not think that all
before you are Elysian Fields. Toll, care
and trouble. are the companions of frail
human nature. Old connexions will be
dissolved by dist nee, time and death. New
ones be formed. Every thing pertaining
to this life is on the change.
A well cultivated mind, united with
pleasant, easy disposition, is the greatest
accomplishment in lady. have endeav.
ored from the first to the presentmomentto
bring you up in such manner as to form
you foriusetulness in society. Woman was
never made merely TO sec and be seen; but
to fill an important space in the great chain
of nature, planted and formed by the
Almighty Parent of the Universe. You
have been educated in habits Of industry,
frugality, economy, and neatness, and in
these you have not disappointed me.
1t is for the man to provide and the wife
to take care and see that every thing, with.
in her circle of movement, is done in order
and season; therefore, let method and order
be considered important. A place for eve.
ry thing, and every thing in its place, a
time for every thing, and every thing in its
,ime-arc good family mottos.
a thorough knowledge of every kind of
business appropriate to the kitchen isinds-
pensable; Ior without such knowledge, a
lady is incapable Of the management Of
her own business, and is liable to imposi-
ton by her servants every day. But in
these things you have been instructed.
You Will be mistress Of your own house,
and observe the rules in which you have
been educated. You will endeavor, above
all things, to make your freside the most
agreeable place for the man Of your choice.
Pleasantly and happy disposition will ever
be considered as necessary to this important
end; but foolish fondness is disgusting
to all. Let reason and common sense
ever guide you: these aided by pleasant,
friendly disposition, render life happy, and
without these, it is not desirable. Remem-
Der Your cousin Eliza. She married with
the brightest prospects; but, from he petu.
atu, peevish and complaining Idisposi,iou,
and negligence, every thing went wrong;
and her home became place Of disqui.
etude TO her husband. To avoid this, he
sought place to pass away vacant time,
where associated with those more wicked
than himself he contracted the habit of
ntcmpcrance, and all was lost-and poor
Eliza was thrown on the charity of her
friends.
Bcpleasant and oblging to your neigh
bors--ready to grant assistance when
necessary. Be careful Of their characters,
and not readily believe an i'll report
Throw the mantle Of charity over their
faIlings, knowing that we are all human
and liable to err. Abhor a tatt!er, and
give no place to the reports of such. How
ever strong provocation may be, never
contend for the last word.
Let your Bible show that It IS used. Give
no place 10 novels in your library. Let
history biography. and travels be read,
when time and opportunity admit, without
interfering with the important duties Of the
family. Be not ignorant of the events
of the time being; therefore read some journ.
al Of the day.
AS to friends who may call on you-
never be confused nor in hurry; treat
them with hospitality and poiteness, and
endesvor to make them happy in their own
way. Never teaze them to do this, or that,
which they do not prefer. True politeness
consists in an easy department, and making
our friends easy, and permitting them to
enjoy themselves In that way which is most
pleasing to them.
Speak with deliberation. The other sex
tell us that, "the female tongue is never
tired" be it SO: let it be regulated by rea.
son and common sense.
AT the close of the week, if possible, let
all your work for the time, be done; so that
on Sunday you may improve your time in
such manner as will be appropriate to the
day, and never, extraordinarles excepted,
let your seat be vacated at Church.
AS to dress: decency is becoming to all,
but extravaganza opens door to want; fol-
low the fashions Of the day so far as decen.
cy and good sense will approve, but avoid
slnguIarity. Be not troubled for what you
| have not; but be thankful for and take care
Of what YOU have. 4 Lcgho-n A-t load