The Rhode-Island Republican. [volume] (Newport, R.I.) 1809-1841, 1837-08-02
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II is said that +" lovers quarrels" are but
the renewal of tove, bat it is not so in truth.
Continual differences and pickering will uu-
dermlne the strongest affection, aud a wife
cannot bc too careful to avoid disputes upon
the most trivial subjects !; indeed, it is the
every day occurrences which try the love
and tempers in the married life--great oc-
casIons for quarreIs seldom occur. Every
wish, cEerv prejudice must meet with her
attention, and the first thoughr of woman
should be the pleasing aud providing for her
husband. II is impossible To enumeraie all
the little incidents that annoy married men,
or the little unobtrasive pleasures which il
Is In the pswer Of a wife to give but
throughout her life, in her employmenis and
her amusements, she mus, ever bear his
pleasure IN her mind. She must act for
HIM IN preference to herself, aud she will be
amply rewarded by witnessing his delight
IN her and his home. To q woman who
loves her husband with oil the devotedness
OF her nature, this will be pleasure not "a
task and to make him happy, she will new
cr drudge any sacrifice for self
The greatest misery a woman can expe-
renee, is the changed heart and alienaied
affections Of her husband bat even in that
painful case she must return good for evil
to the utmost, and her consolation will he the
consciousness that her trials hive not their
rise or continuance IN any dereliction Of nf-
fec,ion or duty on her part.
Some women, in order to win back bus-
bands wandering love have recourse to at
tempts to arouse his jealousy, but they are
much mistaken IN pursuing such method.
a man however debascd his conduct, never
entirely iorgets the love he once bore to the
bride OF his youth-there are moments when
feelings OF tenderness to her will return with
force to hls heart, and to trap the benefit of
such moments, the injured bu, forgiving
wife, must still be enshrined in the purity Of
former timos. A husband will excusehs fault
!" himself, and IN some measure stand exon
Grated to tho world, If this wife relax ~ the
propriety Of her conduct, while on the con.
trnry the gentle forbearance the uncompIuin-
ing patience, aud unobtrusive rectitude Of
the woman he Injuries, will deeply strike his
heart, and do much to win him back to his
former love and to the observance. of the
vows he breathed mt the nItnr, when hi.
heart was devoted to the being from whom
II has wandered. A kind look, an infect
ionnte expression half uttered, must bring
h's wife to his side, and she must with
sm'les and tenderness encourage the re-
turning affection, carefully avoiding all ref
erence to her sufIerings or the cause of them.
This will not be difficult for yirluou.
woman to perform. Our love which before
is constrained by the modcs,y aud
reserve natural to our sex, increases in fer
'ency aud depth afterwards, it enables us
!" bear unfelt the words scorr, aud all is
'wallowed up in il; and an affec,ionn,e
VIE clings TO her husband through poverty
md riches, and the moro the world recedes
rom HIM the more firmly will she stand by
nm (; she will smile a: The frowns of the
world, she will not heed Us censnres, he il
'er all, aud ia her love all other feeligys svs
orgoiion or absorbed. No sacrifice will bs
90 great, the faintest smile will not he m
ewnrd too little; quick nf feeling unhind-
less, we are also quick at feeling tender
Tess, and every trifiIng circumstance is suf-
IcIent tn awaken or to still the pain Of our
eats and bring us misery or happiness.
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