Cheraw gazette. [volume] (Cheraw, S.C.) 1835-1838, 1836-01-12

Will any aver, that the latter is seldom
done? All, at a glance perceive that such
a course would be Observation-Disclosures
ous... Alas there are many ways in which
a father may ,inconsiderately counteract or
neutralize mothers influence. He may
be entirely unconscious himself of the course
ne is thus pursuing. Ifhewerc interrogatcd
on this point, you would hear him exclaim,
81 would Us soon plant dagger in my own
breast, as to destroy my dear wife's influence
in my own family" The evil is an insici:-
GUS one, and should therefore be pointed out.
Twill mention few cases which will Illus.
trate my meaning, and which trust will be
palpable to the apprehension ofeyery father
whose judgment has. not been warped by
existing CIRCUMSTANCES but order to do
this, Imllst descend to particulars. Acop-
test rises betweena a mother and her child; /;
II will suppose that the father, knowing all
the circumstances, does NOT exactly yapproye
ofthe course which the mother has pursued;
yet if he withholds his influence andSup-
port from her in subdmng the child the
mothers influence is lessened, ,if not destroy
ed. Let a father express even . doubt, In
the hearing Of his child, whether amother's
command is perfectly reasonable let him
but guordedly say; Z. Wife do govern your
own temper before you attempt to govern
thechild see that yoIdont get angry your
self. !" Let "a father but insinuate that pro-
baby achild's faults are not corrected, be-
cause a mother does not take the right meth
Cd. !. Let him expostulate with his wife thus,
!" "Mydear, do give the child what it wants
to eat or-to drink; do not starye the poor
thing -
i Let the father insinuate that the mother is
oyer.righteous let him insist on taking out
the child Tor walk, on the Sabbath, con-
trary to the mothers views ofright; let him
persist in taking out child to'walk or to
ride, when the mother thinks it too unwell
or the weather too cold. Let father intl-
mate, even in trifing way; that the mother
is disposed toSassume the reins Of govern
kment, and he sirikes.a deadly blow at her
subsequent efforts to legslate in the family.
even IN his absence, unless mercifhl hand
interpose. The father may forget that he
has ever intimated such things in the hear
ing Of his children and servants; but they
willnot forgetthem. This tide eofnisdirected
influence viii probablyroll on through future
generations ill it mingles in the ocean o.
eternity. Children, rand especially sons, need
but little encouragement to induce them to
trife with their mothers feelings, tranple
| on her authority and impugn her motives.
Let a father be severe IN the treatment Of
his wife; let him be. sovereign, arbitrary,
b1annical, even in his manner towards her,
| and he weakens, if he does not destroy her
influence. Il -
1t Is not only right and proper, b. it is
likewise beautiful, to see wife taking spe.
cial care to render the home of her husband
pleasant and cheerful -neat and orderly
her children quiet obedient, industrious
that she be frugal in her expenditures thai
she, "look well to the ways Of her house
hold, and eat not the bread Of idleness." |
/ is right that her husband should be some
times entirely ullmolested,s and free from
perplsxing cares, and that his st,,dy shoul!