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their full force. may there not DO sin
gle case that they do not rsachi Sup
Poss Oor insfaace, m<reiy) . young
man nearly two-and-,weniy, already
LOT the gresfssf discretion, with an am.
pie fortune. were TO be passionaiely in
love with young lady almost eighteen.
equally discreet with himself, and who
had sincere friendship for him. do
you think Il would be necessary 10
make him wait ill :hirsys particularly
where the friends on both sides were
pleased with the MATCH
Were to consider the question per
sonally. since you allow that "indiyi.
dual character" ought to be consulted.
no objection clearly could be made TO
my marrying early.
From my fathers plan OF education
for me. may properly be called . hot
bed plant. Introduced from nv infan-
cy into the socisty OF men, while vet a
boy. !! was accustomed TO think and
act like q man. On every occasion.
however important, was ieft to decide
Tor myself; do not recollect single
instance where I was controlled even
by advice; for IL was my fathers inva.
nabie maxim, that the best way Of
strengthening the judgment was to suf.
Ter 1t to be constantly exercised. Be-
fore seventeen finished my college
education before twenty was admit
ted TO the bar. Since that time have
been constantly travelling through diff.
fereat parts Of the United States; TO
what purpose ] leave you to determine.
From this short account Of myself,
you may Judge whether my manners
and sentiments are not. by this time,
IN some degree formed.
But let us treat the subject abstract
ly; and. a. we have shown that under
particular circumstances no disadyan.
tages result from early marriages. let
US see If any positive advantages attend
them.
Happiness in the marriage state. YOU
will agree with me. can only be OBJ.
tanned from the most complete congo
niality OF mind and disposition, and the
most exact similarity OF habits and Dur.
suits; now. though their natures NAV
generally resemble, no two persons
can be entirely OF the same mind and
disposition, the same habits and pur-
suits. unless after the most intimate
and early association; say seriv. for
II Is IN youth only the mind and dispo-
sition receive the complexion We would
give them; il 10 then only that our ha.
bits are moulded or our pursuits direct.
ed as we please; ss we advance in life
they become fixed aud Interchangeable.
and instead Of our governing them, 90
vern us. Is il not therefore better, upon
every principle Of happiness. that per-
sons should marry young. when, d.
rected by mutual friendship. each might
assimilate to the other, than wait till =
period when their passions, their pre-
JUDGES, their habits, &c., become so
rooted that there neither exists an in
cIinatlon nor power to correct them :
Dr. Frapklin, very strong advocate
for my system, and think. al least as
good authority as Aristotle, very aptIy
compares those who marry early to two
young trees joined together BY the hand
Of the gardener:
"Trusk knit 9th trunk. and AraVeh vE,h br.n.A
sntVined,
Aa.sneieE s'ili, more closely they ar, joia'd,
~ length. full grous, M Differences ve spc
Bus. 'ssssd Of 100. bshoid single irse!s
Those, on the other hand, who do
not marry till late, say "lhirty," for
example, be likens to two ancient oaks:
Use 80 your force. they yi-sd nos 10 yoar bund.
5ut hrmly Ia their usual ss-iioas stand,
White sssh, rrgurdiess % the others views
ssubbors a0d aE'd. its HsssFsl beat parsses 10
Bot this is not all; IL is IN youth thu,
we are best fitted 10 enjoy that exaui-
site happiness which che marriage state
IS capable Of afording. aud the remem-
brance Of which forms so pleasing a
link IN that chain Of friandsbip that
binds to each other two persons Who
have lived together any number Of
years. Our ideas are then more refin-
ed; every generous and dislasersssed
sentiment beats higher and our seas.
bility is Ear more alive TO every emo.
lion our associate may feel. Depend
upon Il, the man who does not love till
thirty" will never. never love IoaR
before that period, he will become too
much ensmoured Of his own dear self
70 think Of transferring his affections 10
any o:her object. He may marry, but
interest alone viii direct ham IA the
choice Of his wife far from TsgaFdinR
her as the sweetest Trend and c0mpa.
mon Of his life. be will consider her
bot as en- unavoidable encumbrancs
upon the estate she brings him. Aad
ean you really hope, my Theodosia,
With aIl your ingenuity. 10 eonvincs
me that such beiag VIII enjoy equal
happiness IN marriage With msl with
ne, shout 70 enter into Il with such
rapture; who anticipate 20 psrfeca q
HSAvHN from our uniting N every ssu-
81, Improving our sninds together, end
Informing eseh other ky ous muiuai
asaistsncs and obseFvatioasf Mol
give 700 fun credit Coz your talents,
bot there are some causes % bed that
even y0u cannot support them,