Richmond palladium. [volume] (Richmond, Wayne County, Ind.) 1831-1837, 1836-09-24
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Selected MisccIIany.
y, .reasoxIAL ENGAGEMENT.

~arseA0NIAL ENGAGEMENT.
!, +. recently published work, entitle
$1,000 "a Marriage by the Rev. J. NJ
~. ,ke:m,sstiOn OF tyhat constitutes
- - viage IL thus treated. We cop
!, nrtksphsof the interest which naturalf
.,,sches 70 Ills SUBJECT in the estimation o
- pune5oss class embraced under, Iii,
s.jefweoers and WOoed: il4j i'rflE =.
ear cossrrr4gs 4 BErkornmENr.-T
- interesting and decisive period in the
isDv N eourtshp remains to be considered
Vy6Sye endeav0red 10 conduct the inquirer
A. tdfh along hom one step to another.
mve have brought him to that point when
| Z tysompted, not only by his affections but
k1rgard for his own character and the
scser Of his friend, to make those declar-
- 81 attachment and love which, if recip-
Sszed, shall prepare the way for the as
spton Of obligations the most binding and
I'm. What, then, is the nature of Il be-
m&nent! And what are the circumstances
Nh will render II null and void! ra
/. Ircmark that matrimonial engagement
1bes not consist in any of the civilities and
esnes;es Of life which gentleman may ex-
tend 10 lady. n e9e9
Its not untrcquen,ly the case, however
bas thess are mistaken for declarations of
vve. and the announcement is made ~ once /
Is seh persons are engaged. Such is the
upgudence Of friends often. and more fire.
u;ady Of the lady herself, that the common
oGssssss and attention, which are ever due
ltvsen the sexes, are construed into propo-
= for matrimony, and young gentleman
NJ the report Of his engagement, while as
! rot even dream Of the thing has passed
ssgh his own mind. BY such nnprudence
J hdy sewers herself from the society. per- {
y, Of an honorable and polished mind. and
~ upon herself and friends disappoint-
\ which will inevitably follow IN such +,
~ Hagent!eman attend a lady to church; !
= ecorr her to the public assembly, if he
4 with her in the street.-the occasionally :,
I Der for the sake other good society, the
lun is not unfrcquently set o6Hfoot, by !,
estschief-maker or indiscreetfrieu6.t that =
u,ies are engaged to be married. +, :. ~
"a either does an engagements: consist in ;, :
y. iteness or social intercourse swhicl Z =
~ extend to gentleman. tem Sd q
" are young gentlemen, however, of .
psiminate vanity as to suppose that :"
patmenti is nothing less than the strong ?
ssnation OF personal attachment. II =
4much Us look at them, they fancy 1t -
se love AFFAIR.", and equivalent 10 the -
sss.irect proposals for matrinony. A =
/ . 4. y compliment, 4 social in erview. a ~
III RUE OF pleasure, is set down By such "
S:ed coxccrslbs IS the most une9uivocal =,
rr,E LIS y
ITfhsy have Inade with an air OF triumph, =,
DER know their mistake till they learn -
~ reserve and negIec, which their Con- ::
rchly deserves. lsner Il shnm ri -,
Neitl!er dies an engagement consist ia u,
those preliminary steps, which are so Il
INT. IN order tn a Just estimate Of the IN
Ter and notifications of the person mr.
nom You would be united for life. +;
= persons. however. imagine tIia, every III
Sep IS step of conraiittu!. While the IN
lua Is only forming that wise estimate, CO
'akIng those jndscicns Investigations
every one is bound 10 make in tins If tn
aregard to his own happiness and ia
others, he IS considered rs fairly com e.
. without the possibility of honorable hi
But this is all wrong, Nvfetherit be liz
ntnnent OF Individuals or public sc,ti- Ill
That very object Of his researches is Ia
ertain Il the character and q,Iaiifica- en-
y the perssniare such rs x I'll make him W.
~ cou,panNn for life. Without such fol
'eatier'he e42.hi as well commit his IN io
IN Tins m'attef 10 q lady wtosn he had ris
,e'ieid. lie Nigh. as web be bctrotiici 80
then ch'ldrea by their parents. without de
isent or knowledge. and while yet in 1 10,
! infancy. He might as well biindfold 81,
!. and rush into great assembly. and dc
a companion IT random. Parents r5l
gEpoose their daughters a litsle less than hi.
) II they expect 10 beiro.h them in this n,
e. And ii young ladies are 50 super .i
seAarscter ana accomplishments as' tn:
aanit, oi sEah honorable and wise. So IA
they nal better give up the idea eff Of