Rutland herald. [volume] (Rutland, Vt.) 1823-1847, 1836-09-06
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We esir'c, the following from work recently
Published, entitled "Cousship and Marriage" b,
the Rev. J. N. DAVIS. oar fair reader. v,lI find
II worthy pcrusel.
WHAT CONSTITUTES rtTnoTunEyr. The most
interesting and decisive period ~ the history If
-eourfship remains TO be considored We bav. en-
deagored TO conduct the inquirer sIlcr truth alonp
from one step to another, I'LL We have brought him
Ia that point whea lac Is prompted not only by hls
affections bat by regard for his own character and
,Lo character OF his i'iend, make those declara
tons Of attachment and love, Which, ifreci7rocated
shall prepare the way or he assumption e oblira.
lions the most binding ana solemn. What then is
the nature Of bero'hment Aud what are tho
circumstances which will render it null and void
/. remark ,hoi matrimonial engagement, does
rot cGnsist in any Of the cvi,ics and eourteses Of
life, which a gentleman msy extend to lady.
Il il not unffequen,ly the case however that
these mistaken Tor declarations Of love and the
announcement IL made al once, that they are EN.
G.ofp! Such is the lmpfudence Of friends often
and more frequently of the lady herself: that the
common polileness and attention. which are ever
due between the sexes. are construed into prepo.
,sls for marimony, aud the gentleman hears the
report Of his engagement while as yet not even a
dream of the thing has passed through his own
miLd. By such iBprddcnce tie LADY sewers bersel.
from the society perhaps, Of an honorable and pol.
i.hed mind. and brings upon herself and friends the
modification and disappointment which will newt
ably follow 10 such cases. Ir a gentleman attend
lady 10 church The escort her to tho public as
se,nbly Il be walk with her ia toe street II he
occasionally visa her for the sake Of her good 70.
Getty the report Is not I1ifequentiy 50, on foot by
some mischief maker, or 0discteet friend that tic
parties are engsgcj TO be married.
.. Neither docs engagement consist 10 ans
Pol',eness o. social intercourse. which lads may
extend to a Ccnilcmln.
There are some gentlemen. hoAc,er, or suci
eonsummS'e vanity, Sc to suppose that such ,tcot
ment Is nothing less than The strongest lntimatior
of personal stiaehwcnt. n lady 80 much as looi
at them they fancy hat ]; unsi BE- love affair. A.,
-equisaent 10 tho nosl direct proposals for niatri
mouy. 4 smile compliment social interview
walk OF ride % Pleasure is set dow 70 by such con
,eeiied coxcumbs as the most uneonivocal decara
tion ot love. They tell Of the oonqnests they has,
made wIih an air Of triumph. and never know %
aheir mistake all they lesrn II In TIA, reserve an,
aeglec, which their conduct 30 richly deserves.
.. Neither does sn engagement, consist IN en-,
Of ihefo preliminary sieps, Which sfe 50 imp8lisu,
IN order 20 Joe, eslsmsie ~ the character an,
Qualifications Of she Pefsop With whom YOU wuul
be united for h'c.
May persons however Imagine rha, every sue
siep "a = step Of conmi,ls While The ind,iluu
is oniY forming 'hs, wire cstims;e. sul mak.oq in
d'e'oos insesiigaicns, which every one il bouud {
make IN 'h's sfsir, by regard 20 bis OWN hsppl
hess and ira, 81 uthers--he Is considered a. fsifI
COMMITTEES, ~'ihou, the possibility Of honorable ~
treat. Bat thIs Is all wrong whether il BE- the see
i,nsnt Of intIyidusls Or pablo sentiment. The ser
object Of has researches l. TO ascertain II the cha,
setsr and qualities hons ~ he person ,,e soci. d
slli sake hin hsPpy eompsnion fcf life. VIII
90, such inEestgstioa he might a. vel comm, q
isiersss this matter 70 q lady ION De- hsd ne,
e. eeheld. lie NIGH, sell be beiroihed a. hei
then ea'drsn by their parents. without h.s conscl
er sno~iedge ard Shile yet ia STATE Of nfsnel
lie mAehi - ~s bhndfOla himself. nd rush into
great sssesnaly, ss9 ssieci eolnpaniou 81 rsodou
Psrsn's nasa suP7"se their dssghlsrs are little 10,
Than Anges. they expect 20 belFSSh them ~ ID
~annef. tsa 4 yeang ladies are % super6cll