Cheraw gazette. [volume] (Cheraw, S.C.) 1835-1838, 1836-03-01
PARENTS DEPARTMENT.
Uniformity necessary I'm the govern.
lnent of Children.
From Halls Lectures on the education of children.

Uniformity necessary I'm the govern.
nent Of Children.
From Halls Lectures on the education OF children.
Parents are under obligations to cultivate
uniformity in their course Of treatment of
children.
If the father or mother is rigid at one
time, and lax at another-if they condemn
to-day what was permitted yeslerday-il
they punish for fault to-day, which passed
unIo:iccd on q former occasion, how can
they receive the affections or confidence
of children, Parents cannot be too solici-
tous to be uniform, in their acquisitions and
prohibitions. Uniform censure, when chill
drcn do wrong, and uniform appreciation
when they do right, arc certainly dictated by
reason and common sense. But without
great care, it will be impossible to preserve
entire cquanin,ity of feeling, or pursue an
unyarving course Of conduct. The state
of the health and flow Of animal spirits arc
so subject to change, that the same object
on different days, is contemplated through
different medium. 1tis very easy to guide
a ship while wind and tide are favorable
but in the storm, and the tempest, to main.
tain the same course, requires experience,
skill, and great firmncss. Still, this is more
necessary now, than when
All calm the sky, the ocean sleeps.
~Unvarying and inHexible consistency
should be exhibited by all whom Providence
has placed at the head ofa household. They
should not only be excellent, but consistently
excellent. An unbrokcn uniformity should
reign over the whole character. Nothing
contradictory, incxplcablc, or irreconclleabe
should ever be seen. ~
In order to exhibit this consistent excel
lcnce,parcnts must practice sell government
How can one govern others who cannot gov
ern himself! TO all persons entrusted with
power. self.gorernmcnt is valuable; ana
NAV udd, indispensable 10 right perlor'
nance of duty. Those who witness the
whole tenor of our conduct, submit to ou'
authority with more reluctance. than those
who are less conyersant with our infirmitlcs'
Hence. as parents are almost constantly OK
poscl to the observation of their children
sclf.eovermmcnt is Of molc importance te
them. than to the instructor, who is less ire
oucntly in the presence of his pupils. Ie
the instructor, it is on some account moro
necessary, than to the magistrate. But tt
all it is essential, in order 10 exercise authe:'
tv iudiciously and successfully.
Sclcgovcrnment in parents must be uni
yersaI in regard TO lis objects. 1t is mani
festly wrong for me to indulge myself II
things, which condemn in others.
Does the parent or teacher labor to con
vince those. who are placed under his care
that anger is sinful, he is under higa obliga
tious to restrain his own passions. Doc
he tell them that industry is moral duty,-
he must not love sloth and idleness himself
Does he adrnonish his children that slandc
is highly criminal-he must avoid both ''ln
consideratc and malicious SANDER" himself
: Selecommand must extend to thoughts a
well rs to the actions. Let there be eve
50 much effort on the part of parents to ex
hibh tho appearance ofscl:govcrnment while
bcore their households, if they do not rcall,
practice it, the deception will be apparent
# is impossible to dssimilate so successful,
as 70 prevent detection. The effect of thi
will be worse, than if dissimulation had no
l been attempted, as it will show an cyidcn
f disposition in the parentto 'cish for tnat in
dulgencc, which he refuses to the child
Those, therefore, who do not strive to govern
themselves as strictly, as they govern theI
children, are guilty Of an important error
sTames,