The Northern star, and constitutionalist. [volume] (Warren, R.I.) 1834-1837, 1835-12-12
[From {" Lady's Giit," by Mrs. Sssuford.l
THE Welded LIFE.

atudted the CHARACTER OF our aIIiunccu,
however well VIC may imagine we knew il
in ail it's narrow wiudings, still shall we
find, when we become wives, that we have
yet something 10 learn. BY actions is
The affection on either shown, and altho'
il il in the power and nature OF woman
TO manifest her dcvotedness and teader-
aess by thousand little attentions, she
must not repine if she receive not tho like
The feelings of the other sex are not so
so1 and exquisite as those OF our own, il
they were, we might possibly be happier,
and we may for moment wish they were
SO but we shall restrain go selfish de-
sire, if we reflect how much more unfit
they would be by such constitution to
bear the crosses and bufets OF the world ;
and we shall rejoice that they do not pos
sess Our keener sensibiliies aud rest con-
tent with our lot, refusing to increase at
their expense, happiness, which, II not
quite meeting our ideas of perfection does
So sufficiently to make as blest
1t u said that Lovers quarrcls' are
but the renewal Of love but It is not so in
truth. Continued differences and bick-
rrings will undermine the strongest al
leclion, and with cannot be too careful
to avoid disputes upon the most trivial
subjects indeed, it is the every day oc-
eurrences which try the love and tempers
in the married lile-great occasions for
quarrels seldom occur. Every wish, ev-
cry prejudice must meet with attention,
and the first thy ought ola woman should
be the pleasing aud providing for her hus-
band 1t is Impossible to enumerate all
the little incidents which annoy married
men, or the little unobtruslye pleasures
which it is IN the power Of wife to give
but throughout her life, in her employ
ments in her amusements she must ever
bear his pleasures in her mind. She
must act for him in preference to herself,
and she will be amply rewarded by wit
Messing his delight in her and in his home:
10 a woman who loves her HUSBAND
with all the devotedness Of her nature,
this will be pleasure, not task and to
make him happy, she will never grudge
any sacrifice Of self.
The greatest misery woman can ex-
perience is the changed heart and allena-
ted affections OF her husband but even
in that painful case she must not relax IN
the performance other duties. She must
not upbra,d ;-she must bear with fortl-
tude and patience her great disapPolnt-
ment she must return good for evil to
the utmost, and her consolation will be
the consciousness that her trials have not
their rise or con,inuaucSQh any derelict-
on Of affection or duty on hes 3art.
Some women, in order tosxD6n' back
husbands wandering love, hayR recourse
to attemptsto arouse his jsaIousy,-but
they are much mistakenip pursuing such
a method. A man. however debased his
conduct, never entirely forgets the love
he once hore TO the pride of hls youth ::
there are moments when feelings OF ten
derness for her will return with force to
his heart, and to reap the benefit OF such
moments, the injured but forgivlng vile
must still be enshrined in the purity OF
former times. A husband will excuse
his fault to himself, and in some measure
also stand exonerated to the world II hts
wife relax in the propriety Of her donduct,
while, on the contrary, the gentle for
hearance, the uncomplaining patience,
and unobtrusive rectiiude Of the woman
he Injuries, will deeply strike his heart,
and do much TO win HIM back to his for
mcr love, and the observance OF the vows
he breathed at the altar, when his heart
was devoted 10 the being from whom It
has wandered. A kind look, an atiec-
uonate expression half uttered, must bring
his wife to his side, and she must, with
smiles and tenderness, encourage the re-
turning affection, carefully avoiding all
reierence to her suIforings, or the cause
OF them.
This will not be Difficult. for virtuous
woman TO perform. Our love, which be-
fore marriage is constrained by the modes
ty and reserve natural 10 our sex, increas-
es in fervency and depth afterwards lit
enables us to bear unfelt the worlds scorn,
ALI is swallowed up in it. An affec-
tionate wife clings to her husband through
poverty and riches and the more the
world recedes from him, the more firmly
will she stand by him she will be his
friend when none others come near him ;
she will be his comforter when all 9TH
er worldly comfort has slid from him.
Her dcyotedness will be his rock when he
has no other support ;-she will smile at
the frowhs Of the world she will not heed
as csnsures-he is her all, and in love are
all othvr feelings forgotten or absorbed
No sacrince will be too great, the faint
est smile vii, not be reward too little
quick a feeling unkindness, we are so
quick at feeling tsnderness,-and very
tiAing circumstance is sufficient to ava.
ken OF to s,ih sAe pain Of our hearts, and
bring US misery or Happiness.