The Northern star, and farmers' and mechanics' advocate. [volume] (Warren, R.I.) 1830-1834, 1833-07-06

I a lady il Incapable Of the management OF
her own business, and Is liable to imposlt
ionSy her servants every day. But in
these things you have been instructed.
You will be mistress Of your own house,
and observe the rules in whlGli you hav,
been educated. You will endeavor, IA
bove all things, to make your freside the
most agreeable place for the man of youl
choice. Pleasantly and happy dlsposil-
ion will ever be considered as necessar,
to this important end; but foolish fond
ness is disgusting to ALL Let reason and
common sense ever guide: these, aided
by pleasant, friendly disposition, render
life happy; and without these, il is not de-
sirable. Remember your cousin Eliza
She married with the brightest prospects,
but, from her petulent, peevsh and COM
planning disposition, and negligence, eve
ry thing went wrong; and her home be-
Came place Of cisquietude to her hus-
band. 10 avoid this, he sought place
to pass away vacant time, where, associ-
ated with those more wicked than himself,
he contracted the habit Of intenperance,
and all was lost-aid poor Eliza was
thrown on the charity Of her friends.
BE pleasant aud obliging to your neigh
bors-ready to grant assistance when nec-
essary. BE careful of their characters,
and not readily believe an i'll report
Throw the mantle Of charity over their
failings, knowing that we are all human
and liable to err. Abhor a tauier, and
give no place to the reports of such.-
However strong provocation may be,
never contend tor the last word.
; Let your bible show that it is used
Give no place to novels in your library
Let history, biography, and travels be read
when time and opportunity admit-wiih-
out interfering with the important duties
Of the family. Be not ignoran. ofthe E.
vents of the time being, therefore read
some journal Of the day.
As to friends who may call on you-nev
er be confused nor in hurry: treat them
with hospitality and politeness; and en-
deavor to make them happy in their own
way. Never teaze them to do this, or
that, which they do not prefer. True po-
iiteness consists in an easy department,
and making our friends easy, and permit
ting them to enjoy themselves in that way
(which is mos. pleasing TO them.
Speak with deliberaton. The other
sex tell us that, "the female tongue is
never tired" be it so; let it be regulated
by reason and common sense.
| At the close Of the week, if possible,
let all your work for the time, be done;
SO that on Sunday you may improve your
time in such a manner as will be appro-
pirate to the day, and never, cxtraordina-
ries excepted; let your seat be vacated a,
Church.
., AS to dress: decency is becoming to all,
but extravaganza opens door to want
follow the fashions of the day so far as de-
cency and good sense will approve, but
avoid singularty. BE not troubled for
what you have not; but be thankful for,
and take care Of what you have. A Leg
horn ha. loaded with flowers, will not
cure the headache, nor gold watcl, pre-
vent the consumption.
Avoid night meetings at private hou s.
es, where every one is priest. These ]
fear, have tendency to affect the pass
ions more than mend the heart. ~, Who
knows the resting place OF an enthusiastic |
and fanatic mind Let your evening
generally be spent a. home.
As you have attended to the study ol
Botany and discovered a taste for flowers,
! would not by any means draw your at
tention from SO innocent and pleasing a
muscment. But let your garden be small
and well laid out, and the plants. selected
to your taste, See to the management OF
it yourself 1t is a pleasant exercise,
productive of health Of body, and serenity |
of mind. Lot the order, neatness, and
the display of beauty in your garden, be
the index OF what may be seen in your
house.
One thing moro : the management OF
domestics. See that all things 20 right
in the kitchen. Never dispute with
servant in what way n thing shall be done
Let your commands be promptly obeyod
Observe a mild dignity; but avoid nll
improper familiarity with those who may
be placed under you. BE never hasty
and impetuous; but calm and deliberate.
Reprove when necessary, with nildness
and determination; but never make long
hSsrahguc about matters Of minor import
tance. Too much reproof, especially il
delivered In a passion, or high tone ol
voice, Is apt to lose its desired effect, and
produce reaction on the part of the depen-l
dent. Dignity, decision, and condescen-'
sion, must be sssinilatcd In such man
ner as 70 command respect. Undue Sc
verify will so operate on the mind of do
mestics as to destroy respect, and create
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