Litchfield enquirer., 1833-06-27

'Tis false4-,hough oft with cruel chains,
 Hhe binds her yielding lovers hearts.
 Litchfeld, Jane, 1883. EOLIAN.
 ADVICE TO LOVER.
 IndMstry.-By industry, do not mean merely laboring or activity ofbody, for pur- poses of gain or saving; there may be in- dustry' among those who hayo more than they know what to do with and there is no condition of life in which industry in the wife, is not necessary to the prosperity and happiness of the family, at the head ofthe household affairs, of which she is placed. If she be lazy, there will be lazy servants, and which is great deal worse, children ha- bitually lazy: every thing, however neces- sary to be done, will be put off to the last moment-then it will bo done badly; ia many cases. not at alls the dinner will be too late; the journey or visit will be tardy the inconvenience of all sort, will be con- tinually arising there will always be a heavy arrear of things unperformed and this even among the most wealthy,i is great cufse-for even if they have no business imposed upon them by necessity, they make business for themselves; lifo would be insupportable without it; and therefore a lazy women. be her station what it may, must always be curse.
 But who is to tell, whether a girl will make an industrious woman3 How is the pur- blind lover especially to Do able to ascertain whether she, whose smiles and dimples, and bewitching lips, have half bersft him of his senses; how is he to be able to judge from n n Vy hot ho vxEpA fhksh h0~ loved object will be industrious or lazy ? Why is it very difficult; it is matter that reason has very little to do with; but there are, nevertheless, certain outward and Ris- ible signs, from which man not wholly de- prived of the use of his reason, may form pretty accurate judgment as to tsiis nnt- ter. It was a story in Philadelphia, some years ago, that young man, who was cour- ting one ofthree sisters, happened to be on visit to her, when all tho three were pres- eat, and when one said 10 the others I wonder where our needle is.' Upon which he withdrew, as soon as was consistent with the rules of politeness, resolved meyer 10 think moro of girl who possessed nes- dc only in partnership, and who, it appear cd. was not too well informed as to tho place where that share was deposited.
 This was, to Do sure, very fragrant in- stance of awant of industry for, if the third part of the use of needle satisfied hor when single, it was reasonable to anticipate that marriage would banish that useful in- sirument altogether. But such instances are seldom suffered to come in contact with tho eyes and ears of the lover, to disguise all defects from whom is the great business, not only of tho girl herself. but ofthe whole family. There are, however, certain out- ward signs, which if attended to with care, will serve as pretty sure guides. And first if you find the tongue lazy, you may be pretty certain that the hands and feet are the same. By laziness ofthe tongue, do not mean in silence, I do not mean an ab- sence of talk, for that is in most cases very good; but mean slow and soft utter ance; a sort of singing out of the words, in-' stead of speaking them a sort of letting the sounds fall out, as if they wero balan- cling on the tongue. The pronunciation of an industrious person is generally quick, distinct, and the voice, if not strong, firm at the least. Not masculine, as feminine as possible; not croak nor a bawl, but a puck, distinct, and sound voice. In this world nothing is more disagreeable than females under jaw, lazily moving up and down, and telling long string of half ar ticulate sounds. 1t is impossible for any man who has any spirit in him, to love such q woman for any length oftime.
 Look little also ut thu labors of the teeth, for these correspond with those of tho other members ofthe body and with the operations Ofthe mind. Bntfashion comes in here and decides that you shall not be quick at msals-but though she must sit as long as thsrsst. and though. she must join in the performance (for it is e real perform ance) unto tho end of the last scene, she cannot make her teeth abandon their char acter. She may and must suffer the slice to finger on the plate, in order to fill up the time but when she does bite she cannot well disguise what nature has taught her ,o do: and you may be assured that if her jaws move in slow time, and if she rather squeeze than bite tho food, set her down as being in her very nature, incorrigibly lazy. Never mind the pieces of needle work, the tambsuring and maps of tho world