Phenix gazette. [volume] (Alexandria [D.C.]) 1825-1833, 1833-06-28
ALEXANDRIA GAZETTE
From the New England Farmer.]


| fer on the day of her marriage. Mary, a,
YOU are about to leave Us, few words seem ap-
nropriate to the occasion. Although regret the
sonar ationS vet 1 am pleased that your prospects
-. good. You must not think that all be
fore YOU are Elysian Fields. Toll, care and
trouble, are the companions OF trail human ma
ture. Old connections will be dissolved BY dis
lance, time, and death.--New ones will be form
ed. Every thing pertaining to this life is on the
| change.
A well cultivated mind, united with plea
SAINT easy disposition, is the greatest accomplish,
ment in a lady. have endeavored, from the
first to the present moment. to bring you up IN
such a manner as to form you for usefulness IN
society. Woman was never made merely to
see and be seen; but TO fill an important space
in the great chain Of nature, planned and formed
by ;se Almighty Parent OF the Universe. You
have been educated in habits OF industry, trusa'
litv, economy aud neatness, and in these you
have not disappointed me.
II is for the man to provide, and for the wife
to take care and see that every thing, within her
circle of movement, is done in order and season /;
therefore, let method aud order be considered
important. A place tor every thing. and eve.
nv ,hiag in its piace-a time Tor every thing, and
every thing in its time-are good family mo'tos
A thorough knowledge Of every KIND of bust
ness appropriate to the kitchen is Indispensable;
for without such knowledge, lady is incapable
of the manage ment Of her own business and IS liza.
BILE TO imposition BY her servants every day. But
in these things you have been instructed.
You will be mistress of YOUR "wn house, and
observe the rules 10 which yon have been educa'
ted. You will endea,or, above all things. to
make your fireside the most agreeable place tor
| the man of your choice. Pleasantly and happy
disposition will ever be considered as necessary
to this important end; but foolish fond"ess Is
disgusting to all. Let reason aud common sense
ever guide: these, aided by pleasant, friendly
disposition, render life happy; aud without these,
| il IS not desirable. Remember your cousin Eli
! "a. Sic married with the brightest prospects;
bat from her petulent, peevish and complaining
disposition. and negligence, every thing went
wrong: and her home became place OF dlsqu'e.
| ,ude 10 her husband. To avoid this, he sought
place to pass away vacant time. where, assocla
ted with those more wicked than himself, he con.
tracted the habit Of intemperance, and all was
lost-and poor Eliza was thrown Oh the charity
OF her friends.
Be pleasant and obliging to your neighbours
| ready to grant assistance when necessary. Be
careful Of their characters, and not readily be-
Ieye an i'll report. Throw the mantle OF charity
over their faiIinss, know ing that we ace all hu-
man and liable to err. Abhor tattler, and give
no place to the reports Of such However strong
a provocation may be, never contend tor the last
| word.
! Let YOUR bible show that it is used. Give no
place to novels in your library. Let history, 0l.
ogrsphy, and travels be read, when time and OPP.
portunitv admit-without interfering with the I'm
portant duties of the family. b. not ignoran, of
the events of the time being, therefore read some
| journal of the dav.
AS to friends who may call on you-never be
| confused nor in hurry: treat them with hospi.
tally and politeness; aud endra'or TO make
them happy in their own way. Never teaze them
10 do this, or that, which they DO not prefer. -
| True politeness consists in an easy department,
and making our friends easy, and permitting them
| to eniov themselves in that way which is most
pleasing to them. :.
Sneak with deliberation. The other sex tell
US that " the female tongue is never ,ired;" be
it 80: let it be regulated by reason and common
sense.
At the close of the week, il possible, let all
YOUR work for the time. be done; 50 that on Sun
day YOU may Improve your time in such man.
ner as will be appropriate to the day, and never,
extraordinaries excepted, let your seat be vaeat'
| cd at Church.
As to,dress: decency is becoming to all, but
extravaganza opens door to ~ant-foIIow the
fashions of the day SO far as decency and good
sense will approve, but avoid singulariiy. Be not
troubled for what you have not: but be thankful
for, and take care Of what you have. A Leghorn
hat loaded with flowers, will not cure the head.
ache, nor gold watch prevent the consumption.
Avoid night meetings at private houses, where
every one is priest, These, fear, have a ten.
dency to affect the passions more than mend the
heart. Who knows the resting place Of an en-.
thusiastio and fanatic mindl Letyour evening
generally be spent at home.
As YOU have attended to che study Of BOTANY
and discovered taste for flowers, would not
by any means draw your attention from SO inno-
cent and pleasing an amusement. But let your
garden be small aud well LAID out. and the plants
| selected to your taste. See to the management
of it YOURSELF tits a pleasant exercise, produc.
tive Of health Of body, and serenity of mind
Let the order, neatness, and the display OF beau
ty in your garden, be the index Of what may be