Southern planter., 1832-11-24


points, as from dnadof being conquered Be
ware ofihc slightest approach Of contradiction, and
be assured every lille dispute between NAM and
wife, even itself Of the most trivial naurn, s dnnt
gerous. II force, good humour ont Of is cianncl,
and undermnos affection, and insdous, uiough per,
haps nsenbly, wears out, and at Inst entirely de.
sroys that cordially which is the life and soul Of
matrimonial felicity.
Gcnhcnes6. - How indecorous offensive and sin
ful, 10 see a woman exercising authority over her
husband, and sayng "I will have tso. II shall be
done as ken But should hope the disgracelpl
manner is so small as to render II unnecessary 10
enlarge on The subject
Never Join in any Jest OF laugh against your hus-
band. lie may be plain, and insignificant, even
a ridiculous man, be il so, why did you marry him7
You should have known al these defects before
marriage. II is NOW too late; and rs a wife, self
mot 10 say word Of duiy) calls on you to hide his
fault; and, whenever you possibly cam TO bring for
ward, and make him Of importance.
Assduously conceal his faults, and speak only of
his merits. In the married life, canfdonis are by
no means desirable. You may be listened to with
sympathy and interest; but viii Ibis redress your
grievancei BY no means Therefore never com.
plain ofhim In the FIRST place. YOU vinlae sacred
duty BY exposing your husbands FAULTS and IN the
next even a ceraln degree oflemale dignity should
combine better motives to preventn.
would also recommend concealment from o.
them ofany little discord or disuniun which occurs
between Repeated with additions and appravn.
tons, il only gives food TO the busy whisper Of the
mancvolent; and, as the witty Richardson says,
Z" is sure to be remembered long after the honest
people have quite forgot il themselves" Besides,
on these occasions, rely on IL, the world is much
more inclined 10 be your husbands advocate than
yours.
Nedfnfss. much will attention 10 order and reQu-
ariiy contribute to the comfort Of your husbaDd
Men particularly love neainess, tidlness and meth
cd; any thing eoied OF out Of place discomposes
them; and Uttered room will make then neeylsh
Meals should always be ready at stated hour,
little decision aud funness will soon make your ser
wants punciual Rise early; give your orders early,
breakiastearly; be ready 10 sit down 10 your work
table early. Dong much before o'clock gives YOU
command ofthe day. and gets you through il with
ease But, hdou to all this order and regularity.
u you are fond Of lying in bed!-"Eght hours
sleep" say our physicians "are quite enouphn and
The woman who prefers her pillow to ihe numerous
advantages which early rising Produces would not,
1 fear, have strength Of mind enough to perform
more important duties. An hour rescued from
sleep docs wondersi and your healfhls benefited by
it,
Drcss.-TheFe isnot an hour in the day In which I
a man so much likes TO see his wife dressed with
neatness as when she leaves her bed room, and sits
down 10 breakfast Al any other moment, vanity
stimulates her efforts AZ the toilette; for she expects
% be seen ibui At this retired and carly hour il Is for
he very sake cleanliness for the very Ike ofpleas
ng her husband, that she TINS appears neat and nice
some one says, "a woman should never appeari
ln'idily OF badly dressed in the presence of her
husband" While he was 0 lover, what sad piece
'tbusnoss fhe caught you dressed 10 disadvantage
'Oh dear, hero he IS, and my hair all in papers.
md this frighiiul unbecoming cap2 bad no idea
70 would have been here SO early, lot me Off to nv
oicfte" Butnow that he is your husband. Dear :
ne, what consequencesf My object is gained nv !
ioris 10 win him, and all my little mannuvres To !
apivate, have been successful, and it is very hard
Ia womanislo pass her life in endeavorinQ to please
er husband| remember greatly admireino n
'dy who lived among the mountains, and scarcely Z
aw any ono but her husband She was rather !
lain woman, and yet when she sat to breakfasl I
ach morning, and ali the day hong, her extreme 3
ea'ness and the attention TO the ulceness of her
ppearance, made her quite an agreeable obieo, I
nd her husband loved her, aud would look al her T
with more pleasure than at pretty women, dressed
olled and untidy; for believe me. those tbinos
though your husband appears not to notice them.
LOT perhapsis he conscious ofihe causel stronolv
'ossess the power ofPleasng or displeasino.