Wilmington expositor. (Wilmington, Del.) 1831-18??, 1831-08-26

nary name.--Sir j. Hackintosh's History ofii
England
From the "Ant-masonic Herald" we copy
the following judicious remarks, concerning
the impropriety Of young persons entering into
the matrimonial engagement with too much !;
precipitaney.
TO YOUNG PEOPLE.
Dir. Franklin advises young men to marry
early in life; but with all our respect for the
venerable man, we think thar in this case. his
advice needs qualification. In a country where |.
voting man has a farm, cottage, and all'the +
utensils for stocking both, it is reasonable and
lcommendable for him to marry as soon as he I
can suit himself. But in the city, if he has
but slender income, it is absurd to marry.
| il will prevent him forever from arriving at
that elevation which is in the minds eye OIL
/ every human being, and act upon him as al
mill stone for the remainder OF his Though
he might, singly, have toiled up the ascent, he
| will find himself too heavily laden, and tool
much encrvatet, by the bonds of love and aft
fiction, 10 continue his course. uniting with
another human being. Let him first attain
his wished for standing in society, compe-
tence and character, before he looks aroundl
| him for partner. He will then have br0S-,
pect Of happiness. Let him attain a station.
singly, on which he can plant himself and
| DEFY the changes of fortune, and there will be
reason in inviting another to participate in his
lot.-But at the bottom Of tM bill, it is AM
act of blindness, bordering on frenzy, and al
proposition to woman, bordering on insult, to
sue for marriage @onnexion. We have
I. known cases where young man has paid the
parson his last i've dollars for performing the
marriage ceremony, when the next day, he
I did not know which way to turn to procure
!. the neccssaries of life, and the consequence
I was, of course, weary existence of reproach-
! es, poverty and difficulties. Young men and
'Iwomen are. too apt to be led away by the ex-
} citement of the moment to think there is no
) difficulty beyond the simple process of tying
the knot.S-But if they could think, or think
ing, could believe that this knot, so plausible
bound them down for life, to bed Of thorns,
: to miseries innumerable, to hunger, famine
: and sickness of heart, how like giants would
J they arise and leap on shore before the uneb-
: bing tide of fate had surrounded them. We
haNs often seen young people in this predica-
:, meht, and while they stood up by the chancel
! in their pride and beauty, and repeated their
y vows of love, we have felt very pang at
II heart, and desire to rush in and tear away
3 the bewilderipg Aummery that impelled them
: to mutual and premature martyrdom.--It is
Il a silly frenzy that leads men to purchase,
with an hours glory, life of misery,---to put
n away a state of Indifferent happiness, for one
moment of heaven and an eternity of hell.
II Yer this is almost inevitably the case when
0 you marry before you are settled in life; when
], you pledge yourself to support another with.
1t out prospect Of suficiency for your owr
e support Young men often deceive themselves
al TO he of n -, tIs
l. matrimonial state.--We have heard people
o with honest enough intentions perhaps, en-
=, ldeavoring to convince young men that witt
IL prudence they could live quite as cheap in
married state as singy; but we happen Il
% know better. In the first place, the house rem
o for a respectable family would be sufficient t.
t, 'pay the board, lodging and washing of a yonnl
lie man who has none but himself TO think of
Of and the item Of house-rent is ono of the small
pIest in a married mans account, His hous,
;e|is to be, every now and then replenished will
III furniture; the stomach is constantly untyin,
gI his purse; the miliner and mantua-maker mus
lie be attended to; thu doctor sometimes drops in
ID the carpenter must be sent for; the mason; tn
lie painter;-and thus expense begets expense, il
ASIA thousand fold, on matters and things from
al which single man is entirely free. Now
utl with what grace can old people fill veun)
leI people with silly notions about the cheapnes
lis of matrimonial life?
I'd Young people often acquire a state of feein
n resembling Scylla and Charibdis--not know
lis ing which to choose, they too often fall int
le, the Scylla. If do not get married, says one
O. l shall do something worsc--I shall become
he worthless fellow. and cncumberer of the groun
d, thus fooling himself, and walking off tn
h precipice with his hands over his eyes.-Thcr
he he lies the length Of his life welering in miser,
en- and as vainly wishing himself in his formc
il. state. as Dives did when he was tossing o
is the hot waves of the internal lake. These ar
ofItruths. and solid as steel, and they cannot to
on often, or too egiby be shewn to our thought