Virginia advocate. [volume] (Charlottesville, Va.) 1827-1860, 1830-02-19

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rs. nr IL, they arc tho youug-krow nes-
thing about housekeeping and providing
for a family.&
2. They not to marry until they have
go, the consent of their mind give up tight
lac,ns-because the married state should
be free from ton9cee and compression,
and oppression, sc.
B. A young lady should mt marry until
she has got the consent Other mind to
obey her observation-disclosures If she cannot,
and will not obey her husband, she does
not love him-obedience is the strongest
| evidence of love.-These are some Of the
times when young ladies' ought no, marry.
Now say
l. They ought not omarry young
man who when he comes to address them
can stay week or two --such an one will
be likely to love the fire and the hous
too welI-wiII mot 60 to the barm-and
the neac-ground, the corn.fcM-t6e tobac-
eo-feid, sc. often enough.
| 2. Never marry young nan without
some occupation by which he could sup
port family. He will be apt to need the
proceeds Of such occupation, when tho
trade must be learned. Say, If you marry
him, he must be doctor, not a quiek-a
lawyer, not pettifogger-a merchent ON
his own capital. not borrowed one--a
shoemaker, not cobler haze the thing
atset-a farmer, or mechanic of some
order. if he be baSket-makcr have the
profitable occupation in the bargain, done
marry without il.
3. Never marry young man who
wears line clothes, and swears prolanely--
because if he will not treat his Makers
laws with reverence, he is very unapt to
treat you kindly and with respect-more-
over, he who swears will lie, and of all
characters a l'ar is to be detes,ed and "a
Soidec and not chosen as companion.
A. "A young lady should not marry a
Young man who is in the habit of gam
bling, attending horse races and theatres
because he will, ten to one spend every
cent of his, and his wifes estate. and
bring her at last to beggary. Reformed
gamblers are not safe, would advise no
young lady to marry one at least under ten
years reformation.
3. A young lady will be very unsafe in
marrying young man who mses ardent
spirits either temperately or Unexpectedly
because more women have been rem.
dered wretcaed on account of drunken
husbands than any one thing else.-When
Lar'n'a, and Laura, and Margaret, were
led by their husbands TO Hymen's alter.
their husbands only took Httle.-Lcvinia
was the mother Of four children, when the
sheriff sold the last bed she had, for her
husbands drains. Laura had three love.
ly babes, when her husband was carried to
Jail-and she left without bed bread or
home. Margaret had two children-when
she followed their scottish and british fa-
ther TO an 'untimely graveyard sfle and
her babes cast upon the world pennyless.
Beware, young ladies, of him who can
drink dram even in week. Don't mar.
ry reformed drunkard, as a man hardly
ever gets clear Of this awful disease. If
you want to be miserable-if you want
babblIngslfyou want woundsIwithout cause
"a husband with red eyes, &c. marry a
man who drinks, aoho takes little. and
you are more likely to have the above en-.
Joyments than in marrying any other
character. liza man can't give nm his
dram, he can sacrifice the happiness. or
property OF any woman, by taking little.
wives are indeed to be pit;ed who have
husbands, who will say it is right to take a
thtt6.-I think Tread their doom. But
methinks. lear some one say by this
time" Where are young ladies to get
husbands! You lop SO close you leave
us none 20 yes-look for them in the
honest, virtuous walks Of like. Don't
marry profane swearer--a gamblers
unIversalist-an infdel-one who takes
a hft!e-a debauchee--a man without an
occupation-you had better die and old
mad than marry either. Young ladies'
remember your souls salvation is involy.
ed IN your marriage then look to God for
direction. LUTHER
The following letter from Mr.. Jefferson.
under date of February Sd 1916, ON
subject at that time, of considerable inter-
est to the State, is handed US Tor pubica-
ton by the same friend, THOMAS w. MAU-
RY oil this neighbourhood, from whom we
received the one on banking, which ap-
peared in the last No. of the Advocate. Il
VIII be found 10 presen. some interesting
vIews-Those on the subject Of the Cen.
sas are particularly valuable a, this time.
as Congress is about to act on it.
Monticello, Feb. 8, '16.
DEAR SIR -