Litchfield enquirer., 1830-09-23

her watchfuI love and care for the Ilappi. ness ofothers, not the af1ectation of fsuperi. or wisdom or deep study-these, Sir, arc traits which can never be delineated. The painter might as we'll fix on his canvass the changing light of the evening cloud
 q hope her destiny has been happy one,' remarked Mir. Burton; she must have made an estimablc wife,
 Mrs. Carvill smiled as she answered " l see you have no faith in female excel. lrnce unless developed in the matronIy character. Now I would have wider field for woman's usefulness. would have young ladies impressed with the ides that their happiness and responsibility doe. not necessarily result from marriage, b9 from the cheerful and faithful discharge O the duties befole them, in whatever state or station they may be placed. But exam. pies strike more than general truths. Al low me to tell you the story of my draw ing.
 This gentleman was twice married ano had three daughters, just the number for q fairy tale, and Calista was the youngest and the favorite, as all such stories have it, She was the daughter of the second wife, and ten or twelve years younger than her half-sisters, who, according to our mode of early marriages, were wooed and won be- fore Calista was out of the nursery. Her mother died soon after; and whether it was that her father felt the deep Loneliness which nothing but the presence ofsome be- loved object can dispel. or whether he feared the plan pursued in educating his two elder daug ghters was injurious, cannot say, but he adopted a very different meth- od with Calista than is usually pursued by the rich and fashionable among us. He did not send her to boar ding school, to learn frivolous accomplishments, and make romantic friendships, and have her head filled with the fashions, and the beaux, be- fore any principles for the guidance of her conduct in life, or any distinct ideas of what constituted rational happiness had been conveyed to her mind. Certain it is, that the love of home, and the habit of domestic confidence must pervade female or merely being married will never make a woman fond of domestic pleasures or capable of domestic duties. s.- ssnss M is stfsnE saiSg, M and 5BnS1 A world, can believe that weak-n'indec, sentimental, frivolous young lady, whose whele heart is devoted to dress, amuse- ments, and husband hunting, will make a kind, and submissive, and judicious wife Such apparently gentle girls, are the most beings in the universe-as wives mean.'
 T will never marry such a one, Mrs. Carvill.'
 Not an unreasonable one you n1ean.- But you will not believe, till you find by conjugaI experience, that pretty, soft spoken, sentimental, young creature, whose deepest learning is few French phrases. and few tunes on the piano, can exhibit passions violent as Queen Elizabeth, or be obstinate as Madame de Stael in an argu- men'.'
 'Wil you not, my dear Madam, when understanding so well the danger, instruct me how to avoid it? will do any thing you enjoin, except to marry abtue-ihat hope you will not propose
 'No-that would be to condemn you tc celibacy, for blues arc as scarce as homes men were in the days of Diogenes. I car give you only one rule that will always ap' ply. Before proposing 10 marry young lady, consider if she has qualities you would esteem in an intimate iriend-if sine have not, never dream your love will last though she be as beautiful as Houri.- Beauty is fascinating object, but whoever selected friend for his or for her beauty 1?
 But your Calista was handsome.'
 True-and think it an advantage thai she was handsome. admire beauty, but I do not love it. Our pride is flattered to uossess personal charms ourselves, or con template them in our friends, but they new CT yet made any individual more worthy our esteem: and true love must be foster ed by esteem, founded on the qualities o the heart and mind. Calista was lovely and her father used to gaze on her with pa rental cxuItation; but it was her winning
 ways, her gen,leness and cheerfnlness, iha
 made her seem dearer to him than life
 and it was her good sense and ready abili
 tv to assist him, that won his undoubtinl reliance on her judgment. and made he his confidante and counsellor in every 6
 merpency. She was, as ! observed, edu
 cated at home, by a widowed aunt, an ac comnl;shed. iudiciouA and elegant woman
 supnlying the mothers place, and with oc
 cas;onal letters from masters, and the SUI
 ner;ntendence of her fathers watchful care
 she grew up one of the most perfect an
 fascinating beings ever beheld. She ha