The Northern star, and farmers' and mechanics' advocate. [volume] (Warren, R.I.) 1830-1834, 1830-06-05
CODE OF INSTRUCTION FOR LA
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l. Let every wife be persuaded that
there are two ways Of governing family;
the first is by the expression Of that viii
which belongs to force the second, by
the, power Of mildness, to which even
strength will yield. One is the power of
the husband "a wife should never employ
any other arms than gentleness. When q
woman accustoms herself to say ! will,
she deserves to lose her empire.
2. Avoid contradicting your husband.
When we smell rose, tits to imbibe the
sweetness Of its odour we, likewise, look
for every thing that is amiable from wom-
IN. Whoever is often contradicted feels
inscnsibly an aversion for the person who
contradicts, which gains strength by time,
and whatever may be her good qualities
is not easily destroyed.
3. Occupy yourself only with house,
hold affairs, wait till your husband con-
fides to you those of higher Importance |;
and do not give your advice till he ask it.
4. Never take upon yoursclfto be a
censor Of your husbands morals, nor Iead
lectures to him. Let your preaching be
good example, and practice virtue your
self, to make him in love with it.
5. Command his attentions by being
always attentive to him never exact any
thing, and you will obtain much appear
always hattered by the little he does for
you, which will excite him to perform
more. sa
6. All men are vain !; in some their
vanity is insuferable never Iwoundi this
vanity, not even in the most trifiing
instances. A wife may have more
sense than her husband, but she should
never seem to know it. f t
7. When man gives wrong counsel
never make him feel that he has done so,
but lead him on by degrees to what is ra-
tional, with mildness and gcntleness
when he is convinced, leave him all the
merit ofhnving found out what was just
and reasonable.
g. When husband is out Of temper,
behave obligingly to him ifhe is abusive
never retort and never prevail over him
to humble him.
o. Choose well your female friends
have but few, and be careful following
their advice in all matters, particularly i
ininical to the foregoing Instructions.
10. Cherish neatncss without luxury
and pleasure without excess dress with
taste, and particularly with modesty; vary
the fashions Of your dress, especially in
regard to colors. 1t gives a change to
the ideas, and recalls pleasing recollcct-
ions. Such things may appear triHing,
but they are gilmore importance than is
imagined.
IL. Never be curious to pry into your
husbands concerns, but obtain his conf
1encc by that which, at oil times, you re-
pose in him. Always preserve order aAd
economy avoid being out of temper, and
be careful never to scold. by these means
he will find his own house more picasan,
than any other. 7e
I2. Seem always TO obtain informa-
ton from him especially before company
tho you may pass yourself for simple
ton. Never forget that wife owes all
her Importance to that of her husband
Leave him entirely master olhis actions,
to 20 or come whenever he thinks fit. A
wife ought to make her company so atnia-
HE to her husband, that he will not be
able to exist without it then he will not
seek for any pleasure abroad, ifshe does
not partake Of il with him.