The Massachusetts spy, and Worcester County advertiser. [volume] ([Worcester, Mass.]) 1825-1831, 1829-12-23
From Bnnstt's Letters to Young Ladv.
GOOD ADVICE TO BELLIES AMI
REALTY

oo,,l5 Will Tic Sex al large,
oouia WIS., you to avoid the modern for
y. waraness IS well as that shy reserve which
el nnc lamp ON all the innocent gaietics
" i me- me frst bears upon its face mas
eullne mtelIcacy, the other is the effect of
.;o prudery, ill-breeding, or affecta-
Some w'men affect a GOODNESS in their de-
portlnent' and act as if they supposed that
every mar who approaches them, had de-
sign on thelr hearts. Alas! how miserablv
are thfy deceived! How ridiculous is the
vanity which gives birth to such conduct
men ae SO much engaged in business.
pieasure and the amusements of the world.
tnat tneconquest of female heart is often
thought beneath their ambition. At anv
rate, It Is time enough to be upon yonr
guard, when you really perceive them bent
upon making serious advances.
man! of them will approach YOU with
nattery. This they have been led to think
tne only current coin, with the generality
Oh emalts. If it be not very gross, bear It
with good hunior. Though YOU NAV de-
spise, 10 not wantonly return il with con-
Tempt This is the method to make them
ehemle, and put them on avoiding your
socletyfor ever. You may easily be civil.
and yetconvince them by your looks. and
'ilahher'that you perfectly understand how
Z. 70 appreciate Understandable complaisance.
ihough6y no means seriously bent on mat
rlmony,Yet not few of them will nav Won
aatterlns attentions. These, if YOU be not
cautlous,may very insensbly soften yonr
heart, AM ensnare your affections. particu-
larry II THY come from men, whose general
character.or manners, YOU esteem One
caution, therefore, permit me to give Won
WIN an assurance that it must be religious
~ observer, as you value either your digni-
" or repoF-never to believe any man In
earnest, I'll he makes the most pointed de-
Carnations p your favor. Fashion has made
u SO much "a matter of form, to pay atten-
tons to Woman, and particularly if she is
smart, witty, and beautiful, if she is cele-
brated for high connexions, or accomplish
ments, or makes good figure in public.
that numbers of men will be mechanically
ied to lutte about you. who in fact mean
only to amPe the moment, or do honor to
their own god breeding and politeness.
Believe ne, my dear girl, this gay and
lively season will soon be at an end. Girls
that dwell on every body's tongue, and
sport awayin ali their gaudy colors during
summer npnths, like butterflies, are never
heard of il the winter, but sink into torpid
state. TAey do not, however, resemble
some insects, in the very happy and envia-
bic privilege of rising with renewed charms.
once forgotten, they seldom revive, but are
displaced by other rising favorites for ever.
and 1t has often been observed, that those
women are most rarely thought of as wives,
with whom we are the fondest of (what is
called flirting. and of saying thousand
ivil.things without meaning or design.
With men of principle and sincerity you
are always secure. They will relgiously
beware of engaging your affections, with
out honorable views: but these, alas where
women are concerned, are not so numerous
as might be expected. More breaches of
fidelity are observable in this intercourse,
than in any other instance of the most tri-
fling Importance.
To entertain a secret partialty for man.
without knowing it reciprocal, is dreadful.
indeed If you have address, and forttude
enough not to betray it, and thus expose
yourself to ridicule and censure, land yet
what prudence is always equal to the task,
it will cost you infinite grief, anxiety, and
vexatlon; and a victory over yourself, if
you do gain it, may be at the expense Of
your health and constitution. 1t will, at
the same time. totally unfit you for any
other connexien; for who would take the
body, when another person is in possession
of the soul.
1t is possible that men may not always
act FROM unamiable motives, when they
carry their attentions to a considerable
height, without an explanation. Their taste
may have privately singled you out from all
the rest of the world, whilst Providence has
not propitiousiy raised them to circumstan-
ces which they conceive to be worth your
acceptance. They may have delicacy, a
dignity, and independence of mind, which
would not easily brook a repulse, or an in
ferior situation, and they may be very hon
orably proving, by these little methods, the
state of your inclinations. If they are in
his favor, and your circumstances are good,
and you suspect persons conduct to arise
from such motives, you cannot treat him
with too much attention. He has paid you,
in the most delicate and fiattering manner,
the highest compliment in the world and
you may depend on his affection being more
sincere, in proportion as it is less assuming,
confident, or obtrusive.
If you suppose on the other hand, that
any person dallies with your feelings from
wantonness,~or mere amusement, you can
not show him too marked a contempt
Though delicacy will not permit you to
glance at the particular improperly of his
conduct, yet there are a thousand methods
OF making him feel his own insignifcance,
and of changing the little plumage of his
vanity into monument of bis shame
There is something so unmanly in sporting
with the tender feelings of a woman there
is something so truly despicable in the
character Of person who wishes conse-
quence built upon the tears and distresses
Of those whom all great and generous minds
are disposed to protect, that if female CO.
quette is odious TO your sex, male one
should be doubly abhorred by his own.
If a person once comes to a serious de-
in your favor, affect no prudish airs
or reserve. If you really feel an affection
for him, and can indulge it, with prudence,
do not scruple to acknowledge IL. or tn treat