The Delaware register, or, Farmers', manufacturers' & mechanics' advocate. [volume] (Wilmington, Del.) 1828-1829, 1829-04-25
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suppose it for moment withdrawn if he does not, his
pride will supply the place OF love, and his resentment
that of suffering.
." Never consider trife, what may tend to please
him. The great articles Of duty he will set down
his own but the lesser attentions he will take IA
vors and trust me, for have experienced it, there
is feeling delightful to ones SELF than that of
| turning those little things to SO precious a
| 1" If you marry of certain sort such the
romance of young minds generally paints for hus-
band, you will deride the supposon of any possible
decrease in the ardor of your affections But we'd
lock, in its happiest lot, is exempted from the
common fate of all sublunary blessings there is
o deluslon in hope, which cannot abide with posses
sion. The rapture of exravagan love will evaporate
and waste the conduct OF the wife must substitute in
its other regards, delicate and more lasting.
say the conduct OF the wife, for marriage, be hus
band what he may, the prerogative of sex
his will expect to be pleased, and must be sed
ulous to please.
| "This privilege, good natured man may waive
he will feel 1t however, due and third person will
have penetration enough to see, and may have malice
enough to remark, the want of it in his wife. He
must be husband unworthy of you who could bear
the degradation of suffering this in silence. The idea
of power on either side should be totally banished
from the system it is not sufficient that the husband
should never have occasion to regret the want of
the wife must 80 behave, that he may be
scious of possessing it.
" But my Julia, if mothers fondness deceives
not stands not in much need of cautions like these
| cannot allow myself the idea of her wedding man
on whom she would not wish to be dependent, or
whose inclination temper like hers would desire to
control. She will be in danger from that soft
ness, that sensihty of SOUL which will yield too much
perhaps for the happiness of both. The Office of a
wife includes the eXertion of friend a good
must frequently strengthen and support that weakness,
which bad one would endeavor to overcome. There
are situations where it will not be enough to love,
CHERISH to obey she must teach her husband to be at
peace with himself to be reconcied to the world, to
resist misfortune, to conquer adversely.
4" Alas my child, am here nstructress but too
well skiled These tears with which this paper soil
ed, fell not in the presence of your father though
they but trace the remembrance of what then it was
my lot to feel. Think it not impossible to restrain
your feelings because they are strong. The enthusi
asni of feeling will sometimes overcome dstresses,
which the cold heart Of prudence had been unable to
endure.
But misfortune is not always misery. have
known this truth; | am proud to believe that have
sometimes taught it t. Roubigne. Thanks be to that
Power whose DEGREES | reverence He often temper
ed the anguish of suferings, till there was sort
Of luxury in feeling them. Then is the triumph of
welded love the tie which binds the happy may be
dear but that which links the unfortunate is tender
ness unutterable.
"There Affections less easy to be endured which
your mother has not experienced those which hus-
band nhcts and the best wives feel the most severe
y. These, like sharpest caamities, the fortitude