The Litchfield County post., 1829-01-08

household-am I capable of providing for her an equally peaceful and Provident home-am | capable of administering to the same extent, and dc feel my fortunes and my capacities equal to the continuance ! of these bencfits-in the next place, have | sufficient charity and affection to pass over 1 rhe inseparable weakness of disposition connected with every human being, and never properly developed until all reserve ! has been ihrOwn aSide-and can l SD con- trol ,Or submit to control my own pas sion, as to never impair the happiness of her l have sworn to protect and cherish Do cgard her with an enduring affection, or with passion satcd by enlarged and la- miliar communion Am I confident that her regard towards me is of the c!lal acter calculated to make her d virtuous wife, a proper mother for my children, and to do honor to the name which l shall entail up- on her.-if these can be seriously and suc- cesfuIly answered, 'the leap may with some cnddence be taken, and its results thereafter left to the inscrulble destines. With woman there are even more consd- erations than these. The habits of her hus- band are indspensibly essential to her own happiness. Is he habituated to excess! or are his nights wasted in revelry, or at brothels! let her beware !-murders, for eery, infamy, and death, are all traced to these resorts of misguided folly. Ii his rep aIation be one of fimsy nature, she will become participant in the dishonor., If his passions cannot be stayed by the gen. tie voice of solicitation, she will throw her destiny upon the waves of troubled sea. Ifhe will be not industrious and aspiring, he will be trampled upon by knaves, and grovel in the dust. Ifhe hold no adher- ence to the moral covenants and responsi- bilties of life, he will make it matter of but slight importance to barter her happi- ness for his own benefit.--If he does not in sincerity love her, and is constrained to become her husband through any fortuitous circumstances of life, she will be indeed a wretch standing upon prccipice, yet stay ed by single thread from sinking into the (depths below.
 1 We are not superstitious, but from what
 little experience we have already gieaned
 from Knowledge of the world, the man
 who trifleS with the affections of woman, and then wantonly forsakes her, can never prosper. He may as far as regards mer- cenary matters, but there is'an adder with 1 in, that stings despite of the worlds sto- 1 cism, and vcissitude after vicissitude will pursue him until his being is no better than d burhcn and curse. Yet in many cases there is virtue, and in the sacrifice of the most delicious enjoyments honor, where the individual will give up his ineffable wishes aud fondly cherished hopes rather than hazard the happiness of some gentle spirit by it's union with his own dark desti- nieS.
 Agaill----lhe man who marries for mer- cenary views alone, although according to the policy of the world, and calculated to do him honor in the eyes of that world, is
 far more ignominious at heart than thief,
 for he not only defrauds the object of his attention of all that she possesses, but de-
 ceives her in point1by far the most es-
 sential to human happiness.