Phenix gazette. [volume] (Alexandria [D.C.]) 1825-1833, 1829-04-09

They learn the po.sessor human nature, TO know,
and comprehend the springs OF human &C non,
70 understand, what j, is, that he is pleased win
in another, and why he is pleased with u; ana
n commepce Immediately on the study oil trans
fsrrinp that attainment 10 his own stock oil
manners. really learned man, or woman,
shows it, by evincing, that he better unders'an as
his place. circumstances, claims ard acquire
men,s, and what is due TO his guest, and In
wbat way. TO mix amusement and instruction
for him. Ignorant learned men are pedants;
but :he really learned never. woman has no
fair claims 10 knowledge, who does no, adj
vance them, by showing, that she is more ami
able and agreeable in consequence OF her learn
ing. Such, lie, il never be Forgotten, Is the IN
variable tendency Of real attainment.
Guod society is clearly society OF real gen
tlemen and ladies, in opposition 10 the sem
blance and affec,atiou Of such society. IL was
said, by the eccentric author OF the FOOL OIL
Oaality,' tina, the hes, system of rules ever 81
ven, to form perfect gentleman aud lady, was
the sermon on the mount 1t seemed whim>
steal assertion. But there was infinite truth 10
il. To become these characters. il is perfect
" true, that the as2irants mus, seem to possess
exactly such tempers as are comprised IN !na'
admirable compendium OF the tendency oil the
hum an nature. all, that would be necessary 10
constitute him perfect gentleman, would be,
TO practice the golden rule, and measure his
de pertinent to Others, exactly by the rule, "f
what he knew was agie, able 10 himself. In
order to be in any me ASSURE interesting and plea
SAINT in society, i, is indispensable, tia, The as
pirant should go out Of himself. While per-
son shows selfshness, in any form, and d'srs'
cards .he fair claims Of another, he cannot e1-
bect that other 10 be more iRdulgent 10 him.
The spirit of the sermon on the mount would
m Ike he principle real and genuine. The cal
cu!aiug spiri. Of the world may Sc m 10 con-
,,i,ute Y, ntemen and ladies' merely by the sem
blance of hi, enlarged and generous scope oil
regard 10 the f ngs, wants, anc even toibles
and weakn.sse, OF those, with whom they are
associated. But, We fud ourselves running
rntc haraugus and lecture. We returnby SIM
gle remark. A person cannot constitute part
f good society, uness, by possessing some
thing Of the spirit, or the sembance oil The spi-
ri, Of the sermon on the noun. In society our
business is, TO be agreeable In order 10 d. it,
we mus, lay out Of the question our own prize,
vanity, envy, self-consr quence, selfish regard
10 our own ways and wants; and put ourselves
in place of our guests, and adopt precisely 'ha'
penlle, forbsar,ng indulsen, spirit rowads
| hem ,;a, we so we'll know pleases US, when
exercised towards us by another.
r. descend from he rostrum, then, and talk
simply on he i,ct. Mrs A. has splendid
party. Every thing is got u? in style. l he
entertainment is sumpiuous; al the appendant
circumstances are elegant But Mrs. A car
rirs her furni ure in her mead, and oil h spen-
! dor in her bosom. She rs not happy, unless
her guests are made 10 see, and FEEL all her
wealth and consequence, The cosilness oil her
articles, and her Iss'e in arranging them. She
sss yo.,s Via that wlshe, 10 be en,i,d and
she has her wish Her gursis feel her purpose;
and their envy r,srs against her pride; and
shows itself by .Iiiylns her own vanity Of dis
play. They tIdiculr her. and ak scandal Of
her. in her dwelling; nd are less scrupu-
.ous when thy are away. o., il they poss-ss
mi IDS TOO honorable and well egnlated for this,
they 10 not The l. s. feel the folly and improprl-
ely f such conduct.
w may make the same remark Of efforts to
display knr Wedge, learning, talents, conse>
qurncr OF any sori, or in any way 10 ou.shine
ne res of thr company. The first purpose Of
real gentleman and lady is, 10 lay aside all
the showing Of any thing that is offensive to
what every zoe knows to be the uni' ersal lik-
ings AID in linat,ons Of human nature. Every
one, bv looking in,en,ls into his own bosom,
Can know wh,, are the leading propensi,ies and
dlsk"s Of another. Every one knows, how rea-
div he IS drspieas, d with he visible actnps Of
insolence, bride, vanity, sel6shnrss, unfeeIlng
ness, aud ignorant and wanton indifference 10
his Opinions and feelings, in The case Of ano
Their. Surrey. 1t needs but very obvious rea-
sonine, TO infer. Ia, anv manifestation of this
sort IN him>ei: will be equally offensive to eve
ry other person.
The rich and The fortunate, then. will strive
to forget that they are such in the presence Of
their guests. They will feel, that the least
semhlance Of being lifted up by these goods OF
fortune, is the sure max, in the same proper
lion as it is shown, that they are vulgar ignor.
rant, and neither worthy OF their good fortune,
nor able to adorn il. w ealth is bona fde Com
Germ; that ry one knows But purse prize is at
once so easily and strongly bese'ting sin, AID
witaa so, ugar and inolerable, that person,
who is rich, canno, bu, feel his danger Of sue
cumb,ng 10 the temptation. Hence the un,
speakable importance OF right education -
Nothing else will quality man to sustain,
wi,hou, becoming foolish aud exceedingly dis
agreeable, that good fortune, that every one so
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