Phenix gazette. [volume] (Alexandria [D.C.]) 1825-1833, 1829-09-22

,.,rs !, him. az to believe that his prudence is
his best guide. Little things, what in reality
are mere TITLES in themselves, often produce
chickering's. and even q~uarreIs. Never permit
them TO be a subject Of dispute yield them
with Measure: with asmile OF affection. be
,ssured tina, one difference ou,weighs them all
a thousand or ten thousand times. A difference
with your husband ought 10 be considered as
, the greatest calamity-as one that is 10 De most
studiously guarded against; II Is a nsino"
which must never be permitted to enter a hao'-
ta,ion where all should be peace, uhimPaire9
confidence, and heartfelt sfrc,ion. Besides,
wha, can a woman gain by her opposition or
her diff rences? Nothing. bd' she loses eve
~ thing: she loses her husband S respect LOT
her virtues; she loses his love, and win tha',
all prospect of future happiness. She creates
her own misery, and then u.ters IDLE ana shy
complaints, bu, utters them IN vain, Inc rove
of a husband can be retained only by The high
o,;nion which he en'ertains Of his wife's good
ness of hear, of her amiable disposition, OF
the sweetness of her temper, OF her prudence,
oG her devotion TO him. Let nothing, upon any
occasion, ever lesssn that opinion. On the
contrary, it should augment every DAY he
should have much more reason 10 admire her
for those excellent qualities, which will cast a
lustre over a yirtuous woman when her per-
sonai attractions are no more.
Has your husband st,id out longer than you
expected? When he returns, receive him as the
partner Of your heart. Has he disappointed
you in something you expected, whether OF or
namept, or furniture, or OF any other conye-
niency? Never eviace discomfort; receive ms
apolopy with cheerfuiness. Does he, when you
are housekeeper, invite company without in
forming YOU Of il, or bring home with HIM a
friend? Whatever may be your repas', howe
yer scaD,y i, may be, however impossible II
may be to add 10 1t, receive them with a pleas
ing countenan;e, adorn your table with cheer
fulness-giye 20 your husband and 10 your com
pany a hearty welcome II will more than COM
~pensate for every other efficiency; il will evince
love for your husband; gnod sense IN yourself,
and that polileness Of manners, which act as
the mos, powerful charm II will give to The
plainest fare a zest superior 10 all tkat luxury
can boast Never be disconnected on any &C.
casion of this nature.
IN the NIX, place, Us your husbands success
in'his profession will depend upon lis popuIa-
ri,y, and IS the manners Of 4 wife have no little
influence 40 extending or lessening the respect;
and esteem Of others for her husband, you
should take care 10 be affable and polite TO The
poores; as well IS 10 the richest. a reserved
hauebtinessi is q suF- Indication of a weak mind
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and 40 unfeeling heart.
With respect to yoar servants, teach them 10
respect aud love you, while you expect from
them a reasonable discharge Of their respective
duties. Never tease yourself, or them, by
scoIding; il has no other effect than 10 render
them disconren'ed and impert!neut. Admonish
them with calm irmncss.
Cultivate your mind by the perusal of those
books which instruct while they amuse Do
not devote much Of your time 10 novels; there
are a few which may be useful and improving,
and i. giving a higher tone 10 our moral sensi-
bility; bu, they tend 70 viIiate the taste, and 10
produce q Cisrelish for substantial Intellectual
food Mos, plays are ofIhe same cast; they are
MOI friendly 10 that delicaoy which is .ene Of the
Of The female character History,
geography, poetry, moral essays, biography,
travels, sermons, and other well written religious.
productions, will not fail o enlarge your urder-
standing, 10 render you a more agreeable COM
2auinn and to exaIt your virtue. A woman de-
void Of rational ideas Of religion, has no securi-
~ for her virtue it is sacrificed to her passions,
whose voice, not that of God, is her only gov
ernirg principle. Besides, in those hours OF
calamity TO which all families must be exposed,
where will she find support if II be not in her
just reflections upon that all ruling Providence
which governs the universe, whether animate
or inaBima'e.
Mutual politeness between the most intimate
friends is essential 10 that harmony which
should never be once broken or interrupted
How. important then is it between man and
wife! The more warm the attachment, 'hr
less will either party bear to be sighted
or treated, with the smallest degree Of ruteness
or inatienlion. This politeness, then if it be not
in itself a virtue, is at least the means Of CIV
ing TO real goodness a new Iustre it is a, least
The means of pre- venting discomfort, and even
~quarrels, il is the oil Of intercourse, it removes
asperities, and gives TO every thing smooth,
an even, and a pleasing movement.
will only add, thai matrimonial happiness
does not depend upon wealth; no, i, is not to be
found iu wealth; but in minds properly ,empet-
ed and united TO our respective situations. -
Competency is necessary; all beyond that point