Phenix gazette. [volume] (Alexandria [D.C.]) 1825-1833, 1827-02-21

have therefore, inyour power. all the essenuai
ingredients of domestic happiness; 1t cannot oe
marred, if you INV rehec, upon that system Oh
conduct which yoe ought invariably 70 pursue
If you now see dearly, the path from "nic"
YOU will resolve ,ever TO deviate. Our con.
due, is often the result of whim or caprice, OIL
ten such as will give US many pang' uh'ess
we see beforehand, what is always the most
praiseworthy, andthe most essential 10 haPp'-
ness.
The FIRST maxim which you should impress
deeply upon your mind, is never 10 alIe'nP, !"
control your husband by opposition, oy ais
pleasure, or any ether mark OF anger. ~ man
of sense, OF prudence, Of warm feelings, cannon,
and will not, bear an opposition Of any KIND
which is attended with an angry LOOK 'f
preston. The current Of his affections Is SUD
denly stopped; his attachment Is weahene"' "e
begins to feel notification, the most pun,
gent; he is beittled even in his own eyes, anu
be assured, the wife who once exoites those SEN
tments in the breast of husband, VIII never
regain the high ground which she might anu
ought to have retained. When he marries her'
if he be a good man, he expects from ner
smiles, not frowns; he expects 10 lind IN her
one who is not 10 control him-not 10 take
from him the freedom Of acting as his own
such confidence in him, as to believe that his
prudence is his best guide. Little things,
what in reality are mere Tihes in themselves,
often produce chickering's, end even quarreis-
Never permit them to be subject oil dispute;
Yield them with pleasure, with smile OF al
lection Be assured that one difference out
weighs them all thousand, or ten thousand
times. A difference with yonr husband ought
TO be considered as the greatest calamity-as
one that is to he most s,udiousy guarded a.
gainst; it is demon which must never be per-
united 10 enter habitation where all should
BE- peace, unimpaired confidence, and heart felt
affection. Besides, what can a woman gain
by her opposition or her differences? Nothing.
But she loses every thing; she loses her hus-
bands respect for her virtues, she loses his
love, and with that, all prospect OF future hap
piness. She creates her own misery, and then
u,ters idle and silly complaints, ou, u,ters them
in vain. The love Of husband can be retain
ed, only by the high opinion which he enter
tains Of his wfe's goodness OF heart, OF her am
liable disposition, of the sweetness Of her tenn
per, Of her prudence, and Of her devotion 10
him. Let nothing, upon any occasion, ever
lessen that opinion. On the contrary, il should
augment every day: he should have much more
reason 10 admire her for those excellent quail.
ties, which will cast lus,re over a virtuous
woman, when her personal attractions are no
more.
Has yonr husband staid out longer than you
expected? When he returns receive him as the
partner Of your heart. Has he disappointed you
in something you expected, whether OF orne-
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cheerfulness. Does he, when you are house
keeper, invite company without informing you
Of II, or bring home with him friend? What
ever may be your repast, however scantv n may
be, however impossible il may be TO add to it.,
receive them with pleasing countenance, a.
dorm your table with cheerfulness, give to your
husband and 10 your company hearty well
come; i, will more than compensate for every
other deficiency; it win evince love for your
husband, good sense in yourself, and that Pc
likeness Of manners, which acts as the most
powerful charm; it will give 10 the panest fare
yes, superior 10 all that luxury can boast
Never be disconnected on any occasion Of this
nature.
In the next place, as your husbands success
in his profession will depend upon his popular
ity, aud as the manners Of wife have no little
influence in extending or lessening the respect
and esteem Of others for her husband, you
should take care to be affable and polite to the
poorest as well as 10 the richest. A reserved
haugh:iness is a sure indication Of weak
mind and unfeelng heart.
With respect to your servants, teach them to
respect aid love you, while you expect from
them reasonable discharge Of their respective
duties. Never tease yourself, or them hy scold-
ing; it has no other effect than to render them
d,sooneoted and impairment. Admonish them
with calm firmness.
Cultivate your mind by the perusal Of those
books which Instruct while they amuse. Do
not devote much Of your time 10 novels; there
few which may be useful in improving
and IN giving higher tone to cur moral sensi-
billy: but they tend 10 vitale the taste, and 10
produce disrelish for substantial intellectual
food. Most plays are of the same cast; they
no, friendly TO the delicacy which is one Of
the ornaments of the female character. Histo-
ry, Geography, Poetry, Moral Essays, Biogra-
ply, Travels, Sermons, and other well written
religious productions, will not fail to enlarge
your understanding, to render you more a.
greeable companion, and 20 e1alt your virtue.
A woman devoid Of rational ideas of religion,
has no security for her virtue; 1t is sacrificed to
her passions, whose voice, not that Of God, is
her emily governing principle. Besides, i'll those
hours Of calamity to which families must be-