The Virginian. [volume] (Lynchburg [Va.]) 1822-1829, 1827-02-20
gIIasELLAN x
ADVICE FROM AfATIER TO HIS ONLY
DAUGE TER

tlAIAIl In.
Written immed deig atter hfr Marriage.
My DEAH-lou have Just entered INTO that
state Which is rcplcte Nth happiness or misery
The issue depends upon thai prudent, amiable,
uniform conduct. which wisdom and virtue so
srrongi, recommend, onthe one hand, or on that
iInpfudcnce which a want Of reelection on pas.
sion may prompt. on The other.
You are allied to a man ofhonor, of talents. &
OF al open. gene pus disposition. Ypu hase
al reio =, IN your power, all The essential ingfe.
diem ofdonrsuc happiness II cannot be mn
red, II yau NOW reflect upon that system ofoon-
due Which YOU ought invariably to pnrsue-if
YOU NOW see c early, the path from winch YOU
will resolve never TO d%eviate. Our conduct Is
often the result OF whim OF caprice. often such a.,
uill give rs many 4 pang, unless we see before
hand, what is always the most praiSewoIiht,
and the nost essential to happiness.
1hr ifst maXIn which you should impress
deeply upon YOU mind Is never to attempt -
couroul your husband by opposition, by dis
pleasure, Ut any oJlci mark of anger. \ mn
81 sense, 81 prudence, Of warm feeling. cannot
and viii nor, bear n opposition OF any Kind,
uhieh Is attended With an angry look on expires
sipn fhelcurtcnt ofhis affections is suddenly stop.
ped hts attachment Is weakened he beelns to
scel = mo ulicaIlon, the lnnsi pungcnt he IS ne.
h''ff ~ ~ WE 'Nf ' - hhii ut hhN1iHFlt
the Wlft VINO once cxcl'es those sentiments IN the
b,east Ella husband, viii never regain the hleh
ground which she might aud ought to have r..
tat8etl. Ahen he mdriles her, II he be a good
m.Di, he e,pects 10 hud III .cr. one who IS nof
70 control hlm-not 20 take from him the ifpn-
duIn ol actlng as ms own judgment shall direct
hnt one WHO Viii place such confidence IA hun.
n TO ben Ne that his prudence is his best puidc.
Litlc things, what IN rfa.Ity are mere tli1es
e. themselves. often produce pickering. and even
quarfrh Never PENN them 10 he a subject of
dispute; weld them with pleasure, with a smile
OF affection. BE assured that one difference
OF ,t,sh, tlein All . thousand, or ten thousand
unes \ difference with ,our husband ought 10
b considered rs th, greatest calanity-as one
III 10 10 he most studionsly etprded against
~ is a demon which must neye, ne permitted L 10
cui'r a habilatipu where all should he peace. un.
impaired cnntidcnCo, aud heartfelt affection
bcsldes. wat can a woman gam 10y her OPPOSE
Voc prhe differences , Nothing. But she loses
. T mig sae lose. his VI, and with that. all
prosprc' o%tlulure happiness. She creates her
oNa ini.tty, sud hen litefs ldlr aud silly com.
plants bui ute, { MN VAN. The love of a
hu,ba I'd ear be Icta,ned, only by the high opin-
ion which he 'Itertans Of his wiic's goodness, of
heart, Of her auiable disposition, oftlie sweetness
OF her temper, of her prudence and other deso.
votlon 10 hun. Let nothing, upon any occasion.
ever lessee That oplnion On the contrary. i,
should augment every day he should have
much more reason 10 admire her for those ex.
cellent qualities which viii east a lustre over a
virtuon, woman, wien her personal aliactions
are no morn.
Has YOU husband s'ald out longer than YOU
expected : When he returns. receive him as the
partner Of your heat. Has he disappointed
yuu Ia something yon expected, whether of or.
M nrnt, or furniture, OF Of any convenirncy :
New efmcc discnutent receive his apology
vii cheeif Iness. Does. he, when Won are
al mse kcepcr, invite company without inform.
ing You Of II, or bring sIth I'm a friend What.
ever NAV be vnar repa,t. however Scant, it may
IT,, however unpos,ibtt 81 may be TO add To II
receive them with a plsa,itg oountenanc,. adorn
your table slth che rfltness. give to your bn..
baud aud % your company a beauy welcome
1t Will eyince love for your aasoand. good sense
IN yourself, aud that Fol'sse8 Of manners
winch acts asthe most r~cssFfui Charm: il will
give to e 1laln"st fa-e a gest superior 10 all,
that Jury eau boast. SeFeg BE- disconnected
or any occasion of this nature.
Ia The aekt place, as sou husbands success
M eisp ~ot'ssI'U viii depend upon his p polarity.
snd a. Ii amannerso OF a WIFI have no ,i,tlr ia0ii.
ence IN extending or lessening the rcgpect and
esteem ~otnthers or her husband, vouishould take
care to he afahle and polite 10 the poorest as
well as 10 the richest. A reserved hauobtiness
Is a sure indication Of a weak mind and an m
feeling heart.
WIN respect 10 your servants. teach them IN
respect and TO love you, while you expect from
them a reasonable discharge OF their resnertive
duties-Hever tease yourself, or them, by scold.
ing II has no other effect than TO render them
discontented and impairment. Admonish Them
with a calm frmuess.
Cultivate your mind by the perusai of ,ho.o
books which instruct while they amuse Do no,
devote much Of your time 10 novels there ar.
a few which may be useful in improving and in
giving "A higher tone TO our moral sensib;l;tv
but they tend to vitiate the taste, and 10 nrod,rs
a disrelish for substantial intellectual food
Most plays are ofthe same cast they are No,
friendly to the delicaey which is one of the or.
naments of the female character. History
geography, Poetry, Moral Essays. Geographic,
Travels, Sermons, and other well written reIi.
slons productions, will not fail to enlarge yo,r
understanding, o render you a more agreeable
co.noanion, and to exalt your virtue. A woman
devoid If rational ideas of religion, has no seen.
rtp for her virtue it is sacrificed to her pas.