The Wilmingtonian, and Delaware advertiser., 1826-03-09

A difference, in reality, with your husband
ought to be considered as the greatest ca
lamity, as one that is to be most studiouSly I
guarded against it is demon, which must |
never be permitted to enter habitation,
where all should 5e peace, unimpaired con.
fidence and heartfelt affection. Besides, /
what can a woman gain by her opposition,
or her differences IN Nothing. But she loses
every thing; she loses her husbands respect
| for her virtues she loses his love, and with
that, all prospect of future happiness. She
creates her own misery, and then utters idle
and silly complaints; but utters them in vain.
| The love Of husband can be retained only
by the high opinion which he entertains of
his wfe's goodness of heart, of her amiable
disposition, of the sweetness of her temper,
of her prudence, and of her devotion to him.
Let nothing, uton any occasion, ever lessen
that opinion. On the contrary it should aug
ment ever, day; he should have much
more reason to admire her for those excel
lent qualities, which will cast a lustre over
| virtuous woman, when her personal attrac-
| tions are no more.
| Has your husband staid out longer than
you expected. When he returns, receive
him as the partner of your heart. Has he
disappointed you in something you expect
ed, whether of ornament, of furniture, or
other conveniepcy! never evlnce discomfort;
receive his apology with cheerfnlness. Does
he. when you are housekeeper invite COM
panv, without informing you of it, or bring
home with him friend, whatever may be
your repast, however scanty it may be,
however impossible it NAV be to add to it, re-
ccivc them with pleasing countenance, "a
dorm your table with che~rfulness, give to
your husband and to your company hearty
welcome; it will more than compensate tor
every other deficiency; it will evince love
for your husband, good sense of yourself, and
that politencss of manners which acts the
most powerful charm it will give to the
plainest fair a zest superior to all luxury can
boast. Never be discontented upon an oc-
casion of this nature. If apologies, as silly
people often think, be necessary, your hus-
band will make them or All ingenious wife
will, with good humour, banter her husband,
for giving his friends SO indifferent a repast.
In the next place your husbands success in
his profession will depend upon his popular-
ty and as the manners of wife have no little
: influence in extending. or lessenng the re
spect and estec II of others for her husband
, YOU should take care to be affable and po-
: lite to the poorest as we'll as to the rich.
f reserved haughtincss Is a sure indication OF
. a weak mind, d unfeeling heart.
r With respect to your servants, teach
them to respect and love you, whilst you ex-
4. pect from them reasonable discharge OF
y their respective duties. Never teaze your
4 self and them by scoding it has no other
effect than to render them discontented and
I, impertnent. Admonish them with calm
II firmness, and if that mode will not produce
: the desired effect, let them be moderately
s. punished.
N Cultivate your mind by the perusal oi
,,,b; ;,t, ;,,et ,et xuhiIp theV a.
+ muse. Do not devote much of your time to
r. noyels.-rhere are few which may be USE
Ii full in impoving, and in giving higher tone
r. to our moral sensibility; but IN general
st they tend to vitate the taste, and to produce
o. a disrelish for substantial intellectual food
n Most PLAYS are of the same cast; they are
M not friendly to that delicacy, which is one G
VI the ornaments of the female character. his
c. tory, geography, poetry, moral essays, Dios
nc r,nhv travels. sermons and other well writer
m religions productions, will not fail to enlsrg
or YOUR understanding, to render you more a
n greeable companion, and to exalt your WI
re tue. A woman, devoid OF rational IDEAS o
T religion, has no security tor her virtue !
is sacrificed to her passions, whose Voic
n. and not that of her God, is her only govern
n ing principle. Besides, IN those hours
s. calamity, to which families must be expos
,n ed. where will she find support it it be no
o. in her Just reflections upon that all.rulin
if Providence, which governs the universe
NJ wbet er animate or inanimate
g.. Mutual Poiteness between the most init
IL mate friends, is essential to that harmony
n. which should never be once broken, or Ill
o. terrupted How important, then, is 1T be
n, tween man and wife? The more warm thu
Ne attachment the less will either party bea
to to be sighted, or treated with the smalles
a degree of rudeness, or inattention. his po
a liteness, then, if it be not itself virtue, is
Ne at least the means of giving to goodness
al new lustre it is the means of preventing
AL discontents, and even quarrels; it is the OF
y of intercourse it removes asperities. ant
gives to every thing smooth, an even and
n pie Asing movement.
tol ] will only add, that matrimonial happi
O. ness does not depend upon wealth; no, 1T |
of not to be found in wealth, but in minds prop
of erly tempered and suited to our rcspectiv
an situations. Competency is necessary; al
ed beyond that point is ideal. Do not suppose
he however, that would not advise and stimu
d; late, it requisite, your husband to ausmen
to his property by all honest and commenda
is BILE means I would wish to see him active
IS ly engaged in such a pursuit; because, en-
n gagement, sedulous employ mcnt IN Obtain