The Wilmingtonian, and Delaware advertiser., 1826-04-13
A whisper to a newly married pair,
ON GENERAL CONDUCT.

Earnestly endeayor to obtain among your
acquaintance the charactcrof g oil husband,
and abhor that sort of would-be-wit, which
I have sometimes seen practsed among men
of the world-a kind of coarse testing on the
bondage of the married state, and a laugh at
the shackles which wife imposes. On the
contrary, be it your pride to exhibit to the
world that sight OH which the world passes
such an encomium. beautiful before God
and men are man and his wife that agree
together"
Make it an established rule to consult your
wife on all occasions. Your interest is hers:
and undertake no plan contrary to her advice
and robation.--lndependen of better
motives, what responsibility does it free
YOU from! for if the affair turn out i'll, you are
spared reproaches both from her and from
your own feelings. But the fact is, she who
ought to have most influence on her hus-
bands mind is often precisely the person
who has least; and man will frequently take
the advice OF n stranger who Cares not Tor
him nor his interest in preference to the cor
dial and sensible opinion OF his wife A due
consideration of the domestic evils which such
line of conduct is calculated to produce,
might, one would thiak, of itself be sufficient
to prevent its adoption; but, independent OF
these, policy shod influence you; for there is
in woman an intutive qulckness, sagacity,
penetration, and foresight into theproba-
hle consequences of an event, that makes her
peculiarly calculated to give her opinion and
advice. sslf 1 was making up al plan of conse-
quence, saidthe great Lord Boingbroke, u
should like first to converse with sensible
woman"
Have you any male acquaintance whom,
on reasonable grounds, YOUR wife wishes you
| To racitrpp Whu chpulI hpcitatpp ()t
what consequence can be the civilities, or C.
ven the friendship Of any one, compared
with the wishes OF her with whom you have
to spend your life-whose comfort you have
sworn to attend to--and who has right to
demand, not only n rtrihing compliance, but
great sacrifices, if necessary
Never witness tear from your wife with
apathy or NEUTRALITY-SUSPICIOUS.. looks, ac-
tions--all may be artificial; but tear is un-
equivoCal; it comes direct from the heart,
and speaks at once the language of truth,
t nature and sincerity Be assured. when you
see tear on her cheek, her heart is touched;
and do not, again repeat it, do not behold
it with coldness or insensibility
1t is very unnecessary to say, that contra
dicton is to be avoided at all times: but when
i'll the presence of others. be most particu-
larly watchfnl: A look, or word, that per.
haps, in reality, conveys no angry meaning
NAV at once lead people to think that Their
presence alone restrains the eruption of {
dscord, which probably has no existence
whatsoever.
Some men who are married to women of in
ferior fortune or connexion, will frequently
have the meanncss to upbraid them will
the disparity. My good sir, allow me to ask
what was your motives in marrying? Wa
it not to oblige or please your zoJe2 M
truly, it was to oblige and please your self
your own dear self. Had she refused to mar
ry you, you would have been lin lover
phrase,) a very miserable man: Did yol
Nnnever tell her so. Therefore, really instead
of upbraiding her, you should be grateful t.
her for rescuing you from such an nnhapp,
fate.
1t is particularly painful to woman
whenever her husband is unkind enough t.
say lessenng or harsh word to any mem
Der of her family; invectives against hersel
are not half SO wounding.
Should illness or suffering of any kind as
sail your wife, your tenderness and attentlo
are then peculiarly called for, and it she b
woman of scnsibilty, believe me, look
love, a word of pity or sympathy, will,
times. have better effect than all the pre-
scriptions of her physicians.
Perhaps some calamity, peculiarly he
own. may beiall her. She may weep owe
the death of some relative or friend; or he
spirits and feelings may be affected by va
rious mstanccs.-Remember that you
sympathy, tenderness and attention.,
r. such occasions are particularly required.
e- A man would not ON any account, take
to whip or stick and beat his wife: put ne VIII WI
tv without remorse, use to her language ths
Il strikes much deeper to her heart than tn
l. I ,ssh L. nf any ,ghin that be could make use Q