Martinsburg gazette and public advertiser. [volume] (Martinsburg, Va. [W. Va.]) 1826-1833, 1826-04-27

when they can be avoided. IL IS not
to your advantage, believe me, gentle
lady, to let him see bow well he can
do without you. You may probably |
say, Absence IS at times unavoidable
Granted: only contend such intervals
ofabsence should be short, and occur
as seldom as possible.
Perhaps it may be your luckless 10.
to be united 10 an uDkind. husbands |
man who cares not whether he plea
ses or displeases, whether you are
happy or unhappy. II this be the case,
hard is your fate, gentle lady, very
hard! Bot the die is cast; and you mus:
carefully remember that no neglect of
duty on his part can give ! legitimate
sanction to failure OF duty on yours.
The sacredness of those lies winch
bind you as wife remain equally
strong and heavy whatever be the
conduct of your husband; and CALLING
as the chain may be, you must only
endeavour for resignation TO bear it, TIL
the Almighty, by tightening it, plea.
SEES to crown your gentleness and efforts
with success.
When atthe Throne OF Grace, Il
address you as a religious woman, be
fervent and perseyering IN your pray
ers for your husband; and by your
example endeavour to allure him TO
that heaven towards which you are
yourself aspiring: that il your husband
| o6ey not the ,oo,'d, gas the sacred wri
ter says, he may ttithout The tcord.
be won By the conversation Tor con
dact) ofthe wife Your husband per
haps may be addicted to gambling,
horse racing, drinking, &c, These
are serious circumstances; and mild
lrem0nstrance most be occasionally u
sed to opposethem; bur 10 not let your
argument rise 10 loud clamorous dlspu
ting Manage your opponent like
skIlfuI general, and constantly watch.
ing the appropriate moment for retreat
TO convince without Irritating is one
OF the most difficult as well as most
desirable points OF argument. Perhaps
IBIS may not be in your power: at all
events, make the attempt; first pray
ing to God for diteclion, and then
leaving to him the result
o., gentle lady ,syDu may perhaps be
united 10 man ola most uncongen
ial mind, who, thougha very good sort
of husband, differs from YOU in eve
ry sentiment What Of this? YOU
must only make the best of it Look
around. Numbers have the same, and
Intimately worse complaints 10 make;
and, truly when we consider what
real misery there is in TIE world. il
seems the height of folly fastidiously
and tool'shly TO refine away our happi
ness, hy allowing such worthless tri
Hes to interfere with ourcomlor.. There
are very few husbands 20 bad as to be
destitute of'good qualities, and proba
bly, very decided ones. Let the wife
search out and accusiom herself 10
dwell on those good qualities, and let
her treat hes o,cn errors not her has
bands with severity. | have seldom
NppEb a uisHuts DFtN cen nan ann
wife in which faults on both sides
were not conspicuous: and really il i
no wonder; for we are so quick sighted
to the imperfection OF others, so blind
and ienient to our own, that in cases
OF discord and contention. we throw
all the blame on the opposite party.
and never think ofaccusing ourselves.
In general, at least, this is the case
l was lately acquainted With lady
whose manner TO her husband often
attracted my admiration Without ap
pearing 10 do so, she would conirive !
to lead TO those subjects in which be
appeared 10 most advantage. When. |
ever he spoke, she seemed to listen as
IT what he was saying worth after dug
TO And if at any time she differed from 1
him in opinion, it was done so gently !
as scarce to be perceived even by him /
self. She was quise as we'll informed /
(perhsps more SOY and as sensible as
himself, and YET she always appeared
TO think him superior in every point
On all occasions she would refer to
him. asking bis opinion, and appear
ing to receive information at the very
moment perhaps she was herself i'm
parting it. The consequence was,
there never was happier couple, and
am certain he thought her the most
superior woman in the world. Ire.
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