Martinsburg gazette and public advertiser. [volume] (Martinsburg, Va. [W. Va.]) 1826-1833, 1826-04-20
"Howeyer discreet your choice has

sufficiently develop your husband 81
character;by d. grees the discovery will
be made that you have married a NOR
tai and that Object OF your affections Is
not entirely Tree from tie infrmitIes of
human nature Then il is that by an
impartial survey of y"ur own charac-
ter, your disappointment may be mod
Grated; and your love, so far from de.
Ginning, may acquire additional tender
ness, from the Consciousness that there
is room for mutual forbearance."
Chap H.
on COMMUNAL HAPPINESS.
After marriage, man generally
takes MS " lle to his home, perhaps TO
the seat OF his ancestors, where every
object is enceared to him by local al
tachment and interesting rcmem-
brance. With pride and pleasure does
ne walk out with his fair bride, to ex
hIbit to her the beauties of his domain
and the scenes of his youth. Look
says be, "at that noble view down the
river; see that boat how softly 1t glidcs,
aud that little temple OH the hill, were
on fine evening / used to sit with my
excellent mother, and say my task by
her side; she was IN truth, my EmIly,
AN excellent mother several years have
elapsed sine | lost her, and yet
cannot think of her hut with the stron
gest feelings OF affection aud regret, -
Endeavour, gentle lady, to enter into
his feelings, and TO admire, and to feel
pleased with every thing Io those
bridal moments, your smiles and
appreciation are delightful TO him; and
although alterations aud improvements
may occur TO you, let hun see it is foi
the sake of those improvements, moi
Tor the sake of finding fault you point
out the defect
Study your husbands temper and
character, and be it your piide and
pleasure TO conform to his wishes
Check at once the first advances to
contradiction, even OF the most traUidi
nature. | repeat the " ord triUiaL, for
i. is really uncomfortable the power
which the Ueriest /, itleS have al times,
over the mind, either in irrituting or
lbleaSang. And the woman, who al
ter lew years are gone by can say,
"My husband aud | have never yet
had loud or angry debs,e,' is in my
opinion better entitled to chaplet OF
laurels, than the hero who has fought
on the plains of Waterloo.
There Is one simple direction, which
if carefully regarded, might long pre-
serve the tranquility OF the married life,
and ensure no inconsderablc portion
OF connubial happiness to the observers
OF 1t; it is, to tepare Of the first dis
lpute"
An admired writer says, Let it he
yer be forgotten that, during the whole
OF life. beauty must suffer no diminu
ton from elegance, but every charm
must contribute to keep the heart which
it has won. Whatever would have
been concealed as a defect from the
lover, must with greater diligence be
concealed from the husband. The most
intimate and tender ia miliarity canpol
surely be supposed to exclude decorum;
and there is naturally a delicacy in
every mind which is disguised at the
breach OF it, though every mind is not
sufficiently attentive TO avoid at all
times that mode of coDdact which it
has often itself, found offensive. That
unwearled solicltude to please, which
was once the effect OF choice, is now
become duty, and should be consi-
dered as pleasure.
"E'en IN the happ:est choice, where favouring
Has equal love and easy fortune given,
Think not,the husband gained, that all is done,
The prlze OF happiness must still be woa.N
When once YOU enter the matrimo
NAL state, gentle lady, prepare for the
various trials OF temper which each
day produce Your husband, perhaps,
does or SAYS, something provoking
your servants do or say something pro.
voking;-Or some valuable article is
injured by their negligence; hand.
some piece of china or glass is broken;
a tire some visitor comes in at most
mal,aprOpoS moment, and breaks in
on some matter of consequence, &c
But remember the great Soomon's
words:-He that is Sio1U to anger is
6etter than the mighty; hnd he that
ruleth his Spi, it Than ne that tdketh
a city u Prov. xvi 32) BY the ex-