Martinsburg gazette and public advertiser. [volume] (Martinsburg, Va. [W. Va.]) 1826-1833, 1826-02-09


times: but when in the presence Of
others, he most particularly waicbfui;
A look, or word, that perhaps. in re
atty, conveys no angry meaning, may
Al once lead people TO think that their
presence alone restraints the eruption
Of diseord, which probably has no
existance whatsoever,
Some men who are married TO wo
men OF inferior fortune or connexion,
will frequently have the meanness TO
upbTade them with the disparity -
Ny good sir, allow me to ask. what
was your motive in marrying? Was
it to obIige or please yom' wJc2 NJ
truly it was to oblige and please your
self, your own dear SELF Had she
refused to marry you, you would have
been On lovers phrase,) very mis-
cradle man: Did you never tell her
so: Therefore, really, instead of up
brading her, you should he grateful
4 TO her Tor rescuing you from such al
unhappy fate.
II is particularly painful TO woman,
whenever her husband is nnkind G.
poagh to say lessening or harsh
WORD Of any member of her family:
invectives against herself are not half
so wounding
Should illness, or suffering Of any
kind assail your wife, your tenderness
md attention are then peculiarly cal
ed for, and if STE be woman of SEN
|ibllity, believe me, a look of love, a
word Of pity or sympathy, viii, al
lines, have better effect, than all the
prescriptions of her physicians
Perhaps some calamity, peculiarly
ner own, may belaiI her She NAV.
weep over the death of some near re
alive or friend; or her spirits and feel
|ngs may be affected by various cir
(um'tances Remember that your
ympa;hy, tenderness and attention,
n such occasions are particularly re
uired
A man would not on any account,
ake up whip, or stick, and beat his
wife; but he will, without remorse, use
% her language that strikes much deep
Fr to her heart than the lash of any
whip he could make use Of. "He
would not, for the world, +" says an in
genlous writer, "cut her with knife.
put he will without the least hesitation.
eut her with his tongue +" | have
known some nnfeeling husbands, who
have treated their luckless wives with
unvaried and unremi't;ng unkindness.
I'LL the arrival of their last illness, and
who then became all assiduiIy and at
tention But when that period ap
preached, their remorse ike the re
morse of a murderer. is fell 100 late:
the die is cast; and kindness or un
kindness can be OF little consequence
to the poor victim, who only waits to
have her yes closed IN the long sleep
of death!
Perhaps your wife may be destitute
oil youth and beauty, or superficial at
fractions which distinguish many OF her
sex: should this be the case, remember
many plain face cenceals heart of
exquisite sensibility and merit; and
her consciousness of the defect makes
her peculiarly awake to the slightest
attention or lnattention from you: and
Just for moment reflect
hat is the blooming tincture of the skin,
] % peace of mind and harmony within?
What the bright sparkling of the finest eye,
To the soft soothing of calm replyf
Can loveiiness OF form or look, or air.
With loneliness OF words or deeds comparel
No: those at FIRST the unwary heart may gain:
But these, these only, can the heart retain"
Your wife though gentle, anna Bile
creature, may be deficient in mental
endo~ ments, and destitute OF fancy or
sentiments, and you, perhaps man of
taste and talents, are inclined to think
lightly Of her This is unjust, unkind.
and unwise 1t is not, believe me. the
woman most gifted by nature, or most
stored with literary knowledge, who
always makes the most comfortable
wife; by no means: your gentle anna
bic heipmate may contribute much
more to your happiness, more to there
gularlty, economy, and discipline of
your house, and make your children
much better mother, than many bril-
liant dame who could trace with
Moore, Scott and Byron, every line
on the map of taste and sentiment, and
descant OF the merits and denerits nc