The Wilmingtonian, and Delaware advertiser., 1826-05-18

The .a,i.f.e,i Editor. ssu, ssp.s's"sea r"sn:
upon hearing the fling observation. in
,luced me to take snasal noH of It, its just
ness, pathos and tpk6, weresalso incentives
to its perseverance. stilRFsore, it issued from
the convinced heart of one tired bitterly IN
the school of adversely.
We have frequently been informed that
no one should cndcavor to correct the per-
formanccs of another, unless he were capa-
bic OF producing an originality superior IN
conception and execution. Now TINS IS erfo-
ncous, bticanse it has frequently occurred
that the novice in profession has been able
to detect bemishes which had escaped the
eye OF the connisseur, and had It not becn lot
his .st!iot gaza'' would have drawn ccnsurc
instead of appreciation upon the artist. Thus
there is a resemblance in human naturc;-
we can discover and condemn one for not
adhcring to the full purity Of truth, while
we are perhaps guilty Of still greater
alteration. No one prcsumes OIL perfection,
either in the human species or IN their ac-
tions, and the greatest advance towards 1t IS
frequently the consequence Of the assistance
of others. We are governed by the rcSnla-
tions laid down by others, in apprehension
that our opinions may nnt be in coincidence
with our neighbours. AS Franklin justly re-
marked it is the eyes of other people that
ruin us. We cndeavour that our conduct
shall not swerve from the judcous admohi-
ton of our friends. We lose all inclination
to direct ourselves. We become mere in
strument in the hands of, and arc governed
by the caprices Of others, and arc alone re-
sponsiblc for the consequences. 1t IS at TINS
period that others, probably less perfect than
ourselves, discover the error into winch we
are wandering, communicate it to US, ana
we, as a compensation, greet them with the
title of friend: "For those are our best
| friends who tell us OF our faults, and teach
us how to correct them
The preceding, answering as an excuse, if
it required one, proceed, with the permis-
sion of the fairer part of my readers, to be-
stow passing glance on what appears to be
kind Of intentional aithoughtirssncss; and my
much respected friends, commence with
YOU; no. that imagine you more vicious
than those of our own sex. NO, the tarthest
from it possible; but because the common
dictates of civility elicit it; because the stig-
ma upon the character OF a female is more
indelible than on ours, and for this reason,
that we have been from infancy habltuated
to contemplate you as more refined and more
perfect than we are. And consequently a
defect will be rendered more obvious, and
!. earlier attracting our attention. And more
over. blcmish in the character OF female,
has been aptly compared to scar in the
bark of tree, which becomes more visible
as the tree verges on towards maturity. AND
the last reason shall offer for commencing
, with you is, hatprovided begin with the
: best, | have the best always.
The first imperfection then, that attracts
nv attention, is that custom among you
known bv the title of +" confidential entrust-
mr." this (for perhaps it may be unintelli.
$ gible to some) is the practice of communi.
/ eating to one another, under the espccia
r promise of secrecy, opinions and occurren'
ces which should alone have been permittcs
to lay unmolested in your own minds, IN
stead of which they are entrusted to others
v to act with caution, and others to cease act
d ing entirely, producing frequently revou
n tion in a circle of acquaintainces, creating
:. indifference here, and dissatisfaction there
: and the scene is concluded by q train of un
y pleasant consequences, all arising from per
i mitting your "tongues to go for eXercis.'
N write these not as series OF conclusion
from premises established not from rea
N soning hrtoYi ON consequences liable to oc
cur from incidents of this order; but l Ill
re scribe fact, demonstrable upon the funda
Of mental basis of extensive experience, ant
ii heartfelt investigation.
=. Nevertheless a palliation might be oferc
. provided this course Of conduct produced a
'o nv good, or had even beneficial tendency
G. Ills true you sometimes relieve your mind
to of the oppressive burden OF a secret, the vi
4 pleasant task Of concealins your own frai
,e ties, and perhaps you CRAFTY the dispositio
II of conversing, although it should terminal
- at your expense; all this evinces ger
n erosity, frankncss and--weakness No
ar will any consideratve human being preten
~ to assert that these are desirable qualities
tions for lady, when an exhibition OF nc
:, own imperfcctions is the consequence. lo
- throw open the portals Of your mind, an
nc invite the invasion of the enemy; you adm
CT them into the secret magazines OF yor
ID mind, where they plumber indiscriminatcl
ne YOU are compelled to retain them as yor
friends, because YOU have entrusted thel
', with the key Of the closet of nemory--wit
cd your own private opinions and should yoc
ry dsband them, you must necessarily subml
m (and that too without redress,) for them
o. prey upon the vitality of your privacy;--'
:. suffer under an exposition exaggerated, los
- the station for which Providence designe
ke YOU. wander from the path OF pure rectltud
mt and purchase wisdom at the expence OF haI
as pness.
iss But still, keep muekh to yourSel,