Literary cadet, and Saturday evening bulletin. [volume] (Providence, R.I.) 1826-1827, 1826-05-06

is now become a duty, and should be con-
sidered as a pleasure.
Fen in the happ,est choice, where favoring Heaven
Has equal love and easy fortune given,
Think not, the husband gain'd, that all is done,
The prize Of Happiness must still be won."
When once you enter the matrimonial
state, gentle lady, prepare for the various
trials oftemper which each day will pro-
duce. Your husband, perhaps, does, or
says something provoking your servants
DO, or say, something provoking-or some
valuable article is injured by their negli-
lence (; a handsome piece of china or glass
is broken, a tiresome visitor comes in at a
most mal-apropos moment, and breaks in
on some matter of consequence, &c. But
remember the great S0lomon's words +: He
that is slow to anger is better than the
mighty (; and he that ruleth his spirit, than
he who taketh a city. prov. xvi. 32.) BY
the expression rulcth his spirit, the insI ired
writer's views on the subject are evidently
wide and extensive. He alludes to those
infirmities of temper and disposition which
so often corrode our peace, and make us
unamiable and uncomfortable to ourselves
and those around us. When the risings of
discomfort, peevishness, envy, anger, re-
sentiment, or any evil passion, disturb or
threaten to take possession Of our hearts,
then is the man that ruleth his spirit supe-
rior in the eyes of the eastern monarch, to
to the hero returning from the battle or the
seige, crowned with %laurels aid covered
with glory ! l cannot dismiss this subject
without remarking the very sweet and en-
gaging point of view in which a person ap-
pears to me, when | see him pliably yield
ing his own will to the will Of another
A late writer makes the following excellent
remark-"G Great actions are so often per-
formed from little motives of vanity, self
complacency, and the like, that | I'm apt
to think more highly Of the person whom |
observe checking a reply to a petulant
speech, or even submitting to the judgment
Of another in stirring the fire, than. Of one
who gives away thousands !"
Let your husband be dearer and of more
consequence to you than any other human
being and have no hesitation in confess
ing those feelings to him. Leave father
and mother, and brother and sister, and
cleave only to him. 1t is expressly the will
Of God for of course the command applies
to woman in the same degree as to man.
What is any one to you in comparison with
your husband [? Whom have you q legal
claim on, gentle lady Your husband only.
Who has sworn by the laws Of God and
man to support and protect you ? Your hus-
band only. Whose home have you a law
full right to l-whose purse have you a law
full claim On ? Your husbands only. In
whose house do you feel the sweets of in
dependence {? and in whose house.can you
proudly look round you, and say, reign
as mistress here I? Your husbands, and
your husbands only. Turn then, gentle
lady, to your husband let his interests, his
comforts, his wishes, all be yours and with
out hesitation, give up for his sake all
Inc world besides. There is an old Irish say
ing, and like the generality ofIrish sayings,
expressive and true, the translation of which
is as follows" He must be a very good
for-nothing, Indifferent husband, whose bos-
ON is not the best pillar a woman ever laid
her head on"
Endcavor to make your husbands habita-
ton alluring and delightful to him. Let it
be to him a sanctuary to which his heart
may always turn from the ills and anxieties
Of life. Make it a repose for his cares,
a shelter from the world a home not for
his person only, but for his heart. He
may meet with pleasure in other houses,
but let him find happiness in his own
Should he be detected, soothe him ; should
he be silent and thoughtful, or even pee
wish, make allowances for the defects of hui
man nature, and, by your sweetness, gen.
tleness and good humor, urge him contin-
ually to think, though he may not say it,
".This woman is indeed a comfort to me.
| cannot but love her, and requitc such
gcntleness and affection as they deserve"
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