The Wilmingtonian, and Delaware advertiser., 1826-03-09

mcdiateiy after her marriage
The following letter is handed to us "from
the pen of one of the best"-and our corres-
pendent believes in his conscience, ." one of
the greatest men that Virginia has produce
ed" 1t is written in an admirable manner
upon a most interesting subject--and is wor
thy of the high reputation which the author
bears--it forms an excellent supplement to
the celebrated letters of Dir. Gregory to his
daughters.
M Dcar-You have Just entered into that
state which is replete with happiness or
misery. The issue depends upon that pru-
dent, amable, uniform conduct, which wis
dom and virtue SO strongly recommend on
she one hand, or, on that irnprudence, which
want of reflection or passion may prompt,
on the other. But as there is no wish near
Ell to my heart than that YOU may ensure all
happiness, which the union of virtuous per-
SONS is capable of bestowing, and the best
sometimes err for the want of previous re.
f1ection upon that line of conduct which is in
yaiiably to be pursued, how can render you
a higher service, than by presenting you
with that advice which the warmest affec-
tion suggests My experience, as we'll as
my solicitude, my fond hope of seeing YOU
happy and beloved, even self-nterest, fol
your happiness must now constitute the prin.
cipal source of that Of your parents, all urge
me to fulfil duty, at once pleasing, and
trust most useful.
You possess good heart, and good un.
derstanding, you are allied to man of hon.
our, OF talents, and ut an open, generous dis
position. You have therefore, in your owr
power, all the essential ingredients of do
mestlc happiness--It cannot be mari''d il
you nozo reflect upon that system of con.
duct, which you ought Invariably to pursue;
you now see clearly the path from whicl,
you will resolve never to devate.--Our con.
duct is often the result of whim or caprice
often such as will give us MANY pang, un-
less we see beforehand, what is always the
most praiseworthy and the most essential tt
happiness. will call your attention to
few primary rules of conduct, from which a
flrtuous wife, one who has the sense and the
goodness to endeavour to promote mutua
happiness, and to render the matrimonial
state feast of the purest affection, will nev-
er depart.
The first maxim, which you should i'm
press most deeply on your mind, is never tC
attempt to controul your husband, by oppo
sltlon, by displeasure, or any other mark o
anger. A man of sense, of prudence, o
warm feelings, cannot, and will not bear al
opposition of any kind, which is attended
with an angry look, or expression. The
current of his affections is suddenly stopped
ms attachment is weakened he begins t
,eei modification the most pungent; he i
pe-httled even in his own eyes; and be as
sured, the wife who once excites those sen
tlments in the breast of her husband. will ne
yer regain the high ground which she might
and ought to have retained. When he mar
rles her, it he be good man, he expect
from her smiles, not frowns he expects t,
ana IN her one who is not to controul him
not to take from him the freedom of actin,
as his own judgment shall direct but on,
who will place such confidence in him, as t,
seiieve that his own prudence is his bes
sulae' Little things, what in reality ar,
nerest trifles in themselves, often produc,