Martinsburg gazette and public advertiser. [volume] (Martinsburg, Va. [W. Va.]) 1826-1833, 1826-04-27

4 WHISPER TO NEwLg-MARRlED PAIR
A Whisper TO the Wife.
(Comtinusd from our Iast.)

(Continusd rom our I6st.)
eff possible, let your husband sup.
pose you thlak him a goodbusband, and
sswin t,es strong siimulous TO his be
ing 50. As long as he thinks he pos
sesses the character, he viii take some
pains TO deserve il; bat when he has
once lost the name, he will be very
apt toabandon the reality altogether.
i remember at one time being acquain
ted with lady who was married 10 a
very worthy min Attentive to all
her coo,forfs and wishes, he was Just
wha the world calls very good hus
band; and yet his manner 20 his wifi.
was cold andcomiortless, ana he was
constantly giving her heart, though
aever her reason, cause TO complain
efhin But she was woman Of
excellent sense, andnever uphraided
him On the contrary, ne had every
cause for suppos,ng she thought him
the best husband in the world; aud
the consequence was, that instead of
the Earring aud discord which would
have been inevitably produced had she
been IN the habit oil finding fault with
hln,, their lives passed Oh 10 uninter
rupIrd peace.
! know not any attraction which
renders a woman at all times so agree
able To her husband, as cheeriulness
or good humour Il possesses the
powers ascribed to magic. 1t gives
charms where charms are not; and
imnarts beauty 10 The plainest face.
Men are naturally more thoughtful and
more difficult to amuse and please
than women. Foil Of cares and hu
sine,s, what relaxation 10 man is
the cheerful countenance and pleasant
voice of the gentle mistress OF his
home. On the contrary, a gloomy,
dissatisfied manner is an antidote to
affection; and though man may not
seem to notice it, its chilling and repul
slve to his feelings, and he will be very
apt to seek elsewhere for those smiles
aud, that cheerfuIness which he finds
not IN bis own house
In the article of dress, study your
husbands taste, and endeavor to wear
what he thinks Becomes YOU best.
The opinion of others on this subject is
of very little consequence, if he APP
proves Make yourself as useful ioN
him as you can, aud let him see yon
employ as much of yonr time as posi-.
bic IN econo mical avocations.
AT dlaner, eaieavor TO have his ia !
vourite 5ish dressed AID served up in
the ipfuner ne likes best I'm obser
wing such trilies as these, believe me
gentle lady, you study your own com.
fort last as much as his. /
Perhaps your husband may occa
bring home an respected I
guest to dinner. This is not at all /
times convenient Bat beware, gentle
lady, beware of frowns. Your fares
at dinner may be scant, but make up !
for The deficiency by smiles and good /
nufnom tits an old remark, "cheer
fulsess IN the host Is always the surest
and most agreeable mode of welcome
10 The guests" Perhaps, too, unsea
soaabIe visitors may intrnde, or some
one rot particularly welcome may /
come TO spend few days with yoa
Trlsllng as these circumstances may
be,sthsy require command Of feel
ing and temper: but remember as
you lenrney on. inclination must be
sacrificed. and recollect
also; that The true spirit of hospitality
lies, (as, an old writer remarks not
in giving great dinners and sumpteous
bot in receiving with
Kindness and cheerfuaess those who
come to you, and those who uent
your assistance.
Endeavor to feel pleased with your
husbands bachelor friends. 1t al
ways vexes and dissppoints man
when his wife finds fault with his "a
vourites-ihe favourites and compan
ions of his youth and probably thos
10 whom he is bound not ouly by lb,