Phenix gazette. [volume] (Alexandria [D.C.]) 1825-1833, 1826-04-12

journal to the amusement and improvement OF
the fair sex-giving them every week essays,
REGIMES, lectures on domestic economy, cookery,
SC. sc. For some weeks past he has been pub
fishing Ga ,chisper TO neuly married pair.
The whisper to the Husband ran through seve-
raj numbers, and has been concluded. 1t is
said the ladies were much delighted with thai
whisper, and whilst they were felicitating them
selves on its good effects, out comes the wills
per to the wife," under various heads. Inc
last American Farmer contains the following:
On PRUDENCE AND DEooRUM.
"Though woman before her marriage may
be admired for her gaiety, her dancing, dress,
painting, singing, sc yet after 1t, we expect
her character to display something more Suo-
stantioL To man who must spend all MS Gays
in her companv, these little superficial decora-
tions would speedily become insipid and unim-
nortant. Love can be preserved only oy the
Qualities ofthe heart, and esteem secured by the
domestic virtues. >.
GA man does not want to be dazzled in his
matrimonial connection, or to possess partner
who seeks the admiration of coxcombs or beaux.
He wants person who will kindly divide and
alleviate his cares, and prudently arrange his
household He seeks not coquette, fashion
ist. a Airt; but comfortable assistant, compa-
MON and friend
"On the dav of her marriage" says an admir-
ed writer, ga woman's tour o! gaiety should
end" In one of the Gentoo countries, during
| the wedding-day, large fire is made, and the
bride enters with little basket in her hand,
| containing all her ornaments, rude and simple
as they are-shells, beads, &c.-and hings them
into it; intimating her intention of assuming
for the future the dress as well as character OF
a matron-O! that our British matrons would
take hint from these wild and untutored Indl-
ans!
How indecorous, offensive and sinful, is it to
see woman exercising authority over her hus-
band, and saving, "IwW have it so. II shall
be done as I like" But | should hope the num-
Der of those who adopt this unbecoming and
disgraceful manner is so small as 10 render 1t
| unnecessary for me to enlarge on the subject.
Never Join in any jest or laugh against your
husband He may be plain and insignificant,
even ridiculous man; be 1t so; why did you
marry him? You should have known all those
defects before marriage. 1t is now too late: and
as wife, self (not to say wore duty calls
on you 20 hide his faults; and, whenever you
possibly can, to bring him forward and make
him ofimportance.
Assiduousy conceal his faults, and speak on
" of his merit. In the married life, conGdants
are by no means desirable You may be listen
ed TO with sympathy and interest-but will this
redress your grievance? Byno means. There
fore never complain of him. In the first place,
You violate a sacred duty by exposing your hus-
bard's faults; and in the next, even certain
degree Of female dignity should combine with
better motives to prevent 1t.
would also strongly recommend conceal
ment from others of any little discord or dis
union which occurs among you. Repeated with
additions and aggravations, II only gives food
to the busy whisper of the malevolent, and, as
the witty Richardson says, is sure to be re-
membered long after the honest people have
quite forgotten it themselves" Besides, on
those occasions, rely on it, the world is much
more inclined to be your husbands advocate
than yours.
In my opinion, there can hardly be more
despicable object than married woman recel'-
ing the particular attentions OF any man but
her husband.
A flirting girls indeed bad enough; but a
flirting married woman should be an object OF
contempt wherever she appears
Perhaps your husband may be plain man,
or an old man; and though possessing both
sense, merit, and feeling, neither cultivated nor
peculiarly circumspect in your conduct The
eye of the world is on you, and though your
husband NAV scorn to betrar even by look, a.
nv expression of jealousy, believe me it gives
him no pleasure TO see you dancing and chatting
away with every young man who approaches
YOU; for, at the moment perhaps when his good
sense and manly pride make him smile, and join
in the laugh and chat around, hi, heart may be
exceedingly vexed and freited at what he is a.
shamed to acknowI ledge even to himself To
say the truth, l never met with any husband,
handsome, ugly, young, or old, who was pleas
ed at seeing his wite's conversation and attrac-
ton much engaged by other men.
Be you ever so conscious of superiority Of
Judgment or OF talent, never lei it appear your
husband "a wife rules best by seeming to o.
hey" And man cannot enquire the idea of
inferiority in intellectual endowments. The
very idea Of being reflected on makes him inf
ni,ely more obstinate, and more welded to his
own opinion, when perhaps little management
and good sense would bring him a, once into
your plans and wishes.
HEAVY HEARTS AND LIGHT HEARTS
What's the use of it?-Trouble, trouble, what
world of it we have; "man is born to trouble
-"and all is vanity and vexation of SPIRIT
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