The Wilmingtonian, and Delaware register., 1825-09-15
SEPT'R. Is, 1895.

on a commanding air, or speak to them in pc
remptory tone: this would be most eifectuay
to lose the superiority ofyour situations and to
become dcspiscd and hated by those who ought
to regard you with respect and esteem. My
meaning is, that you should treat them colr-
teously, but permit no unbccoming familiarity.
Never suffer yourself to be made their confident
in any thing that they would conceal from their
master and mistress; decline their conversation,
but without any frowning looks or harsh Ian
guagc. Avoid also the opposite extreme: do
not watch their most trivial actions as a spy, nor
report every little misdemeanonr which falls I'M
der your observation, with the low pleasure and
petty oIiic BUSINESS of an inforincr. Never steal
the knowledge of what passes between them
when they think they are alone, by secretly lis
tening with a vain or malevoent curiosty.-I
What you overhear by such means may proba-
bly, do you more harm, than any thing which
may be thus discovered can do you good. If
your mother should delegate part other author-
| ty to you, in the management of the household
affairs, use it with moderation, and give orders
rather in her name than your own: you will then
be obcyad without seeming to assume command,
or to value yourself upon it.
| Ifyour father or mother should ut any time cx-
press disapprobation of your conduct, immedi-
ately resolve TO amend it, apologize for the past
ard promise for the futures never seem III haste
| to iustsy Yourself. Even if yCu should think
| that the displeasnre of your parents is unmelt-
| ed, (in which il is n thousand to one but you vii!
be mista!icn,) be surc to avoid, OH the one hand,
al pert and self sufficient replies; and on the
other, all sullcn looks and dumb resentment. II
it 4aoald happen that harsh expression escapes
them, when their temper is ruilied by the per-
picking accidents and dsappontments Of lifes it
would be the highest ingratitudc and indecency
in YOU to express impaticnce or discomfort: and,
as the reward of contrary conduct, their own
reflections upon what is past, when their minds
are calm, will be in your favonr; and their affcc-
ton viii seek an opportunity Of compensating
vonruneasincss. You should regard these ac-
cidcnts as opportunities of endearing yourself to
them, and as tests Of your prudence, duty, and
affection. What may not children expect from
6 father who is friend to tho whole circle of his
acquantancel 1t is your happiness TO have
such a father: think yourself secure, from his
affection, of every thing thai is fit, for sou, and
do not anticipate his bounty by your requests.
: Both his pleasure anal yours will be lessencd, if
| YOU receive because you ask, and lie gives be-
cause he cannpt deny. How very shameful,
then, is the common triumph of ffavourtes, for
having obtained by importantly what is denied
10 merit, and withheld by prldence What-
ever is thus gained from the hand, is lost in tire
heart. have seen, with grief and resentment,
every tender moment watched, to urge a re-
quest, and wrcst promise, from the generous
weakness Of unguarded affection. How mean
and selfish is such practice! Remember that
noble mind viii dispose person to suffer
4 much rather than ask Il favour which he knows
cannot be refused, if he thinks that his friend
NAV have reason to wish it had not been asked.
/ shall finish this long letter with some advice
of vet higher importance.--lf you succeed in
every design which you form, and the world ia
vour YOU, till its utmost bounty IS exhausted,
your happiness will be still imperfect: YOU will
find some desire unsatisfed; and possession will
never I'll your wishes. But do not suffer the
present hour to pass away uncnioyed, by an car
nest desire Of some future good; for, if this
weakness be indulced, your happiness will still
av from you as Won pursue II; and there will be
the same distance between you and the object
of vour wishes, till al the visions ofinagination
shall vanish, aud your progress to further de-
rrces oftcmporal advantage shall be stopped by
the grave. Iii Notwithstanding true, that the
a expectation offurthcr good, if the object is wor
thy Of u rational desire. p.cases more than any
present enjoyment. You will, therefore, tnd
that we'll grounded hope ofIIeaven, will give
. relish to whatever you shall possess upon earth
IF there is no fIturty, that VIC anticipate
with pleasure, we regret every moment that
passes We see that time is flying away with all
our enjoyments, that youth is short, health pre-
cario,ls, and age approaching, loaded with mfr
mites to which death only can put AN end. For
= this reason, endeavour to secure an interest in
the favour of God, which will ensure to you an
everlasting life of uninterrupted and inconcciva-
bic felicity. Nor is this difficult or orunpleasng
attempt. no real present happiness needs be
forfeited to purchase the future: for virtue and
pcty at once secure every blessing, both iii time
and eternity
,, recommend to you the frequent persal Of
this letter. As the world opens to you, be-
J leyc YOU will see the reason and the use OF all
the directions which have given you. If they
assist you in any DEGREE, TO pass through life with
safety and reputation, shall think my labour
well bestowed.
lam dear madam, your aiIcctonate friend.
,,,ssssssxs5ss IA ls0S Ea..su
A contemplation on viewing the banks of Bran