American watchman and Delaware advertiser. [volume] (Wilmington, Del.) 1822-1828, 1825-03-01

Not all when The contract OF the altar is eomolecG
ne vows declared, and the rites soempized. then
the principles of domestic conduct which have been
learned, are to be put in practice; and cannot of
Ter more friendly wish to the sex, than that the
rules which this paper will be found to contain, NAV
govern their lives, as they seem to to comprise,
as lar as they 90, unerriDg guides to matrimonial
happiness. From whence they were taken cannot
determine, but the young lady Of nineteen, who
presents them to me, undoubtedly maniesls an IN
common prematury of Judgment, which hope
WIN De confirmed by her own practical adoption Of
them. ACRJCCIA
Hablae yourself TO that way Of life most agreeable to
person TO whom you are united be in retire
meht' or with socety-with the town the country If
ne should prefer the country during your earlier years.
period when diversions attractive it NAV be at first
painful you may be sensible of the privaon but your
chance for durable happiness is infinitely greater there
than where each side continually beset by dangers TO do
nestle tranquility
Make choce Of such amusements as will attach him to
your company Study such occupations as will render
lyou OF consequence to him such the management of
ms fortune and the conduct Of his house, yet without as
sumins superiority unbecomng your sex.
II his turn of mind leads him the inspection and care
lot his estate, avoid to interfere with branch of
mot properly your sphere.
Should he be neglectf of his family interests supply his
place with redoubed attention.
II public employment demands frequent absences from
home, make his supposed intentions there to be as much
respected It he were present, by your Difference
10 Them.
If the contagion of example gain too strong an empr
over him; if he should be msled by pleasures or hurried
by passion let not your Impotence prevent his return
reason.
bear with inequalities, to which all more or less SUBJ
ject. u
Do not attempt to destroy his innocent pleasures by pre-
eSts OF economy retrench rather your expenses
promote them.
Should he sometimes delight in trivial occupations, trea,
such with compalsance as few but the idle have leisure
to be very i'll tempered.
Disturb not the hours he may have allotted for amse
ment, with the recital of domestic grievances
Watch for, and profit by such moments of his leisure as
will allow him without pain chagrn, redress them
Let your attentions be continued, and accompanied
10y any atectaton yet so easy, may prove they flow
from the heart.
The last appearance of Aatery, mingled with assduy,
conveys suspicion Of interest.
1t absolute necessity, free choice call him often from
home (suppose to be too en) When he shall visit
home, make so agreeable that it shall finally acquire the
preference
Shew the greatest respect to his reaons observe
Ia constant cvily towards the distant let there be
no marked distinction between those, on either sides in
your breast though natural affection may nay indeed
ought, TO prevail.
Should you be unfortunate be connected with
family divided by dissenons, of various tempers by
studying them early you will distinguish such among them
as merit cnlvaon and are open to friendship: you will
consequently be acquitted by the world for
cess with that part TO whom kindness would prove neec
tual
During the education of in schools, colleges and
academies, friendship fOme d, perhaps too early some
times to be judicous, but equally hard to dissolve if nI
consequence you behold such with PAIN do attempt o
break them with precipitation.
When person shall his friends cooly received in his
own house, he will naturally seek occasions meet then
abroad maintain therefore your interest with him, by
polite behaviour to those he so prefers, though you may
not
From the you shall have formed an ndssoube
engagement, avoid every path which leads to jealousy
harbour not the dangerous guest with you and by
prudent caution suferit not to fix you.
Unbounded demonstrations of tenderness though au-
thorsed by sacred ties, often productive of ncon
venicnces, as the most unwarrantable aversions.
Should you have too just for suspicio of change
of affection, and its diversion to another object let ready
and Oblging Indulgence attempt the work OF reformation
promises better success than discomfort and camorou
grief
Jealousy is oft ideal; it is capriciou its dictates nco
siderste its suggestions fatal to mutual repOse.
The allowed superiority OF the other sex, the liberties
of their education demand abundance of allowances from
ours, it we aspire at esteem and influence.
1t would be equally mean to dissemble in manner that
would increase the contempt Of those who the cruel
of your suerings by hurting your fortune, OF by
bereavng you of friend
If you discover, the other side, disposition TO ths
unhappy PASSION treat the phantom if it reality II
try remove the apparent cause by every sacrifice inl
your power were even to appear ridiculous in the eyes
The dangerous position for young person be
thrown INFO, for the world to be apprzed OF her harsh
treatment; it exposes her to every mode of seduction that
interested pity can devise, and requires infinite vrIel
and fortitude 10 guard her against its insinuaons.
The delicate but firm counsels ola iend religion, and
possible speedy retreat for whie the safest rem
ees against the arl but soothing attentions of real or
seeming admirers, at moments that the mind is rritaed
by reproac the seventies inflicted by unjust suspi
cions.
If rooted aversion shall appear to be directed to anyl
one object abandon the connection with decency and good
breeding order that may escape observation; and att
the time, all your endeayors that object
from your memory.
Should your union be attended with greater felicity than
lis the usual lot of SEX govern your just Affections o
preserve it for by much anxiety you may ultimately
destroy it.
is natural in uncertain state, to dread the cbanges
to which is liable; but apprehensons should be sell
dom reneaied easy natures il is painful to harsh