American watchman and Delaware advertiser. [volume] (Wilmington, Del.) 1822-1828, 1825-02-08
FOR THE wArcHMAN

bind themselves by the strongest tie offer n
sons these few hints by way Of advice. "'s
Marriage is one of those things in which c,,;.
monitor, and foresight, are most useful because
necessary. More light is thrown upon this s,hso,t
perence than any other but the dictates of an w
perience, are not only seldom of advantage TO n.
very rarely Of any use to himself. Those who srs
ing upon this state, listen with fatal aud unconn
credulity, TO those who are most willing 10 cod
forewarn them; and those who have opnornn"
gathering wisdom, are generally found TO act wh.as
have the power OF acting, with as much blind0s,
temerity as ever.
have sometimes though rarely, observed in yoOp,.
pie instances OF prudence; but this prudence ns,f ii
exered except on the article of fortune Such w
allow its full force to the objection that arises f,opp '
own poverty, or that of the selected object but mn,
PLY, this kind OF caution is usually coupled with s
and sordd spirit, and though it guards its posses,u,
making bad choice III Que respect yet he is on 4"
count only the liable 10 make bad choice IN ~
respects ol much more consequence. The vile or MS
finally preferred, may be rich enough, but their cl,,
or temper may, in some respect, be SO modified Tia,
the wealth Of the Indies will be found insufficient, ia
happiness Beside, this pecuniary prudence is alvMT
Bile to disappointment and mistake In country ke~E
the evidences OF property are SO fallacious i'd du
even when real, is exposed to many accidents az
all prudential calculations at defiance.
Where women have married for wealth. the chancs K
thousand to one in favor OF :mme diate OF ultimate
poiniment. When men marry for the same consderrE
m0tAs
tons. females expectations are generally fo,rl
the wealth OF parents and relations Their nro,,.
therefore are altogether uncertain to time and n
bly, precarious in all other respects, since appearance
just as likely TO deude the observer, in this case as
other, since all depends upon the wlims and cap,c
well the good fortune and good conduct of The knna
and since the interval OF the acquisition of wife ard
gaming her fortune IS sure to be repe,e with every M
most intolerabe TO proud, independent, generous N
irritable spirit,
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then why shall pay any attention TO advice upon sl
ject never anticipate I" Remember that marriage Il
dictate of nature instituted by the Author Of our fer
men and women were made to be companions Of each o
and therefore cannot be persuaded bur that marriage
one of the means OF happiness.
Some contend that young persons are not qualified N
engage in marimony that il should be put off until al
have arrived at the age Of and ten when le
will not be led by passion but that reason will dictate
experience point out the conduct be pursued 10 sc
happiness that longer time will increase experience, anil
wider views will allow better opportunities of inquiry I
selection; and that in The variety and iolv of ylh
pleasures, life may be well enough supported willoa
help OF partner.
do not think it possible tina, person could live tOls
age OF thity without establishing some rule or method
guide INN through lite. His opinions are fixed, dhl
are established bis whole life is planned into meod a
his mind has long enjoyed the contemplation OF lis Css
prospects. Such persons cannot like younger ones q
simulate themselves one with the other and, it saJ
nave he same thoughts ana aclions yea, one DcUus
OF conduct. And cannot but presume every candid a
observer will say, that early marriages
most happy and will therefore say those who put ltd
until late in life" tempora mutantur ct mutamurUI
ILLS An authors observations upon this subject, sTcs
good, shall give them TO my readers in the place al
Of my own.
"The pleasantest part of mans life generally DID
which passes in courshp provided his passion be scs
and the party beloved, kind, with discretion
1t is easier for an artful man. who is not in love,
'uade his mistress he has passion for her and
IN his pursuit, than for one who loves with the greaes
ence
True love has ten thousand griefs, impaences, andH
sentiments, that render man unamiable in the eyes o&
person whose affection he solicts besides, sinks
hgure, gives him fears, approximations, and poomea
spirit, aud often makes him appear ridiculous where e
The strongest mind to recommend himself
Those marriages generally abound most with love an
consistency that are preceded by long courship TIKI
passion should be allowed to strike root and cattle
strength, before marriage be grated on it, long cUs
of hopes and expectations fixes the image in our bre
and habuates us to tondness for the person beloved
There is nothing of so great importance as the gM
qualities of the one TO whom Join ourselves for lie
they do hot only make present state agreeable h
often determine our happiness to all eternity AIarag
IKE death, depends upon our CHOICE whether are By
py here or hereafter. Where the choice is left to friend
the chief point under consideration is fortune Wtd
the parties choose Tor themselves their thoughts urHG
upon the person. The first aim at procuring many col
venences and pleasures of life the party whose inee
they espouse; and at the time may reasonably h
that the prosperity of their friend will turn to their
credit and advantage The others, preparing for h
selves perpetual feast"
should prefer that is agreeable in my owney
and not detormed in that of the world, 10 ceebral
peah'y. II you marry one remarkably beautiful, you MI
nave violent passion ior her you have not the prop
taste for her charms; if you have such passion for
II will probably be embitered with numberress fears
jealouses
Good nature and eyenness of temper will give YOU
easy companion for fe virtue and good sense an agree
aY. irend love ana constancy good wife hsbs
Where we meet with one person with all these accomps
ments, we find hundred without any one of them.
The world, notwithstanding, is more intent on tab
ram, and equpage, and all the SNOWY parts of life.
love rather to dazzle the multitude than consult our prop
interests, l. is one of the unaccountable propeus
of human nature that makes us take greater pains
pear easy and happy to Others, than really make o.
selves SO OF all dspares that in humor makes the nc
unhappy marriages yet it scarcely enters our thoughts
The tune OF con'iactngit Severalthat are in this espe
unequaly yoked, and uneasy for life, with person d
CERTAIN character, might have been pleased and hap
with person OF contrary one. Notwithstanding they