Alexandria gazette & advertiser. [volume] (Alexandria [D.C.]) 1822-1824, 1822-08-01
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&c Br1c:6r4dge Hall, ortAe Hamoarists.
Melody, By Godfrey Crayon, Gent
Wives may gather hints from the following
There is no great need of enforcing
on an unmarried lady the necessity OF
being agreeable; nor Is there any great
art requisite in youthful beauty to ena-
bic her to please Nature has multiplied
attraction round her-youth is IN itself
attractive. The freshness of budding
beauty needs no foreign aid to set It off
it pleases merely because it Is fresh,
and budding, and beautiful. But it is
for the married state that wonan
needs the most instruction and In which
she should be most on her guard to
maintain her powers of pleasing. No
woman can expect to be to her hus-
band all that ne fancied her, when he
was lover. Men are always doomed
to be duped, not SO much by the arts of
the sex, as by their own imagina-
tions.-They are always wooing god
desses, and marrying mere mertals. A
woman should therefore ascertain what
was the charm that rendered her so fas-
cinating when girl, and endeavour to
keep it up when she has become wife.
One great thing undoubtedly was the
chariaess of herself and her conduct,
which an unmarried female always OBJ.
serves. She should maintain the same
niceness and reserve in her person and
habits, and endeavor still to preserve
freshness and virgin deiicacy In the eye
of her husband. She should remember
the province of woman Is to be wooed,
not to woo-to be caressed, not to car
ress. Man is an ungrateful being In
love; bounty loses instead of winning
him. The secret of woman's power
does not consist so much in giving, as
in withholding-A woman may give up
too much even to her husband. It's to
thousand little delicacies of conduct
that she must trust to keep alive pas
sion, and so protect herself from that
dangerous familiarity that thorough &C
quaintance with every weakness and
imperfection incident TO natrimony-
Nv these means she may still maintain
her power though she has surrendered
her person; and nay continue to TO"
nance of love, even beyond the honey
moon.
"She that hath wise husbandS says
Jeremy Taylor, "must entice him to an
eternal dearness by the veil OF modes
~. and the grave robes of chastity, the
ornament of Weakness, and the jewels
of faith and charity. She must have
no painting but blushings; her bright
ness must be purity, and she must shine
round about sweetnesses and TREND.
ship. and she shall be PLEASANT while
she lives, and desired when she dies
have wandered into a rambling Sc
riss of remarks on trite subject, and
q DANGEROUS one for bachelor to med.
die with. That / may not, however,
appear to confne my observations en-
tirely co the wife, will conclude with
another quotation from jeremy Taylor,
in which the duties of both parties are
mentioned, while would recommend
his sermon on the marriage ring to all
those who, wiser than myself, are about
entering the happy state of wedlock.
"There is scarce any matter OF duty
but it concerns them both alike, and is
only distinguished by name, and natn
It's variety by circumstances and little
accidents: and what in one is called
love, in the other is called reverence;
and what in the wife is obedience. the
ssme in the man is duty. He provides
and she dispenses: he gives command
nents, and she rules by them; he rules
her by authority, and she rules him by
love she ought by all means to please
him, and he must by no means dis
please her.