Richmond enquirer. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1815-1867, 1818-03-06

which she might, aud ought to have retained
when lie ntarricS h"r, II he be n good man, he
expects from her SMILES, not froyvus; he ex-
poets to find ilfher one, who is not To contronl
him, not TO take from him the freedom OF act
ing. as his own Judgment shall direct; but, one
VINO Will place such confidence in bin, as to
heiie'e That III, own rfwdence il his best guide.
Little things, what, in reality are merest TIL
6es, IN themselves, often produce bc,- erngs,
ana even quarrels. Never permit them TO be
asubjecto dispute Yield them with pleasure.
with smile OF affection. BE ;.ssnred. that Que
difference outweigbs them all, a thousatd
or ten thousand times. A difference, in reality,
with your husband ought to ps considered Us
TIE greatest ca'anty, as one that is TO be most
stnaionsiy guarded against il is Il demon,
winch must never he ,crmittcd tc enter a habi
tation, where all should be peace uuimpaired
coincidence, and heartfelt affection. Besides,
what can woman gam by her OPPOSITION, or
her direrences Nothing. But She loses eve
ry thing she loses herhusband's respect for
her virtues; she loses his love- aud viii, that
all prospect OF future happiness. She creates
her own misery and then utters idle and silly
complaints; but utiers them in vain. The love
or husband can be restrained only by the
bigh opinion, which he ontertains OF his wiie's
goodness of heart, of her amiable disposition.
OF the sweetness OF her temper of her DIN
dence, aud of her devotion To him Let no.
thing, upon any OCCASION ever lesson that opini-
ON. On the contrary it should augment every
uay; he should have much more reasen To adj
hlire her for those excellent qualities which
VIII cast a luStre overa yirtue,is womaa when
her personal attractions are no more
has your husband staid out longer than YOU
expected hen he returns, receive him as
the partner at your heart. Has he disappcnt-
ed you IN something you expected whether of
ornament, OF furniture, or of any other conve.
n,encys never evince discomfort; receive his
apology with cheertulpess. Does he, when you
are housekeepers, invite company without in
forming you of it, or bring home with him
friend whatever may be Your repast however
scanty u may be, however impossible it may
De 10 aod 10 II, receive them with pleasing
counterance, adorn your table with cheerful
ness, give TO your husband and to your compa-
NY hearty welcome il will more than COM
Pensate for every other deficiency; it will e.
V.hce i0Ve tor your husband, good sense i'm
yourself, and that poiteness ofmanners, which,
acts as the most powerful charm; it will give
10 the piainest fare zest superior to all that
luxury can boast. Never he DISCONTINUED lid.
on any occasions of this nature. If apologies,
as sniH people often think be necessary, your
nuSpahu VIII make Them or, an iDge-
nous wife will, with good humor, banter her
nusnand Tor giving his friends SO Indifferent
In the next place, as your husbands success
II, MS PROFESSION will depend upon his popnla-
iity, ana as the mannersof wife have no little
l,lIluehce IN extending or lessening the respect
anu esteem or others for her husband Won
should take care to be atfable and poIite TO rho
poorest, as well as to the rich. A reserved
naughtiness is the sure indication of week
mind, and an unfeeliug heart
With respect to YOUR servants teach Thorn
to respect aud love YOU. whilst Won expect
from them reasonable discharge of their re-
| spective dutics. Never teaze Yourself and
mem py scoidIng; IT has no other effect than
10 rehuer them discontented and impertipent.
Admonish them with a calm frnness, and if
that mode will not produce the desired,effect,
lie ! them be moderately punished.
Cultivate your mind by the perusal of those
books, which instruct, whilst they arnuse. DO
not devote much of your time TO novels There
are rev, WHICH may be '.setu in improving
and IN giving higher tone TO oar moral sensi'
bility bur, ia general they tend to viti,te tba
taste. and 10 produce dsreIisll for substan
tiai, intellectual food. Most plavs ara of tl.e
same cast they are not friendly to that deli
cacy, winch is one OF the ornaments OF the fe-
male Character. History, geography. poetry
moral essays, biography travels sermons and
other Well written religious prOdnc tons will
not tan to enlarge your understanding 10 rem
Der you more agreeable companions and to
exat your virtue. \ wsman, devoid of rational
ideas ofreii.ion, has no security for her virtue
~ Is sacrihced tn her passions, whose voice
aud not that OF her God is her only governing
principle. BESIDES, in those hours of calamity.
10 which families mast be exposed where will
she hnd support, itit be net in lier.just reflec
lions upon that Affirming PTovidence which
governs the universe, whether animate, or in
animate ?
Mutual DoliteHess, between the most intimate
friends, ~ essential to thai harmony which
should never he once broken or interruoted
how Important, then, is 1t between man and
"!te' ne more warm the attachment, tbs less
WIZ either party bear to be sighted or treated
with the smallest degree of ruJeuess or mat
tentIoh. ids politeness, then if il be NOT itself
virtue, Is, at Ieast, tue means of giving L. real
goodness new iustre; il is the means of pre-
venting discontentS, and even uIarreJs II ia
the OIL of intercourse; it removes asoerities
ana gives to everything smooth, ali even and
pleasing movement.
1 VIII only add that matrimonial happiness
dees not depend upon wealth No n be moi
10 be found IN wealth. but In minds nroperiv
tempered, and suited to our respective situa
lions. Competency is necessary all beyond
.hat point Is Ideal. Do not suppose, however.
tnat would not advise and stimulate il reoui
site, your husband to augment his property Inv
All honest, and commemorate means 4 w0uid
WISH 10 see him actively engaged ia such a pur.
sul. because, engagement, sedulous en-
pioyment IN obtaining some Iaudable end is
essential To happiness. In the attainment of a
fortune Dy honorable means, and particularly
by professional exertlon, man derives pecui-
lar Satisfaction III sell applause, as well as from
tue INCREASING estimation in which he is held
by those around him. Sucl, men always indi,
cate cbeerfn!neSs, fine flow of spiriis and
consequently, afford the best proof of their
happiness whIe the ndoleHt, those, who
spend more than they make, are as universally
gloomy. disconnected, and peeyish
In Tue management of Your domestic con.
Germs, let prudence, aud wise economy always
prevail Lei neatnesS, order, Judgment, be
seen IN all your different departments. Unite
hbeTaiIiy with Just frugaiiiy; always reserve
something for the hand of charity, and never
lei your door be closed to The voice of sutferine,
y sndnity. Your servants in particular viii |
have the strongest claim upon your Charity
Let them be we'll fed, well clothed, nursed in |
sickness. and never uniusty treated
could as easily write a volume upon this in. |
teresting subject, as the short letter which Won |
now receive. But, | am persuaded. il il of |
more Importance to lead yOu " 10 reflect. i'm |
time, upon the essential means ofsecurinc mar.
rimonIal happiness" than to enter into more |
minute detail. Without such reflections. Won
would expect an effect, when the sufficient
canye WAS removpd In sbcrf sf,..,E. -. -