The Portland gazette. [volume] (Portland, Me.) 1818-1824, 1818-09-15

excites those sentiments in the breast OF her
husband, wilnever regain the high ground
which she might, and ought to have retained.
When he marries her,i he be good man,
lie expects from her smiles, not frowns; he
expects 10 find in her one who is not to con-
troll him, not to take from him the freedom OF
acting as bis own judgment shall direct +; but
one who will place such confidence IN hlm,as
to believe that his own prudence Is his best
guide. Little things, which, in reality, are
mere trifles in themselves often produce bck-
erings and even quarres. Never permit them
to bea subject OF dispute. Yield them with
pleasure, with smile Of affection. Be assur-
ed, that one difference outweighs them all, a
thousand, or ten thousand times. A differ
ence, in reality, with your husband ought to
be considered as the greatest calamity, as one
that is TO be most sudiously guarded against
il is demon, which must never he permitted
to enter habitatiou, where all should be
peace, unimpaired confidence and heartfelt al
lection. Besides, what can woman gal n by
her opposition, or her differences Nothing.
But she loses every thing she loses her bus
bands respect for her virtues she loses his
ose, and with that, all prospect OF future hap
piness. She creates her own misery, and
then utters idle and silly complaints /; but u
| ters them in vain. The love OF husband can
be retained only by the high opinion wbi ch
he eniertains of bis wife's goodness of heart,
of her amiable disposition, OF the sweetness OF
her temper, ofher prudence, and Of her deso-
ton TO BIN. Let nothing, Upon any occasion,
ever lessen that opinion. On the contrary ii
should augment every day be should have
much more reason to admire her Tor those ex-
celIent qualities, which will cast luslre over
a virtuous woman, when her personal s,trac-
| tons are no more.
has your husband staid out longer than
you expected When he returns. receive him
as the partner OF your heart. Has he disap.
pointed you in something you expected,
whether OF ornament or furniture, or Of any
other convenience never eyince discomfort /;
receive his apology with cheeriulness. Does
he, when you are housekeepers, invite COM
pany, without informing you oirt, or bring
home with him friend, whatever may be
your repast, however scanty il may be, how
ever impossible ii may be TO add TO it, receive
xhem with pleasing countenance, adorn your
table with cheer fitness, give TO your husband
and TO your company hearty welcome it
will more than compensate tor every other
deficiency it will eyince love for your bus
band, good sense in yourself, and that polite
ness OF manners, which acts as the most pow
erful charm it will give TO the plainest fare
best superior 10 all that luxury Can boast.
Never be Disconnected upon any occasion of
this nature. Ilspologies, as silly people Of
tenthink, be necessary, your husband will
make them or, an ingenious wife will, with
good hunor, banter her husband for giving
hi. friends SO Indifferent repast.
In the next place, as your husbands sue
cess in bis profession will depend upon bis
popularity, and, as The manners OF wife have
no little influence in extending, or lesscning
the respect and esteem of others for her hus-
band, you should take care TO be a1able and
polite to the poorest, as well as to the rich.
A reserved haughtiness il the sure indication
of a weak mind and an unieeling heart.
With respect to your servants, teach them
to respect and love you, whilst you expect
from them reasonable discharge of their
respective duties. Never teaze yourself and
them by scoIding il has no ober effect than
to render them Disseminated and mperinent.
Admonish them with calm 6rmness, and if
that mode will not produce the desifed effect,
let them be moderately punished.
Cultivate your mind by the perusal Of those
books which instruct, whilst they amuse. Do
not devote your time to novels. They tend
to viiate the taste, and TO produce disrelish |
for substantial, intellectual food. Plays are
OF the same cast they are not friendly to |
that delicacy, which is one OF the ornaments |
of the female character. History, geogra.
ply, poetry, moral essays, biography, travels,
sermons, and other well written religious pro-
auctions, will not fail TO enlarge your under
standing, TO render you more agreeable
and to exalt your virtue. A wo-
man, devoid OF rational IDEAS of religion, has |
no security for her virtue !; it is sacrificed to
her passions, whose voice, and not that of her
God, is her only governing principle. Be-
sides, in those hours Of calamity, TO which
families must be exposed, where win she find
a support, if it be not In her just reflections
upon that all ruling Providence, which gov
ems the universe, whether animate or mani
mate
Mutual politeness between the most init
mate friends, is essential to that harmony,
which should never be once broken, or inter
rupted. How important then is if between
TDan and wife The more warm the attach