Virginia Argus. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1796-1816, 1805-07-06

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following Ersrdef and noto efer il to you
for insertion.
A FRIEND TO PIETY.
An Address to Married Persons
The duties between man and wife arc
various and important. They suppose
the union not of persons only, but also
aud particularly of affections. 1t is not
Joining of hands, but of hearts, which
constitutes marriage in the sight Of Cod.
See then, that no motives OF Interest or
convenience deceive you into a notion that
you love one another, while you do not.
God never winks at the violation Of ma.
ture, nor suffers il to take place with im-
punity. But this must take place in eve
~ marriage where mutual attachment is
wanting. And that family is uniformly
cursed with the most substantial wretch
edness, where there subsists 10 love be-
tween the heads of it. Thou who art tile
husband, mistress thy wife with delcscy
and discretion. Nothing in nature is SO
endearing, SO winning, so captivating az
tenderness; nothing creates aversion so
soon, SO strong, SO inveterate, as rudeness,
indifference, or disrespeet. She depends
on thee forproteclion & comfort, in her diff
culties. Forthy sake he hasleft herfriepds.
her connections, & all the world, & should
she meet with tvrant instead Of aiover.
she may repent of this day as long as she
lives.------N Never incense or insult her
Gas thou wishest 10 keep thy own temper
and peace, ruifle not hers: for crossness
and asperily, especially when they settle
IN moroseness and ili-nalure, are the quail
lies OF savage, not of Christian. Ne
yer, on any pretence whatever, .quander
that in dress, drinking, or dissipation,
which thou shouldst lay by for the bene-
fit Of thy family. BY the laws of God and
man, of justice and love, they have exclu-
sive claim on whatever thou canst earn:
and every unnecessary indulgence which
thou takcst, apart from them, is at their
expense and injury. Consult thy wife.
especially IN all cases of difficulty, il is
her interest as we'll as her duty 10 give
thee the best advice she can. Never keep
her ignorant of thy circumstances this
has been the undoing of millions of fami-
lies. The wife who deserves the name.
viii never fail to economist, when she
knowsthat her partners circumstances re-
quire 1t. Be not much uneasy, though
the world should sometimes think she has
her full share of influence. Women Of
good sense, seldom abuse their husbands
confidence. And thou wilt see few han
py families in which the wife is either a
slave or CIPHER.
BE ye equally yoked, is the command
OF God: let neither seek basely To throw
an undue weight on the Others shoulders.
Suffer no interference from any quarter
whatever TO interrupt your harmony you
are connected for life. Nothing can Sc
parate your fate in this world; o let no.
thing divide your affections. Regard each
other with the fullest confidence the least
spark OF suspicion from either, must FORE
yer blast the comfort Of both. There can
be no harmony where there is no faith. A
wife should not only love her husband, but
on every occasion shew him the greatest
attentions Study by every means TO make
his home comfortable and inviting
Where the treasure is, there will the
heart be also; and mans presence, as
well as his heart, will always be there
most, where he has most pleasure. And
III venture to assert il as facs incontesti-
bic, that he who finds his home a paradise,
will seldom stroll into the wilderness of
the world While on the other hand, a
scolding wife an hot house has driven
many wretched husband to The tavern,
where cards, women, and wine, have seal
ed his own destruction and that of his ia.
mily.
In word, be babitually loving and kind
10 one another. Have no separate secrets,
nor allow yourselves any airs OF mystery
but open your whole hearts TO each other.
Conceal as much as possible one anoiher's
foibles, and cultivate habits of affabilily,
iorbearance and good nature. Never DC
sullen or IN petwi,h each other, especial
ly IN the presence Of strangers. And, to
say all IN love, live together as the heirs
Of glory.
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