Punjabi wedding traditions

Punjabi wedding traditionsare a strong reflection of Punjabi culture with ritual, song, dance, food, and dress that have evolved over centuries.
Roka is one of the most significant ceremonies that take place before a Punjabi wedding. The roka ceremony marks the union of both the bride and groom's family and friends. Gifts from both families are acceptable at Rokka.
Engagement is a significant part of a Punjabi wedding. First, the girl is draped with aphulkari(very decorative dupatta), which is usually very ornate. In some families thischunniis a family heirloom, passed down from generation to generation. She is also presented with jewellery, which her mother and sister-in-law help her wear. A tiny dot of henna paste (mehndi) is applied to her palm for good luck, and the function is sealed with the exchange of rings. The bride's father applies the tikka (forehead mark) to the groom's forehead and blesses him. Exchange of gifts takes place between the two families. Everyone present congratulates the couple by feeding them sweets.
The word sangeet is Sanskrit for "sung together." A sangeet ceremony is a traditional Punjabi and North Indian prewedding ceremony involving lots of festive dancing and celebratory songs. According to Sen, "it is traditionally recognized as a prewedding custom only in many parts of North India. Historically, the Indian wedding tradition of a sangeet ceremony was a female-only event that was organized by the ladies of the bride and groom's families to celebrate the bride a few days before the main wedding ceremony. Modern Sangeet ceremonies have evolved to being celebrated in either ones homes or in larger venues to accommodate the proposed number of guests.
The last major function before the wedding is decoration with temporaryhenna(mehndi). This is often blended with the sangeet ceremony. Mehndi artists are called to the houses of the boy and girl and apply mehendi to the palms of the female family members, groom and the hands and feet of the bride. A basket containingBindiand bangles is handed around so girls can choose those that match the outfit they plan to wear to the wedding. The Mehendi ceremony takes place in the atmosphere of a party. The bride and other ladies get mehendi (hennadesigns) done, on their hands and feet (most ladies get it done only on their hands but the bride gets it done on both hands and feet). For the bride themehendiis sent by the future Mother in Law, which is beautifully decorated.
Chooda: On the wedding day the rituals at the girl's home begin with thechoodaceremony. The oldest maternal uncle and aunt play an important role in the performance of the ceremony. Choora is basically a set of Red bangles, gifted by girl'smama(mother's brother).  People touch the choora and give their heartiest wishes to the girl for her future married life. Also, they sprinkle flower petals on the bride. After that, the girl's uncle, aunt, friends and cousins tie kaliras (silver, gold or gold plated traditional ornaments) to a bangle worn by the girl.
Mayian: This is the preparation ceremony one day before a Punjabi wedding. This ceremony is an evening festival, at the couple's parental homes. It consists of many rites, theBatna,Choora,Jaggofireworks and sometimes the LadiesSangeetandMehndi. The mayian happens the night before the wedding and is celebrated according to which part of Punjab the participants are from.
Vatna/Haldi: Four lamps ordiyasare lit and the bride sits facing them. Oil is constantly poured into the lamps, so that the glow from the diyas is reflected on her face.Vatnainvolves applying a paste made from turmeric powder and mustard oil all over the bride's body by her female friends and relatives. This is done to make the bride look more beautiful on the most special day of her life. This ritual demands that the bride stay at home in her old clothes for a couple of days before her wedding.Ubtanis supposed to bring a glow to the bride's and groom's body, especially on their faces. This tradition is also known asShaintin some cultures. After this ritual, the bride and groom are constrained from meeting each other until the wedding ceremony.
Ghara gharoli: A decorated pitcher of water (ghadoli) is brought for the bride's bath by the bride'sbhabi(brother's wife). In theghara gharoliritual, the bride's sibling or sibling's spouse visits the nearby temple and fills a pitcher with holy water. The girl is then bathed with this holy water. Thereafter, the bride wears her wedding attire. The ghara gharoli and the vatna ceremonies take place at the groom's house too. But over there, the groom's sister-in-law brings the pitcher of water. As per the tradition, their wedding dress is presented to them by their respective maternal uncles.
Jaggo: In this ceremony, the family dances and sings in the beautifully decorated wedding home.Jaggois celebrated in the last hours of the night. They decorate copper or brass vessel calledkhadaawithdiveh(clay lamps) and fill them withmustard oiland light them. The bride or bridegroom's maternal aunt (mami) carries it on her head, and another woman will carry a long stick with bells, shaking it. The women will then go into other friends' and families' homes; after being welcomed by sweets and drinks, they dance there and move on. It is a loud ceremony, filled with joy, dancing, fireworks, and food. It is also practised in Pakistan.
Sarvala: A young nephew or cousin dons the same attire as the groom. He is called thesarvala(caretaker of the groom) and accompanies him.
Sehra: Like the bride's home, the Vatna and Ghara Gharoli are followed by the dressing up of the groom in his wedding attire. After the groom has dressed up in his wedding clothes, apujais performed. Thereafter, the groom's sister ties thesehraon the groom's head. After the completion ofSehrabandiceremony, all those who witness the function give gifts and cash to the boy as a token of good luck.
Varnais a ceremony that is supposed to ward off the evil eye. The groom'sbhabilines his eyes withsurma(kohl).
Ghodi Chadnais the final ceremony at the groom's place. The groom's sisters and cousins feed and adorn his mare. To ward off the evil eye, people use cash and perform theVarnaritual. The cash is then distributed among the poor. After this the boy climbs the horse and leaves his home for the wedding venue.
Milniliterally means "introductions". In a Sikh marriage,Ardasis performed by the person in charge of looking after the Sikh scriptures, followed by the formal introductions of senior men in the families. For example, both eldestchachas(father's younger brother) will come together and exchange garlands of flowers.  In the Milni ceremony,the girl's relatives giveshagun(a token of good luck) to the groom's close relatives in descending order of age. Cash and clothes are gifted.
Jaimala/Varmala: After Milni, the bride and groom come in the center of the circle where the family is standing, and place a heavily made garland made of flowers-varmalaon each other to state, they accept each other and will love and live together with one another. Friends and relatives of the bride and groom indulge in teasing and fun, to celebrate this happy occasion. An auspicious time or muhurat is chosen for the performance of wedding ceremony.
Kanyadaan and Phere: The bride's father puts a ring on the boy's finger and then he gives his daughter to the boy. This ritual is known as the Kanyadaan. It is after the kanyadaan that the pheras begin. The pheras take place in front of the sacred fire,agni. After this the groom appliesSindoor(vermilion) to the girl's hair partition and theMangalsutraRasam takes place where the groom ties a beaded necklace i.e. a mangalsutra to the girl's neck. When all these rituals are over, the couple gets up to touch the feet of all the elder members in the family and seek their blessings for a happily married life. In a Hindu Punjabi Wedding, Agni (sacred fire) is usually encircled seven times.
In aSikh wedding, the bride and groom will walk in tow around theGuru Granth Sahibfour times, calledlaavaan. This signifies they not only vow to see each other as one soul in two bodies, the ideal in Sikh marriage, but also as the Guru as the center of their marriage. Sikhs do not do pujas during any part of the marriage ceremony.
Joota chupailiterally means 'hiding the shoes'. The bride's sisters indulge in stealing of shoes. It is a fun tradition, in which the girls charge a fee for agreeing to return the shoes. They demand Kalecharis of gold for the bride's sisters and of silver for her cousins.
Vidaai/Doli: Vidaai marks the departure of the bride from her parental house. As a custom, the bride throws phulian or puffed rice over her head. The ritual conveys her good wishes for her parents. A traditionally sad ritual, here the bride says goodbye to her parents, siblings and rest of her family. Her brothers/male cousins then lead her to her husband, who waits to take her to his family home to begin her new life as a married woman. Her relatives throw coins in the wake of this procession.
The mother-in-law has a glass of water in her hand, which she circles three times around her new daughter-in-law and then offers it to her to drink, as a symbol of her acceptance and blessing as her newest daughter.
Reception at the boy's house: The newlyweds are welcomed in a ceremony called thepani bharna. Then the bride must, with her right foot, kick thesarson ka tel(mustard oil) that is put on the sides of the entrance door before she enters the house. Then, along with her husband, she must offerpujain their room. Then they must touch the feet of the elders in a ceremony calledmatha tekna. The rest of the evening is spent playing traditional games.
Phera Dalna: The newly weds visit the bride's parents on the day after the wedding. The bride's brother usually fetches them.
Songs of the bridegroom's side
Sitthniyan (taunts)
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