What Did I Do to Deserve This?: A Step-By-Step Guidebook to Move You Through the Abusive Relationship Towards a Peace-Filled Future
by Joan McNeill
Category: Abused men

Dr. Joan McNeill takes us on a journey into the soul of the emotional and physically abused man or woman and the steps to move through to the other side for a peace filled life. The cycle of blame and shame, denial and rationalization, distraction and celebration are chronicled so succinctly as to at times cause the reader to blush with the intimacy of the details. The cycle of violence can so easily be seen as a passionate love story, in which both the victim and the predator see themselves as the lone tortured star. This will be a welcome sigh for those of you who have predominantly played the most obvious "crazy-person" role. This book addresses integrity, of an abuser and the abused. What Did I Do to Deserve This? also allows you to help heal the unseen wounds of the children who have seen and heard enough. Dr. McNeill shows us how to be open, to not pretend the damaging events did not occur or "happen that way." Because the events did happen, and they are encoded into the child's soul. When you help heal your children, you will inadvertently heal yourself too. Book jacket.