Her eyes opened up to the spiritual quality of her life. Up until this point, she'd been hiding, afraid to interact with people, tucked away inside herself. Now she is animated and alive, as she sees the larger perspective and understands the meaning of it for her life. Those in couples can have compassion for one another's suffering, as well. Instead of simply being involved in power struggles, couples can come to see that the behaviors of their mates are the result of the difficulties and challenges that they have experienced all their lives.
True understanding shifts the entire relationship.
The same process of understanding can help employees who are intimidated by their bosses or who have exasperating co-workers. Shifting into attitudes of understanding, into the desire to look deeply into the reasons for the behavior, into the fact that these people who are causing suffering are themselves suffering so greatly can shift the entire dynamic of the problem. In hypnotherapy, for example, we can help our clients to see into the other person, see his or her childhood or life lessons, understand these in very deep ways. Very often, then, the problem in the outer reality is either solved or much easier to endure. We can see how the sufferings of our lives have had many advantages.