When these painful and negative thoughts begin to emerge in relationships, people sometimes act as they really feel for the first time in decades. What appears to be a bad and even dangerous period for some people can actually bring them closer to God, because these individuals honestly wrestle with God rather than fearfully comply. Third, no change isn't necessarily a sign of stagnation. Even when someone gets help with their behavioural problems, there may be no immediate results. Depression lingers, a marriage teeters on the edge, an alcoholic hits the bottle again.
Time is the critical component.
Wounds are never healed overnight. Spiritual and emotional growth isn't instantaneous. In Scripture, God often compares our maturity to how plants thrive. In season, meaning at the proper time. Given adequate time, the proper ingredients for growth and the work of the Holy Spirit, fruits will develop.