I'm a journalist, age 40. I'm writing to express my appreciation for ATM . I love male bonding, especially nude wrestling and cross-dressing. I'm bi, and venerate multiple fetishes. As a third-genderish bi partner of a bi tranny boy, I think it's been long since time we, as a community, started facing up to our own squeamishness, our own transphobia.
Sex is where a lot of oppressions live, where they really come out.
Thanks for opening up the discussion. I do take issue, however, with the idea that the fractious relationship between trans women and non-trans women is because trans women don't own up enough to their previous incarnations' privileges. While I agree with some of the points Heather brings up, I find this idea problematic. Here in Vancouver, the debate around including trans women in women-only spaces is currently raging, and has culminated in some downright frightening occurrences. This debate reminds me how I used to feel whenever lesbians would start harping on and on about my straight privilege the second I came out as being bi.