When it is something as serious as sexual relations, it needs to be approached with openness and honesty not ridicule and threats. Some variables in teenage sex are not directly related to sex at all. For teens, sex is often just a physical act, and they don't understand the emotional connections that should be involved. According to Young, if you can encourage teens to identify their feelings about friends and school, they can then use this identification process to evaluate their feelings about boyfriends, girlfriends and the sexual activities in which they are involved. Self-esteem is another related issue.
Teens sometimes see sexual activity as a way of being liked or accepted.
The stronger their self-esteem, the less likely they will be to look to sex to fill these needs. Young encourages parents to be vocal about their teens' positive attributes and abilities. Encourage them in what they do well. For many teens, particularly girls, even though they have tried sex once, it doesn't necessarily mean that they want it to continue. Sex at this age is not always a loving act, but can be rough or crude.