This does not mean that the parent is never to do anything that might irritate their children. Discipline often irritates children. Do not keep on irritating your children. If parents nag their children it will dampen their spirits. Some Christians over react to the permissiveness of society and flaunt authority to their children.
Unfair punishment causes exasperation.
When a parent fails to distinguish what a child must learn on his own and what must be enforced as a rule, the parent will punish the child capriciously. Withdrawal of affection causes exasperation in the child. There must be a balance between discipline and love. All discipline should be done in love and not out of personal injury. Discipline is not the same as punishment.