Nonproductive thoughts, even when they are accurate, are also problematic. For example, a parent who is preoccupied with anger toward the child may often experience repeated thoughts such as, he is impossible or she is awful . It is important to redirect such thoughts in a more productive way by focusing on how to best help the child adjust. Pessimistic thinking is also unproductive. Most problems are changeable rather than permanent, specific rather than pervasive, and non-personal rather than personal.
Some parents feel guilty about their child s problem.
It is important to cope with negative experiences when parenting children. Problems are a part of life. When you model coping, your child learns to cope by watching you. Rather than self blame, it is more helpful to focus on coping and helping the child learn to cope. In order to enhance open communication with your child, it is important to set aside a special time and place to talk or share an activity on a predictable and consistent basis.