We've all either experienced or known of those who are judged, even condemned, for leaving relationships, breaking up, discontinuing that connection even with a friend, much less a wife or husband. Yet little thought is given in condemning them to celebrate their 17th anniversary with a hidden grimace. All other reasons or rationales will change. You can count on it because it's your experience. When preserved and analysed excessively, your relationship loses the quality of relating and becomes stagnant.
Verbs become nouns.
Action slows down, and in some cases, totally halts. You may be able to identify some of your own relationships which have been pressed into a nonrelating mould. The exercises in this book will help you take a close look at them. You are stuck in a conclusion and can't get out. An alive relationship is a direction, not to be mistaken for a conclusion.