Sometimes, if it's appropriate, allow your children to bring friends along. On occasion, separate your children, so that you can have individual time with each one. Show respect for your former partner and concern for your children. Show up on time. Share changes in address, telephone numbers, jobs, etc.
Some parents use visitation to achieve destructive goals.
Destructive goals are those that are based on one parent seeking to hurt the other parent, to disrupt his or her life, to inflict revenge for past or present hurts. To achieve that goal, the parent may use destructive strategies. This can create an even more hostile relationship with the former spouse and can seriously damage the relationship between the children and one or both parents. Destructive strategies can be deeply hurtful to the children caught in the middle and must be avoided. Don't refuse to communicate with your former partner.