Arguing gives them practice in defending their position and can be a constructive learning technique. Involving the teen in the decision does not take away a parent's power, but helps to create a balance of power and control. Allowing teens to have some control in this way lets them know they are important and valued and CAN indeed work with you through important life decisions. Myth Five Teens are moody, rebellious, and never serious. Instead of believing the worst, look at the positive aspects of teen years.
Teens are curious, imaginative, and have many new ideas about the world.
This stage is a time of remarkable social and mental growth. There are certainly many physical changes during this time, but the effects of these changes depend on the social, personality, and temperament factors of the child. Adolescents are now capable of complex reasoning and thinking. Given guided practice, youth can make thoughtful decisions. Look for the positive aspects of budding development while modeling what you want.