Abusive behavior is any act carried out by one partner aimed at hurting or controlling the other. A violent relationship means more than being hit by the person who claims to love or care about you.
Violence is about power and control.
When someone uses abuse and violence against you, it is always part of a larger pattern to try and control you. Even though most people think that violence in relationships happens only between married persons, the same kind of violence also happens between people who are dating regardless of their sexual orientation. Even if you are not being hurt physically, verbal and emotional abuse are just as painful and often lead to physical violence. It can include everything from unwelcome sexual comments to kissing to intercourse. Victims may also come to view abuse as a normal part of their relationships.