In the teen years they are reaching out toward their peers and working toward independence, while at the same time they are fighting against the dependence on their parents. I have helped many parents earn their position as consultants with their teens. Having this open trusting relationship enables the teen to make the transition into independency much easier. Until your teens get their drivers license, you have a natural opportunity for conversation with them whenever you chauffeur them alone in the car. You will be surprised what you can learn as you drive your teen to doctor appointments or to other places of importance to them.
Teens feel more comfortable talking in casual conversation.
Thus, these times can be especially promising when you're picking up your teen-ager after a class trip or from some other activity. Another useful time with a teen is during a period that you are doing a task together. We all want our teens to know that we have a special interest in them. However, it is important that you show an interest in and learn about their particular interest, even if it is quite different from yours. This may require a certain openness and time investment for you.