This is one of the easiest parts of the adoption, usually there is much more excitement going on then stress, as you are finally getting on with your family plan. This is when the application is done and plans are made to what type of adoption you are looking for. References usually two or three friends, co-workers, etc. Family members are excluded.
Some agencies do request physicals.
When you are having meetings with the social worker, she will be writing your home study for you in most cases. In order to write the home study about you she will ask you questions about your own up bringing, family members, any problems within your marriage you may have had, etc. Please do not feel that this person is prying into your life, as it is their job to get this information to make the correct evaluation. All the information over the coarse of the last month and maybe two will be complied and sent to the state to keep on record for the adoption. This is because until the adoption is finalized which in the State of Maine takes 6 months, the child is left in your Foster Care.