I just don't see it as an expression of love the way my husbands does. I would love to hear any comments you may have on our situation. I just don't know what to do. B.K. Dear B.K., One of the most important reasons that husbands and wives fail to meet each other's emotional needs is that they don't share the same interest in them. Men want marriage to emphasize the needs that they have, such as sex, and women want marriage to emphasize needs that mean most to them, such as affection and conversation.
Truth is, they can do it all.
Marriage can meet a man's need for sex and a woman's need for affection and conversation, even when the wife has little interest in sex and the husband has little interest in affection and conversation. The key to understanding how men can meet women's needs and vice versa is to understand that one's own needs or interests are not required to meet someone else's needs. A man who has no need for affection can learn to be an affectionate husband, and a woman with no need for sex can learn to be a great sex partner. It really works, and it often increases a man's interest in affection as well. Why don't you have more interest in sex, you may ask.