After all this time, you may no longer be able to tell what part is you and what part is the problem. Now that you are an adult, it is important that you recognize that you no longer have to have your problem to get our attention. You can be you in the world. All by yourself, without the help of your problem, you are enough to merit our love and respect. Minor problems appear major to us.
Small risks loom large.
To our way of thinking, we are only taking appropriate precautions. But everyone else can see that we are making mountains out of molehills. Part of it is personality. Part of it arises from traumatic experiences we have endured. Quite frequently, we can trace some of our fears to alarming comments we have heard from friends or authority figures at impressionable times of our lives.