I don't know what I was most appalled about, the affair, or his reason for telling me. I had to share in the pain of his weaknesses, that hurt the most. The selfishness of his guilt. I did nothing wrong. Honesty is not always the best policy.
Some truths are best unsaid.
Now my dream man has a huge flaw that will never go away. All because he felt that he had to tell me. Sure, occasionally the honesty of an elected official, or someone in a position of trust, is examined in conjunction with an investigation. And child-rearing reports may also include some homily to the virtues of honesty. But, outside of these safe containers, there is a marked absence of adult discourse on the subject.