Lengthy engagements and formal announcements are not the stuff of second marriages. Better to put out the word informally by phone and handwritten notes. The invitations to the reception may be engraved if it is going to be a lavish affair, and these may be issued either by the parents of the bride or by the couple themselves. Simple wedding announcements are appropriate when sent the day of the wedding or soon afterward. This is an excellent way to let faraway family and friends know about the event.
Some clergymen are still reluctant to marry divorced people in a full church ceremony.
In that case, the clergyman may offer to marry the couple in his study or elsewhere. If he refuses to perform the ceremony at all, the contemporary couple will often approach a different clergyman who is known to perform second weddings. Or they may simply choose to be married by a judge. Instead, the bride is preceded up the aisle by her matron of honor to meet the groom and best man, who are already standing at the altar. A widow may be escorted by a son, a family friend or her matron of honor.