Relational issues are always crucial. Unresolved conflict in the marriage can cause men and women alike to become resistant to sex. In addition, freedom in sexual play depends on a sense of trust and safety, so guilt over real or imagined sin can also interrupt lovemaking. Any of these factors are possible culprits. The first step to take in solving this dilemma is to talk to each other.
Sexual dysfunction feels very threatening to men.
Your husband may feel embarrassed, sad, angry, scared or even hopeless. He needs your reassurances, tenderness, love and praise. If you can both get beyond the negative feelings, you can work together to find a solution. Don't let the strong feelings associated with the problem keep you from pressing on to discuss things. Really talk about what's been going on and how each of you feels about it.