You begin as whole and end up with holes. Like a circle that becomes a jigsaw piece you feel empty and unfulfilled and then go out into the world looking for the missing parts of you. You believe that only an external source can give you back to yourself. Once upon a time you disowned the parts of yourself that came with pain, so only you can reintegrate them. No one else is responsible for your happiness and wholeness, only you are.
True wholeness comes from filling our holes from the inside out.
When you need another to make you feel whole, beautiful, worthy or loved this is an indication that the parts of yourself that know beauty, wholeness, self-worth or love are walled off along with the pain that came to speak to you about truth. To find wholeness again you must face the prisoner of every dungeon that walls off the parts of your whole self. And you must face the prison warder and question the beliefs that built the dungeon. The only way out is in. You wear the mask whenever you fear that the truth of that part of yourself will be revealed.