Looking to the world for moral guidelines is like going to a dermatologist who thinks band-aids are a cure for leprosy. Pornography's hold on me grew stronger as I grew older. The effect this had on my sexual life was always obvious to me, even when I was unable to see it through the eyes of the Holy Spirit. One effect it had on me that I was unable to see until I was well on my way to recovery was my inability to be intimate with others. Godly sex is an extension of the intimacy between a husband and wife.
Worldly sex is a perverse, destructive form of self-gratification.
I remember sitting in Stephen Black's office one evening when he said something that opened my eyes. He told me that whenever we sin sexually we're hurting our very souls. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. The way we treat others is a mere reflection of how we feel about ourselves. If we aren't able to see ourselves as God does then we can not react to others in a true spirit of love.