Through consecration of all parts of our being, we integrate them and achieve the exalted state of true Self-Will. Emotions and lust can be transformed into transcendental ecstacy. Where there is only release, there is no worldly enjoyment. The secret is that the act must be accompanied by non-dualism between 'fleshly' and 'spiritual'. The dependency created by habit must be broken, one must master habit.
Sexual habits are the most restrictive.
By ignoring or sublimating the Will of the Self, such ingrained habits obliterate awareness and stunt growth and evolution. Once the initial fear of change is overcome, the rewards will be instantly realized. Tantra requires adaptability in the area of sexual love. Kill this louse and find the Teaching. Where there is no ecstacy, there is no Creation.