On the other hand, a little leather and some new lighting may rekindle passionate love. My husband of seven years has recently stopped approaching me sexually. But I don't buy it. When changing the sheets, I've seen evidence that he masturbates while I'm sleeping right next to him. I don't even know what to think or how to approach him anymore.
Sex is often a barometer of the overall marital climate.
Fear of failure powerfully affects a man's sexual performance. If this feeling of being capable is threatened, it can lead to premature ejaculation, erectile failure or diminished sex drive. Most men have a hard time admitting these fears. In fact, your husband may prefer masturbation because it's safer and physiologically easier than worrying about satisfying your sexual needs. He may also have involuntary ejaculations while he sleeps.