I'd guess both.
Women initiate the break up of dating and marriages more often than men.
In any case, it helps to be totally honest and discuss your feelings, your expectations, and your weaknesses, long before marriage. Partners may have very different role expectations , i.e. who does the cooking, deciding, working outside the home, etc. Make these decisions jointly, honestly, and openly, don't just hope that the husband will do half the cooking and that the wife will stay home with the kids. Research indicates, contrary to popular belief, that the wife's working outside the home does not increase marital problems or harm the children's development. All marriages have money problems .