Women have no problem to solve by sex. Man is condemned to a perpetual pattern of linearity, focus, aim, directedness. The compartmentalizing of male genitality leads to dissociation of sex and emotion. It is a temenos or ritual precinct, a Greek word I adopt for the discussion of art. Every woman is a priestess guarding the temenos of daemonic mysteries.
Virginity is categorically different for the sexes.
A boy becoming a man quests for experiences. The penis is like eye or hand, an extension of self reaching outward. But a girl is a sealed vessel that must be broken into by force. The female body is the prototype of all sacred spaces from cave shrine to temple and church. But sex is power, and all power is inherently aggressive.