Remind yourself that in a very real way your husband will live on through you as you begin your new life. For some men being human includes facing the death of their wife. There is no way to weigh and measure grief. But there does seem to be some differences in the way men go about this business of grieving. While women report feeling empty when their spouse dies, men speak of amputation or dismemberment.
Women speak of the lost relationship, men speak of practical issues and activities.
Women don't particularly want to grieve either but they have this remarkable capacity to repeat their stories over and over. Men, on the other hand, say a thing once and fully believe that once should be sufficient. They cry a bit and appear puzzled that is not enough as the tears threaten to return time and again. Those voices belong to well-intended but misguided adults or bullies from the playground. You remember how it was.