When someone genuinely has our interest at heart and is willing to use all of his or her resources to bless us, we are usually glad to work cooperatively. There is one place where attention to rewards is critically important. Gerald Patterson at the Oregon Learning Center has shown that when children learn that the only way to get attention in their family is by acting out, they will act out. They coerce parental involvement through negative behavior. It is vital that we respond to the needs of our children before they turn to terrorism to get us involved in their lives.
Some people confuse love with indulgence.
They are not the same. The perfectly loving Parent often denies our requests, but, if we know Him, we know that He always acts in our best interest. And whoso receiveth you, there I will be also, for I will go before your face. The core problem of using rewards and punishment is that it does not teach children to listen to their inner voice, that subtle recording of the contracts and promises written in the courts on High. To ignore those messages is to ignore our eternal purpose.