All couples have problems at times. The goal for couples is to have the commitment and the communication skills to address the problems. These skills can be learned and partners self-esteem and closeness can be enhanced.
Unattended problems can fester and lead to hurt feelings and deeper rifts.
Communication skills are the tools needed to allow you to talk about and resolve differences. Hurt feelings from the past are dragged up during an argument. Attempted conversations are often met with silence. Time with friends, children or work seem to take priority. Little time is spent relaxing, being playful or romantic.