Know her talents and help her develop them. Do things together, talk about significant things, etc. If our goal is the perfecting of our wife, there are going to be times when we need to confront them and deal with a problem. There's the rub. Fear of confrontation.
True Love involves confrontation.
It often involves confrontation and correction, but that can only be done properly in love. Confrontation has always been hard for me. Over the years I have developed the attitude that I must have all the right answers before I dive into the fray. Whenever there is a disagreement with anyone, I usually back down. I also feel like I have no place confronting someone else when I don't have my act together and might be guilty of selfishness or something.