When you get down to it, the trappings of government office aren't what they used to be. Those that remain are not for your personal luxury, but rather are there to help you better serve. Your secretary is not a perk. He or she cannot shop for your spouse's birthday gift, or type your last will and testament, or send out your holiday greeting cards. You can't go home again.
Some people actually come from outside Washington to work in a new administration.
The occasions when your spouse may travel at government expense or travel on government aircraft are limited. Such occasions are scrutinized. Avoid the publicity. The nonprofit organization that elected you chairperson still needs your attention. You also may have to reconsider mixing the organization's work and your position as a possible conflict.