We may be in and out of therapy several times. New memories may surface, and new experiences may trigger us. People who are survivors are often caretakers. It is a survival technique. It takes a long time to unlearn that behavior.
Survivors often resent being judged.
We have judged and punished ourselves for years. We are usually harder on ourselves that anyone else can be. People who are survivors don't want your pity. Don't try to excuse the abuser's behavior. Don't categorize survivors.