In these examples of anxiety producing situations, anxiety is caused by taking a personal risk, wanting to be accepted, or wanting to be well-received. I wonder if I'm being rejected, I wonder if I'll be accepted, I wonder if I'm wrong in my opinion, I'm worried I'm not wanted or not really liked by these people I care about. These are examples of relatively normal situations in which most of us would experience anxiety from time to time. A contrast to these examples would be the individual who perpetually worries on a continuous basis. This individual worries on a fairly constant basis and makes him or herself very anxious about taking risks in his or her life.
Some people feel that their past life has been a series of disappointments.
They have grown up feeling unsuccessful or not particularly worthwhile as a person. So, as adults they often believe that the feelings and conditions under which they grew up will be the same throughout adulthood. Thus, they can set up the conditions that perpetuate the same old defeated feelings. Anxiety also comes if someone is really trying to change his or her feelings about himself or herself in order to come across differently, but at the same time they aren't sure how acceptable the change will be to others. Now let's talk about how to identify the causes of your anxiety and what to do about it.