In fact, I roll my eyes a lot. Reading lists like that is as much an exercise in getting to know the developers involved in a given project as anything. Some projects, by virtue of their mailing list traffic alone, are quite simply toxic if high-handedness and disdain for end users are any kind of metric. Developers working on projects designed to make life easier for users shoulder more of a responsibility than those who decided their particular itch-scratcher might be of interest to others but make no promises to the audience, and they incur a responsibility to at least attempt responsiveness. Users of these bits of encoded altruism have a responsibility to be constructive in their feedback.
Some developers are protective of their children and turn a cold shoulder, others are more open.