Being honest and claiming your faults as well as your strengths is the first step to building self-esteem. Many people find it harder to accept their strengths than to claim their weaknesses. Be compassionate, respectful and non-judgmental as you go through the check list. Mercy is the key word as you go over this list which is the absence of judgment. As people, we all have strength and weakness.
Weakness is the opportunity to grow stronger.
Mistakes are opportunities for real learning and personal growth. You must first accept that you made a mistake before you can profit from it. If you're unable to say the words, you're not alone. Most people are unable to do this. Stand nude in front of a full length mirror.