Spiritual leaders often say they value their family more than anything else, but when they do a time chart, their family often gets the smallest allotment of their time. The one with whom we spend our time is the one we value. Holifield showed up on the corner, in the supermarket and driving down the street, always with his family. He invited us to his home. There was no question that he identified with them and chose them over all others.
True value requires choosing to accept and identify with someone from among other possibilities.
Holifield certainly had other girls and options he could have chosen. Seven young women were interested in him and some of us used to think that he should make a different choice. But he chose the one he wanted and valued. It is only real value when we have a choice and are willing to act on that choice. Unlike some of us who were still too bashful to say we even liked a girl, Holifield was not ashamed to let the whole world know that he loved his wife and his baby.