Not every woman who is raped lived through it. That's what's most important. There aren't any easy answers. It comes down to a choice one person made to control another person. Rape isn't a crime about sex.
Sex is only a weapon.
It's even harder if you know the person who raped you. Yet, studies show us that most of the time the person is known to the victim. That doesn't mean that what happened to you wasn't rape. Even if you consented to sex before but didn't this time, it's still rape. You may feel completely betrayed because the person who did this was someone you knew and trusted.