Because they confuse rape with sex, many rape victims try to escape their traumatic memories by refusing to think about sex. Whatever you do, don't fall into that trap. You did not have sex with your rapist. Your rapist did not have sex with you. A rape is an act of violence.
Sex is a caress.
We now know that achieving and maintaining sexual desire in marriage is directly related to the amount of daily time we devote to warm, sexual thoughts about our mates. Once you recognize that a rape is not sex, you will once again feel safe to think about sex. Permit yourself to daydream about tender lovemaking with your husband. Questions and answers may be edited.