Successful couples don't let their disagreements contaminate the rest of the relationship. Or, put another way, it's hard to take her out to the ball game if you're not speaking. Often couples are so determined to avoid disagreeing they quit speaking. We also need to realize that every happy, successful couple has approximately ten areas of disagreement that they will never resolve. The divorce courts have it all wrong.
Successful couples learn to dance in spite of their differences.
If we switch partners we'll just get ten new areas of disagreement, and sadly, some of the most distructive will be about the children from our previous relationships. In addition to skills for handling disagreements, we also have to learn to welcome and embrace change. We need skills to integrate and negotiate change along the way. There are many different courses for learning the skills - many from which to choose . The courses are not about what kind of marriage to build - they give couples the tools to build and successfully maintain the marriage of their dreams.