The process is very selective. For example, just being kin is not sufficient to claim a place. Inclusion in mutual aid is an achieved, not an ascribed, status. Common experiences, similar perspectives on life, and insights as to how a person handles the complexities of her l ife are aids in deciding who is a likely candidate for sharing. Upon joining a network there is no formal agreement.
Women just begin to help each other out and the relationship is cemented over time.
Networks change as people move away, or one person is eliminated for not being dependable or for taking advantage of another. However, a direct request for assistance would be improper. People are not always able to provide help. Thus, making a n eed known is usually done indirectly. Additionally, reciprocity is a long-term matter.