There is no perfect relationship or person out there, so stop looking for perfection and work with the partner you have or the one you're about to start a relationship with. Every relationship offers the experience we need to perfect our skills. In fact, the relationship process offers the perfect opportunity for personal as well as relationship growth. Most relationships can be saved but you have to wake up, shake up and possibly even break up before you can make up. Married couples can learn how to stay together and reap the harvest of real and lasting love.
Singles can learn how to keep a relationship growing, instead of stopping it before it starts.
I call these tools Smart Heart Skills because we must use our heads and our hearts to create the relationships we'd love to have. Forget the rigid rules if you want to create and sustain a love-filled relationship. Women are more prepared in many ways to make the first move. Our socialization and upbringing makes us more comfortable with connection skills. As children, while we were orchestrating a night on the town for our Barbie and Ken dolls, the boys were making battle plans with their GI Joes.