I selected a vibrator shaped like a gun that had an exceptionally strong buzz, and Red chose a rubberized billy club. The idea was to stimulate our bodies and give feedback to each other about what we liked. Our final exercise had us breathing in tandem, rocking back and forth, and then simultaneously holding our breath and tensing all our muscles. Each writer and practitioner has a different take on tantra, but there are shared themes. The concept that sex is a significant, powerful force is what appeals to me most.
Western culture denigrates sexuality and relegates it to the margins of our lives.
Family, relationships, career, and spirituality are prioritized, and sex is seen as an added bonus to the important things in life. When the power of sex is acknowledged, it's used by the advertising industry or Hollywood, but only as a means to sell more stuff. The idea that sex could be channeled to transform your life is what tantra is all about. It's not as much about learning techniques or skills as it is about reorienting your beliefs and ideas about sex. I'm definitely getting tantric on your ass.