Many children have their own words for body parts. It is important to find out words they know and are comfortable with to make talking with them easier. Adolescents are able to talk about lovemaking and sex in terms of dating and relationships. They may need help dealing with the intensity of their own sexual feelings, confusion regarding their sexual identity, and sexual behavior in a relationship. Concerns regarding masturbation, menstruation, contraception, pregnancy, and sexually transmitted diseases are common.
Some adolescents also struggle with conflicts around family, religious or cultural values.
Open communication and accurate information from parents increases the chance that teens will postpone sex and will use appropriate methods of birth control once they begin. Maintain a calm and non-critical atmosphere for discussions. Use words that are understandable and comfortable. Try to determine your child's level of knowledge and understanding. Keep your sense of humor and don't be afraid to talk about your own discomfort.