Although many of us have some training in crisis intervention, that is not our job. You can only receive list mail if you are subscribed, and in most cases, you must be subscribed before you can post messages to a list. Subscription is free. These are wonderful for establishing and maintaining contact with others who understand your survivor grief and experiences. Please read this carefully because every list is different.
Some lists are fairly open and anyone can join.
Some list subscriptions are screened and added manually by list owners. There is no fail-safe way to ensure people on the list are who they say they are and have suffered the loss they describe. Occasionally, a list member has been found to be perpetuating a hoax. The best way to handle such morons is to pity them, forget them, and go on with your griefwork. That said, these mailing lists are typically peopled by very compassionate and non-judgemental individuals who are just as vulnerable and suffering just as much as you are.