They do not use the lover to fill up the emptiness within themselves, but are self-completed. The relationship brings out the best in them. They are friends who enjoy each other for their own individuality, yet the relationship is integrated into the totality of life, and they maintain other serious interests as well. Recovery from love addiction is possible, and with it, the opportunity for healthier, non-addictive relationships in the future. The first step is to admit there is a problem.
Spiritual resources are important for a balanced approach to handling any circumstance of life.
In a relationship with God , people have the assurance that God is with them always. No More by Melody Beattie, publ. How to Survive the Loss of a Love by Melba Colgrove, publ. Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them by Susan Forward,. publ. What To Do When He Won't Change , by Dan Kiley, publ.