Moreover, if you worry and exaggerate the awfulness of some possible event, if and when it actually happens, you experience the event as less scary than if it were a surprise. It may also seem safe to become like your own parent who was a worrier. By honestly understanding the reasons why we have useless unpleasant worries, perhaps we can learn to stop the excessive internal critic. If the reasons for your becoming perfectionistic become clear, you may realize that you no longer need to make impossible or difficult demands on yourself. Get on with living.
Uncertainty is a part of life.
You can handle whatever happens.