Before The Ceremony Before The Ceremony For a variety of reasons many couples today want to get more involved in creating their own ceremony. In other instances it is simply because they want to make this event a clear reflection of their intentions. Perhaps they have particular readings they would like to include, or ceremonial elements which they wish to create themselves. Whatever their reasons, it is important that couples getting married ask the officiant all of the questions they have and share all of their ideas and concerns, leaving nothing to chance.
Some officiants are relatively inflexible.
They have standard ceremonies they use over and over, only changing the names of the bride and groom. For many couples this is not a problem, especially if they want a wedding on short notice. Another advantage is that they know exactly what will be said and how long it will take. Other officiants are willing to spend time getting to know you so they can develop a ceremony that fits who you are. For personalized ceremonies more lead time is necessary, and you should expect to pay more.