By learning self love and self respect, you will find that you attract more positive, loving and supportive people and situations. Again, the key is to learn that you are not to blame, and that you have the power to take responsibility for your life choices today. Forgiveness is important in order to let go of this emotional baggage. However, forgiveness can feel threatening. It can feel as if you are placing a seal of approval on their behavior, and branding yourself at fault.
True forgiveness takes work.
Understanding that your abuser was also an abused child. Learning that it is not your fault. Learning that you can't change them, you can only change yourself. It's called developing personal responsibility. Learning that what happened in the past can't be changed, but you can learn to accept what is, and to turn your past experiences into strengths.