I thought it was over. Then in November of 99 I found her picture in his truck along with several condoms. Now I really am depressed, feel worthless, insecure and still have no desire for sex. First is your marriage in crisis. Second is your lack of sexual desire.
Sex is an important part of marriage for most people.
Your husband's desire for sexual contact in the face of your disinterest is legitimate. This being said, his having an affair is destructive to your marriage, to your ability to trust and feel intimate with him, and to your self-esteem. Please consider asking your husband to accompany you to marital therapy. His affair cannot continue if your marriage is to survive. You both might benefit from discussing your needs and fears together in a safe environment.