If it takes an hour to perform a set, don't expect to have the audience eating out of the palm of your hand after the first five minutes. Break up what you need to accomplish into manageable steps, and then acknowledge the milestones along the way. Sometimes it takes a while to prepare a difficult arrangement. If you only acknowledge the applause but not what got you there, you create expectations that are too big to handle at once and set yourself up for disappointment. But whatever you do, don't sit in the audience.
Spectators have no impact on the performance.
Get in there and play. . After a short period of time, Miles realized that he actually has what it takes to create a life worth living which includes some aspect of music. We set up an action plan that allowed him to move in the direction of creating music for cd-rom production, incorporating his music skills with his newfound computer skills. His new goals include soundtrack work, and setting up his own studio. He may never play the choice gigs, which was really only an ideal he had of what it meant to be a musician, but he will reach that level of fulfillment many only know in their dreams. .