Dear Alice, I have a fiancee who likes to masturbate in secret, even though we have sex five or six times a week and sometimes twice a day. Dear Reader, People's masturbation patterns are pretty unique to them. Some masturbate less when they have a partner, some do it more, and still others go on masturbating at the same rate they did when they were single.
Solo sex is often independent from partner sex .
If her masturbating is supposed to be a secret, perhaps confronting her about it wouldn't be the best way to get answers to your questions. It would surely be interesting to learn more about her thoughts on some or all of these subjects. Your fiancee may have new things to tell you about herself, and might even share feelings she has about you. Alice noticed that you call your partner's masturbating behavior a compulsion.