But at the same time you must realize that what you do has no effect in spiritual realms. Having learned that you can now choose if you still want to do it. The best way to learn about yourself is through contact with other people. That's why we were created as social beings, so that we may take advantage of our daily encounters with other people and through them learn of our selfishness and egoism. Sitting in a candle lit room chanting away your blues may be good for lifting your spirit, but it won't teach you a thing about spirituality.
Spirituality is about one thing only.
Converting your nature from all taking to all giving. To climb the rungs of the spiritual ladder means to become more and more altruistic, more and more caring and with a strong desire to help mend the world so that all people will be happy. Not just at peace, but genuinely happy. In order for your efforts to bare fruit they must be directed to that same goal for as much time of the day as possible. The only way one can do that is one joins a group of people who want that very same thing.