Address this as best you can. Share both painful and wonderful memories. This helps the child re member that mom was human too and she made mistakes. You might find it helpful to share certain aspects of your culture and religious beliefs. Children need to know who will care for them.
Some women find it helpful to discuss guardianship plans that have been made.
If you think their might be some difficulties with them, address this situation honestly. Identify either relatives and friends who can help them. Some women find it helpful to write a script, others just want to talk. You may want to be alone while you tape or you may want to have someone in the room with you. Do what feels right to you.