But it takes time to work through the feelings that accompany the story, and this is one reason why people who experience a trauma need to talk about it many times even after everyone is well familiar with the details. This requires that friends be supportive over time. This is different than just having a shoulder to cry on. Sexual assaults are more than just losses, they have a traumatic component, and this is why they challenge friends on how to be there and how to be supportive. Unless your friend somehow thinks she is at fault for being sexually assaulted.
Some victims feel that way.
Under no circumstances is the victim at fault. Sure, as we talked about a couple weeks ago, there are some precautions one can take to decrease their chances of being sexually assaulted, but victims are never at fault. Such as always watch your drink. It's used as an anesthetic in South America. That is exactly why this drug is so awful.