The successful men I know dress in business attire because they recognize the proven value of a professional appearance in business. Women have to get past their issues and emotions about what they wear to work. Women need to act on the fact that appearance is a differentiator in business, and use this knowledge to their advantage. It is much easier, and much more comfortable, for women to deny that appearance counts. There is no point.
Women gain nothing.
It is true that for women there are special traps that men do not have to consider when they dress for work each day. That is another fact that is not going to be wished away. Don't avoid these traps by putting yourself at a disadvantage in business. Instead, learn what they are and act appropriately. Women have to be willing and able to use every business tool, including dress, to enhance their careers.