Today, we're just beginning to understand the sex-pleasure connection in neurochemistry and the role it plays in chemical dependency. After all, we use sex for the same reasons we used chemicals-to feel better about ourselves, to feel accepted, to exercise power, to get even, to cover up guilt, to manipulate others. And the same psychosexual dynamic that contributed to our original addiction often continues without drugs and alcohol. There isn't one Big Answer. There are only a lot of little answers-and they all start with you being honest about your feelings.
Sex is so personal that it's often difficult to talk about it openly.
But keeping bad feelings bottled up can keep good feelings trapped. If sex becomes a problem for you, do what you need to do to resolve it. Talk it over with your partner. See a therapist if you think you need to. But remember that sex can be the glue that holds relationships together.