It can be very threatening for parents to see the peer group's values assuming such importance in their child's lives. Still, children do not relinquish their powers of thought. They approach problems systematically, try to see things from different perspective, have a marked sense of right and wrong and are ready champions of justice. When looking at drug and alcohol use, parents must recognize that young adolescents are easily swayed by what their peer group feels is appropriate. However, with expanding social consequences, young people may view the refusal to use tobacco, alcohol and other drugs as a civic responsibility.
Young adolescents are also concerned about their appearance.
If they believe drug and alcohol use will impair their looks and health, they are unlikely to be tempted by these practices. Don't abandon your child to the peer group, even though you may feel this is what they want. Base drug and alcohol messages on facts, not fears. Emphasize how drug use affects the things that are important to young adolescents such as sports, driving, health and appearance.