I only ask that you allow me to conduct the search in my own way. Sometimes I may need you to obtain information which can only be made available to you, the adoptee. I will, of course, advise you on who to contact. Above all, I hope to become your friend. We can then look forward together to a happy conclusion to your search.
Searches can be quite emotional, so be prepared for a few laughs and tears along the way.
This is quite normal and very healthy. And I always join in.