It was always in the spring when he started talking about suicide, too. The horrendous battle he had at school each day took its toll by springtime. It was a cry for help. When we were able to get him on medication at the age of ten things improved. But he continued to need psychological help.
Some youngsters have a much more difficult time than others.
Your daughter may be like many children with ADHD and have other complicating factors as well. We had our son fully evaluated psychologically to rule out any behavior disorders that might have also needed treatment. It helped me to understand that my son's behavior was a symptom of his disorder and even more, a cry for some sense of control over his life. We did all we could to increase his sense of independence and encourage decision making on his part. He has come out of it, but it wasn't easy.