It's best to err on the side of caution. While your friend may not want to attend the shower because it would be too painful, she may feel even more hurt if she isn't invited at all. Assure her that it is OK for her to decline the invitation if a shower is just too difficult for her. When to throw a baby shower Showers are normally given before the baby is born, generally a month or two before the mom's due date. It's a good idea to give the mom enough time following the shower to shop for items she didn't receive, yet wants to have before the baby arrives.
Surprises can be fun if they are the kind of thing the expecting mother typically enjoys.
In this case, you need to enlist the help of those close to the mom to find out her needs and wants for the baby. You'll also want to plan the guest list carefully, checking it with a close relative or friend to be sure you haven't omitted anyone close to the expecting mom. All rights reserved.