If we make our children outsiders, we invite them to become our enemies. He has bad habits. He's a pest. If we do not treasure our children's company, if we view them as a nuisance, they will wander away from us, becoming strangers. He invites trouble.
Trouble is only change.
Change is life, the power of creation. Revel in the power of your children to create, to be different from yourself. The final irony. On the scale of a community, the abuse of an orphan seems of little consequence when that child is small and meaningless. Yet when that child grows to adulthood, their wrath may spell the doom of the community.