I think if I could just save one woman and child from a horrid birth it would atone for mine. Now I make sure I tell who ever will listen. About What Happened You can get copies of all your records - you may need to make separate requests of your care provider and the facility where you received care. There are also some midwives and doctors reading misc.kids.pregnancy who occasionally respond about specific cases. I know it can be incredibly hard to look back on a difficult birth experience.
Some women feel violated on every level - physical, mental, emotional and spiritual.
Writing letters of complaint may even feel like a perpetuation of the trauma, much as victims of stranger assault can feel victimized by having to testify against their assailant. The answer is simple. You're doing it for your sisters, your cousins, your daughters, your nieces, and your eventual grand-daughters. If we don't start working now to change the system, your loved ones are likely to have the same horrible experience when they're ready to give birth. At the very least, simply write a letter expressing your disappointment that your experience was so different from what you were led to expect.