The impounding thought of whether or not the loved one suffered is one that dominates for a long period of time. The mental imagery is vivid and acute to the extent of imagining the absolute worst. In turn, the family becomes victims. Suicide can be an act of anger, a search for rest or relief, an act of desperation, or an attempt to find a better place to be. Despite the reasons, suicide is an intention.
Suicide is also a choice that the loved one made.
Since the death was by choice, there are tendencies for the survivors to blame themselves. Feeling guilty is another result of suicide survivors. Guilt is driven by the absence of an external cause to blame it on, and without that cause, family members tend to turn the blame inwards and place themselves responsible.