Doing the same things exactly the same way and expecting different results. Some people learn by conceiving ideas. Some people learn by being told. Some people learn by observation. Some people have to learn by experience.
Some people never learn.
In 1982 UCB won the big game with The Play. The moral for both sides is Don't Quit. Deep down you are still superficial. The secret of a happy marriage remains a secret. I think you should be asked so that when you are told the answer you will think you had input.