My statement did nothing to deter this group of young imperialists. More argument ensued, with the volume escalating. This incident was the first clear recollection that I have of feeling confused about having expressed anger. What men and women in our culture have come to expect is that there are different societal expectations for our genders when it comes to venting anger. It is these messages that confuse women at an early age and make them question their right to speak out when feeling anger.
Some women feel shame and guilt for simply feeling angry.
They withdraw into themselves and often only become aware of their anger when they find themselves tearful. When women minimize their anger, it makes it difficult to address the situation that is causing the uncomfortable feelings in the first place. And this is where women lose. By not paying attention to feelings, many women lose vital information that could be useful in helping them make choices that would allow for more satisfying and fulfilling lives. Many psychotherapists believe that unacknowledged anger can be displaced onto the shelf, resulting in low self esteem, anxiety and depression.