And since you can't really control anyone s actions, Dr. Braiker suggests you reframe your expectations as a preference. I would prefer that For example, she suggests, I would prefer that others, especially those I love, stay with me and not abandon or reject me. A salesperson might re-frame, I would prefer that customers welcome my calls, but sometimes they don t. The preference statement, writes Dr. Braiker, contains a tacit and accurate acknowledgement that others have free will to make choices even though they might disappoint or hurt you. Be sure to include your phone number.
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A listener from British Columbia e-mailed, I like myself, alright, but I don't get the respect I deserve from the people I work with, including my boss. He went on to explain how at meetings boss and the others ignored his ideas. But you know, a clue to me was the non-committal word alright. I heard the dull thud of a lack of sureness. Boss might also hear clunking when this man proposes new ideas.