The need to start small and be specific. Your belief that you can't change to become self-fulfilling prophecy. Discuss these with board members and others. High self-esteem results from making small positive changes in spite of fear. Confidence comes from conquering fear of change.
Unexpected pain can result from either huge setbacks or successes.
Change-artists analyze how fear of success can stop them from changing. They also know success does not magically bestow happiness. Fear of commitment to goals can make one stop short of setting appropriate goals. Choices and options are all open. One can make new choices anytime.