And if things get ugly, only one thing counts, winning. Assuming that old ties matter is stupid, because once the lawyers join battle, all hell breaks loose. People get mean and stupid and you better be ready to go to the mat. Of course you want a deal, everyone wants a deal, but to get to a deal, you better be ready to fight. If you want a family, work less, date more and get married.
Sex also helps.
The fact is a lot of web companies are founded by people who have money. They go to good schools and thus have no exposure to anyone who didn't grow up middle class in the burbs. Look, no school makes you smart. Harvard is filled with book smart people who have no clue about how things work. There are also people who worked their asses off to get there.