Measure it by your levels of energy, concentration, and personal productivity. The other things will come in time. If you're just waiting to shed pounds, you're going to be disappointed, because it won't happen the way you want it to. You-stress, meaning putting your body through a workout, is positive stress. It will help you deal with all the other stuff.
Training is for life.
Feel good about being selfish with your workouts. This is your time. Don't schedule over it or make excuses to miss it. Make a commitment and stick to it. Others will respect you for it, and you'll see dramatic results by sticking to the program.