So you earn his respect and confidence as his leader. When there is a problem that seems unsolvable, it is because everybody is overlooking the solution because of something they believe or don't believe. When you can change your perception and ask what it is the horse fears or is trying to evade or is not understanding, you are beginning to think horse logically. You can begin to communicate without dictating or bullying. He's only going to be trying to keep you from jumping his case again.
Some people call that respect.
I just call it stupid.