She's hot, he's hot, we had hot sex. Sex produces heat. Sex is hot. If the goal is knowing ourselves and each other like that, then what we need is not heat but light to illuminate the path. I am not always sure.
Sunlight is better than light generated by fossil fuels.
Light that draws its power from rechargeable solar cells is better than light that draws on throw-away batteries. Likewise, there will be lots of ways to imagine sex that transcends the patriarchal straightjacket. Some might be better than others, depending on the values on which they are based. Our task is not only imagining new ways of touching, but always being attentive to the ethics and politics of the touch. Robert Jensen is a professor in the Department of Journalism at the University of Texas at Austin.