Say what they are doing with warmth and admiration. If you reward the new behaviour like this, your child will be more likely to stay calm and to carry on doing it. Once the tantrum is over, tell your child what they could do to get what they want. If your child does any of these things over the next few hours and days, you should say how good this is. If they do not, take some time to sit down and practise them together, to help your child learn new habits.
Tantrums often happen in predictable situations.
You may just have to avoid these for a while. Perhaps someone else can look after your child when you visit the supermarket. Children find it hard to wait. Make it easier for them by taking their favourite books and toys to the doctor s surgery. Your child may be particularly fractious at certain times of the day perhaps when they are tired or hungry.