This is often generalized to all members of the same-sex. At that point, the adolescent has what can be called homosexual attractions and desires. A person who does not understand the dynamics behind these desires may begin to identify himself as gay or herself as lesbian. Similar to the way cannibals eat others to get their traits 4, a person may become sexually involved with the same-sex in a subconscious attempt to gain or connect with the other's masculinity or femininity. Unfortunately, this addresses neither the unmet emotional needs nor the original pain.
True resolution requires two things.
The first is undoing the defensive detachment, as it separates us from our same-sex parent and from our own masculinity or femininity. This means working through the original pain, including coming to grips with one's feelings of rejection and forgiving one's parent. This is done by building healthy non-sexual relationships with members of the same sex. While Mrs. Singh had her chemotherapy appointments, Jill was left at her aunt's house. When Jill was 6, a bone marrow transplant was done.