A Demurrer on Relationships. Each of these deserves a thoughtful response on its own, but we can also offer some more general cautionary notes. Contrary to their claims, these writers are hardly courageous Jeremiahs crying out an unwelcome doctrine to rootless and anomic individuals. If anything, gays tend to form relationships too easily, too unsuspectingly.
Some people seem to end one relationship and within weeks announce that they are in a new one.
The belief that one can find happiness only in a relationship is responsible for the undue haste with which people unwarily enter unsuitable relationships, and the cause of a great deal of later unhappiness. If anything, gays need to start exercising more caution, more restraint. Instead of trying to provide supports for mismatched gay couples, perhaps we ought to provide support and teach coping skills to people to live on their own. Now no one need doubt that relationships can be a good thing and that many people find fulfillment in them. But we should also make it clear that not everyone is a good candidate for a relationship.