However, such conflict doesn t have to destroy a team or its ability to minister. Koinonia requires a birth process that can be painful. Disagreements, like labor pains, are an inevitable part of the process. This only allows the hurts and anger to fester. As leaders, we need to actively monitor the relational atmosphere of our team, and be willing to probe potential areas of conflict as soon as they become apparent.
Small fires are always easier to put out than large infernos.
Keep the conflict under control. Some antagonists are mature enough to be able to fight fairly, expressing their own opinions while listening carefully to what the other is saying. Most of us can t do that very well, and need help. The goal is to reach understanding. Part of keeping a conflict under control is limiting the number of people who become involved.