Grasping reality is making distinctions as well as associations. Our associations are generalizations. Some generalizations are finer, with more distinctions, than others. Together our generalizations give us a map of reality. Some maps are more accurate than others.
Scientists realize that they are approximating reality, and in that realization is strength.
Philosophy is not just poetry. It is not a word game. It is an attempt to communicate what is real, against rival claims. And some perceptions are more accurate than others. Rather than ALL philosophical differences boiling town to differences in temperament, perhaps it can be said that a few philosophical differences boil down to differences in temperament.