We need to be responsive enough to others to work together with them, but also true enough to ourselves to feel whole and centered. This means we have to find a way to express ourselves with grace, to be confident enough to hear what people have to say about us, even the negative and nasty stuff, to accept that, and still trust in the spirit we have, to boldly and gracefully play our part in culture. This is the challenge of transgender, but it is also the challenge that every human faces. Sex Vs Gender, Simplifed. Gender is between your ears .
Sex is biological and cross-species.
Gender is cultural and changes across time and place. They clearly have tear ducts. Being female has nothing to do with clothes. Male don't come with clothes. That's the definition of male.