I know I shouldn't say those things when I'm angry. But I just have to get it out of my system. I can't help myself. The thrown vases, the blasting tirade, the cruel slashes all take their toll. Bob withdraws even more.
Uncontrolled anger blocks kindness.
Anger itself is not the sin. Yet, like a fenced dog near an open gate, anger will escape in unkindness unless we guard the exit. True kindness doesn't bite its lip in silence. It acknowledges and expresses anger, but doesn't let the anger attack the spouse to hurt, to score, or to get even. The Lord, the Lord, the compassionate and gracious God, slow to anger, abounding in love and faithfulness, maintaining love to thousands, and forgiving wickedness, rebellion and sin.