Find people who accept you and your grief, and who allow you to be where you happen to be in the grieving process. After losing someone you love, your goal should be to be strong , and get over your grief as soon as possible. Crying means that you are falling apart , and that is not what anyone wants. Crying is nature s way of releasing tension, and it lets others know that you need to be comforted. When stress is high, crying even discharges accumulating stress toxins within our tears.
Society often encourages people to quickly move away from grief.
Unfortunately, refusing to cry, suffering in silence, and being strong are often viewed as admirable and desirable reactions to loss. Friends, family, and co-workers may encourage this stance because they don t want to talk about painful things, and there is nothing they can say or do to make it better. Many people have internalized the idea that grieving and mourning should be done quickly, quietly, and efficiently. Find someone who can be present with you while you grieve so you do not have to bear it all alone. It takes between three months and a year to get over losing someone you love.