But you have another role. Oh no, they only give orders and write suffocating laws. But in this state of bliss and forgetfulness in which we live in the West, we fail to understand that communism is basically a psychological system. He was a Russian. The idea is to indoctrinate, intimidate and convince by a mixture of fear, little incentives and consequences if you deviate.
Tough repression is saved for uppity slaves.
Only then you go to the Gulag. In the meantime you live and play your role. If that means to play the fathers role like in the case of Elian's papa that is also a part of the state script. Mind you, the father is not playing a part in the real sense because I believe he has true feelings, regardless of the fact that his parental rights are diminished. You can't fight nature and he has other children.