Fat chance she has of ever fulfilling that role. She must jump through hoops attempting to provide us with this notion of who and what she should be, and if she doesn't bother, we end up thinking of her as this incredible bitch. This too is a familiar and unjust scenario. The first step is to acknowledge that it's a real relationship that you want. If you're only interested in fulfilling your fantasies, the chance of a long, enduring relationship is minimal.
Women are far more concerned with relationship than men.
Call it what you will, but women have a constant focus on how the relationship is going and what needs to be done to improve it. Although men know when things are wrong, they are far less likely to do anything about it. The major concern for men is the object of their desire. They also pursue money, sports, and cars with almost equal passion. Some would say that our society is cursed with this constant pursuit of the object.