Considering the embarrassment that a victim of domestic violence might well feel, she may never have discussed her problems or feelings with anyone. In such cases she will really welcome the opportunity to ventilate in a supportive atmosphere. As counselors we must remember that each person has complex needs that motivate them to make decisions. Most of us have, at some point in our lives misjudged another person's character, or believed in the sincerity of someone's assurances that they would change for the better. The victim must be reminded that there is no reason to be ashamed of making mistakes as long as we learn by them.
Some women have fears of insanity, particularly if they have strong feelings of lack of control.
Living in constant fear of physical assault can have many emotional ramifications which may lead a victim to isolate herself socially. Once socially isolated, she has no one to confirm her sanity. Her only input is from her assailant and from herself. The most fundamental aspect of good counselling is the ability to listen. Good listening demands intense concentration.