Frequently the communication becomes sexually graphic and kinky in ways that probably would not occur if a real person were hearing these comments and could act on them. Participants in an online affair will often tell their life stories and their innermost secrets. They will also create a new persona, become sexually adventurous, and pretend to be different than they really are. Pretending is a major theme in cyberaffairs. And they universally claim that if their wives met their needs, they wouldn t be sex shopping on the Internet.
Women claim to be slim, sexy, and adventurous.
In fact, their frank talk and flirtation pays great dividends in the number of men in a chat room who want to talk to them and get together with them. Just as the Internet has become a new source of pornography for many, so it seems that it has also become a new source for affairs. Relationships online frequently go over the line leaving pain, heartbreak, and even divorce in their wake. Even though these online affairs don t involve sex, they can be very intense and threaten a marriage just the same. In a previous article , I talked about some of the statistics concerning adultery.