It is too frustrating to figure out. Women are always constantly talking about changing their mates. I think she is great just as she is. I accept her differences and appreciate them. If she was like me I would be bored to death.
Some men enjoy romance, talking, and even shopping without lossing their masculinity.
When I feel good about myself, I readily give of myself. It does not mean we want them to please us physically or submit their bodies to our selfish lusts. Men can only be strong for a woman if she gives him that same attention to his feelings and experiences that she expects for him to do for her. Women aren't the only people that need to be lifted up. Even if it isn't their problem.