They cannot take a joke. You avoid them and they wonder why. We have to carry their feelings around on a pillow. A forbearing person does not treat people on the basis of what they deserve. Some husbands try to remake their wives.
Some wives try to remake their husbands.
They have tried it for thirty years and they still have not succeeded yet. We cannot make everyone comply with our pattern of life. We set up the pattern. If everyone does not fit into that pattern we conflict with them. Everyone has preferences.