Christ bore the sin fully so He might forgive it completely. Forgiveness is the raw material of God's kindness. Real forgiveness is neither an excuse or a brave front. It is a deliberate faith choice, a refusal to hold this sin against him, against her. Excusing or trying to rationalize Hank's cruel words can't defuse anger.
True forgiveness can.
Courtesy A third antidote to uncurbed anger is politeness. Love is . . . Love requires courtesy. Good etiquette is kindness codified. I remember as a teenager trying to show proper amenities to my next door neighbor whom I was dating.