This self-sacrifice truly transforms the couple. Brigid opened the floor for questions. One young woman asked about those young people who were already sexually involved. Although one can never replace physical virginity, one can take on a virginity of heart regardless of how physical virginity is lost. Of course, victims of abuse or rape have not freely chosen to have sexual activity, and young children who are sexually active are often found to have been victims of sexual abuse.
Secondary virginity begins with a repentant heart and the sacrament of reconciliation.
Healing requires changing one's thoughts, activities, and sometimes the people one associates with who do not value chastity. New friends who share one's values are an essential asset, as is a strong prayer life. One man wanted to know if NFP really works. Brigid assured him that NFP is highly effective for achieving and avoiding a pregnancy. She strongly recommended an instructional program approved by the local Catholic diocese.