Don't punish your child by spanking . Slapping and spanking are humiliating ways to treat children. Not only does it not work, but physical punishment adds to the negative attitude that undermines self-esteem and teaches children to act out violently against persons who displease them. Be consistent with expectations, but know when to stop. Say what you mean and mean what you say.
Successful parents listen carefully to objections raised by children.
Then they try to form a plan that in some degree satisfies the needs of both parent and child. If you try to work things out- instead of just always getting you way, your child may be less likely to rebel. Allow your child to develop his or her maturity step by step. It is normal for children to test their parents' authority and to check the limits. This means they need to rebel and disobey to some degree.