Find a friend who will listen to your experiences and secrets. Expressing aloud and writing can clarify your reality, order the chaos, and reduce loneliness. Remembering and sharing is one normal method of working through the grief that accompanies loss. Your feelings are an indication of how deeply you've been affected by your mate's illness. Sadness, fear and anger are natural responses to hurt and loss.
Tears provide a welcome cleansing.
Express affection in ways that are right for the two of you. Everyone needs love and support, particularly after the separation of a crisis and hospitalization. Rebuild the trust of your relationship. No one can heal all alone. Everyone needs and deserves support and encouragement to grieve losses and heal the wounds from an unexpected crisis.