My husband of two years sometimes has a period of time in which he cannot reach orgasm. He is 70 years old and in excellent health. He can maintain an erection for a long time but sometimes fails to have an orgasm. We have sex at least twice a week. After he has an orgasm, he does have a painful withdrawal.
Some times are worse than other times, but usually some degree of discomfort is felt.
The doctor thinks it's psychological. He enjoys sex immensely, and I want it to be great. Thank you for any advice you can give. Since he experiences some pain after his orgasm, this might lead me to agree with your doctor, who says the cause is psychological, because perhaps your husband's subconsc ious is keeping him from having an orgasm in order to avoid the pain he experiences afterward. If your doctor or some other doctor could get to the source of this pain and alleviate it, that might cure the problem your husband has with orgasms.