If they discovered the power to overcome there fears, then they will not go back into somebody else s confusion. If you believe you have to look a certain way in order to get what you want out of life. Then you have to dive deep into your soul and find the key to your inner self, without this knowledge you will live a life of solitude within your own mind, always shutting out reality. The detections are easy, isolating yourself from people around you , not being able to verbally communicate and always saying there s nothing wrong. That would give people a better idea on where to start.
Verbal expression starts the process for learning especially when the mind is young.
Wrong, instead of blaming yourself, analyze yourself and then ask why.