If you can hold your own with negotations with your spouse, then it may work. Likewise, I have a bias against mediation simply because I see mediation agreements that do not work because I am an attorney. I do not see mediation agreements that work because by definition the people involved are happy with them and don t bring them to me to help them with their problems arising from the mediated agreement. Support is set by comparing your income with your spouse s incomes. I say generally because there are many exceptions to this rule of thumb which cannot be easily explained.
Spousal support is much more difficult.
As a general rule, if you have a short marriage, then spousal support lasts for approximately half the length of marriage. If you have a lengthy marriage, it can last until the receiving party dies or remarries. Try to deal head-on with the stress arising from a divorce. Stress is very real and should not be ignored. If this means joining a health club or seeing a therapist or hiking or rock climbing or whatever by all means do it but do not ignore the stress.