If you get a call from a campus representative, listen carefully. Don't assume your child has been unjustly punished, no matter what he or she says. Students do learn from their mistakes if they have to deal with the consequences. Respect their responsibilities, and don't surprise them with unannounced visits or travel plans Students are building their own life on campus, with new friends, new interests, and new activities. As much as you miss them, you really want them to do this.
Unannounced visits can disrupt academic work or social plans.
An unannounced visit may also seem to them like an invasion of their privacy. If you genuinely find yourself in the area with extra time, even a telephone call before you drop by will be appreciated. And, by the way, don't make travel plans for them without checking first. This is especially tempting just before and just after breaks. Too many times students have come to me to ask about making up work, sometimes a test, because their parents have booked a flight or a ski trip or a family visit.