We set up the pattern. If everyone does not fit into that pattern we conflict with them. Everyone has preferences. We have rights about which car to buy, style of dress. That is a matter of personal taste.
Some women wear ghastly hats.
That is their choice. It means to have a gracious mental attitude. A person who thinks grace will not treat people on the basis of what they deserve. If we did, we would be in conflict very quickly. We will constantly knock heads with other people.