Men whose sweaty look results from yard work, sports or combat are sexy. Guys whose toughest task is hefting their cell phones to call their publicists can and should shower. The slut look is not. Like kids have for decades, my teen-aged sons stay up late for the Oscars. Unlike Lopez, they know such behavior is unnecessary for anyone with her beauty and talent.
Young children watch the Oscars too.
We expect scanty swimsuits at certain beaches and exposed breasts in R-rated movies. Lopez's assets got their fullest airing on the pre-award show. But my friends like both of them. Adults tell themselves that this stuff doesn't matter, mostly because they feel helpless to change it. Anyway, ladylike elegance and male dash haven't entirely left us.