This is because relationships need a lot of work. Giving up is probably the worst thing that can happen. Please take the time to read some of following FAQ's and advice excerpts from my web site. I think these might apply to your situation. Unless there has been physical abuse or unfaithfulness, I would encourage you to take your spouse back.
Unfaithfulness needs to be confessed with a committment to restore the marriage.
Seek pastoral counseling as well. Let me know how you are doing. Other excellent books can be ordered on our resources page, also. This advice column is not intended to take the place of direct professional mental health services but rather to provide insight into various problem situations and possible helpful resources and interventions. All rights reserved.