After the first few times you've had intercourse sex really shouldn't hurt. When it does, it can be a signal that something is wrong. Before you try anything else, make an appointment with your gynecologist to rule out any physical condition. Pain during sex can be caused by several physical conditions, including some STDs , ovarian cysts , Pelvic Inflammatory Disease , endometriosis , cystitis or gastroentritis . Because some of these conditions can be made worse by sexual intercourse, you want to make sure that you don't have them before you start trying to have sex again.
Some women have a condition called vaginismus .
Vaginismus is a reaction of the vagina in which it tightens painfully when your body feels anything trying to enter or penetrate it. This too can be ruled out at your gynecologists office because if vaginismus is present, it will be apparent when she does your pelvic exam. If your gyno or clinician can find nothing physically wrong there are a few more things to consider. The body has an amazing habit of obeying the mind. So if we have sex when we don't really want to, our body may not do what it should to make sex feel good.