It gets back to what is expected. Likewise, if no one is cautioning coaches or hitting them for unsportsmanlike for questioning your calls and you do it then expect to be critized and given lower marks. I understand that the rules are the rules and there are a bunch of folks that think that any deviation is wrong. Cops don't write speeding tickets for 3 mph over and not too many cops give jaywalking tickets. Every area has its own variation of the rules whether anybody will admit it.
Wrestling is no different.
In Kansas we have a well-known, if perhaps not entirely accurate, perception, that officials in the western half never call stalling and those in the eastern half call it too much. When the two sides meet the officials work out the approach for that day's wrestling. Much has been written about the problem with stalling in wrestling and I won't repeat that here. I certainly don't have a fix. It is clear that the rules are trying to keep the action moving.