A team approach is needed, where each member does her part. Help the parents to deal with it - it's for the child. Don't fear their feelings. Families have fears too, and they'll just have to go through them. Frankly, there's far too much finger-pointing at parents when children struggle with school.
Teachers are the ones responsible for observing the child's difficulty in the classroom.
The same goes for administrators. Most of our school staff and administration have not been equipped with a practical working knowledge of A.D.D. or L.D., and these are the children who are hurt by this neglect. Schools must start the helping process, beginning with proper early identification. From the standpoint of practicality, it's too little, too late, by the time an overlooked child becomes a troubled, outcast adolescent. Parents are basically no better off, which leaves no one able to help the child.