This is normal, and should not be mistaken for a lack of interest or concern. Adolescents may worry about their likelihood of developing cancer, the impact of the disease on emerging need for independence or body changes in their parents. It is often helpful to find someone in the family who can devote some extra time, and special attention to the children, so they do not feel left out or isolated. A non-judgmental approach to a child's own style of coping will help. Finding ways that they can be helpful and involved, such as a young child drawing a picture for the patient, or an older child assuming some new task, can help them to cope.
Special programs are available for children to meet with others experiencing the same changes.
Seek out these opportunities.