It seemed so out of character, and so outright callous, that I half expected Worf's appearance in the next scene to be that of a watchdog Picard set on Riker. And finally, some deep, deep problems. This was TNG's take on the gay rights and homosexuality issue. We all know that. I, for one, think it's about time.
Women wear makeup to attract men.
Men have to lead while dancing. What utter tripe. There are probably a few false generalizations you missed. When Soren asks if all men like a particular type of woman, Riker's answer was to talk about various kinds of women people can find attractive. But no references, outright or subtle, to even a single gay person on the Enterprise.