Counselling is not a instantaneous answer to all problems. It can take a lot of self exploration. Before things can get better, they often get worse because old wounds are being opened up and looked at in order to deal with them in an effective manner. When in counselling, the counsellor does most of the talking and you listen. People tend to have two different views about this.
Some people seem to think that all counsellors do is sit and listen to clients with no input at all.
Other people think that counsellors do all the talking and that clients are going to get lectured to. Counsellors are listeners, but the process of working through a person's problem is a collaberative one. This means that there will be an interaction that involves participation of both the client and the counsellor. Counsellors will work towards changing your beliefs and values to conform to the right way to feel and act. Counsellors help you draw out answers from within yourself.