She is still angry, dealing with the split and in my case the rejection. She is not willing to comprimise or to stop and think about what is good for the children. She's out for blood. It doesn't matter who you are as a second wife, or what kind of person you are, you are not good enough for her children as long as she still wants your husband. It's that simple.
Time takes care of that.
Time is the only healer. Sooner or later, depending on how slow she is, the first wife will give up on the game playing. She will calm down and realize she ain't shit no more and her feelings or her opinions no longer mean a hill of beans. He's a miserable hateful old man. I have no problem with a second wife.