We do have in our life that which we have chosen. Make a list of everything and everyone that is in your life. What you haven't let go of you've chosen. Look out for your own self interest and stop preoccupying yourself with the anger that comes from the attitude that someone is victimizing you. Fix the problem, not the blame.
Sick people are powerful.
They make healthy people feel guilty. The fears of the weak and fragile establish the limits of any relationship. What disturbs men's minds is not events but their judgment on events.