Emotional Roller Coaster Experts say that the prospect of new sexual relationships bring emotions related to your break-up to the forefront. Unresolved hurt or anger can affect your sexuality and your ability to get involved in a fulfilling relationship. If you are not far enough along in the healing process, post-divorce sex can make you feel worse. On the other hand, if you are further along on the healing curve, it can be a loving and satisfying experience. Generally, therapists say it takes about one to two years to heal after a divorce, and to be ready for a relationship again.
Some women avoid sexual contact since rejection has a negative impact on their self-image.
If they have been dumped by their spouse, there can be feelings of low self-esteem, or personal failure and abandonment. This can impact how you feel about your sexual attractiveness, and the way you interact with people of the opposite sex. Some therapists recommend setting goals to help define the new you. Another way to get out of the slump is exercise, such as a brisk, 45-minute walk, to chase away depression and help you feel emotionally grounded. Wear clothes that give you a lift, perhaps something with a bright color.