Focus on one topic, share perspectives and ideas, and then, if particular solutions make sense, then bring those up at the business meeting. Also realize that you are just beginning to live together. You have years and years to figure this stuff out, there is no hurry and, based on my experiences in your community March, there is very little to worry about the community falling apart. It might not be exactly what you expected, but there is way more glue than gaps at Duwamish. And of course, leadership is what makes things go.
Work parties happen because people do the leadership to call the time, get the materials, etc.
Communication work can benefit from leadership as well. Call a special meeting to identify strengths and needs, and then follow where that path leads. You have a great set of skills and so all you need to do is apply some of them. Hi, my name is March and I've not posted in awhile. I have just looked through the archives, but I feel that I'll need some back and forth discussion to better work through my current frustrations.