Some equate forgiveness with mere tolerance, he said. Others try to achieve forgiveness by ignoring the problem entirely or pretending nothing happened. Unfortunately, problems never disappear when they are ignored or tolerated. Instead, the problems usually escalate as resentment grows. Forgiveness is not found in empty words, either, he said.
Words are cheap.
Certainly words express forgiveness, but without the support of will, they are nothing more than a hollow, meaningless exchange. For starters, he writes, a person should decide that relationships are more valuable than the need to be right. Remember and recognize God's willingness to forgive, he counsels. Recall that God expects you to do the same for others. You must take the first step toward resolving conflict.