It was very validating. All those years I was paranoid about how men talked about women. Or I thought I was paranoid. Gender swapping is a big part of many people's on-line sexual lives. Cybersex consists of two or more players typing erotically charged descriptions of physical actions, verbal statements, and emotional reactions to each other.
Some men play women to have netsex with men.
Although it does not seem to be as common, some women present themselves as on-line men to have netsex with men. Once we take virtuality seriously, we need a new language for talking about the simplest things. In Wim Wenders's film Until the End of the World, a scientist develops a device that translates the electrochemical activity of the brain into digital images. He gives this technology to his family and closest friends, who are now able to hold small monitors and watch their dreams. At first, they are charmed.