Have them look in your eyes, squeeze your hand, or let them cry, but just hold still. Talk about each experience your child will face and how to handle it. Let them know you will be there with them. This is scary. Make some simple signs for pain so your child can communicate.
Some children ask about dying, even with non-serious surgeries.
Prepare ahead of time how you will answer them should the need arise. Remember, be positive. Making preparations ahead of time for after surgery reinforces to the child he will live. Practice, Practice, and Practice Practice your signs while on the respirator. Practice coughing and deep breathing.