Not all bullies are obnoxious, threatening, balled-fisted meanies.
Some bullies are girls.
Or family members. And when children are bullied, they sometimes turn into bullies themselves. Bullying doesn't always come with a physical push and shove. Children who bully don't feel very good about themselves, she explains. While Noll encourages compassion, the bottom line is it's the bully's problem, not the victim's, no matter how hard they may try to convince the victim otherwise, she says.