When we begin to accept this, and calmly get back on track, we reduce our stress levels enormously. Finally, a family needs to adjust to the fact that schedules will dictate how they spend their time. I recommend that you develop a calendar with colored stars or whatever to indicate your workdays, shift, and days off. Working couples will find this very necessary to plan those important, non-urgent tasks, and to plan their fun times together. Post the calendar in a conspicuous place and make lots of notes.
Some people even send their calendars out to their friends so they can plan parties, barbecues, etc.
You can purchase special shiftworker calendars with all the necessary labels and everything, but it's just as easy to modify any large calendar with places to make notes on each day. You'll be amazed at how well this works when everyone gets in on the act. Remember, shiftwork is not just a biological problem, or a sleep problem, or a social problem. It's all three, and we have to manage all three. Used under License.