Katherine Hepburn, Ayn Rand, Marian Anderson, Harriet Beecher Stowe, and Georgia O'Keefe are a few whose lives you may want to investigate. Do some research. Make up your own list. This will affirm your belief that it is possible to be a woman and make a real difference in the world. Don't ever let anyone tell you a woman must not show her strength if she wants to attract a mate.
Strong women have solid ideals and real lives of their own.
If a person moves away from you because of your strength, is is just as well you were not able to connect with him or her. And if you find a mate tomorrow, don't put aside your plans to create a home for yourself in the world. There are many seasons to life, and you never know when they will send you to distant shores. If your grandmother is still alive, she can tell you. They weather the storms of life and grow in brilliance, wisdom, compassion, and joy.