One way is not necessarily better than the other. Two very different characters find out they have a lot to learn from one another. Unfortunately this book is out of print, but it's worth finding. Badger learns that his way to build a house is not the only way to build a house. Understanding personalities is a form of tolerance.
Tolerance is a learned response rather than a natural response.
These books are a good place to start the learning. Fran Hawk is the librarian at Whitesides Elementary School. She has a master's degree in library science from Peabody College at Vanderbilt University.