Show love because you want to show love and because you know it is the right thing to do, not because you want love in return or as a 'reward' for doing what you want,'' the authors say in the book. It's participating, not winning, that counts. Praise your child for performing in a school play, or writing an article in the school newspaper. Sharing special moments. Hikes, bicycle rides, even watching TV together can strengthen the bond between you and your teen.
Small gestures can be effective.
It's important for families to set aside time to enjoy something together that provides an opportunity for laughter, like a funny TV show, says Elias. We encourage parents to use humor instead of naggingespecially when nagging and yelling have not worked,'' Elias says. Many parents bent over backward to avoid conflicts with their teens, but part of being a parent is establishing limits without feeling guilty or apologetic. As a parent, you need to carefully consider the goals you want for your children, and take time to talk to your teens so they clearly understand the rules and consequences if boundaries are broken. You can't make a big deal about everything,'' says Elias.