There are words that scatter - cause strife , confusion, and are destructive. There are words that gather - build up, edify, encourage. James writes that our tongue directs our lives. Just as a ship is directed by a small rudder. Just as a 1,000 pound horse can be steered with a 16 oz bit in its mouth.
Words really get things started.
Then treat others well. Then show yourself as a friend. Then gotta sow good things. Then gotta be committed to others. Then sow love yourself.