Men tend to be independent. Women tend to be interdependent. This may sound amusing but it expresses a woman's tendency to be more community-minded. The key is for you and your spouse to decide where you fit in this area and work together instead of nagging each other over your differences. Men connect by doing things.
Women connect by talking.
A fascinating aspect of this difference is the way the two sexes define intimacy. They think doing something together, even watching TV in stony silence, is the epitome of closeness. Try discussing each other's needs in this area and then work on meeting them. Men tend to compete. Women tend to cooperate.