To keep your thank-you note writing on the fast track, order the stationery at the same time you order wedding invitations. You can even put return address seals and stamps on them ahead of time. When returning duplicate gifts and gifts you don't like, be sure to avoid hurting people's feelings. A lot depends on how well you know the givers. You can always thank them for a duplicate gift and quietly return it.
Stores are usually quite accommodating.
Create your vision and realistically discuss how these things will be received by family and friends. By doing this, you can anticipate problems and be prepared to deal with them in a thoughtful, united way. When problems arise, the bride should take the lead role in handling her family and the groom should take the lead in handling his. Although children are a reflection of what family is all about, etiquette and wedding planning experts tend to agree that they don't really belong at weddings. The main exceptions are children and younger siblings of either the bride or groom.