Suppressing anger for long periods results in internalization because un consciously we must attribute responsibility for the hurt somewhere . These women act on their anger without realizing what they're doing. The anger-segmenting woman denies ever getting angry as she smiles through clenched teeth. Later, she loudly points out that she saw your outfit hanging on a rack at a neighbor's garage sale. While segmentation seems to protect her from having to own up to her difficult feelings, it also creates more stress by damaging her relationships and forcing her to contain anger in health-compromising ways.
Women externalize their anger by abusing or insulting others.
Often, we see women dumping anger for their partners or supervisors onto their children. The opposite of anger diversion, assertive anger expression, forces us to use anger in a conscious, deliberate way, and respect the rights of others while we do so. At first, becoming more aware of anger can feel more stressful. However, over time, it spares us the physical, emotional and relationship costs that we suffer when we divert anger. Assertive anger expression prevents the buildup of stress by protecting our relationships and our self-respect.