Child custody is often a source of great heartache and vicious battles in divorce cases. Sometimes this is an area of great difficulty for the divorcing couple. If you are finding it a matter of disagreement, there are numerous resources available to help you out. Many courts maintain their own conciliation staff that will work with you after you have filed your action for dissolution.
Some courts even have classes that are mandatory for all divorcing parents.
Many religious professionals are available to help you work out issues within the context of your own faith. Rarely are friends and family useful in this regard, since they tend to become polarized in the process of your separation, but sometimes this is an option. The ultimate resolution, of course, is in your hands. That is what all the professionals are going to try to help you with anyway. Remember, that child is a human being, not a possession you are dealing with.