I don't know your kids, or your relationship with them, but the first place to start is communicating. Here are some things to think about. 3. set clear expectations together and plans on how to get it done, and when. He shouldn't 'expect' you to drive him and you shouldn't expect something in return. So working together you can come up with alternative plans, or compromises or time schedules to meet everyone's needs.
Team work is wonderful at work and in the home.
I feel that things aren't the best they can be. When we are overwhelmed or ready for a change we sometimes get focused on the negative and lose sight of all the good things that are happening. This is good. Hope this helps, please write again and let me know what your thoughts are on this stage of the change and we can attack the next level together too. He is also clumsy, and his coordination is not good.