To meet your needs for affiliation, find other avenues outside the office in which to make friends. Go into your work culture as an anthropologist and observe the customs and rules of the tribe. Then, examine how you have been violating those norms and what you need to change in order to fit in. Find an ally within the organization to help monitor the problem and tell you when you are going too far. Think twice, speak once is one motto you should live by.
Silence is golden is another.
At other times in your career you may feel lost, out of place and seemingly less able to act than those around you who appear to have focus and a strong connection to their work and goals. This sense of frustration and disconnectedness can take many forms and may involve feelings of powerlessness or lethargy, high levels of stress or anxiety, feelings of depression or of being burned out, and thinking that your work is not making a contribution to others. Regardless of the form, feeling disconnected and unhappy with your work is a signal that it is time for change, and a sign that the content of your days is out of line with the type of activity you require in order to feel most engaged. While experiencing these things is part of the normal process of career development, the great danger during periods of work alienation is becoming identified with your symptoms. When this occurs, you have no distance from your pessimism.