If you incorporate family nights for your family, you could use these nights to set goals, and work on family projects. As you build a habit of goal-setting within your family, you can work toward more challenging goals. Always set goals that are attainable and worthwhile to all family members. Use your family nights to evaluate the progress you are making toward your goals. Use them as family councils to decide strategies and plans of actions for your family.
Some families even go as far as to schedule ''interviews'' with their children each month.
They talk to each child about his school work, his challenges, and his friends. Of course, this should never be done in an interrogating way, but as one friend talking with another. Learn to find the hidden talents in others. Help your spouse and children see areas in which they are talented, and help them set goals toward progressing within those areas. It's also important to see the weaknesses in your children so that you can help them.