There isn't enough time in the average New Yorker's day to go hunting for that suitable soulmate. And nurturing a budding romance can be as time-consuming as running for public office. One reality is that everything and everyone in New York is on over-drive. Then there's the time-honored NYC tradition of the credential swap, which can kill off Cupid real fast. Happiness is not the goal of New York City relationships.
Visibility is more like it.
You will never understand New Yorkers then. Nobody was finito within months. In the city that never sleeps the radar is intense. In such a status-conscious milieu, the best partner is one who can demonstrate that you indeed have it all. Someone whose pedigree will land you both as the featured wedding of the week in Sunday's New York Times, for instance.