To be a successful competitor when playing in these leagues requires discipline and sacrifice by players and their families alike. Players and their teammates must be physically and mentally prepared if they are to succeed. Soccer is a team sport. Successful teams are those having players continuously developing their individual skills within the context of team play. Playing time is not guaranteed.
Successful teams have players who understand and apply the Laws of the Game.
A player breaking the Law, either intentionally, or from lack of understanding, hurts the team. Recreational soccer programs generally make little demands on the player. Such programs may be what you are looking for, and you should seriously consider them as an alternative to select soccer. Rec leagues are less expensive to join and run. Practices may be less demanding, if they are held at all.