This method only serves to keep the former loved one on your mind and you frustrated. There needs to be a grieving period. Whether you care to admit it or not, that person did mean a great deal to you at one time. You honor the love that you shared by validating the relationship as a worthwhile experience. Engage in self-help practices.
Some people benefit from reading self-help books.
Others enjoy creative writing as a means of healing and expression. Whether it s reading, writing, or singing, expressing your feelings is a great way to learn about yourself and your current needs. Realize that you might not be functioning at your best right now. Give yourself some space to be without pressure or high demands. Efforts to organize the more routine activities of your life may be helpful to streamlining your energy expenditure.