With your help, intense children can begin to understand and control their intense feelings by age four or five. Intensity of response is an inborn trait. Highly intense or dramatic children are usually more of a challenge for their parents. This is the infant who squeals with delight or screams in distress. The intense toddler may bite when happy or frustrated.
Tantrums are long and loud.
There are no small feelings. These actions are not necessarily signs of defiance, rather a release of emotional tension. Following are three ways you can teach your child to recognize and control her intense feelings. Use words to describe and measure feelings. Help children to notice when they're having an intense response and describe it clearly.