Many families breeze through these years, but many also struggle long and hard with these changes. Kids who feel they are under constant parental scrutiny about their homework may become overtly angry, or may passively sabotage their own progress. The way out of this tangle is hard work, but it can be done. This opens the door for your child to feel that you understand and sympathize with her struggles, rather than blaming her or punishing her for not being able to solve the problem. Rather, you and her father can act as her consultants, helping her to analyze the sticking points with her homework.
School gets much harder in high school.
It is more important that she learn how to be a well-organized student who feels that she can learn and be successful, and that she feel supported by her family. Resolving Conflicts with Your Teenage Son or Daughter , by Jane Nelson and Lynn Lott. They go into detail about the steps that we have just outlined, in a way that is very clear and easy to read. All rights reserved.