Indeed, those on all sides of the issue agree that it will take a long time for ordinary people to accept the gay lifestyle. ''For many years, ordinary folks treat people of the same sex having a sexual relationship as a social disease, like gambling or prostitution or syphilis,'' Wan says. But the judgment is not a religious one, certainly not in this country of official atheism. Nor is it simply a moral one, fueled by Confucian family values. It is also a political one. Homosexuality may be the despair in marriage or love affairs.
Some people fail in marriage and become disappointed with it.
So they decide to no longer love the opposite sex, but instead begin to love a person of the same sex as a return of hatred to the opposite sex. Another reason may be that some people just want to find and do something new and curious, as the Americans are known as adventurous. So they practice homosexuality as a kind of new excitement. This prejudice is nested within the new tolerance. For even as some officials are willing to look the other way, others are not.