It may be true that no matter how voracious a woman's sexual appetite may be, candlelight, soft music, tenderness, touching and long, deep, slow kisses are tops on the list.
Sensuality seems to have gotten a little lost.
Cuddling, gentle touching, kissing, holding one another may be some of the most satisfying things both partners can experience. All of our senses need to be included in sense-ual pleasure. Each has their own special place in the ingredients list of pleasure, and work so well when mixed together with their different varieties. Sight includes how you and your partner look, for example lingerie, and how the room looks - is there candlelight. The smell of the room via incense and the smell of your partner because you've just taken a scented bath or both used scented oils is delightful.