I'll be the first to admit that guys are not usually looking for kindred minds to share their lives with when they go to a club or see that fly honey walking across the street. I'm feeling somewhat asexual right now. Friend see breasts. Me see distraction. Yes, guys will jump through hoops, humiliate themselves in public with their apologies, write silly little love poems, and so on, all so they can perhaps one day receive the crown of laurels as potential sweet, sensitive, caring, successful man of the half-minute.
Women have men like strings around their fingers.
I still believe in that stuff. Prepare a candle-lit dinner, or make dinner reservations, or plan a trip, or take him to a football game, or just spend an evening talking to him about stuff, or something. You have no idea how much your guy would dig that. Imagine a man's delight when he realizes his special woman took out that time to prepare something nice for him, too. Women simply do not understand what men go through when they're smitten by them.