It is hard to have a healthy attitude when much of that experience is awkward, intolerant, inadequate, and provides little in the way of interpersonal communication or accurate feedback. It allows no possibility of taking advantage of the accumulated wisdom of the ages. Our work is to bring this important part of our beings out into the light. To surround it with love, worshiping the divine aspect of our partner and seeing them as a mirror of ourselves. Thus, Tantra invokes spirituality.
Tantric consciousness requires being totally present in the moment.
This is a discipline that requires techniques and practice in order to be successful. Tantra is a science, in the sense that these practices can be repeated with consistent results. Another essential ingredient of Tantra is opening of the heart. Women's single biggest complaint about men in relationships and sex is that their hearts are not open. Once again, this requires techniques, practice and discipline for maximum effectiveness and is rarely a spontaneous happening - as we prefer to imagine.