By clinging to what you don't have now, you're attached to it, and there's no freedom or energy around the issue. Your position is that you know what is best for you. When you insist that you must have something, but then you don't have it, you become divided. You split off from your spiritual center, that state in which you are most calm, grounded and on purpose. This can leave you feeling frustrated, unhappy and at war with the world.
Thoughts are powerful.
Since negative thoughts took you away from your spiritual center, positive thoughts can help you return. To shift your energy so that you begin to attract a partner, affirmations can be powerful tools. An affirmation is a saying or statement that can be repeated mentally, verbally or in writing. Unfortunately, most of us are adept at repeating negative affirmations throughout the day automatically. This way, you are manifesting something that your self identifies with, but which hasn't yet come into your physical reality.