That is, we find it necessary to judge and sentence ourselves for having done something or having failed to do something. Take just a moment to think about what it would be like to really accept yourself, to believe that although you have made and will continue to make mistakes, that it is not really so bad after all. For just a moment, imagine yourself doing that. Now, for this brief moment to become everyday reality, you'd have to actually demand the right to make mistakes. You'd have to forgive yourself for being human.
Some people find that hard to do.
If you're one of those people, you may need to give the idea a lot of thought. The idea is to focus on the fact that there is no good reason why you shouldn't forgive yourself. The fifth reason why you might find it hard to accept yourself is that you may judge yourself using other people as a yardstick. There is a possibility that this striving, highly competitive attitude may make you a millionaire, but it's certain to alienate you from other people and trap you in a never ending struggle to be number one. When we use other people as our yardstick, we aren't taking into consideration our personal limitations.