This lady was no recluse, hiding away behind darkened windows, living only in the past. Bubbly, vivacious, loving, and serving were all terms that described her. Yet, she was not bitter or full of self-pity. Her memories were colored with thanksgiving to her God. Elvira's memories were colored with thanksgiving to her God, evidenced by the love overflowing from her heart.
Some memories bring tears and pain.
That doesn't mean we're handling them in the wrong way. Especially in the case of death, a void is sometimes left that can never be filled. We are not weak because we don't understand why. We identify with his human nature. Even though all such responses are part of our humanity and are not condemned, they can be destructive if they spring from a bitterness of the soul.