I have included, as author comments, some of my own thoughts and surprises in hopes that they will stimulate you to think about your own assumptions. Many of my assumptions seem to be reflections of the current cultural myths about overindulgence. The Cultural Myths William, the father of three, recently said, I don't need to hear about overindulgence. I know about it. It's the clothes and toys and expensive trips and camps that rich people give their kids.
Some grandparents do it too.
They shower grandchildren with stuff that is too old for the kids and that the kids don't need or even want. Don't talk to me about overindulgence. I buy a few toys now and then, but my kids aren't spoiled. Overindulgence is not quite the same as spoiling. When we refer to a child as spoiled, we usually describe behaviors that annoy the adults.