We cannot expect others to respect us if we do not respect ourselves. Being your own woman means doing what you know deep down is right for you. Sometimes your friends give you lots of support. But sometimes they can try to pressure you into doing things you're not ready to do. Women who respect themselves are less likely to get involved in sexual activities that wound their pride, are unpleasant, or hurt them.
Some women try to put up with discomfort or pain, hoping they'll get used to it.
They may not know what to expect from sex play. If sex hurts, use more lubrication, try a different position or some other form of sex play, or ask your partner to be more gentle. Some people put up with abuse to protect their relationships. This is very unhealthy and dangerous. That is why physical and sexual abuse are illegal in any relationship.