It thankfully has helped me to never physically commit adultery against my wonderful wife. It has helped me make progress in my struggle against sex addiction, but as of yet I have been unable to completely break free. My point is that with some people, a relationship with God is what will help them with a particular issue, some people combine it with other resources of help, and some people are able to break serious addictions without spiritual help being a factor at all. I personally need both. Some people feel too ashamed to even try to have a relationship with God and speak with him because of the guilt and need to feel a little better about themselves before they can even fathom their spiritual hunger.
Some people never do try to be spiritual persons.
I am able to feel my wife's pain and more fully understand what I am doing to her. This has helped me even 100 times more than other things. Reading how other men say that their wife is beautiful and sexy and better than any of the porn they view, but still do this destructive behavior hits home. I have wonderful resources for spiritual help and will avail myself of them more fully. I don't need or want spiritual help from this particular forum, but I am in desperate need of hearing the words of ones such as brenda and of ones such as Andy and other men who do and feel the same things I do.