We don't train men to do that. It depends on what she intimidates them for. If they're intimidated because she's smart, then she needs to date smarter men. If they're intimidated because she's nasty to them, then she needs to get over her anger with men or start sleeping with women. There's no reason to try to make a life with someone you don't like.
Sex is very important as a base.
It's a mistake to try to make a marriage with someone with whom you don't feel any passion. Which isn't to say that when you're 80 years old, you're going to be having wild sex in the bathrooms of hotels. But, nevertheless, a lot of intimacy grows out of sexual contact. It's a way of resolving things. It's a way of communicating.