I'm unsure of the word to use since I don't want to put words in your mouth, nor create a straw man. But your obviously negative feelings towards a gay lifestyle do seem important to your argument about gays in the military. As I said above, my personal views about homosexuality have little to do with the arguments concerning the issue of gays in the military. My arguments on that matter are objective ones. This is as it should be since the needs of the military outweigh my own personal opinions.
Sexual orientation is perhaps the most profound of human behavioral characteristics.
Comparison of the two is a convenient but invalid argument. An excellent point by someone I generally respect, but I would add that comparison of the two is relevant insofar as it speaks to whether or not the received opinion in the military should be considered. I would disagree with that since you must consider the reasons behind those opinions. The comparison would be valid only if the issues were the same. Certainly, the medical evidence is overwhelmingly on the side of supporting the ban.