I don't think enough people have written about it in clearly enough ways to make those of us who do have the desire to have our butt's slapped by our girlfriend not scared of being crazy, or evil, or demonic, or contributing to the doom of this minor civilization which we are involved in. Given that, I try and write about butt-slapping almost as much as I try to write about what the evil men do. How the Writer Comes to Write 'By discovery. You discover the nature of the thing by writing it. Half the time, writers lie.
Writers pretend they know what they're doing.
Writers throw themselves into a trance state or an obsession and discover a character or an action that they're interested in and just cut loose. If they're any good. The ones that build outlines and try to follow it like paint by numbers tend to be bad writers. Good writers tend to be ecstatic, drunken on their own language, and ruthless editors. Meaning you follow the story wherever it's going to go, you follow the language, and then afterwards you cut out three quarters of it.