I didn't do it. Rape and incest often make survivors fearful, or fear sex, at least for awhile. It also causes confusion about the relationship between sex and intimacy. Survivors may need to exert and feel more control in a relationship than they did prior to the assault. Tell me what you are comfortable with.
Victims often blame themselves.
Many partners, family members and friends insist on blaming themselves. In fact, sexual assault is no one's fault except the perpetrator's. Some studies show that reporting to police and testifying, though painful, actually can help survivors recover. These actions also help put rapists behind bars and convey the message that our society does not condone violence. It might help you feel safe again.