The Torah sought to eliminate the monotony that all too often sets in married life and turn our marriages into illicit affairs. Lack of modesty and overexposure to naked human flesh deadens and desensitises our response to the body, so that when married people undress in order to achieve an effect, intimacy eludes them and no effect is achieved. Too many wives describe how when they undress at night, their husbands continue reading the newspaper. Premarital sex, and an abundance of sexual partners, leads to our subconsciously comparing our eventual spouse to all our past lovers, and causes us to be objective in marriage, instead of subjective, which is the one word which best defines love. Masturbation lessens our sexual dependency on our spouse.
Sex causes a man and a woman to gravitate toward one another.
When they find alternative sexual outlets, they do not need each other as much. And finally, a successful adulterous affair thrives due to extended periods of separation. Studies show that men who abandon their wives and move in with their mistresses break up with them within the first year. The infinite wisdom of the Jewish religion is no more in evidence than in its brilliant sexual laws, laws which, I might point out, have kept Jewish couples happily and passionately married to each other for three millennia. I know much about you through the wonderful books which you write, and the humane and sensitive lectures which you deliver.