Here we see more of the equality that I told you to think about before. Submitting to one another with love, kindness, and caring. When we submit like this we put ourselves at a very equal, but vulnerable position. But if all parties can do this, you wind up with a very open relationship that follows Gods will. If we adopt this doctrine, we are able to hear our partners opinion without becoming angry because it doesn't agree with ours.
Verbal control turns into family discussions.
Discussions that allow all parties to express their feelings, and let out their frustrations about a certain subject. The escalation of control stops because no one is looking to be the winner. The violence stops also when the male understands it is an ungodly type of behavior, and the cowards way out. The male, at this point will search out knowledge of how to handle different situations, so he is able to teach his family. Here again is an area where all parties involved in the relationship are responsible for their behavior.