For many reasons, we are unwilling to deal with the reality of pain. In reality, they are usually the healthiest if they can hurt and move through the pain instead of becoming mired in it. An outsider can help by making it o.k. to admit pain. Beyond an unwillingness to admit pain, there is a problem understanding why we are in pain. Sometimes we know we hurtwe're even willing to admit itwe just don't know why.
Understanding becomes our first step in coping.
At the next level, we need to know what is the appropriate response given the context of the pain. As speakers, we have not only our own life experience to draw from, but the cumulative experience of many clients and audiences. The Opportunity Of Joy Finally, we can demonstrate the opportunity for joy despite the pain. If there must be an absence of pain for joy to exist, the condition of the average person and organization is hopeless. When an individual or organization becomes fixated on their pain, all other awareness diminishes.