Nothing I want is being lost. I function better than ever in relationships and all other aspects of life. In a moment I'll describe what it's like so you can look forward to it instead of worrying like I did. But first I should acknowledge that I'm in the early stages of selflessness. I'm not enlightened yet.
Selflessness comes and goes, sometimes staying for a few minutes, sometimes an hour.
During these periods my ego seems to be completely gone, but maybe I'm wrong. But so far as I can tell now, my selfless periods are really selfless. I think he means a certain distinct clump of attitudes and feelings that seems to be me, except I can look at it, so it can't be the real me as Ramana defines it. As I looked at this clump I let my attention relax, exactly as if I were looking at it with my eyes and letting them go out of focus. Scared the shit out of me.