Just the Two of You One or both partners may lose interest in sex for some time after the birth. This is always easier if you are both feeling like sex can take a back seat for a while. In a relationship where one partner feels sexually frustrated it can be useful, or even necessary, to seek the help of a psychotherapist trained in sexuality counselling. The reasons for loss of interest can be varied. For example, sex can be painful for women who have had an episiotomy.
Women can find that after a day of intimacy with their babies they just want to be alone.
Men can feel worn out after a hard day s work, broken sleep, and childcare and chores and just want to hang out in front of the TV with a beer. Your partner and friend and lover has now become a mother or father figure, and for some this new role may not be very sexy. Women who have had a physically arduous birth may need to re-start the intimate part of the relationship from from scratch, with lots of cuddling and closeness and touching in order to build physical trust again. Many women need time to explore and express how their bodies and sexual responses have changed. The tasks of life can seem impossible as you juggle the baby with home, your relationship, other children, work and looking after yourself.