By all means, let's have husbands who are servants to their wives, and wives who are servants to their husbands. One is not a servant of another person unless one does for that person what she needs to have done for her. Unless women are spiritually deficient with respect to men, they do not need a man to mediate their relationship with God in any sense, however mild or benevolent that mediation may appear to be. Women, no less than men, need to grow into spiritual maturity by learning to discern and obey God's will through the leading of the Holy Spirit in their own lives. To deprive a woman of this opportunity is not to serve her.
Somebody has to make the final decision, and that person is the man.
This argument is based on cultural assumptions, not on biblical teaching. Nowhere does the Bible say that whenever two or more are gathered together, one person must be in charge. Both logic and experience testify that it is by no means necessary for a marriage relationship to have one partner in charge of the other. A major part of learning how to be loving and mature human beings is learning how to come to agreement and reach consensus without resorting to the issuing and obeying of authoritative edicts. Perhaps only in a bad marriage, in which the spouses care little for one other and each strives to get the better of the other, is it impossible for decisions to be made mutually.