Aim for solutions that make everyone feel like a winner. Visitation Tips Visiting with the other parent must be ongoing if the children are going to love and respect both parents. A court will usually decide that the parent who does not have custody of the children may take them to his or her home, or away from their home overnight. If the father has a new girlfriend, or the mother has a new boyfriend, it is better not to take the children to the friend's home. Remember, this is a time of adjustment not only for you but also for your children.
Visitation is meant to be a time for the parent and children to be together and enjoy each other.
Visiting with the parent's friend may make the children feel that the parent does not have time for them. If a parent can't come for the children on the day that was agreed upon, he or she should tell the other parent and the children as soon as possible. Not telling them may hurt their feelings. Some divorced parents think that visits are not important. This is not true.