Ethan, England, age 16 The people who bring the most positive results from telling are just the people who accept it, and who don't only say it's okay, but show they mean it by the way they treat you. 18 More and more gay youth are learning to feel better about themselves. As you start to listen to your deepest feelings and learn more about what being gay means, you will begin to be comfortable with your sexuality. Later you may want to tell someone else - someone you trust to be understanding and sympathetic. You might choose a friend your own age, a sibling, a parent, or other adult.
Some gay youth are able to come out to their families.
Others are not. Start slow with someone you trust and the rest will unfold as it should. In the beginning, be cautious about whom you tell, but be honest with yourself. Just as self-denial costs you, coming out will pay off. When gay youth accept their sexuality, most say they feel calmer, happier, and more confident.