If that means that we have to warn men off from messing with us, so be it. We have looked for answers in education, culture, economics, biology. We need to know how and why forces external to ourselves can squelch vital parts of our true selves. I kiddingly say that I give chutzpah lessons. So much of this is about having the wherewithal and the confidence to believe that you can do it.
Women tend to spend way too much time preparing instead of just winging it.
And the fact is, we can succeed by just winging it. There are times when taking a leap is better for you than taking another course. Instead, women must conceive of themselves as potentially, if not actually, equal subjects . . . What I mean by that is getting quiet by myself and making sure the voice I hear is my own and not yours. After 28 years of marriage, during which she supported her husband through graduate school, raised two sons and worked as a writer, Cheryl Jarvis decided she could squelch her dream of escape from the daily rigors of family care-taking no longer.