You're not being superficial. This is all a game meant to be played with maximum confidence and wit . The object of the game is to psyche and seduce the gatekeepers so the velvet ropes come tumbling down. Saunter up to that rope smiling broadly, not even acknowledging that silly little barrier, as if you expect it to melt away. Wear genius shoes .
Shoes are the anchor of style.
That's one the first things door divas clock. We were totally K'd out so turned on our heels. The Doorman came running after us. Once you get inside - Hold court. Be visible baby.