Another way of looking at the issue of resiliency is to imagine life as a box. Work Picture the Box of Life and decide what fills it up.
Some people have the strategy of filling the box with just one thing.
For example, some people fill the Box of Life with work. They tend to look at life through the lens of work. When work is going well than life looks good. If there is a bad day at work then life can look frustrating and depressing. When the relationship is good then life is good.