His hopes live in the idea of enjoying the relation with her after making his critical first connection. He gives little attention to what a relation later wants for its health and prosperity. In his eyes most of the relation is formed and in place once she reveals her wish to be with him. A man consciously sees the relation to follow as asking little more of him than courtesy. And so a man's anxious effort to first win her expects to later take easy delight in her beguiling ways.
Women are also concerned about first meetings.
Their larger concerns are with what a relation with him would ask of her and less with making their first meeting a connection. She wants his strength of purpose in her life and to be thrilled by his firmer and more focused ways. Few men realize how their vigor can suspend a woman's breath and steal her composure. And likewise for his greater first instinct to greet challenges with action. Her intuition moves her past these good things to images of what it would feel like to be with him from one time to the next.