The first part of the first step is the sticking point. I can do anything. But the reality is that life has become unmanageable. Maybe I'm not as powerful as I think. Maybe there's a better way.
Some religions teach surrender.
When we look at our lives honestly, it's pretty clear we're not all powerful, because look at the mess we're in. We're not functional. Until we are willing to surrender, there is no moving on. There is, however, no pressure to surrender. Each person is free to reach this willingness in his or her own time and own way.