I thought women were good communicators by nature. Women think communication is talking. But there's a big difference between talking and communicating. Communication means getting your message across. Talking doesn't mean you're being understood.
Women can talk circles around men, and often that makes men feel insecure.
Men know they can't keep up verbally, so they either become very demanding or they retreat, knowing they can't win anyway. Women and men need to spend more time listening and giving each other permission to vent. Once we get past the venting, we can get down to the real stuff. Getting our own needs met is certainly the slant in John Gray's bestseller Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus. And it's that kind of advice that was another driving force behind my desire to write this book.