I thought to myself. I thought of some of the people I knew who had been married a long time. I remembered how members of my family used to point to these long marriages as examples of what marital love was all about. I remember thinking how unhappy and lonely such and such a couple used to look. Endurance seemed to be what it was all about.
True love means endurance.
Lady G was miserable, frustrated, and totally unfulfilled. Surprisingly, so was her husband, although he came to only two counseling sessions. The delight and promises of their college days had ended with two strangers bonded together by the terrors of aloneness. Our bafflement about love stems from behaviors rooted in what I will call mystification . I first heard this term used by the pioneering psychiatrist Ronald Laing.