Remind your child that death itself is painless. Fear of separation This may be addressed by using specific religious or cultural beliefs related to the body, soul, or spirit. Some children may communicate through play or drawing. Pay attention to their drawings and discuss them with the child. Others may write letters to their parents or loved ones to say good-bye or to indirectly ask questions.
Writing allows the older child to ask direct questions without visibly upsetting the parents.
Some adults and children communicate best through writing small notes back and forth to one another. These beliefs greatly influence the death experience. Parents, members of the family's religious community, chaplains, and clergy can play an important role in discussing and explaining death to a child. Also, sharing these beliefs with other caregivers can limit confusion for the child. For all age groups, allow the child to set the tone for communication.