With puberty comes the challenge of individuation. I must start rehearsing my independence. I'll hurt and insult you to see how much I can count on you to be there when the going gets rough. This is normal for teenagers, but intensified by the adoption experience. Remember, the ultimate achievement of parenting is obsolescence.
Society sends adoptees the message to search.
There is no society on earth without religion. I always wondered. Search is the adoptee's active part in the process of adoption. Usually it's the child bearing years, late twenties early thirties, when adoptees actively search. I may have an intense desire to know just before puberty.