This doesn't mean that men and women have no differences or that we all must be ardent feminists. Learn to speak English. This doesn't mean that you can't learn other languages, too, or keep up a native language. And, if you expect to be accepted, you should avoid speaking another language when you are with people who don't understand it. Don't be rude.
Some people apparently view it as unmanly or uncool to be polite.
But that is just adolescent sullenness. Don't break the law. That means, among other things, that you can't use illegal drugs, which is just as well since there is no surer way to stay at the bottom of the heap or to find yourself there in a hurry. Don't have children out of wedlock. Here again, it is a sure way to stay poor and raise poor children.