It is the faint of heart that stay stuck. They may mistakenly believe that they can somehow through there selfish weakness win a free pass to change. This is not so. Courage in the face of pain gives one a splendid opportunity to grow as a result of having acted courageously from the heart. Acting courageously, in matters of the heart means exercising one's vulnerability.
Vulnerability is a strength and a gift.
Do not ever be ashamed of being vulnerable. Hold your head up. There is honour in courage. When one acts with courage one does not hide. Acting with courage means laying your cards on the table because you have faith in both the hand that you have been dealt and the way that you are playing out that hand.