My ex-husband had stopped paying child support after two months and threatened to kill me if I complained. I took the threat seriously. Most women don't like to talk about the sordid details of family violence, so the public thinks welfare mothers are irresponsible or lazy. The women I met on welfare were very hard on themselves. They called themselves lazy, when they worked part-time, studied and cared for several children.
Welfare reform is aimed at the wrong target.
It takes two parents to support a family. Welfare will end, or at least diminish, when we stop regarding it as the natural prerogative of men to desert their children and beat their women. Make them get a job. Give them training and educating, if necessary. Don't cut off benefits to the children until the mother is self-sustaining.