We have contributed to the idea that they've got to duke it out, it's going to be a fight to the finish. Either the woman is going to lose control of her life, or the child is going to lose its life. It occurred to me that there's something wrong with this picture. When we presume this degree of conflict between women and their own children, we're locating the conflict in the wrong place. Women and their own children are not naturally mortal enemies, and the problem is not located inside women's bodies, it's within society.
Social expectations make unwanted pregnancy more likely to occur and harder for women to bear.
One is that it contributes to the present deadlock in this debate. It's an endless, interminable argument that can go on for another 25 years if we don't find a way to break through. They do this for frivolous reasons. She wants to fit into her prom dress. She wants to go on a cruise.