One basis for building a strong stepfamily is an understanding of the realities of stepfamily life and debunking of its myths. In this article, we'll review major myths about stepfamilies that, if believed, can discourage stepfamily bonding. In the next article, we'll review some of the differences between stepfamilies and first marriage families. Understanding the myths and the realities helps us appreciate what is normal as a stepfamily develops, leading us to hold reasonable expectations for family life. According to leading experts Emily and John Visher, there are seven common myths stepfamily adults often have about their new family.
Studies show that it usually takes many months for a stepfamily to blend successfully.
Most stepfamilies become integrated in about two years, but when teenagers are involved it can take longer. They may give up on their new family too soon. He would invite him to go fishing with him and play basketball with him, two of James' favorite activities. James would come along, but seemed halfhearted about it. John wondered if James didn't really like him and became so frustrated that he wanted to call off any shared activities.