I am impressed. We're all parents here, and pretty much agree in a common sense approach to parenting. I would appreciate it if you could give me a little help. I find your article really interesting. I think another issue is that people do not take into account differences in personality of kids.
Some kids naturally have trouble fitting in socially.
My son is an example. It is obvious that he is very different from other kids. In my case, we are lucky to have an enlightened school that recognizes his differences without feeling it meant that he needs medication. Recently, I became aware of the Myer-Briggs personality theory. I don' t know if you are aware of it, but I think it would help many parents to understand their children better, especially if they seem quite different from themselves.