This is supported by a recent study in which one in five Canadian men living with a woman admitted to using violence against his partner 6 . Most men who assault their partners are not violent outside the home. They do not hit their bosses or colleagues. When abusive men hit their partners, they often aim the blows at parts of the body where bruises don't show. If abused men were truly mentally ill, they could not selectively limit and control their violence.
Women often provoke assaults and deserve what they get.
Abusive men know their wives or girlfriends are frightened of them and use violence as a method of control. When a man is inclined to be violent, there is no behaviour or response a woman can use to prevent or stop his abuse. She can yell at him, she can hit back, she can run away or even withdraw, and he will still be violent 7 . Some men expect their wives to know what they want without telling them. These men then blame their wives when she doesn't do what he expects her to do.