When we are angry, there is release of adrenalin. We feel powerful and strong, that we can vent the rage and get what we want. There is little support in our culture for weakness. We do not focus on it and do not accept it. But we must grieve to heal from loss.
Unresolved grief can be dangerous.
It can lead to outbursts of anger and rage, restlessness, depression, addiction, compulsion, anxiety, and panic disorders. Physical symptoms may include the development or worsening of diabetes, heart disease, hypertension, cancer, asthma, allergies, and gastrointestinal disorders such as constipation, diarrhea, and ulcers. When we grieve, we are mourning the loss but also the fact of our powerlessness. No matter what we do, we cannot replace what has been lost. We cannot resolve grief until we know what we are grieving, what the losses are.