If everyone knows the truth, there will be no need to ask questions that may lead to embarrassment or defensiveness. There are a variety of reasons why the number of children living with grandparents increases every year. Some parents cannot afford to care for their children. Some have to work so many hours to make financial ends meet that they have nothing left for quality time. Some parents are in jail.
Some parents are drug addicted.
Some have lost custody. Some parents abandon their children. No matter what the reason, most children feel a sense of deep loss. During the twenty years I have worked as a school psychologist, I have counseled with hundreds of children who are not being raised by their natural parents. The majority of these children hope to be reunited with their parents someday.