Don't expect to hear from me until after Connexions. ODP lists a bunch of providers . Wonky, this is. Anyway, in the course of our discussion, it became clear that the issue isn't sexual preference but sex.
Slashers tend to be pretty heterosexist in their thinking.
By which I mean penetration and orgasm are seen as the goal of sex. I know this is not true for all slashers, but those are the sexual values I see expressed in our fic. And it occurs to me that I don't think about sex like that. I mean, it's touching to be close to someone, because touching other people feels good, because warm wetness feels good, because people taste good, because I want to make other people feel good. It's clear that sex and cuddling are not the same.