These feelings, if ignored, can often bubble beneath the surface and can sometimes grow in intensity. Some people say that they feel they should be grateful for being alive, not fretting about the deficiencies in their sex life. If you feel unsure about yourself and lack confidence as a result of the cancer, you may also lack confidence sexually. It can help to talk and express these difficult feelings. If you want to share your feelings you need to pick someone, perhaps a family member, who will listen and not judge you or tell you what to do.
Sexual contact can be a good outlet for some people.
Anger may subside in a very healthy way after intercourse. Sexual contact can also distract people from feelings that are bothering them. It may be fine to talk directly with your partner. Share your rage, anger and other so-called negative feelings. Many couples use such times to start being 'real' with one another, perhaps after a whole lifetime of tip-toeing through the minefield of their relationship.