Guidelines for Self-Control Define Good Behavior Make sure the child understands what you expect. Decide ahead of time what the rules or limits will be. Keep the limits as few, as simple, and as consistent as possible. Set Reasonable Limits Set the limits so that success is possible and then gradually raise these expectations as the child's abilities mature. If it is difficult for you to judge whether or not a limit is reasonable, you may want to ask the Extension home economist in your county for guidelines.
Some people think that putting discipline in a positive way is being permissive.
Actually, positive discipline is based on the idea that children need and deserve guidance and direction from parents. If you give these guidelines in a positive way, your child will be more apt to cooperate with you. You may wear the red or the blue shirt. If the child is behaving in an unacceptable manner, give a positive alternative. If the child is restless or overactive in the house, suggest outdoor play to run off some energy.