I think its fair, and hardly oppressive, to expect her to keep the kids sorted and look good. People who are so egotistical that they feel they should add to the overpopulation problem by having children to pacify their own need create something, then they expect you to smile over how darling their little snot nose is. Psychiatrists who think that your every disagreement with them is a symptom of your disease.
Single people are authentic adults, too.
We have bank accounts, stock portfolios, good jobs, and decent homes. To me, losers are those who ignore their intuition and blindly follow the corporate life-script they've been handed, and wonder and whine about being miserable. Silly little temps who dress up like 21st century hippettes, complete with Micro-minis and tall boots, and whine about no one taking them seriously. I have my own job and pay my own bills. That my husband and I have separate checking accounts, our own computers, our own studies and our own individual e-mail addresses.