It's easier to be deadened and numbed, because then you don't have to constantly be arranging your life to fit the soul. That's threatening, and that's why we don't have a lot of soul. We are a pretty numbed people. For one thing, you don't feel a great deal of inner conflict. Not that life becomes easy or simple, but there isn't that awful struggle of great opposites.
Soul is a resolver of opposites.
Another would be connections. In our spiritual tradition there's an essential connection between soul, desire, and love. The soul-filled life is not dry and detached, it's a life of connections. For example, you're connected to work, and there's some love and desire for work. You're not just trying to achieve some goal that never arrives, but there's a real love right now in work, and the ability to connect with people is part of it.