Men starting courses tended to show no remorse but, rather, self pity. Another voluntary organisation, Nottingham Agenda, was set up in 1991. Each group starts with eight to ten men and runs for twenty weekly sessions of two and a half hours. After the course the men can attend follow up sessions monthly. The first thing we explain is that they have to take responsibility for their own violence.
Some men come here to save their relationships.
We explain that is not our job. Other methods include isolating partners from their friends, restricting money and demeaning the partner. Violence is just one tool. Men drop out of the course along the way and of the men that successfully finish, it does not automatically follow that they are 'cured'. Some have re-occurrences during the course and some afterwards.