By Dan and Anne McMenamin Dan Dialogue is a structured form of communication between two people. It s an attempt to communicate our feelings to our spouses. Once we begin to understand and accept each other s feelings, our levels of emotional intimacy soar, and our relationship improves dramatically. In its simplest terms, dialogue begins with a letter written by one spouse to another in this case, from me to Anne. As basic and even silly as this might seem on the surface, these structured letters are a very powerful tool.
Successful dialogue has several distinct steps.
First, select a question. Fill in those blanks with nearly any word or sentence in our vocabulary, any issue you may be confronting, and you have the markings of a dialogue question. Questions like these form the basis for a dialogue. You can make up any question you want, as long the question assists you in learning your feelings regarding an issue. Normally, you both write about the same question.