Steele recommends such things as enrolling in acting classes at the local junior college and joining clubs that have members of all ages-situations where talking and working with people is normally what goes on. The bottom line is to let her discover that you are first of all safe, second of all interesting. Only then can she see you as attractive. Steele recommends having a stock of chit chat items about current movies, celebrities, music, Iv, sports and other topics that young women are interested in. He even tells his readers to subscribe to, and read, Cosmopolitan and People, then leave them on the coffee table.
Sex is verboten, even in a joking manner.
He avoids saying anything that will make a young woman feel ignorant, or that makes him took intellectual. And, he's careful to show only a slight interest, so that the girl feels she has to rate acceptance by him, not the other way around. They're so used to flattery, they are bored with the same old shit when somebody's trying to pick them up. I use a different approach. The real conversation is conducted with body language and its nuances.