Have clear goals and rules concerning music, tattoos, hair, earrings, etc. Be sure that both parents have a united front in order that the children do not play one parent against another. Accept restlessness and discontent as normal. Children are growing and need lots of rest. Don t try to be a teenager.
Teenagers have friends.
They need parents. If you have more than one child, avoid labeling them as the most athletic, better looking, smartest sibling. Look for windows of opportunity. Listen more than you speak. Express attention verbally and physically.