It's their right to mind, and it's right for them to mind. Conservatism isn't fair, it's not enlightened, it's just the accumulation of stuff that works. Societies that adhere to stuff that works survive, those that don't, don't. Microsoft is the Studio 54 of the software scene. Generally, it's the extremes define stereotypes.
Some blacks call themselves niggers .
They have a chip on their shoulder about being black. Sometimes it is a response to constantly being challenged by bullies. To fight a bully, become a bully. A stupid, self perpetuating cycle of oppression and counter oppression that turns into institutionalized hatred. Institutionalized hatred is both inherently stable and inherently destabilizing.