Intimacy means different things to different people. While most men tend to equate sex with intimacy, women tend to think in terms of emotional closeness. Intimacy, like all valuable assets in our lives, requires planning and work. It produces wonderful results that make us realize all the planning and work is very worthwhile.
Time together is an essential ingredient in developing intimacy.
Unfortunately, couples in ministry risk giving so much of themselves in ministry that they endanger their own relationships. In the fishbowl we call ministry, we may be opening ourselves to criticism and feelings of failure if we do not immediately respond to call of ministry opportunities. Your church will wait while you build your marriage, but your marriage won't wait until your church is perfect. One key to maintaining intimacy in your marriages is to be sure that your schedule has specific time set aside to be with your spouse. That sacred time must be closely guarded and carefully planned.