When you are having a rough time, talk to your partner, a family member or a good friend about your feelings. It helps to talk with someone close to you, or with someone who has been through the same experience. There may be new parent groups in your area, too. She might not be what you expected, though. It can take time to get used to the baby you have.
Some parents love their new arrival right away.
Others have to get to know the baby better, and that s normal too. It s a little bit scary at first, caring for a tiny infant, but you ll gain confidence with time. The relationship between parents and their babies depends on both. Busy, active parents may understand a wiry, active baby better than a very sleepy, quiet one. Calm, mellow parents may understand a happy, relaxed baby better than an active, jumpy one.