People feared I would do that. But once the lesbian community saw that I was not abandoning lesbianism, that I continued to work for gay and lesbian rights, that I continued to promote lesbian culture, I think a trust was rebuilt. And we are fine now. It is interesting though. That was 20 years ago and it is still a subject of discussion.
Some wounds take a long time to heal.
I have only been in this relationship for 7 years. And have always been fairly private about my intimate relationships. By being lesbian identified, i.e. outspoken in a very personal way about lesbian and gay rights and culture, in places where lesbians and gay men are in the closet. And by doing so, I support those who are out as well as those who are trying to come out. I live with a man, but we are not married.