In fact, after our brief discussion tonight, I wonder if my gifts and vision match your need. The evening ended soon after that, and I never heard from them again. No phone call of thanks for making the trip, no note, no nothing. 3.The Silent Date. Single women often complain about the guy who has shown a modicum of interest but never calls.
Search committees tend to be equally uncommunicative.
The rules of dating the silent type include never letting the candidate know you have received any of his or her submissions. Never send a thank-you for anything. Never let the candidate know he or she is still a candidate. One committee got upset with me when they discovered I was candidating at another church. In the intervening months, they had become secret admirers and felt as if I were cheating on them.