Be committed to finding solutions that are fair and that work for both of you. Anytime you take an action that is calculated to have you come out on top and the other person on the bottom, you force that person to fight to protect him or herself from you. Then you have to fight to protect yourself from the other person. Then the other person has to fight even harder to protect him or herself from you. Without knowing, you create a cycle of conflict that can cause tremendous suffering and cost a fortune in attorney fees.
Serious damage is done and none of it is necessary.
If you want to resolve your issues without conflict, you need to stop being a threat to the other person. Refuse to draw sides against the other person. Look for solutions that are fair and that work for both of you. It's hard to fight someone that's on your side. Click here to learn more.