Gender is a performance on the social stage. Part of the transition process involves learning to re-read your body. The Erotic is treated by western culture as a pseudo-science. Other cultures create an art of the erotic. Neither works perfect.
Sex is the vicarious experience of the other.
Even here, meaning seems to have priority over sensation. It erases bodies, acts, and desires which do not meet its aims. A Chronicle of Menace Interspersed is the recent history of gender-activism, rendered in narrative and through the superb photographs of Mariette Pathy Allen. It is an inspiring story. Here is some of it.