The lady didn't even talk to her sister that visited her. That lady continues to talk to Mary and most do not believe she talks. This lady's physical needs were being met, but her emotional needs had not been met. Families also have emotional needs. We will never discover those needs until we submit ourselves to them.
Submission carries with it the idea of adapting oneself to the needs of others.
It is like altering a garment for a person to fit their build. A couple shape their plans around each other to fit the big picture. This assures a masculine and feminine perspective on perspective. The message of the cross is submission. The means of that submission was sacrifice.