Love is very close to hate on the emotional scale. As our emotional life matures, we seek to gain control of these high energy feelings, harnessing their energy, stopping them from getting out of control by exerting self-control. But some men, possibly as the result of experiences earlier in life, can find that those closest to them, those they value most, trigger the most powerful releases of uncontrolled outbursts of this energy. This results in acts of violence, hurtful to those he loves, and making the individual feel unworthy, fearful of the consequences of his lack of self-control. Unchecked, these can become habitual responses, revealing a cycle of cause and effect where strong feelings he cannot channel more acceptably are vented through violence.
Some men seem naturally more likely to respond to emotional pressure with aggression than others.
The aim is to help you to recognize the causes of this anger, to detect when violent behavior is likely to occur, and to control and manage that emotional energy non-destructively. I believe this is an inward thing. While the frustration of confinement, physical or emotional, can lead to violence, the history of sports stars involved in partner abuse suggests that physical exercise alone doesn't avert the aggressive response. I suggest three lines of action, self help, seeking help to manage your anger and seeking advice and help together with your partner about your relationship. Anger management groups have a lot to offer men faced with the problem of partner abuse.