Older youths have a better understanding of death, although teenagers often see themselves as invincible. It is important to be as honest with the child as is possible. Talk to the child about your feelings, and encourage them to talk about their feelings. If they see you sharing your feelings and allowing yourself to cry, they may feel that it is okay for them to be open with their grief. However, keep in mind the child's age when you are discussing the death and decide what is appropriate for the child to hear and what is not.
Women generally grieve in healthier ways then men do.
This is not to suggest that their pain is any more or less, just that they handle it better then men do. After the death of a loved one, many men feel that they have to take control of things and protect the rest of the family. They have to be strong for everyone around them. It may appear that he is cold, unemotional and that he is not really affected at all - but he is in pain. And they feel inadequate when they do want to cry or they do want to share.