Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh. We walk in the Spirit by submitting to God and making a decision to do things his way. And yes, we still have to grow into the full measure of the Spirit but at least we have started to move in the right direction. Half the battle is in admitting that we are wrong. The other half is in hanging in there until we are changed.
Words are cheap and easily thrown about without meaning.
Others will know we love them by what we do. It comes by a look in the eye, a touch, a cool drink on a hot day, a loaf of bread to a hungry family, taking time to sit under a shade tree with your child. But most of all it comes by giving yourself completely to God. Most people do not realize that they are saying this to justify hating you. There is an attitude of self-righteousness that will come on people and you can feel it.