One love scene, for example, unfolds with Griffiths' character aggressively demanding her ex-lover to tell her why she wasn't good enough for him. Griffiths says that because you ignored all the signposts along the way hinting at a doomed relationship, your feeling of self-disappointment is so raw that you demand justification. Lawrence suggests it's probably guilt gnawing at our conscience as we feel responsible for the relationship's failure. We lament, Lawrence says, if only we worked harder at it, it may have had a chance of surviving. Heather McKechnie, a marriage and family therapist with a private practice in Newmarket, shares the same perspective.
Women are people pleasers.
We were raised to nurture. Women often play hero and assume the job of saving men and fixing them. Society only adds to the burden of responsibility by supporting the notion women are experts at multi-tasking, Belleghem says. Taking care of her kids, her spouse, her aging parents, plus earning a living are tasks she should be able to handle with minimal fuss. Some women claim that despite their busy, multi-tasking lives, maintaining a steady routine can control stress.