If the answer is still no, this is at the base of why you are not experiencing a full definition of self in your relationships. You are not advocating for yourself. Awareness of self is where it all begins. Self awareness involves being conscious of thoughts, attitudes, and behaviors, that are a part of your daily function. Including thoughts, attitudes, and behaviors that you are content with, as well as that which may need improvement.
Self awareness embraces a positive self perception.
One that generates an I care about me position and requires a daily commitment to self. Being yourself in a relationship necessitates awareness of boundaries. Boundaries include knowledge of limitations, what is acceptable in a relationship, as well as a clear perception of where we stand on significant emotional issues. This also includes maintaining an emotional bond with others who think and feel contrary to the way we think and feel. Self acceptance is also crucial to definition of self.