I enjoyed MW3 as well, and I was happy to find even the intro movie was gender neutral. I hope to see more games like it in the action genre especially. But I'd also like to see both genders in games as well. The challenge is to get the industry to start taking notice. More so than the males in fact.
Women are very strong in the adventure game market as well.
The games I enjoy are competitive games. Puzzle and adventure. I think you are right. I see no difference in education. You try to blame it on schools and the education system, you are to right doing so.