Express this to your children. Parents too often assume that children know that parents love them. Tell them often. Always distinguish your disapproval of a child's behavior from your unconditional love for them as a worthwhile person. You may find it effective to tell your children that you are surprised that someone as smart as they are, as good as they are, and as wonderful as they are, would have such uncharacteristic behavior.
Unconditional love provides a solid anchor for the children which contributes to high self-esteem.
According to psychologists, children need at least fourteen hugs a day for healthy growth. The examples and scientific evidence supporting the tremendous emotional and physical benefits from loving hugs is nothing short of remarkable. The importance of this key is only underscored when custody periods make contact intermittent. This is because we instinctively know that if you want to drive a message home to someone, you look them in the eye while delivering the message. Deliver positive loving messages to your children by looking them in the eye.