Whether you are homeschooling or afterschooling, it is up to you to bring out the star in your child. You can do this by encouraging natural talents and interests, and you can do it by teaching strategies that make something that is difficult easier to learn. It could be as simple as encouraging a child to take picture notes instead of linear word notes, or pointing out that reading the directions out loud could help with understanding, or tossing a bean bag to help a child memorize math facts. Parents of children in traditional school systems can coach for success by focusing on solutions such as these and by tracking successes rather than failures. The goal is success.
Success leads to confidence and confidence leads to positive attitudes and making good choices.