Love is a fruit of the Spirit, one of the essential gifts of grace with Faith and Hope that everyone can receive. The charismatic gifts are given some to one, some to another for the work of service. The gifts equip us to give the Bread of Life to the hungry and the Life-Giving Water of the Spirit to the thirsty. As we reflect on John 15 we see that if the branches are not in unity with one another, they cannot bear fruit. The same is true for the gifts of the Spirit used in our prayer groups, communities, sharing groups.
Unreconciled relationships stifle the free exercise of the gifts.
Where there is disunity, there is sin and the wages of sin is death. On the other hand, the deeper more committed relationships that come with sharing our lives give people a sense of belonging and that courage to take the risk of making a mistake, without which gifts go unused. The spiritual gifts need to be submitted to and discerned in the community. We, and the people we lead, are ready to use a gift when we are ready to have it discerned by the community. The gifts work together.