Well obviously I didn't go out and buy myself a years worth of time and put it in my cupboard. I made strong boundaries around all the issues which involve other people making demands on my time. I tell family and friends not to call me unless it's after work or during lunch. And I enforce my boundaries strictly. Strong boundaries create and protect your reserves.
Self care Another aspect of having a strong foundation is self care.
When you have strong boundaries this becomes possible because others cannot convince you that their needs come first. When you have reserves of time and energy, and learn the skills which prevent you from being put upon and drained by other people, they just won't succeed. Targets of bullying When you have been a target of bullying you have been subjected to a total character assassination. You can lose your sense of self worth, feel a sense of powerlessness, lose faith in yourself and your own abilities and suffer lost confidence and low self esteem as a result. When you start to work with a personal coach you begin to get to know yourself again.