If the family and significant others are not told, the individual may experience feelings of isolation and guilt over keeping this a secret. The family may find out at a later date. At times not telling the family may be the right decision. Boyfriends, girlfriends, partners, lovers and other significant people including roommates, may have a difficult time understanding the victim's feelings. They may also be in need of counseling, not only to assist the victim but to obtain support for their own feelings.
Some people are ready for counseling right away and others delay.
Some never seek assistance. It is usually best to have some individual counseling prior to entering a support group. The counselor's gender is not always an issue but options should be made available without question. Contact at this time by someone who the victim does not have to protect and who is supportive and non-judgmental is crucial. Have available resources and referral lists that are up to date with names, phone numbers, fees and other appropriate information.