They are comfortable and they make you feel secure. I hope this helps. Men like medium and small size women as well. The myth that men only like small size women is just a myth that we should shatter. Wear your hair simple with some gel pulled back.
Simplicity is where it is at.
When you're fresh out of the shower, throw some gel in your hair, put your towel on like a turban for a half an hour and let your natural curl take place. Put it up in a twist with a clip on. Let your natural wave rule. Hair products, when used correctly, will give shorter hair its own natural wave. Play with your products.