It feels very uncomfortable. It feels unsafe, threatening. And it hurts. It especially hurts when it comes from the one you love, the one you chose over all others to love forever, who vowed to love you forever. You feel diminished, less than.
Truth be told, it has exactly the opposite affect.
In tearing someone else down, you are exposing yourself as the small, insecure, mean-spirited person you are. It will ravage its very foundation, while the structure itself slowly disintegrates, as well. I am deliberately painting a dismal picture, but it is not an untrue one for couples who allow it to happen. However, it doesn t have to. The ways in which people treat one another with both respect and disrespect are outlined in this article.