My wife actually had to tolerate cutting remarks from the same people who would have never given me a raise. You can insist on a periodic review of your pastor's salary and benefits package. Do more than the bare minimum. Be alert to special needs such as braces for kids, school clothing, increasing health care costs, and parsonage repairs. Show respect This doesn't mean lip service either.
Sincere respect is demonstrated by action.
Honor your pastor's day off. Encourage them to take vacations and spend time with their spouse. Understand their need for continuing education, solitude, and privacy. Encourage your pastors to set boundaries to protect themselves, and then encourage others to honor those boundaries. Respect means we don't violate someone' s personhood.