Avoid scheduling a visit around times of the year that are the most hectic for you at work or the most chaotic for you at home. If you do invite your in-laws around a busy time of year, such as the holidays, try to plan ahead and get as many things done in advance as you can so their visit will be less stressful for you. If your in-laws are coming from out of town and need a place to sleep, your spouse can suggest they may be more comfortable in a nearby hotel for more room and privacy. If you and your spouse do not feel comfortable making this suggestion and you expect them to stay with you, be sure that the bedroom they sleep in is the farthest away from your bedroom. This will allow for you and your spouse to have as much privacy as possible during their visit.
Spouses usually feel torn when their parents come for a visit.
They do not know whether to be a son or daughter, or a husband or wife. During family visits, they feel torn between being a loyal child to their parents and being a loyal spouse to the one they married. Be a spouse first and a child second. In a healthy marriage, each partner puts their relationship with their spouse above any other relationship, including the ones with their parents. Make an agreement that whenever either set of parents comes for a visit both of you will be each other's spouse first, and your parents' child second.