You can look at the same man through so many lenses, interpret what you see in so many different ways. That means you can be biased. Over the years I've had many marriages to the same man. I think we all do. However, the path to resolution is different.
Women tend to cherish the goal of achieving love despite the enormous price they've paid for it.
Men, on the other hand, are far more uncomfortable coming to terms with deep, spiritual love. They have no problem understanding early romantic love because that is perfectly suited to the male view of himself as a chivalrous prince. However, the self-exposed, stripped of your honor, we're just two human beings depth of love requires a stretch for men.