Most churches, even if they claim tolerance, hate homosexuality.
Silence is a good teacher.
Give up, then tell yourself how evil you really are. This makes your rejection of them even more reprehensible. Though you may have little power to determine this, it helps to grow up in a rural culture, in the South, or in the working class. A combination of all three is ideal, especially if religion is a integral component of the culture. Also, if you have developed, unconsciously, inappropriate gender-coded gestures or behaviors, this will help in your development.