Don t worry too much about it. The more you worry, the less likely you are to enjoy yourself or make your partner happy. Get your facts straight, remind yourself of how much you care for your partner, be prepared for birth control and learn about personal hygiene that s about all the preparation you need for this new experience. Both reactions are completely normal. For many people, sex itself is something new and unfamiliar, even though sexual desire is not.
Sexual fulfillment is an important aspect of married life for both partners.
Before you have sex, it is worthwhile to read about it and find the answers to whatever doubts you might have. When you choose a book on sex, try and find something that gives you the facts without being sensational. Knowledge gives you confidence and makes you assured. It is important for you to understand the different phases of the menstrual cycle and to know the structure and function of the reproductive system. Talking about your feelings and being considerate and gentle helps to develop the sense of intimacy that is necessary for sexual closeness.