Another way you nurture your child's growth is by teaching her to adapt to changes around her. If the family faces challenges as a mutually supportive unit, your child will feel secure in accepting change and adjusting to it. Success One of the ways your child develops self-esteem is by succeeding. Try to expose your child to challenges that will help him discover his abilities and achieve successes while preventing him from encountering obstacles or tasks likely to lead to too great a series of frustrations and defeats. This does not mean doing his work for him or keeping him from tasks you know will challenge him.
Success is meaningless unless it involves a certain amount of struggle.
See if you can find a variety of playmates, some older and some younger. Invite your child to help you around the house and have him do chores as he gets older, but don't expect more of him than he realistically can manage. Your child needs understanding, security, and opportunity geared to his own special gifts, needs, and developmental timetable. These things will make him a success on his own terms. Begin by handling your own anger and unhappiness in a mature fashion so that she learns from your example.