You feel comfortable being yourself with this person, not being what you think they want you to be. This is someone you would choose for a friend. You respect the other person's value, even if they differ from your own. Trust in developing for both of you. Time apart isn't desperate.
Time together is mostly positive and happy.
Disagreements are dealt with promptly and with respect. You don't confuse discord or violence for romantic passion. Changing people is difficult. Realize that the inspiration to change comes from within an individual. We only have the power to change ourselves.