And indeed many stories of pre-birth communication do support the view that our children are predestined to be with us. An Australian woman recently sent me her story. But six years later, the mother had a vision at the edge of sleep. The message and vision were compelling enough to lead to a vasectomy reversal-and the birth of a baby boy the following year.
Some experiences point to a certain creative flexibility at play in the pre-conception world.
Patricia was fearful of becoming pregnant, although she had powerful dreams of a little boy for over a year. I still feel the presence of a little one 'waiting in the wings,' a little blond boy. After a year of uncertainty, Sharon decided against having another child. In one such case, a mother already had three children but was reluctantly preparing to conceive another boy whose presence she felt around her. But other stories imply more of a give and take, a process of mutual choosing with freedom on both sides-potential parent and possible child.