They need to feel worthwhile. They need to be assured they are not to blame for the divorce and separation. The bad experience of divorce and separation affects everyone. In fact, everyone has probable hurt others at ties. No one is perfect.
Words do a lot of damage.
Children are susceptible to the words spoken by their parents. They Will Be Hurt. Emotional abuse will show itself in the children in many ways. Children who are hurt get poor grades, or they might have problems making and keeping friends. They tend to misbehave.