The are no rules on how one should deal with money issues in a marriage. Some couples put all of their income in one account. They then decide on how that money will be spent. Other couples keep separate accounts as well as a joint household account with each partner contributing an agreed upon amount to the household account. Still other couples decide that one partner will control the finances.
Some men give their wives their paycheck and retain an allowance for personal expenses.
In some marriages the man controls the finances, giving his wife a household allowance including money for herself. In all cases, however, the couple should negotiate how they are going to handle money. The decision should be a mutual one where both parties can feel comfortable with the outcome. If he is unwilling to discuss the matter, then you could decide to get a job, stop doing the housework, and suggest that he participate in the child care and household responsibilities since both of you are working. I believe in each home there should be an equal distribution of labor and of the family income.