Some people refuse to accept things as they are.
Some people accept things just as they are.
It depends on your views of what is good or not good for you to accept. In other words, it is important for you to examine what is going on in your life and determine for yourself what is or is not acceptable to you. For example, suppose you are in a romantic relationship with a particular person. You buy this person gifts, cook gourmet meals for him or her, and surprise the person with romantic gestures. The person offers nothing in his or her own behavior to show appreciation for your consideration and generosity.