It happens to both men and women and in different ways for each. These are the unsettling years, and as they pass it is always interesting to see how long it will take us to break out of our self-imposed shell. We are never quite sure when this is going to be and it is usually memorable. Now we know what crisis feels like. It's scary when we begin to understand that we are the source of our own misery.
Some people never reach that understanding.
As we are liberated from our fears, we love ourselves more. We can now recognize that there might be other options. We feel good about discovering our greatest power. . . The more we experience our many choices, the more grateful we become. Not only that, when we begin to pay attention to what we are thinking and feeling about things and do those things differently, who we are often liberates those significant others, friends and family with whom we interact.