There is a tremendous symbolic power in coming together with another person, when they enter my body, or I theirs. Being enfolded in the arms of another offers feelings of security, nurturing, desirability. Sex can give me a sense of worth, even if I am only being used by another person. For a man or woman who deals with homosexuality, some of the most intense needs can be met temporarily through sex. Sex makes contact with another person.
Sex is exciting.
I can make contact with the masculinity or femininity that I crave. Someone wants me as a man or woman. The links are powerful and over time, through years of sexual contacts or masturbatory fantasies, they become stronger and stronger. Our needs and a sexual expression of their fulfillment become bonded as by a super-glue or a solder. First, we need to acknowledge the link.