Being curious invites you to be present in the moment. It is difficult to be curious and angry at the same time. Be curious about each other. Arguments are often a struggle to gain reassurance. Let your partner know you have a conflict and want to find a solution with them and move on the next step.
Uninterrupted time is vital.
Conflict before bedtime, in bed, in the car, before leaving for work or social event or when time is limited by some expected event is sabotaging. Request a mutually agreeable time for the fight. Try to make it within twenty-four hours of any disagreement. Once the day and time is set, keep the date. Clearly state what you do or do not like.