What are first perceived as virtues in a loved one can so easily, subtly start to be perceived as vices. Vivacity becomes frivolity. Quiet strength becomes annoying passivity.
Wit becomes sarcasm.
And charm becomes manipulation. Only love tips the balance. My husband is a very charming man. I enjoy the Christmas season. My husband particularly dislikes buying gifts, so over the years I have found myself buying them for him, even those intended for me.