Choose a location where you both will be comfortable, preferably not the bed. Dim the lights and play soft music you both enjoy. Use plenty of pillows or a comforter. If you wish, use baby oils, scented oils, lotions, or powder. Tell the giver what feels good and what does not.
Sensual massage omits the genitals and breasts, which are discussed in the sensate focus section.
Begin with facial caressing. Normally the giver sits and the receiver lies flat on his or her back with the head resting on the giver's thighs. With the hands well lubricated, the giver begins with the chin, then strokes the cheeks, forehead, and temples. Caress the face as if you were a blind person seeking a mental picture of your partner. Then explore the ear lobes, lips, and the nose before returning to massage the temples for complete relaxation.