But the Kehs' experience is not quite the blow for equality that some believe. After all, to become pregnant after menopause, you still need a younger woman's egg. Arceli is the gestational mother, the birth mother, the nurturing mother, but not the genetic mother. I know that the biological clock is lamented as proof that life isn't fair, that men have more options than women. They can start later, or start over, with a second wife or a third trophy.
Women have to figure it all out earlier.
But I have always thought of menopause as the built-in female advantage. There is a biological clock. It is ticking. It's the life cycle. We feel young at heart and love our child.