To have an intimate connection with another person requires first that we have access to our own personal emotions and ideas. We cannot expect another person to insert intimacy into our lives when we are out of touch with our own internal experiences. We must explore and become familiar with our own personal thoughts and feelings before we can share them with someone else. Our intimate experiences involve our emotional, cognitive, social, physical, sexual and spiritual lives. Two people, each of whom is in touch with his or her own internal experiences, may be able to share an intimate relationship on any one of these levels.
True intimacy is one of the ultimate expressions of the human experience.
And that may be why we strive so hard to find it. Each person seems to perceive the intimate experience in his or her own way. In a sense it takes a personal journey of self-discovery to learn how to share intimacy with another person. In our stressed-out world this is often hard to do because our attention is directed outward much of the time. Observe your thoughts and feelings.