To hate is to show you still care, who needs that, focus on what's really important. Wear away the fat, get down to the lean tissue and see what it's all about. The only time you define your character is when you go without. In times of hardship, you find out what you're made of and what you're capable of. If you're never tested, you'll never define you character.
Scar tissue is stronger than regular tissue.
Realize the strength, move on. Don't do anything by half. If you love someone, love them. If you hate someone, hate them until it hurts.