Understanding the teacher s purpose in giving you that information may help you to lower your defensiveness toward that part of the process. Also, feel free to share things about your child that the teacher may be unaware of. Share about your family, your schedule and what you do evenings. A teacher that knows your family will better know your child. It is simply a gauge of where your child is in their development, not an attack on your parenting skills.
Teachers are aware that children develop at different rates and in different areas.
The information provided should really be validating what you already know. By changing your feelings toward the conference, by understanding that this can be a valuable time for you to partner with your child's teacher, you may, in the end find that you are more involved with what happens in your child's day. Make sure you have a daily schedule of subjects and activities that your child participates in so you can ask your child what he or she did in Social Studies that day, or what the child did in Music or Art. And finally, keep in mind that if there were significant problems with your child's behavior or academic progress, the school would have made you aware of that by this time.