So you could work to enjoy this lush growth, and find those lovers who truly appreciate who you are, and how you look. Other women choose to have the hair removed. The only way to permanently remove the hair is electrolysis. It takes time, but will remove a large amount of the hair forever. Shaving and other depilatory techniques are not always so successful, and they often result in discomfort and itching, so they aren't the best way to go.
Some women choose to bleach their hair, especially that on their arms and other very visible places.
This works to make it less obvious, but needs to be repeated frequently. I think you are right to be thinking about how to be more comfortable with yourself. As I mention, there are many people who find body hair either attractive or neutral, and you may want to start concentrating on what you like about yourself and putting that out there for others to notice. You might want to read Sark's Succulent Wild Women as a wonderfully affirming book on loving who you are and how you are, whatever that is. I don't know of specific resources for women with a lot of hair, but there are some good books that focus on body image and body acceptance, and I'd recommend you consider looking at some of those.