There has to be the attraction and feelings. The truth is, you can not choose how you feel about the same or the opposite sex any more than you can choose if you like chocolate or seafood. When you are gay, you simply have different feeling. These are the feeling and attractions that make us gay. Like I said, it is laughable.
Sexual orientation emerges for most people in early adolescence without any prior sexual experience.
And some people report trying very hard over many years to change their sexual orientation from homosexual to heterosexual with no success. For these reasons, psychologists do not consider sexual orientation for most people to be a conscious choice that can be voluntarily changed. Gay can not be changed . This is as absurd as heterosexuals trying to me converted in to homosexuals. Being gay has a lot to do with our feelings and like all feelings, we can not control them but only how we react to them.