It puts me off to hear men address each other in feminine gender. If you take a look at ordinary boys, you see that they inevitably glamorize strength and power, and fights are usual among them. While gays as soon as things are starting to heat up, either try to smooth them out or to beat it before the fight breaks up. But probably this is an innate quality in us. I've noticed we all are afraid of open aggression and gross power.
Some people get a charge out of risky situations.
Here everything started with public bathrooms too, since there were no other possibilities and places to find partners, there were no any other ways-out. Everything was forbidden and persecuted, and the situation is different now. We should abstain from shocking the society and try to get rid of this stuff. Otherwise we'll carry this stigma on and on. There will not be radical changes in the immediate future.