Some kids have told us they have called a family meeting. In the family meeting everyone gets a chance to talk. That is when you can suggest making a time to spend with a parent. They love both their parents and don't want to have to be the one to make that choice. The judge can choose to speak to the child but this is usually not done.
Some judges find it helpful to speak to the child.
Others hardly ever speak to the child. Each judge has their own way of doing things. We don't always do the same thing. If I decide to speak with a child, I will do so back in my office without the parents and without the attorneys. Just one on one.