The follows that help leads the most are not the ones who know the steps so well they can do them without the lead. They're the ones who don't do anything that they are not led into. If the follow doesn't do anything, it should become plain to the lead that he needs to lead the move more clearly. These are generalizations. If you find following boring, backleading is not the answer.
Women make great leads.
Or two women, or two men. This is something fun and challenging that people get into after they've been dancing a few years. Hope this helps. Try dancing with your eyes closed. Suddenly, I could really focus on the points where our bodies connected - hands, arms, waist . . .