Do you take it deep inside or do you hold it away from you so that you can look at it objectively and learn from it. You can shrug it off when you have done learning. Learn to put things in perspective. Look out for compliments, take them in and shrug off rejection. Begin to notice your feelings and where they are located in your body.
Simple awareness is sometimes curative.
Making the first move . Ladies, you already have taken initiative in many areas of your life. It's just an alternative way of doing things. From time to time you can enjoyably make the first move. If you see someone across a room that does something for you , make up your mind to connect with that person.