Remember, God is very concerned about the peace and safety of you and your children. Therefore, you should never allow yourself to be physically abused by your mate. God doesn t want you to remain in a dangerous relationship. Of course, the only exception to this counsel is if your spouse is sincerely seeking help for his or her abusive behavior through counseling and developing a right relationship with God. However, if the above circumstances are not occurring and your spouse is willing to dwell with you, consider the following counsel to help you live peaceably with your unbelieving spouse.
Unrealistic expectations act as one of the greatest hindrances in any marriage.
Refusal to adopt a realistic outlook toward your spouse results in tremendous anger, frustration, and depression. If you are already frustrated, examine realistically your current expectations concerning your mate. First, ask yourself how you expect your mate to behave. If you answer yes, then your expectation is not realistic because your spouse is not a Christian nor does he or she have access to the power of the Spirit. Therefore, continuing to hold on to this expectation in your heart will only bring you frustration.