It's easy to believe the one, but really be self-serving in the end. What I'm doing now, I hope, is addressing the truth of the Gospel and our tradition to you, and to do it the best way I know how. Real courtesy, sensitivity and love mean you choose your time and your subject. Second, the truth must be used to build up and not to tear down. If you dump on someone and feel better about it, then you need to look at why your feeling better was achieved at someone's expense.
Tough love works only where there is an already existing relationship, and an appropriate one.
Spraying your particular projections on all and sundry merely turns you into an emotional machine gun. If you have someone in your life who know how to tell the truth at the right time in the right way for the right reason, be mighty grateful. But remember that such is a rare gift. I believe God knows that, and I believe further that God can't and doesn't arrange that everyone will always have such a right person with the right truth at the right time for the right reason. And I believe further that the ultimate speaker of truth in love was Jesus of Nazareth, whom many of us call Christ.