You may reflect on your family's loss when milestones are reached, such as walking or graduating from kindergarten. When comments or events trigger your grief, go ahead and cry, says Dr. Davis. Don't banish those thoughts. Use them to work through your emotions. She suggests discussing feelings with another parent through a bereavement support group or email list, writing thoughts in a notebook or a letter, or talking to a professional with bereavement experience.
Some people move slower, some faster.
Go at the pace that's right for you. Two Toddlers' Tragedy One of the special concerns of parents who have lost one or more multiples is how that loss will affect survivors. That's certainly something Drema Brown, of Pflugerville, Texas, worries about. Tragically, one of her identical twin boys died over two years ago when a child's dresser fell on top of him. After the accident, Lucas wouldn't eat or sleep, and he constantly searched in rooms and under beds for his twin.