A smile, a wink, just a moment of kindness goes a long way. Paying attention to the details of life is important. Pick up your own trash, and pick up for each other. Put things away, help each other with the small projects around the house. These things are the currency of love.
Small surprises can create huge rewards in a relationship.
Taking a moment to put on a clean shirt before dinner, or using the good china, or cutting a flower from the garden and putting it on the table, are examples. All these things add color, spice, and graciousness to our lives. We all have bad days. Take the kids to the park for an hour, order Chinese take-out for dinner. This is the reality of life.