Not to be like, advocating violence or anything, but we were talking heinous violations of The Girlfriend Code. But Miss Monica did tell her bidness to a woman she'd been down wit for no time at all. Sadly enough, when examined in the context of what we women have been taught about our moral superiority and sisterhood, it all makes sense. It lulls us into a false sense of security. This is a breeding ground for betrayal, both inside the Beltway and up in the Bronx.
Women tend to form friendships through the acts of sharing and revealing.
For many, it's an intense, heady affair, a seduction via disclosure. We reveal our innermost secrets quickly and freely. Having bought into the myth of sisterhood, we assume our confessions will be protected by The Code. But thinking that you know someone just because you've exchanged a lot of intimate information is very risky business. When women use talking as a way of skipping this critical step, we run the risk of mistakenly confusing the person someone claims to be with who she really is.