You'll need to get more people to agree on a dress or decide on a shower date. And if you're on a limited budget, think about just who has to pay for all those bouquets. But if you suffer from a serious Jan Brady complex, the thought of asking Sis to be a bridesmaid probably ranks right up there with getting a football in the nose. Still, it's worth it to include family members just to avoid unnecessary conflict. Just think of it as having an extra bargaining chip for when you're battling with your mom over the guest list.
Weddings are no time for quid pro quo.
If it's the latter, think twice about asking friends who live far away or have extremely hectic schedules. You don't want to find yourself angry or frustrated with a friend you knew wouldn't be able to help as much as you wanted. A bridesmaid doesn't have to be a woman. If your best friend is a guy, there's no reason he can't be in your wedding. A man on the bride's side is simply called an attendant or bridesman, while a woman on the groom's side can be called a groomswoman.