We can request and make our relationship needs and desires known to our partner, but the exact method our partner uses to show us their caring is completely their determination, which will be based on the compilation of their life experiences. In relationship or not, we can not expect another person to give us happiness or any form of fulfillment. Our personal happiness is our state of being when we are thinking and acting in harmony and lovingly with the highest good of each situation, moment to moment to moment. The expectation of getting happiness from a partner is a selfish attitude that precludes our personal happiness. When we act selfishly we act without regard for the highest good of the situation.
Selfishness is isolation in action.
Truly, no person is so independent on this planet that they can survive without using something that another has had a hand in providing. The expectation that our partner will provide our personal happiness is never possible. The attitude and actions of selfishness, getting or taking from another for self-gratification, is contradictory to living for the highest good of the whole situation. Harmonizing our attitudes, thoughts and actions with the highest good, consistently, is really what produces our feelings of happiness, consistently. Jeder Mensch ist das Bild und das Produkt seiner Geschichte.