Before you share your opinions too freely, find out what's important to your in-laws and what's not. Learn what they expect from one another and from you. Once you understand their values and ground rules, you will be more self-confident, and your assimilation should proceed more smoothly. Allow yourself to be educated. Try asking your future in-laws how they met and married, or about their parents and grandparents.
Some families are more complicated than others.
If you inherit one of the following difficult types, you'll need these hints for dealing with them. First, understand their motives. They are feeling the pain of separation from your fianc , and they want to embrace you as one of them. Now diplomatically explain how much you love their company but that, alas, you have so much to do with the wedding on the horizon that you, regretfully, have had to make some other plans. Controllers They will do almost anything to get you to do what they want, including bothering, browbeating and bribing you.