And yes, I can see women too. You probably see what I do, but your social mechanics pre-digest the information into a negative label which you discard as uninteresting information. One characteristic of all abused men is shame. I've never met a woman who could hold as much shame as these men do. It cripples them.
Society amplifies it.
It is as though their souls are crucified - they are nailed and held immobile by nails of shame. I can see a mans shame. They spend more effort hiding their shame than anything else. It is their last piece of humanity that they cling to. I have no statistics to quote you.