But we are not at fault for someone's suicide. In the end, in the final moment, they made the choice alone. I would replay the chronology of events leading up to Harry's death, searching for lost opportunities to reverse the inevitable outcome. Gradually, I came to understand that while it may be possible to help someone whose fear is death, there are no guarantees for a person whose fear is life. Common Reactions to Suicide Shock, guilt, grief, anger, depression and denial work overtime when someone commits suicide.
Suicide is seen as a preventable death in the minds of many people.
With this being the case many survivors feel intense guilt and anger since they were unable to prevent it. When the one who has died is your child, the emotions intensify further. The knowledge that your love was not enough to save your child and the fear that others will judge you to be an unfit parent may raise powerful feelings of failure. Realize that as a parent you gave your child your humanness your positives and negatives and that what your child did with them was primarily your child's decision. Mental health professionals who have been searching for years for an answer to that question generally agree that people who took their own lives felt trapped by what they saw as a hopeless situation.