The tend to take total responsibility for the emotional care of the family. Because of their experience in this role, they often choose careers as helping professionals, careers that can reinforce their tendencies to ignore their own needs. They are likely to get into various kinds of trouble, including drug and alcohol abuse, as a way of expressing their anger at the family. They also function as a sort of pressure valve. When tension builds in the family, the scapegoat will misbehave as a way of relieving pressure while allowing the family to avoid dealing with the drinking problem.
Scapegoats tend to be unaware of feelings other than anger.
Some of these roles may look more effective than others, but each has its own drawbacks and its own pain. From the perspective of your role, it may be hard for you to understand the pain of a brother or sister in another role. Even though their pain may not be obvious, all of these roles have serious consequences. Trying to forget the past without understanding how it affected you seldom works and may lead to more problems. Often this means forgiving your parents so that the healing process can begin.