There are all sorts of visual delights that can accompany sex. Enjoy them before, during, and after. Don't drink alcohol before having sex. Alcohol does not enhance sex, despite what some people believe, and it can make you drowsy. Don't have sex only late at night after a hard day of work.
Sex can be a great way to start the day, too.
If your wife wants some quality quiet time after sex, plan to do something slightly more active than simply lying there. You can talk, trade massages, or stroke each other's hair. Tell her how wonderful it was and how relaxed you feel, then allow yourself to drift off, holding her in your arms. If she has just rocked your world, it is not too much to ask that you not roll over and start snoring immediately. Sandor Gardos, PhD, is a licensed clinical psychologist and sex therapist.