These are qualities that usually come with a moderate amount of stress. It is an art in that it is an individual process of discovering what is stressful for you, the amount of stress that is optimal for you, and what methods work for you in moderating the stress in your life. For each of us, these answers will paint a somewhat different reality. Whatever the reality is for you, taking responsibility for the stress in your life is one way to keep it at a beneficial level. This means recognizing that stress is not the job, the class, or the neighbor, but your response to the job, the class, or the neighbor.
Stress is a response to a situation, rather than the situation itself.
That's why the same situation can be stressful to one person, and not to the other. It is helpful to keep this distinction in mind. While external situations are often beyond our power to change, internal responses to a situation are not. By taking the responsibility for our own level of stress, we are more empowered to influence its effects on us. While the amount of stress in our life is not always in our control, what we choose to do with the stress is.