The next step is to get these important issues down on paper so you can share them with your caregivers. Phrasing something pleasantly may mean the difference between kindness and hostility from the hospital staff. My last baby went straight to the nursery, and we both really missed out on our bonding. I d like to get off to a better start this time. The second statement is much more likely to win the sympathy of the nursery nurse.
Time is precious, so keeping written plans short and to the point is fundamental.
You may want to use the form provided here. Keep in mind that although it is important for your doula and other support people to be aware of all the details of your needs, it is not essential for the hospital nurses. They need to be able to get right to the heart of how to personalize your care during this birth. If any of your issues are at all controversial, I strongly recommend that you discuss them ahead of time with the person in charge of dealing with those issues. That may prove to be the obstetrician, the head nurse, the anesthesiologist or the hospital administrator.