Physical death plus doctrine gives the believer the greatest blessing in life, dying grace, but this takes faith to understand and believe. According to the word of God dying grace is greater than any blessing in time and is the ultimate in glorifying God. Dying grace is the final escrow blessing distributed in time. Therefore ignorance of God's essence and plan brings in bitterness and destroys the believer's capacity for dying grace. This bitterness leads to self pity which is a disastrous sin.
Self pity is basically occupation with self and that is one of the greatest distractions in life.
Self pity becomes very inflexible in the non-essentials and produces a weak person. Many seek to gain pity from others in the case of the loss of a loved one. And when people respond to the weak person because they feel sorry for them they only serve to contribute to their weakness. Impersonal love eliminates the manipulation of emotions and self pity in the search for attention. Our deeds are not to be performed in order to arouse attention from men but from God and God is definitely not intrigued by one's sorrowful self pity.