A woman can smile, make eye contact, tilt her head, and maintain an open body posture to let a guy know that she's not enemy territory. Men do the asking because it gives them control. But along with the control comes the risk of being rejected. Women have to wait to be asked, and that's sometimes hard, but it makes them feel special. Men pick up the tabs, open the doors, are chivalrous, and behave like gentlemen.
Women allow themselves to receive from men because that's the feminine nature.
It's up to a woman to let a man know how much she appreciates being treated like a lady. Men really want to give to women and make them happy. When a man feels he has succeeded in making a woman happy, he is satisfied with the job he's done. A smart woman lets a man do his job instead of trying to do his job for her. A smart feminine woman knows she is independent, self-reliant, and can take care of herself but doesn't throw it in a man's face.