Check in with your feelings and discuss the process with your partner or trusted friends and family members. Selecting A Donor From A Sperm Bank's Catalogue Many lesbians choose to use a donor from a sperm bank's catalog. They want their parental rights protected from a donor claiming paternity. However, since they are also concerned that their children be guaranteed a future opportunity to know their biological heritage, many lesbians seek donors who are willing to meet the child once he or she reaches adulthood. Donor selection criteria varies with each parent or couple.
Some lesbians elect to use a private donor for insemination purposes.
Sometimes this person is a friend or a member of the non-inseminating partner's family. In other instances he is someone who was sought and located specifically for the purpose of inseminating and shared parenting. The parties concerned will typically draw up a contract stating their agreed-to parental rights and responsibilities. It is still unclear how the courts will interpret these contractual parenting arrangements.