Tim took me out to the movies' or 'Tim took me to dinner'. It is only 'me and Tim had fun last night' and I really like this girl. It doesn't sound like he is interested in taking her out or being a 'couple' with her. He may just be interested in the heat of the moment and having a good time. If you really like her, wait it out.
Women are generally pretty forgiving of the first time with a new partner.
Most won't use this first time as protocol for the future . Everyone likes things customized. You will not find a better teacher or advisor than your lover. Talking about what works or doesn't work can be a real turn on. I have a wonderful gentleman in my life that does everything possible to satisfy me.