It's hard to convince people that my ex-wife knew well and completely my history both with men and with women. One gay man recently asked me if I scrape all the pride stickers off my car when I date a woman. And my parents and straight sibling have asked how I ever plan on falling in love if I can't even decide on whether I'm gay or heterosexual. If bisexuals are ever to overcome such misconceptions, it will only be through a concerted and visible effort from the bi-community. As with gay awareness, bisexual awareness begins with a clear and defined community.
Visibility is perhaps the single best way to start the process.
The problem is, not everyone in the gay community wants us out of the closet. Robin Margolis, the national coordinator of the newly formed Bi Women's Cultural Alliance is a bisexual who has had a lot of experience with the issues of bi-identity in her career. Coming out as a bisexual woman left her feeling isolated, she told me in a telephone interview. People without the slightest interest in sex with the opposite gender. We are more than just a function of our acts.