I'll give you some straight advice Harv. To get into a relationship you need a girlfriend. The odds are starting to look up that you'll nab somebody that just got dumped by somebody else. Either desperation or incredible reserve will show. You must overcome this, by reaching critical mass .
Women enjoy critical mass when they are searching for a guy.
You will reach critical mass by attempting to date as many women as possible. Once you approach critical mass you will also be less likely to blow a good thing by trying too hard. I know you don't believe me, but you must try it. Doc, I didn't believe you. But I tried it anyway.