They know that sex is one of the most amazing and important aspects of being alive. That's why teens and teenage sexuality scare the shit out of older people who have given up on sexual pleasure, who don't want to acknowledge their sexual natures, who carry such immense sexual pain and frustration that they want desperately not to be reminded of the sexual potential they have chosen not to pursue. Teenagers don't need advice on how to be less sexual. They need information, tools, and opportunities so that they can give some kind of satisfying shape to their emerging sexual feelings, desires, and experiences. And by satisfying, I mean what is satisfying to them, not what adults think should be satisfying to them.
Sex is art, and there's something more to art than a raw appreciation of vibrant color.
That's how adults could be really helpful to teenagers, if they were willing to align with teen sexuality, instead of setting themselves in opposition to it. Adults could offer ideas, thoughts, perspectives, and emotional confirmations with an eye toward enriching and validating emerging sexualities, if they would just stop trying to diminish, control, or deny them. Public Sex In case you missed the delightfully sexy KGO billboard at Van Ness and Pacific, we're running a photo of it here, just to show that not everything in the world is moving in an antisexual direction. Just a couple being sexual in bed, something that happens thousands of times every day. Yet definitely a first of its kind as public advertising display.