Hadith narrates that to shed the blood of another Muslim destines one for the Hellfire. We are taught Paradise lies at the feet of our mothers. A widespread concern of domestic violence centers across the country are the nature of calls they receive from Muslim women who, for a number of reasons, tend to wait until the violence escalates to the most intense level, when either their life or that of their child is threatened. Before calling helplines or agencies outside the community, Muslim women tend to wait until the violence escalates to a life-threatening stage. Perhaps dinner is a few minutes late, the children are making too much noise, the shirt was not properly ironed.
Some injuries result in death.
They have a need to control others and tend to prey on the weak or defenseless. However, as the batterer's goal is to systematically undermine the victim's self-esteem and confidence, even educated, articulate, independent thinking women can, over time, fall prey to abuse, especially when pressured by an entire family, such as in an extended family arrangement. Muslims tend to view slapping and beatings not as violence, but rather as the head of a household's right to manage his family. These women, both victims and their rescuers, remain at high risk, unprotected by their families or community. At the same time, it is unconscionable that any Muslim should be put in the position to go outside our community to have their daily needs met, to seek safety, protection, love, or to be respected.