Many community hospitals have grief support groups for family members who have lost someone they love. Not all members of these groups have lost a loved one to violence, but nonetheless feel the pain, shock, guilt and anger that you are experiencing. Consider joining a grief support group. The first time you celebrate a holiday after a death, it may become a nightmare. Holiday gifts that once were ripped open immediately may set for days.
Thanksgiving is hollow.
New Year s Day and birthdays, which celebrate another year of life become reminders of death. You may find the need to develop new traditions. For some, a trip out of town at holiday-time may be beneficial. A birthday can be observed by donating to a charitable organization or doing something that is meaningful to you. Sometimes being with other family members and talking together about the good times experienced in the past can be a source of strength.