Focus first on the overall outcome, not how you will achieve the goal or you will limit yourself. Don't be obsessive about goals- let them happen, don't force them. Be flexible and be aware of the unexpected which may be a stepping stone to your goal in disguise. Shared family goals have more meaning and the commitment to achieving them is greater.
Visualisation is the technique used by top sportspeople to achieve results.
There are those who make it happen, those who watch it happen, and those who don't even know it happened. Successful people make things happen and use the process of Goal Setting. You are not as stuck down in a rut as you may think. You have far more choices than you could ever imagine. Also set tangible and intangible goals.