All people need safety, trust, self-esteem, control and emotional intimacy. Intimacy comes about by discovering whether you can feel safe and trust another person to accept you as you are. Expressing yourself, revealing yourself is in your control. You cannot however control how the other person responds to you.
True intimacy requires a free and honest responsible sharing of feelings, thoughts and needs.
Intimacy is a risky business of revealing ourselves, filling in the shades and colours, the hues of our being down to our souls until we can feel a bond of knowing and connecting, then we have true intimacy. In any relationship between two people there are two sides, two ends holding a shared experience, each is responsible for holding and taking care of their end, their side. WE know ourselves through our own thoughts and feelings. We cannot have intimacy unless the thoughts and feelings are shared reciprocally. An important part of intimacy is permitting the sharing and accepting becoming involved in this process -closeness then can develop.