At New Castle Friends, we have come to recognize that explanations are not usually wanted. However, words of comfort and a willingness to listen are like balm made for the wounded spirit. In contrast, people truly appreciate a safe place to admit they are grieving souls. Many treasure the opportunity to uncork their pain and pour out their sadness with a mixture of words and tears in a setting where no one feels compelled to challenge another's need or right to be sad. Not everyone bares their soul in these groups, however.
Some individuals say very little during our time together.
They seem to be comforted simply by being with others who are like them in one glaring way. It is as though the mere hearing of other people's stories and experiences confirms their own journeys. Simply being part of the group is enough for them. It is helpful to be reminded they are not alone. Providing a place for discussion and support is probably the greatest service of our bereavement group, but education and direction are also high on our list of priorities.