Selfishness implies a lack of concern for others and is truly harmful. Constructive selfishness on the other hand, considers the needs of others and takes care of self. Parents who take care of their personal needs are happier, healthier, and better at meeting the needs of their children than parents who consistently sacrifice themselves for their kids. Children only respect parents who respect themselves. In our busy schedules, we most often neglect ourselves.
Some mothers have a more difficult time than fathers finding personal time.
Whether they work full-time in the home or in the labor force, mothers need to take a break just as much as fathers do. Unfortunately, too many mothers work around the clock shouldering all the maintenance work of the family and are solely responsible for the children. These mothers will never get a break until they decide to take it. For these parents, to take personal time seems to mean taking time away from children. Parents who stay at home with children feel that they must devote all their time to the family to justify staying at home.