Which I have been normally emphasizing defensiveness and fear, and then trying to resolve it by being aggressive and insensitive. The more you become in touch with it, you can start to focus on what spirituality is as in the fully enlightened being. This is where refuge becomes very much Buddhism in the sense that the fully enlightened being is, one, the teacher that has shown the paths. That's why as least I am a Buddhist because I believe that the Buddha showed the right path and therefore I have taken refuge in him as the founder or presenter of the path. Nowadays of course, what we should focus on is one, that is something important because we were lucky to have the Buddha.
Second thing is the qualities of that being which founds the path.
The Buddha they say, the enlightened being, whether it is a man or a woman, has completely abandoned all negative traits and has accomplished all positive traits. It means that the enlightened being naturally and spontaneously never falls back on any negative trait as in defensiveness or any sense of insecurity. The fully enlightened being only responds from positive aspects in the sense of having a very secure mind. There is no unknowingness in the mind. The mind is full of love, compassion, wisdom, understands it's own nature fully.