Spending too little time together eventually turns you into strangers. Too much time, or low quality time, eventually spoils your appetite for being together. Work together to arrive at a good balance of time together vs. time apart. To create lasting closeness, it is necessary to rely on each other and to help each other to fulfill dreams. Invest time discussing your hopes and dreams.
True intimacy is one of the best experiences in life.
How to create and nurture it, though, is a real challenge. It takes teamwork and openness. Psychologists have measured the importance of communicating positives in your marriage. A series of studies at the University of Washington found that, for the strongest relationships, partners, over time, communicate five or more positives to each other for every negative that passes between them. Kind words, considerate acts, and expressions of respect all communicate positive feelings.