Extend the conversation by following up on something they mentioned by using their terms and expressions. Allow yourself to react bodily to the words you hear . For example, if something bad happened to your child at school, it is OK to let your face show it. Share your uncertain feelings from time to time . Choose times when possible when it is easiest for you to hear important things.
Some times are better than other times to listen and communicate.
You know when those times are in your family. Reflect feelings and thoughts . You also help your child determine how they feel about an event by reflecting their thoughts. In this way children can make the all-important discovery that they can choose to feel any way they want to feel. Not only does active listening communicate our love for our children, it is one of the best ways to cultivate Respect, Responsibility and Resolve.