Spiritual leaders take the family to church. It sounds so simplistic, but there are many men who fail to realize this significant fact. First, wives need the support of husbands who find the public service to God a critical and meaningful element of their daily lives. Second, children need to be influenced by fathers who are ready and willing to worship God. Children learn best by example, and seeing their father dressed and ready on Sunday and Wednesday will teach them more about worship in those early years than will their Bible lessons.
Spiritual leaders love their wives.
Husbands need to make it clear through what they do that they love their wives. Spiritual leaders exercise discipline over their children. This does not necessarily mean punishment, although that can certainly be involved. Obviously, discipline is both teaching and correction, and children must have both if they are to grow into what we would expect from mature servants of God. As above, we cannot overstress the idea of teaching by example.