Elders are there to provide loving protection for the women being hurt in these situations, and accountability and discipline for the man at fault. A minister actively involved in the viewing of pornography or an extramarital relationship of any kind has stepped outside of the qualifications found for leader in 1 Timothy and Titus. He must be held accountable by his elder board. I would encourage the women involved to step out in faith and involve appropriate church authorities. Love speaks truth and stands for what is right.
Sin can only grow when it is hidden in the darkness.
It needs to be brought into the light of Christ. I had posted a few questions dealing with husbands and porn and I wanted to share some things that I have found out to encourage any woman struggling with addicted husbands. No matter what your spouse is doing, he needs help. If your spouse thinks he can handle this on his own. He can t.