It's been a great communication tool for our family and is helping to set the stage when the road gets rocky as they get older. Anyway, this is just one of several good ideas to have come from this book. Kathyrn Kvols speaks from time to time in the Bay Area, and was most recently hosted by the Habitot Museum last year. This did not make the crib a hated place for sleeping, by the way. If you have another safe, self-contained space in the house, use that instead.
Toddlers know from the tone of our voices when they did something wrong.
They also don't like to have their activities interrupted. We don't surprise her with it either. There is no reason to spank children or slap their hands. A lot of how your child responds to your efforts at discipline may have to do with certain temperament traits she has. It's helpful to understand your child's temperament when you're trying to figure out discipline and other issues.