However, the books that we are reading, even those written by Christian authors, seem to have differing ideas on child rearing. It is easy to understand your confusion. It is obvious that child rearing is a process, a process that takes 20 years or so. Further, structuring of both mind and actions is included in the underlying concept. It is difficult to include this concept of structuring in an English translation without the translation being awkward.
Some parents yell a while, and then spank when their patience is gone.