Parenting is one of those jobs in which the goal is to eliminate the need for your job. In a well-functioning family, teens always get a voice. They just don't always get to vote. Consistently violate either side of this equation, and you've got trouble. Punishment breeds resentment and a desire for revenge.
Teens have many creative ways to retaliate.
In general, consequences need to be reasonable, respectful, swift and strong enough to get teens' attention. Parents need to set boundaries and structure from day one. Teens need boundaries and structure just as much as children do, if not more. Thirty feet if you're in the mall. Jeff Herring is a family therapist and professional speaker in Tallahassee.