What we hold inside of ourselves, often at a subconscious level will attempt over and over to purge itself from our reality. This is the core reason why we end up in circular patterns if we aren't making choices to end the patterns. Knowledge is power. Each borderline needs to re-connect to something that they have experienced at an early age, whether that is sexual abuse or some other experience that was as traumatic or experienced as traumatic. Sexual Abuse does untold damage.
Sexual abuse leaves a legacy.
A litany of pain. A mountain to climb and re-climb and climb again. For many borderlines sexual abuse is a major part of what hurts so much in those dark, empty, unfillable and unceasing moments of abandonment terror. I wrestled with believing I was crazy for thinking that I had been sexually abused. Painful, but with nothing but positive affects upon my over-all mental health.