If you don't already, spend time with gay people, read a gay novel, or see a gay-themed movie. It would stand to reason that many heterosexuals wouldn't get as seasick about homosexuals if they got to know them and their issues. Helping someone to feel comfortable and nonthreatened in your presence may go a long way toward what they share with you about themselves. If you're meeting your men at the Queerateria, in the local gay bookstore, or at the Pride March, then you might consider some other places where you'd be more likely to meet men definitely seeking women. Dear Reader, Bathe or shower as regularly as you feel comfortable.
Some people like to shower or bathe every day and others do it less often.
In addition, people bathe or shower to feel clean, smell fresh, and revitalize or relax. Bathing or showering is a personal choice with social and cultural influences. People from other countries hold different views on personal hygiene and body aroma, none of which are right or wrong, only different. For some countries that are poorer than America, good hygiene may not be as high a priority as food and shelter. Water may be a limited resource that they would prefer to use for drinking, cooking, and agriculture, rather than for bathing or showering.