The shower is also a nice place for intimacy if the baby is in a safe place. Some researchers have suggested that in cultures where mothers receive a lot of postpartum care and attention, they may be more interested in resuming sexual relations. If this is so, it may be due to mothers simply getting more rest. But I wonder if the level of care also helps mothers to feel more valued and loved and, thus, more ready to feel loving towards others. Although you probably aren't able to summon up this level of care, you can think of little ways to take care of and be nice to yourself and things others can do for you that will make you feel loved and relaxed.
Some mothers report they feel more interest in sex once they resume ovulating again.
There probably is a hormonal connection, but there may also be a physical consideration-vaginal lubrication. Try using a water-based vaginal lubricant during the day and see if your interest increases by nighttime. Also, La Leche League publishes a pamphlet on Breastfeeding and Sexuality that you might find helpful. This Web page is maintained by the La Leche League International Public Relations Department . Feedback is appreciated.