Another avenue that we explored was to plan everything over the phone. This way, the ideal picture of your wedding isn t shattered to smithereens by reality until it is too late to pick up the pieces and regroup, thus leaving you open to embrace the naked authenticity of the moment. It is worth adding that this is a particularly helpful image to retain throughout the experience - wrapping yourself around naked authenticity. You, of course, can be fully clothed. Children are another way to add surprise.
Tension means emotion, and emotions intensify the authentic experience.
Since we were traveling throughout Peru after the wedding, we also decided to bring some of the wedding guests along on the honeymoon. This produces the feel of a family road trip, except this time you re driving and your parents are fighting in the back seat. Not to mention that you never know when some sort of ancient familial wound will break the surface and ooze itself all over the moment. Such potential explosions make you acutely aware of every seemingly meaningless dispute, just as a snowboarder understands that the soft crack of a twig might signal a massive avalanche. In addition, my wife s Peruvian family and my own family had never met prior to the wedding.