But often men, and I am speaking generally, when angry, may not want to deal with the issue and may avoid it. I feel insulted. That's a very typical male comment. Men are very goal-oriented. They want to know the upshot of the situation right away.
Women tend to talk about the situation and enjoy sharing their emotions and the experience itself.
You might explain to your boyfriend that it's important for him to understand the whole experience and not just the final point and that that would make you feel very loved if he did that. As I said before it's not uncommon for men to leave the room or want to avoid the confrontation. You might say to your boyfriend, I know you need some space now, but I would like to talk a little bit later about our disagreement. Hopefully the reassurance you receive that you will talk later will help you relax. What happens is that the addiction is the priority, unfortunately, in this kind of relationship.