For this reason, be sure to take the name of someone to call to help you debrief. No one is required to speak during the open parts of TELL meetings. If you wish to pass, say so. It is not necessary to give your name at TELL meetings. You should do whatever is comfortable for you.
Some women name their abuser.
If you are currently in litigation with your abuser, it is best to consult your attorney about what you may or may not say in an open meeting.