They are misleading, and they often serve only to perpetuate misconceptions among both professionals and lay people. Domestic violence is not an illness.
Victims are addicted to love or the relationship.
Victims are trapped in relationships by fear and lack of support. Some victims love their partners, a reality that often makes it even more difficult for them to seek help or decide to leave. Abusers are addicted to violence. Abusers make choices about how to behave in their intimate relationships, choices that are supported by societal attitudes of male privilege and lack of accountability. If victims didn't have low self-esteem, they'd leave.