From the experiences of many lesbians and gay men, their parents, and friends, we offer a number of suggestions about coming out to non-gay people. You need to evaluate these suggestions in the light of your own personal situation and needs. Be clear about your own feelings about being gay. If you are still dealing with a lot of guilt or depression, seek help in getting over that before coming out to parents or other non-gay people. If you are comfortable with your gayness, those to whom you come out will often see that fact and be aided in their own renewed acceptance of you.
Timing can be very important in coming out.
Be aware of the health, mood, priorities, and problems of those with whom you would like to share your sexuality. The mid-life crises of parents, the relationship problems of friends, the business concern of employers, and countless other factors over which you have no control can affect another's receptivity to your information. Never come out during an argument. Never use coming out as a weapon. When coming out to parents or family, try to affirm mutual caring and love before launching into your announcement about your gay or lesbian life.