But in real life violence is never glamorous or mature. It is unacceptable. When the person you are dating doesn't let you talk to your friends, tells you what you can and can't wear or becomes furious when you do something without checking with him, that is all part of abuse. Even if you are not being hurt physically, this kind of mental abuse is just as painful and often leads to physical violence. A violent relationship means more than being hit by the person who claims to love or care about you.
Violence is about power and control.
When someone uses violence against you, it is almost always part of a larger pattern of attempts to control you. Love Sometimes people stay in violent relationships because they feel that abuse is proof of love. But abuse has nothing to do with love. People hurt other people because they want to control them, not because they love them. In fact, the longer the relationship goes on, the more likely it is that the abuse will get worse.