I might have gotten the message. At best, you could have started on the road to recovery earlier. You see, the victim has been trying to tell you. Not too well though. Compounding it, you've had cotton stuffed in your ears.
Women have a hard time setting boundaries until there is permanent damage to the relationship.
Often that is too late. Often, but not always. Also, not all husbands respond as well and as persistently to helping themselves as you do. By the way, this is not about women. Now that I took your call to get on the podium, I will continue.