If the abuser is truly sorry and promises to reform, the abuse is going to stop. Remorse and begging for forgiveness are manipulative methods used by abusers to control their victims. If the violent episodes don't happen very often, the situation is not that serious. Even if the violence doesn't happen often, the threat of it remains a terrorizing means of control. No matter how far apart the violent episodes are, each one is a reminder of the one that happened before and creates fear of the one that will happen in the future.
Victims have the types of personalities that seek out and encourage abuse.
A number of studies have determined that there is no set of personality traits that describe victims of domestic violence. It is the abuser who is responsible for the abuse, not the victim.