In a cooperative society, this implies caring for the success of others as well as oneself as a first matter. The swallowing of egos and undeserved privilege are the unfinished tasks in the transformation of American industry - if there is to be one. Our perception comes out of our experiences, usually at guarding ourselves from fear or the need to learn. Putting 'egos' on the shelf is a first task for those who would be leaders. For all of their fear, winners put into play positive assumptions about 'other people' in order to create self-fulfilling prophesies of hopeful outcome.
Winners understand the language of feelings as well as that of facts.
They generate personal resolves on the order of not speaking negatively of others not present, etc. Empathetic listening helps those around us lower their defenses and share realities rather than games. If you want influence, be a credible person who focuses on gaining trust. Draw people to the vision of what you see as possible rather than trying to push. Reconstruct them in your mind by searching for common goals or benefits to be derived for the other.