Many abusers start their abuse when they are small on small animals and then graduate to their wives, children, etc. Just as drug and alcohol problems can be overcome with proper treatment and counseling, abusive behavior can be overcome with proper treatment and counseling. The person who uses any form of violence to control or manipulate a partner often has low self-esteem, may refuse to accept responsibility for the violence, and may believe the violence is justified. Often the abuser will attempt to rationalize or excuse the behavior or blame the victim for causing it. There is no excuse for this violent behavior.
Violence is against the law.