He who loves his wife loves himself. You must not miss the central point of these verses. Husbands and wives cannot love each other until they understand Christ's love for them. The love that holds marriages together is patterned after Christ's love for each of us. Submission has lost its meaning to our modern world.
Submission is understood from the standpoint of authority.
We see the one in submission as being under the authority of another. We see submission from the vantage point of servitude. It is difficult for us to see that the service we render to others we render to ourselves. You can't love your wife without loving yourself. You can't love your husband without loving yourself.