Anyway it continued with him telling me how I had done wrong. We never resolved the fight and ended up sleeping in different rooms. The next morning things are no better. I need to talk about this, but all that I ever get out of him is a generic answer. He won't talk about it.
Verbal abuse is much more than calling someone names.
It includes such things as blaming, ignoring feelings and opinions, and needs, withholding affection, twisting things around, ridiculing, judging and criticizing, threatening, accusing, forgetting, undermining and more. It's a mistake to try to reason with an abuser. They can always talk you into feeling horrible. Normal talk will not get through to an abuser. Everything you say is misunderstood and twisted by the abuser.