Neither of us found it very relaxing, since we were surrounded by people and we were always worrying about our daughter. Now I look at time alone in a different way. I look forward to the nights when we can sit in the backyard talking quietly about what has been happening with the other and just being us. There is no one there who will care if we haven't had a shower yet, if my makeup is on, or if he has a hole in his jeans. Pretty powerful if you ask me.
Some people have mistaken silence for disapproval or problems about to rear their ugly heads.
Silence can be so much more the opposite. It can alleviate stress, open up intimate moments for you and your spouse and give you an inner peace that you probably haven't felt in a while. Don't think of yourself and your spouse as simply sitting silent, let your mind wander back to times when you were first together and remember all of the special moments that you shared. You begin to see that there is still so much in your relationship that was there before which lead you to so much more than you ever dreamed. It has to do with sharing simple moments together where you can just be within each other's reach without needing, wanting or trying to do anything at all.