The only way to break this mentality is to bring God fully into our lives. This begins by accepting ourselves fully, as we truly are. By accepting our dark side. By finding God in the middle of it and seeing that he does have an answer to our problems. But we must listen to that answer and not second guess God's reaction.
Transformation comes in a variety of forms.
We must patiently see how God wants to transform us. Only then can we allow God to fully accept us. Only then can we fully begin to realize the promise of salvation and fully prepare to accept this gift. Topical call in show geared towards young adults. Listen and learn about your faith.