He is 13 and has never gone to bed early even as an infant. If the answer is no then what more I would want at bedtime is that they are not running around the house disturbing others. Basically if they seem to be functioning well otherwise, then I wouldn't worry much about it. Anyone who has watched a parent dealing with a child who is having a tantrum has observed that everything the parent has tried to do hasn't worked. The more you try to do to stop a tantrum, the more it goes on.
Tantrums feed off of parent response.
You want to give them as little as you can as far as parent attention. If the tantrum is really unpleasant, then you want to separate yourself. The best thing is to continue what you are doing and ride out the tantrum as best you can. I much prefer a deal where I am expecting my kids to do certain tasks. They don't necessarily do it but you need to make the demands and be there when the demands are made and be there until they are carried out.