This way, they reason, you'll take time to care for yourself and your body, get your needed rest, and have relaxation time, etc. Take care of yourself and you'll have more energy to do all you have to do. But this is so contrary to the average woman's psyche that it rarely works. Generally speaking, women find their greatest joy in life by knowing that they made a difference in someone else's life or in the world around them. I guess with some reasoning, one could derive the logic, but the average woman is just going to feel guilty and depressed if she goes around with a purely selfish me first mentality.
Women naturally are inclined to feelings of compassion, warmth and service.
When we remember this, and use these gifts, we find the solution to not only living guilt-free, but also a happy, purposeful, and joyous life. First off, the path to happiness and peace of mind does not involve looking out for number one. I find my happiest moments in life when I'm lost in serving and lifting someone else. But the times I'm dwelling on my own problems and challenges and worrying about me, I'm the most miserable. I bet if you think about it, you'll notice the same thing in your life.