But I found myself feeling proud of these mothers as they struggled to deal with their angry feelings and to learn from the experience. We stopped the Evaluation Meeting and used the time to discuss why the incident happened, what to expect of children at different ages, and how to handle disputes in the future. The following suggestions came out of that meeting. Children can't fight if they are not together. If space allows, keeping the little ones with their mothers and letting the older children play in the kitchen or family room unthreatened by toddlers is a big help in avoiding conflicts.
Supervision is most important at the younger ages.
Certain preschoolers may need either constant supervision or at least occasional intervention to keep things on an even keel. Children act out and get into difficulty when no one is paying attention to them. They also tend to quarrel if there is nothing to do. Have one mother play some games or sing some songs if you see that the children are bored. Take breaks to care for your children.