Fasten, then zip. Make sure your enemies know pain and know fear before they die. Collect reflection, surprise, and terror for the future. Don't touch yourself. Some things one must do alone.
Understanding is a three edged sword.
Make love, not treaties. Always have your people watching their people. The longer a terrible secret is held, the more painful it is to reveal it. Wash your hands after going to the bathroom or playing cards. The Hokey Pokey really doesn't mean anything.