Perhaps it is because it was so difficult to become parents in the first place that adoptive parents work harder to become the best parents they possibly can. Why Parents Seek Out Therapists Awareness of the developmental process of adoption is a major reason why use of therapists by adoptive families has recently increased. In the past much of the service of adoption was providing a child for an infertile couple. Not much attention was given to the child under the assumption that a warm and loving home would meet most of the child's needs. Now researchers report that even children adopted as infants have adjustment difficulties related to adoption.
Young children tend to be very positive, almost unrealistic about adoption.
Parents are lulled into believing the child's understanding of adoption is okay, when it really is distorted. The adoption process is confused for these children. By age six or seven, children usually know the difference between birth and adoption. This is part of their growing social awareness as they go to school with other children. Previous positive feelings about adoption decrease.