Many Christians find it hard to deal with grief, know what to say or have a negative view of grief. Let the one who has suffered the loss take the lead. If he feels like talking, encourage him to talk. If he prefers to sit in silence, don't intrude on his silence. Friends should call, bring food, offer to run errands, and do what needs to be done.
Weeping is natural, healthy and part of our lives.
William H. Frey of Health Partners Dry Eye and Tear Research Center in St. Paul, Minnesota provides the most revealing study on tears. Women, on the average, cry five times a month, and four times as often as men. This is something so common among single people or elderly people. Jesus himself wept twice, once over Lazarus and, the other, over the city of Jerusalem. I will pay the price of the field.