Decide together which alternative is best and whether it will actually lead you to your mutual goals. Respect individual values and differences in style. Your partner does not have to do things your way to accomplish them. If you both practice this rule, you'll both win. Remember that conflict occurs in all relationships.
Some people store up hurts, irritations or resentments against a partner for years.
When this happens, the outcome will usually be an unexpected eruption of anger where everything boils over. Instead of storing up your feelings, follow the guidelines above in a weekly, uninterrupted hour when you both air your differences. This will save you a lot of wear and tear and block you from getting even in subtle ways. Be sure to schedule this time together under the best possible conditions. Both you and your partner should be rested, fed and readily available.