Be very careful about someone, a spiritual leader of any kind, who asks private questions about physical relationships between you and your husband, and who seems concerned to know any details. It is not so much women who are already there as someone who all of a sudden gets lifted up to some prominent place of ministry, very close to that leader. And if it is running amuck in one area, chances are it is running amuck in another one too. There is something about a godly man that is associated with a very intense love for his home. Beware of a man, any man, who gives gifts to any woman other than his wife.
Sin seeks to be alone.
It doesn't like a crowd. It doesn't even like anybody around. And beware of the man who has fallen before, who has fallen before, for if he has fallen before the percentage is that he will fall again. And if you are finding yourself around this kind of man, even though he purports to be your spiritual leader my advice to you is to run the other direction.