Each generation has the chance to be better than the last, not use parents, or a lack of good parenting, as an excuse for our own deficiencies. Once we become adults it is our responsibility to get the tools our parents did not have to give us. It's our job to make decisions about the quality of our own character. It's our assignment to clean up our lives and the world for all of our children. Unfortunately, many of us are using our childhood trauma as an excuse for our own bad behavior.
Some people even resent having to do life for themselves.
They exist under the illusion that it would be more comforting to have someone else, our parents, do it for us. Their parents give them money but they are not secure. Their parents try to be better, but they are not satisfied. Their parents die and they are not healed. Those of us who never learned to communicate need to learn how to do so now.