The first type is obviously much easier to handle. When you know it can be done, you have greater willingness to fight the frustration. But you looked around and saw the other kids staying balanced. Seeing others succeed gave you the confidence to plunge in. That's defeatist and an excuse for not even trying.
Wisdom is one of the hardest skills to achieve, and is thus subject to the greatest frustrations.
Next time you get stuck, look around at all the others who've succeeded. We know if they can do it, so can we. And believing we can get there is half the battle. Like a good track coach, God will not raise the hurdle higher than we can jump, because that would doom us to failure. And God desperately wants us to succeed.