See a need and meet the need. Fear of losing what we value since that meets our needs. To have what someone else has, thinking it will meet my need. Dependent on others for my happiness. Relationship with wife and family unit.
Wife equals self love.
Two made one as joined together to become complete. He is spiritual leader of family. Man is to serve and put others before himself. The Christian man is a servant to his wife, family, and friends as Christ example of service. God rewards headship to the servant.