When we're rude we attract evil luck, so even if you have to fake it , be happy. Assume the pose. Shooting words at family members. Words are bullets or flowers. Make them the latter.
Words become real.
Don' t be a snappy conversational smartass. Instead, take responsibility for it all. God is working THRU him or her. You'll be surprised how much more you 'cognite' from vantage point of quietude. Avoid 'desire mind' as it creates 'LACK' mentality.