The media distorts them. Parents dictate them. And everybody, it seems, is arguing about them, leaving teens to figure out just what is right and wrong. Nearly everybody has a different set of values. Now for the muddy part.
Values often conflict with each other.
She relates an instance when a friend had confided a serious problem. I had to lie to my parents and friends for weeks to keep from telling his secret. If I had thought for a minute that the person could have harmed himself more by my not telling anyone, I would have risked his friendship and asked my parents for advice, but I decided that under the circumstances, it would be better to keep his problem confidential. Even if it meant Iying to cover things up. Sometimes, values conflict with other pressures in our lives.