Every group of men and every group of women contains fools, liars and treasures. The trick is to tolerate the first, spot the second and find the third. You can try by being open yourself. Approach your partner with non-threatening language. Ask your partner to talk about himself instead of talking about others.
Some people lack either the skill or the willingness to share themselves with a partner.
Unfortunately, many of us deny this reality and mate with someone who is less interested in being open than we are. The relationship then becomes a struggle over the couple's level of intimacy. A wise person will consider someone's interest and ability to be intimate when evaluating his or her potential as a future partner. Calif. He has written for national magazines and appeared on many TV shows, including Donahue, Sally Jessy Raphael and Jenny Jones. Copyright 1999-2001 MyPrimeTime, All Rights Reserved.