That's why some situations can be harmful, inflicting lingering wounds in the relationship. When the disagreements become abusive, the fighting has gone too far. Physical abuse such as striking a person or throwing objects is never acceptable behavior. Such actions are a signal that deeper aggressive emotions need to be addressed, and you are not the person to do it. Consult your pastor or marriage counselor for advice.
Verbal abuse is also totally unacceptable behavior.
No adequate resolution of a conflict can take place in an atmosphere of shouting, cursing and belittling. Perhaps your fights in the past have been unpleasant and you suspect there must be a better way to have a healthy battlefield. Follow these suggestions. Agree on how to disagree . Take time when there is no disagreement on the table and the relationship is working well, to discuss how to handle strong disagreements.