Groups can provide the sense of warmth and comfort needed at this time when you feel the loss of the family as you knew it. Becoming a member of a group to facilitate your healing can provide a sense of belonging so needed during this transition. Inclusion in a group will lessen the intensity of your feelings of rejection. And it will allow for an unfolding of your grief and the growth that can inevitably arise out of pain. Explain to your boys that you will recover, but it is like a snake shedding it's skin.
Snakes become very sensitive and irritable when their new skin is first exposed.
You are extremely sensitive at this time and it is true that your depression is a part of your healing. It is also okay to absorb the love and concern your boys have to give you without overdepending on them for emotional support. Individual counseling may be critical for understanding the emotional meaning of your current crisis. Childhood losses that were unresolved will come up for resolution at this time. You may find that your grief of separating from your husband has roots in mourning the loss of an earlier childhood figure.