After school is over, a college student helps out each afternoon, essentially to be an extra set of hands in the hectic household. Hogan had back surgery for a ruptured disc three years ago and is not supposed to pick up Wesley, who is heavy and shifts continually because of his palsy. Weekends are the hardest. Unless such care has been arranged at least days in advance, Tina and Hogan take care of Wesley and their other two boisterous boys with no break. It is tough just to leave the house.
Spontaneity is out.
Taking Wesley along means lots of preparation. Leaving him behind means one parent has to stay home. Their other sons understandably get angry or disappointed. Other kids get to go out, go to theme parks or other places. And all we ever get to do is stay home.