Give them a copy of this book. If they're ready, they'll act on it. If they're not, they probably won't even read it. So let it go. Changing your own thinking is a full-time occupation.
Some people seek sexual highs the same way drug and alcohol abusers seek chemical highs.
What you do sexually is not the issue. Why you do it is. I need something or someone out there to make me happy. Without that, I'm worthless. A great many people have asked how I manage to get so much work done and still keep looking so dissipated.