Both parents may tell themselves that they should have sensed that something was wrong and alerted the doctor. If your baby died before birth or shortly after, you will likely be overcome by a tremendous sense of emptiness. Pregnancy brings with it a number of expectations, dreams and fantasies. Now, after the emotional buildup of preparing to welcome a child into the world, you must instead accept the loss of both your baby and all your expectations. No one can tell you how to grieve, but some psychologists who specialize in grief suggest that you hold or touch your baby before he or she is taken away.
Some parents even request a photo.
Name your baby and hold a funeral or memorial service. Take your time and decide what you really want to do. In any case, make sure you and your spouse decide together. Deciding what to do with the baby is an important step in the grief process for both parents. This is the time to lean on your friends and relatives, to talk about how you feel, to express your anger and grief.