If you don't freeze. if you don't solidify the self, then you no longer need to be at the mercy of the world of circumstances. So one will be led around by the myriad of circumstances because one is fixating the self, one is at the mercy of life and death. Freedom cannot happen as long as a person is solidifying a self. As I mentioned before, when one makes relationship, makes connection with father and mother, one has dissolved oneself and one is growing. This is what is meant by transformation.
Transformation means to evolve.
As long as one is continuing to fixate the self, one will always be at the mercy of life and death and one will never be able to experience freedom. So if one wants to win for oneself the state called freedom. You will be able to dissolve the self. Dissolving the self, you 'will manifest yourself as the world that you have been thinking about. So we cannot neglect this thing called making connection.