Yoshie puts it well, better than I could have. Regarding male ideology, I would refer folks to Messner's and Connell's works. I leave this as an exercise to the reader, but be careful to avoid functionalist explanations. Today, there is a huge drop in applications for assistance, and it isn't because parents are doing better financially, at least not in Montana.
Studies remain to be done, but workers in the field believe that there are four main causes.
Second, the application and retention procedures have become even more onerous than the past. Third, potential applicants are not informed that even if they may be ineligible for a significant cash grant, they are still eligible for medical assistance, food stamps, and child care assistance. Finally, the extensive ideological campaign in the passage of welfare deform has made receipt of assistance even more shameful. When children's services intervene in home lives, it not only poses the threat of losing one's child, but also touches on all these shame factors. It can hardly be said that controlling women's labor is limited to capitalist society, although Engels' analysis of capitalism and the family should be highlighted here.