If that is the case, then abandoning yourself to the situation would better the orgasm. Tantric sex is from India and the Far East and is an ancient tradition mixed up with yoga, breathing, and sex. There is a spiritual thinking and looking with someone rather than hopping around with sex. I don't know if it is better. If you relax deeply before sex, it could increase the response.
Tantric sex is more spiritual and less hot and sweaty.
If you are reaching orgasm way too early, then you may be experiencing premature ejaculation. It is usually associated with anxiety. Try to relax, and if that doesn't work, then maybe you should seek out a sex therapist. There are drugs you can take that can lengthen the time to orgasm like Prozac, but they don't help you learn anything, and when you stop taking the drug, you are right back where you started. That is a good question.