Allow them to express all feelings as they wish, recognizing that perspective and reactions may shift as the crisis settles. Trauma and stress can make people react unpredictably and out of character. Above all, do not let false optimism or your own fear and discomfort dismiss how the family feels. You may have to talk to someone else about your own feelings, but avoid expecting the child's family to help you with this. Do not bring every media or magazine article about cancer to the attention of the family.
Treatment is difficult to cope with as it is.
Respect the need for privacy . Realize that family members will be selective in their choice of people in whom they wish to confide. Do not pry, or judge. Offer practical assistance . Perhaps you can care for other children in the family or help with transportation to school or activities.