In addition to providing support, P-FLAG is dedicated to tolerance, understanding, providing valid information and dispelling myths and misconceptions about gay men and lesbians. Myths can't survive in the sunshine. The group also helps people feel less isolated and alone in their situations. The opportunity to unburden themselves of their doubts and fears in the understanding atmosphere of others who have been through similar scenarios helps most people come to terms with the revelation when a child decides to come out to his or her parents. But not everyone leaves happy, according to Velgos.
Some people come in angry and leave the same way.
Gay men and lesbians who have come out to their families and friends sometimes attend the meetings to share their joy and relief at being out of the closet or their fears in contemplating coming out. But homosexuals are not the only ones who have been closeted, according to Velgos. Since P-FLAG began, homosexuality has become more widely accepted.