It is learning to let go of the various ideas about ourselves, getting used to it so that we begin to bring this discipline into ordinary life when we are doing things. Being completely absorbed we forget our fears, as when speaking to someone and truly listening when being spoken to. When eating our meal we can forget ourselves and eat peacefully. We can forget what others may think about us when we have to give a talk. If we practise enough, situations that once would have caused us to panic no longer cause us to be anxious or fearful.
Simple things are very important for parents.
We should evaluate our children, find out whether they are quick and responsive, slow and thoughtful or discriminating, what the full range of their character is - because we as parents often have delusions about our children. We love our children, but this love may not be love at all, and often turns out to be a passion for them to be how we want them to be, which does them no service at all. Because we see our children naked at the moment they are born we think we know them, but we don't really, because we dress them up in our fears and wants. The same goes for wives and husbands. Wanting them to be other than they are is not a compassionate way to deal with those closest and dearest to us.