Accept that other people are fallible. Merely acknowledging their mistakes without damning them will allow you to deal better with their bad behavior and will give you less misery. Work is necessary for the accomplishment of nearly all lasting change. We may want to act differently, but wanting is not enough for us to have what we want. Hard work is usually required.
Science entails sound logic and the seeking of evidence to support beliefs.
In REBT, we recognize that humans often use poor logic and hold to beliefs that can be shown to have no support in reality, and that these beliefs often hinder us. By learning to think more sensibly, we believe that people can do better at achieving their goals.