There is little fulfillment in sex for her. Labor of love - in this catagory, the woman starts out as the ideal sexual paratner, even if it kills her, anad emotionally it often does. She tries to force or fake erotice response and this cannot be done. For sexual fulfillment to occur, a woman should feel free to express her love, tenderness, and creativity in ways that come naturual to her. Sexual intercouse can be enjoued and lived on many levels.
Some women even report that they are most deeply moved when the erotic element is absent.
I see myself and my dh in all but the last one. I don't always feel passionate like my dh wants me to feel, but I do feel the need to be intimate and because he has complained that I don't seem to be passionate, it has made a negative experience for me. When he complains and I give in it is not a mutually pleasant time. It's certainly aggrivated the situation. On the other hand, I'm wondering how our marriages ended up sounding so similar when my approach has been nearly the opposite.