We did not place them out of our thoughts and hearts. I do not wish to offend others, but to educate how a Birthmother may feel about these five comments. Since not every Birthmother is the same, some may disagree or not be affected by the above. I hope by reading this article you will feel more confident and comfortable when speaking with a Birthmother. Please do not think we would rather not talk about our children.
Silence is the first step to many on the road to shame.
If you would like me to write my thoughts on a certain subject for future columns, Please email me with your ideas. Our generation of birth mothers is vastly different than those before us, and of those now coming. In the generation before us, adoptions were kept secret and non-identifying.