Using Hollywood and music videos as our love maps, we act out of our immaturity when engaging in relationship, seemingly never questioning why this doesn t work. Well, first give up collectively some of our sloppy stereotypes about each other. Then I think there are some real solid gifts we can give each other. Notice that men have to do something and women have to stop doing something. But basically these gifts are about learning to use what I call the language of ownership.
Sex is a whole separate article of thoughts.
But just let me say that no one is the expert here. Just each one of us responsible for knowing our own reality and our own boundaries, and not the endless painful belief sets that have been granted onto this beautiful, often untouched part of ourselves. And, I really believe there is not enough sex regardless of the way it s presented in the media and projected onto adolescents and movie stars. And the sadness this has created is legion. And finally, being an adult doesn t mean giving up romance.