The classic distinction is that men want sex and women want love. Actually, we both want both, and more. It's just that, as a general rule, men tend to start at the genitals and women at the heart. So we get horny and they feel unloved. Through the structure of Tantric ritual, you can satisfy a woman's desire for intimacy, respect, sensitivity, communication, safety, and love.
Tantric practice teaches how to connect our hearts, satisfy our bodies, and merge our spirits.
When we each learn to relax and open our inner channels, we can flow energy and exchange all the forces of life with a partner. This is why Tantra is also called sacred sexuality. This raises the spiritual aspect of Tantra. As much as I've resisted it, I have to admit that ritual in Tantra isn't some kind of serious untouchable ceremony without meaning. Instead, you use the mechanics of Tantra in your own unique way to focus on subtle energies and get both partners to feel different.