She notes that these problems are often seen in anyone who has not had sufficient healthy interpersonal models, such as adult children of alcoholics and survivors of childhood sexual abuse and incest, which include many of her gay and lesbian clients. Erica Marks also mentions sexuality, relationships and intimacy issues as common among her lesbian and gay clients. Gay men, on the other hand, may have problems with interpersonal intimacy since men are socialized to not share their feelings with others. Bill Lippert agrees that this is part of the problem, but asserts it would be a mistake to underestimate the degree to which internalized oppression makes it hard for us to support our own relationships and those of others around us. Seeking the services of a mental health professional should not be viewed negatively.
Therapy can be an opportunity for problem-solving and personal growth.
The counselors interviewed for this article agree that it is imperative that lesbians, gay men and bisexual people who are looking for a counselor, seek out a professional that is gay-sensitive. Shopping around a bit and getting friends' recommendations are highly suggested. The bottom line, several say, is that clients are paying for a service and should be satisfied with what they get for their money.