Talk to someone, join a support group and share concerns, especially with your elder, if possible.
Support groups are also great places to get tips and resources.
You can find them through hospital senior services, religious service organizations such as Jewish Family and Children's Services and Catholic Charities, the United Way, hospices and Area Agency on Aging offices. Also check with the Family Caregiver Alliance and Alzheimer's Association. Set reasonable expectations for yourself. Don't think you have to be all things to all people at all times. Set limits with your family, friends and parents, and stick to them.