Listen and observe and record some of these thoughts. Think about what it tells you about who you are, what motivates you, what excites you. Assume everyone is sexual. She's more than someone who's nice and makes you cookies. Appreciating people's sexuality is appreciating their humanity, and about seeing them in more than the role that you know them in.
Society seems to be increasingly hypocritical about sex.
It pervades every nook and cranny of advertising and media, yet the backlash against liberal sexual expression, including books like Wendy Shalit's A Return to Modesty , have received a lot of media attention. In advertising and the media they aren't talking about sex. They're using titillation, the intimation that something sexual will happen if you buy something. But when it doesn't happen, you have to buy something else. It's that constant vicious teasing that is not sexuality.