I realized that if I was going to take this issue seriously, this question of love and task, then I have to give. I discovered how much giving is a key for myself, and how much I prefer giving instead of taking. It can also be love to attack someone, that can also be loving and giving. So don't think that I'm saccharine. Every man and every woman has a different strategy for getting love.
Women often have very crazy and unconscious strategies.
Then you will see if you indeed get what you really want by using this strategy. Women have become domesticated beings. Daddy was like that. But when daddy got angry suddenly we were shocked. Women have learned the lesson to chum up to men, and they do this just to get a very little piece of what they could really have or what they are longing for.