If the thought of causing others suffering makes us feel sad, then it stands to reason that we would not want to hurt anyone because of our sexual activity. As in all other aspects of our life, our desire to make others happy will lead us to act unselfishly in our sexual relationship with our one true love. The young lady might be confused. Having feelings of love for the young man, she might oblige him, thinking that she was being unselfish and giving. As you may have heard, young men have a strong and sometimes overwhelming sexual desire.
Young men tend to feel sexual desire toward many different women, often quite indiscriminately.
These are very difficult and uncomfortable questions. They are also the kind of questions that are tremendously illuminating and useful. It is helpful to remind ourselves, whether we are young men or young women, that we really do want to become unselfish and loving people. I really do want to love the other person with true love. To do so requires that a man looks at only one woman as his wife, and all other women as his sisters, cousins, aunts or grandmothers.