She used that authority without justice or compassion. Cindy saw me in the same role and transferred her negative feelings to me. I never did get close to her. But in understanding the motivation for her action, I was able to deal with it accordingly. There is not a particular personality type that is best suited for serving as a shepherding family wife.
Some characteristics can be beneficial and some can be detrimental.
A woman who is a perfectionist may find taking in a girl to be more difficult than her easy going counterpart. If a woman demands perfection of herself, she most likely will demand it of others. This puts an unfair burden on the girl. A woman who is flexible and readily accepts people as they are will have fewer disappointments and probably find the experience more gratifying. A woman who sees others realistically will have a much easier time coping.