Sex is okay once in a while. We must live in a neat, clean house. You must be here for the family or you don't love me. I'll go on the offensive and go after you. These differences in values reflect different ways of looking at the world and living one's life.
Some couples see their partner s flaws but have deep commitment to remaining in the relationship.
Some marriages last with happiness despite great differences in values. Their commitment is that they learn to accept their differences rather than make them sources of arguments. Talking about the problem as is if it is the enemy not the partner's behavior and seeking common solutions ends up being the solution to the problem. Some coupes agree to stay together and take on the daily challenges despite widely divergent needs and desires. Yes, I love and accept him or her despite those flaws.