Most of us know how challenging the detailing process can be when it comes time for orders. In my travels around the fleet, I've been suggesting to sailors they bring their spouses in the next time they negotiate a set of orders. I did this once, and it was the easiest thing I've done in the navy.
Sailors end up being a ping-pong ball between detailers and spouses in the process.
It should be easier. Even if you don't get the orders you were hoping for, having your spouse with you will do a couple of things. It allows you to make a quicker decision about where you'd like to go, compared to where the navy needs you to go. It also helps spouses understand the process better, and sailors don't end up as the bad guy as often. The next time you negotiate orders, include your spouse.