The nature of the infertility work-up necessitates that it become a priority in your daily life. Suddenly, there are specific days that you must have intercourse. In certain tests you even have to report to the doctor's office a specific number of hours after intercourse. As a result, spontaneous lovemaking becomes difficult. Vacations and business trips become low priority.
Schedules have to be made to fit the demands of the testing cycle.
Many women find it hard to take time off from work, especially if they don't want it known that they are undergoing an infertility evaluation. It is a stressful time. Both husband and wife are being tested and scored. Women often feel frightened and violated by the infertility tests. Men often feel helpless.