We must re-evaluate our responsibility in view of the likelihood that we will go our separate ways. Some wives will be very vindicitive in their divorce demands. It may even seem that the financial demands are structured excessively in order to prevent our transition. It would be unfair to allow this to happen, but equally unfair for us to walk away without any commitment. Our responsibility to our children involves both our finances and our time.
Some persons choose to postpone transition until their children are grown.
This choice could have a positive or a negative effect. While our children do have the continued presence of their father, they may be less likely to accept our transition as teenagers or young adults than they would have been as small children. Whichever path we choose, we do owe it to them to provide for their material needs. We may be unable to remain in the role of husband and father, but at least we can show empathy and be willing to fulfill our responsibilities as in any failed marriage. Finally, we can convey our experiences to today's young transsexuals who may know their path from an early age, profitting from our unfortunate example and avoiding the formation of relationships destined to fail.