They seem happy. The process is a long one, and not without pain and loss for all involved. For the men the paradox is the fine line between experiencing the loss as well as the rebirth of living a life authentically and in harmony with one's true self. For both spouses the stages of loss parallel the stages of empowerment. Each partner has a future, and a life that is reorganized over time, in a way that acknowledges the needs and sense of self of all involved.
Support is vital to the process.