I see kids who are 14 years old and they eat in their room every night because their parents don't want to deal with them at dinner. Rather than trying to engage their child in conversation, they abandoned them. If teens step away and gain some autonomy, then come back and their parents aren't there, it's frightening for them. They can feel abandoned. The respectful, understanding parent.
Some parents are able to give their teens space, but also stay involved in their lives.
They offer their children respect and empathy. When these parents see a look of aloofness, coldness, nastiness or a detached attitude on their child's face, they step back and don't take it personally. Rather than attack a grumpy adolescent, these parents use empathy, Lamia says. Why don't you take a break and if you want to talk to me, I'm here.