Most of us are running here, running there, doing something at high speed, never relaxing. To improve upon this stressful way of life we can reassess our values and routines. If possible, we can eliminate some of those things which are not necessary to a contented life, and we can slow down. Achieving a stress free way of life will help keep us healthier and living longer and make our time here a lot more fun. The American over tension and jerkiness and breathlessness and intensity and agony of expression are bad habits, nothing more or less.
Tension is a habit.
Relaxing is a habit. And bad habits can be broken, and good habits formed. Offer help, agree, smile. This is much easier than trying to impress others, or trying to be perfect. Thinking of, and interacting with others, can be very soothing on the nerves, particularly if you expect no credits.