The lonely spots get bigger and colder. Before too long we forget about the original one buried deep within us. In our early adult years, we learn various ways of dealing with our lonely spots. Some people turn to alcohol. Others turn to work.
Some folks devote themselves to cars and other toys.
For some, the best defense is a good offense. They strike first at anyone causing them to feel vulnerable. It never occurs to the aggressor why they carry on this way. It never occurs to them to separate that original lonely spot of pain from anyone who might remotely resemble the person who initially put it there. Others count on a strong defense.