The tendency will be to seek out the source responsible for your son's homosexuality, Having determined this, then you can expend all your energies blaming someone. This someone is, usually out of convenience, yourself. This kind of blackand -white thinking gets people into a lot of trouble. For now, accept that you indeed share a degree of responsibility and that a bit of guilt is normal, if not healthy, but that your son is ultimately responsible for his choices and actions. In Part two, we will cover some of the roles of a father.
Shame is the flipside of guilt.
Not only do you feel like a failure, but now you have a whole world waiting to confront you. You already know how many of your co-workers feel about gays. Your shame runs so deep that you will go into the closet yourself. A lot of effort will be expended in hiding your new found knowledge. The church that once was your succour and protector will be viewed as your inquisitor and accuser.