Pause when you want to find out how the other feels about what you've said. Pause before you answer a question, allowing you to gather your thoughts, and, if need be, to cool down. In dealing with conflict, use honesty and truth, spoken in love. Don't avoid an interchange to cover over a problem. Don't accuse, with words or a knowing glance.
Understanding is always the first step to resolving conflict.
Figure out ways to come together. Strive consistently to improve your communication skills. Pay attention to your tone, your choice of words, your approach to conveying an idea or thought. Work at having others understand the spirit of what you say as well as the words coming out of your mouth.