We learned the hard way that you cannot force anything and expect to be happy. I found that to be easy and very natural. I'm sure it helped that I read every parenting book I could find on the market, but I found that knowing what to do with Kalia and Kaissa came to me. I think that in many households females are not taught to really love and take care of themselves. Because they have to watch their siblings, they may begin to accept the fact that they live only to service others.
Sex is a way that women service men in order to get love.
But what we do not realize is that the real love lives inside of us. And that lesson, if not learned by us, will be passed on for our daughters to learn. Many of us are still waiting for our fathers to appear and take care of us. We must let go of that fantasy. That will lead us to making healthier, more conscious decisions, even if we do engage in early sexual activity.