The body affected by jouissance is neither imaginary nor symbolic, but a living one. Life is a condition of jouissance . Life overflows the body. What obliges you to attest there isn't jouissance unless life appears under the form of a living body. There is therefore no sexual rapport between two subjects, but only between two subjects and an object - a partial object.
Woman serves a function in the sexual rapport only qua mother.
Traumatic is the sexual non-rapport in that the sexual relation is a hole in the real. It is troumatique . Nothing like a hole to indicate that something that does not exist can still operate. As something tied to the real, sex opposes sense, to the point, with Slavoj Zizek, where woman is one of the names of God - there is no sexual rapport, there is no religious rapport.