Loving someone does not mean that we have to change the subject from those issues which divide us, as if our being in community can occur only on neutral turf. Members of the Religious Right are fully within the bounds of Christian community to call us to repentance and to faithfulness. I grew up as a member of the Religious Right, and I learned well to loath myself for the involuntary desires that racked my body and mind. God answered that prayer, but in a way that I least expected. I did not 'give in' to any feelings.
Sex is an integral but otherwise minor part of any healthy, full relationship.
Instead, I became a new person, transformed spiritually, in ways that all who knew me before and after witnessed and marveled about. I do not seek out gratuitous difficulty. I was willing to give up the privileged life of the closet which I had enjoyed as a white male Southerner. I willingly took on all the stigma that a small town could heap upon me, rejoicing and exceedingly glad, knowing for the first time, who I am and Whose I am. We are all called to do much re-thinking.