It is one of the first experiences where the child, rather than the parent, is in ultimate control. In addition, children gain attention, praise, and rewards for each success. Moms and Dads smile with each set of dry diapers. Toilet training simply becomes picking out the pants that they want to wear and keeping them dry. Other times it isn't quite as easy.
Toilet training can become a game and a power struggle between parent and child.
The idea is to remove the struggle and turn it into a winning situation for both you and your child. One way to remove the struggle is to let her wear diapers but that she learns to put them on for herself. She's gaining alot of your attention by demanding that you put diapers on her. Remove the attention on the diapers and toilet training and give it to her for other things. Taking the focus off toileting altogether will allow her to back off her position without losing face.