Building a good marriage takes a lot of hard work, effort and patience, even when the couple is perfect for each other. In the book Fit to be Tied, Bill and Lynne Hybels discuss the vital issue of rightness being perfectly synchronized with someone else. This is why God insists on believers marrying only other believers. He wants spouses to be finely tuned to one another and equally empowered by Him. Also, He wants couples to share the same sensitivity to the will of God and the leading of the Spirit.
Spiritual compatibility implies a shared intensity of beliefs and the same degree of commitment.
Jesus must be the center of your life and should also be the center of your spouse s life. A marriage should to be built with both partners using the same spiritual blueprint. If this man is introduced to God and gives his life completely to Him, after an appropriate period of time, seeing him as a future spouse could become more of a reality. There is wisdom and protection in seeking counsel, support, and prayer from others. Talk to your pastor and contact godly women with whom you have spoken to and prayed with in the past.