Freud would have us think sex is the bottom line. Well, I'm not too disturbed with that, depending upon what sex means. People are raped, abuse, by friends, family and strangers.
Sex can hurt when it is about power-over.
Yet, given the second definition, sex can be powerful to the agents engaging in the sexual performance. This kind of sex deals with body fucking. That is, one must forget the body in order to be totally aware of the body, to be totally in the body. This is the logic I'm after Yet playing online, we are inherently body fucks, which is resistance to real life concepts, but this resistance does not entail our individual choice to resistance accepting those concepts. The manner in which we relate, the sexual manner in which we relate as body fucks is resistance to our acceptance of those concepts.