But a mother and father who do not live together can still help their children feel safe, loved, and part of a caring family. Most children think they caused the divorce because they were bad. This is a problem between the grownups. It helps children when both parents are together to tell the news about the divorce. We tried and tried, but we cannot live together anymore.
Some children think they can get their parents back together.
It helps them to hear again and again that the children did not make the divorce happen. Children need to know what will change and what will stay the same. Children do not understand what will change in a divorce. Children need to hear there will always be grownups to take care of them. Talk about the things that will stay the same.