For this reason, survivors are less likely to report, and this means that the perpetrator is free to move on to assault and rape other people. The fact is, St. Olaf College wants you to believe that if you're here, you're safe. They want you to believe our campus is safe, that students respect other students, and that rape and sexual assault don't happen here very often. Most of the time rape isn't about some big strange man holding down some small woman he grabbed out of the bushes and violently forcing sex on her. Sexual assault and rape are about manipulation, power, and control.
Women can and do rape men.
Rape doesn't always include violent physical force, it sometimes involves coercing the person into sex after they have already said no. Sometimes two people are already having sex when one person realizes they don't want to be, so he or she says they want to stop, and instead of stopping the other person decides not to stop and then proceeds to rape the person. Acquaintance rape is just as traumatizing as stranger rape, and in fact in some ways can be more devastating. Many times the victim and the rapist have mutual friends, and these people often refuse to believe the victim, taking the rapist's side. Another big problem on this campus is abusive relationships.