The erotic and personal components of transgenderism can't be wished. We need to confront these feelings through group and individual discussions. Perhaps our community mental health professionals can teach us ways to temper these inclinations. And moderating those brawny masculine tendencies should be a priority. Again, this requires discussion as well as eternal vigilance.
Self education helps.
This can involve reading or studying feminist issues. Spouses and partners of the transgendered can be of immense value here, advising us what being feminine really is. And it's more than just a short skirt and high heels. Many different communities have historically ebbed and flowed. These include the anti-slavery and alcohol temperance, movements.