Children at this age often blame themselves in an attempt to gain some control of the situation. Parents should discuss the cause of death with their children. This will help the child understand he was not to blame, and could not control the situation. Anger, helplessness, loneliness, denial, and guilt are all common emotions. Their grieving process tends to take longer.
Teens are typically aware of death.
Though they may not feel it will happen to them or to those whom they know. When a death occurs they begin to realize that death can happen to anyone, and will happen to everyone eventually. Whatever the age of the child, parents should be on the lookout for behavior that may signal a need for professional help in working through the mourning process. These behaviors are common for a short period after the loss of someone close. If the behavior continues over several months, or if the behavior seems severe, you will need to consult with a professional.