For parents, the view is we work all day, kids don't. School is their job. Therefore, they should get good grades. The view of teenagers can be that school is right in the middle of their important social world. Punishment breeds resentment and a desire for revenge.
Teens have many creative ways to retaliate.
In general, consequences need to be reasonable, respectful, swift and strong enough to get the attention of teens. We tend to over structure the time of young children and understructure the time of teens. Teenagers need structure as much, if not more, than younger children. All rights reserved.