Some kids are able to talk to themselves to keep from getting angry. But other kids find that talking to themselves does no good in keeping them from getting angry. Some kids can think of different ways to handle disagreements. Some kids know why they get upset. But other kids get upset without knowing why.
Some kids believe that others think they are tough when they win a fight.
But other kids believe that others think they're dumb for fighting. Some kids can figure out right away how another kid is feeling. But other kids have a hard time figuring out how another kid is feeling. Some kids figure that if another kid does something that hurts them it was probably on purpose. Some kids get more angry when they talk to themselves.