So, I decided on a couple of things. Don't be afraid to declare a family personal day, keep the kids home and go to the beach or a museum. Don't be afraid of your piles of stuff. Get it done quickly and you can do really fun stuff later. Work on simplifying your brain and relaxing before you worry if you have too much stuff.
Stuff is just stuff.
We don't get anymore than we're given. So leave the dinner dishes and take a family walk. If the dishes don't get done now, they'll get done later. And you don't have to lead it all. Maybe there won't be a team.