When I went to get some of my stuff, she could barely look me in the eye. But, of course, that doesn't stop her from living in my home and wasting the money that should belong to my children on her wardrobe and hair. The second wife usually agrees to a polygamous marriage by her own free will. But she rarely convinces her husband to divorce his first wife. Some second wives say they prefer it that way.
Second wives have their own humiliation.
She is the mother of his children and must stay that way. I, on the other hand, am more of a luxury. Besides I wasn't going to be a mistress he could dispose of whenever he wanted. I have to have a home and some stability, you know. The ambiguity of polygamy, as described in the Koran, paves the way to conflicting opinions of religious thinkers.