What might appear to be generosity on the surface is in fact not so, because the motive or attitude is important. These types of pseudo-generosity may look the same on the surface, but are not the same and will not lead to the same results. Maybe this is why sometimes it may seem that generosity has not always led to a better situation. The laws of self-giving love also require the laws of juridicality in other ways too. Analogies x Filial friendship is a social anticipation of self-giving love.
Sexual union is a biotic anticipation of self-giving love.
This lies at the root of many of our problems, especially the Fact - Value Dualism , in which we separate and oppose 'facts', the way things are, from 'values', or private opinions and preferences. We place 'ought' into the latter sphere. And, starved of the richness of a multi-aspectual perspective, we use the word ethics for the 'ought' side. Dooyeweerd in fact integrates 'is' and 'ought'. Agape Love Dooyeweerd's ideas on the difference between the kernel of ethics as self-giving love and 'ought' or law come from Biblical Christian thinking, in which the difference between ethicality and law is pronounced, and the idea of agape love gains prominence.