It's destructive and counterproductive. Wasting your brain power on illusions is wasting our potential. How you approach sex is a barometer for how much in general you are in control of your desires. Even amidst the sexual act, a person has to realize his responsibilities to his spouse. Sex is a holy act of unification which helps lift us into a connection with God.
Sex is an eternal bond.
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