Like each of our other natural emotions, moderate shame and guilt help to regulate our daily lives. That's how guilts helps us kids and adults nourish our core feelings of shame. These come from perceptions of our caregivers' voice tones, facial expressions, and some behaviors. Our main caregivers being split . You lied to me.
Shame is a private experience.
There are many . The terms non-egotistical pride , Self love , and Self respect describe the opposite of toxic shame. Egotist describes a person who doesn't have enough healthy shame, empathy for others, or humility . Toxic shame has been called the master wound, because it cripples or blocks the exchange of real human and spiritual love. For more perspective, see this succinct review of the power of positive self esteem , by Dr. Nathaniel Branden.