However, when your libido rises or falls dramatically, or you get involved with someone who has a different sex drive than you do, libido can become an issue. Some people are perfectly satisfied having sex once a year or not at all, others get antsy if they don't have sex twice a day. A gradual loss of desire is also normal as people age and remain in the same relationship. Many people notice a decrease in their sex drives at some point in their lifetimes. Menopause and giving birth frequently trigger libido changes in women.
Stress can be a major factor in a sagging libido.
If you're having problems in your relationship or struggling with your self image, sex may not be at the top of your agenda. Outside stresses also affect sex drive. Whether the causes are in-law problems, money pressures or work issues, these all add up to stress, and that often means a decreased interest in sex. Hormone deficiency can also be a factor in low libido. You can get a test from your doctor if you think your hormones levels might be low.