When an impasse is reached in the relationship, the practitioner can return to the language of the child. The child is the initial bond between the practitioner and the parent. As with any developmental process, building trust in relationships sometimes regresses. The parent and practitioner experience conflict. Trust decreases some because one party to the relationship places demands of time or commitment that the other party is not ready for.
Some practitioners have difficulty risking the possibility of growth on an issue such as spanking.
However, if there is to be growth toward maturity in the relationship, the practitioner must be open to the parent's instruction. In a balanced relationship, this possibility of openness also means that the parent will be open to the practitioner's instruction. The child becomes the real beneficiary of trust in the parent-practitioner relationship. The child's optimal development, after all, is the goal for both parent and practitioner.