Your attendant has his or her own life. Respect it, take an interest in it, but do not invade the individual's privacy. Treat your attendant with respect, consideration, and dignity. Be clear in your communication and always check for comprehension. This step can be especially vital if you are dealing with people whose first language is not your own.
Stress can occur on both sides.
Be forgiving of other people's preferences and differences. Be aware of other kinds of services, such as home health care or visiting nurses, which you may be eligible for and able to afford. The home attendant need not be a total substitute for the trained and technical help that you need. Use this worksheet as a tool to help you and your family identify your needs and how they will be met. Sort out needs first.