There is no shame in taking care of yourself. Therapy is one of the choices. It can make clear the way to see the light at the end of the tunnel. So, you can now make a choice. To sit around, knowing there is a problem and not doing anything about it can be as painful as staying in an unhealthy love relationship because you are afraid of being alone again.
Studies say women are more likely to seek counseling than men.
I am a man, so I can say this. We often feel that we must maintain our ego-centered macho image by refusing to admit we may need help. Men are human beings, too. Human beings have problems. Some men often view seeking help as a weakness.