This is unfortunate, because it cuts people off from interactions that could be healing. Grieving is a difficult process because it involves remembering what happened. These memories may be so upsetting that it is almost more than the survivor can bear. Hence, it is important for survivors to learn strategies for calming themselves down. These might include such things as taking a walk, taking a warm bath, exercising, surfing the Internet, or watching a movie.
Some survivors find it useful to keep a journal of their feelings.
There is some research to suggest that recording thoughts and feelings about a traumatic event in written form promotes greater understanding and even better physical health. No matter how long someone has been suffering from the impact of a sudden, traumatic loss, it is important not to give up hope. Healing is a long, slow and sometimes painful process. A family doctor, clergy person, local mental health association, state psychiatric, psychological, or social work association, or health insurer may be helpful in providing a referral to a counselor or therapist with experience in treating people affected by sudden traumatic loss. All Rights Reserved.