Love is not possessing but liberating. Love is enthusiastically giving maximum emotional, spiritual and physical enjoyment to the other person. Many people think love IS sex, but are often unfulfilled and wonder why.
Women especially seek more intimacy and love in their sexuality.
Too often Christians are so much into the legalism of religion that they forget Christ's teaching of love as paramount. This legalism is often based on guilt and shame about sex and not on the Scriptures. You have heard it said treat others as you would want to be treated. But I say love is to treat others as THEY WANT to be treated. Love is wanting the best for another.