This, in and of itself, is not fatal. Some people like to open their mail every day and pay bills the moment they are received, while others prefer to stack up the unopened mail until late notices start arriving. One spouse may be meticulous with their checkbook balancing and financial records, while the other simply balances the checkbook by closing the account every so often and starting from ground zero. These things may seem minor, but frequently they can be the seeds of annoyance which germinate over time, and like a weed unchecked, can choke out flowers in other areas of the relationship. Another problem Kaplan has seen repeatedly is related to the evolving expectations adults develop over time.
Wants become needs.
It seems that adults, like children, often have difficulty in discerning the difference between the two. Kaplan has seen an increase in the use of prenuptial agreements. These are contracts entered into by a man and a woman who are about to be married, in contemplation of death or divorce. They are especially common when persons of different means tie the knot, and in second marriages, and spell out what is to happen with each person's finances in the event the marriage ends. People have more tolerance for prenuptial agreements than they used to.