Societal norms encourage men to equate sexual prowess with personal value and discourage direct expression of emotional needs. Gender Shame Confusion and anxiety regarding masculine identity. Extremely uncomfortable around other men. Does not like to be touched by men and often avoids situations where he may be seen unclothed. Because he does not feel part of the group, he is often isolated with few male friends.
Shame is especially powerful regarding feelings about masculinity.
Internalized male models are shaming or nonexistent. May exhibit more feminine characteristics as an attempt to separate from negative masculine image or to avoid identifying with the male abuser. Multiple Compulsive Behaviors Sex, food, chemicals and work are examples of common compulsive behaviors used to satisfy an internal drive to continually push oneself to avoid feeling pain and to meet dependency needs but is not productive or helpful. Physical and Emotional Symptoms Hypertension and frequent chest pains. Recurring dreams or nightmares of being chased or attacked, choked or stabbed.