We are reminded of the original lonely spot as we grow older and make friends at school, because some of those friends turn away. Then boys discover girls and girls discover boys. The lonely spots get bigger and colder. Before too long we forget about the original one buried deep within us. In our early adult years, we learn various ways of dealing with our lonely spots.
Some people turn to alcohol.
Others turn to work. Some folks devote themselves to cars and other toys. For some, the best defense is a good offense. They strike first at anyone causing them to feel vulnerable. It never occurs to the aggressor why they carry on this way.