Know That The Abuse Is Not Your Fault Know that nothing you do caused the abuse. Know that no one has the right to abuse you. Know that you are not the only one being affected. Children from violent homes experience depression, anxiety, fear, low self-esteem and guilt. Know that most children raised with abuse learn to use violence as one way to control others by using power and force.
Violence allows problems to continue and the violence escalates over time.
Know that relationships based on fear, power and control are abusive. Know that others understand why you would want to stay and that leaving a relationship is not easy. Know you can wait and hope for it to change and stay in danger, but know that abuse usually gets worse, more intense and more frequent over time. Even ending a relationship is not enough to protect you from danger without support from others. You must get help.