When I refer to patience, I am not necessarily referring JUST to giving time, but rather offering a calmness. Explain yourself openly and with care. Writing a critique in defense mode or reading a critique in like manner is destructive and weakens our family as a whole. Many times misunderstanding of intent leads to hurt feelings and divisions among us. We take sides or harbor ill feelings towards certain people.
Some people even leave as the result of misunderstandings or harshness.
Patience worked with the Golden Ruler can fix this ailment. The third tool in our toolbox is my personal favorite. This hammer serves a great purpose useful to each one of us as we grow not only as writers but as people. Many years ago the Swiss developed a precision watch that kept time unlike any other timepiece before it. It's design became the envy among watchmakers.