In order to feel independent and free and responsible for what happens, you must see yourself as having some control over the situation, over your own behavior, and over the outcome of the situation.
Some people believe they are in almost complete control of what happens in their lives.
Likewise, Humanists and Existentialists believe that we are internalizers and have choices to make that determine what happens to us. Thus, we are responsible for our future and for what we feel. Self-discipline is when you tell yourself to do something and you don't talk back. It seems to them that external forces, such as other people, fate, luck or chance, are responsible for what happens to them. At first, it may seem like externalizers would be hopeless, scared, and paranoid.