I can't believe a church would exhibit such manmade, judgmental attitudes and still call themselves Christians. They contacted a Catholic priest who was agreeable to do the service and offered them Christian comfort and hope. I guess I am just appalled. The real sadness in this situation is the death of this man under these circumstances. The other sadness in reading it comes from the report which you give.
Suicide is one of the most selfish things a person can do.
It causes immense repercussions of sorrow and guilt within the person's family. My heart goes out to any family that must face such a crisis because of the selfish act of one of its members. You ask for our thoughts. We cannot judge this pastor or his congregation or their decision, or we might be doing what you accuse him of doing, being judgmental and self-righteous. We just don't have enough information from you.