Do not blame others ever with one sentence or one word. You are God and YOUR perfect universe gave you 'NOW' in response to what you were unconsciously creating. When we're rude we attract evil luck, so even if you have to fake it , be happy. Assume the pose. Shooting words at family members.
Words are bullets or flowers.
Make them the latter. The secret that masters know is that Words become reality. Languaging appropriately means promising what great things you WILL do for the mutual project. And keeping your word later. Don't be a snappy conversational smartass.