None of the womyn I meet feels that safe about coming out, there is still this deep-rooted guilt for having been assaulted in the first place, especially among feminists, because we should have known better. And people still get assaulted in my community. We all perpetuate myths around sexual violence because we don t have the forum to discuss things like safe space, mediation for those involved, resources for healing and healthy ways of counseling or confronting people who assault. Even in the city I live in the sexual assault center is extremely conservative. Without dealing with sexual assault we perpetuate sexism in our communities.
Sexual violence is as old as war and is one of the bases for sexual oppression and sexism.
Pro-feminist men still assault womyn, they still want power over womyn. If we want to live without the evils of the legal system then we have to create our own answers. In order for that we have to start talking, we have to start taking responsibility for our lack of action and our sexism. When dealing with all systematic isms, we all have to realize that we are carrying those isms. Progressive , is a word that we have labeled ourselves, as far as basic social behavior goes, we are far from it.