Manipulation produces anger because it is deeply insulting. If you cannot play straight with an employee when there are differences of opinion or negotiate a job transfer anger is inevitable. If you maneuver to reward an employee at another s expense, the manipulated employee will feel diminished. Diminished people feel childish. Echoes of parents, siblings, teachers and friends pulling rank fan the flames of anger around the immediate workplace issue.
Some bosses manipulate when they are under pressure from their own managers.
Others are incapable of dealing with employees in a straightforward manner because their interpersonal skills are deficient. Retaliation is the ultimate frustrator, the definitive get even tactic. Retaliation not only prevents an employee from getting or keeping something very meaningful to him, it is really intended to show who s the boss. Retaliators often retaliate merely because they can. If you engage in such behavior, use arrogant body language and speak with a contemptuous tone, you ought to make sure that your insurance premiums are paid up.