However, when it comes to the proposition of marriage, maturity still doesn't provide all the answers. I look at the 57 years my parents have spent side by side, completely and utterly devoted. Staying married was out of the question when I realized my husband did not look at me, would never look at me, the same way my father looked at my mother. No, it's not a phobia I have against commitment. Also, I'm not at all sure that one can create the type of relationship that gives answers.
Timing is everything.
Perhaps those with multiple marriages are willing to take more risks, or are simply more serious about practicing until they get it right. It doesn't really matter if or how often one attempts to define an ideal. That inner knowing provides enough confidence to fuel a leap of faith into the unknown future. To those already married, I applaud you for your faith and perseverance. To those who say they are committed but against marriage, I say shame on you.