The nature of the sexual relationship may also be a microcosm of a larger theme in your relationship. Reflect on whether or not you have this same or similar complaint outside of the bedroom. If the sexuality expresses a larger theme in the marriage, you may want to begin to address these behaviors in other areas, first. Understanding each other may bring change to your relationship which may influence the sexual sphere. Develop your ability to talk about sex and the difficulties that are coming up in the physical intimacy of the marriage.
Sexuality is often a very delicate part of our psyches.
It is a primal and unconscious force. Be kind, loving and accepting of one another in your discussion. Do not disparage or criticize. Build trust through nonjudgmental listening. Be curious about your partner's experience and how his or her relationship to adult sexuality evolved.