Becoming parents is one of the most profound changes you will experience in your marriage. Now is the time to create a team approach to your new responsibilities. A baby senses the presence or lack of presence of this physical and emotional security. In a healthy parent-child relationship, a baby uses your presence to feel safe. She is small and you are big.
Survival means to stay close.
A basic sense of trust is being established in this first year which will serve as the foundation for solid and satisfying relationships the rest of her life. Parenting contains a psychological investment that is undeniable. She can benefit from other loving caretakers as time goes on, but your emotional commitment to her should never assume a lower priority to day care. Your daughter has already started out her life with the loss of her biological parents. In time, she will have questions about why her biological parents gave her away.