When Queenie befriended a young actor in Hollywood a couple years ago, I found him parked on our sofa, looking brash and sincere and naive. Making love in this context is not limited exclusively to bone-jumping. It means listening to females, discovering what women know about life, and treating it seriously. Both of these activities require an understanding of free expression, plus some courage and skillfulness. Courage is the decision to try it.
Skillfulness is a matter of practice.
Not being innately courageous, I was a late bloomer, who had to try and try again about two million times. I'll never forget my first attempt to speak before a City Council, with a packed audience and TV cameras. The first council session of the new city administration was considering an issue I felt passionately outraged about. I felt personally responsible for this insanity, because I had helped put hizzonor and three aldermen in office. I had to speak, to persuade at least one council member to vote with the Republicans and stop the expropriation of private property.