Here is one way of holding an effective decision-making session. A sk for a specific time to work on one decision.
Some families have regular family meetings which can be a good choice.
Others set aside time when needed, like making an appointment. G ive and get suggestions from everyone directly involved in what the decision can be. At this point, you are interested in having lots of choices, and not in criticizing the ones that might not work. R eview the possibilities and make a choice. Many times there are several options that will work, but they can't all occur at the same time.