Those were the same issues that the Jewish people were struggling with. What Jesus kept pointing out time after time, was that the law of Moses, applied as laws and rules to be followed, puts things in black and white categories. And that was not the point. The law was to be a pointer to the greater reality of a life lived in intimacy and love with God. Trying to find a path that is clear cut only puts barriers up in front of us.
Wisdom is less obvious than that.
The path to God requires listening deeply, and opening oneself up to a reality that can be seen and heard, but only if one is attentive and waits, and looks at the signs. The creation of God, of which we are a part, is not black and white or even gray. It is full of a multiplicity of colors which when applied and held up to the light of God s love, reflect a perfectly formed rainbow of peace and love. But you can t see a rainbow when you are standing under it. You have to move back.