Fathers find nonverbal ways of showing love-so do boys. Sons would rather have time with you than the latest toy or athletic shoe. It needn't be all or nothing. Reconnecting doesn't take as much time as you think. Flexible but firm limits.
Sons can be close to their mothers.
Don't be afraid they will become wimps. Your connection to your son provides the balance. Define the women in your son's life positively. Downgrading women can be subtle. Help him define himself by who he is not by who he isn't .