I must get him to treat me nicely. Sometimes you can't. I've got to get out of this place. I can't stand feeling this way. Be careful not to damn up the stream of emotion by ignoring or fighting your feelings.
T ake constructive action.
Take a piece of paper and draw a vertical line down the center. Be careful not to list your thoughts or feelings in this section. When Valeen saw the reality that Darrell could not possibly be happy the way he was living, she realized how depressing and unnecessary it was to continue thinking she should somehow be able to make him happy. Consider the choices available and decide on your best choice. Although the choice to make Darrel happy was not available to Valeen, there were things she could do to make herself happier.