It is possible that your wife's remorse is functioning as a distraction from dealing with negativity about this current relationship. Marital intimacy is based on honesty and resolving the inevitable struggles and needs of two different people. Your relationship must progress through the second phase of marriage. You must struggle with differences and resolve disappointments as they arise. Resolving this second phase of marriage may have been curtailed in your first marriages, due to the development of the extramarital relationship, which promised to make you only happy.
True intimacy involves unhappiness as well as happiness.
Whatever factors that kept your wife from resolving problems with her first husband may still be an issue with her new marriage to you. Give this relationship a chance by allowing your wife the space to reflect on the past and any express remorse about dishonesty in her previous marriage. Commit yourself to developing the communication in this marriage that you both lacked with your former partners. You should not rely on this information as a substitute for personal medical attention, diagnosis or hands-on treatment. If you are concerned about your health or that of a child's, please consult your family's health care provider immediately and do not wait for a response from our professionals.