To do this, you have to learn how to make clear what your needs are, and how to get them met, without hurting others. Anger can be suppressed, and then converted or redirected. This happens when you hold in your anger, stop thinking about it and focus on something positive. The aim is to inhibit or suppress your anger and convert it into more constructive behavior. Anger turned inward may cause hypertension, high blood pressure or depression.
Unexpressed anger can create other problems.
People who are constantly putting others down, criticizing everything and making cynical comments haven't learned how to constructively express their anger. Not surprisingly, they aren't likely to have many successful relationships. Finally, you can calm yourself down inside. This means not just controlling your outward behavior but also controlling your internal responses, taking steps to lower your heart rate, calm yourself down and let the feelings subside. The goal of anger management is to reduce both your emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that anger causes.