Find out what their needs and expectations are. Most are happy to share their culture's mourning traditions and appreciate assistance as well as suggestions. Remember that every child comes from a unique background. Find out if he or she has had other experiences with loss. Children must be permitted to feel their emotions, whatever they may be.
Tears are a natural expression of sorrow.
They help relieve emotion. Just as adults should not encourage children to repress tears, they should not prod them to show unfelt sorrow. Encourage parents to allow the children to attend memorial ceremonies. Volunteer to help guide the child's behavior during the event. Let the child know that he or she can ask you questions.