I would encourage you to consider the many examples you will find throughout Scripture on this subject. However, do not assume that just because people in history have been able to restore their relationship that it will be easy to do. Therefore, be assured that there will be hard work ahead for both parties in this relationship. The bars that separate you and your spouse must be removed if fellowship and trusting companionship are to be restored. The first step in restoring trust must be honest confession by the offending spouse concerning the failure that has occurred.
Truthfulness is always the first step in all reconciliation.
King David also found that an honest heart was the first step on the road to reconciliation with God after his sin of adultery with Bathsheba. If you want God s wisdom and help in reconciling your marriage then truth is where you must begin. Only when a person becomes completely honest about the facts of an offense will the confession be treated as sincere. However, continued deceit is like slapping your spouse in the face. It hurts deeply.