When children are lacking this care, or when they are treated violently instead, they will glorify cruelty and will become cruel to others, or to themselves, or both. My books reached many readers but these readers still belong to a small minority of people. The majority still urgently needs this information. For a long time, I was puzzled by the fact that even very intelligent people could say children need to be spanked, so that they can better learn at school. I wondered why it was not obvious to them that you can t learn anything of value in a state of fear.
Scared children learn only to deal with fear, to lie and to pretend.
And above all, they strongly wish revenge. Most of them will take revenge as soon as they get power. Tyrants such as Stalin, Hitler and Mao gave us a lesson about what happens then. They were mercilessly beaten as children, denied their pain, and later inflicted their denied suffering and helplessness on entire nations. I eventually came to understand that the memory of the first years of life stored up in the body is stronger than everything we learn later at schools and universities.