Both approaches are often based on feeling inadequate. Women tend to criticize other women. Often women actually feel critical and at other times they feel like they are just trying to be helpful. Criticism is worse than useless. Women often settle for less than they really want.
Women forget their own achievements.
They forget how brave they actually are, how good they are, how strong they are, how intelligent and capable they are, how hardworking and faithful they are. Women act as if they think that men are the standard for what it means to be a genuine, grown-up human being. Women tend to focus a good deal of attention on male people. Women give up a date they had with a woman friend at the chance to go out with a man. Women feel guilty leaving the family on the weekend, or they save prime time for men and fit each other into the leftover time slots.