Here our mind and will become involved. If we want to be good in sports, our mind instructs our will to discipline our body to do the necessary training. This produces H2, success by winning. Or when we struggle with a difficult problem in math and get it, we have success, achievement, H2. But in our society we have made this more competitive than it should be.
School produces anxiety because people are too concerned about grades.
Adults worry about keeping up with the Jones, having the best house or best car on the block. Putting winning ahead of everything else makes us miserable. H2 means that our happiness depends on the approval of others, and even when we succeed, it s not enough. Making a difference to someone or something beyond ourselves. We reach H3 when we do something for others, unselfishly.