We can build relationships and learn from each other. Here's an example of this kind of dynamic. The conversations would sometimes turn to how can we check our behavior that is preventing women from taking on responsibility, what kind of internal culture do we have and how does it privilege men and keep women down. Men worrying less about appeasing women and more about ending sexism is what must happen. White radicals also need to think about how we go about forming working relationships with people of color.
White activists finding ways to show solidarity and act as allies with people of color is critical.
The struggle against racism for white people should be thought about in at least a couple of ways. One, racial oppression is the flipside to white privilege and each must be challenged if we are to move towards equality. White radicals need to think about ways of talking about and organize against white privilege - in the movement and in general white society. There are two main ways that white people are generally organized around race in the United States today - guilt and fear. White guilt is an obstacle to social change and needs to be overcome and transformed into responsibility to take action to end injustice which damages all of us to varying degrees.