Men and women depend on each other less because they have cultivated their inner masculine and feminine. They have become whole. Eventually, however, this motive toward inner balance may lead to sexual neutralization and spiritual stagnation. Women, in their effort toward self-directed achievement, can lose touch with their desire to be sexually ravished and spiritually surrendered. Men, in their effort toward sensitive allowingness, can lose touch with their desire to aggressively ravish their lover and face death with clarity.
Women can become hardened and men can lose their edge.
Therefore, partnerships between women who are proudly self-sufficient and men who are afraid to take charge in relationship tend to characterize beginning spiritual couples. At the same time, deep down, these same women begin starving to be relieved of needing to always lead their man. And these men begin starving to be received by a trusting woman who can surrender wide open, radiant as love. Although women want a man who is sensitive, they don't want a man who is afraid to stand his ground with a fierce and open heart. Although men want a woman who can take care of herself, they don't want a woman who is afraid to let down her guard and open in radiant ecstasy.