The requirement of the culture that the daughter must leave is necessary in the patrilineal society, but it has its own cost on an emotional level. I sensed from the emotionality of my host family in many situations and from the villagers behavior at the wedding I attended that the departure of a family member leaves the Fijian family with an underlying feeling of loss. They raise their family knowing that in most circumstances they will have to let at least their daughters go to another village which could be far away. Fijian village life is literally living in an extended family. This environment cannot exist in this form in more developed parts of the world.
Village life provides a safety net for all that live in it.
It is very rare that a Fijian will ever be left alone or in need of food or shelter, or to fend for himself. One of the hardest concepts for the people in my village to understand about my American culture was that I did not know my neighbors. To them that was a terrible and sad thing. Also, another concept extremely hard for my Fijian hosts was the fact that my family and I, when living at home in America, are separated by so many miles while I attend college. Taken all together, the sum of the many parts of Fijian tradition produce a national sense of identity and a personal sense of pride, self respect, and uniqueness in the world which is a source of great satisfaction for Fijians.