If you want a serious relationship, do not settle for a booty call. That is the restraint that may keep you sane. Free love is not such an extraordinary concept. We have a choice in 1998. Not every person wants love.
Sex becomes sustenance, like food, for some.
Other people want intense emotions. Make sure you both want the same thing, and if not, play a new flute. People still love one another. I still do. They are my friends.