People just aren't arriving at adulthood with common, well-developed social skills, and I think people are just grasping for companionship. What about cyberdating or cybermeeting. That's the No. 1 symptom of what I just described. I think it's a false sense of security. Maybe you can find good conversations online about mutual interests, but when you start looking for all of your human needs to be met through the keyboard, I think you have to take a hard look at what you're so afraid of.
Some sex is safer than others.
Having one partner and using a condom is a whole lot better than just winging it. As far as turning your boyfriend on, the virgin thing should help. And if you need anything beyond that, I think you need to put your boyfriend on. You've mentioned mistakes people make. I think one of the biggest mistakes we can do, which I mention in the book, is believe that we can know another person completely, and that another person can know us completely.