Freeing The Female Orgasm 4 Freedoms Freeing The Female Orgasm by Al Link and Pala Copeland Urban Male Magazine, Winter 2000 Women's capacity for orgasm is awesome. This capacity seems almost limitless. They've even been blessed with a body part, the clitoris, whose only purpose is sexual pleasure. His sexual self-esteem is wounded, and he secretly feels less of a man believing he has failed her. The first step on the path to freeing a woman's orgasm is for both men and women to understand that men do not give women orgasms.
Women allow themselves to have orgasms.
Despite popular belief, no matter how good a lover you may be, unless your partner can give herself up to the pleasures of her body, she won't have orgasms. This realization alone can open the door to women becoming orgasmic. This is very important. If your woman is blaming you, and you may also be blaming yourself for her not having orgasms, it is quite possible, even likely, that you are both looking in the wrong place to solve the problem. Mind you, an unskilled, selfish, or insensitive male lover can be a real problem, and at the very least is certainly a dull bore.