The amount and kind of shared activities are determined by how much closeness a stepfamily wants. They often share a commitment to something greater than themselves and the recognition of a higher power. They have developed or are developing shared values and goals. Parents and children agree on how disciplinary matters will be handled. The parents are able to reach a general consensus about decisions affecting the family and use techniques for making decisions that encourage everyone to participate.
Unified families adapt to stress and change.
They are able to see positive outcomes arising out of stressful, change-producing events. Community and Family Ties Strong stepfamilies are connected to other individuals and institutions that support them emotionally and practically. But the kind and amount of help are selected carefully in order to maintain privacy. Clear boundaries separate family and helping-agency domains. These families tend to be closely involved with community institutions such as he school, church and local organizations that promote the well-being of the community and individual.