Going out with boys may not interest you. You may also feel confused or unsure about whether or not you're a lesbian. Many adults will tell us that we're too young to call ourselves gay, or that we're going through a phase, or that we don't know what we're talking about. That's their way of avoiding the fact that some of us are lesbian youth. You may feel confused because you're attracted to both men and women.
Some women have relationships with both men and women throughout their lives.
Some may later decide to be exclusively lesbian or heterosexual. Our sexuality develops over time. Don't worry if you aren't sure. We're told that it's sick, or perverted, or sinful, or abnormal. But the people who tell us that are the same ones who say that women belong in the kitchen, and that Black people are inferior, and that handicapped people are useless.