Martha, on the other hand, did not take the steps to get the love her daughter would need. When the crisis arrived, she could not help Sandra, who could then only wallow in self-pity, victimhood, and unhappiness. As much as Martha wanted to help, she was powerless to do anything about her daughter's situation. We must understand that when our children need us, we are either prepared to give them what they require, or we are not. We all want to help our children, but our good intentions are not enough.
Talk is cheap.
Our children need our unconditional love, and we can only draw from that well if it's full. The steps to fill a well with Real Love are simple. I hope so. I am happy that I took those steps myself, and I don't know any parent who has taken them who has regretted it. I recommend those steps to you.