You can mail-order the article, or download it or these online pages. It illustrates a clear written set of attitudes, beliefs, and guidelines that co-parents evolve and use to guide all family members in mourning Life losses more consciously, effectively, and healthily. The alternative to evolving and using such a family policy is to take healthy 3-level grieving for granted. Losses hurt . Mourning is a normal, healthy reaction when people of any age attach to, and later lose, precious things.
Some big losses take people years to mourn fully.
This policy says clearly how we want to help our family members to mourn their losses. Getting mentally focused and clear , over time , on some normal personal questions about our important losses, and our losses' meaning or impact on us, and Restabilizing or reclarifying our spiritual beliefs , if they were upset or weakened by our losses. We also believe that adults and kids can get stuck in this grieving process, if they don't feel safe enough to grieve. Talk openly about important things that are gone for good - over and over , if we need to, until the hurt and anger stays down. Use mourning language , without guilt or embarrassment .