One of the biggest problems in monogamous relationships is when we find ourselves attracted to someone else. Remember you have made a commitment to know your partner. This means to look deeply into their mirror to see the many faces of the one Goddess or God. To trust oneself is to have the wisdom and clarity to recognize that generally when you are considering an affair, you are actually afraid to look into your partner's reflection totally. It is safer to be with a different person than to go deeper with intimacy, to stand truly vulnerable or naked before each other in all your weaknesses and strengths.
Security breeds complacency.
Security is when one s basic intent is to lock yourself and your partner into a way of being that will make you feel secure, now you can trust that you can be safe. Relationships stay healthy and vibrant when they are on the edge. You cannot work on a relationship, you can only work on yourself. Monogamy is one of the most difficult and rewarding relationship choices to be in because you are getting all your needs met from one person. You are not repressing your needs emotionally, mentally, physically, spiritually or sexually.