We begin to show heartlessness to our very selves. You, the real you, lies buried within yourself, sick from neglect, starved, crying out for notice, crying out for the nourishment only YOU can supply. That's selfish,' you object. To do any of these things well the practitioner must be content within himself so that he can afford to you his full attention and expertise. Happiness is being relaxed and at peace.
Stress is struggle.
We are, each of us, responsible for our Spirit's wellbeing, whatever our physical state may be. Only then can you heal your neglected Spirit. Only then can you quash the seeds of contention and discord that result from a neglected spirit. And here's how to begin. Treat yourself gently, as you would a wounded bird.