It is warfare. Matthew 2 tells us about some of the casualties of this war as Satan lashes out, attempting to derail God's plan of salvation and kill Jesus. And like in all war, children are caught in the crossfire. It is warfare, and like all war it is painful, messy. No slick answers.
Warfare is chaotic.
Especially for those on the front lines. In the movie Thin Red Line two two GI's talk in the midst of battle. He couldn't see it because he was right there in the middle of it, with people dying everywhere. Only the generals in the back, seeing the big picture, fully understood. We are on the front lines of the conflict here on earth.