Right now you can choose to be a merciful spouse. Incidently, the opposite of mercy is cruelty, meanness and rancor. It breaks my heart when I see a mean spouse. A mean spouse withholds that which is within their power to give. You may be in relationships where cruel words spoken.
Someone has to break the cycle of verbal cruelty.
I will assume responsibility to end the rancor in our relationship. I will believe the promise of God that mercy will boomerang back to me. Excellent Marriages Receive a Blessing More Precious Than Happiness. Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God. Our relationship to God and one another is a matter of the heart.