A child who is unconditionally wanted, loved, and cared for over the years will feel valuable. That child will respect himself and others. Parents must first show respect for their child before they can expect him to show respect back. Time spent and the quality of that time conveys to a child that he is valuable. Just telling him you love him all the time without spending quality time with him won't give him the security of knowing he is valued and loved.
Words alone are hollow.
Unconsciously, they know their parents' words do not match up with their deeds. TIME is really important. When children have learned through the love of their parents to feel valuable, then come what may, it's almost impossible to destroy their spirit. This feeling of being valuable is a cornerstone of self-discipline because when one considers oneself valuable, one will take care of oneself in all ways that are necessary. Natural and Logical Consequences of Behavior Parents who yell at, hit, threaten, harshly criticize, and arbitrarily punish their children are not respecting their children, making it nearly impossible for them to respect others.