Chains do not hold a relationship together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years. That is what makes a relationship last - more than passion or even sex. Intimate love partners share playfulness. I have a love partner who is playful when we make love.
Sexual playfulness is vital for continuing to experience each other as lovers.
We both feel free to be ourselves. In the passion of making love, my playmate and I communicate a profundity of love that words cannot carry. Being together in this fully present and intimate way opens the channel of communication to allow for full disclosure of emotions and the expression of our innermost desires. We never allow our lovemaking to be a routine act of fulfilling desire. To do so would invite boredom.