It doesn't take long for all of us to fall into the same hole together. We begin to accept failures and disappointments as if there is nothing anyone can do about it. At about this point we really know in our own hearts something needs fixing. Something inside us, I can't really explain what, begins to realize something has to change. Not because somebody says so, but because something isn't right inside.
Some people try on a new relationship, job or lifestyle.
This helps us ignore the problem for awhile and depending on how obsessive we are it may last several years. Eventually we find ourselves right back where we started, nothing has really changed, we just have a new set of frustrations and less energy to deal with them. The truth is there is an absolute bottom line in life and once we find it we are able to deal with everything from a completely new, immensely powerful perspective. In plain language, there are choices that bring life and choices that bring death. There is only one person who knows all the secrets to living successfully and peacefully.