When couples with marriage problems come in, I give them instruction on the principles and some things to practice together during the week. I counseled a couple for the first time who were literally on the way to the lawyers. In about twenty minutes, they both got into the peace. I then asked them what specifically was troubling them. They honestly could not think of anything that was upsetting.
Some couples do nothing between session.
It is then that I need to tell them of the prognosis. I say to them such things as, you are in a fight for your marriage and you are losing. If you lose, the pain you will feel will be worse than any thing you have ever felt. Your child s pain will be the pain you both have felt multiplied for perhaps their whole life. You will probably marry another divorced person.