There are times, of course, when it's necessary to go beyond limits. In general, however, providing care at the expense of your mental and physical health or relationships with other family members does not benefit anyone . Communicate your limits to your family and to your ill relative. Resistance to accepting help is a common cause of stress and depression among caregivers. In our culture, with its emphasis on independence and self-reliance, it's not easy to request help.
Some caregivers see asking for help as a sign of helplessness, inadequacy or failure.
Actually, asking for needed help is just the opposite. Reaching out for assistance before you are beyond your limits is an important characteristic of a strong individual. It also helps ensure quality care for your family member. People can best help if they know exactly what your needs are and how they can participate. Be specific and positive.