She is learning to be more independent, and usually likes that. These splitting traits are often deeply buried, well disguised, and protectively denied . Whether their personality splitting is moderate or major, these men and women know little about assessing and healing it. Those that do feel sure it has nothing to do with them and their new love. Either or both romantic partners, and their exes, are probably psychologically-split adults in protective denial .
Some new suitors have kids of their own.
Most have living relatives they're in contact with. Some fell into this delicious condition before marital separation, in hidden or known affairs. Typical couples have courted for six months to perhaps two or three years. This usually proves to be false. Feeling excited, hopeful, and mature, few have researched stepfamily realities.