One key is honesty.
Some people tell little lies about themselves when they first begin a relationship.
This is destructive to intimacy, because your partner will never be completely sure if you are telling the truth. It is much easier to maintain credibility if you start out being credible. This is not to say that you must talk about things you are not ready to talk about, but neither do you have to falsify information. If, for instance, you lack a sense of self-worth, you are likely to attract a partner who mirrors your view of yourself, who treats you as if you were worthless. T here are times when lying is appropriate, but rarely with someone with whom you wish to have intimacy.