The example being that despite fear, they take action to let others know who they are and live life as genuine as possible, which I believe is our task in life. Certainly their children will have differences among their peers, and in relationship as they mature, so the example has been set to proudly and without apology be yourself despite the pressures to conform. This is an especially important lesson for children, particularly adolescents who face such peer pressure. A recent study published by the American Journal of Orthopsychiatry reported that children of lesbian parents are no more likely to suffer from psychological disturbances or problems with their own sexual orientation than are children of heterosexual parents. The children were comfortable with their mother's sexual orientations and with their family dynamics and felt uncomfortable only when they talked to others about their lesbian moms.
Support is also important for the children.
Vicki Jo shares her experience in the following. In the past nine years I have had the wonderful opportunity to work with fifty-six women who have experienced a very unique slice of life. I run a support group for wives of gay men. This group was requested by Charlie Piersol whom many in the Rochester gay community know as a leader in helping to open the door to healthy expression of one's sexual orientation. Charlie was the originator of the Gay Married Men's Support Group.