When you have a loss, it is hard to believe that one day you will have moved beyond grief. It is hard to believe that you will find yourself in a different place, one where there is hope and joy and new experiences awaiting you. This is the way of grief. At first you are in survival mode. You have the energy to do the things that are necessary, with not much left over.
Some people describe feeling as if they are in a dream.
As in shock, your body is protecting you from the pain of grief. Later, days, weeks, months, you begin to feel the pain more intensely. In fact, your body senses that you are ready to begin the work of your grieving and allows the shock to wear off. As much as we would like to avoid these painful feelings, the way out is the way through. In order to move forward with your life it is necessary to listen to your grief.