Until we make him Lord of all, unless we have yielded everything, our hearts cannot be filled with Him. And he left the oxen, and ran after Elijah, and said, Let me, I pray thee, kiss my father and my mother, and then I will follow thee. And he returned back from him, and took a yoke of oxen, and slew them, and boiled their flesh with the instruments of the oxen, and gave unto the people, and they did eat. Then he arose, and went after Elijah, and ministered unto him. And the Lord said unto him, Arise, and go into the city, and it shall be told thee what thou must do.
Surrender is a crucial factor in spiritual growth.
And Jesus increased in wisdom and stature, and in favour with God and man. If there be therefore any consolation in Christ, if any comfort of love, if any fellowship of the Spirit, if any bowels and mercies, Fulfil ye my joy, that ye be likeminded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind. Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others. Then he rose victorious over evil. His example is one of emptying oneself of normal human tendencies, and creating openness to God's grace.