Another scenario, we go to karaoke on Sat. I put him there indirectly somehow. No you don't. He puts himself there. All you've done is give him the permission he asked for.
Work is another one.
I take it you are insisting he come home immediately. His work is another control issue. He is a realtor and at times has to show homes to females. I made him promise me he would let me go if he has to show a house or do a loan app at a single females house. I snoop through his paper work and question female's names etc.