Be honest with your feelings to yourself and others. Learn to be direct, open, and clear in giving messages. Don't be afraid to express your negative emotions. Most relationships are strengthened through-creative use of conflict. Learn to regard yourself without always feeling selfish or guilty.
Time is a matter of priorities.
If you want to do something badly enough for yourself or another, you will make the time. Find enjoyment in activities such as sports, reading, music, yard work, conversation, etc., the smell of a rose - to get a natural high off of life. Learn to enjoy the sight of snow. Be in touch with the messages your body language, voice inflection, posture, and facial expressions give. If you win a discussion, its' at the expense of someone, and now you have to deal with that persons feelings.