In chapter two of Becoming Dad, you talk about the moment you became conscious of the fact that your emotional life had pieces missing. But even afterwards there was this great amount of frustration. There's this feeling of being incomplete. It was interesting because I thought this was a feeling that was unique to me. It doesn't have anything to do with sexual orientation, it has to do with what you know about how to be a guy.
Writing is cheap psychotherapy.
I still feel it, I still feel the void, but you sort of come to grips with it. You come to terms with it. There are things that really used to bother me, like not being able to tie that tie. And now I accept them. Every guy that I interviewed at some point had a moment like that.