If you're wise you don't antagonize people's anger. Two things that cause arguments. You're asking for a fight. Don't compare inappropriately. We just build up all of the guilt.
Wisdom is peaceable.
Some things are just not worth the fight. In other words there is an awareness of the feelings of others. A common mistake is that if I don't feel the way you feel then your feelings must be invalid. I don't have to accept your feelings, but I can understand them. Very frequently, when we react to another person's emotions we say things that hurt.