Yet, when recognition by the boss is handed out, it goes to someone else. Then review again specifically what you do that is discretionary. Ingratiation is the act of giving which in turn creates a debt of goodwill. Ingratiation that is two-faced and manipulative, once it is perceived that way, will be deplored. It occurs over time.
Some employees are very political.
They know how to do the deeds that in the future will entitle them to call in the chips. Ideally, both the bossed and the boss would not tactically plan or scrutinize all their behaviors as a give and take exchange. Ideally we would behave thinking about the common good rather than acting with personal advantage in mind. Ideally, those of us who instinctively share of our selves will one day reap the rewards of an enriched career. Being political in this best sense, should pay off both in personal satisfaction and in career rewards.