To control your opponent is to control yourself. To control yourself is to control your opponent. Running from your fear can be more painful than facing it, for better or worse. Victory and defeat are determined by attention to simple things. In simple things lies the key to victory.
Simple things are usually the most effective way to overcome an opponent.
That which does not kill us can only make us stronger. So often the energy we spend resisting is what keeps 'The Enemy' going. Desperately struggling to control a problem can eassily result in the problem controlling you. Surrender is letting go of being the master in order to avoid becoming the slave. Beware the fury of a patient man.