The same goes for the statement about God not giving us more than we can handle. I forgot to say that I don't think God sets these things up for us. I feel like that is an insult to those that died - that for some reason they weren't blessed. I could go on and on with examples. Not everyone even acknowledges Him.
Some people are pretty much on their own.
Yes, Califan, I believe that God does not give us anything that we can't handle. Some people despair, I don't know why, maybe because they don't fall back on their faith. I think we pre plan our lives before we are born. I think some people are very hard on themselves and put too much on their plate to learn in a given life time. It is possible to lighten the load if you just don't feel you can handle it once you get here and are living through what you have delt yourself.