I can hear you. Wait just a minute here. I don't owe love to someone who has treated me like dirt. I'm not going to hurt him, but I don't have to love him either. When I was a young pastor, there was a man who gave me some money.
Someone tells a story about a man, while walking across a bridge, who met another man with a rope.
The man with the rope asked if the man on the bridge would hold one end of the rope. The man took the end of the rope and the other man immediatel the rope. The man took the end of the rope and the other man immediately jumped off the bridge and was left dangling from the other end of the rope. If you let go of the rope, I will die. The man standing on the bridge simply did not know what to do.