The way out is not through coping skills It is through transformations of consciousness that not only change the way you react to life, but also the nature and quality of your life itself. You see, as you rise on the spiral of your life, each time you come around the spiral, you are directly above a spot where you were on your spiral at a previous time. Life presents you with the same situation over and over, not only so you can learn all there is to learn from it, but also to confirm to you that you have indeed dealt with it in the most beneficial way. Once you have completely moved in consciousness above a certain type of situation, you will not experience that situation again. Your life is composed of the energy patterns that you have given your attention to in the past.
Today is borne out of the thoughts of yesterday, and tomorrow arises from the thoughts of today.
You may have established very strong karmic patterns for yourself in past lives that are now being balanced through adversity and challenge. While you might think you would prefer to choose a life of perfect harmony, it may not be the overriding goal of your soul for this moment in your life. Your own soul is working out a balancing and refining process, that will lead to greater harmony, but the script you are following may take you through strong challenges to get you to that place. In fact, sometimes the souls who are very advanced and nearing the end of their cycles of reincarnation into this dimension, preprogram their lives with great challenges, handicaps, and difficulties so they can clear out the final issues in the quickest possible way. It is important not to judge yourself or others because you see suffering or difficulties sometimes severe.