We must be willing to change our way of thinking about and dealing with others. The first name of many of our lists has been our own . We reaffirm that WE harmed ourselves and must be willing to change our self-destructive behavior. In many cases, it was our self-destruction that caused pain to others, either through our chemical abuse or our fear and anger about our powerlessness. The names that come to mind vary from person to person.
Some lists are long and others have only two or three names.
The key point to remember is to look for those we have hurt. There are many kinds of harmful behavior in our past. We may have harmed people physically, emotionally, spiritually, or materially . There are those of us who have robbed or embezzled thousands of dollars and others have made long distance calls on someone else's telephone. Each of us must look to our own harmful behavior.