For many, it's an intense, heady affair, a seduction via disclosure. We reveal our innermost secrets quickly and freely. Having bought into the myth of sisterhood, we assume our confessions will be protected by The Code. But thinking that you know someone just because you've exchanged a lot of intimate information is very risky business. When women use talking as a way of skipping this critical step, we run the risk of mistakenly confusing the person someone claims to be with who she really is.
Talk allows people to paint the most desirable picture of themselves.
Actions displayed over the course of time are far more indicative of someone's true personality and character. Telling all your business too quickly to a woman you want to make your homegirl has the same effect as rushing into a sexual relationship with a brother you want to make your man. It may work out, but odds are you'll wish you'd waited. As dismal as this may sound, I'm not advocating that women abandon their trust in sisterhood. I'm just saying that it's important for women to be real about it.