Health and Spirituality Department Please remember, this column is designed to help the consumer seeking behavioral-health information, and not intended to be any form of psychotherapy or a replacement for professional, individualized services. In there, the author quoted a study that said, if you were excluded a lot from play activities as a child, then you probably have problems as far as social sensitivity is concerned. I was excluded a lot as a child but worked to overcome those hurts. If anything, I thought that those experiences give me special insight in my work with children. Now I'm not so sure.
Some persons spend a lifetime wallowing in bitterness over such wounds.
These are the persons the author you mentioned is probably referring to. You, however, did not allow yourself that and instead faced those hurts and took on a process of healing. You then have used your pain as a resource in helping others. You have become what is known as a Wounded Healer. Trust your own self-assessment.