His wife died two years ago. He has been the pursuer in our relationship, until several months ago. He now tells me that he is grieving and needs some time. I am confused. It is not unusual for someone to grieve differently as time goes on.
Some people jump back into life immediately following the death of their spouse.
This jump may include beginning new relationships before they have had the opportunity to regain some balance after the death of their previous relationship. This is what we call the rebound effect. Often, when this new relationship becomes intense or serious, the grieving person may feel the need to slow down and gain some new perspective. Grieving the loss of a spouse is a life-changing event. Not only does the world appear different, but also the grieving person will interact with the world in a different way.