Because the world is still relatively hostile and prejudice towards gays and lesbians it is not uncommon to feel confused, isolated, lonely, guilty or depressed. Unfortunately many societies makes us hide our homosexuality and as a result we end up living double lives and denying who we really are. Experiencing these feelings is normal. However, some feelings like depression, low self esteem and suicide thoughts indicate you need some professional help learning to accept your homosexuality. Coming out of the closet Coming out of the closet is the term we apply to one's acceptance that he or she is gay or lesbian.
Self acceptance is the first step in coming out.
After you feel comfortable with your own sexuality it may become important to you to tell other people that are either gay or not gay such as your parents. This decision is a process which only you can decide and guide. You may want and decide to come out to others when you feel you are emotionally ready and feel that it is a safe time. The time to come out to others depends on how strong you feel about yourself and how much support you need from those who care about you. Just remember that coming out doesn't solve all of your problems and is a life long process.