So if you're like me, you grow your hair out, shave your legs, and become fascinated with men. And, if you're like most lesbians I know who aren't in long-term relationships with a woman, you start dating men. Indeed, one would expect het-curious lesbians to rush back to their girlfriends once they realize most men don't know where the clit is and don't think that's a problem. But the women I know who've shrugged off their lesbian identities date men, and some marry men. Apparently, men aren't a fascinating phase they're going through.
Some lesbians become gay because their experience with straight men is unpleasant.
More than one lesbian has told me this. Once they actually get to know a man who is not such a turd, they sometimes see things differently. Men fuck over straight women every day. If your theory were sound, NLOM, most women would be lesbians by the time they're 30. Likewise, women fuck over straight men constantly.