According to a Massachusetts study, that same high percentage applied to teen women, aged 15-19, as well. Men are battered by women just as often as women are battered by men. Alcohol or drugs cause men to batter. Further, batterers who do drink and use drugs don't necessarily give up battering when they give up these habits. While some abusers do beat their partners while they are under the influence, drugs and alcohol act as their excuse.
Victims bring on the abuse themselves.
The victim has no control over the abuser. If a person is in an abusive relationship, it must not be that bad. Most batterers are bums or crazy people.