I also have a strong sense of right and wrong and cannot stand hypocrisy. Finally, I have a strong desire for acceptance and love being around people, doing things for people, giving of myself without thinking about it until I am drained out. All of these ingredients cause me to expect love, integrity and acceptance from those who I give myself to in ministry as well as those I work with and those who are over me in the Lord. It is not wrong to have those qualities I listed and I certainly do not mean to suggest that we should avoid having them. However, if you are going to love people, you are going to be hurt.
Spiritual wounds is one of the side effects of loving people unconditionally.
Spiritual wounds tend to make us place conditions on our love, and that would be a tragic result of not dealing properly with spiritual wounds. My first blow came when I agreed to build a church building for a small fellowship. I was very young in the Lord at the time and should have prayed more about the situation. The idea of building a church building overwhelmed my spiritual senses. The short of it was that they used me, broke their promises to take care of my family, and the pastor became jealous and begin inflicting abuse on me.