As you work through grief and come to some acceptance of loss, you are likely to gain a larger perspective on life. Although Graves is not a fatal disease, coming to terms with any loss brings us face to face with the fact that life is finite. We all face loss in our eventual and inevitable deaths which await us at the end of the life cycle. This awareness comes dimly and gradually for most of us. Mid-life crisis is one preparation which requires us to address the profound psychological acceptance of our growing vulnerabilities, without which we do not mature.
Unexpected illness is another call for such maturation.
You are dealing with feelings of loss unexpectedly, in the form of your illness. This represents a loss of control. It is natural that this process of acceptance and adaptation will take some time. Be patient with yourself and your husband. Make room for feelings and be flexible.