Often friends and clergy will know about persons who are gifted in the art of sharing the life of prayer. For this reason, use discretion when talking about spirituality, especially with casual friends. See if anyone is available at a local monastery or convent. If you still have not located a director, try contacting an organization which trains spiritual directors. The Shalem Institute in Bethesda, MD, the Stillpoint School in Nashville, TN, and the Institute for Pastoral Studies in Atlanta, GA, all have training programs for spiritual directors.
Similar programs exist in virtually every major city in the United States.
Talk to your pastor to learn if there is a school for spiritual directors near you. Often such groups will be happy to make referrals, matching you with one of their current or former students. If you resist such a discipline, a few meetings with a gifted director may help clarify your resistance. Your discipline does not have to be perfect, but your intention must be mature, before spiritual direction will be useful to you. The spiritual director is trained in the life of prayer, and may or may not have training in areas of counseling and psychology.