Children may add stress to a relationship because of their demands and impact on the couplets life-style. Moreover, the birth of a child will not stabilize an already rocky relationship. As with Michael and Shelley, the foundation of your marriage may be stronger than you think. Knowing this will help you cope with your treatment and with your fertility in less emotional and distressing terms. If you both can focus your energy on developing and implementing a fertility treatment plan instead of preserving a marriage that is not in jeopardy, your energy will be better directed.
Some women truly feel incomplete because of their fertility problem.
Nor is it uncommon for infertile men to feel less virile. Infertility obviously prevents these couples from fulfilling the primary roles they have defined for their lives. Statements 7 through 20 will help you identify why you want or need a baby. I find that people who see life without children as purposeless usually believe that they are responding to internal needs and personal goals. In actual fact, they may be placing a higher value on their family's and society's expectations than they are on their own needs.