Parents sometimes involve the teenager, leaning on them like they are an adult. Parents can cause guilt in teens by blaming them for the divorce or forcing them to take sides in arguments. Teens dealing with divorcing parents feel their own pain of fear and lack of trust in adults. Teens dealing with divorcing parents always need someone to talk to. Keeping feelings inside does no good and is actually harmful.
Some young adults shrug off the pain, thinking it is dumb to be sad.
It is OK to feel sad. Things in life will change forever because of the divorce. Children and teens are never the cause of a divorce. Most of the time the parents have tried to work it out, and could not. So teens should not blame themselves.