If a degree of individuation is reached, souls seek out like-minded companions and these may not belong in their physical family. By moving away there is an opportunity for both child and the parents to grow, but more often than not, the parents hold onto their image of the child and cannot let them be who they really are. Individuals incarnating about the same time may find each other and come together in order to carry out a particular job or form a school of the soul. Many will fall away from the Work. Choices made at this time have a very deep effect on the person's life.
Young adulthood is the time when most people do their parenting.
For the right balance in family life, mercy is needed, but the emphasis at this time is on discrimination. This is important as children need safe boundaries within which to develop. However, excessive structure can be oppressive and restrictive and leave no room for creativity. In the most extreme cases the child grows up physically but still cannot leave home, held there by the security of the structures. Too much freedom on the other hand can be just as destructive, allowing so much expansion so that the child grows insecure.