This is getting really frustrating. I hope you can help us out with this because I'm clueless as to where to go from here. Thank you from both of us for taking the time to read this. And I do have to say, congratulations on working together to get through this problem. That's a smart and mature way to handle relationship issues.
Sex drive is, of course, relative.
What bothers one person may seem totally acceptable to another. That could have set you up to have a dislike for sex. For that matter, so can untreated depression or a history of abuse. This dryness may occur because of a fear or lack of interest in sex, but it can occur even when the woman's quite interested, if she naturally lacks lubrication. One way to ease this problem, of course, is adequate foreplay, but if that doesn't bring the desired response of seat-wetting, try using lubrication.