Remember that Jesus was as perfect a workman as He was in character. He spent more time at a lowly trade than preaching the gospel. Do not spend your time dreaming of how you could do a grander work for God if only you were not bound by present circumstances and responsibilities. Do not envy another person's place or lot. God gives to every one his work, and no one is more qualified to do that work God has assigned to you than you.
Some people are more naturally gracious, affectionate and outgoing.
Their talents are sometimes lauded as evidence of their wonderful Christian experience. There are healthy, happy pagans who have well-ordered personalities too. Culture, refinement and morality are good and beneficial, but they are not sanctification. Supernatural gifts are no sign that a person's heart is filled with the Holy Spirit. The effects of sanctification are not measured by what we have, but by how we use what we have.