They do not need to raise their hands, nor are there rules regarding appropriate language. After all, we want to hear real feelings, expressed using real language. Next comes the warm-up, which aids in getting participants comfortable with speaking in front of the group and in bonding the group members. In addition to giving their first names, grade level, and school, we ask teens to share an experience or personal characteristic. Regardless of the response, it's important that the moderator verbally or nonverbally show support for each respondent.
Strangers can quickly grow close by hearing about their common experiences.
The tone of the group should be friendly, open, and fun. Each participant should feel comfortable and respected. Participants should do most of the talking. The moderator's role is to stimulate and guide discussion, not to participate. Teen hierarchy is so strong that even in a group of strangers, leaders will exert themselves.