To find your clitoris, feel inside the top of your vulva for a button-like thing. Everyone agrees on what they're going to do, and anyone can make it stop. Both women and men can enjoy anal intercourse. Both women and men are able to have orgasms.
Transgender people can be heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual or whatever.
Our sexualities are more complicated than these words, and we can decide if we want to use them, make up our own words, or use no words at all.