The time to talk to a teen about alcohol use or abuse is when the teen is sober and when parents feel they can remain calm. Parents should talk honestly about the behavior changes they have noticed, the harmful effects of alcohol and about seeking treatment as a family. Some teens drink to dull painful emotions or to make themselves feel more confident, particularly if they're shy or feel insecure about their looks or talents. Express your love and support for your children by communicating openly and freely with them. Provide calm and consistent standards of behavior, including moderation in the use of alcohol, tobacco and other drugs.
Teens respond to reasons and example better than to orders.
Example Is a Powerful Teacher Children of drinkers, especially heavy drinkers, often start drinking themselves, some at a surprisingly early age. It is not known if alcoholism is caused by heredity, environment or a combination of factors. However, a good way to prevent your children from drinking is to stop drinking yourself. If you suspect your teenager has a drinking problem, don't ignore it or hope that it will go away on its own. Instead, learn all you can about alcohol dependency and about treatment programs available to your teen.