Sometimes, visiting may not be possible. For example, the child may prefer to avoid contact or distance may be a problem. A restraining order or DOC rule may prevent the parent from having any type of contact with the child. When visiting is an option, it can usually be arranged, but requires some preparation. Children who want to maintain close contact with their incarcerated parent should be encouraged to write, draw pictures, talk on the telephone, and visit as much as possible.
Studies show that allowing children to visit, if possible, helps the children.
Many people are ashamed to talk about having someone close to them in jail or prison. YOU didn t do anything wrong. People who try to make you feel guilty or ashamed are wrong. Sometimes, it is easier not to talk about a parent who is incarcerated, but you may never learn that there are plenty of other kids in the same situation. Talking about it with people you trust may help.