When we find ourselves, for a while, breathing very freely, we experience all sorts of strange and pleasurable sensations in our bodyminds, an opportunity to directly perceive the flow of life energy in ourselves, which Reich called 'streaming'. But pleasure, for most people, is very often bound up with anxiety. If our first reaction to pleasure beyond 'a certain limit is no rather than yes , then our wires need uncrossing. We need to unpeel, layer by layer, the different negative feelings that have come to overlay our innately joyful, playful response to energy flow. There are many people, for example, who are celibate but who use meditation or other bodymind disciplines to keep themselves soft and clear.
Some reasons are better than others.
A long term relationship may go through effectively 'asexual' phases - and yet both partners feel it would be destructive to look for sexual satisfaction elsewhere. Surrender to our own feelings is not easily separated from surrender to someone else, or to a particular sexual ideology. It can be difficult to disentangle saying 'yes' to our bodies from saying 'yes' to patriarchy, because in a sense we may experience our bodies as colonised and imperialised by society's models of sexuality, power and pleasure. The way forward through this jungle, hard though it is, is surely to stay with exactly what comes up for us when we try to let go, breathe, and feel ourselves. If we can accept and own our sensations and emotions, without judgement or denial, then we can eventually find the way through to our truth, a truth based on far more solid foundations than any intellectual model.