It is, in reality - self hate. Others, in the name of love, choose the most unlikely person and commit themselves to a marriage or a living arrangement that is destined to failure from the very beginning. Now, These examples are mainly from secular society, but we religious can be just as guilty. This Self-hate can poison a religious vocation with bitterness and anger, making it an entire lifetime of Macahvellian vengeance. Prayer is no longer an impetus, it has been replaced by malicious gossip.
Self centered autism can take over the outpouring of charity.
All of us, lay and religious alike can become so self-hateful, that even getting out of bed in the morning is akin to an operation with anestisia. After all it was only 40 years ago. True Christlike love of self is a state of constant thankfulness - thanksgiving for the simple act of being born, of simply being alive. It is an almost hyper-awareness of the blessings that surround us, the unnoticed miracles of the every day. It presupposes it, it is the catalyst for it.