Love is a term of convenience for most people. Loving when it is advantageous to do so, leaving when it isn't. Men and women need to learn better how to be friends together which in turn would lead to stronger relationships. Maybe one day, long after I'm gone, some will figure it out and stornger relationships between all living things will be forged. Once you stop looking you will find your true love.
Some people think that they are in love when actually they are feeling something else.
Take the husband beating the wife, she is scared of him, she does not love him. When you experience love it is different for everyone and can not be explained. I recognized a difference. When my wife and I were first dating I realized that not only did I love her, but she also posessed the qualities which finally struck a chord in me, and I knew she would be my wife. Nothing about our relationship was easy, we grew up in different environments, she possessed goals and I didn't, we were at different places in life, and had all the logistic nightmares that I've seen kill other relationships.