The grandparents want to be included and you may not want to travel great distances with the little ones in tow. This could be a pivotal period in the family's traditional gatherings. Perhaps Grandma could come to your house for the holidays now. It is possible to celebrate on the weekends before and after the actual holiday, to accommodate the children. This way they could be at home for the big day, with no worries about missing the magic of the event.
Some families choose to alternate years and visits to parts of their extended family.
This can be a bit confusing unless the plans are all made quite clear to everyone involved. Some might divide up the various holidays, celebrating the winter occasions with one parent and the spring holidays with another. You might invent a holiday, such as Christmas in July, to be able to include everyone, yet not have so many different visits occurring around the actual holiday. I count myself lucky to have the abundant visits to make and receive each year. Truly, holidays are what you make of them.