Take action even if your spouse will not. This is what God did with you. Christ took the action of love even when we were still in rebellion against Him. Apply this principle to your marriage. Take this action toward him or her.
Some people take longer to respond than others.
This, again, is the posture that God has taken toward you. You must be patient because most heated arguments are not resolved by just one conversation. If you wait and pray and there is still no response after a short time, go again and ask your mate to consider the issues you have previously discussed. Continue to pray that God would cause your loved one to yield to the truth and take action. If your partner brings other issues to you in which you have been offending, follow the above steps again.