The goal is not to stay joyful forever. Rather, the point is that full attention to your Being , Belonging , and Doing experiences helps promote rich and satisfying periods of joy. Defective, Rejected, Inadequate Shame is a person s negative self-judgment. But it is also a feeling, sometimes a total body experience, that includes flushed face, weakness, nausea, and an almost unbearable need to run and hide. This is a Being definition of shame and since then I ve come to realize that there are also many Belonging and Doing aspects.
Shame occurs when people sense they are failures in any of the three areas.
People with Being shame feel basically defective. I m worthless. And I ll never get better because what s wrong with me can t be fixed. Those with Being shame think they possess permanent, fatal, and irredeemable flaws. They may be hidden but they cannot be removed.