But to begin with, same-sex attraction is a developmental arrest that is psychological in nature. Yet they never shift the burden of responsibility onto the Lord. Unsuccessful clients get overwhelmed by their own emotions and withdraw from therapy. This is one of the main factors separating successful from unsuccessful clients. Feeling such shame over your struggles that you refuse to be open with others about what you are going through.
Successful clients open themselves to other people and ask for help.
A rigid approach to life, which prevents you from going beyond previous limitations, seeing new perspectives, doing new things, exploring new ways of thinking and living, and doing things you've never done before. Successful clients are open to the possibility of change in every aspect of their lives. This is also manifested as a tendency to NOT seek out help, or to be very narrow in the therapeutic activities you pursue. Perhaps you go to group meetings occasionally, but you essentially keep yourself ignorant of other opportunities. Successful clients take the responsibility for their change process and seek out every source of information and help available, such as individual and group therapy, straight male friendships, New Warriors participation, activity in a church, etc.