Some children become overly stern and righteous, while others may indulge in petty stealing and lying. Young children move between extremes of feeling helpless and of taking total responsibility for the divorce. They have a hard time grasping the concept of cause and effect. Parents may feel out of control at times. The parent with the primary responsibility for the children often experiences overload, as they try to juggle the demands of home, children, and work or school.
Some parents react by hesitating to say no or being afraid to set any limits.
Other parents over control, resorting to commands and force. External support for these families is important. A child care provider can be a needed support for children and parents by being sensitive and creating opportunities for communication. Discuss behavior changes with parents and encourage them to be supportive of their children during this difficult time.