Such liasons may represent the first hint of desire for a boy which, with a girl friend, can be expressed with a delicacy of feeling because no pressures are brought to bear on their shared intimacies. Samuel Johnson called it 'The endearing elegance of female friendship'. Perhaps such girls have been taught to view men as dangerous, threatening, dirty or even weak and inadequate. Virginity is transient. Although gradually leaving childhood behind her, the young girl will still enjoy, probably more than anything, bodily contact - cuddles and caresses.
Virginity is fragile.
It is sad if a young girl feels under pressure to lose her virginity and finally submits to sex with a boy for the first time. Unfortunately, he will most likely be a callow or even callous youth who thinks he is a man of the world but in reality is completely unaware of the complixities of the female body and how it reacts. In his excitement and eagerness for his own pleasure, foreplay will be sketchy or more likely non-existent. Fortunately with the resilience of youth, she will eventually put the fumbling, unpalatable experience behind her and continue to search for the romance which she feels does and indeed must exist. Her fantasies will continue and her secret thoughts will remain secret.