Although I assumed that my wife did not love me because she was out of the house, my wife, at that very moment, could have been doing many things for herself . . . She might have been feeling confined and was seeking an outlet. She did what she did for her own reasons and from her own beliefs. My using the cardinal belief as proof was arbitrary . . . It proves nothing if someone else does not perform to my expectations.
Some real questions arise.
I could still want and try to get, but allow the future. If I don't make happiness the reward of getting, I could perhaps be happy now while I try for what I want. And the cardinal belief also has its fallacies and resulting unhappiness. She could still love me and not do what I want or ask, just as I have loved her while doing things she disagreed with. How often have we loved a parent and yet did the exact opposite of what was requested.