Doing must follow understanding which comes through talking. Women like to co-operate, men love to compete. When you think in terms of the original plan of God that was expressed by the English words help and suitable. You will recall that suitable meant to provide balance. Balance and help are not welcome in a competitive atmosphere.
Women tend to be agreeable but men love to control.
Our controlling comes out of our deep need to be a winner, to feel significant. It makes me sad to say that many Christian men have capitalized on this difference and systematically manipulated and controlled their wives. They have unmercifully beat their wives with a few isolated verses from Paul's writing. These verses are taken out of context so they can justify their manipulation and control.