Consent is a verbal process, established without coercion. Here is what it means to me. These are but a few examples of questions that help establish that both parties are equally interested in participating. If someone, female or male, feels assaulted they have been assaulted. After the fact is too late to find-out for the first time how our partner felt about the sexual interaction.
Someone can change their minds at any point.
We can stop at any time. My physical discomfort will pass, she may carry the trauma of her assault for the rest of her life. Confronting masculine violence is good and essential work for boys and men. Most of the rape prevention in the past and present has been done by women. That there are finally some men doing this work, privately and publicly, does not deny those women's work and doesn't deny the need for many more males to be involved.