Often times these are the women who are labeled in derogatory ways. These women may regret the ways in which they express themselves as it does not help them feel better about themselves or their situations. Sometimes these expressions of anger seem to jeopardize the very relationships that women are trying to change or maintain. It is important to find safe ways to acknowledge and vent anger, for sometimes the expression of anger for its own sake can bring relief. Generally speaking, though, most people try to be careful about the way they express anger because they do care about either the person or the relationship that is causing them to fume.
People also care about the way they feel about themselves after having risked exposing their anger.
Ideally, people want to preserve and possibly improve the relationship and to feel good about themselves in the process. These skills are worthy of developing. They will help us look at our situations more realistically, assess how much we can change and begin the process of transformation. When change does not come and we find ourselves in chronically unhappy situations, we gain clarity about decisions before us. Sometimes this can include letting go of a job or relationship that is toxic to us.