Nothing destroys relationships more than the quiet killer called resentment. You are creatively compromising on life's details so your whole life has meaning. After that last assignment, I thought Julie or I, or both of us, would bail out. It's the most discouraging assignment we've ever had. David and Julie need to know, just as you may need to know, that it takes an enormous amount of courage to complete that last assignment.
Many couples get so discouraged when they see the bottom line in their budget that they give up.
They never complete the assignment, and they never change their money life. They just continue to be discouraged. Completing that assignment is like facing down the bogey monster. Completing the budgeting assignment means facing up to the issue so you can deal with it. If you never face it, you will never solve it.