This is how it works for the healthy submissive, who as an adult, often finds great fulfillment working in fields such as social work, nursing, medicine, counselling, teaching. There are certain vulnerabilities a child constituted with a submissive nature faces. Because of her intense awareness of interpersonal nuance, she is highly sensitive to both criticism and praise. Since the shame feels so bad, and the praise so pleasurable, she becomes a people-pleaser. The female submissive defines herself based on what others tell her she is.
Parents have enormous responsibility with such an influenceable child.
Nascent talents can either be nurtured or aborted with just a word. This child will likely live up, or down to, whatever is expected of her. Accurately and sensitively validate her real abilities and talents, and she will seek goals appropriate to her ability, and take pleasure in acheiving them. But if development should go awry, as it too often does for this child, the personality traits she has develop in a distorted manner, and cause her difficulties. In dysfunctional families, this child suffers more than others with tougher hides, less reactive temperments.