A patient, gentle, intimate partner is helpful in your healing process. To retreat sexually is a normal coping mechanism. You have a right to refuse to be sexual until you feel ready. Rape is not sex. Intimate consensual lovemaking bears no resemblance to sexual assault.
Most victims feel guilty and ashamed about the assault.
Some of these feelings are the result of society's myths about rape and sexuality. Victims know what society believes and worry about what others might think of them now. Sometimes blaming oneself helps a victim to feel less helpless. Being sexually assaulted does not make you a bad person, you did not choose to be sexually assaulted. Education about the facts surrounding sexual assault may be helpful in dispelling shame and self-blame.