My guess is that, at least on occasion, feelings get a little stirred-up. It can be a struggle to always answer multiple peoples' needs with an amiable solution.
Many factors impact the decision making process in the caregiving situation.
Once you are confronted with a caregiving problem, it's time to pull the family and any other supportive people together and discuss your concerns. Prioritize Identify tasks that need to be done and formulate plans. Include all family members in discussions and decisions. Recognize that stress will affect each person's perceptions and reactions. Try to understand where each person is in the process of grieving the loss of a healthy, independent person.