Couples eager to resume their sex life should make sure that the woman is fully healed or she would find sex painful. This would especially apply to women who ve had an episiotomy or who ve had to have stitches. Let s not forget that once baby comes home, new parents aren t going to have a minute to breathe. By the time they ve fed, bathed, and clothed the baby, put him to sleep and done the laundry, they just about have the energy to sink gratefully into a chair. There s no way that they d have the energy to even think about making love.
Sex is put on the back burner while they try to get a semblance of routine into their lives again.
New parents ardour is also cooled because they are uncomfortable about having sex in the same room where their child is sleeping. A nursing mother s sexual needs may be satisfied by breastfeeding as a result of which she may turn away from her husband s overtures. In addition, some women feel uncomfortable with sexual foreplay that involves fondling their breasts. They feel that their breasts now have a nurturing function and are awkward about thinking about them in a sexual context. Sometimes, breasts leak milk when stimulated, which can make either or both partners physically and psychologically uncomfortable.