When love is failing the same boy and girl tend to see each other through a microscope, micro-managing every trait, attitude, quality or behavior. It is almost as if they are looking for stuff not to like. This simple illustration, both the relationships that are beginning and those that are failing will repeat themselves thousands of times today. There are three simple concepts that impact all relationships. People are always changing.
Relationships are dynamic and evolving.
Most people in a new relationship put their best foot forward. They want to make a favorable impression on the other person. However sooner or later the masks come off and the REAL person will show themselves. This often happens early in a relationship giving the other person a quick glimpse into who the other person really is. In order to not feel as you have been broad-sided by new behavior by the other person it is critical that you observe carefully both what is said and what is not, what the person does as well as what they don't do and how they behave as well as how they don't behave.