If, on the other hand, you are at a level zero when you enter the shops and something comes up, it is unlikely your fear will rise to the same level and if it did rise 5 points then this is still a much more manageable level from which to make decisions than a level 7 or 8. We sat in the car and continued to work on aspects until her fear came down to a level zero. Then she was able to go into the store on her own. In fact, she spent so long in there that I became concerned and went searching for her, only to find that she was enjoying being completely free of her fear. There can be a tendency to assume that we need to retain some of our intense feelings for a variety of reasons.
Typical examples are guilt feelings, safety fears, and feelings of non-deservingness, among others.
For example, many people believe that they need to keep some of their fear in order to stay safe that without it they will lose their ability to be cautious. This is a false belief that can leave us with unnecessary suffering. Others have an underlying belief that they do not deserve to get over this problem completely, or that to do so would be bad for them in some way. Then insert these negative belief statements into the set-up statement. However, the simplest way forward is to ask yourself what are the reasons why you can t get over your problem completely or why it might not be good to do so.