A victim is much more likely to sulk, pout, look unhappy, or lay a guilt trip on something than to get angry. The self-pitying, pessimistic, sad, jealous victim is surely sitting on a mass of hostility. Both the passive-aggressive and the victim are likely to be aware of their anger, even though it is largely denied. There are so many frustrations in our daily lives, one could easily become chronically irritated. About two-thirds of the students in my classes feel the need to gain more control over their anger.
Research clearly shows that alcohol and drugs are linked with aggression.
Drinking decreases our judgment and increases our impulsiveness, so watch out. You probably have a pretty accurate picture of your temper. But check your opinion against the opinion of you held by relatives and friends. A case of jealous anger Tony and Jane had gone together a long time, long enough to wear off the thrill and take each other for granted. The place where this was most apparent was at dances and parties.