Don't criticize her for staying with him, but share information on how abuse increases over time without intervention. Listen to the abuser. Support change in his behaviour. Don't be silent or ignore abusive comments about women. Help him understand he is the only one responsible for the violence even if his girlfriend is responsible for other problems in the relationship.
Violence is learned behaviour and can be unlearned.
Encourage him to seek help in a counselling program for batterers. Encourage him to contact groups, for instance in Toronto, Metro Men Against Violence. Copyright 1997-2001, Education Wife Assault Site updated Tuesday, September 25, 2001.