Infertile couples sometimes avoid certain family and friends because they ask questions that make them uncomfortable. Couples can say to these people, we know you're rooting for us. Dr. Casey says that couples often feel that they have to answer these questions or be obnoxious about not answering. She suggests that couples be proactive in their dealings with family members. Be prepared to ask others questions about themselves.
People are often happy to talk about themselves.
Jackie, who lives in Israel, knows that holiday family gatherings will bring questions, both spoken and implied, about when she and her husband plan to have a child. They are currently trying to conceive but haven't shared this with family. I guess what is most important in dealing with these unending questions, is that DH and I are in complete agreement about when to tell them, so there is no tension between the two of us. We are sure that some of our closer family suspect that we are in the process, but until we bring it up, they know that they can't ask directly. Dr. Casey recognizes that at certain times during holiday celebrations, the stress may feel overwhelming.