Hesitation finds its basis in the lack of precision over the place of the other, a place which will always be imprecise when the latter is seen exclusively through an object projected by the ego. Even though the object is the most variable element of the drive and falling in love can end and repeat itself with another object, falling in love does not happen with just anyone but with a very precise someone. Despite the fact that the other allows him to install the object of love, or the object of the drive, this is a fundamentally new encounter. Nothing of this kind has ever happened before. Too little attention has been paid to the quality of the new fact involved.
Transference is regarded first as an instrument to control the patient's repetition compulsion.
In the same way, falling in love generally impregnates both persons and an atmosphere is created in which both egos are not the same after this has taken place. The repression of the relationship will lead to understanding falling in love as occurring only from one person towards the other. Repetition can also be considered as the result of the repression of the relation between the patient and the analyst and not merely ocurring to one of them, the patient. These are two very different experiences. When we see Hamlet we may see different versions.