We have small bedtime discussions, but cover the important issues earlier in the evening. Family discussions should be open to any concern. In over 300 interviews by Children First, youngsters 5-18 suggested parents talk to their offspring about important issues such as abortion, homicide, drugs, war, social welfare, education, law enforcement, and jobs. As we do this, we need to pay strict attention to how we listen to their responses. When we can truly listen without judgment, we honor their opinions.
Meaningful communication allows both sides to speak and be heard.
The next time someone talks with you, especially your children or someone else close to you, notice if you tend to space out or go on automatic pilot and anticipate what you think that person wants to say - and start formulating an answer. Remain aware of your ears, and listen from your heart. Just listen, feel, and give that person your full attention, as if you had all the time in the world. Treat what that person says as vitally important. Even though our children may be our pride and joy, we must remember they are not appendages of us, nor are they our reflection.