Don't stop when the first or second step seems to be working. Keep going forward until you have all five steps in place. Enjoy yourself, but keep meeting new people until someone is perfect for you. This will work. A personal interest helps you communicate, particularly if you are shy.
Most singles meet some other singles.
If no special interest group exists for you, look into the Happy Hour, Dance, or Dinner groups. If you are on the quiet side, the dinner group will give you a chance to shine. When you are in a small town without options, try driving to a large population area. If the nearest metroplex is too far, look for a church group. NOT your church.