This is a decision a person has to make for him or herself because nobody is going to stop hurting for you, but yourself. At this closure phase, we learn to forget about the incident and replace what is missing in our lives with the decision made at the overcoming phase. Replacement is very important and it may take time. This is the time to forget the past, continue with a new agenda of life and start enjoying life again, facing your future vibrantly. Pampering your physical needs A person hurting needs a time for physical indulgence, which should start after the hurting phase and continue as needed.
Physical indulgence is even more important at the pampering phase.
It is the time to indulge in physical needs to entertain the body. Most people who work very hard and do not have time for self-nurturing easily crash into depression during difficult times. During this phase, most people are still hurting because they have not given themselves opportunity to enjoy life since they are still suffering from emotional pain. At this time, a person gives him or herself permission to start enjoying life again, to go to social gatherings and parties, to drink alcohol in moderation, to go hiking or camping, to take a vacation, and to do those things that nurture the physical needs of the body. Most of the time when people deprive themselves of physical needs, inappropriate or dangerous behaviors may emerge in other aspects of life.