Hug your children at least five times per day. Set reasonable, fair, realistic rules for safety, to protect others and property. Notice your children being kind to other people. It can take children many repetitions to learn something. Each child is different.
Some children are more demanding and harder to get along with than others.
Find ways to appreciate your children's uniqueness. Think in the long-term. Watch this report about showing affection to boys. Find out here. You should not rely on this information as a substitute for personal medical attention, diagnosis or hands-on treatment.