Be aware of what a child's reactions might be and talk about how he or she feels. A certain amount of self-discipline on the parents part is required. The divorce is likely to be very difficult to deal with, but sometimes the children must be put first and allowed to express their frustrations and feelings. The children will feel lost. Their own natural place in the family is not the same anymore.
Most children have a 'secret mission' to reunite their parents.
If they are asked, they will usually prefer the parents to stay together instead of getting a divorce. This is still the case when the marriage has been very difficult. Children are extremely loyal to their parents. They will often deny and hide their own feelings. Many children feel guilty when their parents divorce.