Not many civilian spouses have the built-in opportunity for a time to take a good look at themselves. It is the state of mind with which you approach a situation. Because it affects how you look, what you say, and what you do. It affects how you feel, both physically and mentally, and it largely affects how successful you are in achieving your purpose in life. Negative attitudes make life difficult for everyone.
Positive attitudes help everyone get the most out of life.
When the spouse goes away, you have to make a choice. You can apply a positive attitude, and make the best of the time you have to be apart, or, you can apply negative attitude, draw the drapes, withdraw and complain until they come home. Given the two choices, the first one is healthier and much to your advantage. Time passes quickly when you are busy. It also makes for better, longer and more interesting letters to your spouse.