Certainly the memory of a loved one is not diminished by the cause of his passing. They're probably sitting on it out of respect for the family's expressed wishes. I'd probably do the same. And when it does, it won't be anywhere near as bad as the speculation, if it's bad at all. Meanwhile, the rumor mills are operating at full speed.
People take part in the process and then feel lousy for having done so.
And so it goes. And not just because the Toros lost. I spent several hours at the Toros game the other night, almost all of it watching the Colorado Sky Sox score seven of the nastiest runs you've ever seen in The Third Inning That Wouldn't Die. Then I show up and it's passed ball here, dropped popup there. Hey, I already coach Little League.