Having sex is like having food. Each is, of itself, neither respectable nor disrepectable. Both are merely necessary to biological survival. Excessive indulgence in either is unworthy. Appropriate indulgence, merely appropriate.
Men have ways of nurturing that are unlike women's.
Ways which are special, unique, and as important to children, family, women, men and community as women's ways. If women are very good at loving, they are equally good at hating. Autonomy and community, discipline and rebellion, creativity and conformity, striving to overcome obstacles, solving problems and happy endings, all are American ideals. In marketing paradise, you pay more for less and less for more. The male tradition builds teams, the female, cliques.