Schedules are unrealistic and an exhaustive work regimen becomes a drug-like, addictive high for him. For the male narcissist, the ego is bigger than the self. Father is seen as being a failure - inadequate, unavailable, inaccessible and critical. On top of this, the father may actually alienate the child with his demands and lack of affectional bonding. Narcissistic disorder suggests the lack of emotional parental availability for adequate bonding.
Narcissists have difficulty activating the real feeling self.
Unable to sustain and maintain emotion and intimacy, they project their inadequacies onto others through rage and demands for perfect performance. Due to a lack of parental connectedness from early childhood, the narcissist is left to struggle and seek perfect connectedness with others. Close, intimate relationships are limited and few in number, while certain relationships are antagonistic due to negative parental introjects. Hence, the narcissist feels alone and unaffiliated. Narcissists ultimately blame their partners for problems in a relationship.