It is not necessary to lie about the other parents mistakes but don t be graphic about them either. Allow the child to see the parents failings for him or herself. Reassure the child that it is okay for him or her to love the other parent. Children get caught up in loyalty conflicts where they are afraid to show love or affection for one parent and upset the other. Allow visitations with extended family, such as grandparents.
Relatives often lose contact or are refused visitations with children after a divorce.
There are times when this may be justified, for one reason or another. For example, grandparents talk bad about a child s mom or dad or go against the rules set down by the custodial parent. At times, they take the child to see the other parent, who is abusing substances, in violation of a court order. When these situations occur, legal steps must be taken to prevent harm to the child, emotionally or physically. But there are many times when this is not the case and relatives deserve some time with the children.