Understanding these variables is a necessary starting point for solving sexual difficulties. Sometimes all we need to do to overcome the blocks to sexual pleasure is to recognize and discuss our differences. But more commonly, some outside counsel is necessary. Since sex is such a personal, and often threatening, subject, many couples retreat quickly when it's not working well. They don't want to admit the problems but instead begin to build up fearfulness and anger.
Men are particularly sensitive and defensive about sexual difficulties.
Then we see the wife who shares even more openly than her husband. So let us encourage you to talk with a competent counselor at your earliest possible opportunity. Unfortunately, we don't hear this message enough in our culture. If we knew the facts going into marriage, it might cut down on some of the disappointment. Every part of marriage requires adjusting to another person and his or her wants and needs.