An aggressive person will tend to associate with aggressive people. Like minds attract each other because the pictures are the same. If you are continually having dysfunctional relationships, then I suspect that your family and friends are also. Many people will scream and complain, why is this happening to me, and they will search everywhere for the reason except for where the real cause resides. It resides within.
Relationships are dysfunctional because the pictures are dysfunctional.
If the disjunction is in the area of male, female relationships, then one could suspect that there is an imbalance or incongruity with the anima and animus within. As this incongruity is repaired so will the metaphor change and behavior alter in the external world, including the new pictures and movie plot that the metaphor begins to create. First of all, you must recognize what they are. I have a tremendous advantage with reverse speech because it allows me direct access to the core structures of the mind. Here I can see the actual metaphors or pictures that create the symptoms of the behavior.