Nobody ever joined one frat over all others because it involved reading to inner-city schoolchildren. Glossing over that fact with proof of good citizenship is a fun game of description not matching reality. By not admitting that Thursday night parties and dating are important aspects of the Greek scene, fraternity members have only incited more negativity. They already received dirty looks from those who feel outside of the Abercrombie and Fitch world of popularity. But when the frats deny that rampant sexuality and girl-gazing rule their scene, they get annoyance from everyone.
Nobody respects a liar.
Yet, polarizing the two sides is a mistake. I don't think it's fair to extremely hate or adore Greek life. The truth lies somewhere in the middle - far in the middle, if that makes sense. And, if the debate must rage on, both sides should change their basic arguments. As for fraternities, I'd advise them to adhere to a strict code of conduct in which no racism or sexism is tolerated.