The answer usually lies with his home life. If you have a bully, he will be a bully for life. Same thing for the child who is always being singled out for ridicule. Chances are he will be singled out for life. What makes cliques tick, and how parents can help The Dallas Morning News Cliques become negative only when the group's primary purpose is to exclude, tease or torment other children, says Charlene Giannetti, co-author of a new book about cliques.
Parents can help.
Give her standards to use in judging herself and others. You can't engineer the child's place on the social ladder. Listen without being judgmental and voice your opinions often. Monitor your child's friendships, keep in touch with the school and network with other parents. You can't correct bullying behavior overnight.