So even though our years will be spent apart, at least when we walk our children down the aisle, it will be hand in hand, just as we did six years ago. Through the years, members of the gay community have criticized me for taking a position that I maintain to be moral, ethical, and necessary. These words of conscience need to be heard by those of you who are gay or bisexual men married to heterosexual women. It is about truth, honesty, and commitment towards the person who should be the primary focus in your life. This plea is not being made out of sheer emotionalism, but rather from common sense, logic, and a sense of fair play.
Marriage is the highest form of commitment a man can make with a woman.
It supersedes all prior relationships and goes beyond friendship. It is a relationship built on trust and honesty towards each other. That is not to say that every move in a marriage must be explained. It is living a lie. You are living a double life in two separate worlds, and the twain will never meet.