Building Self-Esteem EQ can be learned and it can be increased.
People can create feelings simply from thoughts.
Try making yourself feel joyful, sad, mad, peaceful. Today, consider not why and how you act, but what it feels like to act. In other words, we do not choose our characteristics, but we do choose our characters. We do not choose many of the events of our lives, but we do choose how we react to them. Consider what is most important in life.