His love never seeks to coerce, dominate, and control. That's why it is so hard to be dismantled. We women, who are more relational in nature, have decided that we no longer want, nor accept this kind of a relationship. I understand it is men's nature to think in term of hiearchy and rank. It is not so with women.
Men compare marriage to a business, an army, and war.
Women do not. The traditional structure of a business is that it is hiearchical and authoritarian in nature. Marriage is not a coercive organization, is not purely utilitarian in goals, and is more than normative. Marriage is also relational, where two persons become one, yet remain two unique and separate individuals. The structures that exist in a business cannot be transferred to the marriage relationship without due consideration to its relational, affective, and emotional aspects.