Power struggles often feel like someone has to win and someone has to lose. A win-win solution is when each party comes away feeling like they got what they wanted. Getting to win-win takes negotiation. And I want you to win. But I want to win, too.
Parents often feel that their authority is being questioned when children say no.
It is best to hear a child's NO as a disagreement rather than a disrespectful response. Teach children to say NO respectfully and appropriately. Keep in mind that you want them to say NO when faced with peer pressure and inappropriate situations. Everyone wants to feel powerful. Our children are not exempt from these feelings, so the more we can do to give them appropriate ways to feel powerful, the fewer power struggles we will have with them.