So if you get to that guy's house and he has a big-lipped, black faced lawn jockey in his living room, take it as a complement. You'll see enough hair salon afros and black face make up to recast The Color Purple with out hiring a single black person. Get over it. Actions speak louder than words I can't emphasize enough how important correct social interactions are here. Confrontations are avoided at all costs, and because of this, Japanese people have what would seem a rather passive aggressive way of going about things.
Words are concrete and therefore treacherous.
Be open to the experience and take it all in. If you ever find yourself in a Tokyo fruit shop and can't figure out whether that boy is a pear or an apple, take my advice and just put it in your mouth and swallow. It may not be what you were expecting, but it is sweet.