God has reconciled us. He does and He may perform His gracious work in us. To reconcile is to reunite those who are estranged. To unite, by removing the enmity between them, thus to change from the position of hostility to a relationship of friendship. It speaks of the eternal love of God to unite those He ordained to eternal life to Himself, for we had fallen into sin.
Reconciliation presupposes a former relationship of friendship.
He takes us to Himself through the cross. That is reconciliation. Reconciled to her husband would mean that the differences, the hurts, the misunderstanding, the coldness, the distance would be overcome, and husband and wife would be reunited in the bond of the exclusive love of marriage. Now God has reconciled us to Himself. The enmity of our sins He has removed, so that when God reconciles us to Himself this is not simply a patching up for the sake of appearance.