I will be away for quite sometime. Would you please delete me from the list. I will come bqck to you a bit later. There has been some interesting work in the international development literature on how men use additional income vs. how women use additional income in developing countries.
Women spend the additional money on their children's health and education.
As a consequence of this research, more and more development programs are targeting women, and even those that don't require specific strategies for women. I have not seen anything that specifically addresses the issue of increased domestic violence. The women could also negotiate better prices for food and clothing, for example. I realize this does not tackle the issue of differential power relationships and domestic violence, but it might reduce the level of violence while still allowing women to improve their and their children's lives.