Aggressive or abusive anger can be one technique a person may use to encourage his partner to do what he wants. If women didn't like it, they wouldn't stay. Women ask for it. Some women are masochistic. They are used to it.
Many women do leave.
When they do, the vast majority of them do not stay in subsequent abusive relationships. The period of time after a woman leaves or expresses her intention to leave is the most lethal for her. Seventy-five percent of the homicides and serious assaults occur then. This is a powerful deterrent to leaving. The nature of domestic violence encourages conditions, which keep a woman economically dependent, socially isolated and trained to feel she has no viable options.