Instead of the former death-grip of confluence with its diminished awareness, sluggishness, lack of attention, etc. Try this simple experiment for yourself, don't take my word for it. Ideally, here in fig. 3, each individual is allowed to grow and so both can meet upon mutual consent without the imprisonment of dependency or the resulting resentment. He clings to the therapist, never letting go.
Therapy drags on for years and years.
Both hold on to the therapy. The proper model for conducting psychotherapy is fig. Both therapist and patient are given responsibility for the relationship.