Consider me the latter. As I've said before, the best part of sex is giving pleasure to your partner. And I've had a couple of partners who were mind-blowingly good at this. I made a point of learning what it is they did, and how, as well as having simply learned what felt best on me. First, everything here is a generalization.
Most guys are very different than women, when it comes to what they enjoy.
With women, starting out very slowly is more important. With guys, there is a much better chance that the guy will be impatient, and there is most definitely a lower overall standard as to what most guys will enjoy. When starting out, the best bet is to start slowly, and indirectly. Unfortunately, another general difference is that guys are less expressive. This is a shame, because it keeps them from enjoying it as much, as well as making it harder for you to tell what works with them.