Old Yale was not all that romantic for the women denied entrance to it, for the New Haven girls regularly threatened with sexual harassment and even rape, for the Vassar women bussed in for dances and groped once they got there. I've met very few guys who don't have some baggage. It's not set in stone. Meanwhile, women aren't necessarily picking up the slack. From personal experience, I can say that I don't understand why all these liberated women can't bring themselves to make the first move.
Women seem to be a bit more cautious.
I agree, but with men themselves often cautious to show respect for women's autonomy, a stalemate sometimes emerges. On Saturday night you can watch the couples and prospective couples kissing in front of the library, and on Sunday mornings many of them are very happy to wake up in each other's arms. Some of us manage to balance all the complexities and still maintain strong relationships. Still, I don't feel like I'm defining my life around him. Most of her friends are jealous.