In general, we discourage people from looking into the future. We are of the opinion that people can create their own futures. In counseling, we borrow experiences from our own lives, mostly our mistakes. For it is mostly because of our mistakes that we are wise. This is not to say we encourage others to make their mistakes so that they too can be wise.
Some mistakes are fatal, irreversible, and hard to recover from.
A whole life can be wiped off or made utterly miserable on account of one major mistake. Mistakes like those can and should be avoided at all cost. Some might argue that while we allow ourselves our mistakes, we think to discourage others from making theirs. In response to this line of argument, we have to share with our readers the truth of our own lifestyles. As individuals and as a group, we have had to turn our backs on some of the things we really would have liked to do with our lives.