For many men, their first step into their hearts, into the heart of love, is through their love of a woman. Men take solace from women. Because of the deep seated nature of the competitive male spirit, many men don't trust one another. But they often trust and can let go of their protective shells in the presence of women. This is also possible with one's child.
Some men turn their backs on their children.
Some let the women in their lives be the ones that become enthralled with their children. We can raise our kids by default, or consciously. There will never be more pain, more transformative pain than with your child or children, nor more opportunities to grow big in heart and spirit. The overwhelming awesomeness of it all. We are gifted with the opportunity to experience one of the most powerful of the ancient healing tones.