And if the wife is only expressing her feelings to her husband, he interprets that she is complaining about something, and may tune her out or get defensive. When a woman talks to her husband, she should let him know that she is NOT complaining, and that sharing her feelings with him helps her feel better, and that he doesn't have to say anything if he doesn't want to, and that this is NOT an attack on him. Also, when a man walks in the door from a hard day's work, he wants to unwind. Don't bombard him at that time. Give him time to unwind, let him know you would like to talk when he is ready.
Some women feel that they do everything.
They feel overwhelmed. Then they assume that because their spouses don't help or offer to help that they just don't care. This makes the the wife resentful. Here comes the steel wall, creeping up. The truth is sometimes your husband doesn't know that you need or want help.