Writing is a great tool for that process.
In an online interview, I have asked La Ferle if writing is therapeutic. Putting things down on paper gives us a new way of looking at them, figuring them out, coming to terms. La Ferle has been putting things down on paper for most of her 44 years. When I was alone, I'd write little stories for my friends to act out. I was lucky enough to have teachers who believed in the value of sharing our stories.