But pop feminist ignore the kind of intimacy men often share, expecting that we should duplicate what women do to experience intimacy in romantic relationships. This makes no sense. Where a single word can have many meanings, common experiences are often essential to clear communication between individuals who don't really know what those words mean. Most women share enough in common to make such communication possible. Even so, they have just as many problems communicating with other women as they do with men.
Most women grow up in a sexual oasis, where sexual opportunities abound.
But most men grow up in a sexual desert, where sex seems in short supply. The problems unique to each seem trivial to inhabitants of the other, but this does not diminish how much our perceptions and speech differ. With backgrounds so different, knowing the precise definitions of words is necessary to successfully communicate. Otherwise, where ignorance reigns and background experiences are very different, misunderstanding is inevitable. Because these languages share an overlapping moral vocabulary, they contain a propensity for systematic mistranslation, creating misunderstandings which impede communication and limit the potential for cooperation and care in relationships.