Social controls, laws, norms, the expectations of others, do explain much of our behavior. Psychology, biology, genetics, feminism and ecology offer other aspects of how we grow interdependently. The interdependence is an aspect of postmodernism, which has only appeared nearly a century after Durkheim's era. We need adversarialism AND mutuality in balance. The Significant Part of Social Theory that Durkheim Saw Contemporary Social Theory emphasizes the loss of metanarratives and the promised Enlightenment of modernism.
Postmodernism speaks of interdependence.
Fellman speaks of our need to merge adversarialism and mutuality in a new paradigm that does not compulsively assume that the way things are is invevitably the way they must be.