This is a command from God, not a suggestion. I'm convinced that romance is necessary for me to fulfill my God-given responsibility of loving my wife. Romance helps me to be a servant of Christ to my wife, concentrating on her needs and not just mine. Also, in purely human terms, romance helps me focus on my most important relationship next to Christ. Romance causes me to spend time thinking about Kima and prods me to be sensitive to her needs as I look for ways to express my love for her.
Romance makes our relationship fun.
When I spend time alone with Kima, whether it's at lunch, dinner, a ball game or the theater, I can simply enjoy her companionship. These times balance the more mundane moments and relieve the drudgery of our lives. Whenever we can, Kima and I leave our kids with friends, and she and I travel to an annual ministers' meeting. We go for other purposes, but this time away for spiritual renewal usually sparks a romantic revival as well. A dynamic, ongoing love affair helps me stay faithful and pure in my thought life.