The abuser is responsible for his violence, not his victim. Studies have repeatedly shown that what a woman does or doesn't do has no effect on reducing the violence in a relationship. This tension heightens and finally explodes in violence, often including rape. This behavior entraps the victim even more, as she truly believes his promises to change. Over time, the cycle may grow shorter and shorter, with batterings becoming more frequent and the honey moon phase shrinking and even disappearing.
Married women are responsible for keeping the family together.
She made her bed, she has to lie in it. No woman deserves to be beaten. No one deserves to be humiliated, degraded, or raped. While there are generally more resources for abused women in urban areas, even rural areas have resources. A batterer is responsible for his own violent behavior, and he will only stop if he under- stands what he has done, why he must change and makes a commitment to changing.