I have been without contact to him for right at 4 months now. Just trying to justify and rationalize the sin in my life - that is what I was doing. There is NO excuse for what I did though.
Sin is sin.
Adultrey is adultrey no matter what way I tried to make it seem. I have since repented of these things and it has been, like I said almost 4 months since we have been working things out. It hasn't been easy and I have been tortured with re-occuring thoughts and memories, but I'm slowly, but surely getting those under control. Keep praying for your wife - put her in God's hands. I thank God he prayed so boldly for me, he was more concerned for my soul than anything else, and I beleive that is what made the difference.