Motor Children must have the ability to hold their bowel movement or urine until they get to the toilet. Be aware that muscle development is an internal process. Important Points to Remember When there are stressful events at home, such as a new baby, change in childcare, or moving to a new home, do not attempt to teach toileting. Also, it is important to know that a child who has been toilet trained for months may need to go back to diapers for awhile during stressful times. It is OKAY to go back to diapers when the child is having lots of accidents.
Parents CAN'T control the toilet learning process by positive or negative means.
Rewarding the child with candy or special prizes if she uses the toilet may backfire due to too much pressure to perform. Instead, say, You peed in the toilet. You must be so proud of yourself. Do not use any forms of physical or verbal punishment for toileting accidents. These tactics will cause the child stress, which will prolong the entire process and may cause medical problems.