Recognize that your need to control may be unrealistic and actually counter-productive. If anxiety about a situation is great, you may have difficulty attending to this source and you will probably need to work very hard on this anxiety. Once you do, you will be able to master your fear and anger more effectively. Once you have identified the fear behind your anger, allow yourself to feel it. Doing so will allow the fear to flow through and out of you.
Much energy is wasted trying to push away from our fears.
Unfortunately, this keeps us smack in the middle of them. Once we experience and identify our fears, we can move on to reduce stress. However, a positive and healthy self-esteem is vital to resisting the use of anger. Self-esteem improves when you look to the good within you and not to the bad, flawed or inadequate. When you become aware of excessive anger within you, you can begin to talk to yourself in a different way.