A man requested Naseehat of him. Never have any greed or hope regarding any man. Regard all creation to be dependant on Allah . It is then evident that you will become independent of all. This is the meaning of becoming a king.
Ruin comes to a person from six avenues.
Weakness of intention regarding the acts of the Aakhirah. Obedience to the commands of shaitaan and striving in that direction. Inspite of nearness of death, to entertain distant hopes and plans. To adopt the pleasure of people in preference to the Pleasure of Allah . Sallallahu alayhi wasallam because of obedience to the desires of the nafs .