Like the movie itself, that phone sex scene was cheesy and predictable. But it also pissed me off, because as I sat there watching it, I was filled with a sinking feeling. Phone sex has become such an accepted part of our mating dance that Hollywood feels it can represent it as a standard feature of courtship. There's an argument that phone sex takes a certain amount of creative imagination, a willing suspension of disbelief, and can ultimately be a turn-on in and of itself. For those verbally inclined, it can be challenging to see if you can express yourself without having to rely on the same old dirty talk stories again and again.
Phone sex takes the place of real intimacy.
I'm not talking just about sex, either. Yet fear of AIDS and STDs has made phone sex about as prevalent as Internet sex. Just about all of my friends have engaged in phone sex at one time or another. They speak of it begrudgingly, as if they're confessing to having shoplifted. When I was geographically separated from my boyfriend, we used to have phone sex once or twice a week.