Their viewing becomes compulsive, which in turn creates tension in the relationship, results in emotional and sexual neglect of their mate, and consequently triggers feelings of guilt. Our survey also showed that men are slightly more likely to feel guilty about using porn in private than in a couple. There is no difference for women. Women who feel shame due to their own porn habits are three times as likely as guilt-ridden men to feel neglected by their lovers. Perhaps this can have something to do with the underlying reason for porn use.
Most men look at porn to facilitate masturbation, which is usually just a supplement to sex.
It might be that women blame themselves for the poverty of their couple's sex life and feel like they are aggravating the problem by spending their sexual energy on alternative outlets. It would appear that societal double-standards are at play here. Women feel guiltier than men about their private as well as couple's use of pornography. In addition, the patterns were similar when we looked at the guilt feelings related to the couple's use of pornography. It is clear that there are major differences between the sexes in terms of what is socially acceptable.