God has created the humans with freedom. The goal of our lives is to create a communion of free persons, human and divine, in the mutuality of love and self-gift. Such communion is possible because of the basic unity that links us all together. But the freedom to come together is also the freedom to stay apart. One could be selfish, locked up in oneself, refusing to be open to the other.
Relationship is therefore something to be achieved.
But it is not simply the restoration of something that was pre-existent. It is not the conquest of something that is inevitable. It is the creation of a new communion in freedom and love. One needs imagination and creativity. One has to be inventive.