When I first talked to straight friends about the need to build understanding and respect between the transsexual lobby and Lesbian, Gay and Bisexual groups in the UK, one or two expressed surprise. Here I was, having patiently explained to them at such length how gender and sexual preference were so unrelated. If you're a lesbian woman, it doesn't mean you're not a woman , or that you wish to be a man. Being gay has nothing to do with a person's gender identity .
People seem to be able to appreciate that idea quite readily.
Having a feminine gender identity in an originally male-looking body doesn't dictate who you want to sleep with. There are lesbian transsexual women, attracted to other women, and there are gay transsexual men, attracted to other men. Equally, of course, there are plenty of heterosexual transsexuals. As a transsexual woman, my relationship with a man isn't homo sexual. The dynamics aren't defined by the anatomy we were both born with, but by the desires and erotic needs we have.