It can bring up loss issues, questions about parenting roles, and fears that their children will leave them. In actuality, a reunion has the potential to strengthen the ties between the adoptee and the adoptive parents. Many adoptees come to appreciate their upbringing more by seeing how life would have been had they not been adopted. Much like the crises of being diagnosed with cancer or being admitted to a chemical dependency unit, there is a window of opportunity where family members can come together, share feelings, and be closer. Your work as a therapist will be to draw out the fears people are experiencing and clear up the communication between family members.
Reunions are the beginning of a previous relationship.
It is where fantasy meets reality. The feelings before, during and after a reunion are usually more intense than anticipated. There can be a rush of excitement and expectation. The thrill of seeing someone who looks like you. The relief of knowing your child is alive and well.