Without blame, you have decided to learn a new way of working together in your money life. While Julie and David are fussing and feuding over golf games and classes and parking spaces and child care, they are forgetting that these are not the most important things in life. Maybe you forgot that, too. As important as these issues are, they are still details. What is really important is that couples remember their commitment to learn to work together.
Nothing destroys relationships more than the quiet killer called resentment.
You are creatively compromising on life's details so your whole life has meaning. After that last assignment, I thought Julie or I, or both of us, would bail out. It's the most discouraging assignment we've ever had. David and Julie need to know, just as you may need to know, that it takes an enormous amount of courage to complete that last assignment. Many couples get so discouraged when they see the bottom line in their budget that they give up.