Many people wear their feelings on their sleeve. They have both real and imaginary hurts. Everyone likes to be appreciated and noticed. They want to feel they are an asset. It takes maturity and skill to handle deep divisions among people.
Most divisions are attitudinal.
But, alas, that is not the attitude of most of us. We want people to cater to us. We want them to be nice to us. But we do not want to go out of our way to minister to them. The attitude of our Savior was to give in a self sacrificing way.