But that is not the entirety of my present identity, it is virtually out of sight. Those experiences have molded, strengthened. Second break was much worse than first, even though done by doctor. Life buffets us all, and afterward, we have new power to be strong in the broken places. Perhaps some people have primarily experienced a horrible past.
Problems come to some more than others.
But this family does not dwell upon those experiences, that is not their present identity. For most, the past is a combination of good and bad. We have been blessed in marvelous, unexpected ways. We have suffered trauma. Such are neither evidences that God is for us or that God is against us.