In working with many people over the years, I find that relational problems occur when one or both of the participants are unable to meet the realistic demands of a relationship. This is usually because they are emotionally undeveloped in certain areas. And the result is a lot of pain caused by unmet basic needs. Throughout the rest of this article we ll look at four principles that will help you choose the right person, be the right person, and develop healthy relationships. Connection A relationship is first and foremost about emotional connection.
Many people can relate on a superficial and social level.
But in a long-term relationship of any kind, it becomes increasingly important for you to be able to share your heart with someone and have your heart be safe. In evaluating people that you are going to give your heart to, be careful to see if they can respond responsibly to your vulnerability and feelings, and also if they can share their own heart with you. That is how bonds are built and maintained. Another important aspect of a relationship is to respect each other s personal boundaries. A boundary is a property line that defines where you end and someone else begins.