And porn flicks rarely include much in the way of foreplay, moving from kissing to penetration as quickly as possible. Written porn is even less helpful, usually implying that penetration hurts like hell at first, only to be transformed into horny delight as the thrusting continues. And your rectum doesn t know or care whether it s welcoming an average 5 inch penis or a 9 inch Goliath. The pleasure some men get from a large cock is likely to be psychological, unless that big fella is rubbing against the prostate. There is a lot of misinformation out there.
Some men use drugs or numbing ointments to make penetration easier.
This is not a loving act. It is a form of violence against our own bodies. The truth is we cannot love our whole selves if we do not learn to love our holes. Anal sex is too often portrayed as all about penetration, conquest and power. It s too infrequently presented as about learning to savor the subtle sensations and mysteries of our bodies.