Parents can give their children time to discuss their feelings. They can suggest positive ways to handle feelings. If children have difficulty talking with their parents, encourage them to confide in another trusted adult such as a relative, family friend, teacher, or guidance counselor. They can follow established routines as much as possible. They can emphasize that although the family may be changing, children must continue to show respect for both parents, must follow house rules, must do their best in school, etc.
Parents can resist the urge to use their children as replacements for their missing spouse.
Parents must develop adult sources of support and an adult social life. They shouldn't depend on their children to fill empty places left by a separation or divorce. Divorce matters series, A child's view. Iowa State University Extension. Any additions or changes to these materials must be preapproved by the author.