The key factor in making things happen instead of just letting things happen is skilled decision-making. If not, you may make the wrong decisions. There are three common ways that families and other groups reach decisions. One person dominates the situation and others give in as a decision is made. An example of this would be the decision about what to do for dinner.
Mom is tired, doesn t want to cook, and really wants to go to a nice restaurant .
The children all have busy evenings scheduled and don t want to go out to eat. Mom insists creating a situation in which she wins and the children lose. Additional facts are presented so that one person persuades the others to his or her view, or gives up something to get something. In this situation, the children might discuss their reasons for not wanting to go out. They have soccer practice, have lots of homework, want to watch a good show on television, etc.