Labeling, he tells us, is the lobotomy of our soul. Men are offered a choice between disposability and powerlessness. Women's feelings are called both education and entertainment, while men's are repressed until they become ulcers. Only our daughters are taught to be both entitled AND angry. Surprisingly, argument-provoking feelings are predominantly expressed by women.
Men are more inhibited by angry women and less comfortable with emotional confrontation.
Farrell includes a primer on how to get in touch with one's feelings. He explains in detail the value of men's groups. Farrell provides the rules of the game for giving criticism so that it can be heard. He never misses a chance to personalize his points by supplying examples from his own life and relationships, including a detailed and very humanizing portrait of his own father. Farrell has unearthed some fascinating information, such as outright fraud by both the United Nations and Second Shift author Arlie Hochschild to perpetuate the second shift mythology.