I don't know your pain. I know only my pain. It's God's will. That's the worst statement that's ever made. You have three other children.
Nobody replaces the child who has died.
I use this format because people in pain and turmoil can't go through a long book. They don't want to see something with footnotes. You could probably read Living When a Loved One Has Died in 15 minutes. But most bereaved people cannot, will not finish that book for at least two weeks because they'll pick up a certain part, and that'll be as far as they can go. What they really want to know from me the most is they're not crazy.