It pushes us to trust, open ourselves completely, let go of some ego and change. Being in love with the idea of being in love is much more appealing and addictive. We want intimacy that doesn't cost us emotional upheaval. Love isn't supposed to hurt. But changes have some pain to them.
Relationship is hard work and an almost daily challenge.
There's nothing like a relationship to push us to grow and bend. My relationship with my husband has been the greatest tool for getting to know myself and becoming a better person. It has taught me compassion and patience. I have learned to love through the struggle and let go of my desires to change him. We both have changed, and that sweetens the relationship continually.