That's why a balanced approach with plenty of hugs, encouragement and kindness is so important. Successful parents are loving but also firm because they're convinced that even a firm parent, if loving, is a much more gentle teacher than the world. Love with no limits is insufficient. Limits without love are ineffective. Successful parents know that teens need a balance of love and limits.
Successful parents know how crucial it is to really listen to their children.
When we listen to our teen's point of view, they're more likely to feel that we're on their side. Then, they will be more willing to listen to what we have to say. Nothing shuts a kid up faster than criticizing their beliefs and opinions too quickly or harshly. That helps a teen see his parents' perspective while keeping communications open. So keep both your expectations and standards high.