Menopausal women need to take extra calcium along with estrogen. Also, weight bearing exercises help keep more bone mass. Depression can sometimes be an insidious condition that a woman doesn't recognize until her symptoms become very apparent. Look for loss of joy in your life, change in appetite, change in sleep pattern and any other change that is not usual for you. There are facilities you can go to for help along with medication.
Medication puts a floor on the downward spiraling so that work can begin with therapy.
At one time it may have been a way of life and accepted by the community that what happens in the home is the business of husband and wife. Health care providers are not tuned in to looking for physical signs of abuse and giving their patients an opportunity to talk about it. Shelters are now in operation to help with acute situations until the problem is solved. This archaic form of living should no longer be tolerated by anyone.