Eight Speak respectfully even when you think you have been wronged. Speaking disrespectfully to another not only hurts another but it hurts you, too. When you do this you shift your focus from what is virtuous to what is low. Where you focus, you follow. When you respond with respect your focus has to be of a higher nature and that is where you will automatically go.
Many people are unaware that much of what they communicate includes joke shaming and sarcasm.
The end result is often a combative relationship that breeds silent resentment and lacks essential respect. It is better to say what you want and need in a direct and kind way. Support people by showing them this kind of respect. They will return it in kind. Nine Keep your word even in little things.