Mr. Jacobs states that sexual infidelity causes the most damage to the marital bond. Yes, it does prompt many breakups. On the other hand, distrust and discord begin and love starts to wane when partners cease sharing emotions with each other and look elsewhere. America's cultural outlets have provided a consistently incorrect picture of love. Attraction does not constitute all of love.
True love appears when two people understand each other's feelings almost totally.
Only rarely does this occur quickly and easily. Most people need time and effort to achieve true love. Buying into the idea that all love means is wanting to tangle between the sheets creates some marriages that weren't meant to be. The sex is great, but the relationship isn't, and that creates the problem. The decline in the nuclear family can in part be attributed to the mindset that sex is the essential characteristic of the relationship.