The wonderful relationship between Jenny and Carolyn described earlier shows the power of modeling. Carolyn was simply herself, and brought Jenny along. Jenny had the chance to see a devoted Christian live out her faith daily and in a variety of circumstances, complete with all the ups and downs. When she had her own chance to clean up the mess of a drunk and vomiting hallmate last spring, she thought of Carolyn's example and immediately reached for a sponge. This kind of intentional, influential leadership is costly.
Relationships take time.
Challenging takes emotional energy and thought. Modeling requires willingness to lay out our lives for others to see. We might be rejected or misunderstood. We might be disappointed with the results of our investment of time and energy. And it might hurt our grades, our personal plans or our feelings if we commit ourselves to another's growth and begin to invest in them.