They have to grow up, but I have allowed them more freedom when they showed me they can act responsibly. They have made mistakes and I have held them accountable for those mistakes. I urge parents to have as much contact as possible with their son or daughter while that son or daughter is away at school. With E-mail it is easier to get messages back and forth. The problem with E-mail is you cannot hear their voice.
Parents know their children better than anyone else.
If you hear something that does not sound right you might want to investigate further. If you can visit your son or daughter at times other than on special weekends, I would suggest that you do so.