When you write, introduce yourself as having found the person from the list and begin by sharing your own information before asking them more about themselves. It is requested that you show respect in writing the members of the list. They have provided sensitive information about themselves, such as their seizure types and medications. They do this in order that you, if you experience the same things, may contact them and potentially form friendships. Be mindful of cultural differences and sensitivities.
Some terms are sensitive to some people.
It is best not to use those terms rather than risk problems. It isn't a negative term by itself, but has become negative by it's use by members of society with lack of compassion for those with this condition. Do not use it unless the other person is comfortable with it. This is a term that is going to be sensitive for some people and not others. Please use it only if the writer does.