Then they start criticizing. Next on the list of complaints is the feeling that a partner does not save enough time and energy for the marriage. But they must show they value the marriage and understand its importance. Olson's pioneering research concentrates on identifying the major strengths of happy marriages as well as the major issues couples identify as stumbling blocks. When couples choose to talk, they tend to focus on the negative.
Partners take turns and deal with one issue at a time.
Praise each other. My partner is sometimes too stubborn. Having children reduces our marital satisfaction. My partner is too negative. I wish my partner had more time and energy for recreation with me.