It makes family teamwork almost impossible and family conflict a virtual certainty. Put expectations and commitments in writing. Call it a contract, if you want, but don't call a lawyer to help you draw it up. And it will work for everyone-if everyone makes it work for each other. All family members have something to contribute to and gain from a smoothly running system.
Parents are chief executive officers of the family.
Once a family contract is agreed to, written, and signed, it's family law. Hammering out a contract may take a couple of sessions around the dining room table before everyone is comfortable with it. Set up a time when the family isn't likely to be disturbed for an hour or so, when everyone can be present. Figure on two or three sessions to complete the contract. Things will go smoother in the negotiating process if you agree to practice good communication skills.