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Nothing succeeds like success as they say.
The best selling point is a success story by others who have used the service or purchased the product with successful results. Most affiliate programs know this and include sections on their website with testimonials. Read through them and choose one that suits the content of your site. If your Personals site is about soulmates, find testimonials that talk about soulmates. Know what you are selling Get to know the product your are selling.