It all adds up to careless talk and sometimes fuzzy thoughts. The truth is that marriage, at the start is an empty box. You must put something in before you can take anything out. There is no love in marriage, love is in people. There is no romance in marriage.
People have to infuse it in their marriages.
A couple must learn the art and form the habit of giving, loving, serving, praising - keeping the box full. If you take out more than you put in, the box will be empty. What love does. It requires constant effort. The Ultimate Power.