We repeated this methodology in the group home. Simply doing what works to attain stated goals brings joy and excitement as rewards. Joy and excitement are not really intrinsic since they are fully dependent on behaviors and responses outside of mind-self. In the Sudbury material is noted that an adult praising a child is condescending behavior. Equality at Sudbury is sustained while one person does not control predominantly for the sake of singular motives.
Mutual support is fine.
A recent student's email noted the intrusive influence of families, and a benefit of sudbury was getting away from family. Yes, our culture is controlling, and this erupts from competitive conditioning. Generally, we are only friends or groups for the sake of defeating another. The defeating aspect takes up so much energy that the sum of the experience will probably be mutually degrading. Cooperation reminds me of childhood play where fun was cooperating for a particular goal.