The problem is in accepting realities that appear harsher that one's previous mind-set. Truth is not dependent upon personal preference. Positive effects ought not be a criteria towards the search for truth. I continually struggle with it's insights. But I don't think of Calvin's works, but of the biblical passages.
Romans seems so clear now.
In fact, I can see Calvin's themes throughout scripture. This is unacceptable to me. If the Bible cannot be unified than it becomes discredited. This probably doesn't help you but it helps me to write about it. There are no souls going to eternal punishment that could have been saved.