Many times, it is hard for young children to verbalize the full extent of his expectations. Thus you will be prepared as much as possible for any range of outcomes. The therapist can hear what each of your expectations and goals are, and to give you a professional opinion on how to proceed. Often, adoption agencies can make referrals to local therapists. If they can't, then check with your local county department of social services for adoption therapists they recommend.
Reunions can bring a range of emotions to the surface for children.
There are a few motherland tour operations that are comfortable working with younger children and their parents. Occasionally, there have been cases where reconnecting with birth families has opened the door to unresolved grief and anger - so having met with a good therapist can help prepare you for this possibility. If the birth family is poor, the adopted child and other members of your family may wish to help them financially, or feel guilty that his standard of living is so much better. Again, having prepared ahead of time with the assistance of a therapist will help you to think through your reactions ahead of time. There are rare cases in which birth family members have demanded money or other items of the child or the adoptive parent.