Part of this transformation is God's responsibility, but part is ours. Nothing less than the power of the Holy Spirit within us. I mean, integrity seems like a good idea on the whole, but a part of me still loves sin, hates discipline, and would prefer that God go away and let me run things. My new, Christlike nature hates this. This greatly reduces his control.
People have profound misconceptions regarding biblical accountability.
Others imagine a weekly grilling involving long lists and check-boxes. When people feel sin is inconsequential, their standards drop. But it's more than just answerability. They're out for each other's good, and they both know it. More than anything, accountability is simply the deep, honest friendship that we all long for.