William Hendriksen suggests there are at least six ways a father can embitter his children. God made little boys aggressive. Obviously we are to teach them to use good judgment, but little boys who are constantly overprotected are in jeopardy of having their masculinity warped. Forgetting that the child is growing up, has a right to have ideas of his or her own, and need not be an exact copy of the father. Bitter words and outright physical cruelty.
Masculine men are also tender men.
They have a balance. It's sensitivity toward others. Allow me to let you in on a secret. It's easier for me to define tenderness than to practice it. It is something I am in the process of learning.