There's even such a thing as Ethical Dishonesty. Honesty is not always the best policy. Of course, it helps if you're not caught, like poor hapless, pantless Brother Bill. I like a man who likes women. I think it makes him sexy.
Shame kills and certainly disables.
I say yes. The Wounded Healer can be a great leader. He is hurt, sometimes even crippled, and everyone, even his enemies, knows it. But he uses his wounds and the wisdom he has gained from them, to regenerate himself and others. This is not just so much psychobabble.