Even then, they may get a different message then the one I am trying to deliver. Look at democrats and republicans. Each wants what they think is best, but they have very different understandings of how the country should work. The best thing you can hope for is that your daughter has a good relationship with her therapist, and will learn from the therapist. You also need a therapist that has his or her head on right, so that your daughter is not just having her aberrant behaviors justified.
Many therapists understand the pathology, but they just explore feelings.
This is not to the child's benefit. The child needs to be shown how life really is. Very concrete way of doing therapy, but you spend three years discussing feelings, high school is over and she is that much further behind in school and social behaviors. She needs a good cognitive therapist to do as well as she can. Therapy alone may not do it.