Obey your parents. Parents are not to exasperate their children. Parents can provoke their children by perpetual censure or fretful anger. They may nag their children about inconsequential things. They rub them the wrong way.
Parents possess authority in their role.
God does not want them to exercise uncontrolled authority. Sever discipline makes children bitter and exasperates their personhood. Poor judgment in the exercise of authority hinders the development of their children. This does not mean that the parent is never to do anything that might irritate their children. Discipline often irritates children.