Don't ever mislead anyone into thinking that the risk is the same or just a little bit extra just because you know your body rhythyms so well. Prodrome will not give you enough warning to avoid sexual activity. Last but not least, work on building a great life for yourself. Friends, family, hobbies, work, education, travel, religion, whatever it takes. If you spend your time on worthwhile endeavours to enhance your life and the lives of others, you will have much less time to feel lonely and sad.
Nobody likes desperate, clingy, terminally depressed people, herpes or no-herpes.