You may wish you had done more to help make them comfortable during the final days or hours of their life. Some people feel guilty because they have a sense of relief that the person is dead, and no longer suffering. They feel that somehow they are devaluing the memory of their loved one by starting a life of their own. This is the most common emotion associated with bereavement and can often be intense. Any little thing can trigger the tears such as seeing something that reminds you of the person you lost, doing something alone that you used to do together, or having someone ask you about your loved one.
People are uncomfortable with tears, yet tears are a natural part of grieving.
It is okay to cry. When people are in the midst of grief, they often feel like they will never get over it. They develop a sense of hopelessness, like they are stuck in their grief. People do, however, get through the grieving process. Things will never be like they were before, but the intensity of the emotions will lessen with time.