Beginning programs should emphasize having fun and developing skills, leaving competition for higher levels. Make sure there are equal opportunities for girls and boys. Look for enthusiasm. If the program is good, they want to keep going. A good parent encourages children to talk about what they have learned, and to let them demonstrate.
Most programs take time to sift out players' ability levels.
Give the coach and program time to get through the first few weeks before completely evaluating. Take complaints seriously. Sometimes players have to learn discipline or how to be part of a team. However, strong or continuous complaints may warrant checking out. Change programs if you have to.