Sam, the real person, didn't stand a chance. They rely on their fantasies to guide them toward what's supposed to happen in their real lives. They reject the flesh and blood differences of the people they meet, holding out for what, in reality, is only a dream. But real life can never compete with a dream. Fantasies and dreams are perfect.
Real life is magnificent, but it can never be perfect.
Waiting for a dream lover is a recipe for loneliness and ultimate resignation. Any serious relationship will inevitably challenge you when everyday reality crashes squarely into your dearest and most treasured fantasies. That's just how relationships are. Simply put, if you're committed to the idea that a relationship should be the fulfillment of your fantasies, you're destined for very painful disappointment. But, if you're willing to view your relationship as a process of discovery, it can lead to previously unimaginable emotional, sexual and spiritual growth for both you and your partner.