If you don't, they'll walk all over you. As educators, we enter into relationships daily. A Course in Miracles teaches that relationships are for bringing together. We can hardly join with our students in a positive, successful teacher-student relationship by greeting them with The Riot Act. Rarely does learning take place when antagonisms flare up.
Students internalize rebellion in response to a hard line approach.
Fear can be seen as a calling out for love. Imagine if our students recognized our fear as a calling out for love responding to our request with love. There are enlightened students who sense and react with love. They are however, the exception. It further emphasizes that the two cannot coexist.