There are times when we don't have to be in such a hurry, but I still feel rushed. A stroll through the woods in autumn provides a vastly more satisfying sensual experience than a sprint to the supermarket check-out counter. So begin by planning the location. Using a different place can break the power of old habits and leave you free to improvise. Next focus on time of day.
Most couples have a fairly set routine for lovemaking.
Varying that from night to noon can encourage a rhythm change. So take a half-day off work, or meet for lunch. Then consider the atmosphere. Soft music, candlelight, aromatic fragrances and no television blaring away in the other room help create a more relaxed setting. Along with these special effects, begin with gentle conversation about your favorite things and your love for each other.