I take no offense at such things, things are what they are and there are lots of other communities in the NW to choose from. But the experience opened my eyes a bit, as tourists often do, about things I don't see. Lots of genetics and social conditioning, to what degree we'll always be able to argue. But the key to equality is valuing everyone's contribution, regardless of gender roles. In a cohousing setting, this can simply mean having a list of chores for people to choose from, as we do.
People get credit for their work in equal measure.