But this isn't Oprah talking, nor Terry McMillan nor any of the empathetic women who have made careers out of voicing such pain. Not that this is pure hearts and flowers, Chestnut hastens to add.
Men also analyze every move in a relationship.
That kills us - men like to think we're God's gift to her. That's in the general, of course. Asked how all this relates to him specifically, Chestnut clams up. I found acting when a friend invited me to check him out in a play. Ice Cube had just broken away from NWA, Laurence Fishburne had done Pee Wee's TV show and Cuba Gooding Jr. had been in the business for many years, but no one knew who he was.