Most of the time conformity and obedience are helpful and morally good. The same trait, unquestioning obedience, that produces the good child at home, the good church member, and the good student at school may also have produced the calloused and cruel abuse in the Milgram study, in Nazi Germany, in the Vietnamese war, etc. Every dictatorial authoritarian must have dependent, compliant followers. Unfortunately, neither authoritarians nor dependent people get much practice at functioning independently as equals. In the process of growing up we are exposed to enormous pressures to be compliant or conforming.
Overprotective parents produce frightened, dependent children.
Teachers expect you to do the assignments, not plan and carry out your own education. The media encourages passive observation and glorifies persons in high authority. Two, maybe three. To have friends, you have to get along. We are taught well to be submissive followers.