As an adoptive parent one concern which is often brought rather forcefully and sometimes impolitely to our attention, is that adoption may be viewed as second best. This attitude may even reflect upon our children, who may be viewed as or may feel less than wonderful, even as second rate themselves. I've never really felt the need to do that. I just know that I simply can't imagine my life without our three children, and I am so very grateful every day that we had the incredible good fortune to be able to adopt them. Margie H .
Several concerns related to love are specific to parents who already have children by birth.
They may wonder how they will feel about their child who joins the family by adoption. Upon considering adoption I did wonder how I would feel about a child not born to me. Well I guess I consider her born to me anyway, anyhow. She is my kid in every way possible. Kathie G. One of the most significant concerns for these families may be the impact of bringing an adoptive child into an established family.