I understand your religion says that you should be subservient and do as your husband asks. I'm sure your husband wants you to be happy and tries to make decisions that benefit both of you in the marriage. Often a religion that asks one partner to be subservient, asks the other to do his best to take care of his partner's needs. You could help him by giving him the information about what would please you sexually. That would allow him to make the decisions that best benefit both of you.
Most spouses are happiest when they know they are meeting the needs of their partner.
Remember, giving information about yourself to your partner is not the same thing as making the decisions. Couples of various cultural background and religions often differ with each other on who makes the decisions. The important thing is that the system you pick works and makes sense to both of you. All rights reserved. Any copying, redistribution, or retransmission of any of the contents of this service without the express written consent of Tallahassee Democrat is prohibited.