It's a ridiculous separation says marital and sex therapist David Schnarch , who believes sex is the all-telling barometer of a love relationship. A groundbreaking and truly erotic discussion of adult sexuality.
People joke that the start of a couple's marriage means the end of their sex life.
David Schnarch, a sex therapist praised by Pepper Schwartz, uses epiphany-laden conversations taken directly from his own marriage and the married couples he sees in practice to help readers defy the myth that marriages are necessarily passionless, and instead prove that the longer a couple has been together, the higher the fireworks can fly. It's especially aimed at older couples who, Schnarch says, are self-actualized and therefore better able to handle intimacy than younger partners. Schnarch says that a man is more likely to let a relationship suffer in order to hold on to his sense of self, while a woman is more apt to let her identity suffer to help strengthen it. He also explains why compromise isn't always the best route to take when conflicts arise. Instead of focusing on each client's weaknesses, Schnarch teaches how to find inner strength and resilience that can be used to reaffirm a relationship and reignite sex.