Marriage settles into a corporate endeavor, the business of running a family. Husbands and wives make their kids and their work higher priorities than their relationship. Her view is most heartily echoed by gynecologist Andrea DiGaetano when we grab a cup of coffee at a bookstore near her Moorestown office. We talk about their lives, which are so excessively full that there is no room left for the leisure of sexuality. They have young kids, older parents, jobs, organization and community obligations, social commitments.
Sex just doesn t get on the schedule.
By the time they get in bed, they are physically exhausted and emotionally spent. Sex is like another goddamn job, another responsibility to fill. Book a massage. Get a manicure. Go to the movies.