The negative aspects get all the attention because those are the places we can intervene. What doesn't get talked about is how rich these relationships can be. People can become much closer, more respectful of one another, and, as a result, their lives aren't so externally focused. Caring about the person. Recognizing when you need help.
Women are more spontaneous, more natural caregivers.
Problems in the relationship can manifest in a number of ways. The caregiver can become resentful. This, in turn, can breed anger, abuse, passive-aggressive behaviour, neglect and even illness in the caregiver. The healthy thing is to sit back and decide how much longer you can keep this up. Financial problems related to caring for the loved one.