If you marry for love, it will see you through. Call a spade a spade. I heard from men and women desperate to know how to protect or reconstitute a family. My wife has left two husbands and is now leaving me and our children. Jack was frantic to know how to teach his son the value of human relationships, love and commitment.
Many marriages go through difficulties and periods of serious differences.
The skill is for a couple to discuss, maybe argue and then to negotiate. This is a way towards a mutually agreeable solution. My parents were divorced, and I was determined to work at keeping my own marriage strong. It means noticing the other person s needs, being aware of small changes and not taking anything for granted. After the honeymoon phase many couples reported that they just got on with living.