When you can last 10 minutes all lubed up, introduce an erotic magazine into the mix. When you can last 10 minutes with a lubed hand and a magazine, you re in great shape. The key to this desensitizing technique, of course, is learning to recognize that moment when orgasm is imminent and then backing off. Once you fine-tune your early warning signals, you ll teach yourself to approach this climactic Everest without actually reaching the summit until you re ready. Go through the ups and downs.
Nothing kills the mood faster than a flagging erection.
Unless you know how to coax it back to life. When you masturbate, stop occasionally and let yourself go soft. Then try different fantasies, strokes, or whatever it takes to get hard again. This method teaches you to let that anxiety go. Keep your pants on.