My recipe for a great marriage is simple. Meeting each other's needs deposits love units, and avoiding unhappiness prevents their withdrawal. The result is a happy marriage filled with love. One of the obstacles is time, or more precisely, the lack of it.
Most spouses fail to give each other enough of their time each week.
It not only accounts for failure to meet important emotional needs, but it also creates a great deal of emotional discomfort. It could easily be argued that the lack of time in marriage may be one of the greatest causes of the loss of love, and subsequent divorce. Of course, it's not the lack of time, per se, that causes divorce. The letters this week expose the problem that couples face trying to juggle all of their responsibilities, particularly after their children arrive. In the first letter I post, the couple is aware of their neglect for each other, and are searching for creative strategies to solve the problem.