There is also a kind of mystical union, a shared mystery, a felt experience that is difficult to put into words and that is unique to that particular relationship through which the individual grows. In an actual situation, however, you cannot assume a double attitude. I believe that we need to be forceful and courageous enough to challenge people to go as far as they can go. It is, of course, their choice. But, in my experience, people have a strong hunger for meaning in their lives that can only be satisfied if they stop being slaves to their idealized images.
Transformation is hard work.
In the yin mode our primary goal is to be present with our clients, in the yang mode to help them be present to themselves. Helping them think systemically, to understand that interaction dynamics form a self-fulfilling system which they keep alive out of habit, even when it clearly isn't working for them. All rights reserved.