It didn't quite work that way for me. Fortunately for both of us, a fairy tale ending. We are together again, closer and happier than we have ever been. The tools in this workbook are invaluable to me. I am therefore powerless over alcohol.
Some support groups practice the first step as being powerless over the drinker.
Either way, I have accepted that I am powerless over the circumstances or people in my life. I cannot change, nor am I responsible for, anything or anyone but myself and my actions. Stop the insanity for yourself. Stop doing everything the same and expecting different results as I did. Look for change and know that the change must come from you.