If things fall apart with the house or the children in the house, it is his responsibility to see that changes are made. There are no two people totally alike and differences are okay. In fact, they are good. In a marriage we have two beings with totally different backgrounds and personalities coming together as one. Each needs to realize that the God-given differences of the other are there to enhance the relationship.
Opposites do attract and each can share with the other new and different aspects of life.
Each should realize that his or her position is not better than the other person's - just different. However, if the man desires to cherish her as Christ does the Church, he will want to find a way of compromise. Each one should try to get into the other person's shoes and find out where he or she is coming from. There needs to be some discussion of were each is coming from and how they do things. This should be done in an atmosphere of warmth and respect for the other person's feelings.