It is important to remember, however, that no one can resolve the parents grief but the parents themselves. Resolution can be achieved only by experiencing and working through these emotions. It is important for the parents to allow themselves full expression of the emotions they feel. It is necessary for parents to express their emotions, though not necessary in words, to gain a resolution to their childs death. As the finality of the childs death becomes a reality for the parents, recovery occurs.
Parents begin to take an active part in life and their lives begin to have meaning once more.
The pain of their childs death becomes less intense but not forgotten. Birthdays, holidays, and the anniversary of the childs death can trigger periods of intense pain and suffering. As time passes, the painful days become less frequent. There is no set time in which recovery takes place after a child dies. The only comforting thought that one can give a parent is that it does occur, the process is slow, but it will happen.