You will not find these answers by looking outward, for outward lies distraction. Although there is comfort to be found without, it is a temporary easing and in that regard, deceptive.
True security comes from within.
Look outward for assistance to look inward, but do not stay out there because that is not where safety lies. When you meet another whose path adds to your own, take that understanding within so that your individual path remains your own. Yeah, you'll find safety hugging close to some big fish, but then your safety depends on him. His actions, his choices, his movements. And that's temporary security.