Several strong emotions and a sense of disorganization arise when the loss is realized. Along with these emotions, in many cases, come physical symptoms of distress such as nervousness, moodiness, sleeplessness, headaches, lack of appetite, restlessness, and an accentuation of any chronic physical ailments. It is not uncommon for people to become seriously ill. For example, ulcerative colitis was traced to an unresolved grief. Resentment is a common feeling and can be expected as a part of the grieving process.
Resentment is expressed sometimes toward the physician, and sometimes toward the person who died.
This may not seem rational, but it can be expected. A secure, non-judging and accepting friend or relative can help the grieving person toward recovery by allowing the expression of hostility, a valuable emotional release. Feelings of guilt complicate the grief process. This reaction is a normal defensive mechanism employed to keep people around longer. People may begin to worry about their own mental health when they hallucinate or cannot concentrate because they continue to think ofthe loss.