But, I have noticed some improvement in him since we started going out three and half years ago because he had learned how to be more sensitive from me and his older sister. I believe in letting other people do what they like because they have that right. I know that my husband is trying to be helpful, but he reacts in an impatient way that it makes me feel defensive. I will continue to see my therapist and talk to him more about how my husband reminds me of my father at times. I just wanted to get some feedback to learn more about what verbal abuse is like since I was sometimes put down or criticized by my father.
Verbal abuse is primarily about control.
That's why I keep asking how he reacts if you do not take his advice. I have forgiven him, but occasionally its a bit hard. I do keep in touch with my father and we have a much better relationship than before. He has even admitted to me that he was not a good father to me and my sister, and I told him not to worry about it. I just sometimes don't know why I get defensive when my husband tries to help me, but I think its just because his attitude reminds me of my father's.