If you thank, compliment, and reward others for doing what is helpful to you they will do even more. If you stop rewarding, they'll do less of what is helpful. Give hugs and kisses. Be interested in their lives. When you speak clearly about what you would like from others and then follow up with reward, you usually get results that exceed your expectations.
Most families respond in very positive ways.
In fact, you may be overwhelmed by the tremendous love and support your family shows you. Expect Surprises Expect some surprises and be prepared to make some adjustments of your own when your family changes. Letting people do things their own way may be difficult at first, but a positive attitude and a sense of humor can pull you through. They accepted full responsibility for shopping, cooking, and cleaning up afterward. Their mother said she assumed the meal would be done the way she always did it.