Many of us only hold up a thimble. That's scary for many people who might need it most. And that's how many of us approach our lives. I don't have the answer to everything, I don't presume to . . . I believe they're self sabotaging because on some level they do not feel deserving of all they're getting.
Truth is truth.
For somebody else, it might be dealing with sexual issues, another time, it's facing fears, and so on. So until we discover our worth, we sabotage or don't open our hands up to life and the gifts and grace that life offers. Reclaim your will. Self respect comes from doing what needs to be done, whether or not you're in the mood. Or cleaning out the garage.