We limit ourselves when we find more comfort in the certainty of our own misery than experiencing the misery of uncertainty. Anger is not against any one person it is about the cost to you and how, what was done to you caused pain and resentment. Anger allows us the kinesthetic awareness of violating thoughts and perceptions. An addiction is a state of mind which is toxic shame based and usually has none of the symptoms of the addictions. Pain and suffering is created when we try to hold onto thoughts, emotions, perceptions, feelings, concepts or people.
Toxic shame happens from experiencing separation from a lack of trust and support.
We keep believing that somehow we can make it right however, in the process of not letting go of toxic shame, disease and illness become the physical manifestations. Transformation occurs through awareness, repetition, practice, relaxation and creativity. By doing so we can transform past negative input and traumatic events.