Because they tend to happen simultaneously in men, we often think they are the same thing. Understanding that they are not the same thing is the key to exploring ecstatic states. Orgasm doesn t happen just in the pelvis. Studies show changes in brain waves, for instance. Muscles tense and relax, emotions arise.
Some orgasms are more powerful than others.
The resulting orgasm may be a bit of a thrill, and it is certainly pleasurable, but it is a pelvic sneeze compared with full-tilt, openhearted orgasm. When we are in an orgasmic state, time seems to stop. We experience something transcendent and powerful. We may feel a sense of clarity, losing our sense of self-consciousness, living only in this moment. In this ecstatic state, we let go of the ego.