But then they've had oral sex 50 or 60 times. It's like a goodnight kiss to them, how they say goodbye after a date. There are no in-depth studies showing national trends in sexual activity in middle school, ages 10 to 13. No one will finance such studies, Blum said, because of fear of the outcry from politicians who embrace an abstinence-only message and from parents wanting to protect their children's privacy. Asked if they felt things were going too fast, the boys shrugged.
Sex is pleasurable.
Sometimes people get hurt. I've been hurt. But that's going to happen at any age. While New York middle-school educators and counselors say they are increasingly concerned about earlier sexual activity, particularly oral sex, no one is clear on what to do about it. After Schools Chancellor Joseph A. Fernandez was fired in 1993, in part for introducing a condom-distribution program, the New York public schools have settled into a sex education curriculum that's a mixed bag of preaching, basic anatomy and, in high school, condom distribution, though parents can choose to keep their children from participating.