A woman would respond differently to those two different approaches. This radical reality can bring about amazing changes in a spouse when one partner is willing to choose a positive attitude that leads to positive actions. I never dreamed he could be so loving and kind. It would be hypocritical to stay married. People are more than their emotions.
Thoughts interpret experience.
You see and hear your husband mowing the grass and interpret that he is a responsible individual. Emotions accompany thoughts. If you think your wife is lazy, you might feel disappointment, anger or frustration. If you think your husband is responsible, you might feel grateful, encouraged or happy. Your desires respond to your thoughts and feelings.