Sometimes, the thoughts are really bizarre, like having sex on the steps of the Capitol at midnight with the handsome man down the hall at work, or picking up a faceless stranger at some sleazy bar. I feel guilty when I think these things. No, this does not mean that you are unhappy in your marriage. There is no reason to doubt your perceptions on that. But we can see that you feel a little uncomfortable with the fact that you have been having sexual fantasies.
Sexual fantasies are normal and natural.
They may occur spontaneously, or we may try to conjure up fantasies. Sexual fantasies often occur during sexual activity. For instance, in the Kinsey research, it was found that 64 percent of women and 89 percent of men had sexual fantasies during masturbation. People who fantasize during masturbation may also fantasize during sexual activity with a partner. Even the people who do not masturbate or who do not have sexual fantasies when masturbating, still might have fantasies when they are with a partner.