From the cradle we teach our children what we most want for them is to be happy. Often we refrain from disciplining them properly. We fear that we will mar their happiness and possibly wound their self-esteem. The problem is that we equate happiness with pleasure. However, there is a huge difference between the two.
Pleasure is a goal.
Happiness is a by-product. Pleasure is fleeting. It ultimately leaves one empty. Happiness is lasting and can leave one fulfilled. Happiness results from a project well accomplished, a good deed done, a love freely given.