Giving constructive attention at appropriate times and ignoring the misbehavior be useful to handle attention seeking. However, it is essential that the parent follow through with the contract. Unconstructive attention such as nagging should be avoided. Procedures to use when dealing with power include removing oneself from the area, enlisting the child's help with a chore or other task, and providing situations where the child can use their power constructively, such as being in charge of something. It is generally best if you do not engage in a power struggle with the child because no one wins.
Revenge requires that the parent listens passively and avoids retaliation.
It is also necessary for the parent to display mutual respect, which allows respect for both the child and oneself. Recognizing that conflict is inevitable and being willing to compromise are also essential. A display of inadequacy usually requires that the parent make a concerted effort to trust the child with small responsibilities and to build on all successes no matter how small. The child who feels inadequate needs a great deal of encouragement to develop self-confidence. There are many variations of these issues.