It's about helping an adopted person have access to knowledge of, and appreciation for, who he is and where he came from. Being an adoptive parent doesn't say anything about the kind of parent you are or the kind of person you are-it describes how you created your family. Sometimes, adoptive families start to think that they are better than their plain old vanilla counterparts because they've had to work harder to become families. It's true that adoptive families don't happen by accident and it is also true that happy families don't happen by accident. While adoption is not as easy as building a family biologically, there is something profound and spiritual about families like ours.
Many people mistakenly think that adopted kids are the lucky ones-that's the ultimate myth.
Luckiest of all are the mothers and fathers who get to be the parents of these children. Jana Wolff is author of Secret Thoughts of an Adoptive Mother , which is now available in a revised, paperback edition.