The bridesmaids are select friends and family, who are usually about the same age of the bride. They attend prewedding parties and also help out in anyway the bride asks. The best man is often the groom's best friend or a close family member, even Dad. His formalwear matches the ushers' and he pays the rental fees himself. He hosts the bachelor party, holds the ring during the ceremony, and leads the other men in the well-wishing.
Ushers are also close in age to the groom.
They are usually chosen by the groom, and their primary function is seating guests at the wedding. They each wear and pay for matching formalwear, and the groom usually gives each man a present as a thank-you for participating in the wedding. These guys should also be on hand to help the groom with any errands he needs throughout the day, such as picking up guests from the airport, or driving them from the ceremony to the reception site. Children between the ages of 9 and 14 are best suited for the duties of candlelighters, junior bridesmaids, or junior ushers. These attendants wear coordinating dresses or formalwear.