We should adopt a live and let live approach to others' sexual choices. We should accept teenage sexual activity. Sexual commitment and marriage are separate concepts. Sex is good. Sex is for pleasure not for duty.
Quality is more important than form.
The patent inadequacies of such a moral framework are obvious, and it concerns me deeply that some of the leading proponents of sex education in Britain today have such a fragile utilitarian ethical basis. Several family planning experts had been brought over from Holland to lecture to us on how to do sex education the Dutch way. Confidentiality was one of the sacred principles drummed into us all morning. If twelve year old Clara wants you to put her on the pill, you must maintain confidentiality. An afternoon speaker however openly advocated telling 'little white lies' to her parents.