Your measurement is inside truth, inside authenticity. The fourth meaning of dharma is nature. Everything has its own nature. The nature of candy is to be sweet. A thorn's nature is to prick.
Salt is salty, and a rose's nature is to be fragrant.
When you meditate, realize that everything is working in accordance with its own nature. The body, mind, and spirit are following their own dharma. Realize that there is no reason to blame or praise any form. See things as they are. When you see things in this undistorted way, you can decide for yourself what you want.