Although it's become common to blame doctors when there's a problem with pregnancy or birth, there is no research that supports the theory that birth interventions cause stillbirths. Women are less likely to have a stillbirth if they eat well, get early prenatal care, and avoid cocaine and all recreational drugs during pregnancy. Some physicians have suggested that pregnant women count fetal movements several times a day during the last weeks of pregnancy to prevent stillbirths. However, research findings are mixed, and it isn't certain that counting fetal movements and intervening reduces the number of stillbirths. If you have a pregnancy loss, you are entitled to whatever feelings you have, whether they are mild or intense, mixed or very clear.
Some women feel like they're in shock, or depressed and guilty.
They may feel that way for many weeks or months. On the other hand, some women feel sad for a few days at the most and that's all. Your feelings will vary depending on many factors, including whether this was a planned pregnancy. Another factor in pregnancy grief is how far advanced the pregnancy was. Often, but not always, the intensity of feeling increases the more real the baby seems.