Everyone faces problems in life. There are no easy answers to these questions, but research on resiliency has shown that there are factors that foster the ability to recover from tragic circumstances. Following are a few thoughts about resiliency summarized from an article in Psychology Today , June 1998. Resiliency can emerge at any time in one's life. Some people find it in childhood, others later in adult life, but the potential is always there.
Resilient people seem able to remember that bad times are temporary.
It's important to believe in a future that can be different than the current reality. Setting goals for the future is an important part of resiliency. Goal setting fosters a belief in the future and helps you identify both external and internal resources. Resilient people often learn to see themselves as strategists overcoming difficult life circumstances. They develop a perspective that affirms their own creativity in dealing with life's blows.