Battering is a behavioral choice. Many women who are battered make numerous attempts to change their own behavior in the hope that this will stop the abuse. This does not work. Many people think domestic violence is a problem with the relationship and seek couples counseling or individual therapy. Unfortunately, couples counseling can increase the danger to the victim and give the batterer dangerous support for blaming the victim for his violence.
Stress causes domestic assault.
Batterers who are stressed at work do not attack their co-workers or bosses. Substance Abuse Counseling Doesn't Stop Abuse Substance abuse does not cause domestic violence. Some people are abusive when they are drinking or drugging, but others are not. Getting clean and sober will solve the substance abuse problem, but not the violence problem. Victims often report that even when their partner becomes clean and sober, the abuse continues.