As a result of the attachment disruption, these children often engage in provocative behavior that increases parental frustrations and aggressiveness. These behaviors include inattentiveness, restlessness, noncompliance, and temper outbursts. These behaviors may raise parent s frustration with the child. Many children are resilient and can learn to reattach. Once an attachment bond is formed, the child can learn to elicit appropriate attachment behavior from his or her caregiver.
Most individuals experience some trauma during childhood.
However, children are learning and changing constantly, and as a result they are often quite resilient following traumatic events. Sometimes children s reactions occur by learned associations. It is helpful for parents to identify these. Some of their associations lead to tantrums. Abused children often suffer feelings of anxiety, shame, embarrassment, anger or pain.