He is so convincing he has convinced himself. I'm not accusing George of being the abuser. I am only saying you can never tell from hearing one side of it. Dr. Irene, I think you should consider that George's wife may have some legitimate complaints of her own. Maybe his portrayal is accurate, and maybe it's a little distorted.
Some people love to be a victim.
I know, because I have that tendency. But I know the problems are not all my SO's fault. You are absolutely correct. It is impossible to make an assessment with only one side. Even with stories from both sides, it is sometimes very difficult to figure out who is doing what, especially if both partners have acting out tendencies.