Maybe next time it'll be different. I'm writing to you from a dining room table downstairs from a bedroom where my wife is sleeping, next to the room where our baby daughter is asleep. I wish you were reading this column in a house where someone was sleeping whom you are devoted to and who is devoted to you. He is an amazing father to our son, a good partner in life. He makes me laugh, has a nurturing spirit.
Problem is our ex-sex life.
In the last four years, we've averaged about 1.5 times a year. The last three times, he wasn't able to maintain an erection. Since he's not much of a cuddler or a talker, I often feel totally cut off from any sort of intimacy. I can't imagine life without him, but I don't know if I can live the rest of my life under these conditions. He says he masturbates frequently, so I know it's not a case of impotence.