Appropriate questions can be asked to avoid negative reactions and help guide the child toward positive growth. Failure and setbacks are opportunities to learn. Successful people try to evaluate the outcome rather than focus on the win or loss. Follow these questions with more encouragement to try new experiences. When your child experiences a failure, assure the child that it's OK to make mistakes.
Mistakes are a part of life.
Be ready to share some of your mistakes as well. Affirm the child's feelings. Your child feels bad about this and wants to be understood. The next step is where the encouragement and support need to come through. It would be easy to say that it's OK for your child to withdraw or quit.