Feelings that seem overwhelming, or never-ending, are often messengers of the past. They are a cry from the past, to listen to the story of a valiant little child's attempts to deal with forces that were overwhelming to him. That little boy tells his story not in words or pictures, but mostly through feelings. Feelings that get more intense, the longer we stay with them. When we stay with them, no matter how painful it gets, in the end we understand the story they tell.
Violence does exactly the opposite.
It goes contrary to Life and Healing. In no other way can you know the true damage that all violence does. A long time ago, the little boy that I was, suffered long, suffered silently, and suffered alone. It wasn't right then, and it never will be. But the little boy that I was, needs to tell his story.