And again, there s no bigger turn-on than knowing you re turning on someone else. Keep in mind that it s not only the premature ejaculators among us who can afford to slow down. Most men have an arousal-orgasm cycle of approximately three minutes, compared to women, who take thirteen minutes to go from countdown to blastoff. That leaves a ten-minute gap. This technique involves assigning a numerical rating to your level of arousal, similar to the Richter scale.
Partners can experiment with different levels of arousal.
Eventually, the partners learn to assess the man s level of arousal and can then switch gears if necessary. They can experiment with different positions, even changing position if the arousal level gets too high with one. The specific techniques and positions that prolong arousal will vary for each couple. The most important thing is developing intimacy and communication. And hey, if at first you don t succeed, there s always 20 minutes later.