In fact, children with RAD are usually quite intelligent. Keck described it as a basic inability to bond with others, to feel the depth of empathy or trust that normally develops between parents and children. Attachment problems are common among adopted children or children who have spent time in foster homes, Keck said. Usually, families can work through it. RAD, however, escalates that problem to a whole new level.
Psychologists believe the root of the problem occurs when the children are infants.
If their parents don't properly comfort them when they cry or scream, the children never learn to calm down. Before long, the rage subsides. For a child with RAD, the rage just builds. They wanted a little brother for their son, Allen, who is now 15. They felt they had so much love to give, and wanted to extend that love to a child who really needed it.