A host of complex emotional and relationship difficulties are sometimes too readily blamed on the parents' divorce. Nevertheless, through the words of this book's subjects, and by way of the authors' own thoughtful observations and clinical analysis, The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce vividly delineates the complex interactions among divorcing parents, their children, and the many others who are subsequently drawn in to the breakup of a family. The writing is supple and fluent, and often compelling. The book shows a subtle, psychologically astute understanding of the child's emotional life as it easily moves back and forth, examining both the environment and the child's psychological reality. The book offers some valuable suggestions, though there will be many who will wonder just how they can be implemented.
Mediation brings together the contesting preferences of the parents.
But the mediator is not charged with developing a plan that will suit the child's developmental or emotional needs. Nor is the mediator charged with inquiring into the child's interests or wishes or preference. This research indicates that schools and communities can go a long way toward minimizing the impact of divorce. It feels a little too late, though. Most of the book is informed by a pessimism regarding these children and their prospects.