Your spouse may feel even more threatened by the loss of your job than you do, and he or she might not be able to provide the calm, understanding assistance you need. A close friend often makes a good confidant. You could get in touch with a professional vocational counselor, or a psychologist or psychiatrist. Don't make the mistake of thinking it's a weakness to seek help. Seeking help is a sign of strength and an indication that you intend to improve your situation and not wallow in it.
Professional counselors use a number of tactics to help people vent their emotions.
They use restatement and reflection to draw people out. There are, on the other hand, counterproductive traits to watch out for in the would-be confidants. Beware, for example, of people who speak in cliches. Be especially alert for people who make judgements about your situation. Even if you should have seen it coming, you don't need to be reminded of that fact now.