It doesn't remove the feeling of failure in having made what now appears to have been a poor choice. Worse still is that when a victim points at an abuser from inside the community, they are risking harming the community as a whole. Nice witches don't beat each other. It's bad magick. But Nice witches do indeed beat each other.
Nice witches do abuse each other.
And all the magickal chants and potions in the world will not protect the victim from falling blows. In order for the healing to begin, we have to accept that domestic violence does happen here, in this community. Victims must be believed. They must be given a safe space to find the strength to heal. In their own time, not ours.