It s almost impossible for someone to be the spiritual leader of a family while largely absent or if making money and material possessions is their primary priority. Children, even very small ones, are very perceptive and will quickly recognize their parents true hearts. But for the wife, the most important role is that of a good Christian example. If the wife s priorities are primarily scripturally based, then believe me, the husband will sooner or later respond. Let the Holy Spirit work.
Prayer is powerful and using it is profoundly more profitable.
Their prayers in this forum will be awesome. I pray you will and that you and your wife will use it as a dialogue tool. I ask God to bless you in your decision. Faith, family, profession-it s not the easy road, but at least it s one that has a rewarding destination. Focus on the Family.