Imposing Excessive Guilt Parents who were raised in dysfunctional families often make the mistake of implying their children are responsible for the circumstances of the parents life. If you loved me, you'd do this. The child comes to feel responsible for the problems of the world. This is never accomplished by physical force. Parents who hit or physically punish their children instill hostility and resentment rather than respect.
Physical punishment tends to repeat in families.
If you frequently lose control or routinely hit children as a method of discipline, examine your own childhood. Parents who regularly strike their children in frustration or anger usually lack alternative skills, and often have unrealistic expectations of their children at different ages. This is the use of physical force to get the child to do what you want. Pushing or dragging a frightened child into the doctor's office. The parent is asserting a need for control rather than responding to the child's feelings.