They say they could have been so much more useful in other ways. Because she had to go through her own minefield. For somebody else doing it, it might be showy. It might be theater. I'll immolate myself.
Some deaths are a form of great giving.
But I think that very few people are capable of that. I think most people kill themselves as a means of punishing others. I think that almost no one can kill themselves with a clear intention. I would limit it to the physical. It's all very tricky when you start to have someone else carry your load for you.