Let me illustrate my point. Abuse believes the point of discipline is control. The true point of discipline is loving guidance. Anorexia believes the point of self-control is to destroy the body. The true point of self-control is to increase health.
Many drug abusers think the point of life is evasion of responsibility.
Life's true point is to find highest level of responsibility and live there. 4-way stops illustrate freedom and responsibility working together. When drivers understand the point of a 4-way stop, that intersection can move a lot of traffic quickly and smoothly. But when drivers do not understand the point of 4-way stops, the same intersection becomes a disaster waiting to happen. At a 4-way stop, you are free to drive any way you choose to drive.