To argue with an angel took great courage and God honored that courage by blessing Jacob. Not with precisely what he wanted, but with precisely what he needed. Many times He does this in ways that allow us to redeem our losses. When the time comes, when we are ready, we will bring something of great value from this senseless tragedy. What we bring from our sorrow doesn't make the loss less pain-filled.
Redemption does, however, bring grace to make the absence of our loved ones more endurable.
This is one of God's ways of caring for His own. We glimpsed Him in the misty eyes of those who cried with us, in tender hands that ministered to us, in the arms of those who held us. Someday, when the time is right for us, we will reach out to others. We will find ways to bring meaning from our loved one's life and death. Only a loving God could have thought of such a plan.