First of all, whatever you do has to feel OK to you. Otherwise you won't do it. So, start by finding a therapist who is willing to meet you where you want to begin. A sensitive, experienced clinician, cognitive or otherwise, will. If your therapist continues to push thoughts and beliefs when you are someplace else, go someplace else.
Therapy is more art than science.
When you have been with numerous therapists and none meet you emotionally, ask what they think the problem is. Or, perhaps your expectations of others are unrealistic. Ask, listen carefully and take it from there. For many reasons some people won't feel OK with any therapist - unless they stick with this person long enough to get through their trepidation. The role of the support group is to show you that you are not alone and to help de-shame your experience.