Look for experiences where you consider you, or someone else, was unfairly treated by an authority figure or someone of your peer group. Look for any experience of violent or unjust acts that got you really angry. These kinds of experiences most commonly happen in a violent family environment. Increasingly they are happening in peer group relationships. An anger response is also common with sexual abuse.
Sexual abuse includes sex experiences of intense pleasure in the wrong context.
Some sexual problems exist as a result of sexual dynamics in a relationship and are, therefore, not based on a traumatic experience. When abusive experiences satisfy the rule, you can consider that there has been damage to your basic emotional need for security and affection. Other experiences may cause the same kind of symptoms. It's just that violence and sexual abuse strike at the core of our well being. If you have been unfortunate enough to have endured this kind of experience, and it satisfies the rule, then you can't go wrong in deciding to apply TNT to neutralize the feelings.