Ken and Karen, a couple who consulted Schnarsh, weren't connecting in bed. Schnarsh encouraged them to talk to each other about what they were thinking as they had sex. They began to do that. Karen didn't give up her bar fantasy, but she imagined that she rebuffed the stranger who tried to pick her up as she waited for Ken. It involves seeing and accepting your partner while holding on to your own sense of self.
People even have eyes-open orgasms.
John pouted because he felt Mary wasn't interested in sex and Mary fumed because she felt John wasn't paying attention to her during sex. So, they tried eyes-open foreplay. Or rather, Mary tried it. John wouldn't look at her. I just want more emotional contact with you.