According to her, the most common sexual problems are, predictably, women who can't climax, and men who have premature ejaculations or are plagued by a flaccid member. These are easily treated, Dr. Judy says, though oftentimes the issues are deep-seated, stemming from nonsexy things like sexual abuse as a child, and communication and intimacy issues. During my two sessions with her, we didn't yak about sex toys, but about my accommodating nature and the self-centered winners with enough issues to fill a steamer trunk whom I seem to attract like flies. But enough about me. You don't have to be sexually dysfunctional or neurotic to benefit from a sex therapist.
Many couples seek therapy simply to revive a dull sex life.
You and your partner will get homework assignments, like devoting nights to pleasing each other, taking baths together and having romantic dinners. This might sound like fun and games, but you'd be surprised how much repressed baggage ends up in bed with you. When choosing a sex therapist, make sure to get a reliable referral and to find someone with a background in psychology or social work. Most important, choose someone you and your partner feel comfortable talking with. After all, you wouldn't invite just anyone into your bed.