For example, my experience of shyness may really be the fear of criticism or the inability to know how I feel about anything. I discover my so-called fear needs to renamed as anger. If the first moment of healing is to admit one's need, the second moment is to name this need more accurately. Another moment in the healing process is telling my story to someone. Often the telling of my story in a caring environment, in itself, brings a large measure of healing while, at the same time, it helps one to name one's need more accurately.
Prayer helps in many different ways.
When I ask for God's help in naming my need more accurately I am opening my heart to the possibility of enlightenment and healing. I am willing to be helped in seeing through the deceits and evasions and secrets that are affecting my ability to live life more fully. Thus I seek to participate in the human enterprise with greater joyful responsibility and ease. Little by little I learn to let go of my resentments and anger. As this happens healing happens.