At the core of communication, however, is letting your spouse know that their opinion counts. In many relationships the comments of one s boss, one s co-workers, the guys at the club or on the team have more weight than the comments of one s spouse. In healthy marriages the spouse knows that their opinion carries weight. Fourth, great marriages practice exclusivity. This is key.
Marriage is an exclusive bond.
There are some things, including but not restricted to sex, that are only to be shared between husband and wife. She needs to know that I am exclusively hers and I need to know that she is exclusively mine. When people outside the marriage circle begin to be a significant source of companionship, admiration, support, affection, intimacy and conversation, you are treading into affair territory. Remember, your marriage has exclusive rights in some areas of your life. Finally, great marriages play affectionately or romantically.