Whenever we drive down that road, the tires roll into the rut. The energy of our thoughts design our beliefs and attitudes, the ruts, and then attract conditions that verify those expectations. Someone who anticipates being judged will view every comment as criticism. You look nice. Everything is simply energy, from the beginning thought to the physical manifestation of that thought.
Thoughts create, thoughts can change.
You don't create. Your conscious mind makes a decision for something better, attaches an emotion with it, maintains your focus on your choice. That impresses the subconscious, the receptive mind. The subconscious gives a pattern to the superconscious to follow with Its Divine energy. The result is better health, more prosperity, better relationships, success, whatever your focus is.