We break things that we alone cannot fix. It is then in our nature to feel guilt, humiliation, and suffering which we alone cannot cure. That is when the healing power of the Atonement will help. Guilt is not erased without pain. There are laws to obey and ordinances to receive, and there are penalties to pay.
Physical pain requires treatment and a change in lifestyle.
So it is with spiritual pain, there must be repentance and discipline, most of which is self-discipline. Temple marriage, family prayer, scripture study, and family home evening are all vitally important. But there is another dimension of service. Obedience to temple covenants qualifies us for eternal life the greatest gift of God to man. We will be judged according to our ordinances, covenants, deeds, and the desires of our hearts.