No one has the right to physically, sexually or psychologically abuse you. You never deserve to be hit or abused. You cannot control the violence. Studies show your partner must first admit the problem and then seek help. The Power and Control Wheel shows other abuse that occurs with violence.
Many victims say the psychological abuse hurts as much as the physical abuse.
At first, your partner may not be violent. As other forms of abuse increase, physical violence becomes more likely. Abusers use these tactics to keep power and control. They blame their partners for family problems. Your partner may insist you cause the violence.