Guys who don't have these are the invisible men. Invisible, alienated, and alone, they long for the closeness, intimacy and commitment most women fear. Pop feminists assert real closeness is forbidden to men because men fear vulnerability. Maybe they are right. This vital question has been ignored.
Most men grant to women a vulnerability they share with no other, sharing secret thoughts.
Many women punish this vulnerability, criticizing a man's feelings and attitudes, gossiping to friends about his confidences. But they are complaining about their own creations. Brutalization is a cycle. Men and Marriage , George Gilder, p 8. Science , January 31, 1992.