The men all know they can never fully penetrate the dancers and their lives. Every woman we're seeing tonight is still mysterious. No man ever thinks, even when he is putting money in her garter belt, that he has her secret. But men are totally exposed sexually. Their penis and scrotum are externalized and vulnerable.
Men have no secrets that they're hiding.
Men in strip clubs are completely cowed. They are dazzled. They'll come in very giddy, drink a lot, and try to get their spirits up. Even then, if there are six of them, one woman coming over to them totally throws them off. Sharon Stone in Basic Instinct was a great example of woman's power.