Such a wise man as Solomon may do as we will, but such a fool as Rehoboam must do as he can. Rehoboam paid dearly for threatening, and talking big, and thinking to carry matters with a high hand. And a similar tender consideration of those in subjection, and a forwardness to make them easy, will be the comfort and praise of all in authority, in the church, in the state, and in families. Moderate counsels are generally wisest and best. Gentleness will do what violence will not do.
Most people love to be accosted mildly.
Good words cost nothing but a little self-denial, and yet they purchase good things. God often fulfils the counsels of his own wisdom by infatuating men, and giving them up to the counsels of their own folly. No more needs to be done to ruin men than to leave them to themselves, and their own pride and passion. So Jeroboam and all the people came to Rehoboam on the third day, as the king bade, saying, Come again to me on the third day. So all Israel went to their tents.