While such pressures can diminish guilt, the destruction of the marriage that often results is all too real, along with its damage to both partners and the children involved. These interior psychological needs should be dealt with psychologically rather than blindly acted out. The modern phenomenon of divorce is destroying the very fabric of the family, and thus reeking havoc on our community, and it rests on any number of psychological and social causes. It needs to be reduced by serious marriage preparation, especially of a psychological and spiritual sort, which education should continue into married life. At the same time, the Church's pastoral response to divorce and remarried Catholics needs to undergo a fundamental reevaluation.
Murderers are capable of sacramental reconciliation.
Catholics who have married outside the Church and then divorce are capable of sacramental reconciliation. The sacraments are meant for those in need of spiritual nourishment. The history of divorce and remarriage in the Church, especially the witness of the orthodox Churches, has the potential to show us that there are other ways to deal with this issue. A suitable pastoral practice, aimed at saving the marriage, and if that fails, a suitable mourning over the failed marriage, could lead to the reintegration of divorce and remarried Catholics into the sacramental life of the Church. There are certainly cases where annulment is warranted.