Expectations play a big role in determining how satisfied we are in life and with our relationships. Our expectations shape the meanings we give to our partner s words and actions, and how we react to our partner s behavior. When we are happy in our relationship, we tend to see only the positive. When we are unhappy, we tend to see only the negative, and it becomes difficult to see our partner s good aspects. It is important to understand and talk about expectations.
Many spouses think their partners expectations are similar to their own.
Actually, it is more likely that you have different expectations. Remember, it s how you handle your differences that count. Working through disagreements creates intimacy and trust in your marriage. Handling conflict lays the groundwork for satisfying and fulfilling marriages. Friendship is part of your marriage relationship.