Let's consider each of these ideas. Can't Make Me. The most direct way to change somebody is influence. Behavior is the real deal, the main point, the focus, so why diddle around with things like attitude. Well, a lot of the time, you don't have control over other people's actual behavior.
People do have free choice and pretty much do as they please.
And we can't make them do what we want by merely stomping our foot or asking pretty please with sugar on top. As soon as we exit the scene, our controlled receivers will revert to prior form and do pretty much as they please. Therefore, if you cannot directly control another person's behavior, then you have to find a better way for getting that behavior. Maybe I Can Make You . Believe it or not one of the best ways to change other people's behavior is to change their attitudes about the object in question.