What a stupid cross-reference. Picking up in a bar is easy . Problem is, they just don't realise that you're looking for them. Somehow, this section of Mr. Random Male's code breaks down, and he fails to entice any of the fe-people with his display. So, Mr. Random Male must implement some contingency plan.
Sympathy is a beautiful weapon.
I think you get the hang of it. Codes of conduct are silly. And yet we all seem to rely on them from time to time.