Both views create an atmosphere where evil's work progresses due to the myopia of extremism. My premise is simple. The damage of sexual abuse, and abuse in general, cuts to the core of what makes us human. Abuse strips us of faith, hope, and love. The architect behind this is evil itself.
Most abuse is perpetrated by someone whom the victim knows and trusts.
Faith becomes darkened with suspicion and cynicism when trust is used as a doorway to gain access to the body and heart. Evil wins the battle to the degree trust in others and God is experienced as foolish and dangerous. Abuse is usually perpetrated by someone who has greater physical size, stature, or power than the victim. In countless ways the victim is powerless to stop the assault. I can't change the past, and perhaps the future will be better if I just ignore what I feel.