Don't wait for things to happen to you. In fact, the most likely thing to happen to waiters is nothing. Make your life happen. According to David Burns, M.D., people are doers. Consequently, you can substantially change the way you feel by changing the way you act.
Most people feel better immediately if they do anything at all.
You magnify the fear of rejection or other dating problems until dating seems an impossible task to tackle. Break each way into weekly to-do lists or steps. Each time you complete a step, give yourself a big pat on the back. Don't expect perfection. If you can never settle for anyone short of perfect, you will defeat yourself and continually settle for nothing.