Obviously it should be an issue of concern to us. 90 percent of all violent acts is not something to joke about. Jackson Katz suggests that individual men need to stand up and take leadership. Men listen to other men and that perpetuates the stereotype. Men need to talk with their friends, condemn violence and explore ways of being open and emotionally involved.
Women too have a role to play.
Women need to tell their stories to the men they love. Let them hear how violence has hurt women personally and how it has hurt those they love. Women need to support the men in their lives and encourage them to break out of the box that gender stereotyping has put them into. This is not an irresolvable problem. Definitions of gender are fluid, not static, and it is possible to change how we think of masculinity.