Rhythm succeeds where words fail. As in the drum circle, so in life. Those principles carry over into everyday life. Community drum circles tend vary widely in quality, depending on the facilitator, who is attending, the beginner to advanced ratio, and the general state of mind of the players. It can be very subjective.
Music is a many faceted and wonderful thing.
The qualities of relaxation and simple awareness greatly enhance the experience. With practice, the unpleasant jams subside, and the good ones increase. This is natural. The leader at a local drum circle near me keeps asking me to play the same simple thing over and over. Without seeing you and your facilitator in action, I couldn't really say for sure.