Our desire for ambiguity sometimes leads to problems with money. That is not what we will be discussing here. Rather, we will want to examine with you what impact money has on our life and our personal relationships. We both fight about and can't talk about money easily. In a business or personal relationship, any issue which is off limits or which you have to walk on egg shells about, interferes with closeness and creates distance.
Money is frequently the vehicle for the use of power, control and domination.
It is usually done without verbalizing this power dynamic, for often to speak it is to defuse, expose and weaken the power. The one with assets of lesser value may feel intimidated and less than the other. Likewise, this may be a means for the one with fewer assets to assert power over the other. The utilization of money and possessions can be even subtler. For example, your sensitivity to the value of an object or the extent or lack thereof of your possessions may be a factor causing you to avoid close relationships.