You perspire, your nostrils may flare, and your jaw tightens. Many people describe their experience of anger as their blood boiling. On the other hand, anger can be experienced as compliance on the outside while resentment and hostility run just beneath the surface. The little boy who complies with his teacher's request to sit down may still be standing up on the inside. The silent withdrawal and lack of involvement of a spouse is often an indication that one is angrily punishing the other for not doing things his or her way.
Sex often becomes a weapon of anger instead of the expression of shared love in a marriage.
Because anger is so common to human experience, and because it is such a threat to relationships, it's not surprising that the Bible has much to say about the dangers, roots, and taming of anger. To begin with, the Scriptures show the destructive potential of anger. Several Old Testament Hebrew terms provide word pictures of human anger. The Bible, however, does not always paint a negative picture of anger. The vast majority of biblical references to words like anger, rage, wrath, and fury refer to the anger and wrath of God.