Then muster up the courage to go talk matters over by stating the parts that you may have caused. Blaming is a way of removing responsibility. We must learn that we do not control what other people say or do, but take back the complete responsibility for all our actions, even the ones we want to forget about. Backing people into a corner and responding with loud answers When you push hard in conflict, look out. Just like in the cartoons, for every action there is going to be a reaction.
Pressure can cause explosions of deep hidden resentments and the war is on.
Gentle words can lead you toward solutions Harsh words stir up anger and a desire for revenge. Don t respond to stories but seek real causes. As author Steven Covey says, seek first to understand, ask questions, then respond to be understood. Carefully prepare our words, then respond with long-range creative solutions. During conflict we tend to worry about our rebuttal and not paying attention to what the other person is saying and that only gets us into deeper trouble.