How important it is to learn effective parenting skills that include an understanding of why misbehavior occurs in the first place. Positive Discipline teaches important life skills such as perceptions of capability, of meaningful contribution, and of personal influence, as well as communication skills, problem-solving skills, accountability skills, and thinking skills. The importance of getting children involved in creating rules and solutions because they are more willing to follow solutions if they have been respectfully included. The importance of teaching in helping both children and adults learn new skills. Encouragement and appreciation help everyone feel optimistic, comfortable, and willing to try new things.
Most people think discipline is the same as punishment.
In our book, we do not advocate punishment of any kind. Since all the methods we advocate are based on kindness and firmness, dignity and respect, they can be used by both the birth parent and the stepparent without causing resentment or hurt. Our discipline strategies are based on ways to help children feel belonging and significance. We encourage joint problem solving and the involvement of all family members in creating routines and guidelines for the family. We also teach parents to use reflective listening so children feel listened to, validated, and know that their thoughts, feelings, and ideas are taken seriously.