There are many parents who make the same mistake. They think that their purpose is to use as much coercion and instill as much guilt as possible in order to get their child to comply. But if you can have a dialogue with your child from a very early age, you ensure that his mind absorbs your teaching internally, so that it always stays with him. When you actively discipline your child with the rod, then, yes, you have a certain power over him. But if you speak constructively to a child, and treat him like an adult, you suddenly have influence over him.
Power is temporary and always invites a backlash.
Influence is eternal and invites no backlash because the child does not feel that he is being forced to do anything. Rather, he feels that he is choosing of his own accord to follow a given path. There is an enormous difference between power and influence. Governments, for example, have power over people but it is external. It can only force them to do things without penetrating their hearts or minds and when the force is spent, it can no longer affect them.