Many of our married men even take great pleasure in allowing their wives to bear the greater burden of bread winner. This has resulted in a very high degree of slackness on the part of men since that traditional obligation and role of men of being the provider of bread for the family is now shared. So that even if the woman has become a bread winner in the family, this should in no way remove the obligation on the man to put bread on his family's table. A father or mother will get nothing good from a son who is pampered too much. This results in a major lack of character among our boys, many of whom grow up like stray goats or sheep with no emotional or psychological grounding.
Many fathers fail to build a bond and spend quality time with their sons.
As a father, one cannot expect respect from a son if one has not played a role in the child's life even before birth. Few fathers take quality time off to take their sons to school, church, to recreate with their sons and to speak to their sons. It is a tragic reality of the life of many of our boys and men that many of us have not been able to develop stable emotional bonds with our fathers from childhood. To reverse this, fathers must be encouraged by mothers to spend high quality time with their sons. It is very important that sons see their fathers getting up and going to work each morning.