This interferes with dreams about the birth of my first grandchild. The relationship I have with my other grandchildren is great. These questions and thoughts often create feelings of resentment, loss, uncertainty, sadness and confusion. Understanding the differences between stepfamilies and biological families may help you in your new role as a stepgrandparent. There is no such thing as instant love.
Relationships build over time.
To expect step-grandparents and stepgrandchildren to instantly love each other is unrealistic. Stepfamilies are not like first- time married families. First- time married families grow up together, while stepfamilies do not. Stepfamilies are confronted instantly with different traditions and values in everyday living. The feelings that come with that loss have to be taken into consideration.