Obviously, I am still alive and kicking and even better for having survived the challenges. It may seem impossible at some stages but, like racing, the pain of divorce can lead to personal growth and triumph if you allow it to. You may want to make a change in your physical fitness. Whatever the reason, something spurs you on to make this choice. For me, it was the need to set a goal I could work towards and the confidence that comes from a race well run.
Many relationships reach a milestone or a turning point from which the decision is made.
Oftentimes, it is when all avenues have been exhausted. A couple may have tried counseling and anything else available but things just could not be worked out. You set your goal for running the race and decide on the training regimen that you want to follow. You do research whether through an attorney or on your own. You find out how the process and the system works.