It's simple, practical, and extremely valid to the human experience. An amazing serendipity about the model is that when one understands the process of love, the person also learns how to fall in love all over again. We've used this model to help people fall in love again even after they had reached a point in their relationship where they were disinterested in each other, tired of each other, didn't like each other any more, or outright hated each other. I intend to share parts of the model with you over the next several weeks so that no matter how good or bad your relationship, you can be in love with each other again. Let's start where we should, at the beginning of every relationship.
Men tend to mention certain anatomical features.
Interestingly, women do too. They talk about noticing a man's height, the width of his shoulders, the flatness of his stomach, or the shape of his buttocks. When we first meet another human, we mentally register what we see, hear, or smell and instantly find ourselves attracted, neutral, or repulsed by that person. Since each of us is unique in our tastes, what one person finds alluring, another may find repelling, and another may not register as worthy of notice at all. The chances of developing or maintaining love decrease proportionately with the degree of unattractiveness we perceive in another.