Lets face it most people are Jackasses . Most of them are, do it their way or they won't do it at all. If you are a virgin trader they want nothing to do with you. If you don't have something they need they want nothing to do with you. Sorry, that's not what trading is all about.
Trading is when two people come to an agreement to help each other out.
And the bottom line is trading is all about the music, to spread it, share it, and hear it. The rest of the stuff is secondary, and to be worked out in the trading process. Now I don't mean to say, to put out your preferences isn't a good idea, but to not be able to bend the rules a little bit is ridicules. Now that that is said and done I do sometimes act like one of those Jackasses. And lastly, I have to say that I've been very lucky to have traded with many honest and respectable people, who I list on my good traders list.