The cart should always be kept at her right side. Serve on a bare table with plenty of lace or linen doilies. Serve it at the table. If the lunch is an hour long, guests may stay one-half hour to chat.
More formal luncheons require items like tiny butter dishes at the left of each setting.
But remove them before smoking, playing cards, eating, drinking or applying makeup, it says. Wear them while dancing, but unbuttoning the wrists and tucking the fingers into the sleeve is acceptable. Bracelets are fine over gloves, but not rings. A divorced woman may continue to wear her wedding ring and should insert her maiden name after her first name and before her ex-husband's last name. Don't accept an invitation from a man to someone else's house, according to the Vogue book.