I believe if I can get past this I will really be ready to get to the deeper core problems I am experiencing. I am sure counselors are well informed about the games people play with therapy. I'm talking about all the mind games that come from a lack of trust on the part of the client. In general, people are taught that they should take care of problems themselves. This is a good thing for independence but often is overdone.
People tend to feel shame to ask for help with personal issues and that is counterproductive.
Therefore, they tend to seek help only when they are in intense pain and the problems overwhelming. This often makes treatment more difficult. This is especially true in marital therapy. Often the feelings are so hurt that reconciliation is unlikely. I believe that most clients truly want to get help and relieve the pain, but they often want to do it without feeling that pain, displaying what they feel is shameful and without having to change.