It is that I am worthy no matter what I think or even do. My practice is to awaken to this. To practice constructively one must do so with one s whole being. If I am alienated from or feel negative about my sexuality, I am not giving my whole self to my practice, much less accepting my unconditional, Buddha worth. It is not who I am, or am not, making love to that is important in my striving for truth, but that I am always acknowledging my partner s unconditional worth as much as my own.
Unconditional acceptance is perfect love and morality.
The Zen tradition deals with sexuality within the broader category of sensual indulgence. The general rule is to avoid abuse of sensuality. This covers both over-indulgence in, and extreme deprivation of, the senses. Most people live by extremes. We do all of this, Zen teaches, because we think it makes us feel more valuable or real.