Keep Talking If you and your daughter can keep the habit of sitting down and having a good talk it will be easier to broach sensitive topics like menstruation and body changes. If you feel, though, that it would be too embarrassing to talk with her about these things, why not try to find a female relative or friend who is willing to talk to her. Most girls go through puberty between the ages of 9-17. If your daughter is an early or late developer she may feel like the odd one out among her friends, and this can be upsetting for her. Discuss any anxieties or problems, and reassure her that everyone is different.
People change and develop at different times.
If, however, your daughter has not had her first period by the time she is 17, it may be advisable for her to see the doctor just to make sure everything is all right. The beginning of puberty is marked by a rapid growth spurt. Pubic and underarm hair appears, breasts develop and the vagina begins to produce a yellowish or white fluid to keep itself clean and moist. Hormone changes activate oil and sweat glands so bathing and regular hair washing become even more important. The main event of puberty for girls is the arrival of the first menstrual period.