I've had them with women, but I prefer them with men. Both sexually and emotionally. That's what qualifies me as being gay. Just because you have, even if you enjoyed it, it doesn't mean you're gay. Personally, I'd be much more concerned about being a coward than being gay.
Most social conservatives fail to consider the effects of homophobia.
This Steve Sack cartoon commented on the murder of Matthew Shepard, a crime which shocked the world with its brutality and callousness. It was inspired by homophobia. In the opening paragraphs, I talked about the obvious costs of homophobia, and how the heterosexual community is unaware of the price it is paying. The fact is that there are many more costs, many of them very subtle. Consider that the outright fear of homosexuality skews how our culture deals with sex, sexuality, relations with strangers, co-workers and others, dealing with public health issues, and the untold opportunities it presents unscrupulous religionists with the opportunity to appeal to prejudice and call it religion.