Some will point to themselves as good examples. While these charges may make one's blood start to boil, we need to take such criticisms seriously. Often a little self-examination can be useful. This raises several important questions. I feel that there is no conflict between the need for personal responsibility and the need to understand one's diagnosis.
Most moral systems value the concept of self-knowledge.
Understanding one's strengths and weaknesses is necessary for one to function as a moral being. Once one becomes aware that one has ADHD, it becomes a responsibility to learn more about the condition. Then, one can try, through increased self-knowledge, to avoid impulsive acts that might offend or injure others. When dealing with individuals with long-standing, severe ADHD, I sometimes encounter those who have become so used to their own impulsivity and failure that they have ceased to care about the rights of others. They have learned to associate with impulsive, antisocial peers.