There will, however, always be a part of me that will hurt because of the losses I experienced. Through the pain of loss, I have come to understand how much I need God. There were times when the sifting felt endless like it was just too much. Now, though, I find I am able to share my pain and experiences with a certain poise that allows me to comfort others that are just beginning their journey of grief. It is very humbling to be used by God in such a way, and I feel privileged to be able to offer encouragement to someone else during his or her time of sifting.
Time does heal many of the hurts of child loss.
There s no doubt that the acute pain of child loss diminishes with time. The word ambush is exactly how grief works, though. In fact, there is never a total closure of grief from child loss. Just when we think the grief has gone completely away, there is a reminder a certain smell, a song that is playing on the radio, a child who looks just like ours. The grief comes back in full force and attacks us by surprise.