Total honesty is clearly an essential part of getting and staying sober.
Some of us, feeling despised and despairing of finding the total acceptance available to heterosexual members in AA, drop out - almost inevitably to resume drinking again one day. Others of us just go on as we always have, achieving such serenity as we can among our fears of being exposed and ridiculed. A few of us stick it out, clinging to whatever integrity seems possible, refusing to tell our stories because we don't want to lie to people whose friendship is so important to us. With all our hearts, we want what AA has to offer even though we feel we cannot yet tell the complete truth at AA meetings.