The 'Forrest Gump'-like development of events and destinies ensues. But there are so many voices that say that is worng. I don't know if my family and friends would talk to me. I wouldn't exaggerate your ability to hurt people, though. Other people just walk around minding their own business, getting togeter with us for some clear or unclear reasons, but we do not hurt them per se, or so very rarely so, when we commit some obvious atrocity, or abuse.
Marriage is a complex thing.
When the two persons stop being one or more of that to each other, marriage evolves into something else. You'd be surprized to discover the answer. It will point you in the direction where to apply your efforts. I have also discovered the utter irrationality of mine and this other person's emotional life. We can only decide for ourselves, decide who we are here and how, and the other person rather quickly gets the message.