But, the ultimate goal is to become a bonus family . In a bonus family you feel appreciated for who you are even if you're not biologically related to everyone in the family. You play an active role in the new family and you're happy when you have the opportunity to be together. You may even share siblings. If you are right in the middle of stepwars , you probably think this is impossible, but keep reading, there's proof all the way through this web site that you can do it if your true goal is to end the war.
Most people say they hate to be called a step anything.
But a bonus is something positive, a reward for a job well-done. In stepfamily lingo bonus is the top level, the ultimate goal. So, rather than stepmom , it's bonus mom. Stepdad becomes bonus dad . Stepsister or stepbrother becomes bonus sister and bonus brother.