Stand for something. Parents who use responsive discipline know what they hope to accomplish with their children. They avoid wasting their energy over low-priority issues. Their behavior clearly communicates the values or principles that guide their lives. They act with purpose.
Wisdom is created out of the struggle to find a way to exercise authority as an expression of love.
Might is not right. Strength and power are associated with confidence, self-respect, and love, not brute force. There is a difference between authority figures and bullies. Punishment should be used infrequently and only when necessary after prevention and guidance efforts have failed. Being right is more important than being liked.