The thing to look for in a guy at the club is how he invades your personal space while dancing. If he is all up on you, and you don't like it, you push him back and keep the distance. The biggest problem with today's society is the way that Black women are portrayed by musical artists. I am not going to single it to rap music, because that is not the case, it is all forms of music. On the KRS-ONE album he makes a reference to black women of today looking like hookers of the 70's.
Women go to clubs half naked.
Men see half naked women in music videos dancing provocative. Put those two things together and you men thinking all women are like that. Especially if the man is even remotely attractive or has a decent cash flow coming in. I will get what I want elsewhere. The self confidence is cool, but they also know that they get out of the relationship what they put in.