This same understanding can turn your marriage around and save your family from the heartache of divorce. The word love has been used so loosely that it has lost much of its true meaning. Secondhand emotions masquerading as love have caused many divorces. Secondhand emotions rush people into marriage, and they can drop people out of marriage. The most common problem among married people is selfishness expressed in feelings.
Many marriages fail because feelings fail.
In The Case Against Divorce, Diane Medved cautions couples about building a marriage on the shaky foundation of fleeting feelings that masquerade as love. One of the most critical facts I try to impress on couples who come to me for premarital counseling is that passion fades . . . . Some people marry because they think the other person will satisfy their needs. They mutually take and take until they have taken all the life out of each other. The marriage becomes empty.