Disliking others is costly. There are many good reasons to get serious about reducing our anger and critical intolerance. Becoming aware of unconscious processes, like games, is not easy, however. Look for unconscious payoffs . Conscious payoffs were discussed above, including using the threat of anger to manipulate others.
Vicious anger is usually just another way of laying on a guilt trip.
So your anger may be part of some one else's scheme to manipulate you, i.e. another person is profiting from your loss of emotional control. Guilt can add to the stress that creates anger towards others or which sets overly demanding standards expected of ourselves or others. It is not uncommon for a formerly poor person to feel they do not deserve the advantages and material gains that come with success. Guard against displaced aggression . Awareness of the displacement may reduce the anger or make solutions easier to see.