That isn't what he needed or wanted at all. He needed me to just be quiet and listen. To give him the opportunity to vent. Men may be harboring deep, dark secrets that are taking a serious toll. Resolving the problems in your marriage isn't all the man's responsibility.
Women also share responsibility.
But if you want to show here you really care, you can begin by allowing yourself to be changed. If you can be the initiator in changing the areas mentioned above, you wife will notice, and chances are your relationship will be transformed.