She uses these sacrifices as an inappropriate sort of mothering for her children or the man in her life. We all know Wendy in Peter Pan. Author Dan Kiley uses Wendy as a prototype for the self-sacrificing female and mother. She uses these sacrifices as an inappropriate sort of mothering for her children or the man in her life. According to Dr. Kiley, self-sacrifice is the central indication of inappropriate mothering in women, whether that mothering is given to children or men.
Pity is a form of reinforcement.
Once a woman admits and confronts self-pity, it leads her deeper into herself until she uncovers the destructive influence of the silent voice of inferiority, according to Kiley. The martyr plays several games to hang on to the identity self-pity gives her. Men and Women Talk Men and Sex in Today's Society. Crossroads for Marriage Book Reviews Men Use Sex to Connect . Relate Through Sex .