Men develop a strong loyalty to violence. Men must come to terms with violence because it is the prime component of male identity. Men become advocates of that which they most fear. In advocacy they experience mastery of fear. In mastery of fear they experience freedom.
Men transform their fear of male violence into a metaphysical commitment to male violence.
Violence itself becomes the central definition of any experience that is profound and significant. The kingdom of heaven suffereth violence, from hot love and living hope. Freedom is violence. Men will advocate some forms of violence and not others. Some men will renounce violence in theory, and practice it in secrecy against women and children.