This kind of loving is hard to do. That is why people notice when you do it and know you are empowered by a supernatural source. No Christian should ever think that he or she is totally independent and doesn't need help from others, and no one should feel excused from the task of helping others. When you do your very best, you feel good about the results. There is no need to compare yourself with others.
People make comparisons for many reasons.
Some point out others' flaws in order to feel better about themselves. Others simply want reassurance that they are doing well. When you are tempted to compare, look at Jesus Christ. His example will inspire you to do your very best, and his loving acceptance will comfort you when you fall short of your expectations. Paul says that students should take care of the material needs of their teachers.