I'd always thought I was something of an aberration, that most guys were in a nearly constant state of semi-erection. But this year I learned I have plenty of company. According to a major survey reported in the Feb. 10 Journal of the American Medical Association, approximately 15 percent of men 18-59 have low sexual desire. Yet the prevalence of low sex drive remains largely undiscussed. Bernard Apfelbaum, director of the Berkeley Sex Therapy Group in California, says that most guys don't like to talk about it, even in therapy.
Men are ashamed.
They're embarrassed to talk about anything that smacks of their being inadequate. I feel sorry for my wife, a good and attractive woman who deserves a sex life. Who knows, she may have one, just not with her husband. She might be having an affair. Contemplating this scares me because an affair might make her more likely to leave me.