In divorce, however, particularly when there are children involved, you have to make choices and you may see the person again, communicate with them, watch as that person you once thought you d spend your life with moves on in his life without you and sometimes with someone else. It s like having salt thrown on a wound over and over, and until you are numb to the pain or have stopped hurting, the emotions are often hard to separate from your decision-making and thinking. My first recommendation to you is to let go. Until you have, the salt will continue to burn the wounds. Although it sounds easier than it is, sometimes finding closure may be as simple as realizing that the person you are now dealing with is not the same person you fell in love with.
People change, and emotions have obviously changed.
Try to see this as someone different. With this step, you have to leave the past in the past. Reliving it will not help, it will only hurt. Don t rehash issues. The key is to move forward.