It has ruined my career and marriage. I have not been fired, but I am going to leave due to being either shunned or scorned. It is awful. I am without hope. Finally, I should mention that in these self-reported accounts it is not unusual for the vice cops to extort money on the spot in lieu of arrest.
Most men pay up and consider themselves lucky, given the alternative.
Whatever standard is appropriate for public places, libertarians should join in opposing police raids at private businesses whose owners do not object to sexual activity. Humiliating and arresting consenting adult patrons and proprietors smacks of police state terror tactics that should not be accepted in a free society. In fact, a convincing argument can be made generally against stings targeting sex in obscured outdoor spaces, hidden from public view during the day, or discernible only by flashlight-wielding officers at night. Again, if police would simply tell a straight couple to move on, they have no business treating same-sex couples as criminals, useful in upping their arrest quotas for the week. In the court of public opinion, the majority will never countenance this activity in spaces that are officially public.