To be sober and vigilant means simply to be spiritually awake and on guard against the wiles of the devil, but too many believers are asleep and they have been deceived into believing that to be watchful and on guard is unloving and judgmental. When it comes to actually resisting the devil by openly exposing and opposing his many schemes as they are promoted by apostate and compromising religious leaders of our day, too many believers reject any such course of action, having been lulled to sleep by a growing spirit of unscriptural pacifism. It is not unloving nor unkind for believers to be on guard and to strenuously resist every false way. It is exactly the opposite. Such action is commanded by God.
Uninformed believers are easy prey for the devil's deceptions and assaults.
Resist and stand fast in the Faith. God has many purposes in permitting suffering. Paul learned an extremely important lesson when God did not remove the thorn from his flesh which troubled him.