If I ask my husband to think about dinner, he'll think about it. But if I don't ask him, he won't. The fact that I do has kept me balanced as an artist and a human being. Having a family was my impulse to keep myself grounded, connected to others, humanized. I no longer resent that I am a woman and that comes into play.
Men have more opportunities to cut that part off.
I don't envy that in men anymore. But buried in these transcripts are also missives of wonder and strength. So much of what she gives me and so much of the relationship of being a mother to a daughter is making me who I am. And I do feel that there's something so fundamentally creative about bringing new life into the world and stewarding it through. It has the feeling of a magnum opus in a way that almost nothing else does.