Those who suffer the pains of infidelity are left with nowhere to go. There are many variables. Professional help should be sought prior to making any decisions like that. There are so many variables, there's no clear cut answer. Maybe we can tackle that question another way.
Victim means someone is helpless.
I like to teach people to be proactive and not let themselves be victimized . Sometimes there is no benefit. The benefit of knowing leads to change, whether there's a divorce or it leads to a stronger marriage there can be benefits. And sharing it can break the cycle. I am very, very regretful and angered that I had the affair myself.