If the pastor recognizes God's attributes of love and forgiveness, the pastor's own love and forgiveness will be more apparent. Develop a healthy concept of authority. It is much easier for a pastor to love and trust if he isn't obsessed with a need to control and manipulate. An honest pastor is a man of integrity. Openness takes the pastor one step beyond honesty.
Openness implies vulnerability.
Honesty and openness may sometimes carry risk in the church. The open, honest pastor may encounter people in his church who are disappointed when their pastor shows his humanity. These persons may be devoted to the pastor and love him until he shows his human side. Nevertheless, vulnerability is worth the effort for pastors who want to relate to members as team members. A pastor can learn to love and trust if he realizes the futility of withdrawal and avoidance.