Reality is intended to be worn by women during sex.
Because Reality is new, it may look different to you or you may feel nervous about trying to insert it - similar perhaps to how you felt the first time you inserted a tampon, or a diaphragm. After you become used to Reality, it should become easier and more comfortable to use. It's important to practice putting Reality in without having sex. Take your time. Get familiar with Reality's different shape and the way it looks.