Food clean up one week. Trash one week. Sweeping one week. This way all kids get a turn at all jobs. Cooking and cleaning .
Special dinners mean everyone pitches in.
My time is valuable too and though I love the discussions we have in the car and the intimate one on one time these experiences bring I need support. The dining room table is our safe place for discussion. Any child bringing a transgression to the table is forgiven and discipline is often waved for honestly or the child determines their own discipline. The goal of the table is to acknowledge poor choices, reflect and institute a program of change. Even a three year old has been able to use this effectively.