The judge couldn't answer that question so she told Rudy to shut up. That's good advice for everyone who is considering the harm to be done to a divorcing spouse without understanding the terrible hurt inflicted on the children. And New York isn't the only place where this kind of behavior occurs. The lesson here is simple. Once the decision to divorce is made it is no longer about the adults.
Someone needs to consider the kids.
And when Mom and Dad don't get it, someone else must step forward. It shouldn't take a judge in New York to teach us that lesson, but better from her than not at all. Read our policy on privacy and cookies.