Until a reasonable balance is achieved, a couple cannot expect the usual emotional support from his or her spouse. That's why many couples benefit from support groups and individual counseling. Communication level . When two people understand each other emotionally, communication is a rewarding experience. After a loss communication is difficult.
Some people withdraw and grieve privately.
Talking about feelings may be difficult. Often a person doesn't talk because it is extremely painful, or he or she is afraid that talking will cause the spouse to have too much pain. It is important to recognize that the cause of the pain is the loss, not talking about feelings. It is also wise to agree that you will ask your spouse if he or she is agreeable to talking before you launch into an intense conversation. Both parties should know that the communication barrier will not stay up forever.