When I mentioned it to my therapist, she said she saw the same thing. I don't mean to suggest that this is inherently bad. You might really love a life as part of a 'transgender' subculture. But that's very different from a life as a man or woman. Please be clear about what you're trying to achieve when you transition.
Some people really are transgenderists.
Overall I feel they're pretty cool even though I don't personally identify with them. Transgenderists really are happy and self-confident with their choice to challenge a binary gender system. But there are also other people who live outside of their real culture because they're too scared or angry or lack the confidence to join the world. Like, even after being full-time over a year I was nervous about teaching my own class for the first time as a girl. I taught before as a boy.