When white people have a preconceived notion that no black person can possibly be worthy of marriage, that's racist. Also, I don't have to educate them about certain realities of racism that our children will face, just by virtue of living in the United States. I just assume they have a better understanding of how history has shaped me, and that's part of what I want in a mate. Someday, a white man may come along whom I would marry. I haven't ruled it out.
Some black people have very race-related reasons for their views against interracial marriage.
We have two children, son is 13 and daughter is 6. When my son misbehaves, he loses privileges. No television, no computer, or no friends. My daughter would receive similar losses of privileges. Defiance by either one would require time out in their room for 6 or 13 minutes, respectively, or instant bed time depending on the severity of the offense.