This feeling is based on the assumption that being homosexual is a matter of choice and that this was a conscious decision, perhaps even made to hurt them. In fact, homosexuals do not choose their sexual orientation. The only choice most lesbians and gays have is whether to be honest about who they are or hide it. Hiding it imposes a tremendous burden. It means living a lie, day in and day out.
Most parents feel guilt when they first find out.
In fact, no parent has that much power over a child. Homosexuals are found in all types of families with all types of backgrounds. It depends on where he or she decides to live, what kind of job he or she wants, how he or she decides to act. But we must also say that attitudes toward homosexuals have been changing for the better and are more positive in many places. But we must remember that this is very often true of all of us.