Bonding, fun, teammates, grooving, having a blast. If you sign up for a Greek Organization maybe. My idea of stupid may be someone else's idea of fun, entertainment, leader or not, but any such situation that is geared around, based on someone's idea of fun carries the potential of being manifested into someone else's nightmare. So I called the hostess of the show and discussed the situation. My friend showed up feeling betrayed that teammate friends would care more about carrying though with feigned importance, stupid bonding activity than about her - a living breathing human being, teammate, friend.
Nobody knows about minds, emotions from second-hand evidence or behavioral observations.
Same as with prevention of an interpersonal violation, asking at every step, being aware and conscious of the state of others. Responsibility so as not to violate someone. Encourage open communication - in any relationship that is at all meaningful. Very few people want to violate, want to scar, want to brand, to carry and continue the flow of purported power and respect, command. If you at all care it is your responsibility to encourage open and comfortable communication or else enter the realm of possible confusion, distrust, violation, breaking something.