Realistic expectations - the only way to have well grounded expectations is to have lots of experiences with one's partner. Women have been socialized to wait, which doesn't sit well with many people today. Sexual sensitivity - being aware of our partner's desires, making needed adjustments when feasible and desirable, and planning our sex life rather than depending on spontaneous sexual encounters. Requires thought, time and effort. Men enjoy sex more and are more willing to participate earlier on.
Women enjoy sex more later and are willing to participate later and longer.
Desirable and important. Styles of Marriage - refers to the way marriage partners perceive and treat each other. This is the modern ideal. Such couples thrive on conflict and verbal skirmishes. The Stimulation provided by fighting holds the marriage together.