There was more of an even number of responses in several areas. Individual church consulting was viewed as primarily assisting the church board or leadership core in developing their skills in providing direction and leadership for the church, or to counsel them during a season of crisis such as staff transitions and church conflicts. Two questions asked for ways that expectations of family and the church caused tension, or aspects of church life his wife would say create tension in the family. This includes the competition for evenings since this is prime time for church work and family ministry. Many indicated a difficulty with having a day off if they stay at home or in the area.
Physical distance is the only escape for many.
The loss of privacy and the sense that the husband's calling defined excessive expectations or time demands on the wife and in some cases on the children. It is important to note that many pastors had fewer responses to these two questions than the ones presented earlier. Perhaps the length of the survey and its primary focus being on church health prevented more in depth discussion of these areas. Several indicated that their spouse was very supportive of the lifestyle they live and accept it as part of the pastoral call. Several felt the survey should explore the personal life of the leader to a greater degree.