Spencer doctrines call for the prompt acceptance of the discipline . Note that Mrs. Spencer also insists that a woman should only be spanked by hand . I disagree with this notion , especially if you and your partner also engage in more obviously erotic spanking activities . I suggest that you designate one instrument , such as a traditional hairbrush or small paddle , for use only in the context of punishment spankings . The original implements , to be used on the man , were a strap and a wooden paddle .
Reinforcement is more effective if every detail is in place .
Any combination , performed with proper technique , is likely to work in a given situation . The subject of tears is problematic , to say the least . Again , you should adopt whatever you think will work for you , and stick with it . No matter what , though , once punishment has taken place , you should again treat your partner as your equal , regardless of the nature of the relationship , with all of the attending emotions that implies . From this date on it is my wish to have my conduct regulated by the enforcement of these doctrines .