It could be that they are fundamentally concerned about money and well-being. You want to understand this question of meaning from the perspective of each party, your perspective and that of others. Solutions that provide a new sense of mutual meaning, safety, de-escalation or other rewards often are the ones that have the greatest potential for resolving the conflict. Engage people in problem-solving Paradoxically, people sometimes feel more comfortable at war with one another than engaged in peaceful enterprise. The fight response is programmed deeply into our psyche, and sometimes it overwhelms our sense of professional common sense.
Professional warfare has a way of organizing or orchestrating interpersonal relations.
It's clear who's who. There will be a winner and there will be a loser. Given the choice, I prefer to be the winner. Humanity is littered with the consequent tragedies of this line of thinking. As a species, we have not yet truly learned how to live at peace with one another.