The biggest fights we have ever had and came to close to breaking up, was over porn. It upsets me tremendously when I have found out he has used it. It makes me feel inadequate to fulfilling his needs. It disgusts me and makes me nauseated. It makes me feel very ugly and insecure although many have told me how attractive I am.
Porn is porn no matter what form it is in.
Sometimes I have felt like jumping off a cliff because I will never amount to women in porn. We could never use porn together because of the way it makes me feel. Talking to many other women, it seems it hurts more relationships although I know there are women out there who like porn and do not mind and maybe makes theirs better. I can say for sure that it definitely hurts and has almost destroyed at one point my relationship with my boyfriend, which is wonderful otherwise. Pornography is very healthy.