Submission to a rapist out of fear is not consent and does not imply faflure on the part of the victim. Whenever a woman is forced, against her will, to submit to unwanted sexual relations, it is rape-and not a successful seduction by a lover, friend, neighbor, acquaintance, or stranger. Don't get trapped by these roles. That means speaking your needs and listening to other person's needs. Physical affection does not always have to lead to sex.
Rape is a crime of violence.
It is motivated by the desire to control, dominate, and humiliate, not by sex. Use eye contact and tone of voice to show you mean what you say. When you feel threatened by either a stranger or an acquaintance put yourself above rules of etiquette and social norms. Be willing to make a scene, if necessary, to get out of a troubling encounter. Trust your instincts.