You have the inside story. Be tender with confrontation. There is some inevitable degree of parenting in marriage. A good parent forgives. Realism To be married is to be caught in a contradiction between biology and ideas, between the certain weakness of the flesh and the weak certainty of the spirit.
Passion is another word for suffering, and to be married is to suffer the dashing of hope.
Though we may call marriage a sacred covenant, it is also an imperfect human contract. Idealism Believe in marriage. Believe that despite the unpaid bills, the screaming kids, the frustrating in-laws, despite whatever happens, studies confirm that married people have more frequent and better sex than do singles, that we somehow find a way to throw the clothes in a pile and do thrilling things to each other in the dark. Watch this if baby's meals end with thrown food. Learn about a potentially lifesaving new vaccine.