For example, Pat is shy. Pat's attention is focused on Pat whenever encountering the opposite sex. Imagine that you are Pat. You are in the grocery store choosing your healthy veggies and fruits. An attractive person of the opposite sex named Leslie meets your eyes, smiles, and starts toward you.
Most shy singles focus on themselves rather than the other person.
Search Heart Express Personal Profiles. You are not focused on you. You are focused on finding something about Leslie that is attractive and can be mentioned in conversation with a stranger. Leslie says hello. Go over and over this with different people in your mind.