The he'll use you to help L, and etc. L can't surrender himself and receive cleansing and healing because God is not offering them to him at this time. So when and if he comes with the divorce papers and etc, you will not only see the physical details, you will be looking for the signs of God in the situations and you will be see God in the details. Perfect love has its opposite in perfect Hate. Perfect Love loves the opposite words fear and faith.
Perfect hate hates the opposites fear and faith.
Perfect love casts out the sin of Hate and so casts out the fear in that Hate. But perfect Love retains the fear in Love. And how and why faith works by Love. He that feareth in Hate is not made perfect in love. So all you have to do is to repent of the sin of hating fears and hating what you fear by loving fears and loving who an what you fear.