So too with planning for sex. If you don't give energy and time to lovemaking, it never seems to happen. It is delegated to the bottom of your priority list. Set a time. Explore the pleasures of the senses.
Touch can be a powerful sex enhancer.
Loving touch causes a number of hormones to surge, including oxytocin and endorphins. Just thinking of being touched can cause an oxytocin surge, creating the desire for more. Massage is one special way of giving pleasure to your lover. Wear sexy underwear. Most women save these delights for special occasions.