As a couple agree to your own discussion rules which can include such things as time-out s for cooling off or thinking. Most of us don't pick up on hints so don't expect your partner to guess what you do or don't want. Make clear and direct statements. Follow the guidelines of understanding, kindness, honesty and respect . These guidelines make it easier to state your desires in a positive way and are more likely to be understood and well received.
Successful communication requires good listening.
No one wants to be interrupted while they are speaking. We all want our feelings and thoughts to be heard, valued and understood. Listen for understanding. Rephrase what you have heard your partner say and then ask if this is correct. Save your side of the discussion until you have validated your partner's feelings.