Children of divorce say they'd rather face the hassle of two homes than go without a parent they love. Fathers become reluctant to discipline, have little or no contact with the school or social lives of their kids and basically retreat. The ideal custody sharing for small children would give both parents contact every day or every other day. I wish we could prevail on parents, where there are good attachments, not to move for the first three years. The best custody plans try to maximize the adult resources available to children.
Research shows that traditional custody arrangements too often do the exact opposite.
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