Gay men deserve good sex. Unfortunately, many of us don't believe that. Our relationships are trivialized and recognition of them outlawed. This takes its toll. Most of us don't buy into this nonsense consciously, but it is difficult to avoid picking up foul odors when we are living in a sewer of homophobia.
Sexuality is powerful, but it is neither good nor bad in and of itself.
It can be a fabulous way of enjoying one's body, perhaps connecting with another person, or it can manifest pain through abuse, rape or betrayal. Good sex can be part of a committed relationship or outside of it, but sex is sufficiently powerful that it is always relational . Perhaps you and I just met on the dance floor and we are now headed back to my place. Imagine a sexual ethic which acknowledges that because we are both men who love men, any sex we have is taking place in that context . I will not treat you thoughtlessly.