It doesn't work to be grumpy with your partner all day and then expect to make sublime love when going to bed. Cultivate feelings of attraction by appreciating your partner all throughout the day, giving little gifts of thoughtfulness, even helping each other with chores. Let it feel like you are making love all day long, rather than merely a single act. Love helps create magnificent sex. Sex does not necessarily create magnificent love.
Some people tend to use sex as the method to feel love.
The sexual experience can be a powerful way into the heart. When it is relied upon as the only way to intimate connection, it becomes abused. This is true romancing. It is well known that most women need extra time to open physically to sexual feelings in her body. By the time most men are ready to climax, most women are approximately two thirds of the way there, and often require more stimulation than only the penis can provide.