AARP is the nation's leading organization for people 50 and older. It serves their needs and interests through information and education, advocacy, and community services that are provided by a network of local chapters and experienced volunteers throughout the country. The organization also offers members a wide range of special benefits and services including Modern Maturity and the monthly Bulletin. Discussing the help or type of resources your parents may need to live independently can be uncomfortable for parents as well as for their adult children. More than eight out of ten older persons want to stay in their own home and never move.
Many parents respond positively to a conversation that involves planning for the future.
Anticipate resistance to the discussion - it is normal. Keep trying again to bring up the subject at another time. If a parent's health or safety is at immediate risk, consider taking stronger steps, such as holding a family meeting or involving a respected third party. Recognize your parents' right to make their own life choices, even if you don't agree with them. Delaying conversations about independent living until there is a family crisis makes talking about the issues more difficult.