Any time midwives or doctors insist on doing anything their client finds unwelcome, they are overstepping their bounds. I think that if my type of homebirth sounded attractive to someone else, they could also easily gain the proper education. After all, midwives are human, just like the rest of us, with training. Parents can ask their midwife to train them during their prenatals. All childbirth attendants should prepare their clients for emergency delivery anyway, since sometimes they don't get there in time.
Most midwives have someone come rub their backs etc.
The difference is that their attendants trust their abilities and knowledge. Birth attendants should not wait to change until women begin demanding their rights, however. It is unethical misrepresentation for any caregiver to presume to be able to decide for a family the necessity of any intervention. In birth and medicine there are many life or death decisions. Morally, those decisions should be left to the families who will be living with the consequences for the rest of their lives.