Submission is not the way to save a troubled or abusive marriage. After learning about Biblical submission, some women may begin to view it as the answer they've been searching for to cure all their marital woes. Submission isn't a magical formula that one can apply to a troubled marriage and save it. The responsibility for the fate of our marriages does not lie solely with us women. Yes, we are responsible to do whatever we can to help mend and heal any marital wounds, but we ought not to view submission as a cure-all.
Many women have found that, submit all they want, their husbands hearts are simply hard.
Submission, in obedience to the Lord, is to be done with only a desire to please the Lord and serve Him through serving one's husband. This kind of motivation does not look to results or what God will do in return it simply looks to Christ. It may help unlock doors of communication between the couple and open things up a bit, but the goal of submission should never be to heal one's faltering marriage. Any time we take our eyes off of Him and place them on to another goal, no matter how godly or inspired, we are missing the mark. The way is a Person, not a formula, a rule, a lifestyle, and not even a Biblical principle.