Many men of African ancestry refuse to go to a white counselor. They do not feel a white counselor can identify with their past and present societal challenges exacerbated by white institutions, much less, their relationship with their woman. Probably most white men won't sit down with a nonwhite counselor, for whatever reason. Some men don't think counseling will help. Some men want their business to remain between them and their women.
Some men think they'll get 'dumped' on, especially by a female counselor.
Some men are afraid. The list goes on. There are so many myths in a man's socialization by which he is expected to govern himself by. The detriment of these myths are not fully comprehended until a man is 'blessed' with an opportunity to smell himself and do something about it. A man is not supposed to cry.