As with bridesmaids, there is no definite number of ushers, however, it is better balanced if they are close in number. The ushers walk single file down the aisle in the processional, or in pairs if there are four or more. The ushers or groomsmen are usually brothers, relatives or close friends of the bride or groom. Seating the groom's parents in the right front pew and then the bride's mother in the left front pew. You may have one or two flower girls and they should be about the same size and age, preferably between ages four to eight.
Tiny tots are very cute, but are way too young to understand what's going on.
They may be easily distracted and distracting to others who are trying to enjoy the ceremony. The ring bearer is usually a young boy, 5-10 years of age, who carries the rings, tied by a ribbon, on a satin or lacy pillow. He may walk alone or with the flower girl, but always precedes the bride. If a ring bearer is omitted altogether, it is customary for the Best Man to hold on to the rings during the ceremony. The trainbearer is usually a female and can be a child or adult.