Your child may have been exhibiting hyperactivity, chronic nasal congestion, irritability, mood swings, sleepless nights and severe depression. You listen and wait anxiously all night for the sound of the key in the door, you pay off increasingly high phone bills, and worry about the vast expenditures of money. You fear the ring of the telephone that may mean disaster or tragedy. If he is married and has a family, you are concerned about how his drug use might be affecting his wife and children. You may make personal sacrifices so his family won't be deprived of necessities, taking on his responsibilities, such as bills, rent payments, debts.
Some parents even go so far as to blame the spouse of the addict for the drug problem.
No matter what their home situation is, the wife or husband cannot be blamed. The drug abuser uses cocaine because he is sick. You will need to realize and admit that you have no more right to criticize, admonish or demand sobriety of this adult than if he were a stranger. You are not letting go and letting God if you repeatedly get him out of trouble. You are not letting go if you take responsibility for the problems his using creates.