Don't, for example, try to convince him that he 'shouldn't' feel guilty as this will only add another 'guilt' without removing the first one. In fact, the greater openness about sex today makes many people hide their guilt feelings or try to repress them in an attempt to be 'with it'. When a person is able to talk about these feelings, admit them openly, and try to discover the source, then he can move beyond them rather than just pre-tending to be beyond them. Transactional Analysis can be very helpful in this area by helping a person to see that most of his sex hang-ups are prejudices recorded in the Parent that are contaminating his Adult ability to function. The questions and experiments on pages 186 and 187 are especially useful for these problems.
Overcoming inhibitions is only one step in raising one's sexual consciousness.
Ken Keyes outlines how sex may be experienced at the various levels. On the level of sensation, a person remains attached to his anticipation of the ultimate sensation or climax. Thus, addictions to certain sensations must be overcome as well as inhibitions. He also stresses that the relationship of subject-object on the lower levels, prevents us from drowning in oneness and love. Keyes even suggests that a person who is very addicted to sexual sensations should give them up for a certain period of time in order to better tune in to his partner as a whole being rather than a source of sensation.