They ask me to play with them, but when I try they don't want me. Quite often, by the time we are parents, we have forgotten how children play and we try to organise what is going on in the same way we direct other parts of their lives. In play your child is in control, their tower may be wide and not at all high, they may see your encouragement as interfering. Or just be silent and let your children lead the game. This means the children can follow their own ideas and you will become a part of their game.
Young children are often unwilling to spend time alone in their rooms at play.
They need the security of a parent or an older brother or sister nearby, preferably within sight. With this feeling of security they can then explore with their toys and imagination knowing that they are safe. A child's first playmate is usually an older sibling. Brothers and sisters provide love, companionship, support, and probably a child's first experience of an argument and its resolution. In many families older brothers and sisters have a large part to play both teaching and keeping younger children safe.