Teachers are expected to control students and students are expected to act compliantly or be punished. The vast majority of girls feel ugly and inadequate. The boys, especially those who aren't academically inclined, feel like they have been locked up for their entire adolescence. This all happens at a time, when as young adults, most students are seeking greater independence and freedom. Too often we think of adolescents who misbehave as bad, not needy.
Punishments can make matters worse.
When schools neglect the emotional needs of students, the long-term effects can be devastating. It's the feelings of loneliness, rejection and torment that are causing young people to drop out, turn to violence, crime and even suicide. Today many parents leave home before dawn. Divorce rates are skyrocketing. Many children are left on their own for most of their waking hours.