Husbands do have a special responsibility to lead in the sense of holding the marriage up to the norm God has for it. The norm is a norm of love, my life laid down for yours. In our feeble and broken way, we are to work out our salvation in our marriages so that they do indeed reflect something of the firestorm of love that burns incessantly in the Holy Trinity. Family today is a busy place. Mother and Dad are often both working.
Time is short, and so are tempers.
They inhabit the same house as we do, but we end up being mere laundresses and chauffeurs and umpires for them. If the family is meant to be a picture of Trinity, it is difficult to trace the correspondence. In the Bible a name means an expression of what God meant a created thing or relationship to be. A family is meant to be a finite expression of what the Trinity is. There is a sense in which a married couple is not really complete until a child is born.