These two contrasting worlds may well lead to a communication breakdown when men and women talk to each other. In the area of decision making, again we can see contrasting worlds. In contrast, Ong states that females are encouraged to keep the peace. So the two worlds again collide when it comes to decision making. Women see the orders that men give as unnecessarily provocative, challenging, and aggressive, while men see the suggestions that women make as infuriating and bossy.
Men appear to want women to act like men, and women want men to act like women.
Each group was instructed to discuss something serious. As far as the conversation was concerned, the boys produced a mass of short spurts of speech. Men and women observing these videotaped conversations almost invariably praised the behaviour of their own sex. So it would seem that the style of dealing with problems continues into adulthood. In other words, men downplay or dismiss the problems of other men, or they change the subject.