It is far better to put your roots into channels of real friendships and material concerns than to try to find stability in internal fears.
Some people are, in the end, completely at the mercy of their superegos.
Relationships with women are best approached as casual friendships. A woman's concerns, likes and dislikes most often have nothing to do with you. You can often tell the character of someone's fears by whom they tangle with. It is almost impossible to gauge the deepness and effects of another person's fears. Their best days might be, if in you, your worst.