Excuses are substitutes for the hard work of change. In truth, change is hard work. Now, it is possible for anyone to create a much more interesting world for themselves, but only by being responsible for actually creating it. Every person has the potential to be whole. The only requirement is responsibility.
Responsibility is a misunderstood word.
A response is a carefully measured and thought through action meant to get the result you seek. For example, a couple in therapy might indicate that they wish to deepen their relationship. Then, the next time they have a conversation, they start into a fight. They can slip into old behavior and have at it, or one or both can remember the intention to go deeper into the relationship. They make a responsible choice not to fight.