Mutuality is uncommon in such relationships, and the locus of discernment is usually assumed to be in the director. Mentoring, Discipling, and Eldering are identified formal relationships that usually focus more on moral and educational guidance within a particular faith community. They can, however, include dimensions of spiritual direction. These relationships are characterized by a lack of structure and role definition. They are not considered exclusive, and most people have several such companionships.
Meetings tend to be irregular and spontaneous.
There is nearly always some atmosphere of mutuality, and each person retains his or her own locus of discernment. There is no notion of providing a service, and fees are out of the question. My maternal grandmother was a wisdom figure in our extended family. People seemed naturally drawn to her, presumably because of her prayer, love and insight, but this was not identified or discussed openly. People listened carefully to her words but always felt free to express their own opinions and make their own decisions.