However, if behavior is to be evaluated against a G-d decreed standard, and if a Torah scholar is in the best position to determine what the standard is and how to apply it to life, then I would disagree. If the scholar determines something from the Torah then he is doing a great service, even if it's something that we don't want to hear. Furthermore, the world of the Torah scholar is not an exclusive club. Anybody can join it, provided that they are willing to work hard. Torah scholars are people.
People are sometimes wrong.
Torah scholars have been wrong. If you think that they are wrong, you can respectfully question their determination, even if you are not on their level. Just base your question on traditional sources, not on teen-age whining. If you point out something that they overlooked, they will be grateful. They are very compassionate and they do have your interests in mind.