They have an abusive other in their lives, and feel miserable most of the time. They feel victimized and powerless to do anything because the other person won t change. They feel that as long as the other is drinking, or controlling, or mean, that they will feel depressed. But Boundaries teach us that since the feeling is on my property, I have to own it, and once I own it, I can do something about it. But as long as we give that control over to others of our property, then we will be victims of their irresponsibility.
Ownership is the beginning of the steps to freedom.
It is essentially the same as confession, to agree with what is true. All resolution of problems begins with confession. Control Ownership then leads to control. If you own a property, then you control it. It is under your domain.