If triad members are not known or not on speaking terms, then the adoptee's child will suffer. Because there will be momentous events that need to be celebrated. Pregnancy, birth, baptism, birthdays, Thanksgivings, graduations, weddings, and funerals will be a part of the child's life. In an ideal world, a couple deliberately conceives a baby whom they will raise and love for the rest of their lives. In adoption that doesn't happen.
Normalizing pregnancy can help an adoptee bond with the unborn baby and prepare for parenthood.
Pregnant adoptees need information, support, and a place to talk about their medical history, morning sickness and the first flutters of life within. Adoptive parents will be forced to face their fertility issues when their child becomes pregnant or fathers a child. Even if work has been done in this area, sadness and loss may find their way back to the adoptive parents. Acknowledging these feelings in an appropriate way and with the appropriate people can help an adoptive parent clear the way for grandparenthood. Birth parents may find themselves being grandparents without ever having raised a child.