Long-suffering is not passive, rather it is a tough, active, aggressive style of life. Agape' is the love modeled by God in His relations with sinners, the love that drove Jesus to die on the cross in our place to pay the penalty for our sins. Agape love is the liberating power that moves us toward our neighbor with no demand for reward. Kindness is a power. The energy to affect persons outside us is a personal power.
Personal power can be exploitive when it depends on the weakness of others.
We can enhance our power, destructively, by discovering, probing, and then exploiting another's weakness. Our own power can depend on the strength of others in a collegial way. We enhance our power by bracing, challenging, or stimulating another's strength. Jealousy is aimed at someone who threatens us, threatens to take away someone we love. God Himself is a model of jealousy.