If I gave in to my sympathy, I might fall for that. I know there are hundreds of thousands of children who are parented by the state for lack of other alternati ves. I know that minority children are likely to spend twice as long in state care as their Caucasian counterparts and I know that to live in a society where ra cism prevails has devastating consequences, not only for the individual but for the society. It breaks my heart, but I also know that more adoptions don't guarantee stronger families. More adoptions don't even guarantee loving parents or healthy homes.
More adoptions do guarantee less spending, but the issue of adoption is tender.
The children are hurting. It will temporarily cause the problem to appear as i f it has subsided. The reality is that it will be waiting, lurking in the closet. It will continue to shame and dismay us. The real tragedy is that the children will continue hurting until we stop making decisions based on what could be and begin to make the difficult choices that a rise from accepting the reality of our position as a base to build from.