Wherever we experience a boundary, we must break it, or at least fantasize its breaking. To experience oneself as cut off from the rest of humanity, from the Divine through one s sinning, is one of the crucial experiences of coming to know oneself as individual . That is, separate and apart from others. When a marriage becomes troubled, and they all do, the primary malady is the sense of loss of individuality of the partners. My spouse becomes a two-dimensional image walking around on a featureless landscape of nothingness.
Nothing is happening anymore, nothing takes place, there is no tension, no dialogue.
We are governed and bound by a set of rules that imprison us with people we no longer know, understand, feel anything for. To be free, I must break the rules. The defining rule of marriage of course is sexual fidelity, and thus that is the rule that is sacrificed in the person s lust to experience himself as himself . It is not with too much difficulty that I assert my belief that the purpose of sin is to break oneself loose from all that is so that we may return to it refreshed and renewed from our skirmishes in the Underworld. Sin is the means by which Shadow is brought into the land of the living.