When we are able to make it through this phase and proceed to resolve our differences and we will do this again and again in a long term relationship we will have the opportunity to grow closer to one another. The disappointments of the second phase can be balanced by the original promises you made to one another in the beginning and can be reintroduced when you are resolving your problems. We move out of the second stage by a variety of means. Some of us feel it is necessary to argue, some need to place blame and others need some time alone. Nice words, respectable gestures, smiles, gentle touches, presents or just a pleasant conversation in the evening can put an end to the feelings of being unappreciated or isolated.
Some problems are painful and some people choose to throw in the towel without further discussion.
Others are scared to try resolving the problem out of fear that when they confront it they may be forced to breakup. Therefore, they remain in a state of apathy for long periods of time. Others are strong enough to sincerely apologize, and if the trust is there, they earnestly move towards turning this fallacy into a strength. This dilemma has now become part of their power base as a unit. Resolution can be a renewal of passions.