Statistical and research information providing background to a range of issues discussed at the Forum. Men believe that commitment is important and that it is too easy to leave relationships. Contrary to popular belief, men were willing to talk about their relationships, especially within a group of men with similar backgrounds. This was true of men across all social and economic groups. The qualities men, across the board, sought in a relationship were communication, trust, honesty, compatibility, flexibility and compromise, love and sex, spending time together while at the same time maintaining some independence, mutual respect, support, understanding and shared values and goals.
Men have different, pragmatic approaches to communicating about and solving relationship issues.
Research shows that men have significant unresolved problems related to relationship and family breakdown as long as 10 years after separation. The same research supports the theory that the impact upon men of separation and divorce is at its peak at time of separation, and recommends that services for men be readily available at that time. A major problem for men going through separation is the ability to concentrate on work. Jordan suggests that an availability of helping services at or near work places would be beneficial as well as creating a greater awareness and understanding by employers, industry and managers of the effects of separation on men. The importance of fatherhood for men cannot be underestimated.