While each of these situations is different, they are similar in that the children are all involved in various forms of sexual play. Observing elements of sexuality in children's play often causes parents and providers to feel uncomfortable. On the one hand, we are told that it is normal for children to act this way at certain ages. It is also a way to indicate to the adults around them that they would like more information on the topic. On the other hand, we worry about whether the behavior of the children is, indeed, normal and how we should respond to it.
Masturbation is of special concern to parents and providers.
Determining whether a behavior is right or wrong requires an ethical decision - one based on the moral or religious values of the family. Thus, although parents should not be alarmed if their children occasionally masturbate, some parents will feel it is acceptable under some circumstances, while others will believe it is wrong, and should be strongly discouraged. When asked how they would handle the situation if it occurred with their child, the 1400 parents in the above study had a variety of responses. Three percent said they would allow it. The remainder of parents indicated they would tell the child to stop, that it was harmful, or they would punish the child.