The loss of a baby through stillbirth can be overwhelming and devastating. Although surprising to some, the stillbirth of a baby is a great loss, as great as that of an older child or any loved one. When stillbirth occurs, parents who were anxiously awaiting a baby suddenly are not. You may feel a strong sense of sadness, anger, or maybe bitterness at the unfairness of this tragedy. You may experience feelings of loneliness and longing, helplessness, or, because of the intensity of your emotions, confusion.
Many parents also feel guilt.
These intense emotions are real and a normal part of grieving. Grieving is a process of making meaning out of your loss and of life without your baby. Grieving is not easy. It is long, unpredictable, and requires a lot of energy. But you need time to grieve since grieving is necessary to work through pain toward healing.