People thought that gays were more likely to commit horrible crimes, or commit suicide. Homosexuals did little to combat these myths, because their fears usually kept them isolated from each other. The movement gradually became larger and more aggressive. The Stonewall riots in 1969 helped inspire gays to go public and fight discrimination. Gays and lesbians learned that being open about their relationships encouraged society to treat them as equals.
People fear the unknown, but learn to accept what they see every day.
Today, in much of North America and Europe, there is no reason for a gay person to live in a closet of shame. The mailing list has only had a few hundred participants over its two-year lifespan so far. But the list members have not just found support for our dating problems. We have also formed individual and group identities as incels. We have gotten the courage to talk to our friends about celibacy, and create more websites.