I would be in a lot of trouble, and my guess is that many of you would be too. This is the question we must answer daily. If we can know that we are seeking the Lord and the best for another person, we will cause that person no pain. I have said this before, though some have disagreed with me. If you do know someone who does, be assured this is a great minority.
Most people intend to do good.
I think that maybe the greatest cause of pain is words. The person who says that is crying inside. As adults we know how untrue this little ditty is and how it troubles the mind, hurts the heart, and breaks the spirit. The Bible gives so much encouragement for us to tame the tongue, to bridal it, to learn to control it. Yet, I have watched and listened very carefully to those people in their homes and with their families.