Abused One of the best ways to tell if you are being abused is to trust your gut. This is a difficult task, if your abuser has managed to make you doubt your own sanity, but it is vital to your survival and healing. Certainly, if they are physically abusing you, there will be bruises, bloodied noses, cuts, and other injuries to indicate what's going on. Remember that assaulting and battering someone is a criminal offense, and you don't deserve it no matter how old or young you are, how mad the person became, or whether you were having a heated argument with them beforehand.
Nobody has the right to batter anyone else, ever.
A sorry excuse for aggressive masculine behavior, if ever I heard one. No, they're just scared and believe they deserve it. Abuse knows no prejudice. Hey, nuns have been raped. You have been sexually abused when a person touches you or makes you do things sexually that you are not comfortable with him or her doing.