Foreplay and arousal. Spend time and energy on foreplay. This is an excellent time to explore each other's bodies, to tease and to tantalize. And getting steamed up and turned on will send you hurtling towards orgasmic bliss. Develop an awareness of the physical changes that occur when you are very aroused.
Men experience a strong erection.
If you need the extra help of some water-based lubricant, go for it. Tell or guide your partner around your body. Don't worry about losing control or composure. QueenDom's survey showed that your partner loves it when you get lost in that groove, when you can't stop boogying to the beat of your lover's drum. So make faces, make noise, and lose yourself in the moment.