This actually tends to promote the failure of the twelve step program for the very reasons explained above, in that it allows the individual to not feel responsible for the conduct of said individual. It has been shown that the most successful drug resistance programs for young people are those programs which concentrate on promoting self esteem. Thus, the healing process will occur when the individual takes responsibility for the acts and omissions of said individual, and sees the duty and responsibility to not harm oneself or others as the motivation for acting and omitting to act in the fashion demanded by society, and by acting in a responsible manner, promotes and reinforces the defenses of said individual against wrongful conduct by promoting and reinforcing that individual's self esteem. The Rules of Proportional Response There are many kinds of conduct which are proscribed by society. Some conduct is merely impolite.
Some conduct goes beyond impolite and becomes annoying.
Some conduct inflicts minor to major harm upon property of an individual. Some conduct inflicts minor to major harm upon a single individual. Some conduct inflicts minor to major harm upon a group of individuals, which group may vary in size from two individuals to a very large number of individuals. It is wrongful in the extreme to inflict great harm in response to a merely impolite word or phrase. Each individual should always first contemplate the level of the offense before there is any contemplation of an appropriate response.