And, since my late husband did not love me completely, he didn't love me at all, and that proves that I am bad. If I am not regularly capable of having orgasms during intercourse, as I must be, I am not a woman and that means I am unlovable. I am a hopeless weakling. To help Ms. P give up these self-deprecating ideas, I first used an REBT approach. I showed her that her irrational Beliefs about needing competency, love, and freedom from panic, were unrealistic, illogical, and self-destructive.
Most people tend to believe several irrational ideas.
They hold to these ideas with dreadful results in terms of their emotions and behaviors. As far as I have been able to determine, these beliefs are usually forms of absolutism. They consist of unqualified demands and needs, instead of preferences or desires. Consequently, they are unrealistic and self-defeating.