Possibly you know a friend that could also sit in on the discussion. Only you can determine this. Stan and I have been doing this so long, it just comes naturally. Conversation also affords you opportunity to build community in your neighborhood and within your extended family. The ultimate decision to continue or start sharing this information is yours.
Pastors are people too.
Many of us forget that. They can be subject to denial and fears like everyone else. Churches are supposed to help us, guide us and in the best scenarios, lead us to viable solutions in every day life as well as in unusual circumstances. If your church or your pastor is not willing to look at these issues and leaves you spiritually unsupported, perhaps it is time to find a new group with whom to fellowship. If he still expresses no desire or interest to lead and support in these areas, ask why this is so.