Maybe our client has a certain capacity for drama in her life, and she had that capacity filled with domestic fights, accidents, and illnesses. We work with her and clear the reasons for having fights, accidents and illnesses. At first glance, that is great. We have relieved her of some unwanted elements of her life. But what might not be apparent is that they actually served a purpose of providing some action in her life.
People tend to inherently prefer something to nothing.
If we deplete a resource, we must replenish it. If the person has capacity for action, we can't just come along and take away all the action. If we do take away some undesirable action, we better well replace it with some desirable action. We better steer her in the direction of doing something she wants, which has a similar action level as what she didn't want. The best processes are balanced in themselves.