On the other hand, false memories of abuse are sometimes developed. This is discussed in greater length in chapter 15. Unconsciously motivated interactions . Anger and guilt . Depression is often associated with, maybe even concealed by, other emotions, especially anger and guilt.
Research reveals that anger with the spouse is often the true source of depression.
Therefore, the other emotions may have to be dealt with before the sadness shows itself clearly. Then the depression can be deconditioned, attacked cognitively, or understood through insight. Venting might help. In some cases, for instance with shame, it may be necessary to uncover the original early childhood pain that made us feel inadequate. Then you can nurture the hurt, fragile inner child and build your self-esteem using more rational and mature methods.