I talked to him and let him know that I wouldn't stand for being taken advantage of nor would I tolerate him being a jerk to me. Looking for some help. Dear Looking for some help, The worst pain in the butt is a guy who runs hot and cold. You feel a bond with this guy because he told you so many intimate things about himself. Self-disclosure makes you feel close.
Some guys pull away the minute they get too close.
I've forgotten what was in the book, but the title perfectly captures these kind of guys. The danger here is that you might be tempted to chase after Joe, which will only make him pull away further. You did exactly the right thing by telling him you won't put up with that kind of behavior. Stick to your guns. Dear Dr. Tracy, I am a 29 year old female and have had my share of negative relationships in the past.