We have a pattern of doing things at home. We emphasize following the rules. Parents change their minds often on rules and activities. Everyone has an equal contribution to make in family discussions. Children can do whatever we want.
Rules are flexible to the point of being inconsistent.
Parents frequently read to the children and themselves read where children can see them. Parents often tell about successes they have had in school. When family members accomplish something they are recognized and praised. Parents often help children with their school assignments. Parents say that they are dumb or that they failed in school.