But people need to realize that just one incident in a child's or adolescent or even as an adult's life can scar them for a life time if they do not get help. It leaves a wound that can become infected and before you know it its a gapping hole oozing with anger, bitterness, shame, guilt, promiscuity, perfectionism, negativeness, hatred, insomnia, suicidal tendencies, addictions, compulsive behaviors, distrust, eating disorders and the list can go on and it does. This is not to say you will find all these things in an abused person's life but you will find a combination of them. In the mist of all this there is hope, there is life. You may not see them as good things because all your life you have been convinced you can't do anything right, but that's not true its a lie.
Perception is the biggest obstacle a survivor has to overcome.
Looking back at the abuse one tends to look at it as an adult not as a child. This may minimize the importance of the incident. And at the same time they are still thinking as a child. Its all my fault. I should have told, I should have stopped it, I shouldn't have allowed it to continue.