Plug yourself in. Most people think that they are being blind sided by life, almost continually. They wake up one day, and everything seems to have changed, and they assume that there is nothing they can do, or could have done, that would have made a difference. In truth, there are very few accidents. Well sure, there are true accidents.
Planes fall from the sky, people get sick, tragedies occur.
Some of life, a very small percentage, is unpredictable. Mostly, though, life unfolds rather predictably. Most people think it's all genetics and chance. For example, many of us form relationships based on what we don't want. We make decisions based upon settling for the way things are.