Some of Doyle's ideas have the imprint of sanity. Being the commanding, demanding warrior goddess may work in the office, she argues, but you should leave her there and treat your husband like a friend and grownup. There is a lot to be said for apologizing, for walking away rather than escalating an argument. And Doyle, like many therapists, urges women to do nice things for themselves and build on their interests and friendships outside of marriage. But some of Doyle's ideas seem demeaning and questionable.
Men are to be given the finances, regardless of who in the relationship is better with money.
Wives are to request a weekly or monthly cash stipend. Even if men make some early bad decisions, she argues, they will learn quickly, and wives will find them generous. True intimacy comes from being able to express your true thoughts and feelings. But Doyle counters that her book is not hard doctrine or meant for everyone. If your behavior is extreme, and you're being pushed to the other extreme, you're likely to end up in the middle.