Wisely a woman prefers to a lover a man who neglects her. This one may love her some day, some day the lover may not. Others honestly admit nice men turn them off.
Most women say they want sensitivity, a sense of humor, intelligence, etc.
But men know that if they are not virile or rich or famous or have status in the community or in some other way make women feel some sense of security, of not having to worry because the man is somehow in control of the environment, then all the sensitivity in the world won't do them any good. Since relatively few men are virile, rich or famous, the men to whom women are generally most available, and whom they marry and recycle by divorce most, are those who are most adept at manipulating women. Not surprisingly, pop-feminists are not about to blame women. This is a sexist double standard.