It goes beyond that. But we must make the journey through the heart in order to get there. Sandy Hore-Ruthven, UK is this parenting For me, to be a man is to be fully human. It is to get to a point of accepting myself physically, mentally, spiritually and emotionally. It is terrifying to live this way, and I'm not very good at it, but it is honest and alive.
Men are sexual beings.
Confusion arises when we have to pretend that we are not. As a result we have to learn about our sexuality behind the barn or by peeking in books, rather than having confident men, comfortable enough in themselves to teach their sons honestly. I am not a man who can put my sexual self somewhere and pretend it doesn't exist. By acknowledging and truly loving that aspect of myself I am a more balanced, happy individual. If I deny some aspect of myself, it will come out in ugly, unwanted ways.