Accept your body as it is and breathe from the tan t'ien in order to regain balance and be centered. Tai Chi does exactly this. It helps you get in touch with your body, your potential, and who you really are without all the labels. Dr. Stephen T Chang, author of The Integral Management of Tao , says, One hundred percent perfection does not exist in the real world. The best one can do is hope to come close to it.
Perfection is either in the past or in the future or in the dream world.
Nothing, for example, is absolutely good or bad. Therefore tolerance is a necessary strategy. The opposite of acceptance and validation is judgment and denial, which make us tense up, lose our center, criticize ourselves and others, and hold impossible standards for everyone. When we are being judgmental, we invalidate ourselves and others. We deny what we feel, tell others what they feel or should feel, and consciously or unconsciously try to make others feel small and inadequate.