Let parents know what is normal rules for adolescents. Use a reflective team. This can be the client's peers, not just other professionals. Have them write letter to teacher telling them client is to notice five things they like about the teacher this week. Write down solutions to problems.
Ordeals Offer a ritual more difficult to do than the positive behavior hoped for.
The magic of individual time. Individual time is expected by the child and the parent. Parents assume there is something that happens when they are not present that will make things better. Use time to further join with child. Storytelling make it a metaphor similar to client's problem offer solution in story.