He should not once think of how he is going to appear to others, or what he must say. He must enter a room quietly, and as if there were not another occupant. There is no doubt that to a certain extent first impressions are lasting. And that is another strong plea for their being of an agreeable character. Manners impress as they indicate real power.
Nature forever puts a premium on reality.
The shyness of some people arises from a fear that they may be thought inferior to those with whom they are associated. Only he is superior who is so by grandeur of character, noble deeds and lofty impulses. And some again decline to make an effort to be polite and deferential lest they may be deemed servile. There is no servility in courtesy. Some strong, self-contained natures may set at defiance some minor social laws, but such natures would possess still greater influence, did they add the charm of good manners to their other good qualities.