Preteens need guidance and support. It is important to allow them to make independent choices whenever possible. When a free choice is not possible, viable alternatives and their consequences should be considered. With independence or individuality comes self-responsibility. Preteens must associate the right to do something with responsible behavior on their part.
Some parents withdraw the hugs, kisses and strokes as their child grows.
Some preteens are uncomfortable with these public displays. Preteens still need to be shown your love and affection. Appropriate non-public hugs and kisses are rarely rejected. If you have established this pattern from infancy on, it will continue throughout the preteen and adolescent years. This newsletter is published for North Dakota families with sixth-graders by the NDSU Extension Service and distributed through your county extension office.