If you will look at the root of your life's problems, in every instance you will see that you created it. You made a decision, and as a result you now have this problem. Once you can honestly accept some of the responsibility for your problems, you will find that you have diffused your anger. You can't blame others any longer. You can now be free from victimitis and self-pity.
Problems are always complex.
Understanding that will clarify the confusion. Break down your big problem into several smaller problems. For instance, if you are unemployed, that is the big problem that you are facing. It feels overwhelming and confusing. However, once you have broken it down into smaller problems, then you can handle the smaller options one at a time.