Because there are no 'right' or 'wrong' answers but only personal choices made with the other family members involved, we often are often left feeling defensive. In addition, many of us also have people in our lives who are very judgmental and vocal about the decisions we have made. So it's very easy to take posts written by others who make different choices personally even if though they are not intended that way. And sometimes we state our own positions too strongly because we are used to having to defend them in other contexts. Here are some guidelines to keep in mind.
Most people mean well and want to give and receive support.
If someone has said something that appears to be negative or meant as a criticism of you, reread it or ask the person about it privately. Maybe you have misunderstood. Welcome new people to the chat rooms, clubs or lists. If you are new, introduce yourself. The other people in the chat room may also be new.