However, even pillars need some maintenance at times, and that is why I believe it is extremely important for supporters of survivors to take care of themselves too. One way I find to do so is by participating in a concerned others support group. Support groups can be extremely healthy and somewhat challenging, not only for the survivor, but for the concerned other and his or her own emotional well being as well. Meeting with others and sharing some of the same challenges of living with a survivor can give you the opportunity and time to vent out what is going on with you. It also provides you the opportunity to meet with others who are dealing with the same kinds of experiences and stressors that you are going through, and allows you to realize that you are not alone in the struggle.
Support groups can also be a place to share and learn from one another.
Many of us never had any formal training in the wonderful world of psychology, particularly on the subject of severe childhood sexual abuse. Yet it has crash-landed on top of us, often with little or no warning. Fear not, help is available if you just continue to look for it. I can't stress enough the importance of support groups for supporters of survivors. It gives you the support and time to talk about yourself and your experiences with the survivor, and by doing such, can make you that much stronger for the survivor.