He invites people to trust him but underneath the seemingly innocuous facade is the 'con-artist' who seeks out those who are naive and trusting and is ruthless in relationships. The internal world of fantasy is a defence against the pain and anguish of reality and is avoided at all costs because it is cold and harsh. These people rarely take responsibility for themselves so are unable to form a therapeutic relationship. Also, they have a very loose relationship with the truth distorting it to suit themselves whenever they are threatened. Martyr Suffering is glorified by the martyr.
Personal identity is the pain which is never in the past but always in the present.
These people want care and support and will exploit others in order to get this. This is a covert way of controlling other people. This is the virtuous one who takes the 'high moral ground' in relationships. Their presentation to the world is that of virtuousity and these people appear to be kind and considerate. They try too hard in relationships and may be a result of being a parentified child in a dysfunctional family.