From further experience in healing anger, I think this strong emotion hides in the shadow of fear and hurt and a whole layer of self-pity. I find in working with others and myself that the fear manifests quite often from denied shames of the past. Thus those enlightened Navajos recognized how important it was to heal the shame, fear, and hurt of the past. Too many activities, too much to perform. The youth could never live up to the parents expectations.
Many intuitive children know what they are hearing makes no sense.
Worse yet, if there is physical punishment, or emotional abuse in passive behavior from the parent, the child feels abandoned. The child feels something is very wrong with them. No wonder the anger gets so locked in. One paradox I felt over my sister s death was her conflict over her choice to live or die. I logically understood her choice.