In turn, you'll start getting angry and the vicious cycle to no man's land begins. It's up to you to be a better listener. Being a good listener won't just make a huge difference in your relationship and sex life, but in every single aspect of your life that involves interaction with others. In order to begin this process, we men need to destroy the barriers we put up. Understanding is not the same as agreeing You don't have to agree with your partner, just listen and try to understand.
People are usually more receptive to working things out and comprising when they feel understood.
If you need to be judgmental, be diplomatic about it. There is such a thing as positive, constructive criticism. Don't try to fix things all the time Men are under the misconception that they need to provide all the answers in a relationship. Make sure your partner is involved in many decision-making opportunities, as she will feel more needed and special. Always give her your full attention.