A non-abusive person remedies these situations, learns from them and does not exploit them in a repetitive pattern to get his or her needs met at the detriment or harm of the other person. Types of abuse Physical Abuse violates a person's personal physical space or property and represents a misuse of physical strength or aggression. Abusers have trouble accepting responsibility for their actions and will blame the other person for their rages, temper tantrums and violence. You may be less than perfect but you do not merit abuse. It is the other person's responsibility to control their own behavior whatever the circumstances may be.
Most abusers are emotionally dependant people.
When a need is not met or circumstances are not favorable the abuser becomes upset and tries to control the person and the circumstances. One can only get upset when something matters or when something is cared about greatly or when something important to that person is at stake. Mature people are able to shrug off uunfavorable circumstances and rely on themselves for their basic needs and do not have all their happiness wrapped up things external to themselves. Abusers need to control the world and the people around them in order to feel okay as they do not have enough self reliance or independance and autonomy to get by on their own. Other abusers have a personality disorder such that he or she is unable to see the world through the other person's eyes.