In short, it was okay to have feelings with men and for men. Many men have discovered that recognizing a fuller range of emotions not only doesn't diminish their power and stature but increases and reforms these qualities. Many of us have discovered that by confronting our own inner demons we have uncovered an unanticipated strength and power. They begin to appear to be at best, possible means, to a more meaningful end. Fortunately the same programs that led men to pose basic questions were able to suggest some general answers.
Men like to be useful.
Men like to be needed. We like to fix things. Material things, whether earned, fixed, or purchased are a measuring stick. Now a new measure arose. It implies our connection to all of life.