She sleeps with your lawyer. She jacks up the child support and spends the money on herself. The anger divorced men feel is palpable. And justly so. The estimated 42 percent of men who fade out of their children's lives after a divorce are in pain.
Some men are egalitarian enough to shift the focus to themselves.
He nobly gave his son up so the boy could be adopted by his stepfather. My therapist's ex-husband told her that it was too painful for him to see their child every other week. She volunteered this information to me when I was sitting on her couch, seeking ways to maintain contact with my own son in the midst of a bitter breakup. Despite her suggestions, I did not want to join the pack of fathers slouching toward invisibility. Actually, I was already invisible as a father to everyone but my son, Jordan.