Some people have a real gift for intimacy, while others find it very difficult.
Even those of us who aren't natural-born relationship experts can cultivate our skills with some practice. To do this, we have to break through the fast and superficial moments of life. One of my good friends disrupts the rush of daily life by writing little 12 or 15-word notes and giving them to other people. These notes break into someone's day and show that he's thinking, caring, and reaching out to them. Like my friend, we all need to practice ways of extending ourselves and communicating more deeply with other people.