If your relative or friend is unable to converse, you can listen to music together, burn scented candles or oils, gently comb or brush their hair, gently massage hands, back or feet. Talk to your relative in a gentle, caring voice. Hold hands gently or just sit with your arm around their shoulder. Keep a family diary or visitor s book in the person s room. Notes can be written by visitors, providing a social record for the person who may be unable to tell family members who has visited.
Visitors can leave messages for each other or record important observations.
Such a diary may serve to help conversation as well as provide information for staff in their communication with the resident. At the End of Your Visit Parting can be a difficult time. Let staff know when you are planning to leave so that they can be there to assist. You may need to mention this again during the visit. You could also time your departure to coincide with an activity or meal, thus making parting easier.