On the other hand, there are those people who should be discouraged from talking. There are those who do nothing but talk about their hurts. They hug them close like little teddy bears. It has come to be their primary way of gaining some kind of significance and importance. If their wounds were healed, they would not be able to endure the emptiness they feel in its place, and they are not ready to replace it with something really good.
Some people seem always to be in one crisis or another.
If they don t have a natural crisis, somehow they manage to create one. With these kinds of people, I discourage talking. I somehow end up with a feeling of having had garbage slung at me. They don t need to rehash their pain again and again. It is an easy and natural thing for a biblical counselor to immediately start bringing in the Word.