If something bothers us we must speak up immediately so that everything can be cleared up. It is a good policy to settle all arguments before you go to sleep each night, and leave over no resentment or misunderstanding for the next day. If necessary, a rabbi or counselor can be called to hear both sides and help resolve the dispute. The important thing to remember is that most people argue about minor things and forget the real reason for their marriage. For example, they might argue about how much money should be spent and what should be bought.
Marriage is to have children, to show kindness towards one another and to have a companion in life.
These are the real reasons for marriage. Putting arguments into perspective by looking at the larger picture can often help. A person must also learn to give in and not be stubborn. Even if in reality it is not that way, it is better to accept the blame than to continue an argument that causes disruption. People fight about every little thing, hardly realizing that they are making a mountain of a molehill.