She feels totally justified acting the way she does, as odd as that sounds. She loves having power over you. She knows how much you're hurting. She just doesn't care. She only wanted a constant power struggle, senseless drama, to manipulate me by telling me things every person waits their whole life to hear from someone else to win my trust, then abusing that trust.
Some people really LOVE having power over others.
So whoever yells loudest, wins. Love is only a game for those who fear it. It's time to nurture J for once. We're your fans. She does not want to understand, does not understand, and you have to stop trying to convince an illogical person with a logical argument.