However, I am on a journey of personal discovery in this area. So I'd like to share with you some of the things I'm discovering along the way. From all of the research I've done, from talking to friends, and from my own personal experience, it appears that both sexes are actually just as shy when it comes to speaking up about what they'd like to do in bed. Women, though, have a tougher time, in general, shutting off their brains and relaxing into the moment.
Women have brains that tend to think about more than one thing at a time.
Men are better at focusing on one thing-which makes enjoying sex easier for them. I believe this is an area where it would be a good idea for men to learn to have compassion for their female lovers. Women need to learn to have compassion for you, too. I have two reasons why compassion is merited. First, men are pretty sure of experiencing an orgasm from a sexual encounter, whereas women are not.