Sometimes worrying about having an orgasm can inhibit a woman's response. Sometimes an orgasm comes more easily when a woman stops striving for one. If your wife blames herself, she may be suffering from false guilt. Repent and accept God's forgiveness. You might also check out your expectations.
Many men expect their wives to resemble the women they see in the media.
Our marriage reached the crisis point when my wife started having cybersex relationships on the Internet, and even some phone sex, with several men. She says she wouldn't have an actual affair, but she refuses to stop these improper activities, and she refuses to go to counseling. She says she's staying in our marriage for the kids. Your wife's behavior indicates she has a serious sexual addiction. Since she is unwilling to seek professional help, you have two options.