As for bathhouses, I went to one once, about 10 years ago. It just wasn't my style. However, a bakery would be lovely. I don't mean to suggest that queers are the only liars in the world. It's just that oppression gives us a lot of practice.
Queer duplicity is so entrenched that there's actually a translatable linguistic code.
If gay men say they don't like promiscuous sex, then you'll find them in the parks or the toilets. If they say they don't like the bars, then you'll find them in the baths. And if they say they don't like the baths, then you'll find them just about anywhere. Well, then I guess they're just overfed, hypocritical gay city councillors, hanging out at the public trough. Pink Panther appears every other week.