It is important to recognize each child's special qualities. Children need to know they are important because of who they are, not just because of their performance or hard work. They need unconditional acceptance to feel truly loved and secure about themselves. When transferring assets to a child to help them get started, interject the idea that it is because you know they can handle them. It takes an active, consistent commitment to do everything possible to help children be successful.
Many parents pray for their children.
Parents need to spend time with their children to learn their real desires, needs, goals, hopes, and fears. They should participate in activities the children are interested in. We are not talking about individual incidents where parents punished or tried to modify children's behavior they objected to. Parents have a right, if not a responsibility, to discourage such behavior. Here we are talking about long-term repeated denial of one or more elements of affirmation.