But Pam is plenty busy, thank you very much. She's actively involved with her children's activities and their schools. And there's no question that Pam does most of the household chores, say both Pam and Steve. My husband used to do his own laundry and he doesn't anymore. But this is how we've divvied things up.
Weekends are a different story.
Both parents say Steve is a very involved and devoted father, both by choice and demand. Their special needs family requires a little extra attention - their son is physically handicapped, and their youngest daughter is adopted from Korea. You get so much back. Steve says part of the reason he is able to be so involved with his kids is because Pam stays home and picks up the slack of whatever needs to be done. Locally, most of our friends, the wives don't work.