Fucking is entirely a male act designed to affirm the reality and power of the phallus, of masculinity. For women, the pleasure in being fucked is the masochistic pleasure of experiencing self-negation. Trained from birth to conform to the requirements of this peculiar world view, punished severely when we do not learn masochistic submission well enough, entirely encapsulated inside the boundaries of the male-positive system, few women ever experience themselves as real in and of themselves. Instead, women are real to themselves to the degree that they identify with and attach themselves to the positivity of males. In saying this, I do not mean to suggest that reality is either whimsical or accidental.
Reality is whatever premises social and cultural institutions are built on.
Reality is enforced by those whom it serves so that it appears to be self-evident. Reality is self-perpetuating, in that the cultural and social institutions built on its premises also embody and enforce those premises. Truth, on the other hand, is not nearly so accessible as reality. When they did, the human notion of reality had to change in fundamental ways to accommodate the truth of radium. We might say that truth does exist, and that it is the human project to find it so that reality can be based on it.