One day at a time. It is possible to maintain ability to cope in the here and now. One is respnsible for recovery only today, or even for just one hour at a time. Preoccupation with the past or future eleicits negative thought patterns. Easy does it.
Recovery is a slow, lifelong process.
This remind the survivor to be tolerant and respectful of the natural courses of change. Be gentle with yourself. Non-revictimizing coping requires relaxation, rest, fun, and balance in the overall lifestyle. First things first. Survivors will try to do everything at once.