Do not underestimate these things in daily life.
Many women do force their daughters to repeat their lives out of jealousy, resentment, envy.
Ordinary lives are ruined by the inability to take confrontation of any kind. Interesting too is that the mother is allowed to read Clary's letters with Lovelace. I agree Lovelace's letter-writing ability is a plus for him, as his kindness to his tenants, and other generosities the avaricious Harlowes are incapable of. These letters though show Lovelace is threatening Clary with a proposed duel, while the pieces from the letters we are permitted to see suggest that if Clary did marry him she might allow herself to be bullied by her husband as her mother before her. The Deepening Struggle Between the Mother and Daughter Home Contact Ellen Moody.