Doing everything for someone reinforces helplessness. Each time you do something for someone that they could have done for themselves, you deny them an opportunity to maintain their dignity and feel good about themselves. Eventually, they lose the skills and desire to do anything for themselves. Empower independence as much as possible.
People respond to expectations.
If you expect someone to dress himself, care for his plants, or prepare simple meals, he often will perform as expected. Limit your availability . If you are not always there to help, the person will be forced to do more for himself. Divide complex tasks into steps. Make it easy .