When people marry, they are supposed to share life, bills, and the good and the bad, in sickness and in health. They're supposed to support each other. That means if one makes more money, he or she contributes more, and helps the other one. A good marriage is like a partnership. Each person deserves equal respect.
Nobody gets to control the other one.
Just because he's your husband doesn't mean he gets to make all your decisions. You are being abused in this relationship, and you need to plan your escape carefully so that he doesn't get violent. There are several books about how to divorce and be smart about it. Then start making your plans. It will probably take six months of planning.