Well, as a homeschooler, if I didn't want other people telling me how to live, I darn well better give up telling them how to live. So I began to respect other people's private decisions to a far greater degree than I had before. Now, when the actions of other people are not hurting me or mine, I endeavor to stand back a pace and let them be. I'm not saying I gave up being opinionated about other people. Making moral judgments is an essential part of personal and community life.
Morality is the code that actually makes society work.
We must all be unafraid to engage in the exchange of moral messages. It is wrong, just plain wrong, to give moral prescriptions the force of law and to use government authority to enforce them. Conservatives have their own equally lengthy list of laws they are just itching to enact. Both sides are guilty of using government to control people's private lives. Pick one and you choose your poison.