The Pope's new encyclical, which you have read, rejects situation ethics. The new Catechism of the Catholic Church also rejects situation ethics in nos. With you, I am sure, I protest the slander the youth minister uttered against our priests. I protest also his patronizing a black woman, seeming to suggest that such a person is a hopeless case, unable to understand or practice natural family planning, unable to receive God's grace of conversion. We have to pray.
Prayer is our firs weapon.
This can sometimes be done best in a personal letter to him. Then go to Matt. Bring the offense to the attention of the pastor, and if necessary, the bishop. If you are put down or experience rudeness, keep cool and polite but firm. Ask our Lady's prayers before, during, after any interview or letter.