Pornography has a way of holding an ideal before the viewer that cannot be replicated in real life. It fuels frustration and undermines our ability to create loving and mutually satisfying relationships. During the times I have struggled most with pornography it led me to try to force my wife to do things she was not comfortable with. But when it is one partner imposing on the other it is a form of abuse. When, in addition, it is the pornography industry setting the tone it will inevitably lead further from loving relationship.
Pornography leads the viewer inwards to a life of fantasy and self-satisfaction.
It can lead away from an ability to connect with others. One wife saw me recently for counselling and complained that, ironically, her husband was so obsessed with pornography that he no longer wanted sex with her. The pornography and its interplay with his mind had become the central focus of his life. Relationships were becoming irrelevant. Many users of pornography like to tell themselves it will 'enhance' their love life with their partner.