I've been talking to several friends about their various experiences with love and sex and relationships, and the overwhelming impression I get is that everyone has agendas up the wazoo about it. Not that this is news, it's just so striking. And casual sex isn't casual at all, for sure.
People feel pressured to make a commitment, or eschew commitments, or get married by x date.
No one drifts along, taking what comes and enjoying it for what it offers at the time. My head spins from all the questions. I can only offer my own story. I met my beloved at age 26. We dated, and lived together, and then married at ages 32 and 34 respectively.