You've got to be kidding. Sometimes divorced spouses will balk at this, saying they can't think of anything they can trust. But if they share parenting at all, chances are they are already experimenting to see what they can count on. They see they are already willing to believe in a few things, so now they can identify others. Just as important is not to trust your ex-spouse in areas where you truly do not have confidence.
People speak of getting on with their lives.
Getting on with life happens as soon as you get back in tune with the larger patterns and enduring values which guide us over the long term. The splash drenched the man waiting to cross. Another person nearby was perplexed. I just know that if that poor devil should have some joy in his life he would have better to do than to drive through puddles and soak the likes of me. When people get on with their lives the troubles of the past seem to fade into the background.