One way to reassure children of visits is to make two identical calendars with the help of both parents with notes indicating visit dates. Then the children can keep one calendar and the absent parent the other. Parents can help the children learn to accept the fact that the parents are not going to live together again. It is normal that the children will feel grief about the separation of their parents. Children should be encouraged to express their feelings.
Parents can help the children share their feelings in appropriate ways.
Physical activities or hobbies may provide a way for children to release anger they have for one or both parents. Children may feel better if they are allowed to cry when they are sad. Parents should answer their children's questions honestly and not criticize them for asking. Notice when one of the children feels especially sad or angry. Take time to do things together.