It is a privilege. Neither of these behaviors are satisfying and build further resentment and hostility. When I react to another's behavior, they control me. There is nothing to prove. It's in the giving that we receive.
Problems are opportunities in disguise.
There is nothing to prove. I'm not my profession, nor am I my ego. I am a personalized, perfect child of God, just like you. Calm is not watching the world go by, but becoming involved from an inner knowing or strength, rather than getting caught up in the turmoil. Calm can be learned from many practices.