These are basic guidelines for initial dates. They may not be acceptable for everyone. However, they are designed to help you pass safely through the initial dating period, during which time you may be very vulnerable. Following these guidelines will help develop important skills that increase communication and give you time to look beyond physical attraction. Using the guidelines will help delay sexual activity until you know your partner better and are emotionally ready to develop a deeper relationship.
Many initial dates occur between two people because of physical attraction.
However, problems occur when individuals confuse physical attraction or infatuation with compatibility, trust and love. Being clear about plans for the date helps prevent confusion and the possibility of becoming involved in a compromising situation. Being expected back at work or in class gives built-in security. Suggestions are a lunch date or a situation where you can be social and talk. Other options could be going for a walk in the zoo or a botanical garden, or meeting for coffee and dessert.