You are like a mirror for your children. If you believe in your children's goodness and let them know it, they will look at you and feel good about themselves. Children do as you do, not as you say. If you want your children to obey rules, to solve their own problems, to control their anger, and to live in peace with others, then you must live that way, too. Set routines for bedtime, meals, and chores.
Routines help children feel safe, because they know what parents expect.
Young children have a hard time going from one activity to another. Warning them a few minutes ahead helps them get ready. You can have milk or juice, but you can't have soda. Remind them of your rules. Children need reminders.