We are now looking for someone to become a manager, who would handle the financial aspects of the business and the daily operations. I am a firm believer in incentive plans and am looking for someone who will be more commited than just an employee. I commend you for the way you handled this awkward situation. Just because your husband's skills match your business needs doesn't mean that it would be good for your marriage or the business for him to become your partner. Business partnership places enormous pressure on a marriage.
Married partners can run businesses successfully.
But when one partner participates under duress, it's a recipe for disaster. Your husband was wise to listen to his gut. First, it's your company, and you'd be his boss. Second, no matter how much in love two people are, they may not relish spending day and night together. Third, there's the risk of depending entirely on your business for your financial security.