Parents and kids pitted against one another. Opposing forces pulling in different directions. The trouble is that if you win by simply outmuscling your child, you still feel lousy. There's little pleasure in victory when your child is left distressed and angry. If you lose, it's even worse.
Power struggles are frustrating.
You don't have all day to negotiate. And power struggles make you angry. Power struggles can leave you feeling scared and helpless. And power struggles can make you sad. Screaming at your kids wasn't part of your dream.