I was offended. I was disgusted. So was my wife. Writers are free to write to please only themselves. Wise writers, writers who value the respect of their readers, do not do so.
Respect is a two-way street.
One must first demonstrate it in order to earn it in return. If gay men want to do something good for raising kids, let me suggest that the Girls Scouts of America is a far more appropriate organization for them than the Boy Scouts of America. If they are exclusively and unalterably gay, they are infinitely safer as chaperones to girls than to boys. Personally, especially depending upon the activity at issue, I would not want even married heterosexual males chaperoning Girl Scouts.