Elopement consists simply of the couple leaving together for a period of time. When they return they are chastised and sometimes pay a nominal fine. They usually are accepted as a married couple in time. T he family plays an active part in marriage formalities that, to non-Roma eyes, may seem lengthy and elaborate. First, there are prolonged discussions between the parents, particularly over the amount of the darro , or dowry.
Physical appearance is least important in selecting a bride.
The prospective brides are judged on their merits, such as health, stamina, strength, dispositions, manners, and domestic skills. The character of the girl's family, as well as their prestige in the community, is also taken into account. In these cases, no courtship is involved. It is possible that the prospective couple will hardly know each other before they marry. They will usually send a third, uninvolved person to hear out the girl's parents on the acceptability of the young man.