Schools should be organized on the principles of non-violence with rewards for appropriate behavior at every level. Students should be expected to treat all others as they want to be treated themselves. Parents should advocate for straightforward discipline codes which are implemented across the board. See that fairness is basic to all disciplinary action. Bullying should be challenged immediately and no form of hazing should be tolerated.
Many schools now teach conflict resolution or problem-solving skills.
Find out how these programs work so you can reinforce them and even use the terminology when appropriate in your home. If you work with your neighbors, you can establish safe places for children to play and for teenagers to meet. Follow your family's conflict resolution system to work out age-appropriate compromises. You may wish to ask your neighbors to tell you if your children cause problems. If you know about a situation you can help your child move on to more positive behavior.