This helps the child limit and control his or her actions. Of vital importance to the development of a child is the child's relationship with parents and caretakers. Every time a child renounces an aggressive wish toward the parent, it intensifies his or her sense of guilt. What also occurs during childhood is that as the child's relationships widen in the community and he or she develops ties to other people, the internal conflict between love and aggression becomes active. Q. The development of the individual and the development of civilization involve similar processes.
Restrictions are a normal part of child-rearing.
If the child were allowed limitless gratification, his or her progressive development toward autonomy within the social environment would be greatly compromised. Aggression is normally modified in the course of infant development through the child's love for his mother. The ability to reflect upon thoughts and feelings in oneself and others provides children with a fuller range of responses to their own and others' perceived aggression. External experiences of violence, abuse, and deprivation influence the child's experience of his own and others' aggression and prevent the child from normally modulating aggression in social settings. A. Psychoanalysis can give children an increased awareness of their feelings, a way to express their feelings, and help them understand the possible causes of their behavior.