Neither of you gets exactly what you want right then, but both get SOME of what you need eventually. Give and take. Give in to your mate's needs or the marriage's needs with the expressed understanding that your needs will be met in another way or on another occasion. To work through the conflict where both of you feel good about it and it does not become negative baggage that will continue to be carried around in the marriage. Not only are the above ways listed from least effective to most effective, they are also listed from the easiest to the most difficult.
People withdraw because it is the easiest thing to do.
They do not resolve issues because it is the most difficult thing to do. Here are some guidelines to resolving problems, based on the assumption that both mates want to resolve them and are both working on it. Identify your OWN contribution to the problem. Focus on your contribution, not on your mate's. 5. Listen to your mate's opinion.