Also, get a doctor's kit and role play. Have your child sit on a table, or sideways on your lap, and pretend to listen to her heart and lungs with the play stethoscope. As the ear exam is one of the touchiest, try to place extra emphasis on preparing your child for it. This can help desensitize your child to having her ears examined. She may also find comfort in bringing her doctor's kit with her on the next visit.
Older children can sometimes have a disproportionate fear of vaccines or shots.
Threats like this just make it that much harder for your child to be relaxed and cooperative at the pediatrician's office. If your child is less than about two years old, the doctor or nurse may have to perform the examination regardless. However, if your child is around three or older, you may ask the physician for some time to try to calm your child. The doctor can see another patient, then return and resume the visit with, we hope, your less anxious child.