At other times a direct comment is just the thing. Susan also appreciates her co-Leaders ability to help mothers take care of toddler situations, help preschoolers with snacks in the kitchen, or step in and make wonderful clarifying statements. Acceptance requires a co-Leader to put personal preferences aside and allow the Leader in charge of a meeting to choose the tone and structure that suit her. Effective communication requires co-Leaders to speak honestly and fairly as well as avoid conflicts or resolve those that arise. When Leaders fail to share information with each other, confusion, frustration and hurt feelings result.
Resolution is achieved when all Leaders can express their feelings and state their needs.
The most important thing is to be open and honest about your feelings, but in a nonthreatening way. A District Advisor, District Coordinator or Human Relations Enrichment Instructor can help Leaders find a way to present a problem to a co-Leader in a positive way. By concentrating on hearing the other person's feelings before sharing her own, the Leader will show that she cares and that she values her co-Leader's help in solving the problem. I feel dissatisfied with the way that turned out, and I'm hoping we can explore some alternatives. I understand that such and such seemed fine to you.