If they are not ready, they'll let you know. Nye suggests that even though old friends are important, it is equally important to find new friends that can identify with the issues that you are going through. Martin noted that divorce is always hard, especially for the children, but there are steps people can take to make it easier. Families on both sides need to realize that the parents need to set aside their differences for the kids. Unless there was abuse in the marriage or it is really impossible to be in the same room, try to remember your roles as co-parents have nothing to do with what happened in the marriage.
Martin advises against having two celebrations for kids of divorced parents.
Little children may enjoy double birthday and holiday celebrations at first, but it begins to feel fake as the years go on. Also, as the kids grow older and start relationships of their own, it gets complicated working around in-laws and both sides of the families. Remember the custodial parent is overwhelmed, maybe getting back into the work force and taking care of the kids by herself or himself. Ask how they are doing with the life changes. Nye stressed that family members and friends need to remember to be respectful about the parents in front of the kids.