Women are impressed by feeling, men by facts. Having a focus on facts is fine-but don't use them to dominate and bury the other person. Independence has it's place, especially when it comes to standing against unholy peer pressure. In the body a hand cannot afford to be independent of the rest of the body. Women connect by talking and men by doing.
Positive action is wonderful, but when it becomes aggressive it damages and destroys women.
Doing must follow understanding which comes through talking. Women like to co-operate, men love to compete. When you think in terms of the original plan of God that was expressed by the English words help and suitable . You will recall that suitable meant to provide balance. Balance and help are not welcome in a competitive atmosphere.