Green as I was then, I was too scared to say no, in case I offended. By the time the photographer left my house my neat and tidy rooms were cluttered with props and clothing. They used a photo I specifically asked they NOT use. The photographer at the time said that he would not. A lesson, here.
Nothing is off the record.
I prepare comments beforehand. And when the photographer suggests a shoot that I am not comfortable with I will gently say that I prefer not to do it that way. YOU are in charge. And this particular journalist used my real name and gave out the suburb where I lived and that I was a widow. I had some strange phone calls that persisted for a week.