Babe Ruth began his career as a pitcher for the Boston Red Sox. Ruth went on to revolutionize the game. All in the name of maintaining control. Well, as we are all aware, there are few situations that are more uncontrollable than life with a preemie. From start to finish, the whole experience just plays against a male's strong suit.
Preemies require nurturing, which many men are just plain incapable of.
Preemies require blind faith, while most men prefer to deal in cold hard facts. You may have to accept the fact that your spouse has to stay home with your child for medical reasons and that there are significant financial ramifications to this decision. As we all know, these are the sorts of situations a preemie parent faces every single day. And above all, don't resent the child for forcing these changes on you. You may feel like you are no longer in control, but it's very clear that your child isn't either.