It's a very muscular show. Well, as usually happens in Hollywood, the men are the head honchos and the women do the real work. Darren Star and Michael Patrick King are creator and executive producer. Society really puts too much pressure on men to perform. So men usually will only say 'She was good' or not.
Men only talk about sex in general terms.
Still, I am not defeated. If this is a peep show, there's as much fragility as cynicism on view. Carrie, forlorn and forgotten in the shower afterward, goopy mascara owl-ing her eyes. True, Ann Landers once wrote that women complain about sex more than men. I get it.