It is called simply the 'dialogue' process. A counselor trained in this process encourages a person experiencing unhappiness to be as specific as possible about the 'problem' and then continues to gently ask questions of that person, without prioritizing problem solving, and with non-judgmental acceptance of the answers. If they don't want it, they drop it and a new vision emerges. People are empowered to change by choosing to see the same old problems from a different perspective. Life changes are an easy, natural consequence of this process, which holds as a fundamental principle that happiness is not dependent on anything external.
Many people believe that if only they had more time, money, sex, power, youth etc.
Barry cites children as a great example of this, as they demonstrate an amazing power to turn their happiness switches on and off at will. Unhappiness limits our perception and clouds our vision. Happiness by comparison allows us to be relaxed and comfortable, which increases our clarity profoundly as we are able to stand flexible and unafraid. Interestingly enough, it was precisely the creation of this attitude that was employed as a primary tactic by Michael Thomas, the 'language master'. A famous linguistic teacher of film stars who could have anyone speaking a foreign language within just a few days.