We make lifestyle, financial, emotional and career choices by ourselves. We are accountable to ourselves. If we make a mistake we have to live with it. We are independent. That is our goal in life from the time we are babies.
Marriage is a doubles game.
In a doubles format, two players are paired together. Instead of depending on themselves to win this game, they have to depend on each other. All of the sudden though the goal is the same, how that goal is achieved is radically altered. In a marriage, two successful, independent individuals are suddenly accountable for and to each other. A career decision that a single person might have made must now be discussed with their spouse.