Occasionally, on a sleepy morning when it's still dark, he will reach for her. A girl might start out regarding intercourse as painful, but as she matures and learns about her own body, she discovers that sex can be pleasurable. If she marries and has children, she might find herself going without sex for weeks and hardly missing it. Yet as she matures, whether she remains single or marries, she will find that lovemaking gets better and better, that sexual passion is a kind of poetry, the closest she will ever come to heaven in this life. But in truth, sexual identity is incredibly plastic and changeable.
Many people go through developmental growth suprts in sex just as in other aspects of life.
When they're young, sex is often merely a release of tension, a discharge of energy. It can also hold an element of conquest for both men and women. To many women, losing their virginity, particularly if they are very young, can be a disillusioning rite of passage. I was in eleventh grade at Staples High. My boyfriend, Jerry, and I used to hang out with this other couple, Annie and Jeff.