If any good comes from your throw of the dice, it will surely be erased two times over by ill fortune. So keep the dice clutched tight. Like so many of the contributors here, Lightstone has had to slip the noose of her childhood programming to find a full and satisfying life. For men, it appears to be much more straightforward. They see it as their right to devote their lives to their jobs.
Men define themselves in large part by the work they do.
Their self-esteem is primarily generated by a job. If only we hadn't been hearing variations on this message for the past 25 years, not just from feminists but in hundreds of mainstream women's magazines. I am the best cloud-watcher I know. When it comes up, I freely and firmly give my opinion, or, rather, state my position. I am pro-choice, I say, and I believe unequivocally in a woman's right to choose what happens to her body.