Someone said that rearing kids is like holding a wet bar of soap. If you squeeze them too tight and they shoot out of your hand. If you hold them too loosely and they slip away. But there is that gentle hold that we can put on that bar of soap that we can keep it in our hands. That's what we need to do as parents.
Parents exasperate their children by doing some things.
First of all, parents can exasperate their children by being negative. There is on the part of some people a stream of criticism that comes out of them toward their children. But when criticism is balanced with praise, that is going to help a child to grow, and to grow strong in the right ways. But criticism without praise will make a child bitter, frustrated, and angry. There was a teacher who asked her class of young children what they wanted to be when they grew up.