The U.S. divorce rate demonstrates what happens when they re gone. As you begin a fight you can consciously decide what percentage of your balance you are willing to spend on it, and don t allow it to escalate beyond that. You and your spouse can even discuss this concept regarding the issue under discussion. Constant carping, criticizing and nagging use up Fight Credits, even if there s no response from your partner, even if there s no actual fight. Fight Credits can be stretched by spending them consciously, by picking your battles carefully, and by using the Fair Fighting Guidelines outlined below.
Most people say and do things in the heat of a fight they don t mean and are sorry for later.
It can be apologized for, peace offerings can be made, amends can be attempted, but it s there between you, maybe forever. Set an appointment to fight. I m too angry to talk about it now. It s not a good idea to wait til another day. Resolve it before you go to bed, this day.