I am really going to let her have it. She should know how upset I am. Wait a second. Take a few deep breaths. Perhaps Miri really meant to ask permission, but just forgot.
People make mistakes.
Judge her favorably. You can tell her that she should have asked, but speak in a low voice, very calmly and respectfully. The Sifsei Chachomim explains that whenever the Torah states that Hashem remembers someone, He remembers a good deed or deeds that the person performed in the past and subsequently grants their request. The Medrash Tanchuma notes that Hashem remembered Rachel s silence. Yaakov wanted to marry Rachel.