They offer their unwelcome life-lessons so that we as readers can receive a better understanding of the violence that affects all too many in our state. All time does for us is afford us an opportunity to learn to cope with daily life again. At the end of the day, we went to a house where we stayed, but we never felt truly comfortable there again. When you find others have survived this, you can support one another. I find I need contact with others and the support group does this.
Most victims blame themselves when abuse happens at home.
Your feelings of both love and fear can be confusing. You can lose your self esteem and identity in this difficult situation. You have to deal with devastating dilemmas. You don't have to leave or tell your secrets until you are ready. But you do need to make a connection with someone who will listen and give you support without judging you.