When we fall in love, we look up to the person we admire and venerate our sweetheart. And this blinds us to his or her blemishes as we idealize that our beloved is perfect - it is only after marriage that we realize that the person we married isn t exactly flawless. There may be a divergence in personality, of approaches to life and different ways of doing things. You can try to change your spouse back into your fantasy lover, but for the marriage to grow, you have to learn to let him or her be. Learn to adjust.
Marriage is about compromises - a spirit of give and take.
Both partners have to make adjustments. Don t try to make the other over in the likeness of your image. Only by taking this avenue can you begin to develop respect towards each other. A common example in most marriages is when one spouse constantly puts down the other because of a difference in personality or likes and dislikes. Little do they realize this constitutes thoughtless criticism and nagging and after a period the spouse tends to get irritated and lose respect.