I can take a time out. Most things we argue about are stupid and insignificant. I can recognize that my anger is just old primary feelings being restimulated. It's okay to walk away from this fight. It's nice to have other people's love and approval, but even without it, I can still accept and like myself.
People put erasers on the ends of pencils for a reason.
It's okay to make mistakes. People are going to act the way they want to, not the way I want. I feel angry. That means I've been hurt or scared or have some other primary feeling.