I heard Claudia Black say one time that recovery is learning the numbers 2 thru 9. In other words there is a middle ground - there are choices between the extremes. Try to find a middle ground - a 4 or 5 or 6 area where you are each working on your self and also helping each other. She has become strict Catholic. Tara disapproves vehemently of my allowing her 10 year old sister to visit her brother's Mormon church.
Religion is kind of like a stick.
You can use it to help you climb mountains or you can whack someone upside the head with it. They want others to agree with their point of view. They see their mission as changing others. This is a comfortable place, as it never involves self-reflection. It simply involves judging others and finding them lacking.