As a belated birthday present I sent a friend a honeybear vibrator from Toys in Babeland. This was her first vibrator and she was a bit confused and perhaps embarrassed to buy one herself. Normally I would say that dildos and vibrators are something a person needs to pick out themselves.
People differ on preference on size, shape, material, etc.
I d send one her way. A few weeks after ordering the gift, my friend called up and asked how she is supposed to use it . I was confused because it seems pretty self-explanatory providing you get passed inserting the batteries. But actually masturbation can be somewhat confusing or intimidating in the beginning. Yes, it s going to take some time and maybe frustration to figure out what you like and what techniques work best.