The denial of autonomy continues. Yes, there is hope which lies in hard work. The work consist of taking an inventory of one's own database as to how one's values about autonomy is stored. If you want to influence a child regardless of his age, begin with education of that person to upgrade his database so that he has the basic raw materials of information to work with and apply. Secondly, use the contract approach, asking the person to make a contract as an expression of his autonomy to be accountable to himself in the expression of his responsibility.
Responsibility is the ability to respond instead of react on a sterile script.
Being consistent and persistent, is the most basic ingredient in the formula. The reason it is so hard working on leading someone else to change is because one needs to work on himself at the same time so that one avoids giving an inappropriate invitation that reinforces the denial of one's own autonomy as well as the autonomy of the person that you want to invite to change.