Listed below are some things you can do to calm down. List three other things you might try. Count to 100 Do something physical, like walk or run Do work, like mow the lawn or wash windows Go someplace else. The next time your child becomes angry, suggest she do one of the activities she says helps to calm her down. Research shows this actually increases the likelihood of violence within the family.
People often use violence without realizing it.
If we grow up in a family where verbal abuse or shaming others is common, we pick up those behaviors. We may use them without realizing how painful and destructive they are. The next time you feel angry, think about what you are saying as well as how you are saying it and how it may be affecting the person you are talking to. Then read the words you have written out loud. If you have included insulting words like stupid, ugly, lazy, fat in your list, you use violent language when you are angry.