Feeling judged and feeling respected don't usually occur together. When people feel judged, they don't feel respected. You can choose to act judgementally or non-judgementally. You should be aware though, that acting judgementally may create a barrier and may not work as well as being respectful. Also, humor may not be shared and can be received disrespectfully.
People respond to the same stimulus in different ways.
After a conversation about one of these issues, people may behave in a variety of ways. Some may feel better for having aired their views or for having made it through the discussion. Some may feel pain or rage at what they consider a personal attack. Some may need to retreat to a safe place physically or emotionally to consider what they have heard, seen and felt. Scars don't always show.