In a fulfilling relationship, we are loved and valued for our true selves . However, the development of the true self does require boundaries . Without these, we become too enmeshed with the lives of others and can t develop our own individuality. We need to balance individual solitude with relationships or community. The development of our true and best self often requires that we have the courage to change.
Permanent change is difficult.
When we get to know someone intimately, we also come in contact with their faults. We can strengthen the relationship by finding strength in those same weaknesses. Good communication is the key to intimacy. Feedback of what a person said has two purposes. One, it avoids miscommunication or misinterpretations.