Free Yourself From Prerogrammed Responses. Think abiout alternative responses. Try this exercise. Pick out a sexual behavior you think you might not like. Experiemtn with it in a fantasy way to see of the behavior ebcomes redefined into a mroe positive light.
Objectivity is important here.
This exercise, by the way, doesn't only apply to sexual behaviors. It canb be used most appropriately when partners have two different points of view in any area. Beware of Transforming Internal Anxieties and Insecurities About Self Into Critical Attacks On Others. Often, the true source of frustration with a mate originates out of a sense of failure in oneself. Let's assume the husband comes home from work and immediately begins yelling at his wife about the condition of the house.