That's a more troublesome picture. If you turn him down, you're a bitch. But if you do it, you're a ho. The guys are after us all the time, in the halls, everywhere. But if he's going to do it, I told him that I'd go out and get him the condoms myself.
Most parents seem too squeamish to get into the subtleties of instilling sexual ethics.
Nor are schools up to the job of moralizing. Kids say they accept their teachers' admonitions to have safe sex but tune out other stuff. Even the teacher looks uncomfortable. There is no way anybody is going to ask a serious question. They'll talk about not having sex before marriage, but no one listens.