She had already seen the drastic change in my life but this was a necessary step toward healing. It was a tearful time and it was hard for me to open up and let her see into the world I had carefully protected for so long. It still took a lot of time to heal the wounds, but the benefit was and is well worth it. What is ironic is that our relationship has more satisfaction now than all the fantasies ever hinted toward. Porn can try to mimic the physical, but it is only a mirage.
Real intimacy satisfies the emotional, spiritual, intellectual and physical needs of a marriage.
Pornography robs a marriage of all these areas and saps the life out of a marriage. It may give the illusion of satisfaction, but over time it deceptively drains the life out of marriage. If sex is all a person focuses on, there can not be intimacy. Pornography, like a fermented apple, may seem make a man drunk with its rotten-sweet taste, but over time it will become a disease. The strength of this disease is blindness to reality and a loss of understanding as to what true intimacy is all about.