So despite what a relative or friend may say, a baby's fussiness may not be the parents' fault. A fussy baby should be attended to. A parent who generally responds quickly and appropriately when the baby cries during the early months teaches the child that a parent will be there when needed. A secure baby can count on its parents to meet its needs and knows it. However, with a fussy baby, responding may be easier said than done.
Parents wear out.
This has its cost. Recent research indicates that less-responsive parents are likely to have insecure babies if there isn't another responsive person in frequent contact with the baby. Other research suggests this early insecurity is reflected in other aspects of development during the next few years. Insecure babies are less competent and sympathetic in interactions with their peers, and they are less effective in seeking and accepting help in problem-solving situations. The clearest finding from the research is that the baby's security and comfort is importantly affected by the amount of support available to parents from their parents, friends and professionals, especially when there is stress in their lives.