If we change the cause, the affect also will change. A love relationship should be based in respect. And that's why we put boundaries on our relationships. The boundary is a way to have someone show respect. We don't want their anger or their judgment.
Relationships can be so wonderful.
We can be completely open and loving. But just because we love someone, that doesn't mean we have to put up with their anger, jealousy or abuse. We don't need to be abused, and we can't send out our abuse either. This is a way of having relationships based in love. A selfish relationship is not based in love.