Others don't want to cause any upset at home, or they may believe problems are caused by their own dissatisfaction since their spouse may say that they think everything is fine in the marriage. More often, people think that their partner will never change, or that only their partner needs to change. In addition, therapists' offices are filled with individuals who complain of depression, anxiety, distress and other maladies. If we examined many of these individuals further, we would find that the cause of the distress is a distressed relationship. Yet these individuals do not ask their partner to join them in therapy, and often therapists fail to ask them to bring in their significant other.
Most people are just afraid to ask.
Express your concern about your relationship in a non-blaming way. While some people may not value counseling, if they value their marriage, and they know how important it is to their spouse, they will go. A good therapist will work to put them at ease once they get into the office. As a therapist, I hear this all the time, and 90 percent of the time, it just isn't true that someone will never go to therapy. Don't let your spouse pull you into an argument.