Choose your words carefully. They have far greater impact than we'll probably ever even want to know. Dig down deep into the pain. Let it touch your soul like flesh to the razor blade. Be quick to hug, quick to think, and quick to admit your faults.
Pride can destroy.
Be gentle to yourself. Be even more gentle with others. Be quick to listen and slow to speak. Most of the time those who trust you just want a listening ear. Don't be too quick to think you understand.