Support groups are wonderful helps. Be with people they love who can provide support. Empathy goes a long way. Be encouraged to keep lists of schedules, noted of callers and appointments marked on calendars. It's easy to forget things during this stage of grief.
Reminders can be very helpful.
Adjusting The second stage shows the beginning of the adjustment process. They can use their remaining abilities and skills to enjoy the company of the ill person and to do things together. Physical exertion is a good way to deal with anger or frustration about the situation. Swimming laps, golf, walks, scrubbing the floor, waxing the car or furniture, trimming bushes or making bread help vent intense feelings. Sometimes getting out by themselves and looking at peaceful scenes such as a flower garden, going to a museum to view rich colors or having a quiet time at a local church, chapel or synagogue can bring relief.