For instance, on more than a few occasions I've observed people who spoil or negate the very care they seek. They find fault with it. They don't trust it. They don't want to need it. Deep inside they may even prefer to hold on to their problems and aloneness.
Most people are afraid of change, even if it is change they seek.
People dwell to much on their problems and that causes them to remain in them and end up feeling comfortable whether they know it or not. Just go to a abuse shelter and talk to the people there. A lot of women who are in abusive relationships have a hard time leaving and changing their lives because they are afraid and for many reasons. It can be said of any person with a problem. A lot of people do in deed spoil the care,help,possibilites etc. that they search for.