If you attain that marriage and the kids then you've made it in the church. It's very hard to get anywhere in the church as a single person. You are looked upon as being stable if you are married. It makes them safe, defuses the ticking bomb. Then we could make them a deacon and really use them properly.
Many single men see marriage in less rosy terms.
Far from being the foundation of their Christian ministry, some even see it as diminishing their ability to reach others. It's a problem with church culture. In church, most of my mates are married, but most of my friends who aren't Christian are not married. In church there is this pressure to get married earlier. And most of my Christian friends who are married have lost their non-Christian mates.