You can search our archives, Link Library, and research reports for even more information. As a long time sufferer of RS the best advice I can give is to be loving, and understanding of your partner's frustration, anger, and depression at having to cope with a chronic illness and chronic pain, even when anger might be misdirected at you. Why don't you take your pain medications now. Life with RS is unpleasant and strains relationships with others. Depression is a natural response and medical assistance and treatment should be secured.
Pain management is essential.
Ask for a referral to a pain clinic if your current doctor will not give adequate pain-relief medications. Someone I love has Reiters Syndrome. How can I be a support to him. He seems not only in severe pain but also depressed. I don't want to loose him.