One day they are heterosexual, and another day they have homosexual feelings. Some homosexual fathers remain married because they care so much for their children. Some may tell others, but many keep secret their sexual identity. Another point on the continuum lays the people who break away from their wives and family in order to join the gay community and blend homosexuality into their daily lives. These men often hold custody of their children, who are aware that their father is gay.
Many factors can affect a gay man's position on the continuum.
Children, wives, friends, neighbors, religious beliefs, and society as a whole can change the man's position in expressing his homosexuality. Children are important to homosexual fathers. They are important to any father. Often it is hard for a gay father to tell his child about his homosexuality, for fear of hurting their relationship, but the reactions of the children have generally been positive. Overall, their knowledge of their father's homosexuality constituted only minor problems, if any.