The adolescent usually works hard to become more independent and to assert his independence to his parents. The diagnosis of lupus can create major difficulties for adolescents. The natural inclination of any parent is to become over-protective when a child is sick. Interference from parents is almost always strongly objected by adolescents. This is because the adolescent is trying to become more independent.
Parents frequently have a very hard time dealing with the diagnosis of lupus in their adolescent.
In all likelihood, this will increase adolescent rebellion. Rebellion is a normal part of adolescence, regardless of whether or not lupus is involved. Parents should try not to be overprotective, and should try to be as tolerant and as understanding as they can. In cases where the adolescent does something wrong, discussions offering support and understanding are more appropriate than put-downs and reproaches. Rebellion may occasionally lead to more serious physical problems for the adolescent.