Martin practices at The Martin Clinic on Buffalo Street in Milwaukee, where she has counseled families and individuals since 1991. Even if the person has depression and anxiety, a helpful friend or family will help them find relief. The person needs to realize their marriage was bad and they deserve happiness. Parents, especially women who find themselves suddenly back in the work force after years of staying home to raise children, have more challenges adjusting to life after divorce. Martin agreed that the difficulties faced with the return to working are often outweighed by the benefits of financial independence.
Many women stay in bad marriages because of financial issues.
Getting out and feeling control over their lives is part of reconnecting to themselves and becoming stronger people. Martin said friends can encourage newly divorced people to remember who they are apart from attachments as somebody's husband, wife, mother or father. Another big thing friends and family can do is remind those people who they used to be before this upheaval in their lives. Dr. Stacey Nye, a clinical psychologist at the North Shore Center in Mequon said friends and family, particularly those who knew the person prior to the marriage or divorce are in a unique position to offer this kind of help. Be sensitive if they need to talk, but don't make it all that you ever talk about.