Their goals are usually just one step beyond what they have already accomplished. In other words, their goals are realistic, internal, and potentially attainable. Healthy strivers take pleasure in the process of pursuing the task at hand rather than focusing only on the end result. When they experience disapproval or failure, their reactions are generally limited to specific situations rather than generalized to their entire self-worth. The first step in changing from perfectionistic attitudes to healthy striving is to realize that perfectionism is undesirable.
Perfection is an illusion that is unattainable.
The next step is to challenge the self-defeating thoughts and behaviors that fuel perfectionism. This will enable you to achieve and also will lead to a greater sense of self-esteem. Set subsequent goals in a sequential manner. As you reach a goal, set your next goal one level beyond your present level of accomplishment. Experiment with your standards for success.