But if only the mother is a believer, this likelihood is dramatically reduced to 15 percent. The father helps his children see life as a whole, allows them freedom as they grow, and helps them define their sexuality. He has been given this responsibility as leader, teacher and nurturer from God. Men were given practical pointers for positive paternal power and made lists of what to do and what not to do. Men were asked to select such projects as leading the family in devotions, sharing family goals with children, and cutting down on the level of chaos in the family.
Mentors are men of passion, purpose and focus.
They possess imagination and insight and are persistent in their task. Projects ranged from self-evaluation to interacting with others on the qualities of life that need to be passed on to others. It was suggested that men use hobbies and skills to teach someone else and, at the same time, use the opportunities to share spiritual insights. From day one, man was not only to have a relationship with God, but also to be involved with God doing what He was doing. Reasons men give for their lack of involvement often include misunderstandings in the church, the individualism of their personal relationship with God, rejection of authority figures in the church and a consumer approach to spirituality.