This has us both very upset, and we don't know what to do. I haven't told my parents about her, and she hasn't told hers about me. We both are very lost, and don't know what to do. We want to get married the Islamic way. But you must stop and seriously consider some real issues involved with getting married at such a young age.
Marriage is intended to be a life-long committment.
Many years ago and still today in some parts of the world, marrying at fifteen and sixteen would be okay, but you live in a different kind of world and marrying so young would be a hardship. Firstly, you need to become knowledgeable and strong in your Islam before venturing out of your parents' homes. Many tests and trials await, of which you have no idea. Secondly, you want to get the best education you can. We live in a rapidly growing technological society which demands much of its workforce.