We attempt to give people advice they can't hear and which wouldn't help them. We try to make people what they're not. We try to make relationships into something that's impossible for us and others. I've spoken in depth with hundreds of couples, and the biggest problem with all of them is the expectations each partner has of the other. We want our partners to change in ways that suit us, ways they simply can't change, and that kills our relationships, just as Janette killed the eggs by wanting them to hatch is a way that suited her.
Parents often control the behavior of their children.
They mean well, but they interfere with the experiences their children need to learn and grow. When we rescue or control our children often enough, they don't make enough of their own choices to learn responsibility. We put them under a sunlamp to keep them warm when that's not what they need. We actually do them harm, as Janette did with the turtle eggs. We need to have faith that people are learning what they need to learn.