When all the celebrating subsides and the midnight feedings begin, parenthood begins to take its toll. Your wife needs plenty of time to heal physically. And emotionally, she's liable to be somewhat fragile. Hormonal storms can leave her feeling asexual and even depressed, and lack of sleep is probably making both of you irritable and stressed. Add to that the stress of being a new parent and the challenge can seem overwhelming at times.
New parents worry about doing the right things at the right times in the right ways.
They wonder when their baby will sleep through the night, or how they'll survive a bout with colic. Obviously, intimacy is probably the last thing on your minds when you and your wife get a rare, precious moment of quiet time together. But eventually, you have to begin paying attention to your own needs as a couple. This may prove more difficult than logic would predict. Believe it or not, some women view this seemingly innocuous event as an immensely distasteful, even dangerous milestone.