She's not realistic about money. He doesn't hear me when I ask for things. He doesn't know what it takes to run a household. What have changed are financial roles. Money differences or incompatibilities are just a symptom of some underlying dynamic, not the cause.
Money is a commodity which takes on other meanings and emotions.
It becomes the emotional football that partners may use to throw back and forth at one another and never resolve their real issues. Family finances may be a forum for disputes over responsibility and commitment, need for attention, lack of trust in others. Here are some suggestions for trying to work things out on your own. If money problems persist, you may want to seek professional help. Talk over financial matters regularly, at a time when money decisions are not pressing.