Often, their questions are hard for us to answer. Our own grief can get in the way and we may not fully understand the concepts children are asking about. Children don't have the underlying knowledge or experience to comprehend the concepts and answers we may give them. Another thing that happens for children between the ages of four and six, is that they begin to extrapolate. In response to these questions, it is important to be honest, but reassuring.
Most people live a long, long time.
I plan to live until you are all grown up and maybe have children of your own. People never know when they will die, so I can't tell you when I will die, but I do lots of things to help keep myself healthy because I want to live for a long time. In some cultures, everyone, without question, is included in the funeral or memorial ceremony. In others, children are not included. It can be very useful for a child to witness the process of people saying good-bye and at the same time, it can be overwhelming or scary for children to see lots of adults out of control with grief.