Not all foster and adopted children are yearning to go back to their birthfamilies as the previous post would have us believe. Many still have nightmares, anxiety attacks, and horrid memories of what they endured while in the care of their birthfamilies. Nobody leaves this world the way they came in and to make a statement that natural parents are the only parents is insulting and could be devastating to adopted children everywhere. They have nothing to do with who brings them in to this world and who raises them once they are here. That responsibility lies with the birthparents.
Reunification is the key here and birthparents are the ones who hold it.
And in many cases the fosters do have a say. The judge in my case actually asked the fosters if they would be willing to share custody of my daughter with me. He did this after stating that I was a fit parent and that my daughter would be safe in my care. The whole point of my post however was that foster parents should not be a threat to birthparents and should not be looked upon with such disgust. Birthparents are seen as royalty in the court of law in this country.