Our wrong expectations lead to these difficulties. For me, wrong expectations make me sometimes alienated, sometimes isolated. People think you are very hostile to men. From what you said, it worries them. Penis envy, penis hatred, penis obsession, some might say.
Men are the source of that, in their literature, culture, behavior.
I could never have invented it. Except maybe Reich. But then, what a competition that would be. Choose the most penis obsessed man in history. What is so remarkable is that men in general, really with so few exceptions, are so penis obsessed.