This happened with me when I read Pollack's Real Boys . Pollack explains that boys are immensely loving and they yearn for relationships far more than we have ever recognized. It was difficult to dismiss the myths that persist about boys. I think if they opened up their eyes, they'd see that most of us are actually pretty good people. The stereotypes about boys continue to be perpetuated, but many of us are learning that they are not true.
Research confirms it.
The first myth about boys states that nature controls much about a boy's behavior. Many people, including parents, assume that typical boy behavior of all sorts falls in this category. Pollack explains that the great danger in subscribing to the myth is that it tends to make people assume that they have less power to affect a boy's personality, behavior, or emotional development than they do. The truth of the matter is that a boy's behavior is shaped more by loved ones than by nature. A boy's behavior can be shaped, a natural need for action can be encouraged and satisfied.