There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that people won't feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. It's like there is an inner light which always is on.
Nothing can turn it off.
This is who you are. Realizing that calls off the search for your light. You don't have anywhere to go. You are home, and you can give your all to decorating the place. I was blazing with some light of inner awareness for a few months in 1989, when I grabbed my pen early every morning.