She said that since my husband had not been around for birthdays for a few years, that it would mean a lot for their son to have their Dad at the party. We finally agreed to go, my husband out of guilt, and myself because I was feeling selfish for not wanting to go. Please let me know if I am being unreasonable or just human. Dear Judy, We can assure you that you are not being unreasonable, just human. The CoMamas feel it was very generous of her to invite you to the party she is throwing for your stepson.
Many stepmothers never receive such acknowledgement and feel like second class citizens.
You and your husband are doing the right thing by going to the party, but it is totally natural for you to feel uncomfortable in her territory. With so many adults putting them first, however, your stepchildren have a better chance than most to growup healthy and happy. So show up, be friendly, and think of all the problems you will be heading off by investing in your stepchildren now. The CoMamas send this page to a friend Home Misc.