Reunification is the key here and birthparents are the ones who hold it.
And in many cases the fosters do have a say. The judge in my case actually asked the fosters if they would be willing to share custody of my daughter with me. He did this after stating that I was a fit parent and that my daughter would be safe in my care. Like I said in my previous post, there are some cases where the children may have been removed unnecessarily and that is a tragedy. The whole point of my post however was that foster parents should not be a threat to birthparents and should not be looked upon with such disgust.