I would not want couples to take any single score on any single test too seriously. Even if they score poorly on our measure, they need to consider that in the context of their relationship. So, there are many influences on our attitudes on relationships. Probably our own experience is most influential. That three-step process sounds simple but it's not since many of our patterns are driven by strong emotions, but recognizing what those vulnerabilities are that lead to strong emotions can facilitate our changing those patterns.
People can make changes in therapy.
For most of human kind, there was no such thing as therapy, formal therapy, and people made changes. Therapy is only one means of assistance in making changes in your life, but not the most important . There are so many self-help books out today helping people to achieve great relationships. So, the advice book may give the advice to complement your partner daily. So the first problem is that the advice is not individualized The second and perhaps even more important problem of these books is they give advice that is difficult or impossible to follow.