It took several years and some painful mistakes to overcome this disease of the mind, but I did. Somehow, I believed that I wasn't a good person if I didn't please people. Like everyone, I've made mistakes and sometimes even hurt people I didn't intend to. But I've hurt myself and others far more by trying to please people than by not. Staying true to yourself isn't easy, but I think it's the only way to live.
Many people feel shame for no reason other than the misplaced opinion of others.
Feeling bad doesn't accomplish anything. Guilt has no virtue. Operating out of obligation and guilt lacks integrity. Don't do it. I'm simply suggesting that you evaluate the information, listen carefully to your heart and do what you think is right.