I realize that the most important thing is the person you are marrying and not what they look like, but I still need to be attracted to her. I would really appreciate any advice you could give. I feel helpless. I can't help but wonder if there's more than legs involved here, even though you say everything else is perfect. Actually, that may be in the back of her mind when she says you should love her the way she is and nobody's perfect.
Nobody stays perfect forever.
We get old, we sag, we get wrinkles. Varicose veins are the least of it. Needing perfection in your life is a curse. It means you can never be happy because life is never perfect, and the truth is that there are no perfect women. But if you're turned off, you're turned off, and that's a reality you must deal with if you're planning to get engaged.