He realizes something is wrong when she turns away, rejecting his kiss. After half an hour of qurstioning, the wife finally admits that she didn't like one of hislovemaking techniques. The husband is tender and apologetic and says he cetainly wouldn't have done it if he'd known how she felt. At this point, there wasn't really much he could do. Complicating the matter further was the fact that his wife had enjoyed the technique until recently.
People often get anxious about certain sexual bejhaviros.
A husband may be uncomfortable when his wife performs a certain sexual behavior because of a childhood socialization process which may have involved negative attitudes about sexuality or that specific behavior. He may feel it is degrading and thus feels guilty when she performs it. If he will communicate this feeling at the moment he's actually feeling it, the result would possibly be the beginning of open communication with his wife in an area that might otherwise develop into serious problems. Make Attempts To Reinterpret Negative Perceptions Into More Positive Ones. All kinds of possibilities exist ion any given set of circumstances, but we can choose which ones to perceive and how to perceive them.