It isn't what I'd been told it is. Imagine for a moment a culture in which there are no prisons, no prostitutes, no orphans, and the concept of a child being from conception illegal and shameful is unknown. Imagine that in this culture being born ensures that every child is wanted, cherished, looked after by everybody in the community older than that child. Imagine that in this culture everyone assumes that everything is an equal part of Great Mystery, and that it is the responsibility of each human being to explore being part of Great Mystery in order to help the whole community. Imagine that everybody also assumes this is a natural, on-going response to being alive at all.
Nobody talks much about it, everybody just does it.
I somehow don't think any preoccupation with separateness would arise.