The person who, had he been healthy, would have been more distracted by the physical opportunities afforded him. This is the son who doesn't know how to ask. You shall start for him. Our response must be to help them grow. Of course, these four sons are archetypes.
Real people are wise on some issues, determined to be wrong about others.
We have a simple straight to the point perspectives on yet other things, and there are those issues we aren't prepared or ready to face.