There is no magic formula for disciplining children. It involves trial and error and constant learning and change. Still, there are some things we have learned from working with many families and children in foster care. Some of what we have learned may make your job easier. You will not spoil the child.
Physical punishment is always risky.
This is especially true with children who have previously been abused. We will be discussing this further. If you are tempted to use physical punishment, please stop and put yourself in a child's place. Imagine that you have just done something to annoy a giant, a huge giant on whom you depend for your very existence. Picture that giant angrily striking you.