And of course, you never, never, never agree to allow someone to see your article prior to publication. I think it all comes down to this. I try to remember that we all feel like kids playing at being grownup sometimes. When you finally honor that little kid inside of you, then suddenly you spot children peering out from behind every suit and silk blouse. Men who are bombastic and self-important are often still trying to prove something to the bully who made fun of them in fifth grade.
People are people, no matter what they do for a living.
See the little kid. If she's pretty, say so and watch her relax. Most women who are very attractive are terribly self-conscious and used to being snubbed by other women. You know how to put other people at ease. No one is ever worth more than you - and vice versa.