I have thought a long while about writing about my experiences, but had not done so as I feared my stories might discourage someone from pursuing her rights in the court. However, I concluded that I would have greatly benefited by some knowledgable warning of what to expect when one justly sues for ones rights. I hope my experiences will help new human rights activists and those helping and advising them to make good plans and provisions for the court case and the attendant problems which will invariably arise. All your attempts to verbally clarify the situation just seem to drive him deeper into hysterics over the issue. He may become loud and threatening.
Most people respond with shock to such behavior.
It is so inappropriate in the work setting that most people are initially stunned into silence. The perp may then relent, thinking he has cowed you into submission. He might try again right then and there. How many frightened, cowed, more fearful women give up at this point, we can only speculate. An odd dynamic can then ensue.