Fears of heights, etc, don't seem to irrational to me -a fall can kill. In nature there is neither good nor bad, merely consequence. If he didn't abuse you, then you have already created a grave injustice simply by alluding to his involvement here at suite. I would say you are in need of the right kind of professional help whatever your experiences. We've had accusations levelled against a member of my family and it has divide the family down the middle between those who believe the accuser and those who don't.
Many lives are at stake.
I'm very afraid of three things. I'm afraid of fire, loud noises, and physical contact. I'm afraid of fire, because I was involved in two of them. It was very frightening to me. I'm afraid of loud noises, because I have very sensitive ears, and don't respond very well to loud noises.