Let them know that their opinions and feelings are cared for and valued. Being encouraged to assert themselves helps young people say no to pressures to conform. Feeling loved and confident allows them to accept that they are unique individuals. Encourage critical thinking. The only sure antidote to the tendency to conform to the powerful seduction of the media and peer pressure is the ability to think critically.
Parents have to encourage critical thinking early, and educators have to continue the mission.
We need to teach kids how to think, not what to think, and to encourage them to disagree, challenge, brainstorm alternatives, etc. Girls especially need to learn that men are not the ultimate authorities and that they themselves have something important to contribute. Develop a value system based on internal values. Help children accept and enjoy their bodies and encourage physical activity. Discourage the idea that a particular diet or body size will automatically lead to happiness and fulfillment.