It bothers you - as rightly it should. Well, obviously, you discuss it with her. Say a respectful conversation doesn t work. I know it s tempting. But it doesn t work, and it isn t right.
People don t like being manipulated.
When we nag, when we manipulate, when we try to control, what we re saying is, I know better than you do what s right for you. And nobody likes that. Look at the ultimate apologist, Jesus Christ. He presented the truth in love, and allowed them to choose. And then He respected their free will.