To do that we have to be clear about what men want from us in bed. It is that simple. Exhilarating sex beyond your wildest dreams. The trick is to get him to cum at the same time or after we reach orgasm. That is the Holy Grail for us synchronizing our orgasm with our partners, so we get as much out of the dialogue as him.
Many women take out insurance on their orgasm.
At the outset of a love making session, they are on top first and bring themselves to a climax quickly, using their finger while your lover is inside. Once you have got that over with, you roll over, let him climb into the saddle and pump away until he cums. That way you both get something out of it. It is a selfish way of doing things. It s a bit cynical.