The first five steps must be taken by members of the traditionally more powerful group. Steps six through nine are taken by members of the traditionally less powerful group. Believe I can make a difference. The problem is large and will not be solved quickly or easily. Great love, patience, humility, tact and personal initiative are needed to make real change.
Real change is possible, step by step.
Let go of any sense of superiority. It is almost impossible to avoid having a sense of superiority which is learned and reinforced since childhood in powerful groups. Because it is very ingrained and often unconscious, it is difficult to see and let go of it. Guilt will not help the situation. Feeling of superiority can be mixed with feelings of inferiority and defensiveness.