Natural or predetermined logical consequences, however, help a child to learn boundaries, social order, mutual rights, and mutual respect from the natural cause and effect of actions. Consequences hold the child responsible for his own behavior and consequences impartially promote appropriate decision making. Specific, skill-related encouragement motivates a child internally and helps him to believe in himself and his ability and to have future direction. I admire your initiative and compassion. I am so proud of you.
Praise is a type of reward.
It motivates a child externally and, in doing so, it is a type of social control. But overreliance on praise can discourage and a child can grow to believe that her worth depends upon the opinion of others. Children listen with their ears, eyes, and hearts. Parent example and family atmosphere nurtures or impedes discipleship, discernment and obedience. May we discern the will and presence of God within the circumstances of each day.