It also helps to work with other pain sufferers, who want to learn the same skills. So the management of pain is a team effort between the doctors, dentists, psychologists, physical therapists and other patients. Pain brings all sorts of feelings, sometimes so deep that we do not know they are there. Search them out, write them down, and share them with someone. Most of us have grown up in a culture which inhibits feelings and we are reluctant to talk about them.
Men particularly are reluctant to express their feelings.
This is fine in battle, but most men live in peace, and need to be allowed to feel as much as women do. Our lifestyles in peaceful times, are far from peaceful. We are always in a hurry and often stressed, trying to keep up with the demands we make on ourselves. It is not impossible that repressed feelings and inner anguish can actually manifest as physical pain. Write down in a diary how bad the pain is every day .