The teenager must cast aside the dependent relationship of childhood. Before he can develop an adult relationship with his parents, the adolescent must first distance himself from the way he related to them in the past. This process is characterized by a certain amount of intermittent normal rebellion, defiance, discontent, turmoil, restlessness, and ambivalence. Emotions usually run high.
Mood swings are common.
The following guidelines may help you and your teenager through this difficult period. Treat your teenager as an adult friend. By the time your child is 12 years old, start working on developing the kind of relationship you would like to have with your child when she is an adult. Treat your child the way you would like her to treat you when she is an adult. Your goal is mutual respect, support, and the ability to have fun together.