They got out before you did and that hurts and worst of all, they didn t check with you first. Someone graduated from the relationship and you weren t ready. We need to realize in dealing with time rejection that people s values change very much faster now along with needs and priorities changing as they grow over time. Everything and everyone is changing at an accelerated pace. Our thinking and expectations are geared to another time when people and things changed not at all or very slowly.
Psychologists say death is the ultimate form of rejection.
Dealing with loss through death is very little different than through divorce. One widow was heard to exclaim as they lowered the casket, How can you leave me now, you dirty S.O.B., just when I needed you so much. That s 3 to 1 odds that if you are a married women you are going to have one of the three D s in your future. And as a single, you have to handle time rejection regularly. Time rejection is a fact of life.