Yaakov takes them out to the fields to tell them that they have to leave their father s house. He gives them a number of reasons why the time has come to leave. But, of course, it would have been much harder and more distressful for them to leave their family and their childhood home if everything seemed fine. Reflecting, as they did, on the difficulties they were having with their father, they put themselves into a frame of mind which greatly diminished the pain of doing what G-d said. When a person faces a distressing difficulty, when life demands something from him that seems hard and painful, he should try to diminish his distress by accommodating himself to the challenge he faces.
Problems don t necessarily come from outside sources.
Many of the most difficult problems on life arise because our attitudes are not in harmony with the demands of life. It s partly a matter of educating oneself to a certain outlook on problems. A person has to work on achieving a true understanding of what makes him happy truly happy in this world. Some people think that their happiness depends on having certain very specific things, sometimes even material things. For them, to lose those things is a serious problem because, apart from any physical or emotional deprivation that may result, they are convinced that to lose those things is to lose the possibility of being happy.