Most couples spend many hours each day immersed in very different activities.
Often one or both partners race out of the house each morning to drive to their separate workplaces. At the end of the day, they come back together and wonder why there is not more joy in their reunion. When our first daughter, Rami, was a baby, I worked as a doctor in a general medical clinic in Santa Clara, an hour s drive from our home. Although I only worked two or three days a week, each shift was thirteen hours long, seeing a minimum of four patients an hour. Joyce, meanwhile, spent her day with all the duties of caring for a baby and keeping the house clean.