There is a deep pain in that. Surely we can live well and happy without doing that. Before we turn to the alternative, let's take a little side trip. Let's talk about who CAN judge others. Certainly, we reason, there ARE times when condemnation and blame ARE justified.
People DO sin.
Correction IS necessary at times. This is true. It is a fact of human experience, especially in parenting. But to criticize and blame others, to correct them in such a way that condemnation does NOT happen requires great spiritual and personal maturity. Do it in a humble spirit, considering yourselves, lest you too be put to the test.