You must be happy with yourself before anyone else can be. I am responsible for my actions, my attitudes and my happiness. My husband just enhances those things in my life. There are many things about my husband that I would like to change. I know for a fact that he has a list of his own when it comes to certain things about me.
People are just different.
In a marriage, you can allow those differences to be strengths or weaknesses. We prefer to play on the differences and use them to lift our marriage to higher ground rather than drag it into the dirt. Be happy with who you are as a person, and then try to find promising ways to utilize the differences to your collective advantage. You ve heard it before, Do unto others as you would have others do unto you . Think of what you d like to get out of your marriage.