Yes, many things will be beyond your control. INS tell you this orphan petition will take 30-60 days. Try more like 90-150 days. In most cases, you need this approval before you can petition a foreign country to adopt. More about this later, but if you've made the decision to adopt internationally, this should be your next step.
Many countries encourage singles to adopt.
We have been through infertility treatments. We don't want to disappointed again. If you have reached the point that you have decided that you can love and parent an adopted child as your very own, then International Adoption may very well be the answer to your dreams. However, if you choose a dependable agency, and a program that has a low risk factor, you will significantly lower the risk. Many agencies have never had a referral fall through, because they do their homework, and they deal with reliable countries.