Divorce courts may divide future pension benefits. Different rules apply to state pensions, divisible under state law. We divide assets according to an equitable, not equal, distribution rule, which allows judges to make unequal awards. Your lawyer and her fee should not stand between you and your spouse. You may reconcile.
More money changes hands in divorces than in all other legal cases combined.
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