The violence and the possibility of it can become all one thinks about, making the memory and anticipation of abuse perhaps worse than the abuse itself. Kids under fire need help to see a bigger picture than only violence and fear. They need to be able to talk freely about their fears. But then they need a break from them. They need to see and enjoy positive sides of life.
Older friends can help with a trip to the zoo or the mall or just by playing catch.
We can help kids in a number of ways focus on what is good about their lives. Sometimes, kids need a break from their schools. The common policy of making attendance optional the first few days after an especially violent episode is a wise one. Families and school districts should consider more permanent solutions in cases of persistent violence. Changes in schools or home-schooling does not solve all problems.