Dear Reader, Being raped by a best friend, and having been a virgin at the time, may make it hard to have a healthy, intimate relationship. Since it was your best friend, someone you trusted, who assaulted you, you feel betrayed. Also, some rape survivors who were virgins at the time of the assault confuse rape with sex.
Rape uses sex as a vehicle for gaining power and control.
Mutually consensual sex is different from rape. Healthy sexual relations rely on clear and assertive communication and respect. You may need more time, understanding, the right partner, or even counseling, before you feel more comfortable and ready to take this step. Contact your health care provider for a referral. Or, you can try one of the following organizations for more information, assistance, support, and referrals.