You may regret not having an opportunity to say goodbye to your loved one, or worry over feelings never expressed. It is not unusual to spend hours, days, or even months in emotional shock because of what has happened to you, your loved one, or others involved. Everyone copes with tragedy differently. But most people continue to face reminders of their trauma and endure traumatic reactions for weeks, months, and sometimes years. Reminders can be painful, and some may be unavoidable.
People find comfort and regain control of their lives in many different ways.
You are unique in your response. What works for someone else may not work for you. Talk about what happened to a counselor, clergy member, friend, family member, or other survivors. Express your reactions through writing, talking, physical activity, whatever is helpful to you. It will help to assist and process your feelings of grieving and mourning.