We don t have a choice over whether we get into these situations or not. What we do have, however, is a choice about how we re going to respond. Which is where forgiveness comes in. Forgiveness a project of the heart and soul that apparently is much more difficult for one group in our society than anyone else. Women seem to forgive more readily than men.
Men hang on to their grudges longer.
And they are less willing to talk about their issues, examine them, and get rid of them. They just wouldn t deal with it. Some of the worst offenders are the little things that accumulate in the back recesses of one s life. Exactly what those are, and what sorts of correlations exist, is the subject of the Stanford Forgiveness Project. Forgiveness - Somehow, some way, getting free of the poisonous desire for revenge, the obsession with getting even, the need to see the one who has offended us receive harm in their life.