Find out what is important, to them, about money. What would be different in their lives if they had more or less money. This is the foundation for helping to set goals and put dreams into writing. Evaluate where you are now and plan for the future. Evaluate risk tolerance, and begin a financial plan.
Money can be an emotional topic.
Having someone provide an unbiased opinion can be valuable to your decision making progress. Seek professional help. Not that women should head into marriage with a negative state of mind, but thinking of themselves should be one of the top priorities. No one ever plans to fail, they just fail to plan. And plan independently.