If the meeting is to discuss a disagreement about some policy or procedure, you might ask that the counselor or principal attend this meeting, too. If you have a complaint about a teacher, limit it to a specific situation or concern. Parents need to work with and encourage their child's teacher by letting the teacher know that they support the curriculum and the skills their child is expected to learn. If your school or district has a parent resource center, you may want to check out take-home materials on topics that interest you. The important thing to keep in mind is that school is the child's responsibility.
Parents can provide assistance when required and a quiet place to study.
But you can't force the child to study. Real home school cooperation means devising a way for the child to take responsibility for learning with the support of the family and the school. The teacher's job is to teach, the child's job is to learn, and your job is to help your child be ready and able to learn.