In a sense, this difference is a metaphor for all of us who see life and work through different and highly individualized lenses. Some things hold true for all of us. Tact, diplomacy, courtesy and enthusiasm are generally sought after by everyone. Constructive feedback is usually welcome if we see that accepting and acting on it improves both our work and our position. It's helpful to remember that not everyone is driven or a perfectionist and there is room for them too.
Rewards are different for different people.
To some, getting a new position with more responsibility is a reward. To others, a day off is a reward. Learn which person you are talking to, if you want to get results. There is no formula for empathy. It almost never comes as a bolt out of the blue, like being struck by lightening.