The possibilities for rivalry in our family sometimes appeared limitless. Treating children alike may not be the answer. Children have different needs, so identical treatment may still be unfair. You will need to assess each situation separately to decide whether identical treatment will help. Try to look at your lifestyle.
Many families live busy lives.
This is an impossible demand to satisfy, but spending individual time with each child, letting each know you love him or her, is necessary for the child's peace of mind. Many of us have an idealized picture of family life. We need to remember that personalities can clash, even among siblings. Being members of the same family doesn't necessarily mean that brothers and sisters will like each other. You may need to accept this.