Enjoy a little alcohol . A glass of wine during a romantic meal can relax you and add sparkle to love making. More than one glass could make you sleepy and unresponsive. An all over body massage . Buy a good quality massage oil, lay a large towel on the floor or bed, and ask your partner to massage and caress you then do the same for them.
Massage helps to awaken our senses and is an excellent aid to arousal.