We need to shift from the temporary to the eternal. People say to me, Eugene, I want to change but there are a billion things that keep reminding me of how badly I've been hurt. When my negative emotional focus is broken it returns like a giant tractor beam, drawing my focus back to my hurt. The next point tells us how to make our negative focus positive. We Break Our Negative Focus by Changing Our Perspective and Forgiving.
New life begins by honestly facing the truth and pain of our loss.
It is normal and healthy to mourn the loss we experience. We must not rush the grieving period. We must let our emotions feel and express the full extent of our loss and tell God how we feel. To break a negative emotional focus we must view the offender from God's perspective. Part of the reason for my Dad's failure to bless me was because he felt it would make me proud.