They are not the same for all. What is the same for all is the fact that our High Self is constantly laying the groundwork in our reality to insure that we will achieve our predetermined goals or desires. Again, this cannot be understood by mind at the explicit layer. Some, a few, came here to gain High Self awareness. When High Self awareness arrives, the need for explicit relationships falls away.
Nothing needs to be changed.
Those that are here have made the choice, and to preach another 'goal' would imply that Balance is not. Many of us came here for other reasons. We can understand implicit relationships from an explicit layer, but we cannot experience them. For us, because the total implicit awareness and understanding that we are always in the exact Center of The One and that Balance Is cannot be held in explicit mind, the Question will always remain. The Question is not an implication of imperfection or the need to grow.