You wonder at the miracle growing inside you. You dream of a perfect pregnancy and hope for an easy delivery. You assume that it will occur after nine glorious months. So when a mother gives birth prematurely, she may naturally wonder if she is to blame. Although these feelings are intense, and very common, they are rarely grounded in fact.
Premature birth is a crisis.
When the emergency occurs, it is normal and natural to wonder if you could have done something different. It is a constant struggle to accept that there are things that we cannot control and to cope with the anger that we feel as a result. In order to give up our self-blame, we must also accept that we do not have total power over what happens to us. Having a premature baby means facing this reality. As parents, we naturally want to protect our children and shield them from harm.