When she is loud, you can assure her it is all right for her to speak her own mind. Your job as a wise and caring parent is to teach her to speak her own mind in a way that will serve her well. Listen to her complaints without being judgmental, and just keep going back to a better way of expressing what she is trying to say when she is loud. Instead of just asking her to play quietly, giving your daughter constructive alternatives to her loud behaviour can help keep her strong spirit intact and teach her to use that spirit in more positive ways. I promise you, you will celebrate that strong spirit when your daughter reaches the later teen years.
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