I'm asking because she began to cry when I confronted her about it. Signed, Confused Dear Confused, It's always challenging in a relationship when someone wants to try a new behavior and the other person doesn't. Our comfort and discomfort levels related to sexuality are intensely personal. Your partner feels uncomfortable with receiving oral sex, and there are many possible reasons for that.
Many women grow up with misinformation about and discomfort with their genitals.
This often created shame and disgust, so that when someone wants to give them pleasure, either by touching or with intimate kissing, sucking, or licking, it seems gross and disgusting to them. Women worry that their genitals look ugly and don't smell good. Given all this, it is impossible to imagine either receiving or giving pleasure in this way. Of course, those are not the only reasons. There may be something more specific to your partner's experience, such as a sexual assault or a bad experience where she felt exposed or humiliated.