So, from the point of view of many men, it seems as though men are always seeking sex and women are always trying to avoid it. It turns out, however, that in reality the game is being played in a completely different ball park. Despite significant gains made by women seeking equality over the past few decades, most people in America and around the world still live in an environment that is overall patriarchal and anti-erotic. Because of this, both men and women find it difficult to truly explore and express their sexuality. But as hard as it is for men, it is a hundred times worse for women.
Personal safety is one major issue for women.
The sad fact is that the world is in many ways a very dangerous place for women. But even if you could magically eliminate fears for personal safety, there are still plenty of other issues confronting women. There are still significant double standards by which men and women are judged. In addition to the general stigma that basically everyone experiences when seeking erotic entertainment, women carry the burden of being perceived as being tramps and sluts. Openly acknowledging sexual needs is terribly unladylike and given the profound depths to which anti-erotic attitudes have seeped into the American psyche, a woman must virtually deconstruct herself right down to her very core if she really wants to come to terms with her actual sexual interests.