I suggested that she give me power of attorney, but she thinks that since she s in the hospital she can t do it. She really needs my help, but I can t get anything done without her permission. A person s location, or status as a hospital patient, does not alone eliminate her ability to create a binding power of attorney. If she realizes she needs help but won t give you power, she may have a reason. There may be friction between you, or perhaps she just can t stop seeing you as a child.
Parents often have difficulty accepting help from their grown children.
If the two of you are close, she may just need to discuss the issues with you. You can reassure her, and arrange for her to stay informed. There may also be a number of things she can still tend to with your assistance. Be sure she knows you ll be her assistant, not her replacement. Conversely, if you aren t on the best of terms, you should see if there is another family member someone trusted by both you and your mother who she would be comfortable with.