Family is first a matter of relationships, not techniques and appropriate responses. If you are running a correctional facility with inmates, you could spell out the proper penalty and response to a given infraction of the rules, and by being consistent you could maintain discipline and order. But our goal in parenting is to train a soul into godliness, not just gain compliance. From the child's perspective, training is better instituted through emulation rather than capitulation. If we lose the child's heart, we have lost the battle before we even know what the issues are.
Mother is the morale of the family.
Therefore, as counselors, until we have dealt with parental attitudes we are wasting our time. A technique that is right for one person can be wrong for another, when it is dished out with the wrong attitude. A rod can heal or destroy. A rebuke can bring repentance or communicate rejection. A warning can turn the heart of the child before it gets out of hand or it can produce rebellion.