Although that might create the appearance of a great cake, it would lack in substance and satisfaction. Or, better yet, you could take the more time consuming and difficult course of first doing whatever it takes to provide all of the essential ingredients. Whereas sex is easy, developing a loving, intimate relationship based on respect, communication, unselfishness, self-control, etc., takes a powerful commitment and a lot of hard work and patience. As two people develop such a relationship, they find there are many intimate, personal ways to express their love. Sexual activity is just one such way to convey love.
Many people think of intimacy as mainly referring to sexual activity.
Although intimacy may include sexual activity, intimacy itself is much larger and more important than sexual activity. Paradoxically, when sex takes on greater significance than other essential aspects of marriage, unsatisfactory intimacy is often the result. Sex, without intimacy, is shallow and only briefly satisfying. When sex does not mean anything more than passing passion or physical pleasure, it tends to become progressively less satisfying. Some people become less interested, while others seek more sex or different types of stimulation in order to feel satisfied.