This inner relationship system and relationship as such, is, for me, the very dynamic that makes personal evolution, and the evolution of consciousness itself, possible. Relationship is only complete when it brings two, or more, separate, different people, face to face. As long as the child is in the womb, in a fusional state, identified with the mother, the two of them do not yet have a relationship in its fullest mature sense. The child's identity and individuation builds up along with a progressive separation from the mother, father and surrounding world, from being almost one in the womb, to becoming a mature, self-reliant adult. Separation is a must, if one means to grow, starting with birth.
Relationship is the growth process itself .
Observation of babies, cared for by a new different person every day, corroborates that these don't prosper and are in danger of ill health or of being psychically damaged, if not provided with a caretaker to whom they can relate, who can love and mirror them, in a continuum. So also, our aliveness dies, our problems increase, when we just stay identified with a selected set of primary Selves. Identification makes face to face relationship impossible. We cannot see, mirror or care for our inner Selves, if identified with them, nor set them free, if unaware of them. Developing an Aware ego, through separating our different Voices, Selves, Energies from it, and so becoming a witness to them, generates a caring, and yet independent, relatedness to these inner Selves, as well as access to the enriching multiplicity of our many Voices, primary, vulnerable and disowned.