You see them shed tears of remorse. Mourning speaks of humility verses pride. It talks of sensitivity verses callousness. If husbands and wives spent as much time crying over their own personal failures as they do over their hurts, their marriages would blossom. Successful Spouses Find Strength in Yielding Their Rights to God.
Many people go to counselors to learn how to be assertive.
Most marriage problems that I've dealt with are around the area of assertiveness. When you have a husband putting forth his demands and a wife listing her demands, you have a demanding puzzle where none of the pieces fit. Our society seems to offer us only two options. Option one, assert yourself and demand your own way or, option two, become a door mat and let your spouse walk all over you. I have a more excellent way.