You will have to be flexible and willing to compromise. He may not agree that all of these tasks need to be done, or need to be done to your specification. Also, be creative. You may decide to hire someone to do some of this work, or find other ways to get it done. The point is to clue him in on exactly what it takes to run a household.
Many people are shocked when they see what minimal upkeep is like.
This is pretty scary stuff. It allows you to make a conscious decision about this work. Now, I don't know whether you work full-time or whether you stay at home to raise your son. I don't know whether your son is three or thirteen. Every family is different and every family's decision is different, but the important thing is that everyone agree about a workable solution.