Many of us spend a good deal of our time trying to change things that we don't like about ourselves or others. There is usually some major problem in our life that we're trying to fix. Yet, every time we perceive a problem, we create the basis for suffering in our life.
Problems are more subjective then they are objective.
The next time we experience disappointment, we would do well to realize how much we are contributing to our pain. A different interpretation might help us to shift how we feel. When we are in pain, we are being given an opportunity to look at ourselves. The more we oppose life, the more difficult our experience will seem. Swimming upstream doesn't lead to results we can be proud of, and every failure aggravates our deep-seated sense of unworthiness and inadequacy.