A child soon considers a reward his right and demands a reward for everything. He considers that punishment gives him the right to punish in turn, and the retaliation of children is usually more effective than the punishment inflicted by the parents. Children often retaliate by not eating, fighting, neglecting schoolwork, or otherwise misbehaving in ways that are the most disturbing to parents. Natural and logical consequences are techniques which allow the child to experience the actual result of his own behavior. Natural consequences are the direct result of the child's behavior.
Natural consequences are usually effective.
Acting instead of talking is more effective in conflict situations. Talking provides an opportunity for arguments in which the child can defeat the parent. If the parent maintains a calm, patient attitude, he can, through quiet action, accomplish positive results. Often doing nothing effects wonderful results. Withdrawal from the provocation but not from the child.