But if you flip and flop between love and hate all the time, then you are approaching relationships with the wrong expectations. The faster you fall in love, the faster you fall out of love. My husband wants to go to sleep afterward. He says he is drained. If your husband is drained and it is at the end of the day, then if you want to go longer, maybe do it in the morning or earlier in the day.
People get in the habit of using sex as a sleeping pill.
You drop a loser like you drop any other relationship that isn't working out. You don't have to convince them, but you have to inform them that you need time and space and you are going to move in this direction. My husband is 12 years younger than I am. He had dated four other women before we met. We dated two years and have been married almost 10 now.