Gottlieb suggests keeping the household set up as close to the same way it was running before the cancer struck. Sometimes parents loosen limits on children, letting them stay out longer or missing school, but children need the limits to feel secure, she says. As for participating as caregivers, children should be involved in the way that best suits the child. Teenagers who like to cook or shop might feel they are contributing to a parent's well-being by making a meal or picking up groceries. Children who like to hang out with mom might contribute by watching a video with her while she recovers from chemotherapy.
Parents can often help their children deal with cancer through children's books.
The Social Services Department also has a number of other videos, publications and support groups available. One of particular note is the Cancer Survival Toolbox, a set of audiotapes that teach cancer survivors the skills they need to help themselves in the healthcare environment. Now is not the time to think you can do it all on your own. Encourage family communication, questions and concerns. Listen to and value all feelings.