Fear of marginalisation. Fear that the gains of the seventies and eighties are presently being eroded. These fears are clearly visible at the ANN Gatherings. It may not be orthodox within the Network, but I am only asking people to think about it. Men's Oppression, and Feeling Blamed.
Many women deny it too, but then again, they are a different gender.
A lot seems to depend on point of view. We have lots of fear too, for some very good reasons. Men are brought to this state by the very same forces that routinise violence against women. Those forces are greed, ownership, competition, and power over. It tends to leave out or trivialize the pain and injuries inflicted on men by the oppressive society.