In eros desire is the cause of love, while in agape, love is the cause of desire. Erotic love is egoistic.
Philic love is mutualistic.
Transformational, relational leadership is founded on this sort of love. The ideal value in Christianity is love, evidenced in service, sacrificial if necessary. This was the central value our Lord consistently modeled. Abusive leaders really are driven by eros. Let s not forget they often appear to be successful leaders.