While victims don't cause the abuse they suffer, some find they seek out or stay in abusive relationships for reasons they do not understand. A psychoanalyst can help some victims find those reasons. Therapists can also help victims recognize when and how they are being abused, and realize that they are not to blame. However, being a victim is a traumatic experience, and a therapist can help victims overcome the anxiety and depression that can result. The thought of seeking professional help can be daunting.
Many victims worry about expense or ending up with a therapist who does more harm than good.
While these concerns can seem overwhelming, they can be overcome. Many health insurance plans provide at least partial coverage of counseling. Finally, plenty of therapists, both straight and gay, are accustomed to working with patients in same-sex relationships and will not pathologize your sexuality. Ask GLBT friends for referrals, or ask the Same-Sex Domestic Violence Subcommittee for their list of recommended therapists. Another option, especially if you are worried about costs, is to call your local community health center.