If you live minute by minute, hour to hour, there will be much less chance of dwelling into the past or dreaming too far into the future. Self-leaders make the present perfect. How much time and energy do you exert in developing the communication skill that has been with you since birth. Self-leaders capitalize on the power of listening. They listen for what people say, what they don't say, and what they would like to say but don't know how to put into words.
Most people can identify several recent examples in their own life.
The costs can be staggering. Self-Leaders have developed the ability to give unconditionally and constructive feedback. This is an integrity-based style of living. A toleration is something or someone that keeps you from having the quality of life that you deserve. Until you handle your tolerations, no significant changes can happen.