They both love each other. They're intelligent, capable, generous people. Yet, when it comes to the intimacy of talking about what to do with their money, they feel stuck, frustrated and resigned. Our intimate relationships give us a chance to confront the ways we handle the energy of money, both individually and part of a success team. And, make no mistake, we pair up with someone because we have a sense that the two of us could be more successful in attaining our dreams than each one of us could be alone.
Nothing is wrong here.
Hal and Emmy are at what I call Phase Two of their relationship, ready to go on to Phase Three. Let's look at what this means. Most therapists who work with couples know there are essentially three phases to a relationship. In the first phase, everything is sweet, romantic and accommodating. We're in love.