It's a conservative world, where for all the panting poses, there is neither freedom nor change. Pornography stays the same. At least heterosexual porn does. The battle to get gay porn in the high street is not about morals, it's about what upsets existing fantasies. Anyone who has looked at gay men's porn will realise what's radical about it is the self-conscious theatre.
Nobody pretends it's real life.
Queers don't need to prop up assumptions of male and female, so when it comes to sex, we know how to have fun. If you're a porn-reading straight male, that's even worse than having to deal with a real woman. It looks like those mad old feminists were right after all. That top shelf isn't about sex, it's about power.