Although allowing or encouraging sick or disabled people to test their limits in caring for themselves may seem cruel, they can often do more than we realize and will benefit from the increased activity and sense of accomplishment. Stepping back to cheer the person's own efforts can have surprising results. Family caregivers can experiment with encouraging more independence. Even though parents recognize that they need help, they may resent what they perceive as reversal of authority roles in the family. . Although fear of losing your parents may make it difficult for you to let them to take risks, you can't shelter them from the losses of old age any more than they could shelter you from the pains of growing up.
Overprotection simply increases dependence. .
You can't control your parents' futures. They will feel more loved if you support their choices and lifestyle than if you try to impose the living arrangements you think are best. . Making choices is seen as a right in our society, not as a privilege reserved only for the young. People who feel in charge of their own lives are generally happier and feel less stress than those who feel controlled by others. Changing these routines will take extra effort.