They have respect from other people, security. And none of that is any insurance at all against the big emotions when they arrive. I worry very much that we are inclined to fall in habits, to set shells of protection around ourselves to stop real emotions getting through. Young people don't do that. It's necessary to keep that openness throughout life.
People turn out to be so rigid that they actually snap when a trauma arrives.
And it's because they have spent 20 years pushing away all the big emotions, all the real feelings. Then, suddenly, those things just come back at you with all the force accumulated over those years.