This choice of direction must not be made by the child on his own. During instrument training I was drilled over and over on processes and procedures. The objective was to get my mind to rely solely on the messages given it by the flight instruments. Now I was asking it to totally disregard all those sensations and go by a new set of principles or laws. The process of training was not complete until my mind and sense of balance was content to believe and follow the flight instruments.
Normal parents grow weary of the process of saying no to the same request over and over again.
It's exhausting when children are constantly butting against your restraints and perpetually wanting to grab the steering wheel. Many parents are like old Eli, they eventually give in and allow their children to walk in their own way. They are tired and want rest, training is wearing them down. No, your mother and I don't feel comfortable about you stay overnight. Parents, you are not under any obligation to give your reasons.