Another guy gave me a great metaphor for why some men need to live with their girlfriends first. He is an extreme skier, and he said before he does anything extreme, he walks up the ski run and checks out where the big boulders are, which cliffs he can jump without dying as he lands. There is no way I could have gotten married without living with the woman who's now my wife first. The result could be catastrophic when you break up. But many men I interviewed were more comfortable even in marriage maintaining separate checking accounts and feeling as though they didn't want the added complications of truly joining funds.
Men seem to be more attracted to the unattainable, hard to get scenario.
My girlfriend went to twenty one Yankees games with me the year before I got married. The reality is, some of these romantic games create some excitement for a couple, and maybe a few more might help many marriages. The first thing we have to discuss is why so many men want a double standard. Another guy talked about mice two thousand years ago. Women just roll their eyes when they hear this stuff.