This is not a religious movement, but many of us have found that a belief in a power greater than ourselves has been helpful in our recovery. Strange as it sounds, there are no rules or explanations except to keep coming to meetings. What you hear may make you sad, uncomfortable or angry. Try to examine your feelings. All are typical.
Recovery is no day at the beach.
There are many Alanon, AA, Alanon Adult Children and ACOA groups in New Jersey. Although we try to make every meeting a safe place, not all are, and you will feel more comfortable in some than in others. Sample and select, take what you like and leave the rest. It has been so for others of us. We embrace you.