This has not been a pain-free differentiation process. However, it is a process that has been worth it for all of us given the level of healthiness we enjoy today. How I wish the many faith traditions that make up God's households on earth could be more functional than dysfunctional. Provide for little or no change. Depend on law and order and operate through psychological and sometimes physical force.
Relationships have to be regulated by force.
There is always someone who knows what is best for you. Self-worth is secondary to power and performance. Actions are subject to the whims of the boss. Change is resisted. Are made for someone else's benefit or to uphold some impersonal principle or institution.