Both a lender and a borrower be. The Minimum Daily Requirement is two hugs. Love is possible, but it needs effort. Love is a commitment, not a giddy feeling. For love to happen, Passion, Intimacy and Commitment must be balanced on a foundation of Respect.
Passion is shared intense interest.
When we try to possess someone, we're out of balance. We can't get to intimacy without going through our vulnerabilities. To feel intimate, we must feel secure. All relationships have pain. When pain outweighs pleasure, reconsider.