Anything you read about how to tell their age is a guess. Lobsters are susceptible to several diseases, none of which are transmitted to people. They have a nervous system like an insect and don't appear to be able to process pain. You can farm lobsters, but you won't make money at it, as the costs are too high. The last few years the price of Maine lobster has been driven up by the Canadian demand for lobsters to process into meat.
Nobody seems to have a special name for male or female lobsters.
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