During this time, you will need to guide your child closely through some tough choices. Again, there is a theme of distancing and separation. During the departure stage, again there are images of death, separation, and distancing. Parents imagine where their children will go and with whom they will be. They reflect on their parenting and how it has affected their children.
Parents judge themselves.
Old unresolved issues between the couple may start emerging. Holiday phone calls and celebrations become important. You can strengthen your parenting skills through learning and experience. Consider, first, what influences you as a parent. Your temperament, your child's temperament, your childhood experiences, your relationship with your mate and your own parents, your family and work situation, your community and your support networks all can affect your parenting.