You ve heard it before, Do unto others as you would have others do unto you . Think of what you d like to get out of your marriage. Then project those things onto your spouse. If you would like to receive more encouragement, encourage your mate. If you want him to appreciate you more, show appreciation to him.
Most people respond in the manner in which they are addressed.
Chances are if you greet your husband each morning with angry words and a sarcastic tone, you will receive the same in return. Treat your spouse the way you want to be treated and the same will return to you multiplied many times over. I could go on for pages and pages, but these are the basic principles that have made my marriage what it is today. Every married couple is different. Find what works for you and your mate.