You are a human being. Remember, your relatives had no choice in the matter either. Repentance is never something to be ashamed of. Respect cannot be learned, purchased or acquired- it can only be earned. Respect is mutual, if you don't respect others viewpoints, chances are they won't acknowledge yours.
Revenge has no more quenching effect on emotions, than salt water has on thirst.
Right now I'm having amnesia and deja vu at the same time. I think I've forgotten this before. This one doesn't Rules without relationship equals rebellion. Sanctification means being made one with Jesus so that the disposition that ruled Him will rule us. It will cost everything that is not of God in us.