If you find yourself honking your horn at traffic, if you feel agitated, or if you are not able to concentrate on your work like you want to, these are all ways of knowing that something is wrong. There are at least two ways of experiencing anger. You can feel angry with yourself for something that you have done or not done, or you can be angry at someone or something else. A non-productive way would be to bottle your feelings up. Keeping the anger inside results in being indirect and sarcastic.
Many people fear hurting someone else s feelings if they share angry feelings.
By holding on to anger, the other person ends up feeling hurt and relationships are damaged. Having a lot of angry feelings that are pent up could lead to punitive kinds of behavior or resentment, directly or indirectly. People that you are involved with, a boyfriend of girlfriend or a spouse, know when you are angry. There are ways that you show it indirectly. And when you don t express that anger directly to them, usually they resent it, and the frustration can cause people to withdraw from each other.