As your loved one quotes a Bible verse she still remembers, which amazes you because she cannot remember your name, you may recall the days she taught Bible verses to you. As she offers to fix lunch for you, even though she would be unable to find her way to the kitchen, you may have memories of how she always had a piece of pie for you, even when there was not one for her. And think back to the warmth and joy you brought to her when you achieved that worthy goal or when you provided that deed of loving service - or even when you came to her with that skinned place on your elbow or on your heart. In fact you are simply continuing the joy you have been to her through the years. Look for the happy places in the here and now even as you deal with the hard places.
Routines often come to have added meaning.
This Friday I will take mother out for a milkshake. My joy is in the happiness of her heart. I, too, may choose to wear purple when I grow old. Seek to use good religion and good sense as you meet the needs of the present, giving quality care to your loved one and quality care to yourself as well. In Mark 6, Jesus strongly condemns those who selfishly deprive the elderly of needed care.