All rights reserved. I would say for the past 2 yrs or so, my oldest son has myself and my husband very upset. He seems to have this system down, where if he knows he's getting something or going somewhere in the near future, he behaves and is good for the most part, but as soon as the activity or place is done, he is nasty again. He misbehaves and causes sneaky problems that we are unaware of until a later time. He has treated us badly every time we do something for him after he has what he wants.
Nothing seems to work.
We are tired of yelling, talking doesn't seem to help, because he never has an answer for us. I have tried to even not include him in our activities, but he just doesn't seem to care. I don't know what to do any more. We love him very much, but it doesn't seem enough. I am wondering about these facts because it sounds as if family dynamics not uncommon to divorced and step-parenting families may be playing a part in the troubles you are experiencing with the older boy.