Basically, the restoration of any life begins with an examination of conscience. Let us now try to touch lightly on the second part. To begin with, parents are human beings who usually do not know each other very well.
Priests have long years of preparation.
So do all religious, male and female. The learning process should have begun at the knees of our father and mother, with their example. Long ago, perhaps, in other generations, it did. They are 'in love'. Take the idea of 'rights' for example.