Only the woman's feelings count. You may get her to like you more as a friend, but she will never consider you a boyfriend. It's obvious that your girl is comfortable around you - by itself, this is a positive sign. I just wish your girl thought a little bit more about your comfort before she invited the other guy to go bowling with you two. Rich, it's time to move on and collect new home phone numbers .
Men do the picking, but women do the choosing .
The most a man can do is put his best foot forward and then ask for the home phone number - anything beyond this is just wasted effort.