Sharing responsibilities is another mark of a good leader. Young people who have everything done for them never learn to do things for themselves. We recently had a local dance where the young people did the bulk of the planning and decorating. The adults in charge hadn't been afraid to delegate responsibility and, as a result, the teens learned valuable lessons in patience, persistence and finance. What may be considered a jest, or a light rebuke, can be devastating to a young person.
Natural leaders keep their negative comments to a bare minimum while stressing the positive.
I was told of one Bible study in which a teenager gave what they thought was the right answer to a question, only to have the instructor criticize the whole class for not knowing their Bible. The adult in charge hadn't realized how hard it had been for the young person to work up the courage to raise their hand and give what they thought was the correct answer. Because they were insensitive to the feelings of the youth they were working with, the teen was offended and the whole class subjected to negative criticism. One young person expressed to me the desire to have leaders who were kind. It was another way of saying they longed for an adult who was genuinely interested in young people and sensitive to their feelings and needs.