Adult life is very difficult. There's a lot of responsibility, a lot of let-downs, a lot of pain. That's what I mean when I talk about bullshit. Howard Brown came looking for something more than the stereotypical male. Women are good at networking.
Men tend to isolate themselves, to become competitive or stereotyped.
I want to share common concerns about things like spirituality, parenthood - even intimacy. It's not just men who have to get used to attending men's groups. I found it important not only to listen to my partner's concerns, but also to share with her how the group was contributing to me. She gradually discovered that my participation in the group was actually contributing to our relationship. Members share the leadership role and in a typical meeting, after a period of silence, each person will have some uninterrupted time to share current life concerns and joys with the group.