Either explanation devalues the activity itself. The bottom line is that men and women are socialized differently according to different standards and expectations and the results are very evident in business. Don't wait for someone to tell you what to do. Analyze your company carefully, and try to understand what you can do which will make a significant difference. Get a handle on the problem, develop a solution, and a consensus around it, lobby for approval, then execute better and faster than anyone else.
Most people never accomplish their goals because they fail to set goals.
Clearly the most important step in achieving a goal is the initial act of setting one. Just as you would create a business plan for a business, create a plan for your life. Set out your mission statement, what it is you want to achieve in your life, being guided by your true values. Then set long term goals for your life, your career and your work, all of which will support your mission. This is accomplished most effectively by breaking down big projects into small, realistic and manageable daily goals.