This change in our lives is as unpredictable as the weather. With the weather we know the four seasons will happen year in year out, forecasters can now give us the prediction for a whole week but you still don't know until the next day if it will turn out the way they predicted. As parents we mostly try to avoid the long range forecast and just manage the next 24 hours. The trouble is you can never predict how you are going to deal with the little cyclone of emotions that are part and parcel of the new parent that you have become. Whilst the initial cyclone goes on it's way, in it's wake are little whirlwinds of emotion that enter your life when you least expect it.
Nothing is predictable any more.
The full force of the cyclone hits when you learn that your child has life long disabilities. When you are in the eye of the cyclone you think that you can not bear it any more, the pain you feel for yourself, your partner and your child almost tears you apart. Just when this happens is different for all of us. With the aftermath of that initial disclosure you start to rebuild outwardly, at least. Just how you rebuild will be as individual as the person that you are.