This type of love in our society has been lost.
People choose to gain power, influence people, and fulfill selfish needs.
The world constantly teaches this concept, especially through television, which portrays people who fall in love instantly and who place much emphasis on feelings. They imply that there is no cost. This is contrary to the Christian way, which says that love without will is impossible. God always puts the two together. If there is no sense of commitment, then the love is not real.