When your own safety requires that everyone live under the same rigid structure, you can never rest. Until the Ayatollahs have the guns and can write the rules, their anxiety keeps them awake at night, no matter how well the rest of us are sleeping. When one side is willing to compromise and the other can't, real dialogue is impossible. Rules aren't bad, but rules are the beginning, not the end. Beyond all rules, there are meta-rules.
Rules spell out exactly what to do in every situation.
Trusting others to learn how to be experts at living their own lives. Which brings us to expert systems. Before neural nets and fuzzy logic, expert systems were strictly rule based. Beginners need context-free rules because they lack the wisdom of experience. Experts engage with the flow of life in all its complexity and richness.