Get together with others, for distraction, to find out how they cope, and to have someone to listen and understand our situation. Getting organized is a prelude to getting busy. Challenge has to do with viewing the situation in a problem solving way. Commitment to something larger than ourselves is a concept which has many benefits. Even activities such as art and exercise will work.
People live longer when they pull themselves our of themselves.
She suggested books by James Gordon, Jon Kabat-Zinn, Belleruth Naperstek and Dr. Andrew Weil.