Although you are saddened by this situation try to consider your friends viewpoints and how they may feel, it may help you to develop a stronger level of tolerance. Your HIV status coupled with your viewpoints toward friendship may have placed extra demands and emotional burdens on your friendships that they may have chosen to reject or felt they could not meet. You want a higher level in friendship but remember your friendships were created on a past situational foundation of going out to bars. You maybe demanding something more, which may or may not be possible for these people. Possibly due to your HIV status, your tolerance has changed and you view time and quality relationships in a different light now, which is fine.
Relationships work well when people have realistic expectations.
Clearly your friends have let you know with their actions and words that they are not able to meet your expectations. If you can remain friends with these people, knowing their limitations, do so and accept them for who they are. Keep your eyes wide open, learn from this experience, and continue to seek out new friendships in your future. However, please be aware that not all questions or comments can be responded to in the magazine and personal replies are not possible. There may also be a delay before letters can be responded to.