This attraction and repulsion quality of personality is a great hindrance. When one is in one's personality, one loses objectivity. When we lose our objectivity, we treat ourselves and others as objects. The personality-play makes one selfish and foolish. We fool ourselves when we fall into the trap of our personality or the personality of another.
Personality is a shallow covering.
The real self, the soul, is much deeper than personality. When we relate on the level of the soul, we are no longer distracted by the personality. Personality is always changing and is never stable. Like a shadow, the personality has no substance. When the power of soul-consciousness is awakened, dynamic equilibrium of the natural forces occurs and the mind is silenced.