When we get older, it could be time to let the servants go. Third, our parents should teach us respect for age and position. Hired help is almost always older than we are, sometimes older than our parents. Rather than let us look down on the servants, parents should teach us to use the proper words of respect. Even subtle things like giving up the front seat should come naturally.
Porch sitting can be a great equalizer, when servants are invited to joint the family conversations.
Finally, parents need to keep a keen eye out for indications that our attitudes are degenerating. Our tone of voice when speaking to servants is the most obvious indicator. Any signs of arrogance should be corrected. Orders for work should be given by parents, not us. Parents must support their help when they have a valid reason for correcting us.