Menopause has nothing to do with it. Hot flashes are simply a minor inconvenience for most women, and there are several common sense steps you can take to limit the severity of the episodes. You may be interested to know that menopause related depression does not exist. It seems that menopause brings on mental calm and stability in those susceptible to depression. Unless you're convinced sexuality is a decreasing commodity, there's no reason why it should decline in your forties or fifties.
Many women enjoy sex MORE after menopause.
There's no worry about childbirth, no need for condoms, the pill, jams and jellies. Sex becomes more pleasurable, less performance-based, more natural. Put these worries out of your mind. The only thing that can hurt your sex life, in regards to menopause, is maintaining idiotic, false notions about what menopause is and how it affects you. Like men who worry about performing, then face bouts of impotence, worrying about menopause is the one sure fire thing that will kill your sex life stone cold.