This frightened me at first, because I wanted to believe that I was indispensable, that the world would stop or be woefully lacking without my efforts. Without question, my Partner's talents and energy were missed and felt, but the point that came to me eventually was that there is always another way to get things done. When I get myself into a workaholic mind-set, part of the prison is my inability to see any alternative other than working harder and longer. Workaholism is also about having our primary, if not total, identity tied up in our work. We are valuable only if we succeed at work, and we are nobody if we are less than the best.
Money is the gauge of value, whereas relationships have no hard currency.
An alternative to workaholism is choosing a life of balance, with meaning invested in several directions. To find the time for this balance, we must learn how to let go. We need to find things that don't need doing. You will have to be the final judge, but here are some tips we have found helpful. Purposely reevaluate routine business procedures or family chores to discover those that don't have to be done.