In fact, she might find herself up against a wall of sanctimonious attachment types who don't support her choices, since, according to Sears himself, you have to be with your baby most of the time to get an authentic attachment experience happening. I give them a medical reason to extend maternity leave. I've decided to change jobs. I've started a home business. When approached with the question of what they would do should they need to return to work outside the home, many of the attachment moms I spoke with took a more pragmatic approach.
People do it.
Others, though, gave responses that exemplified the philosophical gulf forming between attachment moms and the other kind. One begins to wonder how a working mother could ever forgive herself, or even be friends with these other mothers. How easy it is to point to the expense of day care and the desirability of full-time mothering from the high perch of financial and conjugal stability. Or maybe the gap is, once again, generational. Now a lot of people are starting their families at an earlier age because we've seen what happened to those women.