This is great for my partners, but not so great for me. Now I am in my mid-40s, unmarried, and have fewer sexual partners. Increasingly, as time goes by, I am more and more afraid to have sexual encounters because it is always frustrating to satisfy another and not myself. Before considering the psychological issues that follow, be sure to check with your physician about any sexual side effects of medication you take, particularly antidepressants. Also, get screened for medical conditions that may affect orgasm, including prostate problems, diabetes, cancer and neurovascular conditions.
Many men go on to have quite a few more orgasms by continuing to take matters into their own hands.
And, many men exert much more pressure with their hands than they are likely to experience during intercourse. In doing so, they essentially train themselves to sexually respond to lots of pressure. One reason young males use strong pressure during masturbation is they're often rushing to finish so they don't get caught. Then, as adults, they mistakenly think they need that same pressure to reach orgasm. I've had quite a few therapy clients learn to reach orgasm with a partner if they practice self-stimulation slowly and with much less pressure than usual.