The best way to solve a problem is to drop it totally from the mind. If the problem is worthy of solution, a solution will ripen in due time. You have been in existence for billions of years and you will continue to exist for billions more. You have plenty of time. Suddenness made is gradual.
Relaxed naturalness is sudden.
Death and rebirth are Just a relaxing and tensing. To tie any experience to the past is to lose the wonder of the moment. Each person is simply a limited version of God, a little God. Like a little drop of water. If we remove the limitations we put on that drop of water, it becomes an ocean.