This is a war for the heart and soul of your child. This is a war to keep your sanity. Most wars are fought over conflicting ideologies. You believe that the world is full of opportunities, that you are loving and want what is best for your child, that freedom from control requires self discipline. You want only to soothe away your child's pain.
Most wars are mutually antagonistic.
In this war, your child uses hate and rage to push you away. You, however, love your child. Parents of children with Attachment Disorders are living a chronic stress that threatens their well-being. This ongoing stress can be more devastating than a major catastrophic experience. No one lives with an Attachment-Disordered child without being adversely affected.