Reconnector relationships are doomed to fail. About two-thirds of rekindlers remain together. Rekindlers meet at high school reunions. Only about 6 percent meet up at such events. Most commonly, they phone, write or call.
People seek out old flames when they are at a low point.
Generally, people wait till they feel pretty confident about themselves before they call an old flame. These relationships tend to be swift moving and very intense, sexually and emotionally. Kalish says close to a third of the reconnectors she surveyed were involved in an extramarital relationship. Kalish says her research points out the long-lasting influence of young love. Two thirds of the rekindlers had been first loves.