Also, different people take different lengths of time to complete the adaptation process. And, even when a person has adapted, the holidays may cause the pain to come back because the loved one is no longer present to share in the celebration. The person will feel accepted, understood and safe. If the grieving person is progressing, give support, not advice. Show support for the person's decisions, or at least their right to make their own decisions.
Peace is found in the presence of people who care.
May you find peace in my words. Then express appreciation for your loved one's unique talents and gifts. Tell them from your heart how much you care about them. If appropriate for the person, remind them of spiritual teachings that would be helpful to them. Promise to be there for them.