Then, do what needs to be done. Naturally we men want to put our best foot forward. We have a thing about being really cool on the first date. Often we withhold who we really are, afraid that if she knew the truth about us, she would very quickly distance herself from us. This is why we must learn to communicate more effectively how we feel to our partner.
Most people are attracted to someone who is well groomed however, there is more to it than that.
Make good eye contact. This shows you are paying attention. It also suggests someone who is self-confident. Men whose eyes drift are, right or wrong, thought to be uncertain of themselves. To a woman, this is a red flag.