So one of your initial motivations is to balance your inner masculine and feminine. As a woman, you may strengthen you inner masculine by cultivating your sense of purpose and direction, applying self-discipline and scheduling to meet your goals. As a man you may strengthen your inner feminine, magnifying your life force, communing with nature, and learning to go with the flow by feeling rather than by trying to change things. So, initially as they grow, women tend to become more self-directed and men tend to become more flowy. Women enjoy their independence and projects.
Men enjoy their capacity to let go and allow things to be without effort.
Women become more purposeful and success oriented. Men become more radiant and sensually alive. Men and women depend on each other less because they have cultivated their inner masculine and feminine. They have become whole. Eventually, however, this motive toward inner balance may lead to sexual neutralization and spiritual stagnation.