Do not assume you both want the same degree of intimacy. If you have any doubts. . . Protect yourself from a charge of rape because you didn't ask. Being drunk or stoned is no excuse. Having sex with someone who is, is rape.
Men can be victims of rape and have the same rights to counseling and legal action as women do.
But, as a matter of fact, we often take security for granted when we shouldn't. And where common sense should be our byword, we presume our safety is an inalienable quality of our personal existence. A few special rules can be followed, however, and you should make these rules automatic practice in your daily life. Letting fear get the upper hand in a crisis can cause you to do the very opposite of what common sense and cool behavior would lead you to do. Losing your perspective in the face of an unfamiliar situation can turn a potentially dangerous situation into a crisis.