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Men live longer and healthier if they're married.
Here's how to make the love last. Fourteen years ago, before psychologist John Gottman, PhD, had become one of the country's most respected marriage researchers, he was courting a woman at a seafood restaurant in Seattle. Dinner had just been served when the apple of his eye, in a grouchy mood, let loose with a nasty comment. Gottman fell to the floor, clutching his chest. A lot of guys might have felt resentful when stung by a choice comment from a grumpy mate.