Shy people are slow to warm up to new people and places. While all people feel this to an extent, shy peoples' prolonged warm-up period makes a feeling of fitting in difficult. More time must be allowed to acclimate to new people and places. Shy people need to expand their comfort zone, which represents the places and people with whom one feels comfortable. Carducci breaks a person's comfort zone into three main components a physical comfort zone, a social comfort zone, and a personal comfort zone, consisting of activities you are comfortable doing.
Most shy people have difficulty with the initial contact in meeting new people.
However, after that, they often have successful relationships. In the Chapter, Shyness of The Body , Carducci discusses the physical process of shyness. Carducci says to remember that these stress reactions are short-term responses to fear. By dwelling on your physical reactions, you only make the situation worse. Refocus your attention elsewhere.