When the husband leaves behind those things which are contrary to his wife, he will begin to know and understand her. She will see to that if he will respond. He will see that his failure to meet her needs keeps her from being able to fulfill his needs. Likewise you husbands, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife,., that your prayers may not be hindered. The husbands first response to learning about his wife will be to eliminate those actions which threaten the relationship.
Most marriages fall apart because of selfishness.
Since the husbands goal is to love his wife as Christ loved the church, he must set aside those things which are contrary to this goal. This would include things like overindulgence in sports, cars, even their career. The bible always commands the husband to love his wife, and commands the wife to submit to her husband. This is a present a picture of Christ and the church, as the church submits to Christ and learns to love Christ. At this point the husband will see himself making sacrifices which are not being returned by his wife.