The flip side is that women have come to expect that they will be supported, whether by a husband, ex-husband or the society at large, no matter what they do. I did not read most of this book. Philips own description of her book was enough to tell me this was not a book that I would find any value in. Her premise that men have social, economic and legal power is demonstrably false. Very few men actually have any power over these things.
Men live in a climate of constant anxiety and stress and fear.
They have no safety net. These are not expectations men have imposed upon themselves. These are expectations that have been imposed upon men by a culture that seeks to protect women at any cost, and that uses men as its primary means of protection. Men and women need to understand that we all had a hand in creating and accepting this system, and that none of us will be liberated until we all work together in taking it apart. Until men reach the point of full realization, and then reclaim the teaching of their sons what it means to be a man, then we can expect no change in the life, suffering and death of men.