This line of demarcation preserves a sense of mystery about our most vulnerable moments. We want to keep some small part of ourselves for ourselves. This is where I start and you end. Diaries and journals are another way of announcing this intention. Studies often conclude that healthy relationships have room for shared values and differences of opinion.
Nobody has to be in the wrong or changed.
Relationship disasters often come to those with little sense of where they stop and the other person begins. Consider twosomes where one is really hurting the other, but the underdog remains, putting up with whatever is dished out. In a relationship, if you feel you have overstepped your own personal beliefs or needs, back up and ask yourself how this happened. Sometimes action is needed, pronto. Perhaps you once told your significant person about a wild fantasy you had about sex with a co-worker on the boss s desk.