Unfortunately, if the model works out, the first person we establish this level of intimacy with will, when we share our fear statements, try to fix it, try to fix us. When fear is expressed forthrightly to a listener who accepts rather than arguing, it dissipates. The feelings lose their negative energy. Feedback in reciprocated feelings is beneficial. In each case, however, the benefits accrue primarily to the person sharing.
Relationships are all about solving the problems of that relationship.
Every relationship will have problems. The continued connection is about the problems that occur as two people go about the business of trying to figure out how to proceed together. It's not the other person, and it's not the relationship, it is the fact that we have created a vessel in which all our difficulties don't have anywhere to go. They don't have any way to be dissapated or sent back into the dark. Our fears and resentments are real.