You have to face it sometime. Remember that judgment is comprised of two aspects. It is confrontation with reality and truth. However, the other side of the coin is redemption. When we unite with God, we become the incarnation of truth and God can exercise the power of deliverance and grant us salvation.
Many people have the tendency to overcompensate for a personal or family deficiency or failure.
Those who received little or no love and compassion often counteract by displaying a harsh and aggressive manner. The lack of love caused an imbalance and insecurity, however, re-alignment is possible. Instead, look to God. Focus on the truth and the love of God and True Parents. Then just move forward.