I suggest that men walk around for 8 months with a plastic bag. Every month add some weight. See if their attitude doesn't change. Male only support groups and mentoring options. Men open up more to other men.
Men take criticism from another man better than they can take it from a woman.
I have seen grown men cry in the all-male support group setting. Their needs to be support groups about creating positive productive relationships. Most people took the good things the fathers did and tried to avoid the bad. Tried to improve on some of the choices the fathers made. Responsibility, commitment, emotional availability, respect for mother, May have taken verbal cues and physical cues.