But do ask her or him about it. Of course, I can't tell if it's helpful for your panicked insiders if you take anti-anxiety medication or not. You, or someone, has to ask them. Let's not be too quick to rely on medication. Regarding getting to sleep at night, something that works for me is spending a little time with a friend who is safe and helps me feel reassured before I go to sleep, or reading something fun.
Nightmares do happen, and they happen big time.
I tell people to find a way to express some of those scary thoughts, safely, during the day, and gradually that should diminish the amount that your mind has to inflict on you at night. That's not a good answer for the short term, but I think long-term it's a helpful one. I think that sometimes nightmares are caused by too much stressful, painful material stuck inside, trying to express itself. The first part of Karl's question is really very difficult. We've been at this about 10 years, ourselves, and we still also struggle a lot in the same areas.