Don't let doctors 'talk down' to you - you too have a brain. Make sure your doctor is aware of any research and information you have gathered. My daughter then wee'd down his leg. If there are any problems identified or issues unresolved, your GP can make a referral to a specialist for further testing or diagnosis. The role of the specialist is crucial in reaching the correct diagnosis and planning future treatment and support for your child.
Most doctors refer to a range of specialists they use regularly and have close contact with.
You can, however, ask for a referral to the specialist of your choice. It is important that you find a specialist who is able to communicate clearly and simply to you. Problems of compatibility sometimes arise. As with GPs, specialists' 'bedside manner' vary significantly. Parents report having good and bad experiences with specialists.