Pick up a handful of women s magazines, and you will usually find at least one problem page letter like this. But the Agony Aunts standard advice that going off sex is a sign that you have an underlying problem in your relationship is often way off the mark, says Dr Andrew Evennett, a GP from Cheshire. It s not unusual for women to think there s something wrong with them when actually their decreased interest in sex may be perfectly normal, says Dr Evennett. The stress and exhaustion of modern living can take their toll on a woman s sex drive. Male and female sex drives tend to be quite different too.
Many men feel ready for sex whatever kind of day they have had.
On the other hand, most women need to be in the right mood. Problems can arise when a woman starts to think her partner is being over-demanding, or he thinks she s deliberately cold by not meeting his needs. If your lack of sex drive is causing problems in your relationship, it may actually be your partner who needs to be more understanding and sensitive, and counselling can often help with this. Your doctor will also be able to look into possible medical causes. For instance, any illness that drains your energy will also sap your sex drive.