True the Essenes were well known for there celibacy, but that had, again to do with commitment to God and abstainence from many things that would detract from that devotion. Womanizing is a completely different act than sex between two souls of the opposite sex. Ive never personally met such a man that seemed free. A fornicator is not true to himself. He's true to the methods of control, and who he needs to portray to gain it.
Marriage is about loss of control.
Then one becomes the lie. The lesson seems obvious. But hey, maybe it's complicated. Much as marriage is now a contract between two people in a ritual performed by people and has also left it's meaning as a commitment to God. The term also referred to a vaulted cellar or similar place where prostitutes plied their trade.