As men we are often raised to conform to a manliness that rewards toughness over respect, competition over compassion and denial instead of understanding. There are other ways of being a man that do not require abuse of women, children and men. A man who uses violence against a woman must believe that his violence is OK and the woman does not deserve better treatment. As men we can all oppose violence and the denigration of women and children. We all have the right to live in safety, and all men have a role to play in placing everyone's safety as a top priority.
Men can talk to trained advisors and so can any family or friends.