I learn by going where I have to go. The secret is to learn to sit at the feet of your own life and be taught by it. It should, however, create the infinity of questions begetting questions. It should be a mirror that is not superficial, in that it reflects the physical self. That reflection is emotional and historical but it is a pathway to insight into a more spiritually significant present.
Minds are like parachutes.
They only function when open. Stop talking about being a good person and be a good person. And let our illusions die. True knowledge is not attained by thinking. The secret to life is anticipating the rainbows.