Until we help. Then there are those who are able to change their destructive behaviors due to tremendous acts of repression they mistake for discipline. Self-control is central in their lives. It's the opposite of life, a system of illusions founded on fear and pain instead of faith and joy. Yes, disaster is inevitable but so is laughter.
Misery is optional.
Healthy people die everyday, and yet others waste their lives trying to live longer thinking fun is the opposite of discipline when it's all a question of balance. I've learned that self-control is the ability to change what you want, not just what you do. Gradually, glad grace replaces any need for discipline. What I did in college required so much discipline, it was work to relax. But I was as strong as the self-value and inspiration I gathered from those who loved me.