This is not a dating chat, and those questions make people uncomfortable. Be very careful about what you say in private messages. Due to human or computer error, it could show up in the room. Do not say anything that you wouldn't want the whole room to hear. Respect the opinions, cultures and beliefs of others.
Many people here are in a vulnerable state of mind.
It's okay to disagree, but refrain from personal attacks. Specific discussions about cutting or sexual abuse are not permitted unless everyone in the chat room is comfortable with it. Sexual harassment of any kind is not permitted by either gender. Take it elsewhere if you want to want to pick someone up. Change the subject if that becomes obvious.