Get help to cope with constant, hard to-solve problems. For instance, a mental health counselor or therapist may be able to help you work through a serious marital problem. He or she might be able to help you find positive ways to express anger, if that has become a major concern. Accepting what you can't change 1. Realize that you can change only yourself, not other people.
Most people spend too much time and energy trying to reform their spouses, children or doctors.
They want to make them different, or to have them act in a certain way. When these changes don't happen, people tend to feel frustrated, tense, and upset. No one has the power to change another person. When people change, it's generally because they wanted to do so. Have the courage to be imperfect.