Your child may be viewing the failure as letting you down, or as proof that he will never succeed. Appropriate questions can be asked to help guide the child toward positive growth. Successful people try to evaluate the outcome rather than focus on the win or loss. Follow these questions with more encouragement to try new experiences. When your child experiences a failure, assure her that it's okay to make mistakes.
Mistakes are a part of life.
Be ready to share some of your mistakes as well. Affirm their feelings. Your child feels bad about this and wants to be understood. The next step is where the encouragement and support need to come through. It would be easy to say it's okay for your child to withdraw or quit.