We start here only because we have to begin somewhere, not because everyone begins their journey here, some begin in the top half of the model. Protesting involves an inability to accept the reality of loss. Then, when we can no longer deny that the loss has occurred, Despair sets in. For many, this is the scariest part of the journey. At times, it feels like we are going crazy.
Nothing makes sense.
In fact, we act much like turtles pulling their heads into their shells. Once inside our protective shells, we can take time to rest, to think and to re-evaluate our lives and relationships. Hiding also allows us to protect ourselves from further involvement since we are now painfully aware that grief is the price we pay for having loved or cared at all. At some point, we have to decide whether we want to pay this price ever again. Detach W e turn now to the top half of the model.