Addictions may allow a focusing of mind that exclude emotions, unwanted behaviour and self-talk. So the person feels increasingly sad, and at the same time is increasingly motivated to work. Although addictions can devastate most relationships, some can deepen. Sometimes, a person from a family background of addiction wants a relationship with an addict - because that feels normal. During Soulwork, integration overlaps with the re-evaluation of significant relationships.
People become conscious of how their relationships have shaped their lives.
Many people have described the suffering that they experience in a relationship with an addicted person. It wants me to be like my father. Such a metaphor often represents conditions for important relationships. Many people want to forget something. It could be the horror of a war, or the horror of being an unwanted child, or the horror of being abandoned.