Marriage can be a great dance but you have to constantly watch your step and adjust your tempo. This is a basic tenet of Jewish belief. There is no home without trust. There is no home without commitment. Beauty is nice.
Pleasure is a good thing.
Conflict resolution techniques are helpful. But they're not the foundation of a home. Being able to adhere to commitment in your marriage begins with self-respect. You know you do. It won't always be easy.