When you are a family member involved in that care and attending to your loved one's needs, then the system can be more responsive and helpful to make your loved one's life better. Bad behaviors are quite common given these feeling states and declinig conditions. At least there is a place you can have these feelings and point fingers and rail. What would you do if the only other option was taking care of your loved one at home, no matter how difficult. I've seen those who try and they pay a very high price.
Nobody wants to be there.
Nobody wants to have physical disabilities. But sometimes we don't have choices over that when in happens. If that's what baby boomers will want, they will get it if they pay for it. Believe me it will be a lot more than is paid now for nursing care. The principle of wanting more and paying less may work in the fast changing computer culture.