When someone is very ill and changed in appearance, it may be difficult to realize that this person is still the same inside. Keep this in mind and relate to patients as the individuals they were and still are. The pleasure you give by your visit and the warmth you are able to communicate will be appreciated. Remember, when words fail, a loving look or touch can say a lot. Some patients with advanced cancer will die, and dying can be a lonely experience.
Most people are more afraid of dying alone than they are of death itself.
We can help those who are close to us through this time by being with them and showing we care. Help is also available in many communities through hospice organizations. If they want to talk, be a good listener. Listen to what is said and how it is said as well as what is meant but not said. Try to feel comfortable when there is a conversation lull.