Make sure you're thinking strategically . For many couples, the best solution may be an uncontested divorce . But let's assume that you and your spouse don't agree yet on how to divide up your property, or how much of what kind of support each of you will pay. Consider mediation . The idea of divorce mediation is that you and your spouse would sit down in the same room with each other and with a neutral mediator and work through all the issues you need to resolve so the two of you can get through your divorce.
Mediation is flexible and confidential.
It gives you and your spouse a way to settle the conflict between you, which is natural and inevitable, in a way that helps you to work together as parents after your divorce. Your mediator will remain neutral between you and your spouse. That means the mediator cannot give advice to either party and cannot act as a lawyer for either party. What the mediator can do, though, is to point out in open session to both spouses things that each of them should be aware of about what they're trying to accomplish. That open and free exchange of information frees up both spouses to negotiate with each other in confidence.