The more involved the father is, the less apt he is to zone out and turn into the nonexistent father. But it's important for women to understand that she must give a dad a chance to have his own style. That's exactly the sort of thing that ends up with a huge fight between the parents, and then the baby crying. One last thing is don't let anyone call you Mr. Mom. The term sucks because it implies that a good father becomes a woman.
Men like to be men.
For many people, that middle trimester was like heaven on earth. I heard over and over how couples were able to express their love, but the first trimester, especially if your wife has morning sickness, may not be the niftiest time you two have made love. I felt from most of the women I spoke with that the more involved that the father to be was with the obstetrician-gynecologist, and helping to manage her fears, the more likely they were to have sex. But her body will heal, and you have to be completely understanding. For some reason, we couldn't figure out a boy's name, and with our son we were still deliberating on the way down the elevator to check out of the hospital.