A safer sex discussion may help you find out whether your partner is a good candidate for your love. Unfortunately, some people may react negatively no matter what you say or how you say it. These people are the exception, not the rule. If your partner decides not to pursue a relationship with you simply because you have herpes, it is in your best interest to find out now. The bottom line is there are lots of people out there who will be attracted to you for exactly who you are-with or without herpes.
Most people react well.
After all, you trust them enough to share a confidence with them. You've shown maturity in facing up to a health issue of mutual importance for any two people. Most people respect and appreciate that. The decision to stay with a partner who has herpes may be a difficult one. It is something that every person must decide for himself or herself.