When young, they were often led to un-nerving places as execution grounds, graveyards, and houses reputed to be haunted. Benevolence is thought of as a feminine trait. It was thought an essential part of nature to counter-balance rectitude and stern justice, two masculine traits. The trait of benevolence includes love, affection for others, sympathy and nobility of feelings. These were considered the highest attributes for the soul.
Politeness is a poor virtue if one does it for fear of offending good taste.
The casual visitor in Japan immediately observes politeness, courtesy and excellent manners. They are part of the Japanese way of life. Etiquette is an important part of life in Japan. Bowing, walking, standing, table manners and tea serving were developed as ritual ceremonies. Etiquette harmonized the total being with himself and his environment and expressed mastery of spirit over the flesh.