According to the Teen Packet Victims need to be assured that they deserve better, that they are not to blame for the abuse. Batterers need to be firmly confronted on their behavior. Abusers don't understand how to express anger or jealousy, they don't see what's wrong with controlling another person. If there's a fight or a circumstance that presents immediate danger physically or sexually Wilde urges the victim or victim's friends to call 911. That stops the fight immediately and eliminates physical peril.
People abuse for numerous reasons.
According to the Womenspace Teen Packet, abusers may have a low sense of power and think that the way to obtain more is by robbing power from others, they may have a low self-esteem, or not know how to effectively express their feelings. According to experts, most abusers have been abused themselves at some time. It's fine to be sympathetic to these peoples' backgrounds, but, according to both the Teen Packet and Wilde, abusers do have a choice. No one is doomed to become a batterer or manipulator Wilde insists.