And second, to live successfully when you are alone, you must be living in Christian fellowship. And let him who cannot be in community beware of being alone. Let him who cannot be alone beware of community. That means that you must first deal with God and yourself alone, before you can deal with living together in God's community. comes first. Let me quote Bonhoeffer again.
Many people seek fellowship because they are afraid to be alone.
Because they cannot stand loneliness they are driven to seek the company of other people. There are Christians too, who cannot endure being alone, who have had some bad experiences with themselves, who hope they will gain some help in association with others. They are generally disappointed. Then they blame the fellowship for what is really their own fault. The person who comes into a fellowship because he is running away from himself is misusing it for the sake of diversion, no matter how spiritual this diversion may appear.