Many times when bad things happen to us, part of our initial emotional response is to start weeping inside because we are hurting. That hurt may be prolonged, at times totally over-shadowing any significant lesson we can learn from such unfortunate situations. We always forget that the realities of life are made up of many pleasant and unpleasant incidents.
Nobody is afraid to celebrate success under normal conditions.
While we are busy blowing such trumpet we quickly forgets about the possibility of failure. When we later crash and our walls start to collapse, we cannot tolerate the emotional pains of those unfortunate experiences. But, if we can pull back a little from our hurt after a period of time, we can always learn from these bad incidents. Sometimes we need to go through those painful experiences to make us learn those social and emotional skills needed for survival in similar situations. Consequently, when bad things happen to us, they can offer powerful elements of learning and growth.