Problems cannot be solved by making additional problems for others. If a solution is reached that forces someone else to take the responsibility for fixing your problem, the parties must continue working toward a better solution. One person tries to dominate. One person gives in to the other s position. Both parties listen, negotiate, are flexible, and win some and lose some of the discussion.
Parties identify areas of agreement and disagreement.
They look at alternatives and find mutually agreeable solutions. Children learn that their needs cannot be met if they come in competition with the needs of others. Talking about self-discipline as a group of skills helps students to understand that skills are not rules. Rules can be broken. If skills are not demonstrated, opportunities to practice the skill are given.