Another common goof is offering choices when there are no choices. We want our children to do something and think that instead of giving an order, we will ask them politely if they want to do something. That's a desirable course of action when the child's response, positive or negative, is acceptable. The problem occurs when we need a specific response. I don't think a swimming suit in February is appropriate.
Parents can give children choices, but only acceptable choices.
Children need the experience making decisions, but if there are no acceptable alternatives, parents must never make it seem so. We will be home before your favorite TV program. A wise parent will consider the alternatives and allow the child that privilege. Sometimes a compromise is in order. Negotiation is a skill all children need to learn and the best place for learning is at home.