These approaches are sometimes not productive or satisfactory. Talking things out can be done in private or, if necessary, with an impartial mediator. According to one professional negotiator, you don't have to be intimidating, disagreeable, or devious to reach an agreement with another person. There is a better way of settling difficulties than either of these . . . . After taking this course, if you cannot come together, then call in a third person and settle it.
Most disputes are the result of honest differences of understanding.
The parties have seen only part of the problem and have not communicated their views effectively. They worry that the other side may be trying to take advantage. In most cases, the people on both sides of a dispute have good intentions and want to be fair. What is needed is better communication. Try to figure out if you are part of the problem by thinking about what really happened.