Don't wait for things to happen to you. In fact, the most likely thing to happen to waiters is nothing. Make your life happen. According to David Burns, M.D., people are doers. Consequently, you can substantially change the way you feel by changing the way you act.
Most people feel better immediately if they do anything at all.
You magnify the fear of rejection or other dating problems until dating seems an impossible task to tackle. Break the dating process into small manageable units you can complete one step at a time. You obsess about everything you have to do and have not yet done until you are paralyzed. List three ways you can be proactive in your life in the next two months. Break each way into weekly to-do lists or steps.