You may need to see or read about positive images of lesbian, gay, bisexual, or heterosexual sex to help you discover what feels right for you. The challenge is to find ways to connect deep inside yourself and unearth your own truth - your own sexual desires, fantasies, passion, and emotional and sexual attractions. Working on separating the abuse from your sexuality will help clear some of the confusion. With Sex Sexual abuse robs survivors of their ability to feel safe in the world and with themselves. Internal safety is the extent to which you feel safe when the situation you are in is safe.
Many survivors feel unsafe even when the person they are with or the situation they are in is safe.
There is a difference between feeling safe and being safe . The first is a feeling and is affected by your past experiences with safety or lack of safety. The second is an actual fact about whether or not the people you are with or the situation you are in is safe. Both internal and external safety are needed for enjoyable consensual sex. Without internal safety, sex can feel very scary and triggering.