It's not okay to feel sorry for yourself. There is no reason to be angry at your deceased loved one. Men and women grieve in the same ways. Children need to be protected from grief and death. You will have no relationship with your loved one after his or her death.
Parents usually divorce after a child dies.
Once your loved one has died, it is better not to focus on him or her but to put him or her in the past and go on with your life. These and other myths can make the process of grieving more painful and difficult by creating unrealistic expectations for your recovery and preventing you from asking others for the support you need.