Peace is quick to say that desiring intimacy is God-given. When the desire is where the wife sins because the intimacy is not achieved, then it is idolatrous. She makes a chart to show idolatrous desires for intimacy and biblical desires for intimacy. She concludes with how to overcome loneliness. A Wife's Sorrow - Overcoming a Broken Heart Peace has a diagram of a heart explaining how God has filled our hearts with a capacity to love God and others, to have a joy that the world doesn't comprehend, to have peace, and to have godly sorrow and grief.
People can manage godly sorrow.
It's when grief causes people to sin that the grief is not godly. Peace provides a chart of sinful thought responses and biblical thought responses to sorrow and grief with another chart with the sinful vs. godly actions. Used under License.