People outside of the family can be powerful motivators and influences on your children. A healthy or positive relationship with another peer or adult outside the family can be an important ally. It's not necessarily a rejection of you as a parent. It's more of a reflection of their need to expand their experiences. Remember that children want your approval, support, reasoning and guidance rather than your control.
Parents still influence children more than friends.
Research indicates that parents are more influential than peers or media. Providing a healthy role model is a major responsibil ity for parents. Your actions speak louder than words. Parents aren't often aware of their influence because sixth-graders are exploring new behaviors and questioning old behaviors with their peers. Be patient with them.