When a gay man at his gym propositioned him in the steam room, he responded with good humor. When it comes to dealing with colleagues, Jacobsen's sense of what is acceptable and unacceptable behavior fluctuates. One man at work showed him a picture of a girl on his desk and asked Jacobsen whether he thought she was cute. Jacobsen said sure, and the guy said it was him, dressed in drag. Jacobsen wasn't a bit angry at being duped.
Office parties require their own set of standards.
It's fine if a gay colleague shows up with his partner, he said. At first he had a hard time accepting the fact that his wife's brother is gay, especially because the man's lover is a priest. But after a few visits, Dunn got used to it. I guess if they started kissing or something like that, that would kind of make me sick, to tell you the truth. But they don't.