Middle-school friends have a lot of spats and falling outs that often mend in a short time. When reprimanding, deal only with the precise problem. Don't bring in other issues. If the issue is minor, keep things light. One of you please put it back before it spoils.
Parents have the ultimate power, and kids know it.
Save your strength for those really important issues you've decided are non-negotiable. Eventually kids are going to possess power of their own, and we want them to be able to use it wisely. These pamphlets are authored by Judith Baenen and published by the National Middle School Association .