Sex in the young is fast and furious. But older people need to grow in sexual sophistication and find new vistas of sexual satisfaction. Sex can be expanded to a richer experience that will compensate for the deficits of older people. An older man can still be athletic, but he no longer expects to break Olympic records. The sexual adjustment is really no different from the overall adjustment that we all have to make to the fact that time has a certain impact on our bodies.
Men have more difficulty attaining and maintaining an erection.
Erections may be softer and at a less upright angle. A little more time for stimulation may cure this problem. A woman usually has reduced vaginal lubrication after menopause, which may cause irritation during intercourse. Changes in attractiveness such as weight gain, wrinkles, loss of muscle tone, and physical disabilities often make arousal more difficult. A change of focus from physical to mental and spiritual will help.