Give yourself a boost. Spend a day at the spa. Get a new hairstyle. Go for a massage. Take care of yourself as if you were valuable and you'll feel better about yourself.
Marriages can survive affairs.
Since you love each other and both want to save your marriage, you should insist that he go with you to see a counselor. A good marriage requires the ability to forgive and move on, to live in the here and now, and to forget about the sins of the past. Good luck, Dr. Tracy Submitting a Question to this column Dr. Tracy regrets that it is simply impossible for her to answer all of the hundreds of questions submitted to this column each week. However, she does read every question, and tries to select the three which are of the most general interest to the visitors here. Many of the most beseeching, desperate messages I get are not answered in this column because the answer is just a couple of clicks away in my Love Library .