They felt that they could not cope with the demands placed on their lives to fulfil their assigned role. In the case of young men, they were the ones who were left behind by their peers. Poor in sports, unable to share the same interests, they came to see themselves as failures and misfits. Through the process of elimination, they decided that they were not normal. Therefore, they must be something else.
Men are good at sports.
Therefore, I must not be male. At this point, hopelessness sets in and the male role is abandoned. In our survey, no one said that they entered homosexuality through the lifestyle. This means that no one socially related to gay people and then found the lifestyle so appealing that they began to engage in homosexual sex. Of course, our survey was extremely limited and quite unscientific, so this possibility still remains.