To realize that they will be all right, and if they are not that you can be there to listen, but not to fix it for them. They have to learn how to fix things for themselves. I think it is hardest right now, because they are just starting to be on their own. With time it should be easier to let go and let them live their lives the best way they know how. I am afraid that I am just doing it out of fear that I can't or don't want to do anything else rather than doing it because of the great need.
Moms spaend a lot of time looking after others needs and sometimes forget to look after their own.
Retapping into your skills, interests and values is a journey worth taking. My 17 and 14 yr old head out the door, I turn to my other roles and know I am more balanced. We have never had problems with him, he isnt into the drug scene, alcohol, all in all he is a good boy. He is a grown man. When I thought of my son leaving when he was sixteen I use to cry alot.