I attempt to respond to what I have noticed are the most common problems facing couples. Whenever I become aware of teens having sex , I am deeply concerned. Sex is a wonderful and powerful expression of love. Like a fire or a gun, it should not be used by someone unprepared for the consequences of its use. I have counseled with many, many teens, and I have yet to find one who was even partially prepared to deal with the consequences of sexual behavior.
Pregnancy is the natural result of having sex.
Once a pregnancy results, there are usually three options, and each has its own set of unpleasantries. Abortion is a common response to teen pregnancy. Usually teens feel very bad about this option, but pressures from boyfriends, parents, and others leave the girl feeling as if she has no choice. When one has an abortion because she feels helpless to do otherwise, it sets the stage for a wide variety of emotional and relational problems which can last a lifetime. The second oft chosen alternative is single parenting .