Sit down and talk about it, come up with a solution. Now don't get me wrong, some people do this, they just lose their calm in the middle. If you don't like something your lover is doing, then tell them. If they don't like something your doing, compromise. Most people think of a dozen roses and candy when they think of romance.
Romance is so much more.
It's not what you do, it's the feeling you get while doing it. A dozen roses is over rated in my book. A single red rose has more meaning and romance behind it then a dozen would. Be understanding to her needs. If your girl needs to be held every now and then, do it.