Understanding and participating in treatment decisions will help reduce some of the anxiety. Select physicians on their reputation for excellence but also select one to whom you can comfortably ask questions without feeling intimidated or rushed. Be sure that your personality and the personality of the physician does not clash. Much time is spent with their nursing staff during treatment. An open, honest and caring relationship is vital between the patient and nurse.
More time is spent with the nurse than the physician.
Talk to her before your final decision is made regarding your choice of oncologist. Communicate openly as a spouse and family. This is no time for charades. Children need to be told by the family and not denied the right to know. Honesty will lay a foundation on which you can build and is vital for emotional trust in the family unit.