You're getting married. Love is built on knowledge. The more intimate the knowledge, the more you can love. That's not reality. That's a sure sign of infatuation.
Real love takes work.
You have to be willing to make the effort. Take responsibility for yourself and become real with your decisions. You have to make the appropriate effort to think through your decisions and understand what you're basing them on. If you don't assert yourself with confidence, then you'll be manipulated as a puppet of society. Being sensitive to others is one of the most important steps in knowing your place.