Sense of self defined through their feelings and the quality of their relationships which are more important than work and technology. Intuitive, anticipating the needs of others. For women the sign of love is to offer help without being asked. For men, the offer of help suggests he isn't competent, she doesn't trust him to do it himself. For women, offering advice and construction is an act of love.
Men feel better solving problems.
Women feel better talking about problems. When men are under stress, they tend to want to be alone, to think about how they can solve their problem. When a woman talks to a man about her problems he feels she is holding him responsible. When a man doesn't talk about his problems his wife feels he is ignoring or rejecting her. Men need to know they are needed.