Through His Holy Spirit the church is joined to Him, drawn to an ever closer relationship in sanctification. That is the second phase of marriage. Therefore, the elect are raised in Him, members of His body. This third phase of marriage, union with Christ, is the fulfillment of the promise of salvation. Verse 33 shows that although marriage primarily points to Christ and the church, God's commands for marriage still apply to Christian husbands and wives in this world.
Respect seems like a poor equivalent of submission, until the original language is examined.
There is no basis in Scripture for the use of physical coercion by a husband against his wife. Such discipline is mentioned with regard to children and slaves, but not wives. Wives must submit in response to the Word of God, not force. Nevertheless, wives that abuse that situation by acting in a manner that they would be afraid to do with a violent man, are not submitting to their husbands. A wife's fear of her husband must come from her fear of God.