Their presence can be comforting when you cry or remember your loved one. It is unfortunate that we live in a society that does not teach most people how to be supportive and comforting to the bereaved. After the initial weeks and months following your loved one's death, you may find that friends and relatives contact you less often. They may expect that you should be coping with your loss differently than you actually are. This may be a good time to consider joining a support group for bereaved families or starting therapy with a bereavement counselor.
Many people question and challenge their faith or philosophy of life when a loved one dies.
The questioning of old beliefs can be a growth process. Feel free to talk about it with your clergy. Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding. Even as the stone of thefruit must break, that its heart may stand in the sun, so must you know pain. This information is not a tool for self-diagnosis or a substitute for professional care.