In order for my story to make sense, I must explain that the man who victimized me is a Sexual Sadist. Sexual sadists, commonly known as sadists, are sexual deviants of a type most people have never heard of. One of my purposes in writing is to educate people, especially women, about sadism. Sadism is a disorder in which a person, nearly always a man, derives sexual pleasure from inflicting suffering and humiliation on another person, nearly always a woman. The disorder becomes well established in early adulthood and lasts lifelong.
Sadists look and behave like normal men.
Their sadistic behavior only becomes a problem when they pursue a victim. Sadism is a lot more prevalent than people would like to think because sadists tend to be extremely secretive. It is not unusual for a sadist to get through life without ever being exposed. I'll call him Tom. I have known him for many years.