I realized that Wayne had been true to himself, but I had not. That was the end of the jacket and tie era for me. Other men love to wear a jacket and tie. To be true to themselves, they must dress up. To be true to me, I must dress comfortably.
Realness is an inside job.
In Monty Python's hilarious film Life of Brian , a scofflaw during the time of Jesus eludes Roman soldiers by disguising himself as a pundit. Brian finds a soapbox in the town square and spouts mock words of wisdom. As soon as the soldiers depart, Brian makes a beeline for the city limits, only to discover that he is being followed by a crowd of students. Soon the throng grows from hundreds to thousands, begging their master to teach them. Many of us have given our power, money, and minds to people whom we believe can tell us how to live.