God never promises a time table for salvation. A person gets saved because their heart is ready to receive Christ.
Physical war does nothing but make physical casualties.
Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, and the conviction of their reality- faith perceiving as real fact what is not revealed to the senses. For whoever would come near to God must believe that God exists and that He is a Rewarder of those who earnestly and diligently seek Him. Get some help. Put your loved ones on a prayer list. Learn to use the gifts of the Spirit, let the Holy Spirit pray through you by praying in tongues.