If someone intentionally smashes your car, you can forgive them. Forgiveness also does not mean putting yourself back in an abusive relationship. But the offended person needn't necessarily be eaten up by their own resentments. Letting go of anger and negative feelings is thought to be key to true forgiveness. But Luskin, who has been encouraging Bay Area area residents in his workshops to give up their grudges, says not everyone wants to do so.
Many people get a physiological rush from anger.
While it makes sense to him that some individuals have difficulty forgiving others and moving on with their lives, it puzzles him why anyone would not want to make the effort to do so. All Rights Reserved. This news story is not produced by the American Psychological Association and does not necessarily represent the opinions of the association.