Listening to your children s side will let them know that you are open to their way of thinking and views. Understanding their side of the argument will help you in communicating yours. As children become adolescents they are taking a step towards independence. They are finding out who they are and what they want. Often times this collides with parent s ideals .
Many parents feel as though they are loosing control.
Allowing them to begin making their own decisions, both good and bad, is an imperative stepping stone for maturity. They will gain confidence from good decisions and learn the consequences of poor decisions. Through guidance, parents can help children see the possible repercussions of a given decision. Loosening the reigns enough to give them a sense of independence will help them grow, but they still need your guidance. It is especially necessary, when they are dealing with difficult issues.