Trying to change a quiet boy into a Rambo or Clint Eastwood, or a girl who is a tomboy into a beauty queen, only leas to frustration for you and your child. Expecting a quiet child to be outgoing or an academically average child to be brilliant creates a no-win situation. As we learn to accept children for who they are, we can enjoy parenting more and can develop a stronger bond with each child. Show children, especially boys, how to express anger constructively. If children receive mostly positive messages from their fathers, they will feel more positive about themselves, their relationships, and their world.
Praise is so much easier and better than harshness, ridicule, or negativity.
Set reasonable limits. When we forbid all playing with guns or eating candy, we attract our child's attention to the forbidden items. When we instead find good substitutes for poor choices, we influence a child's preferences and behaviors. As parents, we need to work together as a team. This ensures that children have the advantage of having both a mother and a father.