Whatever frustrations and abuses you can point at in nursing homes, we're blessed that they are still around to care for the frail and elderly. When you are a family member involved in that care and attending to your loved one's needs, then the system can be more responsive and helpful to make your loved one's life better. Bad behaviors are quite common given these feeling states and declinig conditions. What would you do if the only other option was taking care of your loved one at home, no matter how difficult. I've seen those who try and they pay a very high price.
Nobody wants to have physical disabilities.
But sometimes we don't have choices over that when in happens. If that's what baby boomers will want, they will get it if they pay for it. Believe me it will be a lot more than is paid now for nursing care. The principle of wanting more and paying less may work in the fast changing computer culture. It won't work in a labor intensive idustry that demands high standards for employees but refuses to pay for the services.