Without lube, it is definitely worse. We do seem to make progress at times, which is one of the reasons she never mentioned it to her doctor. When we first started having intercourse, she would be sore for five days our so afterwards. But with time, that got less and less. Now she is fine the next morning.
Penetration is quite a challenge at times.
She thinks that the feeling is being caused by me literally pushing on, or bumping into, her organs. She doesn't recall ever experiencing the 'have to pee' feeling with her other partners and would pretty much always reach orgasm with them. On a particularly deep stroke, she also feels the urge to have a bowel movement. Okay, now I have the kind of information that allows me to make a reasonable suggestion or two. Nature was definitely kind to Jay, but his penis is not so big that it should cause problems.