Next, we need to recognize that many people do leave or make attempts to leave a battering relationship. People sometimes make 3-4 attempts to leave before they leave for good. It is important to understand that there are many reasons why victims stay in battering relationships. Also, the media glamorizes jealousy as a sign of love.
People fear being alone, being on their own, taking care of children alone.
If the couple is married, the victim may not see divorce as an option due to religious beliefs. Victims tell themselves that it's really not so bad. They experience these feelings because they have low self-esteem. The batterer claims the relationship problems are the victim's fault. Often the batterer is quite loving and lovable when not being abusive.