Battle lines get drawn and everyone involved is forced to define themselves in caricatured ideological terms that no one is comfortable with. Fiery rhetoric and sharp wit are applauded. The next thing you know, you have full-blown warfare going on and there is nothing that the Media would rather cover than a good church fight. The impersonal really doesn t help us in these occasions. But in the church there is another phenomenon that goes on as well, that of transference.
People have differences, which produce conflict, which produces anger and resentment.
We just have to deal with that. Some one has sexual dysfunction and they don t feel sensual. Someone else has a sister who hates them for something they did that was shameful. For whatever reason, they can t deal with the situation directly. They can t just let go with their spouse, their boss, their family members.