I don't mention it all that often at all because I'm afraid. I'm afraid that I will offend people. And I don't know how to talk about money in away that motivates them to give willingly and generously. Many people are afraid of promises, of commitment because they are afraid of the unknown or they are afraid that commitment means restrictions. There is a misunderstanding that commitment means loss of freedom or being trapped.
Many people are particularly fearful of committing to a church.
Often there is a misunderstanding that committing to a church means that one has to give up fun things or suffer the guilt for not. Guilt and restriction is often associated with the church. She had a nasty drug habit and because of the addiction she had allowed her daughter to be abused. The man who listened to her sad story didn't know what to say until finally he asked if she had ever thought of going to a church for help. I already feel terrible about myself.