This is intentionally seeing that our marriages go right so they won't go wrong. The difference between happy and unhappy marriages is not that happy couples never fight, nor is it the topics about which they fight. C.S. Lewis wrote that the only perfect marriages are the ones we only see from a distance. No marriage is invulnerable to conflict. Any couple that stands at their 50th wedding anniversary party and says they never had a fight is either lying, has lost their memory, or has had an incredibly boring marriage.
Marital conflict is almost universal.
Defensive, self-centered attitudes 3. There are five ways to respond to conflict. Even though there may be a place for each of them at some point in a relationship, couples need to guard against the less-effective ways becoming their persistent pattern. This not only does nothing to help the conflict, but it leaves your individual needs unmet and the marriage's needs unmet. Unmet needs eventually kill.