The day soldiers stop bringing you their problems is the day you have stopped leading them. They have either lost confidence that you can help or concluded you do not care. Either case is a failure of leadership. Have a vision. Then get over it.
Perpetual optimism is a force multiplier.
You don't know what you can get away with until you try. It ain't as bad as you think. It will look better in the morning. I don't want to spend the rest of my life giving speeches. If you are going to achieve excellence in big things, you develop the habit in little matters.