When you hurt, you turn to people who have always been there, your friends. Often, they have gone back to their lives, but you still need to talk. We always need to talk about our children. If you bring up the homicide, some people will change the subject. Many people do not want to listen the details of the tragedy, even though survivors often need to talk about details.
People often can t bring themselves to talk about homicide.
They may feel they do not have the words to say or the ability to listen. They may feel hopelessly inadequate. And the loss of your loved one probably hit them with stark reality. If it happened to you, it could happen to them. You may notice that people you have known for years avoid you on the street or in a store.