Having a premature baby is one of the most stressful experiences a parent can have. It is normal for parents to feel overwhelmed by stress and confused by their feelings. The doctors, nurses, and social workers on the unit can be wonderful sources of support.
Many hospitals have parent support groups.
These groups include parents who have already gone through what you are facing now. Advice from these veteran parents can be very comforting. I feel guilty that I did something to cause my baby to be premature. This is a common reaction of many parents. It is important to realize that many parents of premature infants feel some guilt, even if they took excellent care of themselves during pregnancy.