Everything has a cause or a history but because we lack the effort or time we content ourselves with seeing and judging the present only. But a bad present is only the effect of a bad cause. I believe that nothing and no one is inherently bad. It was as violent and uncompassionate as the father's. I failed to see the causes and became victim of my emotions engendering blurred vision.
Nothing is as simple as it seems.
It is, therefore, by trying to understand the causes at play of behavior and situations which appear bad that we show some real warmth and love for others and help dissipate the loneliness. The causes leading to the girl's behavior were not seen by the father and the causes of the father's behavior were not seen by me. Living in a foreign country where cultural differences can be extreme requires more time and effort in understanding. Failing to make this effort reflects a shallow mind, and criticism becomes too easy. With the knowledge, however, that no one and nothing is inherently bad, we can learn to understand the other.