However, studies have shown that most sexual HSV transmissions occur in the absence of genital symptoms. While people with symptomatic genital herpes outbreaks may feel a burden of responsibility not to pass the infection on, it is important to remember that the majority of people who acquire herpes get it from people who are unaware they have genital herpes. People with symptomatic genital herpes who can recognise their symptoms and avoid intimate sexual contact at these times, should theoretically reduce the risk of passing it their partner. Many people do not feel comfortable talking about sexuality and sexual heath issues. It is important to know and understand what and how you are going to tell a partner.
Most people find their partners are both supportive and understanding.
It is a common assumption to initially think a person may base their judgement of you on the fact that you have genital herpes. People fear the possibility of rejection but the reality of this is that it rarely happens. Herpes should not affect your fertility or ability to have a baby. Women with genital herpes can experience a safe pregnancy and vaginal childbirth. This is especially so when a women has a diagnosis of genital herpes prior to becoming pregnant.