Offenses are common, and the offender usually wants to be forgiven.
But the offended is usually reluctant to forgive, particularly if the offender hasn't learned anything from the ordeal. But if forgiveness is difficult, forgetting can be downright impossible for many spouses. As you will see in my responses to the three letters I've chosen, I support just compensation for some marital offenses, so I don't always recommend forgiveness. It should be an encouragement to those of you who have been feeling guilty about being unable to forgive and forget. But, at the same time, it should also encourage offenders, because the compensation I propose will earn you a terrific marriage, and it won't hurt at all.