Logical consequences is a discipline skill developed by the great psychologist Rudolf Dreikurs as a replacement for punishment. He reasoned that the problem with punishment in a democratic society is that it gives the person being punished the presumed right to retaliate. Logical consequences are set up by parents to show children what logically follows when they break a rule or otherwise violate the needs of a situation. The consequence is logically connected to the misbehavior and delivered in a firm yet calm manner, without the anger often present in punishment. We take a full hour to teach this important skill in Active Parenting.
Parental involvement is still important during the teen years.
Parents usually err by trying to over control the teen, failing to realize that teenagers need to take a giant step forward in the development of their independence, or parents back off too far allowing the teen too much freedom, which the teen is not ready to handle. The best way to gauge your involvement is to pull back slowly and see if your teen has the ability to handle more and more freedom responsibly. If his level of responsibility is not up to the task, then become more involved again, tightening up on the reins. Logical consequences are usually delivered in the form of an either-or choice. In this case, the limit is that the toys will not be allowed to stay where they are.