Christ's love loves what is and what is becoming in our journeys into greater truth and wholeness. If I am to love as Christ loves, then I need to know and love the truth of who I am. I am told that in design and engineering, the most stable structure is that which has three supports. Scripture tells us of the threefold cord that cannot be broken. Our faith is based on the concept of the Trinity.
Monastics make three vows.
If I cannot do that then I cannot love God in truth - even less the people with whom I interact, live and work. I need to see in both their brokenness and their beauty mirror of my own, and hear messages of Christ in all they are and do. I need to stand firm in truth when patterns of abuse, destruction or delusion are present and not succumb to patterns of fear. The mystery and magnificence of Christ's command, though, is that he has already given us this love and ability to love with a magnitude that is incomprehensible. I am free to love God, myself and others because love begins with God and already encompasses us and all creation.