We can't go through life permitting others to make errors based on misconceptions, and I would certainly want someone to point out if I was basing my opinions on some misconception. Just as subtle, confusing to the victim, the result of the search for power and not the truth. I just don't see how you find intellectual bullying in argument. While some wars of words can be bullying, true argument is not. Don' t get me wrong.
People use both reason and spirituality to find truth.
I find your denial of reason as a legitimate tool for use in search of God as somewhat disconcerting. I think there are many theologians that might disagree with your finding that their religious pursuits are harmful. And if I recall correctly that's George Fox's quote. Fox was a person who used intellectual argument as a large basis for his ministry. His point was not that argument kills, but that reliance on a particular text argues against further revelation.