The long story is that Kramer is gay. In 1976, one year short of becoming a priest, Kramer left the order and moved from Berkeley, Calif., to New York to pursue a career in massage and the wonderful world of sex with men. When the AIDS virus struck the gay community, Kramer started looking for ways to find fulfillment sexually without risking infection. Kramer began developing his current genital massage technique. In my classes and in my profession, I have probably erotically touched 15,000 men since HIV started.
People say promiscuity is the problem.
After being openly gay caused him to be fired from the Catholic school where we was teaching, Kramer moved back to California to finish his degree in theology. He began studying Taoism, Tantra and conscious breathing, focusing on the links between spirituality and sexuality. People may have trouble with this. Kramer's spiritual sex may or may not involve ejaculation, orgasm or penetration. It most certainly should end in some kind of enlightenment or mind-altered state, perhaps a tingling sensation or tears.