Independence comes in gradual steps. Parents can encourage independence in their children by letting them do things for themselves when they are able to, by encouraging them to make decisions, and by encouraging them to solve their own problems. Again, parents should keep in mind their children's ages and ability levels. It is a great boost for self-esteem when children see themselves as responsible and independent. Practice and role play non-shy behaviors.
Parents can help their children practice non-shy behaviors by role playing.
Parents can play the part of a peer or classmate, and children can practice, for example, starting a conversation, asking to be included in a game, etc. Another way to role play is role reversal. Parents can play the part of the shy child, and the shy child can play the part of a non-shy peer or classmate. Practicing non-shy behaviors helps give children the confidence needed to engage in these behaviors in real life situations. Parents should teach their children how to ask for the things that they want.