As Mara said the most important thing preemie parents can do is to tune into your preemie and their needs. The more you know and understand your preemie, the stronger your relationship will be. This can be difficult sometimes and an occupational therapist or someone else that understands your preemie can help. Some of the problems come from the fact that parents have a harder time reading cues from preemies. The cues are more complicated than from term infants.
Preemies are often slower to respond with positive feedback.