Sometimes we do to ourselves what we d really like to do to others. If our only tool is a hammer we may treat everything as if it were a nail. Running away from pain, or wallowing in pain are usually not your best options. The more you can process physical or emotional pain, the less you have to defend against it. The three basic lines of defense against pain are bodily, emotional, and mental.
Most mental disorders are simply ways of defending against pain.
Some people live their live as if it was an emergency, creating one emergency after another. Some people are so stuck in emergency mode that there are always so many emergencies they don t have time to even think of getting out of it. The people who need to get out of emergency mode the most have the least time to get out of it. Don t be an emergency - adrenaline junkie and create an emergency when there is none. He who spends his life arousing the sympathetic branch of his nervous system and ignores his parasympathetic branch, only has half a life.