They are simply our choices. This is responsible for the childhood trauma, not some human being who happened to be thrown into this situation with you in your childhood. The entire ocean is affected by a pebble. It requires wearing your beliefs in your heart, because other people can read them there. In that state your being is your doing.
Nobody is in a hurry.
Unless one has done everything he feels is important, he has cheated himself of the full delight of living. All there was, was the inner law, the law that one must be true to oneself at all times. Og mjukt gras. Og vind i verden.