The most important truth about spiritual warfare is that it is first and foremost a work of love. Not love for the struggle, or the love of rescue or victory. Some people have an easier time with loving. Their emotional makeup and life circumstances make it easier for them to make their love effective. It's much easier to love if you've been loved.
Many people have a much harder time of loving.
They're burdened with a heavy load of taunting, fear, oppression, or mental disease. The hard truth, though, is that noone has enough love on their own to do spiritual warfare. So ask God to enable you to love with God's love. The Spirit's more than happy to give you this. But like everything else God gives, it's made to be real.