It may be painful to them, but it's your right to search and know the truth of your life. Quitting won't get you anywhere. Expect to have powerful feelings that urge you to quit searching at times, especially if it becomes lengthy or difficult. You don't have to quit but sometimes the emotions become too intense, and you might want to slow the pace of your search. Go to more meetings as a way to help you understand how you are feeling.
Rejection is a common fear among adoptees.
Expect to feel a lot of rejection fears as you search. You will find yourself growing stronger as you confront and overcome these fears. Expect to feel afraid that your birthmother or adoptive family will reject you for searching. Chances are this will not happen. Sad as it is to accept, adoption can and does leave scars.