The good friends I do have are those who know how to back off of the casual when the anointing kicks in. They are the ones in whom we understand in each other that the gift of the Spirit is His and that there is a Third Party in our relationship, a Holy One. There is a level of respect where we know there is a price paid for walking in the calling we have received. This is not unlike the Christian and the person of the world. There should be something about Christians that sets them apart and makes them distinguishable from the world.
People grow in their Spiritual lives, just as they do in their human lives.
Just as we see children do, often people mistake the concern of caring in the anointing as a pesonal-personal interest. In other words, rather than seeing the ministry of helping to mature the person, they believe that they can challenge you as they would their own soul, and most of us are pretty hard on ourselves. But what may be ignorance one day can turn into pride and vainglory the next if we do not come into understanding the correction of ministry. The discipline of children is a real hot debate today. It is so ludicrous to see college educated adults trying to reason with toddlers and children with the same reasoning they have, as if they can understand it.