The goal is accurate empathy, so there will have to be a supervisor the therapist can talk to about a possible enactment. Haule requires that we explore all unconscious intentions and make them conscious. This test alone should be enough to keep sex from happening in therapy. Eros itself is destroyed, and the therapeutic pair loses its soul, Haule contends. Mutuality is the cure as well as the danger, and to have the one we must accept the other, Haule asserts.
Mutuality becomes a third party in the therapy.
The one sure thing is that if enactment occurs, even in the form of marriage, the couple will live under a cloud of outside intolerance and distrust, says Haule. Yet he finds these attitudes about marriage between former therapists and patients to be cynical, asserting that they pander to stereotypy, which is everything therapy stands against. In Haule's formulation, for a therapist to act out the fear of sexual boundary breaking by foreclosure is as detrimental to the cure as it is for a therapist to act out the lust by having unconscious sex. Haule, however, dares to explore the possibility that the We must hold primacy over the public concern. Only the reader will learn.