And when they do, the repair of the marriage is no easy task. Sometimes those who have been hurt swear they will never recover. They re convinced that they will not be able to forgive and move forward in the marriage. And although I completely understand why people feel this way, I also know that the future isn t as bleak as they are anticipating. Most people survive infidelity and can, in fact make their marriage stronger once they work through the issues infidelity has brought into their lives.
Most people are much happier in their second marriages because they've learned from their mistakes.
Although it s true that some people learn from their mistakes in their first marriages and are able to develop happier second marriages, by no means, is this the rule. They simply find new partners with whom they can do that old familiar dance. Step-parenting issues make second and subsequent marriages challenging. But there is another reason second marriages aren t necessarily better than first ones. Unless you understand that marriage doesn t make people happy, you will spend the rest of your life trading in marital partners for new ones.