She backed out. I was devastated. Well, a lot of my gay patients sent me flowers when they found out. I tell them that I don't know what it's like to be the patient, to have cancer. It's a matter of control.
Patients often feel like they have lost control of everything.
I try to give it back. Sometimes it's a small thing that matters to someone. I was with a guy recently who was into his first cycle of chemotherapy. He was hesitating before I examined him. I could see it.