It is important that teachers and parents help young people learn to throw away the peel by teaching them to focus on the positive. One salesgirl in a candy store always had customers lined up waiting while other salesgirls stood around. The owner of the store noted her popularity and asked for her secret. The other girls scoop up more than a pound of candy and then start subtracting some. I always scoop up less than a pound and then add to it.
People are like magnets.
They are drawn to the positive and are repelled by the negative. This is an important principle to understand when working with others. People who are effective in influencing other people phrase their communications in positive terms. An imposed consequence, however, only works when a person finds value in the relationship or when the person sees value in what he is being asked to do. Otherwise, an imposed consequence is perceived in negative terms.