Much as marriage is now a contract between two people in a ritual performed by people and has also left it's meaning as a commitment to God. The term also referred to a vaulted cellar or similar place where prostitutes plied their trade. Our word is first recorded in Middle English about 1303. Ive never personally met such a man that seemed free. He's true to the methods of control, and who he needs to portray to gain it.
Marriage is about loss of control.
Then one becomes the lie. The lesson seems obvious.