Other ways that parents do too much for their children are when they solve their problems, pamper them, make decisions for them and talk for them. One of the best ways that parents can build their children s self-esteem is to give them chores. Children benefit from chores and activities that offer a real challenge because they stretch their abilities and give them a sense of accomplishment. Even children as young as 18 months old can do chores around the house. It is best to start as early as possible so that children learn that chores are a part of life and so that they will struggle less when you ask them to do things.
Older children can do a lot more.
Don t start with too many chores at once because you will be setting yourself up for a struggle. Begin by giving two or three chores and after a while you can add to them. Be firm when you talk about chores by telling your child that everyone has to chip in around the house. Say As soon as you get your room cleaned, we can go outside and play ball. Or try, The rule of the house is that no one gets dessert until we clean the kitchen Give children choices of which chores they would like to do.