Things depend in part on what Jack and Jill are taught to master in good time, in part on explorations. Anticipating things well could be a task of wisdom. Indians suggest that Mother Nature involves the whole universe like a rather many-faceted mother. And in the West the term Alma Mater is another name for university. Learn from the picture - it is there to help those who need a visual expression or so.
People are different.
There are different cognitive styles - more than one way to chew your mother's nipples too, it may be added. But first, try and make yourself comfortable. Feel as welcome as you really are. Think of the sucking baby. Not everything is had by diligence at sucking.