We hope this email finds you well.
Most adults have a natural ability to decide what's in and what's out.
Our family of origin, fears, unrealistic expectations, and stressors such as pressure or anxiety sometimes cloud our judgment. The goal is to respond in ways that allow us to make high-quality decisions more often, steering clear of the landmines of false responsibility. Under no circumstances are you responsible for other people's feelings or experiences. Caring about an outcome is different than having to control it. To accept some responsibility for the situation would require your voluntary consent.