Healing comes in connection with healthy people. It doesn't make up for the loss, but it does provide children with a safe environment to heal. This requires that parents spend quality time with children and permit free expression of thoughts and feelings about the loss. If a child doesn't want to spend time with a parent or healthy adult, give him or her some space but remain available to them. Occasionally ask them how they are feeling about the loss and stay involved, physically and emotionally.
Many cultures avoid the topic of grief.
Because the person is gone, we want the painful feelings to be gone too. But this isn't how grief works. Grief has its own time and space to do the work of healing in children's lives. Children need to be able to talk openly and honestly about the loss. They may have questions that can't be answered easily.