They again will feel respected by you and also feel respect toward you for listening and not running in with an answer. They usually feel calmer and can think more clearly after a talk like this. For many teens, talking directly to a parent or other adult or even a peer about something personal is more difficult if they aren't doing something at the same time. Doing something while they are talking takes some of the intensity out of it. Some examples are riding in the car while talking, being in the same room as the parent while one or both are doing house chores, or being in a different environment such as a casual dining restaurant.
Most teens are still willing to do things with their parents or one parent at a time.
Playing cards, watching TV or a movie together, or going to a ball game are examples. This pamphlet has focused on the softer side of parenting. In order to have a positive relationship, you have to feel respected, too. One important way to do that is to set clear rules and impose fair consequences when the rules are broken. This will protect your rights as a parent which is a way of respecting yourself within the relationship.