Parenting is a life circumstance that can only be experienced. There are no courses or books capable of conveying the depth of experiences that occur in parenting. Parenting in a healthy, intact marriage is a challenge. Issues and value differences, never reasonably anticipated before children are born, develop with lightening speed. Misunderstandings, misinterpretations and conflict inevitably result.
Resolution is necessary for the child to grow and develop.
Successfully married parents find ways to accommodate the parenting differences, largely out of trust. Divorced parents have most often abandoned or lost the trust that began the parenting part of the marriage relationship. Children are entitled to and require a relationship with both of their parents. The absence of the relationship is what causes the most significant harm. Children who become immeshed with one parent and alienated from another have distorted views of themselves and others.