After this happens a wall builds between us until no communication takes place and then the relationship ends. I have am an avid reader of your work. The advice you give is wonderful. Please help me understand why it is wrong for me wanting to wait just because I am a guy. You sound like President Clinton if you think oral sex doesn't count.
Oral sex is sex.
You're not Clinton, so don't think you can have just a certain amount of sex and not have women expect to get the rest. You didn't say who's doing the oral sex, but either way and in any combination, you're letting these women get to a point where they want to have intercourse. Then, after they're turned on, you stop. I don't blame the women for thinking you're gay or impotent or don't like sex or are even hostile. Dear Dr. Tracy, I have been involved with a guy for over 2 years.