Reprinted by permission. Well, if being shy is awful for most people, it isn't for all of them. There are some who have learned to stop being ashamed of their shyness, who have realized that it's as legitimate to be shy as it is to be anything else, and who can even turn shyness to their advantage. First of all, stop telling yourself that you have to learn how to come out of yourself, that you must develop some assertiveness to be attractive and interesting to others. In fact, people who are shy by nature and have accepted themselves, who don't try to violate their own inner being but let it show unashamedly, are often the most attractive and seductive people of all.
Most people react with sympathy and interest to shyness.
Both man and women very often find a shy person a welcome relief from the armies of aggressors around them. If you allow yourself to be openly and honestly shy, people will almost always react with warmth and will come to meet you on your territory. People always think there must be a great deal going on beneath the surface of a shy person.