Make love, giggle, and have long and deep and meaningful conversations so that you can rediscover that you are not just a mother or a father but a person with a libido, an intellect, and an emotional capacity. This has to be a date with your spouse only, similar to the dates you had before you married. Use the time to court each other and to reconnect emotionally and intellectually. Always use physical touch. Even if you don't feel like it.
Nothing creates better communication and closeness than experiencing love through touch.
The same is true with smiling. If you try smiling, eventually you will discover that you have many reasons in your life to feel happy and to smile. Find the brightness in every day and let your countenance reflect your discovery. Think of all these suggestions as strategies that can be implemented to ensure that you stay lovers and not just parents. They will help you keep a happy home, where your children feel happy and secure.