It's up to the child to decide whether or not to listen. The choices are his responsibility. How preteens look is very important to them. If they feel they aren't attractive, they can become very self-critical and find all kinds of things wrong with themselves. It's important that parents have their child look at her positive features.
Parents can also help by encouraging good grooming and personal hygiene habits.
A nice-looking hair style will do a lot for a preteen. Personal appearance becomes a priority because of the major physical changes taking place. Take time to compliment your child and offer assistance. Preteens need love, warmth and support at this time. Stress and the Sixth Grade Children often lose confidence in themselves when they are stressed.