Take what they tell you for face value. It is not as important what you think as much as it is what they are thinking. Be a good listener. A beneficial, collaborative dialogue between the two of you will involve being able to safely express and receive the points that each of you is trying to make to the other. It would be better not to feel that you have to respond to each item.
Men recoil at the thought.
They almost have to be coerced into attending their first session. If you are a member of an organized church, you might seek out the help of your minister. When the issues between the two of you get to the point where conversation is no longer possible, you will need a third party interpreter. A good counselor will not only do this for you but will also provide you with helpful insights and possible solutions to the issues you present. Sometimes having an objective third party who is professionaly trained can make all the difference in the world.