Or, maybe you should have simply made your partner stay in bed for the first nine months of pregnancy. If only you could have had some sense of control, you would have known exactly what to do. If only the older siblings could have stayed under your control and miraculously found it in themselves to behave for the sake of their mother's pregnancy. The sense of ineffectiveness can simply be overwhelming. After a loss, a man can try to comfort his partner.
Nothing seems to quite make up for the loss of a potential child.
The overwhelming sense of loss of the unknown can eat away at your psyche, as easily as termites eat through wood, leaving behind a fragile shell, with all of your future plans taken away, leaving nothing but a vacuous void. The loss of what might have been can be as great as any pain you have ever felt. Sex can seem rather unappetizing, too. After all, that is what started the whole fiasco in the first place. Your partner may seem just as pretty and beautiful, but she might not seem as tantalizingly sexy right now.