And the findings are fascinating. We found, for example, that 61 percent of sons cry over the death of their fathers but that crying is not a significant factor in how effectively a son copes with his father's death. A far more important factor is what kind of relationship he had with his father while growing up. Generally, the worse the relationship between a father and son while growing up, the harder it is for the son to deal with the death. Women are more likely to be emotionally expressive they cry more easily, and talk about the loss more easily.
Men are quieter, more intellectual.
They're also action-oriented in their grief. In place of crying, some men run, chop wood, work out with weights. These act as releases. Then they often take action that honors the memory of their fathers. In this way, sons touch their grief and let it out a little at a time.