It begins with a meeting where several group exercises and practical worksheets help to set everyone on the same road and create both a strong emotional bonding and a strong group organization. It's a system that provides every practical tool you need, a system that has been refined through the experiences of many groups. The Care system gives you something to fall back on when things get difficult, a ground of being that keeps the group going, keeps the individual members from burning out, and keeps the group together. So when you begin to form your group, don't be put off if at first people seem reluctant. It is natural for individuals to run from illness.
People often fear calling a person who is ill and offering help.
They're afraid they'll have to do something they can't stand or aren't good at. They're afraid they'll end up being the only one to help. They're afraid of being used, afraid people will see their weaknesses, that their husbands or wives won't support them. They're already doing too much and are afraid to add to their already overburdened lives. So they put off calling and feel terribly guilty while their sick friend concludes they just don't care about them anymore.