When my children were little, tasks were fun. Now, tasks have become work and as we expect to be paid for our work, so do they. I say it s never too late. Pawel said that cooperation tools are not difficult to work with. But it may take time for a child to understand them if he has a different way of doing things or different expectations.
Many parents say that it s a quick fix, but there s no long term benefits.
You want your child to understand the value of working in a family, working for him- or herself, rather than always looking to see what they can get in return. Pawel said emphasizing the value of the request, not the reward, will help children understand how important tasks or requests are. This can all be done with simple rewording. She also said that if a child suggests a reward, then it s not a bribe. The child then knows, for example, that if they finish cleaning their room, they can go swimming after.