The women were well groomed and working in the mainstream. Although they grieve silently for their loss, they stay as involved as they can. Seek spiritual help. This is crucial to healing. Read uplifting, inspiring, mind-reinforcing books.
Plenty are available.
Knowing their energy would be low, they knew life had to be uncomplicated. They decided what they had to do and what could be delegated. Someone else could clean their houses, prepare food, shop for groceries, and handle bills and insurance. Personal appearance was up to them. Ask when you want help.