On the other hand, if she has time for everything but schoolwork, it's important to insist that she make a plan to ensure that her studies get done, and done properly. In all of this, you can be firm but not judgmental, praising successes and offering love and support through failures. And finally, consider meeting occasionally as a family with a guidance counselor. If someone else can outline what needs to be done and make constructive suggestions, you get to play the role of helper, not bad cop. And if there are questions or conflicts brewing, he or she can help to clarify the issues and suggest solutions.
Many people say that the college years are the four most formative in a young person's life.
But surely it is the years spent in high school that get that honor, since they in turn will determine where next four are spent, and how. Now is the time to make sure that they are the best they can be. Lee E. Heller, 1997.