Physical violence is just one form of abuse.
Calling you names, saying ugly things about you, blaming you for things you had nothing to do with, criticizing you, making you feel bad are all forms of emotional abuse. Emotional abuse wounds your spirit. If you feel depressed, sad, discouraged, hopeless as a result of your relationship, there is a good chance you are being abused. An excellent book to help you identify non-physical abuse is The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans. Helps explain the different perspectives of the victim and the abuser.