This issue often causes tension in a couple, especially if the mother is staying at home, even temporarily. Resentment can build. The woman may feel the father isn't doing as much as she is or helping out as much as he could. In reality, both partners need support after the baby is born. That's why it's a good idea to plan ahead for ways to help each other.
People often say they'll work it out when the time comes.
But when the time does come, there are so many other emotions at play, along with the added stress of sleep deprivation, that tempers flare and resentment builds. If you can get this under control, or have back-up plans before the baby is born, you'll be ahead of the game. Relationships with in-laws should also be discussed before the new grandchild is here. If there are problems with getting along with in-laws, now is the time for the couple to talk about how often they will visit grandparents and other important issues. Money is a hot topic, too.