He learns to be obedient, to share, to be friendly, and basically, to become a civilized human being. Parents learn to expect some selfishness and violence in those early years and soon discover how slowly a child becomes a truly sociable human being. It may be that some children are born to be more sociable than others, but parents and family can do much to help. Parents who for the most part are sociable themselves, in whose homes a child sees people coming and going, will offer new and delightful experiences to the child. Naturally parents want their child to be friendly, out going children, and not bullies or troubled children.
Relatives are part of the world outside the immediate family which influences a child.
Most families have relatives, and most work out some way of avoiding or limiting the upsetting and encouraging the stimulating, exciting experiences. Parents who live with relatives often face special problems. Perhaps the relative in the home such as the grandmother becomes the one to whom the child will turn. Be careful to realize if the relative living in your home is often being critical of you as parents and causing more stress and strain and speak with the relative and try to correct the problem. It does take patience, tact, and kindness to make families get along and have less stress and strain on the family.