You are a very important person because you have the power to set the standards for the behaviors in your own family. Young boys should learn that it is never okay to hit a girl or woman. They should learn that they will probably be bigger and stronger than most women and that physical force hurts. Everyone needs to learn that it is a crime to use violence against other people. Young girls should learn that violence in any relationship is never acceptable.
Nobody ever deserves to be beaten, terrorized, controlled by physical force or raped.
Violence is a learned behavior and if a child learns that physical force and intimidation can control others, that child will continue to use force. You are the first and most important teacher of your child. Disciplining a child means teaching a child an self-discipline is developed from positive experiences, hour by hour, day by day. When there is conflict, the first step is to take time out. Show ways to review solutions, options, and consequences of choices.