Some times people irritate us and we don't even know why they irritate us - they get under our skin and we don't have a clue as to why they do. When we pray for these people we learn about ourselves. Perhaps we are jealous, or covetous, and we probably aren't as nice as we think we are, either. Prayer requires that we word our feelings. Thru prayer minds are changed, attitudes are realised, and as a result events change.
Prayer lays the foundation for patience and an enlarged understanding.
Real Love is the kind of love that is modeled for us in Christ Jesus - a love that wills for another what is best despite the cost to ourselves. Love that is never able to confront is not love. Real love permits people to make their own decisions. Real Love is the capacity to salvage good out of bad. To have such pain and anguish and waste it is foolish.