Tension and conflicts occur when individuals feel slighted, cheated, left out or not respected. Lack of communication is common among owners and potential receivers of property. Individuals may not be asked about what is important to them or what they think or feel. Both givers and receivers make assumptions about intentions, goals and perceptions and these assumptions may be inaccurate. Few take the time to make their own goals or perceptions explicit or to understand assumptions and unwritten rules of other family members.
Many people delay or avoid making decisions until a crisis occurs and immediate action is needed.
Owners do not put their preferences in writing. As a result, surviving family and friends have different perceptions about fair methods of distributing items and implied or verbal promises. Fear that family members are going to disagree is a reason for avoiding inheritance issues. Family history influences transfer decisions. Unresolved issues and conflicts as well as a desire to share memories and carry on traditions and rituals can impact decisions about transferring goods.