Rules are a means, not an end. The law has a purpose greater than itself. Commandments represent values more than methods. Children need a healthy balance of rules and relationships to nurture authentic righteousness. Acceptance is through works.
Esteem is via performance evaluation.
Hope is harnessed in deeds. A resentment for all rules. Children develop an attitude that views any rule as a task-master whipping them down. The rules become prison guards of their emotions which keep them confined. Legalistic rules are seen as harsh judges who sentence and punish a person.