Here are some practical steps you and your spouse can take to ensure a smooth transition into retirement. Respect each other's need for independence and solitude. Now that you're spending more time together, it's important to give each other some personal space. The most successful marriages are the ones that allow for time alone to read, work, play or relax. Each person should be able to pursue his or her own hobbies or interests, whether it's gardening, listening to music or volunteering.
Most couples find that they appreciate each other more if they've had some time alone.
Find new ways to give your life meaning. If your identity and self-esteem were closely tied to your career or your spouse's, you may find that your life suddenly lacks meaning or purpose. Look for new ways that will give you a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction. Getting involved in community work, volunteering or taking a class can be extremely rewarding and fulfilling. Research shows a correlation between the amount of leisure time couples spend together and marital happiness in retirement.