And because the Critical Parent started as external influences which were acquired and incorporated sometime in our past, usually childhood, we can remove it as an influence in our present. The Enemy is also mistaken for our Conscience, that inner aspect of our soul which reminds us of our legitimate obligations as human beings. But unlike our Conscience which is built on the love of ourselves and our neighbors, the Inner Enemy's mission is to prevent the affectionate bond between people. The Internal Enemy is devoted to making sure that we not only don't love ourselves but that we not love others. The Enemy is principally the Enemy of Love.
Emotional intelligence means sophistication about emotions.
Even though the concept has a humanistic ring it can be used effectively to manipulate and even exploit. To fulfill its humanistic promise, emotional intelligence must be centered around love, intimacy and affiliation. Thus emotional literacy is a love-centered form of emotional intelligence. These three fundamental aspects of an emotionally literate person are intimately dependent on each other. Yet each can be studied and developed in its own right.