So you will not experience any joy or have fun for awhile after your visit. After all, according to the joy-killer, anyone who really cares about someone in the hospital should not be having fun after a visit. In fact, when you lose your joy, you can be assured you are not going to pass on any joy to another. Then you can be sick together. The joy-killer looks for victims.
Primary victims are widows, widowers, and persons who have had broken relationships.
The joy-killer establishes the fact that if one is to have fun during a time of grief then a price is to be paid. Worse still, the joy-killer comes and delivers horrible guilt on the person grieving for even thinking about having fun. The major obstacle in starting over in life after we have been hurt or during our time of grief is guilt. It keeps the darkness going in our lives. The guilt keeps us down on the floor without any hope, without any Light, without any love coming to us or going out from us.