There are no rules. Getting to know a birth relative will take time. There are several resources and support groups in most major cities that may be very beneficial in receiving support and understanding from all members of the adoption circle. Reading material on adoption and reunion is very extensive and most public libraries have a good selection of various adoption-related literature. Support groups and reading about adoption and related issues are very helpful, both prior to and after a reunion.
Reunion is a time of growth and learning, no matter what the circumstances are.
I hope for everyone involved that your reunion is a positive experience. If you are planning to have a reunion, please read The Decision to Search for Your Birth Parents . To read about reunions, see our Adoption Books .