The solution is not to turn back time but to open our selves up to our children. As stress bombards today s families, parents retreat farther into their private self leaving a fully functioning but completely unsatisfactory public self to go through the daily routines of work and family life. This deprives both parent and child of the intimacy and closeness they both want and desire. Ironically, strength comes through vulnerability. Letting children see our frustrations, pain, and failure can be a valuable lesson to them.
Many parents can t see the wisdom in being transparent to their children.
Already debilitated, they can t understand why they should give away their power. This is not true strength. This is force. Strangely enough, giving up this false strength will lead parents to the true power of intimacy, in their family relationships. Self discovery Children are naturally curious.