Telling a child that feet belong on the floor is different than telling them to take their feet of the table. State what you want, not what you don't want. This avoids children's complaints that you never told them they couldn't put their feet on a different piece of furniture. This tool also increases the feelings of cooperation and respect. Parents who wish to balance love and limits find that in order to get respect, they have to respect their children.
Positive expectations decrease defensiveness and increase cooperation.
It also eliminates many of the power struggles between parents and children. Click here to support international family planning.