Here is a compilation of ways to love your children that seemed to be universal among those asked. Try to respond to what you think the child may be saying, as well as what has been said. An example may be a discussion with your child after the child has observed a dead animal in the road. As a parent, it is your responsibility to raise that issue. Board games, reading alone or together, telling stories by the fire, popping popcorn.
Parents spend a lot of time worrying about the 'things' they give their children.
My bet says that what you remember has to do with time you spent with your mom or dad. Give your child that memory. You may need to say no to too many organized activities if they are preventing family time. In our family, on one night a week, our children's activities made us get home at almost the same time as our favorite show. On those evenings, we had a picnic in front of the TV on a blanket on the floor.