Women are oppressed in different, yet complementary ways. Co-Counselling doesn't get into competitions about whose oppression is the worst. It challenges everyone to recognise what's going on, heal their own hurts, get powerful, and end the culture of oppression. This analysis is too narrow. Starhawk's vision is consonant with the model found within the Australian Nonviolence Network.
Personal power is a spiritual quality, one which can be nurtured.
The more personally powerful people there are, the better off we all become, and the more that will be done to heal our communities and planet. The attitude of Co-Counselling is that everyone needs to get powerful in the personal sense and be secure enough to share their power. There is no doubt in my mind that instrumental power is skewed, oppressive, and dominant in the mainstream culture. The bureaucrats and parliamentarians who I encounter in my activism frequently tell me that there is nothing they can do with their instrumental power, and they really mean it. Everything gets decided above them or outside them.