We CAN be the way we want to be. The more you develop and get in touch with your breathing and its relationship with your entire body the healthier you can become and more you can stay in touch with yourself and others. The intensity and toleration of emotion is directly interdependent with the depth, ease and balance of the breath. Please hold your breath and try to feel intense joy or happiness. Breathing free really is yet another breathing metaphor for life.
Reactive people make it a feeling.
Hollywood has generally scripted us to believe that we are not responsible, that we are a product of our feelings. But the Hollywood script does not describe the reality. If our feelings control our actions, it is because we have abdicated our responsibility and empowered them to do so. If our body permits it we can hold several different realities concurrently. Our focus, consciousness, intention or attention will choose which one or ones become dominant.