We need to learn to deal with it, instead of looking for someone to blame for it. Love is an uncontrollable emotion. It appears and disappears automatically. It is a stage many relationships go through, and is followed by a different kind of love. Acting responsibly and working to live up to your commitments is not dependent on emotions - it begets its own emotions.
Marriage is personal and private.
People in happy marriages shouldn't talk to others about how they deal with their problems. People in bad marriages, in contrast, can tell the whole world about it. Most will fail. Sullivan, who specializes in marriage counseling, identified cycles that his clients' marriages go through. They are not regular or predetermined, but are set in motion by events that change the demands placed on a couple, such as pregnancy, a career change, health problems or addictions, childbirth, or a child's starting school or graduating.