This very beautiful gift that God gave to us so that a husband and a wife may enjoy the oneness that God intends for the marriage relationship has been so abused. It's not fashionable to talk about, but our society pays a terrible price for our obsession with immediate sexual gratification. It's more than sexually-transmitted diseases. It has to do with relationships that never develop properly because they were based on self-gratification. Our desire to get what we want has led to habits of manipulation, deception and even abuse.
People get in the habit of using other people.
The sexual morals of self-gratification reflect an overall societal norm of serving me before others. Again, we don't want to say it because we sound puritanical or prudish or judgmental, but millions of children live in poverty today because mom and dad put more emphasis on having a good time for a night than developing a sound and giving relationship. They have sex, a child is born, conceived not because the child is wanted and has a loving home waiting to receive it, but because the parents chose to engage in fun, but risky, behavior. I don't look like Tom Cruise or Mel Gibson or these other stars. Teenagers are embarrassed to shower with other teenagers these days.