I don't see any other options for me but to be gone 4 nights a week to work and go to school. I feel like my education and work are the only security I have presently for myself and children because financially I do not trust my husband to provide for us because he refuses to blend. Gayle Peterson Gayle Peterson, MSSW, PhD is a family therapist specializing in prenatal and family development. When a great disparity of wealth exists between partners, discussion rather than avoidance in HOW this will be addressed is critical to the success of the marriage. Negotiate an agreement that is fair and mutually supportive.
Marriage is about sharing.
There is no reason for you to remain in the position of a child in your marriage. You are contributing to blending the responsibilities of parenthood by accepting care for your stepdaughter. It is your husband's job to contribute to your children's security as well. Membership in a family should entitle you to negotiate about the available resources, which relate concretely to your feelings of both love and protection. Many situations can be negotiated which take into account the needs and rights of previous spousal relationships and also value the needs of new family relationships.