It is through conflicts and adversity inasmuch as through care and love that we grow. Human relationships are dynamic. We must assess our friendships, partnerships, even marriages periodically. The past is insufficient in itself to sustain a healthy, nourishing, supportive, caring and compassionate relationship. We must gain and regain our friendships on a daily basis.
Human relationships are a constant test of allegiance and empathy.
They feel threatened and they want to neuter the threat by smothering it with oozing pleasantries. They have just been infused with an overdose of narcissistic supply and they feel magnanimous and magnificent and ideal and perfect. To show magnanimity is a way of flaunting one's impeccable divine credentials. It is an act of grandiosity. You are an irrelevant prop in this spectacle, a mere receptacle of the narcissist's overflowing, self-contented infatuation with his False Self.