You get to hear all the rules for Finding Your Question before it's your turn. Sarah and Jeff are now ready to work together. I am always touched by the willingness and ability of my students to go deep inside themselves and discover a heartfelt and meaningful question. We move around the room as students read and revise their questions. Questions for Rites of Passage Mainstream American culture lacks appropriate rituals and preparation for rites of passage.
Parenthood is no exception.
While women are being born as mothers and men are being born as fathers we are busy perfecting the baby shower. We barely acknowledge the huge transformation in the lives of the parents beyond the acquisition of diapers and strollers. If parents were guided to ask their questions and given time to explore the answers, they would be better prepared to embrace the unexpected and less invested in trying to plan and control the uncontrollable. It's unreasonable to expect that some brand-new, highly effective coping style will spontaneously appear in the middle of a challenging experience. When we wonder how we will feel or act in the future, the answer already exists in the present.