We are, of course, born with a certain personality. What happens with the roles we adapt in our family dynamic is that we get a twisted, distorted view of who we are as a result of our personality melding with the roles. This is dysfunctional because it causes us to not be able to see ourselves clearly. The false self that we develop to survive is never totally false - there is always some Truth in it. For example, people who go into the helping professions do truly care and are not doing what they do simply out of Codependence.
Nothing is black and white.
Recovery is about getting honest with ourselves and finding some balance in our life. I wrote this up years ago adapting several different list that I had. I do not remember where the came from. If anyone knows the original source of any of them, I would be more than happy to give credit where credit is due. The Dance of Wounded Souls by Robert Burney is copyright 1995.