There's a natural order to things. Just not by people like you. You are life-deaf. A social slow-learner. 79 out of 78 women you invited to a first date dinner at your place reacted as if you'd offered to pry out their eyeballs with a plastic spoon.
Healthy specimens prefer to take their time.
The right kind of first date won't require you to learn to like living in a cardboard box and eating other people's donut carcasses. Simply ask a girl out for a cup of coffee in a public place with plenty of exits. If it goes well, invite her out for a refill. Give her a chance to get comfortable with you, and she might even put in a request for one of your home-cooked meals and a peek at your toenail clippings collection. I'm interested in, but she isn't aware of my feelings.