This view of resistive behavior is more likely to help therapists select helpful interventions. Family members who seem reluctant to embrace therapeutic changes may be expressing their need for a greater sense of control or predictability, fears about losing control or independence or status, anxiety about adopting new roles or behaviors which are not yet clearly defined for them, doubts about their own ability to carry out changes, concern that the changes might result in a weaker rather than stronger family, and other reactions. If therapists can determine and understand the needs which are being expressed through the resistance, they are in a better position to help families overcome their reluctance to make changes. Frank discussion of family members' concerns should be encouraged. It is important for therapists to listen without judging family members' reactions in order to maintain open communication.
Patience is also essential.
A climate of understanding can set the stage for more collaborative working relationships with even quite challenging parents. All rights reserved.