However if you desire a male partner, you must educate yourself about how to use a condom with water based lubrication. Also you need to clear it with your husband that you want a room to yourself where you can relax and enjoy all the selfloving you want without having to hide or to hurry up or tone your sounds of orgasm because he might come home or enter the room. Finally, if he's interested the two of you might consider that he take Viagra. From the reports I've heard it works for a lot of men. It's a shame that men must live out their lives with the pain and embarrassment of lack of erections without ever having anyone to talk to about it.
Most women can pour their hearts out, but too many men suffer in silence.
However, his lack of interest in sex no longer need interfere with your sexual desires. Let me know what you decide to do.