Live in the answer, not in the problem. A self sponsored person is a good example of unskilled labor. Stay a little longer, try a little harder. The first step adds years to my life, the rest add life to my years. There is no pain in change, the pain comes from the resistance to change.
Recovery is a journey between two stations.
One station represents total chaos, and the other represents total serenity. What is important is not where you are, but what direction you are facing. People are lonely because they build walls instead of bridges. You are never given a wish without also being given the power to make it true. You may have to work for it however.