Although they are driven to become their own unique persons, they also long to please their parents. Even now, when I do something that my parents disagree with, I feel very conflicted. For a child who is tentatively learning to make choices, who is dependent on his parents for food, shelter, and emotional support, it's even more intense. Dissolving into tears is an appropriate expression of the inner turmoil that is so real for children who are in the midst of this process. I like to think of the process as similar to childbirth.
Labor is a very intense experience.
As an oak tree is already present in an acorn, this aspect of your son's unfolding development was already present when he was conceived. Although you will have a large impact on its course, it's not caused by something you are doing wrong, and it won't last forever. This is not a substitute for medical care or your doctor's attention. Please seek the advice of your pediatrician or family doctor. Dr. Greene's HouseCalls presents this data as is, without any warranty of any kind, express or implied.