Like any other divided nation they have a yearning not only to come together but to be ruled by their own, a basic part of the democratic project. There are also obvious oil and water issues transcending the Middle East. There is nothing extremist in this program unless one assumes any level of nationalism to be extremist. Should it ever take the form of a unitary Kurdish state, the map of the Middle East would change considerably. The Kurds were until recently basically a nomad nation.
Nomads claim much space.
What is extremist, however, is the violence of all sides, legitimized by macho, violent cultures in all combinations in the conflict formation. One day this may happen on a larger scale. But the violence is deeply rooted, nourished by demands for revenge, honor, for mobility through male acts of heroism, for keeping women out of politics. The Kurds are also their own enemies. Kurdish government in exile, the executive arm of the parliament, with a mandate to organize a pattern of -dual citizenship, giving Kurds a passport in addition to what they have in their country of residence, making the mutually recognizable and recognized more of a nation, one day in the future transforming that virtual reality into a real reality, for instance as a confederation of autonomies.