So if they're not fitting in academically, some boys will turn to dominating and fighting others. Kindlon suggests hiring more male teachers who've had the same experiences, and providing more outlets for activity in schools. More intimate environments in smaller schools, say Kindlon and Pollack, would likely allow for more connection between boys and adults. More generally, Pollack suggests adults spend more time with boys and change their expectations of them. Boys can be encouraged to be caring rather than tough.
Mothers can learn from fathers how to engage in sports and active play with their sons.
And fathers can learn from mothers how to be more nurturing, says Pollack. What boys need most, psychologist agree, is the love and understanding of adults. What Parents, Mentors, and Educators Can Do to Shape Adolescent Boys into Exceptional Men. Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression. Cover Page for this Issue APA Home Page .