Often we refrain from disciplining them properly. We fear that we will mar their happiness and possibly wound their self-esteem. The problem is that we equate happiness with pleasure. However, there is a huge difference between the two. Pleasure is a goal.
Happiness is a by-product.
Pleasure is fleeting. It ultimately leaves one empty. Happiness is lasting and can leave one fulfilled. Happiness results from a project well accomplished, a good deed done, a love freely given. Ignoring our conscience may bring temporary pleasure.