Sexual discussions for both men and women work best when they are brought up in a loving and sensitive way, not filled with accusations and drama. This is why we suggest having the discussion sooner rather than later if you have not already had it. Ask her what she thinks and feels about the subject and work together on a solution. Q. My husband and I have been married eight years. We never have orgasms at the same time.
Many people believe the myth that having orgasms at the same time is the goal for good sex.
It's great if it happens, but it is not very common. To be constantly concerned and trying to achieve this will reduce the amount of pleasure you end up having. Sex is best when it happens with two people who are relaxed, comfortable and enjoying the process, not striving for a particular and fixed outcome. So our advice is to continue enjoying each other as you apparently are and try not to fit yourselves into a pattern that others say is right for the two of you. All rights reserved.