God's love for us meant intense suffering on His part, as well as intense joy. It is the same for us. Being caught up in the vicarious mystery of love tends to amplify the normal emotions and feelings of life, but these come and go. Love experiences them, but is not dependent on them. Every man who knows my commandments and obeys them is the man who really loves me, and every man who really loves me will himself be loved by the Father, and I too will love him and make myself known to him.
Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Genuine love requires discipline and engagement.