You've got to get a new dating attitude to find a man. If you walk around thinking that you're too fat, too skinny or too old to attract a man, you probably won't. If you believe there are only married, weird or gay men out there, those are exactly the men you'll meet.
Negative thoughts produce negative results.
Once you accept that dating can and should be fun, the days of worrying and searching will be over. You must let go of any negative thoughts that are preventing you from finding your mate and believe that the person you are looking for can show up at any place at any time. Now is the time to let go of any past demons. Women who are ashamed of their past, for whatever reason, often select men who are inappropriate, unavailable, or unwilling to commit. Others get stuck in a pit of self-pity by obsessing over past relationships gone wrong.