Some even felt sorry for him, since mum ruled the household with an iron hand. What is being described here is a peer relationship with the father. While it is much more pleasant and is in some respects a much more advantageous situation than having an indifferent father, it is still an unhealthy relationship. In cases like this, an identity transfer has not taken place. Though they loved dad, they most certainly would never want to be found in his circumstances.
Marriage is viewed as something to be avoided at all costs.
Vows of Childhood. This leads us to a very important trigger to the homosexual condition, what we call the vows of childhood. In imbalanced family situations, children frequently vow that they will never marry. Though it sinks into the subconscious and is no longer remembered, this vow has great impact in later life. A wise parent will occasionally ask their child if they want to be married when they grow up.