On a tape I just listened to, a room full of teachers were asked to make even one non-projected feeling statement. Not one could. All were totally baffled. Right, honesty is scarce. I am aware that it almost never happens.
Intellect flips out.
Conditioning has crucified intelligence for just about all of us. Well, this means opening the heart up as the governing influence. I have not found a guru to do that with me. Second in line for my search is one other person to be honest with. Objectively watching from within to say congruently what emotions are giving to the current time and relationship in terms of insights, memories, desires, defensive thoughts, fears and joys.