Have them be specific. Review some techniques with your child to help them redirect behavior. Write it down and review the list they create. Discipline, not punishment Punishment is not the same as discipline. Discipline is impulse control, knowing what you should do vs what you want to do and making the right choice.
Punishment is consequence of action.
This way they know what is expected of them. This way there is no confusion about what is and isn't acceptable behavior. Reward positive behavior. It doesn't have to be with a purchased item, a reward could be setting aside some time with your child. Mistakes happen, we all make them.