What we do know is that the impact will vary with each child depending the child's age, gender, maturity, psychological health and whether or not other supportive adults are able to be a regular part of their lives. However, there are some generalizations that apply in nearly every situation. Divorce can be the right decision and can be handled responsibly. Divorce itself does not have a positive impact on a child's life and development. Girls tend to handle divorce better and have fewer serious problems than boys.
Divorce is a failure of a couple's commitment to their marital and family roles.
This includes parental responsibilities to their children's psychological and emotional development. Divorce has it's most negative impact when one or both parents abandon responsibility for their child's social and emotional development. The negative impact of a divorce is not canceled out by new conditions or changes that may be positive. Put simply, divorce is bad for children. At best, a divorce or separation may help prevent abuse between parents that is a result of living together.