Sometimes it's difficult for women to ask directly for what they want, especially when it comes to sexual things. This may be your wife's way of asking for what she wants. The way to find out if that's correct is to one day ask her if she'd like to send the kids off sometime to spend the night with their buddies, while the two of you stay home and order food in from a restaurant and have a romantic evening at home. I said that you would do it, not her. You would arrange for the kids to go to their friends, you would order the food, etc.
Many women find it very romantic when their partner makes all the arrangements.
It makes them feel loved and cared about, which makes it easier for them to feel romantic toward their partner. Sadism is when a person gets sexual stimulation from the psychological or physical suffering of the victim. Masochism is when a person gets sexual stimulation from being made to suffer, either psychologically or physically. Those who have the bandana in their right rear pocket prefer the submissive, or masochistic, role. The bandana in the left rear pocket signals that person prefers the dominant, or sadistic, role.