On the other hand, as we register interest and acceptance we tend to reveal more threatening facts. We can become so trusting of the seemingly unconditional acceptance of the other person that we tell him or her things about ourselves we've never told anyone. And that's just the first step. Removing all masks to let another see who we really are means risking everything in that relationship. After all, some of the facts of our lives were things that occurred without our intention or control.
Feelings do that.
When a person can share feelings, he or she reveals self. And just as when we share facts, we take note of any disinterest or rejection. Because of their relative anonymity, they can self-reveal very quickly because at the first sign of rejection they can end the tentative relationship and move to another chat room. In other words, it doesn't hurt nearly as much to be rejected when you aren't risking much in the relationship. Two people living in different parts of the world can easily end the contact with little sense of loss.