Submission does not mean that we loss our identity. Jesus, Peter, and Paul found their identity in the act of submission and self-denial. Submission declares that persons are of infinite worth and it shows us how to realize it. The most radical social teaching of Jesus was His total reversal of the contemporary notion of greatness. Leadership is found in being the servant of all.
Power is discovered in submission.
The foremost symbol of this radical servanthood is the cross. Christ not only died a cross death. He lived a cross life. The cross life, the submission of Jesus to God undermined all social order based on consuming power and self-interest. If you are seeking the liberation of God revealed in Christ, you might consider the tool of New Testament submission, it can assist in the opening the heart of the believer to life in Jesus.