They are experiencing their feelings, not as they feel them, but as they think others would experience them. When we communicate non-verbally our bodies are literally expressing themselves. For example, we think of those who will not look us in the eyes as untrustworthy, dishonest, afraid or insecure. We think of those who have alert, expressive eyes as intelligent, energetic, and emotional. Our eyes have the power to judge, to attract, and to frighten.
Many parents can bring their children to tears, for example, without saying a word.
While the eyes are not the only area of expression on the body, they are certainly the subject of much well- deserved attention. Research shows that those with high EQ are better at reading these non-verbal cues. This gives them valuable information, particularly from people who are not expressing themselves verbally, or whose body language is inconsistent with their words. After we learn to find the right word for our feeling and its intensity, the next step is explaining why we feel what we feel. At this point, our analytical brain is called into action.