The power of groups is that they magnify old communication and personality patterns, in an environemnt where we can observe them and change them. The open discussion of such core topics creates group safety and cohesion. The leader for the night starts the group in the usual way. He starts a group discussion by asking one of the following questions. Men go around the circle and answer whichever question the group leader has recommended.
Open dialogue can follow after the whole group has commented on a question.
The leader closes the group in the usual way. This particular exercise requires men to talk about the inner experience of the group, and it asks the members to be vulnerable and non-blaming. These discussions should take several weeks, if each question is asked and investigated deeply. The group should take its time. Care taken here will help solve a lot of questions and problems that can come up later in the group.