In the vast majority of cases, masturbation was not the cause of problems in their marriage, nor was it actually the cause of continuing problems in the marriage. These kind of situations help to force me to really come to grips with my own masturbation. I could see the hell the shame and guilt cause in me. I could easily see the hell the shame and guilt in these other men. Instead, I would concentrate on the other aspects of their relationship and marriage that were causing it to fall apart.
Most men laugh, many agree.
I could go on and on. I have written many scores of pages over the years about healthy human sexuality and Christianity. It is definitely from an pro-sexual viewpoint. I appeal to men's reason, not mysticism. The biggest problem for many 'church- going men' is that they don't use the same critical thinking skills when contemplating spiritual issues that they would use when confronting other important issues in life.