If you can make her laugh, you can win her heart and her genitals will soon follow. Since the dawn of humanity, when prehistoric gentlemen gave the best chunks of meat to the ladies they desired, men have successfully seduced women with gifts. Your confidence makes her feel secure and excited at the same time. Your vulnerability makes you warmer and cuddlier, accessible, lovable. If you can combine confidence with vulnerability, you're probably the kind of person who can talk about your feelings.
Most modern ladies love that.
The strong silent type is a sex symbol of the past, and a good thing too, for he was often a secret psychopath. Tease your lady's personal pleasures points wherever you find them. Lubrication, lubrication, lubrication. Help her to explore, understand, and actualize her dreams, her hopes, her ambitions, her fantasies. It will be in bookstores in May, 1996.