I walk in your shoes and have been for 2 years. I am detached emotionall and physically from my husband. It willtake along while. Talk to your husband before it turns into a nightmare or 2 years like me. Just wanted to add this.
Most affairs are a lie.
They are just like dating. Everybody puts there best forward. The other person in an affair knows what your looking for. You probaly have told them several times what your problems are. What most of us that have had affairs don't understand in the long run this other person and the relationship becomes just like what you have.