He claimed that he was just depressed because he didn't have a job, and the only way to get out of the slump was to get out of our home and go out with his friends. The only way to feel better about yourself since you are not working is to go get a job. Needless to say, I build up some considerable resentment about this, which, I'm happy to say, I've been able to get out of my system once he became employed again. But this is off the topic. It is OK to be on medication.
Medication really helps.
But the problem is that your husband has more than depression. Over the years, the incidents of verbal abuse increased in frequency and intensity. Sometimes all it would take was a look he didn't like. A few times I had to crawl away from him in fear, because he would throw something at me or destroy something in the room, and once I got the dry heaves, I was so upset. Finally, one day, I lost my temper with him and screamed back.