Adult males who are well liked and are leading a good life heading towards their dreams are moving closer to their inherent masculinity. An easy way to look at men's conditioning is to ask any group of people what they love and hate about men. A list emerges that portrays the stereotypical man . Not every man displays every type of negative stereotyped behaviour but every man displays some of it. What is interesting is that the list generated by men is about the same as the one by women.
Nobody likes the effects that the conditioning has on men.
Men get a double message that they are to be these ways to be a man, and at the same time nobody really likes it or wants it. Everybody seems desperate that men change and hopeless that they ever will. It must be emphasized that these negative traits are just men's conditioning, certainly not men's real nature as humans. As the things that go wrong in a life mount up that effect is to have us behave a little more rigidly. People who have investigated this in hospitals have found that people just don't know how to be with a baby if they don't know its sex.