Without a goal ahead of you, your quest for your village is going to be a muddled and long one. Check in with your past role models, from college, another town, your childhood. Your recent parenthood is an excellent opportunity to make contact, or put them on your holiday card list. See if they still fit the idea of your village. If they don't, then you can take this difference as a measure of how you've grown.
People often grow apart, and parenthood is often the great dividing line between former friends.
I had friends in graduate school who were my pinnacle of literary success and cutting edge wit. We used to laugh for hours during enjoyable encounters over the billiards table. When I became pregnant, I could feel the chill winds begin to blow. Sure enough, these friends drifted off into some arctic friendship zone. I miss those people, and have sought their published works to read up and stay in touch.