The reason is because I feel we need to work through and resolve this issue. I'm not offended, I'm just curious. I do want to try this. I guess I just don't want to give up on a mostly wonderful man. Yeah, there are big warning bells going off here.
Many men learn to lie bcs they want to avoid conflict above all else.
My H is a big-time conflict avoider, altho he would never outright lie, just evade questions. Avoiding conflict so religiously keeps true emotional intimacy out. However, if he is really willing to, he can learn to be more open and honest emotionally. BTW, I strongly agree, do not set a date until you are quite sure this honesty issue is solved. You cannot help your BF be honest.