The person of color could refuse to counsel on the topic in such a situation. Some gays have come to believe they are not gay. While still others who took a gay identity out of distress, after discovering that they are actually straight or at least bisexual are being held up as examples so that we may make assumptions about the whole gay community. I might add to this section that although some people are confused about their sexual identity, not everyone is. For instance there are some things that most of us just know.
Most parents just know that there kids are inherently good.
Just as a lot of people just know that they are meant to partner with the opposite sex or the same sex. And no parent I know would agree to counsel with someone who had the agenda of getting them to agree that there kid was inherently bad. Another important thing to remember about why it is so important for a counselor to be neutral is that when anyone is working on their early sexual memories they are in a vulnerable position and often times open to suggestion. Many studies have shown that false memories can be incorporated into a persons real memories due to a therapists line of questioning. I hope that my article will serve as a warning to gay people who read this.