Practice, practice, practice We get better with practice. We overcome shyness by socializing. We come to like to study by studying successfully. This is essentially in vivo desensitization. William James said to feel a certain way, e.g. happy, act that way.
People plan fun activities to spice up their life.
Massage Massage is one of the more relaxing activities two people can do together. It takes no special skills, only gentleness, affection and time. Relaxing in a warm bath while reading a good book is another wonderful method. It may be that relaxation and touching together are especially soothing. Furthermore, while drugs, legal and illegal, alter our emotions, the drugs do nothing to change the conditions that cause the unwanted feelings.