Realizing that you yourself have a variety of roles and responses for various occasions and situations can help you empathize with the players. Diversity is always a delicate matter because it deals with our own and other people's identities. It calls into question how we behave because of who we are. As a result, there will be objections to the game itself, e.g., the content of the game cards, the rules of play, how you administer the game, etc. It will be helpful for the facilitator to remember that resistance, defensiveness, and conflicts are energies that give life and purpose to the game.
Resistance provides the energy needed for the process of transformation.
The effective facilitator can use it without letting it get out of control. These tend to get transferred, externalized and applied the process of playing the game. It is psychologically much safer to take issue with the dynamics of game than it is to raise uncertainties about oneself and one's behavior and one's cultural identity, or, if the group is composed of strangers, to challenge the attitudes and behaviors of others. According to Drs. All of these forms of defensiveness are normal and usually necessary parts of the process of growth and change.