We plan fun things to do as a couple and as a family. With five children, many compromises are necessary. Dan In chapter twelve of his Letter to the Romans, St. Paul stresses the importance of involvement in each other s lives. Intimacy demands involvement, not just proximity. Though we were in the same room, we often were light years apart.
Involvement means sharing inner thoughts, hopes, desires, and feelings with each other.
Sharing ourselves in these ways helps us know each other better. Yet, to be close we need to accept our spouse the way he or she is. Although intimacy involves much more than speaking with each other, a decline in meaningful conversation usually signals a decline in intimacy. Sometimes intimacy is closeness, a touch, or showing concern. Perhaps it s making time for each other.