I need to know that my lover wants to be sexual. That way sex occurs naturally as one aspect of my life. Otherwise you run the danger of arbitrarily stigmatizing acts of physical pleasure. A partner does have the right to request certain behavior. But I'm not convinced that they have a right to demand it.
Partners do have the right to refuse to do something.
I would ask them not to ignore me and not to exploit me. Such things would keep me happy for quite some time.