You're dejected, pissed off even. I know most of the people who use this phrase are well meaning, but they should be more well-thinking. Every American child is told he or she could grow up to be President. No matter how untrue this is in reality, as a concept it is driven into us at an early age to demonstrate how wonderful our democracy is. And leaving the top job behind, children are told they can grow up to be anything they want.
Nobody wants to be treated unfairly or be the target of an unfair act.
And if we can all agree that each of wants to be treated fairly, then the only logical and reasonable way to achieve that is to treat others fairly. Look around, there are countless examples of man's inhumanity to man. But these are held up as examples of how not to act, not as support for life's unfairness. They are held out as reasons to fight for fairness. Look at Bosnia, look at South Africa, look at Tiananmen Square, look at Rwanda, look at Haiti.