We realise cause and effect. Well, we can use skilful thinking rather than guilt thinking. I feel it. If I go through that process again and again and again, with those habitual patterns of suffering, eventually I begin to see the arising of that unwholesome condition. Mindfulness is now established.
Mindfulness is very powerful, it's like recollection or remembering.
I button my lip, I don't say it. I didn't get sucked in. The heart is freed from that particular habit. I'm not trying to become a person who doesn't do that. There is no activity of aversion.