The two don't work well together. Yet, understanding this helps some. And I admire her ability to be in touch with the emotional side. Sometimes, but rarely, when alone, I may cry. Venting anger is a problem as it often wants a target.
Racquetball helps dissipate some of the adrenaline.
Kathy Stone's husband, Chuck, had similar stoic tendencies. Her discussion of this with him led to a crucial and satisfying change in their relationship. I needed to hear him speak of it openly to others, not be quiet about what was happening to us. It was one of the best things I have ever done. He now sees the benefit of opening up to each other.