Using visualization of the metaphor, ask the client to start to move the shame energy around. Have the child imagine dissipating and releasing the shame. Ask the child how he will be different in the future with this new belief. Ask him to imagine seeing himself acting differently in a situation of threat. This exercise may need to be repeated many times depending upon the number of incidences in the person's life.
Kids are resilient.
Don't give up on them. Help them learn to break the cycle of shame prevalent in their lives. Decision making is where it's at. Help children gain a sense of self competency by learning new skills to make good decisions. This approach when combined with learning to speak out for one's self and say no when appropriate along with sharing feelings and stating boundaries gives children tools to avoid further incidents that might be shame provoking.