At a deeper level, it is acceptance, even in the midst of failure. Confronting - This skill is needed to help children face reality, whether painful or not. Confronting forces children to experience the consequences of their behavior, and it refrains from rescuing them. It is putting things together and understanding the feelings behind the words. When children are heard, really heard, potential problems disappear and parental influence soars.
Parents reveal themselves in the stories they tell.
Telling about the past, good times, struggles, hopes, and dreams helps children identify with their parents. It makes the children aware of the parents' warmth, values and sense of humor. One of the most important skills a child learns from parents is how to resolve conflict and solve problems. These small hurts, if not resolved, will grow into resentments which will destroy mutual respect. For some, setting limits is the hardest part of parenting.