NOw that he has given up, he tries to understand her purpose and is let inside. Perhaps he thinks women play games, that it's all one big game. You won't understand and you may as well not try. THis could mean that he will never understand why she plays her games. I think it means that the game is all his illusion and she knows it.
Men think that women tease men, hurt men for fun, as a game.
THe queen knows how mistaken the soldier is. That is why she is arrogant, he won't understand that she is a human being. THey are killing for themselves. Maybe instead of being immature, the queen is wise and knows they are fooling themselves into thinking they are killing for her. WHen she does try to let him inside, when she tells him about bleeding, when she shows him her humanity, he bows her down to the ground and tells her she is hungry and weak.