Gayle Peterson Gayle Peterson, MSSW, PhD is a family therapist specializing in prenatal and family development. This conflict represents a core issue, which touches on primal feelings for both of you. The manner in which you handle this decision will set the tone for your parenting relationship. However, you do not view your child's best interests through the same lens in this situation. Your very strong negative feelings about circumcision also needs to be heard and understood by your husband.
Resolution requires extensive discussion and soul searching on both sides.
The decision of whether or not to circumcise should result from a thorough understanding of each other's perspectives. The resolution that will evolve from understanding one another is unknown. It is the process of being willing to delve deeply into what both of you perceive as painful and to truly understand the nature of that experience which will allow you to feel connected. As you view it now, one of you will have to initially sacrifice your position. Stay open to the potential for this empathic process of discussion to be transformative in some way that you do not now comprehend or anticipate.