Well, everyone dies in the first graf of my stories, but I console myself with the thoughts that there are relatively few complaints from people I write about. There was the grieving widow, the grieving kids and several brothers. But today, it's vastly more complicated. I've seen obits where both the wife and the mistress are listed. This is a serious problem.
Nothing seems more sensitive to many people than who is left behind.
I don't mean it literally. Well, Mrs. Graham has to sell papers. Many obits, especially of elderly prominent persons, are written well in advance of their deaths, often by reporters who covered them. This is really the toughest part of the job. Most callers, I think, hang up happy that they called us.