It is easy to appreciate your children when they are cooperative and well behaved. You can spend your time and energy on pleasant endeavors. You do not have to yell and argue. It is difficult to enjoy your children when they misbehave. Misconduct creates tension.
Many parents avoid their children to escape the stress and irritated feelings.
They send their children outside to play so they do not have to deal with them. They cannot wait until the children go to bed. They see their children as a burden and resent them. They hope for the day when their children leave home. This is a tragic waste of a precious opportunity.