If you can't work out a solution with the woman you are with, then find a woman your own age, but forget about the seventeen year old. We've been married almost a year - and I personally think he should have gotten rid of these old 'reminders'. Dear Newlywed, Just because you're married now doesn't mean that you get to control your new husband's life. You are not his boss and you don't get to say whether he keeps old love letters or not. Some things are meant to be private and that includes the sentimental souvenirs a person wants to keep.
Old reminders are a person's history.
Of course not. Of course not. Memories are just that. Your husband's past, including all the women he dated before you, is what molded him into the person you love. He's yours now.