Rando agrees, explaining that people in mourning need time to think about the person, their memories of them and their relationship, and adjust to the idea of life without them. That task becomes more complex and emotionally wrenching when there's more than one person to mourn, she says. For example, the family of Carolyn Bessette, John Kennedy Jr.'s wife, lost two daughters in the weekend plane crash. While the grieving for John Kennedy Jr., his wife and her sister has just begun, and will be horribly painful for the families, in some way the hardships of the past will serve them well as they come to terms with yet another loss. A weekly column about mental health and psychology.
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