Studies show that people who have maintained long-term loving connections will tend to have better and longer lives. By the golden years, they look back over their journeys and are satisfied with the meaning and purpose they experienced. The other end of this is true, too. The lack of relationship causes problems. For example, many depressions, anxiety problems and compulsive behaviors are symptoms of lack of bonding inside the person.
Isolation causes the soul to starve for nutrients, and problems are the result.
Simply using your wits, energy, willpower, commitment, resolve and all the other tools we have at our disposal will ultimately fail unless we are filled inside with love that we have not created ourselves. Relationship is the fuel for life, and dependency is the avenue by which we receive it. The second aspect of dependency is that it teaches us that relationship is the most important thing in the universe. Connection is really the deepest value in God s heart. When you allow dependent feelings and stances in life, you begin to live life the way God intended it.