Without it, it's hell. So every time I tackle a type of marital conflict, I stress the importance of resolving it in a way that builds the feeling of love in marriage. But I have received many letters wondering if this goal is reasonable. In this column I not only discuss the Policy of Joint Agreement, but I also describe my Four Guidelines for Negotiation. When you negotiate with these guidelines, you can't help but solve your problem.
Incompatibility is at the core of marital conflict.
How to Survive Incompatibility is a column that introduces the problem of incompatibility, and offers the Policy of Joint Agreement as a general solution. When You're VERY Incompatible . Your First Year of Marriage First things first. The way you make decisions right after marriage will either set you on a course toward compatibility and mutual love, or on a course that leads to disaster. This column shows how difficult it can be for some couples to answer.