Altruism aside, this can also be a wonderful way to make important contacts. Ask friends and colleagues for advice. It's important to be able to draw on friends for inspiration, for confirmation, for affirmation, for stupidity checks. They think people will perceive the request as weakness. According to Banks, nothing could be further from the truth.
People become more successful with support and help.
A less intimidating way to approach this might be to get together with a friend, each choose three goals, and for 90 days work with each other to achieve those goals. Make a list of ten things that aren't working in your life, and then clean up the list. Look at what frustrates you in your life. If you just cleared up that list alone, you'd be looking at a different lifescape. Pay attention to your wardrobe.