Some us join youth gangs that hurt or kill. Many strike out against loved ones in anger or rage, hitting wives or children, raping or killing, and we know not from where the rage came. There is so much anger within us, so deeply buried. A few seek psychological counseling, but for most of us, professionals can't help. They have the same deep, buried primal fears and pain which they can't face, even in their patients.
Many men stop trying.
If we don't matter, if our lives don't matter, there is no point in trying to succeed. Men are the suicide sex. Men can't and don't. We don't count, we are expendable, we die. Robert Bly talks about how the essential universal emotion of men is pain.