The irrationality is contained in the imagined generalisation of one specific fault or unattractive feature, to a total indictment of self. You usually run less risk of rejection if you offer others your true unblemished self. They can either take it or leave it, but if they respond to the real you, you don't have to worry about letting down your guard and being rejected later. These fallacious ideas are almost universal in our society, unwittingly installed from earliest childhood from parental and other authoritative influences. They are frequently accompanied by traumatic circumstances that empower their imprinting in the mind, and this results in their repression, so that the source of such beliefs becomes hidden and unknown.
People become inhibited, hostile, defensive, guilty, ineffective, inert, afraid and unhappy.
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