What he is looking for, what he wants, is all around him but he doesn t want that because it is all around him. Every step is an effort, both physically and spiritually, because he imagines his goal to be external and distant. We look elsewhere, not just in our concept of times and values, but in terms of our loved ones, the people that surround us. It is so easy to look at the other family, our neighbors, our friends, our associates and imagine theirs to be a world without domestic problem, without the sibling rivalry, without those severe emotional stresses that in our minds threaten to undermine our security. Oh, the family without stress and difficulty, that s the family I worry about.
Normality is anything but that.
It s pure fantasy. There is no such thing that we dream of, that we hope we can have in our own family, in our own relationships. There isn t a person here who doesn t at times take loved ones for granted. We must create the closeness. We must cause the warmth.