If you are concerned about custody, the court is required to determine custodial arrangements for the children without regard to marital misconduct, which does not affect the children. The only exception is domestic violence or domestic abuse. The court must take domestic violence or abuse into account when deciding where children should live. In conclusion, your sexual orientation or your marital indiscretions should not affect the outcome of your case, unless your acts have some direct impact on the matter being decided. If you are having difficulties coping with your sexuality or with guilt resulting from your actions, you should consult with a counselor or psychologist.
Many people experience guilt when they discover that their sexuality interferes with their marriage.
From my perspective as a lawyer, I have seen such people give their former spouses too much because they feel so guilty about having destroyed the marriage. If you conduct your legal affairs based on feelings of guilt, you are likely to regret your decisions later, so see a competent counselor and a lawyer before you sign any papers. Return to the top of this page.