Nobody is going to ride up to your door on a white charger to romantically whisk you off for a lifetime of love and happiness unless you happen to be a character in a Disney movie. Even then, your chances might be a little remote. I, for one, sincerely doubt it. You've got to consider your friendships with members of the opposite sex as potential romantic partners. If you go out and present yourself as available to anyone who happens to look your way, chances are that real love will be hard to come by.
Nobody wants what everybody else can have.
Nobody puts genuine faith in someone who has no faith in themselves. We are always changing, always becoming. This one fact of life will always be so. But if we can view our loving relationships as doing the same with every breath we take, we will become more empowered in the process of loving and more committed to keeping these relationships alive and thriving.