Not everyone can cope with these last practicalities, which is why undertakers make a good living by applying a fixed ritual, and fixed price, to death. Some people care more than others about these post-mortem rituals, and how to redesign them in your own image. I myself care little, except to avoid more than basic expenses. Keep me from an expensive coffin. Need to know You need somewhere to turn to for basic information.
Ignorance is the worst enemy.
Some prefer ignorance, say it is bliss. It is not. Ignorance is the ultimate fright, the primal fear. Better to know what you are up against, know all there is to know about your illness, its treatments, the odds, the therapies, what others have done and said and suffered. Not everyone knows, or bothers to tell you.