Most of us are kicking and pulling to get something done. When we should be like dacing with out horses. One of the biggest mistakes is we release at the wrong time. Approach and retreat is the key to teaching. We criticize them for what they do but most of the time we do not present it to them so they can understand.
Patience is so important in training.
When you are working with the horse you need to observe, remember and compare. We build resentment into our horses because we do not get them prepared before asking them to do something. Lee is riding her horse around with a flag on a stick. She is pushing the filly around trying to get her interested in Lee. When the horse faces up to Lee, she turns away and walks off.