The responsibility for rape always lies with the attacker. What happened to you is not your fault. There are many situations in which people, especially women, are pressured in verbal and emotional ways into having sex when they don't want to. Although some of these situations do not fit the legal definition of rape, being pressured into having sex against your will is harmful to your emotional health, and sometimes to your physical health. Rape is an uncommon crime.
Rape happens when a stranger jumps out of a dark alley at night.
Rape can take place at any time of the day, in any location. In fact, most rapes happen indoors, often in the rapist's or victim's home. Rape happens when a man is overwhelmed by uncontrollable sexual desire. Like other violent crimes, most rapes are planned in advance. The prime motives for rape are control and power, not sex.