Sometimes we turn grief into resentments or bitterness. It becomes the reason we give ourselves for the insanity of our addictions. It makes the insanity of addiction understandable somehow. Not really, of course. But it seems like that.
Nothing leads to relapse faster than resentments.
And nothing creates resentments faster than ungrieved grief. Addictions can be a way of holding on to the grief, rather than working towards its resolution. We are the only one who can get out of the prison. Our society is great at writing self-help books and teaching us how to be a success. But our society does not know how to help people when they lose something.