A Loving Command Keep the Fire Burning Premarital sex also threatens your future marriage. Imagine building a fire by using great amounts of lighter fluid. That flame will leap up immediately into a roar, but soon dies away into nothing. On the other hand, when a fire is built upon deep coals, you can pile wood on and the fire can last forever. A marriage, similarly, is built upon the coals of character, trust, respect and holiness.
Premarital sex leaps up into a brilliant blaze that looks like love because it feels so fantastic.
A couple involved in premarital sex will have to make some serious adjustments if they will ever make it in marriage. Start seeking God's guidance on whether or not this is a partner He has in mind for you. Sex outside marriage always follows a law of diminishing returns. Because the emphasis is on sex, and sexual gratification by itself is consuming and escalating. But once you had moved to holding a person tightly or kissing a person, handholding was no big deal.