But I don't naturally know what is safe and what is dangerous, what is socially appropriate and what is not. Helping me behave involves setting limits that teach me to avoid danger and learn socially acceptable behaviors. I need well-defined and consistent limits. Limits will help me learn to avoid danger and attain socially acceptable behaviors. Limits also put a sense of organization into my life, giving me clear boundaries regarding what is and what is not acceptable behavior.
Good limits are reasonable and enforceable.
When setting limits, consider my developmental level, temperament, and style. Also, think about what is really important to you. Ask the other adults living in our home to answer the above questions and then compare your answers. Together, establish a set of limits and rules that are consistent. This is important.