One time David came in after working late, and I was feeling alone. Of course, that never helped either one of us get in touch with my real needs. I'm proud of you. And yet I'm feeling alone. David responded well and my need was met.
Intimacy is a problem partly because it's difficult to know how to meet our mate's needs.
Teresa is realizing she has high needs for security, attention and acceptance. For instance, when we travel she needs to feel secure that there's enough time to get to the airport and find a parking place and that there will be enough luggage room in the airplane. When those needs are met, she's relaxed and fulfilled. There's a closeness between us. I can help meet her needs when I know her well.