Then, little by little, or sometimes quite quickly, he learns to detect and control the surge of sexual arousal. Unfortunately, at this stage some men find themselves unable to slow down and control the process of arousal leading to ejaculation. Far from disappearing, the problem only gets worse. Fear of the sex act, leading to disappointment on both sides, ends by turning early ejaculation into an automatic process. There are many reasons for this.
First experiences can set the tone for the future.
The problem may also be due to overemotion, apprehension, a lack of self-confidence, fear of disappointing one's partner, relational or other psychological difficulties. But these are all false starts. Happily, we now know what to do about this. So premature ejaculators and their partners are not doomed to a lifetime of frustration. In this area, all men are equal.