This doesn't mean that we should act belligerently in overcoming problems. We must think quietly. Remember that some people only learn through bitter experience. All we can do is pray for understanding to come to them soon. If life always ran smoothly, we would stagnate.
Overcoming obstacles is part of our earthly education.
There are times when we all must experience suffering for our soul's development. A great spirit teacher once said, 'There are times when we weep because of experiences those on the Earth Plane must go through for their soul's expression, and we must stand back and let it happen. When we become angry or spiteful we lose our protection temporarily, and are susceptible to unprogressed spirit people who impress us with negative thoughts and attitudes. This situation is not good for us mentally and physically, especially if we are working for spiritual development. So we must make every effort to control our thinking.