I terribly miss wanting sex. I m reminded of something that marital and sex therapist Karen Brash mentioned during our interview in Cherry Hill. Too many couples settle for boring, utilitarian sex. Brash and her husband conduct Hot Sex workshops teaching tantric love techniques to couples who ve grown tired of the same old same old. She finds that lots of her clients live as what she calls married singles, tolerating a low level of intimacy.
Marriage settles into a corporate endeavor, the business of running a family.
Husbands and wives make their kids and their work higher priorities than their relationship. Her view is most heartily echoed by gynecologist Andrea DiGaetano when we grab a cup of coffee at a bookstore near her Moorestown office. We talk about their lives, which are so excessively full that there is no room left for the leisure of sexuality. They have young kids, older parents, jobs, organization and community obligations, social commitments. Sex just doesn t get on the schedule.