Reword the Words To be a good listener, you need to take an active role. It's important not to repeat his words exactly. That may anger him and doesn't prove you really understood. Using your own words shows you are listening, and you care about what he's telling you. As you listen, encourage your child to talk by asking open-ended questions.
Kids are actually very good at figuring out solutions to problems when given options.
Physical Listening Be an attentive listener. If your eyes wander, your thoughts may wander as well. Maintaining eye contact lets your teen know you're focusing on what she is saying. Keep your comments and questions relevant to your child's problem. Changing the subject causes the conversation to drift, and you will lose your teen's confidence.