To accomplish this, Lydia should constantly affirm Carla by praising her strengths, downplaying her weaknesses and recounting her incredible value. You really miss your daddy. I know you are sad that he doesn't call. He is missing out on a precious, special little girl. Over time, such reassurances will help Carla rebound.
Many kind words can relieve even the most intense pain.
Though her ex's choices may hurt Carla deeply, Lydia's encouragement can help her daughter recover with grace. Moreover, Lydia should allow Carla to share her feelings as often as needed, and she should make sure encouraging words follow close on the heels of her daughter's admissions. Family, friends or church members can also help Carla through this difficult time. She told her children the facts but never criticized the man. Instead, she allowed them to draw conclusions about their father based on their own observations.