On top of that the epidural didn't take and I felt the surgery, every last bit of the blazing hot cauterizing . I finally told him shut up. My doctor had to tug my baby's bottom out of the birth canal. I was the one person I should have been able to count on, myself. If a woman is truly educated about her rights of birthing she will choose the right paths.
Education is liberating.
My husband tell everyone that the fear of birthing is the fear of the unknown, but if you're truly educated on birth, that fear is replaced by anticipation. I took total responsibility in the birth of my son. I planned for a long long labor, they say that many VBAC's have so much to work out that it is like a first labor, so I figured better to be prepared for it. Take responsibility for you birthing experience, read read read. Know that every thing you do now to prepare will make you strong during labor.