If your father loved you, he would send the support checks on time. If you don't behave I will send you to live with your mother. Being a parent is a separate job. But, I love you as much as ever, and I always will. Seek help from family and friends.
Professional help is needed when depression is prolonged or intense.
Read books to learn how to help children talk. Respect privacy but monitor your child's activity. Encourage children to stay in contact with friends and relatives they enjoyed before the divorce. That is because more adults enter into the family picture and the dynamics of the households change enormously. When that time comes, prepare yourself by reading books, seeking counseling, joining support groups or otherwise equipping yourself with information about creating a new family.