In the past, death was a part of life, and somehow it was easier to accept as a natural process. The ill would be taken care of at home, and most of the time they would die at home among family members. It was easier to say good-bye, and by witnessing the process, the fear of death was greatly reduced. The family would prepare the body and arrange for its transportation to the place of final disposition, hold the memorial service at home, and make all necessary arrangements with a priest or clergy. Today, we witness the whole process from the outside.
Most people die in hospitals and nursing homes.
We hire others to arrange all details and we don't know how to handle the traumas, fears, or guilt. The complexity of paperwork will vary for each case. If death is sudden and no preparations have been made, dealing with these matters can be a terrible and sometimes devastating burden for the survivors. If death comes after a long illness, however, and if there has been adequate preparation, the entire process can be much less difficult. Writing the obituary yourself assures you that information about the deceased will be accurate.