That passage helped give her the courage to make some dramatic changes. Years later, she realizes that this was one of the most important periods in her life. However, at the time, she greatly feared leaving the old, familiar people and life patterns behind. One of her biggest fears was that she could never find a man who was growth-oriented enough. She didn't think she knew any .
Many women feel that way.
Though, in fact, many growth-oriented men have the same fears. To the degree that two people share the same metavalues, they can begin to have a higher level relationship. We were lucky to find each other. When we met, we discussed many of our beliefs about what we wanted in a relationship and what we thought would make two people happy together. We especially focused upon combining intimacy, independence, open communication, and equality.