Forgive yourself for not being perfect. Because the Critic speaks so loudly and so often, it s hard to hear the other voices inside us that sound more supportive voices that salute us when we do a good job, or which affirm our basic worthiness. Learn to pat yourself on the back. Of course, it s also good to have friends around who can share your joy when you ve got good news to share with them even if it might sound a bit like being full of yourself to your internal Critic. Having friends who can share in life s victories is at least as important as having a shoulder to cry on when things go wrong.
Perfectionism is the enemy of self-esteem.
If you feel that you are only as good as your last performance, you will spend your life feeling you are always on stage. Recognize that we all make mistakes, we all need to change our minds sometimes. You do not have to prove you are flawless in order to be worthy of living on this earth. He specializes in issues related to coming out, sexuality and relationships, spirituality and career.