I'm willing to conform to feminine or sexist standards. It's related to the coaching incident you mentioned earlier. I got together with the man who molested me, he apologized and I ultimately forgave him, which was a long, difficult, and emotional process. The freedom I felt from forgiving him led me to write this book, which HarperSanFrancisco is publishing in June. My own mom inspired me, encouraged me to compete, and brought us together.
Parents can be great role models.
If mothers don't have any competitive experience they can tell their daughters about that and learn together.