Partners and spouses also often feel powerless in the face of their loved one's reactions to treatment or disease. I wasn't ready for this. I knew that it was very probable that the cancer was somewhere else. I was supposed to die first. I'd chosen to have the transplant.
Patients also worry a lot about how their partners are coping.
If there was just some magic you guys could perform that would give you something to do to feel you were able to achieve something. I keep telling Mike that his being there and holding my hand when I need it is the greatest gift. We don't need much. Just having you in our lives is what keeps us fighting in the first place. He rarely complains about the additional work he's taken on, and I think it's made him more aware of how much work is involved in keeping up our household.