Sorry, SS, but that means you'll hafta work up the nerve to talk to your family doctor about this. If you really are 22 which I didn't doubt until I read your strangely defensive postscript that means you're all grown up now. Having sex is something grown-ups are free to do, so there's no need to feel ashamed about sharing your concerns with your doctor. Conceptually, 'bed death' and 'marital boredom' are pretty similar. The difference is that when lesbian couples stop making love a lot , they don't usually make love even a little .
Lesbian relationships can get so siblinglike that sex just drops off the chart entirely.
That happens less often to heterosexual couples. When it does happen to heterosexual couples, it usually means that the couple really doesn't like each other very much anymore. In the lesbian case, the couple could really be doing fine on all other criteria and still be very much in love, but they're totally out of lust. I'm a married man with the usual three-way fantasies. My wife wouldn't go for it, so I got a couple of hookers and did it in a motel room.