However, this feeling of longing I wake up with is so overwhelming. I have this dream on the average, once a week. Its very common, especially recently. In real life, however, you actually are aware of the reasons why these relationships did not work then, and would not work now. The inclusion of the attractive woman represents a desire for attention.
Rain is a symbol of emotional release in dreams.
Even from a distance, we can feel your passions rising like a tide. The background you provide completes our understanding. You could foresee that neither of your former relationships would work in the long term, so you chose your husband instead, sacrificing some fireworks, perhaps, for the steady burn of a committed relationship. Accordingly, rather than looking to the past for a solution to your desire, your dreams instead are encouraging you to carefully examine the present. If the spark has dimmed between you and your husband, the solution, assuredly, does not lie outside your relationship.