Seek support of others, preferably before surgery. American Cancer Society Reach to Recovery volunteers can share firsthand experience on overcoming this loss. Inquire about the possibility of reconstructive surgery. Attempt to involve your partner soon after surgery, so that both of you become familiar with the body change simultaneously. Have the courage to break the silence barrier and communicate feelings, wants, and needs created by this body image change.
Open communication is the only antidote to misconceptions.
For instance, many women with breast cancer have been homemakers for years. Now another family member temporarily assumes that role. This can be uncomfortable for everyone, especially the patient. The rhythm in the home is interrupted. It seems everyone has a part in a new play, but no one has the script.