Values must be established. There are several characteristics necessary for sustaining commitment - courage, determination, dedication, strong will, perserverance, and above all else, the ability to be able to use time and space productively alone. No one takes the time to honestly explore the true nature of the self. The discussion then moved to sharing personal examples of commitment to kids, family, groups, organizations, etc. People present agreed that there is a very small majority of people who really work towards committing to discovering the true self.
People learn and choose to put everything else in life before themselves.
Within each facet, is our own expression and motion to commitments every day. We create every minute. We can't be still long enough to even contemplate truly who we are and what is true commitment. It's a dance between permanency and the constant state of change that we live in. The general consensus was, no, we do not see our true selves.