This less than cordial relationship appears to be based more on a habit of practice than meaningful discussion. One thing that is true about both judges and reporters is that they are rarely undecided. Yet what makes them similar is frequently glossed over or ignored. Judges make decisions. While reporters might view some of their decisions to be in error, they are rarely undecided.
Reporters make decisions in the ways they report on stories.
It is essential that each of us understand the other's leanings. This can be accomplished by investing time and thought in communicating with each other candidly about even trivial things. If that's done with the little things, then lines of communication will be open when weightier topics come along. Trust builds through communication and communication builds trust. Secondly, seek to understand and be understood.