If the person with whom you are sharing has anxiety or judgments about sex, he may react in a way other than how you might like. Don t fall into the trap of feeling wounded or injured by such a response, which probably reflects more on his sexuality than your own. Similarly, if your partner or friend expresses an erotic interest in an activity that has no allure for you, tell him that you are not interested, but not in a way that wounds or judges him. It s a valuable thing to have someone share their innermost desires with you. Keep it safe.
Many men find that being restrained or blindfolded increases the intensity of an erotic experience.
Just as a blind person may compensate for loss of vision by developing greater sensitivity to touch or sound, temporarily surrendering sight or movement can make even light touch to the nipples much more focused and deeply felt. Just as it takes time and feeling safe in order to open up to a partner spiritually, it takes time to develop a sense that it is safe to surrender control to another. If you are interested in talking about your sexual interests with a professional, you may want to make certain that your psychotherapist is informed about human sexuality and is able to be nonjudgmental. One good source of information is Kink Aware Professionals, a listing of psychotherapists from throughout North America with a degree of familiarity with alternative sexuality. The almost limitless variety of our sexual interests is one of the things that makes life interesting.