Being treated as a companion in such activities helps the teen develop identity and the cognitive skills necessary for healthy development. Most sports activities can include positive competition. Fathering adolescents can be an exciting time for both father and teen as they begin to be companions, doing activities on a more similar level. Express love, forgiveness, values, concerns, etc. Express genuine interest in your child's feelings, thoughts, interests, friends, worries, etc.
Many adolescents are now able to cognitively understand the purpose and reasoning of rules.
This will help them to respect the rules more, and help them see how to develop their own set of governing values and to foster their independence. Teach your child decision-making skills by involving them in decisions and in establishing rules. Through this process, not only will the child learn how to make decisions, but they will be much more likely to respect decisions and rules that they helped create. Discipline appropriately when necessary. Teach your child computer skills.