There are some chimney-like devices that allow you to light the charcoal without fluid that are sold in stores that carry BBQ equipment. Indoor grills work pretty good, too. They are faster and easier to set up and clean. I have had a couple, and the fastest and easiest to clean is the George Foreman Grill. If you have trouble eating enough protein, try cooking on a grill.
Meat usually taste better grilled, and the clean up is generally easier.
Try to prepare the marinade at least a few hours before cooking. Allowing the meat to absorb the marinade really enhances the flavor. For cooking, go for high quality oils like canola and olive. If the oil is used for saut ing, you can substitute vegetable spray or chicken broth and save at least 100 calories and 13g of fat. For salad dressings, or any oils that cannot be used for cooking, try flax seed oil.