The other night my partner asked me if we could have sex, and in the back of mind I was trying to come up with a master plan to avoid sex that night. So, I picked an argument. My partner puts so much pressure on me to make sure I have an orgasm that I have been faking them so he could have an orgasm, and we'd be done. I am so afraid to tell him that I just don't have the drive for sex. I don't know what to do.
Many women feel the pressure to fake orgasms in order to protect their partners' feelings.
However, this leaves them feeling isolated and alone, and often leads to anger and resentment. It is important to separate the issues of desire and sexual response. Don't wait until he is trying to be sexual with you or when you are arguing about this or anything else. That means focusing on you, not him. Share with him your fears about losing him, explain to him your desire to please him, and make him feel appreciated.