After the humans were abducted, examined and returned to Earth, the alien mummy told them their group was peaceful. That's like a robber telling you he is really a nice person. The blond normal-looking male you described may have been one of the Nordic aliens. The only difficulty with this explanation is that so far, the Nordics seem to have little physical interaction with humans. Instead, they tend to engage with humans on a parental or academic level.
Reptilian aliens are another story.
Most people dread these renegade space creatures with their insatiable appetite for sex with humans. Very little is known about the Reptilians, though the majority of known Reptilian encounters involve Reptilian males raping Earth women. There is almost no indication that the Reptilian interest in sex has anything to do with procreation. Rather, the focus appears to be pure lust. Feeling hands attempt to pull you out of your body could have been associated with a potential sex partner.