Second, the child's statement implies that she feels secure in her relationship with her father. She is not afraid to speak up. Sometimes the quiet, submissive child who never breaks the rules is more of a concern than the outgoing, spirited child. Passivity can be an inborn, temperamental trait, but some passive children may have lost the desire to stand up for themselves or may be too frightened of adult authority to do so. Unfortunately, some parents incorrectly believe that children who are submissive and obedient are good and those who are defiant and demanding are bad.
Parents can set firm limits while admiring their children's growing sense of self-confidence.
When their children resist those limits parents should reconsider their expectations. They may decide to stand firm. On the other hand, they may realize that a limit is no longer needed and should be changed or eliminated. They are protecting themselves Children sometimes misbehave to protect themselves. Unless they are too frightened to act, children will defend themselves when they feel threatened.