That's a big mistake. You fell for him because of who he is, not who you can make him into. Relationships don't need two social directors. One will do quite nicely. As a matter of fact, you and your fella are probably just what each other needs.
Nobody needs a clone of themselves.
That said, stop trying to change him. When you are part of a couple, you must consider the other person when you make plans that affect that other person. You must consult that other person. You are not supposed to make unilateral plans without asking first - that' s part of the price you pay to be in a relationship. So stop springing visitors on your boyfriend.