As a physician I have learned that the personal involvement of grandparents in critical to fulfill their grandchild's special needs. In over 40 years of clinical practice I have come to count on grandparents for more and more help, directly for the grandchild, and to support the parents. The normal, healthy part of any child, no matter what problem the child suffers with, wants to love and be loved, to grow, to learn, to have freedom, and to have fun. Grandparents can be a basic, integral part of the network of resources that form an emotionally healthy, tension-free circle of security all people want for their children and for their grandchildren. Getting involved isn t easy for most grandparents.
First grandparents have to sort through their own thoughts, feelings and the way they are acting.
They must come to terms with the issue in their own minds and hearts before formulating an action policy and begin to help others. Their own grief, disappointment, and denial are some of the things to consider. Once these personal issues are dealt with a grandparent can make a commitment to help. For grandparents currently involved with a special needs grandchild, here is some personal advice help effectively. Following these guidelines will confer a sense of direction and authority concerning your grandchild's condition, and help you to give confidence and support to the parents.