Subscribe to our newsletter. Ask an Expert How to Share Your Big News Finding out you are pregnant is a very exciting and nervous time in your life. Once you've had that positive pregnancy test you are faced with many decisions, one of which is when should you tell and whom should you tell. Some people believe only in telling their immediate family for fear of early pregnancy loss. Others believe that they will tell anyone and everyone, reasoning that if they did have an early pregnancy loss they would need the support of others.
Most people fall into a middle ground on who they begin telling.
If you are planning on keeping your pregnancy a secret from some people in your life make sure you know the integrity of the persons you are sharing your secret with. Nothing made me angrier than calling someone to tell them my good news only to find out that they already knew. Reasons for not telling are varied, as mentioned before, early pregnancy loss is included in that list, so is the fear of reprisal from work, being judged differently by your peers, and personal acceptance. A lot of people decide to wait on revealing their joyous news until after the first trimester, when the miscarriage rates drop drastically. Others open up with the secret only as their abdomens begin to grow.