The only hope for non-violence is that people recognize the damage the out of control behavior creates and seek out new more effective ways to interact with family members. A few simple changes can make an incredible difference in family relationships. I messages include a feeling about a behavior or situation, but do not blame or criticize. Therefore, they are respectful, do not cause the other person to become defensive, and do not raise the emotional level of the conversation toward violence. Violence does not vanish because families are tired of it.
People have to think and act differently in order to get different results.