To find that kind of love you'd have to abandon your ego and relate only with your soul. Once you've become deeply embroiled in the search for it, your gaze will pass right over the real thing without a glimmer of recognition. You see, the human romantic dilemma isn't that true love is so very hard to find, but that it is too ordinary to withstand comparison with the exotic illusions our ego offers in its place. In the same way that diamonds seem precious while the pure water we need in order to survive doesn't, we take love for granted and strain after the impossibly beautiful substitute our ego offers in its stead.
Infatuation ravishes our senses, and seems to promise gratification beyond our wildest dreams.
Unfortunately, when we mistake it for the genuine article, we slowly starve for love even as we seem to gorge ourselves on it. Real love is actually a pretty pedestrian affair, characterized by simple virtues like patience, forgiveness, tolerance, humor, gentleness, empathy, tact, honesty, discipline, and practical support. It is not heralded by a state of breathless exaltation, but by a sense of peaceful contentment. Special relationships are all about how love is supposed to be. In pursuit of them, we do our best to achieve a union where everything looks perfect, regardless of the way it feels .