God longs for us to blossom and flourish beyond our own longings for ourselves. This facet has to do with the heart of the one who loves. When I love you, it is not something I do simply out of duty or obligation. No, when we love someone the mere sight of them causes our eyes to light up. When you see someone you love, it makes your heart glad.
Love insists that the one loved ought to be loved.
Love celebrates the beloved. This is wily love has always been and always will be expressed most deeply in love songs. It is very important to remember that God loves us in this way. Some Christian writers have written as if God loves us only in spite of ourselves. But raggedness is not the whole story about you.