Caregivers often find that their new role changes the family dynamics, according to Amy Griswold, University of Illinois Extension educator, family life. Family caregivers may find themselves in a role-reversal situation, in which they are now caring for an aging parent or relative who spent many years caring for them. Marriage relationships may also change when one spouse becomes dependent on the other for personal care. In addition, old feelings from the past may crop up again as the family changes. It is common for caregivers to feel guilt, fear and anger as relationships change.
Guilt can be irrational, and can be used to manipulate others.
Many caregivers may feel that they are not doing enough for their dependent family member. Caregivers may also fear losing the love of the dependent person. Acceptance of the changing roles may help caregivers deal with some of the turmoil, Griswold said. Don't take this personally, but accept them as they are now. Harboring old resentments from the past won't help the current situation.