Also have been involved in music leadership in churches. I can asssure you there are many who are gay in all levels of all institutions. Often, a married person has a shield. However, the gay persons are nonetheless still gay whether they are married or not. The Scriptures have much more to say about these than about gayness.
Pretense has little place in our lives.
Coming out of the closet doensn't mean anything unless you're going to clean it. There must be more than meets the eye. I would be surprised to see such a letter come from BJU unless something had provoked it. I received the letter. My heart is broken over the letter.