Many men have learned that not communicating sends a message of it's own. We intuitive women are practiced at reading the smallest nuances in nonverbal communication. If nothing is said, we're very good at jumping to our own conclusions. If you're not talking, we may conclude that you don't want to talk, that you don't care, or that you don't love us anymore. To answer this question, we need to identify some common barriers that arise when we try to communicate.
Men tend to isolate and internalize.
When Randy and I first met, he was a Private First Class at an Army base in Hawaii. A few months before we were to marry, Randy had accumulated several parking tickets at the base because he had not updated his registration. He realized that if he registered now, he could be in big trouble. A couple of weeks before our wedding, I began to sense that something was wrong. Randy was not only afraid of getting caught and severely disciplined, but was also worried about what my father would think.