Since 1975 I have sat on my office couch talking with clients in person and on the telephone about their lives and relationships. Most of my clients are contributors to society, hold jobs, raise families, and generally want to do the right thing. Yet, over and over again I see the same kind of life and love defeating attitudes and behaviors. This list of Ten Life and Love Enhancing Attitudes and Behaviors came directly from my observation of the common mistakes people make that rob them of love, success, and happiness. For example, quitting smoking, disappointing someone with bad news, writing a book, or correcting a mistake are difficult tasks where we experience some kind of discomfort.
Life is choked full of difficult problems to face.
If we don't face them because we want to avoid the discomfort that comes with them, we actually create other, often more difficult problems. Decide that you are willing to suffer for a higher good. For example, if you don't want to quit smoking because you don't want to gain weight, decide that you are willing to gain weight if that's what happens. Take the weight off later after you are secure as a non-smoker. Be willing to suffer the sadness that comes with a betrayal, the embarrassment that comes with a mistake, the anger that comes with unfairness, and the fear that comes with risk.