Our Lord asks for obedience. You have read before how our Lord tells us, If you love Me, keep my commands. First, one must be saved. I do not link spiritual growth with the receiving of esoteric knowledge, or puppet like behavior. Be have a sure Word to guide us.
Faith has fruit, godliness flowing from within.
There are carnal that do not regard obedience to the counsel of God, while there are spiritual that are shown by their obedience to the revealed counsel of God. No man is to be bitter against a woman, but should entreat her as the weaker vessel, as well a woman is not to be bitter against the man. So bitterness should not be resulting from disagreement with the church. In the case of a husband, he is to love her, even as Christ first loved the church, and with that the church loves in return, motivated by the love shown her. This all leaves no place for ungodly behavior, on the part of the man or the woman, but could certainly be cause for very firm actions to subdue certain things.