Mediation is a collaborative process that guides the couple towards a solution they can live with and trust. In mediation, the spouses focus on the future. The past is only important in understanding the underlying issues. Given the past, the mediator asks what each spouse can do from this point forward to ensure that thorny issues do not arise again. The focus of litigation is to impose the law rather than solve the problem.
Mediation can avoid a nasty and public court battle .
You've probably seen court fights of famous couples plastered all over the headlines. Even if you are not as famous as Tom and Rosanne Arnold or Burt Reynolds and Loni Anderson, your divorce is a matter public record should you decide to battle it out in court. Mediations, on the other hand, are held in private, away from the public view. Mediators will not disclose what is said in mediation unless required to do so by law. Mediation is not your last resort .