From the very beginning, the Church has honored the memory of the dead. We pray that all the dead will be purified quickly so that they can go straight to God and live forever in happiness. Hell Everyone wants to go to Heaven, whether they realise it or not. But many people spend their whole lives trying to tell themselves that's not what they want. And the problem with telling yourself something like that is that it often becomes true.
Many people also spend their whole lives running.
They are running away from God. Every time anything to do with religion or the love of God comes into conversation, they are uncomfortable. They laugh at their friends for trying to 'convert' them. It's very, very hard to break the habits of a lifetime. If you really have run away from God, and rejected Him all your life, in your thoughts and in your actions, then He will respect your choice.