He forced himself inside of her and raped her while her sister and Jeff were in the living room, next to them, she said. Jane physically said no by trying to get Tom off of her, she said. I didn't want my sister to hear me. When Tom was finished, he told Jane to go to the bathroom and clean up, which she did, before returning to the living room where her sister was. She and her sister then went home, and Jane never saw Tom again.
Men attack women because they have issues with power.
Jane did not want to tell her family or friends because she felt embarrassed about her attack. Rape survivors often feel like they could have done something differently or they cannot trust their own judgment, so they do not speak out, Grodesky said. Jane did not report the incident to the police either, although now she believes rape survivors should call the police and press legal charges, if they feel up to it. When Jane was able to talk about her rape with others, it was too late to take legal action against Tom. She did not have any evidence, and in Florida, where she lived when it happened, there is a limit on the time period someone has to bring up charges against another person, she said.