Children move into this strong position in many ways. The first and most important step begins with us, our feeling good about our children and being pleased we have them. We enjoy them, we are proud of them, and we show it. But we each somehow must let our youngsters know that we are glad they are here. Our good feelings can't be a secret.
Praise is another way of helping children feel proud.
Not phony praise, of course. Teaching children new skills is another way of boosting their self-confidence. A little time from you, a tip from you, a fact you pass on, a technique you demonstrate, and youngsters' know-how expands. Their picture of themselves brightens. There are a few approaches to stay away from if you want children to start off with solid, sure, good feelings.