A woman needs to let him know that what he is doing is appreciated. When a women has resentment, she needs to take responsibility for having contributed to her problem of giving more and letting the score get so uneven. If a women feels resentment, if he originally had 5 points and she 30. She will simply take away his 5 points from her 30 and grant him with nothing. When a man feels unappreciated, he stops giving support.
Men give penalty points when they feel unloved and unsupported.
He will take away from points that she has already earned. When women are able to recognize he takes away points when he feels unloved and hurt and he immediately gives them back when he feels loved and supported. Men give less not because they do not love the woman but because they believe they have already given their share. Try not to take it personally. Instead repeatedly encourage their support by asking for it.