Find out what each of you expects. Norman Epstein, a professor of psychology at the University of Maryland, recommends that the two of you go into separate rooms and each write down his or her idea of spending quality time with their partner. Then you can share it. Tell your partner specifically what you want. Talk about how many nights a week, and for how long, and what exactly you want your partner to do.
Phone calls are off limits.
I don't want to plan any other activities. I want us to pretend we're out of town. Pencil each other in Make dates with each other at the beginning of the week to have lunch, to hang out on Saturday mornings, to have a drink. Regard these appointments as unbreakable, as you would a business obligation. If you have these periods of time, you're able to look forward to being together, as you did during your courtship.