When we spoke in his King of Prussia office, he d just come from an international conference on sexuality convened by the World Health Organization, and was on his way to sex camp, a week-long workshop on sexuality he s been attending for the last 15 years. In his view, Sexual response is diminished by the degree to which people concentrate on their body deficits and imperfections instead of their pleasure. I ask him if he thinks lack of desire is treatable. Oh, yes, he responds enthusiastically. But only if the person wants to be different.
Most dysfunctional problems are about being unable to experience pleasure.
Women are naturally orgasmic. It isn t learned. What you can teach them is how to reduce their inhibitions, how to let go.