But you can keep making, remaking , your loving, sexual expression to fit new circumstances. The mystery and joy of lovemaking is that it is a marital task that need never be completely done, finished forever. It can be done again and again, always with brave new results. Trust encourages your mate to present his or her whole self to you, and your honesty hides nothing of your whole self from your spouse. Desire draws the two total selves together.
Flesh finds flesh quite easily and happily.
And you are free. Shame and guilt can't restrict you. Nothing whatever, except the law of serving each other, forbids anything you might do. You find out by talking and listening. Before and after, and even in the very heat of, sexual activity, listen to your spouse.