When reading begins, most will become visual learners, and they will learn by what they see. A few will remain auditory learners. Young boys love green-light permission because of their natural propensity for adventure and exploration. Parents, teachers and providers need to compromise with boys, especially when the question pertains to an active issue. Boys are not girls and never will be, and the care and feeding of boys takes a completely different avenue nearly all the time, and that begins with listening on both sides.
Mothers naturally listen with their hearts.
It's my experience that men often listen with expediency. It's their root of effective parenting. Sometimes it has one ear. Getting together on the listening issue takes a commitment from Mom and Dad, who agree first that there is a problem and then agree to a rule and a discipline. This is passed along to child care.