It is impossible for children to live a lofty life, even if they are told to do so, when the parents themselves do not. The secret lies not in the use of force but in using reason and respect. Children reflect back to us the way we have treated them in the past. The reason so many parents have difficulty with rebellious teenagers is because they are rebelling against the force that was applied by the parents in their upbringing. If we have been striving to nurture their independence and creativity, there is no need to rebel.
Moral good comes only from the free flow of an enlightened life.
People will naturally do good spontaneously when their life energy is flowing freely and they feel exhilarated. As parents our job is not to control our children as if they were little robots but rather to nurture the inner good and help them develop the most important tools of life's journey which are courage, prompt decision and intuitional judgement.