I have come to see polararised aspects of our nature as acceptable until the organism has a need to choose between these polarities. I believe at this point the organism experiences a particular form of polarisation which I now refer to as a dichotomy what Perls called a split. From my work with people experiencing drug and alcohol problems, I have noticed that initially people deal with the issue by trying to hide the need to drink or drug . The ever present, unspoken assumption of the Bardo Thodol is the antinominal charachter of all metaphysical assertions, and also the idea of the qualitative differences of the various levels of consciousness and of the metaphysical realities conditioned by them. Hence Jung sees a maturity in the Eastern metaphysical perspective which accommodates the paradoxical nature of man and God and does not seek to rest only on one aspect of the nature ie dichotmised.
Perfectionism is a curse and a strain.
For you tremble lest you miss the bulls-eye. You are perfect if you let be. Friend don't be afraid of mistakes. Mistakes are not sins. Mistakes are ways of doing something different, perhaps creatively new.