By saying Your clothes should be hung in the closet, instead of You re a pig, - usually brings better results. Use positive discipline. When you compliment, they may start to feel obligated to try to live up to the compliment. Complimenting and modeling courteous actions emphasize character building and ethics. Rewards do not have to be monetary.
Positive compliments can make satisfying rewards.
Remember how we felt when we were young. If we re too harsh when they share information, it will alienate the child from us and shut down parent-child communication. Involve children in organizations that build character such as Scouts, volunteering, church activities, etc. Let them know that they re not alone. Tell them you and other people care and will listen.