Batterers make the choice to batter. The victims are never to blame. What to do if you are being abused Abuse is not rare. If you are being hurt by your partner, you have nothing to be ashamed of or to feel guilty about. It is not your fault.
Help is available.
There are agencies that are dedicated to helping people in your situation. They will be respectful of your circumstances, your choices and your desires, and help you in whatever way they are able. Abuse typically continues and worsens as time goes on. If you are being physically hurt by your partner, your life may be in jeopardy. However, there are steps that you can take to protect yourself.