In time, he discovers that the negative feelings have disappeared, if not entirely, yet almost so. Forgiveness includes forgiving oneself. Suddenly I realized the arrogance of my refusal to forgive myself. The Bible is very clear on the subject of forgiveness. This is serious stuff, for without God's forgiveness, we are doomed to eternal damnation.
Many marriages end up in divorce because one or both spouses refuse to forgive.
Unforgiveness is like a cancer which, if not nipped in the bud, will entirely destroy a marriage. Before you can forgive, you must want to forgive. If you find that you don't want to forgive, ask God to help you want to. An amazing thing about forgiveness is that it helps you far more than it helps the person you forgive. So, if you want to make your marriage work, continually practice the Law of Forgiveness.