I know I've been a fool in the past, but it is hard for me to think that I can't just relax and be myself on a date. Let me illustrate what I mean. The woman is not with you on the first date to play shrink - she's there to find out whether or not you're a fun guy who deserves a second date. This will make her want to grab the nearest spoon and gag, even though she may be smiling on the outside. She wants to feel admiration and respect for a man, not pity.
Most men are too open, too soon with women.
The average guy feels that unless he expresses every one of his feelings, he will explode. Bob, I'm not saying you should play games with Miss Right - I'm saying that you should treat her in a manner appropriate to the relationship and to her nature. You should be honest with Miss Right, but you should always put your best foot forward. Bob, I know it's tempting to hurry a romance by preemptively revealing the intimate details of your life - but you must resist. Patience, not haste, is the key to women.