And, it is highly subjective and, therefore, unrealistic. All these attitudes manifest and affect the other person more strongly than you can possibly realize now. It is easy to see that this effect will not be in your favor. Thus, it is necessary that you learn to love, for only then will this affect others in a way that they will have to love you. In order to learn how to love, the first step is to eliminate your personal subjectivity.
Love is objectivity, among many other things.
We have discussed many aspects of love, but we did not enter into this aspect yet. You all know, love cannot be forced. But it will grow organically as you remove the obstacles. This inherent self-concern and subjectivity is one of the greatest blocks in your giving and receiving love. It is all the greater because it lives submerged.