At least one partner married someone who reminded their unconscious mind of their opposite sex parent in aspects that were very negative in nature. One and probably both individuals needed to link up with the security of the familiar relationships that they had in childhood. Whether the person had a parent who was caring and loving or abusive, is irrelevant. Without having a copy of Life By Design handy, the following elicitation can be used by the partners in a relationship to enhance the relationship. All of these questions allow us to discover more about our partner in a couple of hours than we may have discovered in past years.
Questions are an under-used piece of communication in our culture.
Beginning to gently ask questions will put you on the track to improved communication. Learning what is important to your partner and being certain your partner understands what you need and want makes having a good marriage a much easier task than the guess work that has been going on since the beginning of the marriage. Write one question here that you need to ask your spouse or loved one. We urge you to access a copy at your earliest convenience.