Soft Rock Country Standards TALK Dr. After the Baby Is Born by Pamela Shrock Couples need all the caring for each other that they can muster during the first weeks and months after their baby is born, when so much about their lives is changing. Mothers must be honest about their frustrations and lack of desire, if that exists, and share which intimate behaviors they would welcome. Fathers must reveal their resentments and seek ways to reduce the pressure on both parents. New mothers must have some time for themselves.
Exercise can lift the spirits and build energy.
Flowers, perfume and a pretty nightgown are welcome at a time when every present that comes into the house seems to be either booties or a bib. Most important of all is finding time for closeness. Even if new parents don't have much energy or leisure, they can commit to going to bed at the same hour and lying in each other's arms. They can find time to take a shower or a walk together. They can leave the baby with a sitter or relative and go out regularly, even for an hour or two, to have fun and recapture their bond.