Each stage has its relative attributes that sometimes don't apply to the others. For example, when initially dating, you must maintain that mystique, that aura, that distance to make HER desire you. But because you're continuing to be a Challenge, she still doesn't have that feeling. Thanks Doc, keep em coming. I'm glad that you do appreciate the power and importance of being a Challenge.
Most men come on too heavy with women and push for too much too soon.
They embarrass themselves. Or, they pour their guts out while trying to show the woman how sensitive and vulnerable they can be. They'll do anything to get intimate with women as quickly as they possibly can, whatever they think will work. What they fail to understand is that what women want more than anything, is the un-attainable guy, the guy who is slightly aloof and enigmatic. To you Psych majors, the guy who's not trying.