Even the most outrageous behaviour makes sense to the person doing it at the time. Experience is the toughest teacher - we get the test first and the lesson later. Being busy doesn't make us important, it just keeps us from getting feedback. If you always do what you've always done, you always get what you've always got. Don't take yourself so seriously, no one else does.
People like to be consulted.
Just ask them. Everyone of us has failed at something and survived. Sometimes we give. Sometimes we take. It is the balance that counts.