The caregiver should be comfortable with you dropping in unannounced to check on your child. If you have taken time to find the right child care environment, you should be happy and reassured with what you see. Clarify facts and feelings until you arrive at a common understanding of the problem. After you consider all of the possible solutions, hopefully you can choose the best one together. Then you and your caregiver can establish a clear plan of action and work together to carry it out together.
Many parents suffer from feelings of guilt over leaving a child in care.
Some feel like they have to 'make it up' to their children for leaving them during the day. Others believe deep down that only a parent can care for a child. These feelings, while often perfectly natural, can lead to problems in care arrangements if parents let their own stress cloud their judgement. Most importantly, children pick up on their parents' stress and might develop their own feelings of anxiety. One way to deal with stress related problems is to talk to someone about how you are feeling.