It may come as a surprise to older adults, but certainly not to students, that it is the fourth . I have found this is as true here at Rutgers as it was in my twenty years in the South Bronx.
Parents demand obedience, while adolescents seek freedom.
Anger and arguments, tensions and tears, flow from problematic relationships between parent and their older children. Adolescents, on the other hand, have an innate drive to gain control of their own lives, to become their own persons. This parent-child tug of war must eventually be won by the children, if they are to mature into adulthood. But if the children win too much freedom too soon, they will not be able to handle it responsibly. I'm afraid I witnessed this all too frequently in the South Bronx.