In other words, both partners feel they are getting a fair shake. A marriage incorporating equity is more likely to generate the kind of satisfaction and commitment most people want in their marriages. This is because the element of trust, so essential to higher levels of intimacy, depends on a perceived sense that one's partner will treat one fairly if there is a conflict of interest. And there will be.
Occasional inequity is inevitable in every marriage.
And when it occurs, there must be a way to repair the associated damages. There must be rules that govern behavior when other rules are broken. These are strategies that can assist a couple to reestablish basic trust when things get out of balance. Several skills and attitudes will help a couple to resolve equity problems. Primary is the attitude that each partner's needs are equally important and equally deserving of satisfaction.