You can choose to give kindness even in the face of bitterness. In other words, love forgives, and forgiveness is an important key to reconciliation. Let's face it, you and your spouse have both made mistakes. You can't live the past all over again, but you can have the past forgiven. Decide to exercise love by forgiving your partner the way Christ forgave you.
Forgiveness is one of the most powerful medicines for the human spirit.
It can heal your broken heart and marriage. Your spouse will sense in you sweetness instead of bitterness, peace instead of anger. Your partner will experience the love of God from the gentleness in your voice to the sincerity in your eyes. He or she will be drawn to you, and may even be inspired to reconcile with you. This blessing does not come from your partner.