It is a number of tactics intimidation, threats, economic deprivation, psychological abuse, physical abuse, and sexual abuse used repeatedly. Experts have compared methods used by batterers to those used by terrorists to brainwash hostages. A batterers' emotional needs, insecurities, and above all, desire to control will lead to more assaults. The frequency and severity of violence may tend to get worse, though sometimes in an intermittent and unpredictable manner. In order to survive, victims develop coping strategies and survival techniques in an attempt to avoid more harm and injury.
Many victims resort to acts of appeasement and forgiveness.
However, in reality, victims are unable to stop the cycle because they do not cause the assaults. Only the batterer has control of his behavior. Remember, the victim does not cause this abuse. There is no excuse for abuse. Many people believe that domestic violence starts with the batterer s desire for power and control.