Numbing sprays, available in the hospital. Your bottom should be completely healed around four to six weeks postpartum, so if your caregiver gives the okay, and you're up to it, you can resume sex then. You might feel some initial tenderness and tightness. Try having a glass of wine, taking a warm bath, and leaving plenty of time for foreplay. You might prefer to be on top so that you can control the degree of penetration, or find that lying on your side is most comfortable.
Many women continue to use a lubricant during sex until they stop nursing.
Click here to see all comments. I had two. It healed better, though, and faster. With my second baby, I chose not to have an episiotomy, and tore just one stitch worth on the scar of my old incision. There were no tears at all with my third birth.