The more choices or alternatives we have, then the more selective we can be to craft a response appropriate for the child and the circumstances. When our choices are limited, we may be left with no alternatives if our response is unsuccessful. Limited choices, put into action regardless of the situation, can can become a crude and ineffective strategy. Like a carpenter building a chair, the more tools we have, the more effective we can be in building the character of our children. In contrast, if the only tool we have is a hammer, then we are likely to treat everything as though it were a nail.
Responsive discipline builds a parental toolbox so they have more flexibility in their options.
One Tool Parenting Responsive discipline promotes self-esteem. Parents who use responsive discipline consider their children's feelings and needs. Self-respect, hope, courage, and compassion are important goals for responsive discipline. The Relationship Bank Responsive discipline nurtures responsibility in children. By setting and enforcing reasonable limits, we help children learn self-control.