I've experienced traumatic stepfamily divorce - and later, the real benefits of 15 years' personal recovery from growing up with two wounded alcoholic parents in protective denial. I've also studied and taught communication skills, healthy grieving, addiction recovery, and healing from a low-nurturance childhood . This series of pages presents the framework to you , toward solving relationship problems you may have. The series is neither a magic bullet nor a cure-all. It is not a substitute for qualified professional help.
Problems are unmet personal needs .
Members of all families have relationship problems. Adults and kids in typical multi- home stepfamilies often feel they have more problems, more often . Though every divorced family and stepfamily is unique, the kinds of problems that I've heard almost 1,000 co-parents and kids describe since 1981 are very similar. After 20 years' study, I conclude that five combined causes underlie them all. If you wish to profit, please contact me .