Say, for example, a person feels a need to blame their parents for their problems. That tells me very few of us believe we were raised by normal parents. There's an amazing freedom that comes when we begin to see our parents as regular human beings, who struggled to do the best they could with the tools they had. Your past does not equal your future. Letting go of what has happened empowers you to embrace the future.
Many unacceptable things happen in all our lives.
We all experience the storms. Into each life a little rain must fall. Sometimes we must bypass our minds to accept what is over. Examine your mind to see if there is something you are not able to accept. Ask yourself if you are willing to let go of the pain and move ahead with new hopes and dreams.