It turned out that this woman had a history of arrests and jail time for beating girlfriends. Perhaps I will be criticized for talking about this issue. I am 100 percent in favor of surviving a social encounter, to love and have sex another day. If this means waiting a few weeks till you know someone better, or doing a background check if something doesn't seem right, I say do it. We need to use our gaydar better, to identify threats to personal safety, instead of just squandering this wonderful power on locating new sources of hot fun sex.
Intuition is what keeps every animal ahead of the fangs and claws of killer animals.
If animals can survive successfully using their intuition, then humans can too. There is no hot fun sex in a coma, or the morgue. Matthew Shephard's death has struck a national nerve, both in our community and in the mainstream. Maybe his killers will face the death penalty. Maybe a whole raft of federal, state and local hate-crime laws will now be passed.