But every man has his proper gift of God. Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence, and likewise also the wife unto the husband. There are many advantages to one being single and serving God, provided the individual is strong enough to keep temptation from overcoming them. IF they choose to marry they are to render unto their mate due benevolence. The Greek word render is not a granting of a favor, but the discharge of an obligation between the two mates.
Marriage is a serious matter that ends at death.
A mate that is selfish, unwilling to render to the other that which is rightfully to be expected in marriage, should not marry. There are men and women who could live to be a hundred years old, and never need or want the love and devotion of another partner, they have this gift of God, and can continually give themselves to the things of God without the distraction of marital obligations. But there are other who must have a mate, otherwise they will be continually tempted and drawn away in lust and sin. The wife has not the power of her own body, as also the husband is so admonished. Individual ownership of one s own self cannot exist in marriage.