The ultimate turn-off for guys is a woman who will not shut up. This is vital. Just as opening the door shows your date that you respect him, the reach shows him that you do not appear to be a gold-digger. Men also have certain wants during the date. If the woman wants to be complimented and given small tokens of appreciation, then the man wants to know the woman is at least willing to pay for her half of the expenses.
M ake the effort ladies.
You don't ever really have to pay, and it makes the guy feel better. All we ask is that you go through the motions. Do not talk to your date like he is a child. Look, he is a man and like all men he is bound to have more than a fair share of defects, but it isn't your job to point them out to him. That is what his mom is for.