We don't have to do anything to meet his approval. Nothing you might do will cause him to love you any less or any more. It is not based upon how well we perform. Families who heal work at creating an atmosphere of unconditional acceptance. Each person is valued for who he is rather than merely for what he does.
Parents learn to deal with misbehavior without putting down the individual.
Family members affirm each other. They fear rejection. Criticism and judgmental attitudes prevail. God is different we don't have to do anything to meet his approval. His approval of each of us was given in the cross.