However, I have always told Cosmo that while BPD may contribute to her behavior, it does not excuse it. She must have some accountability. Well, it sure has made me appreciate the good things in life. When you go through the horrendous feeling that despite all the things you do, you cannot truly save a person from attempting suicide even with intervention of professionals, you learn to cope in many ways. I try always to look at the bright side of things, and look for humor in unusual situations.
Laughter is a wonderful coping device.
I try not to think too much about my problems and the problems at home by getting involved with helping other people and maintaining a hobby. Right now that hobby is making a web page. I am also involved in my local Union. I make sure that I do something for me, and I make sure that I take time for my other children. The BPD child can easily take up so much of our attention that the others can get shortchanged, so I like to do something with each child individually from time to time.