He fully believed these assumptions and never questioned their validity. As a result, his actions thwarted his natural, healthy human thirst for partnership and family. The problem with the anger addict's remarkable and twisted self-control is that is it devoid of conscious choice . The problem with the anger addict's remarkable and twisted self-control is that is it devoid of conscious choice . This increases the odds of working towards destructive ends.
Relationships suffer most since serious anger issues tend to be rooted in an inability to trust.
Maybe Brent's care takers really were horrible, rotten, abusive and untrustworthy people. They did the best they could, and that is the subject of another chapter. What matters is that Brent is an adult now and is quite capable of taking care of himself, should he choose to. As his fears diminished, so did his need to protectively distort reality. As he became comfortable with simply being as opposed to orchestrating, his inner life changed.