Let go of the past. Just be present. In the Bible there is the story of Lot who looked back and got petrified, frozen. She looked back and became afraid of what she saw. Fear freezes love.
Fear holds everybody back.
Practice not going with the pull of fear. With the familiarity of fear. I call it the Seduction of the Past. The statements of desperation. God is saying something when everyone speaks, no matter what they are saying.