Before you place your well-being or money in another person's hands, get informed. You can browse Dominant Ideas for advice and information on all aspects of female dominance. At a minimum, before your session with a dominatrix, have a serious conversation to reassure yourself that she understands what you're looking for and respects your limits. If possible, ask around to see if others know her and respect her. If you don't belong to any groups or have any SM contacts, then you can try leaving a message on UseNet or contacting a group in your region to see if anyone knows her.
Most professionals make connections with the SM scene in their areas.
For your safety, follow these basic ground-rules. Use this time to carefully go over the topics listed below. But don't waste her time. If you aren't serious about visiting her, don't keep her on the phone. Some prodoms who are fabulous with a whip have little or no understanding of infantilization and vice versa.