Only the woman's feelings count. You may get her to like you more as a friend, but she will never consider you a boyfriend. It's obvious that your girl is comfortable around you - by itself, this is a positive sign. I just wish your girl thought a little bit more about your comfort before she invited the other guy to go bowling with you two. Rich, it's time to move on and collect new home phone numbers.
Men do the picking, but women do the choosing.
The most a man can do is put his best foot forward and then ask for the home phone number - anything beyond this is just wasted effort. All will be answered, but because of space, only letters of general interest will be printed.