If you want to give your child a choice of what he or she might wear, the choice you offer them should be between two pieces of clothing, either of which is acceptable to you. Or you might want to give your child a choice of when he or she must go to bed, but again, give two choices. Giving too many choices can be confusing and frustrating to a child. Having an opportunity to choose lets the child control at least that part of their life. Provide games for your child to play where he or she can win or be successful.
Puzzles are good.
Children can put together simple puzzles over and over again and know that the same piece always fits in the same place. And when the puzzle is complete the child has been successful. He or she might take a long time finishing the puzzle, dumping the pieces out, and working on it again and again. The routine is soothing and the child makes the decision of which puzzle piece he or she will use, how quickly the puzzle will be completed, and he or she will always be successful in the end. Not only will the child be in control and discover there still is order in the world, but they will also be able to predict a small part of their life.