For starters, look in the mirror. Sometimes a mirror is a good friend, and sometimes a friend is a good mirror. True self is created, not found. Instead of seeking to find some magical answer to what you are, some identity label that will somehow make easier the choices that lie before you, try instead moving in whatever direction brings you true joy.
Identity is merely a shorthand for communicating common characteristics.
It is not an end in itself, merely a descriptive language that in inherently inadequate to describe any of us. No identity truly pegs you, truly fits the marvelous complexity of the person that lives within your skin. Don't shortchange yourself by trying to describe yourself in simple terms. You are not simple, and never will be. Don't allow yourself to be limited to operating within someone else's definition of an identity.