Light your own fire every day. If not, you're probably making others around you unhappy, too. Happiness is as important to teachers as it is to every other human being. Take your happiness seriously. Then be clear and specific, not whiny, about what is making you unhappy.
People can be really active and still be wankers.
Don't cling to that rule-based prescriptive grammar all the time. Delight in the creative aspects of self-expression. Believe in change. If words can do it, so can we. Learn to use livelier language to inspire everyone else around you.