I have yet to meet a dom who does not instinctively appreciate being asked what his or her submissive can do to make him or her happier. But to ask is in itself a sign of respect. All these customs depend on the particular relationship. For example, though in my own play circles it would not be considered customary for a bottom to curse at his top during even the most vicious scene, my own bottoms know they are allowed to curse me any time they want to in scene. I happen to enjoy provoking them to the point that they do that.
Many tops enjoy their bottoms' feistiness and flirtation.
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