Sexual assault does happen - it is a crime and should not be kept a secret. An offender is someone who forces you to do a sexual act against your will or who forces themselves upon you. There is no clear picture of who an offender will be. Men who abuse boys or other men are not usually gay, they are commonly heterosexual men who are 'average' people. They may be a family member, close friend of the family, boyfriend, coach, school teacher, step-father or brother, uncle or acquaintance or husband.
Incest is a crime.
Sexual Assault is an overwhelming experience which can lead to a whole range of feelings and reactions. Many people who have been raped have described experiencing the feelings and reactions described below. You may feel embarrassed or ashamed when people you know learn that you were assaulted and you may begin to feel as though wherever you go people can tell what has happened. If these feelings become overwhelming, try to remind yourself that lots of men have been raped but you cannot tell who they are. Because of the myth that only gay men are raped, sometimes heterosexual men who are raped begin to wonder if they are gay or fear that others will think they are.