Best Friend Twenty-four years ago, when we wrote How to Be Your Own Best Friend, it was a time of great social upheaval and dissolving values. Many people were dissatisfied with their lives. They might not have been any worse off than people of other decades, but they were no longer ready to accept boredom, anxiety and misery as natural states. They wanted more. The same might be said of the 1990s.
Life is more confusing and values are more uncertain than ever.
Today's stresses and demands require a strong, solid sense of self - which is what being your own best friend is all about. When some people look within, they don't like what they see. In order to be your own best friend, you must learn to develop the same kind of tolerant goodwill, positive attitude and love toward yourself that you feel toward people whom you treasure as friends. To put it differently, being your won best friend means becoming your own parent. We never outgrown the need to be loved an nurtured.