And now all you seem to do is fight about money, which is pushing you further and further apart. You're in agony. Your concern is certainly legitimate. Money fights do cause serious trouble in relationships, yet money can also be the very thing that makes a relationship stronger. Actually, it isn't the abundance nor the lack of money that creates distance in a couple, it's how the couple views money and how they deal with it.
Money can actually bring a couple closer, can restore a sense of togetherness.
By transforming money issues into a goal you choose for yourselves as a couple, and which you support, encourage and empower each other to achieve. Maybe you'd like to save up for a down payment rather than rent for the rest of your lives, maybe you'd like to take a real vacation together in some foreign land where you can't even read the street signs, if they even have any. Or maybe you'd like to start a small mail order business together, whatever your dream, explore and then decide on a dream you would like to achieve together as a couple. Be sure to attach a date to when you'd like to have that dream. Be willing to risk picking a date even if you end up changing it down the line.