Failure to meet such high expectations can result in an increase in anxiety leading to a decrease in the ability to perform the exercises. Don't set your goals too high. This is a process that doesn't take work and effort, but rather practice and experience. That means a different approach to the task. Work and effort requires you to be active and expend energy.
Relaxation is just the opposite.
When you relax you are quiet and passive. This is developing the ability that allows yourself to relax and experience the feeling and benefits of relaxation. Some people are so competitive and striving that it is very hard to learn to let go. Learning to relax takes some time, but in the long run it helps a person's productivity. When you are rested and relaxed you are often more efficient in what you do.