Couples must learn to let go the argument in the service of maintaining an intimate connection. When being right and winning becomes more important than the relationship, the marriage will be in trouble. One of the most important aspects of contemporary marriage is learning how to negotiate. The better able a couple is in learning the skills of negotiation, the less conflict they will experience and the greater their satisfaction. When either party is more interested in winning, not able or not willing to negotiate, and has poor communication skills, the more likely they will have the kinds of difficulties that will lead them to consider divorce.
Many people inappropriately believe that divorce means that they have failed.
Not that the marriage failed, but that they personally failed-hence they are a failure. As we can see from the forgoing analysis, many factors contribute to the decision to divorce. No one takes the issue of divorce lightly. Endings, however, are a part of life. Everything has a life expectancy.