You should definitley call the telephone counseling center from the home page. And very quick, quick to grasp the situation and make a plan. About living in separte states. That has to change if you want to be married. Think about the impact it will have on your spouse when you tell him you are moving back to his city, neighborhood.
Physical distance plays a BIG part.
I am afraid that your H could draw closer to someone else, just when you have Finally seen the light. DO all you can, even if it means a job change. Your marriage and family come first. Everyelse will come right after you get your family situation back to where it needs to be. Call the Harley's.