Relationship is the fuel for life, and dependency is the avenue by which we receive it. The second aspect of dependency is that it teaches us that relationship is the most important thing in the universe. Connection is really the deepest value in God s heart. When you allow dependent feelings and stances in life, you begin to live life the way God intended it. Closeness to God and others is what life is all about.
Life has meaning, fulfillment and purpose in relationship.
Some people have never experienced relationship as a good thing in their lives. For example, you may see dependency as being weak and vulnerable, or have fears of abandonment. Or you may have been so disconnected that there appears to be no real value in connection. Where there is no hunger, it is hard to value dependency. We will deal with some of the obstacles to bonding later in this issue.