While it would be nice to be able to depend on someone for emotional support, too many relationships fail to do that. One must grow and become strong within oneself. For a woman to become self-reliant is a wonderful accomplishment. This does not mean that one rejects offers of help or support, whether emotional or financial. I have come to learn,too, what great emotional investment is necessary in maintaining a successful relationship.
Love can fade and it can sour.
While at the moment I may feel that the answer is No to both questions, I am also an optimist and a tenacious one at that. I have also become very selective in who I go out with. I find now that I value a man's intellect, and while looks are important for me, being able to converse intelligently with a man has become very precious.