Problems can have more than one solution, sometimes you just need to get creative. We get caught in a rigid approach to things, and sometimes just don't see the obvious or easy solution. Take a step back when something seems overwhelming and perhaps a solution will present itself. It is up to us to use our time wisely to accomplish our own personal goals. A person doesn't have to be old to be wise, or to be thin to be successful.
Qualities are intangibles, and as such can manifest themselves in any shape, size or form.
Sometimes we get angry and don't really know why. Take a few minutes to assess what is going on in your life. Stress is truly a killer, and often there are stresses we don't even recognize that dictate the flow of our day. Take the time, it's your own mental health at stake. Give a person the benefit of the doubt, or better yet if something they have done bothers you, ask them firsthand for an explanation.