When I'm feeling good, I often like being watched. Sometimes I'm too stressed and busy, and I don't want to deal with it. And while I usually enjoy simple admiration if I'm in the mood for anything, I don't always like guys who spend a lot of time trying to get my attention, I don't like it if guys are being too aggressive, and anyone who starts following me around completely creeps me out. I would say it is the man who enjoys looking the most, because women will usually look away. My theory is that men are more comfortable when relating with strangers.
Mistress is a courtesy title, as in concertmistress for the first violinist if a woman.
It's a more polite term than various slang words that could be used for the woman in an adulterous affair. There have been many reasons for me to do it. It may have been because I wanted to let someone down gently, or that I did not know the status of the ambiguous relationship I was in. The main reason I have done it is that I wanted to keep the second man's interest. If a woman has a boyfriend she is dedicated to, she will say she is taken without hesitation.