Accept anger as a natural human emotion that you and your children are going to experience. When we can anticipate what situations invite our anger, we can better prepare ourselves and our children to manage them appropriately. Many of us are limited to describing our feelings as simply sad, mad, glad, or afraid, when there is a whole range of human emotions. The more accurately we can identify what we are feeling, the more likely we are to express it appropriately. Provide acceptable outlets for anger.
Intense feelings create physical tension.
Set guidelines in your family for how to channel this energy constructively. For example, when angry you may not hit people, swear, or call names, but you may hit a pillow, kick a ball, go in your closet and scream, draw an angry picture, go for a walk or run, etc. Remember that while releasing the tension is important, emphasis should be on returning afterward to work on resolving the issue that led to the anger in the first place. Create a plan for defusing anger and resolving conflict. You might follow these steps.