Explain that many people have struggled with this issue in the past. Admit that dealing with one's sexuality is difficult. It defies easy and fast answers, whether heterosexual, bisexual, gay, lesbian or transgender. Keep the door open for more conversations and assistance. Anticipate some confusion.
Most youth are sure of their sexual orientation by the time they finish the eight grade.
But some young people will be confused and unsure. Help but do not force. If you are heterosexual, you probably do not understand what it means to be different in this manner. Clues for how you can help will come from the young person. Don't force him or her into your frame of reference to make it easier for you to understand.