Replace physical punishments with peaceful discipline techniques such as the removal of privileges. Reason with your children and recognize them for good behavior. Both parents should strive for agreement in decisions pertaining to the children, especially discipline, so that one parent is not undermining the other parent's efforts. Prioritize what is really important in your home regarding rules and regulations and enforce only what is essential. Be prepared to re-evaluate as your children grow.
Flexibility is the key.
The divorce was ugly and I don't particularly want any interaction with my wife. Under all circumstances, visitations should be pleasant for children and parents. Encourage your children to visit the non-resident parent and talk openly about the time spent with him or her. By doing so, you help children maintain a positive, secure relationship with both parents. If you are a visiting parent, vary excursions with your child.