Women often want to be alone, find a decrease in their enjoyment of sex, have feelings of despair and inadequacy as a woman, and many complain of the lack of feeling and obvious grief in their partner, which in turn makes them feel worse. And so a cycle goes on. Men are not widely known for seeking therapy for grief or relationship difficulties. Others can not understand the grief being expressed on a child that has not 'existed'. A common way for men to show they care is through intimate contact, and when this is rebuffed, as often happens after a miscarriage, more relationship problems occur.
Most men are action people.
They see a problem and they fix it, and there are very few men who can comfort a woman in a woman s way. They see the miscarriage more in terms of hurt for their ladies and want to protect them from that. Because they can t, they have problems in themselves. Communication and commitment are the key here. A miscarriage carries the same amount of grief as if it was any other loved one, that had passed on.