I'd like a bird for an old lady of ninety-four. She had one, but it died and she doesn't realize it. She keeps it in a cage, talks to it, and takes it out and kisses its head. I don't mean to imply that you can't have both a career and a relationship. It depends on the price of the relationship, the cost of the career, and your payments on the other items already in your cart.
People often sacrifice fulfilling relationships and rewarding careers to the graven idol of glamour.
Getting that list will take pen, paper, and about an hour. Please follow each step, and please write your answers down. And number one may surprise you. Some, rather than face the loss and the fear, simply accept the status quo and continue just reading self-help books, thank you very much. The only thing I ever dream is that I just won every beauty contest in the world and all the people I don't like are forced to build me a castle in France.