All members are made to feel a part of the economic activities of the family and are, when appropriate, give some voice in how money is to be spent. Children within the family have money and possessions for which they are personally responsible and are given the freedom to manage and care for them. Members have a strong commitment to the family. Members talk to each other enough to promote cooperation and make the family run efficiently. Members listen carefully to each other.
Members avoid harsh negative comments that degrade or shame other family members.
Members avoid talk that would degrade human sexuality or shame family members in the area of their sexuality. Members accept conflict as a part of family life and do not avoid dealing with it. Members accept feelings of anger, dismay and disappointment and can freely talk to each other about them. Members resolve conflict in constructive ways. Members seek help from people outside the immediate family when unable to resolve conflict.