I was so angry, I told him to go to hell. You can imagine what followed. Anyway, it made us stronger as a family. The truth is that nobody has really apologised to him for all the hurt they inflicted on him and to our family, and all the other families. Sure, they have said lots of patronizing things to many people about what happened.
People say forget the past.
But it stays with you. To move forward I agree that one must forgive. But, you have to purge yourself of the past. Only then can you heal the wounds. Perhaps this is my way of doing that.