For example, take a woman whose father was unfaithful to her mother. The more happy and satisfied you are with your life, the more ability you have to be intimate. Self-actualized people have richer and more satisfying romantic relationships. The flip side is that self-actualized people are less needy for a romantic partner. I don't think so.
Romantic love is especially important for men and women in midlife.
A number of women in their fifties find the great love of their lives. When the love in a relationship dies completely, no amount of rekindling will help. Couples therapy can also help. We've all been in situations where the things that attract us most in the beginning of a relationship become a great source of stress later on. She loved his sense of humor but later complains they can't hold a serious conversation, or he was attracted to her sensitivity but complains later that she is too sensitive.