It is easy to be virtuous alone. It is easy to be strong when untried. It is easy to win when there is nothing to endure. It is also easy to be superficial and self-centered and characterless. It is also easy to run from what I may most need to confront in life if I am ever to be whole.
Monastic stability is concerned more with depth than with comfort.
Discuss with each other the specific problems that you have in your own lives related to authority and commitment.