If your past was painful, if your childhood environment was abusive, if you had no role models for a Holy Relationship, then the task of structuring a healthy, evolving relationship seems much more difficult, may perhaps appear impossible. Thus the conflict continues. It's similar with the desire for health. Everyone has the inherent capability of being perfectly aligned with superb health. From excessive abusive habits of thought and body, the native intelligence of the body is overwhelmed.
Perfect health is our birthright.
Disease is a mistake born from sad dreams of failure and fear. The effect of our thoughts is easily seen in the body. Every thought, every feeling produces biochemical responses throughout the immune system. If you are happy or in love, your body responds by making you healthy. If you are sad or angry, your body responds by making you sick.