The sentence stems can vary too. Feel free to add your own. These are examples of things men have said. Each person reads one or more and then you discuss whether we have heard them, whether we have used them, and use this as a springboard for discussion of what they mean, how they affect how we think and feel about women and about sexuality, and how what we think affects how we act. This is one of the easiest ways to get a group of men talking on the topic.
Nobody has to own what they say.
Then, if they raise their hand that they've used some of these expressions, they have owned some of what's been said, and in a fairly safe way. Then, the facilitator collects them and passes them out. If anyone receives their own, exchanges are made until each person has someone else's secret. Then each person reads another person's secret as if it was their own. As a variant, each person tries to elaborate briefly on the secret, again as if it's their own.