Once we have a safe place, we need then to submit. In healing grief this translates into needing a safe place to connect with the emotions of grief and then taking the risk of experiencing these emotions. This activity of finding a safe place and then submitting to the emotions present is not a one-time activity. The healing of grief is dependent on our repeatedly following this process. Each time we find a safe place and then submit and connect with the grief within, we are taking a small step toward healing.
Many steps make a journey.
Another example of this process is that of a man who helped himself heal from his wife's death by sculpting a bust of her out of a block of walnut. He first put the wood in a place that was safe for him. Each time he worked on the piece he had the potential to connect with his grief over his wife's death. Each chunk he took from the block of wood honored his wife and allowed him the opportunity to submit to the emotions surrounding her death. It's easy to see how he was with his wife and with his grief each time he cut a sliver of wood.