In other words, for women, talking about something shows caring and is an important problem-solving technique. Men often don't feel they are good at communication. Because we don't enjoy what we're not naturally good at, we may actually avoid those things. The parts of the relationship game we feel we're best at, we want to practice the most. As a result, we'll become even weaker over time and lost our best shot at success.
Men are naturally protective.
Emotionally honest, open conversation can make a man feel vulnerable. What he shares may come back to haunt him. Also, a man doesn't want to expose those he loves. No sooner has Randy let down his defenses than I begin to overwhelm him with my own felling about his feelings. That isn't what he needed or wanted at all.