We all encounter conflict in our daily lives. How we handle this conflict determines our sense of control over our lives and contributes significantly to our sense of well-being. Unfortunately, we don't live in an ideal world so we filter every situation we encounter in the real world though our valuing system. If it is important to us, we will compare it to our ideal world-picture. If the two pictures match, we experience a pleasure signal.
Reactions differ, depending on the person.
These behaviours my be appropriate or inappropriate. Our task is to help children meet their needs in an appropriate way. If children learn the way to solving frustration is to yell or hit, then that will become their automatic response to frustration. From the age of three, most children are very capable of finding solutions to many everyday situations. Anna hits Robbie and takes his blocks.