A master gardener knows there is no way she can make . To help flowers be what they they were meant to be, she simply plants them in a good environment with the right amount of sun and shade. Then she waters, weeds, fertilizes, and maybe even talks to them. In other words, she adds nurture to nature. Without such understanding, we sometimes stunt their growth by improper nurturing by trying to change a petunia into a rose.
Many parents have a picture of how they want their kids to grow up.
Their picture may not fit their children's picture at all. Some don't want to go to college, join the family business, be a doctor, or whatever else their parents may have in mind for them. Some go along and many grow up as adults who are distorted and stunted in their growth, like bonsai trees. They don't know how to think for themselves. They don't know how to deal with money.