I have big concerns with personality types whose main issues are to avoid responsibility, and a when a therapist throws some of that on to the partner, it is a downward spiral for us. This really doesn't help us at all as victims. What you are doing is healthy. Recognizing problems is good, then you can help yourself. Blaming others and living in denial about who you are is a dead-end street.
Nobody has that much power.
This is why even though Jennie is the perpetrator as per her description of events, her boyfriend is responsible for any woes he allows her to cause him. I knew it was time for me to seek therapy to help sort this out on my own and deal with my issues. It was horribly frustrating. Thanks for voicing them. The abuser plays the same control and violation games, albeit in a different form.