We need to let our hearts break and care for ourselves in as loving a way as we can as we move through this process. We need to trust our process. Perfectionism Many of us grow up feeling that we have to be the best at something in order to feel alright. And then we can end up feeling poorly about ourselves when we discover that we are not the best. But the drive can still be there and the need to succeed if we are ever able to feel good about ourselves.
Perfectionism is really about expectations and judgment.
It is about expectations that we have for ourselves and our judgments about ourselves around these expectations. For instance, for a painter, it can be about the picture that is never good enough. For a writer, the piece that is never written well enough. For a parent, the parenting that is never up to par. For a student, the test that can never be studied sufficiently for or the grades that are not good enough.