However, there are usually many other issues an individual has around crossdressing. These can include your spouse's feelings, the paranoia of being exposed, and shame. These are issues which can cause stress and other problems where a therapist can be helpful. We all encounter messages every day which give us clues to the behavior expected of us. Many of these clues are gender-related, yet gender is not discussed much in our culture.
Most people mistakenly associate gender with sex, but gender is about feelings and behavior.
In a support group, you will learn you are not alone, and you are allowed to feel good about yourself. Transgendered support groups provide a variety of services and activities. Some are more social clubs so the support is through friendship rather than through structured programs. They may also have a spouses' support group and referral service. A support group may teach you how to function in public when you're ready for this step.