The numbness of that shock , which may last hours or weeks, serves an important purpose. Shock, along with denial, cushions us emotionally from the full impact of our loss. Denial allows us to absorb the reality of what has happened, bit by brutal bit, so that we are not completely overwhelmed. As the denial lessens, we begin to accept the reality of our loss. We also become more aware of the pain.
Few people are ever prepared for the intensity of the pain associated with loss.
Initially it may feel as though the pain bypasses the brain and goes straight to the body. Many bereaved people report various bodily aches and pains. There may be tightness in the chest or throat, pain in the chest or abdomen. Deep sighing and frequent swallowing can also be present. Others describe a weakness or fatigue or sensitivity to noise.