It Takes Two. Working at a relationship seems like just that, more work. Their expectations are different as a group, and they often would like being in a relationship to mean more fun. Thus it makes sense that quite a large number of men report that they'd like to have more sex. Yet men don't just want more sex if it will end up being boring.
Many men feel their partner is passive sexually.
If men have to convince their partner to make love, or she appears apathetic about it, sex loses much of its appeal. Women may crave passion, but so do men. Yet men often aren't as concerned about the experience being an exchange of love as they are excited by a woman's sexual intensity and assertiveness . What men want more of in the arena of sex and intimacy is very diverse and individual. Yet what I hear the most often from men is their partner is not assertive enough sexually.