Abuse occurs regardless of race, class, religion, age, political affiliation, lifestyle, or physical attributes. Lesbian violence is caused by drugs, alcohol, stress, childhood abuse. While these factors can be important, they do not excuse the abuse. It is easier for a lesbian to leave her abusive partner that it is for a heterosexual woman to leave her abusive partner. It is never easy to leave an abusive relationship.
Men can be and are abused.
This myth makes it particularly hard for men to come forward for help. Abuse in gay male relationships primarily involves apolitical gay men, or gay men who are part of the bar culture. Abuse occurs regardless of race, class, religion, age, political affiliation or life style. No such contract exists between an abuser and his victim. It is easier for a gay man to leave his abusive partner that it is for a heterosexual woman to leave her abusive partner.