The psychologist was to make a report to the financial worker. Marianna was sexually abused by her father from age five to thirteen, and by her eighteen year old brother at age nine. When she went for counselling years later, she was told that she had an unusually intense need for love that her brother and father had discovered and responded to in an unhealthy way. She was told to change how needy she was for affection. Pornography, other media representations of women, insulting jokes and comments made to us or about us also contribute to this society which fails to disapprove of violence against women.
Men can stop the violence against women if they want to.
They choose how to attack - men are careful to bruise their wives only on the clothed part of the body. They choose when - when women are isolated or in some other way vulnerable. Men can stop and they must be encouraged, taught, pressured or ultimately forced to stop. I wanted to teach her that she could not fool around. I was insecure.