It is apparent to us that some states could use stronger guidance from the Office of Child Support Enforcement. The signs are that some states are having a slow start to program implementation, that some states have non-specific program outlines, and a few states have made program contracts with outside groups that have a mission inconsistent with the both parents is the best parent focus. We believe there are already good examples of state guidance in how to administer the grant. Summary of the Program Elements 1. Mediation is best provided by county or court affiliated paid professionals, with judiciary support, monitoring and reporting.
Mediation is an important step in avoiding fruitless and expensive litigation.
Non-litigated settlements require parents who are ready to accept the new family reality and compromise respecting their parenting role. We have found that hearing from an empathic ear, given support, told they are not alone, and encouraged to consider the best interests of the children while keeping consistent contact with the child, eases the family transition. Counseling to the non-custodial parent requires understanding, and credibility. We believe qualified groups like the CRC can provide that service, as they already have experience and a network for an effective 800 number. Parenting training, conflict or stress management, and teaching both parents the benefits to the child of shared parenting are all important in both the IV-D and divorced population.