It is essential to take a new position of rightness about which actions are most helpful to achieve effective long-term Grief Recovery. Another example of a belief that you may have learned and practiced is keeping busy . As a response to the conflicting feelings caused by loss, keeping busy can be a dangerous short-term distraction. At the end of a busy day your heart is still broken, and the relationship may still be incomplete. Keeping busy does not complete relationships.
People are often as right about keeping busy as they are about time healing wounds.
By the same token, Right is not necessarily good, it is only Right. We tend to develop a ferocious loyalty to our rightness even though it often leads us to horrible squabbles with our mates and friends. If you think about most of the fights you've had, you will realize that both sides clung fiercely to the rightness of their position. Even in the aftermath, either party may have stayed on a position of rightness and refused to apologize, and thereby extended the fray. It may be time for you to examine some of your beliefs and attitudes about recovery from significant emotional loss.