But they have a good relationship with both of us and have been very supportive. He won't say much to me. I think it is a loss of a dream for them as well as for me. They don't like having to share holidays, etc, but I think in time we will get use to it, but never happy about it. Don't believe the memories are all fake and don't keep beating yourself up for what happened with your parents.
Parents are people too and during a divorce often quite emotional.
I saw my son go through the same feelings and he still has ups and downs. Though his father would never believe it I kept on telling my son he still regardless, had two parents who would always love him. I didn't like my ex too much in the divorce and still don't for the only reason being he still attempts with lies to turn my son against me. I recently told my son that I will no longer listen to him about his father nor will I ever ask a question about his father but neither should he ask questions about me. I think because he always is torn.