We tend to think of being single as a transitional time. Either way, many of us will spend at least a large part of our lives single. Thinking of singleness as transitory means that it is easy to spend more time looking for or anticipating our next relationship rather than cultivating life right now. Being single seems too transient to take seriously. It makes no sense to believe you must defer your happiness until you are part of a relationship.
Relationships seem to work best with people who are already happy.
Being happy means getting your important needs met. These needs include desires for intimacy, friendship and connection with others. Some of us are extroverts by nature. We relish the company of friends, and we are always out doing things with them. We feel energized by being around others.