This does not mean that the painful struggles of early recovery don't diminish. People do find freedom from homosexuality. Only thus can relapse be certainly avoided. If we only had Paddy's story we might assume alcoholism was a hopeless condition. But there are literally thousands of alcoholics who have recovered.
Most people assume that relapse is a sign that treatment has failed.
But we think that's a simplistic view. I remember pleading for two hours with one young man who decided to return to homosexuality. He still relapsed and continued in a homosexual relationship for several months. Realizing he had taken a wrong turn, he came back, worked his program, and is now married and the father of two children. You cannot ignore what has gone before, but that doesn't mean it should forever stand in the way of your future.