Click on the book title for more information or to order the book. Women are often brought up to experience their sexuality passively, or through a man. By doing so, she comes to marriage with a stronger sense of who she is as an independent sexual being. Few men experience their first orgasm through an encounter with a female. Cultural expectation is for boys to masturbate early in adolescence.
Men usually learn how their genitals work before sharing themselves with a woman.
Yet, girls are not expected to masturbate early and are subtly encouraged to explore their budding sexuality only in relationship to a man. It is never too late to consider developing an individual relationship to your sexuality. Learning to produce your own orgasm through masturbation may result in a significant level of healing from previous abuse. Taking steps to develop a more intimate knowledge of your body allows you to bring your sexuality forward to your present partner. This dynamic can spell the difference between feeling actively interested in pursuing sex or merely passively reactive to your husband's requests.