The insensitivities of men are often in the areas of loving, vulnerability, and grief. The insensitivities of women are often in the areas of sexuality, competitiveness and anger. Emotions and human character traits are human, not the sole province of one gender. Most women have yet to fully resolve the housework traumas inflicted upon them by their mothers. Until they do, most will continue to judge their spouses harshly.
Men are more intuitive than women.
Put Mom behind a clear plastic screen and wait for first sign of toddler distress. Crying much more often evidenced by girls. Hitting the plastic screen much more often evidenced by boys. Women are more logical than men. In the above ideal society, little girls and boys would play equally often with toy trucks.