If we can drop resistance, and open completely to the feeling, clearing occurs. I saw that the next step would be Acceptance . Acceptance does not necessarily mean accepting negative people or circumstances, it refers primarily to your feelings, as they are. The resistance that blocks full feeling occurs on a mental level. It is necessary to look at all the ways that we resist our experience, and to make the appropriate changes, to whatever extent possible.
Resistance tends to take a certain behavioral form.
For example, we can turn from the experience of feelings by immersing ourselves in activity. We can use food, drugs, sex, entertainment as diversions from feelings. As we act out feelings, i.e., as we are motivated by feelings into taking action to change circumstances in order to change the feeling, we essentially close down to the full experience of the feeling. More subtle forms of emotional avoidance are worrying, controlling, living in the past or future, living according to rigid concepts, judging self and others, even constantly seeking the answer or talking about the feelings. And, of course, last but most popular, relationship dependencies.