Too often I see people entering into a relationship who try to give up who they are, and it backfires. You need to know, at a core level, what you can't give up, as well as what you wouldn't mind giving up. The meaning of money differs from person to person. For some people, money may mean love, nurturing and caring, while for others may mean strife, struggle and a source of problems. More women than men relate money to negative emotions such as fear, panic, spite and anger, while more men than women associate money with love and happiness.
Husbands often call their wives spendthrifts, while wives often think their husbands are too stingy.
Managing money also involves varying levels of comfort and risk. Some people are comfortable with risk, and may thrive on challenge and stimulation, while others are adverse to any form of risk and need security and predictability. And money arguments between co-habitors are often really arguments about commitment. Not all money problems are about a shortage of cash. Some money disputes are really a manifestation of some other problem.