Finally, after talking on the telephone for hours each day, after receiving a ton of sympathy along with conflicting advice, after allowing her problems to grow larger or seem larger because she has not taken biblical steps to solve them, she may become immobilized with indecisiveness, depression and despair. If you are not really able to help her, being a real friend means encouraging her to get real help. You can really love her by insisting that you care too much for her to allow her to be without adequate help. You can really love her by helping her find a biblical counselor. You can really love her by encouraging her to follow through on the instructions given by her counselor.
Real love insists that the one loved follow a biblical course of action.