In searching for a romantic-love partner, a person needs to be free and forward in approaching potential partners. That includes all approaches from a self-introduction to a bold pickup by either the man or the woman. Even more opportunities are lost through inaction caused by fear of rejection. Rejections are not personal rebuffs, but actually serve as a valuable sorting process that allows a person to quickly eliminate unpromising prospects with a minimum loss of time. Through fear of rejection, many people lose valuable opportunities to discover romantic partners with whom the supreme value of life- long pleasures and romantic love could be developed and shared all their lives.
Most rejections stem simply from unavailability.
And often rejection arises from the inadequacies within the person doing the rejecting. Those who respond positively to one's initial, natural approach often make the best prospects for romantic partners. That value is far too important for leaving to random chance, one must put its achievement under direct control. But the opposite is true. When a person senses loneliness, unhappiness, or artificialness of guests at social gatherings, that person is often projecting his or her own feelings of loneliness, unhappiness, or artificialness onto other people who may not be that way at all.