Her team members are trained to recognize the stages of shock, suffering, and recovery of grieving persons. We need to say to a grieving person that the church is here for you. Luffy's trained volunteers accompany mourners through the funeral rites and later during family gatherings and meals. They visit the survivors often after the death and make phone calls of support. She even has prepared an additional memorial service to be carried out months after the funeral.
Parish priests take part in the service, which allows the mourners to eulogize their loved ones.
It ends with prayers from the funeral ritual. When Luffy lost her mother at the age of 94, her entire family was able to attend the funeral. Her mother, Margaret, died at Thanksgiving when all of her grandchildren were home from college. Family members gathered for a meal and prayers. We asked mother to help us to love each other.