So in order to stop misrepresenting myself, I have decided, starting now, to more accurately portray my attitudes about men. This means I have to challenge my assumptions, think before speaking, and, finally, help others to open up and air out their own boxes. I am writing about this in this forum because gender is one of the frontiers that gays and lesbians tend to have trouble with. I think we enhance gender differences as a way of combatting stereotypes placed on us by the outside world. We tend to become clannish.
Men stay with men, women with women.
We protect ourselves as much as we can in a society that wishes we would go away. We want boundaries to be clear cut and easy to deal with. May not be redistributed without permission. Reprinted from the University of Pennsylvania B-GLAD '99 Magazine.