He doesn't like conflict deep down and he would really like to cooperate. Jerry Wagner's The Enneagram Spectrum of Personality Styles has a good 101 profile of style nine. Nines are hard to recognize because you are sorting for something that is not there, namely a self-assertion. If you are a nine, one of your best exercises is a daily list of priorities. Check them at the end of the day and see if you did what you said you would, or whether you did other people's priorities.
Nines find goal-setting quite helpful.
All the goal-setting literature is written by threes, so books will be intimidating, but setting a few modest goals would be helpful for you. Negatively, make a list of what you have intended to do for a long time and haven't done. Then discuss with yourself first and then with friends what you would really like to do instead of what you have been considering as goals that really weren't. Nines can easily become couch potatoes.