Maybe I've had an argument with my SO, and found that the more I talk, the more frustrated I get. Unless I truly have, it's hypocritical of me to expect them to listen to mine any better. If I played back my words, I might find that I'm not only expecting them to agree with my point of view, but also make choices I want because of it. Just for Today Today I'll take some time to better understand how my SO feels, because doing so will help them understand me better too. I'll also be careful that I don't place hidden expectations on them, by wanting them to do something once they understand me better.
Folks never understand the folks they hate.