To offer counsel that would substitute our standards for God's in the name of compassion, is akin to declaring that God is not compassionate, that His standards are arbitrary. God says no because He loves us. God said no to homosexual behavior because He loves us. We are seeing that the alternatives to God's way are not freedom and self-actualization, they are poverty, disease, and death. Finally, there is the simple matter that the compromise being discussed here simply doesn't work in the vast majority of cases.
Most gay men do eventually seek a permanent, faithful relation- ship.
But we know from experience and abundant statistics that such relationships are terribly elusive. The compromise simply cannot be justified on spiritual, moral or practical grounds. Nowhere did He suggest that we simply do the best we can and compromise with sin. For the Christian, loving obedience to God is our calling, not personal satisfaction. The Church is called to stand for God's Word.