Law is a set of external rules constraining my freedom of choice. Life under the Law threatens my personhood. Jesus does away with the Law. Law and Gospel are polar opposites. Repentance forswears imposing my views on others.
Love is embodied in tolerance.
Reformed Christianity Personal wholeness is loving communion with God and neighbor. Freedom is freedom for loving relationships with God and neighbor. Law is a description of rightly-ordered relationships. Life under the law establishes my personhood. Grace is God empowering us to live according to the Law's intent.