His married state convincingly demonstrates that at least one woman finds him attractive, and this very fact makes him even more desirable in the eyes of many other women - it confirms their judgment that he is worth pursuing. He is unavailable , and his very inaccessibility makes him highly desirable. Truly a deadly combination. Act married . Panting after women, with your tongue literally hanging out, you play the fool.
Mutual acceptance is the key.
It is virtually impossible to survive childhood without wounds.