Plan ahead, anticipate what might cause a problem. Postpone decisions until you have a chance to calm down. Be open to compromise. Aggression and nonaggression are learned ways of behavior. Every society provides models for its preferred forms of behavior.
Parents are children's primary models - the most important people in their lives.
Much of what children learn about dealing with stress and conflict is patterned on their parents' behavior. If violence is a learned response to stress, it's not surprising to find that the most violent families are those under the greatest stress. Another common characteristic of violent families is their social isolation. Without a supportive network of friends. Abuse between partners takes many forms.