It is often filled with judgments, doubts, preparation for what to say next, thinking up rebuttals, or wondering how much longer this is going to take. Perhaps no one speaks more directly and eloquently to this phenomenon than Krishnamurti. Listen . . . I do not know if you have ever examined how you listen, it doesn't matter to what. In that state there is no value at all.
Real communication can only take place where there is silence.
To listen deeply and fully to another requires focused attention and internal silence, to listen from a position of neutrality and detachment with a willingness to consider all perspectives. In many ways, this runs counter to our cultural experiences. Consider that as we were growing up most of us were taught listening as a defensive skill. Listening was about getting clear on what was expected of us so we could remain in the good graces of authority figures. When we were unsuccessful, it usually meant trouble.