They should encourage parents, grandparents and siblings to hold the baby, to take photographs, to make hand and foot prints. The baby's eyes can be opened. He or she should be named. Far from being ghoulish, such loving interaction will comfort, she says. Surveys show that many parents wish they had had more contact and more time with children after death.
None wish they'd had less.
Cacciatore also has some advice for those struggling with what to say to bereaved parents. Parents would rather have their children on Earth. Children are not interchangeable. Say you understand how they feel unless you have been through the same experience. Suggest the care given the child was inadequate.