Twelve Curative Steps 1. Write a personal Mission Statement. At home you are not a control freak. Control is not an attribute valued by anyone any longer, least of all those you love. Trust and be trustworthy.
People smell insincerity.
And yes, it is a chicken or the egg thing. Communicate often and clearly. Agree upon the vision and desired results. Accept the new dialogue based culture which is more open and candid. Embrace mistakes because learning cannot take place without them.