One of the primary reasons for the break-up of so many marriages today is the failure of men and women to understand and apply the specific roles and responsibilities God has given to the husband and the wife. When a man is out of the will of God, he is a menace to himself and everyone else. Jonah, the Old Testament prophet, just about brought a whole ship down because of his disobedience. Many husbands do the same to their marriages. Their marriages are in trouble because they are unwilling to obey God's commandments to them.
Men are to be initiators.
The wife comes into full fruition and submission in response to the husband loving her as he should. A. Love as Jesus Loves. In the same way, when the wife sees the love of her husband, she will love him and submit to him. Our goal as husbands must be to fulfill God's command to us and leave our wife's reaction up to Him. He made Himself of no reputation.