A child should not be used as a pawn or a weapon. The ability and desire of each parent to provide food, clothing shelter, and other needs of the children. The willingness to provide is more important than the ability, since the court can order child support. The court will also consider any other relevant factors. You may find it helpful to consult professionals including family physicians, school counselors, community resource groups, family mediators, clergy and family counselors.
Many counties have courses to help parents and children cope with the emotional toll of divorce.
Most communities in Florida have family mediation services available to help parents develop their own shared parenting plan and share parental problems.