Many Christian homes are characterized by disunity, arguing, screaming, and pouting. Everyone in the family seems to be pulling in opposite directions, and the result is chaos. This is true spiritual adjustment. It's always easier to learn about those aspects of marriage which apply to the other partner. Women frequently enjoy discussing the husband's responsibility to love his wife.
Husbands often enjoy emphasizing the woman's role of submission.
But neither the husband nor the wife can fulfill his or her role in marriage without the supernatural power of the indwelling Holy Spirit. Most of us want to be the husbands or wives that we ought to be. But we simply cannot become such in our own strength. We face tremendous physical, emotional, and mental adjustments in marriage. The relationship is burdened with divergent backgrounds, differences of opinion, and daily misunderstandings.