I want to do things differently, but my parents were weird. Sort of like the person expects an exemption. Excuses are substitutes for the hard work of change. In truth, change is hard work. Now, it is possible for anyone to create a much more interesting world for themselves, but only by being responsible for actually creating it.
Every person has the potential to be whole.
The only requirement is responsibility. Responsibility is a misunderstood word. A response is a carefully measured and thought through action meant to get the result you seek. For example, a couple in therapy might indicate that they wish to deepen their relationship. Then, the next time they have a conversation, they start into a fight.