No note acknowledging the disparity and injustice, no sheepish apology for participating in an institution of segregation, no phone call checking-in about the politics of it all. We should put Rofes together with the Hallmark company or with Miss Manners, and together they can amend the old-fashioned wedding invite in the direction desired by Rofes, with similar apologetic language about possible offense caused to other groups. Rofes hopes for coordinated days of action when same-sex couples attempt to register at the local county clerk's office. Imagine if they requested the proper forms and replied to refusals with a pre-determined response grounded in passive resistance. It's like that gay fashion, years ago, for wearing shirts or jackets with the insignia of a sheriff's deputy.
Marriage has no more place in efforts to achieve equality than slavery or the divine right of kings.
He also makes the sound point that in this society, access to health care still depends largely on whom you work for or who your spouse is. But now come the lavender family value types with giant cookie-cutters to slam us all into and chop off anything that doesn't conform to their banal vision. The hell with waxed-fruitism. Boyd McDonald said that if the gays ran the world it would be just as sordid as with it is with straits in charge. At this point I may have more in common with strait radicals than with same-sexers.