I will attempt to spell this factor out. It is almost impossible to define love abstractly. Dictionaries do not help much. Even scholarly analysis of the Greek word agape can only take you so far . The Greeks talked about such things but were not particularly good at practicing them.
Love needs to be embodied.
Then only do you recognise the real thing. Love in action makes all the difference. A loving person is the best definition. Jesus asked the members of the young church the love each other with his quality of love. I will look at 4 facets.