I am miserable with my wife and want to share my life with this other woman. I'm afraid if I stall too long I will lose her. But I cannot get past losing everything I've worked for all my life. I know my new love won't wait forever. That's the issue.
Gathering is often a symptom of being unable to start or maintain relationships.
The chronic gatherer tries to buy moments of pleasure by accumulating. It is the one security they have. Stuff, or life itself. We are not telling you to get divorced. We are telling you to make up your mind how you feel about stuff.