Put first things first. Live by your own standards, not other's Your values are influenced by who you associate with. Proactive choose what to work on. Responsibility is your ability to choose your own response. Do not empower other people's weakness by your response.
Motivation is an inner force that compels behavior.
Taking responsibility of your life means you are in total control of what happens in your life. Stress anxiety is abnormal. If you blame some one, know you are the one feeling it. Values are what are most important to you. We are responsible for our own behavior.