This is a normal part of development. Your child's right to privacy, though, should be earned by the demonstration of trustworthiness and responsibility. It's a common situation, all over the country. My child spends too much time playing computer and video games. He's so passionate about these games, that when I suggest he's overdoing it he gets angry with me.
Regular chores establish helpful habits and good attitudes about work.
Children who grow up perceiving chores as a normal part of life will find the flow into adulthood much easier than those without responsibility will. Even if they are not among the growing number of families split apart by divorce, they will be influenced indirectly. They will know children whose parents divorce. My 13 year old son is having a hard time at his new school. He's having trouble making friends and fitting in.