It was the most painful experience of my life but it did serve to bring me to the place of surrender. My healing began when I began to work on myself through the very same steps contained in this book. I learned the hard way that Ron's recovery process didn't heal me. In fact, I learned the hard way that the insanity of compulsive drinking was not just Ron's sickness but was contagious and by the time recovery was sought, had done damage to my sanity as well. I had to, and still have to, do the work for me.
Recovery is an individual thing.
I remember telling our marriage counselor that the only thing wrong with our relationship and our lives was his drinking. I just needed him to stop drinking and everything would be alright. It didn't quite work that way for me. Fortunately for both of us, a fairy tale ending. We are together again, closer and happier than we have ever been.