Both movies are about young men who have a deep inner need to make their fathers proud of them. All boys have a deep need for their fathers to accept them and be proud of them. Most fathers probably are proud of their sons. This is all too typical of fathers and sons. It isn't that they don't have the feelings.
Men just have an awful time telling somebody else how they feel.
There are rare cases where a father is genuinely ashamed of his son. I had a friend growing up who, sadly, fell into this category. His dad was a big strappin' man who always wanted a big strappin' son who would be the quarterback on the football team. My friend was very skinny and frail with small bones and long fingers like his mother. He was not a sissy at all, but he would have been killed if he had gone out for football.