Those goals we can spend a lifetime living toward. But these same cherished goals can become the very weapons we hammer ourselves with when they become judgments against us. Instead of being inspiring, we mentally beat ourselves up over them because what we wanted to accomplish didn't turn out the way we thought it should. Rather than our being inspired to ever reach out toward our goals, we instead feel defeated in not having attained them. As perfectionists, problems encountered are not challenges to our responsiveness, creativity and ingenuity but instead become proofs of our shortsightedness and lacking.
Perfectionism is an ever defeating cycle.
When we realize our judgment behind this way of thinking, we can change this. Letting go of the judgment, we can re-evaluate what is truly important to us and begin living those values as best we can. And to go on learning how to live them and realize them more fully in our lives. We enter this as a process that is ever changing and ever challenging because we are always able to grow and learn about those things that most excite us and inspire us. We can have so much judgment about our needs.