My wife and I have hung on until the kids got to college and are now ready to split. We have known that this was going to happen for a long time, but we felt we owed it to the kids. I am wondering what the reractions are going to be. I am afraid they will read into everything and discover that we both have been unhappy for so long, which will in turn explaina lot of unanswered questiuons they may have had when growing up. Don't believe the memories are all fake and don't keep beating yourself up for what happened with your parents.
Parents are people too and during a divorce often quite emotional.
I saw my son go through the same feelings and he still has ups and downs. Though his father would never believe it I kept on telling my son he still regardless, had two parents who would always love him. I didn't like my ex too much in the divorce and still don't for the only reason being he still attempts with lies to turn my son against me. I recently told my son that I will no longer listen to him about his father nor will I ever ask a question about his father but neither should he ask questions about me. I think because he always is torn.