This may happen during adolescence, but it may not happen until a person is older. The people we come out to are all influenced by homophobia in one way or another. A few of them can help make the process easy, but many won't. Despite its stresses, coming out offers great relief from internalized homophobia, although it is not a cure-all. Ridding ourselves of it may be a process that continues most of our lives.
Many people find comfort in the feminine and masculine gender scripts dictated by social norms.
Many other people are made uncomfortable by them. Many people accept their gender roles. Many people don't. They may become sexually inhibited by their conflict about gender identities. Some feel that they have aspects of both genders.