Once you've tasted this forbidden sex, of course, it is very, very addictive. That's how they get trapped. Dr. Harry Schaumberg has counseled sex addicts for over fifteen years, many of whom were Christian leaders. Dr. Schaumberg talks specifically about sexual addiction in the church in his book False Intimacy . Steps Towards Renewal Moving towards renewal is not a simple process.
Recovery requires a combination of accountability, counseling, and spiritual reflection.
If you are married, you really need to talk with your spouse. Many of the pastors who call us concerning this issue tell us that they have not told anyone about their struggles. They may have spent hours praying about it, but they have not shared their need with another person. You could also benefit from an ongoing accountability relationship. Ask God to help you discern who you should attempt to meet with on a regular basis for prayer, confession and disclosure.