I do as Thou makest me do. If they need teaching, then He will be the Teacher. He is our Innner Guide. Treat them as if they were very dear to you, but you know in your heart of hearts that they do not belong to you. First secure the oil of divine love, and then set your hand to the duties of the world.
People shed a whole jug of tears for wife and children.
They swim in tears for money. Cry to Him with a real cry. But he should not harm anybody in anticipation of harm likely to be done to him. Among the ever-free we may count sages like NArada. They live in the world for the good of others, to teach men spiritual truth.