This may cause you to feel out of control. The instinctive, natural way to express anger is to respond aggressively. Anger is a natural, adaptive response to threats, which allow us to fight and to defend ourselves when we are attacked. A certain amount of anger is necessary to our survival. Most people adapt their responses to what is acceptable within this framework.
People use a variety of both conscious and unconscious processes to deal with their angry feelings.
The three main approaches are expressing, suppressing, and calming. To do this, you have to learn how to make clear what your needs are, and how to get them met, without hurting others. Anger can be suppressed, and then converted or redirected. This happens when you hold in your anger, stop thinking about it, and focus on something positive. The aim is to inhibit or suppress your anger and convert it into more constructive behavior.