They may start putting you down when they talk to you. Often you start feeling worthless. Eventually, the violence begins. By that time, you may feel like you deserve it. You may blame yourself.
Many abusers feel guilty after the abuse.
They may be very loving after it is over. They may promise that it will never happen again. But sooner or later, it will. Abusers almost always blame the victim. If only you wouldn't do this or that, they wouldn't have to hit you.