So when wives take to themselves husbands, and when husbands take to themselves wives, they do it by a decision of their wills. If you are fortunate enough to be married, you will already have noticed this. I remember one preacher saying that marriage was like tying the tails of two cats together. They'll fight and scratch and scream for a while, but given time, they will get their heads together. Now I don't know whether you're at the scratching or screaming stage, or if you've gone beyond that, but nonetheless the teaching is very clear from God's Word.
Married couples have to learn to adapt.
It is two people, two personalities, learning to adapt to one another. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Christ is the head of the church, and the church respects its head. This same relationship is to be present in every marriage. God never tells us to do something that we cannot do.