If you disobey him, you are not a good daughter. If you rebel against him, you cause him much pain. Nothing can change that fact. Likewise, if you truly have given your life to Christ, then you are born of God. You have a heavenly Father.
Nothing can change that.
For more see What Sin Does and Doesn't Do in the Life of a Christian . I'm about to say as a statement about your parents. I don't know them and am not attempting to judge them or their motives. But they are weak on the heart issues that Jesus is so concerned about, such as humility, love, joy, compassion, forgiveness, forbearance, and peace. This is what pleases God, not the emphasis on debatable legalisms and spiritual competitions with one another.