I know I am unable to change my heart, but God can. I think Bob is the most wonderful person, and I love him with all my heart. I have learned through my past marriage and now this relationship that love is a decision more than a feeling. But, I would also want him to know that I love him so much that I only want what is best for him, and if it's not me, then I would never want it to work out between us. Thanks for the note concerning your reluctant boyfriend.
Girls are very scary.
It's hard for us men to feel confident in this dating thing. He might be a bit mysterious because he doesn't really know how you feel and also might be shy about asking. Here's how you do it. Raid your grocery or birthday fund, or take out a loan at the bank, and take him out on a date. Encourage him to get the biggest steak on the menu or maybe a 40-pound lobster with a prime rib doggy bag, or if he is a health nut, then order him roasted zinc pellets or something else he would enjoy.