Teaching, retraining, restructuring, and rethinking should be included in the change process. Many people want the therapist to take care of their lives. This isn't what good therapy is about. Therapy can result in disaster or a disservice to clients if the therapy causes them to become helpless and dependent upon the therapist. The main goal of therapy is to help clients become independent.
Many therapies seem to share a common base of encouragement for the client.
They are similar to other types of supportive therapies in that unconditional acceptance and caring are critical parts of the relationship between the therapist and the client. This doesn't mean the therapist agrees with every aspect, or accepts all behaviors of the client. The therapist accepts the totality of the client, and encourages and rewards attempts at new behaviors. Therapy's most important mission is to encourage. At some time, most clients become discouraged with themselves and their lives.