Being a glass half-empty kind of person, I have to work hard at building my husband up. Sometimes my efforts are laughable. But since becoming aware of my need to do this, it has become easier. I really appreciate it. Not exactly Hollywood screenplay material, but it makes my husband feel valued.
Mutual respect is part of a marriage's firm foundation.
For years, my friend Lin's negative, critical spirit nearly always focused negatively on her husband and family. One day, during a soul-searching quiet time, Lin's destructive behavior was revealed to her. She's made it a habit to never say anything to her husband that she wouldn't say to her boss, neighbor or pastor. Her radically different attitude changed her marriage relationship. Efforts toward self-improvement, like Lin's, are one way to show your partner you really care.