If a woman was left alone on an island in the South Pacific, she would be forced to use reason, objectivity, and rationality just as a man would. Furthermore, as many feminists would be the first to agree, plenty of men don't act on reason in their daily lives, while plenty of women do. Just as both men and women have the capacity for reason, both men and women also have the capacity to choose to discard reason at any time. As you point out, many irrational women victimize men, just as many irrational men victimize women. The reason that victimization against men by women is seldom discussed is the strong influence of anti-male feminism which permeates our culture.
Reason is the final determiner of reality, for both men and women.
Men and women live in the same objective reality. Just because reason is the final method of determining reality, it does not follow that all emotions are irrational and unhealthy. I have encountered both men and women who, in striving to be rational, sometimes repress their emotions on principle. If you want to be happy, you must reject the subconscious influences of traditionalism and feminism. In a world where untold millions are buying into the idea that men are from one planet while women are from another, you are facing an uphill battle.