It also is not a measure of how worthy we were to the loved one as a parent, a spouse, or a family member. Grief is not something that has to be 'solved'. Sometimes it is important for us to confront it, but it is not something anyone can go 'around' or get away from. It is a natural process that takes time to unfold. Many people have said they eventually learned that there is no short cut through the pain of grief.
Grief takes time.
Just when you think it may be over, your grief can resurface by hearing a favorite song, or seeing, smelling or touching something that reminds you of the one you have lost. Grief is not an end, or the end of the person you have lost. Rather, it is the beginning of the process of healing, and the first step in accepting the pain of separation. What You Can Do for Yourself, and How Others Can Help You Remember that this can be an extremely difficult time for you, and you need to take care of yourself. Remember that experiencing grief, however difficult it may seem to you, is normal.