You are not trying to raise a Superteen, because a Superteen will not necessarily end up as an emotionally well-adjusted and successful adult. Adolescence is for learning how to become an adult, not for learning how to become a successful adolescent. Now, let's also be realistic. It is not easy to have an impact on your adolescents, especially if you don't already have a great relationship with them. We are strong believers in realistic simplification.
Many books give page after page of advice, on many different topics.
But in our professional experience, there is only so much that parents can do, are willing to do, and can keep track of. We want to make that minimum as strong and as impactful as possible. There are certain directions toward which parents want teens to head. We want them to be knowledgeable, responsible, nonviolent, and caring . . . More important, it takes these same skills for our kids to grow up to be successful, productive citizens of their schools, families, workplaces, and communities.