They are so intent on shouting down their spouses, making their respective points and saying hurtful things that they overlook the fact that the fight does not affect just the two of them but also their children. Children are very observant and sensitive. They are quick to pick up on tensions and undercurrents. However, they are not very good at pinpointing the cause. Children's worlds revolve around their parents.
Parents are their security blankets and their safety nets.
They are supposed to provide their children with a constant sense of security and a confidence that their parent's love and the marriage is as unshakeable as the Rock of Gibraltar. Rumbles of discontent between parents leave children feeling insecure and unsure whether it has something to do with them. So before you start screaming about your husband having lost a tidy pile on the stock market or arguing with your wife about how she doesn't show enough respect to your parents, stop and think that your children are likely to be the spellbound audience to your little family drama. And it will be disturbing rather than entertaining for them. However, this does not mean that parents do not have the right to fight or argue just because they are parents.