But not only is seniors' sex put under wraps because nobody wants to talk about it, there's a raging double standard at play, says Marcella Bakur Weiner, a Brooklyn, N.Y., psychologist and gerontologist. And many women said they felt comfortable being affectionate with other women, holding hands, hugging, kissing. Human contact makes you feel wonderful. But on other days, I would love to meet someone who could give me a good strong hug and a strong kiss. It has nothing to do with whether we sleep together or not.
Romance is respect, consideration, kindness and companionship.
That's what I want. What's important for longevity and emotional health is to be passionate about life, says Bakur Weiner, who has written three books on sexuality and aging. Passion is a life force and it translates as affection, sexuality and connectedness. These women appreciate good friendship and feeling connected to each other in this safe and secure circle of support, says David. They're inquisitive, curious and anxious to learn because they know they don't have another 50 years to search for answers.