It knows that if its enemies can get to the soft underbelly it is defenseless. Often in anger we will use sharp sarcasm or sharp short answers to create distance, so that others will not get too close and see our weaknesses. This is based on the insecurity and fear that if people get to know us they will not like us. How Do We Handle Anger One of the things we need to do is to learn to be slow to anger. We need to take the time to be sure that we have a good reason to be angry.
Patience is one of the things needed to overcome anger.
It is not a drowsy indifference we seek. Love, scripturally speaking, is not an easy-going indifference. We need to listen and ask questions to be sure we understood what was said, to get the facts straight. Then, unless a principle is involved, we need to give the other party the benefit of the doubt. A second thing we can do is change our thinking.