You can't succeed unless you're willing to fail. If you have to beat everybody else to be a winner, you will never be a winner because nobody can always beat everybody else no matter how good you are. If you keep comparing yourself to others, you will always be a loser. This is allowing others to determine who you are. We learn through failure.
Failures are opportunities.
We don't learn through successes. They teach us to stay the same. Codependency is a compulsion to control and rescue people by fixing their problems. These characteristics affect the codependent's every relationship and desire. His goal in life is to avoid the pain of being unloved and to find ways to prove that he is lovable.