Also have been involved in music leadership in churches. I can asssure you there are many who are gay in all levels of all institutions. Often, a married person has a shield. However, the gay persons are nonetheless still gay whether they are married or not. The Scriptures have much more to say about these than about gayness.
Pretense has little place in our lives.
Coming out of the closet doensn't mean anything unless you're going to clean it.