Anything beyond that is evil. Truth is not seen as truth unless it is spoken in love. Coming out is part of your witness for Christ as a gay or lesbian believer. FEAR is the main reason that you wear a mask to hide your sexual identity. Fear causes pain and limits your life.
Perfect love casts out fear, because fear causes torment.
Fear is an unclean spirit that causes self destructive behavior. No matter how you try to justify staying in the closet, the closet is still a lie. Lying can become a way of life. We can become addicted to lying. We learn to tell people what we think they want to hear.