The parties reconciling sang hymns together that offered relief and allowed grace to be celebrated and experienced. The singing seemed natural in the context and effective rather than contrived to give the appearance of amicability. The readiness to forgive was remarkable. The grief was experienced and real as was the forgiveness and reconciliation. While the observance is a national observance, churches are involved.
People gather in public places where the churches are represented.
Clergy lead in speeches and prayers. The observances are not held in particular churches but all denominations of Christians as well as Muslims are represented. Remarkably in a culture where music plays a key role, no songs are sung during the period of national mourning. During this time it is common for individuals and families to visit the genocide sites. Prayers may be offered and flowers left in memory of loved ones.