Not every man displays all of these behaviours. Yet this is the dominant mainstream model of male sexuality in which women have been conditioned to act out the matching role. It's little wonder that men are confused about their sexuality. To work against rape is to work primarily against ordinary sexual conditioning , not some kind of unusual aberration. All men have some of the pieces of this sexual conditioning.
Rapists are ordinary men with more ordinary men's conditioning than usual.
Facing that society is to blame not any man is at the hart of men's work in this area. Responsibility for recovering is the personal responsibility of every man. Working and Fighting - On leaving school most men go through the hardest and loneliest time of their lives. After leaving school men just work. Life is about work.