My problem is that women simply don't seem to find me dating material. Start thinking of yourself as prime real estate instead of a marshy bog, because the power of confidence is amazing. If you believe you are a great property, then others will buy into your vision. If you see yourself as undesirable, no one will come along and contradict your expert point of view. Drew Carey is round and goofy-looking and he has a major social calendar.
Females go for independent types who are confident.
No one is going to weigh you on the first date. If a boy knows a woman is not a virgin, then for sure he will not marry her. On a theoretical level, I believe both men and women should have equal rights and responsibilities, as well as access to reliable birth control. Only you can determine what is right for you in your reality. Some women choose to buck tradition and have sexual relationships, knowing they will either defy family or move away to a different community.