Often, teachers don't recognize a behavior as being a symptom of a condition because they've never been trained in your child's condition. You might be shocked to discover how little training in neurobehavioral conditions most regular education teachers receive at the pre-service level of training or even on a continuing education basis. Indeed, not all states even mandate continuing education for teachers. Assume that the teacher is in good faith and needs to be educated more about your child's condition and about your child's specific symptoms or manifestations. Give the teacher the same permission to learn and be supportive of their efforts.
Most teachers donate a lot of their after-school time and energy to their work.
Providing some practically oriented literature and letting the teacher know that you have other things if they'd like them is probably a better strategy. The teacher only tells me negative things about my child. I am so tired of all the phone calls complaining about him. If you are getting worn down or worn out by the phone calls, don't answer the phone. Let the answering machine pick up.