Lots of good advice, I think. Let us know what you think George. I deserve a man who only gives himself to me unselfishly as I would give of myself to you. She doesn't love you and has zero respect for you, I bet as far as she's concerned you're dead. Then walk out, don't give her any opportunities to reconcile.
Most abusers do that.
I have some experience with guys that have had similar problems. Out of respect for him as a human being, I told him that I was beginning to think of him as more of a friend than anything else. Please don't get counseling for your marriage, get it for yourself so you can find a real woman who deserves all that you relish on her. I have been known to be a good listener and give excellent advice. A couple of my own flaws are impatience and bluntness, which I am working to change.