That tough shell of mine has transformed. I hold my words and sometimes, I even remember to keep my heart open. This is the remembering that is my personal breath work. Fathering, for men, is a spiritual path. For many men, their first step into their hearts, into the heart of love, is through their love of a woman.
Men take solace from women.
Because of the deep seated nature of the competitive male spirit, many men don't trust one another. But they often trust and can let go of their protective shells in the presence of women. This is also possible with one's child. Some men turn their backs on their children. Some let the women in their lives be the ones that become enthralled with their children.