Yes, they may not get ahead as quickly as their male colleagues, but they can lead fuller lives and nearly everyone understands. For a guy, it s up or out. In my office moms will on occasion leave early to attend a function at their child s school, or come in late because they were at the pediatrician. They re being good moms. A father who does that isn t doing his job.
Men feel restricted by society s perceptions and by our own sense of duty, too.
We can t help but believe that in some ways, women have more latitude. I haven t thought twice about supporting or family. But I d like the choice she made to be sanctioned for men too. She s been able to make more exciting jobs that pay less without worrying about economics. Even if she made a lot more than me, though, there s no way I d feel comfortable taking a more thrilling but lower-paying position.