Listen to your gut feeling on things in regards to labor. They don't always know everything, either. Also, some women just have a lot of false labor. If you feel more comfortable going in, then go in and have them monitor you. That's what they are being paid for.
Every pregnancy is different.
You sound like you are doing fine. They really never hurt at all, but I thought I was just lucky. I'm a first time mom and with the exception of what I have read and what I have been told in classed and through friends and peers I have no idea what to expect. You would think health care professionals would be a little more sympathitic and understanding and help you. I don't know she just made me feel like a fool for not knowing.