We see a larger house as the panacea to a stultifying marriage. We imagine a big vacation to be the thing that will finally bond our families. Yet all of those problems are quite solvable within the confines of our too-small, inadequate homes behind lawns crawling with crabgrass. All it requires is for us to give up being small and whiney, and finally to start to get big. And believe me, you're definitely getting something.
Inadequate jobs are excellent places to hide.
Lousy marriages are wonderful protectors of the soft part of your heart. And having no money relieves one of all those nasty adult responsibilities, like paying taxes, investing in IRAs, and saving for college tuitions. The mind is wonderfully literate this way, for it truly will produce whatever it is that you want, and by this I don't mean surface desires but those which dwell in that deep place far within. Here is the seat of your power, a place accessed by visualizations, prayers, mantes, dreams, and the subconscious. And while I do not know exactly where this big black place is, I know when I'm in touch with it.