As parents and other members who have survived the violent death of a child or loved one, we share the cycle of grief and coping. Initially, strong emotions of shock, often guilt, disbelief and anger can take over our lives. As time passes, we become depressed, confused, overwhelmed by crying, episodes of fear, and nightmares. We may lose faith in God, the police, the justice system as the months pass. Friends do not realize the enormity of time needed for our mind and body to recover.
Men often cope differently than women.
This may lead to marital difficulties which adds to the grieving process and the time needed for recovery. Becoming involved in a support group helps. We are all in the process of grieving and recovery. We are among friends who help ourselves as we help others by listening, sharing, education, and action.