We're both headstrong, and our mutual dissatisfaction grew for a while. Luckily, we both have a sense of humor. I had to laugh and, in doing so, found out that it really helped rapport. Still she has a way of tapping on something, then pounding on it and then getting the battering ram out and knocking down the door, all without changing the approach to the problem. It implies motive and, without any proof, just judgment.
Sailing is about being interdependent.
No one wants to feel that the problem is their fault and particularly deliberately done. That type of action has never happened on New World, nor should it on any boat, because the fallout will be severe. I have a habit of liking things my way. If no one else were on board, I still would like the dishes done a certain way and the tools stored where I can get to them. Keeping the boat running is a full-time job.