Attitude is everything. Your attitude about yourself and how you expect others to treat you comes through in everything you do. Know and play to your assets, know and downplay your deficits. Women are the Queen Bees. It's a woman's job to attract men.
Men are the wannabes.
They wannabe with women. So ladies, let them. Men find women, women don't find men. Women let themselves be found. Men troll and hunt for women.