Keep the peace. What helps Mediators Notice when others become the referent for action. Use deadlines, structure, and positive feedback to support personal goals. Learn to shift attention when obsessive thought about the pros and cons of a decision take over. Focus on feelings when obsessive thinking begins.
Nines control by slowing down and refusing to act.
Recognize this passivity as anger. See anger as good news in disguise. Anger can reveal a previously submerged position. Nines decide more easily when they're given choices. They know what they don't want more readily than what they do want.