Later the Ten Commandments were given as a tool for structuring freedom. Finally, with the coming of the Messiah, a New Covenant was provided to show structure and order with a human face. The spirit of love, of which Jesus spoke, was to be lived out in a covenanted, disciplined community. But it is human nature to fail. We make wrong choices because of the frailties of the human spirit.
Failures are often the result of fatigue or stress.
While God gave everyone the same freedom, some seem to need more boundaries than others do. In any case, no one can live successfully without boundaries. Permanence is difficult because of human vulnerabilities. It involves the spiritual, physical, and emotional aspects of life. All marriages are affected by the influences of the surrounding culture that devalues permanence and overvalues pleasure and individualism.