If you become more observant, more aware, more sure, more confident. The more confident you are, the less likely you are to boast or brag, reduce the ego. When you walk or eat or sleep - your body knows how to do that. A monk carries a beautiful women across a stream. Just does it.
Morality is judged by intention.
The weaker man, no longer able to bear the strain of waiting for a blow from the sharpest blade known to man, would eventually strike the first blow. This is still used in business negotiations. Never make the first move. It shows your hand. Heiho 'The path to enlightenment' not enlightenment itself.