Finally, we must remember that when Jacob first saw Rachel he was already a prophet. His love for her and all his subsequent actions were consequences of this vision. This principle is one of the two pillars upon which Jewish marriage rests. We are to learn that marriage is the context in which a man and a woman attempt to recreate or approximate the perfect male-female union represented by Adam . Let us examine this lesson in detail.
Human relationships differ in the quality of integration they achieve.
Their individuality becomes subordinate to the group's needs and goals. The group is an association of individuals each of whom retains his own identity. He merely plays the role of group member at certain times, and at these times accepts the group's goals as his own. This relationship does not affect his essence . Such a total integration, which transforms the essence of the individual to the extent that he is no longer truly an individual , is the highest form of human relationship.