Respect each other and be honest about yourself by being accountable for your actions and your husband must be accountable for his. Seek spirtual help from God and do it together with your husband. Divorce is not the way to go. Remember there is an entire industry built around this notion and there are political and financial incentives for other to encourage divorce. Womens shelters are motivated through federal funding and feminist notions.
Most lawyers are essentially blood suckers looking to churn up a case for their own billing.
Very few are interested in true resolution. Lawyers are NOT your friend. The Phycholigists out there play multiple roles to line their own pockets. The court system is loaded with feminists looking to justify their jobs. The judges cry their case loads are too much but let the nonsence take place because it justifies their existance.