I here take on a possibility that might change the outcomes and developments of such arguments. Kelly Oliver, like Chodorow and Gilligan, argue that the family is not an institution that should be destroyed, but rather that it is one wherein the relationships need to be rethought. Rather then advocating the dismantling of family, we can consider renegotiating master narratives that suggest that sexual difference is a matter of biology. We should rethink assumptions which tie women to nature, body and matter, and therefore to the private household, and the ideas of social contract which reflect a perception of human nature. Oliver's discussion of the war between the sexes is extended to the fetus and maternal body.
Mom is the passive container taking the man's seed and existing as the house for the individual.
Paradoxically, women as nature's hostile environment are threatening chaos and anarchy. The fetus is in constant struggle for its life as an individual. Oliver discusses the medicalized gaze, which passes over the mother as subject in and of herself, and locates her only as the carrier of an overtly important potential social being. The woman's life is viable and important for the sake of and only for the sake of the potentiality of the autonomous agents she might bear. The woman as a life giver becomes cultural destroyer.