Make sure the choices you give match your child's age. For example, preschoolers might get to choose between the red shirt or the blue shirt or between green beans or green p eas for supper. Older children might get to choose between taking piano or dance lessons or between going to a movie or going swimming for an outing with mom or dad. By giving children choices we show that we trust their judgment. This will build a child's confidence and lead to more independence.
Independence comes from feeling capable, secure and in control.
We can develop that in our children by helping them to feel secure and by giving them choices.