For every action there's always an appropriate inaction. Too much foresight can cause blindness. Never marry because you like someone's car or truck . True selflessness flows from misunderstanding. Never argue with idiots they'll always manage to bring you down to their level where they use their superior experience in stupidity to defeat you.
People see what they want to see and disregard the rest.
They can only give you answers. If in doubt always let your gut decide. Pay little heed to what people are saying, but ignore what they do at your peril. Benign neglect is an oxymoron. An ounce of fear is worth tons of forewarning .