Obligatory communication reviews how life's responsibilities will be satisfied. To be sure, these kinds of communication are extremely important. Life needs to be reviewed and managed. However, it is easy to make the mistake of believing that a marriage can be sustained with just this type of communication. It can be all too easy to live at this level of intimacy for years.
More intimate communication comes from the heart.
It involves the sharing of deeper feelings and thoughts. It involves risk and opening up. A pre-requisite for good communication is making the time to communicate. The years pass on and the distance between two people slowly widens. After awhile, a couple realizes that they are standing on opposite ends of a wide chasm.