Anxiety is what it is - uncomfortable, distressed feelings and thoughts. You have anxious thoughts and feelings that can be tolerated and managed. You are not your anxious thoughts and feelings. Use this anxiety symptom checklist to assess ways that you experience anxiety. Or, at least, attitude has a lot to do with it.
Life can be difficult.
How stressed and anxious we feel though is not so much a matter of what upsetting events have occurred, but what meaning we give to those events. Stress is part of life. Our goal is not to eliminate stress but to reckon with it. A moderate level of stress or anxiety can even enhance one's performance. A paradoxical attitude is necessary to confront symptoms of anxiety and stress.