Use that red pencil of yours to circle and highlight everything you do that's right. It's as simple as praising your dog when he toilets on the street and ignoring him when he has an accident on your priceless Persian rug. Competitiveness with Self With the willingness and determination to compete with yourself on whatever the task of your choice, you will get better and better all the time. This means a real disregard of that old narcissistic need for applause, adoration, and worship. The Ability to Love Freud said that the reason for his phenomenal success was that his mother was madly in love with him.
Parental love is a key element in fostering amazing accomplishments in children.
In the frenetic 90's, achievement and accomplishment become so much a matter of panic that we often overlook the basic values of integrity and honesty. Extraordinary people never take shortcuts and will not compromise on their personal belief systems. When an extraordinary achiever wants to create his or her vision, compromise and dishonesty are out of the picture. The great British psychoanalyst Melanie Klein was the first to look at this dynamic. People who can emulate those they envy achieve their goals.