The successful people of this world take life as it comes. They just go out and deal with the world as it is.
Nothing happens by itself.
It all will come your way, once you understand that you have to make it come your way, by your own exertions. You must take the first step. The first steps will take some effort, maybe pain. But after that, everything that has to be done is real-life movement. It is inevitable that some defeat will enter even the most victorious life.