Every time I try, she comes down on me harder and harder. One time I had to open the window while she was yelling at me because I knew she wouldn't yell if any neighbors could hear. The other day she overheard me talking to a friend on the phone. I doubt that she will ever understand that, but I don't think that there is a way to tell her this without her yelling at me for even trying to talk to her about it. Thanks for your time.
Mom sounds out of control.
I don't know what's going on, but I do know that its not at all unusual for the angrier and more controlling of the two to believe they are the victim. Sometimes they are the victim who has had it and are at their wit's end. Except in extreme cases, many couples could exchange roles , at least at a behavioral if not psychological level. Both are angry . Neither parent is being responsible if you are being hurt.