These feelings must be explored so the estate plan reflects the parents' desires and needs. Feeling and Attitudes Estate planning assures that certain things happen at death. Planning is sometimes ignored because of a fear of death. This fear may be caused by worry about care for dependents. It may come from the knowledge that personal plans and projects will come to an end.
Estate planning can reduce such fears.
Some parents permanently postpone writing a will because they cannot decide who to name as guardians of their children. In their indecision, they leave the court with no guidance and their children with the possibility of inappropriate guardians. It is far better to name a first and second choice for guardians now and to change the designation if better choices evolve, than to postpone this decision completely. Parents need to be realistic about their resources. For example, when discussing the care of children, parents often say they want their estate used for a college education without thinking about how the children will be supported until they are of college age or whether the children will be college bound at all.