Men have the choice not to let our sexualities be manipulated by the pornography industry, not to let drugs numb us through our sex lives, and not to fixate on intercourse. Stoltenberg later includes sexual objectification as another central aspect of male supremacist sexuality. The second section of Refusing to be a man tackles father-son relationships, abortion and good sex'. While there are important insights in Stoltenberg's discussion of the first two subjects, I find his emotive and overly grand style hard to swallow. Pornography is the arch-enemy of gender justice for John Stoltenberg, and he spends three chapters on the close relationship between pornography and male supremacy.
Pornography tells lies about women.
But pornography tells the truth about men. Stoltenberg argues convincingly in Refusing to be a man that pornography creates a male supremacist sexuality. Sexism is eroticised. Pornography is also one of the main enforcers of homophobia. According to Stoltenberg, gay male porn is no different in selling male supremacy to men.