And parents are the teachers. Parenting-guides teach about life and how to live it the way God intended. Skills need to be illustrated and demonstrated and practiced. Parents model this skill as they settle their differences with spouses, friends, and relatives, and as they work through problems and crisis times. That's one reason why abusive and addicted and abandoning parents are so harmful to their own children.
Eye contact signals the ears are tuned in.
Really good listeners are difficult to find. This skill requires time, focused attention, meandering conversations, and the ability to hear the feelings behind the words. Most good listeners have learned how to listen while doing things together-like cooking, camping, playing catch, driving to appointments, etc. Doing things together requires the investment of time and time is one of the most abused adult resources. Involvement can mean lots of things, from tickling to teeter-tottering to traveling.