You are more than your shyness. Ph.D. 2000 the director of the Shyness Research Institute at Indiana University Southeast. Over 20 years of research has culminated in a book which can be quite shocking in its ability to accurately describe the thoughts, feelings, patterns, and behaviors of shy people. I was shocked for example, with the description of a shy person s conversation style. Carducci shows that unlike good conversationalists, shy people tend to have just one subject that they talk about.
Excellent advice is given on how to successfully deal with shyness.
Nor is shyness a character defect the should be repaired. There is no specific cause of shyness that can be identified or eliminated. Once you put shyness in perspective you will have more confidence in your ability to cope with it. At worst, shyness is a source of personal discomfort stemming from the choices you make. Throughout this book I will explain how you can make choices that will reduce your shyness and its corresponding discomfort, and how you can help your children, loved ones, friends, and coworkers if they are shy.