A recent study concluded that adolescents build a tolerance for alcohol faster than adults. This creates an incentive to drink more to get the same high, which may explain why teens are more likely to drink themselves to death. It's important for parents to support each other. Part of that support and validation is sharing hard-won insights. Kids push limits until they find them.
Kids think of structure as safety.
You have to start discipline young. 4C meets monthly. We are a group of parents, educators, concerned citizens and community groups working to reduce risky and dangerous behaviors among our young people. Asked my 13 year old, Jerry. When we check the stories, we find they used each other as a cover for a little free, unsupervised time.