Establishing a relationship with Him lifts a person involved in homosexuality out of the pit of deep insecurity and the need for the acceptance offered in homosexual liaisons. Much of homosexual activity is spawned in this search for unconditional acceptance. As Christ is allowed to meet that need, much of the motivation for homosexual activity is drained away. Once we have a strong, faithful relationship with Jesus to cling to, we can risk losing the inadequate and sinful relationships that we once needed. Any relationship with Christ, however, must include a growing desire to know and embrace His commandments.
Obedience is thus the second ingredient of change.
This challenge of obedience must be given in addition to, but in the context of , personal acceptance. Homosexual intimacy is not compatible with the teaching of Christ and His apostles. Christ is merciful, compassionate and patient with those overcoming homosexuality, as with all the rest of us. Yet He still gives His commands, His pattern for us to follow. He beckons us into that pattern, and challenges us to change so that our lifestyle fits with it more and more.