In your attempt to avoid the problem you have created one that can lead to serious complications, and it is so unfair to your spouse, whose feelings you were trying to spare. How much better it would have been to discuss your concern, find out how your partner feels about it and arrive at a positive course of action for resolving any differences. We both very much believe in the power of positive thinking. For us, it is almost a second nature to build self-esteem daily, both our own and each other's. Negative thoughts have no place in our lives.
Name calling or screaming at one another is a behavior that has no place in our lives.
It only hurts the other person and that is the last thing either one of us has ever wanted to do to the other. We also learned early in our marriage silence never resolves an issue. Rather, it make matters worse as hurt feelings fester when disagreements are left unresolved, and difficult problems become increasingly difficult. Always, we try to understand each other's point of view, even when we have strong differences of opinion, and sometimes this can be very difficult. This is especially true when each of us have attached different meanings to the words we are using to try to explain our thoughts.