You can take courses in virtually anything that might interest you. Loss is so much more predictable and inevitable than gain, and yet we are woefully ill-prepared to deal with loss. When we present open lectures on the subject of Grief Recovery , we often ask if anyone is still feeling pain, isolation, or loneliness as the result of the death of a loved one 20 or more years ago. There are always several hands raised in response to that question. While recovery from loss does take some time, it need not take as much time as you have been led to believe.
Recovery is totally individual, there is no absolute time frame.
Sometimes in an attempt to conform to other people's time frames, we do ourselves great harm. It is bad enough that well- meaning, well intentioned friends attack us with killer clich s , but then we start picking on ourselves. We start believing that we are defective or somehow deficient because we haven't recovered yet. They both imply that a non-action will have some therapeutic or recovery value. That by waiting, and letting some time pass, we will heal.