Take data on your thought and speech patterns. Be aware of the discomfort in your body when you say certain things and act in certain ways that are not consistent with who you really are. Our bodies provide marvelous feedback in terms of feelings of embarrassment, anxiety and even physical symptoms when what we say or do does not fit. As a woman thinketh, so she is. Clean up your life by cleaning up your negative thinking and language.
Energy follows thought.
You actually become what you think. Say and think only what you want to become true in your life. If you don't want something to happen don't give it energy by thinking about it. Challenge yourself to use words which promote acceptance and tolerance instead of those which promote separation from your true self and from others. Learn to never say things which limit you or another person.