I feel like a roommate, not husband and wife. Please help or send me in the right direction to find the answers. There are many symptoms including shame, flashbacks, anxiety, mood swings, and changes in sexual activity. Rape-related PTSD can last for a long time after the rape itself, especially if the survivor hasn't dealt with his or her feelings associated with the crime. Your husband is not alone.
Many men are hidden survivors of acquaintance rape.
Contrary to commonly held beliefs that men are too big, too strong, too much in control, or too much into sex to be sexually assaulted, a substantial number of men are victimized each year. According to the National Center for Victims of Crime, there were approximately 4,890 reported rapes of males age 12 and over in the U.S. in 1994. In 1985, the U.S. Department of Justice reported that there were 123,000 male rapes over a ten-year period. Many men are afraid or unwilling to tell anyone about their rape because of fear of being labeled homosexual. Also, the added shame of having more than one guy take advantage of you sexually can be doubly humiliating.