More and more throughout the years, in our workshops and counseling sessions, we see the pain, grief and even hopelessness in so many people because of childhood issues or unhealed wounds from the past. So many people carry the pain of abuse or neglect, whether physical or emotional. So many grieve over having had to grow up too soon, or not being accepted or understood as children. We don't know anyone who has received enough unconditional love as a child. There's no need to leave your partner in order to heal your past, as so many people have felt.
Relationship can be a powerful and dynamic tool for healing the past.
We want everyone to know this truth, and to know how to do this. Remember, you are a child as well as an adult. As a child, you want to play, but you also need comforting for your fear or pain. Notice clearly the child needing love in each person with whom you are in relationship. Don't ever be fooled by the grownup body of your partner, or their competence or seeming independence.