This fear is called internalized homophobia. It can cause sexual inhibition in women and men, although it may occur more often in men. Internalized homophobia is so powerful that up to 30 percent of lesbian, gay, and bisexual adolescents attempt suicide. It can also cause severe depression. Community groups for lesbian, gay, and bisexual people can be very helpful in building support and self-esteem for these young women and men.
Professional counseling is also helpful.
Internalized homophobia may make it very difficult for gay men and lesbians to develop intimate relationships with their sex partners. It can also create such fear that they will go without sex, pretend to be straight, or force themselves to have frustrating and disappointing sexual relationships with people of the other gender. Straight men who worry that some of their sexual desires and fantasies may be homosexual may be less able to develop intimate relationships with women. Men with internalized homophobia may also be more likely to commit gay-bashing and other forms of sexual assault. Internalized homophobia can be treated with professional counseling and psychotherapy.