I have included this question not only because I have never seen it raised in a church publication, but because I suspect it is a common concern. My response is meant for anyone and everyone in the church, not just the pastor's spouse. The key to understanding the brief description above is the word use. Any activity, whether it be selling merchandise or recruiting fellow members for a private crusade, garbles the clear message of the gospel. We come together through God's grace and we live together in that same grace.
Grace seeks what is best for another-it sacrifices itself to redeem another.
Grace never uses people as objects, but serves people as subjects of our love. With such a concern, the why of our words and actions is important. People are constantly judging whether we are genuinely interested in them or in moving our agenda forward. People are constantly deciding if our motives are self-serving or God serving. With such concerns, it becomes clear that any use of the fellowship of faith to further personal ends undermines our life together.