Debt and surplus, which is what you need for security, are opposites. You can't have both. So give yourself permission to give meaningful gifts that won't stress you financially. Every year many people make a list of New Year's Resolutions. More often than not, these resolutions are not followed, which leads to feelings of disappointment and failure.
Prosperity is about creating the feeling of success.
When you can feel successful inside, your outer life will reflect that feeling. So, don't sabotage yourself by making promises to yourself that you can't keep. Choose one small thing you would like to accomplish and give yourself enough time to do it. Each time you do this, give yourself a pat on the back. The idea is to develop the habit of praising yourself.