There is more than one reason that dependency is an important part of the spiritual growth process. Let s look at a few of them. Most importantly, dependency brings us love and grace, which are the essential fuels for survival. Just as a car needs gasoline, we are constructed so that we must have certain elements to keep us going. Even if we cannot experience the need for this fuel, we will find out that we must have it by what happens when it gives out.
Life begins to break down.
Studies show that people who have maintained long-term loving connections will tend to have better and longer lives. By the golden years, they look back over their journeys and are satisfied with the meaning and purpose they experienced. The other end of this is true, too. The lack of relationship causes problems. For example, many depressions, anxiety problems and compulsive behaviors are symptoms of lack of bonding inside the person.