I also feel that it is a good idea to know your husband's salary and as many of his business concerns as possible. This is in no way to infringe upon his individuality, but it is simply a safeguard in the event that something happens to him. It is unfortunate indeed that many husbands have passed on and left their wives without one iota of business judgment. This has often resulted in the unnecessary loss of money. Therefore, I would advise you to seek to show your husband the practicality as well as the morality of discussing his salary and business concerns with you.
Marriage is a cooperative enterprise in which two individuals are seeking to become one.
You may do well to seek to convince your husband of the wisdom of having joint bank accounts. My problem is that I don't like to fight unless I have to. Like you said in a speech once, when someone hates you don't fight back but love them and pray for them. Well, I do that, but it doesn't seem to help. Last night I got into an argument with one of my friends.