We may be able to gloss over the problems by talking them out or learning ways to cope but eventually they will return in another form or fashion unless the inner work is accomplished. Healing the seperation between ourselves and other relationships involves healing our inner life. Once we are able to at least return to a place in which we value ourself and no longer are needy and clingy then we will once again be in a place that we will either attract someone else or the old relationships will fall into place. Information on the etheric level is instantaneous and there is no way to hide our inner dialogue from someone else. If we do not sincerely work through these issues then we will continue to encounter the same problems over and over in our life until we either accept them as our reality or the issues becomes so problematic and painful that we simply have to face them.
Many people accept unhealthy relationships in their life.
It is simply a choice and we all have free will. However, true happiness can never come from such a relationship and it is most likely that it will break down eventually anyway. Making the choice to be healthy for ourself is the one that must be made. The universe can not be conned and any attempt to make ourselves healthy for someone else will be thwarted because it is our own growth that we are here for and not someone elses. We are submitting ourselves before something outside ourself and that is causing a neurotic life pattern.