Sometimes it is difficult to see the good side and the bad side and know that they are a part of the same person. I can integrate the two by remembering one when I witness the other. I try to remember that both balance each other out, and either side by itself would be unrealistic. Bring It Up Sometimes, the thought of discussing something important is scary, especially when the issue is painful and sensitive. But, I found that the longer I wait to discuss an important issue, the worse it gets.
More problems add to it, and it becomes even more difficult to talk about.
So, at least for me, bringing things up is better than letting them sit. Sometimes I grow so accustomed to needing that I forget I have anything to give. Sometimes I forget that I am not always the victim. Others may need me more than I need them, even though habit leads me to expect the opposite. Helping I cannot help someone who does not want help, and if they want help, they do not really need it, because everyone has the power to find the answers they need.