I guess they just want validation. There are people who get surprised or angry when you react in a human way, but I think it's part of why they care so much about places like Echo and Table Talk. But when there's flexibility, you get people who are more invested in putting down roots with you. It makes sense. But if they kicked me out of New York, I'd be devastated.
Failures are more interesting to deconstruct.
It surprised me how intolerant people are. Not just about the Nazi, but about anything or anyone different. When I put the decision in their hands, then they respond closer to how I respond, which is to wait before kicking people off. It's the downside of a small town. When you move to a small town it's harder to find acceptance.