We can diminish the impact of words alone and insist that behavior and words match. We came, however to believe that what we knew, was love. With our misguided under- standing of love, then, we have gone on to accept behavior from others in our lives as love, when in fact, it is not love. When there is a descrepancy between what one says and what one does confusion reigns at the very least. Healthy love is consistent.
Healthy love is as unconditional as any human can make it.
Healthy love is not frought with descrepancies and broken promises. What one says, must also be what one does. In order for there to exist a healthy trust between any two people congruency is of paramount importance. Today, I will do myself the honour of attempting to communicate with anyone in my life that is incongruent. I will ask why words and actions do not match rather than try to interpret that.