Some bonding occurs during roughhousing, and during the posturing and banter that are art forms among adolescent males. Whether boys' conduct and the results are logical or not at those times is irrelevant. The truth is young men are not always kind to each other. However, in the right setting and with good counseling, those same behaviors often result in opportunities for expressions of caring, compassion, and understanding. We, as parents and school officials, have to show the cadets the need and means for changing negative behavior into positive interpersonal relationships.
Good communication is the first step in attaining that goal.
By the time we parents have finally learned all of the lessons we need to know about parenting, our children have grown up and moved away from home. We can't start over with them, so we practice our newly-found parenting skills on our grandchildren.