Last week we went to his college orientation. I dropped him off and watched him walk into the dorm. I did not know the people that were waiting for him on the other side of the door, but you can bet that when I met with him after orientation I asked many, many questions. As Kamien shows, questions can serve many functions. Asking specific questions can provide us with information, and allow us to show interest, model values, uncover problems and highlight accomplishments.
Questions provide opportunities for connection, understanding and, when necessary, advocacy.
Even when action cannot be taken, questions can provide opportunities for us to comfort and to support our children at all ages in their educational careers. Randye E. Cohen is a lecturer in the department of psychiatry at Dartmouth's Hitchcock Medical Center and a psychotherapist in private practice in Vermont. Her column is not a substitute for therapy. This information is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice. You should not use this information to diagnose or treat a health problem or disease without consulting with a qualified healthcare provider.