Dare to defy them. Work on loving yourself. Each day, we have a chance for new wonderful beginnings. The pain of the past can't be denied or made to disappear, but neither should we pay homage and worship it as a foreteller of our future. Tomorrow is what we make it.
Many people become slaves to their past.
If something didn't work out, they assume nothing will work out. They somehow lose their ability to see that every day, every relationship, every situation holds within it its own original and distinct possibilities. They give the past much too much credit. Right now, release yourself from being a slave to the past. Yes, we must acknowledge our pain.