Subscribe Sun Ad. Learn the gentle art of cooperation. Related to wanting to be right, competition in a marriage is corrosive - it eats away at all the good stuff. If you are going to compete, compete together to have the very best marriage you can have. Talk about the important stuff.
Most couples spend more time planning a vacation than they do planning for their relationship.
Build from there. If you get stuck, ask or hire someone to help. Forgive as much or more than you would like to be forgiven. Sometimes forgiveness is a gift you give yourself, especially when you do not feel like it. Forgiveness can release you from the pain of the offense.