Once everybody understands the situation and goals have been set and a plan agreed upon, the initial fear and anxiety will subside. Most people settle down. They have intellectualized the problem and are proceeding in a rational manner to try to solve it. But, just because you are now dealing with the situation in an intellectually rational manner does not mean that you can avoid your irrational emotions. The emotions are still there and will always be there.
Emotions are irrational.
That can be detrimental, but it is also supremely beneficial. All of our play and all of our pleasures result from irrational activity. Fun is irrational. Falling in love is irrational. Our irrational emotions are our most human quality.