Talking about specifics will help to keep the current conversation from becoming one more episode in whatever unresolved conflicts might be in the background of your conversations. Your listener, like all of us, may sometimes be in the grip of feelings of embarrassment, resentment or self-doubt unrelated to the present situation . The more vague and open-ended a criticism is, the easier it is for your listener to hear it as part of those other conflicts. Of course, your tone of voice is important here. It s important that you yourself are not carrying forward old complaints.
Life is lived best one day at a time.
We criticize people for not giving us what we ourselves are afraid to ask for. Marshall Rosenberg Explanatory clauses can move people to cooperate. Research in social psychology has revealed that many people respond more positively to explained requests than to unexplained requests, even when the supposed explanation is obvious or doesn t actually explain much of anything. I m really thirsty. For many people the second form of the requests is much more inspiring.