Sometimes, someplaces, yes, they were. Each culture has its own attitudes concerning homosexuality. Try finding out what your personna's attitudes would have been. No one should assume anything because a somebody is or is not wearing a blue feather. If you want to know why a person is wearing one, ask them politely.
Most gay people go through the same approach and courtship rituals that straight people do.
If vou don't respond to the initial overtures, they'll probably assume that you aren't interested. End of problem. We also exist as a social organization, to facilitate interaction among the members of the Society, especially those who are gay, lesbian, or bisexual. Lord Giovanni di Cellini, Northkeep.