When one person begins to change, the dance changes. You can change some aspects of your behavior and thereby change the nature of the interaction between you. The issues of jealousy and control can be very destructive to any relationship. You state that you both have difficulties in these areas. Perhaps you could suggest to your wife that you would like to seek professional help together to learn how you can be a better husband.
Most men have few good role models for relating to women.
What we learn, we learn in the street, from observing those around us, and from our friends. Given the high proportion of marriages that end in divorce, it becomes clear that these are not good sources of information. Since both of you have invested five years into your marriage it might be a good idea to seek some expert guidance from a licensed marriage counselor before you end the marriage. Time and space, without intervention, may not be sufficient to get your marriage on track. Best Good Fair Poor Dr. Edward A. Dreyfus is a Clinical Psychologist, Marriage, Family, Child Therapist, and Sex Therapist.