Whatever your unique differences, it is your job as parents to come up with methods to organize your life in ways that simplify your stress rather than exacerbate it. We often learn our organizational skills from our parents. It is possible that your wife grew up in a family that functioned poorly in terms of organization, or was rigidly structured to the point that she developed a rebellion against all organizing. Regardless, she chose you as a husband. Clearly you represent a different perspective, and one she may very much need to incorporate.
Marriage is a partnership.
There is always room to learn from each other. Share your feelings with your wife. Let her know that she has many qualities you admire and that you appreciate the loving care she provides as a mother and wife. This is not a threat, it is simply a reality of the conflict between you over organization in the family. You are a family member and a co-leader of the family.