Even if the birth is difficult or a cesarean delivery, men still feel strongly about being together at this special time. Fathers' importance in participating at the birth is finally getting the acknowledgement it deserves. Expectant fathers also need to explore what they need at the birth. Many of the new fathers I have worked with talked about how important having a male friend available for them was. MEN Men in western industrialized countries get little preparation as to how to make the transition from man to father.
Many men begin during the pregnancy to develop a bond with their child.
Expectant fathers in my groups have talked about how they-enjoyed laying their hands on their partner's belly and talking to their babies. This very personal and private communication is very powerful as a prenatal bonding ritual. Helping choose the birth attendants, midwife or doctor, and being involved in the choice of where the baby will be born is another way men begin becoming involved. Make your children a priority in life. When children feel they are important, their self-esteem blooms.