It is hard to know whether I want to bake cakes and arrange flowers because that's me or because that's what ladies do. I still get upset when I read articles by Germaine Greer insulting women with AIS, and I have bad days when I feel like a horrible freak that ought to be dead. But I can recognize that as unrealistic and irrational, and work on feeling better tomorrow. I think the most vital thing a parent can do for a child with AIS is to be open and not to pass on their terror of discovery. Children deserve the truth because it is their truth and it can be revealed in sensible and caring ways.
Parents ought to defend their children against the doctors, too, and be assertive.
It is very hard to forget being let down by your parents.