Sometimes it helps to talk to another man about how he felt and what he feared when he was expecting a baby. Talk about how he managed those feelings. Another way to deal with anxiety about money is to start planning a budget that includes the expenses of a new baby and running a household, and leaves room for an occasional night out for mom and dad. It may also help to start a college fund. If people feel they're doing something proactive, it's not so frightening.
Men often feel shut out of the process.
They may feel a sense of loss and some anger, and they don't know where to go with those feelings. A good way to deal with these emotions is to talk openly about them and realize that they are completely normal. It also helps to get involved in the pregnancy and the preparation for childbirth and parenthood along with the expectant mom. Attend Lamaze classes. Go to doctor's appointments.