Since we've been living together, we've been fighting more intensely without resolution. I think the stress of the move and our careers has made both of us more selfish and less attentive. I want to try to work things out, but she just wants time away. I still love her very much. Making the change from dating to living together is stressful.
People have all kinds of fantasies and imaginings about what it's like.
And sometimes, the fantasies come true. Most times, though, there's an adjustment period for which couples are not prepared. When you're living with someone, you have to show your every mood and feeling. I would guess there are things going on for your girlfriend that she's not expressing. She's probably a bit afraid of the commitment she made, and afraid to communicate this fear to you because of the turmoil it could cause in your lives.