It gradually fades as we mature. In fact, even as infants our ability to control the behavior of adults through our tears is a myth. As infants, some of us learned that even when we did cry no one came. Unfortunately, many boys are told this by the adults who abuse them so it is quite understandable how one can grow to believe it. It is a lie.
Offenders typically blame their victims for the abuse.
Child victims who accept the lie as truth become adults who believe that they are somehow flawed as people. Sexual exploration is a natural and normal part of growing up. The younger the child, the less likely he will be able to understand the significance of the behavior he is engaging in. Like anything else, children learn sexual behavior from adults. There is a common misconception that women do not sexually abuse children.