The best part is that my husband is very understanding about the whole situation and has not pressured me in any way. He said that he will be patient with me and keep trying. Many women approach their first sexual encounter with the same mixture of excitement and fear. It's great that you've shared your concerns with your fiance. You will both be able to approach this milestone with the tenderness and kindness that it deserves.
Many women have no discomfort at all with their initial intercourse.
The determining factor is generally the size of the opening to the vagina. The tissues inside the vagina are elastic and easily stretch to accommodate an erect penis. However, the hymenal ring at the opening to the vagina is less accommodating and this is where a tear, and bleeding, may occur with penetration. There are a few easy ways to know if your vaginal opening is snug. If the speculum is easily introduced into your vagina, you should not have trouble with penetration during intercourse.