There are unending rehearsals, recriminations, fantasy arguments, even puns and quips. Such a person avoids contact with emotions and non-verbal reality. He is isolated from the rest of his personality and is contemptuous of his body. The words flooding from his mind thus wash-out direct contact with the moment. Since open, direct feeling terrifies most people, they may erect walls of words as a barrier to emotion.
Much neurotic behaviour is based on the desperate wish to avoid emotional pain.
An event is interpreted, judged and labelled in such a way that a particular emotional response is inevitable. You are constantly describing the world to yourself, giving each event or experience some label. You make interpretations of what you see or hear, you judge events as good or bad, painful or pleasurable, you predict whether they will bring danger or relative safety. Since childhood people have been telling you what to think. You have been conditioned by family, friends and the media to interpret events in certain ways.