Get input from the kids before posting the chore list. If they are a part of creating it, they're more likely to follow it, Gibson said. But even with input, every child won't greet every chore with cheer every time. Gibson said avoid nagging, threatening or berating children into doing their chores. The key to deflecting power struggles is in the approach.
Natural consequences work too.
If you don't do the laundry, there are no clean clothes to wear to school. But that strategy only goes so far. That way, if the parent has to step in and do the child's chore, the child can then take care of the parent's chore. I fed the dog. You're welcome to visit your friends as soon as the toilet is clean.