Comments I was trying to give Carmie some very constructive help. People without facial deformities like yourself typically decide that our problems are imagined and that we should go see a shrink.
Psychologists often find it frustrating to deal with people with cleft and other facial deformities.
They typically encourage people to do more social activities. However, this does not eliminate, but makes us painfully aware of our differences. My guess is that shrinks help people with facial deformities but the progress is much slower. People with facial deformities generally find it much more difficult to move forward in social situations. Another example with my sister that might demonstrate my point.