People center their identities on their individuality, rather than on their ethnicity. They become husbands or wives, lovers or friends first, and members of a group second. The particular property of the narcissistic gaze is that it glances up at the Other only to confirm its differences. Then it looks down again and turns its gaze upon itself. It does not engage with the Other in any real sense.
Narcissist anxiety expresses itself chiefly in passive self-absorption.
A narcissist is uninterested in others except to the extent that they reflect back upon himself. What is different is rejected if it fails to confirm the narcissist in his self-opinion.