If you're unhappy, make sure the other person is, too. Life is perfect. Relationships should always be perfect. People have to be perfect. If you're caught in a lie, blame it on someone else, change your story and compound the lies-it really helps get people confused, including yourself.
Money equals power and control.
Make sure you control the money or use theirs. Who you simply ARE is not important-pretend to be someone different. Other people's feelings don't matter, only your own. How dare they hurt YOUR feelings. Good guys finish last.