Many Christian men know that filling their minds with sexual images is diminishing their capacity to relate to others in a healthy way. They know it's wrong, but in their hearts they don't care. In most cases, it's not that a man can't let go of pornography. He won't let go because he feels he deserves to look. Brewing deep within his soul is a rarely acknowledged level of cynical rage that justifies his excursions to the unreal fantasy world of perfect bodies and sexual seduction.
Men are usually surprised by the degree and intensity of anger in their souls.
Because others don't appreciate them. They believe others require too much of them or expose their inadequacies. They're angry about the lack of meaning and fulfillment in life. Christian men are especially angry and disillusioned with a religious system that hasn't lived up to its billing. They've jumped through all the hoops, and their lives are still not working out as they thought they would.