The clit is usually seven millimeters or less in diameter and about two centimeters stretched length. Normal labia majora are soft and covered with skin and varying amounts of hair. Normal labia minora are thin, stretchy and covered with mucous membrane. Some are barely noticeable, some hang a centimeter or more past the labia majora. Any size of labium is normal as long as it doesn't cover the urethral or vaginal openings.
Most women are a bit lopsided.
Some babies who have been exposed to a lot of testosterone in the womb have large clits, ridges on their labia majora like scrota, or labia that are stuck together and require surgical separation. Most of these girls' genitals will work perfectly well, and each variation has its fans. You won't be everybody's type, but you will be somebody's. Your job is to love yourself, be proud of your body and be aware of the incredible gift you give another woman when you make yourself vulnerable in the act of sex. Beth Brown is a family physician and author of numerous health and interactive columns for the queer press.