God's word can stimulate you more profoundly than lust. Romance is future tense. It is a feeling, and we imagine those feelings to be proof of a long lasting love. It can be an impulsive decision made with no regard to the future. At the spur of the moment, immediate gratification is mind.
Many people decide to take things as they come.
They may not be sure of what they want to spend their life doing. They search around from one career to another, from one partner to another, thinking if their lucky, they will find what or who they want. Fear tells them not to get trapped in a mode or enslaved trying to live out someonelse's dream. Men cripple themselves chasing women instead of a career, waking up years later, well into their 40's, with no skill to support themselves. They resort to all they know to survive, attach themselves to a woman capable of supporting them.