I began to feel okay again and was even able to laugh at the unpredictability of life. I took the I out of the experience. Becoming more skilled at living life requires practice in the same way becoming a skilled pianist or painter or writer requires practice. It s so easy to see why this particular picture of how life should be needs to be shattered. If it isn t, not much can happen in the way of practicing and learning new life skills.
Peace comes from understanding that life is what it is.
It may not be perfect, it may not be just, it may not be what I hope for, but it is what it is. I can spend my time and energy wishing for what doesn't exist, wanting to change the past and control the future, or I can accept life for what it is and go on. Peace also comes from accepting myself as I am. It s about the choices I make. One of the values of having a therapist, life coach or mentor is the help this person can provide in identifying what attachments, expectations, or pictures are holding us in discomfort, pain and suffering.