You, frankly, no longer matter. Nor, in today's system, does the concept of meaning, which drives even further into the core. Forget it as a tool for insight. Now it is a weapon. No longer the possession of the speaker, meaning is in the sole possession of the listener.
Perception is all.
The speaker is merely the conduit. Person A says and means one thing. Person B hears and interprets another. Person A might as well not even be present. Person B is calling all the shots.