You don't get gangrene from sex, because it doesn't constrict the blood vessels. I've certainly never seen it. The gray color is probably a variant of normal which you've just noticed. If you have pain, or are still in doubt, go to your doctor or a walk-in clinic. Don't be embarrassed.
Reassurance is worth a lot.
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