Gays come in as many different shapes, colors, and sizes as do heterosexuals.
Only a very small percentage can be identified by stereotypic mannerisms and characteristics. In fact many heterosexuals portray a variety of the so-called gay stereotypic characteristics. This is an old pattern that was evident in some gay relationships when gays had only the traditional heterosexual relationship as a model. There is no right or wrong way that prescribes how to divide roles between partners. This is by far one of the most controversial issues for people who are gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender.