It is vital that the relational aspects of therapy, or getting along with people, come first when teaching EFT, otherwise it is just a technique. Techniques can be like a trick , unless therapists integrate EFT naturalistically into their style of couple therapy. The key feature of EFT is that it must be used by the couple, or, despite good intentions, they might only use it to get relief of one problem then forget all about it. When I have very good rapport, either partner can do intense work. Either can tap for the hurt and negative feelings that rise up with the situation.
Partners can tap on each other simultaneously.
But I m not perfect Effects can be dramatic, with a lot less bickering about right and wrong. During this process there is also a feeling for each of being heard and understood. Although both do experience the problem from opposite sides, both feel settled by the EFT experience rather than struggling for justification, or a verdict from the therapist. So far in my practice, complete couple therapy like this is relatively rare, because I still see more individuals than couples. Further, Gary Craig is not a licensed health professional and offers EFT as an ordained minister and as a personal performance coach.