It is the simplest and most basic secret, not only of the Taoist masters but of every esoteric tradition. It is the key to mastering the Taoist secrets of love. The Taoists called this polarity yin and yang, terms that have become popular today in the field of holistic health, but are not well understood in terms of their functioning in sexuality. O ne way the Taoists describe it is with the simple metaphor of cooking. Yang is fire, and yin is water.
Man is the fire and woman is the water.
Yin, the soft and yielding, always conquers yang, the hard. Thus, a stream slowly wears away a giant mountain and carves the Grand Canyon a mile deep. In fact, the Taoist sages also used the metaphor of combat to elucidate the act of sexual love. Ideally you enter the battle of the sexes with a spirit of gamesmanship. You approach not with the intention of defeating your lover, but in the hope of matching her grace and receptive energy with the exact complementary male skill and force.