If you've been raped and are now able to talk about it, you should be encouraged to do so. Most likely you're feeling guilty and devastated by the act even though it's not your fault. Even if you did something unwise, such as walking through a park alone at night, you didn't ask to be attacked and aren't to blame. Many sexual assault victims live in fear after an assault, and the fear becomes a controlling influence in your life. It may help to talk about options that will make you feel safer, such as installing new locks or learning self-defense so that instead of fear controlling you, you control it.
Rape causes women to feel powerless, helpless, and out of control.
Effective counseling focuses on helping you regain control of your life. Your dignity has been taken away when you're raped, so it's important to begin regaining control as soon as possible. Copyright 2001 Contra Costa Crisis Center.