By adolescence, it becomes clear that kids observe and mimic adult behaviors. In addition, they may increase their attention to their own conduct, decide what they do not want their kids to repeat, and change those behaviors. Finally, parents may model behaviors that are naturally difficult for their children. For instance, if Paul feels his son has poor manners, he can work hard to practice impeccable manners himself, and make sure his son notices. Positive modeling does not guarantee that a teenager will change her behavior, but it improves the odds.
Most parents understand the concept of rewarding good behavior.
Although parents cannot control their children, they absolutely can control their valued items and privileges, and this has a strong influence on how teenagers act. Once you know what your teen wants, you don't have to control her, punish her, or take things away from her. Most kids understand this and do what is necessary to get a payoff. Parents increase their power and influence when they give rewards immediately following desirable behaviors and include praise, love, and attention. To really promote positive behaviors in teenagers, parents must pounce on them when they occur.