I don't want to add to your stress. When your boss feels understood by you, he or she will probably drop a few coins into your emotional bank. You'll get a nod of approval or a few friendly suggestions. When you ask for change, suggest small improvements. Ask for what your boss can realistically deliver.
Nothing works every time.
In some cases, your boss may grumble and appear more upset. He or she may need to ponder on your input or suggestions. Some people like to mull over issues before they wave the white flag. A boss who is very emotionally cold may not soften up in front of you. The softening up may come later.