A young woman can be sexual and remorseful and also compose talking points. All of us, as women, have free will to make our own bold and sometimes stupid choices. Youth and weakness have nothing to do with it. This is the core of the problem that people have with you, Monica. Our sexuality is supposed to make us feel guilty.
Popular opinion indicates that people prefer a woman who seems more victim than opportunist.
On the other hand, attempting to build up one's self-esteem by abusing other women, like Hillary Rodham and Chelsea Clinton, is unacceptable and inhumane. Obviously, you never expected to have to consider the political implications of your sex life, but things fall apart. You have forced a much-needed national debate about women and sexuality. Your flagrant comfort with your sexual self is, to me, completely and unconditionally feminist. Your story is moving the discourse of feminism, stagnant for so long, forward.