No wonder their marriage was in serious trouble. Her negative attitudes and actions compounded the original problem. It s widely assumed that you can t change your spouse. Because we re relational creatures, we re influenced through our relationships. That never works, because the moment your spouse realizes you re trying to exert control, there ll be rebellion.
Nobody wants to be controlled.
But all married couples influence each other every day. But when a guy comes home and walks straight to his computer room without acknowledging his wife s presence, he s influencing her negatively. A woman would respond differently to those two different approaches. This radical reality can bring about amazing changes in a spouse when one partner is willing to choose a positive attitude that leads to positive actions. I never dreamed he could be so loving and kind.