Mindi is great in the galley, but she is not a mechanic. So, the mechanical jobs are mine. We both prefer it this way. I will do galley duties, and Mindi will check the oil, and we both will help each other. Eighth, as corny as it sounds, we both try to reward good behavior.
People do what gets rewarded.
None of us respond to criticism as well as we would like to think. However, the good often gets trod underfoot, and that is the very glue of alliance in a short-handed crew. For example, when we get to port, I make it a point to take Mindi out to eat at a restaurant or two. She has spent hours in a rolling galley, and that is as hard as fixing anything on the boat or reefing the sails. Ninth, accept who you are, and encourage the other person to be who he or she is.