When a woman loves a man she feels responsible to assist him in growing and tries to help him improve the way he does things. She thinks she is nurturing him, while he feels he s being controlled. Instead, he wants her acceptance. Achieving goals is very important to a man because it is a way for him to prove his competence and thus feel good about himself. And for him to feel good about himself he must achieve these goals by himself.
Men pride themselves in doing things all by themselves.
To offer a man unsolicited advice is to presume that he doesn t know what to do or that he can t do it on his own. Men are very touchy about this, because the issue of competence is so very important to them. Offering help to a man can make him feel incompetent, weak, and even unloved. When a woman tries to improve a man, he feels she is trying to fix him. He receives the message that he is broken.