A simple unreflective fact of life becomes an issue. A woman can leave, if she wants easy rapport with men and the choice of attractive lovers. There are, after all, so many more women than men here. These involvements range from flirtations to fullblown affairs. Thos option, of course, carries with it its own complications.
Most faculty members are married.
The very covertness required for this option mitigates the pleasure of something which, to be fully appreciated, must be relaxed, easy and open. I am not denying the ordinary and real rocks which proverbially strew the path of true love. The problem is that this means that women who never had to spend overmuch time and energy on obtaining male companionship have suddenly found that they do spend overmuch time and energy on it. At least thinking about it. But there is at least one other alternative which I have observed.