I asked her about the greatest problem married couples face today. We enter marriage with our own agendas. If a person marries for what they can get rather than what they can give, they will have problems. Couples that are incapable of adjusting expectations are destined for emotional estrangement. Selfishness is the root of all sin.
Marriage is no exception.
All of the moonlight dinners, cards, and special weekends are merely Scotch tape and Band-Aids on cancer if the servant heart is absent. The world is led to believe that I can be happy if you do this. Contrary to this mindset my behavior should not be contingent on yours. Each person must do what is right because it is the right thing to do not because something is coming back in return. When we focus on God and live to please Him, we gain strength to deal with life's struggles.