My family is so supportive, and around the holidays I really start to miss them. Connect with your own family as much as you can and include him. Just try to include him as much as you possibly can, but realize you can't make him have a happy holiday season. Yes, you're absolutely right. You need to take care of yourself first.
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What can I do to help my Catholic-Jewish family come together during the holidays. There are fundamental differences, but I would love them to be there when my son opens his presents on Christmas momorning. My husband is Jewish and I'm Catholic, so I understand this issue very well. I think he needs to understand both holidays. At five, it can be confusing, but it's also a great time to start family traditions.