We are having a difficult time blending our lives together. My husband really hurts my feelings at times because I will overhear phone conversations in which he is making plans to do things with friends. He knows I am within hearing range but offers no explanation of why he doesn't include me in the planning. I always let him know when I will be doing something with a friend so that he doesn't plan any family things for that time. Gayle Peterson Gayle Peterson, MSSW, PhD is a family therapist specializing in prenatal and family development.
Marriage is the blending of two different family cultures.
Differences in styles of relating and expectations inevitably brings up conflict that must be resolved through communication. It is up to you and your husband to create the kind of family that you want to have together. Part of the joy of any marriage lies in developing a shared vision of family. It is likely that you are assuming things about your husband's behavior that exacerbate your sense of hurt and alienation. If so, you may be putting the horse before cart.