Sixty-five percent said they liked it a lot. Wear makeup, the book says. Diet and exercise. Build a shapely body. In a world of female passivity, seeing women as objects is what men, too, learn to do.
Men intuitively discover that it hurts less to be rejected by an object than by a full human being.
Vulnerability to female rejection affects men further. Instead of mentioning faults and foibles to be more dimensional, a man may feel pressured to play up his strengths. Subtly or unsubtly, he may try to convince Ms. Right that nothing bothers him, that he can handle anything. His constant concern about his next initiative being rejected tends to drive a man to go on hiding his real self, just as the fear that he won't take another initiative pushes the woman to go on hiding her real face and go on presenting a beauty image. Find out afterwards if you are Mr. Right or a sexual harasser.