It's easy to get locked into the power struggle issues. If you can step back and find some common interests, it helps. You should also get to know your children's world, even though it may seem foreign, Vickers said. Listen to their music, read their literature, get to know their friends. And stay involved in their school activities.
Many parents stop volunteering when their kids get older and never step inside a high school.
She suggested pretending you're watching your kids on television. You can also walk out of the room for a while until you get calmed down. Let's talk again. Diane Eakin, guidance counselor at Godby High School, also suggested talking with your teens about your own youth. If you screwed up, tell them about it.