Understanding conversations make us smarter because they allow us to see enough different viewpoints that we get a real picture of what is going on. This is like the difference between changing a line in a blueprint and moving the walls after the building is constructed. To reach closure effectively, practice it on something that is important, current and needs resolution. Sit down and have the communication. This requires knowing how to ask questions and having good listening skills.
Most questions contain assumptions that invite negative, defensive responses.
If your goal is to prevail and be right, then ask presumptive questions. Find the moment of attitude conversion. It is clearly recognizable and only requires that you look for the moment during or after a thorough, efficient communication in step 3. Now is the time to devise strategies. Devise Strategies .