She and Greg had corresponded only sporadically since her return to the States. Melissa had to recognize and let go of her resentment toward Greg for urging her to have the abortion and refusing to talk about it afterward. The study emphasizes that forgiveness doesn't have to mean reconciliation, nor is it based on feelings. It is an act of obedience to God. The study suggests that many women have abortions because of other unresolved issues, such as abuse or fear.
Recovery requires dealing with the factors that led to the abortion.
Mother's Day and anniversaries of the abortion and projected birth date still remind Melissa of her loss, but the memories don't burden her the way they once did. S he emphasizes that her freedom and healing did not result from positive thinking or boosting her self image. Rather they came from freely acknowledging her mistake and accepting God's love and forgiveness. Melissa still marvels at the miraculous way God has turned tragedy into blessing in her life. Copyright 2000 Women Today Magazine .