The first thing that we can do to facilitate change in our life is to simply work on ourselves. Allow yourself to have some quiet time everyday for inner reflection. It is helpful to do this at a set time everyday. Early morning works best for me. Or late after everyone has gone to bed may be better for you.
Many people go for a walk to escape the chatter and distractions of their household.
Make this a priority in your life. Learn to listen to your mind. The next step after you have established a quiet connection with yourself is to reprogram negative thought patterns with positive ones. This is especially helpful when working on raising your self- esteem. If you feel good about yourself and are using a positive approach when making an appeal to your mate you have won half the battle.