Telling yourself the truth is the first step. Good leaders create visions of what it would be like if something were better. They look to the future and not the past. They develop strategies to make those visions a reality and they teach people how to make those strategies work. Good leaders understand that people are fundamentally, intrinsically motivated to do the right things, to make a contribution, to make a difference.
Good leaders do everything they can to drive out fear.
Good leaders understand that the way we contribute is through service to others, and that such service must be a mutually beneficial relationship. They also do everything they can to develop as many win-win relationships as possible. Good leaders understand that people in a team will optimize their contribution based on how good they feel about being in that team and how self-fulfilled they are in their work. Leadership, while it exists in relationship with others, begins inside and comes from a higher level of personal self regard and true self-confidence. Out of this comes courage to do what you believe is right.