Effective fathers know what hurts and haunts their children as well as what brings them joy and pleasure. These fathers know what makes their children different from every other child in the neighborhood. They are aware of the various shades, colors and hues of their children's personalities. Ken R. Canfield, author of the Seven Secrets Of Effective Fathers, surveyed 4,000 men to determine what contributes to effective fathering. Most of his child's recent disappointing experiences.
Good fathers look, listen and learn.
They are always on the lookout for healthy role models. They listen to other successful parents, seeking to learn from them better and more effective ways to parent their own children. They talk to other fathers and perhaps choose one as a model or mentor. They consult with their children's teachers, coaches, neighbors, and relatives. They read books about fathering and attend workshops.