A good theory, through the knowledge inherent in it, helps orient. It will not, however, change a life anymore than a compass on its own can sail a boat. Knowledge of the forces of nature is critical. That is, sailing requires the utilization of the compass in interaction with an understanding of the forces of nature. Emotional learning, rather like tacking into the wind, may not seem logical.
Emotions are old-fashioned guidance systems.
The brain is complex. One is not sure which part of the brain is making decisions. Our mind often gives poetic meaning to the forces of nature. Many of us continue to ponder these questions. Perhaps with a compass and its counterpart, experience, one can have respect for the unknown while enjoying the wonders and challenges of learning to sail in one's own direction.