In our busy, achievement-oriented lives, we are often unwilling to commit the time and energy required to enter into this process of becoming genuinely close with someone.
Genuine intimacy is the process of being close with another person.
They have moved beyond fear and anxiety about each other. They have nothing left to suspect or to withhold. In an intimate partnership, you are generally focused on the object of your affections. In pseudo-intimate exchanges, you tend to focus more on your own pleasure. Sex and intimacy are discrete, separate experiences.