They go to great lengths to avoid judging one child superior or inferior to another. These parents also compliment each child on his or her personal strengths. Skillful parents don't take sides when children fight. This could be especially destructive parenting when, as a pattern of preference, the parent takes the side of the same child time after time. Excessive praise or blame for one child's behavior also tends to create jealous feelings.
Jealous children are invariably unhappy, no matter how many possessions they have.
Skillful parents allow each child to be comfortable with their own set of differences that make them unique. They praise a child in a way that specifically identifies the precise behavior they find pleasing. This allows the child to reinforce that behavior and dispense with opposite behaviors. These judgments of their social value are not helpful in either case, since it fails to specify which behaviors are acceptable or unacceptable that brought on the praise or criticism. Since jealous, insecure children fear that no one likes them, let them know when you appreciate something they have done.