After getting the crap kicked out of them, women usually forget about the whole thing. Most servants have drugs on them. When you re drugged, people seem to change color. All fighting tournaments are fought on platforms surrounded by spikes and are to the death. Women, when proposed to by monks, kill themselves.
Ferocious monks can break swords with their hands.
Cutting wood with a sword not only is very easy but sounds like tearing cloth. Getting your arm chopped off leads to no loss of blood. In fact, one can fight rather well afterwards. Beads and hair can be used as weapons. Totally unnecessary stabbing of a woman.