If your lawyer does not respond, or subsequent meetings or conversations are not fruitful, consider suggesting mediation to work on your communication problems if you still want this lawyer to represent you. A bad deskside manner doesn't mean that the lawyer isn't an excellent lawyer, and it can be difficult to find a new one in the middle of a case. If you conclude that you simply can't work with your lawyer anymore, fire your lawyer and find someone new. If your lawyer has actually stolen from you, or acted with gross incompetence, the authorities in charge of disciplining lawyers in your state should show some interest. File a complaint with your state's lawyer discipline agency.
Every state has an agency responsible for licensing and disciplining lawyers.
The agency is most likely to take action if your lawyer has failed to pay you money that you won in a settlement or lawsuit, made some egregious error such as failing to show up in court, didn't do legal work you paid for, committed a crime, or has a drug or alcohol abuse problem. Unfortunately, these state agencies are famous for moving at a slow pace, not pursuing complaints vigorously, and communicating poorly with people who file complaints. Still, it is important to report a legal skunk. Many agencies wait until they have several similar complaints about a particular attorney before taking action. But all states except Maine, New Mexico and Tennessee do have funds from which they may reimburse clients whose attorneys stole from them.