We fear being accused of hatred or anger, when what we really feel is anxious, or searching, or just confused. Bray mentions that issue about being misunderstood. It is very true. I know of a lot of people that wish they could speak up and say something about certain issues but choose not to because of the fear of being misunderstood. Hatred and fear and confusion are built because of the lack of communication.
Gangs are a prime example.
The main reason why gangs form is because of the lack of attention and communication that the parents give to their children. Most gang members join because they become part of a group and then form their own family out of it. Gang members are looking for someone to listen and understand them. Their parents do not give them that love and understanding. Because of the lack of communication, they leave their families and join a different kind of family.