Separate the person from the issue. Provide both observation and interpretation so you can openly discuss differing perceptions. Structures are for supporting, not burdening, the client. They assist the client to remember their commitments, to systematically assess and adjust priorities, to increase their capacity to focus, and to track progress for on-going learning and process improvement. The opposite of structure.
Intuition is different from opinion or interpretation.
An effective coach knows when to throw away the plan, be pragmatic, and how to politely invade or challenge the client's assumptions to prevent catastrophe. The ultimate goal is to condition the client to use their own resources when you're not around. And if you think being coached feels good, check out being one. Legal terms for this service.