For example, a friend of mine recently lost her husband. She became closer to her daughter in a way she never had been before. Another example, the daughter of a couple, friends of mine, died. They learned to reach out for and accept the love of other people in a way they could not when their daughter was alive. They learned to pray and became closer to God.
Gifts usually reflect the bigger picture.
No, I wasn't surprised when Butch made himself known to me. I knew he was dying because he knew it. His presence was so strong in his house that when I first entered it after his death I thought he was still alive. Our communication in death was as strong as it had been in life. He's much better at seeing spirits than I am.