In a flash of revelation, I felt that it would be wrong for Nick to get a cochlear implant. But I couldn't help feeling Nick would not want us to choose that for him. He was happy and comfortable being deaf. So we should be, too. We have come to several conclusions through the years after that.
Families are all different.
Every deaf child is different. Therefore, different decisions can all be valid. Parents have the right to make the decision for their child. Even if the decision they make is different than the decision you would have made. All of us need to accept each other's right to our own decisions and try to understand the feelings behind the decisions, whether it be for a cochlear implant, a communication style, an educational placement.