You cannot take the poison and expect someone else to die. They will go on with their life and you will be the only one to continue to suffer. Forgiveness is the key to your own happiness. Forgiving someone else takes moral courage. It ends the illusion of separation, and its power can change misery into happiness in an instant.
Forgiveness means choosing to let go, move on, and favor the positive.
Forgiveness is a form of love within the context of a personal crisis. To forgive is, in a sense, to love one s enemy. When forgiveness is given because you think you should, it no longer is forgiveness but an act of self- interest. Robert Enright, a developmental psychologist at the University of Wisconsin defines forgiveness as giving up the resentment to which you are entitled and offering to the person who hurt you friendlier attitudes to which they are not entitled. Research has shown that people who are deeply and unjustly hurt by others can heal emotionally and, in some cases, physically by forgiving their offender.