God has placed in each of us certain needs which must be met in order to sustain a lasting relationship. The goal in a marriage is to fulfill your mate's needs - because that is what love does. If we are to fulfill those needs, we must understand what they are. A new sports car, a diamond ring, a boat - these are wants. We are not talking about these.
Husbands have needs.
Love fulfills needs. By way of illustration, let's imagine marriage as a stagecoach trip. On the top seat is the driver and he has the reigns in his hands. It is his job to drive the stagecoach through dangerous territory. The enemy lurks nearby, so sitting next to him is a person carrying a shotgun.