We delude ourselves into thinking we have so many distinct and separated faces that go on and off like a light bulb that none has much if anything to do with the others. I tell my student atheletes that they are not truly comitted to excellence if they pursuit it only on the football field, basketball court, or wherever and accept mediocrity in the classroom. What we do is to focus on one role and ignore others. If we are deeply connected with our inner essence and character, however, then each of our roles would be rooted in, a trustee of and an emanation from, and a manifestation of them. Then, we would forge a deep connection among the various roles in our lives.
Life is a whole.
And, we have closed down ourselves to both ourselves and each other with an unacknowledged arrogance. We don't see, appreciate, and thus don't translate skills from one area of life, from one department in a company, to another. We think with a mind spotlighting scarcity, that we don't have time to run from one thing to another, time we spend in one area is not available to another. We think success in one role justifies failure in another. Engineering achievement is okay even if our personal life is falling apart.