When our real needs are met in phony ways, we want more things, external and internal, all the time. We can not get enough, and so become exasperated with our lives. Our situation is similar to that of a toddler who is being fed chocolate cake and cola exclusively. This child will soon sicken. If the cake and soda are taken away, the child screams in fury.
Good food is at first rejected, and it remains unconvincing for a long time.
Phony kinship and phony enlargement are intimately tied to each other and to familiar 20 th century technologies. Let's say that before everything else, people who authentically care for you want you to be safe away from home, in the way a loving parent protects a child playing outside, and in the home, where a loving parent creates the kinds of stimulations that are conducive to laughter and growth. It's a truism by now that the 20 th century is the century of the automobile. Cars are what the adult world give to adolescents to spend time in away from home. Since these kids can range far from home so easily, of course they do so.