There are hurts so deep that one cannot reach them or heal them with words. You know that when I hate you, it is because I love you to a point of passion that unhinges my soul. Don't measure your neighbor's honesty by your own. Honesty has come to mean the privilege of insulting you to your face without expecting redress. The weak can never forgive.
Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.
It is far more impressive when others discover your good qualities without your help. The cruelest lies are often told in silence. When you are a mother you are never really alone in your thoughts. If something is wrong, fix it if you can. But train yourself not to worry.