One is manipulative authority-the kind that plays mind games with a child to get its own way. If you don't, I'm just not going to talk to you. I'm really hurting, but I'll just do it myself. The idea is to use guilt, pain, pity, pouting, silence, or whatever works to manipulate a child to do a parent's will. Again, like other distorted ways of governing, this approach may work, but only for the short haul.
Manipulative parents are too busy working on their own needs to really meet their children's needs.
The other style that cripples is not nearly as subtle-pushy authority. The strategy here seems to be that the more times I say it, the more likely my child is to do it. Children pushed tend to be children who go the other way. If you repeat yourself you will eventually encounter the law of diminishing returns. Kids become immune to something they hear all the time, and sometimes they disregard important wisdom because it was neutralized by repetition.