As wedding consultant Laura Bauer of Elegant Events Ltd. points out, the reception is their first social event as a couple and sets the tone for how they're going to entertain guests in the future. With wedding costs skyrocketing in the last ten years and receptions becoming more formal, many couples choose to invite adults only. Those who do should brace for not only friction but also defiance. She recalls a personal experience where parents wouldn't come because their child wasn't invited, and a friendship was over. That's how strong parents feel.
Every parent thinks their child is an exception to the rules.
If the invitation is addressed to Mr. and Mrs. John Smith, it's obvious the children are not invited. Guests should be considerate of the bride and groom. Children under 12 don't belong at late-night formal affairs. Couples are often invited to everyday events without children. Passing the word through the grapevine.