An alternative is to have your spouse sign a document called a Waiver. A Waiver acknowledges receipt of a copy of the Petition. Our policy is to attempt to use the Waiver process. Don't let your spouse worry you by refusing to sign a Waiver, it is no trick for us to obtain service. The wife is generally going to be awarded the primary care, custody, and control of the minor children and the husband will be allowed reasonable rights of visitation.
Joint custody is also an alternative in Oklahoma.
Disagreement over custody and visitation is guaranteed to put you right in the middle of a bitterly contested and expensive Divorce. If you and your spouse can agree to details of visitation, the Court will usually approve the plan which you have worked out. A typical pattern is to visit on alternating weekends, a couple of weeks in the summer, some time around birthdays, Christmas and other holidays, plus additional or different times as you may agree upon. The policy of our office is to encourage liberal visitation except in extraordinary circumstances. There is a specific formula by which the amount of child support is determined.