You fall in love with these children, then you give them up, and it hurts every blessed time. Some social workers tell foster parents that they shouldn't get so attached to these children, but that is exactly wrong. If these wounded children can get enough love, nurturing, guidance and kindness, however, they will endure and they will be a little more trusting and a little more loving for the rest of their lives. The parting may be less painful if you and your husband work with children whose ages are right for you. There are children who bond so quickly and so closely, however, that you may dream about them for years to come.
Foster parents handle their grief in different ways.
Some take long breaks between placements, but others try to get another child to foster as soon as the last child leaves. The loss also will be less if you meet regularly with other foster parents, if you work closely with the people in the program, and if you make foster care a team effort whenever you can. You'll feel the loss less, and so will the child. Grief is still grief and it still needs to be assuaged. News Jobs AP Shopping Archives Entertain.