Tell your brother why you feel so angry. Praise both children as they begin to talk about the problem. Time-out may be needed to stop the fighting and start the talking. If you must problem solve, do not reward either child. Settle arguments about a toy by taking it away.
End fussing over who sits in the front seat - no one rides in the front.
Fights in public places are not acceptable. Stop the fighting and tell your children that their behavior is annoying everyone nearby. Be prepared to leave if they don't stop fighting. Stop fights if hurting, name calling or destructive behavior happens. Protect each child's personal possessions, privacy and friendships.