Having multiple sex partners, and anonymous, almost predatory sex has been viewed by many gay Christians as an unacceptable lifestyle. The gay revolution spawned a community that is now looking for a lifestyle which is less thrilling, and more fulfilling. Most of my counselees are concerned with the transitory nature of most gay and lesbian relationships. Then, a few months or a few years down the road, we may find that our assumptions about the rules of the relationship clash with our partner's assumptions.
Little attention is given to developing same sex families.
Gay couples are not challenged to answer the hard questions regarding commitment. To do so would validate an invalid marriage. In an ethical sense this is still second class treatment and a step below full acceptance of gay people into the church community. I am aware of the presence of violent homophobia in the church world. This kind of condemnation is condoned and justified by many of our religious communities.