Post it by the phone, along with numbers for a neighbor and emergencies - police and fire departments, paramedics, and the poison control center. Have your child check in with you or a neighbor when he or she gets home. Agree on rules for having friends over and going to a friend's house when no adult is home. Make sure your child knows how to use the window and lock doors. Tell your child not to let anyone into the home without your permisssion, and never let a caller at the door or on the phone know there's no adult home.
Kids can always say their parents are busy and take a message.
Work out an escape plan in case of fire or other emergencies. Rehearse with your children. Let your child know that he or she can tell you anything, and that you'll be supportive. Don't force kids to kiss or hug or sit on a grown-ups lap if they don't want to. This gives them control and teaches them that they have the right to refuse.