Understanding why we are attracted to one person and not another tells us a lot about ourselves and our own motivations. This chapter reviews current literature on how interpersonal relationships develop, mature, and sometimes end. Starting and ending relationships is stressful. Learning what happens during those times can prepare us to be effective communicators even under stressful conditions. We suggest that students identify a relationship they are in and use that relationship as an example through- out the reading of the chapter.
Interpersonal relationships have life cycles.
Parks has identified six factors that influence the life cycle. Interdependence means the two persons have separate identities and interests at the same time that they enjoy each other's company and care about each other's happiness. Variety and breadth of interaction change during a relationship. Depth or intimacy, of interaction means there is more self-disclosure over time. Commitment means the two people expect the relationship to continue.