Amy realizes these rules will continue through high school. She's establishing the habit early. But we can encourage them when they make good choices. And we don't need to hesitate to speak up when we sense danger signals. Give a reasoned account of your misgivings.
Kids see right through trumped-up accusations to cover up prejudices.
A more plausible explanation had better be forthcoming. It was tough, but I knew I had to talk to one of my sons about his girl friend. You're both still trying to discover who you are, how you relate, and what you want in life. You're not giving each other a chance to develop in other areas. He didn't say a word.