You're too big and grown up to spank, but I can still make you uncomfortable. So it's up to you. We can have a peaceful time of cooperation at home, or we can spend this last part of your childhood in unpleasantness and struggle. Either way, you will arrive home when you are told, and you will carry your share of responsibility in the family and you will continue to respect me. F. Finally, I love you more than you can imagine, and I'm going to remain your friend during this difficult time.
Life involves disappointment and loss and rejection and aging and sickness and ultimately death.
You haven't felt much of that discomfort yet, but you'll taste it soon enough. So with all the heartache outside our door, let's not bring more of it on ourselves. We need each other. The content of this message should be modified to fit individual circumstances and the needs of particular adolescents. Furthermore, the responses of children will vary tremendously from person to person.