You cannot pretend the Arctic is the tropics. You must accept the Arctic's constancy if you are to survive. If you understand these principles, you can learn how to meet your basic survival needs. If you do not, you will gradually freeze to death and not even know it. The cultivation of female power under male supremacy takes a similar level of consciousness.
Individual men are microcosms of the larger misogynist climate.
At some level, men actually believe in them. But all these men live daily in a society designed to benefit their gender. They will act out of their conditioning of male privilege unless they have consciously chosen to select other behaviors. Generally, a woman coming to feminist consciousness will gradually remove herself from overt, grotesque woman-hating, such as a battering relationship. Then, if heterosexual, she begins to choose her intimate male partners more carefully, searching for men who are not threatened by female power.