This is the idea of self-sacrifice. A level of intense caring for someone provides an oppotunity to serve that person and help fulfill their needs. The other aspect of this cluster is being the fan, cheerleader, champion, advocate, defender of your lover. You lift that person up before others and do everything you can to help them succeed in life's activities. The following statements from research about love and friendship will summarize this discussion about romantic love.
Lovers are willing to give the utmost to each other.
Spouses and lovers are higher in all the characteristics with the only exceptions being trust and stability. There seems to be a lower level of acceptance among spouses and lovers than among close friends. Love relationships tend to have a greater impact on both the satisfaction and frustration of the person's basic human needs than do friendships. The last section of this booklet is dedicated to a body of writings not mentioned by Rubin, the Bible.