They have their own emotions, opinions, judgments, fears, hopes, dreams, fantasies, nightmares, role models and associations. Human relationships are dynamic. We must assess our friendships, partnerships, even marriages periodically. The past is insufficient to sustain a healthy, nourishing, supportive, caring and compassionate relationship. We must gain and regain our friendships on a daily basis.
Human relationships are a constant test of allegiance and empathy.
We should be proud of our REAL achievements and qualities. This is a whole different story. It is typical of people who were hurt in the past to be more attuned to the emotional needs of others. I think you should communicate your emotions. If you are angry you should say so and explain both what made you angry and how it can be avoided in the future.