As someone has said, A true friend stabs you in front, that is, openly and honestly shares the truth with you, not sniping at you and hiding. It is important to note that this goes also for every leader in the church, not just a pastor. Many laypersons are called upon to provide leadership in any ways in the life and work of the church. How you handle praise and complaint aimed at you does much to promote or hurt the unity of your church. Also, how you use praise and criticism can also be helpful or hurtful.
Genuine praise is a good thing.
Criticism, when needed, if given in love can be a good thing. It s important to be affirming but also challenging the church to become more the church Christ wants it to be. Good leaders find a balance between praise and complaint. Lord, help me use praise and criticism wisely to build up and not tear down. And help me also hear then wisely not to think too highly or lowly of myself.