Idealists may either project their vision of their mate on to a less than ideal partner or may make attempts to develop their partner into the vision that they have of them. All too often, Idealists become disillusioned by their choice of mates. Thus, some Idealists pursue new relationships at the expense of developing their current ones. Most, however, receive their greatest pleasure from enhancing one special union, and they organize their lives around their homes and families. Idealists have an extraordinary ability to relate to their mates on an emotional level.
Idealists are very likely to be loving, understanding, and supportive of their spouses.
Because of their tendency to help others in their personal development, Idealists are at risk of investing too many of their resources in persons outside the home, consequently neglecting their mates and families. Idealists are usually good hosts, and people feel welcome in their home. They are generally thoughtful of their mates, remembering special occasions, such as anniversaries, birth- days, and holidays. Idealists expect the same from their loved ones and may feel deeply hurt and act out if they are not acknowledged on their special occasions as well. Such a perception may be held because of the Rational's complex personality, including their autonomous, efficient, and theoretical orientation.