The parish also has worked on reconciliation with Trinity Episcopal Church in downtown Santa Barbara. Nevertheless, Cox and the Rev. Mark Asman of Trinity have met together for meals and their vestries have met on two occasions for dialogues on the Bible and on blessing homosexual couples. Christ the King has developed a reconciliation seminar, and another seminar that concentrates on family reconciliation. The parish publishes a monthly bookmark for members to pray about reconciliation projects. Cox is working on a master's degree in conflict resolution through Pepperdine Law School's Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution .
Identity is the racial, ethnic, tribal, national, cultural or religious distinctiveness of a group.
He writes that both sides use ingratiation, gamesmanship, guilt trips, persuasive argumentation, threats and irrevocable commitments to fight for what they believe in. He describes how blame, anger, fear and negative attitudes and perceptions shape the debate. Cox writes that Episcopalians are held together in a mutual dependence through friendships and pastoral relationships, and through avoiding the financial and spiritual wounds that can result from schism. Cox believes the General Convention of 2000 could mark a boiling point in an identity-based conflict that has simmered for decades. However, at a certain point this escalation will end and it will result in schism or a stalemate.