We need to fight for legislation to allow others to bring abuse to the attention of the judicial system, and then have IT take over the prosecution.
Domestic abuse is the ONLY crime the demands the victim initiate the charges.
If you're mugged going down the street, the cops do it for you. Any other crime, the legal system takes over and follows thru. Only in this instance do we insist the victim, and least able to fight, defend themselves. It's a win win.