My dad watched as his brother made mistakes and both his brother and his mother paid for them. My dad tried to help. He didn't want his help. She didn't want his help. Finally my dad gave up.
Loyalty runs in the family.
Her mom thought she struggled all her life, but she was always able to provide for herself and others. When Granny died, she left enough for her four kids to fight over. But they didn't fight over it. That wasn't how she raised them. I know one of my duties is to provide for my relatives, and in that regard, to be perfectly honest, I always let my dad's mom down.