When my father was diagnosed with cancer several years ago, I was constantly approached by co-workers, friends, and neighbors, some of whom I hardly knew. With concern and kindness, they inquired about his health, his treatment and prognosis and our family's adjustment. I was baffled by the LACK of attention paid to the issue of my son. Very few people asked about my son's health, his treatment, his prognosis and our adjustment. Society as a whole remains awkwardly silent about disabilities, especially mental disabilities.
Few people know what to say.
You have the opportunity to break that silence and gently lead us into the sounds of compassion and respectful curiosity. You can prepare us for the challenges of birthdays and holidays. Never underestimate the significance of your anticipation and acceptance of our feelings. It will comfort us during those long sleepless nights. Parents with special needs children never feel the same once they learn about their children's differences are cognitive.