A husband is not a father and should never treat you as a child. You are his equal. While a spouse might suggest an easier way of doing something, or perhaps a better way of doing something, they have no right to force it upon you. A real man will never resort to physically abusing a woman for any reason, no matter how angry he may be. If your husband ever hits you for any reason at all, it is time to get professional help.
Emotional abuse is more difficult to target.
Perhaps we can describe it as a constant tearing down of self. A woman who is constantly being degraded by her husband for her appearance, her habits, her lifestyle, her very being, needs to consider the possibility that she is suffering from emotional abuse. A man who marries a woman and then proceeds to dictate how she will dress, behave, or perform duties needs to consider the possibility that he is treating his wife as he would a child. I know a woman whose husband demanded she remove the clothes from the dryer as soon as the dryer buzzer went off. If he found that she had not performed this task as he demanded, he would create a scene which would last all night, constantly reminding her how worthless and useless she was.