Author and psychologist Gary Smalley has identified five basic differences between men and women. Sin turns these differences into negatives, into points of conflict. Sin uses these differences to alienate spouses so that God's creative purposes do not get fulfilled. Women are impressed by feeling, men by facts. Having a focus on facts is fine-but don't use them to dominate and bury the other person.
Independence has it's place, especially when it comes to standing against unholy peer pressure.
In the body a hand cannot afford to be independent of the rest of the body. Women connect by talking and men by doing. Positive action is wonderful, but when it becomes aggressive it damages and destroys women. Doing must follow understanding which comes through talking. Women like to co-operate, men love to compete.