Those experiencing infertility need to know that it is normal, expected and almost inevitable that their sex life will take a beating for a time. It is useful to introduce couples affected by infertility to others with the same problem, so they can see with their own eyes that infertility does not mean being a failure. Infertility counsellors often encounter resistance in clients in the traditional counselling situation - a support group may be more appropriate. One of the goals of infertility counselling is to help the client separate sex from reproduction, so that sex is perceived as valuable and pleasurable for its own sake rather than a means to an end. On a practical level, this may mean throwing away the temperature chart for a while, or taking a break in the middle of a treatment programme to have a romantic holiday.
Intimacy needs to be re-kindled.
A couple may need help to bring back the spontaneity into their relationship, e.g. by changing the location and time of sex. Occasionally couples may benefit from referral to a sexual therapist if their sexual problem has become entrenched or if their sexual problem is deep-seated and existed before the diagnosis of infertility. All rights reserved.