Let them know you want to be an ally, and ask them what they need from you. Then, to the extent you are able, offer them the support they've asked for. We can offer a couple of specific ideas as well. This change can be uncomfortable at first, and you may slip up once in a while, but eventually this change becomes habitual and comfortable. This small but very important step will demonstrate that you take the person's decision seriously.
Gender transition is new territory for many people, and hence can be scary.
Also, you may ask the person in transition how you can help in letting others know about their transition. Check our web links or our list of books for more information on transsexualism and other gender-related issues. This document was written by members of the Mid-Michigan FTM Alliance. Send us your feedback.