By calling on friends when we need help we give them an opportunity to share our burden. On the other hand, if we don't accept help offerings, we may send the message that no help is needed and that future offers are an intrusion. So what if you lose your composure. These social events provide the mind momentary respite from what has happened and are a useful focus when sleep is elusive or tormenting memories are overwhelming. It's O.K. to laugh.
Laughter is healthy and healing.
It releases chemicals that enhance ones sense of well-being. Laughter relaxes and rests us. Laughter reassures our wounded psyche. Provide an opportunity for laughter by being with fun-loving people, watch a good comedy show or rent a nonsensical movie. Don't expect films with a theme of violence, sex or societal issues to be relaxing.