Forgiveness enables us to healing to reconcile past and leads to transformation. We have misinterpreted religion because we don't know enough about our own religion. It is important to be able to say that you are wrong. Forced apologies do not work, - it does not benefit you to move forward on the basis of a lie. We tend to build houses of justification and illusion.
Human beings can fool themselves as individuals and communities.
We need personal contact and meeting between people to leave behind pre-conceived ideas. A religious community should emphasise the power of giving in reconciliation so that there can be healing. Communities should act slowly and gently in reconciliation and forgiveness, turn the lights on slowly so as not to blind people. We need new paradigms of living together. We need to involve young people.