It is illegal to be discriminated against for taking legitimate paternity leave. Contact your regional office of the Labor Department's Wage and Hour Division and file a complaint. You can file a complaint by phone, by mail, or in person. If necessary, consider hiring a lawyer who is familiar with family leave issues. Ask your employer anyway.
Many companies have their own policies in place.
In addition, you may qualify for leave if you are affiliated with a labor union. Don't be afraid to bring this issue up with your manager. You could be the one who changes the office policy. My own husband, David, didn't qualify for paternity leave under the Family Medical Leave Act, but he was still able to arrange leave with each of our five children. Whether through accrued sick time, vacation days, unpaid personal leave, or a temporary shift to a part-time flex schedule, you have a variety of options available to you.