A Berkeley Girl With A Hand. . . As A Stupid Question Albert Einstein forgot his socks, or else didn't match them. Paul Erdos, the most fine mathematician, lived out of a suitcase. You could go on ad nauseum with examples of the absent-mindedness of the gifted, those who were too consumed by thinking great thoughts to be bothered with the day to day details of living, like laundry, or vacuuming, or changing clothes.
Little steps create progress.
If you can work your way through small projects a bit at a time, you will find the cumulative effect. For instance, a surface that is thoroughly cleared off will be much easier to keep cleared in future. Don't be someone's mom or dad. Encouragement is fine, helping is good, but odds are, they've been teased about this for a long time. Megastores can help.