Dr. Louise Davis, Mississippi State University extension child and family development specialist, said few couples survive the entire wedding process without at least one member getting a case of the nerves. While not unusual, couples must determine if this is simply jitters or a hint that something is wrong. But nobody likes the sinking feeling deep inside that questions whether they are doing the right thing. Davis said when this happens, that person should evaluate the relationship. If questions persist, the partner should be involved in the evaluation.
Good communication is essential.
Get focused, define the problem and see if anything can be done to solve it. Couples should individually list their goals, values and beliefs and compare these with their partner's to note similarities and differences, Davis said. If the negatives are more than you can work out alone, get counseling. Many ministers, and some states, require premarital counseling so couples learn more about each other and identify potential problem areas. Once a relationship has been reduced to a prioritized list of pros and cons, it's time to make a decision.