Both people get something out of the relationship. Esatablish loyality, dependability, commitment, and trust Demonstrate steadfast alligience to the other person. Allow him or her to rely on you. Trust is the cornerstone is this. Trust is the belief in the other person's dependibilioty and integrity.
Excessive criticism is abusive.
Manipulation through guilt is abusive. So you can get on with your goals. For reflection time. These include no name calling, no physical violence, no dredging up the past, no cursing. Share a sense of humor and play Build rituals and traditions If you don't have ongoing traditions, you can establish them.