Also, I don't think that writing someone else's resume is helping them, it is doing it for them. So to me, that was a valid thing for her to rebuff. I hope that things get better for you and at least you are getting counseling even though he's not. I myself went through a terrible marriage for which I assume I won't be able to trust anyone enough to be able to remarry, even though I am only 28. I have to tell you this though, especially after reading your posts.
Life is way too short to go through it depressed and unhappy.
You seem to be a wonderful and giving person, one who deserves the same in her mate. Whether you decide to stay or leave is of course up to you, but someday there will come a point that you will want to be happy whether it is with your h or not. I wish you lots of luck in this trying time for you and even though I have no advice either, I am here to listen as well. Just get on with your life and let the guy find some one who is happy and not so quick to get angry and look for pity from total invisble strangers. The Lessons Children Learn.