A person ought to be at their best when at prayer. Prayer is conversing with God. The white heat of the flame of God's presence melts way all superficiality in our lives. Their love needed to be enlarged. This is a love that dominates one's life.
Love is no mere category.
In unbiblical love there are categories of love. In one category there is love yet in another category there is bitterness and resentment. Wave after wave of love should hit the banks of our souls. The more we grow in grace the greater is our capacity to love. One way we know we are growing is how much we love the unlovely.