My role as groomsman has, of course, meant that I have absolutely nothing at all to do in any wedding. The groomsmen's powerlessness flows rather naturally from their leader and sponsor, the groom. He, too, is unnecessary. He is traditionally needed for the ceremony, but that's about it. Lately, however, I have been observing what I think is a social change of cataclysmic proportions.
Grooms seem to be getting more interested in the planning of the wedding.
There's really no point to all this anyway. The groom can get as involved as you want, but by two weeks before the wedding the mother of the bride is in the driver's seat, and the bride and groom are lucky just to sit in the back and shout directions. At the time I thought the third strand was God. Then it dawned on me that, to most brides, it was the photographer. I'm sorry to put it so baldly, but think about it.