The Process of Brutalization Men may often fear intimacy because, all other factors being equal, past attempts to get close to women have led to heartache and pain. Many men cover this up with false bravado. But the pain of love is not solely restricted to men. Women suffer too. There are no innocents in the battle between the sexes.
Girls present themselves as challenges.
By high school, many women have become experts at psycho-sexual terrorism. At that age, most men have disowned their ability to admit their fear of women. Guys who don't have these are the invisible men. Invisible, alienated, and alone, they long for the closeness, intimacy and commitment most women fear. Pop feminists assert real closeness is forbidden to men because men fear vulnerability.