But the marriage is better than it was before the separation. Thy have learned to pay more attention to each other than they did in the past. The minister wasn't wrong. At the time she talked to him the marriage WAS dead. It just that he forgot about resurrection.
Forgiveness is a key.
Don't let sun go down on anger. Even if you think other person is completely at fault, you make move to reconcile. If marriage is torn by adultery, you must decide to end the affair. Past acts are forgivable, not on-going transgressions. C. Gaining strength outside of ourselves.