Share this study every step of the way with a larger group of leadership in the churches. Third, contact Precept for a complete demographic study of all the areas in which the churches may relocate. Fourth, talk with lay people from churches that have successfully completed a merger. Lay people should do this, not the pastor. The fifth step is to develop a theological and biblical rationale for the merger, other than survival.
Evangelical reasons are better than survival reasons.
All churches involved in the merger should help write this rationale. The focus for the new church must be on an outwardly focused mission that goes beyond the present congregations. Next, allow an extended period of time for the merging congregations to get to know one another and talk through their differences. Organize events for congregations that are unrelated to discussions of the building. Focus instead on the new needs that will be met in the new location.