Describe what you think is the best case scenario for our lives if oc is involved. Describe what you think is the worst case scenario for our lives if oc is involved. Describe what you think would happen if we are not involved in oc s life at all. When we first find out, it really does shake your confidence and wonder what your spouse feels is his or her responsibility to you and your marriage. You don't understand what is going on in the spouse's mind and many times he or she is not able to express it either.
Feelings are so difficult to get a grasp of sometimes.
I think we can all use your list as our checklist for getting in touch with what we ourselves feel and what our spouses feel. I have seen a number of things posted that I truly wish I could read again from time to time. I can't think of anything to add. Heavenly's wish can come true if we have a computer efficianado on board who would know how to do this. Gem, I think cd's list gives you a great starting point to begin a dialogue of understanding, love and compassion with your husband.