It is hard to neglect those sleepless nights caused by your roommate's all night bashes, the dirty dishes piling up in the sink, your clothes disappearing and the couch potato that never leaves. We allow small things to build up over time, and like a volcano we erupt with a single burst of fury, reminiscent of Mount St. Helen's, destroying everything in our way, including relationships. It is difficult to decide when to say something or when to let it slide. When something bothers you, no matter what kind of relationship you're involved in, be the proactive one and tell the other what it is that irritated you. Always attack the problem, not the person.
Exceptional communication is the key to a healthy relationship.
Another encounter we come across in college is unrestricted physical access to that male or female in our life. With no curfew, no parents and our own rooms, there is a great deal of temptation and pressure to rush into things for which we are not ready. It is in these situations, when we must be simultaneously self centered in deciding what is right for us and altruistic in caring for the other person's worries, needs and desires, that the problem most often arises. Finding the person who fills you with joy and at the time seems to make your life more complete is a wonderful thing. However, along with this joy comes a great deal of responsibility and the need for both people to become comfortable with one another slong with the physical and emotional aspects that come along with a relationship.