As they fade, your holiday will become less anxiety provoking and sad. Sometimes our holiday memories are so negative that even if we change the people and place, we cannot enjoy the season. If this happens, and the sadness and anger are a continuing process, not an isolated incident, it is important to figure out why. These answers are usually not at a conscious level, that is we can't relate our behavior to anything we can recall. We just know that every holiday season has been sabotaged by us or a family member.
Human beings tend to focus on someone to blame when things go wrong.
Watch out for the blaming thing and nip it in the bud when ever you see it as this will cut down on stress all around. During the holidays there are many, if not most, of the population who let things go to the last moment. After all, we are all busy and the store is open late, we say. But we all want good fast service and when we don't get it , we may get angry, stressed out, and frustrated. If you haven't noticed in years past, try to notice this year how the later friends let thing go, the more they need to accomplish every day, and therefore the more stressed out they become.