You do not need sexual dysfunctions to fall into this, either. Underneath common sexual difficulties, the natural processes of self-development are often playing out. While not enjoyable, they do not necessarily mean something is going, or has gone, wrong. Knowing this can help you relax and appreciate your relationship in new light. To get the sex, intimacy, desire, and passion many of us want, there is a lot of growing up to do.
Embarrassment is understandable but neither necessary nor helpful.
Part of growing up involves addressing sexual difficulties like an adult. When men finally realize the real issue is not about sex, but rather, about whether they will continue to apologize for themselves, they often step forward as acts of personal integrity. At its best, resolving sexual difficulties helps both partners see themselves and each other in some new way. This process deepens your capacity for intimacy and strengthens your bonds of love. Some of my own clients, initially embarrassed about seeing a therapist, proudly revealed what they learned to a trusted friend or a valued grown child.