The lore of violence and abuse has been handed down from generation to generation, from father to son, from brother to brother, from friend to friend, in locker rooms, in trash literature, in the mass media. The popular culture has traditionally accepted, even glorified predatory methods for acquiring and holding on to women. Quite recently, in a somewhat belated fit of enlightenment, society has come to consider this pattern of behavior pathological , and it is punishable by law, as well it should be . All larger organisms, including ourselves, are living testimonies to the fact that destructive practices do not work in the long run. In the end, the aggressors always destroy themselves, making way for others who know how to cooperate and get along.
Life is much less a competitive struggle for survival than a triumph of cooperation and creativity.