This is how life is. Wanting life to be different doesn't make it happen. There are many things in life you can create and change. Being proactive is accepting reality and changing what you can. If you fight and resist what life brings you, you are going to be a miserable, suffering person when you don't get what you want.
Life does bring many sad, hurtful events.
When you fight this reality, you create more suffering because of your belief system. You have your mind to blame for your guilt, anger and discontentment. You have your mind to blame for much illness. The truth is, life has much beauty and much sorrow. In accepting this you can spend your energy changing what you can, accepting what you cannot and being grateful for all the beauty.