Most Americans are too inhibited to talk about sex openly, even with our partners. I have to admit that I was. Before being asked to write the Wise Guide to Better Sex, I could make jokes about sex, and I could use naughty words. But I was easily shocked by women who knew exactly what they wanted. I also felt threatened by sex toys, and I was once so embarrassed by a girlfriend who wanted to go shopping for vibrators with me that I broke up with her.
Good sex is more than physical.
First, start by getting your partner interested. I would give it to my partner and say, 'I found this very interesting. Whatever the adventuresome thing is, say why that's important. Make it as positive as possible. Featured Tool Intimacy Quiz Open your heart with this exercise from relationship expert Harville Hendrix.