Set your self and those you relate to free of the present, of your expectations, needs, desires, commitment, and possessiveness. Commit ONLY that you will be true to your own heart and soul , and that you will openly and honestly communicate, reveal, expose that true self to others, that they may honor and respect your truth by supporting your right to be you, and your right to make your own choices for your own life, AND that you will give them what you demand from them, free dominion. If you love someone, set them free. You will be incapable of this until you love yourself enough to set yourself free. In following the truth of your heart and soul, you may find yourself in a deep monogamous relationship with someone who is following the truth of their heart and soul, day after day, because your union is the soul truth, not because your personalities made dysfunctional commitments to each other about monogamy, about the future.
Love is the only thing which is real.
All else is illusion. You have the freedom and the power to choose love.