She's never poured her own bowl of cereal except at our house. In other words, she has less skills than even my two year old. We try to get her as much as we can but the mother intervenes in everything we do. We've gone to court many times just to keep her from denying our visitation or intruding on our time with the child. We have the standard every other weekend, midweek, month in the summer, and alternating holidays.
Every visit is a trial.
My SD is now waking my children up in the middle of the night to ask them to come sleep with her in her bed. Or she'll crawl in bed with them which wakes them up and scares them. My SD tries to take showers with our oldest daughter, or walks into the bathroom when she is in there. My daughter now has to lock the door. We've had to separate everyone into their own rooms so the others can lock their doors just to keep the SD out during the night.