So that's your part, which is forgiveness. The reconciliation piece comes through as your husband changes, as he takes full responsibility for where he's been. They feel an enormous amount of guilt when they touch our pain. He paid for our guilt. For both you and your husband, there's a remedy at the Cross.
Forgiveness never airbrushes reality.
Truth is the first weapon of our warfare. And the truth is, your husband's been involved in things that are destructive to your relationship with each other. So if he won't go for help, I would just so urge you to go for help. Go and get someone to help you with a broken heart. Your husband has been looking at pictures that are about using people, that are about consuming them and discarding them.