If these goals can be accomplished, an extramarital affair can serve as the start of a new relationship built on commitment, trust, and a more mature love. An extramarital affair can rekindle a lifeless marriage. If the marriage is lifeless, this can often serve as the death knell to the marriage. Infidelity can perhaps make one or both partners feel very much alive again, but not within the bounds of the committed relationship. If the partners can engage in healthy communication, however, any crisis in a marriage can put the relationship back on a healthy track.
Infidelity has to lead to divorce.
If it can be talked through in an atmosphere of love and acceptance, the resolution of the infidelity can lead to a stronger marriage. Infidelity is normal. Some people believe that because of today's longer life spans, it is appropriate to marry several times within one's lifetime. However, what is normal and healthy is to have good communication within our relationships and to provide a sense of protection, comfort, and security for our partner. Infidelity leads to just the opposite.