Even if he pretends to be open-minded about something, it's usually just passive condescension. Wanting out Dear Wanting, If you haven't told your husband that you're miserable, you need to, either straight to his face or else tell it to a marriage counselor in his presence. It's important for him to hear it, if you respect and love him. You can safely assume he's at least as unhappy and confused as you. Yes, of course.
Love is a habit.
You speak a kind word and perform a tender and thoughtful act, and the first attempt makes the next one easier. You restore good manners. And you start to pull out of this dive. Dear Mr. Blue, My wife and I are in our late 20s, quite successful, happily married. However, we also choose to take part in discreet, safe erotic fun with other married couples periodically.