It is a deliberate faith choice, a refusal to hold this sin against him, against her. Excusing or trying to rationalize Hank's cruel words can't defuse anger. True forgiveness can. Courtesy A third antidote to uncurbed anger is politeness. Love is . . .
Love requires courtesy.
Good etiquette is kindness codified. I remember as a teenager trying to show proper amenities to my next door neighbor whom I was dating. I would rush to open the door for her, help her remove her coat. Years later I married her. Too often I let her open the door herself.