One woman was impressed by a fellow who gave a large amount of his time and money to charity. After she married him, it was her money and time that could have been spent with her that went to charity. She was less impressed with his generosity. She never wondered if he would use it on her after the marriage. She also did not consider the arrests, jail terms, and law suits it would cause later on.
Excitement comes from danger and danger brings disaster.
Overcompensation Martin Luther gave the illustration of the drunk who kept falling off one side of the horse, so he leaned the other direction and fell off the other side. This frequently occurs with women who are pursued by people with the wrong motives or personality traits. The woman ends up selecting someone with the equally offensive opposite traits and motives. One prime example is women with physical, political, or economic power attracting men who want to be dominated and abused. This offends the women so that they end up selecting husbands with mental illnesses that express themselves in dominating and abusing their wives.