No approach would ever work for very long. I'd have to forever be inventing new ones. Just when you think you're on top of your scholarship or your parenting, something changes, and you have to play catch-up again. One must imagine Sisyphus happy. It's not easy to see that you have any control at all in what appears to be an impossible situation.
Every choice has consequences, and some are difficult.
But the consequences are easier to bear if you keep in mind that you made a choice. In fact, this is good practice for parenting since your children will need the very same acceptance from you that you practice giving to yourself. Emphasize the other definition of scholar, i.e., a student or pupil. Try approaching your children as if you were meeting them for the first time and had no expectations. It's an extraordinary experience to do this, full of wonder and discovery, regardless of how old your child is.