I get fragged more than I frag, but I never give up and always try to keep playing because practice makes improvement. I would like to add to what Love2Play said. I hate it when people think they are playing with a loser and go to find anoter server with people who are more their style. That leaves me alone to face 2 or sometimes 3 on 1. I have even been kicked from a few servers because they feel I do not do well enough for their taste.
Every server is different.
I did play on a instagib server and the server was put up by a clan member. It was 2 on 2 with CTF and because he stayed with me he made me feel a little better. His willingness to stay helped me feel a little better. I even improved a little as the game went on and I ended up helping more than usual. We even won a few times.