This aspect of sports as least takes away the belief that favoritism abounds and only the coach's favorite players get to play. In the team sports, however, who plays and how much is solely determined by the coach. When a team is winning regularly, the players who aren't playing, along with their parents, are at times, frustrated with the coaching decisions that are being made. However, since the team is winning, the coach must be playing the right combination of players for the right amount of time. For parents, watching your son or daughter sit on the bench can be pure agony.
Every athlete wants to play.
As a parent, you hope that the coach will put your son or daughter into the game to keep their spirit alive and not demoralize them by not playing them. The team's won and loss record is not as important as your child's self-esteem. I am going to suggest that as parents we try to re-frame our view and our child's view of what they are learning and gaining from the experience of athletic competition. I contend that for any teenager to sit on the bench requires much more courage and determination than a player who plays regularly. Being a starter on a team is really an easy role.