So love is a demand. I learned a sentence years ago when I was in theological seminary. Love is a decision . When I married my wife, I'm not sure how much I loved her when I married, but it was a decision. Then follows the next question the question of love is in the future.
Love is a decision.
That is what mature adulthood is all about. When you make a decision, you are moving out in the dimension where you can grow and become more than you are today. Every decision has to be made before we can be sure that it is going to work out. There is a risk involved. Yes, love is a decision.