Never disparage your former spouse in front of your children. Do not use your children as a messenger between you and your former spouse. The less the children feel a part of the battle between their parents, the better. Reassure your children that they are loved and that the divorce is not their fault.
Many children assume that they are to blame for their parents' hostility.
Encourage your children to see your former spouse frequently. Do everything within your power to accommodate the visitation. At every step during the divorce, remind yourself that your children's interests, not yours, are paramount, and act accordingly. Lavish them with love at each opportunity. Your children may be tempted to act as your caretaker.