They have their own personalities. None of us are exempt from that. You forgive your family for doing terrible things to you. But people do. It's that bond that you have with family that you can forgive them for insane things.
Families do evolve.
I think sometimes it happens that there's irrevocable loss. And one person just shifts and has a personality change. A family is always evolving. I just couldn't believe that they let this gift that they had go. I couldn't forgive until talking to you now.