What I've done is evolve a family. Twenty years ago three other people and I banded together to seek an alternative to the old road map of competition and separation. We have grown to a local family of 11 and an extended family of several dozen. Indeed, we are striving to live as members in good standing of that ultimate family - humanity. These are three very different forms of the same idea.
Family is unconditional acceptance .
There's nothing you have to do first. It's a given. Even hermits are part of Us. Family is unity in diversity . Or sometimes unity in spite of diversity.