In the first reading, we are bluntly told that we must all feel responsible for such situations. All those involved must assume responsibility for the clumsy state of affairs. This is a basic attitude that we should adopt before we begin any damage control of the situation. A Holier than thou attitude can only exasperate such situations. If any situation is to develop creatively, we need to adopt an attitude of understanding, caring and sympathy.
Love does work wonders.
True love, based on faith and hope, fosters creative interest in each other despite unsurmountable antipathies. Finally, today's Gospel provides us the structure and procedure within which these two above attitudes should operate. He must meet the wrong doer and talk things over. He must not wait for the wrongdoer to approach him. If the two are able to agree, then, something great has been achieved.