Without demanding something in return. Without being sidetracked by some secret vested interest or another. We've certainly exhausted the alternatives, and they haven't really worked all that well. To pretend that we've honestly tried, but failed, is to resort to the ego defense of cynicism, or worse, victim mentality, both of which are based in fear, and the kind of bitterness and dishonesty that fear breeds. This life is not a game of half measures.
Love only works, only heals, only liberates, when it is absolute and unconditional.
By offering the very best of ourselves, openly and without psychological defense, we can commit irreversibly to healing not only all of our relationships, but our own hearts. A moment of honesty and humility may be useful here. Not a single one of us knows, for sure, that we will wake up in this body tomorrow morning. Or indeed, even draw the next breath. Memory or fantasy, all of this is happening right now.