A student who flagrantly disobeys his teacher may be doing just what his father always wanted to do, but could never get up enough nerve to do. Herbert Lingren, University of Nebraska-Lincoln family life specialist, said to encourage children to talk about their anger, to tell what's bothering them, even when the hostile feelings are directed at us. Of course, this can hurt, but it gets strong emotion out into the open where it can be handled, he said. Physical exertion through participation in work or sports may serve as a constructive outlet. Although it may not seem so, the child really wants the parent to moderate his hostility and aggression.
Every child needs to learn internal discipline.
Without it, there is a constant discomfort and inner conflict. Rural Sociology Dept. of Ag.