But nearly everything that was going on a momement before is stopped by the act of our turning to look at it. Unfortunately this does not mean that introspection finds nothing. The great error is to mistake this mere sediment or tract or by-product for the activities themselves. Not, of course, that these activities, before we stopped them by introspection, were unconscious. We do not love, fear, or think without knowing it.
Language exists to communicate whatever it can communicate.
Some things it communicates so badly that we never attempt to communicate them by words if any other medium is available. It is also, of course, wholly legitimate. We do not talk only in order to reason or to inform. We have to make love and quarrel, to propitiate and pardon, to rebuke, console, intercede, and arouse. Thus while the woman thinks of doing good offices and the man of respecting other people's rights, each sex, without any obvious unreason, can and does regard the other as radically selfish.