Yet divorcing people have many things in common, the most important usually being the children. These common interests that could provide a basis for cooperation are often ignored by lawyers, especially by those who revel in their identities as fighters. Lawyers are trained to approach each case as if it is to be a competition to the finish, as if the case will go to trial. Their concerns for procedure and their postures as combatants compel them to prepare for trial even though they anticipate to settle out of court. This people, is truly a sad misuse of time, energy, and money.
Divorce is at least an emotionally charged process.
The feelings are intense, and the stress is excessive. Lawyers are trained to cope with legal events and procedures and to avoid emotion in favor of fact. Most lawyers have had little or no formal training in human development, child development, or human relations. What most lawyers do when faced with the emotional issues of divorce is to dig even deeper into procedure, rules, and adversary relations. Your lawyer is disciplined to argue your position, even if your position is erroneous.