Although there are no simple cures to a painful childhood, the biblical pattern for recovery begins with honesty. As long as there is dishonesty or misrepresentation of the situation, the journey back to health will not proceed very far. There has to be honesty before God about what has happened. The second step involves receiving and granting forgiveness. We must receive forgiveness from God for our sins and then forgive those who have sinned against us.
Forgiveness is the antidote to defensiveness and inhibition.
We must forgive in response to the great gift of God's forgiveness of us in Christ. New Creatures in Christ Repair of the past is not God's primary interest for us. Rather, he intends our re-creation. We are new creatures in Christ, not bound by heredity or the environment in which we were raised. We are who we are by virtue of the cross of Christ.