If children of divorce suffer psychological problems, it's usually because of the troubled family life that preceded the breakup, not the divorce itself. Research seldom compares the effects of divorce to those of other major upheavals in family life, or takes into account other factors such as downward mobility, so negative stereotypes tend to be reinforced, as sociologist Terry Arendell notes. But they are based on myths and reinforced by guilt. Despite a recent nostalgia-driven lament for the days when Mom and Dad toughed it out, there is no evidence that the good old days were better for children and considerable evidence to the contrary. They challenged the notion, that divorce caused permanent and long-term damage to children.
Divorce releases many mothers from tension and depression.
Better you should say, 'I'm really happy with who I am now. Susannah has complete faith that what's right for her is what's right for her child, and that Eliza benefited immediately from her mother's happier state. One reason that children of divorce are often independent thinkers is the example set by a strong and autonomous parent. I don't mean to sound egotistical, but I think the kids really got the benefit of being a single parent. Now I'm happy.