NLP can, like any other powerful tool, be used in ways which I and others do not agree with. By noticing more you will percive more alternatives and thus you will gain more freedom in your life. And that is a good thing in my world. Our representations of reality is not the same as Reality, just like a map isn't the terrain. By making our maps closer to reality, we will become more successful in getting where we want to go.
Experience has a structure.
Everything we experience, we experience through our five senses. What we experience through our senses are being filtered through previously established patterns. Those patterns have a structure which controlls what we become aware of and of what we do. To change the structure of a pattern or adding new patterns is creating a change of a higher order than just changing the content of a pattern. No one is wrong or broken.