Yes, I think it's also that we realize there's more than one way to be sexual. Historically, there was only one way, at least it was perceived that way, and that's what people were resisting. If we had defined Third Wave activism in strict terms in the book, we would have been criticized for it. If that's what you're interested in, then it's the most important, whether it's eating disorders, sexual harassment, child care, etc. This insistence on definitions is really frustrating because feminism gets backed into a corner.
Feminism is something individual to each feminist.
Steinem didn't make herself a leader, the media did, which is more and more the case. We live in a culture dominated by a cult of celebrity, in which leadership is based on who gets the most face time and who gets the most PR time. But a leader is made because she or he does something different. And so while it's wonderful that certain celebrities put their money and personality behind a certain cause, it masks who really is fighting for that cause. So we are the private citizens who have the same rights as yesterday's public heroines.