We say or do little things to impress people. If we do something that embarrasses us, we make up excuses. It is not genuine but merely an imitation of a person, an imitation of life. Then when that doesn't work we are disappointed. We come up with routines to give us a sense of security.
Habitual patterns have a tremendous stranglehold on our lives.
It could be as simple as getting ready for work each morning. It becomes automatic pilot. There is no real communication with our world happening. As we drive down the street we suddenly notice we have not really noticed anything. When we have glimpses of psychological habitual patterns, we see how similarly we react to situations.