Quite simply, you get rid of the emotions and warm fuzzy feelings and drive hellbent for pure lust. Instead, tell her how hot and bothered you get at the very sight of her. She probably hasn't heard that lately. At least, not from you. If she feels like one, then she is one.
Individual versions appear all the way from virgins to vamps.
You could respond in sexual overtones to everything she says. With some women, that will garner you an icy cold response. With other women, it will get you laid. You know your wife. And that's fine.