Thus, some Idealists pursue new relationships at the expense of developing their current ones. Most, however, receive their greatest pleasure from enhancing one special union, and they organize their lives around their homes and families. Idealists have an extraordinary ability to relate to their mates on an emotional level. Idealists are very likely to be loving, understanding, and supportive of their spouses. Because of their tendency to help others in their personal development, Idealists are at risk of investing too many of their resources in persons outside the home, consequently neglecting their mates and families.
Idealists are usually good hosts, and people feel welcome in their home.
They are generally thoughtful of their mates, remembering special occasions, such as anniversaries, birth- days, and holidays. Idealists expect the same from their loved ones and may feel deeply hurt and act out if they are not acknowledged on their special occasions as well. Such a perception may be held because of the Rational's complex personality, including their autonomous, efficient, and theoretical orientation. With a knack for focused concentration and finding solutions to difficult problems, Rational mates may be criticized as being too preoccupied with their world of abstractions and technology. Spouses of Rationals may need to gently encourage them to redirect their energies to the relationship and family if the Rational does not do so on their own accord.