I can see how he might feel betrayed if I was doing it to hurt him, but I'm not. He thinks it's still wrong. Jo V., Muskegon, Michigan A. One of the biggest mistakes we see newly married couples making has to do with talking to others about their partner's flaws and foibles. Few things will sabotage your capacity to be a team more severely than this. Your telling a friend about last night's fight may seem relatively harmless, but it can actually hurt your marriage.
Loyalty is built on being true.
It is built on earning another's confidence. When you become a telltale spouse, you lose loyalty. You fracture any confidence your spouse has in you. But we are saying watch what you say. Try focusing on your feelings, not your complaints, if you need help from a friend or family member in handling a marriage situation.