The Creative response to conflict is about turning problems into possibilities. It is about consciously choosing to see what can be done, rather than staying with how terrible it all is. It is affirming that you will choose to extract the best form the situation. Our attitudes colour our thoughts. Usually we are quite unaware of how they shape the way we see the world.
Life is struggle.
Mistakes are unacceptable. Unbendable beliefs about what's proper. Life is hard work. I have to be right. You may hardly have worn it since you were a young child.