People are different people to different people. Grudges weigh more heavily on you than they could ever hurt the grudgee. We are all inter-dependent on each other. Both a lender and a borrower be. The Minimum Daily Requirement is two hugs.
Love is possible, but it needs effort.
Love is a commitment, not a giddy feeling. For love to happen, Passion, Intimacy and Commitment must be balanced on a foundation of Respect. Passion is shared intense interest. When we try to possess someone, we're out of balance. We can't get to intimacy without going through our vulnerabilities.