B is for behavior , something that can be measured. And it stands for controversial , too, a smoke-screen that some people use to pretend they don't have to pay attention to the evidence. E is for expectations , which all too often set the upper limit on your child's progress. It's also for expertise , which doesn't necessarily spring from a diploma on a wall. F is for failure , as bad for our kids as for anybody.
G is for generalization , which can be taught, along with everything else that matters.
It's also for hard work , which, with the right plan, can make the best use of their time. And it stands for hypothesis , the practice that the goodness of everything we do must be measured by the effect on our children, not by trust in a philosophy. I is for intentions , which don't matter, unlike actions, which do. J is for joy . L is for learning , which our kids do if they're taught properly.