They are achieved a little at a time, yet are well worth the effort. Members of healthy families share their feelings with each other in a non-threatening manner. Anger is expressed without attacking the offending party. Criticism is not perceived as a personal attack. Problems are worked through, rather than avoided or turned into opportunities for the family to fragment.
Family members give trust and acceptance.
They are accountable to each other and the moral code of their beliefs. Healthy families worship and share spiritual growth together. This is a family held together by bonds of loyalty, love and tradition, rather than force, guilt and fear. Rules and expectations are clear and consistent. Communication is open and direct, rather than filled with hidden loyalties and secrets.