He finds that to be easier than winning friends by showing genuine, unselfish kindness to others. On the other hand, there may be no malicious intent. But the result is just the same. I told her not to tell you I told her. That friendship is doomed.
Friends have to be able to trust each other.
We alienate our own closest friends by gossip. They begin to suspect that if we talk about others to them, we will also talk about them to others, so they hesitate to share their souls with us. And if we do talk about them, you can be sure it will get back to them, usually exaggerated by a few degrees. And no matter how much we protest that we did not say exactly that, the friendship could be irreparably damaged. If we use the tongue for good, we will reap good from it.