Love must be tough at times. God never expects us to be a doormat to anyone. We need to learn to be appropriately assertive, to own our feelings, to stand firm for what God has called us to do even when others are not supportive. This is all very important. When that perspective is right, our negative feelings toward others often dissolve.
Genuine forgiveness becomes possible.
And when confronting someone is necessary, we are able to do it in a more relaxed, confident spirit. The bottom line is that God is not our adversary but our friend. We can't remind ourselves of this too often. The friendship of Christ is the overriding factor that touches every relationship and encounter of life. In this matter he has not withheld his hand.