The teenager explains her feelings of lack of stability and confusion. There are many different ways to work things out. Even if you think you've tried everything possible, keep working at it because going to court should be the very last resort. It is not just the final hearing that polarizes parents, but the process preparing for the final hearing. Children become caught up in this process and can be used like bargaining chips in the process of preparing for a court trial.
Litigation can make things worse for parents and children.
Going to court doesn't usually provide parents with what they expect. Parents are disappointed by the process and the outcome. Many times parents are not allowed to present evidence they want to because it is not relevant. Litigation is expensive emotionally and financially and most parents don't feel they get what they want. Going to court gives the right to decide about your children to a judge who doesn't know or love your children and who decides in the children's best interest rather than parental convenience.