It is so awkward. I need some step by step help here. Even though bringing up a prenuptual agreement might be awkward or difficult, it is even more reckless not to bring it up. This means it's up to an individual judge to decide how much each party is to receive in the divorce settlement. There is no standard law in equitable distribution states.
Equitable distribution is based on British common law in which the wife was chattel for the husband.
It's only been within the last 100 years that women have been able to have property in their own name. I do know that every state is different, and that it's important for you to check the laws in your state. I also applaud you for asking these questions. One thing that I learned through my divorce experience is that it's very important to manage your divorce, just like we manage most things in our lives. Asking questions, looking for answers and doing research are all important.