It's also important to find ways to express hopes and fears with the other partner in a way that lowers barriers and builds intimacy. Talking about things helps. Sometimes a professional counselor or therapist can be useful. The HIV-positive partner may need to give up anxieties or guilt about being a burden or victim. The HIV-negative partner may need to give up fantasies of being the rescuer or savior.
Life is difficult.
Life with HIV is more difficult. There is no need to choose between living with HIV and living with love. John R. Ballew, M.S., is a licensed professional counselor in private practice in Atlanta. He specializes in issues related to coming out, sexuality and relationships, spirituality and career.