In this model there are five bonding dynamics. These dynamics are directly related to one another, must be developed in a specific order, and must be kept in balance. For the cohabiting couple, there is a blatant transgression of this model. That transgression is that a sexual relationship is entered into before a commitment is made. A low level of commitment is the defining factor of cohabitation.
Low commitment is a death knell to any relationship.
When a sexual relationship is entered into before spending time in getting to know someone and then learning to trust and developing a healthy interdependence, and then commitment, these first four dynamics of the Relationship Attachment Model are interrupted and are not developed to the level of healthy support of the relationship. Therefore, a troubled relationship in a cohabiting couple is nearly a given. Again, God's plan for marriage between one man and one woman for life is validated as being in our best interest. All rights reserved. Enter your address in the appropriate box and proceed.