Maybe trying to be acceptable in the eyes of society does not ring true to the person that you really are. Try setting your own standards. Remember how many beautiful paintings have been done of women of size. Men painted those works and obviously found real beauty in those women. Titian and Rubens are prime examples of talented artists who portrayed full-figured women in all their glory.
Eating is okay.
The quickest way to cause a binging attack is to deny yourself that food that you are binging on. If you love cotton candy and you go to a carnival, denying it to yourself will only make you grab it faster and eat more of it. You are not a prisoner of the food you crave, but you can make yourself one by treating the food as if it is your enemy, therefore giving it power to defeat you. Do not try to change the world. Do not change for the world.