It's like erecting a playground in your sexual stimuli center. We recommend it to anyone who can get their hands on it and manage to read through it without dropping it out of shock. Now, isn't a good bet. And if you've only been with your significant other for a few months, he or she will probably run screaming if you arrive with this daunting tome. But if you've been in a relationship for a while and the honeymoon cruise sank some time ago, it's the perfect starting point for a recovery mission.
Intimacy is difficult.
The truth is that finding an intimate, trusting relationship is one of life's most difficult challenges. With this in mind, Scantling offers several exercises which enable the reader to better understand their current sexuality as a function of early experiences and familial attitudes toward sex. Scantling primarily uses a model she has developed which focuses on discovering, appreciating and varying our natural response patterns to situations both in and out of the bed. She describes the characteristics of each style extensively and provides guidelines for the typical behaviors of each in all areas of life, including the bedroom. Scantling has devised a battery of questions that help the reader assess their style, but she emphasizes that these are fluid guidelines, not commandments.