At times we give way, throw away or burn all of her vesture. She's a fighter and she comes back in all of her splendor and glory. So then we go into rank denial. When you finally do join her, you let her know that no one else can know about her. You start condemning yourself.
Guilt builds up.
You try to compromise with her. If she will just go and come at your bidding, everything will be alright. She won't cooperate. You see how we discriminate against ourselves. The foregoing is my own personal observations from my own life.