Jennifer, a personal chef is a wonderful idea. And I'm realizing that a cleaning lady is a must for my sanity. With three children and one being autistic and with a big house you certainly deserve some household help. I'm ashamed to even be complaining. Thanks for your ideas.
Life is to be enjoyed.
Make your husband do his share also. I was married to the same man for 44 years and never once had to pick up after him. His mother trained him well. They are trainable. They can cook and shop for grocerys and all sorts of things including ironing.