Remember this - horses have 23 hours every single day to sleep, eat and drink. For 23 hours a day, he can do whatever he chooses. I always want to give my horse a choice. If he chooses to do the wrong thing, that's fine. But he must pay a consequence for it.
Horse training becomes difficult for people when they have too many shades of gray .
Unfortunately, there is no written manual on what is expected behavior you should get from your horse. For example, if you buy a brand new truck that should get 16 miles to the gallon and it doesn't, the first thing you do is go back to the dealership and ask why. However, when you buy a horse, there is no written manual. I try to raise people's expectations in what they believe their horse should do for them . To me, my horse should respect me, cooperate and try.