It is a living way to get to Life. Have faith towards God. And since that way is through your union with Christ, it makes Jesus that way. You want to grow, and the way to do it is to depend upon Him to walk with you and actually give you courage in the storms of life. Get so united to Him in your love for Him to allow the thing to occur naturally.
Fruit naturally grows from a branch if it sticks to the vine.
If you never tried it before, come and ask Him to forgive you. Come and begin to love Him. Love relationships start out shallow. But they grow deep. Turn away from all your thoughts that good deeds without any relationship-communion with God will have you to grow.