The biblical pattern for recovery begins with honesty. As long as there is dishonesty or misrepresentation of the situation, the journey back to health will not proceed very far. There has to be honesty before God about what has happened. The second step involves receiving and granting forgiveness. We must receive forgiveness from God for our sins and then forgive those who have sinned against us.
Forgiveness is the antidote to defensiveness and inhibition.
We must forgive in response to the great gift of God's forgiveness of us in Christ. There are no simple cures, but there is power from God available to us. By the power of the Lord, we are a new creation. We are not bound by heredity or childhood environment. I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me.