Even if your grey friend is from captive-bred parents he will still carry with him this genetically programmed method of bathing. It is the human caretaker that expects more than the grey is emotionally equipped to give. We want exuberance, we want to see this grey get into the shower like an amazon or a macaw. Therefore we find that our expectations lead to disappointment and we conclude that the grey hates the shower. This is not usually the case and should be reexamined by the careful and concerned grey keeper.
Fear is another matter entirely in the grey showering process.
If a grey is frightened of bathing, great care and instruction with an intense amount of emotional support should be given these sensitive little birds to encourage them to bathe properly. If your grey leaps screaming from the perch to avoid getting wet and acts as if you are scalding him with hot oil every time you attempt to bathe him, you will have to rethink your methods and gently coax and instruct your grey to bathe. Some grey people say that they can not even get their bird to go into the bathroom of their homes out of fear of this area. Let's go see the pretty birdie in the mirror. A great way to initiate taking a shy bird into the bathroom area is to distract it from your ultimate intention of bathing it.