Nobody can talk you into believing you have 75 fingers. You can count those five fingers on your hand. There is so much evidence to support the claim, that it is an unshakable conviction. One way to gain confidence is to work out definitions. You're getting married.
Love is built on knowledge.
The more intimate the knowledge, the more you can love. That's not reality. That's a sure sign of infatuation. Real love takes work. You have to be willing to make the effort.