During that time Fodera was in despair, regretting that in his pre-show confidence he had told everyone he knew to watch the show. But after the show aired Fodera was deluged with supportive calls and e-mails. He says the emotional support he received helped him keep the experience in perspective. Fodera and fellow contestant Roseman also got a big boost from Rosie O'Donnell, who had them on her show, giving each a car. But it's not likely that the rest of us disappointed souls will be given new wheels by Rosie.
Experts emphasize the importance of reaching out to supportive family and friends.
Talking with clergy or counselors is also a good idea. It sometimes helps to realize that in many situations failure is as much due to chance as it is to our skills or actions. Most important, we need to simply understand that disappointment is a normal aspect of life. Whether we're trying for a new job or answering a question posed by Regis, we're not always going to succeed. Using the Internet to meet someone online is a very convenient, effective and enjoyable experience.