We were incoherent, in great pain. We did the most we could do, reaching out and asking for help. No newcomer can do more. Addiction leads to the place where ultimately nothing remains of the joys and pleasures we take for granted. Intimacy and addiction are mutually exclusive, for it is accompanied by high levels of core shame.
Intimacy sets the stage for risking exposure and nakedness.
Intimacy uncovers the core self which the addict can never risk for fear of rejection. The next thing we lost were our children. We mirrored no one and no one mirrored us. Kabbalistically, 'Son' symbolizes kindness. What remained was unbalanced fear symbolized by 'Daughter'.