The use of force is implicit in the definition of control. Even the good things that governments do involve the use of force somewhere, somehow. Sometimes government uses force directly to control behavior. Other times, government uses money taken by force to fund activities which would otherwise not involve the use of force. In any group of people, from 2 to 20 billion, there is no use of force until someone uses it first.
Initial force is aggression or coercion.
Defensive force is the use of force to defend your safety, rights, or property. You have the right to defend yourself, and the right to authorize others, such as those in government, to use defensive force in your behalf. Defensive force is survival. Retaliatory force is punishment of someone who has initiated force. If someone assaults you, you have the right to authorize government to punish those responsible in your behalf.