See the last section of this chapter and chapter 12. Often, one person has trouble letting go during the break up. It is true that through marriage vows and thousands of soft utterances we pledge our undying commitment. This is a reality that every lover must know, face, and accept. We are not in control of love.
Faulty conclusions abound when falling in love and scrambling out of love.
We make the partner into a saint, later the same person may be seen as an ogre. Each partner will benefit from considering the possibility of finding a better relationship. Gradually specific plans for a better life should emerge for both people. To understand is to forgive. Insights into your own weaknesses can become self-help projects.