Charm is mindful ability to create inclusiveness. I'm not suggesting dishonesty about one's feelings. I am suggesting civility. As people are learning the value of reclaiming their emotional life, we mustn't be so reactive that we glorify our feelings. The human animal is a package deal.
Emotions are part of the package, to be acknowledged, felt and dealt with.
And, they are transient. There is a small but growing trend among westerners to incorporate chanting into everything from worship services to personal growth seminars to corporate team meetings. This is simply recapturing a natural part of human heritage, one which only this small, economically dominant corner of the world even forgot. Chant was never completely forgotten. Chanting, words repeated for their effect on mind and body, has been used consciously by folks as diverse as Martin Luther King, Jr., and advertising executives.