We most frequently recommend either Harken or Furlex brand systems as they are among the most reliable and trouble-free systems on the market and are an excellent value. We also carry Cruising Design's Flexible Furler, Schaeffer and Pro Furl systems. We are manufacturer certified in both sales and service by Harken and Furlex. Unfortunately such cloth is not made. New sails seem especially stiff when you are used to the softness of the broken down cloth of an old sail.
Lazy jacks are the traditional solution, and they do indeed make dealing with a main much easier.
The drawbacks are, increased windage and weight aloft, and increased chafe damage to the sail. A better solution is the Dutchman sail flaking system. The Dutchman uses fixed, vertical control lines run from the base of the main, through fairleads onto alternate sides of the sail, up to the topping lift. When the sail is dropped, these lines automatically guide the sail down into flakes on alternate sides of the boom. Spend a few seconds straightening, and you've got a perfectly flaked sail.