Often an integral part of grieving, guilt brings to the surface issues of the mind and heart that may have been buried for years. You may feel guility about what you once felt, or what you did or didn't do to or for your loved one. And that is perfectly normal. However, it's important to recognize that no matter what, you cannot change the past. No longer does every thought or activity trigger your overwhelmimg sense of loss.
Life begins to reassert itself.
T his does not mean that your grief has disappeared entirely. In fact, it actually becomes part of your psyche, a part of you. Eventually, you will learn to accept death as part of the natural process of life. You will eventually establish a new relationship with the deceased, neither saying good-bye nor achieving closure. Ultimately, the relationship is reevaluated, internalized and cherished.