Showers and gift-giving are very much a part of second weddings. If you wish, choose an all-women shower. Although gifts are not expected at second-time weddings, close friends, family usually want to send something. Your children's participation will depend on their age and attitude. For instance, it may be best to leave an unwilling toddler at home.
Girls often serve as honour attendants, maids, or flower girls.
They might pass out hymnals and programs. Even if you don't give children a duty, include them in other ways - assign them seats of honour, or let them stand at the altar with you. At the reception, let children tend the guest book, pass out punch, the birdseed packets for your getaway. Your introductions should clarify the relationships, put everyone at ease. Your children's expressions will create memorable second wedding photos.