After school hours. Socialization is a process by which an individual learns to function within the society he or she live in. Taken to extremes this can mean the social engineering of an individual to ensure that this individual will become the proper kind of obedient, unquestioning drone who will be a good worker and not cause the state any problems. Public school was designed for this reason if one is to buy John Gatto's theories. Socializing is time spent engaging in social intercourse with others.
Kids are scared to go to school 'cause they've been bullied, etc., etc.
A mean spirited, coercive environment creates mean spirited, coercive people. If a neighbour kid came to call with whom they didn't want to spend time, they said no thanks. John Holt often said that if we believe adulthood is lousy, stressful and full of headaches, the best way to prepare our kids for it is not to put their heads in a vice each day, but to provide a calm, empowering environment. I do very strongly feel that the relationships that homeschooling children have the opportunity to form are much healthier because they are chosen rather than forced and have the support of the family behind them.