Size, weight, 'masculinity', 'femininity' or any other physical attribute or role is not a good indicator of whether a person will be a victim or a batterer. So that's the problem, not battering. If a person who batters is also on drugs or alcohol, that person has two serious, separate problems. Similarly, a person who has been a victim of child abuse, hate crime or other trauma in their lives is not relieved of responsibility for his or her own abusive conduct. No one could be a batterer who is educated, feminist, religious, friendly and likeable.
Domestic violence is an equal opportunity phenomenon.
Batterers come from all walks of life, all ethnic groups, all socioeconomic classes, all educational levels, all occupations and all political stripes. This myth is helpful to those who would like to deny or distance themselves from domestic abuse in our communities, but no group is exempt. The victim actually likes it. This myth persists in part because many people still define and understand GLBT people exclusively through sexual behavior. In contrast, domestic violence takes place without any mutual trust or agreement, and is not consensual or pleasurable for the victim.