Disappointed Dear Disappointed, It is not uncommon for anyone to be disappointed when they have their first sexual intercourse. The experience is filled with expectation, hope, anxiety, excitement, and fear. Often, pressure is a greater factor than pleasure. If you place your finger just inside her vagina and ask her to squeeze, you will probably feel her vaginal muscles tighten. It is not clear to Alice if her vagina could be tighter, or if you have an unrealistic expectation.
Few vaginas are able to grab onto a penis as strongly as one's own hand.
If that might be the case, you can teach yourself to masturbate using a looser grip. Use a water-based lube or your other hand. Changing your pattern can help you learn to respond to different stimuli so that you increase your own opportunities for pleasure. Being a good lover takes time, patience, trust, talking, listening, and practice. Truthfulness and authenticity also play an important part, since sexuality and intimacy involve more than gymnastics.