Research shows adults like the fact that they choose to continue parenting after divorce rather than submitted to a court-ordered custody arrangement. They also like the fact they were involved in joint decision making around their children and they were positive about the relief from the burden of sole parenting. They may need professional counsel in how to make the transition emotionally, financially and mechanically from being married to becoming divorced. Benjamin asks pastors to assess whether a couple is ready to talk about their family after divorce. If not the pastor can help them get counsel from someone trained in this area.10 As Director of the agency, Families in Transition, Rhonda Freeman helps families navigate through the chaos of divorce.
Freeman counsels pastors to be cautious.
When mediating parenting decisions they are dealing with incredibly serious and far-reaching implications. This will help get couples to think about how they arrange post-divorce life. The way they want to arrange their post-divorce family will heavily influence how they conduct themselves during divorce proceedings. The consequences of our conduct Ironically, it is more how we conduct our divorces in this society than the divorce itself that seems to be most damaging to mothers, fathers, and children. Barbara Dafoe Whitehead is a noted scholar, opinion-leader, and advocate for children caught in the vice of their parent's divorce.