Hostility is an outgrowth of feelings of fear. Respond to hostility with a hug. Acknowledging and applying understanding is a powerful healing tool in an intimate relationship. You may be psychologically aroused, but do not attack or ignore the point of view espoused by the spouse. When bonding is good, sex is good.
Males are four times more likely to focus on physical characteristics of a partner.
Their desirability overwhelms the restraint of their fantasy ravisher. All humans are sadistic, narcissistic, masochistic, bisexual.