Then he asks whether we can have that no-touching sex again. Issue clear and simple commands, give prompt and desirable rewards for good behavior, and ignore the negative in hopes it will go away. It has been several nights since my husband misloaded the dishwasher, since he attempted to clean the kitchen at all, but I don' comment on that. To my amazement. I tell him.
Dogs really respond to praise.
He finishes sweeping, moves behind me at the sink, and begins kneading my weary shoulders. I go so limp that I drop a glass in the sink. My husband tells me not to worry, he'll clean it up, and leads me out of the kitchen and into the bedroom, where he continues the massage. Although I keep expecting him to segue into lovemaking, he works on me until I'm practically out of my mind with desire, I have to beg him for sex, and he finally complies. The next day I go looking for the book in search of more brilliant man- changing techniques.