They watched him die hanging from a cross in total rejection and disgrace as though he were an evil man and a terrible criminal. And nothing made sense. None of their expectations came true. When their wrong expectations died, they hid in fear in an upper room in Jerusalem behind closed doors. Failed expectations still bring pain and failure in individual lives and in the church.
Failed expectations are a major source of the kind of disappointment that produces failure.
Your are not what I expected in Christian friend. One of the greatest sources of pain in our families and in our congregations come from frustrated expectations. Too many adult sons struggle with the pain of feeling like a worthless failure. They are certain that they never met their father's expectations, so they are filled with a sense of failure. This pain spills over into their role as a husband.