Tim, on the other hand, objects to this double standard. In fact, Tim said he faces more obstacles as a Greek man in the gay community than as a gay man in a fraternity. There's nothing I can say that will convince them. Even in the most supportive fraternity, negative stereotypes of homosexuality inevitably make their presence known. I can't help but think that it crosses some people's minds, that my sexual orientation might somehow affect rush.
Fraternities have a reason to fear such stereotyping.
But we just present ourselves for who we are and hope that rushees get to know our brotherhood, and that as times are changing, people will be more accepting of these issues. I would be wrong to tell you that a chapter on some campuses that has an openly gay brother wouldn't be considered a 'gay' fraternity. But if that means they have an open and diverse brotherhood, it can be a positive thing. Despite these fears, the gay brothers manage to pursue same-sex relationships, although they still disagree on the amount of discretion necessary. I've even been set up by a couple of brothers with other guys.