Knowing what was wrong with your former partner will not fix it so that you don t get screwed over again. There is only one way to avoid that and it is by looking at yourself. If you are feeling a little squirmy and uncomfortable right now as you read those words, you just know you have some thinking to do. It s sad when we have some idea about what places us into crap situations, what holds us back, holds us down and immobilizes us - yet will do nothing to change it. It s like a roller coaster ride, full of ups and downs, but ultimately going round and round in circles.
Life is short.
The process is simple but it isn t easy. It requires time, effort, sweat and generally a great deal of discomfort. People don t like to do this work because it doesn t feel good. Some of us cannot do this work alone, and are better off undertaking it in a therapist s office, or in a support group, or with a trusted friend. Many people will jump through all kinds of hoops to avoid ever really looking at themselves and their relationships.