Both reactions are childish, but God will help a person overcome them if he willingly depends on the indwelling Spirit. When a Christian learns to accept himself humbly for what he is as God made him, he will soon learn to accept others as they are too, and that will constitute a giant step toward establishing a happy home. A mature person profits by his mistakes and by the suggestions of others. Immature people try to find excuses for their failures. They blame them on other people or on God.
Emotional babies are more concerned about protecting their own egos than in growing.
On the other hand, a mature person graciously accepts criticism, honestly evaluating his life in the light of God's Word and depending on the Holy Spirit to bring about the desired changes. He sees suggestions from other people as a part of God's plan for bringing him to maturity. Such an attitude will help relieve another area of tension in marriage. With the Lord's help, I'll try to improve that. Of course, the mature person will also be careful how he makes suggestions.