I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. BUT on a human level, let me ask you a question. The Book is fine . I would rather read it together with W and it is important that we read during times when she feels some enthusiasm. I believe that our inner thought patterns can have an effect on oour emotions but its impact is limited.
Love is a very complex emotion.
On the commitment side of love we made promises to stay with and care for our S for better or for worse for the rest of our lives. I think that it is this type of love that Paul is referencing in Ephesians. Feelings of being in love romantic love is not an emotion that we decide that we are going to feel on such and such day and also promise God that we are going to feel. I think Paul was off his rocker when he said this. IT sorta steers me away from his opinions on marriage.