There is expertise and art and science and plenty of practice required in showing love. Just feeling it, willing it or wanting it is not enough. But all around us we get the message that love is something that happens. There is just a spark, we're told, and caring for one another is something you ought to do. But that is wrong because it is limited and shallow.
Love takes more than desire.
It takes practice and preparation and perspiration. Every once in a while you come across a line in the Gospel which seems not to be true, though I love and believe the Gospel overall. The Gospels themselves indicate that people asked Jesus questions right up to the moment of his betrayal and death, and that they kept asking questions of him when he returned in those marvelous post-resurrection experiences you read about at the end of Luke's Gospel, in particular. They kept asking questions, and we should too. Here's a suggestion to keep working on that loving practice and perspiration.