Isn't it amazing how much it must take to carry the ledger that spans weeks, even years of infractions. Two of the great arts in life are learning what to forget and how to forgive. They can't allow themselves to forgive because then there would be no reason for bitterness. And so they are caught in a perpetual cycle of emptiness and hate. Love does not engage in the malicious pleasure of hearing something derogatory about someone.
Love wants to hear and believe the best about someone.
It is not excited by stories about fallen brethren and their misfortune. Love's ear is tuned toward the positive, the good, the uplifting stories. Christian love has none of the human malice which finds pleasure in ill reports. Christian love needs not so much to be defended from its enemies as its friends. Some people seem to think that love should always be soft and yielding.