These are very powerful influences in our lives, yet we may be totally oblivious to the often distorted lens through which we view our perceptions. The legal profession is particularly susceptible to stress because of unrealistic performance demands, the inherent adver-sarial nature of law, and seemingly endless deadlines. Add to that unreasonably high expectations, established and reinforced by one s incessant internal messages and insidious cultural influences. It is essential to be loved by everyone. I must always be competent.
Every problem has a perfect solution.
If others criticize me, I must have done something wrong. I can t change the way I think. I must rarely show weakness or cry. Strong people do not ask for help. Everything is within my control.