It's called denial. When you come to the point in your life where you accept your child as is , from that point on you and your child can go forth and conquer many things together. It has not been easy raising a child with a handicap, let alone on your own as a single parent. It took me a long time to get to this point, but she is a special little girl with a disability, not a disabled little girl. My best advice to any parent is to love your child with all your heart and treat him with the best care and discipline you know how to give.
Love never fails.
The following links are places where I have found information that has helped me in learning about what Franchesca is going through. If your child has any of the conditions that she has, these may be helpful to you. Franchesca has had a lot of difficulty with self-stimulation. Some of this she has overcome. Fatigue and emotional upset may also be contributing factors.