One of the first things we discovered, way back before we were married, early in our relationship, was that if we were going to be dancing together, we couldn't just put our arms around each other. We had to lean back. Whenever we dance with other partners, we always notice if the other person gives weight in our arms, or not. Some people shove each other around, or go lurching all over the dance floor, or they're just not paying attention to the person they're dancing with. It always shows.
Good dancers dance together .
They lean back in each others' arms, and they can do the most amazing tricks. Because they know, they can feel, the balance in the other person. For me, that's a good analogy for the way a good relationship works. You can lean back, and let it rip. And your partner can pull you out of some real mistakes.