We use many destructive behaviors to escape our fears, alcohol, drugs, sex, gambling, food etc. We must unlearn all the negative thought patterns that are causing our self-destructive behaviors. Love eliminates all fear. We cannot love and fear at the same time. It is your thinking that will change your life.
Feelings come from thoughts.
Start today to change your negative beliefs. You deserve it. Be good to yourself. Start being your best friend and stop being your worst enemy.