Then you can justify keeping your fears and not changing. All along you thought it was coming from them, when in fact it was your echo bouncing back to you. When one fears one cannot trust. Trust opens up many possible realities because it is open and flexible. When you are in trust you are in your center and therefore can make better decisions as to your next move because you KNOW that you are reliable and that your connection with the Source, the Infinite, will always guide you where you most need to be.
Fear blocks many possible realities because it makes one inflexible, stagnant.
Furthermore, you give up your power when in that fear energy. You then let others decide for you what your outcome will be. This is the victim at its best, and it creates a martyr. Think for a moment about the many fundamentalist groups on your planet today who revel in the idea of being a holy martyr. Recently there were bombings of United States Embassies, the holy and political wars in Ireland and England, Pakistan and India.