Make it a habit to recognize when you are caught in a storm of negativity. You may notice that the energy of these emotions feels sticky or slimy or prickly. Your unpleasant emotions are your signals that you are caught. When you notice your anger, anxiety, jealousy, envy or other deadly emotion, remind yourself that you have a choice in how you proceed. You can cling to the emotional state, or you can transform it.
Emotions are expressions of psychological behavior and behavior can be changed.
Remind yourself that you have a choice to change your emotional state. Remind yourself that you are not a victim. You have options. Reframe your problem as a challenge and an opportunity. If you can't imagine anything, just trust that something could.