Our personality is best described as the characteristic way in which we engage, act upon, or attempt to control the world to satisfy the pictures of what we desire. If we want something, or control for it, we will behave in every possible way until we get it. To control the world we generate behaviors. In Reality Therapy there is no separation between feeling, thinking, doing and even bodily activity. All behavior is made up of some mixture of these major components of behavior.
Feelings are the strongest and most effective of the four behavioral components.
We choose what we do, we choose what we think, and even what we feel. Common psychological disorders are feeling behaviors. As people fail in the struggle to satisfy their needs, they may choose behaviors to control people. It becomes the job of the reality therapist to help them evaluate which need or needs is driving them as well as to help them control the world to satisfy all these needs. The Reality Therapist will help a person may better behavioral choices.