You want to develop a deepening sense of intimacy with your partner.
Intimacy is a matter of one person being moved by another.
The rustle of her robe, the shyness of his gratitude, the heat of her disappointment, the bitterness of his losses, even possessions can be mediums through which we are moved by one another. I do not eat bread. Wheat is of no use to me. The wheat fields have nothing to say to me. And that is sad.