Children often have trouble entering into committed relationships of their own fearing the relationships will end as their parents' did. Therefore, it is imperative that divorcing parents put their children before the legal battles. In the long run, your children will be the winner if you suppress your anger which you have against your spouse. Remember your spouse is your child's parent and you should never do anything to under mind their relationship unless the child is in imminent danger. The longer the parental conflicts continue, the more serious is the psychological damage to the child.
Many children respond to stress, but turning off their feelings and walling up their emotions.
Those children are deprived of their childhood and many times find themselves emotional adrift as adults. It is important for parents to remember that their actions during a divorce can have long term unintended consequences. For example, a mother who forbids her daughter to see her adulterous father is laying groundwork for her daughter to be distrusting of all men, thus potentially sabotaging the child's future intimate relationships. Parents must also realize that children often interpret anger between the spouses as anger at the children. Because a child's emotional health after his parents' divorce is dependent upon his parents' behavior during the divorce, the separation process is a good time for the parents to reflect upon the child's well being, and if necessary seek professional help.