They are only victims of their upbringing and circumstances. A man steeped in violence is only the good man in bad circumstances. until we can root out the causes of evil, such as child abuse and indoctrination, then we will continually suffer. That is what it was. For if it hurt his wife to sleep with her handmaid, even though it was her idea, then that constitutes adultery. And Jacob had two wives, that he obtained deceitefully by deceiving the owner of the sheep.
Man is fallable, and makes many mistakes.
If you feel that I am overstepping the mark in my statements, then consider this. The word of the bible is full of despair, as well as hope. However, nowhere does it say that mankind will have the vengeance. The vengeance is brought upon us by not heeding what we are told. We currently treat this planet like our own personal property to use and abuse as we may.