The adult doesn't say yes or no. Let's think about this. The adult reflects thought. That's where leadership comes in. If you want to be an effective leader, realize that you can't help how you feel, but you can help how you act.
Emotions are neither right nor wrong.
They just are. You have the right to feel any way you want. But you do not have the right to act any way you want. It's the child within that wants free reign. To be an effective leader, you have to keep your emotions under control and not let them influence your decision-making ability.