In particular, the more vulnerable one feels, the harder it is to understand another's perspective. Seelig likened psychological reconciliation to the structure of the eye. To see correctly is possible only through the fusion of two slightly different images. In the same way, the reconciliation of the self is possible only through a combination of different perspectives. Robert Paul, dean of the Graduate School of Arts and Sciences, spoke of the desire for revenge.
Individuals take revenge to renew their self-esteem.
People who wish to avenge themselves often live in a state of suspended animation. Paul said the mind's component parts only work in concert sometimes. Other times, the divided self is the dominant state. He added that people may never forgive themselves and that their enemies may never apologize, but everyone can forgive himself enough to enter the social circle once more, instead of just sulking in hatred.