Although they often take over in the most difficult of circumstances, many find few support systems. Sometimes they feel lonely. Sometimes they feel used. People assume they did a poor job of parenting the first time, so why should they have a second chance. They question whether grandparents are capable or competent.
Grandparents deserve more than pseudo-holidays and cards with canned verses.
All have earned appreciation and respect. They deserve to be communicated with regularly and respectfully, by schools, courts, medical professionals and social service agencies. They deserve to be seen as full partners in the welfare of their grandchildren. They have earned the right to be apprised of resources, included in networks and given legal, social and moral status equivalent with their responsibilities. Krista Ramsey's column appears on Saturdays.