Pre-date You may be traveling with a pack since there's safety in numbers. You need a non-commital place where you can nibble on inexpensive pupu and maybe have dinner if you're comfortable. Loud music is a plus because it minimizes the necessity for discussions on the meaning of life. Fast service, easy exit. Ryan's Grill, Ocean Club, Gordon Biersch.
First date Gotta be the movies.
You'll dine on hot dogs and oil-drenched popcorn, but it's a fair exchange for two hours without conversation. The challenge comes afterward when you have a little chat over dessert and coffee. A favorite coffee bar, a coffee bar where nobody knows you, Cafe Laufer, Bubbie's or Kahala Mandarin's Plumeria Cafe. You'll get a chance to see how he deals with his feminine side. Better yet, hand him a single rose and watch his reaction.