If you have any information that can help me in this matter I would appreciate it. I love my girlfriend very much and if I don't get some help I'll lose her. Thank you for your time. Because you are aware that your anger causes your girlfriend pain, you realize its destructive potential. To have admitted your need of help is a real mark of progress.
Love is very close to hate on the emotional scale.
As our emotional life matures, we seek to gain control of these high energy feelings, harnessing their energy, stopping them from getting out of control by exerting self-control. But some men, possibly as the result of experiences earlier in life, can find that those closest to them, those they value most, trigger the most powerful releases of uncontrolled outbursts of this energy. This results in acts of violence, hurtful to those he loves, and making the individual feel unworthy, fearful of the consequences of his lack of self-control. Unchecked, these can become habitual responses, revealing a cycle of cause and effect where strong feelings he cannot channel more acceptably are vented through violence. Some men seem naturally more likely to respond to emotional pressure with aggression than others.