It would be great if I could help you by asking your MIL to respect you and give more attention to your feelings, but I can't reach her. All I can do is put some ideas out and let you figure out what to do about them. Take my suggestions, leave them, ignore them, or just think about it. I expect that you'll come up with a solution for yourself. Just, for goodness sake, don't let the rift between you build up into a lifelong feud.
Families can work together.
I hope yours will. Someone has to work for it, and I guess it's going to be you.