That infuriates me to the core of my soul. Personally, I am not ready to admit failure yet. In the second essay, Hershel poses some questions which he hopes will help your come to your own answers. Tell us all what it is. Know your kid's friends and who they hang out with.
Kids have too much free and idle time.
They complain about it all the time so they are letting us know. Listen to them when they speak by giving them your full attention. What they have to say is important to them. Be sure they know the difference between right and wrong. They need to know that telling could save their life.