The family is a place where a child learns about the world. Violence is the best way to solve problems. I have to be in control to be okay. It is my fault that my parents fight. People sometimes deserve to be hit.
Love is painful.
Every member of a family in which abuse occurs is affected. A husband that abuses his wife may eventually begin to abuse his children. An abused wife may take out her frustrations and anger on her children. Children who are abused or witness abuse may eventually abuse their children or elderly parents when they become adults. At the very least these children grow up to become emotional wastelands.