It is also the opposite choice of honor. Having exaggerated or false beliefs about a mate during an argument . Here, one mate may believe that the other is trying to ruin or weaken the marriage on purpose. The major problem with this fourth risk factor is that what humans believe about another, they tend to see and hear even if it isn't true. Gary, you have taught so many of us that great relationships don't just happen, they take hard work.
Effective communication seems to be at the heart of it all.
Tim, we have learned that there are five levels of intimate communication that all couples both desire to enter and do enter every day of their marriage. The fourth and fifth levels of intimacy are the most satisfying and enriching part of marriage. Deep friendship can develop in these two levels. Just as with post-surgical infection, we can no longer tolerate the declining condition of our marital relationships. At this level, there is no discussion about life or each other.