In a couple cases, we had met someone, dated for a couple months, even started to become attached, but then our dates ended the relationship. This seemed to trigger and increase the underlying fear we held, and prompted an even greater effort to meet someone. The fear of not being worthy of a relationship was not a conscious one - in fact, it existed below the surface of our awareness and daily thoughts. But once we had thought of it, it seemed very clear that our fear was manifesting our experience of reality. The beliefs we hold about ourselves and the world are manifested and reflected in the experience of our personal reality.
Fear sends out an electromagnetic vibration, which attracts and manifests our very belief.
It is what we believe at a core emotional level that gets created. We realized that whatever positive things we did manifested and created for ourselves came out of a strong security that we would receive it. The fear of not being deserving of an intimate partnership is a symptom of poor self-esteem and worth. Attracting a healthy and CO-creative relationship always begins with a loving relationship with oneself. When we make a relationship of self-love our priority, then we create the conditions in which we can attract a relationship with an other.