The more obvious it is what a pastor wants a congregation to do, the less likely they are to do it. A pastor's good judgment grows in direct proportion ot the number of bad judgments made. Let sleeping dogmas lie. Pastors leave, Parishes remain. A colorful cleric doesn't always make a cleric colorful.
Experienced pastors are never surprised at what they hear in a counseling session.
No one will remember everything a pastor says, but everything a pastor says will be remembered by someone. There is an inverse relationship between the pastor's favorite song, and the congregation's ability to sing that song. When pastors try to please everyone, they don't. No two members have the same expectations of the pastor. No rectory can be too far from the church.