B. Two people love each other when they are quite capable of living without each other. D. A desire for the growing independence of the other is one of the signs of real love. We can only genuinely love human beings to whom we are naturally attracted.
Love is a non-possessive delight in the particularity of the other.
I cannot enjoy anyone that I possess for FEAR of losing them. When I am no longer afraid of neediness, I am no longer afraid of love. When I no longer NEED you, you will discover if I love you. Love gives people what they NEED unrelated to their behavior. If I have love in my life, it can make up for many things that I lack.