Up to that point, I thought we guys were like a bunch of kids pitted against the latest chess Grand Master after learning that chess is not checkers. Of course, this leaves me to wonder what the big mystery is. Luckily, as a fully qualified Hmmmologist, pondering is my specialty. You can quibble over the details, but short of leading a monastic life, it's a game we all play. Luckily, this is not a bad thing, but the work of God.
Life is far too short to spend in constant worry over relationships.
Stressing about them seems to work only occasionally and the relationships that we worry the most about are, from my observation, not often the strongest. Ultimately, we're all going for the same thing. Striving for a caring, comforting relationship seems to be human nature. Go out there, have fun, and try not to drop the ball.