Now I am coming out of a second closet - a closet so secret that there is no sign on the door. But everyone has walked past the closet door. Many have laughed at or harassed the people in this closet, without even having a name for the group. In here you will find the people who have never had a romantic or sexual relationship, or haven't had one for a long time. There is no academic research on involuntary celibacy yet, but shyness seems to be a common cause.
Involuntary celibacy can happen to men and women, straights, gays and bisexuals.
I came out of the lesbian closet around age 20. I had some difficulty believing that I was really lesbian. Maybe I was just afraid of dating men. They knew how to find partners of the opposite sex when necessary, and partners of the same sex when desired. This confirmed that I really was lesbian.