Not to mention the role model of the marital relationship being played out and the effects on the child of living in a war zone. This kind of unresolvable conflict creates emotional insecurity for all family members. The experience of divorce and its long term impact will be unique to the child. We could imagine both negative and positive results, depending on the child and on their lives post divorce. There are situations where children fare better after the divorce.
Divorce is a tool.
Norma Walsh, a noted family researcher, is not alone in her field when she states that the family processes and quality of family relationships remain the most significant predictor for health in families, divorced or not. Families experiencing divorce have the same range of functionality as intact families. Family researchers have found that it is not divorce that creates long term disturbance in children, but three other significant factors related to post separation changes. Change in quality of the relationship with a parent following divorce, and The number and degree of other stressors induced by the separation for the child. Minimizing the above factors in a child's life increases stability and the child's ability to benefit from the divorce.