Solution will come by itself. As much as you invade the life of another, so much less you will live your own. If you are my enemy you will think of me every day. On the other hand, all those who have known love, who have been in love, will recognise their own complicated selves here. Every threat to love is the shadow from the past.
Fear is projected by memory into the present where there is none.
When you fall in love, it is being in love with the mirror of your personal needs. The desire is born in the one who desires. Do not explain love with words of opposite meanings. He makes some wonderful existential juxtapositions too. I must not take you seriously.