Once the abuse is public knowledge, it often stops then and there. Shelters for battered spouses can provide information about local groups. Most community mental health agencies can also provide this information. While you're in the safety of your friend, family member or shelter, take the time to explore and familiarize yourself with what is available. If you have been abused and the police have been called, follow through by testifying in court and standing for your rights and independence of violence.
Love is no excuse for acceptance of being physically and emotionally abused.
Law enforcement officials are required by law in most states to make an arrest where domestic violence has occurred. In the early 70's, a police officer had to actually witness the abuse to make an arrest. If he or she arrived on the scene after the abuse had occurred, he could only advise the victim to swear out a warrant and, in some cases, stand by for protection while the abused person safely left the scene. Now, with the passing of new legislation, all you have to do is tell the officer that your spouse or boyfriend hit you and an arrest can be made under family violence codes. I take a firm stand on family violence.