Doing all of this slowly, a little at a time, allowing you to discover the whole person. Building a friendship before becoming lovers. Today we are into instant everything. Instant coffee, instant photographs, instant communication, instant gratification. We are all too busy to spend time waiting.
Life is too short.
We all know that there is no such thing. Like is something we do gradually with our eyes wide open, not blinded by falling stars. Many of us believe that a strong physical or chemical attraction between people is what determines a good long-term match. We call that love, not understanding that this physical attraction is only one part of what makes a healthy relationship work. And in the long run, it may not be the most important part.