Everyone likes the idea of being in love. There are many different kinds of love. You can love your parents, music, your dog, and friends. Healthy love is when caring about the other person is just a little more important than having the other person care for you. This kind of relationship makes both partners feel better.
Healthy love is playful, passionate, sensitive and proud.
Both partners have a lot of energy. Unhealthy love is when it is much more important to have the other person care about you than it is for you to care about the other person. This kind of relationship often feels like a burden. It is exhausting because it involves more taking than giving. There is a lot of jealously, bickering, meanness and apologies.