The anger may be aimed at inanimate objects, complete strangers, friends or family. Anger may be directed at our dying or deceased loved one. Rationally, we know that the loved one is not to be blamed. Emotionally, however, we may resent it for causing us pain or for leaving us. We feel guilty for being angry, and this makes us more angry.
Health professionals deal with death and dying every day.
That does not make them immune to the suffering of their patients or to those who grieve for them. The normal reaction to feelings of helplessness and vulnerability is often a need to regain control. If only we had sought medical attention sooner. If we got a second opinion from another doctor. Secretly, we may make a deal with God or our higher power in an attempt to postpone the inevitable.