Comparing is unfair. Every person has his own way of doing things.
Families have their own way of doing things, too.
It's only fair to compare people who are exactly alike, with the exact same abilities and circumstances. Of course, no such people exist. We live in Eretz Yisrael , and both my parents and my husband's parents live outside of Israel. My husband's parents visit at least once a year. When they come, they stay for at least a week, and they try to spend every possible minute with us and the kids.