Influence is eternal and invites no backlash because the child does not feel that he is being forced to do anything. Rather, he feels that he is choosing of his own accord to follow a given path. There is an enormous difference between power and influence. Governments, for example, have power over people but it is external. It can only force them to do things without penetrating their hearts or minds and when the force is spent, it can no longer affect them.
Influence is internal and eternal.
It is internal, the voice of reason and inspiration that speaks to a person's heart. Power has a sell-by date, but influence lasts forever.