If we use it the way He built it, it will work wonders - if not, the results may look good, but will be foul on the inside, and in time, one must pay. We follow the development. I am the only one who has rights. They are fighting over a toy. There are many such incidents, and a beginning is made of chipping away at the shell of self.
Little boys have no use for little girls - and vice versa.
This next stage comes automatically, when biochemistry changes, when certain hormones start to operate. If he had merely said she is a good conversationalist, plays tennis well etc. But if he uses such words as wonderful or marvelous, he has been hit. There is of course a parallel development in the girls. In this new phase two powerful processes begin to work.