Many new subs have a goal in mind to meet the Dom of their dreams and in doing so, neglect to build a support network within the lifestyle. This is important. There aren't many places you can turn with the problems that may arise in this lifestyle. Online is one way of making yourself available to potential partners, but this usually has its drawbacks too. So many submissives fall into this trap .
Long distance is hard .
Be realistic about it. Don't throw yourself at Dominants that aren't available. It's really bad taste and doesn't win you any kudos in the community. It makes you appear untrustworthy. IRC doesn't make you above that.