The best way to do this is to repeat, in fewer words, what the speaker said. Finally, sensitivity requires paying attention to the feelings being expressed as well as the words being spoken. This includes being sensitive to the nonverbal aspects of communication. If your family is to enjoy the holidays together, it is important to be sensitive to the way family members feel about holiday plans. You need to know now if your spouse resents the amount of money you are spending on the children.
Effective communication requires expressing as well as listening.
Expressing your thoughts and feelings may mean that you need to listen to yourself first. Then you can state your message as clearly, honestly and constructively as possible. The you-statement is a direct attack on your spouse who probably will respond defensively. I-statements are more likely to keep communication open. A final thing you can do is find more time to talk.