You did the best you could. You're just learning to communicate vulnerably and receive her communication with empathy. You aren't perfect. In fact you probably will make mistakes and fall into old patterns again. Support yourself through this process and pat yourself on the back for being willing to face and address this difficult situation in a new way.
Intimate relationships are a major commitment of time and energy.
It's your right to discriminate by responsibly choose who to be intimate with. Having limited time and energy available to expend in that area it's appropriate that you consider carefully how to spend those valuable resources. You have the right to request from life the fulfillment of your needs as long as you are willing to recognize what they are, courageously own up to them, express them clearly, and be the first one to support them. You will be contacted immediately with Manuela's phone number, and the best time to call.