Advance planning, involving the parents and children, is also essential. The Gaddys make a point of including Travis in that planning. Focus on the positive Psychologists agree, and warn parents to watch what they say. You want to focus on the positive stuff going on, which there will be plenty of. The stress of a separated family doesn't end when the child becomes an adult.
Holidays can present entirely different kinds of emotions and concerns that have to be dealt with.
Elizabeth Puckett's parents divorced when she was a teenager. Fifteen years later, Elizabeth is still trying to accept the fact her father has a new life that doesn't include her or her children. As an adult, Elizabeth Puckett still grapples with her parents' divorce. I'm going to have my special time made out of what is now in my life now. Don't dwell on what could have been, but rather appreciate the moment and enjoy the spirit of the season.