The divorce laws and procedures in the U.S. may be drastically different from those of your home country. You may also have a choice of where to proceed. Before making any decisions, educate yourself on your options. You may find it preferable to use your home country s system, despite the distance or inconvenience. Anything not settled by negotiation was litigated, and the decision made by a judge.
Litigation is focused on the past, and on establishing fault or guilt in order to win.
Many couples don't realize that there are alternatives to hiring lawyers and fighting it out in court. In the long run, a mediated divorce is generally preferable. When a couple can't work out issues by themselves a mediator can help. A mediator is a neutral third person who works with the couple to find mutually acceptable solutions to problems. Mediation is future oriented.