You or they are accused of ridiculous motives. Abusive people have problems with handling anger. They try to control their environment with aggressive behavior, not assertive behavior. Asserting his or her own rights at the expense of others. Engages in inappropriate outbursts or badly overreacts.
Intent is to humiliate or to get even, to put down others.
Feels superior to others. Saves up anger and resentment and uses them to justify later blowups. Emotionally honest, direct, expressive. Works to enhance self. Confident, feels good about him or herself now and later.