I am good at sports and made national level basketball. I am at school on a scholarship for basketball and am relatively bright. I am in all the highest academic classes at school as well as having been acknowledged for outstanding academic and sports achievements. Yet I still feel depressed each day, and wish I didn't wake up. Any one with the story you told would get depressed.
Every child has the right to two mature, caring and available parents.
However, most of us only get an approximation. Both of yours seem like they have put their needs in front of yours. In the last twenty years the concept of dysfunctional families has been identified. Like all concepts this is just a model and usually it runs on a continuum. However, not taking care of a child's need to be treated at an age in an appropriate manner is abusive as well.