Thinking skills include self and social awareness, decision-making, problem solving, and goal setting. Social skills include establishing relationships, listening and communicating effectively. Thus, to negotiate rationally and effectively, one needs to enhance thinking and social skills. It is a process of self-realization and development but is facilitated by others who are mature and thinking individuals. Adolescents and young people need to negotiate with others for a healthy and happy life style and to overcome the strong influence of peer pressure for experimenting with drugs, alcohol and sex.
Literature related to negotiation skills refers to negotiation as an activity with another person.
The need for negotiation with self is not understood. Attachment or involvement is necessary for quality, and detachment is essential for sustainability. Being involved yet aloof or detached, requires reflection, vision and spirituality. Living in the present, not brooding of the past, and working towards the future, requires negotiating with self. You have made me think and reflect in some new directions and I am indebted to you for that.