They may not be pretty but we cannot do anything with them until we get them out and take their measurements. This demands courage on our part but afterwards these undercurrent resentments can be placed with our raging quarrels, under the protecting love of Christ. What is not acknowledged is not healed, for we do not ask for its healing as long as we pretend that it is not there. I presume it is sensible to use some means or agent to let him know of the hurt he has caused. But the thick skinned are always innocent so it doesn't always work.
Love is irresistible.
This seems a better, if less fashionable solution. There is one especially painful type of quarrel that is hard to witness. This is when we are comparative outsiders and see those whom we love or respect destroying each other in a bitter feud. This is often the case in the divorce of dear friends, or it may be that something almost like an evil spirit suddenly gets a grip on an organization or community and a veritable can of worms spills out. I'm not getting involved.