It is important to note that once an infection sets in, the healing process of the actual wound slows down or stops. Before we cover the steps necessary to speed the healing process of the actual emotional wound, let us first look at how to keep the infections from starting. Dwelling is different than constructive thought. Constructive thought is carefully evaluating the situation to determine what responses are appropriate. Dwelling is rehashing the incident and feeling the pain over and over again.
Dwelling stirs up very powerful emotions.
Every negative emotion you allow to grow becomes one more hurdle you have to cross before you can start the healing process. Divorce counselors are people who try to help you emotionally get over your divorce. Dwelling on the wrong someone has done you is so powerful, many divorce counselors use it in their therapy. To help their patient get over the love they have for their former mate, they have them dwell on all of the bad their former mate has done. Of course, this type of therapy does more harm than good.