Slow down, kid, let's think about this for a moment. The point I'm trying to convey is you should only negotiate reciprocal links with sites that have content which complements yours. Just do what I'm asking you to do and get back to me. OK, so I paraphrased a bit - but that was the gist and the general tone of the correspondence. People who operate web sites are usually fairly busy.
Email is very impersonal.
What you consider efficient may be interpreted by the recipient as curt. I believe it's best to have a separate links page. If possible, organize your links into categories and give a short description of each to help your visitors as they peruse them. You should guard your online reputation as closely as possible. Your credibility is a major asset.