While everyone needs to pitch in once in a while, these families have the time and energy to meet the need of unaffected children. Siblings may have responsibilities, but they aren't treated like little adults. While families need to develop connections to service providers, they also need to maintain their own integrity and sense of control over their lives. Resilient families are not over-directed by what professionals want them to do. Develop communication competence .
Effective families are able to solve problems, make decisions and resolve conflicts.
They are able to express feelings, even when the feelings are negative and seem to be unjustified. Attribute positive meanings to the situation. Families who are able to think positively about their situation and develop positive attitudes, manage better. These families often acknowledge the positive contributions their child brings to family life and how they have developed a new and more meaningful outlook on life. Maintain family flexibility.