Toward all, we must be courteous, patient, consoling, compassionate, helpful. Jesus reserved his sternness only for the hypocrites. Yet his stern words were directed toward them only as a group. Individually, he treated them with personal respect. The distraught mother says to her child.
Love is the best motive - the most enduring, the most stabilizing, the most forceful.
If you deeply love someone, there is nothing you will not attempt in their regard. The love of Jesus Christ is the motive force of the Christian life. But you cannot love someone whom you do not know. Jesus had become popular - and the apostolic leaders had become important. They were the ones who decided who was to get close to Jesus, etc.