Abusers may minimize their actions or blame the victims for provoking the violence. If you or someone you know is being abused, develop a safety plan right away even if you do not intend to separate at this time. Do not try to predict who is a batterer and who is a victim of domestic violence. Ask the following questions to determine whether domestic violence is occurring. Everyone argues or fights with their partner or spouse now and then.
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There are no typical characteristics or profiles of abusers or victims. Abusers may appear very charming or may seem like explosive or angry individuals. Victims may seem extremely frightened or passive or may be quite angry about what is happening. If some one declines to discuss domestic violence issues, consider whether the silence may be due to a fear of the batterer, or to cultural, race or gender issues which make it difficult to talk about such personal experiences. You can talk to me about what is happening at home.