He has went through something similar to my situation. He is divorced. I love him and he is the sweetest person in the world. He treats me like a queen. I am sure that if you look back over the past nine years you will realize that there were signs all along.
Love really is blind.
Finally you have opened your eyes and realized that he wasn't the man that you dreamed him up to be. Move on with your life and your new beau. Let misery live with misery. Your soon to be ex made his choices and believe me, eventually he will come to regret it. I can't stress enough to remember that you left this man for a reason.