I want to answer the Question why things get worse from most normal approaches. As you can see, many are anxious to speak with you. It's pretty easy for a child who's a little more sensitive and intense to get an impression that they get us much more involved when things are going wrong. We are much more animated, much more excited and emotional. When kids act out normal methods give the biggest reactions.
Kids love the more animated features of toys.
The culprit is not then the parent or the child, it our tradition of parenting methods. When a child gets a new toy they dive in to check it out. We are relatively boring as toys when things are going right. How do I reverse the energy. He can't seem to get started.