People come before things. The apple is not seen as where the value lies. How much each person receives is assumed to be known without conflict from right relationship. If we are lovers, and we have a Granny Smith apple which we would both like, we would probably split the apple as evenly as possible and share it. If one of us hadn't eaten all day and the other just had a full meal, the latter would take a little piece and give the rest to the other.
Lovers behave as if they have only one mind.
Enemies on the other hand behave as if they are of two minds. If we are enemies and we have a Granny Smith apple, one of us might try to gobble it down while the other is not looking. Or, the other being too smart for that, we might just agree to share it by cutting it in half. Then we would both look to see which half was bigger and try to take it. Enemies behave as if they have two different minds.