Experts more knowledgeable than I will have to work this problem out. I am not trying to shirk the issue here. I just don't know the answer. Whatever the decision becomes, however, society, souls each and every one, better be ready to put their money, compassion, and energy where their conviction lies. People in society, souls, should never be forced to pay for something they morally disagree to.
Governments extracting money from people to fund actions the people abhor is immoral.
It is no different than one soul committing violence against another. It too is a self-serving action detrimental to the souls that governments supposedly are to protect. Again I must reiterate, we must have faith in the individual and respect their integrity to do what is right for themselves, knowing they will be the ones to live with the results into eternity. Who would better know than the mother of her own child. Respect, tolerance, trust, and faith in our fellow souls are the key words regardless of the decisions made by the mother herself and may wisdom be their guide for they shall live with the results for eternity.