Lead the mind. Don't lie to yourself. You are that jerk walking down the street. The more tension one encounters, the more one should relax. Extend up, extend down.
Great fullness comes only from great emptiness.
Relax into the present. Practice in a such a way that you could practice without stopping for one year. Please stop sweating so much. No muscle, only intent. Uke must cultivate unnatural naturalness Relax through pain.