If they would sooner die than do it, please don't bother. It would just add stress to the person. Dear Sue, The IVP needs to be done. She may even need to have a Retrograde Pyelogram if the IVP doesn't show the problem. A cystoscopy has to be done with the rertrograde and may need to be done even without it.
Hematuria is a dangerous symptom.
The cause of this MUST be determined. Let me know what the final diagnosis is since I may have some alternatives for her.