We can make life easy or we can make it difficult. The only one who suffers or enjoys the consequences is us. If we have children, and something happens to them then yes, we feel emotional pain. But it's not personal. We don't have to give our poison to anybody else.
Life can be a playground.
We can create new habits and routines that are automatic and lead us to happiness, and to the enjoyment of life. We can play and have fun most of the time, and be loving all the time, for no reason. We don't need any justification to love. It just feels good. Love coming out of us is what makes life happy.