Your level of self-esteem is always based on the degree of control that you are able to exercise over yourself, and thus over your life. People with low self-esteem are people who do not believe that they have any power, or responsibility for, their lives. They are the perennial victims and martyrs. They are leaves tossed by the winds of chance blown about with any sudden change in the weather. YOU can exercise control over your life only to the degree that YOU believe that YOU are responsible for everything that happens in your life.
Failures think that everything happens by accident and chance.
Successful people realize that they are responsible. Everything happens as a result of something. If we can identify the cause, we can control the effect. Thoughts and beliefs cause everything. We are responsible for what we choose to think and believe.