You have every right to ask for what you want. Once you ask for what you want, you may find you no longer need food to attempt to comfort you. To a large extent our emotions drive our behavior. Feelings are a common endowment of our human nature. We all have them and experience the same feelings even if the situation surrounding our feelings is different from what others experience.
Feelings are a common ground for relating and communicating with others.
Before you can cope with your emotions, you must first learn to identify your feelings. The best way to identify your feelings is to write in a feelings journal. This is a wonderful way to figure out exactly what is eating you. Simply take a blank book, notebook, or your computer and begin writing whatever thoughts come to mind. You can write absolutely anything about your life, the day, the situation you are in and so on.