But as it turns out, in many ways, there is no such thing as small talk. It is relaxing, creates a comfortable, social bond between people of like interests, shows them that they share common goals and problems. Men can have these conversations, most often with other men or women who are co-workers, but these are colleagues, not the ones that a man feels, for whatever reason, he must dominate. It has been said that a man picks a woman because she sees him as he would like to be seen. In other words, she is a co-conspirator in the charade that he is, for whatever reason, playing.
Facades are difficult to maintain over long periods.
Familiarity is the death of fascination. It is not long into a relationship before disillusion sets in. Soon a woman begins to see the man for what he really is. Then she has to make some decisions. If her love is strong enough, she will forgive him the role playing.