Little is known about the paraurethral gland while much research has been done on the corresponing prostate gland in the male. It is about two inches up from the entrance to the vagina towards to front of the body. To find it, put your fingers inside your vagina with the finger tips towards your front and move the fingers up and down. The sponge swells when stimulated, and you may feel like you have to pee, or it may give you a pleasurable sensation. It may feel like a lot of liquid, but it usually is a few teaspoonfuls to half a cup. . .
Ejaculation usually happens at a different time than orgasm.
Some women who ejaculate don't have orgasms at all. Others do both, but ejaculation and orgasm are different processes and are not tied to one another.