We must understand the great principles of Christianity better. We must learn objective truth, subjective applications. Definitions Forgiveness is simply releasing my right to be hurt. Forgiveness is not reconciliation. They are distinct, although related.
Forgiveness is one thing, reconciliation another.
Forgiveness is the ability to look through an event, past an event. Biblically, this is Joseph in the last chapter of Genesis. Anger is unrealistic expectations unmet. This is simple, yet hard to accept. We think our expectations are realistic.