While that put the person in a very long line, the reason she was there became clearer as the conversation continued. She was President of her local PTA, did aerobics twice a week, and volunteered at a home for the ageing. Add to that, the mother of 2, wife, homemaker and all the associated duties that each of these entail. All in all, I think she was pretty exceptional. Strange as it might seem, this woman had designed her unhappiness around the same mistakes that the people of Wandelland had made.
Lets examine the men's' problem first.
As you will recall, they had held on to an objective beyond the point when it made sense to retain it. I found the comment a little strange. She really didn't think so. I then asked her if she had expected to retain that position when her children had grown up, married and, perhaps, moved to a distant city. I plunged on.