They may have never had an opportunity to experience warmth and caring or learn good parenting. Some survivors avoid becoming parents for fear they will repeat their experience. Most children try to forget, minimize or pretend that something so devastating as sexual abuse didn't happen, just to cope. Later, this shield may fail and flashbacks of the abuse can arise unexpectedly, leaving survivors feeling shocked, out of control and helpless. Attempts to escape the pain can lead to addiction, self-injury or suicide attempts.
Every survivor is unique and creates unique ways to cope with life's pain and losses.
Each survivor travels her or his own path to healing. This path is often difficult, filled with fear, obstacles and hurdles. Too many survivors walk alone. Others find a partner, friend, therapist, minister, family member or support group that can help along the way. Healing is enhanced in safe havens, like the Sexual Assault Crisis Center, where survivors can learn and practice these new beliefs and skills.