If there is no joy and fulfillment for that person, don't ask. It wouldn't serve my interests or the other person's interests. We must learn to allow people to be who they authentically are, and being able to say no is part of being our authentic selves. And Yourself Seeking personal joy and fulfillment may seem a bit selfish. Not so, according to Asa Hunt, executive pastor of First Presbyterian Church in Houston, Texas.
Hunt says selfish people avoid seeing the truth.
But that doesn't mean we put ourselves last. Love exists because of God. When we love ourselves, and our neighbor, we are showing love to God. It's clear that when we operate out of scarcity, we have little to give ourselves or others. Give yourself permission to say no in order to be there when you really can help.