Behaviors may appear non-responsive and be overlooked. Unresolved grief - Unresolved grief could move into deep depression or major character changes to adjust to unresolved demands of grief and trauma. A child may stay sad or angry, be passive or resistant. Shame and guilt - Children do not believe in randomness and may even feel at fault after a disaster. Shame is one's public exposure of vulnerabilities.
Guilt is private.
There is a need to resolve these feelings, regain a sense of control, gain a new sense of independence and feel capable. The effects of trauma in childhood can be found both immediately and after a long period of time. Trauma changes those involved. Knowing what to look for in children can lead caring adults to seek professional assistance. Generally the world for small children is predictable and stable served by dependable people.