They'll try to dangle bait to get you going. Instead, let the child own the problem and empathize with him. Please go to your room until you've calmed down and can talk rationally with me.
Limits help kids develop inner control.
Set limits for when you think your kids will be ready to cross the street safely, stay up later, go on a date, etc. You won't ever be able to avoid disagreements with your kids, but you can learn how to fight fair.