It's all about patience, firmness, and thinking strategically. If you're the leaver , you're generally anxious for this to happen quickly. You want your spouse to go ahead and sign the papers. You can't understand this dawdling. You want decisions to happen quickly.
Divorce is all about managing different senses of time.
The leaver is nearly always anxious for things to happen quickly, and the left is nearly always overwhelmed by the speed at which things are moving. Be sensitive to your spouse's sense of time. Often your task as a leaver will be to resist the urge to hurry things along. Divorce doesn't have to happen quickly. As long as you're not spending huge sums of money on gladiators in adversarial divorce , and as long as you're not setting a precedent you'll come to regret, let it move along at its own pace.