Dear Ann-Michelle, Thank you for your essay. The central question is what is the quality of the interaction between the child and the care giver. If I survey, I think I see three different qualities. Quality 1 would be like when they cut the arms off of children and ask them if they want short sleeve or long sleeve.
Long sleeve is below the elbow and short sleeve is above the elbow.
Or when folks throw their children in dumpsters, or when they spank them to death, or when they shake them till they are vegtables. The method of level one is physical assault. Quality 2 is like when folks scream at a child for crying. The very self of the child is characterized and shamed with these labels. The imposition of these lablels and their attendant moral agendas is emotional and psychological attack.