Take the initiative to remind your husband gently that your birthday or your annivesary is coming up soon. Give him hints as to where you would like to celebrate. If your husband is a little dense, then be explicit about it, or you'll end up being disappointed. Think of a different good quality he has everyday, and remind yourself silently just how lucky you are to be married to this wonderful man. If you have a fight, swallow your pride and try and resolve the issue quickly.
Grudges are like little nails that cause the foundations of a good marriage to rust.
It can be frustrating to look after the kids and be couped up at home all day with screaming and crying children. Or if you re a working mother, it can be stressful to balance family life with work life. Talk with your husband about what your expectations of him as a husband and father are, so you re both clear about the roles to play in the family. Be actively involved in major family decisions such as buying a car, unit trust or house. Don t leave it all to the man.