When we look at the life of Jesus, we find he was led by the Spirit. Of course I, too wrestle with learning the same issues of control and know that I have a long way to go, but at least I have discovered it, and that is important. With the focus in spiritual direction being on the awareness of God's activity in our lives, directees can be reminded that they do not need to be in control. I find also in spiritual direction there is a tremendous healing that takes place. As I encounter Jesus in my life, I always encounter healing.
Healing comes in many forms.
When I receive forgiveness and the absolution, there is healing of relationships. Yes, there is even physical healing. In this life I receive so much from God that I become overwhelmed with gratitude. My soul cries out to God with thanks. With this change in focus of looking to Jesus it seems the problems, though still present, are less intense.