Cognitive Restructuring Simply put, this means changing the way you think. Angry people tend to curse, swear, or speak in highly colorful terms that reflect their inner thoughts. When you're angry, your thinking can get very exaggerated and overly dramatic. Try replacing these thoughts with more rational ones. They also alienate and humiliate people who might otherwise be willing to work with you on a solution.
Logic defeats anger, because anger, even when it's justified, can quickly become irrational.
So use cold hard logic on yourself. Do this each time you feel anger getting the better of you, and it'll help you get a more balanced perspective. Everyone wants these things, and we are all hurt and disappointed when we don't get them, but angry people demand them, and when their demands aren't met, their disappointment becomes anger. As part of their cognitive restructuring, angry people need to become aware of their demanding nature and translate their expectations into desires. Some angry people use this anger as a way to avoid feeling hurt, but that doesn't mean the hurt goes away.