Regardless of the substance of the disagreement, though, conflict often arouses strong feelings. Anger and Conflict Disagreements can lead to people feeling angry or hurt, and for many people, feeling hurt is a position of vulnerability. For many people, parental messages planted the idea that being angry is the same as being out of control or acting childishly. Or, many people have the idea that anger equals aggression. Because many people never learned to manage anger constructively, it's very common to handle it in inappropriate ways.
Fair fighting is a way to manage conflict and associated feelings effectively.
To fight fairly, you just need to follow some basic guidelines to help keep your disagreements from becoming entrenched or destructive. This may be difficult when you think another's point of view is silly, irrational, or just plain unfair. But remember, he or she may think the same thing about your ideas. Try not to overreact to difficult situations. By remaining calm it will be more likely that others will consider your viewpoint.