Of 20 servers, only 3-4 of us truly like doing our job and do it well. So it happens everywhere - it doesn't make it acceptable. After receiving a letter from a despondent female country club server, the editor of these pages was prompted to address her plight. Sexual Harassment refers to sexually directed actions which are unwanted and subject the worker to adverse employment conditions, or create a hostile work environment. This can occur between a boss and an employee, among coworkers, and even between a guest, purveyor or business contact and an employee.
Flattery is acceptable, if it is welcomed.
A proposition for a date is acceptable, if it is welcomed. Off-color jokes, comments and vulgarities are acceptable, if they are welcomed. Flirting and touching are acceptable, if they are welcomed. But, the moment an employee expresses their uneasiness to the individual saying or doing something offensive, it potentially becomes an issue of sexual harassment the next instance any of these words are stated or actions are performed. What you feel does not matter, because what constitutes harassment lies in the eyes of the harassed, not you or the harasser.