The same thing will happen in reverse. You can discuss the incident or problem calmly and rationally. If you engage in calm discussion or a fair fight, it will present an opportunity for your relationship to grow and strengthen. If you fight dirty, the marriage . . . If you fight dirty, there may be residual traces of that fight for the rest of your life, or for the rest of your marriage, whichever comes first.
Fair fighting is an art and a skill.
As such, it can be learned. And, as with any skill or art, it requires practice to fine-tune it. If you are willing to take the time and effort to practice until you are skillful at it, and then continue using it, the benefits you will reap will be well worth it. Pick your battles carefully. Let s imagine that there is a limited amount of Fight Credits in a marriage.