Go to the source and discuss the policy, problem or mistake with the person involved. Triangles are not acceptable. Before policy is implemented solicit input from everyone involved. Make sure information is made available to everyone as rapidly as possible. Resolutions for the sake of quick agreement are often worse than agreements which are carefully worked out over time, exploring all the problems and alternatives.
Fair conflict demonstrates and demands respect toward one another.
Listen to understand, not to refute. Paraphrase what you heard another say before responding to it. If you are uncomfortable with the forum or arena in which the conflict is raised, it is legitimate to request and discuss what the most appropriate arena might be. It is not acceptable just to leave the room in the middle of a discussion because of conflict or disagreement. In fair conflict all the parties are open to exploration of their own ideas and behavior as well as the ideas and behavior of those with whom they are in disgreement.