Ten Commandments of Mediation From an address by Joe Swerdzewski, General Counsel Federal Labor Relations Authority Used with permission. Remove all proxy warriors. That is, change the role of your lawyers and make sure that they understand their role.
Lawyers make excellent servants but terrible masters in a dispute .
Dispute resolvers should not have a state in the existance of disputes. Look at the structure of your disputes. You can't buy a better relationship . Buying off problems only generates more of them. Role-play your opposition in order to understand them , but do not become them.