Madison Avenue's nuttiness only adds to the stew. I have heard many men, gay and otherwise, who would love to step out of the studly sex role. Since I cannot act as a mail conduit for interested others, I suggest you place personal ads with a contact address or phone number and see what happens. Perhaps some church or AIDS prevention organization will be willing to give you meeting space. Whole industries are being built around its diagnosis and cure.
Humans are pleasure-seeking animals.
I read of a place where you can be made up and dressed in female attire. Perhaps you could steer me in the right direction. I am not gay, but just a man who feels anything is worth trying at least once. It's a long wait until Halloween, but giving or going to a costume party is one good way to experiment. Sexually oriented papers or ad sections often carry notices by dominatrices who will play dress-up with you for a fee.