Being a home- maker is, therefore, a meeting between Western philosophy in the figure of Sisyphus and Eastern Zen tenets. Under the latter, if you can't let go of your feelings of frustration, you'll only be reincarnated as a tapeworm. Your goal, therefore, is to achieve inner peace, a truce with filth and entropy. This is not to encourage you to live in blissful and dirty sloth. You must decide what it is possible to do on a given day.
Every person has their own threshold of filth.
Chances are, your threshold is incrementally above your mother's. Make your list in the morning. Maybe clean just one bathroom before you change the oil in the truck. Leave a little time for yourself during naptime. In this way, you are far better off than Sisyphus.