In fact the majority of the time it is extremely painful. It can take a long time to recover from the damage of divorce. When a divorce occurs it is like a death in the family. So many emotions can rise to the surface. The person being divorced starts questioning their value as a person and as a mate.
Divorce can destroy self-esteem.
Depression can sneak into the mind without knowing what is happening. The parties involved in divorce become full of guilt. They begin to question their sanity. Understand that all of the feelings and emotions that surface are normal. Accept them instead of denying that they exist.