Children's wants and needs may begin to take precedence over our husbands' needs. While wanting our children to excel and be fulfilled and maybe even to fulfill some unmet need from our childhood, we leave our husbands alone with an unmet companionship need. Remember, God placed the reigns in the husband's hands because of seniority of creation and the deception of the woman. Your responsibility is to make your desire be to your husband and to give him the honor due to a head. If we can accept that Christ is the head of the church and we are to honor Him and be subject to Him, then realize that Paul says in this same way husbands are due that same honor as our heads.
Honor demands respect.
It is not belittling, criticizing, and complaining about what your husband doesn't do or what you want him to be. It's not making him over to suit your needs. It's accepting him the way he is, the way you married him. The Amplified Bible in 1 Peter 3 gives a good description of the reverence a wife should feel for her husband. You will notice he's not writing just of Christian men, but even those who are not Christian.