It is meant to transform your world, not get rid of it. One of the most fundamental basics of transformational processing is that the person is creating her own reality. Whatever is in her mind or in her life is there because she is putting it there. She is responsible for things being the way they are. If she wants things changed, we need to find out how she is making them the way they are, and then they can change into something else that she would rather have.
Humans generally have sub-conscious, or unconscious minds.
That is where one is putting all the stuff that one is pretending one is not creating. It is all just as fully the responsibility of the person. It just so happens that she is choosing to believe that it doesn't really exist, or it doesn't have anything to do with her. She is free to believe that. However, if she wants to change something, she is going to have to take responsibility for it first.