Also, don't feel like you're a bad mother or father if you have to take some distance from your surviving twin. It may be that your baby reminds you of what you have lost or you may fear loving him or her too much and losing them, too. Soon, you'll start to relax and become more attached and joyful about your surviving baby. Also, don't feel guilty about laughing and enjoying and loving your surviving twin. It does not mean that you are not grieving and don't miss your baby who died.
Experts say that both laughter and tears are necessary to recover from grief.
One thing you may want to anticipate is that people will ask you how many children you have and you may not know what to answer. At first, you might feel more comfortable including both of your babies in the count and it will be up to you whether or not you want to tell if one of your babies died. Later, you may only want to talk about your surviving children, either way, do what is most comfortable for you. You will always know you are the mother of both children, even though only one may be physically with you now. Finally, as you probably know, don't feel like you need to pretend either to your surviving baby or to the rest of your family and friends that you only have one child.