They are seeking self-gratification without the responsibilities that go with it. Any time you have satisfaction going on like that, without the person assuming any responsibility, you have laid the groundwork for an addiction mind set. Once these patterns are established, they don't go away easily. It is not you who fixes it- it will have to be the other person if they are willing to assume responsibility for their own behavior. Not only are they going to have to assume responsibility for their behavior, they are going to have to break out of the cycle where they seek gratification without the accompanying responsibility.
Healthy individuals realize that with satisfaction comes responsibility.
Part of the responsibility in a relationship is making the appropriate level of commitment necessary for the relationship, especially in these days where a committed life partner is needed as a hedge of protection against many of the disorders and diseases running rampant in our society. This question was answered by by Jeffrey D. Murrah, LPC . Jeff takes a unique approach to counseling. It is his hope that families work together to reach their goals and resolve their difficulties. He is licensed as a professional counselor, a family and marriage therapist, a chemical dependency counselor and is certified as a medical psychotherapist and case manager.