If these feelings grow in either person, without being resolved, the relationship is in trouble. Erosion The disappointments and fault-finding reduce the love and attraction. They may not know what is wrong or what to say. If the relationship is becoming a little strained, this is the best time to have a good, straight talk or to seek marriage counseling. Detachment Each disappointment hurts.
Love dies a thousand deaths.
Lovers pull away to avoid hurts and sadness. If the isolation continues, it becomes more and more difficult to return to being lovers. They can't decide to leave or not. Physical separation Separating is a sure sign the relationship has failed. We mourn the loss of a partner, even one who has caused us pain.