Hands are the most potent stimulus there is. It's just not a reliable guide. FM said you can't help feeling. OK to be wrong. To be aware of our emotional habits because that's where the trouble comes from.
Feeling becomes re-educated.
You come to know more and more subtly wrong doings. Having the assurance that you are not too badly wrong. All a question of intention. Go slowly so that you know what you want. Free the joints so that the muscles can work.