True understanding begins when we can experience the world view of others in our lives by feeling what reality feels like to them. By shifting our vantage point and by learning how our own personality perceives the world, we can begin to find ways of dramatically improving our relationships. Being in relationship with another personality type is like visiting another culture. In order to work and love well while in this culture, we need to learn the language and customs. In this way, we can begin to honor one another's unique differences and to celebrate our human diversity.
Life is about continuing to improve toward a set of high internal standards.
Mate may initially love the high moral and ethical ground, detail orientation, dependability, etc. Not fun anymore, there's always more to be done first. May feel that the One is trying to control them when offering suggestions for personal improvement. Point Two - The Helper or Giver Attention goes to helping others, giving others what they need, sometimes before they know what they themselves need. To being indispensable.