My infertility resulted from having two dermoid tumors removed from each ovary. The scar tissue has resulted in an inability to concieve naturally. This was a required surgery as those tumors were situated as they could twist and burst my tubes resulting in my death. Second, my husband and I do not want designer children, we want a child to love and care for and will make the necessary sacrifices in our lives to do so. It is just as expensive and intrusive, if not more and in the U.S. getting the parental rights terminated is a nightmare.
International adoption is quicker, but just as time consuming and expensive.
As a person who has dealt with both sides of this issue as a person with infertility and an Intensive Care Nursery nurse, I do believe that there are times when a very fine line is being crossed. We chose to supplement my egg production with medication and let nature take it's course. I've cared for many multiple births at my hospital and seen many premature births. Many of our babies go home without long term problems, but some do leave with lifelong medical problems and parents who have to figure out how to pay high hospital bills when their insurance doesn't cover everything. My husband and I chose to adopt a beautiful baby girl after trying for 3 years and she will soon be celebrating her 3rd birthday.