What you most hate is what you most deny in yourself. What you love is what you most wish for in yourself. Use the mirror of relationships to guide your evolution. Then what you most want will automatically be there, and what you most dislike will disappear. Shed the burden of judgment - you will feel much lighter.
Judgment imposes right and wrong on situations that just are.
In judging others, you reflect your lack of self-acceptance. Remember that every person you forgive adds to your self-love. Don't contaminate your body with toxins, either through food, drink or toxic emotions. The health of every cell directly contributes to your state of well-being, because every cell is a point of awareness within the field of awareness that is you. Fear is the product of memory, which dwells in the past.