However, love is not possessive of the other person. This is not easy to do. But the need to possess someone to meet our own security needs is not love, it's the fear of being alone, a way of trying to soothe our feelings of insecurity. Love and people are a lot alike. Both require time and nourishment to fully grow and develop, and although they may reach maturity, they don't cease to grow.
Infatuation can be like trying to hurry along the growth process.
A child is not an adult even if a child wears grown up clothes. First of all, love and anger aren't opposites. They operate on two different planes. Anger, happiness, joy, warmth, pain, anxiety, and many other feelings can all occur within an overriding context of love. Love is like a house composed of many rooms called feelings.