That is what my H and I did for years, and it got us in a terrible, terrible mess. Oh how I wish I had all this information, support and resources available to me before the crash. But, that wasn't the way it was meant to be for us. So, I post on this forum in hopes that I can help others avoid the devastation infidelity brings. Love is meant to heal.
Love is meant to renew.
Love is meant to oust all fear. Love is meant to harmonize differences. Love is meant to bring us closer to God. But it happened because I was racking my brain trying to figure out how I could please this woman. I'm praying for you and truly hope that he one day realizes how important your needs are.