Hyde personality, charming one moment and violent the next. An abuser usually attempts to separate the victim from her support system of friends and family. He is frequently suspicious, jealous and paranoid. He tries to make his victim both emotionally and financially dependent, and eventually erodes her self-confidence. Control and intimidation.
Many abusers truly believe their abusive behaviors have been caused by their partners.
Many feel abuse is anger-driven, but it is about power and control over his victim. Victims do not ask for trouble, nor do they ever deserve the treatment they receive. In fact, victims of abuse exist under incredible stress, debilitating to their physical and psychological well being. It is never healthy to live in an abusive atmosphere. Domestic violence eventually smothers the spirit.