You figure it out through interacting, effective communication, and conflict. Talk directly and openly with your parents about what you've learned. Know that they'll wish to contribute and allow them to. Most parent-child relationships have a certain level of dependency . You count on your parents to be there in a time of need.
Many adult children view being dependent as negative and strive toward independence.
Your parents become accustom to it. After all, you have been their child and were dependent on them for many years. Know that your parents may have difficulty immediately accepting that you are an adult. In fact, they may accept this idea only after considerable conflict occurs. Be patient with them.