The process is simple but it isn t easy. It requires time, effort, sweat and generally a great deal of discomfort. People don t like to do this work because it doesn t feel good. Some of us cannot do this work alone, and are better off undertaking it in a therapist s office, or in a support group, or with a trusted friend. Many people will jump through all kinds of hoops to avoid ever really looking at themselves and their relationships.
Life is an infinitely patient teacher.
Some of us have the same lesson gifted to us repeatedly over the course of a lifetime and go to our graves still ignorant, still acting from the same unconscious patterns. If you are tired of sleep walking your way from one bad relationship to the next, here are some steps to heighten your awareness. It might save you from another bad relationship, or it might even save your life. Don t do these exercises in your head. Putting them outside yourself is much more powerful and therapeutic.