When you encounter such healing, any words and no words suffice. The proof is in the pudding. Jampolsky and Cirincione are good editors, and have the authority of authentic practice. Their books on Attitudinal Healing are full of examples and anecdotes. It is action, not analysis, that is called for.
Introspection is important, but often overrated.
Many of our dearest insights occur when we are absorbed in something other than ourselves. Service Ethics Service is an important tenet of Attitudinal Healing. To get out of one's head, out of one's personal, precious business. To give is to give thanks. To give is to receive.