Our attitudes colour our thoughts. Usually we are quite unaware of how they shape the way we see the world. Life is struggle. Mistakes are unaccepTable. Unbendable beliefs about what's proper.
Life is hard work.
I have to be right. You may hardly have worn it since you were a young child. It was just right foot, left foot, and each fall was as interesting as the next step. To the young child, everything is part of the great experiment. You can get out that hat again and dust it off.