The choice is yours. You can have resistance or you can have love. You can't have both. If your commitment is to remove the distance and have your relationship work, there is a lot you can do. You can start by finding the distance and removing it.
Distance is created by withholding something.
Usually it's a bottom-line communication. I'm angry that you didn't keep your promise, or I'm sad that you don't love me anymore. Once the communication is made, the withholding stops. The upset is released and the distance disappears. To find what you are withholding, imagine the other person being in front of you.