When one is so completely violated at a young age, at any age, for that matter, one is less aware if at all aware of one's right to individuation. One's sense of self and others is usually very blurred. In healing from the scars, the deep woundedness of sexual abuse it is very helpful for each survivor to assess the foundation of all of their current strengths. In surviving the abuse and coming this far, and in looking to heal you are truly a strong person and you need to know this aboutyourself, and focus on your positives and not so much on the negatives. In healing the self, one must first remember and feel what are or have often been very repressed memories.
Healing is very much about self-nurturing and about meeting one's own needs.
Often most of which have remained unmet since the time of the abuse in childhood. In terms of self-nurture and to that end getting in touch with one's own chosen vehicle of spirituality or spiritual expression will open up many parts or aspects of life that have been for so long lost to the survivor prior to healing. We, as survivors must also affirm our right to healing. The use of positive self-affirmations, which is a cognitive approach that enables growth, change and healing can be very beneficial. Affirmations such as,'I am worthy', 'I am deserve to feel good about myself' are a couple of examples of affirtmations.