I guess I was curious to see what kind of reaction I would get from other men. They asked for a physical description, so I invented a perfect body, saying 'Firm breasts, slim hips, long blonde hair' and so on. At one point there were about eight different guys trying to talk me into meeting them off-line. While most people are honest, even the most sober explorers find that another, wilder side of themselves emerges when they begin to explore their fantasies on-line. It's common for cybersexers to assume different personalities, or to invent idealized portraits.
Fantasies are, after all, the stuff that cybsersex is made of.
To my surprise, a breathtakingly large percentage of men who cruised the chat rooms were similarly blessed. That just might encourage women to consider computers the perfect Valentine's Day gifts. But, alas, no. Kathi thinks that because cyberspace lets people relate fantasy to fantasy, they go straight to the inner recesses of one another's minds. For that moment when I'm writing sexy things or he is writing them back to me, I am completely focused on the fantasy.