Divorce is radical surgery with a blunt instrument. It's never pretty, never clean. It always leaves open wounds and scars. Ignore those triumphal stories that divorced people tend to tell about how their lives were so much better after they got divorced. They're not telling you the whole story.
Divorce is painful.
It's second only to death in terms of grief and loss. It really is a kind of death, when sin has had its way with God's gift and one flesh is torn in two. Some of you know the pain first hand. We aren't Adam and Eve. This isn't Paradise.