Be assured that God desiresyou to have the best, and in a world of shifting relationships,the two of you can experience an ongoing, always growing intimacywhich is so different from the norm that a world of lonely peoplewill want to know your secret. You can love someone withunconditional love by the choice of your will and continue to doso, whether or not the person responds. By doingthose things which will enhance it, promote it, and give it roomto grow. By providing an emotional climate which will nurture itin your marriage and cause it to grow. Always remember that intimacy depends on the experience ofshared feelings.
Intimacy is experiential in nature.
You know ifsomething is wrong between you, and you feel relief the momenteverything is all right again. In this private, most personalrelationship, the two of you become so finely tuned to oneanother that you can be constantly alert and responsive to oneanother's fluctuations of feeling and well-being at any givenmoment. Learn, by practice, to express your inner feelings to oneanother. In shallow relationships, not much exchange of informationabout inner selves takes place. By contrast, in a meaningfulrelationship, people reveal how they feel and why, sharing theirpersonal history of sorrows, joys, accomplishments,disappointments, changes, and growth.