Dear jas, I m glad you are looking for information on anger. That shows that you care about yourself and others and are ready to learn some anger management skills. Take a time for yourself period to cool down. Get yourself away before you do something that you will regret later. You are using venting of anger to try to release it and that isn t working so well for you.
Hostility breeds hostility.
Once I chopped a bush down that needed to come out when I was mad. I still had to deal with the situation though. You need a strong enough counselor who can get you to the deep feelings of hurt, disappointment and betrayal under the anger. Anger is the substitute emotion that comes up so you do not have to feel the more vulnerable emotions that hide down deep. Maybe your therapist could do some Voice Dialogue with you to let all those parts of you speak to release the pain that you have hidden away.