My father was conscientious and gave the best he had. While I deeply miss his blessing I am fortunate he was my dad. When I see Dad from God's perspective I feel compassion toward him. By forgiving the offender. From the cross Jesus said, Father forgive them for they know not what they are doing.
Forgiveness breaks the tractor beams power in an emotional focus.
Forgiveness removes the bitterness from the pill we have to swallow. To forgive does not mean that you sweep the hurt under the carpet and forget about it. To forgive we must honestly face the full extent of the loss we have experienced. That drunk driver permanently confined me to this wheel chair and snuffed out the lives of my two children. This horrendous loss cannot be covered with a positive attitude.