But our marriage has been bad from the beginning. I have done everything I know to try to improve it, but nothing helps. My husband is very critical and abusive. We rarely talk unless we are forced to make a decision. So I avoid conversation if at all possible.
Every little thing is an ordeal.
I have tried negotiation, but without cooperation I am unable to succeed. He has very little respect for me and when he gets angry he mocks me, yells or gives me ultimatums. It's just not worth it. Our sex life is terrible. During our first year of marriage he told me that I wasn't worth sleeping with and over the years has been very insulting to me about sex.