If that is your definition of God, we are talking about the same thing. Moving on with your life in this situation is no different than moving on with your life in any situation that is painful to you. The pain comes from experiencing the difference between how you would like the world to be and how the world really is. Your pain is not an unfortunate byproduct of external circumstances. Your pain is more valuable than any external circumstance you can create because it points to parts of yourself that need to be healed and challenged.
Emotional awareness is the first step on the spiritual path.
When pain becomes so intense it can no longer be ignored, you can be sure it has deep roots. In the past you ignored the sprouting of this plant and its subsequent developing and the blooming of flowers. All of this has occurred if you are intense pain now. From this perspective, the pain is not merely the result of a particular circumstance. The circumstance is merely bringing attention to something you must pay attention to.