You don't need to answer this. I don't believe there really is any answer. Although I'm not crazy about Gray himself nor his marketing strategies, I can't help but feel that academicians should get their heads out of the books and research long enough to recognize that there is a real world out there that could care less about its findings.
Life is what happens when researchers are busy studying.
Although Gray's stereotypes don't apply to everyone, thousands upon thousands of people can identify with them and have found peace in knowing that there's nothing wrong with their spouses or their relationships, just that men and women are different. I am a full-time instructor of communication at a Lane Community College in Eugene, Oregon. I have a MA in Communication and I am ABD in Speech Communication. I teach classes in Interpersonal Communication and Intercultural Communication. I have studied cross-gender communication for several years now.