Males and females may bring different instincts into the sexual act. However, that doesn't mean that sex can't be improved over time, providing you receive good instruction. Most inexperienced males imagine that really good sex consists of getting the woman partly undressed and then shoving an enormous penis in and out of her vagina until they both explode simultaneously with a fantastic orgasm. For men, the fantasy ends there. What terribly misguided notions we have about good sex.
Few women have the same conception of good sex.
Instead, she imagines going out to a romantic setting, having a wonderful time, holding hands, talking, laughing, dancing, etc. Later in her fantasy, a nice looking, smooth-talking, confident lover tells her about his feelings for her, their future, her attractiveness, his needs for love, etc. She imagines being held tightly and kissed over and over. Her fantasy may include his slowly and gently touching her breasts and later her sexual parts, eventually undressing her and having intercourse, but this isn't the total focus of her fantasy. Early in the love making process, the typical male is worried that he will do something wrong or that she will stop him.