Then see what happens. I came clean with my wife too. All the marbles are on the table but she wants to move out and be with him. More for gladimadeit. Everyone has that need.
Kids have it, parents have it, co-workers etc.
I feel that if I'm not wanted someone where then I souldn't be there. My H has a need to be loved and wanted as well as I do. We do the best we can to fill those needs. I might have misunderstood. TexasMan, If you want your marriage, you've got to strap on those climbing boots, and get to work.