I am pleased that they have expanded upon my thoughts. Marie hit it right on the head when she said a major problem is fear.
Fear is always present in one form or another in adoptive parents.
Until an adoption is finalized they are afraid they may lose their child. American Horse who is being claimed by the Lakota after living with her adoptive mother for 12 years. The adoptive mother is Choctaw separated from a Lakota husband. The child at age 12 does not want to leave her mother. Additional fears of adoptive parents are whether the child may someday want to find the biological parents and what type of relationship may result.