Ask the Master to help you keep the minors minor. By the way, only on rare occasions are these complaints expressed directly and exclusively to the offender. Most of the time, we prefer to accuse one person to another. Rather, it is uncharitable, despicable, cowardly and unchristian. If my heart reveals what lies in other hearts, then the answer is that we want honor and respect, we want a following, we want to have our way, we want to be in charge, and on and on.
Greatness is found in service.
But make no mistake, this service doesn't serve others with the intent of achieving greatness. This service is an expression of the selfless ambition to love and bless others . . . Somehow I suspect we figure we would never do what those disciples did that night. Imagine striving, quarreling and arguing in front of Jesus. We would certainly show more respect for the Lord than that .