This week, I feature E-Mails from 2 different readers on a similar subject. When she died he reserved a plot next to her for himself. We hope to be buried there. My husband are old enough to start thinking seriously about this.
Jewish law has much to say on the subjects of death, dying and mourning.
Most of these laws reveal that our sages had amazing insight into human nature and human pain. In particular, I have been impressed by our tradition's realistic attitudes about accepting the loss of a precious loved one and the emphasis placed on compassionately helping the mourners to ease back into the routine of everyday life. Given the great amount of thought and text devoted to death, there is a relatively small amount of information about the questions you have posed. The questions are further complicated and relevant because of the prevalence of intermarriage today. The Jewish Way in Death and Mourning.