In a loving and consistent relationship with a primary caregiver, we develop a sense of well-being, and a trust in others. But for children who have suffered early experiences of neglect, abuse, hospitalizations, or separations from a primary caregiver, relationships are frightening and unpredictable. They become reluctant to trust or love others. And they become driven - driven to control every aspect of life in an effort to control their pain. They grow up believing they are unlovable and that others must not be trusted.
Life is empty and survival is the only goal.
Cheryl Nitz, ACSW, LSW, and Jill Lindner, MSW, LSW bring many years of collective experience in the fields of adoption and foster care. They have also received extensive training in the field of attachment work.