By writing the profiles, teachers and parents can keep the momentum. Even when parents take all these steps to ensure good communication with teachers, parents don't always ask the right questions. Ask the teachers to demonstrate how they know the child is succeeding. Learning how to speak up and ask the right questions is crucial for parents, but it's equally important to impart those lessons to the child, and to make sure the child understands his or her disability. The reason is that when children understand there is something different about the way they learn, they are less likely to blame themselves or think of themselves as stupid, says Schultz.
Experts also say it is important for parents to give children a sense that they are supported.
They must understand their strengths, and the things they do well, as well as their differences. They need to recognize that they are capable of learning. Debra Berger also stresses that parents need to teach these children how to be their own advocates. She began bringing her son to IEP meetings when he was in the sixth grade to listen and gradually learn to speak for himself. You've got to speak up for your child.