Each week in the UK, two women are killed by a partner or ex-partner. Domestic violence is not just about individual men abusing individual women. It is also about the systematic abuse and oppression of women in the society in which we live. Domestic violence is about power and control. Abusive, violent and sexually abusive behaviour is wide-ranging and subtle in what it tries to achieve.
Domestic violence is intentional and instrumental behaviour.
It is about scaring you into doing something that you don't want to do or out of doing something that you do want to do. His abuse is his problem and his responsibility. It is not your fault. No woman deserves to be abused, regardless of what she says or does. A man can change.