You re ashamed to tell your friends. You re afraid the explosions and jealousy will get worse if you tell anyone. You re afraid to tell your parents because they might make you break up. Maybe you also are afraid of losing your boyfriend or girlfriend. Maybe you think it s worth it to put up with anything just to have someone special in your life.
Every relationship has problems and upsets.
That s just part of life. But if you see patterns of uncontrolled anger, jealousy, or possessiveness, or if there is shoving, slapping, forced sex or other physical violence even once it s time to find help. Imagine that your best friend is going with someone who thinks and acts that way. You have the right to be treated with respect and to not be harmed physically or emotionally by another person. Violence and abuse are not acceptable in any relationship.