Two researchers, Nick Stinnett and John DeFrain from the University of Nebraska, have studied families to find answers to those questions. They have identified six major characteristics that strong families share. Commitment means that family comes first. In strong families, when hard times come or when family members hurt each other, members work together to solve the problems. Strong families have problems, but they don't let problems destroy them.
Family members are willing to sacrifice their individual desires for the good of the family.
The need to be appreciated may be the strongest need of all. In strong families, members show appreciation to each other often. They thank each other for help with everyday chores like washing dishes, doing yard work and doing laundry. They notice what family members do right instead of focusing on what family members do wrong. Strong families talk and listen to each other.