Each part is affected by what happens to one part but at varying degrees. So it is with families. Each person is affected differently by the impact of a reduced income or changed lifestyle. The way change affects each family member depends on their age and ability to understand the seriousness of the situation, their personality and how they cope with distressing news, and the severity of the change. When adults keep information from their children, they open the door for mixed messages, confusion and tension.
Kids are able to pick up on the tension and stress that the adults are experiencing.
They know something is wrong, even though they may not know what it is. They may think that they are somehow to blame. Children may hear you say things are fine, but see the distress in your face, hear it in the tone of your voice, and experience it in your lack of patience with them and others. Parents should admit their concerns to their children and stress their abilities to cope with the situation. In most cases, it is best to be honest and open with your children about what is happening to you and the family.