Offer to support whatever decision they make, then do it. Look inward now, pay attention to your own feelings, and take care of yourself too. Your needs are also valid. Seek support for yourself, if for no other reason than so you can be better support for the survivor. Don't burden the survivor with your stuff .
Males learn to expect females to 'take care of' our emotional needs.
It isn't wrong for us to have emotional needs. It is wrong for us to add to the survivor s burden. Respect their need for absolute confidentiality. This is their life. Do not play God by deciding that you know better what they need.