Again, speaking from experience, an affair is not worth it. Way too many people get hurt. Love is meant to heal. Love is meant to renew. Love is meant to oust all fear.
Love is meant to harmonize differences.
Love is meant to bring us closer to God. I think my H had a problem with immaturity. He held onto resentments for 11 years. It does appear that he may have used these cheating experiences to get the results he wanted all along. A good relationship.