Support is determined by a statutory formula applied to the financial resources available to the party paying support, but can be modified by the court with regards to special factors. Even in the best of divorces there is substantial grief and pain caused by the loss of the marriage. You and your children need support and care. Assure the children that they are not to blame for the divorce nor are they being rejected or abandoned. Refrain from being critical of the other parent.
Feelings shown are more important that the words used.
Do not force or encourage the children to take sides. Do not upset the child's routine abruptly. All children need a sense of continuity and find it difficult to cope with too many changes at once. Do not try to hush things up and make a child feel he must not talk or even think about what is going on. Children need and want to know quite clearly what is expected of them.