Intimacy does not have to do with control. Intimacy requires curiosity about the other. Intimacy does not condemn, reject, or abandon. Intimacy is spontaneous and will be unpredictable. Intimacy is not focused on changing the other person.
Intimacy can only occur with a respect for differences.
Finally, to be intimate is to allow yourself to be seen and willing to see what the other person is showing you. That takes strength of commitment, security in yourself, an ability to respond sensitively and creatively, and a willingness to enter into the unknown that exists between you. This is a list to inspire your thinking. Send us your thoughts and we will publish them as we receive them.