The answer is that the various social groups, churches, and the extended family must all decide this for themselves. Government, however, should not get involved either by removing the doctor's license or his citizenship, particularly when abortions are done early in the pregnancy, since this controversy has many reasonable caring people on both sides of the issue. I agree that the abortion issue is difficult and that people should stop forcing their understanding of it onto one another. Just because a thing is wrong doesn't mean that it should be illegal. The coercive imposition of beliefs has resulted in more evil behavior than any good that the beliefs might otherwise have accomplished.
Legitimate reform is accomplished by education, persuasion, and negotiation.
Coercion is a repressive tool of tyrants. A long time ago, while I was involved with the Constitutional Patriot movement, we all understood that a man could use any name he wanted, just so long as he satisfied the obligations that he incurred under the name. He didn't do anything wrong by using an assumed name. For years, I used assumed names for such things as the power bill and the phone bill. I couldn't see any reason why those people needed a name anyway.