On the other hand, the political is not personal. Bringing political triggers for anger into a relationship does not make for an improved relationship. I lived through a period where feminists demanded that men and women do exactly the same things and have the same values. Fortunately there is now more permission for men and women to have differences and negotiate the terms of the relationship. Of course the bathroom thing is better handled by separate abodes, or at least separate bathrooms.
Love Love is an energy.
It's the same energy whether it is felt for a spouse, a parent, a child, a stranger, or a tree. It's empirically measurable. Desires and needs are different from love. To be clear on one's needs is not necessarily pretty. A lot of us wanted not to have any needs.