She doesn't want the kids to suffer. She has actually said that she wishes that he would push her down the stairs or throw her into a wall, because then she wouldn't feel guilty about wanting to leave him. She has talked to the Pastor at their church, and he agrees with my sister. My mom and I have told her everything that we can think of, and we are at a loss as to what else to tell her. She is getting so frustrated with the whole situation, that she is taking it out on the kids.
Kids do things to get on a parents nerve, sometimes, but lately it is everything that they do.
So, I need any advice on what I could tell her. Pat keeps throwing the wedding vows in her face. I told her to tell him that it says right in the Bible, that it is a mans responsibilty to take care of his family. She doesn't want to do anything that would look bad in God's eyes. Pat refuses to go to counsiling, so that suggestion is out.