When this view of ourselves as failures seems too much to bear, it triggers anger. The way to eliminate this kind of anger is to stop blaming ourselves for our poor parenting skills. Instead, we should do what we can to improve, and in the meantime be patient, both with ourselves and our children. Remember that the minute we become more aware of our mistakes, they are no longer failures in parenting. They become steps in the process of becoming better parents.
Good judgment comes from experience, and experience comes from poor judgment.
So we can profit from our mistakes, rather than criticize ourselves for them. I did it. Share a story with the group that you heard, that happened to you, that you read somewhere. Add a source to the list of sources on the centrality of middot in Judaism . Web-shiurim Index .