In a nutshell, both members of the parentchild communication network participate in the development of each other's skills. A cue-giving child and a responsive parent bring out the best in each other. On the other hand, detachment parenting with its restrained responses brings out the worst in both. The child's cries become more disturbing and parents become more angry. Baby and parent learn not to trust each other and eventually become insensitive to each other.
Insensitivity gets parents into trouble.
The attachment style of parenting is especially effective when parenting the high need child. I prefer to call these children high need children. It is not only a more positive term, but it also describes the level of parenting these children need. These are the children who most need attachment parenting. The infant who is the product of attachment parenting learns that his needs will be met consistently and predictably.