Or better still, ask yourself what fear you are trying to compensate for. Because, if you are obliging yourself to do something, be something or become something, then you are telling yourself that you are in some way not good enough, lovable enough, or acceptable enough as you are. You are the only one that is capable of punishing yourself, so give yourself a break and allow things just to be. By allowing things just to be, you will automatically begin embodying the power and vibration of love and you will be making a greater contribution to personal and planetary healing than by giving yourself a whole list of rules and regulations. Love is allowing.
Love is the total acceptance of what is.
Spiritual growth is not an intellectual exercise. There is no method, teacher, guru or course that you NEED in order to grow spiritually. Real growth comes from a certain knowingness, and knowingness comes from feeling the truth from deep within your heart. You have no need of new philosophies, ideas and teachers. That Is that lives deeply within your heart.