Values, activities and lifestyles often reflect a history of personal and cultural experiences. Some family experiences may soon be forgotten. Others, such as the annual family summer vacation, may be well remembered. Such memories, as well as some that may not be as pleasant, are likely to influence future behavior of family members. For example, perceptions of conflict between parents may produce subsequent conflict between children and their spouses or others, said Ben Silliman, family life extension specialist, University of Wyoming.
Families usually have strengths as well.
They, too, may be remembered and copied by future generations, he said. Parents successful marriage is a legacy for children and grandchildren. Subsequent generations can build on that legacy, especially if they take the time to do their homework before they make a commitment to each other and a relationship. By the same token, couples whose parents have not had successful marriages are not doomed to failure. Family influence is ongoing.