If sexual intercourse is done with tenderness and enthusiasm, if it occurs in a comfortable setting, if both parties are without guilt and concern about pregnancy, it can be one of life's greatest joys, a wondrous event, a cherished memory, a fantastic way to bond with another human being. While all this is true, there are some couples who love each other deeply and enjoy each other's companionship without having much interest in sex. You mustn't force sex to do the work of love or love to do the work of sex. McCarthy Needless to say, if sex is done roughly and selfishly, if one person is deceived or hurt, if it results in an unwanted pregnancy, intercourse can be a horrible experience. Also, like all good experiences, sex can be diminished by expecting too much.
Intense excitement is replaced by comfort and security.
Worry and anxiety are not a part of good sex. There are many good books for learning about sex. Other books focus on improving sex. See the next section for specific information about sexual problems, such as reduced sexual desires, impotence, lack of orgasm, etc.