She also talks about the active love that can strengthen a family, a community, or a nation. In our society we make much of love and say little about fear. Yet we are all terribly afraid most of the time. As a culture we are obsessed with the notion of safety. Yet we do not question why we live in states of extreme anxiety and dread.
Fear is the primary force upholding structures of domination.
It promotes the desire for separation, the desire not to be known. When we are taught that safety lies always with sameness, then difference, of any kind, will appear as a threat. This is just an amazing book. I strongly urge you to buy it, and read it, and buy it for your friends, and family members. I can't do justice to it here.