The same goes for disagreement. We each have our own personal communications failures. If at all possible, take a deep breath and count to ten before responding to something you find sets off deeply-rooted hair triggers. To pass beyond 2. To exist independent of 3.
Happiness comes in small doses.
It's a cigarette, or a chocolate chip cookie, or a five second orgasm. End of fuckin' list. To drop something is very tempting and very easy when that thing is ugly, terrorizing, or uncomfortable. Instincts usually tell us to take that thing and heave it as far away from us as possible. When we hold onto that thing, examine it from its many angles, figure out it dimensions, shape, etc.