Your hand is God's hand for that person. I'm giving it everything I've got. Only then can you be embraced by the One most dear to you. Look up, and be alert to what is going on around Christ - that's where the action is. See things from his perspective.
Honest people are relaxed and confident, bold as lions.
That's when you discover who you really are, and your place in God's family. None of this is going off and doing your own thing. And cultivate thankfulness. Ask for what you need. Then take last place.