Pay attention to how many critical or negative remarks you make to your children. You probably do it more than you think. When parents focus on mistakes, kids feel discouraged. They know very well when they mess up or make mistakes. They don't need their parents rubbing it in.
Every day find at least five things to praise.
Your child's messy room annoys you . Parents often fall into the trap of issuing empty threats that rarely motivate youngsters. You Want Them to Say Yes . Avoid giving ultimatums. And by offering your child a limited choice about when this action occurs, you sidestep power struggles.