A good communicator realizes that people often default to being nasty when they feel they have been attacked. A good communicator is sensitive, and knows that everyone wants to be understood and respected. Even if we must separate the disrespectful words and actions from the respectworthy person. A good communicator is mindful that we do not have to agree, but we must respect each other as human beings with individual opinions. Good communicators recognize that people do not always say what they mean.
Good communicators seek intent.
Good communicators are constantly striving to make certain the receiver gets the correct message. Good communicators are aware there are always options in good communication, and several ways to communicate any message. Good communicators are willing to acknowledge others' opinions. Even if they can't agree with them. A good communicator is always respectful of hope.