They intentionally create opportunities to reconnect and their nurture their friendship. They take walks, go out to eat or to a movie, develop new mutual interests and so on. Betrayed spouses will be more interested in spending discussion-free time after the initial shock of the affair has dissipated. Ultimately, the key to healing from infidelity involves forgiveness, which is frequently the last step in the healing process. The unfaithful spouse can do everything right- be forthcoming, express remorse, listen lovingly and act trustworthy, and still, the marriage won t mend unless the betrayed person forgives his or her spouse and the unfaithful spouse forgives him or herself.
Forgiveness opens the door to real intimacy and connection.
But forgiveness doesn t just happen. It is a conscious decision to stop blaming, make peace, and start tomorrow with a clean slate. Decide to forgive today. All rights reserved. 2000 Michele Weiner-Davis.