He is saddened when we go our own way. Not until we believe that God loves us in spite of all our infirmities and imperfections can we find strength to be different. I will improve myself. Then God will love anti accept me, approve of me. God's love heals.
Love expands the life.
Selfishness binds and cramps our style. Selfishness pours out anger, hostility, misunderstanding. The love of God pours out mercy, grace, and kindness. Selfishness uses emotional pressure. The love of God uses forgiveness and sacrifice.