Their energy is focused on solutions, not blame. Family members focus on what is controllable. They make the best of situations over which they have little or no control. The family develops and revises rules to deal effectively with day to day life. When they are under stress they work together to revise existing rules and evaluate the results.
Family members recognize that decisions and routines are flexible.
Rigid rules and expectations are challenged as a family. Family members feel empowered as a result of effectively dealing with stress. They see challenges as opportunities rather than roadblocks. Family members recognize the difference between the symptoms of stress and the sources of the stress. They address the source of the stress.