The only way to drastically reduce your risk for herpes is to use condoms. If you refuse to do that, then shut up and accept the inevitable. Herpes sores don't shine out like neon lights, and an afflicted lover doesn't even have to be showing a sore to be contagious. The big problem with condoms is that when the media refuses to talk about sex in plain language, it can be hard to figure out how to use them. Buy a bunch of different kinds and masturbate with them until you find a kind you like.
Great wankers make great condom artistes.
Carry rubbers on your person. Have plenty around, like candy. They're just mad they're not getting laid more often. Guys who know what they're doing with rubbers are a lover's dream come true. When you aren't worried about getting knocked up or sick, you can thoroughly enjoy being horny.