We listened to one another's personal stories and life views, at ever-deepening levels of understanding. Some were more quiet, cautious and protected. We all shared one common interest for sure - food. After several meetings, we collectively chose to have a facilitator. In our case, a participant-attorney and mediator, neither Palestinian nor Jew, volunteered.
First meetings can be either courteous or confronting.
Each group has a different nature or personality. It is important to make room for flaring, especially when people have been holding their stories within for years, longing to be heard. This is where the others begin to master deep listening. It truly is a process and takes dedication and time. Successful dialogue cannot be a passing fancy or hobby.