They were submissive to their own husbands, like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her master. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear. Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers. Through honoring others as God honors each of us is the only true basis of love. Pure human love has to do with natural personal desires.
Humans love to be selfish as it seeks to honor self.
It seeks its own rights. True love stays sweet and stands by to clean up when an ugly mess occurs. Only those who seek God can discover this kind of God honoring love in their marriages. This kind of love is beyond our natural ability. It is totally dependent upon the enabling power of God.