Another approach we can take to this Lenten season is suggested in Paul's first letter to the Corinthians. Charity should be interpreted love. This is the dynamic between man and god and without that love of god we are dead indeed. It is this love that we might grow in this lent. We might paraphrase Paul's words in this way.
Love is patient, love is kind.
Love is not jealous. Love does not put on airs. It is not snobbish. It is not rude. It is not self-seeking.