This quote from the Foster Grandparent Program in Montana describes the important role that grandparents play in the lives of their grandchildren. One of the pleasures in life is being a grandparent. To a large extent, this is because older adults can enjoy grandchildren on their own terms without feeling responsible for them. This fact sheet highlights the special gifts grandparents and grandchildren give to each other. Grandparents can help children feel secure and loved.
Grandparents can give love and attention within the rules and limits of parents.
They can enjoy their grandchildren without going outside the boundaries the family has established. The love that the grandchild experiences with his grandparents will depend upon the role the grandparents play in the relationship. Children can never have too much of the right kind of love, love that helps them grow and develop, that reduces anxiety, tension and hurt. Love that adds security, trust, acceptance and understanding is always needed. However, if grandparents spoil and pamper or try to possess, their love is harmful rather than helpful.