Before we do that though it might be beneficial to understand why it is we have this need to control. The first thing that springs to mind is a sense of false security. We are safe and secure so long as we control our emotions or feelings. Our kids are safe and secure so long as we control them because we know best what our kids need and want. The paradox is that while you fiercely hang tight you risk attracting what you fear most.
Life is likened to the flow of a river.
As the river currents head down stream, you go with the flow, surrendering to the way nature intended it. However, when you travel upstream against the rivers current, you are met with difficulties and life becomes harder to endure. It is undoubtedly always easiest when we flow with the river. Life is only what you make of it. You are the creator and it does not have to be difficult unless you make it that way.