When others control you through guilt, who you are often gets lost in the process. As much as you may want to do something else, it sometimes becomes easier to let others control you rather than stand up for self. When pleasing others means denying the needs of self, weigh what you can and cannot live with. You may decide that it is easier to deny your own needs rather than live with the guilt of displeasing others. Although this may cause resentment, you may choose to carry resentment rather than guilt.
Guilt grabs the opportunity to take control of the situation.
When you choose to deny your own needs, thus damaging self, do so in awareness. Becoming aware of what you do and the consequences of your decisions are the first steps to self-healing. Only by becoming aware can you move on to self-healing. To Self Continue to strengthen self-esteem, explaining your changes to the people around you via the involved Oversouls. Remember, you cannot change them.