Say what you'll settle for. Don't be afraid to do this. All too often same- sex couples will close off discussion about what is happening between them because they fear the bond that holds them together is too fragile to withstand the confrontation. Usually just the opposite is true. In confronting your partner with your true needs and wishes, you are performing an act of trust in this person, an act that is binding in itself, because it acknowledges the importance of the alliance to you.
Every human relationship is flawed.
Look at all the situation comedies written around marital discord. It happens to everyone. Discord might be signalling the end of the relationship. But turning away from conflict is turning away from reality. Denying anger, until it explodes unexpectedly at a later date, is bewildering and potentially very damaging to a relationship.