I hold inviolable my own right to choose, but not that of others. How unspeakably selfish of me. Anger is always selfish. Anger is really wishing I could control the choices, and lives, of others. I want to make them change so my own life is easier, and when I can't, I'm angry.
Few people see the astonishing selfishness of anger.
When I'm angry, I choose to see people as objects that I have a right to manipulate. I can choose otherwise. I become free and powerful when I realize that my anger is a desire to take from people their right to choose. It's a hideously selfish thing to do and awful to see, but when I do see it, I can then choose to change. I can't change what I can't see.