Children may be left with many problems following visits, but most of them are the natural result of a highly unnatural and uncomfortable situation. Both parents should make every effort to discuss and to agree on ways to deal with these problems. Both parents should strive to agree on matters pertaining to the children, especially discipline, so that one parent is not undermining the other parent's efforts. If You Need Help Like your attorney, a psychologist or other counselor can offer insights drawn from the experience of the many people who have gone through this process before you. If you decide that dissolution of the marriage is the only answer to your marital differences and that help to restore the marriage is no longer what you want or need, you may still need professional help to get on the right road.
Help is available.
Seek your attorney's assistance in locating the proper professional help for your particular problem. Advice from well-meaning friends and relatives, in many cases, further aggravates the situation. Friends or relatives can seldom be objective. Professional counseling can assist you in dealing with your problems and your children's problems at the same time, and it is based on the experience of counseling hundreds of troubled parents with problems much like yours, as well as professional academic training. This leaflet has been revised and reprinted by the Family Law Section of the Virginia State Bar from a handout obtained many years ago from Judge Jack T. Ryburn of the Los Angeles, California, Supreme Court.