As adults, it is time to stop automatically swallowing ideas whole. If we have not already done so, It is time to examine these old beliefs and mental models from our newer, growth-oriented point of view. It is time to put Higher Self beliefs such as seeking openness and truth above all else or we will only delude ourselves. It is time to appeal to our Higher Self's ultimate concern of seeking happiness for self and others. If we will begin to compare our old internalized models with these Higher Self beliefs, then we will find conflicts.
Integration resolves basic belief conflicts underlying most daily conflicts and emotional reactions.
As a drop of dye gradually colors the entire glass of water, so our Higher Self beliefs will color our entire personality. One client started with a dismal view of the world. She could find only faults with herself, everyone, and every thing around her. She had never received much affection in her life and had almost always been surrounded by conflict, criticism, and anger. She said that she had never even seen a happy family.