Beware of making the gifted child a scapegoat for family tensions. Family dynamics are complex, and it is important not to make simple cause-effect assumptions about the problem. On the other hand, beware of creating an exaggerated sense of individual importance in the gifted child, since social maladjustment may result. Be aware that the abilities of a younger sibling of a gifted child may be underestimated. The younger sibling may suffer in regard to emotional adjustment, self-esteem, competition, and cooperation.
Friction is likely to be greatest when the labeled child is oldest.
However, unlabeled children do not view the sibling relationship more negatively than do the labeled siblings. Be aware that organizing the family around the gifted child may strain resources and affect family relationships negatively. Focus on the pleasures of parenting, not just the struggles, responsibilities, and expenses. Establish a good working relationship with the school. Be aware that parents are more likely than the child to claim that the child is bored.