As Jesus loves the person, we are to love the person also. You see, the person's actions and sins aren't the person. Though caused by the person, they are not the person. Love the sinner, not the sin. This is something I'm struggling with.
Forgiveness is necessary.
Love the person, wholly and unconditionally. Love thine enemy. The way a person is, should not be taken personally by you. Forgive yourself for what you have done. Confess your sins, evil thoughts, guilt, and feelings you have for the person.