I even came to the States to separate for 4 months. Still, when I went back there wasn't consistent effort on his part to help change. He never wanted me to leave, but he never wanted to really do the work. So, I finally decided to stay in the States again after what was to be just a visit, and I've been here for 2 years now. When he knew I wasn't coming back, he agreed to finally move over here for us to try and reconcile.
Japan really has no marriage, much less Christian resources.
I got off the phone extremely depressed and at the end. I just had nothing else to give and so I turned in the divorce papers. They were finalized in October. As a Christian I've really had to wrestle with God's working in this. But I believe in all I did that I did give it to him.