You cannot love or hate something about another unless it reflects something you love or hate in yourself. Your life is up to you. You always get what you want. There is no right or wrong, but there are consequences. Moralizing doesn't help.
Judgements only hold the patterns in place.
Just do your best. Your answers lie inside you. You know more than you have heard or read or been told. All you need to do is to look, listen, and trust. You will forget all this.