Your child needs to hear he or she can make it. Tell a child he is a loser and he will become one. Praise and support builds self-confidence. Remember your divorced partner is the father or mother of your child. Your child is an awesome blend of the traits and talents of two distinctive personalities.
Every child starts out with a built-in loyalty to both parents.
Attack a parent and you wound the child. If your ex-spouse is a louse, your child will find it out without your help. Your antagonism can drive your child into the arms of the other parents. Provide a positive role model. The greatest gift you can now give to your child is a display of optimism and forgiveness.