I wanted a coffee date and knew there was nothing else to do but lie as convincingly as I could. Oh, I won't ask anything too hard. He ended up having a serious boyfriend, but my coffee date proved that reading into conversations can be helpful when trying to figure out if someone is queer like me. It also helped me meet some other gays in my new city and penetrate its gay life. A lot can be gleaned from stereotypes, but in Germany at least, you can't tell who is gay and who is not by how they look.
Every boy there is skinny and dressed from head to toe in tight black clothing.
They all have earrings, suck in their cheeks and like to shake it to Cher. It's not possible to rely on American stereotypes to set off your gaydar. At home I feel like such a fag. I've got to admit, I don't mind feeling gay and being able to look around me and identify others. It was actually part of the reason why I got my right ear pierced, wear a rainbow ribbon on my backpack, and have a rainbow sticker on my car.