Family means man, wife, kids.
Family does not mean a committed gay relationship, Vermont notwithstanding. To claim that exclusion of gays is pernicious discrimination strikes me as a self-serving imposition of gay values, using a legal mandate from the government. Boy Scouts may not be a private country club, but they aren't any different than a religious group either. The term for it is freedom of association. To have different values does not equal disrespect for human dignity.