But there's part of you that wants to have a mad, passionate fling, or mope about for days on end. And no one around you understands what's going on. That's the bad news. The good news, for many gay men and lesbian women, is that the world suddenly makes sense. Or at the very least, sex makes sense.
Love finally makes sense.
Delayed adolescence can be a joyous time, a time when you finally come to know who you really are. Try to find ways to deal with your feelings that won't jeopardize the adult life you've created. For instance, even though you feel wonderful about being gay or lesbian, be cautious about coming out at work, to friends, or to relatives until you've taken a realistic look at all the possible responses, positive and negative. Find ways to express your intense sexual feelings that will not cost more than you're willing to pay. If you're in a relationship, understand clearly the damage an affair could cause.