And I see the effect on the inmates - how their attitude and behaviour change. You can't see these things month after month and not become a believer. Part of what I said was that the only way we can find ourselves is to deny ourselves. That's Christ's teaching. It's only by loving the other that myself actually emerges.
Forgiveness is at the heart of that.
As we were leaving a venerable old rabbi with a shining face called us over. It says, You shall love your neighbor as being your own self . Your neighbor is your true self. You have no self in yourself. I have no self in myself except the one that is fulfilled by loving the other.