They feel they are powerless, defeated, and hopeless as a husband and lover, they are devastated, that this has happened to them. It is hard enough for your husband to come to terms with being told that he has prostate cancer, and as well as being impotent, it is a shattering experience and nothing really prepares you for it. Do these urologists realise what they are putting the men and their wives or partners through, a decision that has to be made in a week, that affects you for the rest of your life. The bucket of tears that flowed in that week, I am sure the Waikato river was flowing very well. But this does not bring your husband or partner back as a true man.
Incontinence is another big problem our men folk are faced with.
Anxiety and depression may occur as a result of bladder control problems. Some men hide these problems from other men because they feel they are the only one around who is unable to control their bladder, the embarrassment and shame that many feel, may delay them in seeking help. With both these men's problems it does put some marriages in jeopardy. I have not got a husband who is ill, this I could understand if he was ill, but he is, as you can see, very healthy, and as a women I found this difficult to come to terms with. I wonder how many of you women that are here today, wish you could turn back the clock, back to the times, when your husband or partner could share in the intimacy of your relationship that was then, was taken for granted , but you both enjoyed those times.