The Church is people.
Churches are buildings.
Even if the Church is no longer the only registry of births, marriages and deaths that counts, most people still instinctively feel that church with its imaginative resonances is the right place for the milestones of life. A determined minority still contends that certain rituals cannot be performed by a female - however enthusiastic the reception for women priests has been. And a rite must be right for you, if it is to be acceptable and proper. The nature of liturgy and language may suggest fussy superficiality. But how meaning is conveyed is crucial.