Nowadays, an accusation of anti-Jewish bigotry or insensitivity can do real damage. Sometimes the damage is deserved, but sometimes it is disproportionate to the original offense. The power to wield that stick carries with it the duty to wield it responsibly. Jewish community leaders have a responsibility to start telling their rank and file the whole truth. And the followers have a duty to start listening.
Catholic leaders come to that meeting feeling that they are the aggrieved party.
This time, though, they should work extra hard at hearing out the other side.