My Current Opinion by Guy Spiro. This is especially true when the object of our thwarted desire is something that we thought we were entitled to, or that we already had. Negative emotions generally follow. Whether anger, sadness or depression is one's petulant response of choice, all too often that response is worse than the perceived loss. But over the years I noticed a pattern.
Irritation then gives way to gratitude.
Arriving just a little later or just a little earlier can make all the difference in many situations and we cannot always see how a delay has helped us without the wisdom of hindsight. I can think of many other instances to be grateful that I did not get what I thought I wanted. Most often we lack the perspective to see how something we don't like is bringing a greater good. Sometimes it is very difficult to grasp the benefit of the suffering that we find ourselves in. But there is always something to be learned, something just out of sight that we want or need, something right following whatever it is that seems so wrong.