Work on one small doable rather than many large undoables. Almost always, it's a laughably small wound that causes the first hurt in a relationship. But then, ignoring the smallness takes on a size of its own. Ignoring the problem becomes larger than the original problem. Develop forgiveness skills.
Forgiveness looks forward, vengeance looks backward.
Purify our hearts. The United States President Clinton, Secretary of State Madeleine K. Albright, Defense Secretary William S. Cohen and others have been busy preaching to Saddam Hussein about Iraq's weapons of mass destruction, while the United States has the largest arsenal of such weapons in the history of the planet. A nation that continues year after year to spend more money on military defense than on programs of social uplift is approaching spiritual death. Sometimes the conflict partners are so emotionally wounded or ideologically hidebound that nothing can stop the violence. But large numbers of conflicts can be resolved without killing or wounding the other side, provided the strategies for peacemaking are known.