Completely understand one other person. To grok means to completely understand something or someone, in every fiber of your body and mind. Part of locking arms is the commitment to work at totally understanding one other person in life. Not always an easy thing to do, but consider how good it could feel to be completely understood by someone. Remember that disagreement in marriage is inevitable.
Fighting is optional.
It is always a choice. Learn how to look at the world through the eyes of your partner. You don't have to agree with how he or she sees things, or even understand it completely. You do need to be able to see through the other person's eyes. Form a partnership that uses each of your own unique skills to the fullest.