The angry person never finishes being angry, but holds onto his or her anger like a security blanket. The anger becomes a way of identifying who we are. The anger blots out all other feelings, stymies growth, and interferes with relationships. Instead of moving through the anger to a place of acceptance and maybe even forgiveness, it is held onto and re-fueled, like a tiger by the tail. This person is never able to move forward into a new life, never able to find peace of mind, and remains trapped in their anger.
Healthy anger is expressed, worked through and let go of.
It is a way to set boundaries with others and let them know when they've gone too far. Healthy anger is like a bright flame that burns and cleanses, and then goes out, not a smoky tire fire that burns and pollutes for months or years. If you find yourself in either of the categories above, it may be time to take a good hard look at yourself. The first step towards change is awareness of the need to change. If taking a good look at yourself and sincere effort does not release you from your anger, then perhaps it is time to ask for help, either from loved ones or perhaps a professional.