Observe your personal process of discouragement. Since nothing we intend is ever faultless, and nothing we attempt ever without error, and nothing we achieve without some measure of finitude and fallibility we call humanness, we are saved by forgiveness. Forgive yourself for treating your friends as enemies. Forgive yourself for all the things you could have done if only you had learned this years ago. Forgive yourself in general.
Forgiveness is an easy process.
Forgiving is also forgetting. Let it go. And when you're not loving it all, love that, too. The key is awareness . At this point, simply be aware of the comfort zone and its effect on you.