Rapists don't talk about their plans and believe they can't control themselves when aroused. Lovers know that seduction involves consent after a well stated proposal Rapists don't seduce, they use force, deceit or manipulation and never obtain consent. Lovers are careful not to deaden their partner's senses and they want their partner responsive and involved. Rapists use alcohol or drugs to render their victims unconscious to too incapacitated to give legal consent.
Lovers feel good about themselves and know the difference between consenting sex and violence.
Rapists usually feel inadequate and confuse sexual violence with sex. Rapists often use humiliating and disprespectful slang to describe their sexual exploits and prey. Lovers are interested in pleasing their partner so the partner feels desired and respected. Rapists are interested only in their own needs and their victims usually feel humiliated and devastated. Lovers have consenting and willing partners.