If that is what you have, you can relieve the pressure on the hemorrhoid by using a lubricated finger to push the hemorrhoid back up into the anus, and avoid future strangulated hemorrhoids by making sure you don't ever leave a hemorrhoid sticking out through your anus after a bowel movement in the future. If the lump to which you are referring is 1 to 2 inches away from the anus, it cannot be a hemorrhoid. It could be an abscess, but without knowing more exactly where it is, I cannot be sure. In any event, if you are having extreme pain, you shouldn't fool around with your problem. You should see a doctor.
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