Some people find that a barrier that they can't get through. It's what we've just talked about. It's recognizing that we are all sinful people. I think what the Christian community has done as a whole is try to force forgiveness too early, or to try to make it the only step. That is an error.
Forgiveness is vital.
It is a step in the process, but it's not the only step. The perpetrator doesn't carry that. And that tends to eat away at us. So it's really about releasing and accepting the payment of what Christ did for all sin. Talk about how to discern the difference and how to counsel someone who has fallen into self-pity without hurting them.