What you do next is up to you and your individual healing. You can think about, speak out or sing out the good parts of your life, examples of your healing, parts of yourself and your personality that please you, people who have been supportive of you, etc. Spend as much time as you feel you need with the second part of the ceremony. Extinguish both candles. You are goodness.
Healing is powerful.
Your strength and your healing will overcome your pain. You will be healed. Repeat this thought in your mind. Your candle-lighting ceremony can be a private ceremony, or you can invite close family members, friends, or other survivors. This is a personal choice.