A lesser known fact is that those who divorce rarely marry the person with whom they are having the affair. Only 3 percent of the 4,100 successful men surveyed eventually married their lovers. The psychological consequences are also significant, even if they are sometimes more difficult to discern. People who pursue an affair often do so for self-esteem needs, but often further erode those feelings by violating trust, intimacy, and stability in a marriage relationship. Affairs do not stabilize a marriage, they upset it.
Affairs destroy trust.
It s not surprising that marriages formed after an affair and a divorce have such a high divorce rate. Distrust of marriage and distrust of the affairee are significant issues. Finally, there are spiritual consequences to affairs. We grieve the Lord by our actions. We disgrace the Lord as we become one more statistic of moral failure within the body of Christ.