What I get from your question is that you don't love you very much and probably wouldn't have married yourself because of your weight. This seems to be an example of how your own beliefs about yourself can be projected onto someone else. It appears to be hard for you to accept that someone could have a different perception than your own and could love you even when you do not love yourself. Most frequently we learn to love ourselves because we felt the love and adoration from people around us during the early years of life and internalized it. If it was missing, or insufficient, we feel a sense of longing or craving.
Food becomes a substitute and a form of self-medicating.
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