But unless he gets an overview of the entire relationship, he won t know how to get there and will continue to run into obstacles. Understanding each partner s perspective provides that higher, necessary view. We understand everything better if we have more than one perspective of it, Posthumus said. We have two eyes, two ears, two hands. We have two of everything because it helps us understand reality better.
Communication problems interfere with understanding.
Words and tones have different meanings depending on how they are used. Each partner perceives the relationship differently and often does not express this view in a way that the other person understands. Anger and confusion also interfere with communication. With enough information, we can solve any problem, Posthumus said. If the reasons for getting the divorce disappear, why get the divorce.