A visitor from another planet reading the papers recently about First Lieut. Kelly Flinn, Marv Albert, Frank Gifford, Michael Kennedy and Paula Jones would think that our national pastime was not baseball but the Playboy channel. The day after the Supreme Court ruled that Paula Jones' lawsuit could go forward, the story led most major newspapers, above the announcement by Boris Yeltsin at the NATO summit that he would no longer target nuclear missiles at the Western alliance. We've got a woman here saying once again that Clinton came on to her in a hotel room six years ago. This preoccupation wouldn't be so troublesome if sex, or lying about it wasn't such a growth sector, spawning lawsuits, dishonorable discharges, job losses, book contracts and political meltdowns.
Any sexual encounter is subject to self-delusion, and that's when it turns out well.
Even the most scientific sex surveys are subject to criticism for the inherent unreliability of people's recounting of their sexual experiences. When there's no happily ever after, revisionism can really set in. What was ill-advised can in retrospect look involuntary. If you meant not to, wished you hadn't, know you shouldn't have, you can rationalize saying you didn't and not think of yourself as a liar. Some forms of withholding information are sanctioned.