Every time we look to someone or something else to bring us the life we desire, we are in a sense giving our power away. This was the situation I found myself in a number of years ago. The first answer that comes to mind is ask for help. That may mean going to a trusted friend or family member that cares about you and your children. Also, they may be able to put you in touch with the various community groups, agencies, and organizations that are in place to assist families in need.
Local churches are a wonderful source of support.
More than anything, build your faith, learn to pray and trust in God to lead and direct you. I have found that help is closer than you think and you will experience peace that passes all understanding. What if in achieving, we know some of our friends won't be able to handle our success, and we might actually lose them or the type of friendship we enjoy might change. Some friendships are based on common problems. When one of us moves on without these same difficulties, there is the chance that the friendship won't survive.