Although this man has not yet been arrested, he has left New York. Sincerely, Christine Quinn, Executive Director Founded in 1980, the New York City Gay and Lesbian Anti-Violence Project serves lesbian and gay crime victims through counseling, advocacy, information and referrals. An SM scene is a controlled situation. Negotiation occurs before an SM scene to determine what will and will not happen in that scene. One person determines what will happen.
Knowledgable consent is given to the scene by all parties.
No consent is asked for or given. The person being abused cannot stop what is happenning. No concern is given to the needs, desires, and limits of the abused person. The people in the SM scene are careful to be sure that they are not impaired by alcohol or drug use during the scene. Alcohol or drugs are often used before an episode of abuse.