Hospitality without partiality is a challenge in any size church. But don't feel guilty about spending more time with some friends than with others. When you do want to include everyone, don't overwhelm yourself. Have an all-day open house and arrange the invitation list to have guests arrive at different times. Share the fun and the costs.
Many churches provide entertainment allowances or reimbursements.
To save money and preparation time, ask guests to contribute to the menu. Have an appetizer party, dessert buffet, soup supper, waffle breakfast, salad luncheon or ice-cream social. Try a modified potluck supper where you provide the main dish and your guests bring the rest. Get creative with the Christmas card challenge. Christmas cards are not absolutely necessary.