If you feel angry, vent the anger, but without the insult. When things go right, give recognition to the facts. If a child's done something well, comment on the accomplishment and the feeling of satisfaction, not what a great person he is. When a child demeans himself, don't contradict his views but acknowledge the child's opinion sympathetically and then state your own opinion clearly. Convey positive regard and demonstrate love and understanding.
Denials are of little help to a child.
Eye contact Having to look up constantly at the person with whom you are relating affects how you feel about yourself, so establishing eye contact with your child is important. This may mean you must sit down while talking to your child, but this simple gesture is important to the development of her self-esteem. Embarrassing children Children's feelings are more easily wounded than an adult's. Young minds are stung by what they see as contempt or ridicule, by lack of consideration or intrusion on their privacy. They may brood bitterly over such experiences, yet refrain from speaking for fear of more painful humiliation.