For instance, for a painter, it can be about the picture that is never good enough. For a writer, the piece that is never written well enough. For a parent, the parenting that is never up to par. For a student, the test that can never be studied sufficiently for or the grades that are not good enough. For each of us, it can be about the task that we just can't seem to do the way it should be.
Goals are important in our lives.
They reflect those values we aspire toward and cherish. Those goals we can spend a lifetime living toward. But these same cherished goals can become the very weapons we hammer ourselves with when they become judgments against us. Instead of being inspiring, we mentally beat ourselves up over them because what we wanted to accomplish didn't turn out the way we thought it should. Rather than our being inspired to ever reach out toward our goals, we instead feel defeated in not having attained them.