Focus your child on the important ones. By using appropriate positive and negative consequences as we have outlined previously you will optimize your child s learning and following of the rules. Making independent judgments. There are several ways that we can foster good independent judgment skills in our children. As was previously discussed, the concept of empowerment provides children with the opportunity to be part of the decision making process regarding discipline issues.
Empowerment directly impacts on the development of independent judgment skills.
Eliciting your child s thoughts regarding their behavior and supportively processing their ideas, provides the foundation from which their independent judgment skills will grow. Similarly, providing children with choices when appropriate instead of making their decisions for them also allows children to exercise and develop their own judgment skills. Finally, trying to catch your child making good judgments and reinforcing it with positive feedback is like providing water for their independent judgment seeds to blossom. Problem solving skills. Like any other skill, problem solving skills are learned.