How you live out your dream character on this earth is entirely up to you. Your thoughts will determine your reality on earth, as both the character in the dream and the dreamer. You are only limited by what you believe you deserve. You must detach yourself from the need to hold on to things, ideas, the past and people, especially requiring others to do your will. In essence you can never own anyone or anything.
Every attachment is an impediment to living at a higher level of consciousness.
Try squeezing a hand full of water and see how quickly it disappears. Allowing things to flow naturally is the way of the universe. Energy must flow freely in order to be most efficient as the universe is nothing but energy. Human beings are an energy system and since all energy wants to flow unimpeded, it is only natural to conclude that in order for us to function perfectly in our universe we too need to flow uninterrupted of attachments such as control of others and possessions. Detachment in one of life's great lessons for those who wish to progress on the path to enlightenment.