Coaching is like that, too. I've adapted the following questions from it. Mr. Hendricks points out that behaviors can often be changed, while attitudes are notoriously inflexible. Give concrete feedback on the behaviors that displease you. I've noticed you've been late a lot recently.
Few things turn off employees more than being the subject of an exaggeration.
He gave me too much credit. See mistakes as opportunities to teach rather than as conspiratorial plots to bring you down. That's when the manager expects employees to do what he asks, but doesn't always do what the employees ask. Leave your stick home and bring only your carrot to work. The results might surprise you.