Create a safe space for normal healthy loving sex without condoms. Their presence only reinforces fear. If you don't feel safe enough with a person to have intercourse without a condom, then don't sex them. You must overcome Fear with Love. Love creates Immune Sufficiency.
Fear creates the thing feared.
There is nothing more healing than love, both giving and receiving. There is nothing as destructive as living in fear, attracting into your reality that which you fear. Although hate runs close. I knew they were safe, but other partners of mine had put their fear in my space. I wound up denying the ability of one of my partners to create a safe and loving life, out of other peoples fear, and in the process I withdrew love.