If you hadn't expected this, you may confuse the re-emergence of reality with some sort of problem. A related worry is that the social sanction of being legally married will somehow destroy the edge of excitement. But according to those in the know, there s no reason why marriage has to affect sex adversely. When you know someone inside out, you have the chance of building a sex life that is much better in quality than it was before, says Sarah Litvinoff, author of The Relate Guide to Better Relationships . Even the best marriages go through difficult patches.
Life moves on and people and circumstances change.
Whether these changes will strengthen or weaken a marriage will depend on many things, but change itself is inevitable. The experts all agree that a good marriage is a creative, developing partnership and that the key to this is good communication. It might sound easy, but many highly articulate people find it difficult to express clearly what they feel or want from a marriage. Couples should go into marriage with open eyes, says Denise Knowles, a Relate counsellor. Things that were once taken for granted, such as starting a family, need to be discussed before marriage so that future scenarios don't come as a total surprise.