This compromise is more likely to work out when other strong positives are operating in the relationship and all other freedoms are respected. Sexual promiscuity is an abnormality where people can't relate emotionally to another person. They use sex as a drug or painkiller and don't establish genuine relationships. Q. You claim that we suffer from emotional hunger and try to make our partners fulfill our distorted needs for a non-intimate security. Emotional hunger is a strong need caused by deprivation in childhood, and leads to a desperate search for someone to fill the emptiness or void.
Emotional hunger is a condition of pain and longing many people confuse with feelings of love.
Feelings of emotional hunger are experienced as deep internal sensations, ranging in intensity from a dull ache, to a sharp painful feeling, to generalized anguish. Many men and women seek relief from these painful feelings in choosing a partner and when they find temporary relief, they imagine that they have found love. They quickly try to extract promises of love, devotion, and commitment from their partner and form an imagined connection, and use each other to alleviate their feelings of emotional hunger and longing from the past. Relationships based on emotional hunger are mutually damaging as compared those based on love, which are mutually enhancing. Children compensate for parents' inadequacies and the lack of affection or emotional sustenance in the environment by forming an imaginary connection with the mother or primary caretaker.