But a manipulator really isn't interested in learning or adopting new ideas you might have. You will also notice that he rarely asks about you , or shows much interest in what is happening in your life. If a manipulator asks you for your ideas, it's so that he can shoot them down. He deflects any responsibility for the effects of his statements. While we are all responsible for ourselves and our feelings, we cannot deny our own responsibility in contributing to a relationship.
All parties involved in a relationship bear the responsibility of making it work.
If there are problems, the manipulator will insist that his actions have not impacted the relationship in any negative way. To this end, the manipulator has all kinds of verbal tools for deflecting criticism. He will play all sorts of word games, in order to twist the perception, such that it looks like YOU are personally attacking him. If you run into this kind of thing, don't waste your breath trying to get him to understand, because this kind of person is not open to accepting your feelings as valid. Just turn and walk away.