It is to the culture's disadvantage that I hear no discussion of women as perpetrators of sexual violence nor acknowledgement of men's very real sexual pain and exploitation. We must deal with the real and women's sexual pain and rage as only part of a bigger picture. I admit I'm unusual, the product of a unique life. But, that life gives me a different perspective on the issue of sex and feminism-this feminist speaks from direct experience. It may not be the best way to deal with sex, but it shouldn't shock us that it occurs.
Humans are first and foremost visual creatures.
What really matters is time, place, degree, mutuality and consent. I believe that a woman is capable of consent. If we aren't granted that one prerogative then we are not being granted full adult status. Either women are capable of managing their sexual lives or they are not. Many of my opponents hold a bleaker view of sexual matters and this forever separates us.