The frustrations with parental power struggles come from many sources. Sometimes we are frustrated because we have run out of ideas and options. We try everything we know, and none of it works, but we continue to try because it is all we know. Gathering more resources and options is always a good idea. What works for one child may not work for another.
Frustration can come from taking the power struggle personally.
We may feel that because our child challenges our parental power they no longer love or respect us. We take it as a personal statement about us. It is actually a personal statement about them. Many times it is a developmental appropriate statement. The teen years parallel this process by asserting their independence for the family into the world of their peers.