I am soon to be married and although I know my fiance wants my first sexual experience to be wonderful, I am scared. Can you give us some hints to make it better for both of us. Sally Dear Sally, Let me first take the pressure off of you. Most women do not have an orgasm the first time they have sex. You need to know that if this happens to you, you are not a failure.
Good sex comes with time and patience.
It is a process of learning each others likes and dislikes and also learning to relax. There are ways of making your first time special, even if you do not orgasm. Sexual play with someone you love is not just about orgasms. Im sure the image of your honeymoon night has entailed all kinds of fantasies. Be forwarned, if you are having a big wedding and plan on leaving the reception after dancing and drinking all evening, to go to a hotel for great sex, you are setting yourself up for disappointment.