Love gambles away every gift God bestows. Gambling yourself away is beyond any religion. Sacred Sex, which molds the power of creation and ego into skillful means cutting through delusion, requires careful preparation. We don't expect someone who just wants to play around now and then on a keyboard to become a concert pianist. We don't expect someone to be able to get up off the couch one day and run a four minute mile.
Great tasks require great effort.
The base metal of dualistic view becomes the infinitely valuable gold of pure and luminous awareness. Sacred Sex is a path of tremendous power. This power is not easy to use without getting burned by it. Yet, at the same time, it is a path of great joy. If you're going to use pleasure and personality as the path, you have to be careful not to self-destruct.