In just three succinct verses, at the scene of His first recorded miracle, the wedding at Cana, we get a clear picture of their new relationship from both Jesus and Mary. In His reply, the use of woman does not involve disrespect. The words indicate division of interest and seem to suggest a measure of rebuke. Mary may have expected Jesus to use the situation to call attention to Himself in a way that would have furthered His Messianic program. But His hour had not yet come.
Later references point to the cross as the focal point of the hour.
Jesus wanted His mother to understand that the former relationship between the two of them was at an end. She was not to interfere in His mission. Mary wisely did not dispute the matter. If she could not command Him, she could instruct the servants to obey His directions. Thus she showed her confidence in Him.