Own your feelings. Be honest with yourself. Respect yourself and be respectful of others deserved of it. Recognize that your submission is given freely and not something to be taken by force. Choose wisely to whom you give.
Growth takes time.
Accept responsibility for your own happiness and welfare. Allow yourself adequate time for healing when you have been hurt. Balance your submission with the other areas of your life. Never let anyone take your self dignity away. Like yourself, love yourself, be your own best friend.