I listen to the expression of the way she sees herself and listen for the sense of future she expresses. I encourage her to lean on her friends now when she really needs a shoulder. This is the time to let them do for you, as you have done for them in the past. I keep improving my skill of encouraging people to tell the story that will untie the knots of grief inside them. Let them cry and wash away part of the past, help them see the future.
Life goes on.
Mr. G is back in my face now. It doesn't take much to elicit his story. He likes to talk. We are in person now . Different from a phone conversation.