Eat dinner together. Go to bed together. Don t hold a grudge. Don t take separate vacations. Never let anything rob your marriage of the seual joy God intended.
Little things mean a lot.
Pledge yourselves, not only to physical faithfulness, but to emotional fidelity as well. Most people coming for counseling want to hear what they want to hear, and if they don t, they go their way and do what they want to do anyhow. There are a few exceptions. Establish a set number of times to see a person. Keep session very pastoral, very professional, never chummy.