It is a sexual practice. It can't exist in a vacuum. It is not just a matter of your attitude. You can't think it and make it exist. You can't try sometimes, when it works to your advantage, and throw it out the rest of the time.
Equality is a discipline.
It is a way of life. It is a political necessity to create equality in institutions. I remember when the Gulf War wound down and people started coming home in body bags, how shocked people were at the deaths. I would also assert, like Annalee, that words can hurt people as easily and as painfully as fists, even if you can't see the bruises, or count the bodies in the bags. I also think that what Dworkin has to say about biological determinism may be illuminating for any discussion of why it is that only men seemed to be interested in pursuing the flame war once it really got going.