Appreciate Your Partner Sit quietly, cross-legged, facing each other. Breathe softly but deeply. Rest your hands on your knees, palms up. Look into, but focus beyond, your partner's eyes. Keep your eyes wide open throughout this practice.
Eyes are the windows to the soul, and the key to achieving true intimacy.
Become conscious of your breathing, and that of your partner. Try to breathe comfortably at the same pace, moving the air slowly in through your nose and out through your mouth. Keep eye contact while you breathe together. After you've practiced for a few weeks and feel comfortable appreciating your partner in this way, try staying in the position for 15 minutes steady. Simply keep eye contact with your partner, and do nothing else.