The last offense was very recent and from someone who had been so far removed from our lives that I was stunned by the call and amazed that the old gossip was still alive and well. Gossip doesn't warrant a response, and I remind myself that I wasn't on trial then, nor am I on trial now. It isn't necessary that I defend myself or give my side of the story. So were Prince Charles and the Lady Di. And that is a shame.
Divorce brings out the worst in people.
No matter how civil, sane and logical one or both of the participants may wish to be, not everything will go according to plan. Divorce makes the participants forget why they married. For a time, in some divorces, and for an eternity in others, it turns love to hate. Whether exs can be friends after a divorce has to do with whether the divorce participants are able to let go of the past and use the experience to build a stronger future for themselves. History can't be changed.