In which areas am I so like other member of my family that I am not my own person but a mere copy of what they wanted me to be. What have I done in the past where I felt I had to do them even though I really didn't want. What old habits, memories, traditions, etc. When you start questioning yourself, you'll start to grow up. If you don't, you'll always be a shadow of what you could have been.
Life is short.
Don't screw it up.