I need foreplay to be really ready to enjoy intercourse. If it's up to him, he would be just as happy to skip over it altogether. And if I have to ask him to do this or that, it interrupts the mood for me. I wish I could let him know what I need. You can, you should, tell him how you feel.
Good communication is the very basis for a good relationship, including a happy sexual life.
It is quite clear that this is the first problem you need to address. Since you have tied the knot just recently, it is all the more important that you learn to be open with each other and hearing each other well. The next step is to try understanding each other's point of view. Clearly, this is not happening in your marriage. I suggest strongly that you don't let this lack of communication issue derail your marriage from the very beginning.