Perhaps we learned it from our parents or teachers, who criticized us so, so much we strove to be perfect at any cost to please them. Perfectionism is a curse. Ultimately life cannot be fully gratifying or appreciated if we don't become aware of our own inner power,our connection to the God Force. We have to let go of expectations and live the life destined for our own uniqueness. Peace comes only when we are true to our souls nature.
Love is the strongest force in the universe.
When given correctly,it unifies and builds,defends,protects. Love should never be jealous or possessive or have conditions. It may be something to strive for but forgiven as this is natures way. We forever place humans on pedestals, expecting them to be perfect. When they are not we feel betrayed.