And I couldn't agree more. However, the Marriage Rules completely negate their earlier teachings. You weren't supposed to be a doormat when you dated, why should you become a doormat now that you have a ring on your finger. You are not a doormat when you do The Rules for Marriage. You just are both happier.
Doormats are women who deny themselves, or who act like martyrs.
If you read the book, you will see that we are telling women to do The Rules for Marriage because they benefit from them in the end. ET Guys are intimated by me because I am a smart, successful and attractive woman. ET Wait for a man who is not intimated by you. You want a man who is fine with whoever you are, even if you are a movie star. So you have to wait for the man to come along that can deal with you.