When everyone knows, or we don't care who knows about our homosexual past, it becomes less important to us. We are not always protecting that area of our lives. We don't have to maintain a constant guard. Whether or not we tell this person or that, is not an issue, and we are free to focus on other things, and free to be who we really are. One of the greatest threats to our healing is to fall back into isolation A great step in the process of healing takes place for many people when they first contact us and break the isolation that has shrouded their homosexual struggle for many years.
Isolation is a breeding ground for shame.
Isolation on this issue cuts us off from the loving support of other people. Totally alone with our homosexual struggle, often the only voice we hear on the subject is the voice of the enemy, the master of accusation and deceit. Especially for those who come from a conservative Christian background, a whole new view of life and reality opens up when they find that they can be open and honest about this part of their life with certain other Christians. It is possible to go back into that isolation once a person leaves ex-gay ministry. Especially if their openness had remained within the safe confines of group.