But she feels that if she allows herself to open the lid, that she won't be able to keep these turbulent waters in place. But if they get out of control, she will not survive. So the best option is to keep them deep inside and pretend that they are not there. There is no need to be afraid of this word. This simply means that parents have their own unhealed Inner Child inside and they try to hide their hurt feelings as the girl in the previous example.
History repeats itself.
Granted, parents try hard. They try to learn parenting skills and give their children a good education. They often want their children to choose the parents' future, hoping that their children won't repeat their mistakes, and won't experience the pain they have. Unfortunately, it doesn't work this way. Everyone is responsible for their own healing and creating a new life.