Not to tell them what is best for them or what to do. Be certain that respect and compassion are afforded equally to every member. Each person is to be allowed to speak his own wounds and dreams. This is a deep and powerful internal process. There is no one right way to do this.
Love is important.
Be kind to yourself. Be kind to one another. There is often a rebellious or fallow period, with people returning to the guidelines later. Be prepared for that and any change it might bring. Continually seek your own inner guidance rather than outer guidance.