Genuine forgiveness is not easy. The pain is too real. But the perceived initiator of that pain deserves our forgiveness if they are struggling with the integrity of their journey and are caring about the people around them. The forgiver is blessed with the release of his resentment, bitterness, and self-righteousness. The weak can never forgive.
Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.
If each agenda can be fully respected by the other, than harmony and growth between the two can flourish.