My son's second-grade teacher is using a reward system to encourage good classroom behavior. Children earn tickets for behaving properly and can cash them in for prizes at the end of the week. On the other hand, nothing of consequence happens when a child misbehaves. I think this system teaches children that proper behavior is something special, deserving therefore of something special. On the other hand, I don't want to make a big deal of this if it's no big deal.
Few couples can completely avoid criticizing each other now and then, even in healthy marriages.
The trouble begins if you feel that your complaints go unheeded, and your spouse just repeats the offending habits. Or, perhaps you never clearly expressed your concerns, or you don't express your concerns effectively. A survey of the last four years of his work will be on display from 4 to 9 p.m. today only at En Vie, 18th and Pearl streets, Boulder. My boyfriend accuses me of being a critical person. I admit I complain from time to time about things that bother or disturb me about him, but I don't think that I am that critical of him overall.