Exploring erotic exhibitionism and talk lets your fantasies and your own sexuality blossom, especially when you learn how to find and play with compatible partners. These forms of erotic play will help move you past shyness and into your own rich, confident sexuality. Not long after I'd begun graduate school I followed my fascination to a group safe sex party where only masturbation was permitted. I began to identify myself as a sexual exhibitionist. The point of becoming more comfortable with exhibitionism is to help you become more comfortable with who you are, not to transform you into someone you're not.
Exhibitionism is about projecting and feeling our eroticism.
You may have already discovered how richly you can enhance your life by taking care of your own needs for sex and sensuality through masturbation, fantasy, and other sorts of self-pleasuring. I don't mean perfunctory jacking or jilling off here, though masturbation can relieve tension like nothing else can. Masturbation is your own erotic time, and devoting it to your most intense turn-ons will not only loosen you up for sharing with a partner, it will be its own reward. We encourage everyone to read it and practice what Carol recommends.