Life is not about controlling. It's not about getting. It's not about having. It's not about knowing. It's not even about being.
Life is eternal, perpetual becoming, or it is nothing.
Becoming is not a thing to be known or controlled. It is a magnificent, mysterious odyssey to be experienced. At bottom, desire to command and control is a deadly compulsion to rob self and others of the joys of living. They are important tools indeed. We should honor them and use them.