He offers the parents that parents are really not the target of the anger or rage that accompanies all these memories he cultivates while he encourages followers to view them through the lens of victimhood. Do as I say, not as I do' has never been an effective strategy for shaping desirable behavior. The problem following most forms of trauma is an inability to forget, rather than a complete expulsion from awareness, and amnesia for violent events is rare. Good therapy focuses on the present and future rather than dwelling on the past. Good therapy helps a person unlock their strengths to face the challenges of life.
Good therapy mobilizes friends and family relationships as sources of strength to draw upon.