Not I, such as parents, require more subtle or devious means. The distinction comes from the wiring of our nervous system and the mechanics of the body. The I of the nervous system was conceived, born and will die. Love broadens our sense of self. Love can be personal, or religious.
Experience is particular and at the same time whole.
Our individual lives are particular and at the same time an inseparable part of a wider unity. I walk through the towering redwoods in a three dimensional landscape of sharply cut gullies falling towards a rushing stream.