The birthparents meet potential adoptive families before making their selection. There is direct correspondence between the families. The families contact each other directly by telephone. This alleviates the need to have communication pass through a mediator. This plan allows both families to nurture their relationship as it naturally develops.
Information is shared more easily in an open adoption.
Sometimes adoptive parents and birthparents are uncomfortable with the level and type of birthfamily participation in the life of the child. There is also the possibility that the differing family styles and cultures may cause discomfort. Keys to a Successful Open Adoption Adoptive parents in an open adoption accept birthparent participation as a way to enhance their parenting and the life of their child, not to diminish it. Birthparents who do well in open adoptions view their role not as parents, but as persons very special to the family. They are accepting of the entire adoptive family and build a relationship centered on what is best for the child.