When you are forbidden to choose the very words you speak or write, you are forbidden to choose your thoughts. This appears to mean that, contrary to the wise old nursery rhyme, words will always hurt me. Some such premise lies beneath every attempt at censorship. It would have to be someone so cravenly dependent as to believe everything he hears, or so cowardly as to be intimidated by mere words. The femspeak premise is true only of cowards and dependents.
Freedom of thought is under attack in the name of moral defectives.
Thought control would be evil even if English did demean or exclude women, but it does not. It is not demeaning to be known as an actress, a stewardess or a waitress. It is not demeaning to be identified as a woman by such terms and you should question the mentality which prohibits them. Always have been. Femspeak is a feminist attempt to blot out this fact.