Don't try to be a mind reader. Talk about your thoughts, feelings, and concerns, not your perceptions of the Listener's point of view or motives. Every human being has emotions, feelings, desires, and needs. Our German-English culture has tended to suppress and hide feelings. As a result, though we have feelings, but they are often unnamed and hidden.
Feelings are the part of the iceberg that is hidden under the water.
Describing your feelings will help you channel your emotions in healthy, godly ways. Describing how you feel helps the Listener understand what motivates you, what you desire, and what you really need. The Listener won't have to mind-read or guess what you need. I feel insecure. God wants the words you speak to be helpful, encouraging, and beneficial for the listener to hear.