People make errors, most often out of ignorance. Trust depends on honest communication. Incomplete negotiation is an error, but dishonesty during negotiation is abusive manipulation.
Errors are forgivable, manipulation or coercion are indefensible.
Trust is a precious gift that once violated is hard to restore. They are halves of a whole, yin and yang. Neither can function as dominant or submissive without the other. Before a submissive can wisely transfer power, they must impower themselves. Its a cliche but a true one, that you can't love another before you love yourself.