Why can't men get to know the real me, not their pre-conceived idea of who I am, or who they think I am. They don't even give me a chance. It's no big deal. It would definitely not be a strike in his favor, at first. My first thought was that I would hopefully take the time to get to know the person.
First impressions are usually wrong.
However, I would probably not follow this guide, and this disturbed me. Even if he is not marriage material, I will have been given the chance to learn about another human being, learn more about myself, and perhaps become better at judging people. I will have learned what I like and what I don't like, which can only help me make better decisions. I will have had a good meal, pleasant conversation, and will have gotten out of the house, done something just for me. Even if the date ends badly, there are many positive points, I might note.