I believe you need to build a healthy relationship to yourself outside of the kitchen, Every person in my group does a meditative practice each day and it makes a difference. They next make peace with their body from a calmer space through gentle self talk and affirmations. I got ahead of myself. I began menopause 2 years ago and my appetite is out of control. Please forgive my rush, I'm excited about an answer.
Exercise is critical and so is a meditative practice.
In terms of food I would recommend that you stay with the lower fat protein. No amount of carbs will satisfy that feeling so don't chase it. That's a good question. You'll need to check out your specific cholesterol drugs but HRT certainly lead to some weight gain in some women. What you want to do is create a lifestyle that best suits what you've got on your plate.