Apply Consequential Thinking People are often told to control their emotions, to suppress feelings like anger, joy, or fear, and cut them off from the decision-making process.
Feelings provide insight, energy, and are the real basis for almost every decision.
Instead of disconnecting our emotions, we need to control our actions so that we have time to make the most creative, insightful, and powerful decisions. Particularly when dealing with conflict or crisis, we need to slow down the process and apply carefully practiced strategies that lead to decisions informed by the fused powers of heart and mind. In our daily lives, we have countless opportunities to get feedback about our thoughts, feelings, and actions, and to then change if the feedback so warrants. Unfortunately, we also have a great capacity to ignore this feedback and blithely continue with a scarcity of useful information. In this unconscious state it is easy to become selfish, to sever connections with our humanity, and to subjugate ourselves to addictions or other compensations.