God isn't just concerned with how far we've come, but where we are headed. This is a superb piece of work and we heartily recommend it to all who seriously want to resolve past issues and enter new levels of freedom. I also lead an ex-gay group in our church and your work encourages and informs me. I pray for you every day. Lust wants to enjoy.
Love is willing to sacrifice.
The cleansing comes when we confess our sin to God. We must confess the lies about God we believed and the sinful acts, the mistrust, and separation from God which those beliefs resulted in. After we ask God to forgive us, we must repent and change our ways.