Give a brief explanation of why you look or feel the way you do, and let it go at that. You may well find yourself a subject of gossip among the local children. On the other hand your children may not want to admit that anything has changed in your home. Let them know you are willing to talk to their friends if they want you to. Try to be relaxed if changes must be made, and involve children as much as you can in the new plans.
Children respond differently and have different needs at different ages.
If you're finding problems persist, let your GP and the hospital know. Your GP may be able to refer you to a Macmillan nurse who can help and support you and your family. Don't hesitate to ask for professional counselling . It may be possible for the whole family to be counselled together. Try and find out if there are any cancer support groups in your area as it can be very helpful to talk to someone in a similar situation.