An obvious harm is the physical abuse that is often a part of such relationships. In a less obvious way, however, the tensions and chemical changes caused by the constant stress can drain energy and lower resistance to physical illness. Continuing in such bad relationships can lead to unhealthy escapes such as alcohol or drug abuse and can even lead to suicide attempts. Despite the pain of these relationships, many rational and practical people find that they are unable to leave, even though they know the relationship is bad for them. One partner refuses or feels helpless to take any action.
L isted below are several signs of addiction.
You give yourself reasons for staying in the relationship that are not really accurate or that are not strong enough to counteract the harmful aspects of the relationship. When you think about ending the relationship, you feel terrible anxiety and fear which make you cling to it even more. When you take steps to end the relationship, you suffer painful withdrawal symptoms, including physical discomfort, that is relieved only by reestablishing contact. Too Much, outlines a ten-step plan for overcoming relationship addiction. While this book is directed toward women, its principles are equally valid for men.