Each child is different, but four basic reasons have been defined that explain why children misbehave. Discipline is the process of shaping and teaching a child to understand limits. Children think they 'belong' only when they are noticed or are the center of attention. Children think that they 'belong' when they are in control or can prove that no on can 'boss them around'. Parents can give kind-but firm respect, give choices, set reasonable limits, and redirect the child to an activity that is more acceptable.
Children think that they 'belong' only by hurting others when they are hurt.
Parents can avoid harsh punishment and criticism and build more trust by listening to the child and sharing feelings. Children think they 'belong' only when they can convince others not to expect too much from them since they feel 'helpless'. Parents can help children try new things and put attention on their special talents and skills without giving in to pity. Children go through stages of behavior that are normal for that age. Parents who understand stages of behavior will know better what to expect.