A wise man once said that writers must read. I don't know who that wise man was or whether he was a writer, or even if he could read, but those are all criteria of the patriarchy anyway.
Feelings are what matters.
Kermit the Frog made his art with tender-hearted ditties of rainbows and moon pies, but feared intimacy and sharing his feelings with Miss Piggy. He was a poet among poets and a man among frogs, yet his poignant metaphors illustrate the emotional failure that is the Male Poet. Take Ted Hughes. His and Kermit's lives were intertwined with those of unstable women. Both sought escape through solitude and avoided confronting the obvious psychological disturbances of their partners in their own works.