If You Meet the Buddha on the Road, Kill Him , Sheldon B. Kopp. This book takes the point of view that a grownup can be no one's disciple. It states that the most important things that each man must learn no one else can teach. Once this disappointment is accepted, a person can stop depending on the therapist, the guru who turns out to be just another struggling human being. In the long run, we get no more than we have been willing to risk giving.
Love is more than ismply being open to experiencing the anguish of another person's suffering.
It is the willingness to live with the helpless knowing that we can do nothing to save the other from his pain. The opposite of will is not indecision . . . This book is a classic of psychological literature. Psychoanalytic Theory, Therapy, and the Self , Harry Guntrip. Dr. Guntrip is a psychologist of the self.