Children with these problems often start to do badly at school. They may also get symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder that is, have nightmares and flashbacks and be easily startled. Children suffer emotional harm if they are abused themselves. Children who have witnessed violence are more likely to be either abusers or victims themselves. Children tend to copy the behaviour of their parents.
Boys learn from their fathers to be violent to women.
Girls learn from their mothers that violence is inevitable and something you just have to put up with. Children don t always repeat the same pattern when they grow up. Many children don t like what they see, and try very hard not to repeat the mistakes of their parents. Even so, children from violent families often grow up feeling anxious and depressed, and find it difficult to get on with other people. Everybody in the community needs to know that such violence is common and that it is wrong.