You bear the brunt of accountability for how your life goes. Of course there are circumstances over which you may have little or no control which may have bearing on your situation, but generally you are the one who has made life as it is for you. Accepting and dealing with this reality will take you much further in life than to point fingers.
Blame is irrelevent.
Learning and moving forward is better. Blame only makes the future more difficult to handle, because it shuts down the opportunity to learn from an experience and strains relationships. Anyone may have a FREE copy of the entire text of Lilac's Book by going to the Download page. This makes me feel that the gift is not just for Lilac, but for thousands of others, most especially for the teenagers and young adults who so often write to me trying to figure out their place in our world.