Conflict is not the same as strife and retaliation. There may be a continual tension in the organization as resources are placed where the organization perceives the greatest good and new ideas are raised, discussed, altered, and implemented. However, when the parts work together as a whole and people understand their roles in the organization, there can be a great sense of peace. Good managers even accept the persecution meant for employees and followers. Galatians chapter 5 tells you how you can recognize managers and leaders who follow these values.
Behaviors There are many frames of reference that can be used to group behaviors.
For this presentation, Yukl's fourteen managerial behaviors provide an excellent framework. Good managers and leaders do very well in all of the behaviors. There is a continuum of good to bad in each behavior and the level of performance in each behavior can create a profile of the manager. Not every person does every behavior to the highest level, but the better overall, the better the manager or leader. Poor managers ignore these behaviors or perform them poorly.