She is fooling herself. She is avoiding making a decision, which is why she s confused. She likes the foggy position of not knowing exactly what s going on and therefore not feeling obligated to take a risk. She may have no interest in the guy, or have her own boyfriend in the shadows. Either way she has the power to keep the relationship iffy or to move on if she chooses to.
Confusion is the defining aspect of mixed signals.
One or even both of the participants is clinging, whether they realize it or not, to a big hanging question mark. Clearing up the confusion would force them to take action, and that is alarming and risky. If you really want to take control of the situation, then you ll have to take a stand. Bianca and Minda are still holding their breath. Her latest book is Ask Me Anything.