Later you can seek their advice on tough personnel issues that you bring home from work. Follow with bigger and bigger jobs and bigger and bigger decisions that go with them. Continually ask for their opinion about issues that surround you in life. We learn to make decisions by making them. When they make a bad decision, don't punish them.
Life is one big lesson.
Learning could almost be the goal for any adjustment in a child's behavior. When your goal is learning, the strategy often is spelled out right in front of you. Remember, very little is ever learned when anger is involved, either on your part or on the kid's part. When learning is the goal anger should never play a role. If either you or the child has become angry it is probably best to wait until the anger has passed to attempt the learning.