The aim is to be sufficient for oneself and, hence, not dependent on others to eliminate our boredom or overcome our melancholy. When we can be alone without being lonely, we are more likely to make and keep friends. The capacity for solitude preserves the freedom that is necessary for friendship. For men who haven't practiced the art of friendship, developing friends is intentional, risky work. The willingness to be vulnerable with a friend will sustain us through lonely times and keep us safe until we come to God.
Loneliness diminishes when love is received.
I have experienced the greatest loneliness when I have been unwilling to be vulnerable and needy. I can't make it in the world without the company of friends who will hear my story, tell me the truth about myself, hold me when I am afraid and celebrate with me when I succeed. We need to find solitude and friendship in God. Finding love in the depth of loneliness is finally a gift from God. We may reconnect with God when we find our way out of loneliness.