Everyone you work with is under the same demands as you. They appear to have better balance in their lives because they have had more time to learn how to use every advantage to balance their lives. There are hundreds of tips, tricks and ideas and not all of them will work for you. Assess your options early and often. Seek out every advantage you can to do your work thoroughly and efficiently.
Efficiency is the key.
You have too many demands on your time not to be as efficient as possible. Quite literally, the time you save is often your own. Every firm has planned events during the course of the year, and you should try and attend at least some of them. It will give you a chance to get to know the people at your firm in a more relaxed atmosphere. Most of the attorneys in your firm have made the adjustment from law student to busy associate, and many can give you wonderful advice as to how they have managed to do so successfully.