Most of us put conditions on our happiness.
Conditional happiness works, at least for a while.
After we attain what we longed for, bliss is ours at last until the high wears off. We then discover that we haven t fundamentally changed. Recent identical twin studies by psychologist David Lykken indicate that we have a happiness set point . In other words, we have an acquired comfort zone of bliss. After unusual ups, or devastating downs, we automatically and quickly return to this familiar state.