Though it would be unwise to present either party as a martyr, it would also be wrong to pretend there are no regrets and that dissolution is so common it hardly matters. The guilt parents feel about the marriage breakdown may interfere in their disciplining the children. Children need consistent control and direction. Over-permissiveness, or indecisive parents who leave children at the mercy of every passing whim and impulse, interfere with the children's healthy development. Children need and want to know what is expected of them.
Children feel more secure when limits are set.
They are confused when parents seem to permit behavior that they themselves know to be wrong and are trying to outgrow. Children need leadership and sometimes authority. Visitation Guidelines Parental behavior has a great influence on the emotional adjustment of their children. This is equally true after the dissolution of a marriage. The following visitation guidelines have been found to be helpful to children in managing visitation.