Have them share some special memories with you. Adults who avoid the subject or put on a front may create an atmosphere of isolation and confusion. The teenager may assume others really didn't love the deceased. They may also assume, because others do not appear to be grieving, that there must be something wrong with them - this can be very frightening. Let the teen tell you about any dreams they have had regarding the death of their loved one.
Dreams can be very powerful and a listening ear can provide needed support.
Writing a letter to the deceased can often provide an opportunity for the teenager to to say good-bye to their loved one. While this can be a painful exercise, it frequently provides relief and a safe expression of feelings. Writing a letter to someone they love who is still alive can also be helpful. Many times teens will distance themselves from loved ones fearing that they could lose again and it would be more pain than they could bare. This letter can help them to reconnect with the important people in their lives.