All of which have the effect of limiting your life. Particularly destructive is the false idea that a person cannot have a full and satisfying life due to what has happened to them. I walk a very fine line when I write and talk about this. On one side of that line is the destructive belief that 'it' is your fault, whatever 'it' is. It' is not your fault.
Life happens to everyone.
You cannot control what happens to you anymore than you can control the weather. No one lives without experiencing major problems. No one had a totally happy childhood. And no one has a totally happy, satisfying adulthood. There is not one person who lives without personal flaws, idiosyncrasies, and just plain strangeness.