They are, in a word, narcissistic. The narcissistic heterosexual never gives up. He is determined to prove his manhood. But like the homosexual, he is doomed to failure. The fact that he is focused on himself, that he gives such great importance to outward appearances, dooms him to perpetual adolescence.
Homosexual men are often narcissistic enough to start with.
I could tell by your furniture. It is difficult, but it is possible. I discovered a key answer to this problem in the statement of a newcomer to our ministry. We grow as men when we see our manhood as something we desire for the sake of others. When we desire manhood so that we can protect and defend, help and serve, provide safety and security for others, we will grow into men.