Without arousal, orgasm just can't happen. So, it's entriely likely that simply by allowing yourself to accept and embrace your own sexual identity, you are far more sexually excited and more readily aroused than you were before you came out, which would also explain why you're now comfortable masturbating and inclined to masturbate.
Female ejaculation varies.
That sort of lubrication isn't consdered to be an ejaculation, per se, because it is gradual and also occurs for other reasons than sexual arousal. In general, basic vaginal lubrication is the conistency of egg-white, and does not tend to flow is large amounts.