That is, you don't highly value your mate's feelings and needs. In marriage, arguments can place you in a position of honor. This comes from turning your focus away from yourself and seeking to first understand and treasure your wife's point of view. When you lay down your life for your mate, you want her to know that you value her uniqueness and care about her feelings. While I don't recommend turning marriage into a battleground, arguments need not be a distasteful, horrific experience.
Conflict can be the key doorway to intimacy.
By resolving our conflicts we come to a deeper understanding and acceptance of each other. Ultimately we remove the barriers to spiritual unity in marriage. You can argue in honor more effectively by spelling out some simple rules before they occur. This isn't a one-sided suggestion. As a man, you must feel safe and valued or you'll tend to discontinue an argument.