This Letter Dear Harlan, I felt you demonstrated extreme ignorance in the column regarding the guy trying to please his girlfriend. In particular, you made it sound as if the only purpose in having a sexual encounter was to achieve orgasm. You failed to consider that half the fun of taking a journey is seeing the sites along the way. Sometimes, if not most of the time, the journey is even better than the destination. The sightseer Dear sightseer, I must be ignorant, I never knew that's why those Sunday drivers were going so slowly.
Intimacy is about sharing each moment.
Whether you take a train, a plane, a car or a boat is up to you, unless a couple feels completely comfortable along the way, it's only going to be a long and disappointing journey. Clearly, the final destination is far less important as than the moments spent getting there, but it always help to have a map because it's not always easy to ask for directions. After she came back, he ended up picking her over me. Needless to say, I was hurt. He told me that he was very stupid for picking her and that he would do anything for me if we were together.