She is miserable. She refuses to leave the house that she built by hand, the children she loved and raised, and the genetic girl that she made so many promises too. I just want to see her happy. I care about the suffering of T folk, or I would not bother to continue updating my site, now that it has given me the shame-killing benefits I built it for. Especially those that need it most.
Folks have to save themselves.
A person determined to be miserable or trapped will do so no matter how hard you try to help them. Any day now. These are things you can help her with. But eventually, she WILL need to make some serious, life changing, ethically complex decisions. Only she can do that, and if she does not, if she cannot, then there is nothing to be done about it.