Whiners are people who go around constantly complaining about the unfairnesses of life. Winners are people who figure out how to deal with the unfairnesses of life and get what they want in spite of it all. Not a whiner. Don't be afraid to seek advice, but don't expect all knowledge to be spoonfed to you. You will have to do your own research.
Game designers are good communicators.
Communicate your questions well. That's a bad question because the asker didn't request specific advice. And the potential advice-giver doesn't know what the asker is looking for. Learn to ask better questions. Asking a question is like painting a target.