Money equals power and control. Make sure you control the money or use theirs. Who you simply ARE is not important-pretend to be someone different. Other people's feelings don't matter, only your own. How dare they hurt YOUR feelings.
Good guys finish last.
Be a bad guy when no one is looking, then pretend to be the good guy in public. Counseling is only for crazy people. If I don't go to counseling it means I'm not crazy, I don't need any help. I don't have any problems-just others do. Embarrass others but never allow them to embarrass you.