Experiencing confusion and disorientation. When we make a change in our behavior, it is usually because the pain involved in that behavior outweighs the pleasure. We know intellectually we must make a change, but our feelings don t necessarily follow. It takes time to bring our heart in alignment with our head. In the middle of the process, we can lose our identity.
Identity is a by product of relationship.
When we have lost relationships, for a time we question our worth and who we really are. We wonder how we will navigate these new waters alone. The pleasure of our former relationships also can tempt us to give up trying. Human memory banks are selective. Often we remember only the happy times.