There is the hope that some day, some how, someone will love him completely. They may become socially isolated, or decide that maybe they are asexual. As a result, some find themselves as adults unable to establish stable, happy relationships. For Bowling, adolescence meant a relationship with another boy that started when they were both 12 and lasted several years. And that sort of stable, mutually fulfilling relationship can prevent problems like compulsion and inhibition, says Phillips.
Experimentation is the norm.
Adolescent boys and girls will try out various sexual identities as part of figuring out who they are and what they like. Boys who turn out to be gay will date girls. Boys who turn out to be straight will get involved with other boys. Homosexuality is normal sexuality for some people. Compare Bowling's experience with someone just 10 years older than he and you'll likely get a different scenario, says Roughton.