He popped the question. And the whirlwind of wedding plans was set in motion. But when those plans get sticky and tempers start to boil, it's easy for a couple to lose sight of why they are marrying. When things get tough, take a moment to sit back and remind yourself that what really counts is not what type of hors d'oeuvres to serve but the long and happy life you will share after the wedding.
Longer engagements are especially helpful to younger couples.
More important than finding the perfect wedding dress and caterer is spending time planning your future. Air any fears or insecurities you have about the relationship or marriage in general. If this is a second marriage, consider how well you'll deal with stepchildren. Also discuss fears and problems from your first marriage that you are afraid may carry over into this relationship. Premarital counseling is a growing practice, particularly as more synagogues encourage couples to attend retreats and counseling sessions to teach them the value of open communication.