When we co-mingle our energies in a relationship there are many different expressions that occur. Often, one person views a situation one way and the other person sees it entirely different. So, what Alana is saying is that the only way to create truth within a relationship is to know yourself and for you to really pay attention to what your needs are. Pay attention to what your nature is, what you value, and communicate this back to your wife. In other words, the more that your communication opens and the more that you share who you are the greater understanding she will have as to who you are.
Communication is one of our greatest assets.
It is often something that we forget to use. Now, sometimes it takes two to communicate. Most of the time it does. But, on the other hand, one individual communicating openly with their heart creates a doorway for the other person to begin to be honest as well. In other words, this supports two communicating honestly as to what they feel and sense.