There are other ways of showing affection like cuddling, holding hands, massages or even mutual masturbation. Don t expect too much. Many women don t experience orgasms for weeks or even months. But the pleasure comes back in time. Women who have dry vaginas should use a lubricant until their bodies begin to secrete their own lubricants.
Doctors can also prescribe a topical estrogen cream to alleviate pain and tenderness.
Sexual positions where the partners lie side by side or where the woman is on top may be easier on the woman as she has more control over the depth of penetration and there is less pressure on a sore perineum. You may not be able to have sex whenever you fancy, so make time according to your baby s nap schedule. It s important to communicate your fears, worries and thoughts about any sexual difficulties. Women should not hesitate to tell their husbands if they re tired or what hurts and what feels good. Worrying about your sex life or lack of it will only compound the problem.