It would be interesting to have an in depth conversation with her about this topic. That many lessons are deduced from everyday verbal, written, mediated and nonverbal communication messages that are a part of our daily lives. In a biracial family, there are different cultures coming together. They are torn between which group is their ingroup . The key to doing this is by instilling in their children how to recognize racial language and situations and to respond accordingly.
Awareness comes down to being able to recognize the messages about identity and race.
These can be categorized as personal, social and mass media messages. The personal messages come from ourselves and our immediate family. We have to be aware of our own attitudes and behaviors and be sure that what we say does not contradict what we are trying to instill in the children. The social messages come from others outside the family such as teachers, neighbors and other groups. We need to teach the children to recognize racial self messages on their own and parents should deal with conversations about race directly and honestly accentuating the positive or good in every situation.