It is very much like all other grief and pain. Many of us have experienced loss, and need the healing of our faith community not once, not twice, but as often as we remember. I have suggested that simple rituals like the giving of a rose or a naming ceremony can be offered to those dealing with miscarriage. However, our desire as a community to be of support should not trespass on the sensibilities of the grieving. Rather, we should be present, waiting, ready.
Life is a mixture of darkness and delight, of anticipation and despair.
We walk dark valleys and know they are dark because we have stood in the light. We grieve because what has brought us joy has passed us by. We are in pain because we were in love. This is the nature of a baby dying before birth. As we take seriously this type of loss and respond in healing ways, more people will find resolution to their grief and greater joy in life.