Fort Phantom, outside Abilene, was just a few miles from where I grew up. I could go on, but I think you get the idea that forts were common in taming Texas. I have been presenting and viewing a fantastic video series by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend entitled Boundaries . These dilemmas are all symptoms of boundary issues. Boundaries are about you.
Boundaries have to do with ownership and responsibility.
Boundaries help us determine who is responsible for what. If we understand who owns what, we then know who must take responsibility for it. Adam blamed his behavior on his wife, and by implication he also blamed God for making her. She nags at me all the time. It's like a bad Ping-Pong match, back and forth.