Expectations are destructive.
It isn t so much the experience itself that causes us pain, but rather the expectations we have about the experience. If you had gone into the situation with an open mind, you might have actually enjoyed yourself. But instead, we tend to cause ourselves so much pain by expecting people and events to live up to the ideal we have set in our minds. However well intentioned we may be, the expectation puts the power outside of us. No experience or person can possibly live up to our expectations or very rarely will this happen, any way.