Communication is a two-way street. Don't lecture or talk too much. Many of us do not listen well when we hear another person speak. As the other talks, we are often judging what is said and thinking what to say next. The most important thing to do when talking with your spouse is to really try to understand what he or she is saying.
Agreement is less important than understanding.
When you do understand, it is helpful to show your partner that you do. A great way to show you understand your partner is to try to put your partner's views into your own words. When your spouse knows that you understand his or her point of view, it is much more likely that you will be able to deal with the situation in a way that is good for both of you. Every couple faces problems in their marriage that need to be resolved. Early in marriage, many couples report problems with jealousy and in-laws.