Although my husband does not hit him, their relationship is very poor. But then he will turnaround and hand our son a twenty dollar bill as a weekly allowance without asking him to do anything for it. I have suggested that my husband and our son see a therapist together, but he says he doesn't need one. Things have gotten so bad, I have even thought about separating from my husband and getting an apartment for Bill and myself. Three things children need from their parents are love, limits, and consistency.
Love helps kids feel wanted and valued.
Limits teach them important lessons about what is acceptable and what's not. And consistency helps kids feel safe and secure. Three things children don't need from their parents are indifference, indulgence, and inconsistency. Indifference makes kids feel as if they don't matter. And inconsistency makes children feel like the world is an unpredictable and chaotic place.