I think some of the blame has to go to social workers, lawyers and agencies. I think they feel we will bond faster if we don't think of the birthfamily. It is naive. When I look at my daughters beautiful and delicate hands, I can't help but notice her tiny veins with her blood running through. When I lay on my 3 year old son's bed with him, I listen to the beat of his precious heart.
Life is so short.
I am not scared to have more family in my children's lives to love them. Thanks also to the adoptees who have given me insight. As a mother, I want to hold you and make it all better. I will save all of your letters, in a special place, for my children. I have not made contact with my daughters birthmother in Guatemala yet.