You don't have the strength to pull them back up and the person won't climb the rope. If you find yourself at the end of a relationship and discover that you are unexpectedly bouncing between the opposite walls of relief and grief , you might consider the following question. The relief is being free from what was, the grief is for what might have been. If so, you might consider getting some velcro and sticking yourself to the Relief Wall. Learn from it and move on and learn to discern between projection of what you want to experience with another and perception of what you do experience with another.
LOVE is friendship that has caught fire.
It takes root and grows, one day at a time. You are excited and eager but not genuinely happy. There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits and pieces about your beloved that you would just as soon not examine too closely. It might spoil the dream. LOVE is the quiet understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection.