She also tells me to tell them I can only work the hours that she thinks will be helpful. I did not feel comfortable asking them the questions. Maybe it is me and I am being too selfish. Gayle Peterson Gayle Peterson, MSSW, PhD is a family therapist specializing in prenatal and family development. Our parents' marriage provides us with our first blueprint for our own marriage relationship.
Intimacy is based on a feeling of fairness and consideration.
You are disappointed in your wife's lack of appreciation for your role as economic provider, but feel you have no right to request or expect her consideration of your needs as a legitimate member of the family. The purpose of family is to nurture the growth and development of all of its members. Find your voice with your wife. Let her know you will consider her feelings, but do not allow her to dictate your actions or behavior. It is her job to say what she would like, and it is yours to let her know your needs and boundaries regarding your work environment.