Fear is our dominant emotion, motivating every action and decision.
We think of how others will be affected by our choices before thinking of our own needs. Phobias may result. We often mistake intimacy for sexual excitement, and so become disillusioned. We ignore such things as verbal abuse, adultery, emotional or physical deprivation, abuse of our children, etc., but rage over spilled milk or someone late for dinner. When we are in conflict, we cannot conceive of alternatives.