That's the scary part for astronomers. I don't think you're whining.
Iridium flares are a form of light pollution.
If the flares interfere with meteor surveys then it's a man-made interference into a natural science. The real question is whether or not future LEO constellations will learn from this and minimize the negative impacts. Measures to minimize orbital debris are common now after the debris problem was recognized. Hopefully comsat designers will learn from Iridium to minimize the optical and radio footprint they leave in the sky. Yeah, but you didn't provide any evidence either.