Every crisis has the potential to strengthen the marriage, weaken it or bring it down altogether. Married couples who find their marriages strengthened when they face a crisis usually recognize the dangers involved and take positive steps to work through the problems. Here are some suggestions. Talk openly about the crisis. Usually at least one partner will want to avoid talking about the problem.
Avoidance is an invitation to disaster.
Couples need to talk about the extent of the damage, what they can realistically control and make plans for handling those things they are able to manage. Avoid the temptation to place blame. They also need to protect one another from self-blame. Don't let the fun go out of your life. Your problem is serious and should be handled seriously but a sense of humor takes the hard edge off.