My H always lied about the female friends he e-mailed with. It wasn't until after we married that I realized he lives by double standards. We both agreed with our pastor 2 years ago that opposite sex friendships were not good and we agreed to end them. I started to once, but the experience left me feeling like I needed a shower. As far as chat friends go, I can't even join in with my brothers and my dad in their weekly ICQ chats because there is just too much emotional pain associated with chatrooms.
Internet chat is evil.
Initially I knew, but as the relationship progressed, so did the secrecy and the corresponding lies. It has always been my policy to avoid any kind of non-work relationship with any person of the opposite sex. I don't carpool, eat lunch, or spend any casual time at all with women. If I end up sitting on an airplane next to a woman, I am polite but I avoid any unnecessary interaction. They met in a chat room and then started to e-mail each other.