Take it in here, let it out here, lengthen this, shorten this, etc. We all do this because we all have to deal with our self-centeredness. In this case some divine adjustments are needed. It will cost you something to get fitted into God's design, purpose, and plan for marriage. We honor marriage when we yield to God's purpose and plan.
Adjustments involve bending and blending.
These two skills needed if you are going to honor marriage by letting God fit you to His design. In marriage we become one spiritually by the covenant vow. We become one economically by sharing the financial blessings and burdens. We become one in use of time and energy by adjusting our schedules so that time and energy for each other is made a priority. This does not just happen.