A woman will love you more and prefer you far more over those who regard her as private property or a prisoner. In the popular book The Collector , by John Fowles, a collector of butterfly specimens meets a beautiful young girl and decides to treat her as he would a wild butterfly. He keeps her locked in the cellar of an old house. In his own mad way he perhaps considers himself in love, but she soon dies in captivity. Humans cannot be treated as property.
Love can grow and prosper only in an atmosphere of harmony, equality and freedom.
Individuals, of course, are all different from each other. Some people flourish gloriously in monogamy, while others thrive only in freer relationships. A truly free society should be able to accommodate all life patterns and support alternative lifestyles. Francois Mauriac, winner of the Nobel Prize for Literature in 1952, once described himself as a combination of the best of all the women in his life. That description might have come from the heart of a Taoist.