Again, don't focus too much on it , even if it suddenly feels six inches long. If you concentrate on enjoying the kiss instead, it will suddenly seems just the right fit with hers. Like your lips, let them do whatever feels good and right for both of you. Hold, caress, explore. But don't grab.
Caressing involves mutual consent.
It is gentle and pleasurable without being intrusive. Grabbing is unwanted, and will raise her defenses. Don't foist yourself on her. Go slow, and follow her unspoken cues. Safe Zones Run your fingers through her hair.