We can't escape the whole range of feeling without maiming ourselves. First, shame and guilt were blackballed because they can be used to intimidate and cripple children. Now any unpleasant feeling is suspect in many quarters. Now no one wins, and no one loses, because innings are timed, not scored. While we need to teach children non-competitive, cooperative games, as well as games that demand competition, the goal at this Little League is that no one feel bad, or inferior to anyone else.
Fear is a vital survival response that has been also increasingly seen as undesirable by many.
Certainly it is unhealthy to be paralyzed by fear. But fear is our God-given warning system for the dangers that are part of living in society and ecosystem. Healthy fear gives a friendly warning before we trample on something precious and breakable. The best defense against always being afraid is learning how to fear wisely what to fear, how to muster courage in the face of fear, and when to tell yourself there's really nothing to be afraid of. Pride is self-interest plus contentment, guilt is distress plus fear, and perhaps shame.