To do this, you have to learn how to make clear what your needs are, and how to get them met, without hurting others. Strategies You Can Use to Keep Anger at Bay Relaxation Simple relaxation tools such as deep breathing and relaxing imagery can help calm down angry feelings. There are books and courses that can teach you relaxation techniques, and once you learn them you can call upon them in any situation. Repeat it to yourself while breathing deeply. Cognitive restructuring Simply put, this means changing the way you think.
Logic defeats anger, because anger, even when it's justified, can quickly become irrational.
So use cold hard logic on yourself. Do this each time you fell anger getting the best of you, and it'll help you get a more balanced perspective. The first thing to do, if you are in a heated discussion, is to slow down and think through your responces. Don't say the first thing that comes into your head, but slow down and think carefully about what you whant to say. At the same time, listen carefully to what the other person is saying and take your time before answering.