The pain does lessen. Guilt, real or imagined, is a normal part of grief. In order to resolve this guilt, learn to express and share these feelings, and learn to forgive yourself. Anger is another common reaction to loss. Anger, like guilt, needs expression and sharing in a healthy and acceptable manner.
Children are often the forgotten grievers in a family.
They are experiencing many of the same emotions you are, so share thoughts and tears with them. Though it is a painful time, be sure they feel loved and included. Holidays and the anniversaries of your child's birth and death can be stressful times. Consider the feelings of the entire family in planning how to spend the day. Allow time and space for your own emotional needs.