All of these are life-affirming. Love is the active, two-way expression of human worthwhileness. Love has very little to do with verbal expression. It has a lot to do with action. Only the actions count.
Love only works when our actions toward the loved one are life- affirming.
This character from TV's All In the Family, would say he loved his wife, Edith, but he always acted as if she were some kind of moron. First, because the non-human person can get no affirmation. Husbands and wives could not love one another simply because society denied the humanity of the wives. Nor could they truly love their own children for they hadn't truly been loved themselves. And children saw role models not of love, but of slavery and abuse.