If your own anger is out of control, you have lost touch with your needs. You are continually making choices in your life that disregard certain basic needs. And the longer you continue this pattern, the greater the continual buildup of anger. To change this, you must make some adjustment. You must make some unmet needs a greater priority.
Love is our automatic emotional response when our needs are met.
And because managing anger is an emotional responsibility, the emotion that helps manage anger is love. To reverse this, start with one aspect of yourself you really want to change. During the times when you are not angry, focus on this aspect of yourself. Rehearse in your mind how your anger usually escalates and brings out this part of yourself. Identify the moment when those automatic patterns usually engage, and throughout the day rehearse in your mind how you can respond differently at those times.