Do not be afraid to speak about your own feelings and your sadness about what happened to the person. Each stress survivor has his or her own opinion why it happened. Your opinion might be quite different but do not impose it. The earlier and the better we help each other overcome stress, the less the possibility of later disorders requiring a psychologist or psychiatrist. They could be policemen after carrying out a difficult job, firemen after extinguishing a dangerous fire, hostages just released, or survivors of natural disasters.
Life is impossible without stresses.
The question is how to deal with them in such way that stress will, at the very least, not destroy us and hopefully will make us stronger and wiser.