You do not have, because you do not ask God. When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures. This graphic picture of self-interest commonly plays a role in marriage, leading, for some couples, to divorce. Each individual enters marriage with images of what it will be. Ideas of married life often come from observing marriages of parents and other significant adults.
Expectations also come from literature, music, television, and movies.
These images can be accurate or distorted. Most individuals enter marriage with at least some unrealistic ideas about what will happen. Often, the other partner is expected to meet all one's needs, to be a good friend, a great lover, and to share the chores. The other person is expected to fill the gaps, read minds, take out the trash, be dashing or daring, a good parent, nice to relatives, and on and on. Expectations are often so high that satisfaction with marriage drops immediately following the honeymoon.