Not a jealous love or possessive love. You can quench the thirst for love of your intended love by simple acts. Most of us don't get enough respect. We all need to be valued as persons. Value the person you 'love'.
Life is to be enjoyed.
Jesus spent as much time at dinner parties as he spent in Sermons on the Mount. Play scrabble, or volleyball, or go skiing, or just play for the sake of playing. Tell a joke. It comes to every life. Like joy, trouble is better when shared.