The list making that many of us do is a good example of the difference between healthy choicefulness and compulsive doing. Lots of us make lists of things that we want to do. The problem comes when that list becomes only a means to an end rather than an expression of our internal process of selecting options for what we would like to do and what feels most important to us. In so doing we externalize that list and give it a power over us that it shouldn't have. You have suggested that the remedy for compulsive doing is something called healthy being.
Healthy being is a way of living in the world.
It is entirely experiential and different for every individual. This is who I need to be. I have a right to choose. I have a right to be here. When we take up that challenge, we get ourselves onto the road of healthy being.