Your life is assessed according to your objectives and achievements, it is you yourself who is the judge, not any other being. You decide what you want to achieve and you decide how well you have achieved your goals. Each event in your life is looked at, each thought and deed, not form the perspective of whether you did right or wrong, but to look at how your beliefs and actions are serving your growth. Growth is not only about personal achievement, but it is also about your ability to love. Love yourself and your fellow humans.
Love is the measurement of spiritual growth, without the presence of love, there can be no growth.
Therefore when you hear people say that 'God is Love', they speak the truth, when you hear people say there is judgement and punishment after death, then they do not speak the language of love. Love is the total and complete acceptance of what is. It is not a sentimental feeling, it is a lack of judgement. That is why the soul feels so enveloped I love at the point of physical death, because the soul is returning to the bosom of God where only acceptance exists, only love. It is judgement that creates separation, an it is love that binds us all together.