You may also want to include terms allowing you to deny the visit if your abuser is intoxicated at the time of the visit. In the past his family and friends have harassed me to talk to him. It is possible to request that the restraining order be issued against more than one person. The court, however, will require clear evidence that this is necessary. You will therefore need to show the court why the other people should be prevented from contacting you or your children.
Harassment can also be a criminal offence.
Harassing behaviour can include repeatedly visiting, calling, or writing to you, or doing something that threatens you or someone in your family. Once again, it is important to make records of any incidents of harassment, so that you have details to give the police if you have to report it. In very exceptional cases, a restraining order can last indefinitely. More usually an order will be made for six months. If necessary you can renew it when it expires.