One last but important piece of advice for helping kids come through a divorce successfully is to be honest. Children are usually well aware of what is really happening and pretending to them that nothing is wrong can have serious negative effects. They see their parents can't be honest with them, and end up hiding their own feelings and worries. Much better than pretending nothing is wrong is to honestly discuss, in an age-appropriate manner, how things have changed. Let your kids express their questions and fears, and let them know that they are still very much loved.
Divorce is always a painful process for all involved.
But dealing honestly and fairly with your children can help minimize the long term effects for them. If you feel you need help in handling the divorce process, seek out the assistance of a qualified counseling professional who specializes in family counseling. Let us know with this form.