Blaming the victim believing w e should blame the victim for leaving us. Resentment believing o ur hurt and pain is justified to turn into resentment toward involved in our loss event including the victim. Anger is a normal stage. We can begin to have uncontrollable spells of crying, sobbing, and weeping. We can begin to go into spells of deep silence, morose thinking, and deep melancholy.
Guilt believing w e are responsible for our loss.
Loss of hope believing that because the news of our loss becomes so overwhelming that we have no hope of being able to return to the calm and order our life held prior to the loss. Loss of faith and trust believing that because of this loss we can no longer trust our belief in the goodness and mercy of God and mankind. We need support to assist us in gaining the objectivity to reframe and regroup our lives. We begin to reach a level of awareness and understanding of the nature of our loss. Adaptive behavior believing we can begin to adjust our lives to incorporate the changes necessary after our loss.