Everyone makes mistakes, and nobody is perfect. It takes two to make a marriage, and it takes two to break it up, although in some marriages the reasons are more obvious in some than in others, and the fault is more clearly one person's than the other's. Even if you didn't cause the break-up, you will feel guilty. Guilt is felt more by the person who leaves the marriage, althrough the other person feels guilty about what they think they did to chase their spouse away. D epression .
Depression is an enevitible part of loss.
It comes during the anger stage, and the bargaining stage, and in the letting go stage. It is characterized by many of the symptoms listed in the Symptoms of Grief . Depression is normal. It may last longer in some people than in others. Emotionally healthy people won't be depressed as long as emotionally unhealthy people or people who came from dysfunctional homes who haven't dealt with childhood issues.