Solutions may be as simple as direct communication with your spouse about your feelings. Too often, we assume that our spouse already knows about our feelings. Anger and resentment build as we fail to get the response that we think is appropriate to our feelings. It may be a matter that is easily rectifiable when openly discussed. On the other hand, by the time divorce or separation is under consideration, the problems and their solutions are usually more complex.
Emotions interfere with reasoned, rationale discussion.
The intervention of marriage counselors, therapists or other professionals may set a course of reconciliation. If your spouse is reluctant to join you, seek professional help on your own. Strategies may be available to make it possible to reach the spouse who is reluctant to join you. Efforts to save a failing marriage require both parties to participate in the exploration for solutions. The decision to terminate the marriage by one spouse may be irreversible.