Then tell them they are released from the debt they owe you, are loved and accepted, and are no longer responsible to meet your needs. If the hurts are listed on a piece of paper, it might be useful to tear up the paper upon completion of this exercise to demonstrate that the debt has been canceled. Walking in forgiveness. Often the hardest person to forgive is yourself. Don't forget to put yourself in the chair and receive God's forgiveness for yourself.
Faith requires active obedience.
Forgiveness makes me look weak. When I don't forgive, I am in control. I remain able to manipulate others. I may get hurt again. If I ignore it, the problem will go away.