It will be harder to prove if you need to show it by clear and convincing evidence. The litigation process will often take 6 to 18 months before conclusion. NOW, otherwise, cold feet, pressure from your spouse or family or claimed loss of memory may cost you the proof needed to win your case and to present the truth to the court. Consider random curbside garbage pick-ups for valuable information and the use of private investigators. This is one of the most destructive things that commonly occur in divorce.
Fathers are particularly vulnerable in our present cultural climate.
The problem may be mild to severe. Do not miss deadlines for answering or filing your discovery request - failure to prepare is not reason for the court to adjourn your case and often, admissible evidence is excluded based upon failure to comply with or participate in discovery within prescribed deadlines. Often it is particularly important for fathers to use psychologists in order to establish adequate proof that the children will develop better under his care than the mother's. If your spouse has an expert, then you should have one. Experts can base their opinion on otherwise inadmissible evidence such as hearsay.