When times are terrible, they explode with fury or anguish. They sometimes act as though the world will end. A child with a high intensity temperament should be guided toward responsible ways of expressing strong feelings. Demanding that this child remain calm under difficult circumstances would be unfair. Children are born with a distinctive temperament.
Every child is a unique person.
Parents have to adjust their discipline style to accommodate each child's personality. Even when they are given unreasonable limits, young children may try desperately to please their parents by doing what is expected of them. Instead of objecting to an unfair limit, children may blame themselves for not being able to comply. They may conclude that something is wrong with themselves instead of the unreasonable expectation. Children burdened by many unfair limits are likely to have poor self-esteem.