His new movie came out recently, and I've been fantasizing a lot about him, even sometimes while in bed with my husband. Yes, you're very normal. Although it is easier for us to accept teen-agers' having crushes, adults have them as well. That's one of the reasons why we go see movies that have stars like Tom Cruise, Mel Gibson or Paul Newman in them. Many happily married couples occasionally have an imaginary partner with them during sex.
Fantasies often add zest and excitement for some people.
While some couples get turned on by sharing one another's fantasies, others prefer to keep their fantasies about imaginary partners to themselves. This is especially prudent if the object of your fantasy is someone your partner knows personally or is related to. Respect for your partner's feelings should be your guide when sharing fantasies. Linda Humphries, MSW, LCSW, Ed. If you have a question about sexual health, send it to Your Sexual Health, Tallahassee Democrat, P.O. Box 990, Tallahassee FL 32302.