Meetings are held at night to discuss their perceived enemies, and the discussions are fraught with paranoia. If her skull was split it would serve a good purpose. Parental bonds are not just a social phenomena, they are very primal. If a child is abandoned or rejected by his mother or father, no amount of corrective reasoning can take away the emotional pain that is experienced by the child, and it does not go away with age. The family unit also includes many primal experiences, so that if one s family is missing one or more of such experiences, a distinct need may be felt to take part in what one has missed along the way.
Good parents promote healthy experiences that become part of one s personal identity and style.
The trouble begins when a parent abuses his authority and commands others to their harm. Physically and sexually abusive fathers, dictatorial attitudes and harsh rules designed to legislate the actions of all without regard to their personal needs or desires are quite common. Negative experiences such as these also become part of one s identity, hence the need for therapy groups dealing with children of alcoholics, the physically and sexually abused, etc. Perhaps we are still looking for that father image we longed for as a child. Maybe we just want to live a good life away from drugs or alcohol, and a new family with a strong father will help us do that through the strict guidelines that are practiced.