If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. Love is more than just heroic deeds on someone's behalf. Love for a spouse is more than working hard and bringing home a paycheck. It is more than caring for the kids, cleaning, and cooking.
Love is more than knowing a lot or accomplishing great acts of faith or doing good deeds.
Love means cleaning out your insides about how you look at people, how you think about people, and how you treat people. It is never wasted effort. If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. This is a spiritual duty. As important as marriage is, our relationship with Jesus must be even more important.