He just won't get it. His whole mindset and life experience make such talk incomprehensible. This will not only speak to Tim's deepest need for acceptance and security, but it will also make believable to him our witness that the gospel is God's truth. Just so, by faith in Jesus Christ, we are born into His family. Just as family is for a lifetime, in sickness and health, in good times and bad, in youth and old age, so it is with our relationships in the church.
Families are for one another.
Families do not calculate in advance how much caring they will do, under what circumstances and for whom. Rather, our caring is without condition and without a termination date. So, too, it must be in the church. Our brothers and sisters in Christ are to be cared for by each of us, especially in times of stress and sorrow. Family requires accountability.