I got my copy second hand around fifteen years ago from Blackwell's in Oxford. Reality doesn't make jumps' is an interesting formulation of the reality principle. I would be tempted to emphasise the reverse side of the experiences you mention. As for encountering situations or meeting people, our preconceptions can have a profound effect on what we eventually 'experience'. And again, sometimes, knowing this, we work on ourselves to produce the optimum response.
Appearance contrasts with reality in a different way from fantasy, and also again from illusion.
It is worthwhile exploring these notions. Fantasy is more or less under your control, whereas illusions are something you suffer. And so on. I forget what Sartre says about the body. A remark about the 'wiggling bottom' sticks in my mind.