It's okay to be looking for one. I can learn to depend on myself. Maybe other people haven't been there for me, but I can start being there for me. There's no such thing as a perfect person. There's no such thing as a perfect relationship.
Control is an illusion.
It doesn't work. I can't change other people. Conflicts don't have to end relationships. I have the right to change my own rules, the powerful messages from the past that control what I do today. If I'm willing to get honest, be open, and try things differently, I'll change.