Today I am responsible for my actions. Today I will not give away my own power to make choices that are good for me. Your job is to define yourself and draw your bottom line. If he truly loves you and himself, he will seek the changes he needs if it means doing without you otherwise. When we stop doing for or making excuses for, we start on the long road to recovery.
Growth is the aim and growth in itself is worthy.
If not for my higher power finding Dr. Irene for me, I'd be dead. Either from not realizing that my behavior was draining every ounce of my soul, or I would've committed suicide. It starts out with me believing I'm taking his feelings into consideration and am open to compromise. This only hands him my power. This spreads to almost all areas of my life.