From this element comes interdependence, a healthy giving and taking, reciprocal and mutual support always available, always taking place. Confianza, or trust, leads to a feeling of being accepted and belonging. When this value is not nurtured in healthy ways, children act out. And children grow up to be adults who do not trust anybody but themselves and do not care about anybody but themselves. The fourth of the basic values needed for balanced living is love .
Love is essential in order to participate in a circular learning process.
This feeling of receiving love first appears from within the family. If and when that happens properly, it can be received and given beyond the boundaries of the family. It extends to other individuals, families, communities and institutions. For if one loves oneself, he or she is totally accepting of that self. And this in turn allows one to be totally accepting of others.