Aside from direct benefits that each gains from the agreement that emerges, successful negotiations allow both persons to observe themselves in a relationship that promotes rather than retards personal growth. This increases their desire to want to be with each other, which in turn contributes to the vitality and excitement of their marriage. Both find this situation very unsatisfying. Diana and Bill now have three possible choices. Bill may give in, but likely will feel resentful and powerless.
Greater distance is created and more barriers to intimacy are placed in their relationship.
Deference should always be considered, but in many situations, it is not a genuine option. The second choice is compromise . This means finding a meeting point at which each makes concessions to the other. Both lose something, and both gain something. Agree on an experimental solution to be tried out and, if this doesn't work, the solution may be renegotiated.