At marriage, new responsibilities are shouldered. Upon becoming a parent, one becomes even more accountable. Some parents have difficulty increasing their children's authority over their lives. But it's human nature to want to manage one's own affairs. We never outgrow the need to ask daas Torah on a wide variety of issues, but we must also learn to stand on our own two feet.
Children are no exception.
They want to be able to make decisions. This often means allowing for mistakes, some are trivial, such as broken eggs when children are learning to make their own breakfast. Some may be more serious or costly. But failure is a learning experience , so be prepared for your children's inevitable errors. First of all, most of us want to be needed.