Equally important is prolonged and delicate foreplay. If you're breastfeeding over several months, a temporary vaginal thinning can occur that causes itching, burning, or painful intercourse. This is easily treated with a prescription vaginal estrogen cream that's safe to use while nursing. The missionary position can be painful, especially after an episiotomy, though a pillow under the woman's buttocks can relieve pressure. It may be especially hard for your husband to understand all the ways a baby changes your sexuality, but don't feel guilty or pressured.
Intimacy is about more than sex, or even touching.
It's about being able to share your strange new feelings, taking turns walking a fussy baby, realizing that you're parents together. Sexual interest, like a growing fetus, can't be rushed. In time, you'll feel back on track. And in the meantime, your new baby represents all the reason in the world to feel close to your spouse. There's little evidence that sex throughout most of a normal pregnancy can trigger labor.