Always tell your child the truth. When your child asks you something about the divorce always answer as honestly and completely as possible, taking into consideration what the particular child can absorb. Fabrications will he discovered sooner or later, and they will only confuse your child about the real reasons for the divorce. Dishonesty about the divorce will also cause your child to doubt your other statements. Do not wait for your child to ask questions, take some initiative.
Children are often reticent about bringing up divorce-related issues or questions.
This does not mean they have no questions, or don't want more information. It may mean they are taking their cues from you. If you are open, not blaming, and calm in your discussions about the divorce, then pertinent facts, feelings, and information will be shared naturally. Do not use your child as an emotional confidant. Sharing the facts amid feelings a child needs to know to be able to accept the divorce is not the same thing as discussing everything related to the divorce about which you may have a need to talk.