Instead, happiness is a state of mind. This may sound like New Age gobbledy-gook, but I really believe what Barry Kauffman explores in his book, Happiness Is a Choice. Kauffman says we can change our life if we believe we have the freedom to choose happiness instead of unhappiness. Don't depend on externals to make you happy, but instead make happiness itself your main goal. Let go of the masks to please others.
Judgements limit our thinking.
The secret to happiness is not in events, but in our response to them. Live in the present. Worry about tomorrow or yesterday causes much of our unhappiness. To be grateful is to simultaneously recognize the blessing and wonder of an experience. Decide to be happy.