Levels of testosterone can vary widely and still be considered normal. Inhibited sexual desire is not the same thing as having a lower sexual energy than one s partner. This situation can be temporary and caused by outside stressors such as too much work. Sexual interest can also fall when having sex becomes a power struggle within the relationship. If a relationship is experiencing conflict or if affection and romance has disappeared, it s not surprising that the erotic relationship is going to suffer as well.
Male sexuality is a fragile thing.
If we are afraid that we re going to fail at sex, we probably aren t going to be very excited by it. Losing an erection, premature ejaculation or painful intercourse are all things that can cause us to lose interest in sex. So can sexual illnesses such as gonorrhea, anal warts, etc. Anxiety about HIV certainly contributes to the mix for many gay men. Some of us have grown up with very negative or restrictive views about sex.