This is a very important question as women gain equality in the work place. At one time women were told to learn the rules of football and act like men. Real power comes from giving power to others. Transformational and servant leaders empower followers. Leadership v. Management.
Management means to bring about, to accomplish, to have charge of or responsibility for, to conduct.
Leading is influencing, guiding in direction, course, action, opinion. The distinction is crucial. Managers are people who do things right and leaders are people who do the right thing. Managers, it is said, lead you out of the forest. Leaders climb a tree and say we are in the wrong forest.