And ask for help. They'll be happy to tell you how it works. Just be ready to make changes in your thinking, assumptions, actions and behavior. Increase your awareness. Sounds trite, but it's necessary.
Attraction is a subtle phenomenon.
Use the Distinctionary to do this. Add value to whomever or whatever you encounter. We all have something to add. If you don't have enough to add, learn a new skill. When you ADD what you have to other's lives, whether they are clients, friends, potential customers, family, YOU become much more attractive.