These questions appeared frequently among teens questioned about their parents' divorce. If a child knew it was not their fault, he or she still wondered what they could have done to prevent their parents from getting divorced. Kids are brainwashed into thinking that divorce isn't going to affect them. In reality the loss, anger, being in a strange house and abandonment make it the most severe event, more so than death, physical or sexual abuse. Julie Lewis, a professor at San Francisco State University, gives a similar opinion to Loftis'.
Divorce is a cumulative experience for the child.
It is hard. No matter who or when, my dad would always expect his new girlfriend to be my mom. When her father remarried, Benavides said she was always made to feel like the other kid, always taking second place. A family is affected by the economic condition, social class, ethnicity and the divorce. In turn all of these aspects affect a child's growth into an adult.