Couples fight about not having enough money or how money is to be spent. Below the surface of these recurring disagreements are usually opposing values not only about material possessions but also about work and social status. Religious differences are often a cause of marital problems. Sometimes varied doctrines or customs are the direct cause of friction. More often, the difficulties are less a matter of denominational affiliation or practice as they are different levels of fervor and involvement in religious activity.
Child rearing itself is another area of strong values and beliefs.
One spouse may believe, for example, that it is important to give a child wide exposure to extracurricular activities, such as dancing, sports or scouts, while the other may feel that it is dangerous for a child to he over-involved in such activities. One may forbid dating before sixteen, the other may feel it s good for younger teens to have boyfriends or girlfriends. One may be pro-allowance another opposed to giving children money unless it is earned. It is very difficult to change someone's values. No one changes them as the result of an argument with a spouse.