The effect of the loosening of family connections cannot be underestimated. We live in a society where many families are spending all their time and energy on financial survival. Parents do not have the time or energy to monitor their children's Internet time or video game activity, much less talk with their children about difficult topics. And it is not just the parents who are failing to remain connected. There is no longer, in most places, a sense of community responsibility for the young.
Adults passing teens on the street often avert their eyes.
So there is enough blame for us all. It is these connections that matter. Kids who are loved, nurtured and cared for do not blow up schools. Everyone agreed with Dale. People who feel good about themselves simply do not kill themselves or other people.