It's a behavior common to all of us. However, presumption can often be based on falsehoods that, if not dealt with, can lead us to disillusionment and bitterness, which is sin and will quench God's Spirit. When this proves not to be the case, the wife can easily become embittered and resentful. She had presumed something based on her previous experience, which turned out not to be the case. She must recognize that presumption, take it to the Cross, let God replace it with His Wisdom and Love and respond to her husband as God directs.
Expectation is very closely related to presumption.
Expectation is a future hope in either things, events or people. In itself, expectation is not sin. However, if our expectations are not fulfilled in the way we think they should be, they can lead to disappointment and doubt, which again, can end up quenching God's Spirit in us. For example, say you had an argument with someone and you finally realize that you are the one at fault. Your response would be to go to the other person, confess your mistake and ask his forgiveness.