Sometimes unknowingly we may cause ourselves to fail in one thing so that another, new and different thing, will not be forced upon us. We speak of the bride or groom having the jitters at the thought of being married. It IS a new and radically different experience. And I suspect the anti-marriage trend today is in part a different expression of the same fear. It is another way of not going throught the door of married life.
Life IS a matter of stepping though new doors, doors into one unknown room after another.
This is the essence of life. We go through the door of marriage, of a new job, of retirement. Yet sometimes we deny that going through doors is the essence of life. Sometimes we deny that truth and we re not aware that we are avoiding it. Finally the man said one evening, You know, darling, if ONE of us should die, I am going to take a trip to Paris.