My sister surrendered. The alteration in her life remains to this day. The judgement of grace is always more telling, more penetrating, than the judgement of anger. You must have noticed how defensively we react when someone becomes angry with us, even justifiably angry with us. Our knee-jerk defensiveness blinds us to the defect in us that has provoked someone else's anger.
Counterattack takes the form of counteraccusation.
My sister had visited all this on her parents time without end. There is no judgement like the judgement of love. Towards the end of his earthly ministry Jesus sets off toward Jerusalem. The cross awaits him there. The cross will be the fullest expression of his outpoured love and his unreserved self-giving.