Only a sexologist indeed. I am not saying that the four cornerstones are required for enjoyable sex. But they add zest so effectively to memorable encounters and fantasies that without them, eroticism as we know it could not exist. Until he writes about the seven steps that point toward sexual healing and growth, Morin's chapter on the four cornerstones is the longest in his book. Its relative length reflects the importance he attaches to these features of erotic life.
Feelings make sex matter.
As most of us look back on the experiences, situations, and fantasies that have given us our greatest erotic thrills, we will easily identify a recurring theme or two, such as feeling swept away by romance, the submission of one person to an erotically powerful other, or the defilement of innocence. Knowing the Four Cornerstones of Eroticism, the six emotional aphrodisiacs, and your own Core Erotic Theme can give you a sense of the materials you have to work with as you embark on a journey of sexual healing and growth. As Morin sees it, that journey takes place in seven steps that are neither erotic in themselves nor restricted to sexual healing. Clarify your goals and motivations 2. Cultivate self-affirmation 3.