William James, the father of American psychology, concluded that we become how we act. When couples accept my challenge the results are invariably successful. Do ten things each day that you would do if you really were in love. I know that if people do loving things, it will not be long before they experience the feelings that are often identified as being in love. Love is not those feelings.
Love is what one wills to do to make the other person happy and fulfilled.
Often, we don't realize that what a person does influences what he feels. Near my mother's home in Roan Mountain is a wonderful counseling center that especially caters to ministers and missionaries who are struggling in their relationships. Some time ago, I read a letter that a missionary wife had written to Charles Shepson following a visit to Fairhaven. I hated my husband and wanted to leave him. I honestly did not know how I could go on living with him, feeling the way I did.