Listen, listen, listen to children. Observe their behavior and timber of their voices. Be alert for word clues that may reflect their fears, concerns and feelings of guilt. Listen with sensitivity. Answer the feelings behind the expressions and not the expressions themselves.
Expressions are like the fever of the soul, which always points to a deeper problem.
To give direction to anyone, you must first find out what direction they are presently going. Honesty is necessary and simplicity is valuable. We need to not tell all the truth at one time, but always tell the truth. Integrity in this area will help build a trust relationship in which healing can take place. Boundaries and structure create an atmosphere of safety even when the boundaries and structure are resisted.