Some early questions about intentions and respect for BoS materials, as well as some teachings on your tradition's history might give future initiates a better sense of belonging. However there is another lesson here. It is natural for persons intent on being 'rebels' to work against traditions no matter what they are. Several 'roll your own' versions of Wicca have passed through this stage years ago. So if people insist on reinventing the wheel, let them go ahead.
Diversity is one of the positive aspects of human nature.
I would hate to believe that anyone in our community would be so wicked as to target me with baleful magick spells, but the timing and the persistence of these upsets in my life makes it hard for me to believe otherwise. Not impossible, just very unlikely. We can all stand to learn a little more about how to handle these emotions in a constructive manner. You need to be sure you have worked through or cleared your own emotions before moving on to the next event in your life. Sometimes it really is necessary to disturb the communal peace.