If one or both of you is excessively nervous and the only way to calm these feelings is to see and reassure each other, then this is what you must do. Go with your gut feeling on this one. If you re the bride and want to know more about what happens on the big day, click here . If you re the groom, click here . It's a women-only thing and all the bride's closest friends and relatives go, along with the groom's close womenfolk too.
Guests turn up with gifts for the bride - traditionally, essential items for setting up a new home.
These days though, many shower gifts are more indulgent, for example a spa voucher or a sexy item of underwear. But a shower can be as extravagant or as low-key as you want. For a rundown of the chief bridesmaid s other duties, click here . I've heard of a custom called a 'Unity Candle'. Unity customs are very popular in the US and take many forms, but the most widely used is the Candle version.