I can take care of myself. I can make decisions for myself. I can think for myself. I don't have to depend on somebody else to take care of me. I don't have to be a certain way because of what has happened in the past.
Every day is a new day.
It's silly to think I can't help being the way I am. Of course I can. I can change. I can't solve other people's problems for them. I don't have to take on other people's problems as if they were my own.