Healthy love develops after we feel secure. Addictive love tries to create love even though we feel frightened and insecure. Healthy love is part of the human fabric. They cannot be separated. Addictive love is highly distilled.
Healthy love is unique.
Addictive love is stereotyped. There is always a certain type we are attracted to. Healthy love is gentle and comfortable. Addictive love is tense and combative. Healthy love encourages us to be ourselves, to be honest from the beginning with who we are, including our faults.