For eight years before his death, he lived with a trachea inserted in his throat to assist his breathing because of his obesity. A young woman came to us shortly after the death of her husband. Her pain was so overwhelming, the thought of food, in her mind, was a way of staying alive. So she couldn't or wouldn't eat. It almost became her punishment for not dying with him.
Food becomes our enemy or our friend.
There was no control over the death so food becomes the control. Proper nourishment, proper sleep habits become obsolete. Some can't sleep, some can't eat. Others want to do nothing but sleep or eat. Support and understanding is vital to all those who fall out of balance when a loved one is lost.