Mimi, The fact that the spark is gone does not mean the relationship is gone. If getting close drives you apart, you can never get close. We seem to go our separate ways, not much time for intimacy. Find things that make you feel close. Can you tell us the vital characteristics of a strong relationship.
Lets talk about love, where both people get their vital needs met.
Love is the hope that your needs will be met with this person. How can I approach him to be heard. You must talk. Dawn, first sit down and ask him what he needs to start talking and you tell him what you need. Make this a pleasant experience.