Hands are not for hitting. Neither are spoons or belts or other such 'weapons'. Parenting is about teaching, guiding. The goal is to help our children grow into happy, self sufficient adults. And this is why we try to make those consequences logical - 'natural' events following a certain behavior.
Home is supposed to be a place where it's safe to make mistakes.
Where you don't get hurt and you never have to be afraid. He is two and at times a brat, normal for his age. I believe in spankings and his mother does not, Alek listens to me and not to his mother. I have learned from the mistakes that my parents made in their raising of me and my two other brothers. That is the diference, learn to talk to your children and let them know what the limits are.