To ensure that home and school rules become a learned behavior, children need adult monitoring based on the level of trust they earn and the level of responsibility they assume. Children who earn full trust and accept responsibility need little adult monitoring. Conversely, children who earn little trust and accept no responsibility in a given situation need maximum adult monitoring. A child who fails to clean his room will need monitoring during such a chore whereas, one who usually completes homework assignments correctly according to expectations will need a minimal amount of monitoring. As children earn most trust and accept more responsibility, the level of monitoring can drop.
Effective monitoring requires hands on supervision.
A parent should not walk away from the situation until the rule is followed. Supervision means consistently knowing and approving of what your children are doing, where they are and who they are with. Nagging a child to comply with home rules only produces anger and resentment. If parents consistently enforce rules based on earned levels of trust, children will consistently obey the rules. If they are inconsistent in enforcing rules, children will continually test the rules and obey inconsistently, at best.