This type of love cannot be controlled. Therefore, love or lack of love is not a moral issue. Seeing and feeling is believing. I must be attracted enough in order to elicit a love response. Modern love is self-affirming, and the feeling must be mutual.
Biblical love is based on a decision.
You decide to invest in another by giving yourself to meet their needs. In other words, Christian love is dependent on God, personal choice, and commitment. Likewise Christian charity is sacrificial. Christian love is concerned with doing what is good and right in the sight of God. The virtue of love is really about sacrifice and service.