They appreciate being kept out of it and relating in a loving manner to all. This is a great example for parents to set for their children, and worth some sacrifice of their own actions. Parents don t have to deal with the guilt of removing their own parents from their lives. Grandparents too must examine how they are part of the problem instead of the solution as is expected from older people with more life experience. Of course people may not get along perfectly but that s O.K. too.
Children can live, and learn, with differences.
That s why they are given two parents, four grandparents and eight grand-grandparents. Parents, grandparents and society must know that love for the child must supercede animosities of the adults. The former is permanent the latter most often is transitory. That s why the current grandparent visitation laws should not be tampered with. Furthermore children should be considered more in these matters.