First, take a moment and think about the daily hassles and problems which are constant frustrations in life. Some of the most common ones, according to surveys, are personal health or the health of a family member, too many things to do, arguments, weight and personal appearance, rising prices, property woes, traffic, and the fear of crime. Daily hassles do have a detrimental effect on our physical and emotional well-being. However, researchers have found that the negative effects of these hassles are lower for people with high self-esteem and good support systems . Effectively coping with life's problems and failure s requires realistic expectations.
Appraisals are a product of our belief system.
If we hold unrealistic, inflexible beliefs, then the appraisals we make may not be the most appropriate for the situation. I must be liked by everyone in my life,' 'I should worry about anything that might be the least bit dangerous,' and 'I must be competent and perfect all the time' are all irrational beliefs. Suppose someone treats you rudely. We have the choice how to frame our perceptions. If we feel helpless to change things, or incompetent when facing challenges, then we're less likely to come up with a suitable coping response.