It's almost like he became guilty late in the game. Not only do I feel cheated romantically, but I feel so rejected. When the tone of the second marriage changes and the mundane rushes in, the second wife often reacts as Toni has to the situation. Priorities shift and the romantic element seems to be the first aspect of the marriage to be lost in the shuffle. Second wives lament this missing ingredient much more than their husbands do.
Husbands often view the alteration in the relationship as part of the marriage process.
But women are true romantics and the loss for them is very real. Whatever John and I did together, I wanted to feel extraordinary. I thought that a big part of our marriage was how we romanced each other. But it isn't like that anymore. John told me that the excitement wears off, no matter how much two people love each other.