Accepts that there are some kinds of relationships that cannot be satisfying. Is sensitive to the role that self-concept plays in perceptions, attitudes, behaviors. There are no unrelated relationships. Relationships are part of and interact with other relationships. A human being is considered to be the most complex process known in the universe.
Human relationships constitute still higher levels of complexities.
We do not expect apple trees to produce oranges. We do not expect Michael Jackson to sing like Pavarotti, or Madonna to sound like Jessye Norman. It's worth repeating that the above questions, and factors for improving relationships mentioned earlier on, are necessarily incomplete. Becoming more extensional, less intensional, more self-reflexive, can help us better understand our selves in relationships. A better understanding of how we are relating can help us improve our relationships.