By the time I got the counter offer, I was so unhappy that I felt guilty for accepting it. It s especially hard to reconcile accepting a counter offer, Rogalsky adds, if the reasons for job hunting were not monetary. One woman engineer who was unhappy with her company started job hunting, only to accept an attractive counter offer and stay on. But she didn t look at her original concerns about the quality of the subcontractors her firm employed. She killed herself a few months later when a project she had been responsible for was closed down because it was unsafe.
Every manager wants to feel like a good manager.
No manager wants to explain to his own boss why employees in his division are unhappy. One Houston secretary discovered after five months at a small law firm that she had stayed on the job longer than any other secretary her boss had hired in the 10 years he d been with the firm. I was miserable, because he was simply a horrible person to work for moody, sarcastic, and totally without any conception of the way to treat an employee. But when it came time to give notice, he practically begged me to stay. He just wanted to prove to his is bosses that he could keep a secretary.