Seems you are forgetting it takes two. Your husband is not innocent in this, he played a large part. Perhaps you need to practice the principle of forgive and forget. You are only making it worse on yourself and him by keeping the subject open. Forgive, and go on with your life.
Actions speak louder than words.
I know my H is every bit as much to blame. I also know it would take an agressive woman to get him to cross the line. We attend chapter 9 meetings together. He does not like me to go to open AA meetings with him. Now I know why.