A child may want to sass back or manipulate the situation. This can lead the parent to slap the child, verbal abuse, or other physical abuses. Two great tools for discipline are actually preparation and prevention. Love and understanding are a big help in prevention of problems resulting in disciplinary actions. Open lines of communication, with the understanding that feelings are neither right nor wrong, will go a long way towards creating and maintaining trust.
Families can prepare for discipline with family councils.
In family councils clearly defined limitations and consequences are set. Children will be more willing to listen to their parents and follow their advice. I fervently believe that there are alternative means of discipline to the traditional method of spanking. Spanking leads to abuses that children should never suffer. It also brings out negative feelings towards parents and rules.