All too often some people thrive only when there is an adversary to challenge. Rather than seeking common ground, some refuse to budge and choose to justify their positions. Rather than settle peacefully, some prefer to score points, as if life were a debate. A rabbi who had lost his family in the Holocaust and who had emigrated to America wrote, before he departed Germany, about his feelings toward the Third Reich. It's hard to forgive.
Hate makes people feel powerful.
It involves two or more people who can't agree on a solution to their problem and a mediator. It offers an accepting space where people can tell their stories to a professional whom they trust. A mediator is a neutral who has no stake in the outcome of the mediation, who doesn't take sides in the dispute, and who assists the participants in creating their own mutually beneficial solutions. The goal of a mediator is to foster a fair environment that facilitates mutual, respectful problem-solving efforts by the parties. To reach that goal, a mediator tries to assist those involved in the conflict to communicate clearly with each other, identify their own needs and then work together to develop a solution that meets those needs.