Teens will learn that when they follow the guidelines, they can achieve their parents' trust and, ultimately, more independence and responsibility. Be a good role model and don't be afraid to let your teens see that you're not perfect. Adopt an attitude of specific expectations. You and your teen should agree on reasonable rules for living together. Develop the ability to let go when the situation is not harmful.
Experience can be the best teacher.
Give positive reinforcement whenever possible. Be a stable point of reference. Consistent, fair treatment and logical consequences provide the best framework for getting along. When no built-in consequence to an action exists, devise one that is logical and fair. Don't be afraid to admit that you, as a parent, were wrong and that you're sorry.