I have tried to explain that not all people want to get married and have children, that my husband and I waited 8 years before we decided to start our own family. That just because people don't always agree with her, that doesn't mean we don't love her. Melinda also says she went into a deep depression after the birth of her second girl, who now is three years old. Anyway, Melinda and I are not very close anymore. I try calling her, but it's as if I'm intruding.
Holidays are a nightmare.
Melinda ignores Josie all the time, something I told my sister I find hard to tolerate in my own home. Any assistance you could provide would be greatly appreciated. After all, it is YOUR family, and if it succeeds, it will bring you all closer and make you all stronger, both as individuals and as a family. The original situation appears to have been handled well - You say that as children Melinda and Josie were friendly and close. Of course, being three years older than Josie tended to make Melinda fairly confident of her special status within the family.