If you are openhearted, miracles will occur. Trust the process. Let us look at each of these. When relationships, work or personal, become difficult, the first thing that shuts down is communication. The hurt stays stuck, leading to erosion of the connection in the relationship.
Fear grows, and the idea of communicating is too much.
The way out of this trap is to stay present. That means, instead of projecting every horrible outcome into the future, and imagining the worst, you simply focus on right now, this moment. You are in a relationship, for better or for worse, and right now all there is to do is to show up. Remind yourself that nothing you can hear will destroy you. It will only make you stronger, as you exercise the emotional muscle of real communication.