I am talking recovered as in philosophical and personality change. Most won't make it for a number of reasons, degree of sociopathy among them. The victim partner who won't put up with it can increase the abuser's motivation for recovery as well. Yes, they have the ability to make you feel wonderful. The distinction between love and infatuation is one example.
Love is about friendship - partnership.
Your best friend and interdependent partner . The person who cares about your feelings more than anything, except as much as you care about theirs . The more I understand what drives his behavior, I find it doesn't really change what I love about him, but it explains his bad behavior. Exactly my point. His impulsivity and bad behavior prevent him from being a loving, unselfish, emotionally giving interdependent partner.