Lovers feel good about themselves and know the difference between consenting sex and violence. Rapists usually feel inadequate and confuse sexual violence with sex. Rapists often use humiliating and disprespectful slang to describe their sexual exploits and prey. Lovers are interested in pleasing their partner so the partner feels desired and respected. Rapists are interested only in their own needs and their victims usually feel humiliated and devastated.
Lovers have consenting and willing partners.
Rapists have victims instead of partners. 1 out of 13 college males surveyed have raped or attempted to rape. Take responsibility for their own actions and don't blame others for their problems. Avoid obscence and derogatory remarks because they are dehumanizing and indicate an acceptance of sexual violence. Are open to opportunities to learn from other people, and value another person's freedom to contribute to a relationship.