In the days following, I was haunted by every mistake I had ever made as a mother. I had no knowledge at all of how to deal with this situation. It's almost like having a death in the family. But when someone dies you can bury that person and move on with your life. With homosexuality, the pain seems never-ending.
Life seems out of control.
Suddenly you feel like you are talking to a stranger, as this unfamiliar aspect of your loved one's personality is revealed. The sense of betrayal can be devastating. Typically, family members and friends go through days and weeks of deep grief and mourning. It's common to feel fear and even panic about others finding out. No one person has the power to cause another's homosexuality.