Being busy feeling sorry for yourself is a convenient occupation of your mind. While you are doing that, you have no time or energy to be aware. What you think, becomes what you have. So think about what you want, and make it yours. Then you are free.
Love is like the hot air that fills a balloon.
The more that you love your world, the higher you are lifted, so you can see farther and more clearly. Enlightened, should becomes could and can't becomes won't. Even if you do not believe in a life beyond the physical, there are things here for you. There are thoughts here that serve to unlock greater potentials within your mind, however it is that they work. No matter how we explain things, we always end up referring back, consciously or unconsciously, to our own thought and experience.