Challenge can become aggravation, and aggravation can spill over into abuse, especially when we parents react in anger. Do something together. Give their needs priority. Use praise to encourage positive behaviors. Note and comment on four good behaviors for every one you correct.
Children thrive on praise and appreciation.
Praise accentuates the positive, which will then tend to crowd out the negative. Tell them what you do want them to do not just what not to do. Rehearse desired behaviors with your children before the troublesome situations occur. Ten seconds can be the difference between an abusive parent and an excellent one. Have your partner, relative or a friend relieve you when you re stressed.