I suspect the latter. I look forward to hearing from you. I encourage those of you who are reading Dew to write to Kathy Ross and give her your answers to Charles' question. Below is the brief response I wrote in answer to Charles' question. The Calvinists will give you the most plain and blunt answer.
Man is by nature totally depraved and worthy of death.
All others are destined to their 'just desert,' that is, a miserable existence of eternal torment in a fiery lake which will never be extinquished. Some leading Calvinsist even write that heaven would not truly be heaven without the existence of the vast hordes of mankind being punished with exquisite sufferings. You are repulsed at such a God, and rightfully so. Yet when removing 20 letter words from the long winded Calvinist Reformed sermons, the picture of God is truly a fiend. Charles, you should be repulsed at such a view.