A study in the Washington Post says that women have better verbal skills than men. The best way to get husbands to do something is to suggest that perhaps they are too old to do it. Shirley McLaine Magic is the art of changing nothing into something. Men are always whining about how we're suffocating them. Personally, I think if you can hear them whining, Your're not pressing hard enough on the pillow.
Feathers provide a more natural death.
If pressing hard won't work, the tiny downs might tickle nose and other body parts and cause a ruptured diaphram - very painful. Down molds itself around obstacles. Feathers can be laundered in the washing machine and reused. Feathers have a long history and might remember and therefore work more efficiently. The price of hating other human beings is loving oneself less.