You don't say how old your children are but whatever their ages abuse effects their lives. Sometimes we will protect our children from things we can't protect ourselves from. Listen to Dr. Irene, George, she knows what she is talking about and the books she has posted to read are life altering. I promise you information can change your point of view. To understand why we behave in a certain way and that there are patterns to this horrible stuff can help ease the pain and guilt we sometimes feel.
Information is power.
It is well written and she has walked in the same shoes. She gives a powerful explanations as to why good people like you and me end up hurt, broken, and in pain. I think you are making a big step to write to Dr. Irene. You see something is wrong and it is time for change. Anyone that can walk home from the hospital has some grit.