Attention can only come from the individual himself. Presence is motivating and can stimulate presence. Note that attention and presence are not synonymous. In paying attention to how we are, we do not become more present. Self-consciousness, which can be painful in the extreme, can contribute to a deficit in our relationship to others.
Attention folds back on itself, leaving little energy to be present for others.
It would be a strange fate if those tools that are designed to help us communicate also contribute to our being increasingly absent to others. Each of us has experienced distraction due to the attraction of communication technologies. It is not easy. Something in our attitude to the technology authorises us to break with former deep-set rules of politeness. Some people find it difficult to talk and drive, as if the attention necessary to drive make it impossible for them to participate in a conversation.