Therefore, the pastor should be contacted at least as early as the wedding director. Our children have been fortunate to have had pastors who provided good premarital counseling and helped them understand and participate in planning the service. Such participation can minimize dramatic showdowns over appropriate music at the last minute. The heart of the service is the exchange of vows and the blessing of the couple in God's presence. In that moment the guests become witnesses, potential resource people for the health or healing of the marriage in the years ahead.
Friendship sometimes replaces kinship as the link to a sympathetic ear and good advice.
My wife, Jutta, and I have learned that we can't expect our children to spend every holiday with us. We need to let the newlyweds establish their own life, even when that means we see less of them and are sometimes surprised by their plans. We are trying to honor that principle as we help our son and his future wife prepare for a special Saturday in October. 8765 w. higgins rd. This site designed and maintained by Lorel K. Fox .