You ve become very attached to this kid and he to you. So it s off to dig a grave, say a prayer and wonder why people think cats are disposable. If you do please read my page on raising a newborn and get involved - if you don t please write to me and tell me why you should be exempt from my scorn. Spaying and Neutering is probably the most important thing you can do for your new pet. We have all heard the arguments against these procedures.
Lets start with neutering.
If this is done at an early age, before the hormones ever kick, in you will eliminate a lot of unwanted behavior. I have 7 adult males living with me right now and none of them sprays. They simply don't know how, not that they don't behave inappropriately at times, but they never spray. A neutered cat will not go out roaming around at night looking for that ever elusive female. Actually for many of the same reasons you neuter.