The gender therapists I know value the truths their clients discover. As in any other coming-out process, we work with our clients to help them determine how much or how little of what they learn about themselves they may choose to disclose, and how, and to whom, at each stage of their transitions. I hope it is also clear that I find the questions Gender Outlaw raises to be so important I am willing to argue when I disagree with Bornstein's answers. This is not a book that anyone concerned with the nature of gender has the right to ignore. Gender is not the issue.
Gender is the battlefield.
Or the playground. The issue is us versus them. Any us versus any them. One day we may not need that. If you're new to this site, we strongly recommend that you visit our home page to get a better sense of all that we have to offer.