Rapists are ordinary men with more ordinary men's conditioning than usual. Facing that society is to blame not any man is at the hart of men's work in this area. Responsibility for recovering is the personal responsibility of every man. Working and Fighting - On leaving school most men go through the hardest and loneliest time of their lives. After leaving school men just work.
Life is about work.
All the priorities in a man's life are distorted so that work comes first. You're a man because of your work. Health, relationships, well-being all come second. The conditioning feels like you have to work like this in order to survive. The way society is organised fits this feeling exactly.