As with the Israelites in the above passage of Ezekiel, the Father will stretch His hand to crash our stony heart and the old man that reigns in it. After the crash, we will remember Him as they did. In the pain of crashing He will come to meet us, for He speaks with the contrite in the heart. I don't want even to look at what I did. However let's not have false expectations.
Every crash brings pain.
And the crash of the old man brings pain and is done through pain. But if you are without chastening, of which all have become partakers, then you are illegitimate and not sons. Furthermore, we had human fathers who corrected us , and we paid them respect. Thus we also reject the pain of the chastening of the Lord. We admit the pain we cause to our children chastening them, but we reject it when it comes to the Lord and our own chastening.