And, increased anxiety may increase the unwanted behavior. Yet, concluding you are not responsible for unwanted behavior may very likely decrease your anxiety and decrease your self-improvement efforts. Fortunately, all feelings can be viewed as natural, as neither good nor bad. However, it is easy to see how we come to believe that thoughts and feelings are bad. So, we learn to deny or dislike or feel guilty about many feelings.
Feelings usually leak out Feelings usually find a way to express themselves, however.
You may try to suppress the feelings and deny being upset or angry. You may not be aware of the true nature of your emotions but they can still have an effect on your life. Another rare example is a woman who has spontaneous orgasms. One possible explanation is that sexually arousing fantasies were occurring unconsciously. There are lots of things, especially feelings, going on inside of us that we don't know about.