And the ex-spouse should do whatever possible to accommodate the request. The child will then see both parents love him or her enough to help one another out, J. One parent should not move halfway across the country. It makes the child wonder why one parent doesn't care as much as the other, even if it's not true. Both parents should remain in regular contact to update each other on simple things like school reports and the child's current interests. Both parents need to tell their children they are loved.
Children often blame themselves for the divorce.
They need to hear directly from you that it is not their fault and that you love is unconditional.