We walk into a room, and we start making connections, assumptions, conclusions. The prize will go to those men's groups that can learn and anticipate the way men of different generations and backgrounds encounter and connect with groups. The social lubricant of empathy is based on real and perceived connections, the power of which should not be underestimated. If I walk into a room where I perceive no empathy, or little potential for it, I will be very uncomfortable. Empathy can be communicated by groups in very simple ways.
Basic hospitality speaks volumes.
The church today is segregated enough without that. In fact, I don't think people really, truly want to hang out in a bland group with no variety. OK, maybe some do. My experience of the young is that they are comfortable with, even yearn for, exciting, diverse social and spiritual groups. Yes, the male bond can be a draw for some.