While these are generally pleasant they can catch you by surprise. It feels as if the baby has taken your place. You feel pushed away and not as important. As all attentions are focused on the baby and your wife, you are surprised to feel some similar feelings to when you were little and your baby sister or brother arrived. The added burden of being the sole breadwinner may make you feel like the task is simply too big.
Babies are unpredictable and can cry a lot.
Some babies have a cry that is disturbing and that only stops when their mothers hold them. It can be frightening to feel so helpless. Talk up a Storm Finding a way to express what you are going through will help more than almost anything. Make sure that you take some time to talk with your partner every day, to catch up with each other on what has happened and how you are feeling. Even if you only manage to snatch 10 minutes at the beginning or the end of the day.