She raised all her children With patience and love. Never once did she give them A spank, shake or shove. When they became fathers and mothers. Kindness, not force, Is the gift that keeps giving. When teaching children how to behave, parents can select positive words to get their point across, according to Dr. Diane Treadwell-Deering, a psychiatrist at Texas Children's Hospital in Houston.
Experts say kids do best when parents are specific.
Setting realistic, age-appropriate limits can help children know what is expected of them. Hammer said kids can be flexible. They know that they can do certain things at Grandma's house that they can't do at Aunt Alice's. By age 14, adolescents start to question those rules. So they are testing to be sure they want to buy into those rules.