Not if we compare our quality of love to what it should be. Naturally, this viewpoint requires humility and repentance-which are hard to muster up. Arrogance is horribly sneaky, and it's very easy to blame our spouse for all of our marital difficulties. He or she does need to love more. Determining, with repentance, to love more will liberate us, and stimulate us to improve our relationship with our spouse.
Love is like magic.
When we express beautiful, unselfish concern, care and love for someone, and serve them with the same heart, the other person can't escape the impact of our love. The person may ignore it, or try to run away from it, but if we give our love to the other person endlessly, without limitation, the object of our love will inevitably respond. Because ultimately, everyone wants to be loved, and to love in return. That one fact should give us unlimited confidence in the power of unselfish love. After fourteen years of marriage to my wonderful wife, I can see the walls of our castle rising around us, built by our mutual commitment and effort.