I find it hard to believe. I find it hard to believe too. It sounds like he is just upset and is trying to hurt you. Love comes with time. Infatuation is very rushed and insistent and there is a lot of insecurity and you want all of their time.
Love is much more confident and more caring and much more willing to be apart.
If she is having a climax, then let her decide if she wants any improvements. She might be happy with what she has. Keep doing this over and over. However, it is a little tricky because sometimes if you change the stimulation, then your wife could miss the whole thing. Make sure your wife knows what you are trying to do and she can advise you.