I do not expect some woman who had no obligation or ties to me on a personal level to show any loyalty to me. But my H should have. The difference is having a spouse who won't let them in. Love is meant to heal. Love is meant to renew.
Love is meant to oust all fear.
Love is meant to harmonize differences. Love is meant to bring us closer to God. The first thing I felt when the other woman died was relief. It had just began. The other woman's dead will not bring you peace.