There are certain exercises women need to focus on since our bodies are different from men. Women need to focus on incline presses to develop the upper chest muscles. This can be done with dumbbells, barbells or the Smith machine. Also incline flies are important to help develop the separation in the upper pecs. The average lat pull down bar curves down and the curve is where you would grip the bar.
Lat pull downs to the front is one great exercise.
Close grip pull downs to your chest and seated rows are also great for women. To develop your delts, you do not have to lift heavy like a man. High reps when doing shoulders is key . This is so that you can lift heavy and quickly drop the weight and keep the set going with the lighter weight until you feel the burn. This is called drop setting .