The negative impact of a divorce is not canceled out by new conditions or changes that may be positive. Put simply, divorce is bad for children. At best, a divorce or separation may help prevent abuse between parents that is a result of living together. This does not mean neglectful, abusive or retaliatory behavior won't occur. Children don't grasp or appreciate how parents can stop loving each other, separate or divorce.
Children lose some degree of trust in others or themselves.
They often fear that one or both parents may abandon them. They can feel guilty even when they have nothing to do with the turmoil between parents. They feel especially guilty when they created conflict or were the source of conflict between parents. Divorce often makes parenting and raising children more difficult. If there were conflicts or disagreements over parenting before a divorce, those problems will usually be worse and not better after the divorce.