I try to talk calmly, and not push people, but the slightest touch on some subjects hits like a sledgehammer. The nerves are exposed. I feel like we need to call an amnesty. Ok, we have behaved badly. All of us, at some point.
Lets get together, forgive each other and get on with fixing the problems.
Lets deal with tough issues, we won't dwell on the past, but on the present. Lies will eventually destroy a person, will destroy a whole society. This is a description of behavior, not intent. There are an infinite number of ways to do this. Or the words too absolutist, not enough conditionals.