Then only one issue at a time can be addressed so the problem is manageable. If there is another problem from the past blocking current communication, list it as one of the issues in this conflict. It may have to be dealt with before the current conflict can be resolved. Tony, we've had our disagreements. I'd like us to put those aside today and work together on this community project.
Individuals have to be willing to address the conflict.
We are likely to resist if we feel we are being forced into negotiations. I think we should talk about what happened this morning. Let's schedule a time when we could visit. Avoid reacting to unintentional remarks. Anger will increase the conflict rather than bring it closer to resolution.