Then they start to seem a little too jealous. They may start putting the person down when they talk. Often the victim starts feeling worthless. Eventually, the violence begins. By that time, abused victims may feel like they deserve the abuse, or may blame themselves.
Many abusers feel guilty after the abuse.
They may be very loving after it is over. They may promise that it will never happen again. But sooner or later, it will. Abusers almost always blame the victim. If only you would not do this or that, they would not have to hit you.