Frequent sexual activity within marriage is a good way to help one another resist temptation. If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
Love is more than just heroic deeds on someone's behalf.
Love for a spouse is more than working hard and bringing home a paycheck. It is more than caring for the kids, cleaning, and cooking. Love is more than knowing a lot or accomplishing great acts of faith or doing good deeds. Love means cleaning out your insides about how you look at people, how you think about people, and how you treat people. It is never wasted effort.