Get into group therapy. Read a popular book on success in marriage. These approaches have some merit, but the first step in solving any problem is to make sure we have a right relationship with God, and then seek His wisdom. Lord, help us to look to You and Your Word as the first step in solving our problems. Give me the precious words by Jesus spoken, Hold up faith's lamp to show my Savior near.
Many books can inform, but only the Bible can transform.