Yet He still gives His commands, His pattern for us to follow. He beckons us into that pattern, and challenges us to change so that our lifestyle fits with it more and more. Therefore, a church that clearly presents the pattern of Christ is better suited to draw homosexuals into change that one which is afraid to present that pattern. In other words, discipleship must be a part of the life of that church. A primary motivation for change has been fear-fear that otherwise they will not be found acceptable to God or to other people.
Fear is a poor motivation for change.
It has no power. Perfect love casts out fear. Love is a far better motivation for change than fear. We are not talking about superficial. This, unfortunately, is not what most individuals struggling with homosexuality experience in churches.