Everyone knows it, too. There is no Sammy the Bull moment when you decide to sell out and successfully get a new life. When Pussy tried just such a thing to save his own ass when he was caught selling H, Tony found out and bought a yacht for the occasion of killing one of his dearest friends. You talk, you die. The gangster enclave is sacrosanct, and so are the roles everyone plays.
Guys are guys, and gals know their place.
Working wives don t exist, but these gangster women are anything but weak or lame, and are instead matriarchal feminists. The matriarchal power of the Soprano women is awesome, though they can hardly keep their boys from being boys. After all, men are all pigs in Mobworld, with certain things expected. Fucking chicks other than their wives is something the guys do for sport, pure testosterone venting. It s La Famiglia tradition that men will act like men, while never subjecting themselves to going down on women, getting below, if you will, worshiping the goddess.