Security supports us in feeling safe. This can also feel like love. The more money you have, the more safe you feel, the more loved you feel. If you were given more attention when you were sick or ill as a child, you may still believe that you need this pattern to get noticed. If you were healthy and well you risk the experience of no one caring about you.
Doctors can feel like surrogate parents.
They give you attention, advice, and hopefully encouragement. All the things you needed as a child. Your sickness may be a way to keep you from living your life fully or taking responsibility for your life because you feel incapable and afraid. It is something to fall back on when you need to escape and want to hide. I have to suffer to get love People in abusive relationships are creating this pattern and are not familiar with healthy love and how it operates in a relationship.