If you could somehow let go of your resisting, you would restore your peace of mind. You could then take the action you need to effectively handle that area of your life. The moment you let go, everything seems to change. With the fear and upset gone, you become creative and able to discover solutions you could never have seen before. To see this another way, let's look at the nature of fear.
Fear is created by the avoiding and resisting of some future possible event.
For example, let's say that you are married and that you are resisting the possibility of your spouse leaving. The more you resist this future possible event, the greater your fear. As your fear increases, so does the chance of your fear coming true. You become threatened and hang on even more. This in turn pushes your spouse further and further away.