Do not take unnecessary chances trying to convince people to change their loyalties, for if they can be disloyal to your husband, they might turn on you, too. She added a nice touch to her chance encounter with her estranged husband Sam's business partner. Cindy volunteered that she was sympathetic to their decrease in European business because her own company also suffered enormous losses. Sam's partner later reported back to him that he believed Cindy would agree to send their son to a state university at great savings to both parents. Sam was convinced that Cindy would go along with his plans, and thus let his guard down, never anticipating Cindy's lightning strike for financial records.
Grandparents care deeply about their grandchildren, so they are likely interlopers.
When grandparents see their son dissipating assets to the detriment of the grandchildren, they might take action. Ex-wives also can be interlopers, proving that divorce, like politics, makes strange bedfellows. Form an alliance with the ex-wife, a divorce war veteran who knows your husband's wartime strategies. But be careful. You may be competing with her for alimony and child support unless she is remarried and has grown children.