They try to find common ground by conflict resolution skills such as compromise. The ways the two of you send and receive nonverbal messages works. This means that not only are your words understood by your partner, but your intent is also clear as well. When the nonverbals are understood less, communication snafus occur. Both partners can express their affection in words more or less equally.
Equality works best here.
Q. I've been married for more than 25 years to my wife. She never wants to touch me, and we have sex about once a year. When we do, she looks as though she's gritting her teeth and that it's the worst punishment anyone could ever inflict on another human being. I love my wife, but I miss physical contact with her. What an unfortunate circumstance for both of you.