It's like a reservoir that is not being refilled. Even though the loving is good for a while, it drains away. But when you feel love as something inside yourself, a feeling you have, it is constantly renewed. When I am successful in this, my ego doesn't get in my way. Problems with others tend to fade.
Life is good.
It's a shift in perspective, a shift towards the positive. This distinction is key. When something is not OK with you, you have to change your situation. Do what you have to do, just do it in a gentle, positive way. Love without strength just makes you into a victim.