I know he believe he means them now, and that's whats important. The thing is that you can't carry all this extra stuff around with you. You have to decide to make this marriage work and then every time those feelings come up on you re-decide to let go of them and make this marriage work. This isn't easy but nothing about a successful marriage is, it is hard work. But you will find that it will become like a second habit, not paying attention to those extra little nagging things.
Life gets better.
It's a long way down to that place you started from and your getting farther and farther away from it every day. Thanks to all those who have replied. It feels good to vent and know that my feelings are normal. Through this whole thing I have been trying to remind myself that he did this in the past. It's not part of my present life, but I still hurt just the same.