Fear of intimacy is fear of the truth. Your truth is better for you than someone else's. Just get to know what it is so you can own it. If your relationship is not getting better, it is probably getting worse. Life is dynamic and nothing ever stays the same.
Every relationship is unique.
It takes what it takes to work. If you want it to work, you have to work it. It's not your job to fix your mate, and it's not his or her job to fix you. Take the relationship and what your mate says at face value and stop reading into it what you'd like to hear. We can work with what's real.