Women need to take one day at a time and be patient with themselves. Once the immediate crisis has passed, it is likely that sexual interest will return. You may not look the same, but you still have the same needs and desires as you had before illness struck. Friends and loved ones will continue to love and value you as long as you let them. Bloom where you are planted.
Loved ones are usually glad to nurture the new growth.
Overcoming the shock of new scars, missing body parts and the existence of cancer itself is not an overnight process. Yet a cancer diagnosis can't stop the mind from creating new forms of sexual expression. Experiment and explore different ways of achieving intimacy including touching, holding, kissing, massage, and just being close. Change takes time, and you could take the pressure off intercourse by contracting with your partner for a specific period of abstinence. Then use this time to explore and rediscover your own sensuality.