Spend time focusing on the value of your virginity, your celibacy or your marriage. Seek support and advice about your sexual concerns from a mature, understanding and compassionate friend who will maintain confidentiality. You need to take this step carefully and cautiously, determining over time the level of self-disclosure you can share. But we all need to be accountable. When you find such a friend, make that person your accountability partner.
Honest communication is crucial to sexual adjustment in marriage.
Share your feelings and concerns with your mate. Sex and intimacy mean something quite different for women than for men. Open discussion can help you better understand each other's needs and viewpoints. What occupies one's mind will inevitably influence one's actions. Reject the use of pornographic books, magazines and films.