It is so hard to believe in what my own heart tells me because my husband is always trying to convince me that I am creating problems where there are none, that I AM the problem. He purposely misses every point I try to make, and confuses the issues until I end up seeming ridiculous, nitpicky, and impossible to please. But I do not believe that it is a true marriage when one of the spouses does not put his or her spouse first. I don't think it is love. I think it expresses an inability to love, an egocentric or selfish personality, an insatiable want that cannot be satisfied by anything but more, more, more.
Love is the only thing satisfies spiritually.
Thanks for the reality check. He has also been extremely controlling, manipulative and deceptive. He did it recently. Lied to me about an event in such a way that I did know it was a party, and did not know I had been invited, until somebody screwed up, called me, and asked if I was coming. He can split the issues in any discussion into such little pieces, all you have left is kindling when he's done.