Forget cuddling in front of the TV or a romantic fire for the big discussion. Instead, take a walk or go out for a cup of coffee together. Starting the conversation may be rough, so here is a way to lighten it up a bit. Talking about other couples you suspect are having sex can be a fun ice breaker. And remember, take your time.
Important decisions take way long to figure out.
What's most important is that you and your partner are comfortable enough with each other to actually have a mature discussion about sex, which brings us back to the intimacy factor. My boyfriend and I had talked about having sex for awhile, and by the time we were actually ready, we were close and comfortable with each other. We could talk about anything. Talking about such an intimate thing can definitely bring a couple closer together, without actually having sex. Sex is a big deal.