I meant it literally. I really hated him moping around the house, giving me puppy eyes because he was sad, and wanting to talk about our relationship all the time because he was feeling neglected. He pushed me into withdrawal years ago because I couldn't deal with the stress of his demands. I viewed his hurt demeanor as another one of his tricks to bend my will toward whatever it was he wanted at the moment. And, if you think about it, it was.
Happiness is contagious.
You wouldn't believe how I dreaded being around him while he is depressed, because it makes me feel either guilty, or angry, or some other negetive emotion. What I wanted was for him to come home - happy. And stay - happy. Not get irritated and out of sorts when one of the kids misbehaved, but calm and patient and - happy. I don't know how that fits into ENs.