It is likely, however, that it is you who will not want to be present. Although things have not worked out in the marriage, the two of you still have two children to raise together. Speak with your husband about keeping the children out of your conflict as much as possible. Also, reassure them that they will continue to be loved and cared for by the two of you. Let your children know that your love for one another has changed, but that your love for them remains strong and constant.
Divorce is painful and it is traumatic for children and spouses.
Still, how parents handle divorce makes the difference in their children's healthy adjustment or potential maladjustment. Here are guidelines that family researchers have identified to help ease this transition. Avoid a change in your residence, or change in the schools your children attend, if at all possible. Children need a support system of friends, teachers and other adults to help them through this change. Reduce immediate financial stress by taking a loan from relatives, if necessary.