Rather than an unending parade of events overwhelming our ability to do anything, other than take them as they come, hoping and praying they don't do us in, we take charge. The essential ingredient in all this is commitment . Commitment to the idea of liberating myself. Commitment to myself and the effort it will take to free me up to be myself. Commitment to each other that we will, at minimum, never deliberately undermine each others' quest for liberation.
Liberation is a beautiful word.
We are, therefore, afraid of many aspects of liberation, since it focusses attention on ourselves, not hidden, nor exploited but standing tall unto ourselves. We are by training afraid, especially of who we will discover we are. That we may not like who we discover and those who love us may not love the woman we become. However, if we are loved for the lie we pretend we are, we are not in fact loved at all. And if the woman we become when we let ourselves discover who we are is rejected, then our integrity is at stake.