Non-verbalized expectations can undermine satisfaction with a relationship. Expectations beyond human capacity will overwhelm and bring bitterness. The increased availability of internet has opened a door to porn that can lead to addiction and often destruction of the marriage as well as ministry for many pastor couples. Gambling has also left many relationships torn apart. The isolation of ministry couples can leave mates lonely and frustrated.
False intimacy becomes attractive because it makes less demand than an authentic relationship.
Time together is essential. Business or ministry failure . Failure is a relative term and is often determined by perception rather than fact. Failure can leave a pastor devastated and emotionally empty. The intoxication of success can subtlety demand more and more time.