Men suffer in silence and therefore internalize their pain leading to an increase in other symptoms such as depression and anxiety. The depression and anxiety, in turn, increase the pain experienced. It can be a long battle to regain a pain-free status. There are many books out there promoting many different ways to deal with pain. The main theme in most approaches is exercise.
Exercise is one of the best treatments for pain because it releases the body's own pain-killers.
Being bed-ridden for any amount of time has got to be the world's most boring situation. It won't relieve you of pain either. Getting out of bed, even if some pain is experienced, will go a long way towards regaining control of your life. You can control the pain. Don't let pain control you.