Now we begin to see the unhealthy games of needy love we have chosen. We usually select a mate based on their ability to supplement our perceived lacks. We feel, albeit subconsciously, that by some miraculous or manipulative method we can exchange attributes with our mate and thereby supply each other with what we individually lack within ourselves. Yet when it finds the special relationship in which it thinks it can accomplish this it gives itself away and tries to 'trade' itself for the self of another. There is no greater misfortune than to mistake codependency for love.
Love gives and asks for nothing in return.
In the Game of Life we choose when and where we play, which teammates become our fellow players and who becomes our opposition. All our uniforms may match and we may be well rehearsed, but as ego-driven beings we usually choose from a psychological place of lack. But as we confront our partners in a love match we soon realize we don't understand the goal of the game. We don't know how to win. That's because we have our games confused.