It may also reassure you to realize that the sort of comparisons you describe lessen with the wisdom and maturity that come with age. When you reach midlife and realize that time doesn't stretch out forever in front of you, it's harder to waste it. Sometimes such comparisons will even spur us on to better ourselves . They come from tapping into our own creativity and personal pleasures, from developing our competence and our connections, from enhancing and participating in friendship, intimacy and community, from living in accord with our deeply held values and priorities, and from grabbing some peace of mind along the way. Living well is the work of a lifetime that demands our full attention.
Every human life is unique and every human life has value .
We're not meant to be anyone else but ourselves. We all face the challenge of living the life we have, not the life we imagined having, the life we wish for or the life we are quite certain we deserve. So do whatever it takes to let go of those comparisons. Life is too short to let any of us really have that kind of time. All rights reserved.