112 Paradox may be a client s intuitive response as well as planned response. Clients may be encouraged to pretend that they have even more symptoms, such as anxiety and embarrassment, or they may be urged to yell more than usual. Before using paradoxical instructions, therapists must study appropriate application of this technique. Numerous authors contend that adults who were unloved and uncared for as children may never become nurturing. With parenting education and other interventions, such as role modeling, role playing, and resolution of childhood trauma, they may, however, learn to parent appropriately.
Many abusive parents feel frightened and inadequate.
Their poor self-esteem is expressed through overly submissive or overly aggressive behaviors. They need to learn appropriate assertiveness, how to negotiate for what they want, how to compromise, or how to persuade without yelling and hitting. Families, Inc. crisis workers advocate for their clients to receive more adequate support services. This includes coordination with other community providers to assure quality living conditions and services both during and after the intervention. Concrete services are an important part of the intervention and include arranging for necessities such as food, clothing, housing, health care, and financial assistance.