You simply need time to readjust and reorient your expectations. Grant your spouse, family, and close friends the space to reorient as well. Talk out your feelings with someone you trust-a person who can listen and not dictate how to deal with these emotions. This person might be a relative, friend, minister, priest, or rabbi. You might choose to work with a psychologist, social worker, counselor, psychiatrist, or pastoral counselor.
Advocacy organizations can sometimes recommend experienced therapists.
Friends may also be able to recommend someone. You are a problem solver. Get in touch with other parents of kids with disabilities. Parents of children older than yours may also be helpful in charting difficult turns of the trail. Keep a balance in maintaining friends who have children with and without disabilities.