Likewise, when we are working with ourselves, it may be difficult not to respond to our own unwanted behavior. In addition to your reactions, you have to eliminate reactions from others too in order to extinguish a response. Suppose you get attention by being loud, by being critical, by bragging, or by telling embarrassing ethnic jokes, but you want to stop. They might help you monitor your behavior and point it out when you goof up. Carry out the plan.
Extinction usually works slowly.
They frequently get mad, even though no punishment is involved. So, with yourself, expect to feel some frustration. But stick with it. Whenever a void is created by doing away with a behavior, it is important to be sure that reasonable, valued and desirable behavior takes its place. Work on strengthening the desired responses.