In my work with addicts, I have found that for the most part, such behaviour doesn't occur in a vacuum. Rarely do I see addictive behaviours in healthy, well-adjusted teens from loving, supportive homes. Neglect, abuse or serious dysfunction within the family tend to be contributing factors. If you have a good home life, and generally keep pretty good tabs on where your teens are, both physically and emotionally, you ll have a sense whether they re in danger from drug or alcohol abuse. If you re worried about it, you can ask what s going on, but unless you have had open lines of communication all along, it may be difficult for your teen to open up to you.
Addictions often lead to guilt and shame, and addicts do their best to hide their problem.
If you suspect addiction, you may want to talk to others who know your child their teachers, counsellors, friends to see if they see the same thing as you do. If your suspicions are confirmed, this may be the time to seek professional help. However, do guard against being overly suspicious and vigilant as a parent. It will drive your child further from you at a time when they may need you most. Leslie Ellis is a therapist in private pratice in Deep Cove.