Grief needs a voice, whether it be words, tears or laughter. Not talking creates a pressure cooker for grief. We know tears of sadness are biochemically different than tears of joy or tears from peeling onions. She saved me, too, Robert. I also think it's important to save yourself.
Friends are vital in getting through grief.
We are each responsible for our own grief. But we need support to do the work. If you are the grieving caregiver in the family you can't take on everyone's grief. Grief is the hardest thing you will ever face. Makes you feel soooo alone.