All sex that involves opening the heart is risky to some extent. Intimacy requires vulnerability, and vulnerability carries with it the possibility of being hurt. While we usually think of our emotions as most at risk when we think of intimacy, the sense of putting our physical selves in the line of fire as well may be a craving that isn t fully conscious. We want to be fully present during sex, and this may be one way to do it. Sadly, safer sex information often subtly trivializes gay sex.
Little attention is paid to how important cum is to many men, for instance.
If ejaculate is discussed at all, it s only in discussing ways to keep it out of your body. That s treated as a small price to pay for avoiding infection. This misses the meaning of sex for many men. It is in some ways the essence of male erotic energy and power. It s warmth and wetness, taste and fragrance captivate our senses.