Humbling experiences teaches. In the end, all deception is self-deception. I am nothing. I do not even exist. My physical being is just a pattern of space and time.
Fate is mere co-incidence, a flight into the face of belief.
Co-incidence is part of the illusion, a clue from the dreamer to the dreamt. It is as unhelpful to be over positive as it is to be fatalistic. Find balance, look to the centre where all is calm. What is past is past. The legions of embarrassment are not a reality.