You can get so used to doing everything yourself that you unconsciously lock your husband out the joys of being included at home. Children need to see their daddies actively participating in family life, in the chores and childcare as well as the fun and games. If your partner has difficulty understanding why chores need to be shared, it may be worthwhile to arrange for a few days when he can be the primary caregiver. My husband learned a lot about the everyday challenges and pleasures of parenting and housekeeping when I attended my college reunion in another state one weekend. If your partner works a standard 40 hour week, or even longer, he may have little time with his children each week.
Fathers often fear becoming strangers in their own homes.
This is one issue where your attitude can make a significant difference in how fathers and children view one another. Make it a point to enhance the relationships. Another side to this issue is the father who, because his job is stressful, lacks the energy to be an active parent. He may disappear behind a newspaper, sink into a chair in front of the television, bring office work home, immerse himself in a solitary hobby or make plans to socialize with friends. The one thing he doesn't do is plunge into family life.