Anything can happen. An optimal sexual encounter is the paradigm of productive play. The participants potentiate each other's pleasures, nobody keeps score, and everybody wins. The more you give, the more you get. In the ludic life, the best of sex will diffuse into the better part of daily life.
Generalized play leads to the libidinization of life.
Sex, in turn, can become less urgent and desperate, more playful. If we play our cards right, we can all get more out of life than we put into it, but only if we play for keeps. Excerpted from an essay written by Bob Black in 1985. It may be distributed, translated, or excerpted freely.