Many would say that, since the rule includes not harming oneself, that it is indeed wrong to cause pain to someone who wants it. I would agree with that thought if the person in question is depressed, suicidal, or has impaired judgement. Pain is a concept, like love, that is difficult to define. For some people, pain and pleasure are very closely entwined, and are sometimes even one and the same. On the other side, the person causing the pain must also be comfortable with the situation, or that person could have very serious issues with guilt.
Guilt can be just as harmful as whips and chains, perhaps even more so.
The Pagan community is as varied and diverse as the world around it, and the whole world is therefore reflected in the microcosm of that community. It takes all kinds of people to make the world function, and it behooves us all to remember that the people we ridicule or ostracize have feelings and opinions just as valid as ours are. Yes, you can be a Pagan if you are homosexual, polyamorous, if you practice sadism or masochism, or if you have chosen one of the other infinite lifestyles out there. As long as you hurt no one, you can be anything you want. StormSong is 20 years old and is a student at New Mexico Institute of Mining and Technology.