Experts and therapists and programs and groups and friends and family members can be helpful in recovery, but our successes and our failures will be determined solely by our choices. We are each responsible for our own healing, thoughts, feelings, behaviors and triggers. Nobody can make us feel, think or do anything. Our triggers and our reactions to them can give us some very important insights into ourselves and where we have opportunities to learn, heal and grow. It isn't fair that we have the responsibility for our own healing from abuse we may have experienced at the hands of others, but we are the only ones who can heal ourselves, and life's not always fair.
Anonymity is crucial for some people participating in an abuse recovery environment .
For others, it is less important. Confidentiality in the routine participation in an abuse recovery environment is essential. Maintaining confidentiality and anonymity is a function of respect, safety and trust, rather than secrecy, shame or fear. Denial isn't de long river in Egypt . It's a coping skill that enables people to survive in intolerable circumstances.