You are too weak to fight back now after all of the mental anguish, and you end up in the hospital with a nervous breakdown. He threatens you physically, emotionally, and of course, denies it to beat hell. Before you know it, you are having to file charges of sexual abuse against your own father in order to protect your husband, kids, and self from charges of slander. This is THE toughest decision you have ever made in your life. You are informed that it will likely take up to two years of court battles before it is done, and that you will often feel as though you are the one in the wrong even though you are the victim.
Life seems cruel and mean.
Here is where you turn the painting upside down and look at it from a new perspective. During the last few months of this hell you have been living, you have been receiving counselling from Burden Bearers, and tons of help and support from Victim Services. Doug Birch from Burden Bearers, and his many volunteers, and Candice Oppen and her league of caretakers, genuinely care about their clients and you feel it. They start to show you a new way of looking at it, turning it to different angles, and suddenly you see the sun shining in a blue sky across striking snow capped mountains. Help them to help all of us.