How dare he not protect himself but more importantly me. This all happened before I figured out what was really going on. I am sure that the OW will deny everything and tell my H it is just a ploy of mine to get him back. Well it isn't a ploy. Sorry to ramble just feeling very down and miserable right now.
Endings are beginnings and beginnings are endings.
You are right, it's all in how you look at it. It is causing you great pain and it is destroying the love you had for him. Time to move on, make a new life for yourself. Detach yourself from your H, the OW and the problems they have. Stay away from them as much as possible so that they can't bring you any more problems.