This is the lesson of Saul on the Road to Damascus who was struck by the light of God and became transformed into Paul. This is the story of many that die and return to this life transformed. This is the story of conversion. One practice that really helps facilitate this self-transformation is meditation and the use of affirmation. Another is participation in a support group that fosters developing positive self-esteem or positive relationships.
Individual therapy is wonderful if it is spirit centered.
One of my favorite affirmations is I attract and accept love in my life. When dealing with others , it is often easy to be captured into nonloving behaviors because of very sophisticated manipulation by the person you wish to love. When one learns that life is dangerous or unloving, one works hard to maintain this reality. You know exactly what I mean if you think about the times people you have been involved with know the right buttons to push to make you strike out in anger. The one way past this barrier to giving and receiving love is to have a rescue remedy on hand.