The best way to answer your question is to say that most men look good in suits. It may be that you have had more instance to notice a black man in a purple suit, a rare experience on the whole, because some black men will tend to wear colored suits to stand out in a crowd. Being originally from Louisiana, where purple is one of the official state colors, I've had a chance to see several men of both races in purple suits. I wash my hair nearly every day, and shave. I've heard from other women that daily hair washing strips the scalp of natural oils, but that is untrue.
Hair is hair and requires daily washing, just like every other part of the body.
It seems like most black women have short hair, but maybe if they wash it it will grow. Every race, religion, ethnicity and culture imaginable calls the Big Apple home, so I don't understand why it seems to be so racially segregated and has so much racial tension. I'd think with this being nothing new, people would have learned by now to tolerate and accept each other. I'm very feminine. I love drag queens and all things campy, I love showtunes, Judy Garland, Liza Minnelli, Bernadette Peters, all the gay icons.