Do your giving in secret. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you. For the Son of Man is going to come in his Father's glory with his angels, and then he will reward each person according to what he has done. That was very helpful. Hugs and Appropriate Touch Thumbs-up Signs, Smiles, and a Beaming Parental Face 5.
Extinction means simply ignoring the behavior.
Use this tool for red herring, manipulative, or attention getting behaviors, such as debating, whining, or tantrums. Here is an example of extinction. Not every parent will agree with using this method in this circumstance, but it is food for thought. If they want to fight, let them fight. But as the parent, you have the right to say where the children can fight and under what conditions.