Fashion is important to both men and women, particularly those of upper classes. Government Elves have abandoned rule by one royal family. Instead, they rule by means of council or senate on which the city's royal line has a powerful seat and vote. Politics are complicated and shrewd among the elven senators, sometimes even culminating in duels between champions the senators sponsor. The cool stuff is where the fun fantasy elements come in, like magic.
Elves are still powerful manipulators of magic.
Now, they have formalized colleges for magical study. Rogue wizards are not recognized by the community, and a few are considered reckless criminals. There are also guilds devoted to the creation of magical artifacts. This re-invention of elves really takes away from my old favorite, the elven ranger. But there are new opportunities for other archetypes.