If the child is old enough to understand, explain the purpose of the visit. Let your son or daughter know what to expect during the visit. If you're not sure, call ahead and ask the doctor. Try to explain some positive or fun aspects of the doctor visit, such as the toys in the waiting room or the lollipop or toy you get at the end of the visit. At the very least, parents should avoid using the doctor as a threat for misbehavior.
Doctors can also take steps to ease a child's fears.
When possible the child should sit in the parent's lap during the exam. One doctor reports that blowing bubbles in the office or exam room is a great way to distract children and ease their fears. In the video, Elmo, a familiar, lovable Sesame Street character has an earache. When he finds out he needs to go to the doctor, he gets scared. The video shows what happens to Elmo at the doctor's office, from the exam and throat swab to getting an antibiotic.