I'm merely the instrument. Our loved ones will reach out to us when they feel they're ready for us. Just let it happen. They're always with us and hear us talking to them. The best thing we could do for them is always pray for them.
Future elements can come from a person's discernment.
The souls in the hereafter may feel that they can counsel us, but they cannot tell us what to do. It makes sense, so that we can learn and experience the lessons that the earth has to offer. They would be there to welcome us into the light. People never come back as animals. Everything comes back as their own species.