If you are looking for men to fill a space inside of you that only you can fill, you are likely to be unsuccessful in relationships. Working long hours may be fine for your career, but it can play havoc on your social life. Doing volunteer work or socializing primarily with non-gay folks is fine, but you may want to think about spending time with other gay men as well if your goal is a romantic relationship. Consider a change of social patterns to bring your self into greater contact with potential partners. Instead of always having coffee alone at home, think about hanging out at the local coffee bar.
Human beings are social creatures.
Connecting with others is good for us and is one way we nurture ourselves. John R. Ballew, M.S., is a licensed professional counselor in private practice in Atlanta. He specializes in issues related to coming out, sexuality and relationships, spirituality and career.