If the environment is suboptimal, the best potentialities of our genes cannot be realized. You made a lot of bad choices. Again, this has a plausible ring, but little if anything more than that. We want the comfort and security of habit and the memory of love and first awakenings. We don't want to be cast adrift.
Disturbing questions suggest themselves.
But you can't run, you can't hide, and you can't go home again. Life goes on, and the past is out of reach. They do not necessarily have answers that we will like, or any unequivocal answers at all. The universe is not necessarily user-friendly. On Level One we ignore some of the subtleties and take first things first.