It's a flat-out choice, friends. Don't let anyone tell you different. On the other hand, when I neglect them, I become exhausted and fatigued.
Life stops being fun.
I become relationally detached. I begin to see people as just another obligation or responsibility. I become suspicious, cynical, impatient and irritable. I going to examine how tough times might actually be helping me. And I'm going to stop depending on my ability to do even these things.