He made no errors. And He brought you into the world exactly where He wanted you to be. And while many frown upon their circumstances, they fail to see God personally involved in the details if their lives. It is unfortunate that most of the church world has missed this. Whatever God is doing in you as in individual must be abandoned if it does not fit the image established way back wherever.
Fellowship can never be authentic because it is cluttered with many conditional boundaries.
There is no motivation to grow beyond what has been established as the traditional view of righteousness. If you do not seem to fit a traditional mold, let me introduce you to the prophet Amos. God called Amos to take a message to the king. But the Lord took me from tending the flock and said to me, Go, prophesy to my people Israel. No formal training, no family background, no experience whatsoever in this type of work.