After much prayer and time in the Word, God gave her the peace she needed. She did not feel that old deep hurt. When she remembered, it was with knowledge only and not with a wounded heart. As she began to grasp this, she was able to move on with her life. People who fail to understand this may allow the devil to undo all the forgiveness that has been accomplished.
Forgiveness is a choice, a decision.
We choose to face the hurt and the hate in order to forgive. Forgiveness can be very difficult because it goes against everything we believe about fairness and justice. We want revenge. Because God demands it. God demands that we leave the offender, the abuser, in His hands.