To critically analyze everything someone says. Part of this is a learning process. A combination of many of these negative factors may indicate an unsafe person. The important thing is does the person tell you to think for yourself and find your own answers, and do they really mean this. I do not want any followers.
Friends are okay, though.
I am just another survivor healing. If what I am saying here today doesn t make sense to you right now or later, that is okay. I was tired of seeing other people take advantage of others, so I started a newsletter, Internet home pages and list serv. and conference. To help myself and others. You are your own leader.