Use books as a way to explore alternative ideas of masculinity. Just because your boy can read books on his own doesn't mean it's time to stop bedtime read-alouds, all the experts agree. And while books that are funny or scary can be an enjoyable way to end the day, don't be afraid to tackle some books that have messages about boys and fathers, boys and girls, and alternative ways to handle aggression. Take a long, hard look at your own teaching and parenting style. Big boys don't cry.
Boys take out the trash while girls help wash dishes and clean the kitchen.
Boys become athletes, but once past toddler age, they aren't encouraged to study art or music. Boys Will Be Men, by Paul Kivel, New Society Press, 1999. Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys, by Daniel Kindlon and Michael Thompson, Ballantine Books, 1999.