Aside from direct benefits that each gains from the agreement that emerges, successful negotiations allows both persons to observe themselves in a relationship that promotes rather than retards personal growth. This increases their desire to want to be with each other, which in turn contributes to the vitality and excitement of their marriage. Both find this situation very unsatisfying. Diana and Bill now have three possible choices. Bill may give in, but will likely feel resentful and powerless.
Greater distance is created and more barriers to intimacy are placed in their relationship.
The first type of deference can be a very creative experience, the second is destructive. Deference should always be considered, but in many situations, it is not a live option. The second choice is compromise . This means finding a meeting point at which each makes concessions to the other. Both lose something, and both gain something.