In normal relationships, we are affected by things our friends say and do, but our reactions are balanced. When we're emotionally dependent, a casual remark from our friend can send us into the heights of ecstasy or the pits of grief. If a close friend moves away, it is normal for us to feel sorrow and a sense of loss. If one of the partners in a dependent relationship moves, the other is gripped with anguish, panic and desperation. Set-ups for Emotional Dependency.
Emotional dependency comes as a surprise to most people.
Like Mary and Sarah, they don't see the problem coming until it has hold of them. However, dependencies don't happen in a vacuum. Definite elements in our personalities and situations can set us up for binding relationships. Sins and hurts from the past leave us vulnerable, too. Having an awareness of these set-ups helps us to know when we need to exercise special caution in our relationships.