To the degree that you seek the applause of man in place of the preferences of God is to the degree that you follow a path to destruction. Serve love as best you can without tarnishing it with your wants and needs.
Love brings no pain or discomfort, only radiant energy and peace of mind.
Any imperfections you think you have found in love, you have not found in love, you have found them in your wants and needs. You can choose to not serve love and attempt to exist without pain and discomfort, but you'll only be existing, not living. For love is life. Your pain and discomfort are beacons shining light on your wants and needs, warning you that your wants and needs are possibly setting you up to tarnish love. God grants you the free will to choose to serve love, so it is up to you to make your own choices.