In other words, discipleship must be a part of the life of that church. A primary motivation for change has been fear-fear that otherwise they will not be found acceptable to God or to other people. Fear is a poor motivation for change. It has no power. Perfect love casts out fear.
Love is a far better motivation for change than fear.
We are not talking about superficial. This, unfortunately, is not what most individuals struggling with homosexuality experience in churches. A person wanting to please God with his or her sexual desires and behavior needs other believers that he or she can confide in, pray with, be accountable to, learn from, and give back to. Relationships centered in Christ's love are an essential ingredient in homosexual healing. These relationships require a degree of honesty that is all too often lacking in American churches.