I am not willing to give up the good just to avoid the bad. They go together to make up the full existence. Both my way and the Stoics' way involve loss, but I think the loss I suffer is the lesser evil. I would much rather love and be affected and suffer, than to live my life in a steady state of indifference, unaffected by anything. I think that the Stoic cannot experience true love if he keeps the state of apatheia because the two are contraries.
Love is the state of desire, of feeling and passion.
Apatheia is just the opposite - it is a lack of desire, without passion. I think one cannot have a true relationship without suffering. Another difference I have with the Stoics is that I do not believe that as human beings, we are made to be invincible. Instead, we are made to suffer, to experience, to be affected. I think that instead of avoiding sorrow and denying our natural emotional responses to it by being apathetic, we should just experience the fullness of that feeling and accept it as a part of the human condition.