As part of the larger community, use your togetherness to contribute to the common good. Use your affinity groups to demolish, not build exclusionary structures in your community or where you work. Communicate extensively with other groups to alleviate their fears and suspicions of your group. Be an actor, not a victim. Becoming part of the diversity effort and creating solidarity with others does not require you to see yourself as a victim.
Diversity is about empowering a plural community.
Assuming victimhood is disempowering to self and others. When you have power, use it to everyone's advantage. Many successful diversity efforts owe much to the vision and leadership of men like yourself. You are the perfect person to do this work. Enjoy common identity with men and your many identities with others .