This is why we encourage women to either tell or show their partner what they would like the partner to do. Men often complain that if women would just tell them what they want, they would be glad to do it. They are mostly very eager to satisfy their partners. Men, seem as a group, to prefer the plain spoken message because they are sure then that they have understood it. Many times, however, this is the most difficult way for women to communicate their sexual messages.
Good sex involves communication from both people.
If you are unable to share sexual information in some way, or are unable to allow yourself to explore your sexuality, you may benefit from sexual therapy. Though I lived with my husband for two years before we got married, in all this time I have never been able to climax during intercourse unless I touch my clitoris at the same time. I have been able to climax when I masturbate, so I showed my husband how to do it when we have intercourse. He's not sure what's wrong either. A. Nothing is wrong.