Like birthing or grieving, forgiveness has its own timing, and goes at its own pace. The process of forgiveness cannot be forced, but only embraced and lived, day by day by day. Which brings us to one last observation. Forgiveness is a habit. It is not one isolated, momentous act.
Forgiveness is like hunger.
If you get hungry and eat a meal, your hunger will go away. But later on it will return. Forgiveness is a way of life. It can become a habit, just as holding onto grievances can become a habit. As we practice seeing people with these magic eyes, we will gradually come to see the deeper truth about ourselves, and about all people, including the ones who hurt us.