AND I'm afraid it would hurt H if he found out. It is said you shouldn't do anything in Plan A that you wouldn't do in marriage. I know that is referring to meeting needs you have no intention of continuing to meet. After all, I am still married despite my H's actions at the moment. Glad to hear wife is more in tune to your ENs.
Fishing is a very delicate tug of war.
You, being so much bigger and stronger than the fish, actually have more power and control. That's something interesting to think about. As a guy that has had many woman tell him to back off, I know that you ladies all have that capability. I feel like I'm cheating on my H just by letting this guy help me do work on the house. I think that some might call that a certain type of teasing I think my H is testing me in a way.