Children should understand that feeling angry is all right in itself. Anger often makes us want to change something about a situation that is unfair. But we all must be careful to deal with our anger so that it does not hurt others. We want children to learn how to act in situations where they feel anger. In general we want to teach them how to express their anger without getting into a fight and hurting anyone.
Children often act before they think in angry situations.
Help children avoid this by giving them ideas about other things to do in these situations. Children sometimes are too quick to think that the other person was mean on purpose. Somebody gets shoved or says something, and nobody stops to think that this might have started as an accident. Help children stop and ask themselves if the other child was being mean on purpose. Go over the situation and all the reasons why it might have been an accident.