Don't yell back. If you raise your voice you will lose control as well. You have a better chance of resolving the moment by keeping your voice down. This will effectively keep you much more in control. Talk it out later when they are calmer.
Communications are very important in maintaining a loving relationship.
Keeping it is more difficult. Anger and rage that is either too frequent or excessive for the present situation usually has its origin deeply rooted in the past. Anger destroys lovemaking and destroys relationships. Get deep-seated anger cleared up . Learn more about negative emotions .