It is amazing to realize that as we grow older, we all have a tendency to move farther away from ourselves. A good way to do a 'self-test' in this situation, is to simply 'be with yourself' for some quiet time. Reflection and meditation can take us to many truths. I have found it easier to change one small thing I am not happy with, than trying to change the entire picture all at once. I do believe that there is a lot of innate goodness and balancing our minds do subconsciously to get us through hard times.
Energy follows thought.
Really appreciating what we DO have, as opposed to what we would like to have, sometimes makes a signifcant difference. This is always an important element in healing that is often neglected. Yes, this is healing. If you are not happy with yourself or a certian situation, you must take action to heal it. The healing of the mind is one of our greatest challanges and one of our greatest triumphs when we achieve one small truth.