You should learn them. There are various ways to learn such skills, like enrolling in classes or job training. Of course, other methods are going to be slower and tougher, and sometimes they fail to get you the feelings you want. But feelings of strength and happiness you gain from your own efforts and activities are real, and stay with you. Think beyond yourself.
Adults think beyond themselves.
Paradoxically, thinking beyond yourself can give your life meaning and help you deal with your own problems. It's a lot of work. But you just made me do a lot of work to put this mail together. I hope you can do as much work on your own behalf.