They are for closure, and that is happening for me. I feel good about that. I planned A until H moved out of the house. I like plan B because I dont have to deal with the lies anymore. Still deal with hurt ,but it is improving.
H is headed straight for a divorce.
I am not happy the way things are going ,but I have no control over it. H is also doing a reverse plan B on me. I think because H did not love me anymore when he started affairs. I thought the goal of Plan B was to maintain good feelings and was for the mental health of the betrayed. That is my purpose anyway.