He has returned this in some ways, by being more helpful, meeting my sexual needs and talking with me. He is also planning an evening out. If you follow the theory, modifying a spouse's behavior to meet your needs is a lifelong challenge. As much as I desire my H to be loving, giving, considerate and passionate, I understand that I may be expecting too much right now. In ten years from now, perhaps not.
Individuals develop at different stages, and ultimately when they are ready to make the change.
All in all, this is quite the list, although easy for some H's to do, all these things are difficult for mine to do. Just saying you love someone is not enough. I wish that I had given and shown love every day and maybe I would not be in the situation I am in. It doe not mean buying flowers, gifts, etc. Comforting them and holding them.