Many of us know people who have been estranged for a long period of time. Many times those people have long forgotten what caused the problem. We can easily allow something relatively small to become very large. As time goes on we can remember with great pain how large we allowed the problem to get, but sometimes forget that it can be put back into a more realistic perspective. Most of the time estrangement could end if at least one of the people became willing to become humble enough to think things through, and then to reach out and try to heal the division.
Holy families are families where reconciliation occurs.
We know the frustration of seeing a parent, child or friend deny they are wrong, even though everyone else on the planet would agree that they are. What a wonderful lesson we can provide for our children when we admit our wrongdoing and ask forgiveness. That takes more strength than fifty years of justifying our wrong actions. It teaches a profound lesson to our children. They're more likely to admit their own wrongdoing and make peace when we teach them to do so by our own example.