The question with the YOU in it is the foundation to our entire life in the Spirit as followers of Jesus for the glory of the Father.
Lovers do one thing.
Love requires maturity, not just the initial fire, good intentions, and outreach. All of this can become egocentric. Then Jesus, the Beloved, empowers us by His Holy Spirit and sends us forth to those persons, places, and circumstances that He wants to love in and to be present in. It is the Beloved's plans we seek. Jesus sought the will of the Heavenly Father even to the extent of saying it is his very food.