Some of that baggage is good, but some is also bad. Some of us would like things to be exactly as they were when we were little. Some of us would like things to be exactly opposite of when we were little. Most of us settle for a blend. Most of us limp along doing our best.
All families are unique.
My family does not have the same type of relations as the one next door. Perceptions are very important - remember, the first child perceives things very differently from the second, etc. The family, especially today, is stressed. They cannot do everything that needs to be done, so stress is released in different ways - some of them abusive. The family is the focus of the problems we deal with today.