As simple as the steps are, people found them difficult to do. I found this due to the counter programming within the subconscious and the threat inherent within society. I left society for a year, living in the mountains, by myself for the most part, and it was much easier to practice unconditional love. So, understanding this makes it easier to pursue unconditional love. When we find it difficult, we know it is our defense system working against us.
Fear creates resistance, knowledge creates persistence.
Unconditional love is not futile. Knowledge is the key to everything we seek. This is the key to unconditional love. Just like alcoholics, we must not indulge in that which we are addicted to. This means we must stop all relationships we have that are conditional and co-dependent.