Talking effectively also means to know when to listen. This includes not only hearing but understanding. When the teenager feels that her parents understand her, she will be encouraged to confide in them and explain why she does things and how she feels about it. And as I said earlier, by understanding, parents will get the full picture and will then know which appropriate action to take. Also, if parents want to be listened to by their children, they need to model good listening skills.
Children tend to do as parents do rather than as parents say.
So now is always a good time to start practising these skills. Insecurity Looking closer at the above reasons, parents will see that the underlying factor is that the girl feels insecure about herself. The root of falling into the trap of peer-pressures, popularity contests, the need to be wanted and loved, and to have attention, is insecurity. If this is the case then give her the love and attention that she needs. Teach her how to feel good about herself and her religion.