One question I have been asked in response to this site is how I can find fulfillment in the Traditional role of homemaker. It was obvious to me that the author of these words had never had children herself. Because we love our husbands and children, doing things for them is pleasurable. Conventional wisdom tells us that when we put love into our cooking, the food tastes better.
Love is the essential ingredient.
Love makes even the dullest of tasks more tolerable. I love my husband and children, and I know that it's good for us to live in a clean house, so I clean it. One model for this in Torah is our forefather Jacob. Jacob loved our foremother Rachel so much that he worked for her father for seven years to be able to marry her. Seven years seems quite a long time to wait for someone you love.