I ask him if he drove with his foot to the floor on either the gas or the brake. Neither is JUST love or hate the way to control your emotion or life. I may not love the criminal just because I choose not to hate him. Either is an unwarrented waste of energy. Humans are not greatful enough to decide another's life or death.
Forgiveness is the word.
Only God can take one's life. I have changed my mind through working with Amnesty International. Originally I believed some sins are so great the offenders forfeit right to life. I think there are times when we are just to take a life but capital punishment is not one of them. Put them in one cell and make it a nice cell, but never let them out.