And talk about it and talk about it until you are done talking about it. In fact, research has shown that people who write about their traumas recover in a deeper way than people who just talk about them. There are physical changes in the immune system after a trauma. These are changes that are often seen in people who soon become physically ill. These blood values change back faster in people who write about their traumas.
Boys have a harder time admitting they have been abused.
This is again related to sex role stereotyping. Women are scripted in our society to be more victim like. Men are scripted to be macho and physically in charge of their environment. I do not think this is a good thing it just is a reality. In the case of male sexual abuse, admitting to having been abused is incongruent with male identity.