But, if he's not willing to plow the fields, fertilize, nurture, water, and everything else, he's not going to get it. It has to be real. You can't make empty, non-feeling statements about hair, dress, etc. and expect to make a connection. You need to find something good about a person and compliment him or her on that. No doubt, it will help the individual to be more open to what you might have to say.
Life is work and improvement, work and improvement.
Once you reach the point where you connect with people, you can influence them, you can move them. Then you're in the high country and everything's changed. You're caught up in this invisible movement and everyone wants whatever it is that you have. Learn how to connect. Read the right books.