If you are not certain, or if you feel you are not responding to herpes treatments, it may be because your symptoms are not all the result of genital herpes. Again, check it out with the health provider. It is important to learn to do this self check with ease - as a routine like brushing your teeth, and to leave it at that. Self checks can also be overdone, and actually become an obsession. Learn to check yourself with confidence, and then put the whole self check system into perspective.
Herpes can be different with each episode in some people, or exactly the same each time for others.