Make sure you have more than one person you can talk with in order to get different points of view and to avoid wearing out an important relationship. Do not use your children as confidants.
Good listeners find out more about themselves and others.
Seek out people who can listen to you and are neutral. This will help you move beyond your anger. Check out your interpretation by asking questions and clarifying your understanding Pay attention to the non-verbal ways people give you information. Feedback Ask someone you trust to honestly tell you what you've said and how you sound. Use feedback to try to understand what happened in your marriage from the perspective of an outsider.