In the light of the way our society is obsessed with sex, I kind of doubt that we have the objectivity to make accurate judgements in this area. I'm concerned that we can mask an unwillingness to live up to the level Jesus wants of us by simply saying that he didn't really mean for us to try. From what I read Jesus having said about it, that seems to be his point of view as well. The fact that at some times this is more difficult than others doesn't change this. Jesus didn't come to deliver us into moral autonomy.
Humanity already has that as a result of a certain episode involving a serpent and a fruit.
By the Spirit we become free enough that things like love and self-control become possible. The first is forgiveness and liberation. The second is hanging christmas decorations in someone's jail cell. My own view is that we are committed to making ethical decisions based on Scripture. The question is how to apply it.