Instead of sinking into self-doubt and shame when somebody criticises a particular behaviour, you suddenly feel at ease. If you pay attention to repetitive patterns in your life, you will probably notice that a particular theme keeps coming back and that it extends from small to big events. For example, if your challenge is to feel betrayed or taken advantage of by others, you may encounter such situations when you go to the bakery to pick up rolls, and also in your personal relationships and in financial agreements with business partners. In the course of life you throw light on such a pattern from different angles. In that way you explore it until it has fulfilled its function and you can let it go.
Growth is the gradual development of qualities and values.
You can jump stages, but that usually causes pain, torment, and in the main, failure. At each stage you are confronted with a choice. You decide whether you want to expand or constrict yourself. If you choose expansion, you explore at each stage the manner in which you want to realise its potential in your daily life. Within this process we encounter life-long patterns that mostly come from childhood, or depending on your point of view, even from past incarnations or archetypal human patterns.