State the fac ts of a situation. Explain situations beyond your control . Discuss one problem at a time . This provides a good oportunity to praise. Provide a number of acceptable alternatives to allow for personal preferences and teach decision making skills.
Children find unlimited choices bewildering.
Have regular expected chores teaching children that they are part of the family and necessary to its function. Provide specific directions with reguard to responsibilities. The extra time leads to suitable compromises. Withhold privileges such as tv and telephone use. A good rule of thumb is a two week maximum.