You should be. Sure, we need other friends outside the marriage, of the same sex. You need your girlfriends to talk about knitting and soap operas and yoga and the price of bananas, and he needs his buds to talk about the big game and the new engine and the time he almost punched that guy in the mouth for looking at his wife, but you should be his best friend, without a doubt. Best friends are always there. There are ways to tell whether or not there is friendship in your marriage.
Friendship is the foundation of a good marriage.
Here are the keys to closeness. Not everthing has to be such a big or heavy issue. You have to be able to be real with each other, no preconceived expectations. Deceit and love cannot coexist. You can always count on your best friend.