Ultimately it's not what my flesh likes to think that matters, but what God wants me to think that matters. My own thoughts and analyses are immaterial compared with His promises. And from the struggles in my past 4 years of coworking, time and time again I found that if I know the complete story of every coworker, each of them is even more lovable. Most of time I don't have complete information ,but I like to play God and judge others. Second, forebearing is the key.
Love can change people's heart.
It's how I got changed. If we are more aware of others' sin than our own, we are ready for trouble. So when we are misunderstood, we should never be vindictive because the conflict will never end this way. I think that forgiveness is best shown while serving in difficult situations. Likewise I should thank God that it's the best opportunity to witness.