Guilt is felt more by the person who leaves the marriage, althrough the other person feels guilty about what they think they did to chase their spouse away. D epression . Depression is an enevitible part of loss. It comes during the anger stage, and the bargaining stage, and in the letting go stage. It is characterized by many of the symptoms listed in the Symptoms of Grief .
Depression is normal.
It may last longer in some people than in others. Emotionally healthy people won't be depressed as long as emotionally unhealthy people or people who came from dysfunctional homes who haven't dealt with childhood issues. It is perfectly okay to seek help from a physician and take anti-depressants for a time until you are better able to handle your grief. If you feel that your depression is lasting too long, you may benefit from the help of a therapist. Never be ashamed of taking medication or seeking professional help when you are grieving.