Creating a strong marriage demands dedication, commitment, and learning how to handle conflict and disagreements effectively. Good communication means saying what needs to be said, and listening with understanding. Speaking directly takes practice and skill. Spouses often assume their partners know what they think or feel. Love doesn't make you a mind reader.
Communication is a two-way street.
Don't lecture or talk too much. Many of us do not listen well when we hear another person speak. As the other talks, we are often judging what is said and thinking what to say next. The most important thing to do when talking with your spouse is to really try to understand what he or she is saying. Agreement is less important than understanding.