Recognize that your able-bodied children might get some added stress at school or among their friends because of their sibling with a disability. Encourage them to talk about any embarrassment and resentment they might be feeling. Tired, disappointed, and overwhelmed by feelings of responsibility, husbands and wives might find themselves lashing out at each other, blaming each other - and turning away from the very person who could be giving them the most support. This tension-fraught brew is made even more taut with the feelings both parents have for the child with the disability. Then there is the guilt, which may stop parents from getting the help they need.
Guilt can lead to denial.
Rather than feel the pain and confusion that stems from guilt, they'll push it away, unable to see that their household is filled with tension and pain. Guilt can also erode self-esteem. These emotions can make for more than rude manners. They can lead to a whole host of negative feelings. It's simple, but effective.