But he doesn't even try because he doesn't believe he can succeed. It may seem a simple matter to you to poop in a bowl. You see younger children than your child do it. But you are, after all, an adult who probably doesn't remember the last mess in your pants. He is a child whose mess is so much more comfortable to him than the toilet that he is willing to risk your anger and disappointment.
Few things can be more exasperating to parents than dealing with soiling in an older child.
It's a disgusting mess, and we all expect our older children to be toilet trained. An understanding of the problem can help parents handle it more calmly and lovingly. But encopresis is a difficult problem to manage alone. Parents dealing with this problem need the help and support of their pediatrician or gastroenterologist. With Bowel Incontinence Problems with Soiling and Bowel Control - Psychiatric viewpoint.