You can order this book in audiocassette. Now, William Pollack brings the same attention to the way that our culture fails boys. These have been in force since the nineteenth century. Parents, children, and schools may unwittingly adhere to the Boy Code. This results in a boy donning a mask of masculinity, which hides his true feelings.
Anger is the only feeling which is encouraged in the Boy Code.
There are two main reasons why boys are unwilling to show the whole range of emotions. One is that shame is used in a toughening-up process. The boys then begin to feel ashamed of their true feelings. This first happens at age six and is associated with the boy going to school. It then happens again in adolescence.