There's a whole world of pleasure that does not involve the bump and grind that she may not be aware of. Expanding your sexual mind this way will make all of your play better. They let her know that you are willing to meet her half way, and that this is a path you two can walk down together. Ultimately, it goes back to that communication and compromise thing which you will deal with for the rest of your marriage. Anyone who tells you it get easier is lying to you or trying to sell you something.
Life is a negotiation.
Alexis Williams has a Masters Degree in Public Health from Emory University. Her specialty is health education. She's also pretty cute and if we had a picture of her up here you would pine for her like you had never pined for anyone before. What we're saying is that she's qualified to write this column and that you can trust her advice because she's not just some chump we pulled off the street.