Actually, to start with, Love means keeping short accounts with your spouse, children, coworkers, friends and even God. It means we should not keep a record of wrongs. I know that if there is anything better than being Loved, it is to BE loving. While Love may be thought of as a feeling, Love is actually a decision. It is the decision to do the difficult thing for one whom we would not choose to do it for out of those feelings.
Love is obedience, in faith.
And once we have learned how to act in Love, we are then filled with those feelings. Love, no matter who it is you care for, is a decision. It is a decision to put someone else's needs and wants before your own. If my husband comes home tired after a long day at the office, I can choose to wait to discuss the latest bill in the mail, and instead, let him talk about his day. We can talk over a cup of coffee or tea, or at the table, or later, when we are alone.