Do learn to focus on living as normal life as possible - become a person, not a patient. There are many ways of learning to relax and lead less stressful lives. One of your greatest comforts is a friend or acquaintance to whom you can talk freely about pain and the way it controls your life. Look for good relaxation audiotapes to relieve the pain and stress. Soft, flowing music is good to listen to as you rest.
Exercise actually takes away the pain.
With doctor's approval look for classes geared for your type needs. I find my best mode of exercise is in the water if it is not too cold. It takes all pressure off the tender joints. Try making a contract with yourself. That means away from the TV, reading, etc.