We need to challenge each other. It may be due to testosterone or my upbringing, but I love a good argument. And a good argument is rarely civil. At some point, those involved smile and either change the subject, pick up a Frisbee, or head their separate ways. As this is my fantasy, they will never ever indulge in intoxicants in the argument aftermath.
Arguments never end with winners and losers.
There are no places. Ideally you should walk away questioning your beliefs with a big smile on your face. Reflecting on the exchange you should focus on two main areas. The most important, by a slim margin, is examining the argument presented by the others. Reflecting on the situation, you should better understand both your position on the debated subject as well as the opposition.