If we are only talking about the birth country because we don't want to talk about birth parents, then our children will likely sense this discomfort and be hesitant to express their true feelings. In the long run, they will look to us for approval of their natural feelings of curiosity and sadness. Children who grow up with a positive image of their birth parents are more likely to have positive self-esteem. We made an agreement. No relationship, not even adoption, can be set in stone.
Birth parents experience many changes over the course of the adoption process.
They may come to a point where the pain is not so consuming, and they may want to establish a relationship with the adoptive family or child. Most experience feelings of grief, loss, and guilt. The emotional stress of placing a child for adoption is often so overwhelming that the need to sever contact may be necessary for a while. Oftentimes, a birth parent will come back to re-establish contact after a period of time. It's been five years since I placed my son for adoption and our relationship continues to evolve.