But it is really vengeance. Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good. The expression of another's pain and desire for vengeance makes vengeful desires more acceptable to us all, no matter what Scripture says. In both cases they have left justice to those authorized to administer justice. And it is wise to let the authorities administer justice.
Justice first assumes that the correct culprit has been apprehended.
Secondly, it assumes that the penalty is appropriate for the crime committed. Both couples have forsaken vengeance and carried themselves in a manner worthy of emulation in times of trial. Our prayers go with them as they go forward with their lives. By their example, we pray that others will move on with theirs.