Recently a friend said that women deal with an issue like throwing vegetables in a pot, stirring it around, and letting it cook until it is done. This decision making style can be a source of conflict for David who wants to get things done quickly. Bill has given each committee member an opportunity to offer their opinion. Ideally, they come to an agreement on which option is most feasible and the decision process is complete. Conflict Management Bill has now become a conflict manager.
Bill tends to take the direct approach when handling a conflict situation.
He asks the members to speak directly. Bill and David are able to challenge each other's point of view and still be friends. For Jan, conflict is seen as a threat to her connectedness with the committee. So conflict is avoided whenever possible. Jan strives for the kind of peace between people that requires settling disputes without direct confrontation.