Just when you feel extremely intimate, especially intense and close to your partner, your partner creates diversion, is unavailable or unwilling to acknowledge or to stay with the same pleasure you feel. There is no such thing as one-sided intimacy. In genuinely intimate exchanges, both partners are full, equal participants.
Intimacy is about connecting with another person.
Before we look at what will work in an unbalanced relationship, we must examine the methods that most of us have, at one time or another, tried without success. Asking for It. Sorry, I know that in assertiveness classes you learned to ask for what you want. But, asking for intimacy from one who is afraid of it will only frighten the person more. It's a double bind.