The church doesn't know what to do for someone who goes through a divorce. There is no tearful memorial service. No one shows up at the door with dinner. Friends may feel clumsy and fear saying the wrong thing. So they say nothing at all.
Divorce is wrong.
No one believes that more than people who have gone through it. There is no question in my mind that divorce is a sin. But I agonize over how to bring a ministry of grace into the lives of those who have been torn apart by this failure. Like death, divorce isn't something that people get over. The broken heart may eventually heal, but the scars remain.