You may also want to include a provision allowing you to deny the visit if your abuser is intoxicated at the time of the visit. His family and friends have in the past harassed me to talk to him. It is possible to request that the restraining order be issued against more than one person. The court will require clear evidence that this is necessary. You will therefore need to show the court why the other people should be prevented from contacting you or your children.
Harassment can also be a criminal offence.
Harassing behaviour can include repeatedly visiting, calling or writing to you, or doing something that threatens you or someone in your family. Once again it is important to make records of any incidents of harassment, so that if you have to report it to the police you have details to give them. In very exceptional cases, a restraining order can last indefinitely. More usually an order will be made for six months. If necessary, it can be renewed when it expires.