It makes me feel shallow to say it, but I think this may drive us apart. It's only possible if you can come to some mutually agreeable compromise. Sexual compatibility is important, especially at the beginning of a relationship, and it's not shallow of you to want it or look for it. Based on my own experience, I just don't think it's quite so cut and dry. Yes, it depends on all those things, and it's not cut and dried.
Divorce courts are full of people who thought they really knew each other but got married too soon.
And while you can be sure you're a good person, and you're emotionally mature, and level headed, you can't know that for sure about someone you just met. I feel she may still question if I will commit to her. Do I press it or play it cool. I'm having a hard time doing the latter. My worst fear is coming off as a pathetic chump, but I do love her.