We take our attention off our usual self-centered focus and habitual complaining mind, and continually make ourselves aware of what we are receiving from the other, and what we can give in return. Most of our attention is on the giving part as well. Even if we do not feel we are receiving anything at the moment, by giving to the other wholeheartedly, we will receive a great deal in return - the joy of living with an open heart. When an individual is not functioning well, the bottom line is that there has been a lack of gratitude - they feel unappreciated, unacknowledged, unknown for who they truly are and all they can be. When flowers receive plenty of sun and water, they grow unabashedly.
Humans are no different.
The sun of gratitude goes a very long way. These deeds must be performed consistently, much the way we brush our teeth each day. In the morning ask yourself the following questions. Write down the answers. In these practices we take our focus off our expectations of the other and focus upon how we can help them to grow.