Then any retaliation you do in response to this rejection simply confirms what they knew all along - nobody loves them. And if you do accept an entranced Four, it's because you are phony. Only they are authentic. If you were authentic, and acted out your real feelings, you'd reject them. Then, of course, you reject them and they are confirmed.
Fours are no different than anyone else, of course.
Tom Condon's The Enneagram Movie and Video Guide is a superb guide for reading enneagram styles in movies. I trust it implicitly, I've yet to find a mistype. I have done graduate work in film studies and he really knows his stuff. Margaret Keys, in her book Emotions and the Enneagram , does a good job of articulating this at great length. Our shadow is what we are polarized against.