For nearly three decades, no one bothered to carry out even that simple test. Instead the psychiatrists went on year after year accusing parents of destroying their children's lives. There's always a hint of it in the current debate over Attention Deficit Disorder. I'm afraid you're probably right. Though the worst of the parent-blaming era is past, the blaming impulse lives on.
Humans are story-telling creatures.
The more mysterious the event, the more urgently we demand explanations. Sometimes it's true. Often it's not. But it's a serious charge and, before we make it we should take the trouble to make sure that the evidence is on our side. We have a list of books that we think you may find helpful, useful, and informative.