The man who can smile when things go wrong has thought of someone he can blame it on. We are the people our parents warned us against. Suicide is confession and confession is suicide. Whatever hits the fan will not be evenly distributed. In every organized activity, no matter the sphere, a small number will become the oligarchical leaders and the others will follow.
Life is largely a matter of expectation.
Regarding alcohol, four is more than more than enough. Anything that begins well ends badly. Anything that begins badly ends worse. The one exception to the rule that what goes up must come down is the landing gear. If it breaks, it needed replacing anyway.