I don't say how sorry I am or extend my sympathies. It isn't hardness of heart. We just don't know each other.
Expectant couples take classes to prepare for the birth of a child.
I think someone should talk to you about preparing for death. You know about those things your family and friends are trying to avoid. Preparing for death just as expectant couples take classes to prepare for the birth of a child' - Get a confessor. Early on, find someone with whom you can 'talk dirty'. A friend, physician, nurse or family member who will allow you to say words like 'dead, kick the bucket, croak, tumour, cancer'.