Recognize that can'ts are imaginary fences. Discover ways over, around and through them. Do it in a manner that does not infringe on others. To change something or add to something, you must first understand it in the deepest sense. Pay the price.
All solutions are trade ups.
You must be willing to give to the process of discovery. Wishes are not separate from what is going on around you. Be sensitive to your environment, to those around you, to where you are in your life process. Watch for personal and social windows. Model success and be ready to accept it when it comes.