Lesbians are always equal in relationships. It is not abuse, it is a relationship struggle. Two women in a relationship do not automatically guarantee equality. Relationship struggles are never equal if abuse is involved. Abuse occurs regardless of race, class, religion, age, political affiliation, lifestyle, or physical attributes.
Lesbian violence is caused by drugs, alcohol, stress, childhood abuse.
While these factors can be important, they do not excuse the abuse. It is easier for a lesbian to leave her abusive partner that it is for a heterosexual woman to leave her abusive partner. It is never easy to leave an abusive relationship. Men can be and are abused. This myth makes it particularly hard for men to come forward for help.