Constant negotiations are for labor disputes, not functional families. Kids feel secure knowing that someone is in charge. On the other hand . Children develop self-confidence by being able to have a say in their world and an overbearing parent can do too much. Censoring behaviors should be limited to issues of health and welfare.
Infant colic gives way to toddler tantrums and school anxiety and . . .
Eventually most children leave home. They can only return if you let them. Show moral and spiritual guidance by living in a way that is generous, honest and compassionate. Don't lie or cheat or behave in any way that would make you ashamed in front of your children. After I finished this list, I called my mother to ask if she had any to offer.