To change to the Divine Self definition entails trusting enough to pull the plugs. This process takes a while for most people and it needs to be this way. It gives you time to adjust. It give time for you to accommodate the life changes and responses from those with whom you exchanged plugs. Chances are that if you have plugs in them, they have plugs in you.
Expectations are a two way exchange.
The spiritual path is not always the easiest or the quickest path. Changing the way you view the world around you is not an instant process for most people. To me, the spiritual path is primarily about changing world view. Then comes the learning to work with what comes up as a result and making still more changes. The great thing about this is that it is all done internally.