Most of us, however, pretend that we do not have this awareness, and instead we get upset stomachs, headaches, and heartburn. Even those of us who acknowledge these subtle feelings often do not have the confidence, courage or certainty to act on them. Curiously, however, this is the very box we most need to open. The box is already open. It is hardly possible to do more harm.
Emotional needs express themselves one way or another.
Anger is an expression of need. Our feelings and needs are not wrong or bad. We can address emotional issues and still save face. We need to express positive feelings and communicate negative ones. Whether warm or cold, violent or steady our emotions can be controlled but never completely tamed.