At this moment you have no choice but to be exactly where you are. If you are reading this article, you are probably single and unattached or unhappy with your present relationship. Your life is the way it is right at this moment. That is your reality. The truth is that you can plead and pray and scream and manipulate and pretend and avoid and cry, but it won't force things that are not under your control to be different.
Life is full of ups and downs.
You had a wonderful date last week-end. The second and third dates with the same person are disasters. And that is where you start. Pretending things are different keeps them the way they are, for you make your choices based on wishes rather than reality. When you acknowledge that your life is the way it is, right at this very moment, then you cease putting your energy into wishes.