His attitude was a mix of hurt, anger, curiosity and long-suffering need. Then there are the calls from the folks who suffer over their spouse's consensual encounters with third parties. It's amazing how something that means so little to my spouse could hurt me so much. Science is imperfect, and people often take risks out of momentary passionate fantasies that strive to connect physical closeness with some deeper meaning. That meaning may include proof of virility, longing for attachment or importance, or a magical transformation of orgasms into caring love.
Human beings are capable of being more.
In addition to the reality of passion, lust, libido and erotic desire, there is the sublime element of sexual intimacy. With intimacy comes a unique position of knowledge, acceptance, depth, caretaking, tenderness, protectiveness and safety. While you definitely can have sexual fun with innumerable people at almost any moment, sexual intimacy must be cultivated. There is a terrible price for that kind of freedom. Some baby boomers and teen-agers continue to yearn for that utopia, forgetting this means that ultimately no one is there for anyone.