Your clear concern for her is an indication that you will find the answers to help her. Much depends on who your particular child is as a unique human being. Her needs may be different than yours were at this age. She may be a child who will become a very powerful adult. It is most essential at this age that you guide your daughter and mentor her in channeling but not crushing her spirit.
Girls are often vulnerable by the age of nine to societal pressures that deaden their assertiveness.
They are often rewarded for becoming passive and accommodating and punished for any aggressive pursuit of their interests. Your current struggle with your daughter may prove key to her future development. Her unique needs for developing her personality, including her ambitions, must be discovered and honored. You should not rely on this information as a substitute for personal medical attention, diagnosis or hands-on treatment. If you are concerned about your health or that of a child's, please consult your family's health care provider immediately and do not wait for a response from our professionals.