Others direct their anger outward, blaming the doctor for not providing proper medical care, blaming the clergy person for not influencing God, and even blaming God. Ann's anger was directed at her father, for he died before they had taken the time to resolve a long-standing disagreement that had existed between them. An anger-response to death may also be delayed or disguised. Anger is a good and valuable resource. It was placed in our file of feelings as an essential part of our human make-up.
Anger is a motivator.
It is a strong, internal agitation that impels us to deal with obstacles and unacceptable situations. Anger stirs when we are offended, injured, treated unjustly, or experience the catastrophic pain of death. Anger prompts us to do something about it. So, it can be a most useful tool when wisely used and not abused. When death occurs and all the inner feelings of anger come bubbling to the surface of life, there are four constructive things to consider doing.