Now the chaperone is back - not as a nanny or a maiden aunt, but as a checklist of fears and codes that we are forced to carry within ourselves. And it's not only women who have them. The chaperone within crosses gender barriers, and looks down upon the boys as well. But exactly which jokes, comments and remarks are unacceptable is never defined. The chaperone's code has little time for these 'what ifs'.
Intimate relationships are difficult.
They are open to misunderstandings, misinterpretations, misgivings and mistakes. What they cannot be is scripted. If the chaperone within has one enemy, it is spontaneity. If what you want is emotional safety, you shouldn't be falling in love. If we can't handle love, we can't handle life.