My boyfriend does not care what others think and suggests that I look the other way. He wants to be sure you loved him for his individual qualities, not because of a certain fetish on your part. Regarding the personality of black women, I disagree with your boyfriend. He is guilty of stereotyping, and his scope of experience is too limited. My wife is black, and she is nothing like the black women he described.
Many black women become resentful of any race who date black men because of the competition.
There are so few educated, functional black men compared to educated, functional black women. White men do not date black women at the same rate. Therefore there is an overall net reduction of the eligible black men. Your boyfriend is right about looking the other way. There will always be someone who will make obscene remarks.