But you said I could have the car tonight. It makes family teamwork almost impossible and family conflict a virtual certainty. Put expectations and commitments in writing. Call it a contract, if you want, but don't call a lawyer to help you draw it up. And it will work for everyone-if everyone makes it work for each other.
All family members have something to contribute to and gain from a smoothly running system.
Parents are chief executive officers of the family. Once a family contract is agreed to, written, and signed, it's family law. Hammering out a contract may take a couple of sessions around the dining room table before everyone is comfortable with it. Set up a time when the family isn't likely to be disturbed for an hour or so, when everyone can be present. Figure on two or three sessions to complete the contract.