The stepparent is an intrusion, and resentment escalates on both sides. The best course is to move very slowly and observe carefully, agree with each other on discipline, because the children readily pick up on any indecision. Children need to feel positively about both of their parents. People need to be more positive about stepfamilies. Children shouldn't be forced to call their step and natural parents by the same name.
Children are people with feelings too.
People have new opportunities to learn different ways of looking at things, and become more accepting human beings. Stepfamilies may often face family stress. Parents maintain your own self-esteem. Continue your interests, hobbies and work. Maintain positive relations with your relatives, call and use them for help.