Couples are no longer the only ones adjusting to new marriages. Children from previous relationships often have the hardest time adapting to a new parent in the house. Parents need to help their children understand that adults need relationships with other adults. Introduce adult friends to children in a positive, optimistic way.
Children form their opinions early and quickly.
As a dating relationship progresses, look for opportunities for joint activities. Whether children are 8 or 48, they need reassurance of their value and place in the parent's life. Before the wedding, couples need to discuss child-rearing issues such as rules, discipline, finances and expectations. Couples should talk through each other's expected role in a child's life. Discuss family rules early.