Unfortunately, most of us aren't skilled at expressing anger in healthy ways. We suppress, deny, or feel ashamed of angry feelings. That lack of skill often translates into passive aggressive behavior, a grudging nature, or the need to lash out in global rage, unaware or unconcerned with the consequences of our fury. What's more, the majority of us lack the tools to cope with the anger of others. We retreat, collapse, or become aggressive ourselves, meeting fire with fire.
Anger is a powerful force, and while it can be dangerous, there are times when anger is appropriate.
From a positive perspective, anger is an instinctual, healthy response against the injustice of having a self denied. Expressed inappropriately, anger becomes harmful hostility aimed at dominating others. As the next few weeks unfold, angry outbursts simmer through the days. Backing off or backing down won't be easy. But before you start swinging, try probing your motivation.