In a compilation of 20 individual stories of the teenagers and parents she has counseled in her practice, Ponton illustrates some of the issues young people face about sexuality, including abortion, masturbation, sexual orientation, sexual abuse and HIV infection. These taboo topics are not talked about in the culture. By not addressing these issues, it stops teenagers from developing in a healthy way. Boys, the studs, are the pursuers. The stud concept is very negative.
Boys have a very hard time developing full sexual roles.
They are pushed into the narrow gender role as sexual performer and girls are objects to be acted on. These narrow roles confine sexuality. This can cause girls to grow up into women who fail to acknowledge their own sexual desires. The book introduces the concept of parental readiness and provides tips to parents on how to talk about sex with their adolescent sons and daughters, such as speaking directly with them about sex, using simple language to describe both feelings and activities and starting the discussion early. The book also includes a list of sexual readiness questions for teenagers to ask themselves, including if they feel rushed by a partner, do they trust their partner and if their body is ready.