Take a look at the environment. For school-age children, write a plan of action for what the child will do when the negative behavior occurs. Use a picture graph if the child can't read. Teach the child deep breathing and visualization relaxation exercises. During a calm time, talk with the child so he or she understands the consequences of actions.
Bedtimes are often quiet times for talking.
In child care, plan a group time to allow each child to share and build a sense of community with his or her peers. Plan group rules that include sticking together, no hurts, and having fun. Say something positive about each child every day. Midday circle time can help children to regroup and will allow children to tell what they have been doing during the morning. Children who help plan their learning and choose their own activities will feel more in control, and they will feel more competent.