Forgiveness is not reconciliation. They are distinct, although related. Forgiveness is one thing, reconciliation another. Forgiveness is the ability to look through an event, past an event. Biblically, this is Joseph in the last chapter of Genesis.
Anger is unrealistic expectations unmet.
This is simple, yet hard to accept. We think our expectations are realistic. We must rethink our motives, actions. Virtually all of us have unreal, unmet expectations from our childhood. Our question today is how we can handle conflict without casualty.