When war ends, change has been effected anyway in spite of what these people originally wanted. Sometimes the status quo prevails, but the period after a war always involves some sort of reinvention of the culture. If one looks back at ancient times, Roman influence due to war was as great in the culture of the conquered peoples as the conquered peoples influence to Roman culture. War brought change to all. Killing means death.
Death means changes, and new beginnings.
War is the mechanism for change in human culture. Death provides a cleansing of the old. Many adult males die in war. With their deaths, ideals and traditions die, leaving families vulnerable to change. New ideas are forced upon people through their dependency on the conquering government after the war.