Be the parent you longed for. If you were abused, then break the cycle, here and now. Stop the blame game and use your life to make a difference in the world. Give up denial. Your children will not tell you they are being abused if they already know you won't believe them.
Denial is very dangerous.
Write your local politicians and find out what they are doing to stop child abuse, sexual abuse in particular. I also noted that an unusual number of children are swiped off the street in the late afternoon and evening hours. These statistics are very disturbing to me because this is preventable. Retired folks and others whose schedules permit, can volunteer to sit outside or cruise the neighborhood in their car while children are walking to and from school. Start knocking on doors, talking to your neighbors and pulling together to safeguard our children.