By Jana Wolff Myths may be half truths, but half truths just aren't good enough when it comes to adoption. The first paradox in the adoption process is that we go into it feeling flawed and try to come across as completely perfect. We seem to be at our worst when we're trying to look our best.
Adoptive parents try awfully hard to be sweet, sincere and stable.
We fill out those dreadful application forms as if we were none other than Penelope Leach and T. Berry Brazelton, but few of us come close. Adoption attorneys, clinicians and social workers seem to have a lot of power over people who feel like they have none of their own. The truth is that adoptive parents and adoption professionals are working toward the same goal. It's also important to remember that lots of people in the adoption field have chosen this profession because they are members of the adoption triad, and they know how we feel. People wanting to adopt may be desperate, but they're picky, too .