Many people have forgotten the covenantal responsibilities of the church and parents in our sanctification process. We have sadly become covenant breakers. The leadership of the church is clearly responsible to its members and adherents to instruct by example and precept in how to keep the covenant. True salvation is absolutely of the Lord, but without proper instruction congregations dissolve, marriages dissolve and relationships dissolve. Parents must reinforce what is being taught at the Bible-believing church.
Children learn by example even more than they learn from reading and study.
The catechetical method that we build each of our lessons around, ensures the basics of the faith are being correctly taught. I like the analogy, we wire the house and the Holy Spirit flicks the switch. We will be happy to do a seminar for your church to help you ensure that the covenant will be understood. Children must learn that we have a covenantal relationship with God that has enormous benefits for the believer, but within the covenant there are consequences for covenant breakers.