Share your delight and watch it multiply. Let go of goals like having an erection or ejaculating. Erections are only necessary if you are doing penetration sex. Flaccid penises have a beauty all their own. Let yourself just enjoy what you are experiencing in the moment.
Communication is an important part of good sex.
Be gentle, positive and supportive in asking for what you want. And purr when you get it. I have a friend who's evening prayer is to thank God for putting all of the nerve endings in just the right places. I like that. John R. Ballew, M.S., is a licensed professional counselor in private practice in Atlanta.