Yet little thought is given in condemning them to celebrate their 17th anniversary with a hidden grimace. All other reasons or rationales will change. You can count on it because it's your experience. When preserved and analysed excessively, your relationship loses the quality of relating and becomes stagnant. Verbs become nouns.
Action slows down, and in some cases, totally halts.
You may be able to identify some of your own relationships which have been pressed into a nonrelating mould. The exercises in this book will help you take a close look at them. You are stuck in a conclusion and can't get out. An alive relationship is a direction, not to be mistaken for a conclusion. One of the keys to mastering alive relationships is to refocus on a regular basis.