When a person is unable to experience the thought and feeling together of an experience. His feelings remain hidden. Undoing When a person's action are meant to symbolically atone for his bad thoughts, feelings, or actions. Dealing with Defense Mechanisms Self deceiving defense mechanisms should be replaced by proper ways of coping. The first step is to realize what defense mechanisms you are using.
Conscious control helps overcome unconscious defense mechanisms.
Forgive others that have wronged you. Forgive your self when a wrong is done. Forgiveness is the best defense against unhappiness and depression. Forgetting those things in the past and press on toward the future. Patience is a virtue.