The decision about what to do is still hers. But the family cap is a deliberate governmental policy that puts pressure on her not to have that kid. The family cap is not welfare reform, it is welfare abuse. Welfare has two great threats. It creates dependency, and it opens the door to manipulation.
Dependency is bad for the donors, who give and give, and then are asked to give again.
It is bad for the recipients, who lose self respect. The donor has the power to intrude inappropriately in the recipient's life, and impose decisions on the recipient. Very often, the donor may feel superior to the recipient, and may see some ways that the welfare mom could straighten out her life. But when the donor intrudes inappropriately in this situation of inequality, this can be bullying, or even an early form of slavery. We have created a situation of dependence, and there is growing national determination to reverse that.