The current column can be found here. O ne of the eternal questions. A fter we broke up, my ex-partner says he really wants to be my friend and to make sure I'm all right and everything. F irst of all, you didn't say how you broke up, and you didn't indicate that you were adverse to the idea, so I'm going to assume that you parted on amicable terms. That's a good start, anyway.
B eing friends again is much easier said than done.
It's good that he wants to be friends with you, but at least for a while, you'll have to be sure to distance yourself a bit just to let those mental and psychic barriers build back up a little. I'd certainly make an effort to visit other friends a bit more for now and if you must see him make sure you're not alone too much. As many divorced couples could tell you, it's all too natural to feel that physical attraction to someone whom you've been with in the past, especially if you haven't been apart for all that long. Be very careful about placing yourselves in a situation where you might end up in bed together. Even if it is just because you're feeling lonely.