They make decisions while keeping in mind the impact that those choices will have on thieir partnership. They also resolve to keep up with and encourage each other s growth. People stop paying attention. If you aren t learning something new about each other every week or two, you simply aren t observing closely enough. You are focusing on other things, not one another.
Bored couples fail to update how they view each other.
They act as though the roles they assigned and assumed early in the relationship will remain forever comfortable. Worse yet, struggling couples act as though a partner s changing is a betrayal. That resentment arises because one partner s development always requires the other to change too, and this can lead to anxiety. Instead, accept that the stress of growing is an inevitable part of being married, and be careful not to sabotage each other. When either of you is struggling with growing pains, you need to nurture each other more than ever.