It's natural for women to ruminate on their birth experiences, whether joyful or disappointing. We need to go over them in our minds and in conversations with other women in great detail. Every one of the women and their families were transformed by the outcomes of their decisions, sometimes positively and sometimes not so positively. People should not have to be defensive if things go well, nor should they have to defend the decisions they made if something goes awry. We do our best to predict outcomes, knowing that our powers to do so are limited, at best.
Birth is a miracle and also a mystery.
We cannot necessarily know what will happen when we begin the journey, although we can certainly trust that, in most instances, things will go remarkably well. Silent Knife Get to know women who have had VBACs , as well as other people who will support your goal. Although every year more women in the United States have VBACs, it's still not the standard. In our Western culture, most women who give birth after a cesarean have another cesarean. So it's no surprise, therefore, that most friends, family members, and even health-care providers have negative programming where VBACs are concerned.