Why Marriages Fail Not all marriages fail for the same reason. Nor is there usually one reason for the breakdown of a particular marriage. Nevertheless, we hear some reasons more often than others. There are other causes we see a lot, but not quite as often as those listed above . So couples must share their thoughts and feelings or they risk losing touch with what is important in their marriage.
Direct communication is always best.
If you want or need something, tell your spouse. If your spouse is doing something that bothers you, tell him or her why it bothers you and what you would like your spouse to do about it. As with all communication, however, the secret is in the delivery. Never be accusatory or disrespectful. If your spouse reacts badly to something you've said, it's possible that he or she did not understand what you meant.