Every butch I know shops for clothing only from necessity and would rather buy another item of exactly the same brand, make and cut that they bought the last time than ever browse. Those definitions have always been very clear to me but recently, things have begun to get very muddled. Now she proudly proclaims that she is a butch who loves to shop. So as I sit with an espresso on the balcony of the food court watching the crowds below me, I know that definitions of butch and femme are, in each of our cases, a mixed bag of goodies like the shopping bag beside me. Every combination is unique, and every combination will contain an odd assortment of things that some would consider butch and some would consider femme.
Butches are so controlling.
They like to take over. I just get into too many power struggles with butches. I dance all over the explanations of dominant femmes and submissive butches but she is still not convinced. I wonder today. I had been safely ensconced in a long-term relationship with a butch who believed in the concepts as well.