The opposite of self-reliance is dependence. Dependence means allowing others to take care of you to the point of controlling you. It's expecting people to fix your life when you have acted irresponsibly. It's wanting what you want right now and expecting someone to give it to you without any effort on your part. It's thinking life owes you something.
Dependence also has a price.
That price is the loss of self-confidence, emotional maturity, and personal freedom. If I asked you which one you'd like to choose, I think you would agree that while the price of dependence is high, the price of self-reliance is a bargain. To become self-reliant, you must have a plan. And that plan involves setting goals and the steps to completing those goals. Perhaps it is because what they call goals are only wishes.