These requests, no matter how simple, can infringe on a child's sense of independence. When that happens, young children are likely to dig in their heels and become, in an adult's estimation, unreasonably angry. Many parents have scratched their heads, wondering why their son or daughter won't comply with a simple request to complete a five-minute chore. The truth is, the child is upset because they are trying to be more independent, not because of what they are being asked to do. Because they have limited abilities in problem solving, rarely will you see a young child try to solve the problem on their own.
Adults can also help children when it comes to expressing their feelings of anger.
It is especially important that children learn to recognize anger within themselves, and that they know this is a normal emotion everyone faces from time to time. Parents should encourage children to share times when they have felt angry, and parents can also share stories about when they were angry growing up. As always, being a positive role model for children is the best thing an adult can do to help children. Parents who vent their anger with physical aggression or name-calling are in effect telling their children that is the appropriate way to deal with anger. Children will pick up on that, and do the same with their feelings of anger.