Most parents have a chronic problem with anger. For them I suggest reading The Truth About Relationships . We react with anger toward other people only because we don't feel unconditionally loved ourselves. We must learn to feel loved before we can have a hope of loving our children. It would better be far better for your child to stay up all night long than for you to speak to him in anger.
Anger is unspeakably damaging to our children.
In The Truth About Relationships , you'll read that one effective way to deal with anger is to talk about it with a friend. As we tell the truth about our anger and feel accepted by other people, our anger naturally tends to go away. Anger is a response to not feeling loved. As we feel accepted, therefore, our need to be angry is eliminated. On the other hand, you may not have to talk to a friend.