Most have tried over and over again to reduce, but to little or no avail. And many of them live lives of great unhappiness, mocked and rebuked by strangers, turned down for jobs, and regarded as such a source of embarrassment in their families that often their own children ask them not to attend school events. Fat people are told that they could be thin if they wanted to. But the assumption is false. Yet even some doctors disparage fat people, and refuse to treat them.
Abuse can come in every avenue of life.
Studies have shown that, in overwhelming numbers, formerly fat people would rather have a leg amputated than be fat again. There's also a feeling that a fat person is violating territorial limits. They're larger than their allotted space. The news of scientific findings that obesity has a genetic or physiological basis beyond individual control should help. But until it does, the longing of fat people to be accepted will have to remain just a longing.