Again though, it's not the actual stability that I like, it's the thing that is staying stable that I like. Being in an established abusive home was not fun. I didn't like the stability of that. I like the stability of something good in my life. I also have a preference towards living with boundaries rather than without them.
Boundaries are great.
They give me both a sense of predictability and stability. When I was growing up there weren't many boundaries. And when there were, they were usually moved or removed completely after a short period of time. I got in trouble with my mom for drinking once when I was younger, and the next week she was buying it for me. I self-mutilate, then that situation has become predictable.