However, my husband does not agree. We are now working to rebuild our marriage. Two affairs in 10 years says to me that you might be seeking substance and solace outside yourself. Now you want to move, hoping that will stop either the longing, frustration or dissatisfaction you experience in your life. Sometimes we hope to be distracted from boring or difficult tasks by looking for new or more rewarding activities.
Affairs can add spice and distraction.
You might want to search for more practical and less disruptive ways to change or maintain your lifestyle and marriage. Take a look at what you want out of life, make a list and prioritize it. Now cross out the items that are unrealistic. Narrowing a list of wants in this manner can improve the odds of getting some of your needs met. If your husband knows about the affairs, he might need information on a regular basis about where you are and details about the relationships.