A turning point will come when you can identify a safe way to share the secret. The awareness that now you can choose to be free from the secret is a turning point. The awareness that we have adopted a protective role to survive is a turning point. The awareness that we no longer need that role to survive is a turning point. The turning point in your relationship is the awareness that your growth is not about getting other people to change.
Confrontation offers the opportunity for closure.
You have choices. Intimacy is about being close. Intimacy is trusting another with who you are without fear of rejection. I am responsible for the choices I make in my life. It is in the acceptance of all that was and is that our spirits become whole.