I firmly believe that out of pain comes heart centered compassion. Anything else is just intellectual compassion. It's sort of like saying that you know all about iceskating without ever having skated. Not the same. The pain stored within our memories and emotional blocks is the fuel we use for ascension.
Ascension is holographic.
Just like our world is holographic with each person experiencing their own little world inside a larger world, so ascension is the same. We will all experience ascension a little differently. What matters is that we all reach the goal regardless of how we do it. Personal boundaries and agreements are the basis of multi-dimensionality and ascension. Both are the foundation of any behavior that is to be considered higher dimensional.