Stop hurtful physical and verbal actions towards self and others. Provide listening support and substitute activities for aggression. Keep involved as a parent by separating post-marital tension from parenting issues. Keep children involved with the same-gender parent. Avoid negative comments about the other parent.
Children are a part of both parents.
Absolutely do not communicate with the other parent through the children. If parents cannot speak appropriately to one another by phone or face to face, utilize a mediator or send notes and letters. Never ask children to report on the other parent's dating behaviors. Talk with other parents struggling with the same issues. A Guide for Changing Families .