Conflict is always to be avoided. The avoidance of issues doesn't resolve them or make them go away. It drives them underground and builds walls between people, causing resentment. Conflict damages relationships. Clearing the air and resolving a conflict reduces tension, brings understanding, and makes the relationship more open and honest.
Conflict is a debate about right or wrong with a winner and a loser.
MYTH The goal is to reach a common solution to a conflicting issue. Even if there isn't mutual agreement, the disputants develop an understanding of the other's viewpoint and value each other's commitment to resolving the conflict and build a more positive relationship. Avoidance - A person faced with conflict may avoid the other person, give in, or pretend the problem doesn't exist. Alone with a problem, we feel like no one cares. Depression and anger become worse.