Indicators of Achieving this Step Has developed an internal adult that can bring him back from the childlike feelings when they occur. Readiness and willingness to reach out to others through volunteering in some way. Can confront his abuser in some concrete way. Knows what his needs are and can get them met other than sexually. Has developed a support system that includes male friends.
Compulsive behaviors are under control.
Methods Find some way for him to take on his abuser in a real way. This may involve writing and sending a letter, making a phone call, or having an actual session. The willingness to do this is a big step. A family of origin session can be helpful in consolidating the changes he has made. If there is some speaking he can do in front of a safe audience, it will do much to fortify his confidence and diminish his level of shame.