Yet even sympathetic interviewers obviously prefer a hard-driving, obsessive careerist. I've been one, single and childless, but I could have made no other choice about my mom. I want to be honest but circumspect, humane but employed. Your letter is one of the most wrenching Ms. Mentor has ever received, for it exposes the heartless side of academia. Far too many academics simply cannot see that life is more than the next paper, the bigger lab space, the longer vita, the national prizes.
Devoted children make the most dedicated teachers.
You may also add that you have never stopped doing your research. Rather, you've learned to craft it around the time available. Your mother must have been proud of you. Ms. Mentor is, too. One laughed at my research ideas.