Part of the process involves grieving the loss of expectations that cannot be met, and forgiving your partner for not conforming to your ideals. Making peace with yourself over the loss of your idealistic fantasies can take years it really depends on your level of self-awareness, your willingness to let go of control, and the degree to which you are able to tune into the relationship. A relationship cannot remain in the infatuation stage indefinitely. The ebbing of romantic love should not be construed as a signal that you are in the wrong relationship or have a serious problem. Romantic love is not mature love.
Dissatisfaction occurs in a relationship when the infatuation wears off and disillusionment sets in.
You and your partner are now ready to blend personalities and learn to live together in true partnership. Areas of friction indicate problems that need to be solved. You can only change yourself in a relationship. Changing your partner must never be the goal. Healing your past, building self-esteem, dealing with feelings, and speaking from your own experience will eventually impact your partner, creating new patterns of relating.