There is no special formula to raising white kids and none whatsoever to raising black kids. You are treating this whole issue with such kid gloves that a virtual stranger like myself picks up immediately that you will raise your kids according to what color they are. That is a shame really. How do you think this little boy would feel that you wrote in and asked that just because he's colored, then there's a way in which he should be raised. Like you know his parent was wayward and you're trying to curb those barbaric instincts in him.
Children are all the same.
White families raising mixed kids need to be careful at the way that they approach their language. I am a woman of color and if I had to raise a white child, believe me you won't see me logging on to seek help. Notice that it is this attitude of for example this white 'lady' that shows us colored people that we are not treated the same. She has a colored child under her roof, she needs to be careful. Her mind divides people in society.