Problem solving is the key to bringing stepfamilies together. Davis recommends setting aside a specific time each day to discuss problems or talk. Discussing small matters may prevent major problems from developing later.
Children have a hard time understanding the concept of time and loss.
Allow them, as well as yourself, time to mourn losses. Because additional stress may fall on children who feel they are the reason for the divorce, parents must watch for personality and behavior changes that may signal stress. With everyone's participation, decide who's responsible for specific duties in a new family unit. For instance, while one parent can be the primary disciplinarian, both should agree on the types of discipline that will be used. Make the extra effort.