But I also like to be a little bit nervy and say, Since you ve been thinking about murdering yourself, or If you want to obliterate yourself, or You want to destroy yourself. I use strong words to try to ruin their romantic views about death. One of my patients had this image of how beautiful her hand would be when she died. I paint an ugly picture of the aftermath of the suicide. Most deaths on TV and in movies are either personal and romantic or impersonal and graphic.
Death is ugly and personal.
I want them to know it s not pretty. Assign homework, but don t call it homework, please. For any person in a learning process, most of the learning takes place in the field, not in the lab, Dr. Newman said. The patient s lab is the therapy session, and the field is his or her life outside of therapy. That s where skills are generalized.