Children interpret lack of contact as lack of love.
So that children feel loved, it is very important for parents to work together to encourage a healthy relationship between children and their far away parent. Regular contact by telephone and by mail can go a long way to show love to children who live far away. It lets them know parents think about them often and still love them. The key is show and tell . Children who become messengers or spies or who hear bad things about their parents suffer damage.