I would like an approach in which people design ways to deal with the limitations of the initial argument. Feminism and relationship I haven't articulated this in a long time, so bear with me, please. Feminists rightly pointed out that the personal is political. If a woman is victimized, it has a lot to do with political decisions. Presumably this has given us some progress in a lot of areas.
Cops are more sensitive to rape victims.
On the other hand, the political is not personal. Bringing political triggers for anger into a relationship does not make for an improved relationship. I lived through a period where feminists demanded that men and women do exactly the same things and have the same values. Fortunately there is now more permission for men and women to have differences and negotiate the terms of the relationship. Of course the bathroom thing is better handled by separate abodes, or at least separate bathrooms.