Remember that to take responsibility, it is necessary to take the identity of the murderer, and not the victim. Sex and sexual deviation. Occupation and work. Legal liability for the actions of a body end with the death of that body. Thus there can be no liability in Law for one's actions in a past life.
Communication is the great solvent, and talking about anything is far better than writing it down.
Anyone who cannot communicate, cannot tell other people, what a terrible person the writer is. There are certain rules of communication. Something must be said, with the intention of sending a message across space, and being able to see that it is received and understood. In most countries especially Iceland, it is best to look the other person in the eyes, as this shows one's interest and intention. This may not be good manners in Japan.