You ve got to give yourself a time limit. You ve got to release the past and move on. Six months is a normal recovery time. If you re still hurting after one year, then you should get back together again. Twelve Shades of Blue in Johnson s book whenever you need healing.
Breakups are a legitimate form of grieving.
But don t waste time blaming yourself. That s just worthless. And if you re sitting around, crying about somebody after two years, that s bad. You should do something about yourself. The thing that s going to motivate you and cause you to make a radical shift in your thinking is the vision of what life s going to be like after it s completely over.