An abuser will always say that jealousy is a sign of love. In a healthy relationship, the partners trust each other unless one of them has legitimately done something to break that trust. At first, the batterer will say this behavior is because they are concerned for your safety, a need for you to use time well or to make good decisions. At this behavior gets worse, the abuser may not let you make personal decisions about the house, your clothing, or going to church. Many domestic violence victims only knew their abuser for a few months before they were living together.
Abusers are generally very charming at the beginning of the relationship.
You will be pressured to commit in such a way that later you may feel very guilty if you want to slow down involvement or break up. The abusive person tries to cut the partner off from all resources. The abuser will accuses people who are supportive of causing trouble, and may restrict use of the phone. They will gradually isolate you from all of your friends. Some abusers will try to get you into legal trouble so that you are afraid to drive or go out.