The abuser may contrive to move the target to another city or state, to limit contact. Once out of sight, it is much easier to control the amount of contact the target has with friends and family. Usually abusers have a wide streak of jealousy and may question the target about how time is spent and with whom, what was said, and may probe for details about any friend's background. Of course, jealousy is explained away with declarations of love. If I didn't love you so much, I wouldn't care who you saw, or what you did.
Abusers seem to share the idea that what belongs to the target, belongs to the abuser.
An abuser will quickly expect the target to share anything of value with the abuser and may even push for shared financial investments or commitments. At the same time, the abuser may be very reluctant to share personal possessions with the target. The abuser often carries a volatile rage inside and it will flare up unexpectedly, in reaction to minor irritations. Ironically, the abuser uses the very fact that something minor caused a major fight to indicate that the abuser is really not an angry person. An Unbelievable Charm Frequently, abusers have charming and likable personalities.