Reassure them that they aren't losing you. Let them know that this isn't going to be any threat to their real mother or father. Lead them to feel the added security another adult can bring to the family circle. Create Good Feelings Toward the New Mate . The younger children can adjust to the new parent without knowing much difference.
Care is needed with the older children.
The older children may need more careful guidance. The special attributes and interests of the new parents should be made known. This information alone may be enough to create lasting friendships. Work Toward Full Cooperation of All . Nothing should be done to cause parents to compete for the love of the children.