It makes people think about how ignorant they were for asking in the first place. I was appalled and since then have refused to tell anyone the names I am considering for my future children. On New Years Day we went to husband's mother's house. He was so angry, and I was so angry, especially because both his son and his daughter heard her comment. I couldn't believe how stupid and totally insensitive and wrong her comment was.
Adopted people are 'flawed.
I was mentioning to her about our long wait for our child. I told her that all I asked for was that the child be under age 3. I thought that was so cruel. As if he is so superior that he never has made a mistake, and as if a birthmother could ever forget her child. This experience taught me not to tell many people about our open adoption.