The way you feel about yourself will affect the way your children feel about themselves. The way you cope with the many situations arising from your separation and divorce will greatly determine how your children cope with it. You are at a cross-road, living in the past, nurturing bitterness and hatred and turning your children against your former partner. The other road, leads to becoming involved with experiences that provide opportunities for you to gain success in your endeavors, to get to know yourself better, restore your self confidence strengthen your relationship with your children, reach out for goals that will make your life productive, satisfying, and meaningful. The task of all parents, whether or not the marriage continues, is not easy.
All parents make mistakes.
But if you have a good relationship with your children, they will feel your love and warmth, they will quickly forget your mistakes and remember only your goodness. In many situations the anger and bitterness of one parent towards the other causes breakdowns in communications with children, and the children are kept away from the noncustodial parent. It is extremely hard to know what is the best course of action to take in what seems to be helpless circumstances. However, we have learned some pitfalls to avoid and some long-range thinking and planning that help. Develop a long-range perspective.