The way to make things come out as you would like is to accept them the way they are. If the world were straightforward, then the conventional strategy of acting in order to change the world might work, and the conventional attitude of preferring oneself to others might be justified. But reality is skewed by the conceit of ego , the preconception of autonomy which makes the world seem external. Things are not as they seem. The world is ironic, and faith is more effective than action.
Actions can be counterproductive.
Our attempts to subjugate what we think of as an antagonistic world are thwarted by the corroboration of those preconceptions. As Lao Tsu cautioned, force breeds resistance. Our world does not oppose us, unless we presume it does. If we would change the world we must take the initiative, acknowledge our responsibility for its appearance, and change our preconception of it. We must go first.