At least to me. Before Brian, I'd been dating a guy who owned his own small business. Also, academics, at least in the humanities, tend to own lots of books, so if you're stranded at their house, there's always something to read. Then, too, academics have lots of free time. Then they ask you again the next week.
Academics have no free time.
Nearly every moment not spent working is a moment spent in anxiety about not working. The distinction between work time and free time is meaningless in the minds of most academics I know. Which means that, when their work is not going well, you're faced with an anxiety-ridden, depressed person who feels like a failure. When work is going swimmingly, you never see them. You can't expect those outside academe to be hip to all the nuances.