They are interested in new verbal strategies, more techniques and tools. And in most counseling offices that s exactly what they get. But ultimately tools by themselves don t work. Because you can practice all the communication techniques in the world and still end up sounding like nothing more than an annoying clang. On a few occasions we have tried to write our own interpretation of Paul s love poem.
Communication skills are important to learn no doubt about it but they fall flat without love.
They turn into tools of manipulation. You re just doing that thing our counselor said to do is the response a new technique often elicits in the absence of love. So before you try to tune up your talk, overhaul your heart. Allow love to seize every word, every syllable. Invite love to lay claim to your conversation.