It does need to be understood that the original situation is lost in history and no one can exactly re-construct it. The perception of the child. While absolute truth is unavailable, it is therapeutically critical to honor the client's perception. When parents are involved in the trauma, children invariably place the parents in some kind of all-knowing figure. In other words, it is important to make the person become a ware that their perception was colored by being a child.
Dependent children fear abandonment, helplessness, and death.
On the basis of that fantasy, the person will make survival plans that include various psychological defense mechanisms. For example, a sexually abused child may turn off all bodily sensations in order to endure. The burying of a real need, want or wish A need, want or wish is buried. The long list of natural childlike experiences is then admitted. They may give up the thought of receiving true nurture.