The time of the most maturation in and unfolding of our personalities is during college, and because of this, this time period can be consumed with an unstable and lonely emotional state. Although this is not the case with all students, this type of emotional state can be a precursor to the illusion that many young people believe. By getting married, they think, they will solve their personality conflicts with one another, or they will get away from home, or they will fulfill their physical and emotional needs. It is because of this common disillusion in a critical developmental stage that it is wise to advise waiting for marriage until a person is at least out of college. In reality, the average college student is quite financially and many times emotionally dependent.
College is expensive and money is oftentimes scarce, even for one person.
Because of the fact that a majority of parents discontinue their full financial support when their child marries, the couple has to begin to think about the expenses of two people, a household, and the possibility of having to support a child. In summary, my advice to a fellow Calvin student, or especially to a child of my own, would be that the stresses of having to come to a full understanding of one's own person, the financial and emotional strains of independence, and the frustration of attempting to balance devotion to two very important institutions is too much for a young person to attempt to conquer in one stage of life. It would be highly likely that they would become burnt out and unsatisfied with their marital decision. I suggest that the most wise decision would be to patiently stretch out these burdens over a longer period of time by waiting to get married, so as to improve the quality of devotion that one person can dedicate to each task.