Giving and taking of orders modifies action and results, but does not of itself effect a sharing of purposes, a communication of interests. All communication is educative. To be a recipient of a communication is to have an enlarged and changed experience. The experience has to be formulated in order to be communicated. Formulating requires getting outside of it, seeing it as another would see it.
All communication is like art.
It may fairly be said, therefore, that any social arrangement that remains vitally social, or vitally shared, is educative to those who participate in it. Only when it becomes cast in a mold and runs in a routine way does it lose its educative power. There is, accordingly, a difference between the education which everyone gets from living with others, and the deliberate educating of the young. As civilization advances, the gap between the capacities of the young and the concerns of adults widens. Learning by direct sharing in the pursuits of grown-ups becomes increasingly difficult.