However, the opportunity and necessity for the host to model hospitable behavior continue as the community grows. Force backfires on authority online. You have to persuade and pull because pushing is an automatic loss for authority. Avoid taking sides. Not all conflict is to be avoided.
Conflict tests the boundaries of the community.
In the long run, this is about democracy. Don't freeze a topic to make a point. Think about whether the topic belongs to more people than just you. People get really pissed if you use a host power unjustly. Introduce yourself, let people get to know you.