The grieving person has enough thoughts swimming around his or her head. However, when they do give you a lead, go with it. Don t embellish too much, or bring the situation around to yourself. Just allow them explore their thoughts their way. In other words, double pressure.
Death is final.
Nothing will bring the deceased back. Death, in many societies today is not a common occurrence. I am sorry for the cultures, which seem to follow no ritual as it is my experience that those who do, seem to emerge from the entire experience in a more balanced way. Ritual and ceremony, in my experience are powerful tools of helping one to face their loss. The grief process is essential and must be allowed to happen.