Postponers will put life on hold until they lose weight. However, they aren't able to meet their weight loss goal because they aren't comfortable with the expectations they have placed on themselves regarding what will happen when they lose the weight. Sabotagees allow themselves to be sabotaged by friends and loved ones who hinder weight loss efforts. If she's a woman, perhaps her husband likes her overweight because of his own insecure fears that he may lose her, or maybe her girlfriends have become jealous by her success. So, her husband or friends may encourage gatherings around food to make sure the Sabotagee keeps the weight on.
Defeatists believe they have no discipline in their eating.
They think they don't have the willpower to control what and how much they put in their mouth. By having a defeatist attitude, Defeatists live up to their own expectations by gorging themselves at the party. Avoiders decline invitations to go to social gatherings because they don't like the way they look. Avoiders use food to subdue feelings of loneliness. This prolongs the agony and fosters continued social isolation.