That's all very well, but it also leads to people sitting back and allowing you to run with it. You become resentful that nobody is helping and even more resentful that they then start to find fault with what you are doing. You turn into a martyr, complaining that you are always doing everything for people and that they are nothing but a bunch of ungrateful whiners. Mothers can make the mistake of being controllers and turning their homes into a battleground over cleanness, neatness, and non-cooperative kids who just hang their clothes on the floor and who complain vociferously about having to do dishes. Controllers never tell you anything.
Controllers never ask for help.
Since you won't willingly step forward and help me I will wear my martyr's face. I don't have the entire answer, but think for a moment about how we are brought up. For the most part, it's been by direct command. We are directors, not supporters, and we get impatient waiting for other to take hold. I think it is in our nature.