Family members give trust and acceptance. They are accountable to each other and the moral code of their beliefs. Healthy families worship and share spiritual growth together. This is a family held together by bonds of loyalty, love and tradition, rather than force, guilt and fear. Rules and expectations are clear and consistent.
Communication is open and direct, rather than filled with hidden loyalties and secrets.
Change is tolerated, and family members are willing to live with the unchangeable. Since they are secure in their identity, people and ideas that are different are not seen as threats. Growth and achievements are celebrated within healthy families. Such events are not viewed as threatening, but as successes shared among the members. Events such as birthdays and holidays are enjoyed rather than dreaded.