You might try dating a little bit. Getting to know a man as a friend first, with the potential of becoming sexual or not, reduces much of the pressure of what you think might happen in your first sexual encounter. Once you realize that a man is just a human being like you, with feelings, fears, apprehensions, joys and passions, it's easier to imagine having a positive sexual experience. Unfortunately, our society, especially the media, normalizes images of violent sexual experiences. But in real life, there are more good sexual relationships than violent ones, even though the violent ones are the ones that are glamorized in our society.
Anticipation is often more fearful than an act itself.
Try to calm your mind, and get to know a few guys who you might feel attracted to. You should also know that if you HAVE been sexually molested or raped in the past, there are services on campus available for you. Call the Rape Crisis Center at 4-HELP or make an appointment at Counseling and Psych. If your fears persist, you can still make an appointment at either of these numbers to talk it through in person or on the phone. Also try Nightline, a peer counseling and referral line at 4-7777.