If they come home unusually late, they will not be expected to give an explanation. The American adolescent insists more on gaining outward signs of his independence. The first sign is economic. This is often interpreted by the French as irrefutable evidence of American materialism. The parents encourage him to learn how to manage his time and money wisely .
American parents worry if their children hesitate to test their own wings.
They interpret a reluctance to leave home as an unhealthy sign of dependence, of insecurity, of an unhealthy need for protection. Remaining with one's parents beyond age 20 is a childish act. Her failures and her successes belong to her alone, although I will do what I can to help her over the bumps. Verbal encouragement and support is healthier and more readily given than financial support. And, as is true for the parents, the professor will not publicly criticize the work of a student, but will point out her strengths and what she can do to excel in the areas where her talents lie.