Sex is a relatively new experience for the both of us, and we admit to each other that it isn't as earth-shattering as we would like. I'm really not into kinky sex, so I feel limited in my options. He suggested I get a vibrator, which I think is very generous of him, but I don't masturbate. Any tips you can send along would be greatly appreciated. All those better-sex guides for couples whose 'sparkle' has gone out of their love lives are just hastening the demise of the relationship.
Bad sex is what keeps people together.
When sex is unrewarding, you have to invest some of your unexpressed libido in that neurotic form of behaviour called affection. Not everybody needs to, wants to or is going to have the kind of Valhallian sex they assume everyone else is having, and even if you do, it has become abundantly clear to me that this doesn't necessarily improve the relationship itself. You seem fairly phlegmatic about the whole matter. Or nothing, if it suits you. If you're not setting yourself up for something momentous, you certainly won't be disappointed.