The trick is to look for patterns and combinations of behaviors, researchers say. That's pretty normal, says Steiner-Adair. She's denying her hunger to feel in control. Once you start noticing eating changes, keep questions about food to a minimum. Steiner-Adair stresses that staying calm is vital.
Disordered eating feels like a lifeline to a girl.
It's the only way she feels in control. Johnson suggests seeking professional advice yourself before mentioning it to your daughter. Start with your pediatrician. If the answer is about being teased or fitting in, brainstorm solutions but don't talk about size and shape. If the answer is about her or his body, seek help.