For example, you may be unable to sleep, to eat, to stop crying, you may feel self pity, and may lose interest in relationships and in living. You may feel alone and believe that others cannot understand the depth of your feelings. You may feel panicky and fear the idea of having to carry on with your life. Usually, with time, the pain eases and you find you can re-organize yourself as you come to accept the death. You may then find yourself being able to remember the person without feeling so overwhelmed.
Death produces grief for several reasons.
It may represent a profound personal loss. Also, it is beyond our control and yet it is an inescapable, irreversible fact that remains a mystery. Death also causes upheaval. On an emotional level, you lose a person upon whom you may have depended. The intensity of the grief reaction, however, is a function of how the loss is perceived.