Most people can probably recall a time that they experienced a conflict with a friend, teacher, 4-Her, parent, or family member. Sometimes the results were satisfying, at other times disaster resulted. Conflict seems to be something we should avoid. We fear confrontation in conflict and we associate it with anger and see it as destructive. But conflict is normal and happens continually.
Conflict can even be a constructive and positive experience for all parties involved.
Our reaction to, and method of dealing with conflict rather than the conflict itself is what causes painful, frightening or even damaging experiences. Conflict issues can be big or small between individuals or among groups. It can be as simple as a 4-H volunteer trying to get a member to decide on a project, or as complex as a rule's violation at the state fair. There must be some kind of struggle or threat either real or suspected. Conflict doesn't exist until both parties are aware there is a problem.