Trusting your partner's intent is vital in finding resolution from conflict. If you trust your partner comes from a place of love and caring, even though they may not be communicating that at the moment, it will help you come to a place of being curious rather than trying to win. Trying to understand your partner rather than becoming defensive is quite a challenge in the moment. One way is to be curious or wanting to understand even under pressure is to know your partner more fully. Be curious about each other.
Arguments are often a way to seek reassurance.
Before you argue ask yourself if you are wanting reassurance about something. Here we go.