Critiques are gifts, given to a writer by someone who cares enough, for one reason or the other, to want that writer to succeed. Perhaps because someone cared enough to comment on their work in it s fledgling stages and they remember. Perhaps because they love writing so much they feel a kindred spirit in the person s work they hold. Perhaps because they simply would like to see one more person succeed and realize their dream. Whatever the reason, it s a gift of honor and respect toward a writer.
Critiques require emotional sacrifice on both ends of the spectrum.
Writers must work on nurturing a mindset for receiving criticism. They must remind themselves of the spirit with which critiques are bestowed, and train themselves not to fall in love too deeply with their work. On the other hand, a person who critiques must prepare themselves for reading things they wouldn t ordinarily read, enjoy, or have an interest in. They must remind themselves that the success of the finished piece has nothing to do with whether or not they agree with the content of it. The sacrifice of both parties requires healthy attitudes, also.