Languaging could not arise without intimacy - in separateness. Love was the emotion needed for languaging to arise. The difference is emotional. We transfer power to someone else by obeying. We are born trusting, but fear develops because it is the basic manner of manipulating others.
Aggression is cultivated.
Sensuality, tenderness and sexuality constitute conditions for intimacy. Our evolution continues around love. Our culture is a network of conversation, the central aspect of which is our emotioning. We understand when we dance in the flow of emotioning of the other. Cultural change occurs in this way.