If you KNOW submissiveness turns you on, as a feminist you have a right to explore your turn on freely. I believe many dom men feel the same way. That we are somehow betraying a social ideal by exerting power over a loved one. It seems to me that is also the dif between being dominant and being domineering. A good dom does NOT undermine a slave's self-esteem.
Bullies make people feel worthless.
They are Priceless.