The second is to be kind. And the third is to be kind. To fulfill this bit of advice, one must find a position or an existence if you will, that enables one to be kind. Although important in any human relationship, it is especially so in our relationships with children. One cannot deceive or beguile a child.
Children have mystical powers of perception.
An early act of kindness by the dentist should be a sincere attempt to involve the child in some way in matters that pertain to him. They showed evidence of wanting to be tactful, courteous, and to see things as others might see them. And recognition, also, of the children who already have established themselves as trouble makers. Keep in mind that the United States was not born civil. Americans taught themselves how to act at work and play, courting and visiting and consoling.