They are more likely to use courtesies if they are not constantly reminded. Make requests simple Too many requests are confusing for a young child to remember. Make sure that your requests are short, clear and consistent. Laughing at a behavior one time and reacting angrily another sends the child a contradictory message. In other words, tell the child what to do rather than what not to do.
Children respond much quicker to positive demands than negative ones.
Allow children to make choices when possible. They are more likely to show appropriate behavior when they have some control over their actions. Adults should communicate with children with the respect and consideration they give their friends. Talking with children lets them know that not only do we have something to tell them, but that we are also willing to listen to what they have to say. Keep lines of communication open by listening attentively when the child talks to you Encourage the child to talk to you.