In years past, this has been pointed out to me, and I'm sorry I didn't catch it. Perhaps you misunderstood your friend. It's possible that what she said was intended as a compliment. Write to Abby. For a personal, unpublished reply, send a self-addressed, stamped envelope to Dear Abby, P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, Calif., 90069.
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