Intimacy is freedom from anxiety in presence of vulnerability. Church is not to make us more anxious. We need people in life to help establish priorities, provide support, get along, only way to make it. Church must be that. No solo Christianity.
Church is a place of acceptance rather than judgment.
Nurture and encourage. Our fellowship is suspicious, superficial, we are afraid to reveal self. We must find a different dynamic, small groups, talk different. Mingle the private and public arenas. Return Christianity to the marketplace.