The essence of the rules of etiquette is kindness and consideration for the other person. Convention change along with the times but the basic rules of good manners never change. Good behavior is everybody's business and good taste can be everyone's goal. A code of behavior is an inevitable part of life in any community. A system or set of rules is vital for anything in which human beings are involved.
Common sense demands a system.
It has an attractive side like putting flowers on the table for the sake of beauty and gracefulness It has a great civic value, this is the prime contribution of etiquette. Civil values lie in the fact that etiquette imposes consideration for others. It demands willingness to discipline oneself for the sake of others. Etiquette has sometimes been questioned because it can as a substitute for kindness or gratitude. But the one who pretends to a virtue has lacks is not as dangerous to society as the one who convinces others that virtue is unnecessary.