Don't confuse raising a child with training a child. Raising children consists of feeding, clothing and protecting them from harm. Training is steering your child toward your pre-determined goal. Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it. The word train carries the meaning of initiating or inaugurating.
Airplanes have dual flight controls.
The pilot sitting in the left seat is pilot in command. This choice of direction must not be made by the child on his own. During instrument training I was drilled over and over on processes and procedures. The objective was to get my mind to rely solely on the messages given it by the flight instruments. Now I was asking it to totally disregard all those sensations and go by a new set of principles or laws.