By reasoning with him you explain the cause and effect relationship between his disobeying you and why he s not feeling good. With this methods and all methods of discipline discussed above, talking with your child about the wrongdoing and the discipline will help you both assess what the child has learned from it. All the corporal free methods of discipline discussed share the same guidelines in working effectively. Second, following through with discipline not only shows a child that you are serious about changing her behavior but also causes the child to think and learn from it. No child will take discipline seriously if she knows she can usually talk the parent out of it.
Consistency is the third guideline.
This entails using similar discipline for similar transgressions. This will actually make decisions about discipline easier for the parent since future punishment is based on past discipline. It will also give the child a clearer understanding of what behaviors are expected out of him. The final guideline is having the punishment make sense. As discussed earlier, the punishment should be designed so the child learns from it.