Share with your spouse or children what happened, how you felt, and what you wish had happened. Being honest sometimes means admitting that you don't know the answers to everything. When you tell your child what you don't know, also tell them what you do know to reassure them. Think of the questions you are most afraid your children will ask you. Talk to your spouse or another adult about how you will respond when your children ask these questions.
All children can do something to help.
When they do their part, they feel they are part of the solution, not the problem. When they do help, let them know you appreciate it. In addition, let your children participate in decision making whenever possible. This gives them the tools for handling problems now and later in life. In the video, the mother told the daughter that they would need to work together to make the girl's lunch every day, and that the child would need to get up earlier to make transportation workable.