They have been hurt too deeply. Loving must be done on their terms so that they will not be hurt again. They attempt to control everyone and everything in their world. No one gets into their world, past their barriers, without proving that they are truly trustworthy. Therefore, strangers, helpful neighbors, even therapists, often see the parents as the problem and believe the winsome child is 'beautiful'. . .
Adoptive parents wonder why.
I'm not the one that hurt him. I am trying to give him love. This is not a diagnostic tool. If you think your child has an attachment disorder, contact an attachment therapist for an evaluation.