I don't know. For years, my excuse was the kids. And of course, I realize that was probably the worst thing I did for them. When someone abuses another person they often have a certain attitude such as thinking that it is the abused persons fault and that they brought it upon themselves. The abuser often blames the person who was abused for their troubles.
Abusers often have a hard time communicating.
Unfortunately the abuser is rarely gets action taken against them. But when they do it is often very serious. The least that could happen is that the abuser gets a restraining order. In more serious cases there can be a number of penalties ranging from short prison term to a life sentence. This is the information that I found when I looked up domestic abuse.