Small offenses like leaving the cap off the toothpaste cause him or her to have huge anger scenes or act out in an outrageous manner. Jealousy is a sign of insecurity not love. You are questioned about who you talk to and you may frequently receive calls or unexpected visits during the day. Your friends and family are put down and you are put down for socializing with them. You or they are accused of ridiculous motives.
Abusive people have problems with handling anger.
They try to control their environment with aggressive behavior, not assertive behavior. Asserting his or her own rights at the expense of others. Engages in inappropriate outbursts or badly overreacts. Intent is to humiliate or to get even, to put down others. Feels superior to others.