For many it is highly significant that the first family is coextensive with the second family. For others, perhaps more restless types, the once born style does not allow the individual to leave the first family and, as an adult, join with new brothers and sisters. That block can be fatal to spiritual growth. There is yet another problem. Other Brethren attempt to expand the church family by inviting newcomers to house meetings, discussion groups and service projects.
Brethren recognize that family patterns are changing.
Parents are encouraged to share decision-making. Parents are encouraged to treat children as full members of the family and that their concerns and opinions should be heard. However, this is not enough. When society is under great pressure, it turns to the family for stability. When the family is under great pressure, it turns to the individual for stability.