It was probably difficult for them to put their finger on just what was wrong, but they were worried about you. It is difficult to confront someone when they are wrong so people avoid it until they can't stand the behavior anymore. When addicts are confronted with their behavior they feel annoyed and irritated. They want to be left alone with the lies that they are telling themselves. People are powerless when they don't know the truth about themselves.
Addicts lie to themselves about how much they are drinking or using.
They lie to themselves about how often they use. They lie to themselves about their problems, even when the problems are obvious. They blame others for their problems. I want to. My friends won't like me if I don't use.