And these things which you are working so hard to reject are the issues you must learn to draw close. It means I am taking ownership of them because right now they belong to me. In order to take ownership, you need to verbalize it. Once you've owned and made friends with the part of you that you don't like, you need to take responsibility to make adjustments where possible so that your limitation will be less of an obstacle. In the example above, a reasonable step might be to take a class in improving reading and comprehension ability.
Awareness is the key to mastering the skill of acceptance.
We must first acknowledge what we find so repulsive about ourselves before we can embrace it and take ownership of it. Rabbi Dov Heller is licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who holds Masters Degrees in Clinical Psychology from Antioch University and in Contemporary Theology from Harvard University. He also holds a B.A. in philosophy and was ordained a rabbi in Jerusalem in 1982. He is presently the director of the Aish HaTorah Counseling Center in Los Angeles and in addition to teaching extensively for Aish HaTorah, runs a private practice specializing in adult psychotherapy, marriage counseling, and personal guidance. Thank You and bless you.