As a result, the identity of the individual, as well as the couple, can be compromised. So much energy is devoted to the children that parents often feel there is little left for themselves and each other. Real life, real bills, and real laundry all work against maintaining a romantic and spontaneous marriage. A relationship needs to shift in order to accommodate new parenting roles but this does not necessarily mean that intimacy be lost. The marital relationship is the core of family life.
Children model all they see including the way parents interact.
It is helpful to be aware of the images you project. Relationships are hard work, but there are ways to rebuild and redefine the romantic bond between yourself and your partner. Children need to be aware of the separate and distinct relationship you have with your spouse. It is important for kids to understand that you value and respect the marriage. Even if children feel temporarily left out, it can foster their own sense of independence and autonomy.