I reinforced her behavior. She continued to do what she did because I allowed it. But it also takes two to make the marriage work. Neither of us can do all the work. We both have to try.
Communication is the key, one person speaks and one person listens.
She tells me what's bothering her, and I try to understand and fix it. To anyone that feels like giving up on your marriage, I would suggest that you keep trying. If there is any thread of hope, keep trying. I've found that my hope and joy about the future with my wife are growing each day. It took two people to get to where we were.