Invest in your marriage. Work at it daily. Make it a priority, even above your children. We all need and want love. We need to feel it, see it and hear it.
Affection affirms and shows approval.
Hopefully, anyone in a counseling position will respond with caring biblical advice. I love the Lord, and I want my spouse to love Him as much as I do. These things are by no means improper goals, but concentrating on the problems distracts from our mission, which is to glorify God in any situation. By doing that, we will develop a deeper acceptance of His sovereignty, even if that means the spouse never accepts Christ. The Case of the Unchurched Christian A Christian is to be in the body of believers, using his or her gifts to serve others and getting exposure to the instruction of God's Word.