It is important to identify problems early. It is best when we can find them before they start to cause pain, but recognizing the problem is not enough. Complaining about the disturbance too often prevents action. The problem with complaining is that it goes nowhere. It is passive.
Complaints are dependent pleas.
Like the cries of an infant, they are pleadings of helplessness. The infant cannot help itself. Crying lets the parent know something is wrong. An empathic parent can then alter the situation, feeding the infant, changing it, or making it warmer. When the parent makes the correct response, the child stops crying.