The secret of using consequences effectively is to stay calm and detached. Be friendly, not vengeful and spiteful. Parents cannot apply consequences if they are angry. Remember that giving a child a choice and a chance to suffer the consequences is a learning process for the child. They can be used to get children to school and meals on time, and to take responsibility for homework.
Consequences are difficult to use .
It is not easy to use consequences as a way to discipline children. It is hard work to think of consequences that really are logical. Sometimes it takes several weeks to get results. Parents are so used to telling their children what to do that it is very difficult to sit back and let them suffer the consequences of their actions. The effort is well worth it, however, because it means fewer battles between parent and child.