The domineering husband merely supplants the domination of the parents. When a mother brings a baby home, Nature gives birth to a new constitution. The new mother will innately emerge as a mama bear, but mounting expectations from society and her husband strip her maternal essence away from her. Baby blues are really mama's blues. After delivering her child, she becomes confused about her evolving identity and the fear of not being able to completely be there for her child and her husband.
Babies make thinking parents take personal inventory.
For many, the accounting is more like an audit, and the growing realization that so much has to change keeps the parent from doing anything at all. In the worse case, the mother keeps the door closed to her past, disconnects from her heart, and anguishes in silence. Once you know what you want, it's important to state it. Because when a mother smolders inside and resents her husband for expecting too much, not contributing, or not allowing her to be maternal, the child loses. Couples locked in marriages of resentment and expectations usually hide the anguish from their friends, family, and peers.