She needs to develop a healthy balance among her various responsibilities, and should be more conscious of her limits to meet those expectations that she and others in the family have placed upon her. In essence, she needs to recognize that she can't be all things to all the people in her life While the majority of adult children gladly assume the role of caregiver for older parents, the success of that experience greatly depends on setting limits and maintaining open lines of communication with all family members involved. When caregivers neglect any of the three areas of their life, it is not at all unusual for the caregiver to experience physical problems, depression or need to be hospitalized. Do not expect other family members to share your exact expectations in this process. Realize that only certain amounts of caregiving can be accomplished without feeling obligated to handle everything.
Caregivers have a tendency to always give and never receive.
Let others help if it is offered. Keep a list of things that church members, friends and other family members can do. When they call, accept their help. Churches have often told me that they would have been glad to help a family, but were not made aware of the need. Caregivers may reach a point when it is time to engage a professional in geriatrics to assist in getting the help they need.