Much personal power is given away in the process of denying one's true feelings. 1 Competition, success, ownership and external rewards become the foundation of Superman pseudo power. This conditioning insidiously crystallizes the male role of performer,hero, macho,provider, achiever, doer. That's how we transform a human being into a human doing. From that place of isolation from his true self, he becomes an easy prey to a system that only values external rewards such as success and ownership.
Competition becomes the rule and the way to relate to other men.
The degree of his denial of emotions and bodily feelings may lead him to extreme abuse of power, greed, destruction and violence. Wars and the destruction of our natural environment are just examples of such denial. While men are focusing on physical attraction and external rewards, internal rewards such as communication, intimacy, love and commitment remain unsatisfied. Lack of sexual fulfillment results in powerlessness for both men and women. Rarely do we think of men as sexually powerless mainly because we associate the male phallus as the symbol of sexual power.