We look at all those successful people and we hate them. We never had such a chance, we tell ourselves. There's no God. If there was a God, where was God when I needed God. The last type of lie that we tell ourselves, and this one is the most characteristic of chemical dependency is denial.
Denial is a stubborn angry refusal to see the truth.
Here we refuse to see what is right before our eyes. We block out what is real until we really don't see it at all. The best way to show you how this works is to give you an example. You are walking down the street and it is a very hot day. It's ninety-five degrees in the shade.