We too highly revere the building of self-esteem, mistaking it for security and confidence in Christ and artificially inflating our esteem to a level higher than it ought to be. Like happiness, we can't get self-esteem by trying. We laud individualism, prizing our own needs over the needs of our community. What matters to me becomes more important than what matters to us. The counseling relationship itself often reflects and perpetuates individualism.
Counseling becomes a sanctioned retreat.
The counselor is caring, empathetic, understanding, and safe. Pain is privatized if the story is limited to the counselee and the counselor. Furthermore, values of the counselor can dominate, obscuring counsel of the broader church. There is no doubt that an uncritical embrace of psychology and techniques of modern counseling weakens our faithfulness to the special revelation of God's Word to us - the Bible. But there is also the issue of general revelation.