I contend that simple sensitivities in the workplace or in our homes are more purposeful than in a restaurant where the beans have a good chance of being perfect anyway. The chef receives compliments on the main dish, rarely on the beans. Spoil the beans. Raise the children. Save the feelings.
Children are interesting to watch in a restaurant.
Their parents usually have to keep them contained, pick up from their silverware, which always hits the floor, and soak the napkins with water from the glass just spilled. A social skill is in learning how to behave in a restaurant because it is somehow different than our homes. Conservative families employ similar social skills at the dinner table and insist on quiet etiquette and decorum. It is interesting to see in our social atmosphere today a less than conservative flair. In our homes, we loosen the tie, throw off the jacket and ruin the beans.