Remember, it is important to frequently express your affection for your partner. Share your feelings as openly and freely as you can without indulging in self-pity. Let your spouse know you would like to share their feelings. Neither husband nor wife should try to interpret what the other says, read between the lines, or discern the meanings. If you have children and they can write, have them enclose notes or pictures in your letters.
Children can use separate envelopes.
Send pictures of home, the Christmas tree, activities around the house, etc. Have your spouse write separate letters to the children rather than a joint letter. Relay news of the neighborhood, friends, and relatives. Clip out newspaper articles that might be of interest to your spouse. Cards can help to express your thoughts and feelings, often in a unique or humorous way.