Anger is expressed overtly to hurt another, physically, emotionally or psychologically. I will blame someone else because I am afraid of my feelings.
Anger is repressed by internalizing and denying.
Bottled up, it can eventually blow up aggressively. My anger is not OK so I will deny it. I do not value my feelings. A. Anger is expressed directly in non-threatening ways that do not hurt a. Yourself, b. Another person or c. My anger is OK and tells others that my self esteem is strong.