In saying this, I realize that none of us can achieve perfection in loving others. We all have our ups and downs in how well we follow Christ. To keep a healthy perspective about this, we must look at our behavior over time and see the trend we are following. Are we, in general, improving in our ability to love, or are we losing that ability. Ideally, we would start when our kids are born.
Babies are very self centered.
They smile when they are happy, and they cry when they want something. They have no ability to control their actions. Their behavior is completely based on their needs. As they grow older, we are to help our children become concerned for the welfare of others and to do things to make others happy. I am not talking about giving others everything they want.