These are often the very ones God will use to be the support and heart-healer for other wounded people. I don't think so. The bent of our heart toward God makes the difference, not constant averting to the divine action going on. Real caring never smacks of patronage, shoulds or oppressive control. It is sacramental of God's own respectful love, enfleshed with a human face and arms.
All peoples have loves and longings and griefs like our own.
That's why God became one of us in Jesus, so God could be seen and felt and touched through our humanity. Next month will be the last of this season's Oblate Letters. I strongly urge you to think seriously about how YOU incarnate Life and Love in your own sphere and situation. And that's what matters. That's what will help God change and heal our dear, beautiful, often sad and wounded world.