Participation in a cooperative response for the offender is important since we recognize that the goals cannot be achieved through coercion. All actions should be tested by whether they are reasonable, respectful and restorative. This is especially important in the coercive response area since the difference between abuse and supportive coercion is if it meets the criteria of being reasonable, respectful, and restorative. We can test it by its outcome. If the outcome is one that leads in the direction of the goal, then it is restorative.
Accountability is essential.
Trust grows if agreements are made and kept. Therefore it is essential that the cooperative agreements be clearly understood. The follow-up accountability process is intended to encourage all parties to keep the agreements and to keep everyone informed. The criteria to decide if the cooperative process should be utilized again is if all of the parties are still willing to search for how to make things as right as possible and be accountable for the agreements. If agreements are made in this cooperative process to get you off my back, but not kept, there is new violation and trust will deteriorate even further.