That exploration led me, with fits and starts, to the Catholic faith, where I have lived, gratefully, ever since. The Church's teaching on the homosexual orientation and chastity have been two great liberators on my journey, and it's appropriate to amplify upon them. Much of the uniqueness of the teaching on homosexual orientation stems from the absence of the determinism that characterizes so many other positions. Like everyone else, they can choose good or evil. The Church's corollary position, that homosexuals are called to chastity, contributes to this teaching's unique expression of grace because of what it teaches about love.
Contemporary culture is filled with counterfeits to love.
But so much of the time we do not love them as much as what they can do for us. We love food for its taste, pets for their companionship, the outdoors for its beauty. This is clear to me in the contrast between life before committing to chastity and life afterward. Each made the other, with his consent, a means to an end. But that is not love, and it contrasts sharply in my experience after committing to chastity.