At these times, working with a qualified therapist can help immeasurably in reclaiming your life. Acknowledge that you need help. This is the most difficult step. If you're not sure what to expect from therapy, check out The Consumer's Guide to Psychotherapy by Jack Engler, Ph.D. and Daniel Goleman, Ph.D. for answers to common questions. Identify the specific problem you're facing.
Different problems have specific approaches to treatment.
Get referrals for several therapists. Check the phone book for national professional associations, such as The American Psychiatric Association. They will provide referrals near you, and can match you with the kind of therapy that will be most beneficial. Also check with friends, relatives or leading figures in the field, such as the head of psychiatry at a local hospital. Self-help organizations are another good source.