During the times when he was feeling better, I often felt worse. I learned that by identifying where my thinking was getting me into trouble and learning to combat these thoughts, I would often feel a lot better. Here are some ways our thinking can lead us into feeling depressed, angry, and anxious and what we can do to feel a little better. Personally It is so easy, especially when you are dealing with a spouse who is acting out, to take things personally. Behaviors may range from criticizing and nit-picking to accusations and verbal and emotional abuse.
Abuse is never acceptable.
Other behaviors may seem to be directed at us personally, but often this is just our perception. It is helpful to recognize these times and redirect our thinking by responding to these thoughts with reasonable explanations. He is acting this way because of his illness. She is having a bad day. If you anticipate a catastrophe before you are sure there is a problem, you create added stress for yourself and may end up feeling anxious.