Others suffer the death of a loved one or the loss or postponement of a righteous goal like marriage or childbearing. Still others struggle with personal impairments or with feelings of rejection, inadequacy, or depression. Through the justice and mercy of a loving Father in Heaven, the refinement and sanctification possible through such experiences can help us achieve what God desires us to become. We are challenged to move through a process of conversion toward that status and condition called eternal life. Charity is attained through a succession of acts that result in a conversion.
Charity is something one becomes.
All of this helps us understand an important meaning of the parable of the laborers in the vineyard, which the Savior gave to explain what the kingdom of heaven is like. As you remember, the owner of the vineyard hired laborers at different times of the day. Some he sent into the vineyard early in the morning, others about the third hour, and others in the sixth and ninth hours. At the end of the day the owner of the vineyard gave the same wage to every worker, even to those who had come in the eleventh hour. The owner did not yield but merely pointed out that he had done no one any wrong, since he had paid each man the agreed amount.