A mother's relationship with her son is often the most important to her in her life, but comes later in life. A girl's relationship with her father and brothers is strongest in childhood, and is then disrupted by her marriage, but remains important as her refuge and defence. Mother and daughter, and sisters are closely associated until the girls marry, a heartbreaking event for the mother. The men of the household are its permanent core. A father is proud of his sons and expects to live off their labour.
Brothers are the closest of all people in the village.
Normally, brothers divide their households on their father's death. Marriage is arranged by the two fathers. After successful negotiations and agreement on bride price, a special betrothal visit is paid by the boy's woman to the girl's village or household, with gifts. The couple are not supposed to meet during betrothal. The wedding last four days to a week, and the sexes conduct their ceremonies separately.