Anytime you enter a relationship where two persons are physically intimate you create strong emotional and spiritual bonds. If you are a normal, emotionally healthy individual, you will probably feel regret and discomfort for some time. Usually there are very clear expectations for the relationship, involving mutual fidelity, a promise to care for one another through hard times, and an openness to the possibility of children. When both persons honor the marriage vows, the relationship becomes better on all fronts. Although a faithful marriage to an uninfected person precludes the possibility of a sexually transmitted disease, pregnancy may be a possibility for up to thirty years.
Birth control can and does fail .
Unless at least one person is infertile, a surprise pregnancy can happen at any time. The most common response to this biological fact is the use of contraceptives. Contraceptives can provide reasonably good protection from an unexpected pregnancy, but they are not foolproof. Stress can occur when an unplanned pregnancy arises at a difficult time. Since married couples generally do not consider adoption a viable option, they will either choose parenting or resort to an abortion.