God does not always answer us when we ask. Sin blocks the receiving of God-inspired counsel. Sin in your life also may block you from making progress. The counselor always desires that you make progress. However, when the counselor discovers a wall of resistance in your life, he may be unable to give the counsel that he would like to give until that wall is torn down.
Christian counseling is to address the wall of resistance in love and with spiritual authority.
Eighth , effective counseling is to be conviction based. The primary reason that most people need counsel is that they, in some way, have not obeyed God or have not been taught to follow the Spirit. An effort to live by our own abilities and reject the grace of God is to live in sin and bring judgment upon ourselves. Therefore, one must come to see the roots of sin before he can get very far on the road to recovery. Ninth , effective counseling needs to speak the truth in love.