However, Wolf comforts, it's not the disaster it might seem. Listening takes patience and the baby-self will not tolerate stress. Wolf assures that adolescence does end eventually - like a miracle. Children begin being nice and respectful, lots of the baby-self is gone. You could say you want to think about an issue if there's a chance you might change your mind, but be consistent about getting out of the line of fire.
Cognitive changes occur during the teen years.
Adolescents begin to understand things in a more adult way, but they must see themselves as independent beings. Heretofore they had strong, dependent feelings for their parents - now they are trying not to feel like little kids. Yet each time they see their parents they identify with that dependency. Boys tend to isolate as their way of showing independence, and they keep their thoughts inside. The paradox is that girls are harder on parents emotionally, but still remain closer to them.