I think that they got a certificate the end of it. My friend's sister claims that she learnt stuff about him that she never knew or would have ever thought to ask. That is part of the reason why they have these retreats. They serve as a forum where each partner can ask questions, can participate in activities that allow them to learn more about each other. There are scenarios presented and each has to say how they would deal with them.
Couples grow either closer together or they realise what they can expect down the road.
They think that they know everything about someone and they can predict their feelings on certain issues. I hope that this is a scenario, not a real life experience, cause if I were the counsellor, I d be scratching my head too. I concede, this was a toughie, and it's just a scenario that was used in a group discussion format one Saturday morning at the college. The intent was to help us all to recognise that there are times when compromise, while it may be the option many choose, is not an ideal. Co-operation is a superior solution to compromise, especially when the compromise involves deeply held values.