Info Tech Serv. Web Tech Serv. We have three major assumptions. Disagreement and conflict are inevitable in intimate relationships. Styles of expressing anger are learned and therefore can be changed.
Angry feelings depend on one's perception of the situation.
So developing self knowledge, listening, and communicating skills are the keys to fair-fighting. Generally we think of fights as angry confrontations between two or more people where tempers flare, voices are raised, and insults are exchanged. This way of resolving conflict, while unfortunately common, usually results in bitterness, distrust, and desire for revenge. The issues may be temporarily settled, but one or both partners feel resentful, angry or hurt. Both partners can experience a loss of intimacy.