Pregnancy can occur the first time you have sex. Withdrawal can work, but it requires that a woman trust her partner and may be difficult for teenage boys to practice. Using birth control takes away the romance. Planning to use birth control does not have to take away the romance and enjoyment. In fact, it can relieve many worries about unwanted pregnancy.
Birth control is the woman's responsibility.
Although only the woman can get pregnant, it is the couple's responsibility to discuss and agree on a method of birth control. In addition, both partners need to take responsibility for STD prevention. If you loved me, you'd have sex with me. If you loved me, you wouldn't pressure me to do something I'm not comfortable with. Everybody's doing it.