The Strengthening Power of Disability Robert Nathanson, EdD, MSW, doesn't dispute the fact that disability can crush a marriage. But he points out that destruction isn't the only effect disability can bring. There are couples who have really held up to whatever has been brought to them. Dr. Nathanson said it's the responsibility of PTs to offer their patients hope, and to refer them to community resources like centers for independent living or directly to family counseling if they sense trouble in relationships. Focusing on the positive, what works in the marriage, is important, he said, as is seeking positive role models who have made their marriages work, as well as religious counsel.
Couples can adjust well to disability.
If a couple used to jog together, then one partner incurs an SCI, well, they're not going to run together anymore. But one spouse can jog and the other can wheel himself along in his wheelchair. If they used to have a favorite restaurant, and that restaurant is down five steps, well, they'll find a new favorite restaurant. And if they like to dance, they can still dance. They just live their lives a little differently.