Offer explanations of what the occasion is about and what behavior will be expected so guessing isn't necessary. To prevent reactions, use continuous two-way communication and allow the child a certain amount of responsibility in setting his or her own rules or limits. This may be particularly true when there have been many changes in the family home. Children may resist limits if there is too much adult control and not enough room allowed for their choice. Often adults must be careful that they, too, follow the rules they make for children.
Consistency plays a major role in parenting.
Children may act out because they want attention. Children may act out because they need some control. Children may hurt others because they don't feel important. Parents can prepare the child for new situations by describing expected behaviors. Parents who understand stages of behavior will know better what to expect.