The children need to understand that they are not to blame for a parent s depression. They also need to know that their mother will recover. You will help them greatly if you, as the non-depressed parent, spend plenty of time with them. Be sure not to draw them into any conflict that may develop between you and your partner. It is also helpful to encourage them to take part in activities outside the home, so that their happiness is not too closely linked to how their mother is feeling that day.
Depression flattens all positive emotions, including the libido.
This is often the first sign of the depression, and one of the last symptoms to disappear. Also, some anti-depressant medications have this side effect. The fact that your loved one does not want sexual intimacy at this time does not mean that she does not love you. Mothers of new babies, even when they are not depressed, usually take up to six months or longer before they are ready to resume a normal sex life. This will certainly be frustrating for you, but try not to feel rejected and hurt.