The child who whines in the store for a toy it wants is not helped by parents who give in to the emotional blackmail. Instead of promoting growth, they create complainers who think the world must go as they wish. Although it is good to notice difficulties, to identify problems rather than deny them in a polyanna fashion, we must go beyond complaining. We need to develop an active, constructive approach, changing complaints into challenges. Emotionally healthy individuals recognize problems, and they take action trying to make positive changes.
Creative individuals take responsibility for making changes.
They don't passively hope someone else will do it for them. They relate at the level of mutual exchange, not begging for doles. Those who take the challenge re-frame the difficulty. They alter their perspective. They go from complaint to challenge.