One of the ways to get that love, of course, is through relationships. That's why we chase after someone with whom we think we are in love, someone who pushes the right buttons, who allows us to experience ourselves as love. The problems start occurring when we start trying to define and mould our future happiness around that wonderful experience. Few people actually focus on the quality of their relationships. Rather, they seem more concerned with their length.
Anniversaries are big deals in relationships.
We've all either experienced or known of those who are judged, even condemned, for leaving relationships, breaking up, discontinuing that connection even with a friend, much less a wife or husband. Yet little thought is given in condemning them to celebrate their 17th anniversary with a hidden grimace. All other reasons or rationales will change. You can count on it because it's your experience. When preserved and analysed excessively, your relationship loses the quality of relating and becomes stagnant.