Confrontations won't work and can backfire. You have to keep the line of communication open. This includes being willing to attend group meetings, he said. Avoid retreats or long meetings. Get educated about a cult's beliefs.
Cults often twist religious texts, such as the Bible, tosuit their own agendas.
Mather disagrees with part of this view, but realizes it's a catch-22 situation. He would avoid going to meetings and seminars. Cults want wealth and power for the leadership. They want cash, real estate or cars. They want material gain for the leadership.