Others said that disclosure is better than secrecy. These are questions that sneak up on all parents, not the least of them the baby boomers. The 1960s counterculture has become the 2000 counter- counterculture. The vice president who smoked dope and the governor who drove drunk are no exceptions. I still remember the Rolling Stone survey of a decade ago showing that baby boomers did everything, regret nothing and want their kids to do none of it.
Baby boomers belong to a generation that believed famously in telling it like is.
Now the whole culture encourages far more openness in families. Adoption is discussed among parents, children and even birth mothers. Divorce, which was once hidden out of shame, is now acknowledged. So, increasingly, is homosexuality. 6 months after their parents' marriage now know they weren't premature.