None of us has any power whatsoever to change someone else, and counseling won't change anyone who doesn't want to change. Still other couples go to marriage counseling because they want the counselor to make things the way they used to be, before they had marital problems. But going backwards is not what counseling is about either. Besides going back doesn't make sense. What the couple once had didn't work, or they wouldn't be having problems.
Counseling is about negotiating a new deal, a new way to interact and make decisions.
Divorcing couples who never even attempt to work it out with the help of counseling make me sad. They're throwing their marriages away without even trying. But divorcing couples who do try counseling need to be prepared to work hard, to be patient and to make and accept change. All Rights Reserved.