We use the very same emotional time pressure that we resent to force ourselves to get things done. We make lists and lists of lists. We put Post-It notes everywhere. We make appointments and create deadlines. But control does not work.
Control is what a guard does to a prisoner.
Control only turns joyful commitments into tedious obligations. This is the major fallacy of traditional time management systems. Time management should be a tool for reflection and making choices. Only if we learn from our experience of time do we begin to make good choices. We should stop using our lists to punish ourselves with everything we're not doing.