Youth, however, rarely cite winning as a reason for participating. They more often list learning new skills or physical competence, being with friends in a group, fun and excitement, or staying in shape as reasons for their involvement. Competition in itself is not a bad thing. Competition will be experienced at many points in life. As adults, we can choose to structure events and contests so that competition is a learning experience.
Competition becomes negative when winning becomes the overriding goal.
In these instances, only a few people are able to achieve their goal. The majority of individuals will feel beaten and defeated. Striving to achieve a goal is a productive form of competition where success is measured in growth and not by a ribbon or trophy. Youth strive to be their best and measure success against a standard. Individual differences are allowed for and individuals can build on their personal abilities, knowledge and skills.