Hidden agendas bite back. It's hard work but worth the effort to seek creative solutions, so that everyone wins. 14 Communicating words and assuming that you both have the same definition We error by using jargon words which can have completely different meanings to other people. We should ask for clarification and use common key words to help explain what we are really trying to communicate. Try giving an example or word picture of what you are communicating.
Conversation is a two-way street.
If you give evil - you get evil. So give something good unconditionally and you will find a better solution. Connect to a bigger purpose, something that you both want to see happen - this will keep more people motivated. Then go and talk it out with the other person. Often when we think we re really going to put someone in their place, usually using slam-dunk methods, the conflict just returns, later to haunt us.