Minimizing The abuser ducks responsibility for his actions by trying to make them seem less important than they are. I could have hit them all. Vagueness Thinking and speaking vaguely lets the abuser avoid responsibility. Anger Abusive people are not actually angrier than other people. However, they deliberately use their anger to control situations and people.
Anger is a very effective tool batterers use.
The abuser uses various tactics to overcome resistance to his bullying. Occasionally the abuser will pretend to be helpless or will act persecuted in order to manipulate others into helping him. Drama and Excitement Abusive people often have trouble experiencing close, satisfying relationships with other people. They substitute drama and excitement for closeness. Abusive people find it exciting to watch others get angry, get into fights, or be in a state of general uproar.