Remember that there is no foolproof birth control besides abstinence. You need to be realistic about things before jumping into a relationship. Here's a headline for you. It is more like practice for divorce. Divorce is sky high in this nation, and even within the church.
Couples just give up.
You wonder if they might have just taken the time to prepare, and ask God for the blessing of showing them His choice for their life, how different things might have been for them. Just think about what we've shared here and pray about it. We aren't trying to dictate what you do and don't do. We are just trying to give you some options. God bless you as you seek His will in your lives.