We are all learning how it works. You will never NOT be your child's parent. It's always with you. I always will be because there is no shedding of that skin. If you are the parent of a child with FAS it will not go away.
Alcohol IS a depressant.
There is a direct connection between that reality and any child with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome. Parents of children with FAS are depressed. Hopelessness and anger. Yet there is light here, too. You have to scratch for it.