Ayers Q and A, Sept 2000 September 2000 Q .
Any religious heritage feels a certain awkwardness when a member wants to marry outside the faith.
Those differences in belief usually cause some discomfort eventually. They may well resolve that discomfort by downplaying their religious yearnings as they drift into being part of no religious community, holding to no particular faith. Marriage takes a lot of perseverance, and even those who work hard at it sometimes can't make it work. It may be that those who have been divorced will have gained the insight that will enable them to succeed the second time around. They also may not have gained that insight, and this second marriage will also fail.