We lack confidence in our efforts to deal with the loss and look elsewhere for answers. We become angry with God, ourselves, or others over our loss. We become outraged and incensed over the steps that must be taken to overcome our loss. We pick out ''scape-goats'' upon whom to vent our anger, e.g., the doctors, hospitals, clerks, helping agencies, and rehabilitation specialists. We begin to use self-blaming, switching blame, blaming the victim, aggressive anger, and resentment.
Anger is a normal stage.
It must be expressed and resolved. We become overwhelmed by the anguish, pain, and hurt of our loss. We can begin to have uncontrollable crying, sobbing, and weeping spells. We can begin to go into spells of deep silence, morose thinking, and deep melancholy. We begin to experience guilt, remorse, loss of hope, and loss of faith and trust.