Giving a young child some small chores around the house will help foster their self-esteem and increase their feeling of contribution to the household. Children who do not do their chores need to know that there will be consequences. Preteen As the child gets older, their responsibilities should increase proportionately. Offering the child an allowance for completing chores will help increase their sense of self-worth. If your child is not performing well in school, or is surly and unhelpful around the house, it is your job as a parent to determine what is the root of the problem.
Children perform better when confronted with defined boundaries.
A child who is not held to a performance standard either at home or in school, will cease to try to meet any expectations. Providing your child with a sense of responsibility for their actions requires a nurturing environment. A child needs to know that the punishment will not exceed the crime. A child must be allowed to fail as well as to succeed. Preteen children are most aggressively confronted with peer pressure.