Rather, you should avoid responding precisely the same in all circumstances. There is a balancing point between the various conflicting demands in every situation. On rare occasions, you will have to be a purist, but obsession is sinful. When dealing with people, balance your honest needs with theirs. Blend yours into the mix of group needs, so that you neither neglect yourself, nor walk on others.
Depression can be a good thing.
Jesus calls us to a life of change. Change is usually painful. Thus, bouts of depression are a natural response to some changes. Each time, a little of the old self dies, and we mourn the loss. Giving up cherished notions is never easy.