Be aware of the shrinking, icky sensation you feel when people say, I hate you. A lot of people are really good at telling when something not okay is happening. An ally is a naturally loving person, and so you can trust your instincts. If something presses a button in you or makes you want to stop a conversation and say, Wait. Stop the conversation if it occurs to you to do so.
Chances are there is something there to be talked about.
In class, at parties, in a home, anywhere. Following the guidelines established below, your intervention will never be rude or destructive, making it safe to do anywhere with anyone. No single behavior is appropriate for all circumstances. Rather than offering that kind of prescriptive advice, here are three basic principles to keep in mind. A discriminatory person already feels uncertain about him- or herself.