However, children tend to adapt more easily when they have an idea about what is happening and have the support of those they love. If divorce is imminent, researchers agree that it is best to tell the children right away. Not telling children from the outset increases the chances that they will be told by the wrong person in the wrong way. Difficult as it may be, it is usually best for the explanation to come from both parents. The way in which divorce is discussed with children will influence their reaction.
Children often hear that they are loved.
Parents should make it very clear to children that reconciliation is impossible. Children need to hear and understand that they can not rescue or restore the marriage. Possible Reactions of Children to Divorce Children may exhibit a variety of emotional reactions to divorce. In denial and silence, the child closes his eyes to the situation. He may appear to be unconcerned with the divorce because he is trying to defend himself against the awful loss by secretly pretending that it has not really happened.