So many Christian women are convinced that being submissive includes accepting any kind of abuse forever. When they are suffering, many are afraid to go to their pastors for fear they won't be believed, or they expect that the pastor will look down on them when he hears of their abuse. Many women, because of their victimization, are especially afraid of an authority figure. It is imperative to tell someone about your abuse. Some Christian women don't take action because they feel that if they prayed hard enough the situation would change.
Abuse is a serious problem that needs professional intervention to cause change.
Let God use other people to remedy your situation. Too many women in abusive situations have been told that it is their Christian duty to hang in there and suffer as a Christian, that it is their role to be faithful and willing to endure some hardship as a good soldier of Jesus Christ. Some women feel abuse is the poorer part of their vow for richer or poorer. Some have been told that the more they suffer on earth the greater their reward will be in heaven. But God doesn't call women to submit to abuse of any kind.