It is not a game of tug of war. Balance is the place for the brainstorming of alternatives. The leader and his teammates work together to contribute ideas for problem solving. There must be no value judgements on these alternatives. To judge them early in the relationship would only stifle creativity.
Agreement is the power of life.
The leader and his teammates must work together on a specific plan of action, including timetable, activities, and outcome for immediate implementation. It is in the place of agreement where the vision will be fulfilled. There are several biblical personality profile tests on the market that will aid you in making the hard decisions. I remember dismissing a teammate after every possible alternative had been exhausted.