Even when we don t agree with our children, we can still affirm them as individuals. Acceptance When you give unconditional acceptance you give a child a sense of security. I don t love you because of what you do or achieve, I love you because you re my child. Our love and affection should not be based on grades, behavior or achievements. When we express appreciation it gives a child a sense of significance.
Appreciation is one of the most powerful motivations for right behavior.
When we are available to our children it gives them a sense of importance. We can say all we want about how important our children are to us. But if we re not giving them our time, our words will ring hollow. Our children should come before our TV-watching, our hobbies and our desire to make money. When we show our children affection it gives them a sense of lovability.