The more loving they feel towards someone, the less guilty they feel about themselves . The Controller Controllers are the mirror images of Pleasers. These people love with their heads but not with their hearts. They don t carry much guilt, but they don t have a high value on love either. These people will analyze a situation but they have a tough time sympathizing with a situation.
Controllers are very good at getting their own needs met.
The Withholder Withholders are different from Pleasers and Controllers. It takes a lot of patience to be in a relationship with a withholder. These are people who ve been hurt in a relationship before, and they don t want to be hurt again. The Genuine Lover is the only person you re going to find who knows how to love with their head as well as their heart. They run low on guilt and high on love.