A corollary of harmful hostility is the frequent use of invective in letters and affidavits. They always set back the settlement negotiation for a while, and they make a less perfect record when attorneys fees are sought. Consider whether you want the judicial officer to spend time and thought pushing away the bushes of invective to see the trees of the facts. Remember you are being paid to get results, not angry. Conclusion You may recognize elements of both Collaborative Law and Divorce With Dignity in the foregoing comments.
Collaboration can occur, even between adversaries.
And divorce can be a dignified process whether there is a formal program or not. I love being a judge. The hours and pay are less but more regular. The stress is different and for me, at least, less as well. I find it emotionally easier to decide what is right than to persuade others of a right answer.