They can learn that anger doesn't have to fuel abuse and that even provocation doesn't justify violence. That's why an abused woman is at particular risk of violent attack when she decides to leave. He was determined to make a go of it this time. He joined Toastmasters to improve his speaking ability and sought training in small-business management. And after years of using alcohol to mask his emotional pain, he says, he decided to quit drinking.
Butch admits to a few slips.
But he went to Alcoholics Anonymous meetings and tried to stay off the booze. Lisa got a factory job making more money than she ever had. But problems in their marriage continued. Butch was trying to work out financial matters and city code issues to complete construction of a new building for his body shop. He was also being treated for depression.