It is not the patience which can sit down and bow its head and let things descend upon it and passively endure until the storm is past. Only patience can enable us to do that. Early in the list of love's definition is the concept of kindness. This concept is very active in nature. Kindness is not something to be put off until later.
Acts of kindness provide the environment for a loving relationship.
Fill their days with tenderness. Speak your words of commendation while their ears can hear them. It could also be said that acts of kindness must be part of a marriage or there might not be a marriage in the future. The excuse we so often give for failing to do more kind deeds is that we lack the time. Or we think that what we do will not be appreciated.