The single most important key to sex that I've yet discovered is conscious rhythmic breathing the more you breathe the more you feel and the more you come alive. . . Many of us breathe only enough to survive but not to live fully.
Deep breathing is a door to waking up to healing and to more personal freedom.
Annie Sprinkle Working with the breath is an important part of tantric exercises and kundalini yoga. Try visualizing the breath as energy. You may use the breath to concentrate the energy or release it from any part of your body. But be aware that this kind of physical work may bring up feelings that you have unconsciously kept buried. I consciously focus on following a connection through my body with the life force energy.