Do not use alcohol or drugs to lessen your pain. These will only stop the pain temporarily and will delay the necessary grieving process. Holidays and anniversaries of your baby's birth and death can be upsetting times. Consider how you may want to spend the day. Allow time and space for your own needs.
Children are often the forgotten grievers within the family.
They are experiencing many of the same feelings as you, so share your thoughts and tears with them. Although you are hurting, be sure they feel loved and included. Answer their questions honestly. A baby's death often causes parents to challenge or examine their faith or beliefs about life. Do not be disturbed if you find yourself doing this.