When a woman marries, she makes a public statement of commitment to her husband, and in a Christian marriage this commitment is for life and to her husband alone. Children are to be loved, nurtured and helped by both parents until they are old enough to leave and become independent. Loving parents provide the necessary role models for their children, who learn parenting skills from their own parents. Children always remain a product of the marriage, and parents always retain responsibility for them to some extent. As they grow older they become less dependent, but parents always have the right to advise their children, and children, especially in a Christian family, should respect their parents' advice, even when they become parents of their own children.
Adult children relate to their parents as adults, and are able to reason with one another.
This is where people with a Christian ministry tend to trip up. If a man puts his job or his Christian ministry before his family he will eventually find that he has lost what he has worked hardest for. Employers, especially in the 1990s, will hire and fire people with no compassion, because they put profitability and their shareholders first before their employees. If a man dedicates his life to his job, he will find his life is empty and pointless when he retires. This leads to depression, even suicide.