In national studies, higher levels of parental commitment to marriage and family were associated with a lower incidence of behavior problems and parent-child conflict among children and adolescents. Couples who are personally dedicated to the health of their marriage are far more likely to be happy with their relationship. Those who view marriage and family life more as a solemn obligation than as a mere social arrangement are more likely to take their commitments seriously. Commitments of this sort transcend feelings of love which may wax and wane, enabling and encouraging us to stay devoted to one another even during the hard times. As a new millennium begins, family disruption and instability remain commonplace, and in most cases have negative consequences for at least some family members that persist for years.
All families experience conflict.
It's how disagreements are handled that determines whether they foster commitment or separation. Here are a few real-life examples of how this principle has been put into practice. One of the regular battles between a teenage son and his father ended when the youth retreated to his bedroom, packed his bags and left the house in great anger and resentment, despite his mother's tearful protests. I've caused you. I love you.