The third occasion of harshness in this story occurs when Jesus commands Lazarus to come out of the tomb. The translation says he cried with a loud voice . That is weak. In the Greek it says he shouted. Death is powerful.
Death has incredible inertia.
Death is not countermanded by a sweet, pleasant request. Rather, death must be met with a command more powerful than it is, a command that moves the immovable, a command that overcomes all resistance. Death must be addressed with the only Word that can destroy it, the Word of God in Jesus Christ, shouted with all the intensity and volume of a primal battle cry. Martha and Mary are grieving their brother's death, and after talking with them, Jesus raises Lazarus from the dead. Jesus raises Lazarus from the dead because he had already decided beforehand that he would raise him from the dead.