In marriage we are saying, your growth is as important as mine. Our love enhances us both. No wonder so many people don't make it. We need to learn about relationships. We are not born knowing how.
All families have dysfunctional elements.
We are each on a journey toward wholeness that requires courage. Relationship does not rescue us from our obligation to grow. On the contrary, marriage requires us to grow. We need to be ready for that challenge. It's a good thing marriage is fun too.