But not all of us were able to tolerate these vociferous debates. Everybody was fighting with each other, and I became very disillusioned with women. I guess in my own infantile way, I put women on a pedestal. It made me not want to be a part of it. Despite all these close-knit communities, I can still feel awfully lonesome.
All communities bicker.
All communities feel threatening at one time or another. Communities are as hard to commit to as intimate partnerships. My four communities annoy the hell out of me from time to time, but I'd be lost without them at this point in my life. Perhaps the reason communities based on ideology are shakier is because they do not have long traditions, a cohesive system of ethics, or a tight organizational structure to hold them together. Ideologies often change rapidly given the way society is moving along at lightning speed.