Having spent the previous five years in a church that went from one crisis to the next, they had become so used to intensely helping others that they were unable to turn down the intensity and emotions at home. Difficulties at church were all they talked about, and over time, they became angry at each other. Meanwhile their kids felt like the church was a far greater priority than they were, and they struggled significantly as they tried to figure out how to get their parents' attention and love. This has become a very popular word in the last few years. I sometimes think our very survival in youth ministry depends on our willingness to install a few.
Boundaries also protect our children from the expectations of others.
Our son is 13 and is a student in his dad's junior high group for a second year. When she was a first grader I taught her Sunday School class and had to put her in the hallway. Yes, these incidents can be extremely embarrassing and wear away at the confidence other parents have placed in us. Yes, of course we have to deal with them like we would any kid. But we shouldn't treat them any more severely than we would other kids, either.