She didn't really want to either, but her friend, who happened to be the owner of the gallery in Manitou Springs, prodded her to go to this new class. Couples who have been married at The White Rose Wedding Chapel say the ceremonies are spiritual but not religious, informal but not careless, and unique to the couples. They ask dozens of personal questions, such as how long they've known each other, whether there are children involved or whether they have vows they want to write. The answers are used to devise an individualized ceremony. Although the Heflingers have a copyrighted ceremony they use, couples can add small variations.
Couples review the ceremony.
During a ceremony, the Heflingers ask the couple to exchange flowers. They encourage them to celebrate anniversaries by exchanging flowers and to apologize with them as well. The exchange of vows really is a series of questions of intent. They also ask whether each person intends to honor the other, laugh with the other and share each other's dreams. The Heflingers tie ribbons around the hands of the bride and groom to symbolize the union.