How you respond to your spouse, as well as other people you care about, will shape your child's view of love. The first step in teaching kids about sexuality is enabling them to both give and receive love, according to Stanton Jones, Ph.D., a psychologist and provost at Wheaton College in Illinois. Each touch and coo communicates affection and deep love. Even newborns recognize the voice and touch of the people who care for them. As children get older, physical contact translates to a feeling of security, which in turn translates to a sense of being loved.
Children also learn about love by watching their parents.
When children see Mommy and Daddy hug, kiss and snuggle, they know that those gestures are expressions of love. As they get older, they'll recognize that physical affection is a natural way for married people to show their love. And by the time they begin making their own choices about sex, they'll have an internal sense of the joy of physical intimacy within marriage. It's normal to feel uncomfortable when talking about sex with your children. To overcome your discomfort, start by asking other Christian parents how they handle the subject.