The values and beliefs we have acquired through our life experience affect our representation of these facts in the courtroom. Hired to defend the weak. Very few of us can let go of that mission when the battlefield becomes a quagmire and issues obscure. Seasoned warriors are aware of the pitfalls that await the advocate who blindly sets out to wage war with only the client's description of the battlefield. The disease of the young lawyer is indignation and righteous enthusiasm, based on little substantiated fact but a lot of energy.
Boundaries involve setting a limit.
Marking out the place where the client can not go and you will not be found. These clients, in particular, want someone else to be responsible for their problems and when their unhappy life continues after they got rid of the spouse who made them so miserable you are next in line to blame. Tens don't marry ones. It's not your fault. It is not your life.