Most such products have monitoring options as well. But if you use them, make sure your son knows you are using it. Most of the top brands, such as Net Nanny and CyberPatrol are relatively hacker-proof. Given the fact that he surfs where you tell him not to when you're not at home, you might want to consider using the monitoring-only option. That gives him the right to go anywhere he wants, but tells you where he's been.
Deterrents can be quite effective sometimes.
Just make sure the communication stays open and the trust stays mutual. Check and see if your Internet service provider gives you Web site space, where you can set up your own site. The more you are available as a parent to help your children through the tough years, the less likely you are to run into serious problems. If anyone has questions like these, e-mail us , and we'll either publish or point you to answers of which we and our partners are aware.