As a result, more energy is spent cleaning up the mess than would have been spent had the alternatives and consequences been examined in the first place. We think we have more problems with sexuality than the general population. We tend to look for immediate as opposed to deferred gratification. We are overly sensitive. The above is an expanded version.
Children learn what they are taught.
Children of dysfunctional homes enter adulthood coping with life in the same ways that proved valuable to them as children. They take their childhood roles, survival strategies and rules with them into adulthood. Later, they discover that what worked in a dysfunctional childhood home does not serve them well in adult life. The result is a personal crisis. This crisis can urge us to reach out for help, or retreat deeper into denial.