When you believe this, you treat people assertively without resorting to threats, violence, manipulation, hostility, or other passive or aggressive means of getting your own way. Jesus said to love others as you love yourself, and assertiveness values both love for others as well as love for self. God created you as a valuable and beloved child, just as he did others. Believing this, you will not resort to threats, violence, and manipulation when you relate to others, neither will you allow yourself to be threatened, abused, or manipulated. E. Assertiveness Is Not Aggressive Definition of Aggressive Behavior People behave aggressively when they express themselves in a threatening, abusive, or hostile manner.
Aggressive behavior shows itself in insults, belittling, and sarcasm.
Manipulation is a sign of aggression. Aggression shows itself when one individual assumes the right to make decisions for another. F. Assertiveness Is Not Passive Definition of Passive Behavior People are passive when they fail to express their feelings, needs, or affections to others, or when they fail to stand up for their own rights. Passive people won't say no , even when they don't want to do something, and they won't say yes , even when they do want to do something. When someone is asked to do something, and he or she apparently agrees, but then does not follow through, even though he or she could, that is passive-aggressive behavior.