Mediation is the use of a trained professional who can help you and your spouse work through the issues you need to resolve. This is all about building a climate that allows both of you to concentrate on the business issues you must resolve. And you want them to revolve around your spouse s new role as co-parent, not his or her role as your lover and spouse. And watch the terms you use. The legal system has insisted that we use some terrible terminology for what happens in divorce.
Children don t visit either parent.
They live with one parent some of the time and with their other parent at other times. And marriages may end, but homes last. So do families, even if they get rearranged. As you prepare to enter negotiations with your spouse, I think it helps to sit down and write out the first three moves. That is, plan what you will say or do, and anticipate the three or four most likely responses from your spouse.