How Parents Can Help Provide constant reassurance that the children are still loved. Give reassurance that the children will still see the other parent if this indeed will happen. Reassure children that they were not responsible for the divorce. Admit the pain of the divorce to the children, explaining that the two of you are sorry you cannot work things out. Explain specifically what lies ahead for children regarding living arrangements, visitation and other situations.
Calendars are helpful.
Stop hurtful physical and verbal actions towards self and others. Provide listening support and substitute activities for aggression. Keep involved as a parent by separating post-marital tension from parenting issues. Keep children involved with the same-gender parent. Avoid negative comments about the other parent.