But we're not going back to a community based on blood ties and absolute dogmas. We are instead going forward to communities of empowered whole people, in the same sense that in our relationships we are learning to move beyond gender roles. There are not many guideposts in this new territory. We are taking baby steps together as we explore what it means to be whole people in relationships. Similarly we are taking baby steps in terms of the notion of what community is.
Community works when people are engaged in things, rather than just being together.
It works best when it fosters diversity. I am struck by the amazing degree to which we spend most of our lives talking with people of one or two colors in the personality spectrum. I'm speaking in a metaphor here. I want a group to have a very high capacitance to be able to handle difficult questions, so I want the whole spectrum of personality types in the room. We need all those voices, not just to answer the questions, but to see what the questions are.