Even in San Francisco, where there are more social options available to gay men, the context in which gay men can be together is often one that does not promote safer sex. I'm watching us practice unsafe and unhealthy behaviors, like drinking, drug abuse, sex abuse. I think how sad it is that this is the only place where we can be together. In response, programs have sprung up that create alternative social venues for young gay men. The MPowerment Program, which is now in three states, sponsors monthly parties and weekly social events, such as volleyball games, movie nights, and barbecues.
All activities are alcohol-free.
They may not even like volleyball, but they join because it's there. Q Action in San Francisco sponsors cafe chats-topical meetings in coffee houses that offer social interaction with other young gay men. Topics focus on issues of interest, such as relationships, dating across racial and ethnic lines, and body image. HIV prevention is part of the mix. It also trys to foster gay-friendly drug and alcohol services.