In many cases, there is a direct relationship between abduction and abuse. Assign them daily and weekly chores as family responsibilities that must be accepted and completed. This means they must suffer the consequences if they fail. And make sure they understand half-done s not the same as done. Let your children see you do things that need to be done, pitch in without being asked and take the blame when you've made an error.
Children learn what they live with.
Aesop's Fables are full of morals on responsibility. Ask your librarian for other suggestions.