The only way you can take full control of your life is to accept responsibility for it. Without responsibility, you are powerless, adrift without direction. Your life, your circumstances, your success, your shortcomings, your disappointments, your joys are created by you. Everything you are, everything you have at this point in your life is a result your actions. You are responsibile, whether you accept it or deny it.
Achievers have the viewpoint that whatever happens, whether it is good or bad, they created it.
You begin to create your own world as soon as you accept responsibility for yourself and the things around you.