By following a few simple techniques, anal sex can add just as much to that special evening as sugar-coated grapes or gilded candlesticks. Until there is a college course on anal sex, however, many men will learn about it from what they see in pornographic videotapes. Sadly, most of the porno videos that I've seen leave out a great deal of the process. The best way I've found to select a butt hand is to think about which hand you use to cover your mouth when you sneeze, and then use the other hand. You want to avoid any reflex that may involve touching your face or your partner's face with those fingers.
Cleanliness is a good thing.
There is nothing worse than a top in a rush. It often takes five minutes or more to loosen the sphincter muscles of the man you are with. Start with a slowly but firm massage of the area around the anus with a drop or two of lube. Tops should always keep their fingernails neatly trimmed. This is a basic rule.