You can bet she was a pretty little thing. My point is that we are incredibly effective in teaching very young children the importance of personal beauty. We could do no better if our best educators convened to design a fool-proof instructional system. A parent's handicap need not have any permanent emotional repercussions in the life of a child. There has actually been some encouraging research done recently in this area.
Children are amazingly resilient.
They can adapt to the most adverse circumstances if they feel loved and secure. You are obviously a deeply caring parent, and I think your kids are fortunate to have you. As they observe you dealing with your handicap with courage, they'll learn to approach the difficulties of life in the same way. Be extremely careful when using fire crackers or other fireworks while observing the holiday. Watch the kids carefully around the hot dog cooker and YOU light and throw the fireworks.