When a woman leaves her abuser, the abuser goes through a process of emotions and behaviors that is quite predictable. I don't care. I've got lots of women after me. I don't need you. Batterers are no more angry than anyone else.
Anger is a tool batterers use to gain and maintain control.
The abuser tries to hook the victim back into the relationship - and succeeds in more than a few cases. He says he wants her back. Defaming the Survivor He tells lies about the survivor to everyone who knows her. His goal is to isolate her socially and to wipe out any support she might have among friends and family. Many times, the woman does not know about the lies.