Some husbands understand the needs of their foreign-born spouse and give them guidance, send them to school to learn the English language and encourage their development of job skills. There are also husbands who don't have patience and are materially motivated. They force their wives to work in minimum salary jobs, such as dish washing, cleaning, and massage parlors, etc. They don't care what kind of work their wives do as long as they bring money home. A young wife told me that her husband dropped her off at a restaurant for a dishwashing job 3 days after they arrived in America.
American males seem to have a lack of patience and respect for the commitments of marriage.
Some husbands feel frustration over their cultural differences and not being able to communicate clearly in the English language. This often leads to abuse of their Korean-born spouses physically and mentally. Treatment like this is not only stressful, but often causes depression. Some even attempt suicide because death is preferable to admitting failure in their marriages. Husbands who don't know anything about Korean culture, family lifestyle or the characteristics of Korean women have been known to treat their wives as mentally ill.