Our choices are at the core experience of every relationship. Those choices dictate certain outcomes in our lives and reflect the stand we take toward every situation. They are miserable because they are either unconscious of the choices they are making or simply unwilling to take ownership of their choices. Self-righteousness, blame, and collusion take priority. If we are to be truly honest and aligned within the family, we must realize that getting to the source of any issue requires an acknowledgement of how our choices and actions shape our experience and perception of everything.
Blame is irrelevant.
We mistakenly equate accountability with blame, fault, or being wrong. Personal power stems not from fault, but from learning. True credibility with both parents and children lies in the willingness to live an accountable lifestyle. Accountability allows each of us to look at all of life's experiences and learn. Living life from an accountable perspective literally transforms the context and quality of our relationships.