I know, though, that there is more than just the exploration of the mind. I also need to put my body, my emotions and my soul into conflict. I need to perform the beliefs, not just hold them, even though that enters me into other sorts of conflict in areas less well exercised than my mind. It's hard to move into those areas, though, if I stay in conflict. When we get too aware of conflict, feel that we are being attacked from all sides and that we have to defend our position at all costs.
Conflict becomes an end it itself.
Many of us ran though the battleground of transgender as fast as we could, not tarrying to explore it, because we knew how dangerous it felt. We got to the other side and built good lives, powerful lives, graceful lives, lives to be admired. Yet, we know that part of us is forever on the other side, that we stretch between, and we need to go back and look at our life, reflect on it. They can learn the new language of transgender, explore the modes of living between, where sex and gender aren't hard linked. They can try them on, walk around in them, and find which words and ideas fit them and which don't.