It doesn't have to be that way. By now you know that I dislike adversarial divorce intensely and that I work to help people avoid it. I added this page to explain why. It's a lousy way to prepare for life after divorce . By now, you probably know that's wrong.
Adversarial divorce accounts for a relatively small portion of the actual divorces granted.
Most divorces are uncontested. But adversarial divorce is what the judges see. Adversarial divorce is what the lawyers see. Adversarial divorce is what the politicians see. Adversarial divorce is what the police and prosecutors see.