One of our strengths in conflict management is being open to hearing and understanding where the other person is coming from, Howard said. But, ultimately, our greatest strength is that God is in control of the relationship. We let him lead us. Faith in God does not reduce the chances of domestic violence becoming a part of their relationship, and the couple realizes that. Christians are just people, Howard said.
Abuse definitely happens in Christian homes.
A batterer does not see women as people, but as objects. He has low self-esteem and feels powerless in the world. He may blame his actions on circumstances, such as stress or a bad day. Recognizing abuse Abusers are hard to spot most of the time, Hubbard said. Usually, the abuse doesn t start with physical violence.