Practice the presence of God, Ps 139. Is repentance going on in your life, spir growth. Trust God's goodness to reveal self. Commit self to being stretched. Do what God wants done, selfless.
Church loves, but deacons especially love.
Facilitate ministry, care, serve. Like Jesus who is called a deacon. Deacons serve well. Deacons are servants, not because they are so skilled, but because they are so faithful. They are spiritual, wise, faithful, responsible.