In contrast to the lethargy of depression, when we are angry, adrenaline flows and increases our blood pressure, we have lots of energy. Skills involved in avoiding or reducing anger It may be reasonable to assume that aggression and violence occurs when we do not have a better way of responding to the situation. In other words, we lack problem-solving and interpersonal skills. If the only tool you have is a hammer, you tend to treat everything as if it were a nail. Learn to be assertive with others .
Aggressiveness is inconsiderate, unreasonable, abrasive, and often an unfair angry over-reaction.
Obviously, there will be less anger if you can be assertive rather than aggressive. Swallowers need to learn to express their feelings, to stand up for their rights, to state their preferences and opinions, to immediately negotiate minor inconveniences or irritants. This is assertiveness. Quick effective action avoids the build up of anger, ulcers, and explosions. Exploders need to reduce their impulsive, hurtful anger, find better tactics for reducing conflicts, and, perhaps, learn ways to be more positive and empathic.