Use calm, objective language that avoids criticism. The other person is not responsible for the way you feel, but has a right to know about it. T ell the other person what you want. Use simple, direct language. Address the other person s behavior, not his personality or character, to avoid putting him on the defensive.
D escribe the consequences.
Clearly spell out what will happen if the other person does or doesn t cooperate. This should not be a threat, but a natural consequence. If I can get my work done, we can go out later.