They left them years before. Instead, they are trying to leave their independence behind and cleave and submit to their newly wed husbands, but sadly many of those independent ways and attitudes carry over into marriage. The church has been slowly saturated with feminist beliefs. It isn't just the world that we have to stand up against anymore. Strong opposition comes from church friends when a young woman decides to stay at home.
Accusations are common.
Your family already has a mother. Though these comments aren't always said in such a blunt manner, the little disapproving statements, shakes of the head, and the disappointed looks clearly communicate the message. Sadly, many Christian girls do seek out an independent life apart from their families. At age 18, it is just assumed that this is the way it is, the way it should be and the way it always will be. They never even question if this is the way God wants it to be.