He appears to enjoying reading, but if I ask him to tell me about what he is learning, he gets upset and says he can't remember. He also loves the Animorph books, which I could do without, but they're fun. Our public high school is good and there are more affordable Catholic private schools. But I wouldn't feel a need to apologize to your daughter. By being up front and making it clear that you want the best you can afford for her, she may be disappointed, but I think she'll understand.
Any physical problems can exacerbate the normal tendency toddler have to lose it.
You should also realize that she needs you to be there and to be calm during her storm. I suffered a few bruises, but holding time definitely helped. Ugh, you say. Don'muffin recipe or in a pita pocket or in soups. After I get home and fix dinner, I'm bushed.