Speak to children in ways that support and encourage. Enforce negative consequences when rules are broken. Negative consequences, as opposed to punishment, allow children to choose whether they will receive the positive or negative reinforcements. For example, you might not allow your children to watch TV unless they complete their homework. Be consistent and follow through.
Children often test the rules.
If a child breaks the rules, be sure to follow through with the negative consequences you've established. Consistency is essential to maintaining or changing a child's behavior. Creating a supportive environment for your children where rules are treated with respect requires patience and clear communication. Setting and enforcing rules isn't always easy, but the benefits can be invaluable. An EAP counselor is available 24 hours a day to provide confidential assistance at no cost to you.