Adopted parents should be prepared to accept emotional reactions as the arrival of the adopted child may reawaken feelings of their grief over their infertility, emotions to which they had worked very hard in the past years to overcome. It may also be a reminder of their failure and inability to bear their own children. The adopted parents may feel guilty about their own emotions, when they are trying to establish a loving relationship with their adopted child. As, that new loving relationship starts to develop and intensify, the grief will gradually disappear. There are many ways to adopt, each adoption experiment is different, parents adopt through public or private agencies that exist for the purpose of finding homes for children in need.
Adoption agencies are able to provide counseling , support services and follow up.
However, may carry a smaller risk of losing the adoption due to legal problems.