Increase your chances. Show it by doing things to enrich your love life. Write a love letter, purchase some massage oil, splash on some perfume, light a candle, play romantic music, wear seductive clothing. My signal to Joe is sometimes as simple as putting on that nightgown instead of my flannel pajamas. Tell your mate why you love him or her, not just that you do.
Affirmation is critically important to the health of any relationship.
Sometimes it's during pillow talk, sometimes it's in a crowded room, but I get a thrill every time Joe whispers to me that I'm beautiful. Strive for great sex. Even the most rock-solid marriage will be in jeopardy if a mutually satisfying physical union is left out of the picture. If you have problems that talking won't solve, seek help from books or a trained professional. Your marriage is at stake if you choose to do nothing.