There is something we both are unaware of. My darkness affects him without my knowing it and his affects me. He stands against me, but he may not know why. To be sure, the mechanism of projection is as automatic and precise as any biological fiat. I am always brought face to face with the person who shares my lesson and can help me learn it, as I can help her.
All conflict is a two-way street.
There is never a right person and a wrong person. Each individual has his legitimate insights and his illusions. Unfortunately, they are often wed together. An opponent helps to focus the attention on the illusions that must be surrendered. When each person surrenders her illusions, thenthe conflict is quickly resolved.