But that's not acknowledging what adoption is. No matter how well things have worked out, adoption involves loss and loss involves grief. And we cannot insulate our children from either one. As adoptive parents, we can't fix our children's past. We can't make everything right for them, but we can try to make anything that comes up be alright.
Bad news is less likely to screw up kids than no news.
It doesn't matter how enlightened we are within our homes, a family that doesn't match will still experience bias. Cultural myopia doesn't always allow others to see us as a family, no matter how much we feel like one. Anytime we love someone from another race, through transracial adoption, interracial marriage, or friendship, we are forever changed. We are no longer monoracial. As a result, we begin to see the racism and prejudice that always existed but never before showed up on our radar screen.