I had lost my own true self when I conformed and conformed, was manipulated and then pressured to be what I was not. In the process, I lost my own separateness and identity. Retrieving my own spirit, calling myself back to my Self was a long painful process, and retrieval still continues. My desires are an important part of what lies within my boundaries and fences. Each of us has different wants and desires, wishes and dreams, goals and plans, hungers and thirsts.
Desires clearly lie within our own 'yard'.
When we are willing to acknowledge our own desires, then we become women who are clear about what we want. We get a sense of being a solid entity. Our personhood has definition, and our personality has edges. In addition, owning our desires and wants helps us to reach our goals in life. Realizing our desires motivates us toward any goal.