This feeling is quite frustrating and may produce much guilt, since it is hard to find anyone to blame directly. Anger may even be expressed at God for letting this happen. Family members can feel angry, too, and often feel guilty about their own anger, thinking about their own needs when someone else is so terribly sick. They may blame themselves for not recognizing the disease earlier, or not forcing the loved one to go for an examination sooner. Everybody gets angry at times.
Anger is natural and normal, as well as a powerful emotion.
The key is learning to control anger in a more positive way rather than become a loose cannon and do and say things that will be regretted later. Uncontrolled anger causes conflict and alienation and now is certainly not the time for conflict and alienation. Now is the time to go the extra mile to try to understand and to pull together. Especially in the early stages of the diagnosis, everybody feels shock, disbelief, anxiety, denial or helplessness. Later, feelings of guilt and self-blame may come to the forefront.