They needn't want to come to therapy, or have happy thoughts about coming. They just have to show up, physically and psychologically. Willingness is an act that sometimes involves not acting. Willingness is most easily understood at the level of overt behavioral acts, such as coming to therapy. This aspect of willingness is necessary, but not sufficient.
Clients frequently force themselves through activities without being psychologically present.
Willingness to experience private events usually involves both willingness at the overt level, where clients put themselves in situations that are likely to occasion previously avoided private events, while also not engaging in activities intended to reduce or remove those private events. In the later stages of therapy, commitment is emphasized. Behavioral treatment modalities are employed that will provide the client with enriched opportunities for reinforcement. As the client gives up war with not having her own history, she may describe an experience of empowerment, acceptance, and a sense of possibility regarding the richness of her life. Thus, the therapy is consistent with a recommendation for helping others that was made by Disraeli.