We could fix that. It's never too late to tell your children that you love them and to commit to listening to them and really hearing. And commit to telling the truth. And in speaking and writing these words to our children, we have the opportunity to heal the wounds given to us by our parents. Perhaps if more adults understood that children require commitment, they wouldn't be so casual about having them.
Children owe their parents nothing other than being who they are.
So many parents, when their children are born, are still children themselves, and try to flip the equation around and get the support and nurturing from their children that their parents didn't give them. At birth, the child is a screaming, cold, love-seeking being. It can give nothing but his or her presence. As the child grows she can give more of herself. She can create.