They can grow together in their intimacy as they grow together in their emotional and spiritual lives. What begins as incompatibility may just be shyness or lack of trust. As the couple gets to know each other better, as trust grows, they will naturally become compatible. What, in today's secular style of sex, would be labeled incompatible, is more likely a product of loveless, trustless, sexual calisthenics. Rabbi Baruch Gradon, a well-known local Rabbi who counsels hundreds of couples, says he has never seen a couple breakup only over sex.
Bad sex is a symptom of other problems.
In other words, while important, sex is but one of many elements that contribute to a healthy marriage. I realize that in today's modern world, marriage before sex is a hard thing to sell. But think about it before you take your next test-drive. Your best buy may be the one you never test. Virtual Jerusalem Site Terms, Conditions of Use and Warranties.