Remind the child that you expect him or her to behave in certain ways. Explain what behavior is acceptable and what is not acceptable and what the consequences will be. Remain in Authority Stick to your guns. Don't get talked out of your feelings or your reasons for issuing the command and don't let the child wear you down. One Step at a Time Even when you have tried everything, having the right attitude will increase the child's self-esteem and offer the limits in a loving way.
Chances are that if the behavior worsens, the modification is working.
You are tightening the reins and they feel threatened. It will get better with consistent application. If prolonged or acutely severe behavior problems continue to exist after recommended intervention is attempted, then professional help is advised. Determine what services are available in your community through the school system, mental health centers, support groups, etc. Take advantage of services appropriate for your needs.