I graduated from Wes in 1981. I was a Psych major, an RA, an athlete, a TA, a financial aid student and a fraternity member. I did the typical Wes thing, buying a one way ticket to Alaska with my graduation money and taking a few years before deciding to go on to grad school. I am now a securities lawyer living in Southern California.
Alums generally agree that commencement is for students and their families.
No one wants to change that. Reunion is not the same thing as commencement, and never will be. You have a reunion every 5 years, but only one graduation. Having them together might be good for everyone. That probably stems from the fact that alums lose touch with student realities and don t have all that many connections to what is happening on campus today.