Since we cannot claim perfection God must either make some allowances for us or we will be lost. I am convinced that He is willing to do this because He loves us. But if we do not love our brothers enough to make allowances for them we cannot expect to measure them by one rule and be measured by another. If we were under law and not under grace we could not make allowances for one another regardless of the degree of our love. Since we serve in a new way we can extend mercy for ignorance and mitigating circumstances.
Circumstances do make a difference.
Anyway, you should speak and act as men who will be judged by the law of freedom. The man who makes no allowances for others will find none made for him. One dollar for every mile in excess. In that town the judge will assess you according to your own decision. The eternal judge will do the same.