In my opinion, your photographer will be the key factor of how you look back on your wedding for the rest of your life. This is so important I will spend a whole column on choosing the right photographer, soon. Staying out doesn't always mean you get to physically avoid it, but it does mean that if you are dragged to a shop or a show or if you are shown a photograph, you should just nod your head and smile. Whatever dress your bride chooses, make sure she knows it is absolutely perfect and your personal favorite. Since she is in it, this will likely be the truth, anyway.
Cake is only something to eat.
So eat yours and smile some more and trust in your lady's good taste. Other things such as wedding colors and which flowers are best and whether to have silver or gold plating on the reception china are things your nearly-wed has always dreamt about and you have always dreaded. When in doubt, nod and smile. This article appeared in The Deseret News. The author and newspaper have granted permission for its publication here.