Washington State, for example, defines physical abuse as actions which have lasting physical effects, such as broken bones, burns, cuts, internal organ damage or substantial bruises. It's purpose is to encourage moral, physical and intellectual development and a sense of responsibility in children. Ultimately, older children will do the right thing, not because they fear external reprisal, but because they have internalized a standard initially presented by parents and other caretakers. While it may result in positively changing the child's behavior, often the improvement is temporary and followed by a later acting out of the hatred, revenge and hostility they have learned from their parents. To avoid further abuse, children may lie, run away or exhibit other forms of avoiding responsibility.
Abuse tends to damage the self-esteem of both the parents and the children.
P arents can adhere to these safe, disciplinary guidelines regardless of whether they believe that physical discipline is right or wrong. This is a safety issue. For more information on safe, effective discipline and abuse prevention. I Still Love You by Jennifer James and Sue Jett. Seattle Institute for Child Advocacy, Seattle.