Abusive behavior includes denial, minimizing and blaming the abused partner for the actions perpetrated by the abuser. Be honest about naming abuse for what it is. Help families move beyond denial and acknowledge the devastating impact of the abuse on all family members. Avoid blaming the victim. No one deserves to be beaten.
Abusers are responsible for ending the violence.
Recognize that it is difficult for a battered woman to leave her abuser. Economic factors, fear of retribution to herself and her children, physical exhaustion and psychological trauma all contribute to the reasons why women stay with an abusive partner. The threat of death is real. Women are more likely to be victims of homicide when they separate from their husbands. Tell her that the abuse is not her fault, and is not God's will for her.