The key difference in complainers and emotionally healthy people is that the latter do something active to improve the situation. Their wishes are helpful in goal setting. They help re-define the problem. They help programing the creative unconscious to be on the lookout for new approaches as possible solutions. Wishes help the creative individual to be ready to respond to the suggestion of a solution.
Challengers try to find a better way.
Creative challengers put the problem in a different perspective. They try to look for more, rather than less. Rather than seeking to reduce the pain they complain about, they try to find ways to increase a contrary situation. They try to find a positive way to look at the problem, recognizing that positive orientations attract positive responses. It is better to increase something you want than to decrease what you don't want.