If we don't give our child GEMS throughout the day, he will often start to misbehave. Negative attention in a child's mind is better than being ignored. It is also important to recognize that feelings are neither right nor wrong. They just are. For example, if you have nagged your child about unrolling his socks when he takes them off, then only wash socks that are unrolled.
Action speaks louder than words.
If you don't, they will find inappropriate ways to feel their power. Ways to help them feel powerful and valuable are to ask their advice, give them choices, let them help you balance your check book, cook all our part of a meal, or help you shop. Often we do the job for them because we can do it with less hassle, but the result is they feel unimportant. If we interfere when we don't need to, we rob children of the chance to learn from the consequences of their actions. By allowing consequences to do the talking, we avoid disturbing our relationships by nagging or reminding too much.