They need to evaluate their child's sense of well-being, because they know their child better than anyone does. Books, videos, and internet websites on ADHD, stress, divorce, and self-esteem are accessible to anyone with a library card. Pediatricians, family physicians, and school counselors can offer referrals to mental health professionals such as psychiatrists, psychologists and neuropsychologists who diagnose and treat ADHD, as well as stress-related and developmental problems. And parents need to talk with parents. When a parent hears that their child might have ADHD, the might in those words gives them power to make their life and their child's life better.
Curiosity is one of the main reasons individuals identify for their first visit.
Such individuals avoid any potential embarrassment of buying material at a convenience store, renting material from a video store, or being seen entering a porn shop. I've had clients tell me that they find excuses to leave work or school early in order to spend entire afternoons on these sites, downloading, viewing, and, most of the time, masturbating, sometimes many times a day, to this material. Others stay up late at night to do the same thing. Still others have yielded to their obsession while at work, downloading porn on company computers or viewing it there, frequently with discovery and a resulting suspension or in being fired. While that is ultimately a personal decision, it is the case that many clients come for help to stop this obsession because they note that it is ruining their relationships, is focusing their attention more and more on sexualized ways of thinking, and is inducing feelings of guilt and shame that reach clinical proportions.