Parents who feel exhausted and unappreciated may find that they have made their children dependent on them. In that case, you need to encourage children to do as much as their age and abilities allow them. As children understand what is expected of them, parents can remove their help little by little. It will take some one, but you can teach children to gradually become more self-reliant. Some parents who may be very good at allowing their children to be independent may not be good at setting clear and firm limits for behavior.
Children easily discover rules that can be broken if their protest is long and loud enough.
Parents allow this to happen for different reasons. Some parents just want to avoid the hassle of a conflict with their children. It's easier for them to let the rules slide than to deal with the fuss. For other parents, it is hard to refuse their children anything, because they don't want them to be unhappy. Parents who set rules and then do not enforce them very often have children who think that rules don't apply to them.