Those on Shakespeare lists are not interested in your thoughts about whether you and your boyfriend should live together. You are not the list's topic of discussion. Read the message, in full, before you respond. If your intention is to be a pest or create trouble, you are far too immature for discussion lists - and that holds even if you are 94. Spare the other members the costs of downloading annoying messages that they will only delete.
Amateur psychology is boring, irritating, and dangerous.
Don t look for reasons to ask others on the list whether they had conflicts with their mothers just because they express a negative opinion about a writer who happens to be female. You are free to unsubscribe. Don't send the list a request to vote for you in site fights. Everyone already has fifty such requests, most from people he's never heard of, in his inbox on any given day. Yes, I too am a member of this set.