I found that wanted to be involved in serving God. A combination of good preaching and good Christian friends and years of Christian upbringing started letting God speak to me and me what I had been missing. He is not in my life at all. God had accepted my confession as a 12 year old and had waited patiently for me ever since to recognize Him as Lord of my life. I found that prayer is part of it.
Bible study is part of it.
Proclaiming your Faith to fellow believers and non-believers is part of it. Having a Christian spouse, family and friends is part of it. This is God's immeasurable gift to mankind and all we have to do is believe and accept it. Its the simplest yet most complicated thing a sinner can ever do. Things don't always go well just because you are a Christian.