He'd be the perfect mate. He's kind, considerate, generous and crazy about me as I am about him. But he refuses to admit his problem, so help doesn't seem to be in the picture. I've sure tried. I'm really torn.
All relationships have problems, but untreated alcoholism is one of the most difficult to cope with.
This man is an otherwise perfect partner, so it is understandable that you don't want to lose him. While your rational side is cautioning you not to get closer, your emotional side, the side that loves him, prefers to focus on his many good qualities. Unfortunately, with time, alcohol abuse can cause not only predictable physical damage, but also substantial changes in behavior and personality, which may transform even a pussycat into a tiger. Invariably, along with health, friendships and careers, alcoholism will consume even the most loving and supportive of partners. And all too often disaster will strike without warning.