These are places where we, the bereaved, may come for comfort and understanding, and they are also places where we come to express deep feelings, including negative feelings such as fear, anger, or frustration. Over the several years of the boards' operations, we've found that this dual purpose is best served when we treat one another with kindness, acceptance, and respect. For the most part, the purpose of the boards are to share your own story of grief, and to offer appropriate consolation to other grievers. But we grievers are vulnerable people, undergoing the worst experience of our lives, and we have strong feelings about many issues. At times, we will disagree, sometimes strongly.
Disagreement is acceptable.
Strong feelings and strong language are acceptable. Yes, although the Web Team greatly prefers not to delete messages. When possible, board participants are urged to take a volatile discussion off-line before deletion becomes necessary. Common sense helps a lot in knowing what not to post. It's been six months.