Of course, in all likelihood Johnny and Tommy will be playing together in idyllic fashion within the hour. Social Programming There are times when a parent must reach our for help, and it is generally the mother, who, faced with this assignment, is going to have to scan the available candidates in the neighborhood and to select a child who would make an appropriate playmate. Sex is not an issue. At this age and under these circumstances boys and girls play equally well together. It is wise for her to approach the child's mother and explain the situation.
Bribery is quite acceptable here.
She can make it a special occasion-lunch or a tea party. Refreshments may be served first, and then the youngsters may have a short play period. The moment either child shows signs of boredom or restlessness, the visit should be brought to an end. The first visit must culminate on a happy note if more are to follow. If the activity goes well, she should fade into the woodwork for five or ten minutes, keeping well within earshot so that she can step in if the going gets rough.