Open to learning about your child's activities and interests. Doesn't try to discipline kids. Setting rules, boundaries and giving consequences needs to be done by the biological parent. Not jealous if you need to put the children first or when they need your attention.
Childhood goes by very quickly.
Give you children the attention they need. Help with homework, the chance to talk about their day, etc. Willing to be introduced into the lives of the kids slowly. Will accept your boundaries about how much affection you are comfortable with expressing in front of your kids, and at what pace. Progress slowly in the relationship, at least in front of your children.