Her lack of curiosity and her insistence on making food her main point of focus are crucial in maintaining her ignorance about herself. As long as her secrets remain unknown to herself, Mary will continue to feel she is in constant danger. Because she is oblivious to the torture and heartbreak she experienced in her past, she has not learned to recognize and avoid abuse in her present. She may allow abusive people in her life, even invite them, because she doesn't know she has more power than she did as a child. For her, abuse is more than familiar.
Abuse feels like home.
M.F.C.C. Psychotherapist in private practice specializing in eating disorders 10573 W. Pico Blvd.