There are times when I want to talk about it and she understands. Both James and McEvers said that it is important for people to just listen and not nag them. Being a good listener is what Weindel, who has known James for five years, does best. According to Weindel, it is important for friends to be understand ing and to be available to give support. However, it is not always easy on friends and family.
All parties involved feel helpless.
Only a few of James' friends knew she was suffering from anorexia and bulimia. Weindel was one of the first to find out. According to Brock, usually the family and friends are the first to be aware that there is a problem. She advises that friends and family talk to the person they suspect may be anorexic or bulimic and let them know people are concerned. She also stressed that it is important not to ignore the problem.