Men and women are equal, sure, but different - and I revel in those differences. I don't do Dutch. I expect a man to open doors and to offer to carry my bags. Postfeminists, in general, love irony and deplore boring narratives. In this way they are no different to anyone affected by postmodernism - and most people under the age of 30, whether they know it or not, have been affected by postmodernism.
All universal certainties are up for grabs.
Feminism found its most populist call in the idea that being a woman was an empowering identity, and one similar enough from person to person to serve as a unifying force. The subject was knocked off its high stool - it was the misty cloud around it that counted now. But the fact that women do not want to label themselves does not, as the mainstream media likes to claim, mean that feminism no longer exists. Instead, feminism has become like that power system Foucault described, capillary, a basic element of everything for most women, unnamed but omnipresent. This subversion of feminism's political agenda allows women to duck the judgmental right hook that society, via language, routinely tosses.