We felt that if she couldn't trust us to tell her the truth how scary that would be. I've seen a few incidents in the clinic of people with totally different styles who don't tell their kids the truth. I have run into the bathroom at the clinic crying after overhearing a mother who had deceived her child into coming to the clinic. Then he found out he needed a back poke and completely lost it. It makes me cringe.
Children just have to be prepared.
Listening Just trying to get through each day consumes most parents' time, attention, and energy. Consequently, one of the greatest gifts we can give our children is our time. A special time when we really focus on what they are saying, when we listen to not only the words, but the feelings that generate them. A time we stop to think before we speak. Many behavior problems can be prevented if our children think that we understand, if they feel that no matter how leaky the boat is, we are all in it together.