She wants to make love but often hurts too much and rarely orgasms anymore. This is getting more difficult as time goes by. I love her so much and want to give her the satisfaction she so much deserves. Which is why my wife's suggestion regarding foreplay is good advice. Women are usually more interested in the journey than the destination.
Communication is crucial as well.
For instance, ask your wife how important orgasming is to her. Maybe it's not as important as you think. Loving foreplay might be just fine, thank you, at this stage of the game. Focus on the process, not the outcome. Enjoy the moment for the connection and pleasure you can give each other.