He must be able to comfortably originate questions to the client, to acknowledge an answer or to repeat the question until it is satisfactorily answered. Of course he must be thoroughly familiar with the theory and procedures of the model on which the therapy is based, but with true understanding so that he can analyse realistically the client in front of him, not a hypothetical client. He must be able to handle answers and comments smoothly and not lose track of his original question. Above all he should not impose his own evaluations and judgements in any way - however helpfully intended, these are not helpful to the client who must find out the truth of his situation for himself. These principles may of course be used in everyday life, to restore order to the confused communications typical of so many personal relationships.
Communication is the solvent of all problems.
If you can comfortably hold your location and space, and view a difficult situation, and make the necessary communications, then any problem will dissolve, the confusion will blow off and the actual reality will be apparent. If it is not confronted in this way, i.e so that it can be viewed with equanimity, the situation will become a problem with resulting indecision and anxiety as it becomes more fixed, solid and serious. Return to Transforming the Mind - Contents . Continue to the next article, Discharging Traumatic Incidents .