Defiance by either one would require time out in their room for 6 or 13 minutes, respectively, or instant bed time depending on the severity of the offense. Persistent defiance would invite a well-planted spanking on the seat of the pants for the younger one. The older one would be grounded for a week or more, depending on the offense. We have expectations of our children. If these expectations are not met, they lose privileges.
Defiance is a much more serious offense.
Most offenses can be attributed to forgetfulness, wilful or otherwise. However, authority must be preserved if defiance is exhibited. In my experience, it seems that many East Indians feel they are superior to the rest of the races in America. You are probably confusing their superiority complexes for racism.