Anger is always about what is already past. When we get angry we step out of the present and encase ourselves in the past. We tie ourselves fast to the wheel of what has been, of what can only grind on, regardless of what we want, or believe should be, or what we do - because everything we do reinforces the wheel. When we step into anger, into the past, we step into fantasy. Our actions become completely mechanical, reactive, and everything we do reinforces what angers us.
Anger is totally blind.
But if you care about yourself, if you value yourself and are aware that anger effects every cell of your body and sends it through a kind of hell, then you may be willing to do battle for yourself. This is what it always comes down to. It can give you a sense of your value in relationship to everything else. Once you take a stand, what follows is easier. But if you haven't really taken a stand, made up your mind, then the same struggle has to repeat itself, again and again.