But note that this act is not for the weak of heart, and that you may find out surprising thoughts or beliefs that your partner has had that you did not know about. You my find that you disagree with some of their expectations and will never be moved to accept them. This is a very tricky part of opening up a dialogue about values, because we fear rejection from the one we love. Before you can discuss your expectations about your relationship with someone, it is important to have a healthy amount of self-knowledge. The road to a good relationship, whether you are single, in a couple, or in a polyamorous relationship already, is to know what make you comfortable or uncomfortable, know what your needs and desires are, and to know the why and why nots as to the reasons behind choosing one lifestyle or relationship form over another.
Communication is key.
It is a fairly in-depth examination of yourself, to sit down and seriously think about how you view your role in a relationship, and whether or not polyamory is an option for you as an individual. Be as honest and succinct as you can in answering the questions, as they will clearly outline your feelings about certain issues and values which affect all relationships.