Let me give this latter point the strongest possible emphasis. He seemed to change overnight from a stable, loving husband and father to an irresponsible rogue. This man's problem is basically spiritual in nature. As his system of beliefs disintegrated, the result was a rapid and catastrophic change in lifestyle which left his family and friends in a state of confusion and shock. This pattern has occurred for thousands of families in recent years.
All children get angry at their parents now and then, especially when they feel unfairly treated.
I understand your frustration. You'll learn that no matter how upset I become over something you've done, I'll never tell you that I hate you. And I can't permit you to talk to me that way. It hurt me for you to say that you hated me, just as you would be hurt if I said something like that to you. You can, however, tell me what angers you, and I will listen carefully.