Some want to have many people around with whom they can share and explore their feelings. Others prefer to deal with loss more privately. Most people report that grieving is much like being on an emotional roller coaster. The cultural stereotypes of women and men in grief are inaccurate. The reality is that some men need and want to express and share their feelings, while some women prefer to do their grief work in a more low-key way.
Bereavement styles have less to do with gender and more to do with basic personality traits.
Grieve in ways that are more helpful and healing for you. The holidays are coming. Talk about your deceased loved one. Establish personal priorities. Decide what you want to do, how you want wish to celebrate, and with whom you wish to spend time.