This may seem too simplistic, but as we discuss how it applies at all levels you will find that this definition has profound implications for committed relationships. The desire to know your partner means that you will work on telling each other about your thoughts, feelings, and desires, and you will continue opening yourself up to new information about your partner. Not only will you tell him your deep emotions and thoughts, without filtering information, but you will also remain silent, listening to his feelings or views without judgment. Intimacy does not exist at the beginning of a relationship. This is a natural stage in courtship.
Couples speak of feeling that they already know one another, or that they think alike.
This feeling is based on the projection of your ideal lover onto this person. It is what we all do at the beginning stages of love. Eventually, you must learn to listen carefully to what your partner tells you about his experience, and discard your idealized image.