When wrath does catch up with us, and it makes no difference if it is our fault or that of others, we can put ourselves directly into God's hands. The hard part of this model shift is accepting the fact that the worst of wrath consequences are not to condemn us or anyone else. Their only purpose is to help us into the perfect love that God ultimately has in mind for us. Finally we note the strange paradox of being delivered from addiction. It does not seem to matter what the addiction is, whether alcoholism, shooting heroin, sexual promiscuity, depression, fits of rage, or being a workaholic.
All addictions eventually have wrath consequences.
But helpful advice, moral exhortation, grovelling in guilt, and good resolutions achieve nothing, and usually do more harm than good. The addicted person must first call a spade a spade. In Alcoholics Anonymous, the alcoholic has to call himself an alcoholic. This can be done without self-pity or guilt. Then there is the frank admission that one cannot change oneself.