No one should have any quarrel with this. Adoptive parents whether motivated by love, altruism or self-interest, step in where the need is great and government cannot succeed. The giver is called the birth mother or biological mother or natural mother. These terms cloud the fact that a mother who gave up her child was authoritatively deceived at a vulnerable moment by her entire support system and the professionals who were supposed to serve her. Many of these women want to bring closure to a difficult and confused event in their lives.
Adoption law denies the deceit and forbids the resolution.
The given is called an adoptee or illegitimate child. That is to say an adoptee is in a position of subservience just as an employee is to an employer or as a lessee is to a lessor. Legitimate means being in compliance with the law or accepted standards. It may mean authentic. A growing number of adult, adopted persons believe that adoption is an involuntary exile from their natural families.