The equality wheel is a helpful tool in understanding the overall pattern of peaceful behaviors reflected in relationships of mutual respect between partners. These equality traits blend together to create an environment of trust, support and freedom from violence. The power and control wheel is a helpful tool in understanding the overall pattern of abusive and violent behaviors that are used by abusers to establish and maintain control over their partner. Very often, one or more violent incidents are accompanied by an array of other types of abuse that are less easily identified. Yet a pattern of power and control in relationships is firmly established.
Abuse knows no barriers.
Domestic abuse affects persons of all cultures, religions, ages, sexual orientations, educational backgrounds, and income levels. Victims are frequently blamed for being victims. By doing so, we wrongly revictimize the victim. Making the decision to leave any relationship is a process where many factors have to be considered. Making the decision to leave has to be made while dealing with the effects of guilt, shame, embarrassment, and isolation.