Children were the active parties who interpreted and commented on their parents, and who used use their energy and imagination to console their parents by all possible means. In this study group, latency age girls who had identified with their mother's pregnancy appeared to be at risk, because they also lost symbolically the baby or identified with the baby and began to fear for their own death. Children may also have transient age-appropriate symptoms and therefore need an adult to talk about things that are important for them. The basic attitude of children towards death and dead people is natural and curious. Children are conscious of the paradoxical quality of their parents' grief, because they share a cyclic notion of time and way of reasoning.
Children are also able to delay their own grief reaction to help their parents.
Time of grief Grieving takes a lot of time. Although the restlessness, anxiety and depressive moods disappear, grief continues as a long process. The first year is the worst. Grief is not something that becomes linearly alleviated, but rather a circular process that is activated by the intense initial guilt and obsessive need to find out causes and details. This study showed the recovery times to vary, depending on the individual personalities of the parents and the family structure.