The above stories are just the very tip-top of the iceberg, but you get the idea. Human beings are wonderfully complex, and marriage between any two of these marvelously complex beings is a challenge. If possible, observe each other s families to discover the basis of your spouse s attitudes and behaviors, quirks and idiosyncracys. And while you re at it, look closely at your own family. Remember, there s no right or wrong, no blame or shame.
Chances are, there was once a very good reason for everything they do.
However, circumstances may have changed, and, now, as you are establishing your own household, it may be time to consider the way things are done. There s an old story about the young girl who was watching her mother prepare dinner. Mom took the roast out of the butcher paper and, before setting it in the pan, cut the end off. She then placed the roast in the pan, set the smaller piece alongside, and put it in the oven. The girl asked why she d done that.