I can get everything I like. To understand the need for these balances is a part of social and emotional intelligence. There is generally little gain in the human species for early independence. Humans have evolved to have a long period of childhood protection and learning. This is the time for development of trust and the other social learning about inter-dependence.
Australian teenagers come out high on individual responsibility and self-reliance.
However, they are low on group responsibility, and care and concern for others. Democratic society requires that children learn individual enterprise and self-reliance plus commitment and activity for promoting the good of the whole. Even at the preschool level, adults can help children begin to learn how to pay due attention to their own needs in balance with those of others. In some of Norman's other examples, serious accidents happen and lives are lost through such social ineptness in designers. Intelligence alone is not enough - it needs to be linked with social knowledge and skills, says Norman.