Abusers use these sorts of behaviours to try to control their partner and to get their own way. Jealousy and possessiveness can also be a form of abuse, when one person treats their partner like they 'own' them and wants to make all the decisions in the relationship.
Abuse has very destructive effects on both the victim, and on the relationship.
It damages trust, closeness and respect in the relationship. For the abuser, it also damages self-respect. If you are or have been abusive, you must accept responsibility for your behaviour and not make excuses for it or blame someone else. No-one has the right to intimidate, dominate or harm another person in a relationship. No-one 'asks for' or deserves abuse, no matter what they do.