I hate arguments. Conflict is a very personal thing for me. When people criticize something I say, I don't take it personally. Sometimes you can discover admirable features in a person who is arguing strongly. It really hurts my feelings to be criticized.
Conflict can really hurt a relationship.
In conflict discussions I often feel that other people are trying very hard to make sure that I lose. A deep conflict can really bring people together after its over. I think that some of the people that I often have conflict discussions with really like to pick on me. Conflict is an intensely enjoyable kind of interaction. Conflict discussions can really strengthen working relationships with other people in the group.