The more you bail out the problem gambler the worse the situation gets. Blackmail does not work. This will force the problem gambler to be more self-responsive to their gambling problem. Focus on the Behaviour, Not the Person Don't accept that change is impossible. Focus on WHAT a person is going to do about the problem and not on the who or why of it.
Action speaks louder than words.
Gambling counsellors and self-help groups can help you to understand and deal with the effects of problem gambling in your life. Self help groups provide social contact with other people with similar experiences - you're not alone. The key to identifying with group members is to look for similarities, and not the differences, between yourself and others. Consider getting as much help as possible. The more help the better.