Once you see or experience something that is not a normal part of your known universe, be it UFO or paranormal, your world and the way you view it, will forever change. Any suggestions would be welcome. You are full of excellent questions. Everyone learns to deal with fear in different ways. For me, if it is a normal daily problem, I sometimes get angry at it.
Anger is a powerful resource if channeled, focused, and controlled.
It gives you the energy, and determination to overcome the obstacle or situation. But anger is the last tool you want to pull out of you bag of tricks when it comes to the paranormal. I have not run into one personally, but I would know if I encountered one. This is where it leaves the realm of logical science, and enters into matters of the spirit. Some go spiritually unprepared for an encounter.