I spent a long time with Henry, or what for me was a long time. I spent about six weeks with Henry, and it was mainly a question of Henry becoming familiar with me. We became, in a sense, friends. He had a way of sliding into humor that may have made it easier for him to talk about certain things. But mainly it was that nobody had ever asked him these things before.
Cowboys are notoriously taciturn.
They can talk to men, in a very prescribed way, but they are very shy around women. They have a sense of appropriateness that is part of the code of their identity. I don't think that Henry would have been able to talk to a man about most of the things he discussed with me. They had stereotypically male conversations. They were very funny and often very interesting, but they were never personal.