Give up trying to get him to leave the woman and then have sex with you. Keep in mind that if you do have sex with him and he does leave his girlfriend and children, they will always have a place in his heart. You will have to deal with her and the children for the rest of your life if you wind up with him. Dear Dr. Tracy, recently my boyfriend of 5 years went to a strip club for a bachlor party in indianapolis, we are from kentucky, he bought two lap dances and touched the girls butt and outter thighs. Whatever a man does at a normal bachelor party is not cheating, anymore than what you would do at a bachelorette party would be cheating.
Bachelor parties are a special circumstance.
Give your guy a break and stop making such a fuss over a bachelor party. Girls at strip clubs are not in the least interested in your guy except for the money he can spend. They have lousy jobs and are often working to support their kids. So she was naked and he was fondling her. Believe me, he wasn't fondling her the same way he fondles you.