Disagreements come to every relationship, even the very best ones.
How you handle disagreements determines whether you grow closer as a result or stoke the disagreement into a full-blown argument or fight. While I could complicate this and suggest at least 100 books on relationships and how to handle conflict, perhaps I can save you some time and money. In marriage, there is a set of steps guaranteed to inflame a disagreement, and a set of steps that can defuse even the most intense conflict. Let's look at each set of steps and then how to apply these steps to your own relationship. How to inflame Be offended when your partner disagrees with you.