Inform your former spouse if a new person such as a babysitter or romantic partner will be part of the visitation. Share changes in your address, home and work phone numbers, and in your job with your former spouse. Some parents use visitation to achieve destructive goals. These are goals based on revenge, such as one parent hurting the other or disrupting his or her life. To achieve those goals, parents may use destructive behaviors that can create a more hostile environment and seriously damage relationships.
Destructive strategies can be deeply hurtful to children caught in the middle.
Following are tips for avoiding destructive behavior. Don't refuse to communicate with your former spouse. Don't use your children to relay divorce-related messages on issues such as child support. Those issues should be discussed by adults only. Don't make your children responsible for making, canceling, or changing visitation plans.