His parents were divorced when he was 8 and I think that has had a great effect on him. He hasn't ever really gotten over it and his father has a problem with communication and temper control also. We had already been to couple's counseling for 2 months but he couldn't take any responsibility for anything he's done, so we really didn't make any progress. I told him he just doesn't get it. He later thought about things and says he realizes that he has a problem.
Actions speak louder than words.
Don't consider a person's actions during a period of remorse. Look at what they do in the heat of the moment. I love this man so much and I would be willing to take him back if things were different. But things are not different. Always love yourself more.