Thanksgiving, for example, is a holiday dedicated to giving thanks for the good fortunes of the previous year. Christmas or Hanukkah are religious holidays as well as holidays replete with ritual ceremonies that include giving and receiving gifts. Both of these holidays, which are rapidly approaching, have become occasions for families to gather together. Television ads and programs depict happy families laughing and hugging as they sit down to large, festive holiday meals. Movies abound with the theme of families reuniting after long separations or estrangements.
Commercialism is evident as stores promote their merchandise as perfect holiday presents.
The holidays may represent longing for family unity that did not exist, or warmth and support never provided. Adults with abusive childhoods may feel frightened, worried, or unhappy during this time of the year. If you have a partner or spouse with a history of childhood abuse or neglect, he or she maybe reticent to make plans, and may have little enthusiasm for celebrations. It is important to remember that the holidays may trigger unhappy memories and feelings. Survivors may need a great deal of support and understanding.