Unfortunately, those people usually have a populace whom they are controlling or responsible for. When the bombing or other action starts they are the more likely to be inadvertently hurt or killed. As a rule they do not have the experience or resources to spend long periods without food or water. Children, already displaced and hungry, are made to suffer further. Sometimes it takes an outside influence to stop the aggression and bring the factions together.
Diplomacy is begun.
Words are spoken, arguments raised, egos are strained, soothed and appeased. If the intermediary is lucky, the problems can be resolved. Thereby it may cause more harm than good. Aggression swells as a tempered, angry lion rises. Because the lion thinks he is doing what is right in his mind, he strikes out.