Draw close to your spouse during conversation. Make body contact frequently. Learn to listen. The road to the heart is the ear. Talk freely about your feelings.
Conversation is either facts, opinions or emotions.
Tears are a great gift from God's safety valve built into our system. And there is no reason for us to be ashamed when they flow freely. Assume responsibility for the outcome of your life. Be honest with yourself. Hone up on your key gift and talents.