But once they force themselves and the plane past the buffet point, they exceed the speed of sound and everything becomes glorious. The point here is that the wonder of flying beyond the speed of sound can only be achieved by going through buffet. Relationships and conflict work in much the same way. I like to think of conflict in my life as being just like buffet. Every relationship I have has some conflict.
Conflict is, in fact, natural, predictable and inevitable.
When I find myself in buffet, I realize that if I can force my way through the conflict, I will experience the calmness of resolve on the other side. I will then have a relationship that is traveling at the speed of sound. What that means is that conflict can be good for you if it gets resolved. Conflict unresolved tends to continue to rear its ugly head. If a pilot comes up against buffet and follows his natural tendencies to back off, buffet will recur the instant he increases speed again.