Believe it or not, you have a choice about how you feel towards another person. The point here is that attractions do change. They are like any other feeling - they come and go. So the trick is to learn how to keep the fires burning in your long-term relationship. The secret is simple.
Action leads to attraction .
If you really act as if you are turned on by your partner, you will start to actually feel turned on. Cary Grant was once asked how he developed his charmingly irresistible personality. He said that when he was a gawky teenager, he began to envision himself as a wildly attractive ladies man. After a while he couldn t tell which was the fantasy image in his mind and which was the real one. He grew into his image of himself.