Sometimes in the secular, self-centered 1990s, it is hard to give kids an adequate appreciation for how central charity and social responsibility is to their lives as Jews, as children and as adults. The sense of social responsibility starts small in young children. Developing a responsible and positive role within the family prepares them for roles as adults within the community and also teaches them the joy that comes from being useful and needed members of the groups that make up their daily lives.
Children feel good about becoming a helpful part of their family.
It is good for their self-esteem and nurtures a sense of competence. The challenge is making this process a pleasure instead of a trial. Children have rights as well as responsibilities. If these rights are arbitrarily withdrawn by the adult, the child may feel revengeful and will resist any efforts to elicit cooperation. Children should be consulted about the jobs that need to be done.