The words of psychologist Abraham Maslow apply to conflict. If the only tool a child has is fighting, that will be the child's first and only method of coping with conflict. Be a good role model. Children learn general approaches to resolving conflict by watching their parents and other adults in their lives. Take every opportunity to enhance your child's self-esteem.
Children are more likely to fight when they feel powerless.
Give your child a voice in family discussions and decisions. Set aside special times with your children to give them your undivided attention. Encourage your children to express all their feelings-feelings of anger or hostility as well as sad and happy feelings. In turn, share your feelings with your children. Check and see if your school has a conflict resolution program.