Learn to discriminate between your problems and the child's problems. Allow for failure and success. Resist the impulse to do it yourself. Allow the child to work out his feelings. Avoid threatening, judging, lecturing or ridiculing.
Children are best able to grow and learn in a home that uses a positive, authoritative approach.
Allowing children to express themselves and openly communicate with you is an important part of a positive approach. Here are some common parenting styles that will cause a child to feel inadequate and unacceptable. Usually causes resentment, rejection and hostility from child. Child feels threatened, frustrated or embarrassed. Child may become defensive and resentful.