Make sure your actions back up the words you are speaking. Love and Prayers, KristyAnn If I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. I think the goal in communication must take into account not only what is said, but also what is received. So, you sometimes may have to word things so as to tailor them to your audience. The GOAL is to be in sync with your spouse.
Communication has to take place on many levels and be coherent.
If the body language and pheromones are denying the verbal message there is little chance that the verbal message will be well received. Even in the best relationships you are not going to have synchronized communiques that often. Most of us are pretty obtuse and have to double check with our mates to see if we understood correctly. That can really spoil a mood. Practice, time, education and non-judgmental cooperation are required.