For family members, this usually means coming to peace with the reality that the person who was there before the injury has changed. It takes great love to accept these changes. Many times, it also takes counseling and support to go through the grieving process. There is usually a mixture of exhilaration that the person survived the injury and a grief of the losses involved. Accepting the reality is not the same as being satisfied with the results of the injury.
Brain injury is a reason but it is never an excuse .
In other words, keep a healthy and realistic desire to improve. But continue to work on improving whenever possible. This means allowing people room to make mistakes. We all need to take risks . These risks are sometimes physical but usually social or emotional.