These feelings are expressed when one spouse, usually the one who suppresses more than the other, forms an alliance with a teenager, usually of the same gender. The teenager is like a loose cannon ready to fire at anything. It is very destructive. But there is hope for dysfunctional couples in either camp, said Gottman. Volatile couples can learn how to express emotions constructively.
Couples disconnected in midlife can use the crisis as a bridge to find one another again.
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