It usually takes some time to sort out deeper feelings from that first rush of excitement, but listening to your own instincts and really examining the basis for your feelings can help you figure things out. Actually, quite the opposite. Although oral and genital herpes are slightly different strains of the herpes virus, they look almost identical under the microscope. You most definitely can spread herpes from a cold sore on your lip to your partner's genitals, and you can also get herpes on and in your mouth from a sore on your partner's penis, vulva, or anus. B. Do not have oral sex without using a latex dental dam or a condom if you have a cold sore or your partner has a genital herpes sore, and be aware that when giving fellatio, a condom does not protect the base of the penis or the scrotum from contacting your skin so you may want to skip that act entirely while there are active sores.
Condoms seem less and less popular now.
This is absolutely not true, as overall HIV transmission rates have held steady for the past several years and continue to increase among certain populations. I think people are also getting false confidence from the new AIDS drugs - it is true that, as in the case of Magic Johnson, some people are finding that the drug cocktails are reducing their HIV level to an almost undetectable level. If you are stressed out or tired all the time, you may not have much interest or stamina for sex. If you are having problems in the sexual aspect of your relationship, you may want to talk with a counselor or sex therapist , preferably with your partner as well although you can go alone if you have to. Often, once you resolve the underlying relationship problem, the sex part more or less takes care of itself.