Furthermore, Christian love can be seen in commitment. The commitment of an individual to be obedient to the truth and the commandments of God manifests itself in Christian love. When such commitment takes place, love will be a natural by-product. Yes, we love because we were first loved, but, truth is the absolute by which we are to conduct ourselves. We can not allow ourselves to judge another on an emotion.
Christian love is a virtue that results in a commitment to the truth.
If so much rides on being effective in our love both towards God and our neighbors, we better know what it looks like. But I warn you, a myopic view of love is going to cause trouble. You better be ready to stretch in ways never expected if you intend to pursue a life based on Christian love. You better be prepared to drop your simple definitions, because biblical love won't fit into them. Biblical love requires extraordinary discernment and wisdom because it is ruthlessly hard on self-examinations.