An abuser often feels that his problems are other people's fault. He might claim he is the victim and you have caused all his problems. An abuser might try to make you have sex with him when you don't want to. Many abusers believe that men are in charge of all decisions in a relationship and that women should do as they say and concentrate on pleasing him. Abusers may smash or throw things, destroy your belongings, be cruel to children and animals or be obsessed with guns.
Abusers often become very angry at the slightest thing and take everything personally.
Abusers may be sweet and loving one moment and furious and nasty the next. Abusers don't hit because they use drugs and alcohol, but drugs and alcohol can make the situation worse. Don't be ashamed to tell what happened. Being abused does not mean that you are stupid or guilty in any way. It just means that you are stuck in a bad situation.