There are usually unspoken reasons for resistance to implementing an IEP that is written out of district. In negotiations, unspoken objections interfere with finding a solution. To discover the reason for resistance, it is necessary to flush objections out. I realize that this may sound like a cut and dried clinical approach and does not approximate reality in the trenches. This is a blueprint of the way I would approach the situation from a planning point of view.
Advocacy is a learned art.
My reasoning is based on an assumption that the system is fair and that in most cases, it works. If you prepare your case in an organized manner and the decision in your case goes against you, you will be prepared to show that the decision was wrong or unfairly rendered. Although you may not think you have advocacy skills, you probably do. A well planned presentation, a calm attitude, a predetermined goal, and control over any anger you harbor will achieve more for your child than anything else I can think of. By Brice Palmer Note from Pete and Pam Wright.