Since that expierence, she is untrusting, shy, and very defensive when in comes to men. I think in general she has recovered, however something like rape is similar to a long term trauma that one may never recover from. Men and woman who have raped, because yes I feel women can too, are sick, mentally unstable, insecure individuals. This is partially due to the lack of evidence and support as to who was and was not consenting in a rape situation. In my personal experience, I feel that it is essential to communicate and tell your partner what you want, how to do it.
Communication makes it more fun and better for each partner.
I think that the ideal form of sexuality would be a communicative one as Pineau suggests. However I do not think this is realistic. I think it would take some of the spontinaity and fun out of the situation. I know that I would be really turned off if my partner asked permission every step of the way as in the example given in class. But, I also know that if I want to stop I can.