May have touched on a couple already, but my brain is fried right now from not eating and thinkin too hard. Thanks a bunch. I really appreciate your imput. It really made me chuckle. That is good.
Contact needs to be cut off completely.
The point is that your H DOES see this contact as wrong. If he didn't, he wouldn't have kept it a secret from you. Fortunately, the OW called and that's how you found out. This needs to be nipped in the bud right now. If it isn't this OW, then it may very well be another OW that he will be willing to help, with the reasoning that it is okay to help a person of the other sex, that is needy.