This is what he says. Although it seems to me that recreational companionship should have made the list. I have a very hard time trying to meet admiration. I have read HNHN but did not glean any concrete or useful info from that chapter. I tried my version - complimenting him on things he does well, but it seems so fake.
Any advice is welcome.
The problem comes in when he senses that I am not really aroused sexually. I have never and will never fake any kind of sexual response. After a few minutes of playing around, if he does not perceive that I am responding and becoming aroused, he loses his erection. I feel blamed somehow anyway. I used to be quite turned on by him prior to the weight gain and easily aroused - but I have to admit that I never feel aroused by him anymore unless I am drinking wine.