Also, by the way, if there are not standard and reasonable times established when she can use the phone without asking your permission, now is a good time to establish them. If there is no way to enforce this, then select another consequence. Don't expect your daughter to like to do chores. Don't expect her to understand that it is only fair and reasonable. Don't preach to her about how she is selfish.
All adolescents are.
Set up a system that works. This gives her some choice and control in the situation, which is very important, and it also gives her an incentive to do the dishes so that she can go out, talk on the phone, watch television, etc. As for her attitude. I know it is annoying and obnoxious, but it is one of the ways teens express their autonomy and establish emotional distance between themselves and their parents, which is a major developmental task of this period. It explains rather well the psychological issues of this age and parents generally say when they see the tape or attend a presentation that it transforms their relationship to their teen.