Although this is changing, records and resources were not always kept in developing countries and commitment to long term record keeping varies greatly from one orphanage to another. These are all remarkable milestones to be treasured, not minimized. Begin by collecting and organizing all the personal adoption information available. The agency is likely to have names and addresses of overseas contacts. Depending on the agency response, the next step is establishing a personal connection, generally by letter, with someone in the birth country.
Adoption is a lifelong process.
For many touched by adoption, that process includes the desire to search. That is as normal a response as the many adoptees who never have those longings. Both emotions reflect the reality that while the adoption experience may be shared, the differing reactions to the experience itself, reflects the wonderfully varied and unique individuals who are adopted. Family and close friends can be invaluable in providing support, comfort, encouragement and objectivity. It is especially helpful to know other adoptees who have searched and personally understand your experience.