We may be appreciating a sunset or be in tune with it. It may seem that we are being passive, but actually our mind is active and functioning harmoniously. We can come to love nature, art, music, or any of these events or activities associated with this mental activity of appreciating, learning, or absorbing. Our feelings for another person can also be caused by our harmonious functioning when we are with them or thinking about them. These short-term feelings of closeness contribute to an overall feeling of love.
Clients often wonder why they no longer love someone they once adored.
Our overall feelings of love decrease. Sherry and I have learned to pay careful attention to these little weak, daily feelings of closeness and distance. We know that over the long run they have a powerful effect on our overall feelings of love that we feel for each other. These daily feelings of closeness nurture our love and marriage. We have a marriage that is so special and feels so good, that we are both willing to be cooperative in order to keep that feeling alive.