A version of this article appeared in a 1996 issue of the Ithaca Child. First, I might try to talk you out of it.
Counseling really can help.
And if you don't work out the problems in this relationship, they just might turn up in the next one. It's important to understand what kids go through, so you can keep it from being worse than it has to be. Taking Responsibility Kids generally don't like divorce. For one thing, the basics of life change in ways that can feel confusing and out of control. After all, the kids aren't deciding to divorce, it just happens to them.