When I ask you to listen to me and you begin to tell me why I shouldn't feel that way, you are trampling on my feelings. All I asked was that you listen.
Advice is cheap.
That I can do for myself. I'm not helpless. When you do something for me that I can and need to do for myself, you contribute to me seeming fearful and weak. When that's clear, chances are so will the answers be, and I won't need any advice. Perhaps that's why, for some people, prayer works, because God is mute, and doesn't give advice or try to fix what we must take care of ourselves.