Both sexes, in fact, want many of the same things, and good communication is one of them. By being increasingly real, the differences iron out. Of course, there are many reasons why men and women sometimes find it difficult to get along. One of the big factors, is a fear of losing one's sense of identity in a relationship. Bloom said the answer lies in being aware of one's personal boundaries.
Bloom favors the latter.
Open discussion of differences can be threatening, he acknowledged. The result can be a more intimate and fulfilling relationship. Nonetheless, there will inevitably be some tough times along the way. Bloom gave workshop participants some tips on maintaining loving feelings despite differences. He told them to take time during conflicts to remember the most positive qualities of their relationships.