Surprise your children with a treat of some kind if they can play together for the afternoon without fighting. Limit TV watching until all can agree on the program. The children can either agree on one show or agree to take turns choosing. Don't make an older child responsible for the younger child's behavior. It is difficult enough to be responsible for oneself.
Children Solve Their Own Conflicts Refuse to be the police, judge or jury.
Remember, it takes two to fight. Do not allow tattling unless the behavior is serious or someone is going to be hurt. To break your children of the habit of tattling, tell them that they have to tell you something good about the other child first. Children often try to get their parents' attention by fighting. Teaching children how to solve their own conflicts and giving them positive attention for doing so makes the home more pleasant and shows children how to get along with .