They might seem nice at first, but then later you know they are not. Even Hitler could be nice. Before the war, everyone loved him. Every one of us is completely responsible for what we do. Abusers will abuse again and again and again, until women have nothing to do with them.
Abuse is always about the abuser.
Because his victim isn't even real to him. Abused children, when grown up, tend to lead unstable lives, shying away from restrictions of any sort, that makes them vulnerable. In effect, sometimes when they associate with a good person, they take them for granted because they don't know how to react to sincere kindness or affection or whatever. A lot of them don't like being completely honest, as it exposes their feelings too much for them to bear, and they fear losing what they have or upsetting the situation if they do so. You to those who will never understand.