Let's borrow a page from their book.
Any man involved with boats and a woman at the same time, is in deep trouble.
The first reality is that any fellow involved with boats, period, is in serious trouble. Whether you're just looking, or already involved, your time, money, and patience are on a one-way spiral to exhaustion, in direct proportion to the increasingly demanding whims of your vessel. Now, substitute 'women' for 'vessel', and perhaps you will appreciate the depth of your dilemma as you consider how to share your finite resources with both. Neither one shares well. Each will resent what you spend on the other.