When we couple, we often believe that it is our partner's role to make us happy and satisfy all our needs. It's just assumed, like Mark and Juan. Because we love each other so much, our partner will know exactly what we want. It's suppose to work something like mental telepathy. Unfortunately, it's more like a time bomb, waiting to explode.
Communication is the lifeline of any relationship.
If you don't ask for what you want, you won't get it. If you don't make your needs known, you will never know if your partner is capable or incapable of meeting them or is just not willing to satisfy them. Ask Marlene and Liz. At the mediation where I met them, these two women were no longer living together. Across the table, they talked about all the things they should have been discussing during their ten years as a couple.