Your were a good father before the divorce - nothing has changed. Your were good enough for your wife to make you the father of your children - divorce did not make you a bad father. Try to get laws changed giving children a choice in custody and visitation. Try to get divorce laws changed to shorten how long it takes to get a divorce. He doesn't visit me anymore.
Children always ruin a marriage.
It's your fault. No one asks their opinion. Unfortunately, our courts only seem to be pursuing those men trying to pay their child support. Courts no longer take into consideration when a man has financial problems, or changes in employment from circumstances beyond his control, i.e., downsizing, etc. Here is where your fight becomes extremely important.