The problem is not with these really good dancers. The problem is in your own head. You are not a victim of those dancers, nor of the thoughts in your own mind. It is YOUR mind, YOU control the thoughts in YOUR mind. Let's face it, all people are not the same.
Different people are different.
And different people dance differently. Furthermore, these different dancers often dance in different areas of the dance floor. It's just human nature. Generally, there are areas with beginners, other areas with intermediate dancers, and still other areas with the hot shots. There are even little sub-areas within these main areas.