But where money becomes the regulator of respect and choice in the marriage, affection suffers. Love is something that must be nurtured between adults. It is not free. Adult love is not Unconditional love. That special love is reserved for children.
Adult love is based on mutual respect.
Disrespect and devaluation damages the dimension of caring that can exist in a marriage. It is very common for couples entering marriage today to truly believe they are freed from the gender roles and power struggles that can be played out because the woman works to bring in money. Conditioning runs very deep, and men as well as woman are vulnerable to expecting women to not only bring in an income, but magically take care of all the household chores and be available to emotionally nurture at the end of the day. Let your husband know your feelings. Discuss not only the dynamics around money and household chores, but the fact that the two of you are not approaching your life together as a team.