Often the precipitating event that brings them to the group is a life crisis, such as divorce or job loss. But the groups are also for sharing good news, members point out. There's more to meaningful communication than talking about the rugby, he says. Sometimes men say they wouldn't come because they have no problems. We are not there to solve problems, but apart from that any man who says he has no problems is kidding himself.
Adult life is very difficult.
There's a lot of responsibility, a lot of let-downs, a lot of pain. That's what I mean when I talk about bullshit. Howard Brown came looking for something more than the stereotypical male. Women are good at networking. Men tend to isolate themselves, to become competitive or stereotyped.