Within my soul. The death of our baby causes loss of control. No one chooses to have their baby die. When it happens we have no control of the situation. We are left with empty arms, memories, and grief.
Choices are important.
If we realize the importance of giving ourselves permission to grieve and, slowly become aware that we do have options along our grief's path - healing can begin. If we are blessed, those around us will support us as we continue to move along our path. Hopefully, we can come to a place where our baby's life and death can hold something so special that painful memories become bittersweet, and we can say our child's presence has become an important part of who we are. Then, as a living child would, our baby helps us to become more of who we were meant to be. Every child can give us this gift.