Bullies lack empathy and have trouble understanding the pain of others. In fact, they may enjoy inflicting pain. And contrary to popular thinking, not all bullies are boys. In fact, until the latter grade school years, girls are more likely to be bullies than boys because of their faster development. However, girls tend to bully through verbal means or isolation, rather than physical intimidation.
Bullies tend to pick victims who are easy targets.
When confronted by a bully, Dr. Bennett suggests that children be equipped with a menu of options for handling the conflict. Ignore the bully. Bullies seek a reaction of fear or frustration. If they don't get it, and if there are no other children around to encourage them to continue, this may work. Use humor to de-escalate the situation.