All people are unsure as they begin to establish relationships with new people.
The irony is, even after a relationship is well established and the rules of engagement are understood, interpersonal conflicts can often increase rather than subside. It seems like an oxymoron. Instead, many times, familiarity does breed contempt, and those whom we like most are the very people we push away. Let's say that your wife of 15 years complains that you're lazy and sloppy. You think she's obsessive-compulsive and can't understand why a dust bunny under the bed freaks her out.