No one ever knows quite how to deal with them. First of all, we must realize that the feelings of hurt, rejection, and loneliness are normal feelings when you lose something or someone you value. Allow yourself a reasonable amount of time to get over these feelings. But while you're going through it, here are some things you can do to help yourself. If put into the proper perspective, a break-up can be dealt with much like many other transitions in our lives, like the transition between living at home to living on your own.
All transitions involve some form of loss and the insecurity of going on to something new.
If you are now in a relationship in which you can not exist without your boyfriend or girlfriend, you are probably over-dependent on that person. And, you could be headed for trouble if the relationship ends. So, the key to dealing with a break-up is in the way you developed the relationship while it was going on. Keep valuable friendships alive. Don't alienate yourself from family or others who have served as your support system.