As a child, there were most likely no intimate relationships outside of sex. To be truly intimate is an experience most sex addicts have never had. Addictive sex is devoid of relationship. Addictive sex is mere sex, sex for its own sake, sex divorced from authentic interaction of persons. This is most clear with regard to fantasy, pornography and masturbation.
Addictive sex is victimizing.
The overwhelming obsession with self-gratification blinds the addict to the harmful effect his behavior is having on others. Sex addicts need to be helped so that victimization is stopped. Addictive sex ends in despair. When married couples make love, they are more fulfilled for having had the experience. Addictive sex leaves the participants feeling guilty regretting the experience.