I think part of that was what she was attracted too. Her personality change is so intense it actually changes her appearance. I don't think it was because she's happy now and wasn't before because she was like that before her first marriage and was happy in her first marriage. I know some of you are deep thinkers on here. We all have all of the functions and natures within ourselves.
Different people evoke different aspects of our personalities.
But basic preferences are pretty stable. It is interesting that in middle age we begin to use secondary strenths more. This explains the identity problem I've been having. I am never angry for anyone who believes in religion. It is their choice, just as a lack of it is mine.