Give information in small, bite-sized chunks and wait for acknowledgment before proceeding. Let the person you are speaking to set the pace. Do not give information that they indicate they are not ready to hear, or are too upset to hear. By this we mean that if the person was important enough to care about, then they are important enough to go on remembering. We do not, however, want to stay so heavily in grief that we cannot go on to have happy, healthy and fulfilling lives.
Balance is important.
Please remember to allow yourself time to have your own feelings, get support from family, friends and your school and do not expect too much of yourself or anyone else for the next little while. Grief is physically and mentally tiring and our minds are frequently distracted and unable to process information at the same rate as before the loss. Emotionally, we may all have little to give to others. Remember to look after yourself first - if you don't you will not be able to help others effectively. You can provide a valuable support to the bereaved individual - remember that you, your feelings and reactions are important too.