Kids long for friendships with others their age. They desire admiration from peers of the opposite sex. They need to feel a sense of belonging - that they have some status within their peer group. You can try most any learning activity and pull it off, not because of the activity, but because others are doing it. So don t give up.
All kids respond to caring adults.
Seventy-six percent of teens wish their parents spent more time with them. The myth that kids want only to spend time with their friends is propagated, I believe, by busy adults and by teenagers who feel they ll never be taken seriously. Some of your kids may feel burned by adults. It may take time for you to earn their trust. But I believe even the hard-core cases will respond in time if you take them seriously.