As a result, our definition of self is only beginning to emerge from the shadow of what we re not. We are not sick, not evil, not sinful, not perverted, not child molesters, not anti-family, and in terms of basic humanity, not all that much different from anyone else. Because beliefs are creative. What you believe about yourself colors every aspect of your life. It forms the structure by which you order events and interpret experiences.
Beliefs tend to be self-fulfilling.
As long as you re driven consciously or not by negative images of Gays that come from outside yourself, you are living by someone else s script. Only by searching deeply, cutting through the layers of otherness to meet yourself at your core, can you make your life truly satisfying and fulfilling. I wonder how far down the list you d go before words like spiritual, powerful, or self-actualized came up or how long it would be before you thought of someone who s an exception to any category you could dream up. We all know that being Gay or Bi means loving other men. Yet, beyond that very general definition, it s virtually impossible to come up with a set of characteristics or values that applies to all of us.