Quite the contrary, these duties are precisely God s way of providing us with occasions for not merely having the disposition to do God s will, but doing it. St. Paul, again, could not have been plainer, Never say or do anything except in the Name of the Lord Jesus. Having said this, he goes on to enumerate a dozen and more of examples of how this is to be done, because whatever else a retreat should be, it should be living what we have decided to do. Wives, says Paul, are to give way to their husbands, and I d say the same thing if this was an audience of women. Husbands are to love their wives, and treat them, hear it, with gentleness.
Children are to be obedient to their parents.
Parents are not to drive the children to resentment. Masters are to treat their servants with justice and fairness. Watch this one Christians are to be tactful in dealing with those who are not Christians. Prudence, wisdom, kindness. And so the Pauline explanation goes on, of what it means to do everything in the Name of the Lord Jesus, which means, do things as the Lord Jesus would want you to do them.