A father's authority is more than simply power. Authority is based on servant-hood and sacrifice whereas power is based on force, fear and intimidation. Mother Teresa had authority. In her life and in her sacrifice she commands trust and authority that cannot be gained by power or fear or force. The secret to fathering is gaining authority, by serving, sacrifice and loyal commitment.
Children are expensive.
They restrict our life style. They require sacrifice. We do not trust that God will provide what we need to care for our children. So many suffer without knowing that these sufferings are the opportunities and occasions by which our Father in heaven calls us to greater maturity through greater and greater loving sacrifice. We have too much wasted sufferings.