Compassion is more empowering than anger. On the first night, we say, ''Imagine the worst thing you ever said or did to a person you love. Now imagine a stranger doing that. Most would have an instinct to protect a loved one. That is our deepest nature, our core value.
Compassion stops abuse.
The H is for Healing. The E of the word is to Explain to yourself, the lowest core hurts, one is feeling beneath the anger, perhaps a feeling of being disregarded, unimportant, guilty, devalued, powerless or unlovable. A is to Access your core values, your soul, the deepest part of you, your value as a child of God, says Stosny. L is to remember to Love yourself. The trick is to feel compassion first for yourself, and then for the person who offended you.