In the past I've feared that if my history as a het were revealed it would make me an ideal target for those behind the push to bring gays back to the straight and narrow. But those of us who have tried to change know the opposite is true. Unlike the previous argument that gays could change if they really tried, the new argument seems to be that gays can change if they really, really try . The vast majority of gays have wasted some portion of their life, their energy and their resources trying to change who they are. I attended a panel discussion featuring three people who had found their sexual orientation in conflict with their deeply held religious beliefs.
Blame is placed on the relationship between men and their fathers or women and their mothers.
Most of us try it at home. It's usually the first suggestion from family members upon learning a loved one is gay. The fact that those who love us most to considered adultery preferable to a committed relationship with a person of the same sex illustrates what a bleak fate they regard being gay to be. I wasn't gay. I dated men, even lived with one for three years.