After an exhausting day at work, consumed by the craving for peace and quiet, we reach our door only to be greeted by fighting, yelling, and accusations among our children. We live with it for years. Yes, but we first need to know what causes such tension between siblings. Getting to the root of sibling rivalry is the first step.
All humans have a primal urge to give and receive love.
This urge comes from God in whom the desire originates. In his book, Sibling Rivalry, Seymour Reit says that among children the deepest need, the greatest hunger, is to receive love from the adult or adults on whom they depend for their very existence. Because of this dependence, young siblings sometimes fear that love given by parents to others will mean love withheld from themselves. A great deal of competition between children is simply competition for parental love and approval. This may be disguised and covered up, but it remains the underlying motive.