Stepfamily Myths Myths are beliefs that strongly influence the way people in stepfamilies adjust to their new family and react to one another. The following myths about stepfamilies can be stumbling blocks on the stepfamily journey. That hurts, and when people hurt, they may become resentful and angry. Stepfamily adjustment will be helped if we come to the relationships with our stepchildren with minimal, and, therefore, more realistic, expectations about how the relationships will develop. We may then be pleased when respect and friendship blossom and less disappointed if it takes more time than we anticipated.
Children go through a painful period of adjustment after a divorce or remarriage.
Adults often respond to their children's pain with guilt. This leads to difficulties in responding appropriately to our children's hurt and setting appropriate limits - an important part of parenting. Researchers have hopeful news about children of divorce and remarriage. Although it takes some time, most children do recover their emotional equilibrium. Five and 10 years later most are found to be no different, in many important ways, from kids in first marriage families.