Children growing up in violent homes are often behind developmentally . Often they do not receive the parental nurturing that is necessary to develop trust . A general feeling of anxiety can contribute to difficulty in paying attention at school and in forming positive relationships with peers and other adults. Children learn how to appropriately express anger from seeing such expressions modeled by their parents. They learn constructive ways of resolving conflicts and realize conflicts will happen and do not have to end in violence.
Children learn that the way to handle conflict is to be aggressive and physically abusive .
Some children are very aggressive, others are very passive and are overly eager to please any adult in trying to be good at all times. In adulthood they tend to become abusers and victims. The children realize who has authority. Parents Provide guidance, set limits, discipline and are able to express feelings to their children. Authority and discipline are not seen as a right to control by force if necessary.