The latter were too busy scrubbing the bathtub to think about self-anything. Those are the base assumptions of our culture. But our culture's unchallenged assumptions about both partners working, when examined, may turn out not to reflect your values, or even your best interests. You'd be bored at home. Your career will suffer.
Daycare is good for children.
The schools are raising your children just fine. That adult can be male or female, but is usually female. She's taking responsibility for her own family instead of expecting other people to do it, either for pay or by government mandate. And that's where TNH comes in. Our goal is to provide the resources, tools and support you need to create the home you want, with no condescension.