Jesus Christ is the only licensed soul doctor. All others are fakes. That makes me smile. Religion without joy is Godless. This is the greatest earthly joy.
Children thrive on joy.
They will do anything for someone who enjoys them. Don't withhold your joy until it is deserved. Smile your children into obedience, and you will find that the rod is seldom necessary. Become the Pied Pipper of joy. You won't have to drive them if you give them something worth following.