We often hear from patients in the office how close they felt in the beginning of their relationship. When asked if they had more positive communication then, they almost always say yes. All honest communication, especially the positive, helps to make couples close. Making time to express sexuality with each other and discussing positive feelings about it. Couples who are close often engage in fun-loving talk about their sexuality.
Conflict happens less frequently, and when it does they spend less time in it.
Satisfied couples have learned techniques that work for them to resolve most of their conflicts quickly. Their discussions are goal oriented and with the interest of speedy but fair resolutions. Conflict is dealt with in a healthy manner. Satisfied couples view their sexual conflicts as just a part of an intimate relationship. They try to find common ground by conflict resolution skills such as compromise.