If we don't value ourselves, we may feel more hesitant about meeting new people and trying new experiences. Life experiences, past successes and failures all help shape self-esteem. People who receive lots of praise, who do well in school and who receive incentives and promotions on the job probably tend to feel more confident about their abilities. People who accept these factors and who avoid comparing themselves to others usually have higher self-esteem. Accepting and liking ourselves is a first step toward positive self-esteem.
Adults can further boost self-esteem in themselves and in their children by using praise.
Parenting is a demanding job. Parents who remind themselves that they are good cooks or who praise themselves for spending quality time with their children boost their own self-esteem and set a positive example for their children. Praising children, both for their accomplishments and for just being who they are, is important. Children need praise and reassurance to help them build confidence. Children who feel valued and who value themselves are more likely to learn from negative experiences and mistakes.