Each person, silently or aloud, requests the presence of their personal deity to join us for the night. The altar is set, with each person placing photos or momentos of ancestors and their beloved dead, and lighting votive candles. A white, birch-scented pillar candle is set before the image of Bile, along with incense. The Three Realms are acknowledged. Each person tells a story of one of their beloved dead.
Dinner is prepared, and the main table is set.
Each person assists with dinner, and has brought something to contribute for the feast. Places on the altar are set for the ancestors and the deities. When dinner is served, before any food is consumed the ancestors and the Gods are given their share. The dead are toasted, beginning with those whose names we do not know. Personal toasts are made around the table by each individual.