Read a book that provides an insight on the development of and enforcement of gender roles. Some suggestions are The Color Purple by Alice Walker, The Awakening by Kate Chopin, The Collected Poems of Emily Dickinson, and Where the Girls Are by Susan J. Douglas. For the master's tools will never dismantle the master's house. They may allow us temporarily to beat him at his own game, but they will never enable us to bring about genuine change. Oppression is oppression, regardless if it is targeted at women, minorities, the elderly, homosexuals, or assaults upon the environment, and it needs to end.
Capitalism is one way in which oppression is fueled.
Join a club, such as Grassroots or the Women's Center, which are working toward re-defining the values that support the structure of this society.