Since men and women share certain attributes, the catch lies in knowing when and how to use them. When they fail to incorporate both their masculinity and femininity into how they communicate, they are not being honest with themselves and with each other. According to Korsgaard, listening goes hand in hand with trust and honesty. An elemental characteristic of communication between any two people involves actively listening. Even when men and women place trust in and listen to each other, they can still quarrel.
Conflicts are inevitable.
One's needs are usually incompatible with those of another. Early on in relationships, the excitement is high and we are 'other-focused,' willing to inconvenience ourselves in order to meet the other person's needs. According to Korsgaard, younger couples fight more because they lack maturity and haven't learned to stop and listen. Young people want so bad to be in relationships that that's what they end up fighting about. At a certain point, people force the relationship, trying to make it compatible.