But most bisexually identified people are bisexual for their whole lives. Bisexuals can't be monogamous. If she decides to be monogamous, that doesn't mean that she is gay or straight. She can still have feelings for people of both genders. For more information on how to protect yourself, check out YouthHIV .
Bisexual people can choose to be straight.
Many people believe that they didn't choose their sexuality, they just feel it. There's a difference between being straight and dating a person of the opposite sex if they fall in love. This doesn't mean that they aren't attracted to people of the same sex still or that they aren't bisexual. But it still isn't easy to feel like you are hiding something. Because of the negative stereotypes that exist about bisexuality, many bisexuals don't feel like they have a community.