Find the power you have been gathering inside and use it at that moment to make a different choice. You will feel so much better, and with this start, you will be able to change more and more patterns. The purpose of anger is to produce change. Its purposefully disruptive properties are designed to interact in a situation that does not meet our needs, and rearrange the situation so that it does meet our needs. If the intensity of our anger is not sufficient to create the changes we need, then our anger is telling us we need to change situations.
Anger is a normal, even appropriate response to certain every-day life events.
Although anger is more intense than love, love is more enduring. Therefore, anger does not displace love. But rage does. In an angry exchange, a person may be very angry but still very in touch with love. When a person is angry but not in touch with love, that is rage.