We may not think at the time that anger is driving us, but time and subsequent thought could well reveal otherwise. So slow down when upset. Use your discretion in recognizing your emotional state, then allow your discretion to rein in and defer your anger. Having done that, you will find it is much easier for the Spirit of God to work in you, enabling you to pass over the transgression against you. As an ancient city left defenseless when its walls failed, so our spirits become very vulnerable when we lose control of our spirits.
Anger frequently results from the violation of rights.
And a focus on rights most often comes from an unyielded, uncrucified self. So at the most basic level, the initial step in resolving anger has to be giving way once again to the Lordship of Jesus in our lives.