Last night's beans can affect them. You fall into them and out of them. The word used in 1 Corinthians 13 is a very special word for love. And it is not the word for love between friends, brotherly love, the give and take between equals, the love of 1 Samuel where we read that Jonathan loved David as his own soul. The word of 1 Corinthians 13 is the word agape .
Agape love is a love focused entirely on the other person.
It is shaped after God's love for us. Agape love is not concerned about what one can get out of it for oneself. Remember, Christ was willing to empty Himself completely and let go of everything in order to bring eternal riches to us who had nothing. Agape love does not demand reciprocal treatment. Agape love is very concerned about the well-being of the one being loved.