Encourage them to talk about their emotions, and help them label and understand difficult feelings so that they can learn acceptable ways of dealing with them. Express your own emotions to them in simple terms so that they can learn from you how to deal with their problems. Make sure you keep your rules simple, and make sure children know what they are. State your instructions clearly and firmly and explain the consequence s of misbehavior. Always follow through with those consequences.
Children often tantrum if parents or teachers tend to waver when enforcing rules.
If they know that crying will not change your mind, they will be less likely to cry. If children tantrum because you have enforced a consequence, explain to them that they chose the consequence when they chose the behavior. This helps teach children to consider the consequences of a behavior before they act. You might want to explain quickly and without emotion that you will talk when they are ready to listen. When the tantruming subsides, speak gently and offer an acceptable alternative to whatever forbidden object or activity caused the tantrum.