Infinite sharing is the law of God's inner life. He has made the sharing of ourselves the law of our own being, so that it is in loving others that we best love ourselves. Although some might agree with Merton on these points, few take that agreement and make it a reality in their lives. In part we tend to fail to realize deep, profound happiness because we are beguiled by transitory, shallow forms of happiness. Hunger, pain, even the threat of death cannot distract him because he has experienced a deep shared joyous love, so powerful that it can move whatever stands in his way.
Charity is neither weak nor blind.
It is essentially prudent, just, temperate, and strong. Unless all the other virtues blend together in charity, our love is not genuine. No one who really wants to love another will consent to love him falsely. If we are going to love others at all, we must make up our minds to love them well. If you think on the above lines, you may begin to realize why we have the high violence and divorce rates that we have.