If your spouse is not sure if he wants to end the affair, ask if he is willing to suspend the other relationship for a period of time during which you both will work on the marriage. Be willing to look at your own possible contribution to the affair. Learn to understand the difference between infatuation and committed love, and the difference between infatuation and the results of a neglected marriage. Look realistically at the cost of divorce for yourself, for your spouse and for your entire family. Remember God s desire is to forgive our sins and to heal our relationships.
Affairs occur for a number of reasons.
Some happen in the workplace where two people work together for extended periods of time alone. Klinebell and Klinebell report that the office affair often builds from a kind of intellectual intimacy. Some affairs start out as friendships that eventually cross the line. Others occur in midlife, when both men and women are confronting the issues of aging and loss. Affairs can occur because one marriage partner consistently fails to meet the needs of the other in some important area.