Communicate and express feelings in a way that helps others understand. Find healthy and appropriate ways to express anger. Don't blame or attack the child, but explain what makes you mad. Don't label the child, but focus on the child's behavior. Avoid shaming questions and sarcastic comments, as these lead to lowered self-esteem and defensiveness.
Children copy what they see and hear.
Listening can help break the cycle of unhealthy talk. Everyone's feelings have worth. Show kids that you acknowledge and respect what they have to say. Anyone is more likely to listen to someone who affirms rather than denies their experiences. Listening makes it possible for children to be caring and responsible.