An unmistakable, ever present by-product of love given and received is joy. The joy of the lord is our strength. Brokenness is inevitable in this changing world. Count on it. Humans are imperfect, so count on it, they will hurt you.
Disappointment is inevitable, but being miserable over it is optional.
It boils down to recognizing your misery and taking your broken self in for repair. You always have a choice, you know - whatever the breakage. Given the same sort of tragedy, you will always find some people who are victorious and others who are miserable. The difference is a matter of choice. God gave you the right to choose misery and nobody can take it from you.