Never, ever raise your voice. If your partner thinks your voice is too loud, it is too loud. It doesn't matter if you don't agree. If you are too emotional to control yourself, see an MD for a medication evaluation. Give up drinking.
Alcohol use is associated with anger and violence.
Never, ever hit, punch, tap or push your partner or any object. Never, ever walk away from, walk ahead of, roll your eyes, yawn, breath hard, sigh, frown, or make any other unnecessary behavioral expressions of anger towards your partner. Make eye contact when addressing your partner or replying to them. Acts of omission are no less angry than acts of commission. Do not make threats.