I've been crying a lot and having nightmares. You say that your husband has always been honest with you, and it sounds to me like he still is. He made no effort to engage in a relationship with this woman again. I don't think you have anything to worry about except perhaps your husband's drinking habits. Instead of focusing on his possible infidelity, try talking to him about his temporary loss of judgment.
Alcohol loosens inhibitions and can make people do things that they later regret.
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