These sins and hurts need to be confessed and healed before real freedom can be experienced. This can happen through confession and prayer, both in our personal times with the Lord and with other members of the body of Christ. Emotional dependency is a painful thing to discuss. Most of us have experienced this problem. None of us are exempt from the temptation to draw our life and security from another person, especially when that person is handy and cooperative.
Dependent relationships can form in opposite and same sex friendships.
They can happen between married couples and between parents and children. But in the heart of the Gospel, there's a message of truth that can free us from self-seeking relationships. I am a minister of 17 years. I was married for 15 years. My wife got involved with a woman in the church and their relationship just got weird to me.