Some who have suffered at the hands of a N do tend to withdraw into seclusion for a time. It is normal. Just as a tiger in the jungle will withdraw to heal from its wounds. It's my bet, that all of you will come back, stronger than you were before. You will find strengths you never thought you had.
Depression is treatable.
Oh yes, that is exactly it isn't it and so difficult to shake off. The people here who my heart really goes out to are the ones that have children with these men and are forced to have continued contact. I was devastated but figured he'd change his mind. Now I'm grateful that he stuck to that. It made my physical escape that much easier.