Immediacy - exploring issues which arise between you as the relationship develops. Support - identifying personal and community resources available in resolution of problem. To help a person understand modes of self-destructive behavior and discover unused resources. An empathy base should be established before confrontation. A person's readiness to hear confrontation must be assessed.
Confrontation needs to be gradual, and proportional to the depth of the relationship.
Confrontations are given in terms of specific, verifiable behaviors or facts. Strength confrontation should be used frequently. Always follow confrontation with stage 1 skills, especially empathy and respect.