If incontinence is a new behavior, your first and most important step is to identify the possible reasons for this loss of control. Keep in mind weak pelvic muscles in a woman could cause uncontrollable loss of urine. Keep in mind, for example, that some tranquilizers can relax the bladder muscles. Medications used to treat incontinence can cause such side effects as dry mouth and eye problems. If so, the person might become dehydrated.
Dehydration can, in turn, create a urinary tract infection which can lead to incontinence.
Beverages such as coffee, colas, and tea might contribute to incontinence. Be willing to experiment with new concepts and ideas. Keep in mind that every person is different. What works for one person may not work for another. Remember that accidents are embarrassing.