I almost did, but my H begged for a second chance. I can almost guarantee, that if it were to happen to your friends, they would be eating their words. Until a person actually experiences what it is to betray or be betrayed, then they really won't have first-hand knowledge to make such a statement. Trust me, if your friends ever have the displeasure of having to deal with an affair, they will be reacting differently than they had planned. I'll miss you.
Denial is such a problem.
Just like it is easier to tell someone how to raise kids before you have any yourself, this is something very perception-changing. Whenthere is a divorce in progress ,most friends just want you to get over it and move on. I will look at your old post. Survivor, It is very hard to go on without support,perhaps I should just accept that I wont get any from my friends, and not talk about it,but they always ask me how the divorce is going. Jenny, that made me smile LOR, Would love to tell them I am putting all my effortinto marriage,but they would think I am crazy because my spouse is divorcing me.