All services are confidential . Trained advocates are available to assist you if you find the need to speak with the prosecutor, the police, or attend court hearings. Answering the following questions will help the person already in a relationship in determining if it is an abusive one or becoming abusive. If you have said yes to many of the above questions, you have identified an abusive relationship and need to seek help and advice. The beginning of the sequence.
Arguments are unresolved.
Resentments are saved and built up. Problems are not dealt with. Feelings are kept in, and turned into anger, or the abusive partner may become increasingly more controlling or cruel without exhibiting anger. Many batterers increase their chemical use and try to avoid conflict. This is when the cues start to occur.