Your typical asshole boyfriend. He's a great example. He acts the way he does, because he HAS to be a guy. He must be a man. It's not how Steve behaves that disturbs me about what i learned of homophobia, it's about myself.
Blatant homophobia is one thing, latent homophobia is another.
Those are the most vocal of the external bigots. Guys have to be macho, not sensitive, etc. etc. I have never intentionally messaged another guy, except for help with a technical question. I don't think girls have to worry about homophobia as much because the feminist movement of empowering women is about allowing gender neutrality, it's accepted that women can have both male and female roles. In fact, I almost think that women have now started feeding into the homophobia.