Parents who are authoritative set rules and limits, but explain why they are necessary and take their children's point of view into account when making the rules. They communicate regularly with their children and encourage them to be independent. Another way of thinking about the different parenting styles is that authoritarian parents are overly controlling, permissive parents have little control over their children and authoritative parents have just the right amount of control. The first step to better discipline is to learn to encourage good behavior in your child. It is much easier to reinforce good behavior than to have to try and change bad behaviors.
Children seek approval for the things that they do, especially from their parents.
Let your child know if he is following the rules or has done something, or made an effort to do something that you wanted. Give him a hug, kiss or smile if he has been sitting quietly, completes a chore without problems, or is playing cooperatively. Give him choices . This allows your child some feeling of independence. For example, offer a choice between setting the table or taking out the trash.