I like the way you put all your toys together in one place. That's good, but we've got to get that B up there. Those four A's are good, but they're not good enough for me. You won't measure up in my eyes until you get straight A's Praise that is contingent upon perfection is without value. No one is perfect, and in spite the of the belief that holding up ultimate goals will make a child try harder, it simply confirms the suggestions that he'll never be good enough.
Children believe what they're told about themselves.
If you suggest negative qualities, the child will begin to think of himself that way. It is important to communicate a specific, positive message. Contact our Director of Research and Webmaster, Dr. Joe Plaud , or our Executive Director, Dr. Dwight Harshbarger .