We may use excuses that we are too stressed, too tired, or too busy to do something, when we really just do not want to do it. These hidden messages have two major effects. First, they will affect others' beliefs about us. Others may believe that we are weak and helpless, and treat us that way. In addition, a belief that our emotions are out of control contributes to anxiety and depression.
Choice language is based on underlying beliefs such as the following.
Following are some examples of how we can transform helplessness language into choice language. During the next few days make a special effort to observe your own and other people's speech patterns. See how many people don't think they can control their emotions.