From that point of view, it's an old story. Therein lies cheerful little womanliness, which is next to godliness. Marmee is a success. By her standards, so is Mrs. Ramsay. But if we look askance at Marmee's advice, we nonetheless recognize the terms of Jo's socialization, which include, at their center, the concealment of anger.
Anger is treason.
It rends the social fabric. Yet we know that, oddly enough, anger is at home in literature, which gives rage a voice to chill the bone. For men, not women. Stereotyped as preternaturally aggressive, in literature men are granted much larger berth for their anger than women, who are said to be cooperative creatures, soothing and pacific. No one listens to Cassandra, and the Delphic Oracle is something of a nut.