Especially in the early stages of infertility, many people just need someone with whom to share their confusion, anger and pain. They may not be looking for answers or concrete help but rather for understanding, support and love. Chances are good that a couple has been trying to do just that for some time. If you are having any problems, please know that I'm available to listen. Before you speak up, keep in mind that for many people infertility is an intensely personal experience, one they may be uncomfortable discussing.
Church can be one of the hardest places for infertile couples.
My husband stopped attending services entirely during the darkest days of our crisis. He couldn't stand to watch other people's darling tots dressed in their Sunday best parade up the aisle for the children's sermon. Enlist church members who have successfully negotiated infertility to act as informal counselors for those still living through it. As in any medical or mental health crisis, there is no comfort like talking with a survivor. Don't expect infertile couples to be as ecstatic about your pregnancy as you are.