It is your father you are screaming at, not your mate. We are in charge of our own lives. We need to realize we have this power and stop pretending we don't. We need to let go of our victim mentality, stop administrating the thoughts we think so we have a positive structure inside of us. Also, we need to forgive our parents completely, stop blaming our parents for our problems.
Blame weakens the one who is blaming.
Gratitude empowers us. I used to be terrified of success. I became frightened my success might somehow cause the death of my mother and I'd be left with all that guilt. I find that many people are too guilty to surpass their parents. The power of family loyalty is immense.