Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion.
And it can make you feel as though you're at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion. Relaxation Simple relaxation tools, such as deep breathing and relaxing imagery, can help calm down angry feelings. There are books and courses that can teach you relaxation techniques, and once you learn the techniques, you can call upon them in any situation. If your spouse and you are both hot-tempered, it might be a good idea for both of you to learn these techniques. Repeat it to yourself while breathing deeply.