Divorce is not criminal, and children require better support than is currently available in this venue. The bias our legal system will inevitably result in miscarriages of justice for children. As children mature, they develop their own lives. Their ability to pursue interests and activities should be taken into consideration. It is a current failure of the legal system to not require that parents inconvenience themselves rather than demand that their children give up significant aspects of their lives in order to share and develop a parental-child relationship.
Children are susceptible to exploitation because they have no independent legal rights.
In this situation, you would be entitled to request a mediation appointment to bring up the points about your son's truncated athletic development and the negative effects on him of the current implementation of the visitation schedule. Oftentimes these situations require that you attempt an agreement that has been set by the court in order to see if it will work out. When this is not the case, it is necessary to return to mediation to establish this fact. Continue to pursue what prevents your husband and yourself from adjustment that ensures your son's participation in programs that are critical to his happiness. Refrain from attempting to control your ex-spouse's environment or parenting relationship with his children, except as it interferes significantly with their pursuit of happiness or health.