Guidance includes explaining limits, rules and expectations. If your child wants to stay in the toy aisle of the department store, explain that she can't stay alone because it isn't safe for children to be by themselves in a large store. Let your child know that you want her to come with you, not because you are impatient and unreasonable, but because you care about her safety. Even parents who use prevention and offer plenty of guidance may still have times when these techniques don't work. At these times, Weber suggests using consequences with children.
Consequences are the final part of the positive discipline sequence.
For instance, the parents repeatedly tell their children to put bicycles away because the bikes could get lost or damaged. Then, someone accidently backs over a bike with a car. In this case, the parent does not run out and buy a new bicycle for the child, but lets the child decide how to cope with his poor decision. Weber says these and other examples will be part of the positive discipline workshop at the Parent Educator Institute.