Instead of keeping the process of discovery alive, we grab, stall and settle. And now just like Mother when she was only an extension of our instant-self which fulfilled all our needs for nourishment and warmth, when she was not yet the mother we have come to know as a person, the One, the Lover, the Hero, the god, is supposed to meet all of our desires, fantasies, and expectations. No one person can bring us back to paradise for ever and ever. I believe in miracles, but I don' t think we can afford to build our whole social structure on the hope of miracles. This is what's going on though.
Consequently people are miserable for the most part.
And gay and straight alike work at lousy jobs and live badly. But it's good for the economy, for business and the perpetuation of the patriarchal model. Well, to make things work and keep the tradition of coupled and family alive, people become reasonable, resigned to limiting themselves. There is always comfort in limit. Or else, when married, if they refuse to give up to reason, they resort to cheating, thus cheating themselves and their partner.