The disaster comes in these situations when the kids are used as a battleground and custody battles are fought. Unless there are clear problems or reasons or dangers why one party shouldn't have custody or part custody, it is obviously better for the kids have some sort of shared arrangement subject to domestic constraints. Quite simply, a belief that children need TWO parents. It is no more complicated than that. Children have two loving role models to help them grow into their world and their potential.
Children learn how to disagree with being disagreeable.
Through the many negotiations that are inovlved in running two households, they learn how to handle disagreements and move forward. They get the added bonus of the very powerful blast of love from parents who are always ready to see them and have missed them. We rarely get burned out because the stretches that they are with us are still abbreviated due their age. If you would like about 40 more reasons on how they benefit, I could have you talk to my children. The first six months may seem like an endless series of adjustments, but as I look at my children's contemporaries, they actaully had no more adapting to do than other children going through a divorce.