Anger at one's teacher in school might be a clue that the teacher was going too fast and needed to slow down. I knew that communication and problem solving required that parents get to know the inner world of the child and that the parents and teachers know how to reduce stress on him. This is a good question. Being difficult is a part of growing up. Children need to continually test boundaries.
Children do the best that they can to get by and have a good life.
If they are unable to have some fun in their lives and some sense of satisfaction from what they accomplish, then it makes sense to look deeper to see what the problem is in terms of their family life or brain chemistry. Oftentimes the reason that they are so difficult or exasperating will be found in one of these domains. The word describes an attitude of dealing with adversity that sees it as a challenge not a curse or blessing. The person's feeling that they are in control of the situation, not the other way around, marks the attitude of eustress. Distress, on the other hand, denotes a person's feeling of weakness, of inability to cope, in the face of adversity.