Who you simply ARE is not important-pretend to be someone different. Other people's feelings don't matter, only your own. How dare they hurt YOUR feelings. Good guys finish last. Be a bad guy when no one is looking, then pretend to be the good guy in public.
Counseling is only for crazy people.
If I don't go to counseling it means I'm not crazy, I don't need any help. I don't have any problems-just others do. Embarrass others but never allow them to embarrass you. Sit back and do nothing. Don't take the initiative.