If there's one area desperately calling for attention, it's helping parents to teach young people to show anger appropriately, to deal with conflict openly, and to express negative feelings without fear of consequences. It is okay to feel angry. A lot of things happen every day to trigger our anger. And, where our adolescents are concerned, we have a long list of things they may do that make us respond with anger. When you feel angry, when young people feel angry, something needs to be changed to resolve the anger.
Anger is a signal for change.
Parents have a double task when they interact with young people. Not only do they have to deal with their angry feelings, but they also need to deal with the angry feelings of their children. And if that is not enough, young people express anger differently as they grow, and learn different ways to manage their anger as they grow. Let's not minimize the importance of recognizing and dealing with our own anger. When you feel anger in response to something your child does, your first reaction is often to feel aggressive towards him.