To a Jew Christianity is an apostate form of Judaism . Much has been lost. Though ritual washings was a universal practice in the early churches it is seldom practiced today. Many feel it was symbolic, very out of date, and therefore no longer necessary. Confirmation is often optional and is a decision that parents can make for their children.
Confirmation is a biblical ordinance.
Churches should comply with the concept of confirmation. If we omit one or more of these biblical ordinances we have not been initiated into the Christian church. Because of lack of interest, most clergy do not appreciate the symbolic nature of ancient Christian ordinances, nor would they know how to administer such ordinances. Find a denomination that understands what you have reference to, keep asking questions. It is not OK to regularly attend the denomination of your choice and not be confirmed a member.