The cigarette is moved in a circular pattern at such high speed that the burning tip creates the illusion of being continuous to both people. One person is asked what he sees, and he says he sees a deep red colored circle. The other person is asked what she sees, and she says she sees a deep red colored vertical line. Both descriptions, as experienced, are true. Each person knows the burning end of the cigarette is the source of what he and she perceives, but each sees a different manifestation of its being.
Different angles produce different descriptions of the same thing.
It's not what you have, it's what you is. Find the you that's still there, and there is where you is. Resting, or being silent, or being very still, is very important. Take our heart as an example. There is no harder working organ in the body.