The greatest gift I can give to another is to love and accept them as they are. Treating people with respect and dignity begets being treated with respect and dignity. If I enter a relationship to get, I lose. If I enter a relationship to give, I get. Relationships work best when I always do what is best for me.
All relationships bear gifts.
I can only see the gifts when I stop thinking and reacting like a victim. Trying to please others is a fast track to disappointment. It is not my responsibility to make others happy. It is not the responsibility of others to make me happy. It is not my responsibility to make decisions for others or to judge the decisions they make.