Death is irrelavent. You gain full health when you cap and when you die, so dont think your life is worth anything. Monotony is irrelevant. I can die 20 times in a row to the same thornplants and not break a sweat. When I am flag running, I am inevitable.
Defenses are irrelevant.
If you need help, ask for the specific wizard you require and tell them where to go. Get that grail. Cap that grail. Make it your personal goal. Capping while shying away from deathmatch tactics is the mark of an above average player.