Maybe a little stigma is exactly what they deserve. Instead, it becomes necessary to offer distractions or, better yet, to suggest that a child make a choice. One creates the illusion of options while making sure that the child makes the choice that is desired by the parent. This is a strategy that is well known to mothers, but not just because they are encouraged to employ it with their children. This is a free country.
Debate is a good thing.
We can feel strongly about missile shields and panty shields and Tom and Nicole. But we have supposedly been cured of any tendency to dominate or discriminate on the basis of misguided assumptions. It is not appropriate to look upon other humans with proprietary designs, except, of course, if they are children. And there was, of course, that mostly informal, though widely acknowledged, liberation of women. Perfect for the Salon fan in your life.