Addictive love is stereotyped. There is always a certain type we are attracted to. Healthy love is gentle and comfortable. Addictive love is tense and combative. Healthy love encourages us to be ourselves, to be honest from the beginning with who we are, including our faults.
Addictive love encourages secretes.
We want to look good and put on an attractive mask. Healthy love is satisfied with the partner we have. Addictive love is always looking for more or better. Healthy love is based on the belief that we want to be together. Addictive love is based on the belief that we HAVE to be together.