The greater our success, the greater our presence. We have buried our real selves in what we think the world, our parents, or our partners want us to be. The real relationship begins when we are courageous and willing to find our real selves, under all this outer accoutrement. It begins when we find our real spirit and the real spirit in our partners. This is conscious relationship.
Affairs are very often a cry for help or a symptom of even bigger problems in the relationship.
Often there has been no communication, no affection and no intimacy long before the affair has taken place, but both partners have been in denial about the problems. Another reason many relationships fail is because they begin for the wrong reason. Many relationships are based on need, not love. We come together because we fulfill each others needs at some level. However, when need becomes the primary focus, we begin relating to each other as objects.