Many of them are invisible to their pastors and other parishioners while they deal with one of the most emotionally and spiritually difficult journeys of their lives. You and other members of your congregation can give them a great gift by what you do and by what you don't do. Be willing to listen, if you're asked. Especially in the early stages of infertility, many people just need someone with whom to share their confusion, anger and pain. They may not be looking for answers or concrete help but rather for understanding, support and love.
Chances are good that a couple has been trying to do just that for some time.
If you are having any problems, please know that I'm available to listen. Before you speak up, keep in mind that for many people infertility is an intensely personal experience, one they may be uncomfortable discussing. Church can be one of the hardest places for infertile couples. My husband stopped attending services entirely during the darkest days of our crisis. He couldn't stand to watch other people's darling tots dressed in their Sunday best parade up the aisle for the children's sermon.