I wish he would've spoken up sooner, now I fear that its too late to try to salvage us. He wants to be friends now. I tried so hard to save us when he said that he felt like leaving. I cleaned the house like a mad woman, laundry never went undone, back rubs, baths, the whole nine yards. Dont do everything and anything you can to save your marriage all at once.
Counseling is a good start.
Dont push her into anything she isnt ready for. Started looking in his jacket pocket for anything I could find. So, trust your wife. If she says there is no one else, believe her. She probably doesnt have any romantic feelings for you now because of the stress she is experiencing.