Make this a priority from the start. Even if it is only once a month, it is a statement that you need each other. In fact, attention to one another is necessary for children to feel loved. Even young babies benefit from parents taking a night out for themselves to nurture each other. Now let's take a closer look at a common pitfall in early family development which exemplifies this point.
Couples commonly come for counseling when their first child is between one and two years of age.
Often, they have neglected their couple relationship through the plentiful changes of this period. When they finally turn their attention away from parental duties, they have been lonely for each other for a long time. Their need for meaningful contact is expressed through accusations of neglect and failure. As time goes by, lack of intimacy between partners becomes a family pattern that takes its toll. This leads us to another important reality of making a family together.