If I'm a bully and all the people around you, the victim, stand up to me, I can't do that over and over again. If we can show bystanders how to become involved as bystanders, we reduce isolation. Hazler acknowledges that some bystanders are afraid of bullies, too. He promotes group training and counseling activities to help students see they share the same feelings about bullying situations. Such talking also can demonstrate the power that comes with unity.
Bystanders have a range of choices when it comes to supporting victims.
Emphasize understanding of all sides. Emphasize real-life experiences. The concept has worked in fraternity houses on college campuses. He also notes that societies in which bystanders take part in disciplining children report lower delinquency rates. When kids are trying out behaviors from ages 9 to 18, they're trying on new personalities.