Bad things can and do happen to good people. It may or may not be anything of your own choosing or doing. You have to have some way to get your life recharged, to get up and get going again. That's the point at which our faith makes so much difference. This promise that we need not be destroyed by those difficulties is an ancient idea.
Difficulties show what women are as well.
Difficulties not only reveal our real character but it is the difficulties of life that shape our character and determine what we're going to be like. Paul says this more elegantly than Epictetus. Accept that suffering is not wasted, but that it can strengthen you. Believe that troubles need not destroy you, but that they can lead ultimately to hope. That understanding can be relied on as an emotional and spiritual jump-start for the times you need it most.