My bipolar ex could be very close and passionate. Is is their realization that the abused person is emotionally exhausted, drained and beyond participation in the crazy dance. My abuser has sooooooooooooo much empathy for himself. Not to negate any persons' responsibility with this point, but the couple may have little conscience thought regarding their actions and reactions, that occur during the abuse cycle. One current and two previous, weekly women's group counseling sessions, held at a domestic violence center and shelter.
Counselors complete rigorous domestic violence training.
Attended with my abuser, four marital counselors inexperienced in domestic violence. You have a good understanding of how it works. You probably don't think this yet, but your wife is a very lucky woman. I wish you much healing. I am so proud for you and hope you have great success in beating this problem.