The divorced, say, need not apply. Gays will be fixed, not welcomed. Faith, we seem to say, is centered in us and our choices, rather than in God's revelation of himself. Salvation isn't a gift, like a mother's love, but a prize. We can redeem ourselves by making better lifestyle choices.
Discipleship means spurning the unworthy.
Ministries are judged by whether they please. Conflict becomes the enemy. Avoiding conflict is equated with leadership. A determination to stir the pot is a path to power. Worship becomes an acting-out of lifestyle, in effect a praise of self.