Conversations are a mirror. Look into the light. You are not what you appear to be. You are a remote game player in a very realistic simulator, a virtual reality. Loss of face means nothing if you have integrity.
Conflict happens 'outside'.
You live 'inside', safe and secure in the ever-loving infinite. Fight it, struggle and the pattern grows stronger. Accept it and ask the light for a solution. You cannot change the pattern so change yourself. People, systems, organisations, governments, businesses - they treat you badly.