There should be no ambiguity about why we have disciplined the child, otherwise the child is more likely to repeat the undesirable behavior. The child feels safe with the knowledge that people care for her. Remember that children imitate adults' behavior. Screaming, hitting, or ridiculing a child for bad behavior is not an effective way to teach self-control. Tailor the method of discipline to the individual child.
Children develop their abilities to control themselves at different rates.
Take into consideration the needs of the particular child involved. No single technique will work with every child every time. Time-out is not used as a punishment. Time-out is an opportunity for a child to clear her mind and rejoin the group or activity in a more productive state. Teach a child how to solve her own problems with love and support, and time-out may no longer be necessary.