This leads to confusion and loss of control. They then spend a huge amount of time cleaning up the mess. If you look at the list of characteristics, you will see that most areas of your life are out of control. They don't do life very well. I have all of these characteristics, but my parents were not alcoholic.
Behaviors are like bad habits.
They are passed from generation to generation. Ask your parents if they ever went to parent school. I would bet they did not. Therefore, they parented you just as they were parented. Your problem is that you got some from Mom and some from Dad and you are the combined mix of all that dysfunction.