That's not necessarily true. To consider whether your partner emotionally abuses you, look at the information available on physical abusers. She was verbally abused as a child, witnessed it in her own family, or was verbally abused by a previous partner. She has low self-esteem. She has an explosive temper, triggered by minor frustrations and arguments.
Abusers are extremely possessive and jealous.
They experience an intense desire to control their mates. Her sense of power or control depends on her partner's acquiescence and his performance per her demands. Abusers often have superficial relationships with other people. She has rigid expectations of marriage, partnership, or men, and will not compromise. She demands that he change to accommodate her expectations.