The Pill is. These distinctions are made around the criteria that sex should bring a couple closer together in every way. Ditto on the pleasuring part as it refers to French maid outfits. Pornography has one partner thinking of someone other than his or her spouse. And sadomasochism is antithetical to Judaism, as the prevailing belief is that our bodies are on loan from God and any sort of mutilation is strictly forbidden.
Condoms physically come between a couple.
The Pill does not. Boteach's book is filled with such saucy details about what is and is not, well, kosher in regard to sexual relations. However, what most readers will find equally if not more interesting is the rabbi's advice on creating and maintaining both intimacy and passion within a relationship. Most of the advice is basic. And yet it appears refreshing in its simplicity.