This applies to lesbian relationships as well. Victims are often blamed for the abuse by partners, and sometimes even family, friends and professionals can excuse or minimize the abusive behavior. It is difficult for victims to leave abusive relationships. Abuse is not an acceptable or healthy way to solve difficulties in relationships, regardless of orientation. Victims feels responsible for their partner's violence and their partner's emotional state, hoping to prevent further violence.
Abuse usually worsens over time.
The abuser is often apologetic after abusing, giving false hope that the abuse will stop. Lesbians and gay men often experience a lack of understanding of the seriousness of the abuse when reporting incidences of violence to a therapist, police officer or medical personnel. Homophobia in society denies the reality of lesbian and gay men's lives, including the existence of lesbian and gay male relationships, let alone abusive ones. Abused gay men have even fewer places to turn for help in that there are no agency-sponsored safe places to stay. Recognize that you are not responsible for the abuse.