Courtship is viewed as a viable means of developing these elements. The main difference between dating and courtship is the attitude that one assumes towards relationships and the activities in which the couple engages before marriage. Contemporary dating is generally a self-focused past time. Self-gratification is paramount. In courtship, both individuals have the understanding that marriage is the eventual goal of the relationship.
Courtship takes a more thoughtful, long- term approach to a premarital relationship.
The emphasis is on developing friendships and seeking compatibility in ones future mate. Courtship doesn't actually begin until each feels that the other person could be a perspective marriage partner. Their time together is spent getting to know teach other better through conversation and group socialization, rather than sexual intimacy. Various Christian books and recent radio programs have given much attention to the subject of courtship. Why I Kissed Dating Goodbye and Elizabeth Elliot's Passion and Purity are two top sellers.