Rules establish consistent guidelines that help everyone know what is expected and encourages children to take responsibility for their own behavior. Remember, infants are too young to follow the rules and should not be held responsible for not following the rules. Providing children with these is an excellent way of empowering children and teaching them how to manage their own behavior. Using messages allows you to let your child know that you are unhappy with their behavior. Before you use ignoring, make sure that the child will not be physically harmed and that property damage is unlikely.
Children deserve rewards.
Rewards can be a powerful way of helping children learn to behave. Children will do more for a reward than they will avoid doing out of fear of punishment. Nurturing Touches are gentle hugs, soft strokes on a child's back, gently rocking back and forth. Privileges serve as excellent rewards. A privilege can be extra play time, getting an extra story, or other things that children enjoy.