Julian Jayaseelan is Executive Director of Pink Triangle in Malaysia. He was 27 when he realised he was gay. He told his closest friends but not his family. Julian's organisation arranges family days regularly.
Colleagues can bring their families to the office.
Surprisingly most of my colleagues haven't told their families they are gay. They bring them to these family days and say things like these are the people I hang out with at the club I go to every night. It means that we are aping the West and losing touch with our own culture, history and traditions. Julian had a Catholic upbringing although Islam is very much a part of Malaysian life. A Moslem can be arrested for that.