Don't blame others for the fact that you are feeling angry. Play detective with yourself. Hurts, fears and vulnerability often hide behind the anger. Consider the consequences, to you and others, for your choice of words and actions. Be specific and talk about the 'real' problem.
Abuse means mistreating another person.
Abuse is not just a one time event. It's a pattern of behaviour used to manipulate and control another person. Sometimes women abuse men. They even hit men. But they hardly ever abuse men.