G uide Aggression or violence towards parents by their adolescent children is more common than most people believe and it is something not usually talked about. This can mean using abusive language, frightening, threatening, physically hurting a parent or damaging furniture and property in the home.
Children are aggressive towards parents for many reasons.
They have not learnt how to manage their feelings, especially angry ones. They have not learnt to control their impulses and so just act out without using self discipline. They have not learnt to value or respect other people or their property. They may be going through a really difficult time and cannot cope with the stresses in their own life. None of these reasons excuse aggro behaviour, but it can help parents understand why adolescents do it .