Prayerfully consider how you do this when you're interacting with your family members. Also, look for other ways to live incarnationally. What your husband is doing is wrong and destructive. The presence of any kind of abuse in a home produces fear, insecurity, and confusion for those living there. An abusive environment is not acceptable, and you should consider the problem serious enough to seek professional help.
Abuse often increases in both intensity and frequency over time.
All parties get used to a certain level of abuse, so they begin to tolerate behavior that never would have been accepted originally. Since your husband refuses to seek counseling, pursue it for yourself. Research has shown that an early, firm response against abuse is the most effective. Your husband's abusive behavior isn't your fault. Your husband's abusive behavior reveals the contents of his heart, not yours.