A divorce discussion group at school can help children feel less isolated and ashamed. Your child needs ample time to grieve the loss of you and your spouse as a parental unit. Allow feelings to be expressed openly and answer your child's questions honestly. When anger turns into disruptive behavior, limits must be imposed while you help your child express the anger. Make sure that your children understand that they are not responsible for the divorce.
Children often feel guilty, believing that they somehow caused the divorce.
Your children need reassurance that they did not in any way cause the divorce. Clarify that the divorce is final. Some children hold on to the hope that they can somehow reunite the parents, and they pretend that the separation is temporary. Making it clear to children that the divorce is final can help them mourn their loss and move on to a more realistic adjustment to the divorce. Try to protect your child's positive feelings about both parents.