I've since started wearing less destructable clothing and showed him where to pile any clothes he's not sure about. Otherwise, everything goes in the same load. Being picky about the laundry was an area I was willing to give in on because if I didn't gripe about how he did laundry, he would haul clothes to the washer, start loads, and pile the clean clothes on the couch. Corner him in the bathroom and show him how easy it is. Humor to get these things done is very effective.
Bargaining is also a useful method.
Try trading or bargaining chores for one another or for favors. I'll make it worth your while. I have to make Rice Crispy treats. Well, if you win, he gives you 20 minutes of whatever you want. I bet you think you know what your spouse will want with his won minutes.