We may even think we are to blame, even when others say we were not. All of us have thoughts and feelings we are afraid to share. Other siblings have probably felt much the same way we do at times. Reading some of the messages other siblings have given their parents and caregivers may encourage us to talk with adults we trust, to attend a sibling support group meeting, or write our feelings in a diary. If we agree with the statements below, putting a check beside it reminds us we were not the only one to feel or think this way.
Children grieve too, in our own way, in our own time.
We grieve differently from adults. Sometimes we appear not to be grieving. We do not want to be forgotten while our parents grieve. Parents often seem to emphasize the child that died instead of those of us who are living. We need to know we are loved as much as our brother or sister who died.