When changes occur, particularly unwelcome and unwanted changes, it is normal to have those feelings. Depression often results when a person is unable to express angry feelings and keeps them buried inside. However, at times you may also feel the need to seek professional help. Find someone who is knowledgeable about and sensitive to issues related to long-term illness. It's important that you get support, encouragement, and understanding from those around you, but your family and friends are not trained to be psychologists or therapists.
Creative coping means modifying or substituting activities that are pleasurable.
If you find it too difficult to do gardening, switch to caring for a house plant or two, or frequently splurge on fresh cut flowers. Ask for help with the daily chores, so that you have energy for enjoyable activities. Make your surroundings as pleasant and as comfortable as possible. Make tentative plans with your friends, discussing the need for their flexibility and understanding because of the unpredictable nature of your illness. Don't feel guilty if your health requires you to cancel out at the last minute.