You both need to take time to talk. Gone are the days of the authoritative physician and the passive patient. Today, you often don't even know your doctor. And you have to deal with many other providers in the course of your care. To function effectively and receive good care, you have to be able to help yourself.
Assertive patients get more attention and empathy.
Motivated to get better. Self-reliant so that you can take charge of your health. Ready to ask questions and communicate your needs. Equally important, you must both understand your condition and what the health care team is doing.