I'm anxious to hear everyone else's responses too. I feel like we're not out of the woods, but we've found a path that can lead us out together. I can't tell you why, some of it was expressing sadness for the way I was and its effects on wife and little kids. Getting back in touch with the way I was before depression, and the possibility that I could walk that way again with my wife, made me cry from sadness of what's been lost and how bad I really had felt for so long. I also cried from relief that I'd found a way to do it with my wonderful wife.
Depression IS devastating to everyone in the family.
My therapist didn't take this into account in my treatment, and for 2 years my wife has felt ignored and unable to rekindle real love for me. They're suffering as much as you, and I don't think you can really recover from depression until this is acknowledged, respected, and dealt with. I hope things go well for all of you, and I ask for your prayers that things continue to improve for me. Again, Terri, your posting gave me an insight that I needed so badly. He has many of them.