The listener's job during this exercise is to be certain you understand and communicate that understanding to your spouse before you comment on the content of what you are being told. Once your partner feels heard, then it becomes your turn to comment and be heard. It is difficult to react emotionally if you are truly listening and have to communicate understanding before you get a chance to react. Regular Meetings . Couples often find that scheduling regular business meetings, just as one would do in a business partnership, to discuss the business of the marriage is helpful and indicates that the marriage is a high priority in their life.
Date night is one evening each week set aside for the purpose of emotional connecting.
No business matters are discussed. Each partner takes responsibility on alternative weeks for planning the date, just as they might have done during courtship. Dates do not have to be elaborate events. Keep the Romance Alive . Maintaining the romance in a relationship is vital to the vibrancy of the relationship.