Both men and women are able to have orgasms but reaching orgasm requires a longer period of sexual arousal in the female. Arousal in both sexes is manifested by an increase in blood flow to the genitalia resulting in an erect penis or swollen labia and lubricated vagina. Reaching orgasm involves the brain as well as the body. Self-consciousness, distractions, stress can all inhibit sexual pleasure and interfere with orgasm. For both men and women a relaxed and generous attitude is important to enjoy sex.
Communication is also important.
The clitoris is equivalent to the penis where sexual stimulation is concerned. Because the clitoris is located well above the vagina, sometimes manual stimulation of the clitoris is essential during intercourse to help a woman reach orgasm. The G-spot is an area in the vagina which overlies the paraurethral glands. This area when stimulated can produce orgasm in some women. This actually is stimulating the prostate which can enhance male orgasm.