We are looking for flaws in the other person s reasoning. Whenever you argue with a child, there is a winner and a loser. Resentment is a common result when children lose an argument. Children with a lot of resentment become oppositional and defiant even in situations when they know they will lose. It is best to avoid arguments entirely or as much as possible.
Discussions don t have a winner or a loser.
Negotiating With An Upset Child . Very little learning takes place when children are emotionally distressed or upset. Negotiation or compromise is not helpful when children act upset to get their way. It is far more effective to wait until a child is calm and then discuss the problem. Oppositional and Defiant Role Models .