Eventually, divorce seems like an attractive solution. But according to Sollee, few suffering couples know about the wide range of excellent and highly successful educational marriage programs now available to equip them with a more realistic view of what to expect in marriage, and provide them with more efficient ways to handle inevitable conflicts and communication problems. Sollee's advice for couples in trouble is to start with one of the extremely helpful couples weekend programs around the country. Trained volunteer couples, who nearly divorced but instead learned to rebuild their trusting bond, teach others how to heal their own marriages. Retrouvaille boasts an 85 percent success rate at improving marriages - when both partners are openly willing to work at the relationship.
Couples attend one weekend a month and one night a week for a period of four months.
As a result, some of them tend to steer their patients out of difficult relationships. Find out whether your therapist is more oriented toward helping couples stay in their marriage. This is actually the current approach in marital therapy. To help teach people that if you are unhappy in your marriage, it may be because you and your partner don't have the necessary emotional tools.