Motivationally , your counselor will alert you of the feeling of discouragement that most couples experience. They often feel that any effort to improve their marriage is a waste of time. Over the years, one of our greatest contributions to couples has been encouragement when things looked bleak. Our clients knew that at least their counselor believed that their effort would be successful. Eventually, each spouse would come to believe it too.
Discouragement is contagious.
When one spouse is discouraged, the other quickly follows. Encouragement, on the other hand, is often met with skepticism by the other spouse. So it s easy to be discouraged, and difficult to be encouraged, when you are trying to solve marital problems. A marriage counselor should be there to provide needed encouragement when there's none other in sight. Creatively , your counselor will indicate to you the typical inability of couples in marital crisis to create solutions to their problems.