Ironically, these men on a political level use the same tactics that abusive men use on a personal level. Some abusive men minimize, blame and deny their violent behaviour. In counseling, abusers will do everything to avoid taking responsibility and I suppose embrace the pain of their actions. Let's make it clear. In our experience working with male abusers, the entire world is to blame for their violence, they will not take responsibility for their actions, and they project their pain and responsibility upon everyone they can, including their wives and partners.
Broken relationships are messy business.