I have managed to remain close to him, but wonder how much of an impact I am making. It seems like none. Sorry to ramble. It's just so hard to paint a fair, accurate picture in one email. Thank you for your time.
Any help is of value.
Now he treats my husband like he doesn't exist. Kids begin at this age to demand and need more freedom and less supervision from parents. If you haven't altered anything about his freedoms or your supervision of his activities, you may need to give some thought to this. And if there aren't any yet, which is what it sounds like, don't set a limit. How far he has to go will depend a lot on how reactive you are.