Women in particular, have a difficult time coping with the anger phase. They become bitter because of the rejection they feel, the abandonment, and what they consider the lack of honesty on the part of their former husbands. It manifests itself as a result of final property settlements and child support agreements. They sometimes withhold visitation rights with the children in order to punish or get their point across. You must understand that anger is the process of projecting onto another person, your own sense of hurt and frustration.
Anger is a natural feeling in a stressful situation.
Another phase you'll be going through is one of all-consuming guilt feelings. If I hadn't of, or if I had done this or that differently, or if only I had been a little more understanding. The more you dwell upon this kind of thinking, the deeper you'll fall into the trap of self-martyrdom which allows you to think of yourself as a loser, a failure, and not deserving of happiness. Still another phase you'll experience, is one of reconciliation. This is when the victim disregards all his or her own needs and reaches out for the other person without pride.