We learn that we reap what we sow, if we want love we must give it first. Yes, we must first give to receive. We embrace the Beloved, our true nature and live in the greatest freedom and joy that is our birthright. For instance, we might think we're witty, but the Other sees it as put-downs. Merging Hearts with another, seeing the Beloved in another, does not mean compromise.
Compromise comes from the ego, from our separations.
From the need to maintain our own space. If something is an obligation on your part you are really buying and selling love.