To stop the turmoil, you need to control your emotions. If you feel out of control, get professional help. Gain insight into your selection process, expectations of marriage, and reasons for the divorce. Divorce is devastating and often results in major life changes. Recognize, grieve, and finally accept the losses and changes that result from divorce.
Anger takes the form of revenge, rage, blame, violence, or feeling out of control.
Do what you need to do to regain control over your life. Get professional help, go to school, learn new skills, go to support groups, nurture yourself. Create an atmosphere of good will and good faith. Take the high road whenever possible to increase self esteem. Hang out with healthy people and learn from them.