In the past, the majority of such questions have either not been asked or have not been seriously considered because of obsolete ideas that bind us and the intense denial of possible self-destruction of humans in the near future. Ken Keyes Jr., who died on December 20, l995, in his training provided activities to enable people to feel loved even when tragedies and losses occur. When people feel loved, their behavior can become less compulsive, less fearful, more open to life, and can better offer themselves to others in love. Children and adults cannot ascertain each other's mind. In fact, Piaget showed that even the most astute adults usually miss the young child's meaning intended in his or her words.
Adults often act like two ships passing in the night unknown to each other.
During the past 20 years, in counseling groups, people have been urged to sense and express their feelings. If the general population developed a deep kind of empathy for each other, we would demand that we find alternatives to violence and would not go to war. Friendships in society in The United States are superficial. Studies show the great loneliness and alienation in our society even among good counselors. Men and women struggle in relating to each other.