Kids A health and safety column from Children's Mercy of Kansas City, Mo. Beating the bully Sooner or later, every child will probably deal with a bully. Bullies aren't born, they're raised. Most often, bullies are expressing their own frustration and unhappiness by directing it toward others. They tend to do poorly in school, have little positive reinforcement, and may come from a dysfunctional family.
Bullies frequently hang out with other bullies, which further reinforces their negative behavior.
But don't confuse bullies with aggressive children, warns Dr. Bennett. Aggressive children may seem out of control because they act without thinking. Bullies exhibit self control and usually pick their victims and plan their attacks. Bullies lack empathy and have trouble understanding the pain of others. In fact, they may enjoy inflicting pain.