Make plans but don't make them complicated plans. Have officers but don't make a complicated bureaucracy. Have fun events but don't make them hard to get to, difficult to participate in. The key is to make it fun and not a pain. A Family Man.
Alumni have families.
Participation by a Brother without his family is time away from the family and that's a bad situation. A man is likely to spend almost half his week away by just being at work. In some cases, spouses may also have some good insight and ideas for events and plans. There are three main reasons to have events. The first, and foremost, is to have a socially good time.