If children were bothered by such things they wouldn't have to be corrected or reminded in the first place because they would have already taken care of it. Children, if left to their own devices, would rarely change their underwear, fold the laundry, or eat their vegetables. Children must be taught to change their underwear, fold the laundry, or eat their vegetables. Balanced or democratic parents not only teach their children right from wrong but also how and when to care for themselves. The most effective method for doing this is for the parent to model the behaviors they desire in the child.
Children are more likely to do what a parent does rather than what a parent says.
Accepting ownership of a problem reduces the parents frustration at the child and allows the parent to take a more educational approach to discipline. Describing is one way that parents can model desirable behavior and still teach a child to take responsibility for its solution. Instead of yelling at a child, parents can describe the problem to the child. The child will know exactly what the parent means since the parent has said it hundreds of times before. Of course, this doesn't mean the child won't pretend they have never heard it before.