The way to know what will be useful and effective are the perceptual skills. Linguistic refers to our language, verbal and non-verbal through which neural representations are coded, ordered and given meaning. Programming refers to our ability to organize our communication and neurology to achieve specific goals and results. People have all the resources necessary to make any changes they choose. The meaning of your communication is the response you get.
Behavioral flexibility results in more choices.
More choice are better than limited choices. The positive self-worth of the individual is held constant. There is a distinction between self and behavior. The mind and body are part of the same cybernetic system. The highest quality of information in an interaction is behavioral information.