Competence is thus cooperative, not private. The mind is a constructing, not a receiving instrument. It works with others to build, do, construct, solve problems. Yet our education system so often denies this, as though each individual child must master certain skills, alone, and perform tests which show individual mastery. This flies in the face of how children actually learn and is mocked by the real world outside the school.
Children learn and grow in competence with other people- mother, father, siblings, friends.
Few tasks are done alone. Parents help, support and guide them in getting a spoonful of food safely into the mouth, or to ride a tricycle for the first time and not fall off.