Often the tirade is a repetitious emotional harangue, obviously venting the anger rather than communicating. It may include vicious, nasty, cutting, insulting, offensive accusations. Four times as many women as men use helplessness as an appeal. You lose self-respect and the respect of others when you use weakness to manipulate others, however. Three times as many men as women use knowledge and present facts as a basis for winning an argument.
Androgynous women are more like men.
Fortunately, this is changing. I'm assuming that you will be less likely to fall into the psychological pitfalls of using manipulation, if you know they exist. Anger is nothing more than an attempt to make someone feel guilty. Often, we are angry because we are feeling put down, neglected, dealt with unfairly, infantilized, insulted, or cheated in some way. Therefore, the real problem is not the anger, but rather the task is to right whatever is wrong in the relationship.