On the other hand, it's extremely rare for an adult who's an abuser not to have been abused as a child. A television talk-show host once speculated that I would not have had the success I've enjoyed if I had not been wounded as a child. If we toss a handful of seeds onto a concrete sidewalk, one seed despite all odds may take root and a flower blooms. Imagine, though, the flowers we'd have if that same seed were planted in fertile soil and nurtured. Every child deserves somebody to be crazy about them, to nurture them.
Abuse is always wrong.
These children are made to fulfill their parents' unreasonable demands. Often they're forced to be little adults, not allowed to be children. Whenever a powerful corporate executive, a senior military officer, or a high public official abuses a subordinate, he or she is a predator, using the power of the position to create a victim. Next, we accept that we are not responsible for our abuser's behavior. You shouldn't have said what you said.