Therapy is sometimes needed to help the homosexual overcome feelings of self-hatred, internalized from having being raised in a homophobic society. At first glance, both sides of the argument seem to present mutually exclusive points of view. It would seem that either one or neither side is correct. However, because they define certain key words very differently, they can only talk past each other, not with each other. Dialog is impossible.
Debates predictably generate a lot of heat and very little light.
The solution is for both sides to decide on a common set of definitions. Only then would they be able to communicate effectively. This will probably not happen for decades, if ever. There is one overriding factor that shapes their beliefs about homosexuality. They regard it as a behavior , not as an orientation .