There are times, however, when thinking and talking about the consequences of a particular behavior can avert disaster. Adults and children communicate openly about family rules and values, and encourage discussion about what's important. We live in a world where there are different rules for different situations. For example, how we behave in church is different from how we behave on the soccer field, which in turn is different from how we behave in a classroom. At the same time, there are values that are expected to carry from one circumstance to the other, like honesty, integrity and commitment.
Children appreciate consistency.
Children like to know that things will be basically the same from day to day. Household rules and daily routines help to provide boundaries and consistent expectations. Families encourage humor and lightheartedness. Life has its difficult and serious moments. Children and adults both need opportunities to laugh, play, and tease in ways that are not malicious, critical or hurtful to others.