It was selfish indulgence of wicked pleasures that thrilled me to no end. Taking control of my orgasm, making sure that my needs were met fully, and enjoying the pleasure that my body and imagination has given me. Sexual repression, guilt and fear can be difficult to overcome but once the process has started it becomes easier to enjoy yourself and live out your secret fantasies. This isn't the simplest matter when it comes to a possibly reluctant mate. It is my belief that an active, healthy sexual life is imperative to a happy union.
Couples suffer most from the tedium of repetitive and predictable sex.
Our fantasies may seem strange to ourselves and it would be embarrassing to tell another person. We risk rejection and judgement. These obstacles would seem overwhelming and impossible to overcome. It just depends on what your priorities are. Mine became clear to me in my late 20's.