Faith, we seem to say, is centered in us and our choices, rather than in God's revelation of himself. Salvation isn't a gift, like a mother's love, but a prize. We can redeem ourselves by making better lifestyle choices. Discipleship means spurning the unworthy. Ministries are judged by whether they please.
Conflict becomes the enemy.
Avoiding conflict is equated with leadership. A determination to stir the pot is a path to power. Worship becomes an acting-out of lifestyle, in effect a praise of self. Our music is youthful and participatory because we are young and exuberant. Or our worship is staid and formal because that's how we live.