It often occurs without warning, and it is always final. Theory and reason aside, we will never know why people die, or where they go when they do. The process of helping children deal with death has many facets. It is important to remember that children thrive best in an environment where they feel that they are free to express their concerns, and that these concerns will be heard and addressed. Rather than the atmosphere of stability and constancy necessary for a reasonably good outcome, the common scenario following the death of a loved one may be one of chaos, disorganization, and insecurity.
Children are by nature curious and open-minded.
When they perceive that others are upset and bereaved, they will adapt a mindset of avoidance and denial. However, as in any situation, the truth is always the best course, as is assuring the children that there will always be someone to take care of him. He should be told who that person is, even if it will be a short-term arrangement. Never tell the child that the deceased has gone on a long journey. Her body just couldn t live with the disease, so she died.