It's terrible to see one's parents humiliated by threats and blows and curses. And then the long, weary march to refugee camps. Kosovars often arrived at refugee camps that were already jammed. In these camps everybody is thirsty and bone-tired, and everybody stinks. Children who were accustomed to seeing their parents as providers had to watch their parents get in line and wait for help just like their children.
Dependency can feel like a sorrowful thing.
We don't like to be dependent. In one of his books Scott Hoezee points out that all the forms of dependency we hear about have a stigma attached. I think we understand very well that it's more blessed to give than to receive. We understand that it's easier too. A giver has power.