It's always upsetting to see your child behave like a bad sport. But you can turn these incidents into conversations about good sportsmanship. Give your child some time to cool off and then approach the subject in a neutral way. By talking with children, listening to their experiences, and setting positive examples we can help them develop the life-long skills they need to work and play with others. Here are a few suggestions to kick-off the conversation.
Children are usually ashamed and embarrassed when they act out publicly.
Try to begin the conversation without being accusatory. Let them know that you understand that there might be unusual circumstances behind their behavior. It's always helpful to validate a child's feelings, even if you're not happy with her behavior. Encourage her to talk with her coach about her concerns. Her coach probably has experience helping children cope effectively with the pressures of losing, unfair calls, or opponents who don't play fair.