I feel as though authors, professors, and speakers want to address issues that they can learn from themselves. Being over-controlling has been something that has impacted my life. I thought it only fair to let the reader know up front that this is something that I've been working on. I'm not a great prophet standing on a pedestal telling you how to be a better person. There is basically one thing that stands out from my research, anxiety.
Anxiety is the fuel that runs the engine of every control freak .
That translates into fear such as fear of failure in the workplace that leads them to become over-controlling. Or it may be fear of failure in marriage or raising children who are not obedient that leads to excessive control. Anxiety and fear are the primary underlying factors. It can be either. There are certain areas where we become over-controlling but a true control freak is controlling across the board.