Reward hard work and effort. Set up time-saving routines that make the work load flow more smoothly. In many ways, you are the head of a tiny corporation called your home. Fight and argue as little as possible. Fighting isn't fun.
Arguments open the door to nasty and cruel words.
Try to cut down on the number of times you fight with your mate. Save your fights for the really big deal stuff you just can't let go. Make sure you are releasing your tension and pain in places other than your marriage. Your husband shouldn't be your sole tension-release mechanism. Look unexpectedly knock-out gorgeous for no reason at all.