Yet, she would often dream of being in a loving relationship where sex was mutually consensual and fulfilling. She yearned for sexual intimacy yet was frightened and scared and could not state her preferences. By gaining insight into her problems, she was able to assert herself in her relationships and feel good about her choices without the fear of alienation and resentment. Such fears and the inability to speak up are common problems for many women, young and old. Frequency of sex, sexual positions, oral sex, anal sex, use of sexual toys, etc.
Any choice is a good one if mutually liked and accepted by both partners.