Practice what you will say when he gets upset. Rehearse it mentally, so you don't have to think about what to say and can focus on staying calm. I've told you how I feel about this. We can talk about it again when you're calm. Then, leave the room, or find something to do and ignore him.
Abusers often turn to violence when the usual methods of control stop working.
If these methods don't work, then I'd suggest ending this relationship before much longer. Especially before children show up. I'd suggest reading The Verbally Abusive Relationships by Patricia Evans for more advice on how to handle this type of abuse. Helps explain the different perspectives of the victim and the abuser. No part of this website may be used on another's website, newsletter, ezine or other electronic or print publication without express permission of the author.