Something that is said in a counselor's office should never go any further. A counselor needs to not be prone to judge or to blame. He needs to be able to help a person learn to balance on his own two feet. He cannot help a person by arguing with him and by setting up walls of resentment. It sometimes takes a few sessions to be able to relate to a counselor as a person might need time to change, to feel differently, and changes in attitude do not come automatically.
Counseling is a process rather than a lecture.
Problems cannot be solved in two minutes or even two hours. The counselor needs to be skilled to guide the person into a process of several sessions. Sometimes a person's problem is very serious and also should be dealt with seriously. Difficult problems take a long time in the making and also in the solving. If you are a person looking for a counselor to help with your problems, hopefully the above information will be helpful to you.