It would be a mistake to push through resistance or to coach when you are distracted. Instead, being present means being on their agenda, available to what they're up to, able to let them know you understand their situation, challenges, resistance, fears, etc. Like rapport, this element is foundational to all others. If you feel compelled to offer advice, it can be packaged in a way that puts the person fully at choice and in charge. This also includes effective agreements for how they want to be coached.
Clear agreements can contribute to setting an atmosphere of mutual respect and shared power.
Let their mistakes be their best teacher. Learn to gently confront areas that need attention. Separate the person from the issue. Provide both observation and interpretation so you can openly discuss differing perceptions. Structures are for supporting, not burdening, the client.