Though absence may make the heart grow fonder, it can also add stress to a marriage, particularly for couples with children. In these situations, start off by focusing on the positive-this may be the time in your life to reconnect with yourself or your children. Take a class, go out with friends, volunteer or focus on your own career. If you have children at home, use this spouseless time to break the routine-eat a sundae for dinner or go to the movies on a school night. Creating an interesting life for yourself will not only make you feel better, but it also will make for livelier conversation next time you connect with your spouse.
Communication is the most important element in surviving a long-distance marriage.
Reach out Stay in touch with email, phone calls, photos, videos, and cards and letters. If the car breaks down or your child starts having trouble at school, pick up the phone and have a discussion. Don't save all the problems for when you finally have time together. Ask your spouse to phone with a bedtime story for the kids or a good night kiss for you. Accompany your spouse on an occasional business trip 3.