Since these issues are generated from them, they are more likely to take ownership of the solutions than if they were forced on them. Therefore, the clients may arrive at the same conclusion about what to do that the mandating person wants them to do, but now it becomes their own idea. One can easily imagine the level of motivation to do what he wants to do will be much higher. Encourage the client to be the expert on her life. Pay attention to the client's language and use their words.
Cooperation is constructed between clients and practitioners.
Set aside any information you might have about the client and be willing to listen to her own view of the situation. Help clients define what the problem is and what steps they may need to take to find solutions. Timing is everything in such complex activities as carrying on therapeutic conversations when the client is so overwhelmed by very serious and complicated problems. Then the client and I are off and running with rich details of the solution picture. Most of the time, however, it is not that simple or easy.