Blame does not solve problems or strengthen ties. It causes pain, hurt, resentment and anger. The most unfortunate part is that often the people who try hard, the people who truly care about fixing problems are the same people who are the victims of these attacks. It is just too easy to accuse someone else for what we have helped create. I look around me and see people blaming each other, and I feel anger.
Blame is such a horrible aspect of humanity.
Yes, one person can play a larger role in causing a conflict, but if the accusers are truly innocent themselves, they would never even think to blame the other individual. Instead, they would work together for the common good. The truth is that blaming someone else for your own mistakes, or even for their own, is wrong. It comes from a bed of insecurities and unhappiness with one's own life. We use blame as a shield to keep people from looking too closely at our faults.