Indeed we often find such groups shunning, possibly threatening, and therefore unhelpful and even counter-productive. Groups organized by and for gays and lesbians may be available in your community but, often, the level of cruising that seems to be a natural part of such gay groups is distracting and, again, counter-productive to getting a grip on your problems and beginning the seemingly endless healing work. For most of us the journey back to sound mental and physical health is a long, often tedious, and profoundly lonely one. Without access to a group, we must, often as not, fall back on our own resources totally and be our own group of one. This makes the journey to wellness much more arduous and time consuming but also much more satisfying and, indeed, exciting.
Addictions happen in clusters.
Alcoholics and drug addicts generally have severe relationship problems. Many gays and lesbians seem able to admit to an alcohol or drug addiction but bulk at admitting to a sex addiction. At this point the whole recovery process tends to get bogged down. All addictive behaviour patterns must be acknowledged and fearlessly confronted, or none at all. If I surrender to Your will, So that I may be reasonably happy in this life, And supremely happy with You forever in the next.