And marital researcher, Dr. John Gottman, says the happiest couples don't always resolve each issue. Sometimes, they find peace in the middle of differences - but they do work through their anger. Let's look more closely at conflict and anger. Good communication is important, but good communication is not enough. To refuse to deal with conflict is to refuse growth in our relationship, and we don't want that.
Conflict can be painful.
Conflict can become overheated. Learn to negotiate. To resolve a conflict after we've calmed down, we need to negotiate. We need to logically focus on the problem and consider possible solutions. Sometimes the solution is accepting our different perspectives and realizing it's okay to think differently about some issues.