So sorry you're hurting. Just remember . . . Divorces don't happen overnight, and it's possible that he'll change his mind. Moving in with OW will be the ultimate reality check. Once the fantasy aspect of the relationship is stripped away and the day to day routine begins, your H will be very disappointed.
Affairs are an escape from reality with each person putting their best foot forward.
The affair will most likely destroy itself. All you have to do is sit back and watch. I told my counselot the faster they move in together the faster it all goew down hill. Well see-it seems like the odds are stacked against me instead of them at times. I am trying not get get bitter over this whole ordeal.