The patient will just sneak, Sher said, angering the partner. Perhaps the biggest mistake is becoming a passive patient. I don't think that will last. Sher said the better route is to negotiate who plays what role. Some couples succeed with the partner as cheerleader, and others are better off if the partner fully participates in the same behavior changes.
All couples can benefit from solving problems together.
They can learn to communicate better in the name of health rather than to avoid divorce court. Our answer is, we're not going to tell them anything. The couples are going to tell each other about their marriages.