Abusive men blame their partners for their problems.
Victims often want to help the abusive men they are in love with and may be much more focused on helping him than doing anything for themselves. In fact, this is one of the hooks that keeps her in the relationship. In the meantime, while she is focused on helping him, she is not noticing that her feelings, desires and needs are being ignored. He literally thinks she is to blame for everything wrong in his life. Often, when he has a problem, she will take responsibility for it and turn her attention inward to see what she did to cause the problem.