Too much tough love can be unhealthy, just like too much unconditional love can be unhealthy. Sometimes God uses tough love when necessary and other times He uses unconditional love. He loves each of us exactly as we are. He also loves each of us enough not to leave us as we are today. God's love for us is designed for our well-being and spiritual growth.
Authentic love promotes the good that is within that person.
It protects, uplifts, reinforces and builds on the positive while minimizing and protecting from the negative. God is love and we are all called to love others in the same way God loves us. Another way to view these three types is from the spiritual plane of agape, the physical plane of phileo and the emotional plane of eros. We experience these different types of love in different amounts and at different stages of our relationships. Many times we feel a lot of powerful, passionate and positive emotions when we first start dating.