How do I get past this with my husband. I try repeating myself on several occasions, but this gets old and then its no longer productive, he resorts to saying I'm a nag. Gayle Peterson Gayle Peterson, MSSW, PhD is a family therapist specializing in prenatal and family development. And your relationship is suffering from an inability to keep agreements.
Agreements are the basis for trust in a relationship.
Each time an agreement is broken, the foundation of trust which the relationship is based upon is eroded. This is damaging to a marriage and often the reason cited for eventual divorce. Ask your husband why he continually pretends to make agreements which in the end he does not follow. This kind of disappointment weighs heavily on the relationship and no doubt costs him your affection and tenderness as well. Take time to explore with one another how conflict was negotiated in your respective parents' marriage.