He is ashamed and furtive. He feels the same as the man who hurt us years ago. This kind of encounter, we have no tools to deal with this. We feel like the helpless, voiceless child this body was for all those long years. Our voice dries up.
Consent is implied if nothing is said to discourage inappropriate behavior.
We will not go back to that dark place of fear and helplessness. We do not want to. But every time we see him he makes a remark that throws us into confusion and silence. Nothing will happen to us. We are not in danger from this man.