Child attempts to re-enact dysfunctional patterns in this home, symbolically or concretely. Healthy siblings resent or even hate the disturbed child, but may not express this to parents. The family becomes more isolated as child's behavior escalates. Parents internalize child's problems as their failure. Child relates happily to anyone outside the family, is oppositional, detached, rejecting within the family.
Adolescents prematurely leave the family in negative ways.
Children continue to love formerly abusive parents, as well as hate them. It is designed to be thought-provoking and to stimulate discussion in many areas of critical importance to success in parenting special needs children. Several states have now made this a part of their adoption education process. Individuals can purchase the workbook and use it on their own. Your job as a parent is not to raise good kids.