If you mates can t each name all five now, you re probably not using them. Process awareness , courage, and focusing can reduce this troublemaker. If you can t clearly map the sequence of steps you both normally take when in conflict now, and you don't know communication basics , then you can t spot all the opportunities to make improvements. I ve met with in the since 1981 have been, in my opinion, significantly split, psychologically. An obvious one is protective denial , which is a basic reality-distortion strategy of false selves.
Addicts are highly likely to unintentionally promote personality splitting in dependent kids.
Those cause recurring inner personal and interpersonal conflicts in and between your co-parenting homes. This is specially likely if you have no trusted supporters who don't know stepfamily realities. For example, you're probably aware that you're sitting, upright, and reading - and unaware of your breathing and heartbeat, until reading this. We all automatically block things from conscious awareness via denial and repression , to protect against emotional and mental overload and discomfort. You deny that you have a current inner- family conflict .