Change happens all the time. As long as we are alive, we are in process, we change constantly. We cannot not change, all we can do is get in the way of change. We cannot force change. Or if we do, it won't be integrated, it won't last.
Any deliberate change is doomed to failure.
Any intention to change interferes with special moments that constitute healing. In telling you explicitly or implicitly that you need to change, I tell you also that you are not okay the way you are. Maybe it's space that we need more than anything to heal. Space, which can be easily cluttered by an overly keen therapist. The t challenge is to do both, stay contactfull and allow the client all the space and time that is needed for the process.