An older child who writes on the wall can be expected to wash it off. Solving Whenever possible, the best discipline method is to encourage children to think of alternative solutions and possible effects of taking those alternatives. Through problem solving, children develop a sense of responsibility for their actions, begin to understand others' needs, and strengthen their decision-making skills. Just as in setting limits, children who participate in the decision-making process are more likely to adhere to their decisions. Younger or inexperienced children probably will need adult assistance to think of alternatives that are potentially agreeable.
Children soon learn to generate their own solutions.
Redirection Infants about to engage in an unwanted activity can be easily distracted. Older children may have their activity redirected or replaced with an acceptable substitute. Combined with other approaches, it is an effective technique because the circumstances are changed, albeit be an adult. When reasons are stated, children can soon learn to redirect themselves. When you want to redirect an activity, you first need to think about why the child is involved.