And in a small town, I WILL hear anything and everything that goes on. If I were to carry on in the same way with my girlfriends, he would get irate, wondering what I'm really doing, who we're with, etc. And I want him to understand how his situations look to me. All I have to go on is trust. But I feel that you can't ask someone to trust you just because they tell you they can be trusted.
Actions have to come into the picture at some point.
Dear Trusting, Married men belong home with their wives, not out at bars at midnight and beyond. The problem is that you've already allowed him to do this, and taking something away is always harder than not agreeing to it in the first place. This is not an issue of trust. This is an issue of propriety, and it's just not right for him to be out drinking with the guys and strange women while you're home alone. It's a really bad idea to have your husband in a situation where he might be tempted by infidelity, while you're home worried that he could be in some other woman's bed and just waiting to find out whether he is or not.