Too many couples spend large parts of their lives talking a lot but don't feel they are really communicating. There also are couples that don't talk a lot but feel very close and connected to each other. Communication is a means for exchanging intimacy with others. It is a way to share and feel a sense of belonging. Good communication allows others to really know us and to provide appropriate feedback and support when we need.
Communication is one of the greatest joys of life.
To understand good communication, we need to think of the skills required. Some very lucky souls naturally know how to communicate well with others but most of us have to learn these skills. We have been taught to talk but are generally never taught to listen. Effective listening isn't always easy because it requires interest in the other person and a great deal of concentration and patience. Good communication also means we have or should have problem-solving and supportive skills.