The vagina should be douched periodically to avoid illness. There's a natural cleansing mechanism in the vagina. Lactobacilli are the normal flora, and do well in an acid environment. A recent study also found more infertility among women who douche than in the general population, possibly because infectious organisms can be driven into the uterus by the pressure of the douche fluid. I've been on both sides of this one.
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