The baby elephant cannot survive on its own. It need nurturing, it need protection. Without love, it dies. Depending on how it was raised, the baby elephant grows to be a work animal, a circus performer, a peaceful beast content to live in harmony. But some elephants grow up to be rogues, dangerous to man.
Children learn by imitation.
Some imitate their oppressors. And we call them monsters. A child meets a stranger, tilts her face up, expecting a kiss. For a child, there is no sequence, only merger. It all happens together.