The second method of determining the goal is to observe the child's reaction to parental correction. These reactions are also summarized in Figure 1. The implication of the above is that if parents wish to change children's misbehaviour, they must accept responsibility for changing their own behaviour first. Children misbehave in a home because they know how parents will react. Whatever parents feel like doing is exactly what children want them to do.
Children act while parents react.
To break this cycle, parents must learn to go against their first impulse. First impulse is always wrong because it is precisely what the child wants the parent to do and fulfills the expectations of the child who behaves inappropriately. It is not sufficient for a parent simply to ignore a child's bid for attention, power, revenge, or escape. Children who consistently disturb or disrupt, or whose behaviour is unacceptable, are discouraged children who believe that they cannot gain a sense of belonging through constructive and co-operative behaviours and consequently turn to inadequate behaviour. As a first step train yourself to go against your first impulse.