The new human assists others to discover their own truths and insights, and inner divine guidance. We must all follow our own path and truth. Telling others what to do is not assistance it is ego hiding as love, looking for power and validation of self. Assistance involves validating another person's experience and feelings by listening and sharing your own, and then facilitating him or her to discover their emotional and mental patterns and karmic core issues. Because you have been down that road, you can help light the way, by describing your own process.
Assistance is given by the new human by speaking to the higher self of the other.
When speaking to someone in conflict, see him or her through the inner eyes of your higher self. This helps to maintain your own connection to your source, so that your assistance is always from love. Imagine that you are speaking to their higher self as you interact. The energy of your projection stirs awareness of their divine nature. This also ensures that you are treating the other as though they are already healed, and with implicit trust in their ability to work through their issues.