Adults need to let children know they understand how upsetting it is to have to deal with so many changes. They need to acknowledge and accept their children's feelings. Try to view the situation through the eyes of the child. Be conscious of the fact that the child has suffered a loss in his or her life and is now being forced to accept a significantly different lifestyle. Talk with them about the changes that have taken place and those that may still occur.
Children can adjust to changes if they understand what is happening and what they can count on.
Before judging a child's actions and reaction, try to search out and appreciate the real cause. A little understanding might be the right foundation for the beginning of a strong relationship. Strengthening Your Stepfamily , American Guidance Service, 1986. Newman, Margaret, Stepfamily Realities , New Harbinger Publications, 1994. Kenneth R. Bolen, Director of Cooperative Extension, University of Nebraska, Institute of Agriculture and Natural Resources.