Everyone is asked, but no one is obliged to speak. If there are disagreements about what happened, the chaplain elicits observations from others which might resolve the differences to clarify the memories. The discussion may proceed to phases 3 and 4 before the event reconstruction is complete. The chaplain should eventually bring the talk back to event reconstruction to fill in gaps in the time-line. To personalize the event and shift the focus.
Chaplain leads transition from factual to emotional focus.
Chaplain emphasizes that all emotional reactions deserve to be expressed, respected and listened to. Blaming self or others for things outside of control. Feeling changed, different, worse than everyone else, cut off from others. The chaplain and group confirms the normality and commonality of their thoughts and feelings. It helps to hear that others have had the same reactions.