They pay attention to and care how their behavior affects others around them. Attachment parenting does include setting limits. The home is a reflection of society, and limit setting is a valuable life lesson. Your child will eventually have to deal with the outside world and it will place plenty of limits on him. They can be abused, however, and are damaging to a child's self-esteem if used too often.
Control is often a big issue for people when speaking of discipline.
Just as gardeners can weed, water, and mulch but have no control over when their gardens bloom, we need to provide structure in our children's lives, controlling conditions, not them. Parents set the norm for children. Dr. and Mrs. Sears shared a number of ways to convey expected behavior. Connect before you direct. Use eye contact and touch to focus your child on what you are saying.