Do not speak through a third party. For instance, a woman might fight with her partner about the quality of a work-shop she wants to attend rather than whether her partner has the right to make the decision about her going. Anger cannot be used to change another person. Others have the right to feel differently or think differently. Women who feel stuck are often trying to change a person who doesn't want to change.
Anger brings into clear relief the differences between people.
This can be frightening to women who tend to equate closeness with sameness. Until a woman believes she can survive without the relationship, she can't use anger as a way to negotiate within it. Anger that didn't get dealt with in the previous generation will be brought into the present generation. I've been blessed to travel for many years and for many miles in my life. To live with and study other cultures.