It is essential that one recovers and grows from their grief experience. Learning to accept your grief can make you a stronger person. Denial can keep us attached to the loss and prevent new connections. The fear can control us and feel too big, immobilizing us. The process of moving through the denial may look like bargaining.
Bargaining helps to accept loss in stages.
It may be anger at God for the loss, at ourselves for not preventing the loss, or anger at having to go through it all . Anger can give us strength to get through it. We feel responsible for the loss and begin to blame ourselves. We can learn to cherish what we have from the guilt of our losses. We feel bad about who we are and believe we deserve the loss, and that the loss came as a punishment because we deserved to be punished.