The procedure for setting up Positive Time Out for children over three is explained thoroughly in most of our books. That way you are modeling the purpose of Positive Time Out. It is so important to know that parents need many different parenting skills and tools. Sometimes Positive Time Out is effective for children over the age of three, and many times something else would work better. Since misbehaving children are discouraged children, the best way to help them stop misbehaving is to help them feel encouraged.
Children do better when they feel better.
Asking for or giving a hug is just one possibility. Remember, there isn't any tool that works every time. Please learn about developmental and age appropriate behavior. You may be expecting things that are beyond the developmental capability of your child. Check out her website for some great information.