Video can help in this regard as well. If you sense The Big Struggle is beginning, try to disengage from it. Try to back away. Once it has begun, it is very hard to get out of. Beware of the struggle's becoming an irresistible force.
ADD affects everyone in the family, some silently.
Try to let those who are in silence speak. Applaud and encourage success when it happens. Try to get everyone pointed toward positive goals, rather than gloomily assuming the inevitability of negative outcomes. One of the most difficult tasks a family faces in dealing with ADD is getting onto a positive track. However, once this is done, the results can be fantastic.