They don't learn by having somebody like me lecture them. They learn by participating in a discussion where they are pushed to define their own particular morals. That's why parents need to be willing to talk about it. That is not how morals and values are learned. Many of the boys in the Guttmacher study seemed to be participating in activities that adults are uncomfortable talking about.
Adults have a hard enough time talking to kids about vaginal intercourse.
When it comes to oral sex, and especially anal sex, you're talking about a group of activities that a large number of adults consider immoral, and are in fact still banned in many states. In 20 states, to be exact. A Guide for Men and Women. Anal sex is not the place to begin sex education, but it's something that our kids are doing, so we have to be aware of it. Now that oral sex is such a topic of discussion, we have an opportunity to really educate our kids about this.