It is our response and the outcome that can be good or bad. We have a choice in how we handle conflicts. Viewing conflict as an opportunity to learn and grow requires us to change our usual responses and beliefs and may not be easy. Understanding the true nature of conflict is essential to dealing with it appropriately. Through a series of misperceptions, humanity has perpetuated some myths that are very detrimental to the successful resolution of conflict.
Conflict is nature's primary motivator for change.
For any species to change, it must be challenged or perturbated. It is this ever-changing environment in which we live that is the catalyst for our growth. Conflict is on of the best opportunities to learn about ourselves and others. The usual reactions to conflict are fight, flee or freeze. The martial art of Aikido offers another alternative, flow.