Ten years later, catch phrases don't really do the trick. Winner's point is well taken. The logic of cohabitation is being contradicted by statistical evidence. Couples considering cohabitation need to know that the traditional position of the church against cohabitation is being buttressed by alarming statistics from sociologists. Cohabitation also increases the risk of domestic violence for women and physical and sexual abuse for children.
Cohabitation seems to fit the mood of the day.
Our culture tends to favor keeping our options open over long-term commitment. One could say that a healthy marriage balances good discernment on the front end and strong commitment on the back end. The primary problem morally is learning how to love and care for this stranger to whom you find yourself married. The language of suffering is largely absent our anesthetized society . Salvation is free, but discipleship is costly.