The ill member may require certain care throughout the day. It is important to integrate their needs in as natural a manner as possible. If they are accustomed to cooking their own food and doing their own chores, allow them to continue if they are able. If they need assistance, then assist. Telling them that they should lay down and rest is discouraging.
Communication is the key for everyone getting through an illness.
This includes planning legal and financial matters. Many times a person has already gotten their thoughts together concerning a will. If this has not occurred, it is necessary to assist the ill with obtaining legal council in order to get their estate in order. This is not a time to pressure them for certain belongings or to try and figure out to whom they are leaving things. The emphasis should be placed on their wishes being properly handled by an attorney and their debts being handled such that the family will not be in ruin after their passing.