Using active listening techniques such as The Couple's Fair Exchange Process or Speaker Listener and ground rules that you have agreed to, discuss the pain and concerns that you have about the issue. The objective is to understand how you each feel about the issue. Do not point the finger, do not place blame, but try to understand the consequences of each other's actions. You must show respect and care for each other. The offender asks for forgiveness.
Apologies are extremely powerful.
Understand the pain and feelings of the offended person. The offended person agrees to forgive. Commit the issue to the past without getting even or holding the offender in debt. The issue will not be used as a weapon in future conflicts. The offender agrees to change their behavior as appropriate.