A communication coach works with the family in creating a new communication model based upon truth and integrity. Family members intuitively know that their child has been merely drawing attention to some out-integrity, some unacknowledged perpetration, within the family. Usually this out-integrity is an addiction. It's something that no family member is even willing to acknowledge let alone give up. It could be an addiction to lying, or deceptions or drugs.
Children are integrity meters.
They know intuitively when something is wrong. They do what it takes, even get hit, fail in school, or make themselves sick, in search of the experience of love. My purpose in writing this article is to share these thoughts. I offer no solution. All abuse, to include yelling and spanking, is an addiction, just like alcohol or marijuana, and equally difficult to acknowledge and master.