I don't want to become too dependent on anyone else. I want to get my career together first. If I make a commitment, I'll lose myself. I'm afraid of being confined to a role. Neither has apathy, depression, denial, anger, panic, analyzing the problem, blaming the opposite sex, nor cursing the bleak demographics.
Ambivalence is one major reason.
We aren't sure which race we want to be in or whether we wand to be in a race at all. This series is about perseverance. Nevertheless, we can't persevere when we're not sure what the goal is. Thou shalt not reveal thy secrets. These are rules of survival and they're unconscious and are far more influential in our lives than our conscious desire for love and connection.