Know that you have the absolute power to keep from hurting people you love even though you feel hurt and angry. There is no such thing as uncontrollable anger . There is no such thing as a safe level of family violence. The home is the most dangerous place to have physical altercations, in terms of things to fall over, places to crack head and bones, and lethal objects to hurl. Serious injury and death occur frequently from relatively little force.
Anger comes from hurt .
Focus on the hurt, not the anger. Once you ask yourself this question, you cannot be abusive. Know that when you are angry, you are not yourself. The angry you is not the real you. The anger is merely a symptom of hurt.