The answers are out there somewhere. Don't give up. Help people with problems to meet and share with others who are dealing with similar situations. This can be done through e-mail, letters, phone calls, and personal contacts. You always grow stronger in your own life when you can help someone else grow stronger in theirs.
Denial is the greatest enemy of recovery.
Admit and deal with your own issues. Learn the facts about the abusive use of the Bible and oppressive religion. Be clear about the scientific, medical, psychological, and legal facts concerning homosexuality as set forth by the American professional associations. I have no doubt that the best way for individuals to resolve problems and issues related to sexual orientation is in small groups that meet over a period of time. Learning, growth, healing, and recovery take time.