I have already recommended this site to several people, close friends, that now that I understand the symptoms have problems. I have been helped in a general way by self-help books, particularly when my goal was specifically defined. For instance, I used some popular books when I realized I needed a job change. I have also found reassurance in marriage and relationship books, although I think problems more severe than mine should certainly be addressed by a professional. Ask yourself if there is common sense in the advice you are given, and don't just do anything suggested.
Advice can sometimes be harmful instead of helpful.
If you really need help, then you really need a therapist or counselor. And always ask for different opinions, just as you would in your physical treatment. Most deal with connectedness or, rather, change towards re-connectedness. They are rather loose on focusing on one's own specific issues. As such, many just become Self-Help addicts.