You need a holy haven here on Earth that provides nourishment and strength to your soul so that you can keep persevering in the work of the Kingdom. The fourth and fifth chapter of Ephesians provide much insight into the attitude you must have as a member of the Body so that God can use you to encourage and build each other. Notice the purpose of the Body is for growth towards attaining the whole measure of the fullness of Christ. Make a list of people in the church you want to edify. Deception and superficiality are popular worldly attitudes.
Anger leads to separation and destruction when sin is combined with it.
Verses 26 and 27 teach you that anger must be dealt with immediately. By speaking truthfully to each other, your anger can be used to edify rather than to tear down. The purpose is for building each other up, not causing others to have an attitude. These next passages teach me that what must come out of my mouth should be only what builds other's up. Whether I feel comfortable or not is not the case.