Get right to the point so your partner won't have to guess what your concerns are in the relationship. Concentrating on what you like about your mate and your relationship will lead to a more positive relationship. If you concentrate on the things you don't like, it's easy to overlook the good things. Negativity breeds negativity which then makes communication and problem solving more difficult. Use positive elements of the relationship as a foundation upon which to learn and grow.
Communication requires two people.
Issues will remain unsettled unless you and your partner agree to communicate. We recommend that you agree to communicate with the guidelines of understanding, kindness, honesty and respect as ground rules. These guidelines will serve to reduce tension and remind you both that you are on the same team. As a couple agree to your own discussion rules which can include such things as time-out s for cooling off or thinking. Most of us don't pick up on hints so don't expect your partner to guess what you do or don't want.