And because children often blame themselves for their parents unhappiness, stress that the divorce is not their fault. If possible, your children should remain in the same school and continue with their extracurricular activities. You should inform their counselors, teachers and coaches about the divorce so they can be alert to changes in the children's behavior. Encourage other family members to spend extra time with your children, and make sure they see both parents regularly. Children need continuity in every aspect of their lives, but especially with their parents.
Children are resilient.
Given time, love and emotional support, they are likely to adjust to your divorce. But keep in mind that they have fewer coping skills than adults. Often parents are so involved with their own emotions and new responsibilities that they have little time or energy to help the children adjust. You may want to consider counseling for your children, especially if you're involved in an emotionally charged divorce. You can see a counselor together as a family unit, or your children can go on their own.