And, when you think about it, the steps forward are just a bit larger than those backward. Good luck to you. When I stated that provided you are achieving a good Plan A, the ball is really in the OPs court with respect to the long term viability of the relationship. If the OP does indeed fill all the right ENs of the WS and is able to continue the relationship without any major LBs then the outlook for the new relationship is very hopefull and hopes of reconciliation doubtfull. This obviously happens in some cases and no matter how good the BS Plan A is they will never win the WS back as the comfort level in the new relationship is very high so there is no incentive to reconcile.
Consistency holds the key.
This is where I am at. The OM is certainly the flavour of the month at this particular time. The OM is determined not to lose my W and is making every effort to achieve that end almost to the point of desparation. He is single and my W is certainly quite a catch. He would never ever be the one to severe the relationship.