Repeated power struggles over minor issues should be avoided. Manipulation With Guilt . You said you cared about your mother, but then you go and do something stupid like that. Creating a sense of guilt or shame to change a child s behavior is manipulative. Making children feel badly in order to get them to do what you want can backfire.
Children learn to stop caring about others and their feelings when they are manipulated emotionally.
A child becomes resentful when they discover that they are being made to feel bad. Distrust and anger will follow repeated manipulation. This can pave the way for an oppositional and defiant attitude. When children don t get what they want, they may resort to creating an argument. Come to think of it, a lot of adults will resort to arguing when they don t get what they want.