Then you have to decide where your walls will be for the next relationship. Loving Yourself You can never truly love another person and be loved in return unless you first love yourself. I really don't understand hop to do that. The answers to these questions will give you some idea about how important you are to yourself. This is not to say that you should become totally self-centered and care about no one but yourself.
Balance is always important.
We are not on this planet alone. We are part of a community and we are also part of ourselves. Both are important. It may be necessary to figure out if there are reasons why you may not fully love yourself. These may have to do with childhood or relationship injuries.