For example, the Court rarely has time to design a divorce decree that accounts for the special value children and their parents may place on particular holidays, vacations, or observances. Only a child's parents can know how to schedule essential and nourishing time with grandparents, uncles, aunts, and cousins. Educational, religious, medical, and health issues are best decided by parents. Craft a schedule. As moths are drawn to fire, so recovering spouses haplessly re-engage in their patterned struggles.
Absolute structure eliminates much of the conflict mill's grist.
Finely tuned details provide the tools for breaking the fruitless cycle of child-unfriendly conflict. Any plan, however, must never compromise the physical safety of a family member. In a few cases, victimization is inevitable, and an absolute severance of all contact is required. Nonetheless, for the vast majority of cases, the mediation process holds immense promise. Mediation places people in control of their lives.