Having been abused, having lived with insanity and alcoholism, I never really felt safe. It was always as if those times could reach out of the past to grab me, no matter where I was or who I was with. Children Learn By Tori Friedlander Children Learn and rules are taught even in silence. Smiles never reach the eyes. Warmth is a word seldom applied to parents or home.
Children learn even without lessons.
Love doesn't mean caring, and home doesn't mean safety. Depend on yourself, get out when you can, and pay an unwanted tuition the rest of their lives. I have come to understand that much of what I learned in my childhood, I learned from what I saw in my family's home, not from what was said. We all know its there, but no one is permitted to speak about it. So, children learn without words, from the silences, and clenched jaws, and the violence.