1. Inconsistency with rules. If you don't follow through on our rules, children learn that you don't really mean what you say. Your inconsistency also produces anxiety in both you and children. Adults talking too much. Kids just don't listen.
Adults tend to dominate discussions with children.
When you talk to kids after careful listening, you are more informed and aware. Then your words mean more and kids naturally listen to you. Words not matching your actions. Too often children see their elders blaming, denying, and excusing instead of owning up to mistakes. Children welcome it when you admit that you erred or don't know something, acknowledging that you struggle, too.