I have given up trying. You can't win. Sometimes it is very good. You wish . Don't confuse your wishes with reality.
Abuse is cyclical.
There are good times, very good times. It gets worse over time. He worries so much about money, yet he never seems to have enough of it. We have quite a lot by just about anyone's standards, but he never wants me to spend any money. He does not keep me from having money.