Unless you choose to avoid all attachments, grief is an inescapable part of life. Healthy grieving is the process of saying good-by and growing scar tissue over the wound. The goal is not to forget, but rather to get pleasure from your memories.
Any death is painful.
You may wonder if you're going crazy and may worry about how long the emotional struggle will continue. While everyone grieves differently depending on the person and the situation, some elements of grief are common for most people. Immediately after the death of someone you care about, you feel numb, hopeless, and overwhelmed. Most business is done automatically and little is remembered about this time. As the days pass, fewer people talk about the deceased.