New visions for the marriage are a result of the needs that emerge throughout the life cycle. Take your needs in the marriage seriously, but do not avoid finding meaning in life that is not defined by your marriage alone. You owe it to yourself to develop interests that will serve to stimulate your growth and sustain a sense of wonder and excitement about life. Turn your energies towards finding these interests and developing friendships based on activities outside your marriage. Both you and your husband need outside interests and relationships which stimulate and support your marriage like underground springs feed into a river.
Any marriage is likely to implode without external nourishment.
Some of your answers will come from self-exploration, others from mining the development of the marriage with your partner. Confront the work to be done in your partnership and your own development. These two avenues hold promise for substantial change rather than a precipitous exchange of one set of problems for another. Roll up your sleeves. You should not rely on this information as a substitute for personal medical attention, diagnosis or hands-on treatment.