It is best to talk openly with your child and future spouse about fears and expectations before your remarriage. Ask each of them how they envision future family life. Correct misconceptions, but also acknowledge realistic apprehensions. Emphasize that it will take a long time to adjust to the changes and get over feeling awkward around one another. Never ask your child for permission to remarry.
Books help ease the transition.
Book List Do not expect an outpouring of positive feelings. Your child will likely have negative feelings toward your new spouse and new living arrangements. These feelings are common and natural, and should be allowed to surface. If disappointments and disagreements are not aired, resolutions are also denied. Your youngster should be given permission to look upon a new stepparent initially as a friend rather than co-parent.