Caring that your partner enjoys sex is important, but it's a game two people play. Sex Is Centered on Genitals and What You Do with Them. Good Sex is Spontaneous and Nonverbal. Only in on the sliver screen. Planning can add anticipation and increase the likelihood that it will actually happen.
Communication is the core of a good relationship and good sex.
A Real Man Doesn't Express His Feelings. In truth, if you can't express your feelings, you can't have more than biological sex. On the contrary, nearly everyone does at one time or another, and admitting it won't make you less masculine or desirable. Good sex is not a performance. But by the same token, it's not a given.