Meet them out so that you lessen their exposure to your children. I was a victim of some infidelity in a past relationship. I've noticed that women seem to bounce back from things like that in a short time with no problem. But for some reason brothers, myself included seem to tote these experiences around with us for unreal periods of time. 18 months is a long time, and this really needs to stop.
Any suggestion is appreciated.
It takes time to mend a broken heart. You can, however, date again without the fear of having to participate in a malicious game of deceit and pain. Some of us benefit from past experiences and decide to choose our next mate more wisely in shorter periods of time. When you're ready to focus on the good from that relationship and take that good with you, you'll become interested in dating and will meet a faithful woman with whom you have a great future. Just remember, you cannot live in both the past and the present.