But when the honeymoon is over and the battle of the toothpaste tube begins, something more is needed. As couples learn to deal with their differences, agape love is added to the relationship. Agape love is transformative love. It helps spouses deal with the inevitable conflicts and differing expectations in marriage. Then, as the commitment-based marriage grows and matures, philia bring couples into an even deeper, intimate relationship.
Communication is filled with understanding and empathy.
Philia has been called the treasure at the end of the maturity process. Allow your marriage to grow in commitment, and you will reap rich rewards along the way. Your Way by Vivian Hauser, Staff Director My German-speaking mother embroidered it on a sampler for my bedroom and just as carefully stitched it into the fabric of my life. I compromise, fail, deny, despair and try every wandering path. He is always there, calling me to His way.