I don't know why, nor do I care. Since this probably won't happen any time soon, I have no idea what to do. Thanks for your reply - take care. I definitely think you should talk to her about it. On this site and in his book, Dr. Harley lists 10 emotional needs we have and asks the husband to list his five priority and the wife to list hers.
Appearance is one.
If meeting each others emotional needs was a topic, and she was free to express what need of hers was not being met, I think it would make it easier for her to accept. I know you have been blasted by several women on this subject, the consensus being that ten pounds does not make anyone grotesque. True, it doesn't. But ten pounds for me is the difference between turning heads when I walk down the street and being ignored. There seems to be one problem we all have in common.