They should be ones you can live with and not too many or it becomes overwhelming. Write notes to your children. Obviously, this works best with older children. Give likable alternatives. Speak your child's mind.
Children sometimes have difficulty articulating, especially when they are angry.
Use substitutions, distractions, and diversions. Give them a second chance to do it right. Help children think through what they're about to do. Help them learn to imagine and to empathize. Humor is an excellent tool.