I am indebted to careful research done by Laura Frances Wilmer Gibbs. Wilmer, Carl Berkley Coats and his mother, Betty Wilmer Coats Norris, and Charles Lindbergh Wilmer. He died in his teens as the result of an accident. Aunt Mauza had always hoped to find it and mark it. Now her daughters and I wonder if he was buried in the churchyard of one of the churches where Granddad preached.
Any leads welcome.
I still cannot fit in two names from Mom's notes. Mary Topping and Estelle Taylor . We know that Josephine was Robert's daughter but we don't know to whom Charlie belonged. Also there is some speculation that Tilt's father was a Taylor, which would mean that he took his stepfather's name and that we are looking at a second marriage. But Tilt's brothers Lovey , Lewis and Oscar Wilmer , must have some descendants, possibly in West Virginia.