When only the over-privileged in our culture define Christianity, write her stories and music, create her liturgies and images, make the decisions and preach her sermons, the church has no opportunity to glimpse God's community arising out of common suffering. Church members mistake their privileged experience for reality. Mistaking a privileged experience for reality is called idolatry. Even when reaching out to the destitute and despised, these sorts of churches carefully keep the despised at arm's length. Systemic-induced suffering continues to be a theoretical abstraction rather than a lived reality.
Church members stay ensconced in their comfort zone.
As lesbians and gay men, our greatest gift to the church is the pain and suffering in our community. We are missionaries to our churches. When I speak of my experience as a lesbian Christian, I disrupt my heterosexual sisters' and brothers' view of the world. They get nervous. I get anxious.