I developed a spiritual life for myself, in my case I became a Catholic and I included prayer everyday. This process has taken 2 years. I went to a psychic about two months ago and it was more like a conversation than it was a fortunetelling pronouncement. When I get the urge to visit a psychic I ask myself what is really bothering me. I ask myself what I am not trusting or what am I feeling that makes me too insecure to go to God.
Addiction is no respector of persons.
It's like gambling, alcoholism, or drug addiction. When we allow something to dominate us we are lost. Come out of yourself and your self pity. Do something kind for yourself, for someone else. If a lover is gone try to let go.