This becomes evident to me when I see individuals struggle mightily against supposed friends, spouses, managers and co-workers. Such people have defined their life game as winning or losing against this one antagonist. And that is very freeing. The larger the game I define, the more opportunities there are for me, and, the more potential teammates show up to help me. And the same goes for you.
Collaborators are inclusive players.
They see themselves as responsible to and for themselves AND ALSO to the people and places they work with. Arrogance is the polar opposite of humility. Arrogance parades as self-righteousness and condescending or judgmental behavior that alienates people. Learning to live with humility means developing the ability to see ourselves in the actions of others. Other people become mirrors for us.