Remember that death is not an easy event to deal with or plan for. Emotions can be volatile and planning can be stressful. Realize that the patient may get reserved or spiteful as they near their end. Recognize that family is the greatest resource for the terminally ill. No matter how they act or react, the family has to be supportive.
Death can destroy an otherwise cohesive family unit.
A concerted effort by all close to the ill is the only way to make their exit peaceful and without residual negativity. Planning during declining illness will make the aftermath of the death easier. Most importantly there will be proper closure. Once the family member has passed, it is important to preserve their memory. Gathering and talking about all the things the family loved about them is an excellent activity.