I have experienced all of these things firsthand, and I know how powerful they can be. You may get angry when you think about how these things happened to you. To avoid the negative feelings of anger, you may just try to forget the whole thing ever happened. But that anger could very well be part of God's healing process in your life. If someone has used the Bible to mislead you, your anger is certainly justified.
Anger often comes from embarrasment, and it is always embarrassing to be deceived.
In my case, I was extremely embarrassed because I had gone to a good Bible college, and all my friends knew me as a person who was very well-grounded in the Scriptures. But I was deceived when a man with seemingly good credentials and recommendations tricked me into setting aside questions regarding the Bible's teaching. This person came into my life just after I had suffered a depressing career reversal, and so I was vulnerable. The accusation may be valid, but it must be proven. If a so-called pastor, counselor, or other type of leader, displays a refusal to deal clearly and responsibly with the text of Scripture, and then they turn around and blame some shortcoming on your part for why they are refusing to do this, then you are most certainly dealing with a spiritual abuser.