They're able to make a decision in their head, how they feel about abortion. Then in their heart, how they feel about ending their own pregnancy. It's the woman who says yes in her head but not in her heart who has problems. We acknowledge the sadness. It's recognizing a loss, accepting the responsibility for that decision.
Abortion is an act of courage and it takes a responsible woman to choose abortion.
That doesn't make it any less hard. Chelian has spoken to chapters of National Organization for Women and to the Michigan Pro-Choice Network about her approach. Initially, she says, her listeners are defensive. I try to convey the message that you're not being disloyal to this movement if you acknowledge that you have an icky spot. People think that if they have a discomfort level, they can't be pro-choice, but that's not true.