I had made a bargin with myself many years ago that I would never abuse my children in any way shape or form. I did alot of counting to myself and removing myself from the situation by going to my own room and calming myself down. I am not saying my children were not punished but when I did it was a controlled punishment. In other words I made sure I was in control of myself. That is not always easy because it can be very trying even for the parent that did not grow up around abuse.
Children see their parents as all knowing and the most important people in the childs life.
A child loves unconditionally. A child's world is very small. Most are very happy go lucky and have tons of energy. The abused child does not have a sparkle they have a sadness in it's place. Alot of these children are very well behaved and are trying so very hard to do everything right.