Give an allotted time for the meeting Meetings between prospective spouses must not last for an extremely long time, like being away most of the day to meet this person. Parents should give an allotted time for the two to meet and talk. Investigate thoroughly One of the reasons for many divorces is the lack of proper investigation of a prospective marriage partner before marriage. Parents have this heavy responsibility of finding out as much as possible about the individual who will possibly spend the rest of their life with their son or daughter. Investigation does not mean just asking two or three family friends or community members.
Deeper digging is necessary.
The case of one Imam's daughter in the U.S. serves as a chilling example. This Imam asked a Muslim brother to check out a boy who was seeking marriage with his daughter. On the surface, all seemed fine. But upon further investigation it was discovered that he drinks alcohol. This fact was also confirmed by two other Muslims.