Some people choose to avoid them at all costs, and never express their opinion. Others dominate an argument with insults and aggressive intimidation. These types of behavior can be detrimental to the relationship. But there is such a thing as healthy arguing. This takes practice and is a learned skill, but utilizing the techniques described in the article can make arguments much less painful, and infinitely more productive.
Conflicts can be scary and cause hostility, anger and resentment.
Often yelling results. With this in mind the following eight steps should be used in a quiet voice to enhance the effectiveness of your conflict management style. Take responsibility for the problem. It may not be your fault, but if in your mind you take the blame, it is less likely the conflict will accelerate. People often feel defensive in conflicts, but if one individual is willing to approach the conflict with statements and attitudes that suggest responsibility the whole ordeal will move more smoothly.