Buddhists call this anicca. Nothing is permanent. Everything is changing. Yet, in many conflicts we are so attached to our views that we tend to blame the other side without critically examining our own position. The more angry and self-righteous we become, the more sure we are that our view is the only correct one, the more dualistic our view, less the possibility for true understanding, an understanding which involves other points of view as well as our own.
Conflict can open avenues for change and provide challenges.
Conflict resolution skills do not guarantee a solution every time, but they can turn conflict into an open opportunity for learning more about oneself and others. We can sometimes alter the course of a conflict simply by viewing it differently. Transforming conflict this way is an art, requiring special skills. The challenge of the Second Noble Truth is to be aware of these psychological roots of conflict. This is more difficult than it might seem, because we do not normally experience delusion, greed and hate merely as mental phenomena, but as emotions already bound up with objects - often other people.