A person can choose not to have sex but still be sexual. Read this page to find out.
Different people have different definitions for sexual activity.
This means a person can decide not to have intercourse but still engage in sexual activities. Your definition will help determine what sexual activities you are comfortable with and which ones you aren't. After you decide what you are comfortable doing, set your limits and commit yourself to them. Practice stating your limits out loud. If you feel comfortable saying what your limits are, you are more likely to communicate them to your partner.