Stop, look and listen. Don t jump into things, reflect a little bit, look at what is really going on, listen to each other. Have this be a really reflective process. Be self-conscious about your use of time. Each person at your table is a leader of the conversation.
Conflict is an opportunity and an invitation to understand someone at a deeper level.
Don t hide from conflict. On the other hand, don t get bogged down in conflict. Try to understand through the conflict. Look for an inclusive common ground. And, if you are really stuck, remember that the purpose of the cafe is not for people to agree, but for people to engage and relate to each other.