I will try not to be condisending, but the ludgements will be there. I mean I wouldn't be doing this if she hadn't made the choices she made. My thinking is that this is part of the tab for her infidelity. If I don't explain my actions she will be clueless as to my thinking, more than angry. This has been the first time the rules of engagement are blurry.
Any input is welcome.
Maybe it is for fear of lurkers, but I cannot understand exactly what you are trying to say here. Wish I could help, but I can't quite grasp the situation with the possessions you are referring to. Sometimes, we have to do things to protect ourselves, even though our spouses may see them as lovebusters. I'm sure that you will handle things just fine. I've had a thought, though, that you should consider.