Numerous studies have shown an increase in libido and self esteem as well as a decrease in depression with strength training. In fact one paper demonstrated an increase in orgasm if you have sex within an hour after working out. Keeping healthy is very important. Drinking plenty of water. Stopping of smoking and other obvious lifestyle changes can increase your sexual desire through body image changes.
Communication is the most important thing between two partners.
Sometimes you need a guide to communicate like a therapist or a book. Sharing this information is often the beginning of age proofing your sex life. Ellen, go ahead. It scares me sometimes and is it because I haven't had real sexual intimacy in a long time. I have always had a stronger libido than my husband .