Also, it is harder to understand and identify triggers beforehand when they are buried. It is common for these people to have fragmented memories and gaps in their lives that they can not explain. If your loved one is encouraged gently, they may be able to pinpoint some triggers and reveal these memories to themselves. Often, professional counseling is necessary to get to the heart of the memories. Along the Healing Path If you find yourself in discussion with your loved one about their experiences, they may be able to reveal how you can best help them.
Communication is imperative, but only at the victim's speed.
Something that my husband and I worked very hard on was allowing me space and time to develop a sense of control in everyday situations, trust in other people, and learning to set boundaries for myself. These things are essential to the healing process. They also can take what seems an interminable amount of time and effort. If you and your loved one are in a physical or sexual relationship, this can be even harder to do. Consider suspending sexual activity for a time.