Many victims don t see the things their partners do to them as abusive, and they don t see them as a pattern. Abuse is about control. It is one person scaring another person into doing what he wants her to do. It is not just one hit. It is a pattern.
Abuse can be physical, emotional, sexual, economic.
It can also be criminal. It is usually a whole series of behaviors used to get and keep control. Here is a list of questions for you to ask yourself. Some promises made during reconciliation are being met Hope on the part of the victim that the abuse is over Then back to the top again or no. The cycle can happen hundreds of times in an abusive relationship.