The baby was too little and he died. Young children lose things all the time and find them again. Don t imply that the baby was too good to live. The surviving sibling might think they have to be bad or they will die too. Refrain from answering questions a child hasn t asked.
Children are well able to ask questions if they want more information.
We did take her and we are now very glad that we did because she remembers being there and remembers putting flowers on the coffin. I believe we would regret it now if we hadn t taken her. It was great having children at the funeral. They lightened the atmosphere a lot. Some played hopscotch on the graves and one of the little ones almost fell into our baby s open grave.