Yet it happens so frequently in modern society that young people considering marriage must also do as much as they can to assure that their marriage will endure. While the prospects of marriage can seem fulfilling and romantic, the lessons of widespread marital failure teach us that we need to think rationally about our prospective marriage, and not just emotionally.
Communication is one key.
You have to be able to share intimate things with your partner in a comfortable way. You have to find that you are willing to listen to your partner, while your partner is equally willing to listen to you. If you think about marriage, you will see that spouses go through hundreds of transactions or exchanges with each other in a given day. To insure that those transactions are as smooth as possible, each partner must be able to accurately read both the non-verbal and verbal communications that the partner is making. Effective communication with your premarital partner can be assessed by considering how you discuss various important aspects of a relationship, as well as in the manner in which you negotiate conflict.