The days go quickly, filled with preparing kids for school, getting themselves ready for work, running important errands, and hundreds of other little details that absorb our time and energy. This makes it difficult to give our children our full attention and makes them desperate to get it. All families have the need to belong and to be unique. A parents attention provides children with these things. It increases their self-esteem and guides their behaviors.
Attention is a powerful reinforcer of children's behavior.
What parents pay attention to will increase and grow. What parents ignore will fade away and expire. Children often get the feeling that what they do in a family doesn't make much difference. In nontraditional homes, children often feel as if they were to blame for their parents death, divorce, or abandonment. This may cause your child to feel as if he does not bring good things home.