But we are more individualistic and transient than ever. Therefore, as local communities of believers, we must deliberately establish common ways of sharing in each other's pain. People did not deliberately decide that they would not care for Mark and Sue. They simply did not know how. They did not have a set of expectations, a set of rituals that could guide them in grieving together.
Common experience is one of the legs on which relationships stand.
Because we proclaim Jesus as Lord, we gather together for support and encouragement. In much the same way, those who have experienced significant loss often gather in support of those in mourning and become the best comforters. Because they have shared a similar experience, they can overcome barriers and support each other. The problem is that our culture has branded miscarriage an unspeakable grief. We do not encourage grieving parents to share their pain.