Title: Traumasexuality : men abused as boys, men between victim and perpetrator /
Authors: Schouten, Peter John,; Schouten, Peter John, 1953-
Year: 2019
Subjects: Adult child sexual abuse victims Psychology; Male sexual abuse victims Psychology.; Sexually abused boys Psychology.; Child sexual abuse Psychological aspects; Adult Survivors of Child Abuse psychology; Child Abuse, Sexual psychology; Adult child sexual abuse victims Psychology; Child sexual abuse Psychological aspects; Male sexual abuse victims Psychology
Abstract: Traumasexuality concerns the lives of men who were sexually abused as boys. Everyone finds sexual abuse very upsetting. However, if you ask the question what makes it so bad, very few people can say anything sensible about it. Once you have read this book, you will be an expert in this subject. You will acquire new insights and have a precise vocabulary for naming the details. In these times everyone knows you can contract lung cancer from smoking. But in the past, we did not know that, and smoking was cool. My intention, through this book, is that everyone learns that you suffer mental paralysis as a result of sexual abuse. The terms traumasexuality and mental paralysis provide a new perspective on the damage caused by sexual abuse. Men who have been sexually abused, only see when they reflect on their lives how the abuse has determined every facet of it. This book provides a detailed answer to what happens to a boy at the moment he is sexually abused by an adult. In just a matter of seconds he is dealt a whole range of shocks. Read about the influence that this moment has on the rest of their lives. How the sexual imprint of the perpetrator can be seen in Traumasexuality and the paralytic power of the perpetrator in the Mental Paralysis. As a partner, you sometimes do not realise that with a sexually abused man you have entered a triangular relationship with him and his perpetrator. You can do a lot as a partner. But read here what you must avoid doing. Processing sexual abuse is possible. This is hopeful, but it demands a lot of work. The entire process is explained here with all the obstacles you may encounter. You have to banish the perpetrator’s control, otherwise you will carry a trauma with you your entire life that is sexually attractive.
Contents: 1. The moment : 1.1. The moment -- A. The shock -- B. The sex -- C. Loss of your childhood -- D. Becoming dependent -- E. The secret -- F. The moment is lost in a second -- 1.2. Prior to the moment -- 1.3. After the moment -- 2. The damage : A. The damage caused by the shock -- B. The damage caused by the sex -- C. The damage caused by the loss of your childhood -- D. The damage caused by the state of helplessness -- E. The damage caused by the secret -- F. The moment becomes a second lost in time -- Abused at an early age -- The interval: three forces -- 3. Consequences of the damage : Introduction to mental paralysis -- A. Consequences of the damage caused by the shock -- C. Consequences of the damage caused by the loss of your childhood -- D. Consequences of the damage caused by the craving for a witness -- E. Consequences of the damage caused by the secret -- F. Consequences of the damage caused by the lost second -- B. Consequences of the damage caused by premature sexuality -- Traumasexuality -- 1. Dualism -- 2. Active victimhood -- 3. Identity questions -- 4. Repairing the damage : F. The process of coping -- E. The act and the threat -- 1. Taking seriously/no more trivialisation -- 2. Revealing the secret -- 3. The reconstruction of the experience -- The thread: the six connections with the perpetrator -- A. Separation from the shock -- 1. Recovery from the shock/fear -- B. 2. Recovery from the shock/power -- C. 3. Leaving the social context of the perpetrator -- D. 4. Accepting/rejecting the role model -- 5. Returning the problem to the perpetrator -- 6. Loving and loyalty -- Live perpetrator confrontation: I can deal with the perpetrator -- Integration -- Meaning.