premise: But the fact that she did n't even let me know hurt . Then someone a few nights ago basically pointed the finger at me as if I was the bad guy for wanting to take care of myself . I needed it because if I did n't it would have also taken it 's toll not only on me but my relationship , friends , and family . I did n't need to do that . What may have caused people to call you the bad guy in that situation ?
hypothesis: I had no desire to be independent .