You are misinformed All vaginas fold flat when not in use the pelvic muscles have no effect to diminish the size during that time My surgeon and any other reputable surgeon will also tell you this They will also tell you that sexual intercourse is not a substitute referring to a patient who came back to him after a few years with a very narrow vagina due to lack of maintenance as they thought sexual intercourse was enough to keep the vagina open I m a lesbian yet I dilate because I want to have the same capabilities as my partner There will be women who are happy with more narrow vaginas and that s their choice but actively discouraging dilation to others is a recipe for disaster Nowhere did I discourage women from dilating Did you see the link to TM s instructions In fact I thoroughly discussed all the issues Is this the best explanation you have for repeatedly reposting a description that has harmed both the public s and medical professionals understanding of our lives