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Do not allow your children to celebrate the days on which unbelief and superstition are being catered to. They are admittedly inclined to want this because they see that the children of Roman Catholic parents observe those days. Do not let them attend carnivals, observe Shrove Tuesday (Mardi Gras), see Santa Claus, or observe Twelfth Night, because they are all remnants of an idolatrous papacy. You must not keep your children out of school or from work on those days nor let them play outside or join in the amusement. The Lord has said, “After the doings of the land of Egypt, where you lived, shall ye not do: and after the doings of the land of Canaan, where I bring you, you shall not do: neither shall you walk in their ordinances” (Lev. 18:3). The Lord will punish the Reformed on account of the days of Baal (Hosea 2:12-13), and he also observes what the children do on the occasion of such idolatry (Jer. 17:18). Therefore, do not let your children receive presents on Santa Claus day, nor let them draw tickets in a raffle and such things. Pick other days on which to give them the things that amuse them, and because the days of Christmas, Easter, and Pentecost have the same character, Reformed people must keep their children away from these so-called holy days and feast days.
— Jacobus Koelman
If you want your children to grow up to be healthy and independent, you should hold them, hug them, cuddle them, and love them. Give them a secure base and they will explore and then conquer the world on their own.
— Jonathan Haidt, The Happiness Hypothesis: Finding Modern Truth in Ancient Wisdom
I went because the nights are numbered and I do not know the count.
— Karen Maezen Miller, Hand Wash Cold: Care Instructions for an Ordinary Life
One of the benefits the authors point out of discussing logical consequences with children rather than handing out arbitrary punishments is that the practice gives THEM the language to discuss One of the benefits the authors point out of discussing logical consequences with children rather than handing out arbitrary punishments is that the practice gives THEM the language to discuss seting boundaries and making decisions, even in conflicts with their friends.
— Adele Faber, How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk
A recent study of three thousand New England high-school kids shows that students with B averages or better enjoyed seventeen to thirty-three minutes more sleep and went to bed ten to fifty minutes earlier than students with C averages.
— Roger Angell
It's odd to see pictures of your parents before your own birth, before your nagging presence altered their lives forever.
— Bill Holm, The Heart Can Be Filled Anywhere on Earth
Guilt is unavoidable for mothers.
— Linda  Gray
Don't count on me to take you in because I'm angry. I'm angry at you for leading us on such a song and dance all these years, not just these few years but all the years, skipping all those holidays and staying away from beach trips and missing Mom and Dad's thirtieth anniversary and their thirty-fifth and Jeannie's baby and not attending my wedding that time or even sending a card or calling to wish me well. But most of all Denny, most of all: I will never forgive you for consuming every last little drop of our parents' attention and leaving nothing for the rest of us.
— Anne Tyler
[A]s a parent you just have no idea what anything means. On some level everything your kids do and say is in code.
— Bill Clegg, Did You Ever Have a Family
I had thought a good mother would not elicit such comments, but now I see that a good mother is required to somehow absorb all this ugliness and find a way to fall back in love with her child the next day.
— Kelly Corrigan, Glitter and Glue
Pulling at the hem of my emotion was the creeping sense that it might well take until 2036 for this child in my arms to feel a fraction of what I already felt for her.
— Kelly Corrigan, Glitter and Glue
It is unrealistic to assume that if all goes well in a child's life, he or she will be happy. Happiness is not something one can ask of a child. Children suffer in a way that adults don't always realize under the pressure their parents put on them to be happy.
— Adam Phillips
It's easy to love kids who make you feel competent.
— Kelly Corrigan, Glitter and Glue
I believe that many sacrifices need to be made in order to do your best as a parent, but I also believe you don't have to abandon your whole life.
— Holly Madison
If you feel judged by others, remember that they don't live in your house at night, and they don't care for your child. You do, and you are capable of doing the right thing for your child.
— Alice Callahan, The Science of Mom: A Research-Based Guide to Your Baby's First Year
Treat sins that your children struggle with like basic math. Practice, Practice, and you'll get it.
— Rachel Jankovic, Loving the Little Years: Motherhood in the Trenches
Lilah did little more than sleep and eat and cry, which to me was the most fascinating thing in the entire universe. Why did she cry? When did she sleep? What made her eat a lot one day and little the next? Was she changing with time? I did what any obsessed person would do in such a case: I recorded data, plotted it, calculated statistical correlations. First I just wrote on scraps of paper and made charts on graph paper, but I very quickly became more sophisticated. I wrote computer software to make a beautifully colored plot showing times when Diane fed Lilah, in black; when I fed her, in blue (expressed mother's milk, if you must know); Lilah's fussy times, in angry red; her happy times, in green. I calculated patterns in sleeping times, eating times, length of sleep, amounts eaten.Then, I did what any obsessed person would do these days; I put it all on the Web.
— Mike Brown, How I Killed Pluto and Why It Had It Coming
Mostly good is enough. Mostly good produces healthy kids who know they are valued and either forget the other parts or turn them into funny stories.
— Jen Hatmaker
And if you don't let a boy become a man, it's no one's fault but your own when you're still wiping his ass when he should be making you grandchildren.
— Brian McGreevy
After 'cat', Lilah next learned 'flower'. Flowers (scrunch up nose as if sniffing) were everywhere, first only outside on plants, but soon she generalized to flowers on her clothes or her shoes, or in pictures in books and magazines. I wanted to hook up wires and do experiments and comparisons and studies to understand it all.'You want to do what?' Diane would say.But really, who wouldn't?
— Mike Brown, How I Killed Pluto and Why It Had It Coming
Understanding the intricacies involved in raising someone with a physical or mental challenge for those who have never experienced it is like trying to understand anything foreign; impossible, though definitely worth doing anyway.
— Lynette Louise, Miracles Are Made: A Real-Life Guide to Autism
My personal philosophy is that, as a parent, it is my job to find that balance of when my child is ready to try something on her own and when she needs help.
— Alice Callahan, The Science of Mom: A Research-Based Guide to Your Baby's First Year
It is a blessing for which young people ought to be exceedingly thankful, when they have wise and kind and sympathising and intelligent friends (parents especially) who know how to guide them to pure sources of instruction from books, so as on one hand to gratify a natural taste for novelty and entertainment, and on the other, to control that taste within proper bounds; taking conscientious care, at all times, to keep from the young that instruction which ‘causeth to err.
— George E. Sargent, The Story Of Charles Ogilvie
Once, a few years earlier, Jules had gone to see a play at Ash’s theater, and afterward, during the “talkback,” when the audience asked questions of the playwright and of Ash, who’d directed the production, a woman stood up and said, “This one is for Ms. Wolf. My daughter wants to be a director too. She’s applying to graduate school in directing, but I know very well that there are no jobs, and that she’s probably only going to have her dreams dashed. Shouldn’t I encourage her to do something else, to find some other field she can get into before too much time goes by?” And Ash had said to that mother, “Well, if she’s thinking about going into directing, she has to really, really want it. That’s the first thing. Because if she doesn’t, then there’s no point in putting herself through all of this, because it’s incredibly hard and dispiriting. But if she does really, really want it, and if she seems to have a talent for it, then I think you should tell her, ‘That’s wonderful.’ Because the truth is, the world will probably whittle your daughter down. But a mother never should.
— Meg Wolitzer, The Interestings
What makes a mother? Looking at your child and identifying emotion
— Jennifer Senior, All Joy and No Fun: The Paradox of Modern Parenthood
As parents we're meant to help each other out and build each other up.
— Galit Breen, Kindness Wins
If you can't do what you really want to do, then do the next best thing!
— Stacey Culpepper
During childhood, it’s about trying to help develop who your kid’s going to be. During adolescence, it’s about responding to who your kid wants to be.
— Jennifer Senior
Nothing's scarier than having a sick child, and one so newly born, and so vulnerable. It's the worst thing for a parent.
— Kenneth Oppel, The Nest
Nancy took her tiny little baby and held him down toward Norton."Look Norton," she said, "This is a baby."Norton looked up at Charlie, took him in, and sort of nodded as if assimilating the information.There was a very long pause, and then I heard Nancy gulp."You've finally done it," she said to me."What?" I wanted to
— Peter Gethers, The Cat Who Went to Paris
Children should not be taught to get a job or pursue a profession. Children should be taught to discover their passion and with it define their mission.
— Tarryn Tomlinson
Love had still seemed like such a paltry thing in the face of all my doubts then, much the way it felt now. David had worries my love couldn’t touch, fears my love couldn’t easily dispel. My love seemed like a well-worn blanket instead of the titanium shield I needed.
— Andrea Lochen, Imaginary Things
And they certainly wouldn’t take you along to a murder. That would be irresponsible parenting.
— Kelley Armstrong
children need love most when they don't deserve it
— Ikechukwu Joseph, Salvation Colors: Children's Salvation Story Series, Book one
The metaphor of transformation deepens as we consider how a butterfly needs to struggle for its ability to fly. If the chrysalis is broken by someone in an attempt to help free the butterfly, its wings will be shriveled and immobile.
— Gabriel Cousens M.D., Conscious Parenting: The Holistic Guide to Raising and Nourishing Healthy, Happy Children
Imperfect parenting does not cause addiction. If that were so, everyone would be one.
— Sandra Swenson, The Joey Song: A Mother's Story of Her Son's Addiction
A mother’s love is like an everlasting bed of roses, that continues to blossom. A mother’s love bears strength, comfort, healing and warmth. Her beauty is compared to a sunny day that shines upon each rose petal and inspires hope.
— Ellen J. Barrier
Having a child who is struggling doesn't make you a bad parent, just as being a child who is struggling doesn't make your child a bad kid.
— Ann Douglas
You don't need to be primary caregiver of your children to be of primary influence in their lives. What you do for them behind the scenes in your own unique way is what makes the true difference in the long run.
— Miya Yamanouchi
School plays were invented partly to give parents and easy opportunity to demonstrate their priorities.
— Calvin Trillin, About Alice
All fathers are liars . . . If you want to be a father, you have to be prepared to become a liar.
— Alison Espach, The Adults
What is success, after all, but doing what you really want to do?
— Ruth Minshull, Miracles for Breakfast: A Startling New Approach to Raising Children
You can't "let go". You can't "detach with love". You can't let them "hit bottom". You can't seem to implement the strategies you have learned when you are faced with your adult child's chaos and anxiety. When you try to do this, it makes you physically and emotionally ill, and the anxiety and fear becomes unbearable.
— Mary Crocker Cook, Afraid to Let Go. for Parents of Adult Addicts and Alcoholics
Be bigger presence at work. Race up ladder (joyfully, w/smile on face), get raise. Get in best shape of life, start dressing nicer. Learn guitar? Make point of noticing beauty of world? Why not educate self re. birds, flowers, trees, constellations, become true citizen of natural world, walk around neighborhood w/kids, patiently teaching kids names of birds, flowers, etc. etc.? Why not take kids to Europe? Kids have never been. Have never, in Alps, had hot chocolate in mountain café, served by kindly white- haired innkeeper, who finds them so sophisticated/friendly relative to usual snotty/rich American kids (who always ignore his pretty but crippled daughter w/braids) that he shows them secret hiking path to incredible glade, kids frolic in glade, sit with crippled pretty girl on grass, later say it was most beautiful day of their lives, keep in touch with crippled girl via email, we arrange surgery here for her, surgeon so touched he agrees to do surgery for free, she is on front page of our paper, we are on front page of their paper in Alps? Ha ha.
— George Saunders
Women are responsible for the people in the family having pants.
— Heidi Julavits, The Folded Clock: A Diary
It’s a fool who thinks having a kid is a right, which is the biggest crock of fish heads I’ve ever heard.
— Carew Papritz, The Legacy Letters: his Wife, his Children, his Final Gift
Like I tell our kids, 'Your Mom isn't always right and I'm not always right. But together, WE'RE ALWAYS right!
— J. Thomas Steele
Being a good parent is not an obligation, it is a choice. Plenty of people fall short in the parent category and quite a few refuse to accept it. You will do a much better job if you understand that taking care of your children is a choice not an obligation.
— Gudjon Bergmann, Empowerment Basics
Our children need to see that faith matters, that it's relevant to our daily situations, that it's real.
— Michelle Anthony
Our goal as parents should be to endeavor to pass down our faith to the next generation in such a way that they will be able to pass down their faith to the following generation in our absence.
— Michelle Anthony, Spiritual Parenting: An Awakening for Today's Families
Don't become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking.
— Michelle Anthony, Spiritual Parenting: An Awakening for Today's Families
When we start to realize how amazing God's story is, a question naturally arises: "Who am I that I should get to be a part of the greatest story ever told?
— Michelle Anthony, Spiritual Parenting: An Awakening for Today's Families
Love your kids and just be there for them. You don’t have to eyeball their every moment or to orchestrate all their comings and goings. They know this. They know that’s too much.
— Carew Papritz, The Legacy Letters: his Wife, his Children, his Final Gift
But my personal favorite words of wisdom came from Gulley during the last thirty minutes of the trip, when she broke up a backseat scuffle by declaring, 'When you lick the person sitting next to you, there's a good chance you're going to get punched.'I believe the only reason that gem is missing from the book of Proverbs is because Solomon must never have traveled with three kids in the back of his chariot.
— Melanie Shankle, Nobody's Cuter Than You: A Memoir about the Beauty of Friendship
when a child is ridiculed, shamed, hurt or ignored when she experiences and expresses a legitimate dependency need, she will later be inclined to attach those same affective tones to her dependency. Thus, she will experience her own (and perhaps others’) dependency as ridiculous, shameful, painful, or denied. - Dependency in the Treatment of complex PTSD and Dissociative Disorders 2001Authors: Kathy Steele, Onno van der Hart, Ellert R. S. Nijenhuis
— Kathy Steele
Until we accept that our children have much more of a risk of being sexually abused than drowning in a pool, being struck by a car, stricken with cancer, hurt by a vaccination, or diagnosed with ebola, we contribute to a culture of panic and ignorance.
— Ann Brasco
Let’s be Atticus Finch in To Kill a Mockingbird. Atticus’s children, Scout and Jem, carefully watch their father’s behavior as the house next door to theirs burns to the ground. As the fire creeps closer and closer to the Finches’ home, Atticus appears so calm that Scout and Jem finally decide that “it ain’t time to worry yet.” We need to be Atticus. Hands in our pockets. Calm. Believing. So that our children will look at us and even with a fire raging in front of them, they’ll say, “Huh. Guess it’s not time to worry yet.
— Glennon Doyle Melton, Carry On, Warrior: Thoughts on Life Unarmed
The health of your future kids does not start with their birth—it starts with you, right now, well before you plan to impregnate your wife.
— Pratik Patil, Pregnancy and Men
We must be what we wish our children to be. They will form their characters from ours.
— John S.C. Abbott, The Mother at Home
When we aren't curious in conversations we judge, tell, blame and even shame, often without even knowing it, which leads to conflict.
— Kirsten Siggins, The Power of Curiosity: How to Have Real Conversations that create Collaboration, Innovation and Understanding
Parenting goes beyond providing foods, shelter, clothing, and other basic necessities. Nurturing a child to travel in the direction of positive enlightenment, is arguably the greatest thing that you could do for a child.
Parents of medically fragile children find themselves becoming experts in lots of different areas, including laws and regulations, research and treatments, and the various specialists that support the health of their children.
— Charisse Montgomery, Home Care CEO: A Parent's Guide to Managing In-home Pediatric Nursing
Think of instinct as an unscientific, unquantifiable tool that can be used along with more concrete evaluations to make a well-rounded decision.
— Charisse Montgomery, Home Care CEO: A Parent's Guide to Managing In-home Pediatric Nursing
The more love and support your child receives, the richer his or her life becomes, and nurses can certainly add to the circle of love surrounding your child.
— Charisse Montgomery, Home Care CEO: A Parent's Guide to Managing In-home Pediatric Nursing
Even though our journey as parents of a medically fragile child began with emotional turmoil, it has since become a purposeful odyssey that brings meaning and depth to our lives. This is the road we were born to travel.
— Charisse Montgomery, Home Care CEO: A Parent's Guide to Managing In-home Pediatric Nursing
I fear that this is what long term relationships are all about, at base: full-time role-playing, memorized and inhabited.
— Elisa Albert
The reason any person yaks excessively is because his communication is not being adequately acknowledged. He just keeps trying to be heard.
— Ruth Minshull, Miracles for Breakfast: A Startling New Approach to Raising Children
It's time to undo Rahim.
— Nadia Hashimi, The Pearl That Broke Its Shell
An exhausted parent can’t provide the best care, although occasionally, we have all had to do so.
— Charisse Montgomery, Home Care CEO: A Parent's Guide to Managing In-home Pediatric Nursing
Unfortunately, we spend more time teaching our daughters how to avoid becoming rape victims than teaching our sons not to become rapists.
— Amir Clayton Powell
If a child cannot place implicit confidence in his parent, most assuredly no confidence can be reposed in the child.
— John S.C. Abbott, The Mother at Home
Managing in-home nursing is not always easy. It can be terribly frustrating sometimes, and it can take a while to feel like everything is under control, but success is possible.
— Charisse Montgomery, Home Care CEO: A Parent's Guide to Managing In-home Pediatric Nursing
We are partners with our children because we are just like them, dearly loved sinners.
— Elyse M. Fitzpatrick, Give Them Grace: Dazzling Your Kids with the Love of Jesus
. . .you sounded frustrated and pissed off and amazingly happy
— Kristin Hannah, Firefly Lane
Therefore, the idle parent who wants to stop the whining needs to stop whining himself, and one way is to resist the call to work ever longer and harder hours. Throw your BlackBerry into the river. Unslave yourself. Hard work will not lead to health and happiness. Just ask yourself: would you rather spend your child's first few years playing with them or working for the mega-corp in order to make them profits and you money to buy ribbish you don't need in order to dull the pain of overwork?
— Tom Hodgkinson, The Idle Parent: Why Laid-Back Parents Raise Happier and Healthier Kids
The Lord teaches us of His grace and the Gospel through difficult children. We learn what it's like to love like He loved. It is there, in our personal upper room, where we learn to wash the feet of those that are betraying us. It is there, kneeling before our rebellious children, that the real power of God is demonstrated.
— Elyse M. Fitzpatrick, Give Them Grace: Dazzling Your Kids with the Love of Jesus
(Taft's mother's) losing her firstborn had convinced her that children are treasures lent not given and that they may be recalled at any time. Parents, she firmly believed, could never love their children too much.
— Doris Kearns Goodwin, The Bully Pulpit: Theodore Roosevelt, William Howard Taft, and the Golden Age of Journalism
I have one top-notch baby with whom I am in love. It's a head-over-heels "first love" kind of thing, because I pay for everything and all we do is hold hands.
— Tina Fey, Bossypants
Many parents lack a biblical view of discipline. They tend to think of discipline as revenge - getting even with the children for what they did. Hebrews 12 makes it clear that discipline is not punitive, but corrective. Hebrews 12 calls discipline a word of encouragement that addresses sons. It says discipline is a sign of God's identification with us as our Father. God disciplines us for our good that we might share in his holiness. It says that while discipline is not pleasant, but painful, it yields a harvest of righteousness and peace. Rather than being something to balance love, it is the deepest expression of love.
— Tedd Tripp, Shepherding a Child's Heart
You can't judge your parenting by the choices of your kids.
— Todd Stocker
Sometimes, for the present," I said, turning to April, "all we can do is hold on. Sometimes it's that ability, and that ability alone, that gets us through the rough parts. But if we do hold on, then eventually the storm does pass and the sun comes out and we can go on again.
— Janene Wolsey Baadsgaard, Why Does My Mother's Day Potted Plant Always Die?
If your parents are getting older, you must treat them as your own child
— Pawan Prakash Tirkey
I don't think each of us receives one harvest only--an after-death sort of payment for services rendered. I think we all get a lifetime full of little harvests--those small miracles that stand out from the rest of life, when we are one with nature, each other, and ourselves.
— Janene Wolsey Baadsgaard
Her mother was Jewish, but her father had insisted that she and Anne be raised Catholic. So she went to mass every Sunday as a child, received communion, went to confession, and was confirmed, but because her mother never participated in any of this, Alice began questioning the validity of these beliefs at a young age. And without a satisfying answer from either her father or the Catholic Church, she never developed a true faith.
— Lisa Genova, Still Alice
Over time, parents have barnacled the most routine activities in infancy with their own preoccupations. It's sometimes hard to see the baby for all the barnacles.
— Nicholas Day, Baby Meets World: Suck, Smile, Touch, Toddle
There are many things the Chinese do differently from Westerners. There’s the question of extra credit, for example. One time, Lulu came home and told me about a math test she’d just taken. She said she thought it had gone extremely well, which is why she didn’t feel the need to do the extra-credit problems.I was speechless for a second, uncomprehending. “Why not?” I asked. “Why didn’t you do them?”“I didn’t want to miss recess.”A fundamental tenet of being Chinese is that you always do all of the extra credit all of the time.“Why?” asked Lulu, when I explained this to her.For me this was like asking why I should breathe.“None of my friends do it,” Lulu added.“That’s not true,” I said. “I’m 100% sure that Amy and Junno did the extra credit.” Amy and Junno were the Asian kids in Lulu’s class. And I was right about them; Lulu admitted it.“But Rashad and Ian did the extra credit too, and they’re not Asian,” she added.“Aha! So many of your friends did do the extra credit! And I didn’t say only Asians do extra credit. Anyone with good parents knows you have to do the extra credit. I’m in shock, Lulu. What will the teacher think of you? You went to recess instead of doing extra credit?” I was almost in tears. “Extra credit is not extra. It’s just credit. It’s what separates the good students from the bad students.""Aww - recess is so fun," Lulu offered as her final sally. But after that, Lulu, like Sophia. always did the extra credit. Sometimes the girls got more points on extra credit than on the test itself - an absurdity that would never happen in China. Extra credit is one reason that Asian kids get such notoriously good grades in the United States.Rote drilling is another. Once Sophia came in second on a multiplication speed test, which her fifth grade teacher administered every Friday. She lost to a Korean boy named Yoon-seok. Over the next week, I made Sophia do twenty practice tests (of 100 problems each) every night, with me clocking her with a stopwatch. After that, she came in first every time. Poor Yoon-seok. He went back to Korea with his family, but probably not because of the speed test.
— Amy Chua
If there is a single factor that spells out the difference between the cafeteria fringe headed for greatness and those doomed for low self-worth, even more than a caring teacher or a group of friends, it is supportive, accepting parents who not only love their children unconditionally, but also don't make them feel as if their idiosyncrasies qualify as "conditions" in the first place.
— Alexandra Robbins, The Geeks Shall Inherit the Earth: Popularity, Quirk Theory and Why Outsiders Thrive After High School
Imagine what it must be like for teenagers who don't feel they have room to breathe in their own homes. If you are a parent reading this book, you care about your child. If she is quirky, unusual, or nonconformist, ask yourself whether you are doing everything you can to nurture her unusual interests, style, or skills, or whether instead you are directly or subtly pushing her to hide them.
— Alexandra Robbins, The Geeks Shall Inherit the Earth: Popularity, Quirk Theory and Why Outsiders Thrive After High School
Listening to our kids with an open heart & mind is the strongest way to build a relationship with them - especially when they're wrong.
— Roma Khetarpal
There's not a lot I can fix for her anymore. Band-Aid and bedtime story days are almost over. This, I can fix with a simple Welcome.
— Sarah Addison Allen, First Frost
Too many parents fail to understand that there is a difference between fitting in and being liked, that there is a difference between being "normal" and being happy. High school is temporary. Family is not.
— Alexandra Robbins, The Geeks Shall Inherit the Earth: Popularity, Quirk Theory and Why Outsiders Thrive After High School
Never discipline whom you've not discipled.
— Neil Kennedy, Speaking The Father's Blessing: 52 Blessings and 365 Promises To Speak Over Your Children
The only safe guide is the Bible. It is the revelation of a God who has infinite knowledge and can therefore give you absolute truth. God has given you a revelation that is robust and complete. It presents an accurate and comprehensive picture of children, parents, family life, values, training, nurture, and discipline - all you need to be equipped for the task of parenting.
— Tedd Tripp
My heart broke not only for the daughter who already was forced to become her mother's alarmingly narrow ideal, but also for the middle daughter who knew that her in mother's mind she had already failed.
— Alexandra Robbins, The Geeks Shall Inherit the Earth: Popularity, Quirk Theory and Why Outsiders Thrive After High School
One cannot always know what children are thinking. Children are hard to understand, especially when careful training has a custom them to obedience and experience has made them cautious in conversation with their teachers.
— Catherine the Great
We can easily teach our kids hot to be kind, compassionate and respectful when we are kind, compassionate and respectful to them.
— Roma Khetarpal, The "Perfect" Parent: 5 Tools for Using Your Inner Perfection to Connect with Your Kids
Because we don't know the state of our children's souls, and because they might simply want to please us by praying to be saved, we must continue to give them the Law and encourage them to ask God for faith to believe that He is as good as He says He is.
— Elyse M. Fitzpatrick, Give Them Grace: Dazzling Your Kids with the Love of Jesus
Simply building a fence between a child and temptation is not the same things as preparing him to face life.
— Barbara R. Duguid, Extravagant Grace: God's Glory Displayed in Our Weakness
Sometimes Eli believed his mother was embarrassed by him. "I swear, my mom thinks if I do one thing differently than the average person, I'm weird," Eli said later. "It's like she thinks I'm a freak or something. No matter what I do, it's not 'normal' enough for her.
— Alexandra Robbins, The Geeks Shall Inherit the Earth: Popularity, Quirk Theory and Why Outsiders Thrive After High School
Gardening and making your own soap and home-birthing your babies are fine, but these are inherently limited actions. If we want to see genuine food safety, if we want to see sustainable products, if we want to see a better women's health system, and if we want these things for everyone, not just the privileged few with the time and education to DIY it, then we need large social changes.
— Emily Matchar, Homeward Bound: Why Women are Embracing the New Domesticity
I always hear parents talking about how outraged they are because their kid saw a boob or something like that on TV. I never hear anyone say that they're outraged because a cartoon character in a commercial that aired during a children's television program told them it was healthy to eat a bowl of chocolate and marshmallows for breakfast. If I had kids, I'd be outraged about that.
— Ian  McClellan
It felt great to be loved. Children... Children are a hazard to your life... As they'd got older they had become more expensive. But it was worth it. If she didn't have her children her life would be empty. And even though your children leave your nest, they always have one foot tethered to you.
— Cindy Vine, C U @ 8
Your kids never really leave do they? They might live elsewhere, sometimes not even on the same continent, but Mum is always first port of call when there's trouble. Parenting is a lifetime commitment.
— Cindy Vine, C U @ 8
It was what Aunty Ifeoma did to my cousins, I realized then, setting higher and higher jumps for them in the way she talked to them, in what she expected of them. She did it all the time believing they would scale the rod. And they did. It was different for Jaja and me. We did not scale the rod because we believed we could, we scaled it because we were terrified that we couldn't.
— Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, Purple Hibiscus
Children, who have so much to learn in so short a time, had involved the tendency to trust adults to instruct them in the collective knowledge of our species, and this trust confers survival value. But it also makes children vulnerable to being tricked and adults who exploit this vulnerability should be deeply ashamed.
— Rebecca Goldstein, Plato at the Googleplex: Why Philosophy Won't Go Away
The balancing act we parents attempt is convincing our children: 1. You are loved more than you can imagine. 2. The world does not revolve around you.
— John Eldredge, Love and War: Finding the Marriage You've Dreamed Of
If parents had children who were good sleepers, they assumed this was due to their good parenting, not good luck. They followed the rules, and the rules had been proven to work. Celeste must therefore not be following the rules. And you could never prove it to them! They would die smug in their beds.
— Liane Moriarty, Big Little Lies
Non-alcoholic ways in which parents may not 'be there' for the children can include: - violence and sexual abuse - workholism - gambling - transquilliser addiction- - womanizing - frequent journeys abroad - death- suicide- being unemployed or unemployable- frequent hospitalisation- mental or physical handicap- excessive religiosity- rigid rules and regulations- homes where children are never allowed to be themselves but must always be pleasing to adults
— David Stafford, Codependency: How to break free and live your own life
On occasions the person may appear ill-mannered; for example, one young man with Asperger's Syndrome wanted to attract his mother;s attention while she was talking to a group of her friends, and loudly said, 'Hey, you!', apparently unaware of the more appropriate means of addressing his mother in public. The child, being impulsive and not aware of the consequences, says the first thing that comes into their mind. Strangers may consider the child to be rude, inconsiderate or spoilt, giving the parents a withering look and assuming the unusual social behavior is a result of parental incompetence. They may comment, 'Well, if I had him for two weeks he would be a different child.' The parents' reaction may be that they would gladly let them have the child, as they need a rest, and to prove a point.
— Tony Attwood
Mothers are the ultimate executives. Instead of raising profits they are raising humanity.
— Virginia Burges
When his parents announced the newest rules to Jamal, he defiantly announced back to them that, as a matter of principle, he would not be "manipulated or forced into complying with a Fascist parenting style.
— James T. Webb, Misdiagnosis and Dual Diagnoses of Gifted Children and Adults: ADHD, Bipolar, OCD, Asperger's, Depression, and Other Disorders
Mothering you is the first thing of consequence I have ever done.
— Kelly Corrigan, Lift
I realize parenting is hard and boring at times and a four-hour break would be super, but this is the job we signed up for. Some days it sucks, but most days it's great.
— Jen Mann
I won't do that when I'm a parent. I'll make different mistakes, of course.
— Adrienne Stoltz
Relationships are built on small, consistent deposits of time. You can't cram for what's most important. If you want to connect with your kids, you've got to be available consistently, not randomly.
— Andy Stanley, Ask It: The Question That Will Revolutionize How You Make Decisions
As Plato: What is play and delightful one kind of child is coercion and torture for another, and will not take no matter how much coercion is applied.
— Rebecca Goldstein, Plato at the Googleplex: Why Philosophy Won't Go Away
You don't gain authority by raising your voice. You prove you don't have any.
— Benjamin Lotter, Parenting Pitfalls: Common Parenting Mistakes and Common Sense Solutions
You don't gain authority by raising your voice. You prove you don't any.
— Benjamin Lotter, Parenting Pitfalls: Common Parenting Mistakes and Common Sense Solutions
If you're not parenting on purpose, don't be surprised when you get chaos from the children.
— Benjamin Lotter
It was an earthquake, tearing at the sons of America, trying to swallow them up. Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful sons, that women had reared, had kissed and screamed at, and that fathers had stared intently in their cots, to see themselves in the wondrous mirrors of their babies.
— Sebastian Barry
If the world is so cruel you are frightened of it, I will hold you, and protect you, and teach it to love you as I already love you.
— Lois Leveen, Juliet's Nurse
If parents were as concerened about raising their children as they are about the outcome of their sitcom or sports game, this nation would thrive.
— Benjamin Lotter
Parenting, similar to aging, is not for the faint of heart. It is a sacred journey, filled with learning experiences for both parties, not all of which are easy. This journey requires that we are brave, honest, noble and resilient. Love for our children carries us through this journey and encourages us to feel more, give more, and be more than we ever thought we were capable of.
— Jeanmarie Wilson, Parenting from Your Soul: A Spiritual Approach to Raising Children with Compassion and Wisdom
I needed something else, some kind of juice.He gave me a hooked-eyebrow glance and took a showy swig of the water. Mmm, he said, smacking his lips. Water-juice. It's fantastic.
— Norman Ollestad, Crazy for the Storm: A Memoir of Survival
Parenting the outside of the child is as useless as polishing a rotten apple.
— Benjamin Lotter
But the smell of the hospital, the sting of those overhead lights in the night, the snippets of conversations I had overheard, stayed with me and marked the beginning of how I came to know what a bold and dangerous thing parenthood is. Risk was not an event we had survived, but the place where we now lived.
— Kelly Corrigan, Lift
The soul mate we marry can become an "ex," but the soul mates we have in our children will be ours forever, until the end of our life.
— Roma Khetarpal, The "Perfect" Parent: 5 Tools for Using Your Inner Perfection to Connect with Your Kids
If you do not have a close friendship with your children, I will.--Child Molester warning all parents from the book Type 1 Sociopath
— P.A. Speers, Type 1 Sociopath - When Difficult People Are More Than Just Difficult People
I would have stayed forever within the garden of Re-mose's childhood, but time is a mother's enemy.
— Anita Diamant, The Red Tent
Kids will remember less what we did for them and more how we spoke and reacted to them.
— Roma Khetarpal, The "Perfect" Parent: 5 Tools for Using Your Inner Perfection to Connect with Your Kids
We honor our kids most when, while we guide or discipline them, we give them this gift of unconditional love by accepting them and respecting them for who they are, first and foremost.
— Roma Khetarpal, The "Perfect" Parent: 5 Tools for Using Your Inner Perfection to Connect with Your Kids
Most kids act out because they want your attention. Don't spank your child show them some attention.
— Alcurtis Turner
One of the greatest things parents can do for their children is to believe in them(their uniqueness) and help them realize their own God-given dreams
— Bernard Kelvin Clive, How To Do It At Any Age
If we, as mothers, are not careful we can begin to find our identity in our children and their behavior
— Sue Detweiler, 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Mom: Replacing My Worst with God's Best
We are our own children's "perfect" parents, and within us lie all the simple, yet profound qualities of inner perfection.
— Roma Khetarpal, The "Perfect" Parent: 5 Tools for Using Your Inner Perfection to Connect with Your Kids
Most important jobs of a parent: unconditional love, comfort and protection, and a solid platform and values for future success
— M. James Airey
Dan P. McAdams argues that children develop a narrative tone which influences their stories for the rest of their lives. Children gradually adopt an enduring assumption that everything will turn out well, or badly, depending on their childhood.
— David Brooks
Most of you will marry and have children. They will become the source of your greatest pride and happiness. I hope so. Rear them in love. You don’t have to kick them around. You don’t have to get angry with them. You just have to love them. If they make mistakes, forgive them and help them to avoid a repetition. But let them see in you their truest and best friend, their constant support.
— Gordon B. Hinckley
But no one is easier to delude than a parent
—  they see only what they wish to see.
It is as hard for our children to believe that we are not omnipotent as it is for us to know it, as parents. But that knowledge is necessary as the first step in the reassessment of power as something other than might, age, privilege, or the lack of fear. It is an important step for a boy, whose societal destruction begins when he is forced to believe that he can only be strong if he doesn't feel, or if he wins.
— Audre Lorde, Sister Outsider: Essays and Speeches
Education is the best gift my parent gave me.
— Lailah Gifty Akita
Ethan’s voice was choked. “I realize now, what my father felt. When I left home. He must have felt as if everything was ending. That everything he knew was finishing. I wasn't even aware of what he was going through, how it felt for him. I was so caught up in the excitement of moving out and having a job that would buy me a car. I was so eager to leave. His heart was breaking, and I totally missed it. I was completely unaware that his whole world was changing too. But for him it wasn't gaining, it was losing. He was losing part of himself. The part of his life that had focused on me and my mother for seventeen years was ending, and I never even noticed.”For a moment, Leo thought Ethan was about to ask him to stay. If he does, I will, Leo thought.Ethan took a deep breath. “But hard as it is. It can’t be stopped. Can’t be sidestepped. No matter how much we want to or how fearful the future looks, we can’t stay frozen in place. You can go forward or you can try to hold on. I've seen people that were afraid to let go, that never committed to their life. You can feel the desperate regret emanate from them. They know they missed something, but instead of jumping on the next train, they keep looking back for the one they missed.
— Tom Deaderick, Flightpack
Raising Black children — female and male — in the mouth of a racist, sexist, suicidal dragon is perilous and chancy. If they cannot love and resist at the same time, they will probably not survive.
— Audre Lorde, Sister Outsider: Essays and Speeches
You love your child for who the child is, not as an extension of your identity or as an example of your good parenting or even as a companion.
— Robert Fritz, The Path of Least Resistance: Learning to Become the Creative Force in Your Own Life
We usually need to have pain, trial or challenge to be motivated to learn or change. Learning in the midst of ease and prosperity comes from the pure inner soul’s inspired desire for improvement.
— Rand Olson, Children of Promise: The Ultimate Guide to Raising Healthy Kids
If we focus our efforts on doing, we will always fall short of our real potential. We can do all the right things, but if we do not do them for the right reasons, they will never have the power to change our internal view of life.
— Rand Olson, Children of Promise: The Ultimate Guide to Raising Healthy Kids
Health is the ability to be fully and consciously aware of all that contributes to your life experience and to effectively exist in that environment. It then means you see yourself as you really are.
— Rand Olson, Children of Promise: The Ultimate Guide to Raising Healthy Kids
As we mature and develop awareness to match our potential, our ability to enjoy full health is realized. As we enjoy this fruit, we sow the seeds of greatness in our children.
— Rand Olson, Children of Promise: The Ultimate Guide to Raising Healthy Kids
Health is not a physical accomplishment but the manifestation of our awareness of who we are and integrity in living out of that knowledge.
— Rand Olson, Children of Promise: The Ultimate Guide to Raising Healthy Kids
More of anything only makes us more of what we already are. If we are happy, it can bring more happiness. If we are depressed, it will make us more depressed.
— Rand Olson, Children of Promise: The Ultimate Guide to Raising Healthy Kids
Among the most sacred gifts you can give your child is the gift of health. This gift is best given by example." Dr. Rand Olson
— Rand Olson, Children of Promise: The Ultimate Guide to Raising Healthy Kids
Your children will stop paying attention to you when they have reached your age of emotional maturity. If your child is starting to tune you out, you need to go through a growth spurt of emotional and spiritual maturity. You can never chase a child to a higher awareness; you can only lead them.
— Rand Olson, Children of Promise: The Ultimate Guide to Raising Healthy Kids
Expect to change yourself in order to change your life experience.
— Rand Olson, Children of Promise: The Ultimate Guide to Raising Healthy Kids
We seem to need the motivation of pain or discomfort to drive us from our current manner of thinking and being to a higher level of reality.
— Rand Olson, Children of Promise: The Ultimate Guide to Raising Healthy Kids
We seem to take notice of our body only when health is lacking. With that lack of recognition comes a lack of motivation and incentive to stretch.
— Rand Olson, Children of Promise: The Ultimate Guide to Raising Healthy Kids
We rarely improve our habits and traits while floating on the placid pool of ease and comfort.
— Rand Olson, Children of Promise: The Ultimate Guide to Raising Healthy Kids
With toddlers around, times are always interesting.
— Beth Ann Fennelly, Great with Child: Letters to a Young Mother
Whether you're explaining where pets go when they die or teaching your child to recycle, your philosophies have ramifications. For the rest of history, echos of your voice will be heard.
— Beth Ann Fennelly, Great with Child: Letters to a Young Mother
If your kids are the generation Y there are only two things you parents are worried about..What your daughters are uploading on the internet and what your sons are downloading from the internet
— Joshua Siranjofu
Max is a marvel to us. He will never have to come out because he will never have been kept in. Even though he has a mom and a dad, they made sure from the beginning to tell him that it didn't have to be a mom and a dad. It could be a mom and a mom, a dad and a dad, just a mom, or just a dad. When Max's early affections became clear, he didn't think twice about them. He doesn't see it as defining him. It is just a part of his definition.
— David Levithan, Two Boys Kissing
We ignore the emotional needs of young children at our peril.
— Bruce D. Perry, Born for Love: Why Empathy Is Essential--and Endangered
Wounded parents often unintentionally inflict pain and suffering on their children and these childhood wounds causes a laundry list of maladaptive behaviors commonly called codependency. These habits restrict people to love-limiting relationships causing much unhappiness and distress.
— David W. Earle
She heard him speak, but did not recognise the problem in his voice – only later did she realise it was that thing he’d been concealing – known as guilt.
— Carla H. Krueger, Sleeping with the Sun
How often does a man know, without question, that he has done well? I do not think it happens often in anyone's life, and it becomes even rarer once one has a child.
— Robin Hobb, Fool's Assassin
Having kids means taking care of them, raising them, loving and supporting them, and none of those things have anything to do with who makes them one night in the bedroom or the experience of being pregnant
— Nicholas Sparks, True Believer
No matter how long the preparation, you will never feel ready to write an exam, to start a business, to be parent or even to die. Just go for it.
— Moffat Machingura
Part of the genius of (Nick) Sabin's system was that he understood that no matter the skill set, he was inheriting vulnerable kids from various backgrounds. For those times when they made poor decisions, as they invariably did, the safety net must be strong as far and wide as possible.
— Jeff Benedict, The System: The Glory and Scandal of Big-Time College Football
We’ll never solve the problems we don’t talk about.
— Justin Young
Kids took a fathomless amount of time and energy...And they took it first. They had right of first refusal on everything you had to offer. p220
— Rainbow Rowell, Landline