c2p-cmd/Good-Quotes-Authors huggingface dataset:
When psychologists Catherine Caldwell-Harris and Ayse Ayçiçegi compared U.S. and Turkish samples, they found that having "an orientation inconsistent with societal values" is a risk factor for poor mental health. The findings support what the researchers call the personality-culture clash hypothesis: "Psychological adjustment depends on the degree of match between personality and the values of surrounding society." To the extent that introverts feel the need to explain, apologize, or feel guilty about what works best for them, they feel alienated not only from society but from themselves.
— Laurie A. Helgoe
We use concepts like "consciousness"---"mind"---"personality," but we don't really know yet what these things are.' He was shaking his head. 'Not really. Not at all.
— William Peter Blatty, The Exorcist
Such a woman is called "Mother's FRIEND" always ready to give judicious Parental advice and living vicariously on the experience of others
— Eric Berne, Games People Play
The transitoriness of our existence in now way makes it meaningless. But it does constitute our responsibleness
—  for everything hinges upon our realizing the essentially transitory possibilities.
The irrational thoughts were the ones with the power to burn holes in your gut.
— Keith Ablow, Murder Suicide
Suicide may be a choice, but not as much as it is expected when everything else fails.
— Mark Brightlife, Overcoming Depression: Pragmatic Solutions to Deal with Suicidal Thoughts
DENIALDefense mechanism in which the existence of unpleasant realities is disavowed; refers to keeping out of conscious awareness any aspects of external reality that, if acknowledged, would produce anxiety.
— Benjamin James Sadock, Sadock's Comprehensive Glossary of Psychiatry and Psychology
Through the ages, countless spiritual disciplines have urged us to look within ourselves and seek the truth. Part of that truth resides in a small, dark room -- one we are afraid to enter 
— Matthew J. Pallamary, The Small Dark Room of the Soul and Other Stories
The world is full of terrible suffering, compared to which the small inconveniences of my childhood are as a drop of rain in the sea.
— Richard Rhodes, A Hole in the World: An American Boyhood
A person will complain about his problems, unwilling to receive solutions, while demanding attention trough a victimization, reflecting lack of responsibility.
— Mark Brightlife, Overcoming Depression: Pragmatic Solutions to Deal with Suicidal Thoughts
people will focus on procedures and not notice anything that isn't just part of the procedures
— Daniel Simons
The power-hungry individual follows a path to his own destruction.
— Adler
...the characters are useful because of some quirks of our minds, yours and mine. A sentence is understood more easily if it describes what an agent (system 2) does than if it describes what something is, what properties it has.
— Daniel Kahneman, Thinking, Fast and Slow
Psychological man may be going nowhere, but he aims to achieve a certain speed and certainty in going. Like his predecessor, the man of the market economy, he understands morality as that which is conducive to increased activity. The important thing is to keep going.
— Philip Rieff, The Triumph of the Therapeutic: Uses of Faith after Freud
We tend to be particularly unaware that we are thinking virtually all the time. The incessant stream of thoughts flowing through our minds leaves us very little respite for inner quiet. And we leave precious little room for ourselves anyway just to be, without having to run around doing things all the time. Our actions are all too frequently driven rather than undertaken in awareness, driven by those perfectly ordinary thoughts and impulses that run through the mind like a coursing river, if not a waterfall. We get caught up in the torrent and it winds up submerging our lives as it carries us to places we may not wish to go and may not even realize we are headed for.Meditation means learning how to get out of this current, sit by its bank and listen to it, learn from it, and then use its energies to guide us rather than to tyrannize us.
— Jon Kabat-Zinn, Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness Meditation in Everyday Life
Once we know how observant a person is in terms of church attendance, nothing that we can discover about the content of her religious faith adds anything to our understanding or prediction of her good neighborliness...In fact, the statistics suggest that even an atheist who happened to become involved in the social life of the congregation (perhaps through a spouse) is much more likely to volunteer in a soup kitchen than the most fervent believer who prays alone. It is religious belongingness that matters for neighborliness, not religious believing.
— Robert Putnam, American Grace: How Religion Divides and Unites Us
We raise our children, especially girls, to ignore their spontaneious reactions-we teach them not to rock the societal boat...By the time she is thirty, the valient little girl's "Ick!"-her tendency to respond, to rock the boat, when someone's actions are really mean, may have been exciese from her behavior, and perhaps from her very mind.
— Martha Stout, The Sociopath Next Door
Do we secretly idolize our imagined opposites, yearning to become the role models for others we know we could never be for ourselves?
— John Waters, Role Models
You have the Answer. Just get quiet enough to hear it. ~Pat Obuchowski
— Laurie Stevens, The Dark Before Dawn
In life, we make the best decisions we can with the information we have on hand.
— Agnes Kamara-umunna, And Still Peace Did Not Come: A Memoir of Reconciliation
Remind yourself that your mental & emotional health are important.
— Allan Lokos, Patience: The Art of Peaceful Living
Our work is not to become a better person, but to become present to the perfection we already are.
— Allan Lokos, Patience: The Art of Peaceful Living
I believe that there are parts to human nature that cannot be reached by either legislation or education, but require the power of God to deal with.
— Stephen R. Covey
You want to be the first to do something. You want to create something. You want to innovate something...I often think of Edison inventing the light bulb. That's what I want to do. I want to drive over the bridge coming out of New York there and look down on that sea of lights that is New Jersey and say, `Hey, I did that!' 
— David Keirsey, Please Understand Me II: Temperament, Character, Intelligence
Patience is both the tool for and the result of, our efforts.
— Allan Lokos, Patience: The Art of Peaceful Living
An open beginner's mind is a powerful tool for developing patience.
— Allan Lokos, Patience: The Art of Peaceful Living
Show me a culture where honesty is considered ridiculous, where nobody's ever accountable for anything, where anger gets admired as a sign of strength, and I'll show you a place where misery is permanent
— Anthony Steyning
When you look in the mirror, your difficult sibling always looks back, though the image is distorted. In the shadows lurk parts of yourself and your past that you don't want to notice. Behind the reflection, silently influencing the interaction, stand your parents, your grandparents, and all their siblings.
— Jeanne Safer Jeanne Safer Ph.D.
Without the ability to be present we are missing much of what the adventure has to offer.
— Allan Lokos, Patience: The Art of Peaceful Living
Then might I exemplify how an influence beyond our control lays its strong hand on every deed which we do, and weaves its consequences into an iron tissue of necessity. (Wakefield)
— Nathaniel Hawthorne
sometimes the personalities at the helm of the madness industry are, with their drives and obsessions, as mad in their own way as those they study. And that relatively ordinary people are, more and more, defined by their maddest edges.
— Jon Ronson
Is it logical that two people can disagree and that both can be right? It's not logical: it's psychological. And it's very real.
— Stephen R. Covey
man equate their self-esteem with accomplishment
— Barbara De Angelis, Secrets About Men Every Woman Should Know
A crucial element of the real self is its unconditional acceptance of itself.
— Michael Adzema
I am not one to rely upon the expert procedure. It is the psychology I seek, not the fingerprint or the cigarette ash.
— Agatha Christie, Murder on the Orient Express
A large part of the popularity and persuasiveness of psychology comes from its being a sublimated spiritualism: a secular, ostensibly scientific way of affirming the primacy of spirit over matter.
— Susan Sontag, Illness as Metaphor & AIDS and Its Metaphors
The affairs of the world are no more than so much trickery, and a man who toils for money or honour or whatever else in deference to the wishes of others, rather than because his own desire or needs lead him to do so, will always be a fool.
— Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, The Sorrows of Young Werther
A man who doubts himself shouldn't have to try too hard for too long, not until he's seasoned.
— Stephen King, The Stand
The belief-transmission network of which we are a part cannot operate without a continuously replenished supply of people to do the transmitting, thus the belief that children are a source of happiness becomes a part of our cultural wisdom simply because the opposite belief unravels the fabric of any society that holds it.
— Daniel M. Gilbert, Stumbling on Happiness
Now if you are told that some piece of information will come as a shock to you, the chances are that you will really feel shocked, even if the information itself isn't of the slightest importance.
— Walter R. Brooks, Freddy and Simon the Dictator
Because the way people are built, Hermione, the way people are built to feel inside -" Harry put a hand over his own heart, in the anatomically correct position, then paused and moved his hand up to point toward his head at around the ear level, "- is that they hurt when they see their friends hurting. Someone inside their circle of concern, a member of their own tribe. That feeling has an off-switch, an off-switch labeled 'enemy' or 'foreigner' or sometimes just 'stranger'. That's how people are, if they don't learn otherwise.
— Eliezer Yudkowsky, Harry Potter and the Methods of Rationality
Human empathy, while not found on any chart of human anatomy, is the reason we instinctively hurt for our children… it is the reason that one human being’s intensely personal tests and triumphs can be harnessed to the good of countless others.
— Keith Ablow, The 7: Seven Wonders That Will Change Your Life
Go through the proper motions each day and you'll soon begin to feel the corresponding emotions!
— George W. Crane
A few years ago, Tor Wager, a neuroscientist at Columbia University, wanted to figure out why placebos were so effective. His experiment was brutally straightforward: he gave college students electric shocks while they were stuck in an fMRI machine. (The subjects were well compensated, at least by undergraduate standards.)
— Jonah Lehrer, How We Decide
There is no Archimedean point from which to judge, since the psyche is indistinguishable from its manifestations. The psyche is the object of psychology, and -fatally enough- also its subject. There is no getting away from this fact."Psychology and Religion" (1938). In CW 11: Psychology and Religion: West and East. P.8
— C.G. Jung, Psychology and Religion
The unrealistic nature of these tales (which narrowminded rationalists object to) is an important device, because it makes obvious that the fairy tales’ concern is not useful information about the external world, but the inner process taking place in an individual.
— Bruno Bettelheim, The Uses of Enchantment: The Meaning and Importance of Fairy Tales
When one does not have what one wants, one must want what one has.
— Sigmund Freud
Mental Health is measured though motivation to live; the more plans you have and the more significant they are, the more healthy you are.
— Mark Brightlife, Overcoming Depression: Pragmatic Solutions to Deal with Suicidal Thoughts
For the most part, what we think of as 'I' is nothing more than a whole heap of conditioning.
— Etienne de L'Amour, Escape from the Shadowlands
Psychology either tends to glorify human beings or trivialize them, leaving out the complexity of the human soul and the demands of God.
— Gene Edward Veith Jr., Loving God with All Your Mind: Thinking as a Christian in a Postmodern World
As the Great Creatrix, the feminine is no vessel and passage for an alien, masculine Other that condescends towards her, enters into her, and favors her with the seed of living. Life originates in her and issues from her, and the light that appears projected on the night sky, which she is herself, is rooted in her depths. For she is not only the protomantis, the first and great Prophetess, but also she who gives birth to the Spirit-Light, which, like consciousness and the illumination that arises in transformation, is rooted in her creative efficacy. She is the creative Earth, which not only brings forth and swallows life, but as that which transforms also lets the dead thing be resurrected and leads the lower to the higher. All developments and transformations that lead from the simple and insignificant through all gradations of life to the complicated and intricately differentiated fall under her sovereignty. This matriarchal world is geocentric; the stars and signs of the zodiac are the heavenly girdle of the Earth Goddess and are arranged around her as the true center around which everything revolves.
— Erich Neumann, The Fear of the Feminine and Other Essays on Feminine Psychology
Psychological motivation is the desire to change relations between two points, and so psychology is the study of equations with two unbound variables. ("America: Three Audiences")
— William S. Wilson, Why I Don't Write Like Franz Kafka
Psychology has a long past, but only a short history
— Herman Ebbinghaus
How do you know if your inner voice or sense of guidance is your deeper-self speaking its wisdom, your unconscious childhood programming, or the voice of your Aunt Matilda? Discerning the difference between an automatic response stemming from family beliefs, childhood distortions, or culture, and guidance from our connection with our higher/deeper self, makes life, success, and relationships so much easier.
— Jennifer Howard
If I were dropped out of a plane into the ocean and told the nearest land was a thousand miles away, I'd still swim. And I'd despise the one who gave up.
— Abraham H. Maslow
Childhood trauma does not come in one single package.
— Asa Don Brown
There is no illness that is not exacerbated by stress.
— Allan Lokos, Patience: The Art of Peaceful Living
Resiliency is the essence of a global positive framework...
— Asa Don Brown, The effects of childhood trauma on adult perception and worldview
Psychologist: "This, ah, is a new sort of, ah, psychopathology that we're only now beginning to, ah, understand. These, ah, super-serial killers have no, ah, 'type' but, ah, rather consider everyone to be their 't
— Barry Lyga, I Hunt Killers - Free Preview (The First 10 Chapters): with Bonus Prequel Short Story "Career Day"
Resiliency is not gender-, age-, or intellectually specific...
— Asa Don Brown
People who seek psychotherapy for psychological, behavioral or relationship problems tend to experience a wide range of bodily complaints...The body can express emotional issues a person may have difficulty processing consciously...I believe that the vast majority of people don't recognize what their bodies are really telling them. The way I see it, our emotions are music and our bodies are instruments that play the discordant tunes. But if we don't know how to read music, we just think the instrument is defective.
— Charlette Mikulka
There is a noticeable element of the pathological in some current leftist critiques, which I tend to attribute to feelings of guilt allied to feelings of impotence. Not an attractive combination, because it results in self-hatred.
— Christopher Hitchens, Christopher Hitchens and His Critics: Terror, Iraq, and the Left
Shall we go?' he murmured, perhaps regretting his decision to show me his army of plastic cartoon figurines.
— Jon Ronson, The Psychopath Test: A Journey Through the Madness Industry
Sometimes when a person is not being heard, it is appropriate to blame him or her. Perhaps he or she is speaking obscurely; perhaps he is claiming too much; perhaps she is speaking rather too personally. And one can, perhaps, charge Spielrein on all three counts. But, on balance, her inability to win recognition for her insight into repression was not her fault; it was Freud’s and Jung’s. Preoccupied with their own theories, and with each other, the two men simply did not pause even to take in the ideas of this junior colleague let alone to lend a helping hand in finding a more felicitous expression for her thought. More ominously still, both men privately justified their disregard by implicitly casting her once more into the role of patient, as though that role somehow precluded a person from having a voice or a vision of his or her own. It was and remains a damning comment on how psychoanalysis was evolving that so unfair a rhetorical maneuver, one so at odds with the essential genius of the new therapeutic method, came so easily to hand. In the great race between Freud and Jung to systematize psychoanalytic theory, to codify it once and for all, a simpler truth was lost sight of: Sometimes a person is not heard because she is not listened to.
— John Kerr, A Most Dangerous Method: The Story of Jung, Freud & Sabina Spielrein
In this way the ego detaches itself from the external world. It is more correct to say: Originally the ego includes everything, later it detaches from itself the external world. The ego-feeling we are aware of now is thus only a shrunken vestige of a far more extensive feeling - a feeling which embraced the universe and expressed an inseparable connection of the ego with the external world.
— Sigmund Freud, Civilization and Its Discontents
Everyone needed an obsession.
— Abraham Verghese, Cutting for Stone
Angie: "How do I pitch these ideas to her?"Mira: "From a distance, preferably wearing body armor.
— Kristin Hannah, The Things We Do for Love
A modern definition of equanimity: cool. This refers to one whose mind remains stable & calm in all situations.
— Allan Lokos, Pocket Peace: Effective Practices for Enlightened Living
The healthier people are, the more they are willing to admit to their limitations and so the more open they are to the possibility of improvement.
— Robin Skynner, Life and How to Survive It
Tennis is the loneliest sport
— Andre Agassi
If we turn to those restrictions that only apply to certain classes of society, we encounter a state of things which is glaringly obvious and has always been recognized. It is to be expected that the neglected classes will grudge the favoured ones their privileges and that they will do everything in their to power to rid themselves of their own surplus of privation. Where this is not possible a lasting measure of discontent will obtain within this culture, and this may lead to dangerous outbreaks. But if a culture has not got beyond the stage in which the satisfaction of one group of its members necessarily involves the suppression of another, perhaps the majority---and this is the case in all modern cultures,---it is intelligible that these suppressed classes should develop an intense hostility to the culture; a culture, whose existence they make possible by their labour, but in whose resources they have too small a share. In such conditions one must not expect to find an internalization of the cultural prohibitions among the suppressed classes; indeed they are not even prepared to acknowledge these prohibitions, intent, as they are, on the destruction of the culture itself and perhaps even of the assumptions on which it rests. These classes are so manifestly hostile to culture that on that account the more latent hostility of the better provided social strata has been overlooked. It need not be said that a culture which leaves unsatisfied and drives to rebelliousness so large a number of its members neither has a prospect of continued existence, nor deserves it.
— Sigmund Freud, The Future of an Illusion
As for the boys..."vulnerable fathers turn to time-honored defensive responses to maintain the function that father knows best' Parents, especially fathers, teach their sons to obey authority no matter what.
— Martha Stout, The Sociopath Next Door
Our actions speak for us & they speak loudly.
— Allan Lokos, Patience: The Art of Peaceful Living
The [character-]armored, mechanistically rigid person thinks mechanistically, produces mechanistic tools, and forms a mechanistic conception of nature.The armored person who feels his orgonotic body excitations in spite of his biological rigidity, but does not understand them, is mystic man. He is interested not in "material" but in "spiritual" things. He forms a mystical, supernatural idea about nature.Both the mechanist and the mystic stand inside the limits and conceptual laws of a civilization which is ruled by a contradictory and murderous mixture of machines and gods. This civilization forms the mechanistic-mystical structures of men, and the mechanistic-mystical character structures keep reproducing a the mechanistic-mystical civilization. Both mechanists and mystics find themselves inside the framework of human structure in a civilization conditioned by mechanistics and mysticism. They cannot grasp the basic problems of this civilization because their thinking and philosophy correspond exactly to the condition they project and continue to reproduce. In order to realize the power of mysticism, one has only to think of the murderous conflict between Hindus and Muslims at the time India was divided. To comprehend what mechanistic civilization means, think of the "age of the atom bomb.
— Wilhelm Reich, Ether, God and devil : cosmic superimposition
Praise & esteem can feel good, which is fine, but don't look to them for inner peace & lasting happiness.
— Allan Lokos, Patience: The Art of Peaceful Living
Like water poured from one vessel to another, metta ﬂows freely, taking the shape of each situation without changing its essence.
— Sharon Salzberg, Lovingkindness: The Revolutionary Art of Happiness
He feels the need to hear a human voice—a fully human voice like his own. Sometimes he laughs like a hyena or roars like a lion—his idea of a hyena his idea of a lion.
— Margaret Atwood, Oryx and Crake
We are all in this together. Our happiness inextricably is tied to that of all beings.
— Allan Lokos, Patience: The Art of Peaceful Living
There is no divinity achieved unless the individual mind submits itself to a mind supposed supreme. The Bible in its simplest form is simply that—a book. When you give it your mind it becomes powerful.
— Dew Platt, Failure&solitude
We can understand the inherent radiance & purity of our minds by understanding metta. Like the mind, metta is not distorted by what it encounters.
— Sharon Salzberg, Lovingkindness: The Revolutionary Art of Happiness
Although we look at ourselves as One, in the real world we always experience ourselves as TWO.
— Joey Lawsin
Although social and personal circumstances will play their part in contributing to how an individual suffers, in Buddhist thought blame is seen as a "poison" that will only lead to negative actions and will do nothing to reduce suffering.
— Desmond Biddulph, Teachings of the Buddha: The Wisdom of The Dharma, from The Pali Canon to The Sutras
When we practice metta, we open continuously to the truth of our actual experience, changing our relationship to life.
— Sharon Salzberg, Lovingkindness: The Revolutionary Art of Happiness
People in the midst of losing their patience are certainly experiencing as aspect of dukkha.
— Allan Lokos, Patience: The Art of Peaceful Living
When the only answer a little girl ever receives is no, from her parents or her teachers or her world, at some point she stops asking for what she wants. She begins to expect nothing, so as not to be disappointed when that exactly what she gets. But, it turns out, I do have wants.
— Laura Fitzgerald, Veil of Roses
Though the 'Thou' is not an 'It', it is also not "another 'I'". He who treats a person as "another 'I'" does not really see that person but only a projected image of himself. Such a relation, despite the warmest "personal" feeling is really 'I'-'It'.
— Mauric Friedman, Martin Buber: The Life of Dialogue
Most of our failures in understanding one another have less to do with what is heard than with what is intended and what is inferred.
— George Armitage Miller
Denial is a useful defense mechanism until it's not.
— Rosalind Kaplan
We live in a society that shuns guilt, hardly knows it. It is drummed into us: "Don't feel guilty." No one wants to pay the price of reconciliation, of atonement, of forgiveness.
— Robert Dykstra, She Never Said Good-Bye
Mathilde made an effort to use the more intimate form; she was evidently more attentive to this unusual way of speaking than to what she was saying. This use of the singular form, stripped of the tone of affection, ceased, after a moment, to afford Julien any pleasure, he was astonished at the absence of happiness; finally, in order to feel it, he had recourse to his reason. He saw himself highly esteemed by this girl who was so proud, and never bestowed unrestricted praise; by this line of reasoning he arrived at a gratification of his self-esteem.
— Stendhal, The Red and the Black
Obviously, there must be some connection between the subordination of actual individuals and the grotesque exaltation of symbolic ones like Kim Il Sung.
— Christopher Hitchens
If a man felt hostility and aversion, but saw that he had poor or no grounds for his feeling, the remedy was to look for good or at least better grounds--a search hid predisposing thoughts would help him in.
— James Gould Cozzens, The Just and the Unjust
The Elsinore's bow tilted skyward while her stern fell into a foaming valley. Not a man had gained his feet. Bridge and men swept back toward me and fetched up against the mizzen-shrouds. And then that prodigious, incredible old man appeared out of the water, on his two legs, upright, dragging with him, a man in each hand, the helpless forms of Nancy and the Faun. My heart leapt at beholding this mighty figure of a man-killer and slave-driver, it is true, but who sprang first into the teeth of danger so that his slaves might follow, and who emerged with a half-drowned slave in either hand.I knew augustness and pride as I gazed--pride that my eyes were blue, like his; that my skin was blond, like his; that my place was aft with him, and with the Samurai, in the high place of government and command. I nearly wept with the chill of pride that was akin to awe and that tingled and bristled along my spinal column and in my brain. As for the rest--the weaklings and the rejected, and the dark-pigmented things, the half-castes, the mongrel-bloods, and the dregs of long-conquered races--how could they count? My heels were iron as I gazed on them in their peril and weakness. Lord! Lord! For ten thousand generations and centuries we had stamped upon their faces and enslaved them to the toil of our will.
— Jack London, The Mutiny of the Elsinore
...American psychology effectively guaranteed its place as a cultural icon by helping to create the pathologies it simultaneously promised to treat. (p. 37)
— Alvin Dueck, Peaceable Psychology, A: Christian Therapy in a World of Many Cultures
This has suggested to some that the very structure of human thought is oppositional-that is to say, rational and associative, rather than linear and categorical.
— Marcel Danesi, X-Rated!: The Power of Mythic Symbolism in Popular Culture
There is no crime in anyone’s blood any more than there is goodness in the blood of others. Criminals are not born. They are made by hunger, want and injustice.
— Khuswant Singh, Train To Pakistan
changing your habits is your key to changing your life
— kchaou mouna
Under the guise of helping the sick, oppressed and hopeless, psychiatry is paving the way for authoritarian governments to suppress a whole society furthermore, with drugs and obscene practices that promote, not only hypnotic suggestions, but also highly suggestible individuals which, otherwise, would oppose a whole repressive system that threatens both their existence and the existence of future generations on Earth. And so, one can very well say that, psychiatry, aided by pharmaceutical corporations and power-driven governments, or merely governments fearful of their own people and the extinction of immoral politics, will contribute vastly to the extermination and full extinction of the human race.
— Robin Sacredfire
Writing is a series of verbal suggestions designed to provoke a psychological reaction and an aesthetic experience.
— Stewart Stafford
Introspection does not need to be a still life. It can be an active alchemy.
— Anaïs Nin, The Diary of Anaïs Nin, Vol. 1: 1931-1934
Feelings are what you experience when you try to access the immeasurable.
— Steven Paglierani, Finding Personal Truth (in the too-much-information age) Book 1: Solving the Mind Body Mystery
Freedom and respect for the individual are rooted in the Old Testament, which convinced man that he makes his own history, that he is responsible for his history. Such freedom implies that a man throws off his inertia, that he does not cling arbitrarily to tradition, that he strives knowledge and accepts moral responsibility. The fear of freedom is the fear of assuming responsibility.Freedom can never be completely safeguarded by rules and laws. It is as much dependent on courage, integrity, and responsibility of each of us as it is on these qualities in those who govern. Every trait in us and our leaders which points to passive submission to mere power betrays democratic freedom.
— Joost A.M. Meerloo
How might it feel to be fully present in every moment all of the time?
— Joyce Rachelle
As I'd seen over and again, people who see themselves as victims sometimes don't notice when they become oppressors.
— Souad Mekhennet, I Was Told to Come Alone: My Journey Behind the Lines of Jihad
Every man is a poet at heart.
— Sigmund Freud
This concept upends the way most people think about their subjective experienceof life. We tend to place a lot of emphasis on our circumstances, assuming that whathappens to us (or fails to happen) determines how we feel. From this perspective, thesmall-scale details of how you spend your day aren’t that important, because whatmatters are the large-scale outcomes, such as whether or not you get a promotion ormove to that nicer apartment. According to Gallagher, decades of research contradictthis understanding. Our brains instead construct our worldview based on what we payattention to. If you focus on a cancer diagnosis, you and your life become unhappy anddark, but if you focus instead on an evening martini, you and your life become morepleasant—even though the circumstances in both scenarios are the same. As Gallaghersummarizes: “Who you are, what you think, feel, and do, what you love—is the sum ofwhat you focus on.
— Cal Newport, Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World
You turn words, you deceive people.
— Alex Sebastianutti
The abnegation of empathy in the case of something as complex and variable as sexual taste is a dangerous thing. The particular misfortune of the paedophile is not that he is a walking manifestation of evil but that his or her sexual development (as much subject to nature, nurture and questions of identity as any of ours) has resulted in a potentially very harmful and unacceptable attraction. We rightly call it a disorder because of these damaging effects, but merely reacting with horror will do little towards solving a complex and difficult issue stemming from a sexual drive as real and compulsive as any of us are used to.
— Derren Brown, Happy: Why More or Less Everything is Absolutely Fine
Half of life is lost in charming others.The other half is lost in going through anxieties caused by others.Leave this play. You have played enough.
— Rumi
Everyone can be corrupted, even the great and the good.
— Mark Dysan, The Evil Trance
The Goth boy stares at me, and I give him a what-are-you-looking-at stare right back. “I’m dead,” he says in a dull monotone. “Pardon me?” Adriana asks, but he keeps staring at me. “You’re dead, too. Look at your veins. They’re blue.” He points at my forearms where dark veins run their lengths. “You’re rotting like me.” I glance to Adriana, hands clasped and praying that she won’t leave me here. Adriana’s stopped crying now and squints at the boy before standing to pull closed the curtain that rings my cot. “Crazy,” she says with an uncertain smile. “You’re not rotting.” . . . ninety-nine, one hundred . “No,” I reply. “But I will if you leave me here.
— Michael F. Stewart, Counting Wolves
a human body has a machine which he uses so learn how this machine works to get the best result.
— kchaou mouna
a human body has a machine which he uses , so learn more about how this machine works to get the best result .
— kchaou mouna
We should not judge people or try to figure out what makes them tick. We should leave them the hell alone.
— Marty Rubin
We shouldn't judge people or try to figure out what makes them tick. We should just leave them the hell alone.
— Marty Rubin
Jealousy is projected self-pity.
— Kevin Focke
Invalidating someone else is not merely disagreeing with something that the other person said. It is a process in which individuals communicate to another that the opinions and emotions of the target are invalid, irrational, selfish, uncaring, stupid, most likely insane, and wrong, wrong, wrong. Invalidators let it be known directly or indirectly that their targets views and feelings do not count for anything to anybody at any time or in any way.
— David M. Allen
Has it not occurred to you that, conversely, other people do not have your difficulties because they do not react as you do to what happens?
— Idries Shah, Seeker After Truth
Whatever piece of unconscious we take and work through brings light to humanity.
— Carl Jung, Cornwall Seminar, Pages 1-5.
But just as my philosophy had ceased to interest me as soon as it was formulated into a set of principles so, when I saw myself being imitated, I realised at once what an incubus my aesthetic personality might become if I were to be trapped within it. Imitation changes, not the impersonator, but the impersonated.
— Peter Ackroyd, The Last Testament of Oscar Wilde
Madness is the inability to communicate your ideas. It’s as if you were in foreign country, able to see and understand everything that's going on around you, but incapable of explaining what you need to know or of being helped, because you don't understand the language they speak there." 'We've all felt that.' 'And all of us, one way or another, are mad.
— Paulo Coelho, Veronika Decides to Die
The study of psychological trauma has repeatedly led into realms of the unthinkable and foundered on fundamental questions of belief.
— Judith Lewis Herman, Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror
There is a nearly unerring, unconscious radar that zeros in on relationships that repeat our childhood experiences.
— Joan Borysenko, Guilt is the Teacher, Love is the Lesson
There is something quite wonderful about sharing a secret.
— Joyce Rachelle
If you have ever felt slightly nauseous walking through an aged care facility, puckered your face against a smell, observed a grown woman clutching a dolly with desperation, felt a flood of melancholy as death fills your view – then you are in a perfect position to be a supportive psychotherapist for those whose lives are peppered with this everyday.
— Felicity Chapman
The only way we can revive our memories, if we are willing to ponder about the events that was never discussed for years by looking back at old photos or written texts which gives us a clue about the event we are trying to recall about. If that strategy is accomplished, we will have a clear episodic memory about that particular event that we perceive it as very significant to us.
— Saaif Alam
I wanted to evaluate my own escape from the crowds in 5 different stages so that I could clarify my thoughts and help my readers get more benefits.(1) Getting away from the media(2) Getting away from the big city(3) Going to nature as a life style(4) Getting away from the social media(5) Being only with people I want
— Korel Eraybar, Guide to getting rid of crowds
I'm not constantly looking for the "right" in my thoughts. I am, actually, scared of absolute “rights”. Therefore, I don't think my book will appeal to people who seek concrete formulas from me to be happy and who have designed their lives mechanically. But I do believe my book can give something to people who live their lives going from information to information like a bee, who depend on their own syntheses as the outcomes and have flexible thought, and who could be an "individual".
— Korel Eraybar, Guide to getting rid of crowds
Getting away from the media was the first step of breaking away from the crowds, and let me clearly state, not in 1 day, 5 days, 10 days but in 4-5 months, I started to feel relief in myself, and I had the ability to think more positively about the things I experienced. I know that there are millions of people around me who believe that following current events and knowing them, as I did once, is an important thing. Besides, I also know that they are the millions of people who have not been able to build their own world yet.
— Korel Eraybar, Guide to getting rid of crowds
The fully human person is in deep and meaningful contact with the world outside of him. He not only listens to himself, but to the voices of the world. The breadth of his own individual experience is infinitely multiplied through a sensitive empathy with others. He suffers with the suffering, rejoices with the joyful. He is born again in every springtime, feels the impact of the great mysteries of life: birth, growth, love, suffering, death. His heart skips along with the 'young lovers', and he knows something of the exhilaration that is in them. He also knows the ghetto's philosophy of despair, the loneliness of suffering without relief, and the bell never tolls without tolling in some strange way for him.
— John Powell, Why Am I Afraid to Tell You Who I Am?/Why Am I Afraid To Love: Insights Into Personal Growth
Harold lies in the darkened room with curtains drawn. It is one thirty in the afternoon and his lunch tray seems to almost sigh at the untouched food. His words are soft and not many. He listens, looking down, as you speak about concerned staff referring him to a counselling program – you are here to see if he is interested. “I’m fine,” he says, in a rare attempt to meet your eye, and it is clear to you that he is not. He is 88 years old and five months ago his right leg had to be amputated due to complications with diabetes. Immediately after, he was transferred to an aged care facility an hours drive from his wife Elizabeth, two years his senior, who could no long care for him at home. A month after that he was transferred to this facility; his wife can now more easily visit him. But, he tells you, he does not know why she bothers. “There’s no point,” he says, and you wonder if he is also referring to being alive.
— Felicity Chapman - Counselling and Psychotherapy with Older People in Care
The true essence of vedanta focuses upon subject rather than object.
— Pawan Parashar
Healthy brains create a healthy society.
— Abhijit Naskar, I Am The Thread: My Mission
Psychology as a science has its limitations, and, as the logical consequence of theology is mysticism, so the ultimate consequence of psychology is love.
— Erich Fromm, The Art of Loving
Most people, the minute they meet you, were sizing you up for some competition for resources. It was as if everyone lived in fear of a shipwreck, where only so many people would fit on the lifeboat, and they were constantly trying to stake out their property and identify dispensable people – people they could get rid of.... Everyone is trying to reassure themselves: I'm not going to get kicked off the boat, they are. They're always separating people into two groups, allies and dispensable people... The number of people who want to understand what you're like instead of trying to figure out whether you get to stay on the boat - it's really limited.
— Elif Batuman, The Idiot
It is generally argued that our experience of free will presents a compelling mystery: On the one hand, we can't make sense of it in scientific terms; on the other, we feel that we are the authors of our own thoughts and actions.
— Sam Harris, Free Will
You don't want to think about it, but there's an ethical limit to what anyone should have to endure. You can't just negate that with sentimentality. With the idea of some indomitable spirit. That's a fairy tale. It's what people say about other people, to avoid the wretchedness. It's just cruelty by other means. Requiring a person to stay alive. For you.
— Adam Haslett, Imagine Me Gone
Complexity is a product of unawareness and simplicity a result of awareness! Uncomplex yourself, Live Life!
— Ramana Pemmaraju
I believe that even our most abstract and philosophical views spring from an intensely personal base.
— Carl R. Rogers, Man and the Science of Man
All we've got is Now. Life, composed of a billion moments, from our first to our last thoughts.
— Max McKeown, #NOW: The Surprising Truth About the Power of Now
It was as if single nights had the duration of centuries, so within that time the most profound alterations in the whole of mankind, in the earth itself and the whole solar system could very well have taken place.
— Daniel Paul Schreber, Memoirs of My Nervous Illness
In the sphere of human relations, faith is an indispensable quality of any significant friendship or love. "Having faith" in another person means to be certain of the reliability and unchangeability of his fundamental attitudes, of the core of his personality, of his love. By this I do not mean that a person may not change his opinions, but that his basic motivations remain the same; that, for instance, his respect for life and human dignity is part of himself, not subject to change.
— Erich Fromm, The Art of Loving
For me ignorant is not illiterate or public, but is trying to review his culture ...You have to run away from them, they did not care what they read, but a number of what they read ...
— Iridea
Feeling awful is physiological you say.God I hate you, I say. Yes you can find the neurons for feeling awful. Do you think you can find the neurons for the fact I hate you?
— Alice Notley, In the Pines
The faculty to think objectively is reason; the emotional attitude behind reason is that of humility. To be objective, to use one's reason, is possible only if one has achieved an attitude of humility, if one has emerged from the dreams of omniscience and omnipotence which one has as a child.
— Erich Fromm, The Art of Loving
The only way in which the world can be grasped ultimately lies, not in thought, but in the act, in the experience of oneness.Thus paradoxical logic leads to the conclusion that the love of God is neither the knowledge of God in thought, nor the thought of one's love of God, but the act of experiencing the oneness with God.
— Erich Fromm, The Art of Loving
To be concentrated means to live fully in the present, in the here and now, and not to think of the next thing to be done, while I am doing something right now.
— Erich Fromm, The Art of Loving
Modern man thinks he loses something — time — when he does not do things quickly
—  yet he does not know what to do with the time he gains — except kill it.
Invisibility can be good as a superpower. But psychiatry reveals people don't like it very much.
— Joyce Rachelle
The child starts out by being attached to his mother as "the ground of all being." He feels helpless and needs the all-enveloping love of mother. He then turns to father as the new center of his affections, father being a guiding principle for thought and action; in this stage he is motivated by the need to acquire father's praise, and to avoid his displeasure. In the stage of full maturity he has freed himself from the person of mother and of father as protecting and commanding powers; he has established the motherly and fatherly principles in himself. He has become his own father and mother; he is father and mother. In the history of the human race we see—and can anticipate—the same development: from the beginning of the love for God as the helpless attachment to a mother Goddess, through the obedient attachment to a fatherly God, to a mature stage where God ceases to be an outside power, where man has incorporated the principles of love and justice into himself, where he has become one with God, and eventually, to a point where he speaks of God only in a poetic, symbolic sense.
— Erich Fromm, The Art of Loving
To love somebody is not just a strong feeling—it is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise. If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go. How can I judge that it will stay forever, when my act does not involve judgment and decision?
— Erich Fromm, The Art of Loving
Erotic love, if it is love, has one premise. That I love from the essence of my being—and experience the other person in the essence of his or her being. In essence, all human beings are identical. We are all part of One; we are One.
— Erich Fromm, The Art of Loving
The second factor helping to bring the dissociative disorders back into the mainstream was the Vietnam War. For sociological reasons originating outside psychology and psychiatry, the Vietnam War and the posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD) that arose from it were not forgotten when the veterans returned home, as had been the case in the two world wars and the Korean War. The realization that real, severe trauma could have serious long-term psychopathological consequences was forced on society as a whole by Vietnam. Once this principle was accepted, it as a short leap to the conclusion that severe childhood trauma might have serious sequelae lasting into adulthood.
— Colin A. Ross
Bowlby's conviction that attachment needs continue throughout life and are not outgrown has important implications for psychotherapy. It means that the therapist inevitably becomes an important attachment figure for the patient, and that this is not necessarily best seen as a 'regression' to infantile dependence (the developmental 'train' going into reverse), but rather the activation of attachment needs that have been previously suppressed. Heinz Kohut (1977) has based his 'self psychology' on a similar perspective. He describes 'selfobject needs' that continue from infancy throughout life and comprise an individual's need for empathic responsiveness from parents, friends, lovers, spouses (and therapists). This responsiveness brings a sense of aliveness and meaning, security and self-esteem to a person's existence. Its lack leads to narcissistic disturbances of personality characterised by the desperate search for selfobjects - for example, idealisation of the therapist or the development of an erotic transference. When, as they inevitably will, these prove inadequate (as did the original environment), the person responds with 'narcissistic rage' and disappointment, which, in the absence of an adequate 'selfobject' cannot be dealt with in a productive way.
— Jeremy Holmes, John Bowlby and Attachment Theory
You're not to achieve anything, on the contrary you are to drop whatever you have accumulated over ages and its difficult mind you, not that its part of you, but YOU have owned this mental clutter unconsciously. The moment you unburden yourself, for the first time YOU ARE!, never before.
— Ramana Pemmaraju
When a person feels that he has not been able to make sense of his own life, he tries to make sense of it in terms of the life of his children. But one is bound to fail within oneself and for the children. The former because the problem of existence can be solved by each one only for himself, and not by proxy; the latter because one lacks in the very qualities which one needs to guide the children in their own search for an answer.
— Erich Fromm, The Art of Loving