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But love doesn’t control, and I suppose that’s why it’s the ultimate risk. In the end, we have to hope the person we’re giving our heart to won’t break it, and be willing to forgive them when they do, even as they will forgive us. Real love stories don’t have dictators, they have participants. Love is an ever-changing, complicated, choose-your-own adventure narrative that offers the world but guarantees nothing. When you climb a mountain or sail an ocean, you’re rewarded for staying in control. Perhaps that’s another reason true intimacy is so frightening. It’s the one thing we all want, and must give up control to get.
— Donald Miller, Scary Close: Dropping the Act and Finding True Intimacy
Sometimes I think the greatest things God teaches us are only found when we realize that we were never in control in the first place. I think your need to control things is just your fear of the unknown. Don’t miss out on the blessings He has for you just because you’re scared.
— Erynn Mangum, Swing Lowe
Just because you can, doesn't mean you should.
— Kay Whitley, Out Loud: A collection of spoken word poetry
You are in control only if you control yourself.
— Tapan Ghosh, Faceless The Only Way Out
God is in control in every circumstance.
— Lailah Gifty Akita
When men set out to create order, they create only misery.
— Marty Rubin
Revenge is starting a fire you can't control.
— Marty Rubin
You think that you're in control of your life.Well, think again.
— Anthony T. Hincks
And then Mum spoons the coffee a little as if she’s having fantasies of flinging it in Britt-Marie’s face. But in a controlled way.
— Fredrik Backman, My Grandmother Asked Me to Tell You She's Sorry
Avoid letting circumstances control your decisions and dictate your actions, thereby controlling your life.
— Steven Redhead, Life Is A Cocktail
If the truth gets in the way, I will remove it. But truth be told, removing the truth never removes the truth.
— Craig D. Lounsbrough
If you dont want to feel that you are controlled, Make sure to Follow the below Checklist :1. Make your Own Business Before you Die : because then you know that you are controlling your life with your money not someone else money and therefore you gain Freedom 2. Never have your only Fuck Buddy/GirlFriend as your Work Colleague, Have more than one fuck buffy if you cant resist and dont share much info | You never know if your boss is paying her to get information 3. Once you become Wealthy and Rich, Never Submit or Believe anything if you get approached by a Secret Organization or So called Illuminati. A Deal with the Devil Is NEVER INTO YOUR BENEFIT but its always a DECEPTION 4. Make sure to Pray Tactically Either you are Christian, Muslim, Budha or any Religion, Spirituality Helps you Stand up on your Feet and the help you get is from a Spirit Power Someone you can Trust 5. Educate and keep educating yourself, Knowledge is Power | Be Aware of All 6. Either dont give all the information of yourself or if you cant then give False information or close but to the point to be as Diplomatic As Possible. Also be aware of the information that you have given in order to consider it should a follow up or weird moments appear to be ready with your ConscienceOk there is more to the checklist but since point 6 of this checklist states that not to give all the information, i will give publicly those but i will also add 2 more below7. Have No FEAR as Control is usually conducted by FEAR Control | Practice no FEAR Techniques on a regular basis 8. Be innovative ! keep changing so you dont have a Standard Portfolio about you | you are that guy that changes and is hard to Keep up
— Manos Abou Chabke
He was Control, and he was in control.
— Jeff VanderMeer, Authority
It's all about control.
— Anthony T. Hincks
I came to realize that good and evil were out of my reach, that time was the only thing I had any control over. I could buy time, create intervals. I could not truly make the world a better place, but I could make part of it a better place for a short while.
— Sylvain Neuvel, Waking Gods
Fear,’ he whispered. ‘There is nothing quite like it. I love how it looks, I love how it feels, I love how it smells. And I especially love the sound of it.’ I felt his tongue on my cheek. ‘I even love the taste of it
— B.A. Paris, Behind Closed Doors
She bent her finger and straightened it. The mystery was in the instant before it moved, the dividing moment between not moving and moving, when her intention took effect. It was like a wave breaking. If she could only find herself at the crest, she thought, she might find the secret of herself, that part of her that was really in charge.
— Ian McEwan, Atonement
The minority (the considered one percent of the one percent of the one percent of the one percent of humanity…) that has “worked hard” its way to obscene riches and power depriving human beings of vital necessities like water and food is a part of us, not an alien enemy.They are not the devil, nor satan.Just men (like us)Men who are taught what they know (like us)What to think (like us)Men who are lied to (like us)Manipulated (like us)Processed (like us)Indoctrinated (…. ..)
— Haroutioun Bochnakian, The Human Consensus and The Ultimate Project Of Humanity
That was what finally decided me. I wanted to be near him, to touch him, but what I really wanted more than that was answers, for the conflict within me to end. I needed control.
— Cristina Rayne, Claimed by the Elven King: Part One
Maybe her husband was right: maybe change didn't necessarily mean disaster. Maybe the mess of life was the very thing she was supposed to enjoy instead of always fighting it, trying to impose order. The universe was trying to tell her something - was it, perhaps, to let go?
— Wendy Francis, The Summer of Good Intentions
He feels the bleakness crawling into his skull; Franco breaths in steadily, trying to tune in all out, that pressure on your brain, eroding focus, diverting the flow of thought down old ruinous canals...
— Irvine Welsh
We think we can control our lives, but our lives control us. And everything that touches our lives controls us. People have less power than they think they do. It's just the reactions we control.
— Tarryn Fisher, F*ck Love
We have access to practical, ethical and scientifically established methods of birth control. So I think that is the most ethical way to reduce our population.
— Christian de Duve
Till at last the child's mind is these suggestions, and the sum of the suggestions is the child's mind. And not the child's mind only. The adult's mind too–all his life long. The mind that judges and desires and decides–made up of these suggestions. But all these suggestions are OUR suggestions!" The Director almost shouted in his triumph. "Suggestions from the State.
— Huxley, Aldous, Brave New World
We've all got the power to kill in our hands, but most of us are afraid to use it. Those who aren't, control life itself.
— Richard Ramirez
Sometimes people feel they need to control everything, as if they could! Matters of life and death are out of your hands. The more you come to realize this, the harder you try to prove that you can control SOMETHING, anything. All you can really control is your response to what happens. You cannot control matters of life or death and because of this you are not accountable. You cannot be held liable for anything that you have no power over. Guilt, shame and blame make no sense when circumstances are beyond your control.
— Kate McGahan, Jack McAfghan: Return from Rainbow Bridge
Case by case, we find that conformity is the easy way, and the path to privilege and prestige; dissidence carries personal costs that may be severe, even in a society that lacks such means of control as deathsquads, psychiatric prisons, or extermination camps. The very structure of the media is designed to induce conformity to established doctrine. In a three-minute stretch between commercials, or in seven hundred words, it is impossible to present unfamiliar thoughts or surprising conclusions with the argument and evidence required to afford them some credibility. Regurgitation of welcome pieties faces no such problem.
— Noam Chomsky, Necessary Illusions: Thought Control in Democratic Societies
The Christian who is truly intimate with Jesus will never draw attention to himself but will only show the evidence of a life where Jesus is completely in control.
— Oswald Chambers, My Utmost for His Highest
So it came to this, that— against the grain, no doubt—the condemned man had to hope the apparatus was in good working order! This, I thought, was a flaw in the system; and, on the face of it, my view was sound enough. On the other hand, I had to admit it proved the efficiency of the system. It came to this; the man under sentence was obliged to collaborate mentally, it was in his interest that all should go off without a hitch.
— Albert Camus, The Stranger
I came to a most profound realization. For the first time in my life, I have complete control over what happens in the here and now. It is not a wish. It is not some concoction of false hope. It is reality in here and now.''HOPE- Season of Romance
— Kaleb Kilton
Soon it would be his turn. Kaine wondered how he would meet Death. His ship was a mess, in every sense of the word. Systems were in disarray, damaged equipment malfunctioning, and control panels shattered by blaster-fire littered the decks. In the fighting, severe hull damage had caused parts of the ship to be sealed off. Dead bodies – or raw red chunks of them – lay everywhere. The corridors were dark where the lights had failed. His footsteps echoed eerily as he ran down them. He’d been on the run for what felt like days. He felt naked, his tattered, sweat-drenched tunic clinging to his body, especially under his breastplate. Fatigue had caused him to discard his body amour. It was of no realistic use anyway, and just made him hotter and sweatier, made stealthy movement more difficult – and weighed him down.
— Christina Engela, Demonspawn
Not To Attempt To Control Sinful Behavior Is To Attempt Godly Principles
— Sunday Adelaja
She had only two modes of operation: complete control or complete insanity.
— Ilona Andrews, Retribution Clause
Some people are like satellite. They can be in the middle of nowhere and still will strike messages like lightning using Whatsapp, Facebook, SMS and Skype to tell others what to do. Dont let people be the "Dick Taters" in your life and stop you from changing your lifestyle. Take control of your life as your happiness is in your hands.
— Rajiv - VRD
You have to control the circumstances and things in your life. They should not control you
— Sunday Adelaja
Control is an illusion—a fact you will learn very fast if you become ill, or have things fall apart in some other way. When we understand vulnerability and suffering as an essential part of being human, our individual fate can be easier to manage.
— Harriet Lerner, The Dance of Fear: Rising Above Anxiety, Fear, and Shame to Be Your Best and Bravest Self
Control people's sexuality and you control them. After all, if people allow you to dictate how they behave in the privacy of their own bedrooms, there is very little that they will not allow you to control.
— Merlyn Gabriel Miller, Sex, Death, Drugs & Madness
He roars, “What have you done?”I don’t answer. My heart beats crazy happy just to see her get across the iron. She’s not burned. She’s still human.“Zara.” His voice is measured. “I need her to maintain control.”“You don’t need to be in control. You’re all trapped. So there’ll be no more stealing boys, no more shooting arrows in the woods, getting people lost. It’s all over.” The metal is cold on my fingers.Devyn grabs more wire, starts another flight. A group of pixies leaps for him, screaming, a wild, chaotic mess. They start clawing at each other, lost in fear and hunger, angry. A pixie in a pink dress shrieks when another wearing a black gown lashes at her, slashing through the skin on her arm.“Zara?” The king tries to be calm and nice. He tries to look human. It doesn’t work. “Do you know what this means? Do you know the power that I’ll lose? The need? We will fight in here. We will kill each other.”“I know,” I say and my voice shakes as I stare at him, this man who is in my blood, but not me. He is not me. Still, I understand his need, his fear. He is stuck in this awful place where there is no moral way to move forward. “I’m so sorry.”And I am.
— Carrie Jones, Need
I thought about how often this was needed in everyday life. How we feel lonely, sometimes to the point of tears, but we don't let those tears come because we are not supposed to cry. Or how we feel a surge of love for a partner but we don't say anything because we're frozen with the fear of what those words might do to the relationship.
— Mitch Albom, Tuesdays with Morrie
Control what you can, but flow with what you can’t.
— Alan Cohen
Now, you and I both know that if you can control the flow of information, you can control everything.
— Dave Eggers, The Circle
We are so busy attempting to manage the result that we fail simply to run the race.
— Terrence Real, How Can I Get Through to You? Closing the Intimacy Gap Between Men and Women
Behind the facade of elected government are a bunch of corporate controlled gangsters running the country.
— Steven Magee
Meetings were an important means of Communist control. They left people no free time, and eliminated the private sphere. The pettiness which dominated them was justified on the grounds that prying into personal details was a way of ensuring thorough soul-cleansing. In fact, pettiness was a fundamental characteristic of a revolution in which intrusiveness and ignorance were celebrated, and envy was incorporated into the system of control.
— Jung Chang, Wild Swans: Three Daughters of China
His eyes never blinked or wavered from mine, encompassing me in a field of control.
— Jazz Feylynn
Relinquish your ideology of control, for it is merely a mirage anyway.
— Sara Secora
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— Petra Hermans
Animal rage is scary, but not as scary as control.
— Lance Conrad, The Price of Nobility
Keep your hand moving. (Don’t pause to reread the line you have just written. That’s stalling and trying to get control of what you’re saying.)
— Natalie Goldberg, Writing Down the Bones: Freeing the Writer Within
We like to control the map of our life and know everything well in advance. But faith is content just knowing that God's promise cannot fail. This, in fact, is the excitement of walking with God.
— Jim Cymbala, Fresh Faith: What Happens When Real Faith Ignites God's People
You'll drive yourself crazy trying to control something that isn't yours to control. Let go. Free yourself. Allow your mind and energy to focus on something positive... to build something beautiful.
— Steve Maraboli
Life is affected, even controlled by how thoughts are communicated in both words and actions.
— Steven Redhead, Life Is Simply A Game
Control is an advertising concept.
— Andrew     Miller, Dub Steps
When we give over our (false sense of) control, and just allow, each change and each new experience becomes less of a worry and more of an exciting new adventure. It can be likened to awaiting Christmas (or birthday) morning as a child: Anticipation of unwrapping a beautiful new gift.
— Camille Lucy, The (Real) Love Experiment: Explore Love, Relationships & the Self
I have learned that as soon as you introduce controls on human behavior, you lose the game, particularly when those controls are at odds with the work.
— John Seddon
I want to give a name to my would-be killer. What should I call him? Something that will ease his presence in my mind, make him look foolish, like he is of no threat and never was, which is in fact the truth. I don't want his real name, which is meaningless to me, but instead something I control, something I own, some way to own that piano-idiot who attacked me.
— Jacob Wren, Rich and Poor
It is regarded as axiomatic that parents have more power then children. This is an inescapable biological fact
—  young children are completely dependent on their parents or other caring adults for survival.
Empowering Women 101: Every woman thinks they are the special person that was forordained to change a man. Do you really think you are better than all the women that tried? Don't marry someone with the arrogant thought your spirituality will magically transform people. Instead, live in such a way that you don't have to change or convince anyone of your worthiness.
— Shannon L. Alder
The jinni sighed. 'I'm less grateful to him than I should be. He's a good and generous man, but I'm not accustomed to relying on someone else. It makes me feel weak.’'How is relying on others a weakness?''How can it be anything else? If for some reason Arbeely died tomorrow, I'd be forced to find another occupation. The event would be outside my control, yet I'd be at its mercy. Is that not weakness?''I suppose. But then, going by your standard, everyone is weak. So why call it a weakness, instead of just the way things are?
— Helene Wecker, The Golem and the Jinni
But we do neither: we never fail, and we never succeed. We are not the designers of our lives. Life is the designer of us. Life is vast and grand, intelligent, clever, and completely unknowable. It always has the last word. It is the last word. Life interrupts us when we are at our most self-assured. Life diverts us when we are hellbent on going elsewhere. Life arrives in a precise and yet unplanned sequence to deliver exactly what we need in order to realize our greatest potential. The delivery is not often what we would choose, and almost never how we intend to satisfy ourselves, because our potential is well beyond our limited, ego-bound choices and self serving intentions.
— Karen Maezen Miller, Hand Wash Cold: Care Instructions for an Ordinary Life
Take full control by creating a life of true bliss through utilising the Power of The Heart.
— Steven Redhead, Unleash The Power of Your Heart and Mind
By being in harmony with your environment you are able to control more precisely what happens.
— Steven Redhead, Unleash The Power of Your Heart and Mind
Are you in control of your life, or are circumstances in control of you.
— Steven Redhead, Life Is Simply A Game
Empowered Women 101: If he has to destroy other people to raise your self esteem and level of trust then he is not a son of God and guess what your not a daughter of God for letting him do it.
— Shannon L. Alder
Be in control of your life, don’t let circumstances come to control you.
— Steven Redhead, Unleash The Power of Your Heart and Mind
I overheard a young man once saying to his wife, "I can't control you. That's the problem and it's been the problem ever since day one!" And then I heard her answer him and heard her terrible voice. "No!" she said. "The problem isn't that you can't control me, the problem is that you're trying to. Why don't you stop worrying about controlling me and start worrying about controlling yourself?
— Merle Shain
Zach wanting to see me next Wednesday is almost like Zach asking me on a date, if I were a regular girl wanting a regular relationship.But I’m not a regular girl. I don’t want to hold hands in the hall at school and slow dance at prom and see a movie with Zach. I don’t want to be the girl he dates senior year and loses interest in when he goes off to college. I want to be just fast enough for Zach to have to run to catch up, because if I stay ahead, I won’t ever have to see his retreating back.
— Laurie Elizabeth Flynn, Firsts
Was it cruel if someone asked for it? Begged for it, even? She always begged. Even now, I could hear her whimpering for me. Christ, those noises she made. A one-way ticket to heaven.
— A. Zavarelli, Stutter
To be psychologically healthy, we have to believe that what we do has some effect on what happens to us. Even if the perception of control is delusional, it usually leads to more productive action than believing that what we do makes no difference.
— Albert J. Bernstein, Emotional Vampires: Dealing with People Who Drain You Dry
I think I know what will help you chill.”The way his eyes devoured me hinted I shouldn’t take the bait, but I did anyhow. “And what would that be?”Noah pressed his body into mine, pushing me against the lockers. “Kissing.”I held my books close to my chest and fought the urge to drop them and pull him close. But that would only encourage his behavior, and good God, bring on his fantastic kissing. Fantastic or not, kissing in public would definitely mean detention and a tardy slip.I ducked underneath his arm and breathed in fresh air, welcoming any scent that didn’t remind me of him. Noah caught up to me, slowing his pace to mine.“You know, you may have never noticed, but we have calculus together,” he said. “You could have waited for me.”“And give you the chance to drag me into the janitor’s closet?
— Katie McGarry, Pushing the Limits
The last five years had been a series of carefully orchestrated events. Every move, every strategy had been poured over in painstaking detail before it was set into motion. Pieces on a chess board. A collision of fate and circumstance. I’d planned for every hitch. Every contingency. Except the one that blindsided me like a vat of acid to the face. I fell in love with her.
— A. Zavarelli, Stutter
I don't want to have these burdens. But I can't bear to turn them over to anyone else, either. Because, despite all the work, I like being in control of my own life.
— Robin Hobb, Ship of Destiny
The more in control the mark thinks they are, the more easily the respond to real control.
— Scott Lynch, The Lies of Locke Lamora
I meant what I said to Embryo about drugs. We don’t mix. What it comes down to for me is I have a hard enough time keeping control over my brain without something else getting in the way.
— Jennifer Niven, All the Bright Places
He only wanted to use me for something. Everyone wanted to use you for some purpose.
— Ralph Ellison
I'm like my cat. I run around in circles in my apartment, because the big bad outside is just too big. And scary. And outside. How do stray cats deal with all the stress of having no protection from all the air that’s going on around there, without anyone to guide and control it into timidity?
— Will Advise, Nothing is here...
The only thing you have 100% control over is you.
— Hyrum Smith
These signs are real. They are also symptoms of a process. The process follows the same form, the same structure. To apprehend it you will follow the signs. All talk of cause and effect is secular history, and secular history is a diversionary tactic. Useful to you, gentlemen, but no longer so to us here. If you want the truth — I know I presume — you must look into the technology of these matters. Even into the hearts of certain molecules — it is they after all which dictate temperatures, pressures, rates of flow, costs, profits, the shapes of towers…''You must ask two questions. First, what is the real nature of synthesis? And then: what is the real nature of control?
— Thomas Pynchon
this very act of consenting to its loss of control is itself the critical event of all crisis. To give up ones stature as the director of ones own existance: this is, for us, the ultimate death, the crisis that undermines our being in the most radical way.
— Jerome A. Miller, The Way of Suffering: A Geography of Crisis
Stop trying to control how you feel, and instead take control of what you do.
— Russ Harris, ACT with Love: Stop Struggling, Reconcile Differences, and Strengthen Your Relationship with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy
The fact that you can act with love even when you don’t feel love is very empowering. Why? Because whereas the feelings of love are fleeting and largely out of your control, you can take the actions of love anytime and anyplace for the whole rest of your life.
— Russ Harris, ACT with Love: Stop Struggling, Reconcile Differences, and Strengthen Your Relationship with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy
In games, he feels that he is "creating something new." But this is creation where someone has already been. It is not creation but the FEELING of creation. These are feelings of accomplishment on a time scale and with a certainty that the real world cannot provide.
— Sherry Turkle, Alone Together: Why We Expect More from Technology and Less from Each Other
He explained that unlike our other classes in the program, research was all about prediction and control. I was smitten. You mean that rather than leaning and holding, I could spend my career predicting and controlling? I had found my calling.
— Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead
In control. Out of control. Sometimes they're the same thing. The trick is knowing it's okay to feel out of control once in a while, as long as you're sure you can regain the upper hand when you absolutely need to.
— Ellen Hopkins, Identical
We are called to fear only God. There is an important reason for this. What we fear is what we're subject to; our fears define our master. Where there is no fear, there is no control.
— Erwin Raphael McManus, The Barbarian Way: Unleash the Untamed Faith Within
For him, mastery of the game world is a source of joy.
— Sherry Turkle, Alone Together: Why We Expect More from Technology and Less from Each Other
Grammar, which knows how to control even kings.
— Molière
Every rule, every chart, every geeky statistic in a game book or module feeds into this impulse. All those details allow us to take apart existence, look at the individual parts, figure out how they work, and put them back together. Some people relieve stress by getting drunk or high and losing control; nerds find comfort by taking control and applying structure. Logic is like a warm blanket.
— David M. Ewalt, Of Dice and Men: The Story of Dungeons & Dragons and the People Who Play It
See, I believe every woman has a bitch inside of her but not everyone has control of her bitch. My inner bitch is alive and present but she doesn’t control me…I control her.
— Sanjo Jendayi, I Now Pronounce You Single & Happy
I pray that I am never so foolishly naive or roguishly pompous to think that I can be the captain of my own ship, for if God is not at the helm my ship will soon be at the bottom.
— Craig D. Lounsbrough, An Intimate Collision: Encounters with Life and Jesus
For, occupied incessantly with the consideration of the limits prescribed to their power by nature, they [philosophers of former times] became so entirely convinced that nothing was at their disposal except their own thoughts, that this conviction was of itself sufficient to prevent their entertaining any desire of other objects; and over their thoughts they acquired a sway so absolute, that they had some ground on this account for esteeming themselves more rich and more powerful, more free and more happy, than other men who, whatever be the favors heaped on them by nature and fortune, if destitute of this philosophy, can never command the realization of all their desires.
— René Descartes, Discourse on Method and Meditations on First Philosophy
People with Electromagnetic Hypersensitivity (EHS) are known to put their computer equipment several feet away from them with a large monitor on a big font and they use a wired USB keyboard and mouse to control it.
— Steven Magee, Curing Electromagnetic Hypersensitivity
Feedback control is certainly not controlled feedback.
— Mussadiq Abdul Rahim
The only thing you have 100 percent control over is you.
— Hyrum W. Smith, The 3 Gaps: Are You Making a Difference?
Attempts to control complex systems … tend to be pointless at best or destructive at worst.
— Stanley McChrystal
When you react, you let other control you. When you respond, you are in control.
— Bohdi Sanders, Martial Arts Wisdom: Quotes, Maxims, and Stories for Martial Artists and Warriors
Although we try to control it in a million different ways, the only things you can ever really do to time are enjoy it, or waste it. That’s it.
— A.J. Compton, The Counting-Downers
Prior to the monotheistic Yahweh, the gods made sense, in that they had familiar, if supra-human appetites—they didn’t just want a lamb shank, they wanted the best lamb shank, wanted to seduce all the wood nymphs, and so on. But the early Jews invented a god with none of those desires, who was so utterly unfathomable, unknowable, as to be pants-wettingly terrifying. So even if His actions are mysterious, when He intervenes you at least get the stress-reducing advantages of attribution—it may not be clear what the deity is up to, but you at least know who is responsible for the locust swarm or the winning lottery ticket. There is Purpose lurking, as an antidote to the existential void.
— Robert M. Sapolsky, Why Zebras Don't Get Ulcers
I am terrified of restrictive religious doctrine, having learned from history that when men who adhere to any form of it are in control, common men like me are in peril. [The World Is My Home (1991)]
— James A. Michener
But in the dynamic space of the living Rocket , the double integral has a different meaning. To integrate here is to operate on a rate of change so that time falls away: change is stilled...'Meters per second ' will integrate to 'meters.' The moving vehicle is frozen, in space, to become architecture, and timeless. It was never launched. It never did fall.
— Thomas Pynchon, Gravity's Rainbow
But in the dynamic space of the living Rocket, the double integral has a different meaning. To integrate here is to operate on a rate of change so that time falls away: change is stilled..."Meters per second" will integrate to "meters." The moving vehicle is frozen, in space, to become architecture, and timeless. It was never launched. It never did fall.
— Thomas Pynchon, Gravity's Rainbow
...this is a way of handling a fear of losing control. One way - which is perhaps not the best way - to try and regain control is to talk, talk, talk.Love Professor - to Jennifer
— Jennifer Cox, Around the World in 80 Dates
God the Father and the Son don’t wish you to remain blind. It is men that put blindness upon other people for the purpose of control and manipulation.
— Sunday Adelaja
Increase calls for review, check-up,control, and analysis.
— Sunday Adelaja
… we don't need more command and control
—  we need better means to engage everyone's intelligence …
Sometimes you have to control your own life and to do that you have to put your own needs first.
— Jen Calonita, Paparazzi Princess
Some of the hardest battles we fight are those against the demons of our past, over which we have no control.
— Charles F. Glassman, Brain Drain   The Breakthrough That Will Change Your Life
We may feel in control, but we never truly are unless we understand people. Controlling our environment is no longer about blocking the wind, it's about knowing why the serving lady was crying last night, or why a particular guard always loses at cards.
— Brandon Sanderson, The Emperor's Soul
There are a lot of things I can't control. I don't know what's going to happen in the next few days.I don't want what I am going to face, what kind of choices I am going to have to make. I can't predict it. I can't control it. It's too big.' I nodded at my shovel. 'But that, I can predict. I know that if I pick up that shovel and clear the snow from the walkways, it's going to make my neighbors safer and happier.' I glanced at him and shrugged. 'It's worthwhile to me.
— Jim Butcher, Small Favor
You can’t control other people’s actions, but you can control who “thinks” they have control over you.
— Shannon L. Alder
We live beneath many layers. Some are for our protection, and some are for our control.
— Russell Eric Dobda
A life without a plan is a life out of control.
— Sunday Adelaja
There's just one rule, just one basic law that everyone lives under : take control or be controlled.
— Jessica Khoury, Vitro
I stayed in therapy long enough to know that nothing that happened to me was my fault. I didn't do anything to invite it or deserve it. But that just makes it worse. Maybe I don't blame myself for what happened, but when they tell you that something was completely and utterly random, they're also telling you something else. That nothing you do matters. It doesn't matter if you do everything right, if you dress the right way and act the right way and follow all the rules, because evil will find you anyway. Evil's resourceful that way. ... They tell you it was random to make you feel blameless. But all I hear them telling me is that I have no control, and if I have no control, then I'm powerless. I would have preferred being blamed.
— Katja Millay, The Sea of Tranquility
I feel like I have lost all control. I am going to roll with it.
— Amanda Mosher, Better to be able to love than to be loveable
Firing of Energy does it faster than pumping, but the latter is under better control, and much more resource efficient
— Priyavrat Thareja
I want things done right, and I was convinced that if I was in the middle of every decision, tings would be done right. My management style satisfied my need for power....By relinquishing control....I have even more power. Power is more than power OVER others. I'm not driven by a need to dominate; I'm driven to be competent.
— Bob Sullo
When I lose control, I lose my cool and I pass the point of no RTN.
— Natalya Vorobyova, Better to be able to love than to be loveable
Since my visit to the Hermitage, I had become more aware of the four figures, two women and two men, who stood around the luminous space where the father welcomed his returning son. Their way of looking leaves you wondering how they think or feel about what they are watching. These bystanders, or observers, allow for all sorts of interpretations. As I reflect on my own journey, I become more and more aware of how long I have played the role of observer. For years I had instructed students on the different aspects of the spiritual life, trying to help them see the importance of living it. But had I, myself, really ever dared to step into the center, kneel down, and let myself be held by a forgiving God? The simple fact of being able to express an opinion, to set up an argument, to defend a position, and to clarify a vision has given me, and gives me still, a sense of control. And, generally, I feel much safer in experiencing a sense of control over an undefinable situation than in taking the risk of letting that situation control me. Certainly there were many hours of prayer, many days and months of retreat, and countless conversations with spiritual directors, but I had never fully given up the role of bystander. Even though there has been in me a lifelong desire to be an insider looking out, I nevertheless kept choosing over and over again the position of the outsider looking in. Sometimes this looking-in was a curious looking-in, sometimes a jealous looking-in, sometimes an anxious looking-in, and, once in a while, even a loving looking-in. But giving up the somewhat safe position of the critical observer seemed like a great leap into totally unknown territory. I so much wanted to keep some control over my spiritual journey, to be able to predict at least a part of the outcome, that relinquishing the security of the observer for the vulnerability of the returning son seemed close to impossible. Teaching students, passing on the many explanations given over the centuries to the words and actions of Jesus, and showing them the many spiritual journeys that people have chosen in the past seemed very much like taking the position of one of the four figures surrounding the divine embrace. The two women standing behind the father at different distances the seated man staring into space and looking at no one in particular, and the tall man standing erect and looking critically at the event on the platform in front of him--they all represent different ways of not getting involved. There is indifference, curiosity, daydreaming, and attentive observation; there is staring, gazing, watching, and looking; there is standing in the background, leaning against an arch, sitting with arms crossed, and standing with hands gripping each other. Every one of these inner and outward postures are all too familiar with me. Some are more comfortable than others, but all of them are ways of not getting directly involved," (pp. 12-13).
— Henri J.M. Nouwen, The Return of the Prodigal Son: A Story of Homecoming
He is very careful and loving, and hardly lets me stir without special direction.I have a schedule prescription for each hour in the day; he takes all care from me, and so I feel basely ungrateful not to value it more.
— Charlotte Perkins Gilman, The Yellow Wall-Paper
We cannot control other people and their actions but we can control how we act and react to them.
— Elizabeth George
In the great tornado of life, things sometimes seem out of control, and we can’t see where we are going. But sometimes, when the storm passes and the dust settles, things have landed into place beautifully.
— Charisse Montgomery, Home Care CEO: A Parent's Guide to Managing In-home Pediatric Nursing
And history teaches this iron law of revolutions: the more extensive the eradication of existing authority, the more its successors must rely on naked power to establish themselves. For,in the end,legitimacy involves an acceptance of authority without compulsion; its absence turns every contest into a test of strength.
— Henry Kissinger
We may not be able to control what happens to us, but we can always control how we react.
— Seth Adam Smith
And once again, work is providing us with a comforting sense of normalcy-living and working inside of coding's predictably segmented time/space. Simply grinding away at something makes life feel stable, even though the external particulars of life (like our pay checks, our office, and so forth) are, at best, random.
— Douglas Coupland
This is what we are like. Collectively, as a species, this is our emotional landscape. I met an old lady once, almost one hundred years old, and she told me, "There are only two questions that human beings have ever fought over, all through history. How much do you love me? And Who's in charge?" Everything else is somehow manageable. But these two questions of love and control undo us all, trip us up and cause war, grief and suffering.
— Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love
There is no such thing as control of a situation. If we try to do this, it turns back on us in negativity.
— Ambika Devi
Life is many things, but if you don't try to control it, it will take hold of you and ruin you.
— Bethany Morrell
Love isn’t about predictions or behavioural markers. It just happens, and you have no control.
— Jamie McGuire, Beautiful Redemption
The true purpose [of Zen] is to see things as they are, to observe things as they are, and to let everything go as it goes... Zen practice is to open up our small mind.
— Shunryu Suzuki, Zen Mind, Beginner's Mind: Informal Talks on Zen Meditation and Practice
But when you’re in love, you’re not in control of what you think or say or do. And there is nothing I love more than control, and nothing I love less than not having it. So you tell me —what is a person like me supposed to do with a feeling like that?
— Kami Garcia, Dangerous Creatures
Because our attachment to control is either unexamined or addictive, we do not understand that by relinquishing control and providing choice, we increase our influence and impact many times over.
— Roger Harrison
Control.... is not what we need.What we need is to bend to the tempest like pine and palm trees - flexible, adaptive, attuned, yet fully rooted in our principles.
— Patricia Pearson
The best way to control people is to encourage them to be mischievous...To give your sheep or cow a large, spacious meadow is the way to control him. So it is with people: first let them do what they want, and watch them... To ignore them is not good; that is the worst policy. The second worst is trying to control them. The best one is to watch them, just to watch them, without trying to control them.
— Shunryu Suzuki, Zen Mind, Beginner's Mind: Informal Talks on Zen Meditation and Practice
The best way to contorl people is to encourage them to be mischievous...To give your sheep or cow a large, spacious meadow is the way to control him. So it is with people: first let them do what they want, and watch them... To ignore them is not good; that is the worst policy. The second worst is trying to control them. The best one is to watch them, just to watch them, without trying to control them.
— Shunryu Suzuki
If you work your hardest and you do your best, then the rest is not in your control, but in God's Hands.
— Christopher Morris
The tobacco control movement provides a good model for how to achieve massive societal changes. In 1965, over 50 percent of men and 34 percent of women smoked. By 2010, only 23.5 percent of men and 17.9 percent of women were smoking (CDC 2011). These numbers represent one of the twentieth century’s most important public health achievements.
— Anthony Biglan, The Nurture Effect: How the Science of Human Behavior Can Improve Our Lives and Our World
Polluting his brain with a hunger so base that it would have made him vomit had he had any possession of his own body. The hunger was more than a desire for food, for sex or for power. The hunger was a vacuum, an endless vortex that consumed every thought, every impulse of who and what he was. He tried to scream but it wouldn't let him.
— William C. Dietz
If you work your hardest, and you do your best, then the rest is not in your control, but in God's Hands.
— Chrostoph Morris
Take charge of your life! The tides do not command the ship. The sailor does.
— Ogwo David Emenike
If you choose to keep your true face secret, then the people who know you by one mask, must never meet those who know you by another.
— A.J. Darkholme, Rise of the Morningstar
We labor under the great delusion that we are in control. Silly humans.
— Toni Sorenson
Controlling people do not like to be controlled. Controlling people do not like to have their agendas obstructed.
— Traci Lawrence
Control what you can control.
— Andre Agassi, Open
Maybe it's because he never had any control over what was happening to him as a boy. Being late was somehow a way of taking charge.
— Jan Karon, Somewhere Safe with Somebody Good
Doubt is an obstacle to success, and success is how you control the doubt.
— Unarine Ramaru
You are in control of your life, when you refuse to be provoke.
— Lailah Gifty Akita, The Alphabets of  Success: Passion Driven Life
I am the creator of my destiny.
— Anonymous
Given all that lies beyond mycontrol, I obsess about the few things I can control
— Andre Agassi, Open
Here’s a simple test to check and see if you have surrendered or if you are still struggling with control. When you are miserable, stressed, doubtful, and fearful, you are in control. When you are happy, peaceful, confident, and faithful, God is in control.
— Toni Sorenson
The idea of losing control is one that fascinates controlled people such as ourselves more than almost anything.
— Donna Tartt
Controlling others is the cornerstone of dysfunctional families.
— David W. Earle
You know where I’m going to be, and you’ll know where I’ve been every step of my way to get there. You’ve made a hobby out of taking things away from me… a lot of them I never even knew to miss, but I know now. I know what you just took, and there’s no way you’re taking anything else from me. It’s time for me to start taking from you,” Wednesday said with a confidence in her voice that even she noticed and was proud to hear.“I thought you said you weren’t running from me anymore,” Klein said with a laugh in his voice.Her face was red, and she felt like she was on fire. She managed, summoning all her will, to keep herself from screaming and instead, keep an even and icy voice. “I’m not, you piece of shit. Now, I’m running at you.
— Dennis Sharpe, Wednesday
Only a fool would be patient enough to stay in a totalitarian love affair, and only the insincere will use anarchy to commit the sin of unfaithfulness.
— Michael Bassey Johnson
My work reflects a relationship to the built world that shifts between control and randomness, strangeness and beauty, comfort and fear.
— David D. Allee
If there was no woman in this world there would be no prophecy 
— Hamza Khan Takkar
Possession and loving are concepts that damn each other.
— Wilma Stockenström, The Expedition to the Baobab Tree: A Novel
If the answer of your question is the question of your answer be Nacre
— Hamza Khan Takkar
There lies a faith in the absence of control.
— Kylie Maughan
I Know,But No One Know,No One Know So I Don't Know
— Hamza Khan Takkar
Hope is Future and Future is present ,Present is past and Past is Mystery
— Hamza Khan Takkar
There comes a moment in each of our lives when the control that keeps us sane slips through our fingers. Most of us aim to seize it back. The best way to fight chaos is with chaos.
— Emily Thorne
Chaos... by its very definition cannot be controlled. Once introduced, all order and intention is rendered useless. The outcome of chaos can never be predicted. The only certainty it brings... is the devastation it leaves in its wake.
— Emily Thorne
Information is controlled because the free flow of truth is not always expedient for those wishing to maintain control.
— Bryant McGill, Simple Reminders: Inspiration for Living Your Best Life
When you release yourself from the need for approval and control you can stop punishing yourself and others.
— Bryant McGill, Simple Reminders: Inspiration for Living Your Best Life
But, and here comes the rub, all of us feel that we are in complete control of our desire for things. We would never admit to an ungovernable spirit of covetousness. The problem is that we, like the alcoholic, are unable to recognize the disease once we have been engulfed by it. Only by the help of others are we able to detect the inner spirit that places wealth about God. And we must come to fear the idolatrous state of covetousness because the moment things have priority, radical obedience becomes impossible.
— Richard J. Foster, Freedom of Simplicity: Finding Harmony in a Complex World
All defensiveness stems from the need to be right and frustration over not being able to control others.
— Bryant McGill, Simple Reminders: Inspiration for Living Your Best Life
Western "freedom" is a sophisticated form of control.
— Bryant McGill, Simple Reminders: Inspiration for Living Your Best Life
Does the brain control you or are you controlling the brain?
— Karl Pilkington
Ironically, we often spend a great deal of time and effort trying to control our external conditions, while letting our internal reactions run wild.
— Gyalwa Dokhampa, The Restful Mind
to Vaneigem and the Situationists who by shrewd use of collage and juxtaposition exposed both the poverty and richness of slogans, and the thinly veiled hypocrisy of a "spectacular" society which by not respecting words abuses people, and by insulting the intelligence creates a state of political cretinisation in which the many and various forms of authoritarian control dominate.
— Alexis Lykiard, Maldoror and the Complete Works
When you release the illusion of control, you begin an effortless free-fall toward a grand reunion with your original self.
— Bryant McGill
His voice was languidly dense, as if he was a little slow on the uptake, but Strike knew that tone came from the man's feeling of complete control.
— Richard Price, Clockers
...knowing what o'clock it is gives ye the illusion that ye have some control over your circumstances.
— Diana Gabaldon, Written in My Own Heart's Blood
All definitions are a part of the intellectual dissection and compartmentalization of control.
— Bryant McGill, Simple Reminders: Inspiration for Living Your Best Life
We are born with the need for a leader, someone to control the conflict between each individual's need. An alpha in the house, an alpha at work, an alpha in the church and in the White House.
— Colin McAdam, A Beautiful Truth
Fear owns me because I let it. Because I obsess over it, name it, raise it, and nurture it to become perfect. It is one of the few things in my life that I can control.
— Pete Wentz, Gray
It is invisible hands that torment and bend us the worst
— Friedrich Nietzsche, Thus Spoke Zarathustra
We have absolutely no control over what happens to us in life but what we have paramount control over is how we respond to those events.
— Viktor E. Frankl
A leader did not slump. A leader was in control. Even when he least felt like he controlled anything. Especially then.
— Brandon Sanderson, Words of Radiance