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You taste like the last drop of whiskeyat 3 amafter a lousy daylike the first gulp of coffee on a Monday sipped behind a deskhot and bitterlike the burning at the back of the throatafter the first cigaretteYou taste, boy oh boy, like my next mistake.
— Malak El Halabi
Closure /klōZHər/ Noun1. The thing women tell you what they want, but secretly they really want you to tell them why you don’t want them again, so they can try one last time to convince you that you were wrong. 2. The warped mentality that having someone tell you honestly why they don’t want you is going to somehow make you feel peace, so you can move on.3. The neat packaging of finishing conversations because you have been stewing over it insecurely about the length of what a stalker does. 4. The one thing women don’t give themselves because if they didn’t care about the jerk they wouldn’t still be hanging onto another conversation that tells them what they already know: He just isn’t that interested in you.5. The anal retentive art of perfecting every ending with meaning, rather than just excepting you went through something rather sucky and he doesn’t care.6. The act of closing something with someone, when in reality you should slam the door.
— Shannon L. Alder
So while I was busy saving you from Hell,you were pushing me further to it; the poison murdering me well.
— Shannon  Perry, Ad Eundum Quo Nemo Ante iit:: A Carmina Collectio
I still smell your absence on my skin. It smells of insomnia and rusted key locks...
— Malak El Halabi
Something must bevery wrong,' it said,and I agreed,although it turned outthe author meant that 'no theoryof physics should produceinfinities with impunity.'I’d point out that every theoryof the heartproduces infinitieswith impunityif I were the kind of jerkwho uses the heartto mean the humantendency to makeothers sufferjust because wehate to sufferalone. I’m sorryI brought a fitted sheetto the beach. I’m sorry I’m selfish and determinedto make the worstof everything. I’msorry language is a ship that goes downwhile you’re building it.The Hesychasts of Byzantiumstripped their prayersof words. It’s been triedwith poems too. But insofaras I am a disappointment to myself and others, it seems fittingto set up shop in almost and not quite and that’s not what I meant. I draw the line at the heart,though, with itsinfinities.
— Michael Robbins
When someone says you've changed, it's because you are no longer willing to live your life their way
— Karon Waddell
Take caution when declaring war because you may believe it will be easy, but war will always end in despair.
— Anonymous
If you ever want to know how a man truly feels about you, do absolutely nothing. Then you'll have your answer.
— Miya Yamanouchi, Embrace Your Sexual Self: A Practical Guide for Women
Love. It’s the complex chemistry of a blind heart and a distracted mind. Love is a shapeshifter. Love walks along the same path as hate. Love makes us whole. Love makes us weak. Love drives us to insanity. Love can be a curse. Love is a miracle.
— Julie  Anderson, Love Notes From Humanity: The Lust, Love & Loss Collection
And suddenly in the middle of the day a strange feeling grips you. The feeling of missing someone. The warm embrace and the tight hug and the tenderness...
— Avijeet Das
The best relationship is not one that brings together perfect partners, but rather one in which the partners learn to live with the differences, imperfections and objections of one another, and seek to appreciate the good qualities that make this relationship worth building on in order to survive better together.
— Nabil N. Jamal
Everyone knows that how to love, But every relationship do not come out as romeo and Juliet.
— Yaganesh Derasari
I thought it would feel empowering to just sleep with whomever I wanted to, but I wasn’t built that way. I just wasn’t honest enough with myself to know that at the time.
— Teresa Lo, The Sugar Baby Club
Relationships are like walls painted off-white and every time you’ll hurt me, it will be like resting dirty shoes on them, like bashing holes in the walls, one after the other. And then there will come a day, where the walls will be filled with so many holes, that there wouldn’t be any place left for you to place the tiniest kiss. Only then will I walk away for good.
— Malak El Halabi
Depending on the strength of the relationship, level of communication and one’s tolerance for discord, many people are able to get past normal skirmishes unscathed.
— Carlos Wallace, The Other 99 T.Y.M.E.S: Train Your Mind to Enjoy Serenity
I watched you storm towards the restaurant door. It was a chilly December morning and the birds sitting on the high wires in the neighborhood refused to fly any longer.
— Malak El Halabi
There was warmth in his large piercing brown eyes. The kind of warmth that tucks a child into bed. The same kind of warmth that dries your wet hair on a rainy December afternoon.
— Malak El Halabi
My name is Jasmine Lewis, and this is my story. It’s a cautionary tale about money, sex, and power, but I guess those words are redundant. Money is always about sex and power. And sex is always about power. And why have power if you can’t have sex and money?But anyway, this is a story about money, sex, and power. This is the story of The Sugar Baby Club.
— Teresa Lo, The Sugar Baby Club
I want to be the thought that takes your mind off the road and your hand off the steering wheel.
— Malak El Halabi
Our mornings were never "rise and shine." They were "rise and fight." They were loud and ravaging. They were heavy and unnerving, like the after-math of a war, with unresolved territorial disputes. They were never serene, but they were beautiful. More beautiful than the smile you wear when you step out of the shower, more tempting than the sight of you brewing coffee from across the kitchen bar, more promising than a glorious victory, bigger than all our tumultuous past. Bigger than you. Bigger than I.
— Malak El Halabi
-Do you want me to leave?-Yes-Do you want me to stay?-Yes-Do you love me?-Yes-Do you want me?-No-Then leave me-I can't-Then stay with me-I can't, I can't, I can't*Equation of a fucked up relationship
— Malak El Halabi
When relationship is gone, the strength for life is gone and there is no more energy to live
— Sunday Adelaja
Eating your own heart simply to keep the strangers from tasting: a suicide.
— Erica Alex
Don’t tell me what I want to hear. Tell me the truth. It may hurt, but it definitely won’t hurt more than the feeling that I was told something out of pity, not out of honesty. If you mean it, say it. If you don’t, keep your words until the right person is standing in front of you. If words are said too many times, they become cheap, and I only deserve to hear what is valuable
— Najwa Zebian, Mind Platter
There is strength in forgiveness.
— Ellen Hopkins, The You I've Never Known
You, too, were supposed to be a one-night stand. A quick fix. A conquest. A ten-line poem in my grand anthology of lovers.But you altered the narrative, you marked your territory on my timeline o that as I look back, I find I can neatly divide my more recent past into two unequal halves: before you and after.
— Rosalyn D'Mello, A Handbook for My Lover
Honour the way a stranger can make sense in your world. Most people have been around for years without shaking our core & then one small instant in time, we cross paths with that one person who before them we didn't know what we were exactly looking for. Over 6 billion people I share this planet with and I've only felt that soul shaking, jaw dropping connection 4 times. Believe me when I say it's rare and you definitely owe it to yourself to honour it.
— Nikki Rowe
Real relationships happen in person not through a device.
— Staci A. Welch-Bartley
Stop giving the best part of you to those unworthy of that gift.
— Carlos Wallace, Life Is Not Complicated-You Are: Turning Your Biggest Disappointments Into Your Greatest Blessings
It was strange, because she always felt that she hid herself from Erika, that she was more 'herself' with her 'true' friends, where the friendship flowed in an ordinary, uncomplicated, grown-up fashion (emails, phone calls, drinks, dinners, banter and jokes that everyone got), but right now it felt like none of those friends knew her the raw, ugly, childish, basic way that Erika did.
— Liane Moriarty, Truly Madly Guilty
I wish not to tell you how I feel,I choose silence so that you leave,Kiss me goodbye and set me free...
— Sanhita Baruah
Some relationships require you have a big appetite. Chances are, at some point, you may have to swallow your pride, eat your words, lick your wounds, and stomach a lot of nonsense. While a little humble pie never hurt anyone you do have control over how much of this menu you get served and can always decide when you've had your fill.
— Carlos Wallace, Life Is Not Complicated-You Are: Turning Your Biggest Disappointments Into Your Greatest Blessings
The right, real and good connection between things produces the right, real and good things.
— Ernest Agyemang Yeboah
We make the journey back to extraordinary love much more difficult for ourselves when we jump back in too quickly. It creates emotional chaos instead of the escape from pain we were hoping for.
— Staci A. Welch-Bartley
I wish for you the wisdom to realize that you can let go of a past relationship without letting go of the lessons it taught you.
— Steve Maraboli
I feel the ground slipping under my feet, and just as I am about to fall off the precipice, you draw out a rope and pull me into the safety net of your embrace. That's the thing - I can never trust you to rescue me, and yet you do. Unfailingly.
— Rosalyn D'Mello, A Handbook for My Lover
...people cannot and do not want to live unrelated to others.
— Herman L Glaess, Potentiality Enhancement Programs
Keep a man on a rope that's short enough to trip him without choking him.
— Jenna Alatari
Toxic' was actually an accurate description of the feelings Clementine had so often felt in Erika's presence: the intense aggravation she had to work so hard to resist and conceal, the disappointment with herself, because Erika wasn't evil or cruel or stupid, she was simply annoying, and Clementine's response to her annoyingness was so completely disporportionate, it embarassed and confounded her. Erika loved Clementine. She'd do anything for her. So why did she inflame Clementine so? It was like she was allergic to her.
— Liane Moriarty, Truly Madly Guilty
Blood can help make family, but family often transcends blood.
— DaShanne Stokes
I have known both of you all your lives, have carried your Daddy in my arms and on my shoulders, kissed and spanked him and watched him learn to walk. I don’t know if you’ve known anybody from that far back; if you’ve loved anybody that long, first as an infant, then as a child, then as a man, you gain a strange perspective on time and human pain and effort. Other people cannot see what I see whenever I look into your father’s face, for behind your father’s face as it is today are all those other faces which were his. Let him laugh and I see a cellar your father does not remember and a house he does not remember and I hear in his present laughter his laughter as a child. Let him curse and I remember him falling down the cellar steps, and howling, and I remember, with pain, his tears, which my hand or your grandmother’s so easily wiped away. But no one’s hand can wipe away those tears he sheds invisibly today, which one hears in his laughter and in his speech and in his songs.
— James     Baldwin, The Fire Next Time
I'm only fifteen. I'm not sure I ever want to get married. I'm neither messing around while waiting nor looking for some "real thing". What I want is much more complicated. I want somebody to talk about books, who would be my friend, and why couldn't we have sex as well if we wanted to? (And used contraception.) I'm not looking for romance. Lord Peter and Harriet would seem a pretty good model to me. I wonder if Wim has read Sayers?
— Jo Walton, Among Others
But say he forgets about me or meets someone else or pretends I don't exist.I look at her and then at Trini and Raffy."Teresa, Teresa. Have we taught you nothing?" Raffy says in an irritated voice. "It's war. You go in and you hunt him down until he realises that he's made a mistake"Teresa looks hopeful."It's not as if men haven't gone to war for dumber reasons" Trini adds.
— Melina Marchetta, On the Jellicoe Road
I fell on my feet and found my bearings because of these. I could talk to them. They listened and answered, for or against, but always weighing what they had heard, unlike my mother, who used language for manipulation, not to express an opinion or state a fact. What sounded like a fact might be a lie, and every opinion was tailored for the moment.
— Ruth Klüger, Still Alive: A Holocaust Girlhood Remembered
Every broken heart has screamed at one time or another, "I want to know why!
— Shannon L. Alder
3 Types of People You Will Encounter. Those who:1) Promise and Deliver,2) Under-promise and Over-deliver,3) Over-promise and Under-deliver.
— Izey Victoria Odiase
When I no longer have your heartI will not request your bodyyour presenceor even your polite conversation.I will go away to a far countryseparated from you by the sea— on which I cannot walk —and refrain even from sendinglettersdescribing my pain.
— Alice Walker, Her Blue Body Everything We Know: Earthling Poems 1965-1990 Complete
You've got a lot to say for the one who walked away.
— Stacy Morris, Notes to Self
The grass remains green only as long as you water it. Similarly, a relationship remains fresh only as long as you nurture it with love.
— Uma Shanker
It’s better to bite your tongue than to eat your words.
— Frank Sonnenberg, BookSmart: Hundreds of real-world lessons for success and happiness
That is the worst of women. They always want one to be good. And if we are good, when they meet us, they don't love us at all. They like to find us quite irretrievably bad, and to leave us quite unattractively good.
— Oscar Wilde, Lady Windermere's Fan
You couldn't find a Jewish sheik?
— Libby Fischer Hellmann, A Picture of Guilt
Never again will I justify the scars just because I loved the person holding the knife.
— Steve Maraboli
Love always doesn't come across as bad, but it always has two sides.
— Auliq Ice
People use masks in public and then wonder why their personal life, their relationships, don't work. If you're not being honest with others, there's nothing real about yourself to learn and, the wider the gap, the deeper the suffering. The heart wasn't meant to be closed in a box made of fake feelings and thoughts.
— Robin Sacredfire
there are indestructible things that accompany the body to death as if they had been born with it. And one of them is what is created between a man and a woman who have experienced certain moments together.
— Clarice Lispector, Near to the Wild Heart
It was darker, all she could see of him was a shadow. He was fading more and more, slipping through her hands, dead at the bottom of sleep.
— Clarice Lispector, Near to the Wild Heart
The most basic boundary-setting word is “no.” It lets others know that we exist apart from them and that we are in control of ourselves.
— Dr. Henry Cloud, Dr. John Townsend
There’s a reason for the word heartbeat not be called beat of heart. The perfect woman only needs a good beat. The heart will follow. Emotions, when put in equilibrium with reason, create more miracles than any emotion, no matter how strong, deprived from reason. This is why it’s much easier to love a woman that can play the drums or any other instrument with rhythm, than one that believes in unreasonable magic, simply because there’s more magic in reason than in the lack of it. You see, loving someone that you truly want to love, someone you admire, someone you want to spend your time with, helping, sharing and growing together, makes much more sense than expecting someone to love you for no reason than your will, needs and desires. And when humans understand this, they will understand love, find it easily and never lose it again.
— Robin Sacredfire
I’m twenty-four, a first grade teacher, have a Yorkie named Pedro, a goldfish named Fish, have never had sex, or a serious boyfriend, and I’m the town lesbian who pukes when she sees a pussy. Nothing really to be jealous of at all.
— H.J. Bellus, The Big O
The biggest milestone in a relationship is when you can fart in front of each other freely and loudly. Without judgements 
— Himmilicious
I was so tired. I just wanted to curl up with someone, anyone, even him, and sleep until work on Monday. I wanted to feel someone’s, anyone’s, hands on me, even if it was in that way I hate, the fingers all over my face and jaw.
— Alexandra Kleeman, Intimations: Stories
You can't compare men or women with mental disorders to the normal expectations of men and women in without mental orders. Your dealing with symptoms and until you understand that you will always try to find sane explanations among insane behaviors. You will always have unreachable standards and disappointments. If you want to survive in a marriage to someone that has a disorder you have to judge their actions from a place of realistic expectations in regards to that person's upbringing and diagnosis.
— Shannon L. Alder
When your partner overreacts 1st try to understand their “hot spot” before overreacting; otherwise you lose your ability to think clearly, communicate effectively and the cycle continues.
— Dr. Deborah Hecker
Prosperity begins with a great partner experience
— Paul Bradley Smith
The strength of our digital ‪community‬ is derived by the ‪relationships‬ we build over time by connecting, sharing and engaging our successes as well as our failures. This creates extraordinary opportunities because we are‪ ‎human‬ and carry a unique trait called ‪empathy‬ that naturally wants to add value and help others
— Paul Bradley Smith
Dear lover, pull my ears and not my legs for it is better to be cautioned than to be lied to.
— Temitayo Olami
Did I ever tell you about the day I finally let go of him? That day that led me to you?
— Sarah Addison Allen, Waking Kate
Responsibility comes with every relationship.
— Kenneth Eade, Traffick Stop, an American Assassin's Story
One great concern that plagues very ambitious people is this: in the end, they’ll get all the precious things they ever dreamed of and every precious accomplishment most expected and conceived they’d achieve . . . but on that path of ambition, they’d lose precious moments with the most precious people they’ve come across. However, they forge ahead on that path hoping, somehow, they might make up for it, sometime, in future.
— Ufuoma Apoki
Despite the experiences that put me in the spotlight as the co-creator of my wisdom, the human part of me keeps burning, like an alchemical process that I both accept and want to refuse. You see, it's hard when I notice women falling in love with me, and then destroying everything at the same time. And so, I'm changing the world as much as this world is changing me. The two things are inseparable.
— Robin Sacredfire
Very often it seems that people assume that by cutting the wings of others, it becomes easier to love them. They know so little about love that end up creating a perception of love that is devilish and demoniacal. And I end with no other choice but to remain single and let them go.
— Robin Sacredfire
A firm ground helps kickstart a long leap of flight. So keep your foundation strong to rise high.
— Uma Shanker
But I had no idea who this person might be, or who any of the people might be who sat at that table and watched me at the door and claimed to have feelings not exactly for me, but at me.
— Alexandra Kleeman, Intimations: Stories
I didn't know what to say. I knew I had a big choice to make. I could let it all go and try to love him, try to trust him, try to make something lasting and good. He obviously had strong feelings for me or about me. And he wasn't being so bad right now. We could build something sturdy, beautiful. Or I could try to make a dash for the door by crawling under the dining room table.There was a good chance that he would kill me later either way.
— Alexandra Kleeman, Intimations: Stories
his mother, who had never been able to manage him, sent him to school to get rid of him, lamented his absence till he returned, then writhed and fretted under his presence until again he went.
— George MacDonald, Mary Marston
And as he leaned in to kiss me, my eye saw his open mouth grow larger and larger until it seemed it could swallow me whole.
— Alexandra Kleeman, Intimations: Stories
It seemed as though, being the only two people in this small, closed-in space, we couldn't help but have a relationship, and if we couldn't help but have a relationship, I felt that it was important to be upset now so that he would not shift the blame to me in the future.
— Alexandra Kleeman, Intimations: Stories
There was nothing else I could do but say sorry myself. His apology had left a residue in me, a residue on my thinking, and continuing on in this house without saying it would be entirely awkward. It would turn the small space toxic. So I said it, though I tried to lessen the potency of the apology by mumbling.
— Alexandra Kleeman, Intimations: Stories
I left the room before I could figure out exactly what bothered me about his response. Was it the way it seemed to assume a future for the two of us? A future in which I would continue to be unable to leave this house? Was it the presumption that I was making a cake for him when, really, I had no idea why I was making a cake at all?
— Alexandra Kleeman, Intimations: Stories
There had been times when I thought I might be with you indefinitely, something approaching an entire life. But then when there was only a finite amount of time, a thing we could both see the limit of, I wasn't so sure.
— Alexandra Kleeman, Intimations: Stories
...There's a difference between desire and desperation. You should never want a guy more than he wants you.
— Dream Jordan, Hot Girl
All those wasted and squandered years when I did nothing but go around looking inside myself until I ended up alone even though I was surrounded by people. But I paid attention only to what was happenstance about them - not their true selves.
— Sigrid Undset, Marta Oulie: A Novel of Betrayal
You stop talking about things when you’ve worked them out. You’re no longer an observer but a participant. You’re too busy for this bullshit.
— Caitlin Moran, How to Be a Woman
Relationships are like gardening. If you don't water the plants, they die.
— Jenna Alatari
This feeling of lessening disturbance, coming from within myself, unexpected, was profoundly disturbing. As I sat still, growing less and less alarmed by the situation, I knew that I had to move fast, as fast and as far as I could within this small, cramped house.
— Alexandra Kleeman, Intimations: Stories
If we were all looking for something 'easy come and easy go', then all of our lives would be easy. The problem is that we look for something real, don't we? And it is this longing for what is real, that makes finding the right person to be the most difficult task in the world. You can marry someone and promise the rest of your life to the person, only to find out later that this person makes you feel lonely. If we had no innate longing for true love and for true partnership, then none of us would have any problems! Therefore, the most frightening question to ponder upon, is, 'what if true love does not exist; what if the real stuff isn't real at all?' In such a case, life would be meaningless. I suppose I would rather believe in love relentlessly, than live in this world meaninglessly.
— C. JoyBell C.
It really is quite simple. All women really want is to be needed, valued and loved above anyone else and they will make you a keeper. It's your actions she is paying attention to, not your words.
— Shannon L. Alder
On Valentine’s Day, we are reminded what our relationships could be like the other 364.
— Steve Maraboli
Relationships are like broken glass. Sometimes it’s better to leave them broken than hurt yourself trying to put the pieces back together
— Alex Haditaghi
Black Girls… Until you get enough of what you’re going through, no matter what advice a person gives you, you’ll continue to go through the same thing. Constant arguing. Constant fighting. Constant lies. Constant disappointments. Constant emotional rollercoaster. Constant heartbreak. Constant headaches. Constant threats. Constantly fighting for his attention and love. Constantly looking through his phone. Constantly sneaking through his personal belongings. Constantly arguing and/or fighting with other women over who’s supposed to be YOUR mate. Secretly checking up on him due to a lack of trust. Listen, NOBODY is worth your inner peace! What I’ve listed above is NOT a relationship. It’s a toxic mess. So, what are you going to do?
— Stephanie Lahart
If love was absent, you would not feel disappointed; you would feel indifferent.
— Staci Bartley, A Dose Of Love: Simple words of wisdom for creating more love and less fear in your relationships.
When things are falling apart, know they are actually falling into place.
— Staci A. Welch-Bartley
I don't know' is often really 'I don't want to say.
— Staci A. Welch-Bartley
The two of them became an instant couple. Very Romeo and Juliet without the wonky families and tragic double-suicide thing.
— J. Saman, Start Over
We came together in a dance of death and so quickly was I sucked down into the vortex that when I came to the surface again I couldn't recognize the world. When I found myself loose the music had ceased the carnival was over and I had been picked clean. 
— Henry Miller, Tropic of Cancer
But he knew she was a star, and he, only human. He was never meant to reach the stars - he could only admire them from afar.
— Timothy Joshua
Saul is as different from Simon Wakefield as it's possible to get, I find myself thinking. And Edward Monkford is utterly different from both of them. It seems incredible that Emma could have had relationships with all three men. Where Simon's eager to please, but also touchy and insecure, and Edward's calm and super-confident, Saul is pushy and brash and loud. He also has a habit of saying 'Yeah?' aggressively at the end of his sentences, as if trying to force me to agree with him.
— J.P. Delaney, The Girl Before
And when I realized you had secrets too, I was glad. I thought we could be honest with each other. That we could finally rid ourselves of all the clutter from our past. Not our possessions, but the stuff we carry around inside our heads. Because that's what I've realized, living in One Folgate Street. You can make your surroundings as polished and empty as you like. But it doesn't really matter if you're still messed up inside. And that's all anyone's looking for really, isn't it? Someone to take care of the mess inside our heads?
— J.P. Delaney, The Girl Before
I think the reward of you is worth the risk.
— Jen Frederick, Jockblocked
You can't stop me from liking you. It's just a thing. Like the sun rising and the tides coming in.
— Jen Frederick, Jockblocked
Significantly, romantic friendships can coexist with the fact of partners' marrying because their reason for being is not to replace marriage but to open the possibility of sustained, committed true love existing among friends, and not just same-sex friends. No matter that our chosen relationship commitments change. Those of us who have long-term romantic friendships, some that have lasted longer than any of our marriages or partnerships, do not fear that these commitments will falter if we create primary bonds.
— bell hooks, Communion: The Female Search for Love
Relationships take skill, not perfection or luck!
— Staci Bartley, A Dose Of Love: Simple words of wisdom for creating more love and less fear in your relationships.
Young girls often feel strong, courageous, highly creative, and powerful until they begin to receive undermining sexist messages that encourage them to conform to conventional notions of femininity. To conform they have to give up power.
— bell hooks, Communion: The Female Search for Love
The important thing is for me to feel love towards my fellow human beings—and sometimes, that has to be at a distance.
— Vironika Tugaleva
Katherine feels that she must have learned something about marriage from being married before that is now working to her benefit. However, she doesn't know quite what it is, or how, actually, it works.
— Joy Williams, Taking Care
I'm water... If you're oil, we'll clash. If you're a flower, I'll nourish you. If you're a light, I'll reflect you. If you can't swim, you'll drown in me. If you're up for adventure, I'm endless entertainment. I'm just being me. If we don't fit, it's not my fault, nor yours. You be you. I'll be me.
— Steve Maraboli
Actively repeating a lie or denial does not make it true.
— Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
Same-sex marriage has not created problems for religious institutions religious institutions have created problems for same-sex marriage. 
— DaShanne Stokes
Our need for instant gratification is the reason we’re drawn to liars and hot air blowers.
— Izey Victoria Odiase
Extra-marital affairs become things of legend… and often the undoing of legends… and mere mortals.
— Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
Cheating is pure hypocrisy. Our partner deserves better than that. If we don’t love someone, we should not be with them. That would also be hypocrisy.
— Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
Respect everyone who crosses your path, even if you feel they don't deserve it.
— Alaric Hutchinson, Living Peace
Screaming and repeating lies makes them neither true nor more believable.
— Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
One of the greatest ways you can affirm value in another person is by giving them the gift of your undivided attention, the kind of attention that says, “I hear what you are saying because I value who you are.” You don’t have to agree with someone to show them their value as a person. Listening demonstrates that any person you meet is worthy of your respect and attention.
— Joe Jordan, Sharpen Your Life: 52 Strategic Moments to Create a Lifetime of Success
There is tremendous trauma in the betrayal caused by a perpetual liar as they repeatedly commit psychological abuse.
— Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
Direct lies, small lies, huge lies, and lies of omission… these are all self-serving and sources of self-destruction.
— Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
If you lack open communication and honesty in your life – It’s time to look within. Are you someone who handles heavy, emotional, or tough information well or do you often get excessively agitated, upset, or depressed? My rule of thumb is that no topic ‘should’ ever be off limits with a loved one. That is the goal to work towards. The point being, if you’re easy to talk to, people will talk to you! If you’re not, then they won’t!
— Alaric Hutchinson, Living Peace
Most single people are sick of married people presenting themselves as both available and interested, when indeed they are merely “playing.” Oh, yeah… and cheating. Gee, that is attractive. Not! Others could not care less what someone’s marital status might be.
— Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
Once again, the world seems to be less about objects than about interactive relationships.
— Carlo Rovelli, Seven Brief Lessons on Physics
We never want to be taken for granted, but our partners should be able to expect our honest loyalty. That is a powerfully strong foundation block for a relationship. I want to meet the greatest expectations, without being the greatest fraud.
— Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
In truth, if it isn’t to save your life when it’s in imminent danger, someone yelling at you is just plain wrong. The same is true for ranting or bitching. The same goes double for anything even close to manhandling.
— Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
If a man or a woman starts “expecting” sex, then it is no longer special, and a lover will likely start to feel used.
— Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
When we make the decisions to be and stay in love, we should also make a decision and commitment to be supportive.
— Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
If we are sharing challenges and concerns, laughter and life stories, dreams and dramas with someone other than our mate, we are making precious, intimate connections with someone other than our mate. We need to keep not only physical, but emotional and intellectual connections strong and active with our beloved.
— Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
We would not want the joy of physical and sexual intimacy to fade after years together. We need to also remember to keep our intellectual and emotional intimacy every bit as sacred.
— Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
Should we “expect” our physical, sexual, intellectual, and emotional intimacies to automatically continue throughout a marriage? Nope. At least, not in my opinion. But I do think we should be able to expect both partners to protect and preserve the sanctity of these intimacies. That, to me, is part of honest loyalty.
— Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
Some people think that it’s okay to be downright nasty to people they love. It is not okay. Nasty is never called for, and it’s certainly not sweet, useful, nor positive.
— Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
Past misdeeds must only serve as a reference point in calm conversation about lessons learned or actions that taught us to behave better. They should never be bantered about with sarcasm, anger, or nastiness.
— Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
Appreciation and respect are mutual needs. We may be wired differently as men and women, but some needs are parallel human needs.
— Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
It takes a strong woman to tolerate a weak man. That said, it takes a strong man to tolerate a weak woman, too.
— Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
I think we need to develop a powerful dose of tolerance to understand each other’s humanness. None of us is perfect.
— Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
Without trust, our relationships lack an essential ingredient for emotional intimacy. We need to be able to totally trust our partner with our deepest thoughts, dreams, fears, and secrets.
— Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
It matters little which party has gotten lazy about delivering what their partner craves. It doesn’t take too many days or weeks for an unsatisfied partner to start to feel love-starved and sadly unfulfilled. If you want great sex in the bedroom, show love to each other outside the bedroom.
— Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
Sexy is a decision. We decide that our spouse looks sexy to us. Period. It doesn’t matter our age or how long we’ve been together.
— Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
Love sucks sometimes. It can stretch you beyond what you feel you can endure. But you can, and you must get back to love and living!
— Staci A. Welch-Bartley
The people with thriving careers and healthy personal relationships get the same amount of time each week as the burned-out professional who can’t remember their last meaningful conversation with a family member.
— Joe Jordan, Sharpen Your Life: 52 Strategic Moments to Create a Lifetime of Success
Some people believe that if they yell and scream, others will get the point of just how serious they are. For me, all I get is the point of just how out of control that someone is.
— Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
If someone yells at me, they are not expressing love. They may be threatening me. They may be expressing great frustration with me. They may simply be trying to control my behavior. However, they are not communicating love.
— Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
When we resort to screaming at someone, we are revealing weakness and a sense of helplessness. If we can’t seem to get our message or feelings across any other way, then we get angry, and we get loud!
— Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts
Boundaries are easier to manage when your values are well-defined.
— Joe Jordan, Sharpen Your Life: 52 Strategic Moments to Create a Lifetime of Success
Good relationships depend upon recognizing that we are the source of our problems.
— Dan Negroni
In relationships, everyone makes mistakes. If you are forgiven for yours, don't take it for granted.
— Carlos Wallace, The Other 99 T.Y.M.E.S: Train Your Mind to Enjoy Serenity
Self-love is essential. Until you can learn how to feel loved in an empty room, you will not feel loved for very long in any other room.
— Vironika Tugaleva
Assumptions close doors. Intrigue opens them.
— Sam Owen, 500 Relationships And Life Quotes: Bite-Sized Advice For Busy People
Be vulnerable! It is not someone else’s responsibility to break down your walls to get to you. It is your responsibility to let them in. This is crucial. Be more vulnerable with people in your life today. Know that being vulnerable is not a weakness – vulnerability means you are strong and secure enough within yourself to walk outside without your armor on.
— Alaric Hutchinson, Living Peace
So the first time she and Leo combusted, she'd practically been poised for the breakup. In some inexplicable way, she'd been looking forward to it and all its attendant drama, because wasn't there something nearly lovely–when you were young enough–about guts churning and tear ducts being put to glorious overuse? She recognized the undeniable satisfaction of the first emotional fissure because an unraveling was still something grown-up and, therefore, life affirming. See? The broken heart signalled. I loved enough to lose; I felt enough to weep. Because when you were young enough, the stakes of love were so very small, nearly insignificant. How tragic could a breakup be when it was part of the fabric of expectation from the beginning? The hackneyed fights, the late-night phone calls, the indignant recounting for friends over multiple drinks and in earshot of an appropriately flirtatious bartender–it was theatre for a certain type of person . . . Until it wasn't.
— Cynthia D'Aprix Sweeney, The Nest
David talked often about how discouraged or fearful he would become at times. Then he would interject these words, "But then I entered the sanctuary..." Being in God's presence affects all other relationships for the better. To have first seen her husband in prayer surely remained a cherish moment for Rebekah.
— Ravi Zacharias, I, Isaac, Take Thee, Rebekah: Moving from Romance to Lasting Love
Last night you left me and sleptyour own deep sleep. Tonight you turnand turn. I say,‘You and I will be togethertill the universe dissolves.’You mumble back things you thought ofwhen you were drunk.
— Jalaluddin Rumi
Dropping in and out of your own life (for psychotic breaks, or treatment in a hospital) isn’t like getting off a train at one stop and later getting back on at another. Even if you can get back on (and the odds are not in your favor), you’re lonely there. The people you boarded with originally are far, far ahead of you, and now you’re stuck playing catch-up.
— Elyn R. Saks, The Center Cannot Hold: My Journey Through Madness
Be YOU. There is nothing sexier than someone who is confident enough to be themselves, quirks and all. It is often your unique nature that separates you from the crowd in the best way possible for your romantic match to notice you.
— Alaric Hutchinson, Living Peace
When you walk around feeling quietly upset, frustrated, angry or some other negative emotion, people around you will detect it to some degree or another, even if only subconsciously.
— Sam Owen, 500 Relationships And Life Quotes: Bite-Sized Advice For Busy People
There is no quick fix-all procedure to heal your insecurities. Like any relationship, the relationship with yourself must be built and re-built one kind, loving conversation at a time.
— Vironika Tugaleva
Some ghost of myself still lived back in the days when we'd shared a bed and talked of the future. But that love we'd had and those selves we'd been were gone, placed in a box like old photographs and letters you'd never read again.
— Dennis Lehane, Prayers for Rain
Next I want to try living apart together, live in the same country, the same city, even the same building as whomever I'm in a relationship with, yet in a different apartment than him. Then it would be possible to pay him visits and still invite good friends over to my place. Do you think you have that it takes to maintain such a French arrangement? he asked. Well, no, probably not...but then again...? Maybe it would be better in the long run to stay in a more lasting relationship and not need to move so often.
— Oddný Eir, Land of Love and Ruins
Still, we've attempted to argue when necessary; you've got to be able to let loose and even lose your temper a bit if you're finding it hard to breathe. Closeness has to be like running water; it mustn't stagnate and sour.
— Oddný Eir
She said it was no use waiting for trust to come to you fully formed, and then go and create a life and home together; you just had to start living with the person you loved best, and trust would build over time.
— Oddný Eir, Land of Love and Ruins
In a world where the larger majority of society is careless, it’s the small percentage of people who make the choice to be different and prioritize relationships that stand out.
— Farshad Asl, The "No Excuses" Mindset: A Life of Purpose, Passion, and Clarity
Whatever you focus your mind on, you will consciously and subconsciously work towards.
— Sam Owen, 500 Relationships And Life Quotes: Bite-Sized Advice For Busy People
Sometimes being overwhelmed by emotions can leave you speechless but even then it is important to identify the correct emotion.
— Sam Owen
Your eyes will contradict your words if your words contradict your thoughts and feelings.
— Sam Owen, 500 Relationships And Life Quotes: Bite-Sized Advice For Busy People
Jealousy is when their reflection in the mirror that is your progress, is attacked rather than appreciated, begrudged rather than understood.
— Sam Owen, 500 Relationships And Life Quotes: Bite-Sized Advice For Busy People
Our emotions are encoded in the heart signals we emit. Use the energy you feel to know how they are feeling.
— Sam Owen, 500 Relationships And Life Quotes: Bite-Sized Advice For Busy People
She had never been able to tolerate dishonesty, which she thought threatened the very heart of relationships between people. If you could not count on other people to mean what they said, or to do what they said they would do, then life could become utterly unpredictable. The fact that we could trust one another made it possible to undertake the simple tasks of life.
— Alexander McCall Smith, The Full Cupboard of Life
Boundaries keep people out mine served only to keep me in. 
— Anita Brookner, Undue Influence
Find and foster your Passions in life! People who are passionate about what they do are in alignment with Spirit and become magnetic to those around them. This also applies to those already in long-term relationships. How do you keep the love and intimacy alive? Keep your personal Passions alive and the rest will fall into place. We can’t share passions with others unless we first have it within ourselves.
— Alaric Hutchinson, Living Peace
All in all, he thought it was a bad idea to get involved with the woman investigating his ex's possible suicide with intent to haunt.
— Marybeth Niederkorn, Small Town Tales: Volume 1
It is one of the best traits of good people that they love where they pity. And this is truer of women than of men. So they get themselves drawn into situations that are harmful to them. I have seen this happen many, many times. I have always had trouble finding a way to caution against it. Since it is, in a word, Christlike
— Marilynne Robinson, Gilead
It isn't every day an ex decides to haunt us.
— Marybeth Niederkorn, Small Town Tales: Volume 1
I took a deep intake of breath and gathered all my strength to unleash the arrogant, cold-hearted royal bitch who must hide somewhere in deeper layers of my being. We all must have one somewhere, and she should see the light of day sometimes.
— Ana Simons, Silent Signs
And what of this young woman beside him, whom he had loved devotedly for four years and still did love? She had given him more than Elizabeth ever could: months of unflawed relationship, unquestioning trust (which he was now betraying in thought) . Oh nonsense! What man did not at some time or another glance elsewhere? And who could complain if it remained at a glance? (Chance was a fine thing).
— Winston Graham, Jeremy Poldark
Things we had, like respect and trust, but also freely expressed desires and accountability to whatever degree it took to make both people happy. It took work, a willingness to fight passionately and fairly--out of bed, not just in it--commitment and honesty. It took waking up and saying each day, "I hold this man sacred and always will. He's my sun, moon, and stars." It took letting the other person in; a thing I'd stopped doing. It took being unafraid to ask for what you wanted, to put yourself on the line, to risk it all for love.
— Karen Marie Moning, Feversong
Maybe, the question isn't who will look good by your side, who will make these days less dull, who will bring you the greatest financial benefit, who will be the one to bring you pleasure, who do you have the most in common with?.... Maybe, the question one should ask is who do you want at your side when you are dying?
— Shannon L. Alder
Words, Kaden. Only lost unsaid words that added up to good-bye.
— Mary E. Pearson, The Beauty of Darkness
How we make people feel shapes how they feel about us.
— Sam Owen, 500 Relationships And Life Quotes: Bite-Sized Advice For Busy People
Goals for the future distract from worry and anger about the past and redirect your focus to the direction you're travelling in.
— Sam Owen, 500 Relationships And Life Quotes: Bite-Sized Advice For Busy People
When you become aggressive in arguments, you force the other person to become defensive which means they’ll either get ready to fight you or ready to flee from you.
— Sam Owen, 500 Relationships And Life Quotes: Bite-Sized Advice For Busy People
We have to allow ourselves to feel it in order to heal it.
— Sam Owen, 500 Relationships And Life Quotes: Bite-Sized Advice For Busy People
Empowering Women 101: If a normal man wants you he will let you know. You won't have to guess. He will move mountains to bring you into his life. If he is abnormal he will string you along, drop a trail of crumbs and clues for you to follow, in order to keep you guessing. This type of man desires you, but doesn't value you.
— Shannon L. Alder
Within our emotions lie answers, truths and instructions.
— Sam Owen, 500 Relationships And Life Quotes: Bite-Sized Advice For Busy People
Feeling your way to knowledge rather than thinking your way, often results in better learning.
— Sam Owen, 500 Relationships And Life Quotes: Bite-Sized Advice For Busy People
He was so far away now, or maybe he just looked distant because we were imaging different things for our future.
— Alexandra Kleeman, You Too Can Have a Body Like Mine
Anger usually only serves us, and even then, only very fleetingly.
— Sam Owen, 500 Relationships And Life Quotes: Bite-Sized Advice For Busy People
You can't expect to draw people into your life who are kind, confident, and generous if you're thinking and acting in cruel, weak, and selfish ways. You must be what it is that you're seeking— that is, you need to put forth what you want to attract.
— Wayne W. Dyer
Correctly identifying a negative emotion takes the brain out of fight-or-flight mode and into problem-solving mode, out of tension, anger and confusion and into ease, calm and clarity.
— Sam Owen, 500 Relationships And Life Quotes: Bite-Sized Advice For Busy People