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Oh! that look of love!" continued he, between his teeth, as he bolted himself into his own private room. "And that cursed lie; which showed some terrible shame in the background, to be kept from the light in which I thought she lived perpetually! Oh, Margaret, Margaret! Mother, how you have tortured me! Oh! Margaret, could you not have loved me? I am but uncouth and hard, but I would never have led you into any falsehood for me.
— Elizabeth Gaskell, North and South
Shame is always easier to handle if you have someone to share it with.
— Craig Thompson, Blankets
Shame isn't a quiet grey cloud, shame is a drowning man who claws his way on top of you, scratching and tearing your skin, pushing you under the surface.
— Kirsty Eagar, Raw Blue
Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. Fool me three times, shame on both of us.
— Stephen King, On Writing: A Memoir of the Craft
I come home that morning, after I been fired, and stood outside my house with my new work shoes on. The shoes my mama paid a month's worth a light bill for. I guess that's when I understood what shame was and the color of it too. Shame ain't black, like dirt, like I always thought it was. Shame be the color of a new white uniform your mother ironed all night to pay for, white without a smudge or a speck a work-dirt on it.
— Kathryn Stockett, The Help
Once they know they've got a hold of your shame, they can shake it out and hold it up for the all world to see. And you become less than it. You become something disgusting.
— Kirsty Eagar, Raw Blue
To be shame-bound means that whenever you feel any feeling, need or drive, you immediately feel ashamed. The dynamic core of your human life is grounded in your feelings, needs and drives. When these are bound by shame, you are shamed to the core.
— John Bradshaw, Healing the Shame that Binds You
When we sat down on the couch again, you curled up against my side, like you used to when you were a tod
— Jodi Picoult, Handle with Care
I will put up with any mockery rather than pretend that I am satisfied when I am hungry.
— Fyodor Dostoyevsky, Notes from Underground, White Nights, The Dream of a Ridiculous Man, and Selections from The House of the Dead
The most paradoxical aspect of neurotic shame is that it is the core motivator of the superachieved and the underachieved, the star and the scapegoat, the righteous and the wretched, the powerful and the pathetic.
— John Bradshaw, Healing the Shame that Binds You
I drew it over my skin like a violins bow, No one would ever hear the song of my shame.
— Jodi Picoult, Handle with Care
Our words had to be circumspect. We could not write anything too negative about our circumstances. This was tricky, since the very form of a married woman's letter needed to include the usual complaints -- that we were pathetic, powerless, worked to the bone, homesick, and sad. We were supposed to speak directly about our feelings without appearing ungrateful, no-account, or unfilial.
— Lisa See, Snow Flower and the Secret Fan
She hugged me and I could feel the heat rise in my face, either from shame or love, like there was a difference.
— Christopher Moore, Lamb: The Gospel According to Biff, Christ's Childhood Pal
It’s good to feel foolish sometimes, Fjerdan.”“You only say that because you have no shame.
— Leigh Bardugo, Crooked Kingdom
I wouldn’t want you to get in the shower and then pass out or some such. How about if I help you get out of your clothes? I’m an expert in platonic undressings.” He gave me that wicked smile. “Give it a rest. I’m not going to strip naked in front of you, and I’d rather pee in private.” “Half the injuries in a home happen in the bathroom. What kind of friend would I be to let you face that kind of danger alone? I mean, sure, you walked out of death, but this is a shower.” “Shame. Get out of my bathroom.
— Devon Monk, Magic at the Gate
What the hell?” I muttered. Then I realized it was Jack Quinn’s car. Jack was a Hound and Bea’s boyfriend. The left blinker flashed on for just a second, and then Jack drove at speed again.“Zayvion, I’m sorry to tell you I think I have a crush on another man.”“Who is this unfortunate and soon-to-be-dead fool?” he asked.“Jack. That’s his car. He must have been waiting for us, or maybe he followed us.”“Jack Quinn has been following us?” Shame said.“And now he’s taking us to Collins, I think.”“Or a trap,” Shame said.“He’s a Hound, Shame.”“My statement stands.”“You still don’t get it, do you?” I turned left, following the car. “Hounds are loyal. Jack and Bea told me they’d help me if they could. They’re not going to turn against me while I’m in trouble.”“What happens when you’re not in trouble?” Shame asked.“Don’t know. It’s never happened.
— Devon Monk, Magic Without Mercy
The shame-based person is nearly always enmeshed in some way with one or more people. While we are in a dysfunctional, shame-based relationship, we may feel like we are losing our mind, going crazy. When we try to test reality, we are unable to trust our senses, our feelings and our reactions.
— Charles L. Whitfield, Healing the Child Within: Discovery and Recovery for Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families
It is such an uncomfortable feeling to know one is a fool
— L. Frank Baum
Why does shame and self-loathing become cruelty to the innocent ?
— Anne Rice, Merrick
It was a shameful thing that she had nothing of which to be ashamed.
— Philip José Farmer
This man had something to hide, some shame in his past, and those with a past can always be bought.
— Ian Rankin, Blood Hunt
To know that we are only angels weighed down by filth, free of guilt? The bacteria in our bellies are responsible for the farts which shame us, tiny monsters shitting in their billions all over our pure skin create the acid reek of "our" sweat. And Slade: when the "inner voices" tell us we're unworthy or instruct us to "love" and "hate," despite our best instincts... are these incessant distracting thoughts our own? Or do we only hear the voice of the eternal germ screaming in our heads?
— Grant Morrison, The Filth
Looks like it’s game time,” Shame said. “Beautiful day for some ass kicking, don’t you think?
— Devon Monk, Magic on the Hunt
It's shame that gets us killed. Shame is the anchor, the heaviest burden to carry from the battlefield. Fortunately shame was an affliction I'd never suffered from.
— Mark  Lawrence, Prince of Fools
Aftera brief silence, Kenzie said, "Don't you believe in second chances?"The room seemed a little colder, a little darker, as if a shadow had passed over the sun. "Sonny Lee always said, 'Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me.
— Cinda Williams Chima, The Sorcerer Heir
If shame had a face, I think it would kind of looked like mine... If it had a home, would it be my eyes?
— LH
She kept saying, "My husband will be back soon. He went for help. He'll be back." But that's the kind of lie people tell sometimes when they got only strangers to rely on. There's shame in that, so people lie.
— Marilynne Robinson
It was a crying shame!
— Ru Freeman, A Disobedient Girl
Men canreturn to where they have done evil deeds,but men do not return to where they’ve beenabased. On this point God’s design and ourown feeling of abasement coincideso absolutely that we quit: the night,the rotting beast, the exultant mobs, our homes,our hearthfires, Bacchus in a vacant lotembracing Ariadne in the dark.
— Joseph Brodsky
To know shame is to be human. And to have the capacity for empathy is also to be human.
— Brené Brown, Men, Women & Worthiness: The Experience of Shame and the Power of Being Enough
I'm dying from about ninety-nine kinds of shame
— Sherman Alexie, Flight
I am careful not to look anyone in the face because I don't want them to see the shame in my eyes, and I also don't want to see the laughter in theirs.
— NoViolet Bulawayo, We Need New Names
Standing in the spotlight, surrounded by all my selves, each of them naked and vulnerable before your lens, I want to be split open and reminded of shame. I know that sounds selfish, but I’m allowed to be selfish ’cause we’re talking about photography. Do you honestly believe I don’t see it for what it actually is: Exploitative? Exploitation is the nature of the beast, whatever the hell that means.
— Kris Kidd, Return to Sender
I want to be split open and reminded of shame.
— Kris Kidd
Many a man has been ashamed of his wicked attempts, when he has been repulsed, that would never have been ashamed of them, had he succeeded.
— Samuel Richardson, Pamela; or, Virtue Rewarded
My greatest gift ever is public embarrassment and shame
— Tare Munzara
They had grown up on shame
—  it was the nutrient of their soil.
When you make a man ashamed, you make him dangerous.
— Chris Cleave, Little Bee
There is no shame in feeling bad about having to kill. The shame comes when you no longer care.
— Robyn Wideman, Son of Soron
Often, her mate is the child of a narcissist, already indoctrinated to regard exploitation and disregard as love. Others lured by the narcissistic aura are those in whom healthy childhood exhibitionism has been repressed. . . . If the parent puts the child to shame for showing off, the need for attention gets repressed into the unconscious. Repression means that the need is not satisfied and continues to press for expression in the adult without her being aware of it. The repressed adult may select an exhibitionistic mate to achieve vicarious satisfaction.
— Elan Golomb, Trapped in the Mirror: Adult Children of Narcissists in Their Struggle for Self
He wanted to flee in shame, to the kitchenette, to the next room, to the fire escapes and rooftops and the places where the city ended.
— Garth Risk Hallberg, City on Fire
What kind of one-night stand takes your car the next morning? It’s called the walk of shame, not grand theft auto.
— Piper Rayne, Dirty Talker
I had a chance to lay it all out on the table, and I didn't. But that's the problem with shame. Shame doesn't like company. Shame's not something that likes to be shared.
— Meghan Quinn, Co-Wrecker
In fact, all of us are very susceptible to having our humiliating experiences turn to shame, especially when the person who is putting us down is someone with whom we have a valued relationship or someone whom we perceive to have more power than we do...
— Brené Brown
Adequate planning will rescue you from the shame of tomorrow
— Topsy Gift
Healthy people understand that others have the capacity to choose to end relationships and it serves as motivation for them to learn to relate in healthy and loving ways. However, when we are driven by shame, we don't just fear losing a relationship, but we live in terror that if we let anyone really get to know us, we would never be desired, pursued, or loved. In us, that fear can be worked out in the development of unhealthy denial, workaholism, perfectionism, chameleon-type behavior, and sadly, even revictimization... When we live in denial or present a false self out of fear... we will do anything to be accepted by people... When we begin to tell the truth about what happened to us we also begin the process of turning about from this type of idolatry... When we begin to tear away our layers of illegitimate shame... When our own vision is not distorted by our shame we can discern what was our responsibility and what wasn't.
— Wendy J. Mahill, Growing a Passionate Heart
Strong sun, that bleachThe curtains of my room, can you not renderColourless this dress I wear?—This violent plaidOf purple angers and red shames; the yellow stripeOf thin but valid treacheries; the flashy green of kind deeds doneThrough indolence, high judgments given in haste;The recurring checker of the serious breach of taste?
— Edna St. Vincent Millay, Huntsman, What Quarry?
I lie there for a while in the dusk, then make a decision, little knowing how it will affect every facet of my life and fiber of my being for the rest of my life: I say no to shame.
— Alan Cumming, Not My Father's Son
It seems to me that all the people involved in the Hank and Adria story thought they were doing something good. But they only revealed that our imagination is so limited, our arsenal of potential responses so narrow, that the only thing anyone can think to do with an inappropriate shamer like Adria is to punish her with a shaming. All of the shamers had themselves come from a place of shame, and it really felt parochial and self-defeating to instinctively slap shame onto shame like a clumsy builder covering cracks.
— Jon Ronson, So You've Been Publicly Shamed
Judy shook her head when she saw me the next day, dressed in the same clothes I had worn to work the day before. “We used to call that the walk of shame,” she said.
— Marcy Dermansky, The Red Car
Memory repression thrives in shame, secrecy, and shock. The shame and degradation experienced during sexual assault is profound, especially for children who have no concept of what is happening to them or why. Sexual abuse is so bizarre and horrible that the frightened child feels compelled to bury the event deep inside his or her mind.
— Renee Fredrickson, Repressed Memories: A Journey to Recovery from Sexual Abuse
Shame evokes anxiety about what will happen if someone really knows is, but, because it is impossible to for anxiety and anger to be felt simultaneously, we can dream our anxiety by employing anger or rage in the form of contempt... Contempt, because it feels more powerful has always helped us feel safer and more powerful than the anxiety we feel when we experience shame. [3]
— Wendy J. Mahill, Growing a Passionate Heart
More sensitive to Rome's prejudices than I was aware, I recalled that although they grant sensuality a rôle they see only shameful folly in love;
— Marguerite Yourcenar, Memoirs of Hadrian
You're weak because you're afraid of people seeing your weakness. You're letting shame decide who you are.
— Leigh Bardugo, Crooked Kingdom
It is important to announce your intentions at top volume, she thought, or your intentions will think you are ashamed of them.
— Catherynne M. Valente, The Girl Who Soared Over Fairyland and Cut the Moon in Two
No matter how dark your situation seems, there are blessings you can find and focus on. God is always faithful. - From the Book: Removing Your Shame Label.
— Eddie  Capparucci
When trapped in a constant state of negative over-stimulation, anxiety becomes the norm in our lives. From the book: Removing Your Shame Label
— Eddie  Capparucci
When you're emotionally, physically, mentally or spiritually drained, bad things happen. - From the Book: Removing Your Shame Label.
— Eddie  Capparucci
Being stuck in your own head not only cheats you of intimate interactions with others, but it also impacts your relationship with God. - From the Book: Removing Your Shame Label
— Eddie  Capparucci
Oh, tell me, who first declared, who first proclaimed that man only does nasty things because he does not know his own real interests; and that if he were enlightened, if his eyes were opened to his real normal interests, man would at once cease to do nasty things, would at once become good and noble because, being enlightened and understanding his real advantage, he would see his own advantage in the good and nothing else… . Oh, the babe! Oh, the pure, innocent child!
— Fyodor Dostoyevsky, Notes from Underground
Imagine experiencing pervasive and perpetual sensations of dread and shame, the sort of visceral response that you might have when your body reacts to a physical threat. Envision how distressing it would be if you experienced these exact same feelings after viewing yourself in a reflective surface or a photograph. Imagine what it might be like if your body was the source of extreme feelings of anger, disgust, anxiety, fear, and hopelessness. Try to visualize how it might be if viewing your outward appearance triggered a reaction usually associated with a perilous situation, and how disconcerting it would be if every time you looked at yourself you experienced primal feelings of terror. If you have not had such an experience, it is probably quite difficult to comprehend how it is possible to have such a reaction to one's own body. This, though, is the very tormenting reality for individuals who suffer from body dysmorphic disorder (BDD).
— Winograd Arie M, Face to Face with Body Dysmorphic Disorder: Psychotherapy and Clinical Insights
Who exactly am I saving from shame, when I’ll live and die in every possible way?
— Greg Egan, Axiomatic
Never be timid about your own pleasure. Don't be ashamed to come.
— Abigail Barnette, The Stranger
When you think of the amount of turnover and profit made by most companies in this country - and especially the big chains, it's a shame that they pay their employees minimum wage and no more than that. What that really says is: 'We're paying you minimum wage, because we're not allowed to pay you any less.
— Christina Engela
He restrained himself from another wisecrack, infinitesimally but with great effort attempting to close down his nightclub approach to education; every positive change in his life, every minute increment in character, acquired more or less through shame.
— Richard Price, Samaritan
I won’t claim I’ve never in my life done anything I’m ashamed of, but I haven’t done anything for a good while. If not everyone would agree with the decisions I’ve made, that’s fine. What other people think has never made a situation right or wrong.
— Curtis Sittenfeld, American Wife
Denial forces victims to retreat in lifeless existence, dieing in the shadows of buried trauma and painful memories.
— Trudy Metzger
I am continuously struck by how frequently the various thought processes of the inner critic trigger overwhelming emotional flashbacks. This is because the PTSD-derived inner critic weds shame and self-hate about imperfection to fear of abandonment, and mercilessly drive the psyche with the entwined serpents of perfectionism and endangerment. Recovering individuals must learn to recognize, confront and disidentify from the many inner critic processes that tumble them back in emotional time to the awful feelings of overwhelming fear, self-hate, hopelessness and self-disgust that were part and parcel of their original childhood abandonment.
— Pete Walker
Since there was nothing at all I was certain of, since I needed to be provided at every instant with a new confirmation of my existence, since nothing was in my very own, undoubted, sole possession, determined unequivocally only by me — in sober truth a disinherited son — naturally I became unsure even of the thing nearest to me, my own body.
— Franz Kafka, Letter to His Father
Perfectionism sucks the air out of your uniqueness and leaves you empty, away from who you could become.
— Darryl Stewart Wellness
He likes to humble our foes by making them seem ridiculous. As he said to me the other day, ‘Kill a man, and you cede him honor in the eyes of the gods. Laugh at him and you shame him'.
— Raymond E. Feist, Mistress of the Empire
Prose divides shame into stations.
— Wayne Koestenbaum, My 1980s and Other Essays
Shame Sucker! You suck my joy away!You suck my fun away!You suck my happiness away!Shame, you suck!
— Darryl Stewart Wellness
having DID in itself creates intense shame. A person continually has to deal with not remembering what one has said or done. Thus, the person with DID must be quick with inferences and cover-ups. Unfortunately, this often convinces her, as well as others, that she is a liar.
— Elizabeth Howell, Knowing, Not-Knowing and Sort-Of-Knowing: Psychoanalysis and the Experience of Uncertainty
The spurned diagnosisShame"By shame, I have in mind the terrible, at times unfathomable, feeling of being outcast from human society, of being shunned and spurned, of being wanted by no one, and having no one who empathizes with you (Lynd 1958). Part of this experience of shame is the focus on the inadequacies of oneself in the eyes of others and oneself, and of feeling mortified, wanting to disappear, to hide inside a crack in the wall (Lewis 1971).
— Elizabeth Howell, Knowing, Not-Knowing and Sort-Of-Knowing: Psychoanalysis and the Experience of Uncertainty
Shame eats away at the core of who we are.
— Christine Caine
Laurence felt a weird combination of shame and rage, as though he'd grown another new body part just in time to get punched in it.
— Charlie Jane Anders, All the Birds in the Sky
There is no disgrace in being knocked down, there is only shame in not getting back up; never quit!
— Ken Poirot
When we are experience shame we are often thrown into crisis mode...In this mode, the neocortex is bypassed and our acess to advanced, rational, calm thinking and processing of emotion all but disappears...we find ourselves becoming aggressive, wanting to run and hide and feeling paralyzed...
— Brené Brown, I Thought It Was Just Me: Women Reclaiming Power and Courage in a Culture of Shame
When shamings are delivered like remotely administered drone strikes, nobody needs to think about how ferocious our collective power might be. The snowflake never needs to feel responsible for the avalanche.
— Jon Ronson, So You've Been Publicly Shamed
Shames the shadow of love she thought
— Jill Alexander Essbaum, Hausfrau
Are you a part of a herd? Then shame on you! Until you leave your herd, you are no one!
— Mehmet Murat ildan
Do not humiliate people, shame is a lifetime lasting effect that can be nursed but can never be cured.
— Fort Free
[L]ove ... privileges another to see us in ways that would shame us and disgust others without the intervention of love.
— William Ian Miller
Once you talk about your shame to others you no longer feel shame
— Prabakaran Thirumalai
For the first time in her life, Jocelyn felt the hot shame of being underdressed for a party.
— Heidi Schulz, Hook's Revenge
[W]e all care deeply about things that seem totally inconsequential to other people. We all carry around with us the flotsam and jetsam of perceived humiliations that actually mean nothing. We are a mass of vulnerabilities, and who knows what will trigger them?
— Jon Ronson, So You've Been Publicly Shamed
Many of us live in denial of who we truly are because we fear losing someone or something-and there are times that if we don't rock the boat, too often the one we lose is ourselves...It feels good to be accepted, loved, and approved of by others, but often the membership fee to belong to that club is far too high of a price to pay.
— Dennis Merritt Jones
When you're hounded by the shame of the past, you can turn into a pretty miserable person who is always trying to measure up and please others.
— Ed Cyzewski, Pray, Write, Grow: Cultivating Prayer and Writing Together
As a society, our decision to heap shame and contempt upon those who struggle and fail in a system designed to keep them locked up and locked out says far more about ourselves than it does about them.
— Michelle Alexander, The New Jim Crow: Mass Incarceration in the Age of Colorblindness
It may be somewhat paradoxical to refer to shame as a 'feeling,' for while shame is initially painful, constant shaming leads to a deadening of feeling. Shame, like cold, is, in essence, the absence of warmth. And when it reaches overwhelming intensity, shame is experienced, like cold, as a feeling of numbness and deadness. [In Dante's Inferno] the lowest circle of hell was a region not of flames, but of ice---absolute coldness.
— James Gilligan
Fear and shame are the backbone of my self-control. They are the source of inspiration, my insurance against becoming entirely unacceptable. They help me do the right thing. And I am terrified of what I would be without them. Because I suspect that, left to my own devices, I would completely lose control of my life.
— Allie Brosh, Hyperbole and a Half: Unfortunate Situations, Flawed Coping Mechanisms, Mayhem, and Other Things That Happened
The best way to avoid being confused about Bruce Jenner is get your head out of his bedroom and closet, and then think about all of the things you've been hiding and been miserable about. So what he made his announcement via media. Books, music, movies, business launches are announced in the same manner. Just focus on the feeling of finally disclosing something that enables you to be free and to live as authentically as possible. And then imagine what it's like to own your truth, tell it your way, thus taking away anyone else's ability to spin it their way or use it against you. If you can do any of the above, you will no longer be confused.
— Robin Caldwell
She that in life and love refuses me, In death and shame my partner she shall be.
— Thomas Middleton, The Changeling
The NSA is looking for terrorists. They’re not getting psychosexual pleasure out of their schadenfreude about you.”—
— Jon Ronson
Tis time to die, when 'tis a shame to live.
— Thomas Middleton, The Changeling
We are not the ones who will achieve success and put this world to shame, but God will do this
— Sunday Adelaja
There is not one Indian in the whole of this country who does not cringe in anguish and frustration because of these textbooks. There is not one Indian child who has not come home in shame and tears.
— Rupert Costo
He knew me. He knew me through and through and he found no shame in me.
— Ted Dekker, A.D. 30
Shame was one of those things that had to be excised like a cancer, but it was a hard thing to remove when it was wrapped around your heart.
— Simon Wood, The One That Got Away
Shame lurks in the pockets of the mind (or spirit), like lint. No matter how brave a face you put on things – and believe me, I did – you always have to face yourself in the end.
— Beverly Rycroft, A Slim Green Silence
I understood that no one could have lobbed such a stinging wad of shame out into the world without having a considerable personal reserve of it to draw on.
— Barbara Ehrenreich, Living with a Wild God: A Nonbeliever's Search for the Truth about Everything
Guilt is one side of a nasty triangle
—  the other two are shame and stigma. This grim coalition combines to inculpate women themselves of the crimes committed against them.
Do no be ashamed to make a temporary withdrawal from the field if you see that your enemy is stronger than you; it is not winning or losing a single battle that matters, but how the war ends.
— Paulo Coelho, Warrior of the Light
Come let's go inside. I'm sure you and your men are hungry.""Yes," Allan said, grinning."Shameless," I heard David grunt."There is no glory in shame," Allan said back.
— A.C. Gaughen, Lion Heart
Teach them the shame that tells the lie, “I am unforgivable,” when the truth is, “I feel unforgivable, but it was out of my control.” Never let them switch those round right or The Adversary will liberate them in a heartbeat, like a bird flying from a cage.
— Geoffrey Wood
I was ashamed of myself for being ashamed of myself. I didn't like feeling like that.
— Benjamin Alire Sáenz
Do not be ashamed to make a temporary withdrawal from the field if you see that your enemy is stronger than you; it is not winning or losing a single battle that matters, but how the war ends.
— Paulo Coelho, Warrior of the Light
I am not ashamed that I was once a vacuum-cleaner salesman, only that I was a *good* vacuum-cleaner salesman.
— Robert Morley
...shame spreads through his body like a drop of red dye in water.
— Zak Ebrahim
When you're ashamed of their action, to ask them the reason of their actions can make you a fool.
— Auliq Ice
The more judgmental a person is the sadder they are.
— David W. Earle
Consider letting go of the barriers between yourself and others, let go of the definition our culture has inflicted upon us and allow the best part of ourselves to connect with the wondrous parts of others. Allow yourself to connect in a deeper and more profound way.
— David W. Earle
When I learned about the gray existing between the black and white of absolute terms, I began to experience more peace. The more I expanded my gray areas (more than 50 shades), the more peace I experienced in my life.
— David W. Earle
Do not ever get agitated by provoking thoughts and actions. Always keep your calm. This will shame the alien.
— Lailah Gifty Akita
She's not ashamed of loving, although those she's loved are few in number; it was/is sweet and true. She's only ashamed she used love as an excuse.
— Donna Lynn Hope
...research tells us that we judge people in areas where we're vulnerable to shame, especially picking folks who are doing worse than we're doing. If I feel good about my parenting, I have no interest in judging other people's choices. If I feel good about my body, I don't go around making fun of other people's weight or appearance. We're hard on each other because we're using each other as a launching pad out of our own perceived shaming deficiency.
— Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead
There is a quiet transformation happening that is moving us from 'turning on each other' to 'turning toward each other.' Without question, that transformation will require shame resilience. If we're willing to dare greatly and risk vulnerability with each other, worthiness has the power to set us free.
— Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead
Mae's first impulse was to die of shame, but she realized after a hot, stomach-clenching moment that this was probably impractical.
— Sarah Rees Brennan, The Demon's Covenant
I remember being a teenager and being ashamed of my musical tastes, at least some of them. My Brian Wilson and Beach Boys fandom, which is as important to me as anything else, was almost like a porn stash. Hide that shit, someone's coming! You couldn't look like me and be black in West Philadelphia and love the Beach Boys the way I did.
— Ahmir Questlove Thompson, Mo' Meta Blues: The World According to Questlove
I am protective of the gentle slope of stomach bulging like an early pregnancy, at my waist. I've earned its existence with everything I've been forced to swallow.
— stephanie   roberts
Now since shame is a mental picture of disgrace, in which we shrink from the disgrace itself and not from its consequences, and we only care what opinion is held of us because of the people who form that opinion, it follows that the people before whom we feel shame are those whose opinion of us matters to us.
— Aristotle, The Rhetoric & The Poetics of Aristotle
She had heard it was easy to blame others for one's own failures. But that wasn't exactly accurate. It was easy to blame herself for what had happened--hard to live with it.
— Frank Beddor, ArchEnemy
If one looks at a balancing scale putting “fear of change” on one side and “status quo” on the other, they are often in balance. Change is hard. We tend to accept our condition and no matter how painful, we will not change until the balancing scale is tipped - only when the discomfort becomes greater than the fear of change does the scale tip.
— David W. Earle
Late one night, during a toss-and-turn fretful sleep, I pondered my crisis. No solutions were on the horizon. I, again, wasted my psychic energy with prayer. Nothing. No angel on a white cloud. No rainbow’s pot of gold. No way to control the people I loved. As I rolled over and put the pillow over my head attempting to block all that was negative, I silently screamed for rescue. Then, in a far away and distinct part of my brain, a small voice said, “You have to do this on your own.”I thought, “Was that the best You can do?” This god, to whom I was desperately sending burnt offerings of my own humiliation, couldn’t send an avenging angel or a wise man imparting wisdom? All You can give me is this feeble message of abandonment? At that moment, I quit believing in that god.
— David W. Earle
That was a moment where something clarified about shame for me: it’s not just something negative but some kind of arrow, it’s pointing at something, some confusing blend of fear and desire. There was liberation in that, thinking of shame as something to follow, like a path—rather than simply something to be paralyzed by, or try to dissolve, or become second-level meta-shamed by (i.e. “I shouldn’t even be having this feeling of shame…”)
— Leslie Jamison
I glanced up at the trees too. Dead. Every one of them gray and white, needles rusted, leaves shriveled at the tips of branches. All the life sucked out of them. Not just the trees. All the plants, ferns, grasses and brush were shriveled, brown, barren.As if a month of winter had set down right here in my driveway and gone on a killing spree...."Love what you've done with the landscape," Cody said. "You could open your own business, you know."..."The hell you talking about, Miller?" I asked Cody."Yard care. You're poison and weed whacker all in one. You can call it Death to All Shrubbery.
— Devon Monk, Stone Cold
It was His gentle voice who calledand sent His angel pain to guide me, through the long ‘n dusty corridors, and empty hallways of my soul.
— David W. Earle
Knowing what I do now, I think about shame and worthiness in this way: 'It's the album, not the picture.' If you imagine opening up a photo album, and many of the pages are full eight-by-ten photos of shaming events, you'll close that album and walk away thinking, Shame defines that story. If, on the other hand, you open that album and see a few small photos of shame experiences, but each one is surrounded by pictures of worthiness, hope, struggle, resilience, courage, failure, success, and vulnerability, the shame experience are only a part of a larger story. They don't define the album.
— Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead
Her only shame was that she felt none.
— Nicholas Evans, The Horse Whisperer
Recovering is a process of coming to experience a sense of self. More precisely, it is a process of learning to sense one's self, to attune to one's subjective physical, psychic, and social self- experience. These woman's core sense of shame and their difficulty tolerating painful emotions had led them to avoid turning their attention inward to their internal sense of things. In recovering, they "came to their senses" and learned to trust their sensed experience, in particular their sense of "enoughness"".
— Sheila M. Reindl, Sensing the Self: Women's Recovery from Bulimia
. . . have not some religions, including the most influential forms of Christianity, taught that the heart of man is totally corrupt? How could the course of religion in its entire sweep not be marked by practices that are shameful in their cruelty and lustfulness, and by beliefs that are degraded and intellectually incredible? What else than what we can find could be expected, in the case of people having little knowledge and no secure method of knowing; with primitive institutions, and with so little control of natural forces that they lived in a constant state of fear?
— John Dewey, Intelligence in the Modern World
Fool me once
—  fool me twice
Shame hates it when we reach out and tell our story. It hates having words wrapped around it- it can't survive being shared. Shame loves secrecy. When we bury our story, the shame metastasizes.
— Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are
It is also a warning. It is a warning that, if nobody reads the writing on the wall, man will be reduced to the state of the beast, whom he is shaming by his manners.
— Mahatma Gandhi, The Story of My Experiments With Truth
The book of Jonah becomes an embarrassing and public reading of your family business. (page iii)
— Michael Ben Zehabe, A Commentary on Jonah
Sugar cane reach up to GodAnd every baby cryingShame the blanket of my nightAnd all my days are dying
— Maya Angelou, The Complete Collected Poems
And I will raise up for them a plant of renown, and they shall be no more consumed with hunger in the land, neither bear the shame of the heathen any more.
— Anonymous, Holy Bible: King James Version
each hour is a room of shame, and I amswimming, swimming, holding my head up,smiling, joking, ashamed, ashamed,like being naked with the clothed, or beinga child, having to try to behavewhile hating the terms of your life.
— Sharon Olds, Stag's Leap: Poems
If you feel ashamed about your need for love & support, it's because you were made to feel this way as a child. It's not a sign of weakness to want affirmation, reassurance or someone to count on; these are natural, appropriate needs. Just make sure to be there for yourself first.
— Marcia Sirota
Don't stay too long in the shame-filled grounds of relapse. Fertile soil awaits your return and your recoverying.
— Holli Kenley, Mountain Air: Relapsing and Finding the Way Back... One Breath at a Time
I obscenity in the milk of my shame.
— Ernest Hemingway, For Whom the Bell Tolls
Shame is like melting. You can actually feel your muscles sag and drop, as if your body is preparing you to crawl, or possibly ooze, to the nearest exit.
— Maureen Johnson, The Madness Underneath
They know their crime," she said. "They know their shame.
— Alethea Kontis, Enchanted
Only love can neutralize shame.
— Omar Manejwala, Craving: Why We Can't Seem to Get Enough
I can't get myself to say what happened next. I cannot cope with even thinking about this let alone living with it.""It is so degrading and I try to forget, it hurts so much because she is my mother."- Graham talks about being sexually abused by his mother
— Carolyn Ainscough, Breaking Free: Help For Survivors Of Child Sexual Abuse
He, the man, had seen her, touched her, and had not validated her beauty, her womanliness. He had turned away and gone to his own bed. Like Eve after the fall, her nakedness was obscene to her now.
— Naomi Ragen, Jephte's Daughter
I'd never undetstood how Hana Could lie so often and easily. But just like anyhting else, lying becomes easier the more you do it.
— Lauren Oliver, Delirium
You cannot shame or belittle people into changing their behaviors.
— Brené Brown
That's how life goes on - protected by the silence that anesthetizes shame.
— M.L. Stedman, The Light Between Oceans
We are all ashamed in one way or another. Who among us is not stained by the past?
— Jenna Blum, Those Who Save Us
Embarrassing facts, those would really help our children remember their classroom lessons better.
— Bauvard, Some Inspiration for the Overenthusiastic
[W]hen people are ashamed they hold aloof, above all from those nearest to them, and are unreserved with strangers
— Anton Chekhov, The Portable Chekhov
At best the family teaches the finest things human beings can learn from one another generosity and love. But it is also, all too often, where we learn nasty things like hate, rage and shame.
— Barbara Ehrenreich
Fool me once, shame on youfool me twice, shame on mefool me thrice, I'm gonna get the frying pan!
— Anthony Liccione
I’ve realized, though, we can either choose to be vulnerable or have moments of vulnerability sneak up on us. Like when you’re happily alone, strutting around your house naked, but then hear a sound. Suddenly, the comfort and confidence you felt in your own skin evaporates. You run to the nearest room, hurrying to shut the door. Then you wait, and listen quietly for an opportunity to make an escape. Your mind races trying to think of an excuse for your current nude state. You’re embarrassed.But, if you live your life listening for the Lord, obeying when He asks you to be vulnerable, you never have to worry about being walked in on. Your soul is ready to be seen. And, He won’t allow your life to be marked by shame or embarrassment.
— Katie Kiesler, 22 and Single: A Coming of Age Story...in Progress
If you want to make a difference, the next time you see someone being cruel to another human being, take it personally. Take it personally because it is personal!
— Brené Brown, I Thought It Was Just Me: Women Reclaiming Power and Courage in a Culture of Shame
And as long as you are in any way ashamed before yourself, you do not yet belong with us.
— Friedrich Nietzsche, The Gay Science
Nobody taught me to be like this. I was born this way. Since I opened my eyes to the world, I have never slept with a man. Never. Just imagine what purity. I have nothing to be ashamed of.[2000]
— Chavela Vargas
But sometimes shame is a more powerful engine than rage. Like rage, it burns hot; and like rage it tends to consume its own furnace.
— Jonathan Maberry, Dust & Decay
Shame ain't black, like dirt, like I always thought it was. Shame be the color of a new white uniform your mother ironed all night to pay for, white without a smudge or a speck a work-dirt on it.
— Kathryn Stockett, The Help
There is no shame in not knowing your history, the shame lies in not finding out.
— Habeeb Akande
The shame of living extends its tentacles around my dreams.
— Anne de Gandt
Cynicism is often the shamefaced product of inexperience.
— A.J. Liebling, Mollie and Other War Pieces
Distracted from distraction by distraction
— T.S. Eliot
Behind him, he heard Ronan say, "I like the way you losers thought Instagram before first aid. Fuck off.
— Maggie Stiefvater, Blue Lily, Lily Blue
There are many things of which a wise man might wish to be ignorant
— Ralph Waldo Emerson
These days, in the world of apps and social media and … idiot friends, it is literally impossible to avoid spoilers. If a character dies, it is gonna be the number one trending topic on Twitter, it is gonna be the top trending story on Facebook — and Reddit and Tumblr just turn into a completely uncensored memorial service of memes.This happens all the time with sports results, but — I shit you not — I once got a notification from the BBC News app saying that a character in a show I was watching had just died! I thought that news notifications are supposed to be for impending natural disasters, not for just ruining my bloody afternoon.
— Dan Howell
How different would people act if they couldn't show off on social media? Would they still do it?
— Donna Lynn Hope
This is what you do now to give your day topography--scan the boxes, read the news, see the chain of your friends reporting about themselves, take the 140-character expository bursts and sift through for the information you need. It's a highly deceptive world, one that constantly asks you to comment but doesn't really care what you have to say. The illusion of participation can sometimes lead to participation. But more often than not, it only leads to more illusion, dressed in the guise of reality.
— David Levithan, Two Boys Kissing
Social media spark a revelation that we, the people, have a voice, and through the democratization of content and ideas we can once again unite around common passions, inspire movements, and ignite change.
— Brian Solis, Engage: The Complete Guide for Brands and Businesses to Build, Cultivate, and Measure Success in the New Web
We are continuously challenged to discover new works of culture—and, in the process, we don’t allow any one of them to assume a weight in our minds.
— Alain de Botton
Our social tools are not an improvement to modern society, they are a challenge to it.
— Clay Shirky, Here Comes Everybody: The Power of Organizing Without Organizations
It’s a highly deceptive world, one that constantly asks you to comment but doesn’t really care what you have to say.
— David Levithan, Two Boys Kissing
Over the past 60 years, marketing has moved from being product-centric (Marketing 1.0) to being consumer-centric (Marketing 2.0). Today we see marketing as transforming once again in response to the new dynamics in the environment. We see companies expanding their focus from products to consumers to humankind issues. Marketing 3.0 is the stage when companies shift from consumer-centricity to human-centricity and where profitability is balanced with corporate responsibility.
— Philip Kotler
The more passionate and argumentative I get the more followers and friends I make online.
— Tasha Turner
Tempted to type meaningless twaddle all the time on Twitter...with alliteration, no less!
— E.A. Bucchianeri
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— David Chiles
What social-media really becomes after years of use is a constant stream of information both verbal and visual that at first drenches the mind, quenching its thirst for knowledge, and subduing its curiosity slowly but surly transforms into a torrent that renders the brain heavy and the mind restless.
— Aysha Taryam
NO SURROGATE CAN BIRTHYOUR GREATNESSSO LET THEM STEAL TIME WILL REVEAL
— Qwana M. "BabyGirl" Reynolds-Frasier, Friend In Your Pocket Conversations With M.I.N.I M.E. Class Is Now In Session
THEY STOLE YOUR STYLEBUT THEY COULDN'T STEAL YOUR GLOW 
— Qwana M. "BabyGirl" Reynolds-Frasier, Friend In Your Pocket Conversations With M.I.N.I M.E. Class Is Now In Session
In this fast-paced digitally connected world, your competitor is only a WhatsApp message away. Be reachable by every medium possible
— Bernard Kelvin Clive
IN LIFE ONE MUST LEARN HOW TO WASH THEIR OWNBACK
— Qwana M. "BabyGirl" Reynolds-Frasier, Friend In Your Pocket Conversations With M.I.N.I M.E. Class Is Now In Session
There is no Social Media without Women... it ceases to exist!
— Ted Rubin, The Age of Influence: Selling to the Digitally Connected Customer
It is tempting to say, as my friend suggested, that these online identities are caricatures of the real me. It is certainly true that social media can unleash the cruellest side of human nature.
— Derek Thompson
For people who are not on a particular social networking site, it can seem like you're not even living on the same planet— you're essentially not functioning in the same frame.
— Sharanya Haridas
Despite its revolutionary promises, Facebook can turn our everyday lives into that wedding we have all heard about: the one where the bride chooses her prettiest friends, not her best friends, to be bridesmaids. It can feel like a popularity contest where being Liked is what matters, being the best is the only respectable option, how our partners look is more important than how they act, the race to get married is on, and we have to be clever all the time. It can be just another place, not to be, but to seem.
— Meg Jay, The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter--And How to Make the Most of Them Now
The Arab poet Silm Al Khaser wrote “He who watches people dies of worry” and his words have never been more potent than in today’s world where all people do is watch others and cater to them in return.
— Aysha Taryam
Social media was designed to SHARE what you’re doing and who you are, not BE what you’re doing and be who you are.
— Richie Norton
WHEN IT MATTERS THE MOST....DON'T PLEAD THE 5TH WHEN YOU'VE BEEN TESTIFYING ALL DAY!SPEAK UP!
— Qwana M. "BabyGirl" Reynolds-Frasier, Friend In Your Pocket Conversations With M.I.N.I M.E. Class Is Now In Session
Tech isn’t morally good or bad until it’s wielded by the corporations that fashion it for mass consumption. Apps and platforms can be designed to promote rich social connections; or, like cigarettes, they can be designed to addict. Today, unfortunately, many tech developments do promote addiction.
— Adam Alter, Irresistible: The Rise of Addictive Technology and the Business of Keeping Us Hooked
THE MOMENT YOU WANT SOMEONE ELSE'S LIFE IS THE MOMENT YOU SPIRITUALLY KILL YOURSELF
— Qwana M. "BabyGirl" Reynolds-Frasier, Friend In Your Pocket Conversations With M.I.N.I M.E. Class Is Now In Session
Exfiltrated metadata from internet service providers and social media platforms can be plugged into big data analytics and once the right algorithm is applied, can allow an adversary surgically precise psychographic targeting of critical infrastructure executives with elevated privileges. Why is no one talking about this?
— James Scott, Senior Fellow, Institute for Critical Infrastructure Technology
I was basically born knowing how to casually stalk people on social media.
— Becky Albertalli, The Upside of Unrequited
People get addicted to feeling offended all the time because it gives them a high
—  being self-righteous and morally superior feels good.
Pinterest-Women love meSnapchat-Girls love meLinkedIn- Why are you ignoring me?Reddit-Chill, it's life. They don't even know me.
— Bhavik Sarkhedi
Instagram: People love me no matter what.Facebook: People used to love me.YouTube: People will always love me.Google+: Someday, people will, I know.Twitter: I don't care, guys.
— Bhavik Sarkhedi
People have all day to talk about what makes them ordinary. It turns out that they want to share what makes them weird.
— Derek Thompson, Hit Makers: The Science of Popularity in an Age of Distraction
If you don't stay relevant you will be relegated
— Bernard Kelvin Clive
You Need To Gauge, To Engage.
— Syed Sharukh