Paint thinner is a harsh solvent and should only be used if other cleaning methods were ineffective. Don't apply paint thinner to water-based paint. Use caution when applying paint thinner to hardwood floors, as it may damage the finish. Place a box fan near one of the open windows to help keep the area well ventilated. You can find paint thinner at your local hardware or paint store. If you want to avoid the smell of paint thinner, you can use mineral spirits instead. Apply pressure to the rag while repeatedly rubbing it back and forth over the stain. Apply more paint thinner if the rag dries out and there's still more paint to be removed. Wipe off any excess paint thinner once the paint stain is gone.

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Остановитесь на применении растворителя краски только в качестве последнего средства. Раскройте окна в помещении, в котором собираетесь работать. Намочите небольшой участок тряпочки растворителем. Потрите пятно краски, смоченным в растворителе участком тряпки. Продолжайте оттирать пятно, пока не уберете всю краску.


Painting designs straight onto the wall without any stencils can be difficult, but it can also be a lot of fun. The result is unique, and each brushstroke is filled with beauty. This is a great technique for organic designs, such as curling vines and twisting branches. Here's a list of what you will need:  Paintbrushes Acrylic paint Paint palette Chalk, pencils, or watercolor pencils Cup of water Painter's tape (optional) Paper towels Use a light color for the outlines if your wall is dark. Use a dark color for your outlines if your wall is light. Start with the largest shapes first, then move onto the smaller ones. For example, if you are painting a cherry blossom branch, sketch out the branch first, then add the flowers. You don't need to add the details just yet, since your paint will likely cover those up. You will be painting your design on in layers. Consider using watercolor pencils that match your paint color. This will make them less visible once the paint dries. For example, if you are outlining a brown branch, use a brown watercolor pencil. If you are outlining some green leaves, use a green watercolor pencil. Pour some paint right out onto your paint palette. You will be starting from the largest shapes first. Avoid pouring out too much paint at one time. Acrylic paint dries fast. If you pour out too much paint at one time, the paint may dry out before you use it all. You can always pour out some more paint if you run low. If you apply the paint too thickly, you will get visible brush strokes. Consider using a small, pointy brush for organic, twisting designs. If you are painting lots of straight lines, consider using a small, flat brush. This will give your more control over your line work. If you want, you can tape the paper towel onto the wall next to your work; just make sure that it is folded thick enough so that the paint does not bleed through. Be mindful of the direction you are painting in. If you are right-handed, start from the left side of your design. If you are left-handed, start...

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Подготовьте материалы. Нарисуйте эскиз на стене. Сначала закрасьте крупные элементы. Макните маленькую остроконечную кисть в краску и мягко промокните лишнюю краску сложенным бумажным полотенцем. Обозначьте контуры самых крупных элементов небольшой кистью. Завершите контур и закрасьте самый крупный элемент. Обведите контуры и закрасьте мелкие элементы. Нарисуйте детали, когда краска полностью высохнет. Подкрасьте недостающие штрихи по сухой краске.


Painting them does not necessarily have to be part of every pedicure routine, but regular pedicures really make a difference in keeping your feet soft and free from dry and rough skin, and your toenails clean and neat. You don't need to spend a lot of cash to have your pedicure professionally done in a salon, and with a few tools, you can do your own pedicure right in the comforts of your own home. If you’re on your feet a lot and they tend to be sore, massage them before you start your pedicure. While this step isn't absolutely necessary, it's a nice way to pamper yourself a little. If you're already taking time to give yourself a pedicure, why not?  Knead the soles. Use your thumbs to press into the soles of your feet in a circular kneading pattern. This will help loosen the tight muscles there.  Stretch the toes. One by one, gently pull your toes back and forth to stretch them out and ease tightness and soreness. This will slough off dry and dead skin, and to moisturize your feet as well. The skin on your feet is thicker, and to keep it soft and smooth it’s important to remove dead skin with exfoliation.  Massage the scrub in circular motions, and rinse off afterward.  To exfoliate the hardened skin on the heels and bottom part of the feet, use a foot file or a pumice stone. Make sure to use a gentle filing motion, and to never rub too hard. If you have tough calluses, try a callus shaver to remove them from your heels and the sides of your toes. This will prevent them from getting larger and causing pain. Trimming your nails while they're still soft from soaking makes the task much easier. Remember to trim them straight across, and not too short. Use an orange stick or a cuticle pusher to gently push your cuticles back toward your skin. Finally, rub some cuticle oil on your nails and cuticles to moisturize the area and keep your cuticles from tearing.  Cut your toenails straight across, as opposed to a curved shape, to prevent ingrown toenails from occurring. If you would really prefer a rounded shape...

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Делайте педикюр раз в две недели. Начните с массажа ног. Поместите ноги на 5-10 минут в большую миску с водой комнатной температуры. Ухаживайте за ногтями. Увлажняйте ноги. По желанию вы можете покрыть ноготь лаком.


Paintings and other wall decorations placed high can make a space look bigger, while placing a painting above a couch and placing tables at either end will make that space look larger. Paintings can also help make a large wall look less blank. Mirrors placed on a wall can make a small space look larger, by reflecting light and creating the appearance of more room in the room. You can effectively double the amount of space it looks like you have! But be careful...mirrors can easily make a room look cheap. Rugs should be sized so that they just fill the area they are placed in. Rugs which are too small or too large can make a room look just that: too small or too large. High curtains will draw the eye up, creating the appearance of higher ceilings. It can also make a room look more proportional if your windows and ceilings are already high. If you want to make a small room look larger, use furniture which is sized down and then avoid items which give it away, such as cups, bowls, or other standard size items. This is the dollhouse effect, where your room will have the appearance of being large and spacious but further away. When placing accessories, or any furniture items, try to use symmetry. This is a quick cheat to making a furniture arrangement look better. Place a table on either side of a couch, a bookshelf on either side of a TV, a painting on either side of a table, etc.

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Стратегически используйте картины. Стратегически используйте зеркала. Внимательно отнеситесь к выбору размера ковра. Повесьте высокие занавески. Стратегически используйте вещи с соответствующими размерами. Используйте симметрию.


Pair one or two key diamond pieces with non-diamond jewelry. For example, you could wear a diamond pendant or choker with thin silver bangle bracelets. Avoid matching diamond jewelry with black or gunmetal accessories. Diamonds look best when paired with other feminine pieces, and many black and gunmetal pieces are too masculine to coordinate well. Match a simple diamond pendant with a dainty diamond bracelet and diamond stud earrings. For instance, you could wear chandelier earrings with a simple diamond pendant, or a glamorous diamond tennis bracelet with diamond stud earrings.

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Смешивайте и подбирайте ваши бриллиантовые аксессуары. Носите все бриллианты, но сохраняйте простоту. Выберите один яркий бриллиантовый аксессуар и сочетайте его с менее экстравагантными украшениями.


Pair the correct size of line with your crankbait according to how deep you want the bait to run. For example, use a 10 lb (4.5 kg) fluorocarbon line to lighten up a deep diving crankbait or you can use the same 10 lb (4.5 kg) fluorocarbon line to get a medium diving crankbait to stay at its deepest range. The weight will range from ⅛ ounce to 2 ounces.  Remember that the slower you reel, the deeper your lure will swim while reeling fast keeps your lure shallow.  Blade size also affects how deep your lure will go but you can also add a trailer to your hook for buoyancy and movement. Plastic/rubber lures come in different shapes and sizes but remember they are meant to mimic worms or lizards so use lines that won’t easily get snagged in vegetation or debris where worms or lizards would commonly be found.

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Леска должна соответствовать глубине ловли. Выбирайте более легкие вращающиеся блесны в неглубокой воде и более тяжелые блесны для большой глубины. Используйте плавающие пластиковые и резиновые приманки (размером около 18 см) в сочетании с легковесной проволочной оснасткой.


Pairing colors that complement each other and avoiding colors that clash is an essential part of putting together an outfit. When you're working with scarves and T-shirts, there are just a few basic color rules that you may want to keep in mind. See below:  When in doubt, use a color wheel. Shades that are directly across from each other on the wheel are complementary — that is, they look good together. Almost anything looks good paired with a neutral color. These include white, black, grey, and some shades of brown and tan. You can also pick a patterned scarf that incorporate the shirt color somewhere in the pattern. Sharing a color with your shirt makes your scarf look like it was meant to go with it. If you have a scarf with an intricate pattern, wear it with a simple, one-color shirt. Alternatively, if your shirt has a complex graphic or pattern you want to show off, wear it with a simple scarf. Balancing areas of simplicity and complexity ensures your outfit is never "too much" to look at. A good policy is to start with a solid color shirt and make this your base. Your base shirt can be long or short sleeved and can have whatever neckline you like since the scarf will most likely be covering the neckline. Pair this base with a patterned scarf that uses the same color, a complementary color or mostly neutral colors. Color and complexity aren't the only factors in play when you're making your outfit. Different shirt and scarf fabrics have different visual textures based on the material and the size of the stitching. Pair textures together to create areas of visual contrast so that your scarf stands out from the fabric around it. For instance, if you're wearing a cotton T-shirt, you might want to pair it with a thick wool scarf with large stitching so that it contrasts with the shirt. You probably wouldn't want to pair it with a scarf made from material that's similar to the T-shirt. The way you wear your scarf around your neck can affect how your overall outfit looks. Wearing a scarf loosely draped around...

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Выберите цвет, который подходит к вашей футболке. Сочетайте сложные узоры с простыми. Создайте захватывающий контраст текстур. Экспериментируйте, завязывая шарф по-разному. Старайтесь избегать однообразных и похожих нарядов.


Pale skin, depending on undertones, can work with a variety of hair shades. If you aren’t sure which shade will complement your skin best, stay close to your natural hue. This will likely be the most flattering option. Very dark, or even black hair against pale skin can make for a very flattering and classic look. A number of factors, including skin color, hair color, and eye color, determine what clothing colors look best on you. However, arguably the most important factor is your natural undertones. If you have cool undertones, try wearing lavender or gray. If your undertones are warmer, stick with creams, corals, and olives. If you have neutral undertones, opt for colors like red and white.  If you’re a redhead, stay away from colors similar to your hair on the color wheel (i.e. red, pink, orange). Instead, look for colors opposite of your hair, such as green, blue and purple. Pastels typically look gorgeous against light skin. Beware of certain shades of yellow, as they can make you look sick. Pantyhose can help even out the tone of your legs while maintaining your gorgeous look. You can still pick a light-colored tone of pantyhose so that they look natural. In hot weather and/or in more casual settings when you may not want to wear pantyhose, show off your bare legs by using a rich, shimmery moisturizer on them. Make sure you take care of any body hair, especially if you have naturally dark body hair. Hair shows up very easily against light skin, so it's best to take care of hair regularly, especially if you have a bit of a unibrow or a mustache. You can consider waxing this hair, or you can just work on plucking your eyebrows or any stray hairs on your face or body. If you have naturally blonde body hair, then you don’t need to worry as much. Blonde hair blends well with pale skin and doesn't need to be taken care of nearly as often. Everyone thinks tan is terrific, but pale is just as beautiful. Realizing that being different from the norm is the first step to embracing your unique beauty and gaining a...

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Подберите такой цвет волос, который вам к лицу. Носите правильные цвета, которые подходят под вашу кожу и волосы. Носите колготки. Позаботьтесь о волосах на теле. Осознайте свою красоту!


Palm Sunday is exactly one week before Easter. Palm Sunday celebrates Christ's entry into Jerusalem. It also marks the beginning of Holy Week. The entire week is often referred to as “Holy Week,” but the Thursday, Friday, and Saturday immediately before Easter in particular are recognized as dates of significance in the Christian calendar.  Maundy Thursday celebrates the Last Supper of Christ. It also recognizes the "washing of feet," a biblical event during which Jesus washed the feet of his Apostles. Many Christian denominations celebrate the maundy (washing of feet) as a church ordinance. Good Friday recognizes the day that Christ was crucified. Holy Saturday commemorates the time during which Christ's body lay in the tomb. It is typically viewed as a day of preparation for Easter Sunday. Trace back to the Sunday that came six calendar weeks earlier. The Wednesday immediately before that date is Ash Wednesday.  In other words, Ash Wednesday is 46 days before Easter each year. Ash Wednesday is a formal day of repentance in many Christian churches. It also marks the first day of Lent, a period of 40 days over which Christians are to spiritually prepare for Easter. Ascension Day is a Christian holiday that falls exactly 39 days after Easter Sunday. Ascension Day celebrates Christ's ascension into heaven. In some Christian denominations, it is also considered the “fortieth day of Easter,” meaning that all the days in between Easter Sunday and Ascension Day are part of the broader Easter season.

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Отсчитайте неделю назад, чтобы найти дату Вербного воскресенья. Обратите особое внимание на неделю между Вербным воскресеньем и Пасхой. Определите дату среды, наступающей за шесть недель до Пасхи. Отсчитайте 40 дней вперед.


Palm trees do not have large tap roots that support it, so they must be temporarily braced to keep them standing until their roots become established. That is, unless you are using the washed plaster sand backfill. This normally provides enough rigidity to avoid using braces.  Wrap the trunk at least 1/4 up the tree's height with a 16 inch (40.6 cm) wide piece of burlap to keep the bracing board cleats from chaffing the bark when the tree tries to sway in high winds. Drive stakes on three sides, equidistant apart around the tree's circumference, and fasten lumber support braces (2X4 treated lumber will work) to blocks of wood secured to the trunk with tie wire, placed over the burlap. You may want to create a small earthen dam around the root ball to keep the water from shedding away from the tree's roots while you water, particularly if the tree is on a hillside or in soil that doesn't absorb water easily.  Mulching the base of the tree will also help to keep the soil moist.  Use about 3 inches (7.6 cm) of non-compacting mulch. Remember, transplanting your palm tree already poses a shock. Unfortunately, adding fertilizer poses another shock. To minimize the shock your tree might experience and maximize its chances of thriving, don't fertilize until six to eight weeks after planting.  When you do decide to fertilize, remember to use a slow-acting fertilizer, and hold off placing the fertilizer directly near the trunk. Place the fertilizer one or two feet around the trunk of the tree to avoid over-fertilizing. You should also consider improving your palm’s soil with mycorrhizal fungi. Palms evolved to have a symbiotic relationship with these fungi and thrive when they are present in the soil, as the fungi colonize the tree’s root system and help it take in nutrients and water. You can purchase mycorrhizal treatments online or from plant stores. The establishment period will depend on the type of tree, its size, and whether it was a container plant or a wrapped root ball specimen.  Generally, the roots should...

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Подоприте дерево, чтобы поддерживать его ровным, если это необходимо. Тщательно поливайте дерево. Воздержитесь от подкормки пальмы удобрениями еще шесть-восемь недель после высадки. Продолжайте поливать дерево по мере необходимости пока оно не приживется, Для почв из гравия и песка потребуется более интенсивный полив.


Pancakes are popular, but if you don't know how to make them or your parent isn't there to do it, stick with cereal or other fun and healthy breakfasts. Watching movies in the morning isn't recommended, but you still can. Watch movies mainly in the afternoon, evening and night. Order or prepare with your parents.

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Позаботьтесь о том, чтобы все позавтракали. Продолжайте развлекаться. Приготовьте для гостей обед.


Pancreatic cancer usually develops for a long time before causing distressing enough symptoms to cause one to seek medical help. One may be blessed to have severe enough digestive issues (such as a bile duct blockage) to lead to early enough detection to be surgically operable in an early stage, before stage III or IV. Once they start to develop, there are some common early non-specific symptoms that occur. These include:  Fatigue, unexplained tiredness Pain in the abdomen or middle of the back Bloating, possibly repeated diarrhea Nausea, or chronic indigestion (possibly vomiting) Rapid changes in blood sugar levels Diabetes or sudden onset of diabetes Loss of appetite Weight loss Blood clots in later stages If there is jaundice with bile insufficiency because of a duct blockage:  Yellowing skin and/or of the whites of your eyes Orange or brownish urine Light colored stool, such as chalky-gray or white (brown stool is normal) Smelly, greasy, floating stool There are certain factors that put you more at risk for pancreatic cancer than others. These risk factors include: The risk factors for pancreatic cancer include:  Being over 50, most are over 65 Smoking Your ethnic background, because African-Americans are at a higher risk Past history of chronic pancreatitis or chronic inflammation of the pancreas Family history of this cancer, especially two or more close relatives, as well as breast, ovarian, or prostate cancer in the family Obesity, poor diet choices Diabetic persons who develop diabetes over age 50 have eight times the usual risk of developing pancreatic adenocarcinoma within three years, after which the relative risk declines.  Excessive consumption of red or processed meat History of heavy alcohol use or alcoholism Environmental or workplace exposure to certain pesticides, dyes, and chemicals If you notice any symptoms of pancreatic cancer, you should see your doctor. Many of these symptoms may be a sign of other health problems as well, so talk to your doctor about what else your symptoms mean. You...

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Обратите внимание на ранние симптомы. Присмотритесь к факторам риска. Обратитесь к врачу.


Panic attacks can happen to anyone, but they are far more common for people who have panic disorder, an anxiety disorder characterized by frequent attacks of intense fear and anxiety. They can be triggered by just about any situation, not only dangerous or threatening ones. Physical symptoms of a panic attack include:  Chest pain. This is generally localized to one area of your chest, rather than radiating across the left side of your body as with a heart attack.  Dizziness or faintness A sensation of choking or not being able to get enough air Nausea or vomiting. Vomiting is less likely with panic attacks than with heart attacks. Numbness or tingling sensations Rapid heartbeat Shortness of breath Sweating, clammy skin, or hot flashes Trembling or shaking During severe panic attacks, your hands or feet may cramp up or even become temporarily paralyzed. This symptom is thought to be caused by hyperventilation. In addition to physical symptoms, panic attacks are generally accompanied by mental or emotional symptoms. These may include:  Intense feelings of fear Fear of dying Fear of losing control Sense of doom Sense of detachment Sense of unreality The symptoms of a panic attack and a heart attack overlap in some areas. If you are in any doubt whether you are having a panic attack or a heart attack, call for emergency medical help. The symptoms of a heart attack include:  Chest pain. In heart attacks, this often feels like a sense of pressure, fullness, or squeezing. It usually lasts more than a few minutes. Pain in the upper body. The pain may radiate to your arms, back, neck, jaw, or stomach area in a heart attack. Shortness of breath. This may happen before you experience chest pain. Anxiety. You may feel fear or doom suddenly. Dizziness or faintness Sweating Nausea or vomiting. Heart attacks are more likely to cause vomiting than panic attacks. Everyone has feelings of stress, or even intense anxiety, from time to time. However, for most people, this anxiety is triggered by an event or situation, such as...

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Проанализируйте физические симптомы. Обратите внимание на ощущение сильного страха или ужаса. Знайте признаки сердечного приступа. Научитесь отличать обычное беспокойство от панического расстройства.


Panic attacks occur when your brain is overcome with signals from bodily systems, such as the adrenal gland. These attacks are characterized by physical distress such as shortness of breath, fear, and vertigo. They can be brought on by stressful situations or a psychological trigger from a past event.  To avoid panic attacks, try to stay away from smoking or caffeine. (You may be forced to do this in a doomsday scenario in any case.) Work on controlling your breathing and focusing on taking control of your body. Understand what triggers your panic attacks and try to acknowledge the stress. If you think through what makes you panic, you can work to mentally overcome or avoid the trigger. Studies have shown that you can reduce stress by practicing deep breathing techniques. To practice these techniques you must be in tune with your body.  Try to practice deep breathing by focusing on deep breaths through your nose and out through your mouth. Try and relax further with each breath and develop a consistent breathing routine. Yoga is also a helpful way to practice healthy breathing techniques. There are many helpful tutorials online to teach you basic yoga techniques. Some basic poses that can help your breathing techniques include warrior pose and sun salutation. Transference, or re-directing your emotions, is the conscious act of cognitively switching off or moving past strong emotion. This takes time and practice and may not be an easy skill to develop.  Learn to recognize your emotions first. This may seem difficult. Practice by writing down the strong emotions you feel and what is happening in your environment. This journal will help you to associate situations with emotions. Then, try to mentally stimulate another emotion. For example, if you know something triggers panic in you, try to embody a sense of calmness. Practicing this will help you do this automatically, although it may be difficult. You never want to “space out” during a doomsday event.  However, learning to disconnect from your emotions and...

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Научитесь контролировать приступы паники. Контролируйте свое дыхание. Научитесь перенаправлять свои эмоции. Узнайте, как подготовить свой мозг направлять все усилия на выживание.


Pansies can flower all year round, depending on the climate of where you live or Hardiness Zone. Each country defines its own Hardiness Zones, which details each region's ability to grow certain plants. If you're planting seeds, the goal is to avoid blooming pansies in hot temperatures such as in July or August in most climates. So in most climates, the best time to plant pansy seeds is during the fall or after the frost in late winter. This way, you avoid the hot temperatures of the summer and the freezing temperatures of the winter and can catch a fall or early spring bloom. If you're planting matured pansies, transfer them to your outdoor garden in the spring or autumn.  If you live in a mild climate with mild winters, you can expect to see your pansies blooming all throughout the winter. The most accurate way to find the best time to plant pansies is to look up your area's hardiness zone which can usually be found on your city or country's website and look to see if they provide any plant survival data or suggested planting dates. Pansies are able to survive in USDA Hardiness Zones 4 through 8. Whether you're planting your pansies in pots or in the ground in your garden, a spot with full sun or partial sun is best. Too much shade can reduce the number of flowers that bloom and the size of your pansies. It can also cause your pansies to look spindly or grow too tall from seeking out sunlight.  Look for a location that allows for 6 to 12 hours of sunlight a day.  Growing your pansies at least in partial sun can help prevent common diseases like blight and rot. Pansies grow best in a cool environment. If you live in a place where summers can get quite hot, keep your pansies in partial shade. This means a tree or bush is nearby to create shade at certain times during the day, especially around noon when the sun is the brightest. Don't plant pansies in the same location 3 years in a row. This space will have begun to build up fungus diseases in the soil that could feed on your plants. Leaving the space empty...

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Выясните наилучшее время для посадки анютиных глазок. Найдите солнечное место. Измерьте температуру почвы. Подготовьте почву, если собираетесь засадить анютиными глазками клумбу. Найдите хорошо дренируемый горшок для домашнего выращивания анютиных глазок.


Pansy seeds will grow in long fall climates or they’ll remain dormant until the next spring in many areas. Therefore, in order to fool pansies into blooming again, you will need to remove the seed pods before the seeds fully form. This can be achieved by pinching the spent blooms from the plant, cutting back extra growth, and fertilizing for blooms rather than leaves. Check your pansy twice a week for any blooms that have died. Remove all dying blooms from the pansy plant to encourage the plant to put its energy towards new blooms and growth.  Remove any damaged blooms when you remove dead blooms. Be careful not to accidentally remove any new blooms. Water the plant to keep the soil around the pansy moist. Pansies enjoy soil that is damp. Try to apply a phosphorus fertilizer but avoid applying nitrogen to the area unless the fertilizer is a slow release variety, as pansies generally can’t handle high levels of nitrogen. If the plant is allowed to dry out or receives too little nutrition it will stop producing blooms and need to be replanted. Cut back growth and leggy stems from the plant because these areas will not produce new blooms. When these parts of the plant are allowed to grow unchecked, they can drain the energy of the plant, causing it to produce less blooms. If you find any existing seed pods, remove them right away. If your plant is an heirloom you may be able to save the adult pod and collect seeds to start more pansy plants indoors. If the plant stops producing blooms and begins to die back, you will most likely need to replace the plant with a new blooming pansy in order to benefit from new fall color.  If this occurs frequently do not feel like you’ve failed; certain areas of the country simply are not suited for year round pansy growth. If you can’t find new pansies at your greenhouse to plant in the fall, remember that pansies are simple to start from seed indoors. Plan ahead for next year and start the seedlings indoors four to six weeks before fall. After the temperatures get warmed, plant...

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Чтобы помочь анютиным глазкам зацвести повторно, соберите с них семена. Регулярно удаляйте все увядшие цветы. Сохраняйте почву влажной и применяйте фосфорное удобрение. Укоротите побеги и длинные стебли. Проверьте, нет ли на растении стручков с семенами. Если растущие у вас анютины глазки начинают отмирать, посадите новые цветущие анютины глазки.


Papaya can be hard to find in most places, especially unripe, the way it needs to be for som tam. If you have trouble finding papaya, simply swap it out for kohlrabi, cabbage mix, daikon radish or cucumber. Any of these mild root vegetables will have the right crunchy texture, and when shredded or julienned will be perfect for soaking up the tangy dressing.  When substituting other vegetables for papaya, make sure you buy them before they’re fully ripe so that they’ll be firm. Mild melons like cantaloupe can also work as a tasty replacement. If you’re a vegan, or just find fish sauce to be particularly unpalatable, just add a little extra salt to the dressing instead. A little white vinegar can also do the trick, and will provide the liquid you need to blend the dressing. The main purpose of the fish sauce is impart a salty, pungent flavor, so it’s easy to achieve the same effect without having to work with an ingredient you can’t stomach. Other salty condiments like soy sauce are not recommended, as they’ll throw off the flavors of the salad. Palm sugar is the go-to sweetener for most Southeast Asian and Malaysian cuisine, but it’s not available everywhere, and it might taste a bit strange to those who aren’t used to it. Luckily, light brown sugar makes a perfect replacement. It’s sweet and just a bit earthy, and it will dissolve and thicken well in the lime juice. Play around with the amount of sugar that goes into the dressing if you want to offset the spice of the chilies. Since the components of som tam are prepared individually and then assembled, it’s an easy recipe to customize. Adjust the amounts of herbs and aromatics to taste, or substitute some of your other favorite vegetables instead. You might choose to crank up the heat from the chilies, or leave them out altogether. The choices are nearly endless! Top the salad with fresh grilled shrimp, beef or chicken rather than dried shrimp for a heartier meal version of som tam.

TL;DR in Russian:

Замените папайю другими овощами. Вместо рыбного соуса можно использовать соль. Подсластите салат коричневым сахаром. Попробуйте собственные вариации.


Paper mache is a great for making a helmet that is 3-dimensional, hollow, durable and light-weight. While you can always buy a Darth Vader helmet from a toy store or costume store, making one from paper mache is easy and fun. You will need:  Newspaper Paper mache mix (1 part flour to 5 parts water) Saucepan Mixing bowl Balloon 3-4 empty cereal boxes Masking tape Recycled plastic container Hot glue and glue gun Black spray paint High gloss spray varnish Mix together 1 part flour to 5 cups water in a Saucepan. Boil for three minutes and let cool. This method produces an even, smooth paste.  You can also add equal parts water and flour, and then stir together in a mixing bowl. Do not add salt to the mixture as it makes the paper mache difficult to mold. You will use the balloon to create the base of your paper mache sculpture/helmet. Inflate the balloon and place it in a plastic bucket to prevent it from moving around. Add a single layer of paper mache to the balloon by dipping strips of newspaper into the paste and sticking them directly onto the balloon. Let everything dry before starting the next step. Paper mache can get messy. Use a flat working surface, such as a table or kitchen floor, and spread newspaper over the entire area before you begin. Build-up the face by cutting-out geometric shapes (squares, rectangles, triangles, and circles) and attaching them to the paper mache base using masking tape or hot glue. Once you are finished modeling Darth Vader's features with cardboard, add another layer of paper mache and let dry.  Don't forget to create a visor that sticks-out over the eyes and juts out from the side of the face. Darth Vader breathes through a triangle-shaped respirator that projects out from his face and covers his nose and mouth. Carefully remove the bottom and back of the mask and use a pin to pop the balloon. Add additional paper mache to smooth out any rough edges or fill any gaps. Let dry before cutting-out two wide pie-shaped holes for the eyes, and a triangular hole in the respirator...

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Найдите или купите все необходимое для изготовления шлема из папье-маше. Сделайте пасту для папье-маше. Создайте основу для шлема. Вырежьте из коробок фигуры, с помощью которых вы сможете смоделировать лицо Дарта Вейдера. Сдуйте шарик и прорежьте отверстия для глаз и рта. Покрасьте шлем из баллончика и внесите финальные штрихи.


Paper products contribute to global warming in the sense that their production requires fossil fuels, even though trees must be continuously planted to sustain the paper industry. You can reduce your paper use by making a few simple changes, such as:  Not printing emails you don’t have to. Using the library or reading e-books instead of buying printed books. Getting e-bills and asking that stores don’t print off receipts for you. Asking your parents to buy recycled paper products, like facial tissues, bathroom tissues, and writing and printing paper. Scanning books instead of photocopying them. Sending e-cards instead of paper cards. Most municipalities provide perfectly safe drinking water, so there’s usually no need to buy bottled water in America. But consumers love this convenient and portable product, even though it takes three liters of water to produce one liter of bottled water,  and millions of barrels of oil are needed to manufacture the bottles, caps, and packaging required to meet the demands of American consumers alone. If your parents buy bottled water, ask them to stop. Even if they don’t, you can opt to use a reusable glass or metal canteen that you refill with tap or filtered water. The majority of packaging used in North America has more to do with advertising and gimmicks than it does product preservation or consumer safety. Because most of that packaging is plastic, fossil fuels have been used to create it, and lots of it cannot be recycled. By refusing to buy products that have excessive packaging, you will reduce your carbon footprint and tell businesses that their methods are not acceptable.

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Экономьте бумагу. Не покупайте бутилированную воду. Не покупайте товары в лишней упаковке.


Paper towels should be enough to clean up most spills. You’ll want to be careful not to rub the liquid into the grass. Blot up liquid spills gently. As long as you act the moment the spill happens, it should be relatively easy to clean up. Mix a teaspoon of water with a pint of detergent in a container you can easily carry around. A bucket is your best bet for this. You can use a sponge or a soft cloth to rub the solution into the stain until it’s dislodged.  Once the stain is dislodged, you can rinse away the detergent with a garden hose. This mild solution won’t damage your grass, and can clean up a variety of substances, such as coffee, alcohol or ice cream. Whether you’re dealing with gum, lipstick, crayon residue or paint, gently scrape it off the grass. Be careful not to accidentally cut the grass as you scrape. Follow the grass upwards with the knife rather than scrapping across. Soak a soft cloth in mineral spirits, then wipe the soiled blades of grass. Take care when cleaning with mineral spirits; you want to make sure the mineral spirits doesn’t go past the grass and beneath the turf as this could cause serious damage.  Wear gloves when using mineral spirits, as it can irritate bare skin. Wear a respirator when working with mineral spirits, as the fumes can be toxic.

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Промокните пролитые жидкости бумажным полотенцем. Удалите пятна раствором воды и гранулированного моющего средства. Вязкие или липкие остатки соскребите ножом. Для удаления следов застывших пятен используйте уайт-спирит.


Parabens may disturb your endocrine system. Because of this, it is important to make sure that the products you use do not contain parabens. Unfortunately, parabens are found in 75-90% of all personal care products—from face powder to eyeshadow. Read the labels on your personal care products before you purchase them. Polyethylene glycol can harm you by removing the protective grease and oils from your skin and hair, and opens the way for other toxins. If toxins are allowed to get into your body, they may also affect your baby. Polyethylene glycol is commonly found in hair and skin products like hairspray. According to some research, aluminum may cause damage to the tissues and bones in the area where it is applied. It may also be linked to Alzheimer’s disease. Aluminium is commonly found in antiperspirants. This chemical is infamously known to influence the occurrence of allergies, diabetes, obesity, and asthma. It has also been linked to breast cancer. Look out for products that may contain phthalates like:  Hairspray. Nail polish. Perfume. Formaldehyde has carcinogenic influences, yet is an ingredient in numerous products. It can also be formed as a reaction to of water and a particular ingredient in a product. Formaldehyde has been found in:  Nail glue and nail polish. Eyelash glue. Hair products like hair gel. Body wash and body soap. Triclosan may cause damage to your baby's nervous system, causing a low birth weight, and problems with the thyroid gland. Because fo this, it is very important to look out for this ingredient in products like:  Soaps. Makeup. Acne creams. Deodorant. Choose the one that says it's “BPA free“. This chemical has a negative influence on the growth and development of children.

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Держитесь подальше от парабенов. Избегайте полиэтиленгликоля. Не используйте продукты с алюминием. Будьте осторожны с фталатами. Опасайтесь формальдегида. Будьте осторожны с триклозаном. Избегайте пластиковых контейнеров с бисфенолом А.


Paradoxically, you can stand out by avoiding social activities. Try not to lose friends or alienate coworkers by rejecting their invitations over and over again. Social outings can be intimidating, especially if they're with people you don't know well. You may not always be invited to participate in your idea of a perfect evening. However, the ability to take part in a wide range of social activities will make you seem more normal and approachable. The easiest way to do this is to be open to making friends wherever you go. Try not to worry too much about cliques, or whether someone is your type. If you get along with them, your friendship will be perfectly natural and normal. Having friends will make you appear more approachable. and have good manners. Society thinks highly of people who are pleasant to be around. It is natural to be crass with your close friends with whom you feel comfortable. When aiming to make a good impression, however, try to be more polite. Meeting someone new is exciting, but there is a natural period of "ice breaker" discussions before you are comfortable with each other. Don't bring up intimate, personal topics (like health issues, sexual preferences, traumatic events, etc.) in conversation until you know someone. While you are getting the feel for a new friend, filter your language to avoid alienating them. Strong emotions are normal, even desirable. However, big, outsize displays of emotion (especially anger and sadness) can make people feel uncomfortable. Strive to regulate your emotional responses to small problems and constructively express your feelings. Don't shout, throw things, curse, or become violent. Whenever possible, express your displeasure calmly, quietly, and politely. If you get angry easily or have reason to think you're depressed, don't be afraid to contact a therapist or counselor. You aren’t a "crazy" person for talking to a professional therapist. They can be simply a helpful voice as you go through a difficult time, or something much more important. It's...

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Принимайте участие в общественной жизни. Как можно больше общайтесь с другими людьми.  Будьте вежливы Не стоит "изливать душу" первому встречному. Контролируйте свои эмоции. Учитесь сдерживать свое мнение.


Parakeets can develop their ability to make noises by talking to other birds, so having a few birds can help both of them develop the variety of their chirping. However, having too many birds will focus all their communication on other birds, instead of on communicating with you.  Having a few birds will usually not limit your ability to train them to talk but more than a few could hinder your progress. If you only have one parakeet, trick it into thinking it has a friend by placing a mirror in its cage. This will help it develop and practice chirping. However, you should take the mirror out of its cage before you start teaching it how to talk, so that your bird focuses its attention on you. Make friends with your bird by spending time with it, speaking to it, and keeping it nice and comfy in your home. Basically, treat your parakeet like it is a part of your family, because it is. The goal should be to build up trust between you and your parakeet. Don't force the bird to interact with you if it doesn't want to. If the bird is scared of you or ignoring you it is just a sign that the time is not right or that you are moving too quickly. It is not a sign that your bird will never bond with you. Make sure that the bird is calm and ready to focus its attention on you. If the bird is tired or distracted, it won't be as easy to train. A good time to train your bird is first thing in the morning. You can even start repeating words for your bird before uncovering its cage at the start of the day.

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Ограничьте количество своих попугаев. Добейтесь того, чтобы попугай чувствовал себя комфортно в вашем присутствии. Выберите подходящее время для занятий с попугаем.


Paranoia can look similar to anxiety on the surface, but these issues are actually very different. Paranoia involves delusional thoughts, while anxiety does not. The two disorders require different treatments, so it’s important not to mix them up.  For instance, an anxious person might worry that they have a disease, while a paranoid person might be convinced that their doctor purposely gave them a disease. Anxiety is much more common than paranoia. Someone who is anxious will appear to be more alert in case of danger, but someone who is paranoid will appear to expect danger at any moment. If your friend or family member doesn’t have a diagnosis yet, it’s important that they get one from a professional. Self-diagnoses are often inaccurate, and the person could seek the wrong kind of treatment as a result. Your friend or family member may need medication, psychotherapy, or both to manage their paranoia. Urge them to talk to their doctor about their treatment options. If they have trouble making it to their appointments, offer to help by giving them a ride or watching their kids.  Convincing a paranoid person to see a doctor can be a challenge. They may not trust medical professionals. If the person doesn’t want to seek treatment, don’t push them too hard, or they may become suspicious of you, too. If your friend is resistant, you might say, "I know you don't think anything is wrong, but it would really give me peace of mind if you saw a doctor. Will you just go to make me feel better. If everything checks out, I'll stop bugging you." This will make the request about you rather than them and that might make it easier for them to accept. If your friend or family member starts having bizarre delusions, or if they threaten to hurt themselves or others, they need medical attention right away. Don’t wait and see if they get better on their own – call 911, or the emergency services department. The hospital is the safest place for them until they are stable again.  A non-bizarre delusion is something that could...

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Различайте паранойю и тревожность. Не пытайтесь самостоятельно диагностировать или лечить паранойю. Мотивируйте человека обратиться к  психотерапевту или врачу. Позвоните 112, если вы полагаете, что кому-либо угрожает опасность.


Parental abuse can take many forms, including physical and emotional violence, sexual abuse, and neglect. Parents may also have difficulties in relationships because of their own mental health or other issues. These things can have long-term effects on you. A therapist can help you identify negative patterns from your childhood and develop strategies for interacting with a genuinely difficult or even abusive parent. Set yourself up for success by scheduling visits in advance around activities you both enjoy. Remind yourself of the things that you love and appreciate about your parent, and tell your parent about those things. The positive aspects of your relationship can be a powerful base for building loving connection. Setting limits that keep you safe and healthy doesn’t mean you don’t love your parent. In fact, good boundaries can be the best foundation for a satisfying relationship with a difficult parent.  Be clear about what time you will spend together. Plan for your parents’ old age. You might not be the best person to care for them, despite social pressure to do so. It’s ok to recognize that and make alternative arrangements.

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Узнайте отличительные черты "трудных родителей". Обратитесь за профессиональной помощью. Сосредотачивайтесь на положительном. Установите здоровые границы в отношениях.


Parenting is a very personal thing so avoid disciplining someone else’s child without the permission of his parents. Your actions may seem inappropriate if you don’t have similar parenting techniques. For example, some parents may not yell or scold their children publicly.  Discipline is not your job and neither is seeing if the child’s parents discipline their child. Children may work out their bad behaviour amongst themselves so there may not even be a need to interfere. Try to stay out of day-to-day stuff so that children learn to play with others.  For less severe behaviour you can distract a child without disciplining them. Offer them to get a drink or play at a new area. Use “we” instead of “you” to create a more communal or team oriented approach. You don’t want a child to feel like he is being picked on for being a problem. For example, say something like “We don’t say that, that’s not nice.” If another child has become uncontrollable and violent, immediately take your child away. Whether you make an excuse to leave or inform the child’s parents that it’s time for a break, your child’s safety is your number 1 concern. If it is happening at your home, simply separate the children into different rooms and call their parents. Do not allow another child’s bad behaviour to influence your child. Talk to your child about how every family has their own rules, and it is important to follow your own family’s rules wherever they go. Let your child know what is expected of her beforehand and check in afterwards for affirmation or discipline if she hasn’t followed your rules. Be careful not to offend as you may come across as judgmental and they may accuse you of your own parenting shortcomings. Ease into the conversation with a compliment and come to a satisfactory solution together. For example, say something like “Simon is a great boy and our son loves when he can stay and play but sometimes Simon is a bit too rough.” Make sure only to let the parents know as the kids or other parents may make them become...

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Дождитесь родителей ребенка и поговорите с ними. Никогда не выделяйте кого-то одного. Заберите своего ребенка. Поговорите со своим ребенком. Поговорите с родителями проблемного ребенка. Относитесь к детям как к любым другим людям. Узнайте, что им интересно. Опуститесь на уровень ребенка. Задавайте правильные вопросы. Переадресуйте детей к их же родителям. Поговорите со взрослым. Попробуйте посмотреть на ситуацию глазами ребенка или его родителей.


Parents aren't so different from their kids all the time. Sometimes, the biggest thing that they don't like is the unknown. They may say no to a sleepover because they don't know what to expect, and picture ten kids having a crazy pillow fight and ruining all of their antique furniture. If you want to ease their worries that nothing horrible will go wrong, then the best thing you can do is to tell them exactly what the night would look like.  Here's what they'll need to know:  How many people are invited (example statement: “4 friends are coming over tonight.”) What you'll be eating (example statement: “We will be eating popcorn, chicken, and burgers.” What movies, if any, you'll watch (example statement: “We are gonna be watching Inside Out.”) Where your friends will be sleeping (example statement: “My friends will be sleeping in the bedroom 2 doors away from the kitchen.”) What time they'll arrive and when they'll leave (example statement: “My friends will enter at 4:30PM today and leave 2:15PM tomorrow.”) Another reason your parents may not want you to have a sleepover is because they can already picture themselves making a big dinner and having to clean up a big huge mess in the morning. They may also be worried about cleaning the house so it's presentable to your friends and their parents. Tell them that you'll do all of the cleaning before and after and that you'll make sure your friends won't make a big mess. Also, say that you'll do something simple and cheap like ordering pizza so they won't feel like they have to do a million things to keep your friends happy. Once you make it clear that your parents won't have to do a ton of the work, they'll be more likely to let the sleepover happen. They'll also be impressed that you're taking so much initiative and showing responsibility. If your parents haven't met the friends that you want to sleep over yet, then you should invite them by so that your parents see that they're nice, normal people who can be trusted to stay the night. Invite your friends to a...

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Предоставьте им планы игр, чтобы они знали, чего ожидать. Скажите им, что вы будете делать всю (или большую часть) работы. Позвольте родителям встретиться с вашими друзьями перед ночевкой. Скажите им, что они могут проверить как дела у вас и ваших друзей в любое время.


Paresthesia is common, and often the result of sitting in the wrong position for too long. But pins and needles can also be an underlying cause of a more severe medical condition. For example, diabetes is one of the leading causes of parasthesia.  Other issues that cause the problem are related to  nerve damage, which can be caused by substance abuse or injury. Vitamin deficiency can also lead to a numbness of the feet, such as Vitamin B deficiency. It’s best to check with a nutritionist, dietitian or your physician to assess any vitamin deficiency. Seizures and migraines have also been linked to parasthesia. If you regularly experience parasthesia and you are unsure of the cause, schedule an appointment with your doctor. He can run tests to figure out what is causing the issue. For example, abnormal levels of sodium and potassium in your body might be the cause. A blood test can help find answers.  Keep a record of when your feet fall asleep and for how long. Share this information with your doctor. Once your doctor has determined the cause of your parasthesia, he can make a treatment plan for you. Maintaining a healthy weight can help prevent parasthesia. It can also help prevent some underlying causes, such as certain cases of diabetes. To maintain a healthy weight, eat a balanced diet.  Make sure to eat plenty of fruits, vegetables, lean meats, and healthy fats. Avoid added sugars and trans fats. Exercise frequently. Aim for at least 30 minutes of physical activity five days of the week.

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Определите причину. Обратитесь за медицинской помощью. Выработайте здоровые привычки.


Park the car on a level surface and engage the parking brake. Park at home or at an auto garage if possible. If it turns out you can't fix the problem on the spot, you don't want to be forced to close your hood again to drive to a mechanic. If you're not familiar with the car, look for the interior release latch under the steering wheel, low down near the driver's door, or in the corner of the glove box. This often has a picture of a car with an open hood.  Some older cars only have an exterior release. Look for a latch under the front lip of the hood. If you are locked out of the car, skip ahead to fixes that do not require interior access. When working correctly, this causes the hood to move upward a short distance. If you hear a noise but the hood does not move at all, the hood is probably stuck. Continue to the next step to fix it. If you do not hear anything, there's likely a problem with the cable or latch mechanism. Skip down to the next section. If the hood does open partially, all you need to do is press the exterior latch at the front of the hood. This latch is usually at the center or just to one side, and may depress upward or to the side. Stand outside the driver's seat and reach in to hold the interior release in the fully pulled position. With your other hand, slap the hood with an open palm. If you're lucky, the hood just needs a jolt. Take care not to dent your hood. You may need to use force, but keep your hand in an open palm position. Have a friend pull the interior release and keep it in that position. Stand at the front of the vehicle and pull up on the hood slowly but steadily. If the only problem is rust or grime, you can usually overcome it. If the hood won't budge, don't force it. Chilly weather or frost can cause the hood to stick. Let the engine idle for a while to thaw frozen parts, then try opening the hood again. If the hood still won't open, the cable or latch mechanism might be at fault. Continue to the next section to keep troubleshooting. Once you get your hood open, check...

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Припаркуйте автомобиль. Найдите рычаг. Тяните за рычаг открывания капота изнутри салона. Постучите по капоту, чтобы его разблокировать. Попросите другого человека помочь открыть вам капот. В холодную погоду позвольте двигателю поработать немного на холостых оборотах. Откройте капот и проведите осмотр запорного крючка.


Park your car in your spot for the night, and make a visit to the bathroom beforehand. Again, this depends on the climate you are in. However, it is going to get stuffy regardless of the temperature (within reason, of course), so consider cracking the window slightly. If you are under a pile of blankets in the cold, it might actually feel good. Do not crack it too much, though, for security purposes. And if there are mosquitoes, crack it even less. A half an inch or less (1.25 cm) is plenty. If you have problems sleeping in less than perfect conditions or your body has a tendency to "wake up" achy, pop one before hitting the sack. It will be easier to fall asleep, easier to stay asleep, and you will feel less sore in the morning. As much as possible, that is. If you are in the back seat, move the front seats forward to get the most space possible. Tuck in the seat belt clips so they do not end up jabbing you in the back. If the back seats turn down, do so. You could also pop open the back so you can put your legs (or head) in the trunk area. On the off chance someone comes knocking on your door, you want to be wearing clothes, and acceptable clothes at that. So get comfortable, but stay dressed. Workout clothes are best. This way you can also turn your bed into a getaway car at a moment's notice if need be. And account for the weather, too. If it is cold, make sure your head is covered to keep heat from escaping. If necessary, put on several layers. If it is hot, a t-shirt and shorts will do just fine. You could also wet them beforehand to stay cool.

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Прежде чем лечь спать, сходите в туалет. Откройте окна. Примите противовоспалительное средство (например, ибупрофен). Отрегулируйте сиденья. Наденьте удобную одежду.


Parking in the sun can cause your cleaning agents to dry out quickly, making it difficult for you to spread, soap up, rinse, and dry off your car cleaners. This can lead to spots forming or an incomplete looking cleaning job. Many car washing pros recommend parking in a garage, but if this is not available to you, look for a suitable tree or overhang you can park beneath so you can work in the shade. You shouldn’t settle for the shade provided by any tree. Some trees, like pines, exude a sticky sap that can do damage to the finish your vehicle if it comes in contact with it. Inspect trees before parking beneath them. If you notice the presence of sap, or if the ground beneath the tree is discolored, this could be indication that you shouldn’t park your car there. Windows are one of the most visible parts on your car, and accidentally spraying, splattering, or spreading dirtiness while cleaning other parts of your vehicle could lead to your window, and your tinting, becoming unnecessarily dirty again. You’ll want to clean the exterior and interior of your car thoroughly before you tackle cleaning your windows and the tinting on your windows.  If you’re getting ready to sell your car, you may want to do a more thorough job cleaning your car. This kind of deep cleaning is often referred to as “detailing.” You can save money by detailing your car yourself, but you can also visit a local car detailer and have your vehicle cleaned by professionals for a small fee. While cleaning the other parts of your car, take note of the condition of your windows and tinting. You may want to heavily apply your tint-safe cleaner to especially dirty areas before you start cleaning. This will allow the cleaner to pre-treat difficult spots, like bug spatter, layered dirt, or thick grime, making your future cleaning efforts easier. Try not to get cleaners intended for other parts of your car on the inside of your window. The tinting that has been applied to your windows has most probably been attached to the inside, so if the ammonia...

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Припаркуйте автомобиль в тенистом месте. Мойте стекла в самом конце. Помните о «врагах» тонированного стекла.


Parking lots and parking garages are two of the sites that are most often targeted by attempted rapists. These people are predators, so view your surroundings carefully. If you are in a parking lot and feel someone is following you, start making noise -- talk to yourself loudly, talk to an imaginary person, or pretend to talk on your cell phone. The louder the potential victim, the more the predator is apt to freeze. Scope out your surroundings during the day. Whether you're working in a new place or new to campus, make sure you learn the safest way to walk from place to place. This means staying under well-lit lights, walking in places where people tend to be around, and even being near blue light emergency call boxes, if your campus has them. According to the Department of Justice, the majority of rapes in college occur during the first few weeks of your freshman and sophomore years. These are the riskiest days because people are just getting to know each other, there are a lot of new people around, along with an abundance of alcohol. Though this shouldn't keep you from having fun or leaving your dorm room, you should be extra cautious about meeting new people, and make sure that you stick with your friends and your sound judgment. Treat your drink like a $100.00 bill. Don't let anyone hold your drink. Avoid anything that somebody gives you. It could be "counterfeited." Always hold, keep and get your own drinks. Keep your hand over the top of your drink because it's easy to drop something into it. Do not accept a drink from a date unless the bartender or waitstaff delivers it straight to you. Even if you're pretty sure the drink you left on the other side of the room was your drink, it's a much safer bet to buy or get another one. Again, this does not mean that drinking irresponsibly makes it your fault if a rapist approaches you; it does, however, make you more vulnerable and susceptible to unwelcome attacks. Make sure not to drink more than 1 drink per hour (which means a glass of wine, a beer, or one...

TL;DR in Russian:

Всегда следите, кто и что вас окружает. Если вы учитесь в университете, помните, что большинство изнасилований совершается в первые несколько недель учебного года. Не оставляйте свои напитки без присмотра. отнеситесь ответственно к употреблению алкоголя. Держитесь рядом со своими друзьями. Оставайтесь в безопасности в клубах. Будьте решительны. Держите личную информацию в тайне. Ваш телефон всегда должен быть заряжен.


Parkour is a fun way to make the world your obstacle course--try to find the quickest route from Point A to Point B. This might require you to jump, climb, and tumble, and it will improve your balance and teach you to make quick decisions. Start out slowly so you don't injure yourself and learn some of the basic moves before striking out. Start out in your backyard or another forgiving, grassy environment. Going outdoors strengthens your immune system, promotes an active lifestyle, and encourages a positive, proactive attitude. Spending time in nature can make you feel peaceful and put things into perspective. A long walk along a gorgeous mountain path will remind you of the beauty of the world and help you realize that being on your own is okay. Make sure you let someone know where you're going and what time you'll be back. That way, if you get injured on your hike, your parents will know where to look. Dance classes, Zumba, step class--these workouts are insanely fun, but can also be a little embarrassing while you try to work out the steps and follow the instructor. If you're surrounded by a bunch of strangers all trying to do the same thing, you won't feel so conscious and can just focus on having fun and dancing your heart out.  Yoga is another great, solitary workout. You can really focus on your movements. Plus, if you go to a class, chances are almost everyone there is alone, too.  If you don't belong to a gym, just look up some videos for kickboxing, Zumba, or other fun workouts you can do in your living room. Give yourself a face mask, paint your nails and toenails, and sip on some chilled cucumber water. Try out some new makeup tutorials and finally figure out how to do a perfect cat eye. Just allow yourself to luxuriate and relax and feel like royalty for a while. Ask your mom if she wants to splurge with you--maybe she'll treat you both to a massage or a mani-pedi.

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Научитесь паркуру Отправляйтесь в поход. Посещайте занятия фитнесом. Организуйте спа-день.


Parsley and basil are classic choices for serving with lobster. Garnish the meat and the plate with herbs if you plan to use them. Combining butter, lemon, and herbs creates a tried-and-true, delicious flavor combination

TL;DR in Russian:

Выберите подходящие травы.


Part of a no-strings-attached relationship means that you are free to see other people. Don't forget this important perk. If you're only hooking up with one person, it may turn into a real relationship. If that's not what you want, then keep a look out whenever you're out at a bar or a party. Don't just wait to get a text from your hook up buddy, but look around and see if there are any other options for you. You can hang out with your friend with benefits, but you need to make it clear that it's not a date. For one thing, you should spend more time in bed together than out of it. You can go out for a drink -- but not for dinner. Try to make your place as inhospitable as possible so your hook up buddy doesn't want to linger in the morning.  If your friend does stay the night, don't fry up some pancakes in the morning, or give her a kiss goodbye. Be nice, but not loving. Don't do things a real couple would do, like go on a mini-vacation, go grocery shopping, or go on double-dates with your friends. Don't go clothes shopping together, and don't bring your "friend" as a date to a wedding or a party. Don't get gifts for the person you're hooking up with, or call him or her just to chat. Keep your distance. Don't see the person more than two or three times a week. The joy of a friends with benefits relationship is that you can still have enough time to pursue your own goals, whether it's grad school, your love for painting, or just all of the fun times you have hanging out with your friends. You can keep hooking up with your friend while having plenty of time to do all of the things you love during the day. There are three main reasons that a friends with benefits relationship ends: one person gets too attached, one person finds someone else he really wants to date, or both people just get bored and want to move on. The fourth reason is that there is a natural time-based end to the relationship, such as the end of a summer, the end of a long trip, or that one or both people is graduating.  Once you have a feeling...

TL;DR in Russian:

Не забывайте видеться с другими людьми. Ведите себя естественно. Занимайтесь своими делами. Знайте, когда попрощаться.


Part of being a good boyfriend is staying loyal and committed to your relationship with your girlfriend. Avoid flirting with other girls or blowing off your girlfriend to be with friends. Show her you are committed by spending quality time with her and paying attention to her when you are out socially or with a group. Part of being committed to your girlfriend is also trusting her and not being too protective or overbearing. Try not to control her life or her decisions. Instead of policing her actions or trying to control her, support and trust her. Deepen your relationship by pursuing activities or interests that you have in common. Focus on things that you both share and enjoy. For example, if you both enjoy travelling, plan a trip together overseas. If you both like to watch movies at home, designate one night movie night and watch all of your favorite flicks together. If you and your girlfriend share a home, make sure you pull your weight. Split the household chores with her, such as taking out the garbage or cleaning the kitchen. Try to keep your contributions to maintaining your home equal and fair. If you both have issues around household responsibilities, make sure you talk about it honestly and openly. Work through the issues together and find a compromise where you both are happy. Keep your relationship spontaneous and exciting by planning surprise dates or leaving special gifts for her to find. Let your girlfriend know you appreciate her by surprising her on occasion.  You may surprise her with something simple, like a bouquet of flowers or a small gift. Or you may surprise her by taking her out for dinner or to do an activity that you know she would enjoy. Be open to your girlfriend surprising you with special dates or gifts, as well! Pay attention when she is generous and giving to you, so you can also feel appreciated and loved. Always thank her.

TL;DR in Russian:

Будьте верны ей. Найдите, что у вас общего, постарайтесь вместе исследовать эти сферы. Разделяйте домашние обязанности, если вы живете вместе. Удивляйте ее внезапными свиданиями или подарками.


Part of being a good observer is remembering details. This includes remembering everything from locking your door before you leave your house to the color of the car you parked beside. Since our brains filter a lot of that irrelevant information out, make a conscious effort to start committing simple details to memory. It will help you improve your memory while making you a better observer of your surroundings.  As you leave your house, tell yourself, "I turned off the stove. I locked the door." This will help you commit it to memory. This technique also helps you start observing small, everyday tasks. Use memory games like concentration. The memory skills you want to develop for strengthening observation skills are the ones connected to the senses. Sight is especially important. Show yourself pictures, then close your eyes and try to remember what you observed in the photo. Walk through the city and remembering what you smelled. Try to replay conversations from the day each evening to see how much of the dialog you can remember word for word. One reason that people are not as observant as they should be is because they are distracted. Cell phones, music, a to-do list - there are a lot of reasons why people are distracted daily. Try getting rid of distractions so you can focus on your surroundings.  Remove your headphones when you walk or are on the train. Listen to the sounds around you, including conversations. Don't just look at the objects around you, consciously observe them. By not being distracted, you will be aware of everything around you and remember it more easily. Focus on the television show or movie you are watching and listen closely to songs. Instead of mindlessly watching or listening, pay attention to them. Think about costuming choices in the show or movie, or why the director chose a particular way to set up a shot. Look at the props, especially the background, and see what you can observe and deduce about the characters, themes, or plot. Try to figure out the meaning of song lyrics as you...

TL;DR in Russian:

Развивайте свою память. Не допускайте рассеянности. Ведите «полевой журнал». Устанавливайте связи между тем, что вы видите. Медитируйте.


Part of being a tomboy is being able to run around with ease. That means high heels are out. Instead, pick up some comfortable, cool sneakers. A good rule of thumb when buying shoes is to keep in mind that if you can’t run in them, they’re probably not the best tomboy shoes. Brands that make cool sneakers include DC, Vans, Nike, Adidas, Converse, Etnies, Airwalk and Supras, among other brands. In particular, printed slip-ons are great. Brands like Vans and Toms, among many others, have great slip-ons that have cool designs, are comfortable, and can still be worn to run around in. Look for slip-ons with checkers, skulls, funky animal designs, band logos, tribal art, etc. One of the most classic tomboy looks is a pair of converse sneakers. They come in a variety of colors and heights from low-cut to high-top. To add some extra spunk to your shoes, replace the normal white laces with some funky shoelaces. You can buy these at your local novelty stores.

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Покупайте спортивную обувь. Вы можете приобрести мокасины. Попробуйте кроссовки с высоким верхом.


Part of being able to pull back your shoulders and keep them properly aligned is having strong muscles in your mid back region between your shoulder blades. The main muscles groups there are called the paraspinals, rhomboids, trapezius and infraspinatus. When these muscles are too weak, they allow the shoulders to slouch forward. When they're strong, it's easier to hold and maintain good posture.  Rowing machines are excellent for building strength in the muscles between your shoulder blades. Start with light weights and lower reps and slowly progress to heavier weight and more reps over the course of four to six weeks. Doing the "reverse fly" with free weights is also great for strengthening the rhomboids and trapezius muscles. Sit on the edge of a bench with your waist bent forward and looking at the floor. Grab dumbbells in each hand and lift them laterally out and up off the floor, causing your shoulder blades to retract. When your arms are parallel with the floor, hold for a few seconds then slowly lower the dumbbells. Swimming is an excellent exercise because it works virtually all your muscles, especially those of your shoulders, spine and legs. Swimming also forces you to have good posture in order to stay above the water line and swim in a straight line. Although your thoracic spine (mid back) naturally curves forward somewhat, too much slouching can create a hump that's stiff and painful. The inflexible hump (medically called a kyphosis) then forces the shoulders and neck forward. As such, try to make your thoracic spine more flexible by extending it (reversing the curve) so that it's easier to realign your shoulders.  Lay on a large exercise ball with your feet on the floor and looking up at the ceiling. Slowly roll (extend) your mid back over the top of the ball so your head gets closer to the ground. When you feel a nice stretch (not painful), hold it for 15 seconds and repeat 10 – 15 times per day. Do the "Superman" pose. Lay face down on some padded flooring with your arms outstretched above...

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Укрепите середину спины. Повысьте гибкость грудного отдела позвоночника. Проведите растяжку мышц шеи и грудной клетки. Посетите специалиста по хиропрактике.


Part of being an open person is being receptive to new ideas and experiences. This will help you relate to a wider range of people.  Get out of your comfort zone and try new things, even when you don't think you'll like them. Sometimes your tastes change. Give some things another shot after a few years. If you're convinced that you hate Brussels sprouts but you haven't had them since you were 5, go ahead and try a bit of that dish your coworker brought in. Don't make snap judgments. Try your best to give everything a fair, unbiased look before rejecting it. You never know when your presumptions may be misinformed.  Being open-minded doesn't mean you have to accept everything uncritically. Feel free to trust your judgment if something still doesn't seem right after you've learned enough about it. In some ways, this goes hand in hand with being more open-minded. Always remember that people have their own experiences, beliefs, and preferences that are often very different from yours. You can't tell a person's life story from their appearance or even 1 conversation.  Always treat others with respect, no matter who they are. Try to put yourself in other people's shoes and treat them how you would want to be treated in that situation. You never know what relationships and opportunities you miss out on just by being a little too judgmental at the wrong time. Remember that when you're quick to judge others, they'll be just as quick to judge you. Connect to other people by asking questions and genuinely listening to their answers. People who ask questions frequently in a conversation appear more friendly and available than people who don't. Ask questions that will encourage openness in others.  Asking questions is the best way to learn new things. When asked personal questions, people are likely to reciprocate with a similar question, giving you the opportunity to practice honest self-disclosure. Asking questions can also be a method of being more open-minded and less judgmental of others. The more questions you ask,...

TL;DR in Russian:

Учитесь смотреть шире. Перестаньте осуждать других людей. Задавайте вопросы.


Part of being considerate is knowing the best time that you should say something. The most innocuous comment can come off as offensive if you say it at the wrong time. Make sure that the person or people you are talking to are in the right frame of mind to be receptive to your comment, and that you're not interrupting anything or causing complications with what you're saying. Here are some ideas for choosing your timing:  For example, maybe you have some great news to share, like you recently got engaged. This news can be perfect for brunch with your friends, but if your coworker is talking about his mother's funeral, then you should absolutely hold off on your big news. On the other hand, if you have some bad news to deliver, make sure the person is in the right frame of mind as well. If your friend is gushing about her pregnancy, it's not the time to talk about how you just got dumped. If you have to give negative feedback to a coworker, make sure you to it when the person isn't caught off guard. Set up a time to talk to the person instead of casually giving negative feedback when the person least expects it. If you want to be considerate, then you have to know that the words you use are just as important as the message you're trying to send. If you want people to be receptive and to not feel bad, then you have to carefully think of the words you'll use when you're speaking. Whether you're finding a delicate way to give negative feedback or even finding the right way to praise somebody, it's important to remember that words do matter. Here are some things to consider as you choose your words:  Even if you're giving negative feedback, you can find a delicate way to phrase it. You can tell a coworker he "could be more efficient" instead of saying he's "slow" or you can tell a needy best friend that you feel overwhelmed by her instead of saying she is "clingy" or "needy." You can also make your message sound less offensive if you don't directly use the word "you" all the time. For example, instead of telling...

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Правильно подбирайте время для своих слов. Осторожно подбирайте слова. Не монополизируйте разговоры. Благодарите людей. Извинитесь, если вы совершили ошибку. Будьте тактичны.


Part of being creative is gaining expertise in one area or medium  and learning as much as you can about it. Begin by reading articles and watching videos on the subject to gather more information about it. If possible, sign up for an introductory course at a local college or community centre (e.g. a beginner painting class). Inspire yourself by experiencing the creative works of others in a medium that interests you. For instance, if you are learning how to paint, visit a museum or art gallery. The most creative people are willing to engage with multiple ideas, broaden their horizons, and be surprised. Avoid resisting and dismissing things that are unfamiliar to you, and accept opportunities to try new creative endeavors. For instance, attempt a medium like clay sculpting even if you believe that you will dislike it or be bad at it. Being more childlike can help your creative side by freeing you from adult hang ups for a while and opening your mind. Use toys and art supplies to stimulate your imagination and make new connections. If you're short on creative ideas, take the time to draw a whimsical picture or play with building blocks or legos. They say that you remember 90% of what you learned by teaching it to someone else. Explaining your newfound knowledge to yourself and others can help to cement it in your own mind. While you are learning something new, make a point of explaining it to yourself in your head. Picture yourself giving a TED talk or tutoring someone on the topic.  If you feel particularly confident, make a video about the topic to post online, or explain your knowledge to a friend or colleague. Engage in activities that actively force you to think of new ideas. For instance, play word association games by writing down one word and then any words that connect to it. Use analogy to find similarities between two seemingly dissimilar things to break down and examine your associations with each.  For instance, look for similarities between a textbook and an iPod. If you feel stuck, try some word...

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Совершенствуйте свои знания. Будьте открыты для новых впечатлений. Используйте игры, чтобы развивать креативность. Делитесь своими знаниями и объясняйте их. Подталкивайте себя на придумывание новых идей. Выделите время для мозгового штурма.


Part of being in a long distance relationship is finding time when both of you can talk. Especially if you’re in different time zones, this can be one of the hardest parts of keeping the relationship alive. To keep romance going, take a day off of work. Tell her to take the same day off. Spend the day on skype or the phone with them. Think of things ahead of time to talk about—play 21 questions or truth or dare. Pick a show or movie and make plans to watch it at the same time. Call each other right after and talk about what you like. It’s a great way to make artificial together time. Make some sort of daily or weekly ritual. This will be an exciting way to keep the romance in your relationship because after a long day, your girlfriend can look forward to this ritual. This will give her a sense that you two are closer.  Wish her a good morning and good night every day. Call and talk about the highs and lows of your day before bed.

TL;DR in Russian:

Возьмите выходной. Смотрите фильмы, матчи или передачи одновременно. Заведите несколько ритуалов.


Part of being in love means being completely open to the other person. If you find yourself seeing a whole different side that the person doesn't show the public, then that may be love. For instance, if your partner is pretty serious or polite in public, but shows a more goofy and silly side when you're alone, then they are really opening up to you and loves you.  If the person shares their deepest emotions with you and is comfortable with it, then that could be love.  If the person is comfortable not looking perfect, tripping, or having food stuck in their teeth around you, that means they are okay if you see every side of them. This should be true even during a bad day. If your loved one has had a very bad day but lights up when they see you, then that's a sign of love. If they are in love with you, then the sight of you or the sound of your voice is guaranteed to make them feel better — if only a little bit. The next time they're grumpy or have a bad day, see how they react in your presence. Though this may be silly, check out your loved one's face the next time you see them. Do they look at you in a goofy, watery, silly and adorable way that can only be described as "googly-eyed"? You will know it when you see it. You won't get this look all the time — you can spot it in the morning, or randomly across the dinner table. You may also be able to catch the person staring at you with the same expression. Love makes people feel giddy, weightless, and like laughing for no reason at all. If you see the person acting this way in your presence, then this may be love. Does your loved one seem hyper, excited, and on the verge of laughing for almost no reason at all whenever they are around you? If so, then this may be love.  If you've said something barely funny and the person cracks up, then they may be lovesick. If the person shows nervous energy or fidgets around a lot around you, then they may just be excited by your presence. If you are suffering unbelievable emotional pain or are just bummed because you have...

TL;DR in Russian:

Может ли человек быть самим собой рядом с вами? Рад ли человек видеть вас после тяжелого дня? Смотрит ли любимый человек на вас влюбленными глазами? Любит ли человек валять дурака рядом с вами? Грустно ли человеку, когда грустно вам?


Part of being mellow is knowing when you should actually change something that is gnawing at you. If you're irritated by a co-worker and do nothing to address it, then yeah, you are unlikely to feel mellow when you're at work. If your closet door is driving you crazy but you don't try to fix it, then you won't be feeling mellow for very long. The important thing is to approach the fixable problems in life with calm and resolve. Ask yourself about which things in life are causing you to not be mellow. Work to find a way to solve or address the problems that you are able to deal with. Along with changing the things you can change, in order to truly be mellow, you have to be able to learn to accept the things you cannot change. You can address a problematic co-worker to discuss issues you've been having, but you may not be able to change the fact that you hate the weather in the place where you live or that you have to live with siblings who pester you. Learn to recognize when a situation is out of your control and accept it with a calm mind. Let's say your new boss is driving you crazy, but you really love your job. If you try to resolve the issue and fail, then you have to learn to focus on the parts of your job that you love in spite of being annoyed by your boss. If you're the kind of person who doesn't know how to forgive and forget, then you are guaranteed to be less mellow. If one of your friends or family members has truly upset you, you have to work on being able to talk about it and to move past it, even if you haven't completely forgiven the person. If you walk around holding a grudge, then you are guaranteed to be in an angry, riled-up state instead of facing the day with calm and peace.  If you spend so much time obsessing over being mad at people who rejected you or fuming over people who have harmed you, then you will never be able to mellow out. Sure, it can help to talk about how someone has hurt you. But if you keep talking about it to everyone within earshot, you're only going to work yourself...

TL;DR in Russian:

Попробуйте изменить то, что в ваших силах. Перестаньте волноваться о вещах, которые нельзя изменить. Не держите злобу. Ведите дневник. Учитесь постигать проблему, шаг за шагом.


Part of being non-attached means recognizing that you don’t have all the answers.  Perhaps you have just gone through a bad breakup.  When someone asks if you’re over it, you might pretend to be or even have plans to see someone new.  But, both habits are unhealthy. It’s okay to admit that you don’t know what you’ll do about a situation moving forward. Perhaps you are dealing with the move of a friend who you were very close with.  Though this loss will sadden you, keep busy.  Try not to let changes in the lives of others put a stop to your own. Plan a full list of things to do throughout the day so you don’t feel so lonely. Though you can’t control others, you can control yourself. If you have recently detached yourself from something or someone, make other changes in your life.  Cut your hair or reorganize furniture.  Declutter your space or get a puppy. Do something to shift your focus to something new. This will help you get used to change as a part of life and even embrace it, which will make it easier for you to stop clinging to things and people. When you feel the need to cling to someone, find something funny to distract yourself.  Scroll down your Twitter feed to see some funny memes or call up a friend who lifts your mood. You can even take this time to poke a little fun at yourself.

TL;DR in Russian:

Признайте тот факт, что некоторых вещей вы просто не можете знать. Сохраняйте активность даже в то время, когда все резко меняется. Попробуйте немного изменить свое окружение. Отвлекайтесь на юмор.


Part of being self-reliant is undertaking certain responsibilities that enable people to experience independence.  Doing simple things such as paying your bills on time, cleaning up after yourself if you make a mess, and going to work or school on time can help you feel more responsible and self-reliant. If you do not have a job, you have the responsibility of looking for a job, seeking education that will lead to employment, or starting your own business. Information is power, so having information will give you the power to make your own decisions and assert your independence.  Try to be well-rounded and keep up with information about what is going on in your place of business or school, your town, your state, your country, and the world. For example, knowing that a local ordinance determining whether backyard chickens can be kept in your area is coming up for a vote can give you the opportunity to lobby and vote for the ability to keep chickens for fresh eggs. You should have a sense of direction.  Something has to drive you.  For example, if you are attending college, you should at least have an idea of what you want to do after college and what you are passionate about studying.  You should also try to set goals for yourself.  Try setting short-term, medium-term, and long-term goals, then be realistic about what you need to do to meet those goals.  Seek out a career counselor if you are not sure what you’d like to do with your life.  Career self-assessments can be found online. Many websites like this one or this one can offer helpful guidance. Most schools have career centers or guidance counselors available to all enrolled students.  These resources can help you shape a vision for your future. Allowing people to make your decisions for you is essentially giving up your independence and self-reliance.  Assert yourself and make decisions for yourself based on your goals and dreams.  While it is important to be considerate towards other people, it is not necessary to give up your ability to make your own...

TL;DR in Russian:

Научитесь нести ответственность за себя и свою жизнь. Будьте в курсе событий. Знайте, куда идете. Самостоятельно принимайте решения.


Part of being supportive is being both trustworthy and trusting, and having open communication really helps to build trust. Always be open with your partner, and avoid keeping secrets. It is okay to keep a small secret, such as what you plan to get them for a birthday gift, but you should never keep secrets about your relationship or things that happen that you know she will not like. . This applies to a wide range of situations. You should share your thoughts both when they are happy and when they are unhappy. She deserves to know.   It is important to express to their how much you care for and love them. You do not have to express those feelings multiple times per day, but reminding them on a daily basis shows you care. You also need to let them know when they have said or done something that upsets you. Part of supporting them is helping their to grow and learn from mistakes but in a healthy, supportive way. There is no need to start an argument, but gently telling your partner something like, “When you said that, I felt like you were indicating that I annoy you, and that hurt my feelings” will get the point across. Be firm in your words, if necessary, but be polite and respectful. Arguments are almost always avoidable, and your tone of voice and word choice will impact whether your discussion is a respectful disagreement or a full-blown argument.  Blaming them only causes their stress. Instead, by carefully and thoughtfully telling them what the issue is, you set their up for success in mending the situation. Always be willing to recognize your own mistakes and take accountability for them. A relationship is a two-way street, and everything about the relationship should be based on both individuals' wants and needs. Not every decision will be easy, and often, one person will need to agree to a compromise or be willing to make a sacrifice. Support them by making one of these choices when it is necessary.  One example of making a compromise is when you are planning a vacation together. Perhaps you want to...

TL;DR in Russian:

Создайте открытые отношения. Делитесь своими мыслями и чувствами. Проявляйте уважение, когда общаетесь с ним. Будьте готовы идти на компромисс или на уступки.


Part of being sweet involves developing good manners, which in turn, involves avoiding bad ones, such as swearing. If you get angry or upset (or stub your toe) bite your tongue and try not to swear or curse. If you really must swear, stay away from any expletives, and say things such as "drat" or "darn" instead. Sweet people are nice people, and nice people generally like everyone—or at least act as though they like everyone. Try to refrain from insulting others or gossiping about them, and never bully anyone. Not only is this negative behavior, but it will show others that you are capable of thinking not-so-nice things about others. This, in turn, may cause those listening to you to wonder what you might think of them. Instead, either ignore the bully or pretend that you did not hear the insulting or swearing. Bullies want attention, and you will be giving them just that by reacting to them. Part of being sweet and kind is being approachable. You can achieve this through maintaining proper posture—this means that your back is straight, your head is held high, and your shoulders are thrown back slightly (but not to the extent of discomfort). Slouching, crossing your arms, and sticking your hands in your pockets will make you appear disinterested, anti-social, or upset, none of which are considered very sweet. Not only are drugs harmful to your body, but vandalism can get you in trouble with authority. Sweet people are well-behaved people, and thus tend not to get into trouble. Refrain from vandalizing and destroying property (be it private or public), and try not to do drugs. Some drugs, such as hallucinogens, can lead you to partake in destructive behavior, while other drugs can deteriorate or permanently damage your health.

TL;DR in Russian:

Не ругайтесь и не сквернословьте. Не оскорбляйте, не сплетничайте и не издевайтесь. Не реагируйте на издевательства и ругань. Не сутультесь, не скрещивайте руки, и не держите руки в карманах. Не употребляйте наркотики и не причиняйте вред.


Part of being sweet means that you are thoughtful towards other people. You can achieve this by showing interest in other people's lives, or by doing nice things for them. For example:  Instead of talking about yourself, you can ask your friend about his day. This will show your friend that you are interested in his well-being. If your friend reveals that he is having a bad day, you can show how sweet you are by buying him some ice cream. It is your friend's birthday. Unfortunately, it falls right during Finals week and ends up being forgotten by everyone else as they scramble to complete assignments and catch up on last-minute studying. You can surprise your friend by bringing her a cupcake or a balloon to school. Part of being sweet is also being caring, which can be achieved through showing concern for other people. For example, if you notice someone looking upset, ask him or her what is wrong and if there is something you can do to help. This will show him or her that you care, even if he or she does not want any help. Part of being sweet means that you are polite and have good manners, even towards those you dislike. This means that you say things like "please," and "thank you," and "excuse me" or "pardon me." For example:  If someone compliments you, smile and say "thank you!" If you are eating in a cafeteria, and the salt shaker is too far away, do not reach across someone's face to grab it. Instead, ask: "Could you pass the salt, please?" If you are in a hurry and need to get through a crowd quickly, try not to shove your way through. Instead, say "pardon me" or excuse me" and try to weave your way past people instead. This does not mean that you have to donate all your clothes to charity and give in to everyone's demands. You want to be generous to a certain extent, but not so much that people begin to take advantage of you. For example:  Your friend forgot to bring her lunch to school, and she has no money to buy something from the cafeteria. You can offer part of your lunch to your friend, or lend...

TL;DR in Russian:

Будьте внимательны к окружающим. Будьте заботливы к окружающим. Всегда будьте вежливы. Будьте щедры. Делайте комплименты другим людям. Будьте отзывчивы к окружающим. Говорите нежным голосом.


Part of dealing with a negative person in the long term is to pinpoint whether or not they are negative or simply someone who's had a bad day.  Negative people often become that way as a result of being constantly disappointed and hurt, and the anger that is associated with these circumstances. Negative people tend to blame all external factors rather than themselves. Of course, there are those people who are totally negative about themselves, and that can be just as draining for a listener. Long-term friendships or work relationships with negative people can drain your patience just as much as your time and energy, but it's important to avoid lecturing or preaching at the person. Even the most positive among us aren't great at accepting criticism, and a negative person is more likely to see it as evidence that you're also against her or him rather than taking the feedback constructively. Even if “getting it off your chest” will help you to vent, it ultimately won't help the situation. If you must vent about the negative person, do it to someone else you trust in your support group besides the negative person. One way to help both yourself and the person mired in negativity is to do nice things for the negative individual that aren't triggered by a specific situation or conversation. Rejection from other people will always reinforce a negative worldview, so an act of acceptance can make a difference.  People can naturally take for granted the support they receive when they're already in a negative mindset. Show the person a positive action in his or her direction even when it's not prompted by a negative situation. You may have a larger impact on the person's interactions with you by doing so. For example, if you occasionally make excuses for why you can't see the negative person while he or she is ruminating over a negative situation, try instead calling the person up to hang out when they're not in a bad or ruminating mood. Remind the person of a fun time you spent together or a funny situation. Give him or...

TL;DR in Russian:

Выявите пессимистов. Избегайте нравоучений. Действуйте. Отправьте ему напоминание о прошедшем хорошем событии. Сделайте что-нибудь неожиданно милое, например, выполните за него работу в течение дня, пригласите посмотреть фильм или погулять вместе. Иногда лучший способ справиться с ворчуном (особенно, если он принадлежит к вашему кругу друзей) – это организовать совместное мероприятие. Возьмите на себя ответственность за собственное счастье. Оцените роль данного человека в вашей жизни. Избегайте этого человека.