Don't start an argument every time he leaves his socks on the floor. Focus on what you like about him, rather than the things he does that annoy you. If he sees that you don't start arguments over petty issues, he'll be more likely to listen when you have a problem you want to talk about. Try to have a conversation rather than an argument. Remember that this is a person you care about, and you’re both working to build a life together. If a tense issue comes up that you need to talk about, try to have a mature discussion where you both are able to explain how you feel.  If an issue seems important enough to bring up, try to find the right time to mention it. Pick a time when you're both free of other distractions so you can focus on each other. Start the conversation with a positive statement about your partner, then follow with what's bothering you. Try saying, "I love that you're so excited about your new phone, but I feel a little frustrated that you didn't think you should talk to me before buying something that cost so much." If an argument starts to escalate, keep your tone of voice calm and use positive statements to cool things down. Say things like "I respect your independence; I just want to feel included in big decisions" or "You're usually very considerate so this surprised me." You might have a valid point to make, but a big factor in how much of it he’ll listen to has to do with how you say it. If you can feel your emotions getting the best of you, take a 20-minute break, then come back and finish your discussion. Go for a walk or take a drive in your car, then come back and talk about it. Hanging on to hurt feelings can build up, and then when you argue you let it all out. Instead of dealing with one issue, you're arguing about several different things, and there's no way to actually fix them. Talk about problems as they come up. If there are a lot of unresolved issues in your relationship, you might need to evaluate whether you're with the right person. Everyone argues once in awhile, but do...

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Будьте более разборчивы. Старайтесь разрешать проблемы более спокойно. Если вы чувствуете, что ситуация выходит из-под контроля, сделайте перерыв. Не накапливайте обиды. Не делайте ссору слишком продолжительной. Как можно скорее помиритесь.


Don't start chatting  with a girl on Facebook if you haven't updated your photo since the eighth grade. Before you start picking up a girl on Facebook, you should make sure that your photos are up-to-date and that you look attractive, or at least like a nice guy. Don't put up a ton of photos with you and a million different girls unless you want to look like a player, and don't have a hundred photos of yourself being drunk or acting goofy unless you think that will appeal to the girl.  Just go through your photos and ask yourself "Would the girl I'm trying to pick up be into this?" If the answer is no, then delete the photos. Keep some "safe" photos of you hanging out with some girls to show that girls actually like hanging out with you; Just don't have any pictures where your doing anything too provocative with another lady -- or a few other ladies. If you're trying to pick up, and get to know a girl through Facebook, then she needs to see that you're a legit guy. You should have a fair amount of Facebook friends, post interesting things on your wall, show that you're attending events,comment on people's photos, and have people comment on your links. Let the girl see that you're a fun guy and that other people actually like talking to you.  If you only have ten Facebook friends and your wall hasn't been updated for a year, she'll get suspicious. Don't post too often. Only post just enough to be active. You don't want the girl thinking that Facebook is your life. Don't let her see that you're hitting on many girls on Facebook, even if you are. Be slick and keep your flirty messaging hidden, limited to chatting, or  have private messages. While you shouldn't pour your heart out on Facebook, the girl should be able to browse your profile and learn a few cool things about you. If you're into a certain band, post a link to one of their songs on your wall; if you love surfing, have a few photos of you and your buddies hitting the waves. Let her see that you have many cool interests outside of Facebook.

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Убедись, что на твоей страничке только те фотографии, на которых ты выглядишь наилучшим образом. Продемонстрируй ей, что у тебя есть общественная жизнь. Пусть твой профиль раскрывает то, чем ты отличаешься от других.


Don't stress yourself out by arriving anywhere without a handful of small-talk ideas.Stay up to date with current events, the latest club or restaurant openings in your area, or anything else that might spice things up. Having at least five or six things to hit on will allow you the flexibility to bring up something that fits with the moment you're in. In addition to general talking points, come in with a sense of what this group of people find relevant. If you're going to a party where a jazz band is playing, brush up on music-related topics. Don't force yourself to go to any events or gatherings that seem especially intimidating. You can also try setting flexible time limits for yourself. Even if you want to stay longer, know that you have an agreement with yourself to stay a minimum of, say, two hours. Arriving places early can help you feel more secure, as you will have time to adjust to the atmosphere. Sometimes the panic caused by arriving to a full venue or house can be enough to plunge back into old habits of self-doubt. Use your demeanor to show that you actually want to be approached. If your hands are in your purse or busy texting, others might sense that you are occupied or blatantly uninterested in engaging. Try to envision how you carry yourself when you're around someone you trust. Perhaps your eyes are present and not focused on your feet. Your arms are probably uncrossed, and you're not hiding under layers of sweaters and coats. Review some of your recent experiences, and trust that once you begin talking, you have a heftier conversation piece. Maybe you recently watched a police chase or went on a chat-worthy vacation. Start off with a simple comment about something anyone might be able to respond to--"How's that beer treating you?" or "I know I've heard this song before, but I can't place it!"  It's always a safe bet is to comment on your immediate environment. When you share your observations about the neighborhood you're in, the group you're with, or the food being served, you are...

TL;DR in Russian:

Подготовьтесь. Начинайте с малого. Демонстрируйте свою контактность. Сами заводите разговоры. Излучайте уверенность с помощью языка тела Задавайте открытые вопросы. Помогите другим почувствовать себя комфортнее. Не сдавайтесь.


Don't think that you have to be passionately locking lips or kissing the entire time you're together. It's okay to take a break, laugh together a little bit, get a glass of water, or just make yourself more comfortable. This doesn't mean you should stop and talk about how hard the math homework was, or switch the subject to something else decidedly un-sexy. But if you're starting to feel like you need a breather, don't sweat it. Chances are, so does your partner.  Pull away and smile, run your fingers through the other person's hair (this works great for guys and girls), and keep your hands on the person's body. You can even take a break by whispering something sexy in your partner's ear. The feel of your hot breath on his or her ear will turn up the heat for sure. Remember, he or she may be just as nervous as you are! Your compliments will not only be a confidence booster, but they will probably also encourage more kissing.  If your partner isn’t good at kissing, be patient. Continue to use the techniques that you’ve learned and give your partner time to follow your lead. If your partner does something you like, encourage him or her by smiling and saying, “I love it when you ___”; to continue reinforcing the better aspects of their kissing, respond to these moments by squeezing them tighter, making a brief “mmm” sound of approval, etc. Unless you are remarkably comfortable with each other, do not criticize your partner’s kissing abilities. When you're ready to say goodbye, keep things positive so that it's more likely you'll be kissing again soon. You may be feeling a mixture of emotions, but focus on the ones that make you feel amazing about what just happened. Here are some things to try before you say goodbye for the night:  Let your partner know you had a good time.  A simple "That was awesome" will probably make him or her feel just as great as a canned, pre-written compliment.  Say what you feel and don't worry about sounding too elegant or aloof. End with one more kiss.  Make this one quick, light and...

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Сделайте передышку, когда это необходимо. Сделайте партнеру комплимент по поводу того, как хорошо он целуется. Завершайте на сильной эмоции.


Don't think your preparation is done when you get to the interview. Have a piece of paper with you to take notes. Write down specific keywords, and identify specific traits and skills the company is looking for based on what the person interviewing you is saying. Maybe you haven't had a chance to highlight your people skills. Alternatively, maybe you haven't had a chance to talk about your computer skills. Make a note on your paper about these lapses, so that you can address them in an open-ended question later, such as "Why should I hire you?" For instance, you may notice the interviewer thinks you are overqualified if she keeps asking about your years of experience and how you would do with people younger than you being in charge. Alternatively, maybe the interviewer thinks you don't have the skills of the job, which you may have noticed when she asked about a specific skill that you're not strong in. If the job description wasn't particularly detailed, feel free to ask some questions yourself. That way, you have a better idea of what the job entails, so you can answer the question more directly.  Ask questions such as "What goals will the person who’s hired be asked to focus on immediately?” or “What qualities do you usually look for in a new hire?” You can also ask a question such as "What is a typical day like in this position?"

TL;DR in Russian:

Слушайте сосредоточенно. Отметьте, что вы не смогли сказать. Оцените, что интервьюер думает о вас. Выведывайте больше деталей.


Don't trust that your studs will all be on 16" or 24" centers, as they are supposed to be. Some studs are 1/2" off in either direction, sometimes due to sloppy carpentry work by the builder. A good idea is to run masking tape along the floor while you have the studs exposed and mark the center line of each stud with a high visibility marker. Again, it's likely that you will have to cut some pieces of drywall in order to center the end pieces onto a stud. When cutting drywall, use a T-square and razor knife to score a line on one side of the drywall paper. Place your knee on the opposite side of the cut and quickly pull the drywall piece towards you while at the same time pushing your knee outward, snapping the drywall in a clean line. Clean up the remaining paper along the newly formed crease with your razor. Do this right before you intend to hang the drywall. Start in the center and work outwards. Drive in five screws for each stud.  Extra screws may help in some situations, but are usually overkill; they will require extra mudding and sanding that may detract from the overall finish. Consider using a spring-loaded drywall screw dimpler. They are designed to automatically countersink each drywall screw to precisely the same depth before ratcheting the screw bit, as a sign to quit and back off the drill. Continue installing drywall over window and door openings. You'll be able to trim off excess drywall later. At the same time, be mindful that no seams line up with a door or window corner, and do not fasten panels to framing around openings yet. A good practice when installing drywall over protruding pipes is to place the drywall against the pipe and lightly tap with a flat block of wood to dimple the back. Next, pull the drywall away and use a drywall circle cutter or drywall hole saw to cut a perfect hole along the dimple. This should be much easier to finish than if you punch out a large hole that requires 3-4 coats of mud to finish. Start the next row at the edge of the wall, next to the previous row....

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Отметьте расположение всех используемых стоек с помощью искателя гвоздей. Измерьте стену куском гипсокартона, чтобы определить, будет ли его край ложиться на центр стойки. Нанесите капли клея на каждую стойку или поперечину, на которой будет размещен гипсокартон. С чьей-нибудь помощью поднимите гипсокартон на стену и, используя дрель, вкрутите пять шурупов в стойку по центру стеновой панели. Используйте пилу для гипсокартона для вырезания неровных отверстий, таких как арки. Продолжайте подъем, приклеивание и прикручивание гипсокартона, пока один ряд стены не будет полностью укрыт. Отрежьте все части гипсокартона, выступающие поверх рам окон и дверей.


Don't try to break out the skinny dipping at the beginning of a party or gathering.  Instead, let things wind down a little bit.  Wait until after everyone's arrived, eaten and had time to mingle.  When the mood seems mellow, get ready to bring up the topic.  You’ll probably also want to wait for the sun, too. Sunrise, sunset, and when the moon is high in the sky are all great times to skinny dip. If you’re doing it illegally, the timing is right when the authorities are gone. You’ll need to familiarize yourself with their check-up schedule and act accordingly. You can either announce to the people around you that it’s skinny dipping time, or simply walk to the water and start undressing.  In either case, encourage the person you talked to in Step 2 to join in.  Everyone else will start to get jazzed about the idea when they see another person join. If you're feeling particularly bold, pull an attention-grabbing stunt.  If everybody's practicing their cannonballs and you're up on the diving board, take your suit off at that moment.  You'll make a bigger "skinny-dipping entrance." You won't feel comfortable getting naked if you're extremely critical or self-conscious about the way that you look.  Take your clothes off without hesitation, and without grimacing at your perceived flaws.  Think positive things about yourself, and focus on the body parts you like.  No one is perfect, so learn to appreciate the body that you have. Encourage the people around you to be confident, as well. If any friends are hesitant about joining you, try to help them see that flaws are no big deal and that they look fine. Self-consciousness is one of the biggest mental barriers to skinny dipping. When you’re down to your skivvies, take a moment to put your clothes in the right place. If you’re in public, you want them somewhere accessible to you but not accessible to others. In other words, somewhere nearby but hidden. Sometimes there’s that person in the group who thinks it’d be funny to steal everyone’s clothes. This is the person...

TL;DR in Russian:

Выберите удачное время. Предложите вашу идею. Продолжайте раздеваться и делайте это уверенно. Спрячьте свою одежду. Подумайте о том, чтобы снять свое нижнее белье, как только вы окажитесь в воде. Поиграйте в воде.


Don't try to describe your entire job in one flowchart. A series of short documents that cover each task separately will be much easier to follow. If you have to document a large-scale process, such as the creation of a company's product from conception to sale, only use simple names to refer to each task within that process. If necessary, use additional documents to explain each task in more detail. Sub-processes are the key tasks that are performed during the process. If you are not intimately familiar with the process you are documenting, interview project managers or other experts in this process to get a good understanding of the tasks involved. In general, if a step in your document includes more than one verb, or the word "and," it can likely be broken down into two steps. For example, "Place bun and meat patty on grill" should be broken down into "Place meat patty on grill" and "Place bun on grill." If your process is similar every time, and involves only a couple of decisions or variations, you might want to simply write out the steps in a list. Use an electronic text document (such as a Microsoft Word file) or a sheet of lined paper. A simple flowchart is an easy way to display the process visually, as described in a later section on this page. There are ways to construct more complicated flowcharts as well, but these are not required for most processes. Consider following the instructions in the section on complex flowcharts only if your process has more than ten steps and you have more than three people performing different steps of the process. One page is ideal, but even for complicated processes, try to pare it down to 5 pages or fewer. Only specialized and complex tasks should require longer documents, and even then only if the document is being used by the actual people performing them.  For instance, if the document is intended to guide doctors diagnosing cancer, you will likely mention every diagnostic test that can be used. However, if the same process is being documented to present to...

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Когда это возможно, сосредотачивайтесь на одном процессе за раз. Разбейте всю картину на меньшие процессы. Решите, достаточно ли прост процесс для текстового документа. Рассмотрите вариант создания структурной схемы. Когда это возможно, старайтесь создавать лаконичные схемы. Включите наглядные средства, если они помогут облегчить чтения процесса. Называйте людей по их должности, а не по имени. Ясно обозначьте, как процессы связаны друг с другом. Необходимо создавать доступные документы, которые можно редактировать. Тщательно обозначайте документацию процесса.


Don't try to disinfect the case while it's still on your phone. The disinfectant could get inside your phone and damage it. If the phone case has multiple parts, separate them by pulling the inner piece out from the hard outer part of the case. Use rubbing alcohol that’s 70 percent or higher. If the rubbing alcohol you’re using is in a spray bottle, you can spray it directly onto the phone case instead of using a cloth. Wipe down both the plastic and silicon parts of your phone case. Make sure you wipe down the inside and the outside of the phone case with the rubbing alcohol. Try to get as much of the rubbing alcohol off as you can. The phone case should feel mostly dry to the touch when you’re finished. Set the case somewhere it can air dry for an hour. After an hour has passed, put your phone back in its case. Get in the habit of disinfecting your phone at least once a month so it stays clean.

TL;DR in Russian:

Снимите чехол с телефона. Смочите мягкую ткань в медицинском спирте (70 % или выше). Протрите чехол телефона смоченной в спирте тканью. Вытрите спирт сухой мягкой тканью. Выждите час, прежде чем положить телефон обратно в чехол.


Don't try to remove the jewelry yourself, or you will make the condition worse. Whether it is infected or embedded, visit your doctor and be sure to tell them that you want the nose ring permanently removed.  Many infections can be treated without removing the jewelry, so tell your doctor that you want it take out; otherwise, they'll assume you want to keep it in.  If your jewelry has become embedded, it may require surgical removal. Talk to your doctor about getting it removed as soon as you can. If you have removed your nose ring for good, you want to make sure the hole shrinks without infection or other trouble. Continue to clean the wound area twice a day using warm water or a saline solution. In most cases, the piercing hole will heal on its own, shrinking down so that all is left is a barely noticeable dimple. If your piercing has become stretched, it is less likely to heal back to its original shape. If you change your mind, and decide to get your nose pierced again, make sure the hole heals completely before getting it pierced again. If the area doesn’t heal, you can create scar tissue from the additional trauma to your nose. The piercing must be healed on both sides. How long this will take will vary from person to person.

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Выньте украшение из носа. Помогите отверстию зажить. Дождитесь, когда травмированная область носа полностью заживет, прежде чем делать себе новый пирсинг.


Don't try to treat major burns at home. They need immediate treatment by a professional. Immediately call for an ambulance or visit your doctor or an emergency room immediately.  Never try to treat a serious burn yourself. The following measures are simply proactive steps to take until medical help arrives. If possible, do whatever you can to prevent further burns or injury. Stop the heat source or move the suffering person. Never pull on or move someone using the burned area for leverage. If you do, you could further damage the skin and possibly open up a wound even more. This can cause great pain to a suffering victim and lead to shock. Apply a cool, moist towel over the burned area to protect it until help arrives. Do not use ice or immerse the affected area in cold water. This can cause hypothermia or further damage to the sensitive area. If your burn was caused by chemicals, clean the area of any remaining chemicals. Run the area under cool water or add a cool compress as you wait for emergency help. Do not attempt any home remedies on a chemical burn. Only do this if you can elevate the wound without causing further damage. Look for shock symptoms: weak or rapid pulse, low blood pressure, clammy skin, disorientation or unconsciousness, nausea, or combativeness. If you notice symptoms of shock from third degree burns, get medical attention immediately. Call an ambulance to get the victim to the hospital quickly. This is a life threatening situation on top of an already dangerous situation. Severe third degree burns can cause shock because the body loses a significant amount of fluids when a large surface area is burned. The body cannot function normally with such low levels of fluid and blood.

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Немедленно вызовите скорую помощь. Помогите пострадавшему отойти от источника тепла. Накройте область ожога. Устраните химические раздражители. Приподнимите область ожога так, чтобы она находилась выше уровня сердца. При состоянии шока нужна немедленная медицинская помощь.


Don't try to use it when you are feeling angry, annoyed, or depressed. Spirits can feed off of energy. If you try to use your board while you are in a bad mood, you might end up getting a bad spirit. You might also want to avoid using the board if you are feeling anxious or scared. An evil spirit may try to use your fears against you. This will make it harder for you to focus. It will also make you an easy target for bad spirits, who may try to take advantage of the situation and possess you. Don't use the board in order to spy on someone or learning his/her weakness. Also, don't use the board to ask the spirit to possess someone or make his/her life miserable. Revenge may sound like a good idea now, but it will bring serious harm to both you and your victim. They will make you less aware of your surroundings. This can be very dangerous. When dealing with spirits and the spirit world, you want to be focused at all times. This may help dispel any negative energies that might be plaguing you. It might also help you feel relaxed. Here are some ideas to get you started:  Meditate. Try envisioning yourself surrounded by a bright light. Say a prayer of protection. You can make up a prayer if you like. It can be something as simple as: Let nothing but good energies surround me. Let nothing but good intentions fill me. Let my mind and body be calm and at peace." Take an herbal or salt bath. The best herb to use is lavender, and the best salt to use is sea salt.

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Пользуйтесь доской, когда вы в хорошем настроении. Не пользуйтесь доской Уиджа, если вы устали или плохо себя чувствуете. Следует проводить сеанс с хорошими намерениями. Не употребляйте алкоголь и наркотики перед и после сеанса. Подумайте о том, чтобы духовно очиститься перед сеансом.


Don't turn your attention to one element of your surroundings. Look at that element as though you needed to paint or draw it. Sharpen your attention on this item, examining how it looks and how it might feel. For example, look at the arm of a chair. Notice the wood grain and pattern. Observe how smooth the arm is and how it curves downward. Rub your index finger and thumb together. Notice how your skin feels. Notice what happens when you press your fingers together more gently. Listen to your breathing. Pay attention to your eyes blinking. If you are experiencing physical pain or sharp emotional pain, distract yourself by inflicting a small amount of physical pain on yourself. This will redirect your attention to one area, such as when you pinch the webbing between your index finger and your thumb.

TL;DR in Russian:

Понаблюдайте за чем-нибудь в мельчайших деталях. Уделите внимание своему телу. Ущипните себя.


Don't underestimate the power of your attire. Although fashion sense isn't everything, wearing sharp clothes will prove your respect for your girl and show off your social mobility.If you wear clothes that showcase your style and personality, you'll also get a nice positive mental boost. This will help you carry yourself with more confidence. Because you're in the initial stages of the relationship, you'll both be trying to impress. If she'll get dressed up for you, then you definitely have to meet her in your own dressing up.  For a dinner date, especially if you live in an urban location, you'll probably want to wear some sort of jacket. This could be a blazer or a sport coat; whatever you'd prefer. In certain situations, a full suit and tie may even be appropriate. If you're going out at night, it's better to overdress. You can shed the coat and let your date wear it if it gets too cold. If you're worried about looking overdressed, it's hard to go wrong with a fitted collared shirt, jeans/khakis, and a nice pair of shoes.It's a tried and true look, and it's one that strikes a nice balance between formal and comfortable. Make sure that the shirt isn't wrinkled and that your pants are clean and without any rips. For the shoes, you'll want to be sitting in some place between your weekend sneakers and dress shoes. While being clean is always important, you definitely don't want to skip any steps when getting clean before a big date. It's definitely not enough to cover up your stench with body spray and cologne. Because you'll be spending an entire night with her, you'll want to cover all of your bases in respect to your hygiene. Some steps that you might miss include:  Floss every day. Your dentist will definitely thank you for this one. This extra step will not only help prevent gum disease, but will also dramatically improve the smell of your breath. Getting an electric toothbrush isn't a bad idea either. Wash your feet. Doing this every day will help eliminate the need for more dramatic measures, like foot...

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Хорошо одевайтесь. Следите за собой. Выберите подходящее место. Не допускайте чрезмерного напряжения.


Don't use a cloth or band-aid as they can absorb some of the ink and fade it faster. Don't use any ointments or lotions for the first week of healing because they can clog the tattoo and puts it at risk of infection. . Leave the wrap on for 1-3 hours, but no longer than 6. Remove the initial wrap and gently wash the area with warm water and non-scented soap. Don't scrub, and only wash the tattoo with clean hands.  Don't soak your tattoo and don't run it under hot water. It won't feel nice, and it take the ink out of your skin.  Avoid picking at the tattoo as this could cause some of the ink to bleed out, causing messy lines and even scarring. After the swelling goes down and the skin starts to scab, switch to a plain, unscented lotion. Most professionals recommend Lubriderm or Aquaphor. Keep the layers thin. Your skin needs to breathe so it can heal properly. Moisturize your tattoo 3-5 times a day depending on the size of the tattoo. If your skin starts to look dried out, use a small amount of lotion. For the first week or so be mindful of your tattoo. It's going to scab over and you'll need to take extra care to keep it clean. In addition to washing it and keeping it moisturized, you'll need to avoid certain activities.  Keep your tattoo out of direct sunlight, as this can cause the ink to fade. It will also burn like a bad sunburn. Avoid pools of water such as baths, hot tubs, pools, lakes, oceans, etc. They are full of bacteria, which can lead to infection.  Avoid any activity that is high-contact or induces excessive sweating, like working out.   Wear loose clothing so your tattoo can breathe. Tight clothing prevents this. Be on the lookout for redness or excessive scabbing around your tattoo, as well as any oozing, or swelling. These are all signs of possible infection. You can minimize the risk of infection by keeping your supplies clean and taking care of your tattoo. Still, it is possible your tattoo could become infected. If you suspect that your tattoo has become infected, consult your physician.

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Наложите повязку на вашу новую татуировку. Держите вашу татуировку в чистоте. Нанесите лосьон на вашу татуировку. Дайте татуировке зажить. Будьте осторожны, не занесите инфекцию.


Don't use the threat of leaving as a tool to get your own way in an argument. If you say it, be prepared to back it up with the action, or else take the threat off the table before you make it. Discuss problems openly and directly with your partner before you make up your mind. Many people suffer for years and never bring problems up with their partners, which is what leads to many breakups. If you really want to end the relationship, then you should make a list of all the reasons you're unhappy in the relationship -- and all the reasons those things can't be fixed. Don't decide to break up with your partner in the heat of the moment, when you're feeling unstable, or after you've had a bad week and are blaming your relationship for all of your problems. Before you make this important decision, take the time to get input from trusted friends and parents, people who may have helpful insight into your relationship issues. Once you've decided to break up with your partner, don't go around telling your close friends, or anyone at all, or it may get back to that person. It's okay to come to a close friend or family member for advice, but once you've made your decision, the mature thing to do is to tell your partner next. Choose a time and place that will allow for both you and the person that you're about to dump some privacy. Don't break up with someone right before they have a big test or are about to go to work. Fridays are a suitable choice if it gives your soon-to-be-ex the weekend to recover somewhat.  Don't break up with your partner in your favorite restaurant, bar, or your favorite spot in a park. Pick a neutral location that has no special meaning for either of you. Pick a time when you know you'll be in a relatively calm emotional state. Don't break up with your partner after you know you'll be staying late for a stressful meeting at work. To give your significant other the respect that they deserve, you should end the relationship in person, no matter how much you're dreading it.  The only time it's...

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Для начала еще раз подумайте, действительно ли вы хотите прекратить отношения. Принимайте решение с ясной головой. Правильно подберите время и место, чтобы рассказать партнеру о своем решении. Очень важно рассказать партнеру о своем решении лично (в большинстве случаев).


Don't use water balloons, which are too thin and weak for this purpose, and will easily burst. For a typical palm-sized stress ball, you'll need approximately 160 to 240 grams (5.6 to 8.5 oz) of filling. Any of these will do:  For a firm stress ball, use flour, baking soda, or cornstarch (a white powder called cornflour in the Commonwealth). For a looser stress ball, use dry rice lentils, small beans, or split peas, or fine play sand from a hardware store. Mix a small amount of dried rice into flour for something in between. This is also more durable than flour alone.

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Возьмите три шарика. Выберите наполнитель.


Don't use your bed as a work or study space, as this will teach your brain to think about work or school while it's time for sleep. It's easier for your mind to calm down and go to sleep if you train it to associate your bed with resting.  Do work tasks or homework in another room. For example, you might use the dinner table as a workspace. If you must work in your bedroom, use a desk instead of your bed. Keeping your sleeping area and working area separate can help your brain associate your bed with rest rather than work. after noon. Starting your day out with a caffeinated drink is fine, but caffeine isn't your best option for an afternoon pick-me-up. That's because it stays in your system for hours after you drink it. By the time bedtime rolls around, you may not feel like the caffeine is still affecting you, but it could keep your mind awake. Opt for caffeine-free drinks after lunch.  If you need an afternoon boost, you could try going on a 15-minute walk to energize yourself. It's especially helpful if you go outside! Everyone reacts to caffeine differently, so you may need to adjust your cut-off time, depending on your individual needs. Alcohol may make you feel sleepy, but it also interrupts your sleep. This means you may fall asleep easily only to wake up during the night. If you enjoy drinking, stick to 1-2 drinks early in the evening. . Nicotine acts as a stimulant, so it can keep you awake. Not only that, you may find yourself having cravings during the night. Kicking the habit may be your answer to better sleep. Talk to your doctor for help quitting. You may be able to use a prescription medicine, such as Chantix, to stop smoking. You may also be able to use quitting aids, such as gum or patches. Whether that means going for your lunch in the park or just throwing open all the curtains, make sure your brain gets stimulated by enough daylight. The sun is a natural cue to your brain that it's time to wake up.  For example, you could go on a nature walk or walk your dog. During winter, you might try...

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Используйте свою постель лишь для сна и занятий сексом. Не употребляйте кофеин Не пейте спиртное перед сном. Бросьте курить Получайте достаточное количество света на протяжении дня. Занимайтесь спортом хотя бы по 30 минут в день Отдавайте предпочтение легкому ужину. Ограничьте потребление простых сахаров и углеводов. Принимайте пищевые добавки с магнием. Попробуйте в качестве временной меры принимать пищевые добавки с мелатонином. Снизьте уровень стресса


Don't wait to ask her on the day of the dance. She might already have a date by then, and there's a chance that she'll think she wasn't your first choice. Ask her around two to three weeks before the dance. This also gives her time to figure out what to wear. Spend a few minutes going over what you want to say so you don’t trip over your words when the time comes. You can even practice in front of the mirror until your question sounds casual and sincere. Make sure you have a go-with-the-flow attitude. . You don't have to go all out and wear something like a suit; save that for the dance. Just make sure you've showered, your hair looks nice, and that you're wearing an outfit that doesn't look sloppy.  Use deodorant and brush your teeth beforehand. Don't overdo it on the cologne, as this might push her away. If she says she doesn't like you in that way or just says “no,” then back off. Nothing ticks a  girl off more than an annoying guy that doesn't leave her alone. Not only is it rude, but it can make her dislike you more.  If she says "no," do not ask why. Say something like, "Oh, all right. No problem." If she says, "I'll think about it," don't call her for a confirmed response. Wait until she calls you back. If she doesn't call back three days before the date of the dance, take it as a no.

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Пригласите ее за несколько недель до дискотеки. Подумайте, что вы ей скажете, а затем отрепетируйте речь. Красиво оденьтесь Помните, что нет значит нет.


Don't walk into work after your sick day looking perfectly healthy. Play it up like you're still getting over your illness. Blow your nose a few times or cough softly. You don’t have to play it up too much or act a little too much like a martyr for returning to work. Don’t mention your illness and let other people ask how you’re feeling. You should play it down to be even more authentic, saying something like, “I’m not feeling so bad anymore, really,” or, “I just need one more good night’s sleep and I’ll be just fine.”  If you want to look extra authentic, don't get a lot of sleep the night before so that you show up to work looking haggard and exhausted. This bolsters your credibility for the next time you call in sick (and gives you an excuse to stay up late). Act a little more reserved that day. Don’t be extra friendly or chatty with your coworkers, and turn down invitations. Remember that you still need to save your strength. You may think that you’re close with your coworkers and that they would never rat you out, but you should still be careful about announcing that you were pretending to be sick. Your coworkers won’t want to high-five you, and will think you were being irresponsible or just plain annoying. Plus, if just one coworker repeats what you’ve said and it gets back to your boss, then you will not only get in trouble, but you’ll never be able to fake sick again.  Furthermore, getting called out for faking sick will also make your boss more suspicious the next time you’re actually sick. You don’t want to have to defend yourself for the rest of your time at work. Hey, we all need a day off from work once in a while and there’s no judgment. Still, this doesn’t mean you should go bragging about it, or it’ll show that you really don’t take your work seriously. After calling in sick, you should be nice to your boss when you return to work. You don’t have to mention the illness or thank your boss for being so understanding, but you should work on having a good attitude and sending positive vibes your...

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Продолжайте симулировать болезнь и по возвращении на работу. Не говорите коллегам, что притворялись больным. Будьте дружелюбны с руководством. Проведите продуктивный рабочий день.


Don't waste much time beating around the bush. Be simple and direct. Tell your friend how she makes you feel. This will be different for everyone, so try to follow your heart. A few things you may want to mention are suggested below, but feel free to phrase things differently if you think it will be more genuine.  Tell her that, lately, you've been thinking of her as more than a friend and that you wanted to know how she felt. Tell her that you've been struggling your feelings for some time and that you're just relieved to finally open up about it. Tell her that, no matter how she feels, you value her and you want to have a positive relationship with her. This is crucial — you don't want her to feel like you're only interested in knowing her if she wants to be romantic with you This conversation is likely to be a little awkward no matter which way it goes. However, you can make things much less awkward for both of you if you give your friend a reasonable way to say "no" without embarrassing herself. This isn't as hard as it sounds — basically, just mention that it's OK if she doesn't want to get together right now. A few things you may want to mention are listed below:  Tell her that you completely understand if she can't be in a relationship right now. Tell her that you don't know whether she has anything going on in her life that might keep you two from dating. Stress that you won't be upset if she doesn't feel the same way as you. Big, dramatic displays of emotion might seem like a good idea, but they can make this conversation a lot more stressful and tense than it needs to be. Try to talk in a calm voice and to use a friendly, lighthearted tone. You can even use a little humor to ease the tension by joking about how antsy you've been to talk about this — a well-placed laugh can make things much easier.  Note: You will probably want to avoid actually using the word "love." For many people, this word can have a huge weight that may make the prospect of being with you a little scary. Most relationship...

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Будьте откровенны. Дайте подруге возможность выйти из этой ситуации, если она не захочет быть с вами. Постарайтесь сделать разговор как можно более простым. Не требуйте у девушки ответа. Выслушайте ответ девушки. Будьте готовы какое-то время не общаться.


Don't waste time beating around the bush. Just tell him that you know he likes you, and that you're just not interested in him in that way. Tell him you wish it was different and know that it puts you in an uncomfortable place, but that you just don't see him as more than a friend.  Tell him that it wasn't easy for you to open up about this, but that it was necessary. He'll appreciate that you valued him enough to tell him the truth. Just because you're being honest doesn't mean that you should get into the top five reasons why you would never date him. If you're not feeling it, that's okay -- but you don't have to make him feel flawed or not good enough for you. Don't be wishy-washy about it. If you don't like him, you don't like him. Don't say that you're not at the right place in your life to like him right now, or that you'll think about it in a year, once you're done with school. This will only make you look like a flake. The more firm and clear you are, the more he'll get the message and will leave you alone on the romantic front.  Though it sounds harsh, the most important thing is to not give him hope. If he thinks there's even a chance that you'll like him later, he'll keep waiting for it to happen. Remember that being firm doesn't mean that you have to be cruel. You don't have to say that there's a 0% chance that you'll ever get together, or that there's no way you'd ever go out with him. You will essentially be saying this -- but in a nice way. Don't apologize. Though the situation is uncomfortable, and you feel bad for him, you can't help how you feel. The worst thing you can do is lie about why you won't go out with him instead of being honest and just saying you're not feeling it. Though you may think that a lie or an excuse will make him feel less rejected, the opposite is actually true. He'll be able to tell if you're bluffing from a mile away, and that will only make him feel worse. If he's really your friend, then you should respect him enough to tell him the truth.  Here are some excuses...

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Будьте честны. Будьте тверды в своем решении. Не врите и не придумывайте отговорки. Скажите, насколько вы дорожите вашей дружбой. Выслушайте его.


Don't water your money tree when the soil is still wet or you could overwater it and cause root rot. To check if the soil is dry enough, gently dig down into the soil with your finger. If the soil is dry 1–2 inches (2.5–5.1 cm) down, water your money tree. Once you see water draining out of the holes and into the tray underneath the pot, stop watering. Make sure you keep watering until you see the excess water come out or your money tree might not get as much water as it needs. That way your money tree won't be sitting in water, which can cause root rot. After you water your money tree, wait a few minutes for all of the excess water to drain out of the drainage holes and into the tray. Then, lift up your potted money tree and grab the tray full of water from underneath it. Empty the tray and return it to its place underneath your tree. Money trees grow less during the winter because there's not as much light. Because they grow less, they don't need as much water. During the winter, when you notice the soil your money tree is in is dry, wait 2-3 extra days before you water it. Start watering regularly again once springs arrives.

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Полейте ореховое дерево, когда подсохнут верхние 2,5–5 см почвы. Поливайте ореховое дерево, пока из дренажных отверстий не потечет вода. Вылейте воду из подставки после того, как польете ореховое дерево. Зимой ореховое дерево стоит поливать реже.


Don't wear any clothes that are too tight or restricting or that will keep you too warm at night. They can keep you from falling asleep because you aren't comfortable, as well as make you restless later. One study even found that wearing tight clothing at night suppresses the release of melatonin, which is necessary for falling and staying asleep. Caffeine can interfere with your sleep even if it has been six hours since you last had any, so make sure to stop drinking it early. Another stimulant to avoid is nicotine; it's best to try to quit smoking and using all other nicotine containing products (vaporizing nicotine, chewing tobacco, patches, and gum) altogether if you are having trouble sleeping. Keep in mind that you may have a period of withdrawal as you are cutting out nicotine, and this may interfere with your sleep. Be sure to discuss any issues you are having with your doctor. At least an hour before you want to sleep, turn off your computer, phone, and television. The bright lights of the screen tell your brain to stay awake, so to get your mind ready for bed, they need to go. The blue light from screens is especially responsible for causing sleep disturbances. If you find you can't sleep because your brain keeps going, stop trying to sleep. Go try another activity for a time, such as reading a book. You'll begin to feel sleepy, and when you do, return to bed. This practice helps you to associate your bed with one thing--sleep.  Another way to slow down your mind is to try meditation, as it clears your mind of thoughts if you do it properly. It also relaxes you, helps to regulate your sleep, go through more REM cycles, and sleep better overall.One simple meditation is to concentrate on your breaths. Take deep breaths in and out, focusing solely on your breaths. Try counting to four each time you inhale, and then repeat four counts each time you exhale to help slow your breaths. You can also use a guided meditation app to help you learn how to meditate. Also, have a pen handy. That way, if you think...

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Оденьтесь удобно. Откажитесь от стимулирующих веществ. Выключите электронные приборы. Остановите поток мыслей. Не ешьте перед сном. Придерживайтесь режима. Попробуйте принимать мелатонин. Купите препарат, который поможет вам заснуть. Определите, стоит ли вам показаться врачу.


Don't wear shoes, and stand tall. Stand on a scale that has been calibrated and get your weight in pounds or kilograms. Once you find a credible BMI table, locate where your height and weight measurements intersect. The number listed at the intersection is your BMI, or your body mass index.  Get an online BMI table here. Our BMI tends to naturally rise slightly as we age. Children and Teen BMI readings: you must calculate the child's BMI using an age- and gender-appropriate table. Otherwise, the results will be inaccurate. You can also use an online calculator to calculate BMI. Click for adult and teen - child calculators. Your BMI is a ratio of your body height and weight, your “mass.” Your body is made of fat, bones, blood, muscle, and many other tissues that contribute to your weight, and your BMI. Your BMI rating does not directly correlate to your percentage of body fat, but is a way to monitor your size. Below are listed ranges for medical weight classes for adults. A BMI value of  <18.5 is underweight. 18.5 – 24.9 is in the "normal" range. 25 – 29.9 is overweight. >30 is considered obese.  A number of extremely muscular, not fat, individuals fall in the overweight category because their muscle weighs so much. Talk to your doctor about what your BMI means for you. If you are not exercising and growing muscle mass but are gaining weight, it is likely that weight is fat. If you are exercising and eating healthily, while gaining weight, it is possible that weight is muscle and only partially fat. If you are losing weight, you are probably losing both muscle and fat.

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Измерьте свой рост. Измерьте свой вес. Сравните свои показатели с таблицей ИМТ. Разберитесь в значениях ИМТ.


Don't work out any one muscle group more than twice a week. Your muscles need time to rest and repair in between workout sessions - that's when they build and get stronger. You can work your pecs and abs on the same days, or alternate days. Either way will be just as effective. Set a schedule for yourself so you never skip a workout. Committing to your workout regimen will increase your chances of success. This means doing one type of exercise right after another without a break in between. Supersets make your muscles work harder, and can be an effective way to build muscle fast. For example, immediately follow your bench press with a few sets of pushups. This is called bracing your core. When lifting heavy weights you should always tighten your abdomen to avoid back injury. This has two additional positive effects on your workout. First, you end up strengthening your abs as you work out your pecs. Second, tensing your core will give you a lot more power during your pecs exercises. This will help you see results much faster than if you don't pay attention to your abs during your pecs workouts. You'll end up plateauing if you don't. Once you find you're able to easily bench a certain weight for more than 10 reps, it's time to add more weight. Same goes for all the other weighted exercises - when you can lift more than the recommended amount of reps without feeling the burn, add weight to keep the pressure on your muscles to continue building. Don't be tempted to add more weight than you can handle. You could injure yourself - completely negating all your hard efforts - if you try to lift too much. If a certain amount of weight is too heavy to lift more than 5 times before giving out, you're lifting too much.

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Работайте над грудными мышцами и мышцами пресса два раза в неделю. Делайте суперсеты двух или более упражнений. Напрягайте ваш пресс, когда вы работаете над грудными мышцами. Добавляйте вес, когда становитесь сильнее.


Don't worry about being rejected. It can feel awful to be rejected, but in a few years you probably won't remember it at all. Remember: it's his loss. You don't want to be with someone that doesn't like you as much as you like them anyway. You deserve better than that! If he does return your feelings, make sure to actually ask him out if he doesn't ask you out! You shouldn't feel bad about making your intentions clear or taking initiative like this: sometimes it's necessary to get what you want out of life! With feelings confessed, asking him out is as simple as coming up with an idea for a date and taking things from there. Just ask! . If you strike out with him or if he's a real jerk about rejecting you, you might want to take a look at the kinds of guys you find yourself interested in. Stop pursuing guys who don't respect you or like you for who you really are. You might find you have better luck if you focus on what's important: nice guys who have their priorities in the right place.

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Не переживайте, что он откажет вам. Пригласите его на свидание. Ищите хороших парней.


Don't worry about saying the best thing. Just say, “Hi,” or if a guy is wearing a nice shirt, compliment him by saying, “I like your shirt.” Ask how his weekend went by saying, “Did you do anything fun this weekend?” Whatever you say, say it with a smile and try to stay calm.  You can talk about a class you share. Try saying something like, "How'd you do on the test in math?" If you notice they have a phone case or t-shirt or talk about your favorite band, say, "I really like them too. Did you know they're coming to town next week?" Reach out first through social media like Facebook or Twitter. Chatting online can be much easier than in real life, because you can think of what you want to say before you say it without awkward silences. This lets you get to know him better, so it’s easier to talk in person later on.  If you're messaging a guy for the first time online, say hi and remind them how they know you. Say something like, "Hi, we have math class together. Have you studied for the test yet?" You can also bring up a common interest by saying something like, "Did I see you at the new comic book movie this weekend?" If you're having a get together or party, inviting the guy online is a great first move. Say something like, "Hey, I'm having people over this weekend for a back to school party, and it would be great if you could come." This is a great way to be more outgoing with guys without having to say a lot. When you ask questions, people feel you’re interested in them and they may be more willing to talk. You can say something as simple as, “How did you like the book we read in English?” This will start a conversation, and you can listen quietly, which may help to calm your nerves.  Don’t ask random questions. Going up to someone and saying, “What’s your favorite color?” is not likely to get much of a response. Instead, ask questions about a class or shared interest, so it makes sense for you to ask and for him to answer. Listen when they respond. It’s easier to come up with additional questions or...

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Не усложняйте. Сделайте первый шаг в интернете. Задавайте вопросы. Общайтесь с парнями в компании друзей. Запишитесь на курсы, которые подходят для представителей обоих полов.


Don't worry about the booklet; look for the box. It might have been placed over the opening to act as a seal. It should be clearly labeled and is usually listed together with the barcode and serial number.

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Найдите упаковку от вашего мобильного устройства. Найдите штрих-код этикетки, наклеенной на коробке. Ищите код IMEI/MEID.


Don't worry about turning the ice into slush just yet. You just want to break the ice up. This recipe will give you more of a slushy-like consistency; it will not be smooth like a smoothie. Fill a pitcher with 2 cups (475 milliliters) of water, and add the powdered lemonade into it. How much powdered lemonade you add will depend on what brand you are using; in general, it will be about 1 tablespoon per 1 cup (240 milliliters) of water. Stir it briskly with a whisk until combined. The ice should be mostly broken up. It won't be completely smooth, and there may be some larger chips left, like in a slushy. If the lemonade is too sweet, add some more water. If the lemonade is too sour, add some sugar. This is enough to make two large servings, or four smaller ones. You can also garnish it with a mint leaf and/or a lemon slice for a touch of color.

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Измельчите лед в блендере. Приготовьте 2 стакана (480 мл) лимонада. Вылейте лимонад в блендер и взбивайте, пока все не перемешается или пока не добьетесь нужной консистенции. Попробуйте замороженный лимонад и внесите необходимые изменения. Разлейте замороженный лимонад в несколько высоких стаканов. Наслаждайтесь.


Don't worry about work while you're at school, and vice versa. Focus on one thing at a time. Don’t bring your books or notes to work and don’t bring work stuff to school. The time you are at each place is dedicated to that endeavor. If you work hard at work, you shouldn’t feel guilty for focusing on school when you are at school. Give yourself time to collect yourself when you need it the most, so you can return to work/school with a clear head. Go for a walk. Read a newspaper. Make some tea. Try to take breaks every couple of hours, but limit them to 5 to 10 minutes. You don't want to turn them into time wasters. Avoid indulging in guilty pleasures too often during your breaks. Everybody has them, whether it's MTV, getting lost in idle chit-chat with your neighbor, or scanning Facebook for hours on end. If there's an activity that you tend to get caught up with, but that negatively affects your work-school-life balance, avoid it like the plague. And certainly don't turn to them during your brief breaks. . Stretch. Swim. Run. Lift. Maintaining a healthy lifestyle helps relieve stress and you'll find that the more you get out and exercise, the easier work and school will seem. Exercising is commonly known to reduce stress. Scientists have shown that regular participation in aerobic exercise leads to decreased stress, elevated and stabilized moods, improved sleeping habits, and increased self-esteem. Make time in your schedule to sleep. Studies have shown that sleep increases your memory capabilities, improves your overall mood, and helps you stay attentive. All three of these will positively affect your stress levels. Staying up all night studying may be necessary on occasion, but don’t make it a regular thing. If you become sleep-deprived, take a short nap (15 to 30 minutes) just to give your brain a little boost. . Eat high-fiber, carbohydrate rich foods. Scientists believe that carbohydrates cause the brain to produce elevated levels of serotonin, a hormone with relaxes us. Eat lots of fiber to regulate...

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Разделяйте работу и учебу. Делайте перерывы.  Ведите активный образ жизни Хорошо спите по ночам.  Правильно питайтесь


Don't worry if you can't find people to play Uno with you in person! You can easily do an internet search in order to play Uno online. If you prefer, purchase Uno to play on your PC or gaming system, such as a PS4 or Xbox One. You can even personalize the rules to create completely unique Uno games. To do a quick moving game of Uno, have every player put down 2 matches instead of 1 if they have them. This means everyone will go through cards quicker.   For example, if there's a yellow 3 on the table, a player could put down a yellow 7 and a red 3. If you don't want the game to end faster, you can have the players draw 2 cards instead of 1 each time they don't have a card to play. If you're playing with a newer deck of Uno cards, you'll probably see 3 customizable Wild cards included. To play with these blank Wild cards, write down your own rules that everyone agrees to. Then you can play them as you would other Wild cards. For example, a customizable rule could be:  Everyone must draw 2 cards. The next player must sing a song or draw a card. Swap 1 card with the player next to you. This is another newer card that Uno now includes in the deck. Play the Wild Swap Hands card like a Wild card, but decide which player you'd like to swap hands with. For example, if you have this card, wait until the game is almost over and swap hands with the player that has the fewest cards.

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Попробуйте сыграть в Уно онлайн или через игровую платформу. Ускорьте игру, выкладывая по две подходящие карты. Попробуйте что-нибудь новенькое для карты «смена цвета». Поменяйтесь картами с игроком, если вам выпала карта «поменяться картами».


Don't worry too much if your caterpillar suddenly stops eating, becomes sluggish or starts to change color - it is probably just preparing to molt or pupate, so this is completely normal behavior.  The caterpillar may also become more active then usual, moving around its container continuously. If this is the case, it is probably just looking for a good place to pupate. Unfortunately, these behaviors may also be signs that the caterpillar is sick, so you should refrain from handling it at this time. Just wait to see if it successfully pupates. If you are keeping multiple caterpillars and one of them dies, remove the dead caterpillar from the container immediately. This will prevent any disease from spreading. Once the caterpillar is ready it will pupate, thus beginning the process of turning into a moth or butterfly. Moth caterpillars will bury into the earth to make a cocoon, while butterfly caterpillars with enclose themselves in a chrysalis, hanging above ground.  While the underground cocoons do not need any attention, you may need to move or re-hang the chrysalis if it is in an unsuitable location or of it falls from its original hanging spot. If you believe the chrysalis is in too tight a spot for the emerging butterfly to spread its wings, it may be best to move it. Handle the chrysalis very gently and hang it from a stick or attach it to the side of the container. You can do this by threading a piece of string through the pointy end of the chrysalis, or by sticking a small pin through it and hanging it from a suitable location. Once the pupa has formed, you should clean out the caterpillar container, removing any old food or waste. Even though the pupa is still alive, it does not require any food or water.  Leave any sticks in the container when cleaning out. These will be necessary once the butterfly or moth emerges, as it will use the stick as a perch while it spreads its wings. If the butterfly or moth has nothing to perch on, its wings will not form properly and it will die.  Also try to keep the...

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Не переживайте, если ваша гусеница перестанет есть или станет медлительной. Убедитесь, что куколка висит над землей. Почистите контейнер и поддерживайте в нем влажность. Подождите, когда куколка потемнеет или посветлеет. Выпустите бабочку.


Don't worry, this isn't going to get you stuck in the dreaded “friend zone.” Rather, it's an important first step especially if you just met him; it shows initiative and indicates that you're interested in the guy while establishing a portal for further communication. The more you two happen to bump into each other, the more face-time you'll have, and the more chances for you to win him over.  Frequent the places he likes to hang around at school, work, restaurants, or around town. Obviously, you don't want to be stalker-ish and be waiting for him around every corner, but strategically plan to cross paths once a day during the next 7 days. Get involved in the clubs and activities that your love-target is interested in. You'll show that you share common interests, but you'll also end up seeing a lot more of each other if you're involved in the same activities. Don't wait for him to do it! You can take the lead as a modern, empowered girl and ask him yourself.  Clearly verbalize your feelings by telling him you're interested in him as a boyfriend and that you'd like to go on a date that weekend. If he says yes, success! You've got yourself a date and (likely) a boyfriend. If he declines, don't sweat it. If he isn't into you it wouldn't be fun trying to date him anyway. Move on to someone else ---- there are plenty of other boys out there, and at least one who will dig you for you.

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Отправьте запрос на добавление в друзья в VK или Facebook парням, с которыми вы познакомитесь. Находите возможности пересекаться с ним. Пригласите его на свидание.


Donate every piece of clothing that does not make you feel attractive and stylish. Buy fashion magazines, watch what people are wearing and make it a plan to be "on the cutting edge". Don't go over the top - watch it.  But dress appropriately for your figure and add lots of color - scarves, shoes, accessories, ties, etc. Have fun and stay stylish. Get a massage, shop for organic fruit and vegetables. Check out vitamins. Buy personal grooming products that are also organic and not full of chemicals. Your health is paramount from this point onward. Don't be intimidated by your doctor. If something is bothering you, don't give up. There are lots of doctors out there. Find a good one.

TL;DR in Russian:

Систематически пройдитесь по своему гардеробу. Проведите время, ухаживая за собой. Найдите врача, который вам нравится, и развивайте хорошие отношения.


Donate gifts and trinkets to a local thrift shop, and toss any paper mementos, like notes or photos. Don’t forget to go through your phone or computer to delete photos, messages, and other content that makes you think of her.  If you’re struggling to let go of these items, ask a friend or relative to help you. If you don’t think you’re ready, put the items in a box and place it somewhere out of sight. Then, let it go when you feel up to it. If it’s possible, stay away from places you know she’s likely to be. Switch up your routine so that you’re less likely to see her. Use this as a opportunity to try a new coffee shop or restaurant, as well as a new path to work or class. Sometimes you can’t avoid seeing a person, and that’s okay. Just do your best to minimize encounters with her. If you must be in the same room as her, start a conversation with someone else to keep you occupied. As another option, you might do something on your phone, read, or write down your thoughts to help you avoid interacting with her. For example, you might share a class with the girl you can’t stop thinking about. Before and after class, try to talk to another classmate, or use your phone if it’s permitted. During class, focus on the lecture and challenge yourself to take a lot of notes. Participating in class will also help you keep your mind on the topic and not the girl you like. While social media is great for staying connected, it can make it really hard to let go of someone. It’s normal to want to check up on her, but this will just make it take longer to get over her. Instead, cut all ties on social media. This will help you get her out of your thoughts. If you have mutual friends that post photos of her often, you might want to unfollow them, as well. You can always re-follow them later when you’ve moved on. Don’t ask them to share stories or updates about her. Instead, let them know that you’re trying to let go of your feelings and aren’t interested in what’s going on with her. This will help you get your thoughts off of...

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Избавьтесь от вещей, которые напоминают вам о ней. Старайтесь не встречаться с ней, пока не сможете двигаться дальше. Если вы не можете избежать встречи с девушкой, поговорите с кем-нибудь еще, чтобы отвлечься. Отпишитесь от нее в социальных сетях и не проверяйте ее странички. Попросите общих друзей не рассказывать вам о том, что происходит в ее жизни.


Donkeys are commonly too small to be ridden. It’s very important not to ride a donkey that’s too small to carry your weight, since that could injure the donkey. A good rule of thumb to follow is that a donkey can safely carry 20 percent of its body weight.  Miniature donkeys are not suitable to be ridden, unless you want to have your toddler ride one under supervision. Mid-sized donkeys are fine for children, but as the children grow up they will need to find a larger donkey. Mammoth donkeys are large enough to carry adults. Like horses, donkeys’ temperaments differ according to their sex. Finding a donkey with a good riding temperament will have a big impact on the riding experience. Here are the three types of donkeys and their temperaments:  Geldings are male donkeys that have been castrated. They tend to have a mild temperament well-suited to being ridden. Jennys are female donkeys. They usually have a gentle, domesticated temperament as well. Jacks are uncastrated males. They are typically too wild to ride. Many donkeys make great pets, but not all are cut out for being ridden. Find out whether the donkey was trained to carry a saddle and follow riding commands. Get a donkey that has been trained to be ridden, not just walked on a lead. Donkeys have a reputation for being stubborn, but really they just need time to assess each situation and decide how to respond. They’re deep thinkers. This can be frustrating when you’re on a donkey’s back and would like it to move forward. If you're planning to purchase a donkey spend time walking and riding the donkey to make sure it's a good fit.  Patience is a virtue when it comes to riding donkeys. Try to gain an understanding of the donkey's personality so you can work as a team and have a much more pleasant ride together. If you’re not the patient type, you’ll need a donkey that’s exceptionally responsive. You may instead want to consider choosing a small horse or pony.

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Найдите животное подходящего размера. Принимайте во внимание пол и темперамент. Убедитесь, что осла обучали. Найдите подходящий вариант для вашей личности и потребностей.


Donkeys’ bodies are structured differently from horses’ bodies. Get a saddle and other equipment made for donkeys or burros, rather than one for horses. Donkeys can carry a lot of weight, but their backs are wider than horses' backs, so the saddle construction is different. A saddle that doesn't fit correctly can lead to health problems for the donkey.  Bits and other tack should also be fitted to your donkey's needs. Blinders are commonly used to keep donkeys focused on the path ahead, but some donkey trainers recommend against using them. If you want to use heavy saddle bags, have the donkey practice with them at home before setting off on a long trail ride. If you've never had riding lessons, it's a good idea to take some so you can learn the proper way to command a donkey for a smoother ride. The most important thing to remember is that you shouldn't try to make a donkey to do something it doesn't want to do. You must gently coax the donkey to keep moving instead of using force.  Verbal commands and nonverbal commands like hand signals and touching the donkey are ways to let it know what you want it to do.  Whipping and harsh kicking are ineffective, and will serve only to erode the trust you have with your donkey. Treat your donkey gently and patiently as you ride. . Make sure your donkey is healthy so he doesn’t get injured when you go for a ride. Donkeys need dry, warm shelter, proper feed and plenty of water, and attention to their hooves and teeth. Make sure you attend to the donkey's health before taking it out for a long ride.  Donkeys' hooves must be kept dry, or they will begin to rot. Donkeys need to overnight in a dry shelter. If you're doing an overnight trail ride, make sure there's a dry shelter where the donkey can stay overnight. When it comes to food, donkeys need plenty of grass, and not much else. They are prone to getting overweight easily, so make sure the donkey is getting plenty of exercise.

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Используйте снаряжение для ослов. Научитесь отдавать ослу команды. Заботьтесь о своем осле.


Don’t always be the first to text or seek them out. The person likely doesn't want to have more than one main significant other. They already have one, and your role is to be something different. You should be a person they come to for a good time. Give your partner breathing room when you are not together. Go out with your friends. Have a good time. Don't worry about checking in with them every five minutes, or they will start to think you want something more. When he texts you, keep the conversation interesting. A side chick's main responsibility is to keep things fun and exciting. Giving him short answers and acting uninterested will make him wish he were doing something else, or even just hanging out with his main partner. Tell them funny stories. Ask how they are feeling. Surprise them with plan for something to do. Try to maintain a positive attitude. An escape from reality is likely a large part of why your partner is with you. Consider your time together as the only time that your partner is your business. You shouldn’t ask questions like "Where were you?" or "Why didn’t you call me?" and "Why are you always so busy?” if you expect to keep the relationship going. These are not your concerns. You got yourself into this situation, and there's no point in acting jealous or surprised when you already knew the score getting into it. Jealousy will only make the situation more difficult for both parties involved. If the person cares enough, they might celebrate these events with you the day before or after, but for the most part, don’t expect anything like a gift or acknowledgment. These days are usually saved and reserved for the main partner. It may be safe to text him to wish them a happy New Year/Christmas/birthday, but a phone call should not be made. Do not try to contact them on Valentine’s Day.

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Предоставьте партнеру пространство. Сохраняйте интерес. Не задавайте вопросы. Не ожидайте, что партнер будет отмечать праздники вместе вами.


Don’t ask someone for help when they are obviously busy or distracted. For example, don’t ask your professor for help with homework right as they are trying to start class. Similarly, don’t ask your boss for advice as they are rushing out the door. If you’re not sure whether or not it is a good time, just ask. You can say, “I’ve love to ask for your help with something. Is there a time that’s good for you to talk?” In most cases, if you don’t ask for help you won’t receive it. Sometimes people might be hesitant to step up and offer help. If you need something, speak up and ask.  Maybe you’re traveling alone in a new city. If you’re lost, ask for directions. Stop into a nearby store, or ask the bus driver which stop you need. You may feel vulnerable speaking up for help, but a certain degree of vulnerability can help you find the help you need. Don't feel weak, insecure, or embarrassed by asking for help. People aren’t mind readers. Instead of just saying, “I need help,” clearly state precisely what it is that you need. For example, instead of saying to your teacher, “I’m confused. Can you help me?”, say, “I don’t understand how to solve the equation for X. Can you please show me a sample problem?” Instead of saying to your partner, “I need you to help more around the house,” you may say, “Could you please take the trash out and also do a load of laundry, please?” Sometimes it’s tempting to whine a little bit. This could be a defense mechanism if you feel uncomfortable asking for help. It will help if you ask in a positive way instead. Don’t tell your co-worker, “I’m so swamped! Could you cover for me at the meeting this afternoon?” That might imply that you’re busy, but you don’t think your co-worker is. Instead, say, “I know we’re both busy, but you seem to be handling the stress better than me. Do you have time to take my place at the meeting this afternoon so that I can get caught up?” No one wants to hear you put yourself down. Try not to talk negatively about yourself when asking for help. Instead, act...

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Выберите подходящий момент. Выскажите просьбу. Говорите конкретно. Используйте позитивные формулировки. Не уничижайте себя. Будьте настойчивы. Помогайте другим, чтобы упрочить свою репутацию.


Don’t base your thesis on generalizations that are made previous research papers. Try not to assume that a past approach is the only approach. Step away from your research for a few days, so that you see it with fresh eyes. Take a break every week, just as you would with a job. Try to explain what you’ve found. Ask the person to ask questions that arise as they hear about the topic to see the topic with fresh eyes. If you have been approaching a subject from an anthropological perspective, try papers in sociology, biology or another field. Expand your sources through your library’s reference section. Start filling in your outline. As you write, you will decide which sub-sections require more research.

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Исследуйте, а не “копируйте. Поговорите о своем исследовании с человеком, который вообще не знаком с данной темой. Старайтесь найти источники в разных отраслях. Приступайте к записям.


Don’t be afraid to gush a little, especially if you’re normally pretty un-romantic. Everyone likes reading about how much they’re loved in words written by the person who loves them.You can also make it into a card by folding it and adding some personalized doodles. Well, nowadays it’ll be more of a playlist, but the idea is the same: organize a list of songs that reminds you of them, takes them back to a special memory like a vacation, or is just plain romantic. You can put it on a CD for them to play in their car, or share the playlist on their Spotify account to listen to at any time. Head to the thrift shop or dollar store for a cheap photo frame. Print out several pictures of you as a couple that your partner can change out anytime they want! You can also make a scrapbook using old notebooks and duct tape instead of buying a frame.

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Напишите душевное любовное письмо. Запишите диск с песнями. Сделайте фоторамку с изображениями, которые можно менять.


Don’t be afraid to show off your sense of humor, even if you think it’s a little quirky or offbeat for his taste. Girls are sometimes afraid to show boys their sense of humor because they think it’s not “cute”; the truth is, many guys love nothing more than a girl who can make them laugh. You can playfully tease him, even go out on a limb and tell him a corny joke, or just make funny observations about your teachers, TV shows, or your mutual friends. He’ll be even more interested in you once he sees you can crack him up. Really, talking to a boy you like isn’t different from talking to one of your girlfriends. Don’t try to censor yourself in the humor department and just be your same old funny self. Another way to get a guy’s attention is to give him a little compliment. This can mean telling him you like his shirt, or compliment a hat with his favorite sports team’s logo on it while saying you’re a fan of the team, or going to his basketball game with a few of your friends and telling him he did a great job afterwards. You don’t have to mention anything that may be too forward, like telling him he has nice eyes, or that may make him blush a little too much. But mentioning something he’s good at or something he’s wearing may make him notice you. Don’t go overboard. Just say something like, “Nice job in the game today” or “I like your new shoes” to get his attention. Another way to keep the boy interested is to show that you don’t take yourself super seriously at all and that you’re able to take a joke. You can lightly make fun of yourself without sounding insecure, or just talk about how much fun you’re having on your soccer team without worrying about how good you are. There’s no need to be super stressed about school, your friendships, or your outside activities, and you should show that you can roll with the punches. Guys like it when girls are motivated but also when they don’t worry too much, because it’s more fun to loosen up and have a good time.  Try to avoid talking worrying about how you come off...

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Заставьте его смеяться. Сделайте ему маленький комплимент. Не относитесь к себе слишком серьезно. Расспросите его о нем. Не используйте друзей, чтобы передавать ему сообщения. Дайте ему понять, что именно вам в нем нравится. Найдите что у вас общего.


Don’t be afraid to try something different during your family time.  In addition to encouraging suggestions from your kids and partner, you should be flexible and willing to do something totally different if your family wants to switch things up a bit.  The more fun everyone has, the more likely they will be to make family time a centerpiece in their own lives. You probably already have an idea of what your family enjoys.  But hobbies and tastes change over time, and your kids or partner might have a new hobby that you could all enjoy as a family.  Maybe there are even some things your kids or partner would like to do but haven’t had the opportunity to try yet. You could ask your family, “What would you like to do during our scheduled family time?” Your family is interested in what you have to say.  You should feel that you can offer suggestions for family time activities, too.  But don’t foist your choices on others.   Ensure that you and your family have a pleasant conversation about possible options, and arrive at a consensus afterwards.  You might suggest:  Going to the park (For instance, you could ask your family, “How about going to the park?”) Taking a walk (For instance, you could ask your family, “Would you like to take a walk?”) Playing a game (For instance, you could ask your family, “Does anyone want to play a game?”) Canoeing (For instance, you could ask your family, “How about taking the canoe up the river?”) Hiking (For instance, you could ask your family, “How about hiking in the woods?”) Visiting a local museum (For instance, you could say, “There’s a new exhibit at the museum.  Let’s see it together.”) Don’t get stuck inside.  Spending family time inside watching movies and playing games has its place.  But, weather permitting, you should head outside and enjoy a walk, bike ride, or other outdoor activity with your family.  For instance, you and your family might enjoy:  Swimming at the lake Mountain climbing Parasailing Hang-gliding Spelunking Stay in bed for a bit longer instead of waking...

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Принимайте спонтанные решения. Выясните, чем нравится заниматься вашей семье. Предложите семье что-нибудь. Попробуйте проводить на улице больше времени. Радуйтесь неспешным утрам, проведенным вместе.


Don’t be afraid to use several towels while drying your vehicle—fully wipe down all surfaces that you’ve washed, in order to prevent rust from building up. Make sure not to leave any water standing on your vehicle once it’s dried, as this can tarnish the paint or cause rust. Microfiber towels work the best for drying all car surfaces. When you’re finished using them, toss them in the washing machine. When laundering, don’t use fabric softener on microfiber towels. It can become trapped in the pores, then leach out, leaving a residue on the car surface. Wax (or similar polish) should be applied to a clean, dry car. You may need to wax the vehicle more than once: the failure of water to stand up in beads (or the presence of small pools of water on the car’s surface) after washing is a sign to re-wax. Abrasive polishes are rarely, if ever, needed with modern car paints and risk unexpected damage scouring through a clear coat. Wax (or one of the newer polymer products) protects the paint from the sun so it doesn’t fade or deteriorate. It also protects the finish from the flying grit kicked up by the vehicles in front of yours on the highway. Polymer products last longer than wax. The ones purchased at auto supply stores are just as durable as the ones the car dealers sell you for hundreds of dollars. Remove rust from the car and touch up the paint if there is significant damage, or easily stabilize and seal small scrapes and rust spots with rust converter. Wash off any grit or corrosive pre-treatment chemicals, allow rust converter time to dry and cure, and do not wax a fresh paint finish.  Adhesive accessories such as door and bumper guards and reflective patches stick best to a clean, dry, not-too-waxy car. Stick things such as touch-up paint or stick-on accessories to car before waxing it. A polymer wax-like product such as “Nu Finish” can be much easier to buff off than real wax, even if it is allowed to dry longer than necessary first. Apply RainX or similar water-repellent treatment to clean, dry glass to...

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Соберите воду с поверхности машины чистыми полотенцами. Нанесите воск на сухую машину. Обработайте участки с ржавчиной или со сколами краски. Нанесите на стекла водоотталкивающее средство.


Don’t be distracted by outside factors. Approach her when you are going to be able to talk to her in relative privacy and when neither of you will feel rushed. Look for a quiet place or ask to schedule a meeting to ensure that both of you are mentally and emotionally present. Expressing your love should be a joyous occasion so make sure you’ve created a situation where she is able to fully process her thoughts and emotions. You don’t want to tell her you love her when you are being distracted by friends or she has to work overtime to meet the deadline of an important client. Chat with her whenever you have the opportunity and initiate with a smile. Focus on your posture and maintain eye contact. Be friendly and joke when you can, but don't be rude. Don't overwhelm her, as a smile and a wave can go along way.  Engage her in a conversation by starting with a simple "How's are you?" You will come off as creepy or awkward if you stand at her location without saying anything. If you can't think of something to say because you're nervous, just say hello and keep walking or talk to someone else. Her friends are her support system and will protect her so leave a good impression and take a genuine interest in who they are.  Endearing yourself to her friends will let them and her know that you are fully invested in her wellbeing. Studies have shown that men are prone to saying “I love you” first because they do not want to lose a relationship whereas women want to ensure that the relationship is worth their investment so they are inclined to wait. So before you say “I love you”, prove that you are worth it and leave no doubt in her mind why she loves you back. There are many resources that give examples of romantic gestures, however, love is a personal thing. Only you know how to express your love and what will make her happy. Whether it’s buying her flowers after she’s had a long day, singing her favorite song to surprise her, or just holding hands everyday as you walk her home from school, showing her that you love...

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Выберите подходящее время и место. Обращайте внимание на язык своего тела и на то, как вы ведете себя в ее присутствии. Узнайте больше о ней и ее друзьях. Помните, что мужчины, как правило, первыми говорят о своих чувствах. Делайте все возможное, чтобы ваши действия говорили громче слов. Общайтесь уважительно и открыто. Помните, что слово «любовь» у каждого человека вызывает свои эмоции. Будьте готовы к любым препятствиям.


Don’t be in a rush to get up after a fainting spell. Your body and mind need time to recover. You should stay in your current position on the ground for at least 10-15 minutes. If you get up too soon you risk triggering another episode. Simple fainting episodes are usually resolved by rapidly elevating the person’s feet and legs. While you are on the ground see if it possible to elevate your feet at all. Making it so that they are higher than your head is best, but an elevation will help. If you are lying down, see if you (or your helper) can stuff a jacket under your feet. This will improve the blood flow to your head and speed up the healing process. While you are waiting to stand again, inhale a series of deep, calming breaths. Fill your lungs to full capacity by breathing through your nose and then slowly release the air via your mouth. If you are still in a stuffy or hot area, you will want to carefully monitor your breathing until you can safely walk to a better space. One possible cause of fainting is dehydration. So, to prevent another episode, you will want to drinks lots of water immediately after standing and for the remainder of the day. Be very wary of drinking alcohol after a fainting spell as it will dehydrate you only further, thus adding to the initial problem. Eating more frequently and avoiding skipping meals may help to prevent you from fainting. Try eating five to six small meals per day instead of two or three large meals. Alcohol can increase your risk of fainting, so it is best to avoid it if you are prone to fainting. If you do drink, make sure that you only drink in moderation, which is no more than one drink per day for women of all ages and men over 65, and no more than two drinks per day for men under 65. Some medications may cause dizziness and fainting.  Consult your medical provider about which medications may cause these symptoms.  Some blood pressure medications may even be taken at bedtime to prevent fainting. Recognize that your body needs time to recover and give yourself...

TL;DR in Russian:

Некоторое время оставайтесь на земле. При возможности подложите что-то под ноги. Дышите глубже. Пейте достаточно жидкости. Употребляйте еду небольшими порциями на протяжении всего дня. Избегайте спиртных напитков. Обратите внимание на принимаемые вами медикаменты. Будьте осторожны на протяжении дня. При необходимости позвоните в скорую помощь.


Don’t be tempted to read the letter before it is time. Seal it in an envelope or tape it closed. This will also help preserve the letter, especially if you don’t plan to read it for 10-20 years. If your letter is digital, archive it or move it to a folder that you can find when it is time to read the letter. If you’ve chosen to write or print a hardcopy of your letter, you need to keep it somewhere that is both readily accessible and safe from the elements. If the letter itself isn’t easy to spot in your everyday life, you’ll need to write yourself a note that will be; otherwise, you may forget about the letter when it’s finally time to read it. You can store the letter in a memory box or even put it in a time capsule. If you keep a journal, consider writing the letter directly in your journal and marking the page, or writing the letter separately and tucking it in between the pages of your journal. Search out and use a program, website, or application that will let you send emails/texts to your future self. Note, though, that this option works better for short-term letters than long-term ones since you can’t be certain that the website or application you use will still be around 20 years into the future. You might consider using a digital calendar (like Google Calendars), note-taking software (like Evernote), or a letter-writing website (like FutureMe).

TL;DR in Russian:

Запечатайте письмо. Сохраните письмо в надежном месте. Используйте современные технологии.


Don’t beat around the bush or try to have your audience guess what you’re trying to say. Just state what you want to tell them right away.  You might say, “Hey, Jane, I wanted to let you know that I am nonbinary. That means that I simply don’t identify as male or female.” Maybe you also want to say something like, "I'm trusting you with this information, but it'd be great if you don't talk about it with others. This is my story to share, okay?" You can choose to share more about your experience or feelings, or just leave it at that. What you share is completely up to you. Some people might not understand what nonbinary means. That’s okay. Just try to be patient with them. If they ask questions, it’s probably because they’re trying to understand what you’re telling them. Try to be patient and answer when you feel comfortable.  For example, people might ask you how you know, or what nonbinary means. You can tell them what it means to you. It's okay to keep your answer brief or to explain in detail, depending on how comfortable you feel at that moment. Keep in mind that you'll likely have other chances to talk to them about this, too. They may also ask what pronouns you'd prefer to be referred by. Be honest, and let them know how you would like them to refer to you. Before you start the conversation, gather some resources on what it means to be nonbinary. There are lots out there! That way, you don’t have to answer questions that you don’t want to. You can simply direct the other person towards these resources.  Point them towards specific websites that have been helpful to you. You could also give them pamphlets or handouts from an LGBTQ+ community center. Another idea is to give them a book about what it means to identify as non-binary. Some really helpful resources are The Trevor Project and PFLAG. If you're in school, you could also ask your guidance counselors for suggestions, if you feel comfortable talking to them about your identity. It’s great if you are immediately met with support and kind words....

TL;DR in Russian:

Четко и ясно озвучьте свое заявление. Приготовьтесь отвечать на вопросы. Предложите собеседнику ресурсы, которые он может при желании изучить. Дайте человеку время обдумать ваши слова. Попробуйте пригласить друга присутствовать при разговоре. Подумайте о том, чтобы ограничить время для разговора. Уйдите, если разговор не заладится.


Don’t call just to call, or just because you texted that you would call. You can come up with something to say from your previous conversations, and from information she has given you about herself.  Try checking on something she was involved with or trying to get done.  You could say, “So, how did your driver’s license photograph turn out?” Ask her if she likes or frequents the place where you two saw each other last. Check on how her day or week is going. If she mentioned her pet or pets, ask about how they are. If you got her number while she was at lunch, or while she was commuting to work or taking a coffee break mid-morning, try calling then.  Don’t call early in the morning.  Most people have a pretty tight morning schedule and can’t really take time for a phone conversation. Immediately after work might be a good time, but be aware that end of day routines are more variable than start of day.  She may be meeting friends, or going to a class, or just looking forward to getting home and in front of the television. Don’t call past 7:00 or 7:30 pm.  Just like morning routines, evening schedules can be very packed and very tight.  You don’t want to interrupt her, and possibly annoy her, with a phone call when she’s trying to wind down for the evening. Write it down and have it ready when you make your call.  You need to have a plan for what you will say if she picks up, or what message you want to leave if she doesn’t.  Have a script for the conversation if she answers, and one for leaving a message.  This will keep you from stammering or rambling, and knowing exactly what you are going to say will help you focus more on how you sound rather what you are saying. Pick a time in your day when you can be calm and focused, and when you have plenty of time in case she answers.  Also, make sure you aren't in a noisy space that makes it hard to hear what you are saying.  Do not call her while you are in distracting or stressful situations.  Driving, waiting for your train or bus, or being in the middle of...

TL;DR in Russian:

Найдите причину для звонка. Выберите подходящее время для звонка. Подумайте, что вы скажете девушке. Выделите время для телефонного звонка.


Don’t call your boyfriend or text him. Let him take the initiative to contact you for a change. When the urge to call him arises, call a friend instead. Make plans to see a movie or go out to eat with your friend.  Only contact your boyfriend when it is absolutely necessary! Avoid him on social media too. If it is too tempting to chat with him online, take a brief hiatus from social media or block him. When your boyfriend contacts you, ignore him! Let his calls go to voice mail. Let his unanswered text messages fill your inbox. Force your boyfriend to wait around for your response!  Resist the urge to constantly check your phone. Keep it in the next room, turn it off, or put it on silent. Give your phone to a friend or family member. Ignore his attempts to reach you on social media platforms too! Don't respond to his messages or reply to his comments. Block him for a short period of time if you must. When you talk with your boyfriend, keep the conversation brief. Reply to his inquiries with short responses, don’t elaborate. Don’t ask him questions about his day or his plans for the weekend. Come off as aloof and uninterested.  Reply with head nods and shrugs. Keep your responses brief. Use one word answers: “Yes,” “No,” “Okay,” and “Fine.”

TL;DR in Russian:

Прекратите инициировать общение с молодым человеком. Не реагируйте на его звонки или текстовые сообщения. Отвечайте кратко.


Don’t confront your boyfriend on his lunch break or right before you need to sleep at night. You will need adequate time to talk about what has happened. Try to find a time when he is not busy with other tasks, or make time on his calendar if necessary.  You could say, “Do you have a good time today or tomorrow for us to talk about something important?” He will likely make time right then and there. Trust your instincts and try not to back out once you've set your time. Remain centered, and calm yourself through deep breathing. Confronting your boyfriend about something as loaded as cheating may feel very stressful. You may be angry or depressed. Before talking with him, take a few deep breaths or talk on the phone with a friend to calm yourself. Being overly stressed may cause you to attack him, which will make him defensive. The goal of confronting him is to let him know you know and find out any relevant details that have not been revealed. If you are certain he is cheating, you could say, “I have evidence that you are cheating on me.” This is more difficult for him to deny than your asking, “Are you cheating on me?” If you are pretty sure he’s cheating, but not 100%, you could say, “I believe you are cheating on me.” This feels more declarative and firm than “I think.” Pause and let him respond. It is his job to explain himself. If he denies an affair, present evidence that proves he’s lying, if you have it. If you do not have firm evidence, you will need to make a difficult decision about whether you can trust him to be truthful about this or not. Gather all the information you feel you need to make a decision about the future of the relationship. Good questions might include: “How long has this been going on?” “Are you in love with her?” and “What does this mean for you and me?” He may have cheated because he wanted to break up but was too cowardly, or he may be desperately seeking forgiveness for this terrible decision. Either way, it’s important to understand whether your boyfriend has a desire to...

TL;DR in Russian:

Выберите подходящее время для разговора. Сохраняйте спокойствие. Скажите это. Расспросите подробности. Выясните его намерения. Определите, как вы относитесь к тому, что узнали.