If you are out and about, blot the stain carefully, but do not rub. If you have a laundry pen with you, you can dab the stain with that. If not, immediately remove the stained article of clothing upon coming home and use either a stain remover or a toothbrush and your standard detergent to pre-treat the stain. When pre-treating, always use a white cloth to dab away the stain, as a colored cloth may leave behind some dye. You can even go so far as to have a pile of more dingy whites, such as underclothes and socks, and a pile of crisp whites, such as dress shirts, or work attire. Whatever you decide, this is a step that cannot be skipped under any circumstances.  While it may be tempting to throw really light colors in with your whites, or even light grays, stick to white alone. Keeping your whites separate may mean washing whites in small loads. If this is the case, adjust your washer’s settings accordingly; using too much water could interfere with the laundry soap’s ability to clean properly. After each spot treatment, rinse and soak them for 30-60 minutes in hot water. This will help lift any lingering stains, and will give the treatment a chance to dissolve.  If you used a lot of soap, you may need to repeat this step twice, gently squeezing the garment in between soaks. If your laundry is sensitive to hot water, a warm or cold soak will achieve the same effect, though to a lesser degree. The type of fabric will determine the ideal wash cycle; some fabrics can withstand extremely hot water, while others will shrink or become disheveled. Sort your white laundry according to color, as well as fabric, to avoid discoloration and disrepair. Cotton is a tough fabric, while wool and linen are both prone to shrinking. While cotton can withstand high temperatures, wool and linen should be washed in cold or warm water. Synthetic fibers vary from manufacturer to manufacturer.

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Немедленно выводите пятна. Разделите белые и цветные вещи. После предварительной чистки моющим средством или спреем от пятен вымочите белую одежду в горячей воде. Рассортируйте вещи в соответствии с материалом.


If you are particularly artistic, you may decide to use your own design as a basis for your stencil rather than referring to a photograph. Before you outline your design on cardstock, it’s a good idea to flesh out your design and make sure that it would work as a stencil. Draw your design on scrap paper using a pencil so that you will be able to adjust it. Be aware that if you are just beginning, you may find it easier to use a photograph as the basis for your stencil rather than trying to make a compelling stencil from a freehand drawing. Use a pencil to lightly shade the areas of the design you will be cutting out and spraying. If you are using multiple colors, color your design accordingly using different colored markers When you are done, the shaded or colored areas will be the parts of the design that you will cut out and spray paint through. The other areas of your design won't be painted, and will be the color of the wall or canvas that you are working on. There are several important factors to consider when fleshing out your design, the most important being the concept of bridges. You may need to make bridges in certain areas of your design to ensure that it will look correct and hold up when you cut out the stencil.  The easiest way to understand bridges is to think of the letter O. If you are creating a stencil containing a shape like an O, you may try to cut a black loop out of the paper. However, if you cut out a loop that goes all the way around, the white middle section of the O will fall away as well as the loop you cut out, leaving you with a large black circle instead of the letter O. To stop the white middle section from falling away, you have to create bridges in your design, which are vertical sections that connect the space surrounding the O with the white middle part of the O. This will make the black part of the O that you will cut away look like a pair of parenthesis, rather than a black loop. Look at your design with a critical eye. If you see any sections that need bridges to keep...

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Сделайте набросок на обычном листе бумаги. Заштрихуйте на своем эскизе те места, которые вы собираетесь вырезать. При необходимости предусмотрите на своем эскизе мостики. Упростите слишком сложные части эскиза. Скопируйте окончательный эскиз на картон. Сделайте несколько трафаретов, если вы собираетесь получить цветной рисунок.


If you are patient and kind with your partner, they will feel loved and adored. If you are impatient and intolerant, your partner is likely to feel rejected by you. Your actions and reactions can have a direct effect on how your partner feels, so think about this when you’re feeling impatient or frustrated. Remember that you care about your partner deeply and don’t want to hurt them. For example, if your partner forgets to stop and buy milk, saying “That’s okay, we’ll just get it later,” shows that you understand it was a simple mistake. If you instead say something like “I can’t believe you did this again. You always forget everything,” you are implying that your partner is flawed and that their mistakes are unacceptable. Remember, a little mistake like this isn’t the end of the world. It’s normal to turn immediately to an impatient response; many people assume that mistakes or inconveniences are the result of other people’s incompetence and carelessness. This is a pretty bleak outlook to have on those around you, though, and may lead you to say hurtful things before you even realize it. A great way to break this habit is to use a buffer to force yourself to think before responding.  For example, you could make it a personal rule that when something frustrating happens, you take three deep breaths before you say anything at all. This will give you time to process the situation and respond appropriately. You’ll probably realize that what you thought was a huge mistake actually isn’t that big of a deal, and you can downgrade your response from angry to understanding. In a more serious situation, you could leave the room or go for a walk. This will allow you time to cool down and think about your reaction. Patience will come along with understanding, and one of the most important things to understand about your partner is that they’re not perfect. They can’t be! When you set unrealistic expectations for your partner or decide that things absolutely must go a certain way, you will inevitably be disappointed....

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Учитывайте чувства своего партнера. Обдумывайте свои ответы. Ожидания должны быть реалистичными. Воспринимайте партнера как цельную личность.


If you are planning on going out with some friends for a few drinks, try making a plan for the evening. Having a plan can help you stay safe and give you something to focus on if you become too inebriated. Both you and your friends should know what your plan for the night is to make sure everyone has a safe and fun time together.  Knowing where you are going and when can give you structure and something to focus on if you've had a few too many drinks. Planning a safe way home is important if you plan on having any amount of alcohol. The best way to maintain focus while drinking is to avoid drinking more than you can handle. Eating before drinking can be a good way to help you stick to a safe level of alcohol consumption. Try eating a full meal before having anything to drink to avoid being surprised by how strongly alcohol affects you.  Meals can slow down how quickly your body absorbs alcohol, allowing you to get a better sense of how drunk you feel. After a meal, you should feel full. Feeling full can help prevent you from drinking more than you would on an empty stomach. When drinking, it's a good idea to continue eating as well. Meeting friends for a few drinks can be a fun way to spend an evening together. Drinking with trusted friends can also help you maintain focus and stay safe, even if you drink more than you can safely handle. Your friends can help keep you in control and focused, even if you aren't able to do so yourself. Always drink with friends who are willing to watch out for your well-being.  One person should decide to stay sober. This person should be able to drive or take care of someone if they drink too much. Keep an eye on your friends when drinking together. Don't let your friends drink too much if you notice them becoming dangerously intoxicated. Never let a friend drive drunk. Plan on drinking water in between your alcoholic beverages. Drinking water will help you to stay hydrated, slow down your alcohol consumption, and cause you to feel full. Consider skipping every other round or...

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Спланируйте свой вечер заранее. Плотно поешьте, перед тем как приложитесь к выпивке. Пейте с друзьями. Пейте много воды.


If you are planning on opening the time capsule yourself, you may be able to store it in your own home or buried in your backyard. For an audience in the future aside from your family, a spot that is off of private property may be best. Be sure to store your outdoor capsule in a place that is safe from development and construction, like just outside a national park or landmark, particularly if you choose to bury it. While burial may not be the best choice, for several reasons, it is certainly the classic way to store your capsule. Buried capsules are very likely to be forgotten or lost, and being underground makes the contents much more susceptible to damage from moisture. Another positive side of underground storage is that it is less likely to be removed or opened early as it might be indoors. Outdoor storage has a better chance of staying in one place. Out of the elements, indoor time capsules are a secure alternative to storing them underground. While they may be more tempting to open and a little less captivating than buried time capsules, you should still consider an indoor approach for shorter term storage. One interesting alternative is to store your time capsule items in a stainless steel vacuum food jar hidden inside a camouflaged polyurethane hollow rock or log. These above-ground time capsules are called Geocapsules and can provide a further level of adventure to the time capsule experience.

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Выбирайте место с учетом воображаемой целевой аудитории. Выберите традиционный подход и захороните капсулу под землей. Храните капсулу в помещении для безопасности. Храните капсулу вне помещения над землей.


If you are planning to fit the box into a specific space—say, you are building a planter box for your garden, or you are stacking boxes of belongings into a moving van&messy;make sure to check your box measurements against that space.  Measuring a space is much like measuring a box. If your box needs to fit along three axes—length, width, and height—then measure those axes. If your box only needs to fit into a two-dimensional space on the ground, and height is not an issue, then only measure the length and the width. If you can physically bring the box to the space where it will rest: do so. This is the easiest way to ascertain whether the box will fit. If you cannot do so, visit the space with a tape-measure and the box dimensions that you wrote down. Imagine that the box is sitting in the space before you, and use the tape-measure to mark out the edges of the box. Simply multiply the length of a side by its width to find the area. In most cases, you will not need to know the area of the box sides – but it may come in handy to know how many boxes you can fit into, say, a five-foot-by-five-foot storage space. For example: If the bottom of the box is 10 inches wide and 15 inches long, you can multiply 10" x 15" to get 150 square inches. This is the area of the bottom of the box.

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Измерьте объем, в который вы собираетесь поместить коробку. Рассчитайте площадь каждой стороны.


If you are planning to stay together, forgiveness is a must. Holding on to resentment and bitterness will only poison your relationship in the future. Make a conscious decision to forgive your spouse and move forward.  It may be difficult to forgive your spouse all at once, especially if the betrayal happened recently. Instead, work towards a goal of forgiveness as you rebuild your relationship. Try saying something like "I forgive you," or "I am working on forgiveness" out loud to yourself, your spouse, and to other people. Even if you don't feel ready to forgive just yet, saying your intentions out loud may help you to move towards feeling ready to forgive. Counseling can be an invaluable tool in rebuilding your relationship with your spouse. A counselor will help you figure out why the infidelity happened. They can also help you find ways to work through your emotions and teach you to communicate better with each other. Counseling can also help you and your spouse decide whether continuing the relationship is the right choice for you. Many people who have affairs do so because their needs are not being met at home. If this contributed to your spouse cheating, it's important to address that issue and take steps to fix it, if possible.  Lack of emotional intimacy and sexual fulfillment are among the most common reasons people stray. Taking responsibility for relationship problems doesn't mean excusing your spouse's infidelity. Designate regular times to check in with your spouse. Don't just talk about their affair – discuss your current feelings, what each of you needs from the other, and your goals for the relationship as you move forward. Talk about things that are not related to your relationships as well, such as your passions, goals, and dreams. This can help to restore some of the excitement in your relationship.  Re-opening channels of communication with your spouse helps to restore your relationship after living with the secrecy and lies of infidelity. If you find that you spend too much time...

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Примите решение простить супруга. Обратитесь за семейной консультацией. Примите свою долю ответственности за проблемы в отношениях. Часто и открыто общайтесь. Восстановите физическую близость. Избегайте приставучего поведения. Находите возможности радоваться чему-то новому вместе.


If you are planning to use the vanilla bean in a batter for a cake or for a batch of cookies, you will need to open the vanilla bean pod and remove the seeds. You will then add the seeds to the batter to infuse it with a natural vanilla flavor.  To split the pod, lay the vanilla bean pod on top of a clean, dry cutting board. Turn the hooked end of the vanilla bean to the top of the board. Hold the top of the vanilla bean with your non-dominant hand and a sharp paring knife with your dominant hand. Split the pod with a long, vertical stroke through the middle of the bean. Cut only into the center of the pod, not through it completely. You want access to the tiny, dense seeds in the middle. Go slowly. If the knife slips in your hand against the bean, realign your knife with your previous cut and continue cutting the bean. Peel the two sides of the vanilla bean outward with the side of the blade. Don’t use the sharp end, since you don’t want to cut the vanilla bean further.  Use the side of the knife or a small spoon to dig out the seeds. Dig the seeds out of the pod by running the spoon or the knife down the inside of one side of the pod. You should open the vanilla bean right before you plan to use them in cooking or baking. Keep in mind one vanilla bean is equal to three teaspoons vanilla extract. If you only need half that amount, you would only cut halfway down the bean, exposing only half of the seeds. A table of conversions for vanilla bean can be found online. If you have a recipe for a cake, cookies, or a pie that require vanilla extract, you can use the vanilla seeds instead. Add the vanilla when you cream the butter in the recipe as this will ensure the seeds are well incorporated into the batter.  You can also ensure the seeds are evenly distributed in your batter by taking a small amount of the batter and using a spoon or your hands to smush the seeds into the batter. Then, fold the batter with the seeds into the rest of the batter.  A list of cakes, cookies, and pies that use vanilla bean can be...

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Вскройте стручок, если вы собрались использовать его семена. Выскребите семена из стручка. Добавьте семена ванили к используемому вами рецепту выпечки. Приготовьте ванильный сахар. Сделайте ванильный экстракт собственного приготовления.


If you are planting your begonias outside, dig a hole a few inches deep for seeds and bulbs, or large enough to cover the root ball of a potted plant. Begonias that are going to be placed in raised beds or pots should be given a container only slightly larger than their root ball, or intermixed in a larger container with other potted plants. Begonias don’t need much space, so feel free to plant them closely to other plants in your garden, or near the edge of your pot/bed. Remove the bulbs, seeds, or transplant and place it in the hole you’ve dug. Each begonia plant should be placed in its own hole, although these can be put close together. Cover the top of the root ball, bulb, or seeds with a few inches of soil/potting mixture. If you’re planting a small begonia plant, break apart the root ball a bit before placing it in the hole. Most plants need a bit of extra watering after first being planted, in order to avoid what is known as ‘transplant shock’. Give your begonias a heavy watering, so that the soil is moist but not drenched. The flowers will need to be watered every few days from there on, either manually or with a sprinkler system. Begonias don’t tolerate heavy waterings well, so keep the soil moist but not wet. In fact, if it rains heavily in your area, you may have to move your begonias onto a porch or indoors to prevent them from drowning. Be sure to water at the base of the plant, rather than directly on the leaves. Also, don’t mist your begonias. If you planted your begonias in a pot on your porch or indoors, you won’t have to deal with weeds much. However, if your plants are in an outdoor garden, check for weeds every few days and pull them out. Add a 20-20-20 liquid fertilizer about once a month, or mix in a bit of compost and peat moss for added nutrients. You can choose to mulch your garden if you would like, as this will trap moisture (meaning less frequent waterings) and prevent new weeds from sprouting. Over time, you’ll notice that the flowers on the begonia plant will begin to brown and...

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Подготовьте садовый участок/контейнер. Посадите бегонии. Полейте растение. Поддерживайте садовый участок. Обрывайте отцветшие цветки бегоний. Защитите растения от вредителей. Сорвите бегонии. Защитите растения от холода. Сохраните луковицы.


If you are planting your flowers from seed, you will usually only need to plant your seeds 1⁄4 inch (0.6 cm) deep, but it is important to check the specific planting recommendations for any flower you want to plant to find out how deep to plant them. A transplanted/potted flower will need a hole as deep as the root ball that it comes with. Flowers don’t need to be smothered with soil, so burying them deep isn’t necessary. Putting a bit of slow-release food for flowers (similar to fertilizer) will help new plants to grow quickly. Add a few tablespoons to the bottom of each hole, and gently incorporate it into the soil with your fingers.

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Выкопайте ямку. Подкармливайте цветы.


If you are pregnant and you know you have HPV, it's important to get regular screenings for cervical cancer throughout the pregnancy. This can help prevent the chances of complications arising down the line. Many pregnant women with genital warts caused by HPV find that the warts increase in size and and spread during the course of a pregnancy. Because of this, it is important to prevent the outbreak from worsening in order to prevent complications during pregnancy.  Talk to your OB/GYN about a safe way to treat wart outbreaks during pregnancy.  Some OB/GYNs may recommend holding off on treatment until after the delivery. Your OB/GYN's course of action will most likely be determined based on the scope of your outbreak and the likelihood that it may cause complications during delivery. In some cases, HPV-related genital warts may become large enough or spread out enough to block the birth canal. In these cases, a cesarean section (C-section) may be necessary to safely extract the baby. Talk to your doctor and OB/GYN about the risk of birth complications caused by genital warts, and if necessary, create a C-section plan with your doctor.

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Пройдите скрининговое обследование на наличие онкологии. Проведите симптоматическое лечение. Узнайте, насколько велик риск осложнений.


If you are premenopausal or perimenopausal, use a calendar to keep track of when your menstrual period will come and how long it will last. If you are menopausal, know when your last period was. A major symptom of cervical cancer is abnormal vaginal bleeding. It is good to know what is normal for you and other women like you.  You will usually have regular menstrual cycles if you are premenopausal.  Each woman is different, but a normal cycle will be 28 days, plus or minus 7 days.  You will have irregular menstrual periods if you are peri-menopausal. This phase normally starts between the ages of 40 and 50. This transition occurs when your ovaries gradually begin to produce less estrogen. It can last anywhere from several months to 10 years before menopause is fully reached.  You will no longer have menstrual periods if you are menopausal. Your hormone levels have reached a point where you no longer ovulate or release eggs. You can no longer become pregnant.  You will not have menstrual periods if you have had a hysterectomy. You no longer have a uterus and you will no longer shed the lining of your uterus. You should not be bleeding.  If you still have ovaries that work, you are not menopausal. When you have spotting, there is much less bleeding and the blood may have a different color than your normal menstrual flow.  It is normal for a premenopausal woman to have an irregular cycle, occasionally.  Spotting could be seen. Many factors like illness, stress or strenuous exercise can interfere with your cycle. Seek medical attention if your menstrual period remains irregular for several months.  Spotting could be a normal part of your peri-menopausal phase. Be vigilant and look for other symptoms of cervical cancer. During every menstrual period, your flow can change in amount, color, and consistency. Call your doctor if this pattern changes significantly. Just remember that no amount of vaginal bleeding is normal if you are menopausal or if you have had a hysterectomy.  Do not assume your cervix has been...

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Контролируйте свой менструальный цикл. Обратите внимание на мажущие выделения между менстуациями. Обратите внимание на более длительные и тяжелые менструации. Обратитесь к врачу, если менструация неожиданно началась снова. Обратите внимание на изменение вагинальных кровотечений после обычной деятельности. Обращайте внимание на любые необычные выделения из влагалища. При появлении боли внизу живота или после секса обратитесь к врачу.


If you are prone to dizziness, it is important not to make any sudden movements, as moving too quickly can wreak havoc on your blood pressure. You should move slowly and deliberately when sitting or standing up, holding on to a stable surface such as a hand railing where possible.  When you're getting up in the morning, make sure to get up in stages. First you should sit up slowly in bed, then put your feet on the floor. Take a moment to relax and breathe before slowly standing up. When moving from a sitting to standing position, flex your legs first. This will help to get your circulation going and minimize light-headedness. Dehydration can affect your blood pressure, leading to symptoms of dizziness. Keep dehydration at bay by drinking 6 to 8 glasses of water a day. However, if you are already dehydrated, try drinking a sports drink. The electrolytes in these drinks can help you to rehydrate quickly and work better than water alone. In addition, increased salt intake can be beneficial in certain conditions. It is quite common to experience dizziness or light-headedness as a symptom of some viral illnesses, such as colds or the flu. Getting plenty of rest when you are suffering from a viral illness will help you to recuperate faster and minimize feelings of dizziness. It may sound strange, but by keeping track of your dizzy spells you should be able to identify what your dizziness triggers are and learn to avoid them in future. For example, your dizziness may be caused by hunger, by standing up too quickly, or by showering with very hot water. Figure out your dizziness triggers and you should be able to head them off in advance. If you are prone to attacks of dizziness, wearing high heels may not be your best option. Flat shoes help your brain to read your posture better, thus keeping your body's equilibrium in check. Wearing flat shoes will also help to avoid a sprained ankle if you should fall during an episode of light-headedness. One of major concerns with dizziness is that the spinning sensation may...

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Двигайтесь медленно. Увеличьте ежедневное потребление жидкости. Побольше отдыхайте. Ведите дневник головокружений. Носите обувь без каблуков. Адаптация окружающего пространства. Принимайте лекарства от морской болезни. Избегайте веществ, которые влияют на кровообращение. Следите за симптомами более серьезных заболеваний.


If you are properly connected to the internet, you should be able to browse the internet using a web browser. This connects to the web interface for the router.  The router's default IP address is going to be different depending on the make and model of the router.  Consult the user's manual or manufacturer's web page to find out what the default IP address is for your router. Common default IP addresses include 192.168.0.1, 192.168.1.1 and 10.0.0.1 You will need to sign in to the router using the default username and password.  Consult the user's manual or manufacturer's website to find the default username and password for your router. Common usernames and passwords include "admin", and "password". The web interface for each router's make and model has a different layout.  Locate the wireless settings for your router.  They may be under "System", "Settings", "Configuration" or something similar. Locate the SSID settings on the web interface for your router.  Type a name for your wireless network in the SSID field. This is the most secure encryption key for wireless passwords. This may be labeled "key", "wireless key" or "pass key".  This is the password you will enter on other devices to connect to your wireless network.  A strong password should be at least 8 characters and have a combination of letters, and numbers. Make sure you use a password that you don't mind giving to guests.  Don't use a password you use for other personal accounts. Locate the option to save the changes to your router.  This is going to be different from one router's make and model to another.

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Откройте веб-браузер. Введите IP-адрес маршрутизатора в адресной строке, чтобы подключиться к веб-интерфейсу маршрутизатора. Введите имя пользователя и пароль по умолчанию. Найдите настройки беспроводной сети. Назовите свою беспроводную сеть. В качестве ключа шифрования выберите «WPA/WPA2». Введите пароль для беспроводной сети. Сохраните изменения.


If you are pruning your plant to allow further growth, you don’t need to take much off the ends. In fact, you can remove up to ⅓ of your Christmas cactus if you want to reduce its size. To grow another plant from your cutting, take Y-shaped cuttings from the mother plant. Make sure the cuttings are around 3-4 segments long. These cuttings can be repotted to grow as many new plants as you want. After blooming, your Christmas cactus will be entering a growth period and putting out new leaves. This is the best time to prune as it allows the cactus to branch out and grow more stems. If you are unable to prune it right away, you can continue to prune until late Spring. Each segment is a rectangular shape with a joint at the end. The stem should easily break at this point as it is the weakest part of the plant. Make sure you twist quickly to avoid damaging the plant.  If it doesn’t easily break, try using your thumbnail to separate the stem at the juncture.  If twisting seems too harsh on the plant, you can trim it using garden clippers in the same place instead. Cuttings larger than two sections can be used to grow new cactus plants, a process known as propagating. Discard any cuttings that are too short.

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Отрежьте 1–2 сегмента, если хотите, чтобы растение стало более пышным. Срежьте более длинные побеги, если хотите вырастить новый декабрист. Обрезайте растение после того, как оно отцветет. Покрутите соединение между сегментами. Соберите длинные обрезки стеблей.


If you are purchasing store-bought fertilizer, be sure to read the label carefully. You should look for a fertilizer product clearly designated for use with flowers (or flowering plants). If you mean to fertilize a specific flower (e.g., roses) you may even be able to locate a product designed for that flower. The best fertilizers for flowers contain nitrogen (N), which promotes growth; phosphorus (P), which enhances root systems and flower production; and potassium (K), which improves overall vigor and disease resistance). A package of fertilizer will generally have a three-part number (e.g., 5-10-10) that indicated the percentage of each of these macronutrients per volume. Plants that are known for their prolific flowering abilities will generally need more phosphorous. This is the middle number is most fertilizers. A 10-20-10 will contain a higher dose of phosphorous to help nourish your flowering plants. It never hurts to speak to someone in your region about what fertilizer they recommend. This can help save you time and money. Consider speaking to a local gardener, someone from a landscaping company, or a representative at your garden supply store. They only way to truly determine what your flowers will respond to is to give something a try. You may need to experiment with several different options or combinations before you find the perfect fertilizer for your flowering plants.

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Прочитайте этикетку на упаковке. Ищите обозначение N-P-K (или А-Ф-К: Для цветов выберите удобрение с высоким содержанием фосфора. Проконсультируйтесь с экспертом. Будьте готовы к методу проб и ошибок.


If you are putting molding in a 4-wall room and started with a piece with two 90° angles, you will have to make one piece that has two 45° angles.  The 45° angles will need to be opposite angles. Be sure to leave an extra inch or two at first to make sure everything fits. A slightly too long piece will actually make the entire construction a little bit more snug and prevent cracks from forming as the house settles. For a 4-wall room you should end up with one piece that has two 90° ends, two pieces that each have a 90° end and a 45° end, and one piece that has two opposite 45° ends. Run adhesive along the flat faces that touch the wall and ceiling. Also put adhesive on the parts of the molding that connect with another piece.  An extra pair of hands will be a great help when installing the molding, especially for the longer pieces. Push the end of the first piece firmly into the first corner. Use finishing nails to secure the molding while the adhesive sets. Use a nail punch to make sure the nails go under the surface of the wood. This will allow them to be painted over. Attach the rest of the molding pieces, using caulk to fill in gaps as you go.

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Повторите вышеуказанные шаги для остальных частей карниза. Прикрепите карниз.


If you are quick to anger, you may do something in the heat of the moment that you'll regret later on. Consider the consequences of what you are about to do. Don't react; respond.  Try to grab hold of your anger and examine it. Ask yourself what exactly is making you so angry. Ask yourself if you are overreacting. Think through the consequences of your actions. If you react violently in this situation, will you burn any bridges? Will it negatively impact your relationships? Will you run the risk of being arrested, suspended, or otherwise punished for your actions. It's easy to be rough with other people if you don't consider how your actions might make them feel. Be careful.  If you find yourself hurting people without intending to do so, try to understand what it was that hurt them so. Is this person sensitive to a particular word or label? Did I grab their arm too hard without thinking? Consider treating others as if they are especially fragile, at least at first. Be as considerate as you can be without walking on eggshells. Try to understand why someone is acting the way they're acting: try to figure out how they feel and what they are thinking. You may find it much harder to be angry once you understand where someone's coming from.  If you can't understand why someone is acting a certain way, just ask them. Tell them what you don't understand, and listen carefully to their response. They may be just as confused about what you are thinking. Empathy is a two-way street. Try to be open about what you are thinking. Work to build a mutual understanding. You can change your own behavior, as well as how you react to things. For example, you can choose not to do things that trigger negative feelings in others. Additionally, you can work to overcome your own triggers. Anger is useful for understanding your feelings about something. If you feel angry, look for the reason why. For example, if your job makes you angry, then it may be time for you to apply for a new position. It's easy to become swept up in the...

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Сначала думайте, а потом делайте. Приложите сознательное усилие не причинять боль другим. Сопереживайте. Примите то, что вы не в силах изменить. Дайте себе время снять напряжение.


If you are reading a piece of literature with the purpose of critiquing it internally rather than for an essay, you should begin with understanding the cultural milieu of the piece. Knowing the social context of a written work boosts your understanding of the vocabulary, setting, and character motivations, all of which are critical for forming an accurate critique. Bring a highlighter or pen with you to your reading sessions, and mark words you don’t understand. Looking them up in a dictionary as you read will increase your understanding of the text, just as knowing the cultural milieu in which the text was written does. Once you begin reading, consider the significance of the title. Ask yourself why the author chose this title. Is it a simple title, merely relating the main setting or object, such as the title of the short story “The Yellow Wallpaper”? If so, why would the author understate the work so much? Questioning the title helps in determining the main theme and contributes to a more accurate critique. Thinking about the title will help you determine the main theme of the work. Determining the main theme provides a trunk from which the branches of the rest of your examination of the text will spring. You will look at the elements of literature of this text, and knowing what theme they should be pointing to helps you to critique how well the author accomplishes this. Examine the elements of the piece of literature you’re reading by exploring how each element is presented in the text. Identify examples of each element and determine how each relates to the main theme. You may want to write down where these connections take place in order to organize your thoughts.  Setting—description of the surroundings. Plot—events of the text. Characters—the motivations and depth of each character, such as how much they change or don’t change as a result of the events. Characters can be people, objects, even ideas (especially in poetry). Conflict—the opposition that the main character encounters and its climax and...

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Изучите автора и культурный контекст. Подчеркните и изучите непонятные слова и отрывки. Исследуйте смысл названия. Определите центральную тему. Изучите структурные компоненты произведения. Выполните интерпретацию текста.


If you are really having trouble moving on it can be helpful to deal with these feelings in a professional setting. A trained therapist will be able to listen to your perspective of what went wrong in the friendship and help you learn from mistakes. When friends are the problem, sometimes turning to family can be a safe solution. If you can, try to call someone you think has gone through similar friendship breakups in the past. Perhaps a parent or grandparent with more life experience, though any family member can be an enormous comfort. Reach out to people who don't know the friend or friends you are no longer hanging out with. They can listen to how you feel and offer an objective perspective on the situation. Let them know how much you appreciate their support. Remember that even though you may have lost a friend, you are still not completely friendless. Mutual friends may not be the best people to reach out to if you feel like you really need to process the loss of the friendship. This puts your shared friends in an awkward position. You'll also run the risk of alienating more people if you are perceived as trying to get people to take sides. That said, you can still reach out to these friends for companionship. It can be a nice reminder that you still have people that care about you.  Avoid mentioning the friend that no longer wants to hangout with you. Try to focus on the things you still have in common with your current friends. It can be very emotional when a friend says they do not want to hangout with you anymore. Avoid the temptation to talk badly about them or tarnish their reputation in any way. When the emotions die down you may both realize that the friendship is actually salvageable. It may even come back together stronger after a disagreement of this magnitude. You don't want to make the situation any worse or lower any chances of the friendship being mended because you bad mouthed someone behind their back.

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Обратитесь к психотерапевту. Позвоните родным. Поговорите с друзьями, не знакомыми с человеком, которого вы пытаетесь забыть. Не забывайте о ваших общих друзьях. Не наговаривайте на бывшего друга.


If you are really suffering from morning backaches and are looking for fast pain relief, take OTC pain medication, such as ibuprofen or paracetamol. Always take the recommended dosage specified on the label. If available, you may also try rubbing ibuprofen gel on your back to relieve aches and pains. Look for ibuprofen gel at your local drugstore. Ice can help to reduce any inflammation and soreness on your back. Use an ice pack or a bag of frozen peas wrapped in a towel. Place the ice pack at the base of your spine for five minutes. You can do this while sitting or lying in bed. You should follow up the ice pack with twenty minutes of heat. This could be a heat pack that you warm up in the microwave or a hot water bottle wrapped in a towel. Place the heat pack at the base of your spine to help reduce inflammation. You can get topical treatments over-the-counter at your local drugstore or through a prescription from your doctor. Popular topical treatments for back pain include products like Tiger Balm, BenGay, and Icy Hot. You should not use topical treatments if you are pregnant, nursing, younger than 10 years of age, or have sensitive skin. Senior citizens should also use caution when applying topical treatments to their skin.  You should also never use topical treatments on open wounds or broken skin as you can develop mild to serious chemical burns due to the ingredients in some topical treatments. Topical treatments can come in several forms, from gels and foams to creams and roll on sticks. Talk to your doctor if you have any concerns before using topical treatments on your back aches. Most back pain will go away after within a week, though you may experience bouts of back pain if you do not make lifestyle changes (such as doing exercise) or sleep position changes.  If your back aches do not subside in the mornings despite the use of stretching and home remedies, you should see your doctor. Your doctor may recommend that you try physical therapy or massage therapy for your back pain. She may also run...

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Примите отпускаемое без рецепта обезболивающее средство. Прикладывайте к спине на пять минут пакетик со льдом. Используйте препараты для местного применения. Если боль в спине не проходит на протяжении нескольких недель, обратитесь к врачу.


If you are recording a tutorial on how to use a program, it may help to highlight your mouse cursor. This will make it easier for your audience to tell what you are doing. Click the "Settings" button in the Record section of the main Bandicam interface. Click the Effects tab.  You can enable a click effect that appears every time the left or right mouse buttons are clicked. Click the blank buttons next to each option to set the color. You can add a highlighter effect to your cursor so that the audience can always see where it is. Click the blank button to set the color. Yellow is one of the most common mouse-highlighting colors, as it stands out and is easy on the eyes. This is located at the top of the Bandicam main interface, next to the button depicting a game controller. An outline of the recording window will appear on your screen when you click it. Your recording area should completely encompass the window that you want to record. You can click and drag the edges to resize the window, or you can click the dimensions in the top bar to choose from a variety of presets. Everything within the red border of the window will be recorded. You can click the REC button in the upper-right corner of your recording window, or click the REC button in the Bandicam main interface. When recording starts, the blue border of the window will change to red, and the timer will start. If you want to take a screenshot of your recording at any time, click the Camera icon at the top of the recording window. A screenshot will be taken of what is currently inside the recording window. Click the Stop button on either the recording window or the Bandicam main interface to end the recording. You can view your newly-made video by clicking the folder icon in Bandicam. This will open the Output folder, and you can open your new video file in your favorite media player.

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Добавьте эффекты выделения курсора. Нажмите на кнопку "Rectangle on a screen" (Прямоугольник на экране). Обозначьте область записи. Кликните на кнопку «REC», чтобы начать запись. Сделайте скриншот. Закончите запись.


If you are relocating your butterfly cocoons, you may want to simply move the twig it’s hanging from into a new, larger space.  If that isn’t an option, there are a few ways you can hang the cocoons in their new habitat.  You can use the glue from a hot glue gun, cooled slightly so it’s tacky, to attach the pointy end of the cocoon to a twig. You can puncture the pointy end of the cocoon with a needle and thread to hang it in your enclosure, but this can be dangerous, as you may hurt the caterpillar inside. Most caterpillars will hatch from their cocoons as butterflies within ten to fourteen days, but some may not emerge from their cocoon at all during the winter months.  In the Spring and Summer months, caterpillars will emerge as butterflies at the fastest rate. In the Fall, some caterpillar breeds may remain inside the cocoon for extended periods of time. You will know that the butterfly will emerge from its cocoon soon when it changes colors.  Some turn darker in color while others become clear, depending on the species of moth or butterfly inside.  If the color of the cocoon changes, the butterfly will likely emerge within the next day or two. If a cocoon’s color becomes extremely dark, it is likely that the caterpillar inside died. Many butterflies and moths do not have digestive tracts once they reach the butterfly stage of their lives.  These butterflies and moths usually only have a lifespan of a few days.  Some others can and do eat.  Make sure to provide some leaves from the host plant species of that butterfly in case your butterfly or moth eats.  You may want to release your butterfly or moth at this point so it can pursue a mate. To release a moth or butterfly, simply open the container outside and allow it to fly away.

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Подвесьте кокон в новом контейнере. Скорость появления бабочки из кокона зависит от сезона. Накануне появления бабочки вы заметите, что кокон поменял цвет. Обеспечьте бабочку пищей.


If you are removing the fixture or unscrewing anything, be safe and cut the power to the area you are working on. Use your voltage detector to make sure that there is no power in the switch before proceeding. Make sure you check the light bulb and appliance before continuing, as the problem may not be with the switch. This will short the connection and prevent electricity from getting to your light. Cover up any exposed wire with electrical tape, or trim it and pull more wire through so that there is no excess wire in the switchbox. Most issues are due to a bad or loose connection. Partially unscrew the feed wire and both neutral wires. Make sure they are hooked tightly around the screw before tightening them back down.  Use a pair of needle-nose pliers to clamp the ends of the wire around the screw. Make sure there is enough wire exposed to make a connection with the terminal. Use a pair of wire strippers to expose at least 1/2-inch of wire. If the end of the wire is frayed or nicked up, cut it off, strip another inch of insulation off, and use this end. This is common with some older boxes, when you have two single switches hooked up instead of one double switch. A hot wire (red or black) comes out of the wall and into one switch, then out of that switch and into the other one. It may, in some cases, even return to the wall from the second switch. Don't let this discourage you -- simply attach the hot wire on the new fixture exactly how you found it on the old wire. This is why there are often two terminal screws on the feed side. Some electricians will cut the wire covering in the middle, loop the wire in the terminal, and allow the rest of the wire to continue into the wall. You should do the same thing if you see this is the case in your old switch. If checking your connections still doesn't work, you should make sure that the feed wire is in the correct side of the switch. If your switch does not have it labeled, it is the side with the metal tab, or "fin." The screws are usually black.  If there are...

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Прежде чем решать возникшую проблему, отключите электричество. Убедитесь, что никакие оголенные провода не касаются металлических частей коробки выключателя. Проверьте крепление проводов. У вас есть несколько «фаз». Убедитесь, что питающий провод подключен к правой стороне выключателя. Провод заземления отсутствует.


If you are replacing an old cooktop then you will first have to remove it. Turn off the power to this cooktop at the fuse box. Remove any caulking or attachments on the cooktop. Disconnect the wiring, remembering how the old cooktop is wired, and lift the cooktop out of the opening.  You must be absolutely certain that the power is turned off to your cooktop. You can use a circuit tester to double check by touching one lead on the circuit tester to any wire that is not green or white and the other lead to a white or green (ground) wire. If the light comes on, it means the power is still on. Make sure you remember how the old wiring was connected because the new wiring will connect in the same way. You can even label wires and take a picture of the wiring before removal to help you remember. Get someone to help you lift the cooktop out of its location because they can be quite heavy. Ideally you should have at least 30 inches (76 cm) of clearance above the cooktop and 1-2 feet (30-60 cm) of clearance on the sides. You must also check that there is enough space below the cooktop for your desired model. Check the manufacturer’s instructions for specific requirements for your cooktop. Most cooktops will require a 240 VAC junction box. If you are replacing a cooktop then you probably will already have this installed.  If there is no junction box then you should hire a professional to install one for you. You must also check that the old cooktop has the same amperage as the new cooktop or else the wiring may need to be performed by a professional. Many old cooktops have only a 30-amp circuit while modern cooktops often have a 40-amp or 50-amp circuit. If you have removed a previously installed cooktop then there should already be a hole so you must check the dimensions of the new cooktop to see if it will fit. Measure the length and width of the cooktop and subtract ½ - 1 inch (1.25-2.5 cm) from each side to account for the lip that will overlap the countertop. The hole needs to be the size of the cooktop minus the...

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Снимите старую варочную панель, если таковая имеется. Убедитесь в том, что у вас имеется достаточно пространства в выбранном для варочной панели месте. Убедитесь, что вблизи выбранного вами места есть распределительная коробка для подключения варочной панели к электросети. Измерьте габариты варочной панели и убедитесь в том, что она вмещается в старое отверстие. Скорректируйте отверстие для варочной панели, чтобы она могла войти в него. Снимите с варочной панели все съемные элементы, чтобы вам было легче ее ставить на место. Установите зажимы. Опустите варочную панель в отверстие. Присоедините провода варочной панели к сети. Установите на варочную панель ранее снятые съемные детали. Включите электричество и проверьте работу варочной панели.


If you are replacing your hard drive, you will be reinstalling OS X. Since your files are stored on the hard drive you are removing, you will need to back up any files you want to transfer to the new drive. This will make the operating system reinstall as painless as possible. See this guide for detailed instructions on backing up your files. Remove the power adapter cable. You must power down the Mac before opening the panel, or you run the risk of shorting out your components. Note: You cannot remove the hard drive from any MacBook Pro with the Retina Display, as these use integrated flash memory as opposed to traditional hard drives. You will be accessing the back panel of the MacBook. Set it on a table or workbench that gives you easy access without having to bend over. These run along the edges of the bottom panel. The exact location of these screws varies by model, but there are always ten. You will need a Phillips screwdriver to remove them. There are usually two types of screws:  Seven 3 mm Phillips Three 13.5 mm Phillips The 13" MacBook Pro may have slightly different screw configurations, but there will still be ten screws. Wedge your fingers into the gap between the vent and the lowercase and pry the panel up. You will release two clips securing the panel as you do so. This connector provides power to the logic board, and should be disconnected before continuing to prevent shorting out any components. It is black and located along the edge of the logic board, and is the largest connector attached. Make sure to pull the connector straight out so as not to damage the connection.  If there is a tab connected to the battery connector, use it to pull it out of the socket. If there is no tab connected, you can use a spudger or cocktail pick to push the connector out.

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Сделайте резервную копию ваших файлов. Выключите  MacBook. Положите MacBook крышкой вниз. Выкрутите из задней панели десять шурупов. Откройте заднюю панель. Отсоедините  батарею.


If you are reupholstering an existing bench, you will need to unscrew the legs and reattach them later.  If you are reupholstering a bench, you will also need to remove staples at the back of the base with needle nosed pliers. Then, remove the fabric, batting, and foam so that you can replace them. It is a good idea to replace them unless they are relatively new. Keep your piece of fabric to use as a template for your fabric bench cover. If you are creating a bench from scratch, you can customize it to the space you want to fill. Measure the area in inches. Ask the store to cut it to the exact size that you measured. Your foam core should be at least three inches (7.5cm) thick to assure comfort. Purchase one and a half times the size in upholstery or outdoor fabric.  Just as home improvement stores will cut plywood for little to no cost, large fabric stores can cut foam core to size. Use an electric knife to cut foam core at home. It is easiest to upholster a bench if you are able to slide the fabric and batting along a smooth surface. Practice attaching them before you start upholstering to ensure they work for your piece of furniture. You will need a drill and screws for this process.

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Вы можете выбрать как уже обитую скамью, так и сделать новую. Измерьте основу скамьи и решите насколько большой вы хотите ее сделать. Купите кусок фанеры толщиной 1,3 - 2 см в хозяйственном магазине или магазине пиломатериалов. Купите толстый поролон такого же или большего размера, чем ваша фанера. Очистите большую рабочую поверхность или стол. В углах фанеры просверлите отверстия для ножек.


If you are riding sidesaddle, with both legs on one side of the horse, ask someone to help lift you down. Jumping down on your own often causes your clothing to snag on the tack, and makes it difficult to keep hold of the reins. If riding bareback, one option is to bring your right foot over the horse's neck. Be careful not to hit your horse's neck as you do so, or it could easily spook. Once both feet are on the left side, hop down to the ground. Do not attempt this from a saddle, as it is too easy to snare yourself in the tack. Another bareback dismounting method is very similar to the dismount for western or english saddles. Swing your right leg clear over the horse's rump, then slide down the belly onto the ground. Since you have no saddle to hold onto, you will need to perform this motion quickly and fluidly to avoid unbalancing yourself.

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Попросите помощи при спешивании с дамского седла. Спрыгните с лошади без седла. Скользите по боку лошади без седла.


If you are right-handed, stand to the left of the stake. Stand straight but relaxed, or slightly slouched if you find it more comfortable. Keep your shoulders squared in front of the stake you are aiming for. If you are left-handed, stand to the right of the stake. Pull the shoulder and arm holding the horseshoe back, in line with your body. Move your left foot forward as you throw. Keep your arm straight, with as little wrist movement as possible, or it will be difficult to control your throw. The rotation of the horseshoe can be produced just by letting the shoe slide in your grip slightly as you swing your arm Some players start a short distance behind the throwing line, and take a step or two forward before they throw. This technique may provide more throwing strength, but can take some practice to use accurately. Release the horseshoe when it is at roughly eye level in front of you. Prevent jerky movements and weak throws by following through, keeping your throwing arm moving up above your head after release. Well-thrown horseshoes typically fly about 7-10 ft (2.1–3 m) high, then drop down near the stake at a 30–45º angle. If your stake is surrounded by sand or gravel, as many backyard stakes are, a lower, more forceful throw can land in front of the stake and slide onto it. This can develop bad habits if you plan to play in tournaments, which use clay instead of sand, but it's a fine strategy for casual players to use. A slight "wobble" in the horseshoe as it flies will help it land correctly, if you are using a "turn" throw instead of a "flip" throw. Try adjusting the position of your thumb to alter the amount of wobble. It can take some practice to figure out a grip that feels right, and to learn how hard to throw the shoe. Practice the release time and amount of turn in your horseshoe until you can consistently land the horseshoe in front of the stake, with its shanks facing the stake. Once the right amount of rotation and throw strength is unconscious, you can keep practicing your throws for...

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Научитесь правильно выбирать позицию. Замахнитесь во время броска. Сделайте протаскивающее движение. Выберите правильную траекторию. Тренируйте повороты и силу броска.


If you are running Windows 2000 or earlier, you'll need to download compression software such as WinZip to compress your folder. Similarly, users of Mac OS 9 may need to download StuffIt Expander. Most Linux distributions include a built-in ability to compress files. For example, in Ubuntu, right click on the folder and choose "Compress..." from the context menu. You will be asked to choose a name and location for the resulting archive. Attach that archive to your email.

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Скачайте программное обеспечение, поддерживающее старые операционные системы. Выясните конкретные действия для своего дистрибутива Linux.


If you are running Windows Vista, type in "charmap" on the search line. If you are running an earlier version of Windows, click on "Run" and in the text box, type "charmap". Enter. Scroll until you find the character you want. Click on the character. Press <Ctrl>-C to copy, or double-click it to add it to the text box below the grid, and then click "copy". Go to whatever program you were typing in, and press <Ctrl>-V to paste.

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Перейдите в меню Start. Появится всплывающее окно  (апплет "Character Map") с шрифтом и размером шрифта в списке, и прокручивающаяся сеть полей (каждое с одним символом) ниже. Когда закончите, закройте окно  Character Map (Таблица символов).


If you are running a simple program with all of the files in the same directory, you will probably not need to do this. However, if you are running a more complex program with files in multiple directories, you will need to tell the computer where to look for these files.   Windows: Type  java -version  into the command prompt and press ↵ Enter. Based off the version of Java displayed on the first line, type in  set path=%path%;C:\Program Files\Java\jdk1.5.0_09\bin  to the command prompt and press ↵ Enter. Substitute jdk1.5.0_09 with whatever version of Java you have installed. Be sure you are entering in this command while in the directory containing your Java project.   Mac: Type  /usr/libexec/java_home -v 1.7  into the terminal and press ↵ Enter to ensure Java is installed on your system. Then, type  echo export "JAVA_HOME=\$(/usr/libexec/java_home)" >> ~/.bash_profile  into the terminal and press ↵ Enter. Restart the terminal afterwards.

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Установите путь.


If you are scared of the dentist, you are not alone. At least 5% of people avoid the dentist because of fear, and many more than that experience anxiety about the dentist. While it is important to your health to see a dentist regularly, do not be embarrassed by your fear. Instead try to face it. Some people are embarrassed by how their teeth look; other people fear possible pain; others have a phobia of needles; others don't like the sound of a dental drill. Try to think about where your anxiety is coming from so that you can minimize it during your appointment. Many of these fears can be alleviated through the use of new technologies, good communication from your dentist, relaxation techniques, and alternative medications. Many dentists have training in how to treat patients with dental anxieties and fears. Don't hesitate to ask your dentist directly about whether he or she can handle fearful patients. It might take you a few tries to find a good fit, but you should call around or even find recommendations through friends or the internet. There will be a good dentist who can help you. Some ways that dentists can soothe an anxious patient include:  Using water-based tools that minimize feelings of heat or vibration. Using oral or rub-on anesthetics before to provide pain relief before you receive a numbing shot. Having the option of nitrous oxide (laughing gas) available. Creating a spa-like environment, with relaxing music, aromatherapy, and a calm space. Providing noise-canceling headphones so that you do not have to hear the noise of the drill. Knowing relaxation and hypnosis techniques to help guide your breathing to keep you calm.  Telling the patient what will happen so that the patient feels in control and safe. If you have a crippling anxiety of the dentist, you might want to look into the possibility of having your cavity filled while you are sedated. There are some extra risks from this option, and not every dentist uses sedative dentistry. However, there are many who will use sedatives to calm down...

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Преодолейте свой страх. Определите причину своего страха. Найдите врача, который умеет работать с чувствительными пациентами. Поищите варианты общего наркоза. Не принимайте ничего успокоительного самостоятельно. Напомните себе, что стоматология уже не такая, какой она была раньше. Используйте приемы релаксации во время приема. Спросите, может ли ваш друг присутствовать при процедуре.


If you are sexually active with your female partner, you may have discussions around birth control and preventing pregnancy. Avoid making decisions for your partner about how she can manage her reproductive system. Support her if she decides to go on birth control or another birth control method. This also extends to abortions and terminating a pregnancy. If you and your partner have an unplanned pregnancy, you can have a discussion with her about the options. But if she decides to have an abortion, as a feminist, it is important that you support her decision.  Likewise, if she decides that she wants to have the child, that is her decision and you cannot tell her otherwise.  Ultimately, it is her body and she has the right to decide how her body is used. It can be easy to fall into gender stereotypes, especially in heterosexual relationships. But the gendered notion of women in the kitchen, cooking and cleaning, and men in the workplace, bringing home the bacon, are outdated and based on gender bias. As the man in the relationship, be willing to do 50% of the housework, whether this is cleaning, cooking, or gardening. Try to split the housework between the two of you so there is not an imbalance in your relationship.  If you and your partner both work, support your partner when she pursues a big account or client at work. Encourage her to take on a leadership role in her job and in other areas of her life. This shows that you are not threatened by her ambition and determination, and that you do not buy into the stereotypical notion that only men can be leaders and achieve professional success. You should also take responsibility for roles in your relationship that may not be typically perceived as “male”. This could be doing 50% of the emotional work in the relationship, such as talking about your feelings, your thoughts, and your needs. This could also be actively listening to your partner and responding to her needs. Sex is another area where stereotypical gender roles can come into effect, leading to an...

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Поддерживайте решение своей партнерши относительно ее тела. Избегайте гендерных стереотипов в отношениях. Обсуждайте ожидания относительно секса. Рассказывайте молодым женщинам и девочкам об идее феминизма. Выражайте поддержку движениям по защите прав женщин.


If you are signed in with a Google account on your Android, your contacts should automatically be synced with your Google account. You can check your Google contacts at contacts.google.com. If you have contacts you need to back up manually, see Back Up Your Android Contacts to Your Google Account. When you factory reset, all of your data will be wiped. If you have files on your Android that you need to keep, connect your Android to your computer and transfer the files for safekeeping. See Transfer Data Between a Cell Phone and Computer for detailed instructions. Once your data is safely backed up, you can start the reset process. Some Android devices, notably Samsung devices, will require you to switch to the Personal section to find the reset options.      This will restore your contacts and settings, as well as your Google Play Store app purchases and downloads.

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Создайте резервную копию контактов. Сохраните нужные файлы. На устройстве откройте приложение «Настройки». Нажмите Персональный (если возможно). Нажмите Резервное копирование и сброс. Нажмите Сброс настроек до заводских. Нажмите Сбросить настройки устройства. Дождитесь завершения процесса сброса настроек. Запустите процесс настройки устройства. Войдите в систему с помощью учетной записи Google (когда потребуется).


If you are sitting at your desk, place your head down between your folded arms so that no one can see your eyes. Say that you're tired or that your head hurts and you need a quick rest.  Let out a few tears while you pretend that you are taking a rest. Only do this if your teacher won't get upset; she may call on you and draw the attention of the whole class on you. Sometimes our voices tremble when we are sad, which will give away your tears. Try avoiding talking while you are sad. If it is not possible to avoid talking, try talking in a lower tone of voice than you normally do and speak extra forcefully. Because you are sad you will probably sound more normal even though you think you are talking extra loud and deep. Find a reason to bend down, like dropping your pencil or getting something out of your backpack, and wipe your eyes with your shirt or a tissue if you have one on hand. If you don't have one but are able to go get one, find a tissue. You can pretend that you have to blow your nose, but before you do, discreetly wipe your eyes of their tears. Try to turn away from others when you pretend to blow your nose; they will probably think you are just being polite being by not blowing your nose in their directions. Make it seem that you are trying to remove an eyelash or something else in your eye by blinking a lot or pulling your eyelid. While you are doing this, discreetly wipe away any tears that others may be able to see. Do your best fake sneeze into your hands or the inside of your elbow and wipe away any tears that way. If anyone sees any tears remaining and asks about them, you could jokingly say that you sneezed so hard you must have blown a gasket (i.e., you sneezed so hard it caused you to tear up). If you know that you are prone to crying, consider packing some tissues in your bag for when you need them. Or, if you don't have a bag on you, put a few tissues in your pocket.

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Положите голову на руки. Не разговаривайте. Вытрите глаза. Возьмите салфетку и высморкайтесь. Притворитесь, что достаете что-то из глаза. Притворитесь, что вам надо чихнуть.


If you are someone who is confident in their freehand ability, you can certainly skip this step. However, if you aren’t confident in your freehanding and want to ensure that you get perfect, even letters, you can design them on a computer.  Using Microsoft Word, you can type in your letters and then trace them onto the wood.  Open Microsoft Word, click on the “File” menu, and select “Page Setup.” Select the paper size that matches the size of the wood you’ll be painting, or enter in your own custom size. Type your lettering in the document, however you want it to look on the wood. Because the page is set to the size of the wood, you can design it with the proper measurements in mind. Print your document. You can find pre-cut stencils at your local craft store, and they are perfect for painting letters on wood. You can also order these stencils online if you are looking for a very particular size or font. For best results, you will also need a stencil paintbrush, as well as spray adhesive.  Take your time to line up the stencil onto the wood, exactly as you want your lettering to line up. Use a pencil to mark up the stencil to show where it should lay on the wood. Shake your can of spray adhesive, and then spray a light coat on the stencil. This will allow it to stick to the wood, ensuring that it doesn't shift or smear during the painting process. Once your stencil is stuck to the wood, use your stencil brush to gently dab acrylic paint onto the wood, through the stencil. Allow your paint to dry for a few minutes before peeling the stencil off the wood.

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Создайте дизайн символов. Купите трафареты с буквами.


If you are speaking with a partner or a roommate about their snoring, try to approach the problem constructively. Offer to help. Suggest solutions, but do not demand change.  Be aware of deeper issues. Talking about the root causes of a snoring problem may inadvertently bring up smoking, drinking, weight, or other sensitive issues that may affect your relationship with your partner. Be aware of the territory that your conversation might touch upon, and be respectful of your partner's choices. It is frustrating to be kept up all night by someone's snoring--but try not to be bitter. Keep your discussion light and upbeat, and make it clear that you are happy to be a part of the solution. Your partner's snoring may be a temporary side-effect of a sinus infection, or it may be a long-term frustration that festers under the skin of your relationship. It may feel better to clear the air and work with your partner to solve the problem together. Timing is everything. Try not to confront your partner about their snoring in the middle of the night or immediately after they wake. You will be less frustrated if you wait until daytime, and your partner will be in a better state to deal with the problem. Whether you're a snorer or you live with one, there is nothing to be embarrassed or angry about. The snorer does not choose to snore. If you regularly snore and your partner complains, take the issue seriously. Your snoring may not bother you, but over time it may cause unnecessary tension in your relationship. In the interim, if your partner snores, consider investing in a pair of earplugs to get a better night's sleep. If you begin to use earplugs but do not bring up the snoring issue, your partner may be embarrassed. Use earplugs only as a temporary fix. Be proactive, but not passive-aggressive.

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Будьте тактичны. Заведите разговор как можно раньше. Помните, что храп — это физиологическое расстройство, и храп можно лечить. Помните, что большинство методов начинают работать не сразу.


If you are specifically looking for a river rock, the best place to look is a river bed. You can find rocks that have similar qualities at creeks, lakes, and on beaches. You can choose any rock that appeals to you, but rocks that are smooth are ideal for painting. Weathered rocks that that have been in the water for a long time are great for painting because they have tumbled, which has left them smooth and rounded.  You can’t take rocks from state and national parks. Be careful when you are searching for rocks. Do not get too close to the water unless you are sure that you will be safe or have someone watching you. Prepare the space where you will be painting the rock. You can paint anywhere you like, but a table or desk is ideal because it gives you space. Make sure to protect your work surface. You can lay newspaper or paper towels out so that paint doesn’t get on the table.  Consider recycled empty cereal boxes for a green alternative.  Cut the box open on the side and unfold it.  The inside has a nice solid light gray color. which gives contrast for your painting design, and the material is stronger than paper towels.  There is also no risk of ink smudges from the newspaper.

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Найдите подходящий камень. Положите камень на стол.


If you are standing somewhere where the ground is uneven, stand on the higher ground. This should help you get more on their level. If you are outside near a parking lot or empty street, try standing on the curb to increase your height. This will also prevent your significant other from having to bend down a lot to get to your level. If you are walking around in the woods or someone’s backyard, you can stand on a rock or tree stump to increase your height. Avoid wearing heels or uncomfortable shoes if you plan to do this. Be careful and don’t slip or fall.

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Используйте неровные участки. Станьте на бордюр. Становитесь на камни и пни.


If you are starting the diary in November 2016, then write "November 2016." Then, when you finish the diary, you can write the day or month when you filled it up. It might look like "November 2016 - February 2017." Then, when you revisit this diary later on, you'll immediately know which period of your life it is from. If you are worried that someone might read your diary, you can make the first page into a message for anyone who opens up the front cover. Make it clear that the person shouldn't read any further – or else!  Write: "This diary is the property of Aidan Applebee. Keep reading at your own risk!" Write: "Personal diary! Keep out!!" Write: "Personal property! Please don't read!" Draw a picture or doodle away. Add stickers that show your personality. Tape or glue in a picture of something that is meaningful to you. Make the first page beautiful so that it inspires you to write each time you open the diary!

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Напишите даты начала и окончания дневника. Оставьте предупреждение для людей, сующих нос не в свои дела. Украсьте первую страницу.


If you are staying awake longer than normal, you’ll have to resist the temptation to sleep. Stay out of bed, don’t wear pajamas, and avoid anything else that is part of your sleep routine. Keep the temperature warm enough or cool enough that you are slightly uncomfortable, and more likely to stay awake. Your body’s basic sleep cycle is tied to light during the day and dark at night. This means that dim lights can make you sleepy, especially if you are staying up beyond your usual bed time. Bright lights, however, can increase alertness. Keep lamps and other sources of light on when you are trying to stay awake. Staying awake in company can be easier than trying to do it alone. Talking, studying, listening to music, and taking breaks with others can be stimulating and help the time pass by. An alarm clock can be a good back-up when you are trying to stay awake, especially if you have to do it alone. Try setting an alarm (or several) for regular intervals, such as every half-hour. That way, if you accidentally fall asleep, it won’t be for very long. If you are staying awake while getting work or chores done, try switching tasks every now and then. The change will provide some mental stimulation, especially if you move locations (from room to room, or from indoors to outdoors, for instance).

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Не настраивайтесь на сон. Находитесь в хорошо освещенной комнате. Пообщайтесь с кем-то. Заведите будильник. Займитесь разными делами.


If you are still friends on social media, observe his postings and interactions carefully. Is he posting lots of vague and/or sad posts (sad songs about lost love, etc.)? Is he commenting on old pictures of the two of you or “liking” them? If so, it may be a sign that he is having a hard time dealing with the break up.  Remember though that social media is not always an accurate depiction of what’s going on in someone’s life. Even someone who posts lots of pictures looking like he has the perfect life could be dealing with major emotional issues. Don’t go overboard with browsing social media. Respect the privacy of your ex, and limit yourself to checking once each day, at the most. If you and your ex still hang out in a group of mutual friends, carefully (but discreetly) observe how she behaves when you are in a group of friends together. If your ex seems agitated when hanging out with you in a group, and tries to avoid interacting with you, it might be because they she is still dealing with lingering feelings.  Be careful though. Your ex may still be dealing with old feelings, but that doesn’t necessarily mean she is missing you. For example, she may be very angry at you because you really hurt her with your actions. Try to keep your judgements about her behavior within the context of your breakup and past interactions. Take note if your ex constantly glances at you even when interacting with other people. This could mean that she is interested in observing your behavior to see how you’re feeling, too. If you have mutual friends that you trust to keep quiet about your investigating, ask them if your ex has mentioned anything about you. Your mutual friends will probably be able to give you great insight into how your ex is doing.  If you have mutual friends, but are afraid they’ll tell your ex you asked about him, you can try asking very casually. For example, instead of being really direct, you could say something like, “I was just wondering how [name of your ex] is doing? I know he had a big exam coming up,...

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Изучите его странички в социальных сетях. Обратите внимание на то, как он ведет себя в кругу других людей. Поговорите с общими друзьями.


If you are still in the early phases, you might not have symptoms. But as the disease progresses, your symptoms will get worse. Symptoms include:  Abdominal discomfort Not being hungry Nausea or diarrhea Tiredness If you have these symptoms, it is crucial to stop drinking and get medical help to start reversing the damage:  Jaundice or a yellow color in the skin and eyes Fluid pooling in your legs and abdomen Fever Itchiness Weight loss Hair loss Vomiting blood or passing bloody stool due to bleeding internally Personality changes, memory problems, and insomnia Numbness in your legs or feet Abdominal distention Melena (black, tarry stool) Vomiting blood Fatigue Your liver will not heal unless you stop drinking. Your doctor can help you make a plan that will fit your needs. Options include:  Medications, such as baclofen Counseling Support groups, including Alcoholics Anonymous Outpatient treatment programs Residential treatment programs

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Определите распространенные ранние симптомы. Обратите внимание на симптомы, которые говорят о том, что повреждение печени прогрессирует. Бросьте пить.


If you are stopped by police while you're in your car or otherwise have time before they get too close to you (such as before you go into an area known to be frequented by cops), take a second to remove your hat and sunglasses if you are wearing them. If the police are able to see your eyes, they will be much less nervous. However, if the police are already looking at you or next to you, this is inadvisable as the movement will make them nervous. Again, you should only do this if you have not been seen. If you do this and the cop sees you, they may think you are going for a gun. Whether you're in a car or on the street, you need to make your hands very visible to the officer. If you're in a car, put them up on the windowsill. If you're on the street, hold them slightly up and out from your body. This will also reduce the officer's tension. Do not reach for anything or move around any more than you absolutely have to. Certainly do not make any sudden movements, as this can be taken as a sign of reaching for a weapon. Do not try to argue with the officer and don't let yourself be visibly angry. Even if you feel your rights are being violated, which they very well could be, don't take that up with them. Lawyer up when the confrontation is over and sue them, but absolutely do not get into a fight with them there. Speak with officers slowly, calmly, and with an even tone (don't yell at them). This will help show that you are not hostile and will help keep them from panicking. Yes, the burden should be on them to keep their cool, but thinking about what you should've done isn't going to keep you from getting shot. If they tell you to stop, stop. If they tell you to get out of the car, get out of the car. If they tell you to put your hands on the wall, put your hands on the wall. Like we said, the time for standing up for your rights is later, not now. All it takes is one overly stressed cop and you're dead. Every time you do need to move, tell the officer what you're doing. Let them know why you're moving, where...

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Снимите головной убор и солнцезащитные очки. Держите руки так, чтобы их было видно. Двигайтесь как можно меньше. Будьте спокойны. Говорите медленно, не кричите. Делайте то, что вам прикажут. Говорите полицейскому, что вы делаете.


If you are storing nuts harvested from your own yard or purchased at a local market, you may need to freeze the nuts for two days prior to storing them to kill off any pests or eggs.  Insect eggs and larvae thrive at room temperature. Your eye may not see any pests on the surface of the nuts you collect, but that does not mean that there are no pests to be found. As such, fresh nuts need to be sterilized via freezing. If you are storing commercially purchased nuts, you should not need to freeze them. The manufacturer should have killed off the nuts before selling them. Place the nuts in an airtight container and sit that container inside the freezer. Allow the nuts to remain there for 48 hours at a temperature of 0 degrees Fahrenheit (-18 degrees Celsius) or lower. Place the nuts in a glass or plastic container. The container should be clean and dry, with a lid that snaps or screws on with an odor-tight seal. Plastic and glass containers are better than plastic bags. Plastic bags are permeable, so even though the bags have a good seal, odors can still seep into the space and taint the flavor of the nuts. Place the jar of nuts in a dark, cool location, like a pantry. You should be able to keep the nuts fresh for two to four months when you store them this way.  Chestnuts should never be stored at room temperature. They lose moisture quickly and can actually develop mold. If you do store chestnuts at room temperature, make sure that you use them within two weeks, since mold usually develops when kept past this amount of time.  Light can cause the nuts to go rancid at a quicker pace, so you should never store them on a shelf, kitchen counter, or other exposed area.

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Заморозьте от возможных вредителей. Сложите орехи в герметичную емкость. Храните их в течение двух-четырех месяцев.


If you are struggling to have a good relationship with your boss, then you shouldn't stew in silence. Talking to your boss about the problems you're having in a calm, polite, and professional manner can help you work together to resolve them. Of course, the type of relationship you have and the type of person your boss is can affect how you approach your conversation, but in general, saying something and trying to improve the relationship is superior to getting angry and frustrated and not being able to get your work done.  You'd be surprised by how many bosses have no idea that the people they are managing are feeling overlooked, angry, frustrated, or like they're getting mixed signals. When you voice your concerns with your boss, then he or she will be grateful that you said something. If you never say anything to your boss about it, then there are almost no chances that your work relationship or your work environment will improve. Saying something is unpleasant, but it'll be worth it in the long run. You should carefully plan what you'll say, ask your boss to set a time to talk, and come prepared with evidence and examples of times when you were frustrated with your situation. Though it may feel good to undermine your boss or to make him or her look foolish or incompetent, in the long run, it's far better to help your boss look better and to achieve goals that are good for you and the company. If you spend your time making your boss look incompetent at meetings or sabotaging your boss's efforts to get work done, then you'll only be poisoning your relationship and your work environment. Instead of making things work for yourself, try to help your boss achieve goals and everything will run more smoothly. Sure, the last thing you may want to do is to work with someone you don't really respect all that much. But this is far better than constantly being at odds with someone you work with. Though documenting all of the annoying or horrible things your boss has done to you may not sound like the greatest way to...

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Высказывайте вашу точку зрения. Работайте с вашим начальником, а не против него. Отслеживайте все ваши взаимодействия. Не говорите о вашем начальнике плохо в присутствии коллег. Старайтесь предвидеть появление проблем. Не давите на болевые точки руководства. Хвалите вашего босса за правильные поступки.


If you are struggling with a stuffy, itchy, or runny nose due to hay fever or allergies to pollen, mold, dust, or pets, nasal spray should help to relieve your symptoms. You should not use nasal spray to treat symptoms of a flu or cold, as it will only provide temporary relief. Go see your doctor about other, more effective medications if you have nasal issues due to a flu or cold.  The most common type of over-the-counter nasal spray is Fluticasone nasal spray, which is in a class of medications called corticosteroids. Corticosteroids improve your nasal issues by preventing the release of natural substances that can cause allergy symptoms. They should only be used for chronic allergies. You can also use a nasal spray that contains xylitol, purified water, salt, and grapefruit seed extract. This type of nasal spray has no side effects and contains no drugs. It is also safe for all ages. If you are using the spray as an adult, you will begin with a higher dose of the nasal spray and then decrease your dose as your symptoms improve. This is usually one spray in each nostril once a day, or one spray in each nostril twice a day (once in the morning, once at night) if your doctor recommends a higher dose for your symptoms. If you are giving the nasal spray to a child, begin the treatment with a lower dose and then increase the dose if the child’s symptoms do not get better.  Always follow the dose directions on the nasal spray label and ask your pharmacist to explain any instructions you do not understand. Never use more or less than specified on the package or as recommended by your pharmacist. If you miss a dose, do not double up on the dose. Instead, wait until the following day and continue on your recommended dose for the day. Children younger than four years old should not use nasal spray. Children younger than 12 years old should be assisted by an adult when using nasal spray. Only use nasal spray in your nose. Do not spray it in your eyes or mouth. As well, you should never share your nasal spray with...

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Приобретите в ближайшей аптеке отпускаемый без рецепта назальный спрей. Соблюдайте рекомендованную на упаковке дозировку. Прежде чем использовать назальный спрей, тщательно помойте руки. Как следует высморкайтесь и постарайтесь очистить нос. Прикройте одну ноздрю пальцем. Вытрите аппликатор чистой тканью. Помните о возможных побочных эффектах назальных спреев.


If you are struggling with excess oil and acne, you may want to talk to a dermatologist about retinoids. This type of medication is one of the most prescribed treatments for acne and excess oil production. You can get an oral retinoid, like Accutane, or topical medications, like tretinoin, adapalene (which is now available over the counter), tazarotene, and isotretinoin. Oral retinoids are generally more effective than topical ones. However, your doctor will most likely prescribe a topical retinoid before trying an oral one to minimize your side effects. You may experience side effects like dry skin or sensitive skin, and some drugs, such as Accutane, may have serious side effects. Excess oil production can be caused by an excess of androgen hormones. If this is why your skin is oily, the doctor may prescribe you an androgen inhibitor, such as spironolactone and cyproterone. These medications can help reduce the amount of sebum your body produces. These medications may be either oral or topical. If you are a woman who has excess sebum production, you can try taking a birth control pill. For some women, this can help reduce the oiliness of their skin, but for others it might make it worse. Talk to your doctor about this option to determine if it is right for you. Birth control may help reduce the androgens in your body, which can help reduce your body’s sebum production. Another procedure you may want to try to help your sebum production is light and laser therapy. Photodynamic Therapy and Diode Laser Therapy can work to decrease oil production from your sebaceous glands. Many people use light or laser therapy with other treatments to really reduce their sebum production. However, keep in mind that some medications can make you sensitive to light, so you may not be a candidate for light and laser therapy if you take one of these medications.  This is a good option for people who cannot use medication to treat their oily skin, such as pregnant women. These treatments are non-invasive and fairly safe. You need...

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Препараты с ретиноидами. Ингибиторы андрогенов. Контрацептивные препараты с эстрогенами. Светотерапия и лазерная терапия.


If you are suddenly unable to connect to the Internet, unplug it for a few seconds and plug it back in. This allows the modem to fully power down and initialize a fresh, stronger connection. After 15 seconds, reconnect the modem and wait at least two minutes before connecting to the Internet. If you experience problems connecting to the Internet, try powering down your entire network and restarting each device. This can help refresh both devices and ensure a stronger, lasting Internet connection.  Power off your computer and unplug your modem from its power source. Unplug your router from its power source. Then verify that both Ethernet cables and the coaxial cable are fastened securely to your devices. Reconnect the modem to its power source.  Then reconnect the router to its power source. Wait two minutes, then power on your computer. You should now be able to connect to the Internet. This helps to rule out problems with faulty equipment if you are unable to connect to the Internet. In most cases, frayed or faulty cables will prevent you from accessing the Internet. If you experience an interruption in service, contact your internet service provider. In some cases, temporary service interruptions may occur on behalf of local maintenance or outages. If you unable to establish a connection, check with your internet service provider to see if the router is compatible with the modem. Some modems may be outdated or incompatible with the routers offered by your ISP. If you are unable to connect to the Internet, contact your internet service providers to see if your modem requires any special configuration. Some cable modems must have their Ethernet ports configured before they can function properly with Internet routers.

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Попробуйте отключить модем на 15 секунд. Попробуйте перезапустить модем и маршрутизатор. Попробуйте отключить кабель Ethernet и коаксиальный кабель. Узнайте о возможных перебоях в своем районе. Проверьте, совместим ли модем с маршрутизатором. Узнайте, нуждается ли модем в специальной настройке.


If you are suffering from these symptoms, this can be a sign you should start treatment and maybe contact a doctor. The sooner you take action, the quicker you can get relief. Symptoms of swollen veins only occur in the area where the swollen vein exists.  Common symptoms include fullness, heaviness, aching, and pain in the legs; mild swelling of feet or ankles; and itching. You will probably also see visible swollen veins, particularly in your legs. More severe symptoms include leg swelling, leg or calf pain after sitting or standing for long periods; color changes to the skin of the legs or ankles; dry, irritated, and scaly skin that cracks easily; skin sores that don’t heal easily; and thickening and hardening of the skin in your legs and ankles. This causes strain on your legs, which can lead to pain and poor blood flow. Find ways to take a break and sit down for a while, breaking up the time when you are standing. When you sit, make sure you avoid crossing your legs. Keep them raised when possible, which will let the blood flow away from them. If possible, probably while lying down, raise your legs above your heart level to further reduce blood flow. Sitting in this position will lead to a restriction of your blood flow. Your restricted blood flow can cause the lower veins to dilate (because the venous drainage to the heart is restricted. . Look for workouts that helps to stimulate your legs muscles. The contraction of skeletal muscle in the legs will help blood flow back into your heart and through the rest of your body, putting less pressure on the veins in your legs. Even just flexing your foot up and down when sedentary can help propel blood through the veins of your legs. Exercises that are recommended for people dealing with this condition include walking, jogging, and swimming. Swimming, in particular, is good because it keeps your body horizontal, which means that your blood is less likely to accumulate in your legs and cause your veins to become swollen. . If you are overweight, you should...

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Научитесь распознавать симптомы варикоза. Старайтесь не стоять подолгу. Не кладите одну ногу на другую, когда сидите. Занимайтесь физическими упражнениями Сбросьте лишний вес Бросьте курить


If you are talking to a friend who is acting jealously toward you, use “I statements” to help you communicate your feelings with him. Start by saying “I feel” and then describe your feelings in relation to one specific thing that person has done or said.  For example, you can say, “I feel uncomfortable when you say mean things about my other friends, because it makes me feel like you want to be my only friend.” The “I feel” statement should not be followed up or changed in a way that makes it not about your own feelings. For example, do not say things like “I feel like you,” “You make me feel,” or “It makes me feel.” These statements take away from your ownership of your feelings. For example, "You make me feel uncomfortable" is not specific. Additionally, it blames your feelings on someone else. Here are a few words you can use to convey your feelings: pressured, anxious, nervous, on-edge, afraid, confused, resentful, insecure, empty, mad, annoyed, etc. You should talk about only the behaviors you can observe and not what you assume the motives for the behavior are. This is the best way to deal with a problem like this because it allows you to accurately express your feelings without accusing the other person.  For example, if your friend tells you that you are his best friend in a way that makes you feel obligated to say it back, say “I feel pressured to say you are my best friend when you tell me I am your best friend several times in one night.” Do not say "You are trying to force me to say you are my best friend." Avoid using labels, over-generalizing, threatening, moralizing, giving ultimatums, mind-reading, or making assumptions when you talk about the behavior of the other person. For example, don’t say, “I feel uncomfortable when you try to force me to call you my best friend.” This is called mind-reading, and it means you assume that you understand what is going on inside of the other person's head. Talking about his behavior in terms of a specific action can make the person feel less resentful and...

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Поделитесь с человеком своими чувствами. Опишите, какое именно поведение вызывает у вас такие чувства. Объясните, как именно поступки этого человека влияют на вас, или скажите, как вы склонны из интерпретировать.


If you are the cheating party, you need to end your affair completely before you can expect to have any chance of healing your relationship with your partner or spouse.  This step is non-negotiable. If you cheated with a co-worker, for example, you may need to consider seeking re-assignment or even finding a new job.  An affair that started at the gym or in another social setting may require you to change your social habits. Tell your partner what happened and why. You can tell your partner the intimate details of the sexual experience if he or she asks, but it could be too painful to reveal at first. Your partner may not want to know at all. This should be a choice your partner makes, and you should abide by your partner's wishes.  Your partner is likely to lash back when presented with your painful admission.  While your infidelity will form the core of your partner's hurt, you may find yourself confronted with a whole range of issues as your partner seeks to express his or her pain.  If your partner has ever had an affair, news of that infidelity is likely to surface during this initial exchange.  Responding with disclosure of this information may be the closest weapon your partner has at his or her disposal.  Be prepared for such an admission, and remember that if you feel hurt by disclosure of such information, your hurt is paralleled by your partner's pain regarding your own infidelity.  You'll both have significant healing to do. Spend time diagnosing the reason for your infidelity.  A wide variety of reasons may have contributed to your affair, from low self-esteem, alcoholism, and sex addiction to the pressures of marital problems or perceived deficiencies in your committed relationship.  Conventional wisdom once argued that infidelity was always a sign of something missing in a relationship; it is important to recognize that professionals now believe this is only one among many reasons why people cheat.  Regardless of your reason for cheating, you should never blame your partner for your decision. ...

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Перестаньте обманывать и изменять. Внесите в свою жизнь необходимые изменения, которые помогут вам физически отстраниться от того, с кем у вас была интрижка. Будьте честны со своим партнером. Будьте честны с самим собой.