Talk about why it’s nice to have flexibility and time in your schedule. While you may not have children, you do have time to pursue your goals and interests. For example, attending a 9 pm movie or weekend away is stress-free and painless.  Say, “I know that not having children means I miss some things. But it also means I gain other things, and I really enjoy that.” You can also say to your brother, “Not having kids of my own means I can be a great Uncle to your kids.” It’s true you can’t ‘have it all,’ but you can take the best of what you have. Not having children means you can put more time and effort into your partnership and/or friendships. Instead of spending your time shuttling children to sports practice and school activities, you can deepen your other relationships and be more present in the lives of others.  Say, “I love being available to babysit your kids and spend time with you and my other friends.” If you have a partner, say, “Not having children means that my spouse and I spend a lot of quality time together. We also have more intimate, adult conversations without worrying about our kids hearing them." Many people choose not to have children due to environmental reasons--they may not want to contribute to overpopulation. Every human being on the planet consumes resources and creates waste. However environmentally friendly people try to be, everyone uses resources that the world is running out of. We all have a carbon footprint, and one way to reduce your impact on the planet is to refrain from bringing another person into the world.  Let your friends and family know that you care about the environment and don’t want to contribute to greater strain. For example, say, “Raising a child currently takes a big toll on the environment and drains resources. I know I use more than I’d like to, and adding a child in the mix doesn’t feel right to me.” Unless there's a reason for you to consider having children, such as a romantic partner who really wants them, there's no reason for you to defend your...

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Подчеркните, чем именно вам нравится выбранный образ жизни. Сконцентрируйтесь на отношениях. Поговорите об окружающей среде. Объясните, что вы не видите себя в роли родителя.


Talk about your girlfriend as you would any other friend. This in itself that may lead them to figure it out.  This can also be a way to get them more comfortable with the idea of you hanging out with girls (if that is not something you have done much before) or having a girlfriend.  You can say something like this:  “My friend Jessica and I are going to the movies tonight…” “Oh, Jessica’s giving me a ride to the party. You know, she's Hugo's sister and plays field hockey.” “Jessica just gave me this new book. She’s always right about my taste. I totally love it so far.” This is best done earlier in the relationship. Mentioning later that you have been dating a girl for a few months--and they have never even heard her name--that will tend to be more surprising and possibly upsetting. You may have been doing this all along and not realize it. It is best to find an appropriate moment to tell your parents about your girlfriend in order to maximize your chance of getting get the most positive reaction. What this would be will depend on a lot of things, including your parent(s), your culture, what is going on in your family, and and so on.  Try to find a time when they are both free and relatively unstressed. However, with some parents that may be easier said than done.  You can decide whether you want to tell them both together, or if you should tell one parent who may have a better reaction first. If you think they will both have a similar reaction, then telling them at the same time may be easier. Try not to worry too much about getting things "exactly right". There may not (and probably will not) be a perfect time to announce your newly found status as a boyfriend. Go for a time and place that seems reasonable. It is your parent's responsibility to handle your news, not yours. Having your first girlfriend is a rite of passage as much as needing your first shave or getting a driver's license. These are things you are supposed to do, and if your parents do not handle it well, that is not your fault. It is their...

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Намеки. Нужное время и место. Не бросайте учебу или другие ваши интересы ради вашей подруги. Учитывайте тот факт, что ваши родители, возможно, уже догадались о вашей девушке. Расскажите об этом вашей подруге. Представьте положительный результат.


Talk somewhere quiet and calm, where neither you nor the other person will get distracted or overwhelmed. Turn off any radios or televisions in the background so you can hear each other. Sit somewhere the older person can see your face clearly, so they can read your lips if they need to. Enunciate your words distinctly, speak loudly enough to be easily heard, and don’t talk too fast. Don’t shout at the person, though, unless they ask you to speak up more. If the elderly person has trouble following what you’re saying, you may need to slow down or use shorter sentences. This doesn’t mean you should talk down to the older person, though. If you’re offering the older person something or trying to find out what they want to do, give them two or three choices. This will give them a sense of control over the situation without overwhelming them with too many options. For instance, don’t just say, “Where would you like to go today?” Instead, say, “Would you rather go to the park or a coffee shop?” Meet the older person’s eyes when they’re talking to you, even if you are having a hard time understanding them. Making eye contact shows the person that you’re paying attention to them and care about what they’re saying. During your conversation, the elderly person may need to pause to find the right word, recover their train of thought, or reminisce about something. Wait patiently for them to finish talking. Don’t try to complete their sentence for them or find the word they’re looking for unless they ask you to. If the elderly person has dementia or gets confused easily, make sure they understand when you are leaving. Say goodbye to them and tell them when they can expect to see you again. Giving them a hug or a handshake is another good way to signal the end of the conversation.

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Подберите хорошую обстановку для разговора. Говорите разборчиво. Предоставляйте выбор. Поддерживайте зрительный контакт. Дайте собеседнику время поразмыслить. Дайте знать пожилому человеку, что вы уходите.


Talk to a family member or friend and ask what they most need help with and offer your services. By offering before they need to ask you, you are showing that you care about them.  Remember to follow through with whatever they've asked of you. Simply asking won't actually help them. Make a routine of asking around your circle of friends and family for what they need. Before long, helping others will simply be second nature to you! Often what people need is simply someone who will listen to them with kindness and without judgement. When someone is telling you about themselves, or a hardship they are going through, don't simply leap in with your own feelings, thoughts, and stories.  Practice active listening. When you're listening to someone, stay focused on what they are saying. Look at the speaker and let go of distracting thoughts. If your mind wanders, the other person will notice and they won't feel like you are paying attention.  Try to avoid making judgments on the person you're listening to. Not only will that close up the conversation, but it will make the other person feel as if they can't trust you with their thoughts. When someone is busy or stressed chores and jobs often slip through the cracks. Find out from your family and friends what they're too busy or stressed to do for themselves and set aside some time to do the chore or job for them.  Do something like, make a meal and bring it over to their house during a particularly busy or stressful time, so they don't have to worry about feeding themselves. This is a particularly kind thing to do for someone who has just had a loved one die, or become seriously ill. Offer to watch your younger siblings, or friend's children for free to give the parents a much needed break. A lot of times people can feel cut off from their friends and family and very alone. Just let a friend or family member know that you're thinking of them and that they are important to you. It doesn't have to be a big, grand gesture, something small will do fine.  Write a nice email...

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Спросите, чем вы могли бы помочь. Слушайте. Предлагайте выполнять какие-либо поручения или домашние дела. Отправьте человеку что-нибудь, показав, что вы думаете о нем.


Talk to a licensed mental health professional. Domestic violence is not a simple life challenge to live through. Often, there are many reasons why people find themselves in domestic violence situations, many of them stemming from childhood. The way to arrest the cycle of abuse is to get professional help right away. Seek out or ask your therapist to help you find a local domestic violence support group and attend as soon as possible to begin the process of healing.  To find a psychologist in your area, visit: http://locator.apa.org/  Finding support can help you heal emotionally and plan ahead for your future. Both of these are very important for building up your happiness and self-worth.  Surround yourself with positive influences, making new supportive friends, and spending time building yourself back up in the company of people who have your best interests at heart. Tell yourself, even if you do not believe it at the moment, that you are important. Stop believing what your abuser has been telling you about yourself. You are worthy, you do have rights, and your happiness is important. If you have trouble believing this, make a list of your strengths as evidence of your value. Ask your loved ones or therapist to contribute to this list.  One way to build your self-worth is by taking up a new hobby that allows you to express yourself while gaining mastery at something new. Try something new like a dance class, art class, poetry, drawing, or photography. You can even do simpler things to boost your self-esteem such as wearing clothes that make you feel good about yourself, caring for your personal hygiene, or making a list of your strengths and most worthy achievements.  If you feel like your self esteem is getting lower and not higher, remember that it may be a long and rocky process to improve your self-worth. After all, you have been put down for a long time and it can take a while for your inner self to feel worthy and back in control. Just make sure you do become a member of a group and continue to get...

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Не страдайте молча. Старайтесь восстановить самооценку. Контролируйте свой гнев Проводите время с теми, кого любите.


Talk to a professional about your treatment plan. Every head of hair has its own history and its own needs. If you plan to bleach in a salon, the stylist who will bleach your hair may agree to see you for a quick consultation free of charge.  You may need multiple visits before your hair is bleached to the right shade. Talking to your stylist beforehand will help you decide. Some questions you can ask include: "Will this damage my hair badly? What products should I be using before and after I bleach it? Will it take more than one appointment to get to the color I want?" Have your stylist test bleach on a strand of your hair. If you are planning to bleach your hair at home, test the bleach on your hair a few days before you bleach. If you are unsatisfied with the color or texture of the strand, take yourself in and consult with a stylist. Ask the stylist if the salon sells any Olaplex treatment products. These salon-grade products are designed to protect and rebuild hair before, during, and after intense chemical treatments like bleaching. If you recently treated your hair with any chemicals, wait to bleach. If you have recently dyed, highlighted, permed, or relaxed your hair, wait a minimum of two weeks before bleaching. For best hair health, wait a month or longer before you bleach. Wait even longer if your hair reacted strongly to the treatment.  Hair that is already suffering (brittle, dry, breaking) should not be bleached. Keep in mind that the darker your hair is, the more damage it will sustain in the bleaching process. People with darker hair tend to have more trouble both getting their hair to the desired shade (because there's so much difference between the starting and finishing shades). Long term bleaching can also cause thinning and irreparable damage. Because the bleaching process is less arduous on lighter coloured hair, these effects are not as common though the risks are still there, because less bleach is used and often less frequently. Reduce or stop using a curling iron, hot rollers, flat...

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Проконсультируйтесь с парикмахером. Подождите, пока ваши волосы восстановятся. Сократите использование нагревательных инструментов за неделю до осветления. Перестаньте мыть голову. Используйте только качественные средства.


Talk to another person besides your friend to help figure out what you are feeling, and to figure out what steps to take. The listening ear of another close friend or a trusted mentor may help you clarify what you want to do.  Ask for your friend/mentor’s perspective on the situation, and what they would do if they were in your shoes. You could ask, “What would you do if you were gay and had a crush on your friend?” If you and your confidant have this friend in common, he or she may be able to help you figure out how your crush will take the news. Of course, you want to be talking to a person you trust, who will not be spreading your personal business to others. You probably don’t want your crush to find out your feelings from someone else. For example, you might say to a mutual friend, “I think I have feelings for Tom. I really want to tell him, because we’re such great friends, and I think we would be such a good couple. But I don’t know if it’s a good idea. What do you think? You’ve known him as long as I have, and I’d appreciate your point of view.” After you tell your friend you’re gay, pay close attention to their behavior when they’re around you for a while. Keep in mind that their initial behavior towards you may not be their genuine feelings towards you, especially if your announcement was a shock to them. You may want to wait a period of weeks or months before you take the next step. Watch their body language around you. If they are leaning towards you, smiling, or even acting flirtatiously toward you, they may be receptive toward your feelings. Conversely, if you find them moving away from you or not making eye contact, they still may be adjusting to you telling them you’re gay. You may want to wait until they are more comfortable with you, or not say anything at all. If you know for a fact that your friend is straight or has another sexuality that is not compatible with yours, it might not be worth the risk of ruining a friendship by sharing your feelings. If you are unsure of your friend’s...

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Поговорите с кем-нибудь. Понаблюдайте за отношениями с другом. Учитывайте сексуальную ориентацию вашего друга. Определитесь, хотите ли вы признаться в своих чувствах. Проиграйте в голове различные сценарии. Представьте худший из возможных исходов и решите, стоит ли рисковать.


Talk to any friends or acquaintances you have in common and ask them if they happen to know when the person’s birthday is. Even if they can’t tell you off the top of their head, they may offer to try and find out for you, which will keep you from having to ask the person yourself.  Try saying something like “I think Richard’s birthday is coming up soon. Would you happen to know what day it’s on?” If you’re planning on surprising the person, be sure to mention it to your connection. Otherwise, they might let the cat out of the bag accidentally. A coworker will likely have the information you’re looking for, especially if they’ve worked with the person for multiple years. If not, speak with your boss in private and request their help in finding out. They may be able to consult the company’s employee records on your behalf. You might also be able to discover a coworker’s birthday in the process of seeking permission to throw an office party for them. Try asking something like, “Would it be alright if we planned a small party for Naomi’s birthday? Do you know exactly what day it is?” If the person is a close friend, appeal to one of their relatives. It’s as simple as saying “I’m drawing a complete blank. When is John’s birthday again?” Chances are, they’ll be more than happy to jog your memory. You should only reach out to someone’s family members if you’ve known them personally and have had contact with them in the past. Otherwise, your harmless request may be perceived as an invasion of privacy.

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Обратитесь к общим друзьям. Спросите у начальника или сотрудников, если вы вместе работаете. Обратитесь к родственникам человека, если вы хорошо знакомы.


Talk to family and friends about simple changes they can make, and why they should do so to help protect the environment.  You don’t have to lecture or preach (but if that’s what works with your family, go for it); show them that you have thought a lot about the subject, are passionate about making a difference, and really could use their support.  Take advantage of all the new social media technologies that your parents can't keep up with.  It's easier now than ever before to connect with people all over the world.  Find out how environmental destruction impacts all of us everywhere, and discuss ways to stop it. You might want to mention the notion of “sustainable happiness,” which focuses in part on how interconnected we all truly are.  You parents will know how serious you are if they realize you’ve done research! There are numerous national organizations dedicated to protecting endangered species, cutting greenhouse gas emissions, preserving clean water supplies, and so on.  But there are also probably local environmental groups doing things like planting native trees or setting up hard-to-recycle pickups in your own neighborhood. Is there an environmental club at your school?  If not, round up some buddies who know the importance of the issue and start one.  You can do some good and make your college applications look a little better at the same time. No, you probably can’t vote for them yet, but most of them want to remain in office long after you’ve turned 18.  And they want your parents’ votes right now anyway.  Depending on their respective offices, ask them to support legislation to reduce carbon emissions or protect endangered species, or to back local measures like curbside recycling or plastic shopping bag fees.  Get in the habit of demanding action from your representatives when you are young and it will be easier to do so when you’re older. Regardless of what some adults may think, teens can have great ideas too.  When you have one, put your youthful energy to good use.   Your idea might be as...

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Повышайте осведомленность граждан. Присоединитесь к группе защитников окружающей среды. Обращайтесь к выборным должностным лицам. Не бойтесь действовать.


Talk to government officials in your area to see if there are any assistance programs available to you. Consider these programs a temporary way to give your finances a boost in order to prepare you for future success. Make sure to follow all guidelines involved with the program. For example, there are many government grants available to small business owners. Some of these grants can help you to start over with a new business even if you lack the initial funding. Check with the Small Business Association (SBA) for more details. Tell your friends and relatives about your goals and your plans to start over. See if they have any suggestions or advice. They might also be able to provide you will additional resources, financial or otherwise, to help you get on your feet.  Be aware that your story and choices may also help others to make positive changes in their own life. For example, you might have a friend who is struggling with credit card debt and could use any information that you learn about paying it down. When talking to your friends and family members you might say, “I have very little money to work with, but I’m planning to get a job in an industry that guarantees regular pay and insurance as well.” Living expenses can very quickly destroy your budget and ability to save. If you have a friend or family member who is willing to let you “couch surf” for a while, you might consider this as a viable option. It will allow you to save up money and give you enough time to find a living situation that suits your frugal lifestyle. You may also find that you are not the only person living in someone else’s home, especially in big cities. It is quite common for people to open their home’s to others searching for paid work in crowded, competitive areas. Every time that you talk with someone, try to consider how they could work as a professional contact for you. This may sound mercenary, but considering these connections can also make it possible for you to help them as well. When you are out in public, try to talk...

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Воспользуйтесь преимуществами государственных программ. Попросите помощи у друзей и родственников. Подумайте о том, чтобы пожить у друга. Создавайте множество профессиональных связей. Поговорите с психотерапевтом.


Talk to her and listen to her. Ask her about her family and where she grew up, her religion and politics, and what she likes to do for fun. Don’t be critical or rude about her answers: they are hers, not yours! Respect her ideas, her opinions, and her beliefs. Girls like it when you treat them like people. If you want girls to find you attractive, respecting them as people is a great place to start. For example, ask her about her favorite hobby, and then ask her how she got into that hobby. This is a great way to work into talking about where and how she grew up, her family, etc. She likes Metallica….you like Metallica…..bam! You now have something to talk about! Ask her about the music she listens to, the movies she watches, and the things she does in her spare time. Find some common ground and you will have a great way to get to know each other and bond. If we guaranteed you wouldn’t get friend-zoned, we’d be lying. But being friends with a girl and showing her what a wonderful person you are is the best way to attract her. Show her how happy she’d be with you and then see how much happier you are with her. Be supportive when she is having a hard day, help take her mind off of her problems, be available when she needs help, and listen to her when she talks. Don’t stare at her and then avoid eye contact. Don’t hover around her and then never actually manage to say anything. Don’t stare at….certain parts of her anatomy (however tempting). Don’t make weird sexual advances if you don’t know her well and definitely don’t use pick up lines. Things like this will freak her out and definitely make you a lot less attractive.

TL;DR in Russian:

Узнайте ее. Найдите то, что вас объединяет. Будьте хорошим другом. Не ведите себя странно.


Talk to her friends and family if you already have an established relationship. If you have never spoken to them before, you may need to take extra time to establish a new dynamic. Always be respectful when you speak to anyone in her circle as it will reflect on you later.  You can also be direct and open as to why you are talking to them; however, know that they may quickly tell her or pass their own judgement and refuse to help you. Don’t lie about who you are. Be honest about everything because if she finds out that she, or anyone in her close circle, has been manipulated then you will have blown your chance. Her friends and family are her first line of defence so it is important to put your best foot forward whenever you speak to them. Don’t be rude or awkward as this can quickly be exaggerated when they talk to her about you. If she is in a different social circle, find common ground to get your foot in the door. Endear yourself to the members so that you get invited to one of their activities or to help ease your transition into their circle. People can tell if you are trying to put on pretense. It will take a lot of energy to keep up a charade so don’t even bother trying to manufacture yourself into someone you think her family or friends may think is good for her. She also won’t appreciate that you think you have to go through such lengths to get to know her. Make sure you have established a comfortable dynamic where you know them well enough that it doesn’t feel awkward to ask. You don’t want to ask too early and have her family be defensive or her girlfriend think that you are making conversation with her because you like her, and have her feel embarrassed after you ask about her friend. You also don’t want to ask a male friend and have it turn out to be her boyfriend. Say something nonchalant similar to, “So what’s Kimmy’s Story?” This keeps things ambiguous so it doesn’t seem like you’re asking for yourself.

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Будьте тактичны. Произведите хорошее впечатление. Будьте собой и сохраняйте уверенность. Спросите у друзей и родственников девушки, есть ли у нее парень.


Talk to him about his interests, his family, music tastes, etc. Find out if any of his interests and your interests overlap.  Don't forget to actually listen! Bring up details he said later on in conversation to prove that you're a good listener. (Don't overdo this or you'll seem like a stalker.)  Try to find things you have in common. Do you both play guitar or love the same bands? Suggest that you jam together! Do you both play sports? Ask him to play a pickup game sometime. It may take a bit of practice to know what makes him click but stick with it. Take the things that he likes to do and be sure to make an appearance.  Does he do sports? Go to his games or tournaments and cheer him on. Ask him when it's going to be, and wish him luck if you can't come. See if he tries to spot you in the stands! Encourage him when he is down: All guys have some down moments, so cheer him up. Showing him that you care will make him more likely to care about you. Do not say another boy is "hot" or go on about someone else. He might think you like the other boy and not him. If you like multiple boys at the same time, decide on which boy which you want to pursue and only go after him. Or, have a lot of friends and don't focus on one boy! It's not like you are going to get married! It's fun to have a lot of friends and not have to worry about treating anyone one of them differently because you don't like them all the same. If your crush finds out that you like two guys at the same time, he might not feel that he was special in your mind. If there's a subject you excel at and he's struggling with, offer to help him. If the opposite is true, ask him for help. This will lead to more one-on-one time and an overall better relationship with him. You probably already know this, but don't plan on getting a lot of work done during these study sessions. Your attention is going to be spent elsewhere, and that's okay! Just prepare for your exam a day or two ahead if you can. However, you should make sure that you DO get some work done. It...

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Узнайте о нем как можно больше. Поддерживайте его. Занимайтесь вместе.


Talk to people who are affected by the problem. Read what other people have written about the problem. This may lead you towards a better understanding of what is causing the problem and possibly even a solution.  For example, if you are looking for a new apartment because of the cost, you might notice that other people have run into a similar issue. This could help you to see that the high cost of living in that neighborhood is central to your problem. If you are trying to determine why children in your community are going hungry, read what other people have written about it. If a common theme is the distribution of food benefits, then this is likely central to the problem. You may or may not know what has caused the problem. Either way, take some time to figure it out and write it down. There may be multiple causes that you should be aware of before you try to solve the problem.  For example, if the high cost of a neighborhood is driven by the location and safety of the area, then these might be worth paying a little extra money for. Consider if you can find a way to work it into your budget, such as by cutting back on entertainment or another expense. If you are trying to define the problem of child hunger, then a possible cause might be a lack of access to affordable food in the community. Not working towards a solution to the problem could lead to far worse problems in the future. Take the time to consider the potential consequences of this problem continuing. Make a list of the pros and cons of the problem continuing to determine how you might tweak the negative aspects of it. In some cases, there may be more negative aspects of solving the problem than allowing it to continue.  For example, if you try to stay in an apartment you cannot afford, then you may struggle from month to month and end up in an even worse financial situation later on. If the problem of child hunger is not solved, then children may suffer from malnutrition and psychological trauma, which could affect them for the rest of their...

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Ищите закономерности в описании проблемы другими людьми. Уточните возможные причины проблемы. Определите возможные последствия проблемы. Определите аспекты, которые можно изменить.


Talk to people you trust or go online to find a good dentist. Referrals from friends or families will ensure you can trust your experience. Because you are not likely to be qualified to determine if you indeed have a cavity, you will need a dentist to do this. Make sure you get it checked out so as to avoid more damage to your teeth. This will help them to focus on those spots. If the cause of your worry or discomfort is not a cavity, the dentist may still be able to help. Try to be as specific as you can be and explain when and how you feel the pain. Let your dentist know if your feel sharp pain while they are examining your teeth. This physical probing of your teeth will enable the dentist to tell if you have a cavity. They will poke and prod in different locations to test the strength and damage at any spot. Make sure your dentist does a thorough examination on any tooth that gives you problems. This may reveal cavities or other issues. When cavities form between your teeth, it is not always easy to tell they are there. In these situations, a dentist cannot probe with a dental tool. They will not fit between your teeth. In this case, a dentist can take an x-ray to reveal the presence of any cavities. If you feel that you have a cavity, you may wish to have your dentist take an x-ray to find out the extent of the damage.

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Найдите хорошего стоматолога. Расскажите стоматологу о проблемных участках. Позвольте стоматологу внимательно осмотреть ваши зубы. Сделайте рентген зубов.


Talk to students in more advanced classes, or better yet, fluent Japanese speakers who have lived in or are from Japan. Speaking Japanese with someone who is fluent will help your pronunciation and clue you in to intricacies of the language that are impossible to pick up from a textbook.  Start a Japanese discussion group that meets at least twice a week. Plan to speak only in Japanese for a full hour. Each meeting can have a theme, or you could simply talk for an hour on any subject in Japanese. Plan excursions with Japanese speakers so that you can practice speaking in different contexts and situations. For example, take a trip to the botanical garden and focus on learning Japanese words for different plants and trees. Speak with Japanese speakers a little bit each day, even when you aren't meeting for a group discussion. Give someone a call and converse only in Japanese, or drop by your professor's office hours for a little extra practice. This is an excellent way to learn more about Japanese language when you aren't able to spend time with Japanese speakers. Replace your regular shows with anime and watch at least one Japanese movie a week to immerse yourself in the language at home.   Rashomon, Seven Samurai, and Spirited Away are popular Japanese movies. You can start by watching the films with subtitles, but you'll get a better immersion experience if you turn them off and focus instead on the Japanese sounds and pronunciation. Taking a trip to Japan and spending as much time there as possible is the best way to learn Japanese, period. If you can arrange it, find a way to work or study there for 6 months or more so you can spend time soaking in the language and practicing all day long.  If you're enrolled in a college or university, look into study abroad programs in Japan. You may be able to take classes there for a semester or more. You could also try to work there for a few months or longer. The organization WWOOF, which stands for World Wide Opportunities on Organic Farms, lets you work on a farm...

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Проводите время с людьми, которые говорят по-японски. Смотрите фильмы и телешоу на японском. Изучайте японский язык в Японии.


Talk to the administrators or principal at your school before you begin selling slime. Ask if you are allowed to sell slime on school grounds, and be sure to follow any other rules or guidelines that the administrator or principal gives you. If other students at your school are also selling slime, you should differentiate your product from theirs. Offer colors, textures, or scents that are not available anywhere else. For example, if no one else offers clear slime, add it to your product list. Or, make bubbly slime so that your product has a unique texture. To further avoid competition, offer your slime for a lower price than your competitors. Create fliers with a description of the product, the price of the slime, and your contact information. Pass them out before and after school or in between classes. You could also recruit some friends to help you make posters and display them around the school, with the principal’s permission. It’s best to use a computer program, like a word processor or spreadsheet, to keep track of all the orders. Include the date of the order, the customer’s name, the type of slime (if you sell several), the amount of slime (if you have various quantities), the price, when/how the customer paid, and when/how the slime was delivered. Alternatively, you could write slime orders in a notebook, if preferred. Let your customers know how soon they can expect the slime if you don’t have what they want in stock. Make sure to stick to what you said, or people may start to buy their slime elsewhere.

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Убедитесь, что вам разрешено продавать товар на территории школы. Избежите конкуренции, предлагая уникальных лизунов по более низкой цене. Разрекламируйте своего лизуна. Отслеживайте заказы на лизунов. Доставьте лизуна.


Talk to the other TED event attendees on a casual basis during time away from the event stage. This will let you get to know how well your actual audience matches with your imagined audience and also provide some familiar faces in the crowd when you go on stage. Although you may have revised the content and presentation of your talk a number of times based on the feedback you've gotten from rehearsing it, once you have a style you're comfortable with, stick with it. Don't make any last-minute changes to your delivery. While you've spent time creating and refining your message, it's not for the sake of the information but about sharing it and your enthusiasm for it with your audience.

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Узнайте заранее, какой будет ваша публика. Придерживайтесь запланированного стиля лекции. Помните, почему вы выступаете на мероприятии TED.


Talk to the other person about what you are willing to do to improve the situation. Give specific and realistic examples of what you will do to make it up to them. Most importantly, ask the other person what they need from you to rebuild trust and honor what they need.  If you broke someone’s trust due to infidelity and you both agree you want to stay in your marriage, your partner may have many questions and requests. They may ask you to end the affair, and if you haven’t already this is something you should do first. Your partner may also ask you about details of the affair, and in rebuilding trust it’s important to answer their questions honestly. Do not keep secrets. Your partner might also ask you to check-in more frequently about where you go and who you spend time with, or pay closer attention to your phone calls and emails. Do not be defensive against these requests. Your natural inclination may be to avoid talking about the betrayal because of feelings of shame or embarrassment, but seeking help from a therapist or other professional will be healing.  If the broken trust occurred due to infidelity, commit to going to individual counseling, marriage counseling, couples counseling, or marriage education courses if your partner is willing. A licensed professional can help you address the underlying causes of the infidelity and other issues in your relationship. With counseling, you can establish healthier boundaries, expectations, and communication styles in a safe environment. It can take a year or more in counseling to work on broken trust in your relationship. Be patient and engaged in therapy, but keep in mind that it will be tough emotional work. Outside of counseling sessions, strive to connect by paying attention to how the other person is feeling, being open to talking about feelings, and trying to understand their perspective even if it’s different from yours.give you  If you are unsure of how to communicate with your loved one, some good keys to communication are using I-statements such as “I...

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Возьмите полную ответственность за свои действия. Обратитесь за помощью. Общайтесь. Осознайте, что все отношения проходят через неудачи.


Talk to trusted friends and family and ask them to be there for moral support and encouragement. Let them know what you’re going through. They should be only too happy to help you.  You might ask your supporters for specific things. For instance, you could ask them not to smoke or use nicotine products around you. They might be able to have your favorite healthy snack around whenever you visit. You may also just want a sympathetic ear. Ask if you can vent or call them if you’re in a moment of weakness. Arm yourself with more support than just family and friends. There are plenty of smoking and nicotine cessation support groups available. Find one and share your experiences with other people who know exactly what you’re going through.  Look online or in the phone book for smoking and nicotine support groups in your area. Call for more information or go to a first meeting in person. There may also be online support groups held in chat rooms if you can't physically get to a meeting. For example, Nicotine Anonymous is a non-profit, 12-step program on the lines of Alcoholics Anonymous.  Organizations like the American Cancer Society, the National Cancer Institute, and the National Institutes of Health can also provide you with listings of support groups. Your nicotine gum habit is either a psychological or physical dependence, maybe both, and might qualify as an addiction. Try setting up an appointment with a therapist or counselor who deals with addiction if you are serious about quitting, and she can help you kick it once and for all.  A counselor will offer you strategies to cope. For example, she might have you try Cognitive Behavioral Therapy or CBT. This will teach you to recognize your problematic behavior and to learn better alternatives.  Your therapist might have you talk about how gum chewing affects your life, for example, and its pros and cons. She can also teach you to moderate your cravings and avoid those “high-risk” situations to avoid a setback.

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Заручитесь поддержкой близких людей. Вступите в группу поддержки. Обратитесь к психологу.


Talk to your boss about reducing paper. Or, if you are a manager, figure out ways to reduce the amount of paper used in the office.  Encourage the use of both sides of paper when printing and copying. Many office printers have a default setting to print on both sides of the paper, unless otherwise specified. Encourage everyone in the office to adjust the fonts, margins and spacing of their documents to fit more text on a standard sheet of paper. If someone needs to copy documents, tell the person to reduce the size of the documents so they require less sheets of paper. Keep a bin for waste paper and encourage people in the office to use the waste paper as scrap paper. Attach several sheets and cut them into post it sized pieces. Then, staple them together and hand them out to everyone in the office to use as “recycled” post it notes. Switch to chlorine-free paper products and use soy or other agri-based inks for printers and fax machines. Take advantage of the accessibility and efficiency of electronic communication and electronic data storage to reduce the paper use in the office on a day-to-day basis.  Programs such as Google Docs and AtTask are great ways to share files and information online, without having to print documents or use fax machines to send documents to people. You may also want to move the company’s files to an electronic data storage system to reduce the amount of paper in filing cabinets and in storage rooms. This will prevent the distribution of individual copies of announcements to everyone in the office and cut down on paper use. Many businesses receive mounds of unwanted mail, such as catalogs, advertisements and flyers. Unlike households, businesses can't simply register for a mail preference service to reduce junk mail. Instead, businesses must contact the mailers directly and ask to be removed from their mailing lists.  You can email or call the mailers and request to be removed for their mailing list. Be polite when you contact them. Most mailers will comply with your request. You...

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Предложите сотрудникам экономить бумагу. Используйте программы для хранения электронной почты и цифровых документов. Сделайте офисный стенд для объявлений. Сократите количество ненужной корреспонденции. Покупайте или арендуйте энергосберегающие мониторы. Поставьте в офисе корзины для разных видов мусора, которые нужно регулярно опорожнять. В столовой используйте многоразовые стаканы, тарелки и чашки. Утилизируйте пищевые отходы. Продавайте или отдавайте на благотворительность старую мебель и технику. Подвозите друг друга на работу, используйте общественный транспорт и велосипеды.


Talk to your doctor about removing the external stitches before they leave track marks, which are the small bumps that appear on either side of the incision. If possible, have your doctor remove the external stitches after one week to prevent any permanent scarring. For a more serious professional option, consider using targeted laser treatment to remove the stitch marks or stitch scarring. Using laser treatment on fresh scars, within six to eight weeks of the injury, can lead to a more effective treatment and removal of the scar. There are two types of laser treatments:  Pulsed dye lasers: This is a non-ablative laser treatment that uses an intense, targeted burst of light. The heat is then absorbed by the blood vessels in your skin and can help to improve the texture and thickness of scars. It can also reduce any redness around the scar. Fractional ablative lasers: This treatment pokes small holes into the scar. This stimulates collagen production and can remodel the scar to appear less noticeable. This type of laser treatment is recommended for shallow scars. Most laser treatments will require multiple treatment sessions and can cost between $300 to $600 per a session. If you experience any of these symptoms, as well as fever and increased pain around the stitch marks, you should go see your doctor. The stitch marks may be infected or you may have had an allergic reaction to the antibacterial cream. Your doctor will need to examine and treat the stitch marks to prevent further infection or complications.

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Снимите швы в течение недели. Проконсультируйтесь с врачом по поводу лазерной терапии. Обратитесь к врачу, если след от швов покраснеет, набухнет или появятся следы раздражения.


Talk to your doctor if you have unexplained vaginal bleeding, amniotic fluid leaking from your vagina, a multiple pregnancy, or a history of preterm labor. Your doctor may also discuss placenta previa with you, which is when the placenta covers the cervical opening. These conditions may make you more prone to complications, and pelvic rest may be recommended. If you have a new partner or are not monogamous, practice safe sex during pregnancy with condoms and dental dams. Bacteria and viral infections from sexually transmitted diseases can affect your pregnancy and growing baby. Avoid lying flat on your back in the second and third trimesters. In this position, your growing uterus puts pressure on a major artery in your body, which may reduce blood flow to your baby and make you feel lightheaded. Instead, try to lie on your left side. Ask your partner not to blow air into your vagina during oral sex. In rare cases, this puff of air can block an artery, potentially harming the baby. Air blocking an artery in this way is called an air embolism. Try other forms of intimacy in the third trimester if your partner has cold sores (HSV1) or genital herpes (HSV2). Herpes can cause neonatal herpes when a mother with no antibodies is infected for the first time in late pregnancy. While herpes is mostly a minor nuisance for adults, it can be fatal in infants. Ask your doctor about oral suppression medication for you and/or your partner.  People with oral herpes (cold sores) can transfer the virus to the genitals of a partner during oral sex, particularly if they have an active sore. It’s best to avoid performing oral sex on a pregnant mother.  If you don’t have herpes, be sure to use a condom each time you have sex when you are pregnant. Even if your partner doesn’t have symptoms, you could still contract herpes if you don’t use protection.  Refrain from having sex when your partner has an outbreak at any time during your pregnancy.  If you and your partner have the same strain of herpes, there is no risk in engaging in...

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Проконсультируйтесь с врачом и узнайте, протекает ли беременность с какими-либо рисками. Если вы не состоите в моногамных отношениях, пользуйтесь презервативами. После первого триместра лучше не лежать на спине. Избегайте попадания потока воздуха во влагалище. Не занимайтесь сексом в третьем триместре, если у вашего партнера герпес. Воздержитесь от анального секса перед вагинальным.


Talk to your family directly about why you feel more comfortable when you’re naked. Make it known that you don’t take issue with the ways that they choose to unwind, and that they should at least be considerate of yours. They may not understand at first, but you can help put them at ease with your decision by being direct.  Explain that being naked is a healthy way of expressing appreciation for your body. Be ready for your family members to disagree with your philosophy. Not everyone feels the same way about being naked around others. Pacify whatever protests may arise by sharing your belief that going nude is freeing. There’s nothing inherently dirty or immoral about being naked. And, since you’re family, you should already be used to seeing one another at your least presentable. Getting used to various levels of nudity around your family members might even make you feel closer. If you don’t treat nudity as an ugly, profane thing, there won’t be any reason to feel shame when you or a loved one isn’t wearing clothes. Your family might be accepting of your habit, but there may be certain times when they feel it’s inappropriate. Compromise by coming up with a set of conditions about when, where and around whom it’s acceptable to be naked. It might be okay if it’s just you at home, or if you keep it confined to your bedroom and bathroom. However, you should plan on putting something on when the grandparents come to visit or your parents are hosting a dinner party. You should always make sure there are boundaries in place, even when it’s just your family around. Remember, you’re not the only person living in the house. Despite your insistence, your family simply might not like the idea of you walking around naked. Be conscientious and respect their wishes. You can still go naked when you’re alone, but you shouldn’t force anyone else to witness it. There’s a time and place for everything—it just may not be under a shared roof. The people around you have just as much of a right not to have to see you naked as you...

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Будьте откровенны о своем поведении. Сделайте акцент на том, что нагота — это естественно. Разработайте соглашение. Знайте, когда нужно прикрыться.


Talk to your hedgehog any time you hold, feed, or bathe your hedgehog. This helps him get used to your voice and associate your voice with comfort and safety. Always use a calm reassuring tone.  If your hedgehog balls up or raises his quills, you may be speaking too loudly. Talk to your hedgehog when you give him a treat. This will help him associate your voice with something positive. Your hedgehog will enjoy the sound of music and find it soothing. Having music in the background helps your hedgehog adjust to his new environment as well. If there is a constant stream of music, your hedgehog will not be as startled by new sounds. If your hedgehog is accustomed to silence, he will be more afraid of sudden noises.  If a noise is loud to you, it is probably too loud for your hedgehog as well.  Observe the sounds your hedgehog is making towards you as well. If he is purring, he is happy and content. Your hedgehog will become overwhelmed if you introduce too many new sounds to him at once. If you are talking to him, try to talk without the TV or any music in the background. If you are watching TV, just let the television be the only sound that your hedgehog hears.  If you have frequent visitors or there are multiple people in your house, your hedgehog will have to get used to their voices as well. Even sounds such as opening and closing doors can be irritating to your hedgehog.

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Разговаривайте со своим ежиком. Пусть на заднем плане негромко играет музыка. К новым звукам ежика надо приучать постепенно.


Talk to your loved ones about what's happening at home. Ask them for financial assistance, a place to stay, or a shoulder to cry on, if you need that, too. If you are a male victim of domestic violence, you may feel embarrassed about the abuse. You shouldn't be. Keeping the abuse a secret will only lead to further isolation and lack of support. Professional counseling is a smart option for victims of abuse. Whether you decide to stay or leave, you may struggle to come to grips with your situation and feel confused as to how you should move forward. A counselor can offer practical guidance and support. Ask your family doctor for a referral to a mental health counselor or ask for recommendations from the staff at your domestic violence shelter. You may feel less isolated in your situation if you reach out to others who understand. Look up domestic violence support groups in your area or online. Group members may help you come to terms with the abuse and offer practical advice, such as learning to be a single parent or finding lawyers to handle a divorce. Abuse leaves emotional scars, even if the physical ones have healed. You can recover from domestic abuse by adopting healthy practices that help you to nurture and express yourself. Add nourishing physical activities to your daily routine like yoga, dance, or boxing. Do relaxation techniques, such as  deep breathing or  mindfulness meditation. You might also enjoy creative pursuits like writing, painting, coloring apps, or online puzzles or games.

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Свяжитесь с друзьями и членами семьи. Обратитесь к психологу. Вступите в группу поддержки. Создайте график по  уходу за собой, чтобы восстановиться.


Talk to your parents and agree on a method for removing your leg hair if they’re concerned about the safety of shaving. Buy razors with nourishing strips and multiple blades to avoid cuts, or opt for waxing or a hair removal cream like Veet to avoid razors altogether. You can also opt for electrolysis or laser hair removal treatment later in life, but this is definitely an option to wait on till you are older and have enough money for the procedure. Make a deal with your parents that you’ll do all the research about the health and safety risks of shaving and show them that you understand how to prevent those risks before you can start. Let them know that you understand shaving can cause razor burn or bumps, nicks and cuts, and even skin infections or painful ingrown hairs, and that you should use sharp and clean razors with shaving cream or soap and water to prevent these problems. Allow your parents to give you a short shaving lesson either from them, an older sister, or a video. Make them feel more comfortable with you shaving by letting them control the information you get about doing it safely. You can even offer or agree to have your parents there with you while you shave the first couple of times. Consider sacrificing a little bit of privacy for what you want. If you haven’t started shaving your underarm hair, ask your parents if you can start doing that first. Get them comfortable with the idea that you’re shaving at all by doing it to a smaller area of the body, and then they should soon work up to the idea of you shaving your legs, too. If you do already shave your underarm hair, you can use this to show your parents that you are already mature enough to shave safely. Make the point that doing the same to your legs is really no different. Make an agreement with your parents to pay for any of the equipment you need to start shaving, like a razor and razor blades, shaving cream or gel, waxing strips, or hair removal cream. Save up your own money from an allowance or job for this.  Offer to pay either...

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Удаляйте волосы тем методом, который одобрят родители. Покажите родителям, что вы знаете возможные риски. Согласитесь пройти обучение. Начните с волос на других участках. Предложите самостоятельно покрывать расходы. Предложите сбрить волосы на одном участке ноги. Будьте готовы подождать.


Talk to your professor after class or meet them at office hours. Meeting in person can allow you some time to talk to the professor outside of just saying thank you if you wish. It can also help the professor pair your name and face together.  If you want to create or maintain a professional relationship with your professor, you may want to thank them in person so that they get to know you better. Get right to the point and say “thank you” up front. This will make the intentions of the visit clear and direct. That way, your professor won’t be left wondering why you made contact with them. For example, say, “I wanted to express my gratitude for your class” or “Thank you for writing a letter of recommendation for me.” If there was something that really stood out to you about this professor or class, let them know. For example, mention a lecture you enjoyed, a field trip that taught you something, or an exchange that stuck with you. Mentioning something specific will show that you put thought into your thank you.   For example, say, “I’ll never forget the first lecture you gave. I knew I would learn a lot from this class because you went so in-depth on the very first day.” Now is not the time to be overly casual with your professor or to try to become friends with them. Be polite and professional. Also, don’t use your thank you as a way make a demand or be rude to your professor about something else.

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Подойдите к нему после занятий или в рабочее время. Начните разговор со слов благодарности. Изъясняйтесь конкретно. Ведите себя вежливо.


Talk to your tattoo artist about how long it's best to wait. Generally, though, you can shower within the first 24 hours after getting your new ink. Waiting 2 days gives your skin more time to form a barrier over the tattoo. Hot water can make your tattoo sting, so it's best to avoid it. Hot water too soon after getting a tattoo can also make you lose color from your tattoo, as it opens your pores, so it's best to avoid it. Try running cold water on the tattoo for 30 seconds at the end of your shower to tighten your pores. Don't use a hard spray on your tattoo, as it can irritate it. If you only have a shower head with a heavy spray, let the water run over the tattoo indirectly. You can also use a clean cup or your hand to pour a gentle stream of water over your tattoo. Any mild soap will do, including bar soap or liquid hand soap. You can use antibacterial soap if you prefer. Lather the soap in your hands, then apply it to the tattoo.  Just rub it in gently with your fingers. Avoid using loofahs and sponges until the tattoo heals, as they can carry bacteria. Your tattoo will likely have dried blood and other debris on it, which you need to remove. However, you should not scrub it, as that can irritate it. Once you rub the soap into your tattoo, pour water over it to rinse the soap off. If you need to, use your fingers to gently rub the soap off under the water. Hop out of the shower quickly. When in the shower, your tattoo comes in contact with steam, water, and soap. That can be painful and irritating for your tattoo, so avoid staying in the shower too long. Also, try to keep your tattoo out from under running water when washing the rest of your body for at least a week. Don't rub the tattoo with the towel, as that could irritate it. Simply dab at the tattoo gently, until it's dry. You may notice a little bit of blood, which is fine. You can use paper towels if you don't have a newly cleaned towel on hand or if your usual bath towel leaves fibers on your skin. Dirty towels can introduce bacteria.

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Подождите 24–48 часов. Используйте теплую воду. Включите мягкое распыление и не подставляйте татуировку под струи воды. Подушечками пальцев нанесите на кожу мягкое недушистое мыло. Аккуратно промойте татуировку водой. Мягко просушите татуировку чистым полотенцем.


Talk with a bank with whom you already have a positive relationship. Ask about what kind of business start-up loans they offer and how they can benefit your business. By using a bank you already know, the bank will have easy access to your financial records and will be more confident in investing with you. If the bank loans will not be enough, look into local investors. There may be a local business tycoon or other similarly wealthy person who would have a vested interest in seeing you succeed. Research people in your area who may have the funds and motivation to help you. Angels are high net worth individuals and venture capitalists are companies. Both fund a promising high risk venture for a stake (partnership) and often bring experience, management expertise and contacts to the table. They usually work through a network or association. People who know you for a long time are most likely to have faith in your ability and intentions. These are also the people who are likely to stand by you if the going gets tough in the initial stages of your venture or you need to raise more money. However, make it clear the money is intended as risk capital and they might lose it completely or may not be returned in the short term. If you still can't drum up enough funding, use websites to raise the money you need to start. These funding sources have several benefits: you will not have to pay interest on the money you get (since it is money which is used to provide actual product or services) and it will help you not only gauge interest in what you have to offer but also help you build a customer base. You'll start business with hundreds or thousands of customers already lined up and ready to tell other people about what you have to offer. No matter which source you raise funds from, be sure to provide key operating, strategic and accounting information to your financiers periodically, usually twice a year. It's a good idea to hold a board meeting if everyone can physically attend. If not, do it via teleconference.

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Обратитесь в банк. Найдите местных инвесторов. Используйте венчурный капитал или обратитесь к бизнес-ангелам. Попросите денег у друзей и родственников. Используйте краудфандинг. Отчет.


Talk with people about things you or they know about. Talking about politics, religion, and other challenging topics (having real discussions, not just arguments), can be a great basic brain workout.  You might even consider joining a group like Toastmasters since they cover a wide range of interests. Join a group or club for people with the same interests as you. This can be a hobby club, a political group, a discussion group, or anything like that. Talking with people with similar interests will get you using your brain and your skills. Phones can be a distraction when you are having a conversation with someone, so get into the habit of putting it away when you are socializing. Try putting your phone in another room, or shutting it off when you are socializing with friends. This will force you to focus on the conversation and work on improving your face-to-face communication skills. Doing volunteer work will not only improve your social connections, it will also provide you with opportunities to build new neurological pathways. Try volunteering at your local food bank, animal shelter, hospital, or nursing home.

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Разговаривайте с людьми. Станьте участником группы по интересам. Не держите телефон в руках во время бесед. Станьте волонтером.


Talk with the minister of your potential congregation about what you will need to do in both the long and short term. You can talk about whether or not a baptism is necessary. Or, if you will need other Christians as sponsors. You can also request that they lay out the timeline of necessary events. For example, in the Catholic faith, you must express your desire to be baptized and take on the label of “Catechumen.” You will then begin the process of learning about Catholicism, a period which can last for months. As you are exploring conversion and after you’ve converted, make sure to stay involved in your local church. Attend sermons and activities. Talk with your minister or pastor on a regular basis. You can also keep track of national and international developments in Christianity via the internet. Almost all Christian denominations embrace the idea of a “learning period” for those persons pursuing conversion and many churches even offer classes aimed at new members. In a class of this type, you would continue to familiarize yourself with the Bible, while also learning more about your church’s membership requirements. Your Christian denomination may require that you write down your sins in a book, speak with a minister, or simply contemplate your sins on an everyday basis. This will help to pave your way to salvation through the process of repentance. Again, this will be something that you’ll need to do privately. However, you may also be asked to verbally affirm your beliefs and commitment, sometimes in front of the entire congregation. For example, the minister might ask you, “Do you believe that Jesus Christ is the savior?” You would then answer in the affirmative. You may also perform this affirmation as a group alongside other new members. You will need to be partially submerged or touched with holy water as part of a baptism. This reflects you being purified and you will usually become a full-fledged Christian and church member at this point. In the case of Catholicism, you may also be asked to...

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Четко осознайте все требования. Продолжайте посещать проповеди и церковные мероприятия. Пройдите курс новообращенного, если в вашей церкви есть такая возможность. Покайтесь в своих грехах. Развивайте и укрепляйте свои отношения с Иисусом Христом. Примите крещение. Примите участие во всех торжествах по случаю обращения. Продолжайте соблюдать все правила, предписанные членам вашей церкви.


Talk with your dietician about maintain a healthy intake of essential vitamins, like iron, fiber, calcium, niacin, thiamin, riboflavin, and folate. These vitamins are often added to grain products in order to enrich them. Cutting grain-products out of your diet completely may put you at risk for vitamin deficiency. We've all done it. Accidentally eating gluten is just something that happens, although with time and patience, it becomes a much less frequent occurrence.  If you do accidentally eat gluten, you may experience stomach cramps, abdominal pain, and even diarrhea. This is not uncommon, and usually it's nothing to be worried about. If you accidentally eat gluten and you seem to be experiencing no discomfort or symptoms, don't necessarily take that as a sign that you can begin eating gluten again. Gluten can still damage your small intestines, even if you aren't aware of the symptoms. Going gluten-free is a boon to many, many people. Still, it takes a while to get used to, and it doesn't happen overnight. Here are some small and big things that you'll need to get comfortable with as you live your new, gluten-free life.  It can get expensive. Gone are the days of getting $1 loaves of bread and $2 cupcakes. More like $8 loves of bread and $5 cupcakes. It can be inconvenient. Because of the dearth of gluten-free food, and especially fast food, it's hard to grab food on the run. You'll definitely spend more time cooking up a storm in your kitchen, which is the plus to balance out this minus. People will think you're high-maintenance, or an a fad diet. Most of your friends will be understanding, but some people who don't understand that you may have a disease will write you off. Don't worry. They aren't worth it. Go about your life as you please and kindly educate people that falling off the gluten wagon isn't exactly the same as falling off the diet wagon.

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Убедитесь, что вы получаете достаточно необходимых витаминов. Не волнуйтесь, если вы случайно съели глютен. Освойте некоторые из вещей, которые усложняют вашу безглютеновую диету.


Talk with your doctor about whether you have normal testosterone levels. Testosterone has a peculiar relationship to hair loss. Not enough testosterone and your chest hair won't grow. Too much and it gets converted into DHT, which shrinks hair follicles. Try to have a healthy balance of testosterone; of course, because there's no testosterone test available over the counter, you'll need to seek the advice of a doctor.  Start working out. Both weight loss and weightlifting can boost a man's testosterone levels. Hit the gym, back up onto the bench press, and do some serious exercise. You'll feel stronger and grow some chest hair while you're at it. Take testosterone supplements if your doctor diagnoses you with low-T. Only take supplements if your doctor has diagnosed you. Again, if you have normal levels of testosterone and you take supplements, an enzyme will convert the excess testosterone into a follicle-shrinking hormone. Not a good recipe for hair growth. Talk to your doctor about estrogen inhibitors. Your doctor should know if you taking estrogen inhibitors is advisable for chest hair growth in your specific case. Anabolic steroids pose serious health hazards. As there are dozens, if not hundreds, of different anabolic and androgenic steroids, each with different side-effects on the body and implications for your hair, it's not considered safe to use steroids for hair growth.

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Приведите в порядок свой уровень тестостерона. Никогда не принимайте стероиды для улучшения роста волос на груди.


Talk with your lawyer and start to come up with your plan. Show your lawyer all of the evidence that you have, including photographs, medical records and witness statements that you collected. Even if there are facts in your case that are not favorable to you, you must tell your attorney. Lying to your attorney will only hurt you and your case. The attorney can only anticipate what the defending attorney will bring up if he or she knows all of the information in advance. If you lie to your attorney, he or she may ask to withdraw from your case, leaving you without a lawyer. Leading up to the trial or any settlement negotiations, listen to everything that your attorney tells you. Everything they tell you to do is to help you even if you find his or her instructions stupid or out of character. Attorney’s have experience going to trial, reading juries, and planning strategies. Anything they tell you to do is part of the plan to get the jury or judge to award you more money or to get the opposing party to offer you a favorable settlement.  For example, your attorney may tell you to dress a certain way when you appear in court. Do as they say even if dressing that way seems unnatural to you. Additionally, your attorney may tell you how to act during your trial. For instance, your attorney could tell you to sit quietly and occasionally make eye contact with the jury. He or she may also caution you not to display anger of any kind in the courtroom, even if you think that people are lying about you or things are not going your way. If you attend any face-to-face settlement negotiations with your attorney, do not act in a way that will make your opposing party reduce the amount that they offer you. Even if you hate the opposing party or are angry because of your injury, being polite is much more effective than being rude or yelling.   If the opposing party does not offer what you think you deserve as a settlement, stay calm and do not let the other side see you sweat. Your lawyer can negotiate a higher settlement, or...

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Разработайте план. Будьте честны с адвокатом. Слушайте адвоката. Ведите себя соответственно в любых переговорах по урегулированию ситуации. Обсудите с адвокатом, стоит ли вам принимать условия соглашения.


Talk with your local gardening center about ordering bamboo seeds. Getting bamboo seeds can sometimes be a challenge because they must be quarantined for a period if they come from outside the United States. If you get a crop of seeds, make sure to plant them as soon as possible to increase their viability.  It's also a good idea to order more seeds than you actually intend to plant. This will increase your odds of growing mature plants, even if some seeds fail. Only buy seeds from a seller who can provide documentation showing that they follow all quarantine procedures established by the government. Fill up a shallow glass container up with water that is right around 85° F (30° C). Place your seeds into the water and let them sit undisturbed for between 12-24 hours. This kickstarts the germination process for your seeds and increases the odds of planting success.  Use a food thermometer to verify that the temperature doesn't get too hot or it could cook your seeds and ruin the possibility of planting. If you don't have a container handy, you can also place the seeds in a bag and fill it with water. Place the container in a warm spot to keep the temperature from dropping too quickly. It also helps to cover the container to keep the heat trapped longer. Use a wooden skewer to create a small hole in the top of each pellet. Then, place 1 seed in the center of the pellet. Use your finger to push the pellet down into the peat enough so that it is fully covered.

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Приобретите семена бамбука у надежного поставщика. Вымачивайте семена бамбука в воде в течение суток. Посадите по одному семени в центр каждой торфяной таблетки.


Talk with your parents about the benefits of planting trees. Deciduous (seasonal) trees planted near windows provide cool shade in the summer when their leaves are green, and then lose their leaves in the winter to let in more sunlight. Whichever way you cut it, that helps reduce energy costs. And any kind of tree at all makes a great pollution sponge, sopping up carbon dioxide and processing it into fresh oxygen for you to breathe.  Go over a tree guide with your parents and find trees that will grow to an appropriate height in your climate zone, without causing problems elsewhere in the yard. There's a tree for almost every height and climate. Be sure to get care instructions for your tree, and water it regularly after it's planted. Take care of the sapling, and by the time you're grown up, you'll have a fine, strong tree that grew up right alongside you. Some adults are very image-conscious and won't let you do this in the front yard, but most of them should be okay with the backyard, at least. Find out how often the lawn gets mowed in the winter and the summer, and then space it out by an extra week or so. Lawnmowers produce a large amount of pollution, so the less you mow your lawn, the less smog you're putting into the air. Mowing less saves money on gas costs, as well.  Offer to mow the lawn yourself in exchange for letting the grass grow a little taller. It's a good skill to know anyway; when you're a bit older, you can sometimes make pretty good money mowing other people's lawns for them. If your family owns a push mower, there's no need to worry about mowing less, since push mowers don't make any pollution to speak of. Of course, they're also much harder to operate than gas mowers! Especially in the summer, this can make a big difference to the overall strain your city or town puts on the surrounding environment. In fact, there are many cities that require homeowners to avoid watering their lawns during the summer months for this precise reason. Of course, the downside is that the lawn will turn...

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Посадите деревья. Реже подстригайте газон. Меньше поливайте газон. Используйте экологически безопасные химические продукты. Запустите немного свой газон. Выпалывайте сорняки вместо того, чтобы распылять химикаты. Заселите свой сад полезными насекомыми.


Talking about boundaries can be a touchy subject. Make the conversation a little easier by talking with the other person at a time when you’re both emotionally stable. Avoid introducing the topic of boundaries during or right after a fight. If the other person feels defensive or angry, the conversation won’t be productive. Introduce the topic by saying something like, “Are you free for a minute? There’s something I’ve been wanting to talk with you about.” Be upfront when you tell your loved one about your new boundaries. Be kind, but don’t apologize or back down. Explain exactly what you need from the other person without any ambiguity. Use a calm, non-confrontational tone to lessen the risk of the other person taking offense. For your loved one, hearing about the new limits you’re imposing on the relationship might sting. However, it’s important that they understand why you’re doing it. Be gentle but honest about your reasons.  Phrase your explanation in a non-accusatory way that focuses on your needs instead of what the other person is doing wrong. For instance, if you find your spouse’s mood swings exhausting to deal with, you could say, “It’s really wearing me out trying to guess how you’ll be feeling from one day to the next. I need you to communicate your feelings to me more regularly.” Someone with BPD may feel insulted when others set boundaries with them. Make sure to give your loved one plenty of reassurance that you’re not rejecting them as a person and that your relationship with them is still important to you.  Emphasize the ways your boundary will benefit both of you. This will help your loved one understand that you’re not setting limits just to try to push them away. For instance, you could tell a friend, “I think spending more time on our own will be good for both of us in the long run. I have more energy for socializing when I spend enough time alone, so we’ll both have more fun when we do get together.” Your loved one may try to make you feel bad for setting boundaries. Don’t let them sway...

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Выберите момент, когда вы и близкий человек будете спокойны. Ясно и твердо сообщите свои границы. Объясните причины таких границ. Убедите близкого человека в том, что он вам дорог. Не позволяйте человеку заставить вас чувствовать вину.


Talking about what is bothering you or causing you stress can help put the problem in perspective. Getting feedback from a friend or loved one can also normalize the issue, making you feel less alone. Be sure to choose the right person to talk to; if your stress comes from a family issue, perhaps talk to a close, trusted friend instead. Simply playing with your dog or cat can elevate levels of serotonin and dopamine—nerve chemicals that elevate mood and create feelings of euphoria. Just a few minutes petting your animal can lower your blood pressure and heart rate. If your nerves and stress are causing you anxiety or you are having trouble managing your feelings, try visiting with a counselor to talk about what's bothering you. Check with your health insurance to see what is covered by your health plan.

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Позвоните другу. Поиграйте со своим питомцем. Посетите психолога.


Talking may allow her to express emotions she might otherwise not. Afterward, you’ll be better equipped to support her. Remember to use suggestive language versus telling her what to do.  Ask her if she wants to share how she feels. For instance, say “I know you are really hurt, I want you to know that I’m here to talk when you are ready.” Do not force her to talk. Let her talk to you when she is ready. If appropriate, share how you feel. Say something positive, like “Although I feel really sad, we’re here for each other.” Ultimately, you and your wife may need more help than you can provide alone. Fortunately, there are a lot of resources available to help women who have gone through a miscarriage. Spend a little time locating these resources.  Locate a mental health professional. See if your wife wants to talk to someone alone or with you. Use the internet or ask friends to find support groups for women who have suffered miscarriages. Find online resources to help your wife. You or your wife may be able to find great information on websites, blogs, or discussion forums about similar experiences others have gone through. Your OBGYN may be able to refer you to support services geared toward women who have suffered miscarriages. Many women who experience a miscarriage continue to suffer serious emotional problems for an extended amount of time. Ultimately, the emotional trauma of a miscarriage may persist throughout your wife's life.  Make sure you continue to offer support and a shoulder to lean or cry on indefinitely. Just because your wife does not articulate that the miscarriage still bothers her, this does not mean it doesn't. Realize that the emotional trauma of a miscarriage may persist for months or even years. Offer to run any errands she may have to do, unless she expresses that she wants to get out of the house. Women who have suffered miscarriages may ignore their own health and well-being in the short-term. As a result, you need to provide extra support to make sure her grief does not overshadow...

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Предложите жене поговорить с вами. Обратитесь за помощью к психотерапевту вместе. Продолжайте поддерживать жену столько, сколько потребуется. Внимательно относитесь к здоровью жены. Избегайте распространенных ошибок.


Talking to a nurse or other medical professional can help tailor your recovery plan to you. A medical professional can also recommend a particular medicine or even call in a prescription to a pharmacy for you. Do not hesitate to go if your symptoms include a high fever (over 101°F or 38.3°C), chills that make you shake, an inability to keep down food or drinks, and bloody phlegm or mucus. Any of these elements will require more help than you can give yourself at home. If she gives you a prescription, fill it and take it as long the doctor recommends. If she wants a follow-up visit, schedule it. Even if you think you are feeling a lot better and don't need that medication or other visit, trust that your medical professional is recommending it for a reason. Don't hijack your recovery.

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Обратитесь к врачу за советом. Вызовите врача, если симптомы очень тяжелые или не проходят. Следуйте рекомендациям врача.


Talking to a person in an English speaking country can be an incredibly fun and exciting adventure to start on. They'll be able to tell you about their culture, their customs, and give you a real path to the English speaking world. And getting mail is always a pick-me-up! Students of the World and PenPal World are both good online resources to finding a penpal. You can either use snail mail or email with your new writing friend. Though email goes much quicker, snail mail can be a lot more personal and exciting. Though you won't be able to correct your own mistakes, you will be able to keep up your vocabulary and discover the words you don't know (and then look them up!). If you don't use words, you're likely to lose them -- keeping a journal daily keeps the words and phrases fresh in your head. This journal can take on a number of forms. It can either be an English journal devoted to other's musings -- where you write down song lyrics, poems, and quotes in English that you like -- or it can be writing of your own: thoughts, venting, gratitude, or just devoted to one specific topic. This tactic is good for writing and recall. Take everything in your home and label it in its English name. The goal is to start thinking in English; at home, you'll be more likely to think, "What's on TV?" if "TV" is right in front of you. Don't stop at what's in front of you (bed, chair, TV, lamp, refrigerator) -- go inside your cupboards and fridge. If there's a place you keep the dishes, label it. If there's a place you always keep the milk, label it. It'll help keep you organized, too!

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Заведите друга по переписке. Ведите дневник. Маркировка.


Talking to others is a great way to feel more prepared for a pregnancy. Draw on naturally available, realistic sources of information––family members and friends who have already experienced raising children. Discuss the emotional nature of pregnancy and parenthood with trusted friends and family members.  Individuals who have experience with pregnancy and parenthood can provide you with helpful advice and resources that can prepare you for the emotional changes that you will experience and the lingering emotional transformation caused by a newborn baby. Ask your friends to be honest. You can say, "What was the hardest challenge of your pregnancy?" Be respectful. Before asking personal questions, ask your friend if she minds discussing these personal issues with you. Many women state that meditation is incredibly helpful during a pregnancy. It can relieve anxiety and help promote restful sleep. Consider adding meditation to your pre-pregnancy routine.  If meditation is already a habit, it will feel natural to keep doing it when you are pregnant. Meditation has many emotional benefits, such as keeping you calm. Look for an app that has guided meditations. Begin by practicing for 5 minutes a day. Find a comfortable place to sit. Try placing a comfy cushion on the floor, closing your eyes, and concentrating on the mediation. Some couples have trouble naturally conceiving. This may not happen to you, but it can be helpful to address the problem before it occurs. Talk to your partner about whether or not you will be open to trying other methods of having a child.  There are many ways that a doctor can help you conceive. Consider whether or not you would be comfortable trying hormone therapy or IVF. Remember that adoption is an option. Many couples decide to adopt a child if they are unable to naturally conceive. Have an honest conversation with your partner about how important having kids is, and what you are willing to do to have them. Consider how you feel about giving birth. Would you like to work with a doula?...

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Обратитесь за советом. Научитесь медитировать. Продумайте запасной план. Подумайте о родах. Составьте список дел. Говорите о своих чувствах.


Talking to people in line at the grocery store or in an elevator is a great way to practice talking to strangers. Because you'll be in the same place for such a short time, you know that you'll be able to leave the conversation quickly, which can calm you down. Don't get into deep topics during these interactions. Keep it light and observational: "Man, this elevator smells terrible" or  "Please convince me not to impulse-buy all this checkout aisle candy." If you're at a coffee shop, bar, or lounging in the chairs at a book store, you have more time to spend in the conversation. Try to enjoy it! Joke around and show off the fun side of your personality that only your long-time friends usually get to see. If you meet someone you think you'd like to ask out, ask more personal questions. Not only does this make the new relationship immediately more intimate, it also teaches you a lot about the person you're talking to. You can size them up to see if they'd even be a good match for you.  Don't push too far, though. Asking someone if they want to have kids in your first conversation would be very overbearing. Instead, offer semi-personal details about yourself, and let the other person decide whether they want to share. For example, "I'm a real mama's boy/daddy's girl. If we don't talk every day, I just don't feel right." You might find yourself at a party with someone influential in your line of work. You might be at a professional conference. In any networking interaction, you want people to get the impression that you're confident and capable. Even if you feel anxious about talking to a stranger, fake it till you make it.  Don't make the kind of off-color jokes that might work well at a bar. Stick to talking about the industry you work in. Show people that you know your stuff and are good at your job. The interview itself is important, but so is the small talk before and after the interview. Engaging the interviewer in pleasant conversation shows that you're someone they should want as a colleague. Furthermore,...

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Подготовьтесь к мимолетным разговорам. Подготовьтесь к более длительному разговору. Постарайтесь узнать необходимую информацию, если у вас есть романтический интерес к этому человеку. Развивайте свои умения во время работы. Сделайте все возможное, чтобы вас запомнили во время собеседования.


Talking to someone for the first time can be very nerve wracking and intimidating. Look for an opportunity to confidently introduce yourself, and see if you can strike up a conversation with him.  One of the easiest conversation topics is school. If you are in the same class with him, talk to him about a difficult homework assignment or an upcoming test. You may find out that he loves history class, or is not fond of gym.  If there is an upcoming assembly meeting, grab a close friend to be your wing-person, and go sit next to your crush at the assembly. This will give you an opportunity to not only get to know your crush, but maybe get to know some of his friends as well.  Don’t feel obligated to talk about the lovely weather, instead, try talking about something that genuinely interests you or that you are passionate about. This will help you portray more confidence in what you are saying, and give insight into your personality. You cannot just talk to your crush once, and claim that your work is done. Friendships and relationships take a lot of work and effort to blossom and maintain. So if you talked to him in class, continuing talking to him in class, or even in the hallways between classes.  After a few conversations, maybe even casually exchange phone numbers, become friends on social media, or send him an instant message online. Use whatever method you are comfortable with to keep the conversation going. Don’t be overly pushy. Sometimes, a guy just might not be interested in pursuing a relationship or even a friendship with you. If it seems like he is not interested in making conversation with you, it might be best to cut your losses and move on. Don’t play emotional games, or try to stir up drama to get him to notice you. You might successfully catch his attention by doing this, but immature games and acts will become tiring over time. Sometimes the key to winning a person’s heart is by getting along with their friends. Make an effort to learn who his friends are, and get to know them. This will show...

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Представьтесь и пообщайтесь с молодым человеком на общие темы. Продолжайте общаться. Познакомьтесь с его друзьями. Узнайте парня лучше, задавая ему вопросы. Расскажите о себе. Станьте его другом.


Talking to someone new can be scary. A simple “hello” or “good morning” will go a long way. Everyone wants to be liked, and initiating a conversation will show people that you’re open and interested in talking to them.  Ask other people what their name is after you say hello to make your conversation more personal. If you tend to forget names quickly, try to use their name naturally in conversation while you talk to them. Saying their name out loud will help you remember it later on. Make eye contact when you introduce yourself. It will make you seem confident and open to conversation. Use positive language to reinforce your conversations with positive energy by trying to find something nice to say. Being sarcastic and poking fun at something is easy, but people will grow tired of it quickly. If you’re talking to someone and they start complaining about something, be supportive by actively listening and sympathizing with them. When others notice that you’re generally nice, they’ll be more likely to want to talk to you.  It may be tempting to try and impress others by being mean, but that will backfire more often than not. Nobody likes a bully!  Be as kind as possible when talking about others that aren’t around. Word will eventually get around that you are untrustworthy if you gossip about people behind their back. Smile. People like it when others smile at them, and there is a good chance they will smile right back. Asking people about themselves is an excellent way to get them interested in hanging out with you. When you ask people questions, you’re inviting them to open up towards you. Try bringing up something simple, like what subjects they’re studying in school or what kind of sports they enjoy playing.  Asking people about what they do for fun is a good place to start. It may turn out that you have something in common. Even if you don’t, you may end up learning something about them!  Avoid asking questions that may touch on a sore subject. If someone seems sad, asking them why they’re being such a...

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Поздоровайтесь и представьтесь. Будьте дружелюбны и любезны. Задавайте личные вопросы.


Talking to your child about his or her fears will not make them worse, and it is the first step toward empowering your child to overcome the anxiety.  Don’t interrogate your child, but feel free to ask probing questions about the sources and specifics of the fear of flying.  A child's fear of flying often boils down to one of the following:  an inability to conceive of how a heavy airplane can remain in the air; a fear of enclosed spaces and/or being limited in what you can do when you want to do it; bad prior experiences, or tales of bad experiences from others; media reports of plane crashes, air security threats, or bad flight experiences.  Probe into the causes of the fear by validating and empathizing with it:  "The first time I flew, I was terrified that the plane would fall out of the sky.  What do you think about that?"  Make educated guesses based on your observations:  "I've noticed that you get uncomfortable in crowded spaces, like the subway car that one time.  Is that something that bothers you about an airplane?"  Or, simply give them an invitation to talk:  "Tell me what you think about our airplane trip that's coming up." The more specific information you know about the nature of your child’s flying fears, the more specific your approach to dealing with it can be. It is easy to find mountains of data about how safe flying is, such as that the most dangerous part of your trip is the drive to the airport, and so on (see this wikiHow article for some statistics and examples).  Statistics alone, though, won’t make a child’s anxiety about getting onto a plane go away.  Talking about and showing a child how planes fly is more likely to be an effective strategy. Provide your child with books about airplanes and flying, toy replicas of airplanes, and videos about flight.  Look up answers to his or her questions together.  Build and try out small flying machines with your child.  If you have an aviation museum nearby, go look at planes and maybe even sit in the cockpit.  Let your child talk to the...

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Спросите ребенка о его страхе. Расскажите ребенку о том, почему самолет может летать. Покажите ребенку, как летают настоящие самолеты. Поговорите о людях, чья работа делает полет безопасным. Помните о важности постепенной десенсибилизации.


Talking to your girlfriend face-to-face is an excellent way to gain a better understanding of her. Sometimes you can't pick up on things like voice intonation or sarcasm through text message, and you can't look at her body language when you're talking to her over the phone. Set some time aside to speak with her openly and honestly about anything. It could be small-talk about how your day went, or it can be deeper and more meaningful conversations about what makes you both happy.  You can start the conversation by saying something like, "Hey I wanted to talk to you about where we are going in the relationship. Do you have time right now?" Talking about things that you feel vulnerable about will encourage your girlfriend to do the same. This can bring you both closer together. For example, you could talk about your first childhood memories, a favorite family traditions, worst fears, or lifelong dreams. Active listening engages both people deeper in a conversation and will make your girlfriend appreciate you more. To practice active listening, concentrate on what she is saying without interrupting. Do not judge her or criticize her if she tells you something embarrassing, because it could prevent her from telling you things in the future. Paraphrase things that she says and ask specific questions about what she is talking about. Try to give advice that helps her and is in her best interests if she seems like she wants it.  To paraphrase, say something like "So what you're saying is that she was acting immature." Sometimes people just want someone to talk to and not to receive advice or judgment. Wait for her to ask you for your opinion before trying to help. Talking to someone is not the only form of communication that exists in a relationship. Nonverbal communication is also incredibly important. If you pay attention to your girlfriend's body language, you'll be able to determine how they feel at the moment. Crossed arms may mean they feel defensive or closed off and may mean that they aren't interested in what...

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Честно и открыто общайтесь. Тренируйтесь быть активным слушателем. Обратите внимание на невербальное общение между вами. Не переходите на личности, когда злитесь. Не кричите и не орите во время ссоры. Следуйте другим правилам честного боя.


Talking with your date can be just as much fun and just as important to a young romance as actually going anywhere. Set up dates on FaceTime or Skype or some other chatting service, or talk on the phone. Arrange something you can do together, even if you're not together. If you both have a show you like, watch it at the same time and talk about it on the phone. Or just leave the FaceTime/Skype window open while you do homework together. . Make sure you're allowed to text with your date, then trade numbers and start texting. You can be conversing and laughing together, even if you're not actually together.  Try to be a good conversationalist and give you date something to respond to. Don't just write "Hey." Ask a question, make an observation, have something real to talk about. Don't write one-word responses with a date. If you can't talk right now, say so. For some good articles about texting a crush or a date, click here or here. Lots of middle school romance will happen primarily on Snapchat. If you're going out with someone, you need to discuss how much of it you want to be public, and how much of it you want to be private together with the person you're dating, and be respectful. Remember: lots of people can see it. It's important to ease up on the digital PDA. The occasional kissy-face emoji exchange is ok, but not more than once every couple days. The only way you need to act when you're with your date, when you're talking to your date, and when you're thinking of something to say is to just act naturally. Be yourself. Joke around, goof off, don't try to be someone you're not.  Give sincere compliments, when they're deserved. "I thought you looked really nice today" will always be appreciated when you mean it. Act the same around your date as you act around your friends, which is what your date should be, unless of course you act like a total dweeb with your friends. The point is, if you're not friends, you probably shouldn't be dating. In middle school, you're still developing and maturing, and...

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Общайтесь по телефону и посредством Skype. Пишите друг другу сообщения. Измените свое семейное положение в Facebook. Будьте собой. Не торопите события. Оставляйте человеку личное пространство. Периодически встречайтесь в жизни.