While it is recommended you try to stick to a regular sleeping schedule, it's especially important to do so the night before a big game. The competition will be stiff enough, so it's not worth it losing your edge just because you weren't willing to sleep at least 8 hours. If you are having troubles getting to sleep, try some deep breathing exercises or meditating. While it wouldn't be regularly recommended in a diet, athletes should load up on their carbohydrate intake. Carbs essentially give your body energy, and you'll need lots of energy if you're playing a sports competition.  Stay away from sugar for a few hours before a big competition. Sugar and starches dehydrate your body. That is something you want to avoid in the midst of competing.  Keep yourself up to pace with snacks. Longer matches will be a test of endurance, and something as simple as an energy bar or banana can make a big difference. Warm ups are important for any physically strenuous activity. They can be fairly light, but a proper warm up will help prevent early exhaustion and injury. Aim to warm up around half an hour before the start of the game. Stretch out your arms and legs. Run in place. Work up a bit of a sweat. This will get your body in the right mode for the competition. Warm ups also help fight off anxiety. Pre-game anxiety can be an issue for some players, so you should keep that in mind if it's something you suffer from. Having a good idea what to expect with the opposing side is important, regardless whether you're going one on one or playing as a team. If you want to know which techniques you should be using in the midst of certain competitors, it's a good idea to study their methods in the days and weeks before a big game. If there is any footage of those players during a game, give it a shot. The science of analytics turns the respective skills of your teammates and competitors into a sharp formula. Matching each player to their best strengths is integral to a team's success. Professional sports analysts make it their...

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Хорошо отдыхайте ночью накануне соревнований. Перед игрой зарядитесь углеводами. Выполняйте разминку. Изучите соперников. Сосредоточьтесь на игре. Идите до конца и никогда не сдавайтесь.


While it is still unclear why children begin grinding their teeth, it is thought that bruxism could be caused by your child’s baby teeth coming in. When your child’s baby teeth come in, it might cause them to feel irritation, which may lead to teeth grinding. Intervention is not usually required when your child grinds his or her baby teeth. However, it may help to develop a relaxing routine before bed to keep your child from grinding (see Method 1 for more information). Your child’s dentist may recommend getting him a mouthguard, also known as an occasional splint or night guard, to protect your child’s teeth. When your child grinds his/her teeth, he can actually wear his teeth down and damage his/her enamel. The guard is made of silicon rubber, which acts as a shield to keep the upper and lower molars from grinding against each other. Submerge the mouthguard in water during the day to keep it clean. Try to clean it with a toothbrush every one to two days. Caffeine can alter your child’s sleep schedule because it blocks the formation of a chemical called adenosine. This chemical helps to make you feel relaxed, which in turn can help you sleep better. Avoid giving your child caffeinated products like:  Sodas. Energy drinks. Chocolate. Coffee. When your child grinds his teeth at night, it is important that he/she does not chew on anything that can damage his teeth further during the day. If you notice your child chewing on his/her nails, pencils, or pens, help him to break these habits. You can read about how to help your child get over these habits  here. Chewing gum causes your jaws to clench. This jaw clenching can become subconscious, which can make your child’s teeth grinding become worse. Help your child to stay away from gum while he/she works through his bruxism. If your child is old enough to be conscious of his/her jaw clenching and teeth grinding, show him how to stop doing those actions when he/she becomes aware of them. To do this, tell him to place the tip of his/her tongue between his/her teeth...

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Знайте, что скрежетание зубами во время прорезывания зубов является нормальным явлением. Купите специальную шину для вашего ребенка. Уменьшите количество кофеина, которое употребляет ваш ребенок. Старайтесь не допускать, чтобы ребенок жевал что-либо, кроме еды. Не позволяйте ребенку жевать жвачку. Научите вашего ребенка, как избежать сжатия челюстей, когда он замечает, что это происходит. Подумайте о встрече с врачом, если вы считаете, что скрежетание зубами имеет психологическую причину.


While it is uncertain how many food groups affect skin care, there is a general consensus that a diet high in fruits and vegetables can improve the look of your skin and reduce the effects of aging. Foods like chocolate, soda, fried meats, and chips can aggravate skin conditions like acne. While there is no agreement on whether or not these foods cause acne, there does seem to be a link between acne outbreaks and an increase of fat intake. Especially for people with rosacea and eczema, dairy products may cause flare ups of redness and breakouts. While you do not need to cut out dairy entirely, you should reduce your daily intake of dairy products—especially products like ice cream that contain high levels of sugar and fat. There are several vitamins that can improve the health and appearance of your skin. You can either take these as supplements or eat foods rich in these vitamins.  Vitamin A can help decrease acne caused by oil build-ups. You can find vitamin A in fish oil, carrots, spinach, and broccoli. Zinc can calm your skin and regulate oil production. Zinc is found in turkey, almonds, and wheat germ. Vitamin E can heal scars and reduce redness. Vitamin E is found in sweet potatoes, olive oil, avocados, and leafy green vegetables.

TL;DR in Russian:

Ешьте больше фруктов и овощей. Избегайте жирной пищи. Уменьшите потребление молочных продуктов. Принимайте витамины.


While it is understandable that caring parents would be concerned about bad things happening to their children, worrying too much can be extremely damaging. The first thing you need to do if you want to stop being a helicopter parent is to relax and accept the fact that you will never be capable of protecting your children from all of the dangers in the world. This may be easier said than done, so a good first step is to stop letting your kids know that you are worried about them. Try to avoid constantly asking them questions about whether they can handle things or how they are coping. This is likely to create anxiety for them. Kids who are too confined to "safe spaces" miss out on many developmental opportunities. If you want your children to learn how to navigate the world, they need to be able to step out of their comfort zones sometimes.  This may mean allowing them to try skateboarding, even though they might fall and scrape a knee. It may also mean allowing them to go out for a short time without your supervision. It's fine to protect your children from taking big risks. For example, if your child wants to ride his bike on the highway, it's reasonable for you to intervene. If you teach your kids about how to protect themselves from dangers, you should feel much better about allowing them to take risks. For example, you may teach your children how to safely cross a street, or to always wear a helmet when riding a bike. There's nothing wrong with wanting to keep an eye on your children to make sure they're safe. After all, there are real dangers in the world that you need to protect them from! Luckily, you can keep an eye on them without being a helicopter parent; simply take a few steps back and give them a little extra space. It helps if they don't know that you are always watching. This works best for younger children, especially when they are playing with their peers, like at a playground. As your children get older, you may have to let them out of your sight more often. If your children are older,...

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Прекратите постоянно беспокоиться о детях. Позвольте детям брать на себя небольшой риск. Наблюдайте издалека. Реже контролируйте ребенка по телефону.


While it is wholly natural and safe to use, eucalyptus oil can be be a mild irritant to people who suffer from sensitive skin. To remedy this, add a few drops of eucalyptus oil to roughly an ounce of a non-irritating oil like olive, coconut or sesame oil. You can then enjoy the benefits of the eucalyptus oil without the uncomfortable side effects.  Essential oils like eucalyptus and are astringent, meaning they enhance the tightness and firmness of skin, but may cause redness, stinging or itchiness in high concentrations. Oils like olive and coconut are also known for their ability to moisturize skin and hair, making the mixture doubly effective. Rather than saturating your beard with excessive oil, use a conservative amount and focus on spreading the oil more evenly throughout your facial hair. Take a few extra minutes to stroke and comb your beard with your fingers until the hair is covered with a light coating of oil. Use more oil only as needed.  For better coverage, work single drops of oil through one section of your beard at a time. Your beard should not glisten or feel matted or heavy after you’ve treated it with oil. After half an hour has elapsed, splash some cool water over the lower half of your face to remove oil lingering on the skin. If necessary, scrub your beard again using a mild conditioning soap approved for facial hair. You won’t have to worry about washing away the oil, as it will have already been absorbed into the follicles.  Dry your beard and face with a towel. Leaving your skin damp for too long can cause irritation to worsen. Cold water will help your pores contract, preventing other possible irritants from getting in.

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Разбавьте эвкалиптовое масло базисным. Нанесите меньше масла. Смойте масло после нанесения.


While it may be desirable to correct the issue non-surgically, for some people surgery is a good option. Newer methods can do so without severing the milk ducts, making it possible to breastfeed after the procedure. Your doctor or plastic surgeon can help you decide whether you are a good candidate for corrective surgery.  This is a short outpatient procedure involving local anesthesia. You can go home the same day, and, because it is minimally invasive, you will probably be able to return to your routine (work, etc.) the following day. Discuss the procedure with your surgeon. Inform yourself about how the procedure is performed, and what results you can expect. At this time your surgeon will examine your medical history and assess the underlying cause of your condition. Your surgeon will inform you about how to prepare for surgery and what to do afterwards. You will likely have surgical dressings on your nipple after the operation. Change these dressings if and as instructed by your surgeon. Recovery should be relatively painless. If you experience unexpected bruising, swelling, or discomfort during recovery, contact your surgeon immediately. These visits assess the progress of your healing and the success of the procedure. Ask your surgeon when you should come in for your follow-up.

TL;DR in Russian:

Поговорите со своим врачом или пластическим хирургом о соответствующей операции. Тщательно следуйте всем указаниям до операции и после нее. Обязательно задавайте врачу все интересующие вас вопросы и говорите о своих сомнениях и опасениях после операции. Обязательно посетите врача после операции.


While it may be difficult to change your environment, understand that certain environmental cues can actually lead to higher rates of smoking. You may want to limit time around social groups that revolve around smoking. Instead, find new places and activities to enjoy. If you enjoy having a few drinks and smoking on the patio at a local bar, you might find it hard to sit on the patio and not smoke. In this case, try moving inside where smoking is not allowed. This will add a level of inconvenience to smoking since you’ll have to leave the group you are with to go outside. Give yourself the rule: no smoking in the car. Smoke before or after the car ride. Make smoking as inconvenient and uncomfortable as possible. While this isn't an overwhelming change, changing brands may help you reduce your nicotine intake. For example, if you smoke Marlboro Red 100’s, try switching to shorts or to a more “natural” brand of cigarettes like Sherman’s. Do not let the word “natural” make you think these cigarettes are safe. They are most definitely cigarettes which still contain nicotine. Look for cigarettes based on their nicotine content, which are generally:  low-nicotine: filtered cigarettes with the words "Ultra Light" medium nicotine: filtered cigarettes with the words "Light" or "Mild" high nicotine: filtered or unfiltered cigarettes that don't say "Light" or "Ultra Light" Another way to reduce cigarette smoking is by smoking a quarter or half of a cigarette. Then wait until your next cigarette break to smoke the second half or quarter. This way, you smoke as often as you normally do, but only half a cigarette at a time. You still get to take your smoking breaks, but it cuts your cigarette consumption in half. If you tend to chain smoke in certain settings like a bar or while sitting outside chatting with friends, try setting a timer. It can be easy to lose track and just light another cigarette when you are having a good time. After each cigarette, set a timer on your phone for a time limit of your choosing. Wait until...

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Измените окружающую обстановку. Перейдите на другие сигареты. Не докуривайте сигареты до конца. Засекайте время. Позаботьтесь об удовлетворении оральной фиксации.


While it may be tempting to rehash old arguments, once you're friends, it's time to let it go. You don't have a right to criticize how he spends his time or how she likes to dress. Be supportive, and try not to move into old patterns of criticism. Talk through your feelings with the other person and then try your best to move on. That is, if you were friends before you got together, think about how you interacted then. That can help you forge ahead with a new relationship. Don't jump into going out three times a week. Stick with a couple a times a month at first. Too much too quickly could force the friendship to break apart. If you try to do the same things you always did as a couple, you're likely to find it awkward. You associate those places with the romantic side of the relationship, and you're trying to create a different type of relationship. Therefore, it's best to pick new things to do together, especially things that won't leave you alone together. Try going out with a group of friends, for instance, or heading to somewhere with a big crowd, such as big concert. You don't have the same conversations with a lover that you do with a friend. If you want to keep your ex at a friendship level, you need to keep the conversations there, too.  Focus on general topics such as current world news instead of very personal ones like your dog passing away. " Your ex may decide he or she doesn't want to be friends with you, and that's fine. Sometimes, you just have too much history with a person to move on in a different capacity. If you're constantly having to deal with questions about why you're still friends with the person, it can hinder your friendship. Tell your friends and family that you are going to be friends with the person, and you expect them to support that decision.

TL;DR in Russian:

Оставьте прошлое в прошлом. Подумайте, как все было раньше. Не торопите события. Назначайте встречи с умом. Избегайте разговоров по душам. Будьте готовы услышать «нет». Четко все разъясните друзьям и семье.


While it may be tempting to sit out when given the opportunity, you’d be surprised how important participating can be. Trying something new requires courage, and showing people that you’re open to activities will not only show them that you have confidence, but encourage others to join with you. Even if it seems like everyone isn’t interested in doing something, it may be that they simply don’t want to be the first one to volunteer. Break the ice by volunteering first if you’re comfortable with it. Bring along some card games, magazines with quizzes, or other multiplayer activities to do on the bus. Unless other people came with a friend, the odds are high that they’re just as bored as you are. The bus can be an excellent place to make new friends. Always ask if a seat is taken before sitting down next to someone. Some people prefer to sit by themselves. Don’t take it personally! Don’t worry if you don’t know the rules. Many people enjoy teaching others. If you let people show you how to do things, they’ll know that you’re open to playing different games with them in the future. Be willing to teach other people games that you know. People will appreciate the invitation to play even if they don’t want to. If you’re allowed to have your phone at camp, try to stay off of your cell phone during the gaps between activities. People will think that you’re trying to avoid socializing if you’re staring at your screen all day. Don’t leave your phone at home if you can bring it with you. You may need it to exchange numbers with the people that you meet!

TL;DR in Russian:

Активно участвуйте в мероприятиях. Сидите с разными людьми в автобусе и общайтесь с ними. Вызывайтесь участвовать в играх, в которые вы никогда не играли. Не сидите в телефоне, иначе вас сочтут скучным.


While it may be unavoidable, large family gatherings usually require a large space. Get away from any rude family members by simply changing locations. Be polite and greet him with a handshake and a smile; you're not obligated to engage in anything more.  Stay out of earshot. Even if you change locations, you may still be able to hear something infuriating. Be sure to move into a room where his  voice will be muffled or close the door of the room he is in. If it is a family member that you will see everyday like your sibling, schedule yourself to limit your time with him. For example, join extra-curricular activities after school so you won't have to be at dinner with your rude younger brother. Many times rude people are simply trying to get attention by eliciting a reaction. If you know what topics she enjoys evoking, avoid them by bridging to a more neutral conversation that won't require her opinion or reaction.  For example, steer clear of her political views and talk about topics that you know she enjoys and remains positive about like her recent home improvements. Say something like, “That is a difficult issue that I'd like to read more about before I place my vote. Speaking of reading, I read an article on how to build a really great deck. How long did it take you to build yours?” If it is a family member that you have to interact with every day, keep cordial. Talk about common interests or dislikes to form a bond. Depending on the size of the family gathering, there may be opportunities to break away and start an activity. Large family gatherings may need people to help supervise children, prepare the meal, or clean the location. Delegating a job that he enjoys will keep him occupied.  For example, ask for help with your car, home renovation tips, or playing sports with the kids. Be careful not to include him in an activity where he could offend more people. If you ask him to participate in activity with a lot of social interaction, you could be fueling a volatile situation. Keep busy around the house...

TL;DR in Russian:

Уйдите в другое место. Смените тему, если вас вовлекают в неудобный разговор. Отвлеките его каким-то занятием.


While it may feel easy and gratifying to let your anger out, think before saying your words. Collect your thoughts before speaking in order to prevent yourself from saying something you may regret or that may hurt your partner. If you feel like reacting to something your partner did or said, this is a good time to take a step back and collect your thoughts. Focusing on your breath can help calm both your body and your mind and thus relieve your anger. Using deep breathing can separate you from the situation and your feelings of immediate anger and help you focus inward.  Practice deep breathing when you are in a naturally calm state. Then, try it when you are angry or upset, and notice how it helps you achieve calm. Once you start feeling anger come, take a moment to do some breathing to calm yourself before exploding. In order for breathing to calm you, you must breathe from your diaphragm, not your chest. When you breathe from your diaphragm, you should be able to feel your stomach rising and falling (not your shoulders). When practicing, you can place your hand on your stomach to feel the movement. If you’re having a hard time with your anger, use a word or phrase to remind yourself to keep your composure. Using a word or phrase can help keep you on track and not let your emotions get the best of you.  Say to yourself, “relax,” or “I am calm,” or “chill.” Especially if you feel your anger rising, use a word to keep it at bay. It’s possible to express what you’re feeling calmly, even when you feel angry. Aim to focus on expressing your own wants, needs, and feelings without assigning blame, guilt, or hurt to your partner. Use your opportunities to speak by expressing yourself and not  attacking your partner. Use “I” statements instead of “you” statements.  For instance, instead of saying, “You make me so angry” say, “I feel really angry when you say that.” Owning your own feelings empowers you and doesn’t place blame on your partner. If you’re having a difficult time controlling your anger, tell your...

TL;DR in Russian:

Дважды подумайте, прежде чем сказать. Глубокое дыхание. Успокаивающая фраза. Спокойно выражайте свои чувства. Перерыв.


While it may feel impolite, turning your body away, leaving headphones on, and avoiding eye-contact will signal that you are not in the mood to talk. This may save you from directly telling someone to shut up later on.  Keep working on whatever activity you were doing when they interrupted. Get up and move around, be active, and find little chores to do instead of listening. Saying things like, "I'd like to add something," or "If I could interrupt you for just a moment," will often let someone know that they are talking too much. While people often talk quickly, capitalizing on a breath or a brief moment of silence can break the one-sided flow of discussion.  Signal that you would like to speak by holding up your hands, opening your mouth, or clapping. Anything to break their train of thought and get a chance to talk works. If they ask to finish their thought, don't let them continue to steamroll the conversation; interrupt them once they finish their sentence. This is especially helpful when dealing with someone you talk to frequently. Let the person know that you listened to them and steer the discussion in another direction. Phrases like "I would love to chat, but I'm swamped with work right now," "Today's not a great day to talk, I have a lot of errands," and "I unfortunately can't devote my full attention to you right now," will allow you to easily wiggle out of the conversation later on.  If you don't want to talk, use a generic excuse like "Let's catch up another time," or "Sorry, I'm in a hurry now. I'll see you later!" If you are constantly being talked over, recognize that you must be more direct.

TL;DR in Russian:

Попытайтесь уклониться от разговора с помощью определенных жестов. Вступите в разговор как можно скорее. Контролируйте ход разговора. Скажите, что у вас нет лишнего времени на разговоры.


While it may have been several years or more since you last worked with them, it is worth the effort to search for those former managers and co-workers.  If you can find them, ask them to be a reference.  Also consider former clients you may have had, if you worked in a job in which you served clients. Your first thought may be that you don’t want to bother former managers or co-workers, but remember that it’s for a very good reason.  If they do not understand the importance of references (not uncommon) or cannot be bothered (very common) or have no guidance to help regarding references - persist. Perhaps a heartfelt call or visit may help to override this. If you’re able to find a former supervisor or co-worker, and they’re really busy, you could write the reference letter yourself and just ask them to edit and sign it. If you leave a job for any reason that’s valid (e.g. moving, going back to school, found a better job, staying home with the kids, or even because the job isn’t working out for you), take the time to ask a manager or co-worker (or both) for a reference before you leave.  Even if you aren’t planning to look for a new job anytime soon, knowing you can call on them for a reference in the future is very helpful. If you know there’s going to be a big gap between leaving your current job and looking for a new job (because you’re going back to school for a few years, or you’re going to stay home with your kids, etc.), ask for a reference letter.  However, keep in mind that written references are not normally considered sufficient. Professional networks are an invaluable resource for job seekers.  Not only can a network help find you a job, they can help get you a job you’ve applied for.  Take the time to evaluate what your current network looks like, then work to expand your network as needed.  Networks can include: friends, co-workers, fellow volunteers, clients, supervisors, religious leaders, fellow students, teachers/professors, business contacts, and more. Think about who you'd call for advice,...

TL;DR in Russian:

Поищите предыдущих супервайзеров и коллег. Попросите руководителя и коллег дать вам рекомендацию до вашего ухода. Проанализируйте свою сеть профессиональных контактов и начните расширять ее. Поработайте волонтером для некоммерческой организации или на специальном мероприятии. Попросите бывших учителей или преподавателей дать вам рекомендацию. Не разрывайте полезные связи.


While it may not be required, it is still recommended to see a physician for a clinical breast exam prior to the mammogram. Mammograms will miss 10% of breast cancers that can be detected clinically.  Many mammogram facilities will allow a woman over the age of 40 to make an appointment without a referral or prescription from their doctor.  Talk with the doctor about any breast symptoms or signs, like breast tenderness, nipple discharge, or new lumps found on self-examination; inform her of any hormone use.  Tell the doctor about your medical history, specifically any personal and family history of breast cancer.  Then, the doctor will perform a breast exam and look for any abnormalities. Follow the doctor’s advice about what signs, symptoms, and medical history are best to share with the radiology technologist who will take the X-rays on the day of the mammogram. Have the doctor address any questions or concerns you may have about your upcoming study. The Food and Drug Administration ensures the facility meets specific baseline quality standards for equipment, personnel, and practices. Do an internet search to find a facility near you.  There is a Mammography Facility Database on the FDA website.  You can call a local medical clinic or your health department for suggestions. Women with breast implants can and should get regular mammograms.  Breasts implants can obscure breast tissue and interfere with the visualization of abnormalities and delay the diagnosis of breast cancer.  The technologist most likely will take additional X-rays to maximize visualization of all breast tissue.  He may try to manipulate the implant to move it away from the breast tissue.  Capsular contractures or scar tissue around breast implants can make breast compression by the machine too painful or impossible.  There is a risk of rupture.  Let the technologist know if you are having too much pain.

TL;DR in Russian:

Посетите врача, прежде чем делать маммографию. Выберите пункт проведения маммографии с наилучшим оборудованием. Если у вас есть грудные импланты, выясните, в каком пункте работают специалисты с опытом исследования грудных желез с имплантами.


While it may not be visually apparent, scent can go a long way towards developing how people perceive you. Smell nice by keeping yourself and your clothes clean, but also consider adding a perfume or cologne to your fashion line-up. Avoid young scents like fruity smells in favor of something more mature for a really classy touch. Keep your clothes in a theme in order give yourself a signature style. This is a look that people will associate with you and will make you seem more stylish, even if they don’t necessarily like your clothes. The style you create for yourself should generally match who you are as a person. For example, a really sweet woman taking on a catty look will seem weird and out of place, the same as a serious businessman dressing in gangsta style. Tailor your clothes to fit your personality and people will be much more inclined to see it as your style. Do you ever feel like some models could wear a brown paper sack and still walk down a runway looking like the height of fashion? Do you know a guy who wears a tracksuit and still somehow manages to look totally fashionable? What the fashion industry doesn’t want you to know is that a lot of looking stylish really comes down to projecting confidence. You don’t have to actually be confident, of course, but if you walk down the street in clothes that you clearly think you look great in, people will usually be inclined to agree that (at a minimum) those clothes are perfect for you. The effortless part of the stylish look should of course be presented by giving off an air that you don’t care, or that you just threw on the first outfit you could find.  Be humble or indifferent when people compliment your clothes. In order to look stylish, you’re also going to want to look elegant and coordinated. This means not falling down if you’re wearing heels. Being graceful should be easier for guys, but is still important so don’t neglect it. Even if you’re wearing 4” stilettos, you need to look like it’s all perfectly natural and you’re perfectly comfortable....

TL;DR in Russian:

Не забывайте об аромате. Помните о фирменном стиле. Образ должен подходить вам. Будьте уверенны. Ведите себя так, будто вас ничего не волнует. Ходите грациозно. Выглядите так, будто вам комфортно, даже если это неправда. Расслабьтесь.


While it may seem counterintuitive, olive oil is a great way to clean your skin. This is because, as the teacher said in chemistry class, “like dissolves like.” So the olive oil will dissolve surface dirt and oil more effectively than most store-bought facial cleansers, which are water-based. Olive oil is non-comedogenic, which means it does not clog pores, so it can be used safely by people with all skin types. Olive oil can be used to remove makeup on its own, or you can add a little lemon juice to help prevent breakouts at the same time.  Lemon juice helps treat acne because it is a disinfectant, which can destroy the bacteria that cause breakouts.  Olive oil can also be mixed with aloe vera water to provide extra hydration and to soothe irritated skin while removing makeup.  Because it is less abrasive than chemically based makeup removers, olive oil is the preferred makeup remover for people with sensitive skin or who are allergic to ingredients in store-bought removers. Mix olive oil with sea salt or sugar to create a natural exfoliant. Mix about a tablespoon of olive oil with ½ teaspoon of salt or sugar, apply to your face, and then rinse with warm water. Sugar is less abrasive than salt, so use sugar if you have sensitive skin. Brown sugar is even softer than white granulated sugar, so it is best for really sensitive skin. Olive oil has several properties that make it an effective treatment for acne.  Olive oil is also a natural antibacterial, so it can prevent bacteria from exacerbating your acne.  Olive oil’s anti-inflammatory properties help to soothe the swelling and redness that accompanies acne.

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Используйте масло для очистки кожи. Оливковое масло можно использовать для снятия косметики, а если добавить к нему немного лимонного сока, то такая смесь позволит предотвратить появление прыщей. Отшелушите кожу. Вылечите прыщи.


While it may seem counterintuitive, washing your hair can actually cause excess oil production. One reason is because shampoo strips your head of natural oil, and your scalp reacts by producing still more. Also, certain shampoos and conditioners, especially those containing silicone, can leave your hair with more oil or oil-like-substances. If you’re used to washing every day, start cutting back slowly and skip only one hair washing per week. Eventually move up to not washing your hair for two to three days at a time. A gentle cleansing shampoo you will help you to avoid the problem of washing away too much oil. It will also prevent your scalp from producing too much oil. Also, periodically using a shampoo that contains either salicylic acid, selenium sulfide, or ketoconazole will deep cleanse your scalp of hair product build-up, which makes for a healthier scalp and less oily hair. Shampoos with tea tree oils can be useful because they absorb oils. No matter what products you use, you need to make sure that you are rinsing thoroughly. You should rinse for at least 30 seconds, but the longer the better. Keep conditioner away from your scalp, as it can increase oil production. Conditioner is intended to help with the ends of your hair which can become brittle and dry. Look for products specially formulated for oily hair and use them sparingly. In addition to the above steps, you can also try a variety of home remedies that make your hair less oily. Many of them use inexpensive ingredients you probably already have on hand or can easily get from the grocery store, like aloe vera, baking soda, baby powder, and tea. The following are a few easy and useful examples.  Vinegar or Lemon Juice rinse:  mix 2 tablespoons of white vinegar or the juice of a single lemon with one cup of water. Shampoo your hair, rinse with this mixture, then rinse with tepid water. Beer rinse:  alcohol is a drying agent, so try mixing a 1/2 cup of beer with 2 cups of water and rinsing your hair with the mixture after shampooing. Be sure to...

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Мойте волосы реже. Используйте подходящий шампунь. Тщательно ополаскивайте волосы. Нанесите кондиционер на концы волос. Используйте домашние средства.


While it may seem counterproductive, you actually don't want to block this person out of your brain entirely. When you attempt to push all thoughts of this person away from you, you'll no doubt return to thinking of them when you don't want to. This actually makes it much tougher to get over them.  Known as the "White Bear Effect," your active attempts to not think about a white bear will undoubtedly make a white bear pop into your mind. This is the case with all addictions and obsessions. When your love object enters your mind, you must acknowledge their existence, despite the pain. You don't need to panic, and you certainly don't need to take it as a sign that you'll never get over them. When you've been rejected by your love interest, you'll immediately feel a great amount of self-hatred and insecurity. You've put it all on the line, and you will probably feel like you've failed in some way. Becoming confident in yourself again is crucial in overcoming the hardship.  You need to learn how to reconnect with your emotions in the present, rather than thinking about the mistakes of your past. Meditation helps in centering your brain toward the now. A simple cross-legged meditation is a good place to start. Hold your spine tall and bring your hands to the center of your heart. Keep your palms held together, with the thumbs and the pinkies aligned. Bring your focus to the tip of your nose and breathe. When you release your fear and anxiety about the past, you'll be able to use the energy you've gained in moving forward with strength. It's crucial, in overcoming heartbreak, that you lean on those around you. Remember how necessary these friendships are to your well-being, and how well you've been treated by these individuals in the past. If you have great friends, then you have friends that you can be yourself around. Depending on how tumultuous your romantic feelings toward your best friend have been, you may have felt distant from your other friendships for quite some time. Because you can't pine over this...

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Не пытайтесь забыть его полностью. Научитесь любить себя. Возвращайтесь к друзьям. Напомните себе, что ваши чувства — не просто факт. Начните с кем-нибудь встречаться. Пошлите своему лучшему другу добро.


While it may seem like you can simply start exercising your dog, you should make personalized exercise routine. Overweight dogs need to be gradually introduced to exercise if they were previously inactive. Jumping straight into a daily walking regimen can cause joint pain or injury instead of weight loss. Talk with your vet about what level of activity you should start your dog on. If your dog is inactive, start by putting small amounts of his food at opposite ends of the room and make him walk back and forth to eat it. You can also play simple games like rolling a ball across the floor and asking him to fetch it. When he drops the ball, reward him with some of the kibble taken from his dinner allowance. Gentle lead walks are a great way to begin exercising any unfit dog. Take your dog for a walk on his leash as far as he can comfortably walk. Make a note of how long it took him to get that far. Then, you can gradually increase the distance by adding 5 minutes to each walk once a week.  For example, if your dog can only walk for 5 minutes in the first week, increase his walk to 10 minutes in the second week, 15 minutes in the third week, and so forth. If the walks are very short, take him out two or three times a day in order to build up stamina and fitness. Make sure your dog is actually walking during your outings, not just spending most of his time sniffing. Increasing the duration, frequency, and intensity of your dog’s walking regimen will maximize weight loss and overall health. However, you probably want to add other activities to keep your dog interested in exercising. Once your dog is walking more comfortably, introduce one of the following exercises:  Cycling: Once your dog has a good level of fitness, train your dog to run alongside your bicycle. This can be a fun way for both of you to get exercise, but ensure that your dog doesn't become a danger on the road or to you.  Swimming: Let your dog swim for short periods and gradually increase swim time. Swimming is excellent exercise for an overweight...

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Установите режим тренировок. Начинайте умеренные прогулки. Увеличивайте уровень нагрузки собаки. Сохраняйте позитивный настрой.


While it may seem mean or callous to limit the information your parents have about what you're doing, you may need to do so to stop them from turning into ever-present and overbearing figures in your daily life. If you have ruled out a medical cause as the reason for increased "neediness," or this has been an ongoing issue, you may need to set very clear limits, or boundaries, with your parents.  All contacts should be mutually-agreeable. Don't let your parents dictate what or where you do something. Don't let your parents know every detail of your daily schedule. If they do, there is a chance they could be present much more than you're comfortable with. If you're an adult, make it clear that you don't want to micromanaged. Let them know that it is not okay to stop by your house, apartment, or dorm randomly. For instance, say “Mom, I love you, but I'm an independent person with my own life and responsibilities. I'd appreciate it if you'd give me some personal space.” If your parents have a long history of being needy and interfering in your life, then you may need to simply accept that this is who they are. Instead of trying to change them, focus on how to protect yourself. Decide what you will and will not accept from them, and let them know that there are consequences for violating those boundaries.  For instance, you might say, “Mom, I'm happy to go shopping with you once a month, but I don't have time to do it every weekend.” Or you might say, “Dad, I love seeing you, but you cannot continue to let yourself into my house whenever you feel like it. You need to call first and we can agree on a time and place to meet. If you do it again, I am going to ask for my emergency key back.” If your parents try to draw you into arguments, set a boundary by walking away. Say, “I'm not willing to discuss this any further.” There may come the time when you need to sit down with your parents and have a serious and prolonged conversation about their emotional needs and your life. If this happens, you need to explain how...

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Не позволяйте им контролировать вашу жизнь или распоряжаться ею. Примите эмоционально незрелых родителей. Если нужно, поговорите с ними о том, сколько проблем связано с их эмоциональными потребностями. Ограничьте контакты с ними, если это необходимо.


While it may seem superstitious to some, it's true that adorning yourself with lucky totems or keeping an eye out for lucky signs can help lots of people feel more lucky. You shouldn't stake all your good feelings on arbitrary symbols and signs, but it's perfectly healthy to feel fortunate on any day you're landed on by a ladybug, or any day that starts with a positive omen. Across cultures, insects and other animals are often thought of as being either unlucky, or lucky, depending on the situation. If you're out among the wildlife, keep an eye out for the following lucky insects or animals:  Crickets. Crickets are though to bring good luck from Europe to Asia, as well as the Native American tribes who thought of crickets as bringers of fortune. In some cultures, imitating the sound of a cricket is seen as unlucky. Ladybugs. Some people think that a ladybug that lands on a recently-wedded woman will reveal the number of children she will have in its spots, or the number of dollars soon to be found. Also, ladybugs are thought to bring signs of good weather. Never kill a ladybug if it lands on you. Dragonflies, scarabs, rabbits, eagles, tortoises, dolphins, frogs, bats and many other animals are also commonly thought of as being lucky. If you've got a favorite animal, carry a picture or a totem of that animal with you for luck. Aromatic and lovely, keeping plants in your house can be a wonderful way of livening up your space, as well as a symbol of wealth and prosperity in many cultures. Different plants are thought to have a variety of luck-bringing properties. Some common lucky house plants include:  Honeysuckle, lavender, and jasmine are some of the most aromatic plants you can grow, instantly bringing soothing scents into your space. Some people think that the presence of these plants can help to influence your dreams, easing you off to sleep and helping to ease you into a new day of luck and fortune. Bamboo is one of the luckiest plants, thought to bring wealth, creativity, and health to the planters....

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Дополните работу над собой символами удачи. Обращайте внимание на "счастливых" насекомых и животных. Заведите дома "везучее" растение. Носите амулеты на удачу. Сделайте пространство вокруг себя удачливым.


While it might be best to let the diarrhea resolve on its own, you may want to slow down the diarrhea using medication. You can take over-the-counter medications like bismuth subsalicylate or a fiber (psyllium) supplement. Adults can take 2.5 to 30g of psyllium a day in divided doses.  Bismuth subsalicylate can be used to treat "traveler's diarrhea" and contains mild antibacterial properties. Psyllium is safe to take during pregnancy or while breastfeeding. For vomiting associated with food poisoning, gastroenteritis and most other non-serious causes, take 1000–4000 mg of ginger (in four divided doses throughout the day. For example, take 250–1000 mg four times a day. Ginger has been used to treat nausea and vomiting of many different causes including chemotherapy-induced nausea, and the nausea of early pregnancy. Studies have shown ginger to be effective at relieving post-surgical nausea. It inhibits or suppresses certain types of brain and gut receptors that are related to the sense of nausea. Wash fresh ginger and cut off a two-inch piece. Peel the tan colored "skin" or peel to get to the pale ginger. Cut or grate it into small pieces to get a tablespoon. Add the ginger to two cups of boiling water. Cover the pot and boil it for another minute. Turn off the heat and let the ginger tea steep for three to five  minutes. Pour into a cup and add honey if you like. Drink four to six cups of ginger tea a day. Use fresh ginger, not ginger ale. Most ginger ales do not contain real ginger and contain high levels of sweetener. You should avoid sweeteners while nauseous because sugar generally makes you feel worse. While more research is needed, some herbs are believed to reduce viral or bacterial infections that cause nausea. If anything, herbal teas may simply let you relax and minimize your sense of nausea. To make herbal teas, add 1 teaspoon of dried powder or leaf and steep it in 1 cup of boiled water. You can add honey and lemon to taste. Use the following:  Peppermint Clove Cinnamon Take peppermint or lemon...

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Принимайте лекарство от диареи. Принимайте пищевую добавку с имбирем. Заварите имбирный чай. Заварите травяной чай. Попробуйте ароматерапию. Практикуйте глубокое дыхание.


While it might be difficult to accept, there could be something you're doing to make your co-worker dislike you. Try to consider your co-worker's perspective to see if there's been any bad behavior on your part.  Jealousy often fuels dislike. Your co-worker could see you as more successful or see traits in you that he or she lacks. While you can't necessarily eliminate your co-worker's jealousy, consider whether you've been overly smug or boastful about your success. If so, this may be fueling the dislike. People can mistake shyness as rudeness. If you simply do not interact with your co-worker frequently, he or she might think you're cold. Trying to be a bit friendlier can help.  Do other people in the office seem to like you? If not, you may be inadvertently engaging in behavior others find off-putting. Try talking to a co-worker you're close to and ask him for objective feedback on your behavior. See if there's anything you're doing that could be off putting to others. Carefully review any past interactions you've had with your co-worker. Sometimes, people dislike others for a single bad interaction. There may have been something you said or did that's fueling the dislike.  It could be something simple, like you not holding the elevator by mistake one day. You could have also accidentally said something insensitive, like a comment on your co-worker's outfit he or she took the wrong way.  If you identify any past mistakes on your part, offer your co-worker a sincere apology. If the dislike stems from a simple misunderstanding, it can probably be cleared up with a quick conversation. Be honest with yourself about how much the situation is bothering you. If you're unable to separate your work life from your private life, it may be time to look for another job. Be aware, however, that difficult people exist in every profession. If difficult co-workers really get to you, it might be a good idea to see a therapist about managing your overall stress.

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Взгляните на себя со стороны. Проанализируйте прошлый опыт общения с этим сотрудником. Оцените уровень стресса из-за этой ситуации.


While it might be easy to identify specific triggers or situational triggers, such as those above, try to see if you can isolate patterns to your triggers. This understanding can help you become more proactive about the types of things to avoid when trying to decrease sexual thoughts. Do your triggers tend to be more visual or more verbal? Men, for example, tend to be more turned on by visual stimuli, while women might be more affected by verbal ones. If a particular person, time of day, or emotion always leads you to distracting thoughts about sex, learn to identify those triggers that drag your mind into the gutter. Create a list of your triggers. Maybe you always think about sex:  First thing in the morning. During a particular class, like gym, yoga, etc. On the bus. When you're supposed to be studying or working. When you're around the opposite/same sex. In bed. While it might seem like a way to satisfy sexual urges temporarily, developing an unhealthy reliance on or relationship with pornography could spiral into more and more sexual thoughts, making it very hard to get free of their grip.  Get rid of pornographic videos, magazines, calendars, and other materials in your house and, to the best of your ability, avoid watching it. If you have a firewall guard in your computer, try to enable parental controls, and put the profile to teen so you won't accidentally stumble across any pornography. Parental controls don’t have to be just for kids, of course, and you can set them up on all your browsers and other devices. This is basically what you consider the opposite of sexy. You could try turning yourself off by training yourself to think of unsexy things when your mind drifts into sexual territory. Anything that you would consider an unsexy mental diversion could work here.  Try thinking about neutral pleasant topics like scenic outdoor views, underwater scenes, puppies, sports bloopers, or chess strategy. You could think of cold-related topics like big and bulky clothing, snow, or winter. Get in your own...

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Ознакомьтесь с понятием стимулов, или триггеров. Вам следует понять, что провоцирует появление сексуальных мыслей (что является триггером). Усложните себе доступ к порнографии. Составьте список асексуальных предметов и явлений. Вытесните триггеры мыслями о других вещах. Поручитесь самому себе. Не корите себя.


While it might be nice to give a girl a sweet, handmade card to celebrate your 1-month anniversary, a huge romantic gesture will probably freak her out and put too much pressure on the relationship. Likewise, a handmade card will probably not cut it for a 1-year anniversary. However, you have to consider what your girlfriend wants, too; some girls like to make a big deal out of events like birthdays and Valentine's Day, while others prefer to keep things more casual. A skimpy outfit or tickets to a sporting event she doesn’t really care about will not earn you any points. Make sure you think about your girlfriend, not yourself, when selecting a gift. Popular culture is full of depictions of men giving women teddy bears, heart necklaces, and roses. While some girls may appreciate feeling like they are in a romantic comedy, most will prefer a gift that shows you really know them, and don’t think of them as a two-dimensional stereotype. If you are out of time and ideas, at least consider buying a stuffed version of her favorite animal instead of a generic teddy bear, a bouquet of her favorite flowers instead of roses, or a necklace that somehow reminds you of her instead of just a typical heart pendant. While these can seem like great ideas, you should think twice about giving clothing or jewelry unless you are very confident that you know your girlfriend’s tastes. It is always a good idea to include a receipt with wearable gifts, so that your girlfriend has the option of exchanging your gift for something that suits her better.

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Подумайте о поводе для подарка. Не дарите девушке то, что вам может понравиться больше, чем ей. Выбирая подарок, избегайте стереотипов. Осторожно подходите к выбору ювелирных изделий или предметов одежды.


While it might be tempting to select walnuts with cracks in the shell to make it easier to peel the shell away after cooking, shells with cracks or holes in them do not offer much protection for the kernel inside, and as a result, there is a higher chance that the walnuts will have gone rancid or will have lost some of their original flavor. Even though the heat will likely kill off most of the contaminants on the walnut shell, starting off with clean walnuts is always more sanitary. Clean the walnuts by rinsing them under warm running water. If you notice any stuck-on dirt, gently scrub the walnut shell with a vegetable brush. Allow the nuts to air dry before toasting. Using a sharp, serrated knife, cut a small "x" onto one side of the walnut. One of the main reasons that people typically remove the shell before toasting the walnut is because the shell is a little harder to remove after it is heated. To make it easier to peel the shell, cut an "x" into it before you begin toasting.

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Осмотрите скорлупу на наличие трещин и дырок. Промойте грецкие орехи. Вырежьте небольшой «х» в скорлупе.


While it might seem like a good idea to cover up your sores with a bandage, bandaging sores actually slows healing. The best way to speed up healing time for your herpes sores is to allow them to be exposed to air and run their course. If you suffer from genital herpes, wear loose fitting clothing and underwear to increase air flow to your genital region. Picking at sores can cause infections, which may further increase the amount of time that it take for your sores to heal. Stop yourself if you catch yourself picking at your sores. Leave them be and they will heal much faster. If your sores are itchy or burning, use some ice or a cold compress to help relieve these symptoms. If you suffer from frequent or occasional herpes outbreaks, you should talk to your doctor about your treatment options. Although there is no cure for herpes, there are medications that can make it easier to live with the condition. Some medications can shorten the severity and duration of outbreaks, while others may prevent and reduce the total number of outbreaks that you have. Antiviral drugs are intended to treat herpes at the first sign of an outbreak. Speak with your doctor about having a prescription written to have on hand in the event you have early symptoms of an outbreak and are unable to reach him/her. Acyclovir, famciclovir, and valacyclovir are the most commonly prescribed antiviral medications. Follow your doctor’s instructions and take your medication as directed. Do not take more or less than your prescribed dosage. There are several different over the counter ointments for herpes, but you should consult your doctor before choosing one to use on your sores. If you have genital herpes, then you may need a prescription ointment. Consider using a propolis ointment. In one study, propolis ointment was found to be more effective than acyclovir ointment. People who used the propolis ointment four times a day reported that their sores healed faster than those who used acyclovir. After you have been taking an antiviral...

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Если вспышка герпеса уже случилась, следует чаще подвергать герпетические элементы воздействию свежего воздуха. Оставьте пузырьки в покое. Запишитесь на прием к врачу. Узнайте у врача о противовирусных препаратах. Поговорите с врачом о том, какие мази лучше использовать при герпетических элементах. Чтобы узнать о том, насколько эффективно лечение, поговорите с врачом.


While it might seem like you're the one doing the hating, it might really be the fear of the rejection of others, or an over-emphasis on the opinions of others that gives you self-esteem troubles. Easiest way to break out? Stop hanging out with people who don't build you up. Critics, complainers, and haters should have no place in your life.  Look at your close friends. Are they suffering from similar issues? Are they projecting these issues and anxieties onto you? If so, consider making a break. Find friends that you can rely on to not drag you through the muck. If you're in a relationship with someone who is criticizing, manipulative, or feeds your anxieties about yourself, you're giving yourself the short end of the stick. You can do better. End the relationship and find someone who'll love you for who you are. Psychologists often describe what is called a "locus of control," which can be placed either internally or externally. People with an internal locus of control look to themselves to decide whether or not they're successful. People with external locus? They look outward. You can't change the way others perceive you, and it's a waste of time to try. Instead, focus on shifting your locus of control inward. You don't have any responsibility to others, you have one to yourself. If you're struggling with self-hatred, it may be helpful to think about others for a while and remind yourself how fortunate you really are. Volunteering your time can be an excellent way to build self-esteem and give back at the same time. It's hard not to feel valuable and valued at the end of a day spent contributing in a positive way to your community. If your job is part of the aggravation, make a switch. Pushing a pencil all day's not doing for you anymore? Find something that benefits your community more directly. Take a risk to make a change in your life and commit to your own happiness. You are in control of your life. Instead of wallowing, decide to exercise your creative impulses and make something. Pick up a new hobby...

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Окружите себя позитивными людьми. Держите свою жизнь под контролем. Выйдите и станьте полезны для окружающих. Найдите способы проявить свои творческие способности.


While it might take a while to get through baggage claim and find your way to the proper exit, fresh air or sunlight can help wake you up, alleviating jet lag. Exposure to more natural air is also important. There may be substances in the airport or airplane to which you are mildly allergic. These could trigger your headaches. Lessening exposure can help prevent headaches. Regardless of what precautions you took, most people feel a little "off" when exiting an airplane. Take it easy for 30-60 minutes to see if you start to feel better.  It might not be a good idea to drive right away. Take a cab home from the airport or have a trusted friend pick you up. Do not expose yourself to stimulants that can normally induce headaches. Caffeine, loud music, and alcohol should be avoided in the hours after a flight until you've readjusted. If your headaches are frequent or severe, you should make an appointment with your physician.  You want to make sure your headaches are caused by flying and not related to more serious medical concerns. Your doctor might also be able to recommend medications and lifestyle changes that could help alleviate your after-flight headaches. Most flight-related headaches go away within 30-60 minutes after they start. If your headache lasts longer than that, talk to your doctor.

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Как можно скорее выберитесь на свежий воздух. Дайте себе время передохнуть и осмотреться вокруг. Проконсультируйтесь с врачом насчет связанных с авиаперелетами головных болей.


While it sounds like the least glamorous advice possible, getting sufficient sleep is an important part of looking beautiful. While it's recommended you should get at least  7 hours a night, many try to slip by with far less than that. If you want to look and act your best, make sure to get enough rest. Your skin will dry and age faster if you don't.  It's also a good idea to try to fall asleep at the same time each night. Try to be awake for as much daylight as possible. Your mood and energy will also be affected by the amount that you sleep. It should come as obvious that you won't be acting with the same charm if you're trying to fight off sleep. If you want to look your best, it should be a no-brainer that you'll want to keep up with the absolute basics. Brushing your teeth at least twice a day, bathing or showering regularly, trimming toe and fingernails, and brushing your hair are just some of the things you should be keeping an eye on regularly. Even without any type of cosmetics, you can look very beautiful so long as you look healthy and well-maintained. Moisturizing your skin is an important part of keeping it looking vibrant and youthful throughout the years. Although wrinkles on their own aren't necessarily a bad thing, signs of aging may have an impact on your confidence. It may be a good idea to buy a specific moisturizer for your eyes as well. Eye moisturizers use a more delicate material to adjust for the gentle skin around eyes. Regular exercise tightens up your skin and is an essential part of keeping your body in healthy order. Cardio exercise like running will help put you in a great mood throughout the rest of the day. Don't be afraid of working some muscle training into your workouts as well. Some women feel against it because they think it's too masculine. Muscle training is a great way to get fit for both genders however, and you'll look all the better once you commit to a regimen.

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Высыпайтесь. Соблюдайте личную гигиену. Увлажняйте кожу. Регулярно занимайтесь спортом.


While it was originally used to describe country music, the phrase "three chords and the truth" is often used to describe many types of music, especially punk rock. If you're going to be the vocalist, you've got to provide the truth part. In general, punk lyrics need to come from your life, and come from the heart. Listen to Keith Morris' lyrics on the first two Circle Jerks records. He addresses class issues, politics, and addiction in explicit ways. Perfect punk vocals. Punk songs are often from the perspective of alienated youth, giving voice to the particular frustration of being a teenager. Feel like nobody cares or understands you? Channel that feeling into your lyrics. Sing about what matters to you, and to your community. Nihilism and anarchism are philosophies often associated with punk rock, both philosophies that privilege the freedom of the individual from all ideological and political structures. It's important to understand this context of most punk music. Most punk songs aren't incredibly complex in the vocal range required, or in the melodies included. Often, lots of classic punk lyrics will only include a few lines, repeated over and over. Don't worry about over complicating things. Often, punk lyrics don't need to rhyme to make them work. Toss out all the traditional rules of songwriting and go with what works for the material. Most punk songs are only two minutes long, three at the most. If you can clock in a memorable punk song that takes less than 120 seconds to play, you're really on to something. Don't overthink it when you're structuring the song. Think verse, chorus, verse, chorus, chorus. Punk rock also makes plenty of room for juvenile and the crude senses of humor. Toilet humor and sex puns are par for the course on lots of skate and pop punk songs, especially. Check out early NOFX, Blink 182, Screaming Weasels, and Green Day songs for good examples of punk at its most crude.

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Пишите правду. Личные мотивы. Простые мелодии. Песни должны быть короткими. Позволяйте вольности.


While it's certainly fine to drink your whisky out of any old glass, choosing the right one will enhance your whisky experience. Experts agree that a tulip-shaped glass is generally the best: It allows you to swirl the whisky without it spilling, as well as concentrating the whisky aroma near the glass's neck. If you can't find a tulip-shaped whisky glass to sip out of, try using a wine or champagne glass instead. Smell your whisky with your mouth slightly open to fully appreciate the aroma. Bring the whisky glass up to your nose and inhale deeply. Take your nose away (the first nose will smell entirely of alcohol) and then come back to the whisky. Spend a good 20 to 30 seconds breathing in the whisky, setting it down, and coming back to it, all while free-associating about the kinds of smells or flavors the spirit evokes. When nosing, pay attention to the following kinds of smells:  Smokiness. This includes peatiness, as malted barley is often thrown over a peat fire in order to smoke it. Saltiness. Can you taste the briny spindrift of Islay whiskies? Many Scotch whiskies have a distinctly maritime smell. Fruitiness. Can you pick out dried currants, apricot, or cherry from your whisky? Sweetness. Many Scotch whiskies rely on caramel, toffee, vanilla or honey tones. What confections can you smell? Woodiness. Since oak is such an integral companion in the whisky-aging process, wood smell is often headily present in Scotch. It sometimes interacts with the smell of sweetness. Swallow the whisky and open your mouth slightly to help taste the lingering afterglow of the whisky. What flavors, if any, develop after the whisky has been swallowed? This is referred to as the "finish." In elegant whiskies, the finish will be distinct from the mouthfeel, and will add another layer of pleasant complexity to your tasting experience. Swirl, nose, taste, and savor the whisky again. How does it taste diluted? How is the whisky any different from what it was undiluted? What things do you notice now about the whisky that weren't...

TL;DR in Russian:

Найдите правильный бокал. Понюхайте. Насладитесь финишем. Повторите весь процесс, сейчас уже с разбавленным виски.


While it's easy to skip over this information, there are a few features that should be noted before you decide to use Shutterfly. For example, Shutterfly does not allow certain types of images, and does collect information about you which may be shared with third parties, unless you opt out. If you aren't already signed up, an account creation window should open automatically when you go to the website. Creating an account is simple: just enter your name and email address in the spaces provided, and create a password. If the account creation window doesn't open automatically, just click "sign up" in the upper right-hand corner of your screen.

TL;DR in Russian:

Зайдите на сайт Shutterfly. Прочитайте условия пользования и политику конфиденциальности. Создайте аккаунт.


While it's fine to mention your family once and while, it is best to avoid going into too much detail about your personal life. Avoid discussing family issues with your coworkers. If you have a medical issue that could affect your job performance, talk to someone from your human resources department. Similarly, watch how you present yourself on social media.  If you're friending people from work, you might want to hide certain posts from them, or better yet, don't post them at all. For instance, if you're going out on a drinking binge, don't post about it on social media.  If your coworkers mention wanting to connect with you on social media, direct them to your LinkedIn page. However, remember, that once it's out there, it can be copied and shared by other people, so if you really don't want people to see it, don't post it. Every office has a different culture, including unspoken rules. Some are more relaxed, while others may be more rigid. Watch people closely to pick up on the unspoken rules. For instance, maybe one unspoken rule is that you need to use email if your question can wait a while. If you have piles of papers and coffee cups everywhere, you'll be viewed as unprofessional. However, you can add a few bits of personal charm; just keep it office appropriate. Pictures of your family are fine; pictures of half-naked men or women should stay at home. Pictures that are lewd or offensive are inappropriate for your work space. Keep them at home or only in your private, non-work spaces. The best way to sound professional is to keep the verbal tics out of your speech. One way to do that is to speak more slowly, taking time to think about what you're saying as you say it.  If you aren't sure what verbal tics you use, try taking a recording of yourself when you're talking on the phone. You'll be able to notice it better when you play back than you normally do when you're speaking.  Try to eliminate the "ums" and "likes."

TL;DR in Russian:

Разделяйте свою частную и профессиональную жизнь. Изучите неписанные правила. Держите свое рабочее место в чистоте и порядке. Говорите четко и ясно.


While it's fun to go see dolphins up close doing tricks, these parks separate baby dolphins from their mothers, keep them enclosed in tanks, feed them drugs, and force them to breed at exceptionally young ages. They've also been accused of unsafe work environments for humans and dolphins alike, making parks like SeaWorld dangerous and unethical. Don't support them. The biggest thing you can contribute to the cause of dolphins is your voice. If you care about keeping dolphins safe, shout it from the rooftops and learn everything you can about the dangers that face the dolphin population in your area.  Subscribe to dolphin watch organizations to keep up-to-date on current efforts and legislation that you could contribute to and encourage others to participate in. BlueVoice is an ocean conservation organization that works to save dolphins and whales, specifically by tracking and fighting dolphin hunts in Japan and Peru. You can join BlueVoice by signing up here. Devote a considerable amount of your social media presence to dolphin causes and making others aware of what's going on in the oceans. The more people know what to avoid and are aware of the threat that dolphins face, the more changes can be made. . In the 1970s, the government passed a bill designed to keep dolphins and other marine mammals safe, but it wasn't until the mid-80s that stronger guidelines were put in place, specifically related to tuna fishing. The impact of these regulations made a huge difference then, in the short term, but little has been done in the decades since. It's time to revisit the issue, so you should let your representative know you mean business. Get in touch immediately. Most communications happen online, so you can usually visit your senatorial or congressional representative's website to learn more about how to get in touch directly. Draft a letter laying out a specific plan of action and demand results, or deny your vote during the next election cycle. Changes specifically need to take into account the commercial and...

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Бойкотируйте морские тематические парки, в которых содержатся дельфины в неволе. Сумейте вставить свое слово и сделайте это громко. Поощряйте законодательные проекты, касающиеся защиты млекопитающих. Делайте пожертвования в фонды по охране морской дикой природы. Организовывайте более масштабные бойкоты в вашем регионе. Создайте группу активистов.


While it's important to many to give their pet a final resting place, burying an animal is not legal everywhere. Prior to burying your cat, check local regulations. You can call someone at your local courthouse or Department of Natural Resources to see whether it's legal to bury a pet in your backyard. Usually, you cannot bury a cat in public place like a park.  Refrain from burying a cat near a body of water. This could contaminate the water supply. You should also make sure you're not digging into any cables in the ground. Choose an area of your yard that's far away from home. If you encounter any cables while digging your hole, stop digging, refill the hole, and pick a different spot. If you're renting, make sure to check with your landlord. Not all landlords will allow people to bury pets in the backyard. Once you have made sure burying your cat is legal, select a burial site, such as a spot in your yard.  You may want to pick a special or symbolic place to bury your cat. If your cat always hung out near the wildflowers in your yard, for example, this may be a good spot to bury it. If your cat loved to play in the woods, you could bury your cat there. However, think about logistics when deciding to bury your cat. You do not want the grave somewhere in the yard where it will frequently be stepped on or disturbed. Choose an area of your yard where you don't usually go. If you have young children, pick a spot where they do not play. You want some kind of vessel to place your cat in prior to burial. This is particularly important if your state or area has certain regulations regarding burying pets. You may be required to use a particular type of container due to concerns about contaminating the ground.  You can purchase a coffin for a pet online. If it's important to you to have a formal coffin, this may be the right option for you. However, coffins can be expensive. You can also bury your cat in something like a cardboard box. If your cat had a bed it loved, consider burying your cat in its bed. If you don't...

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Узнайте, можно ли в вашей местности похоронить кошку. Выберите место захоронения. Выберите гроб или подходящий контейнер. Выберите надгробный камень.


While it's never fun to be rejected, you have to take it in stride, especially if you want to stay friends with the girl. Even if she isn't as polite as she could be, be the bigger person and accept the rejection.  Just end the conversation with a simple, "Okay, I'll talk to you later," or something like that. When you see her afterwards, just smile and say hi. Don't bring up the rejection again, at least for a while. She made her decision and you'll only pester her if you keep bringing it up. Never insult or threaten her. It's this girl's right to decide who she wants to date, and she doesn't deserve to be insulted because she rejected your advances. Getting rejected always hurts, and it's normal to feel bad about it. Don't try to suppress your feelings of disappointment, but rather allow yourself a few days to get those feelings out. After you go through this grieving process, you can get back to building your confidence. Everyone grieves at their own pace, and it's normal to feel sad for a while. If you can't seem to get over it or are feeling depressed for some time, however, you might be suffering from some psychological issues. Consider talking to a guidance counselor or mental health professional to get the help you need. Things always seem more serious than they really are when they first happen. It might seem like this rejection is a huge deal, but think about it a little more. How much does getting rejected for a date impact your life? Probably not too much. Remember that this rejection doesn't mean anything about you as a person. You're not a bad or undesirable person because one girl didn't accept your advances. All the good qualities you had are still a part of you. Once you realize that, moving on is much easier. Any time you're feeling down, doing nothing just makes it worse. This allows your brain to dwell on the problem. Instead, distract your brain. Watch a movie, go outside and walk or ride your bike, go to the mall with friends; anything you enjoy and that will keep your mind busy. It...

TL;DR in Russian:

Примите отказ вежливо. Позвольте себе погрустить некоторое время. Взгляните на ситуацию в перспективе. Займите себя делами, чтобы отвлечься. Предлагайте дружбу, когда полностью оправитесь после отказа.


While it's not necessary to buy the most expensive cosmetics, read reviews about the product you're considering buying to find out whether it's worth it. In addition to the liner, you will also need a brush that can create the look you want. A thick brush will create thick, dark lines. A thin, angled brush will give you more control and allow you to make finer lines. Look for a brush that has a bit of stiffness to it. Use a gentle cleanser and your favorite moisturizer. You want to ensure your skin is free of dirt and oil so that you have a fresh canvas to work with. Don't use an overly oily moisturizer, or the eyeliner will have trouble adhering to your skin. Don't point the brush perpendicular to your eye so you can't see what you're doing. Instead, hold the brush at an angle so you can see the tip touching your eye and can follow as you work.

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Выберите подходящую вам подводку для глаз. Умойте лицо, вытрите его насухо и обработайте кожу увлажняющим средством. Держите кисть под наклоном.


While it's tempting to light a fire or candle when the electricity is out, doing so can be dangerous after an earthquake. If your gas line has a leak anywhere, you could cause your house to go up in flames with a spark. Instead, reach for a flashlight. Look at yourself and the people around you, checking for major injuries. Major injuries include head injuries, broken bones, or major cuts.  If injuries need immediate attention, deal with them first. If they can wait a minute, you may want to check the house first, since a gas leak or electrical damage may pose a threat of more harm. Provide first aid as needed. For instance, bandage any wounds according to the first aid booklet you have. If you have injuries you can't deal with, you may need to call 911. Keep in mind, though, that emergency services will be overloaded, so try to take care of what you can. If parts of the house look damaged, don't hesitate. You may notice walls or floors crumbling, for instance, or cracks forming. If you're not sure whether an area is safe, get out of the house. You don't want to stay in a structure that is unsafe and may come down around you. Walk around the house, looking for issues. The main things you need to look for right now are gas leaks, water leaks, and electrical problems.  Make sure you are smelling as you move around the house. Smell is the main way you can tell if there is a gas leak, though you may hear hissing as well. If you smell or hear gas, shut off the main gas valve. You should already know how to do this step if you prepared for the earthquake in method one. Also, open windows, and get out of the house. Call your gas company to tell them about the leak. Look for electrical problems. If you see any damaged wires or sparks, turn off the electricity. If you see water leaks, turn off the main water supply. If you're short on water, consider alternative sources, such as melted ice cubes, the water from your hot water heater, and water from canned vegetables and fruits. This information will likely be on the...

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Не разводите огонь. Проверьте, не ранен ли кто-либо. Проверьте целостность конструкций. Проверьте инженерные сети. Узнайте о состоянии водопровода и канализации. Соберите вредные вещества. Держитесь подальше от дорог.


While it's the worst case scenario in this sort of situation, there's a possibility that the confusion of the situation might have driven you two apart forever. More than likely, you will be the person who can't move beyond the weight of the situation, as your feelings have proven to be unrequited.  If you've taken the proper time to be alone and get yourself back on track, then you can decide whether or not you feel ready to be friends again. Don't be hard on yourself if you're having trouble moving on. It may require far more time than you initially anticipated. With more time apart, new feelings for others may enter your brain. This may or may not help you get over your former love object. It's a lot easier to manage your friendship if you're not spending a lot of one-on-one time with your best friend. It's still important to maintain boundaries with this person, even if it's difficult. Your impulse might be to continue doing all the same activities that you did when you were best friends. For the time being, you'll want to avoid anything too intimate or private. Figure out what sort of relationship you might have with this person. You may not be able to spend time alone watching television, but perhaps you can still chat over a beer or cup of coffee. Remember, if your friend is happy, you should be too. This is where being mature comes in. You love your friend, and you want him or her to be happy, whatever the decision may be.  Be sure that you're actively pushing through the awkwardness. Figure out your new boundaries as friends. You'll both have to change your expectations and assess what you're allowed to do, so this should start with acceptance of your present situation.

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Убедитесь в том, что вы оба хотите сохранить дружеские отношения. Проводите время в компаниях. Научитесь довольствоваться такими отношениями.


While it's true that, as with any other kind of sex, phone sex can "just happen", the session is more likely to go well if you've planned ahead, especially if it's your first time doing it together.  Pick a time when you're both alone and free to let your inhibitions loose. Your plan won’t work if you're rolling around in bed, feeling hot and heavy, while your partner is shivering in the rain outside the library. If your partner is new to phone sex or feeling unsure, consider sending them this article, or reading it together. Don't forget that you can always discuss what you'd like to do during phone sex before you start. It will be difficult for you to enjoy yourselves if you feel tense or silly, so before you call, do whatever you need to do to get yourself comfortable and feeling sexy.   Let loose: Lie in bed for a while, browse the internet, have a glass of wine, jog on the spot, do a silly song and dance in front of the mirror -- anything that will allow you to release the tension from your body.  Get in the mood: Setting up a sexy atmosphere can help put you in the right frame of mind, so consider doing whatever you'd do to prepare for any other kind of sex. Here are some ideas:  Tidy up your room and make the bed Dim the lights, perhaps set up some candles Play soft music Have a bath or shower (and a shave, if you like) Think of a role play to spice up the call (you two skinny dipping, etc.) Put on (or take off!) your favorite, sexiest clothes and underwear Set out some sex toys Turn yourself on by gently caressing your body, or thinking about your lover, or imagining sexual encounters you've had or would like to have... but don't let yourself get too turned on just yet -- that's what the phone call is for!

TL;DR in Russian:

Назначьте дату свидания по телефону. Расслабьтесь и настройтесь.


While it's usually best to check your Flash Player version before attempting to update on both Windows and Mac computers, the quickest and easiest way to update Flash Player on Linux is by using the Terminal to force a new Flash Player installation. Click or double-click the Terminal app icon, which resembles a black box with a white ">_" icon on most versions of Linux. You can also press Alt+Ctrl+T to prompt Terminal to launch. Type in the following command, then press ↵ Enter:  sudo apt-get install flashplugin-installer Type in the password you use to log into your account, then press ↵ Enter. You won't see the characters appear in Terminal as you type. Type in Y and then press ↵ Enter. This will allow the most recent version of Flash Player to begin overwriting your previous installation. When you see your username appear at the bottom of the Terminal window again, Flash Player has successfully been updated. If there was no update available, you'll have the same version of Flash Player installed.

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Ознакомьтесь с принципом обновления Flash Player в Linux.  Откройте терминал.  Введите команду для обновления.  Введите пароль, когда появится запрос.  Подтвердите установку, когда будет предложено.  Подождите, когда процесс завершится.


While it's usually fairly easy to factor small integers, larger numbers can be daunting. Most of us would be hard-pressed to break a 4 or 5-digit number into its prime factors using nothing but mental math. Luckily, using a table, the process becomes much easier. Write your number above a t-shaped table with two columns - you'll use this table to keep track of your growing list of factors. For the purpose of our example, let's choose a 4-digit number to factor - 6,552. Divide your number by the smallest prime factor (besides 1) that divides into it evenly with no remainder. Write the prime factor in the left column and write your answer across from it in the right column. As noted above, even numbers are especially easy to start factoring because their smallest prime factor will always be 2. Odd numbers, on the other hand, will have smallest prime factors that differ. In our example, since 6,552 is even, we know that 2 is its smallest prime factor. 6,552 ÷ 2 = 3,276. In the left column, we'll write 2, and in the right column, write 3,276. Next, factor the number in the right column by its smallest prime factor, rather than the number at the top of the table. Write the prime factor in the left column and the new number in the right column. Continue to repeat this process - with  each repetition, the number in the right column should decrease. Let's continue with our process. 3,276 ÷ 2 = 1,638, so att the bottom of the left column, we'll write another 2, and at the bottom of the right column, we'll write 1,638. 1,638 ÷ 2 = 819, so we'll write 2 and 819 at the bottom of the two columns as before. Odd numbers are more difficult to find the smallest prime factor of than even numbers because they don't automatically have 2 as their smallest prime factor. When you reach an odd number, try dividing by small prime numbers other than 2 - 3, 5, 7, 11, and so on - until you find one that divides evenly with no remainder. This is the number's smallest prime factor.  In our example, we've reached 819. 819 is odd, so 2 is...

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Разложить на множители большое число – нелегкая задача. Разделите данное число на наименьший простой делитель (кроме 1), на который данное число делится без остатка. Далее разделите число в правой колонке на наименьший простой делитель (кроме 1), на который данное число делится без остатка. Вы получили нечетное число; для таких чисел найти наименьший простой делитель сложнее. Продолжите процесс деления чисел на простые делители до тех пор, пока в правой колонке не останется 1 (если в правой колонке вы получили простое число, разделите его само на себя, чтобы получить 1). В левой колонке представлены простые множители исходного числа.


While it’s important to be a source of support for your pregnant friend, you also need to maintain focus on school and your extracurricular activities. It can be overwhelming to see a friend struggling, but you need space to be who you are without dealing with her issue 24/7. You may feel angry with her for getting pregnant, jealous of the fact you will spend less time together once she has the baby or stressed out by the secret. You have every right to feel how you feel, but keep in mind your friend who is pregnant may not be the best person to talk about your feelings with. You may need to talk to a trusted adult instead of adding stress to her already stressful situation. Going through this difficult time with your friend may take a toll on you, so you may want to consider talking to a counselor. A counselor is a safe adult who can’t tell your friend’s secret, except in certain situations.  A counselor can offer advice and support, but she cannot tell anyone else about your friend’s secret unless your friend is in danger, such as if she is suicidal. If you tell the counselor that your friend is suicidal, then the counselor would be obligated to find out if that is true. If your friend is truly suicidal, then the counselor would have to report this to social services. Keep in mind that talking to an adult will give you the opportunity to ask questions and get further information about resources that may help both your friend and yourself through this ordeal. Remember, teens that become pregnant are at risk to drop out of school and this affects your future. Take your friend's situation as a lesson to protect yourself. Even if your friend seems to be happy about being pregnant, the life of a teen parent is not easy. Using condoms can protect you against pregnancy and STDs. However, keep in mind that abstinence is the only way to 100% protect yourself from teen pregnancy.

TL;DR in Russian:

Не позволяйте тому, что происходит с вашей подругой, отвлечь вас от ваших дел. Смиритесь с тем, что ваша подруга изменится. Если вам нужно с кем-то поговорить, обратитесь к психологу или социальному педагогу. Позаботьтесь о безопасном сексе.


While it’s no longer mandatory that Skype be installed by manually downloading the package from Skype’s website, it’s still an option. Try installing Skype from the Canonical Partners repository first. If you run into any issues, use this method as a backup. The path to the package is different depending on whether you’re using 32-bit or 64-bit Ubuntu:  If you’re using 32-bit Ubuntu, type: wget http://www.skype.com/go/getskype-linux-beta-ubuntu-32 and press ↵ Enter. 64-bit Ubuntu, type:  wget http://www.skype.com/go/getskype-linux-beta-ubuntu-32 and press ↵ Enter. If you’re using the 64-bit version of Ubuntu, you’ll need Multiarch to install Skype. Here’s how to do it from the command line:  Type: sudo dpkg --add-architecture i386 and press ↵ Enter. When you return to the command prompt, type: sudo apt-get update and press ↵ Enter. You’ll do this with the “dkpg” command. Make sure the version number aligns with the one you downloaded earlier.  Type: sudo dpkg -i skype-ubuntu-precise_4.3.0.37-1_i386.deb and press ↵ Enter. As Linux tries to unpack Skype, you’ll see a slew of errors on the screen about dependency issues. This is normal. To correct the errors and start the Skype install:  Type: sudo apt-get -f install and press ↵ Enter. Wait a few moments as the package installs. When the installation is complete, you’ll return to the command prompt. To start Skype, type skype and press ↵ Enter. Follow the prompts to sign in or create a new account with Skype.

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Нажмите Ctrl+Alt+T, чтобы открыть окно терминала. Скачайте Skype с помощью Wget. Активируйте Multiarch (только для 64-разрядной Ubuntu). Установите Skype с помощью скачанного пакета. Устраните ошибки, связанные с зависимостями, и запустите процесс установки Skype. Запустите Skype.


While it’s not actually paper, it is a paper-like substance made from hornet saliva and wood. The nest houses eggs and hornets are very protective of both their home and their eggs. Hence, you really don’t want to be caught near their nest lest they consider you a danger.  While it starts as a small, honeycomb-looking object, as the colony grows, the nest expands to an oval shape resembling a football, stalactite, or inverted teardrop. This means that just identifying the structure can help you narrow down your insect neighbors but does not determine exactly what type of insect they are. Paper wasps also use a paper-like building material but their nests have no paper envelope that covers and protects the nest. Hornets build their nests in outdoor areas and usually high above ground, such as in trees, on a utility pole, or in thick shrubs. They will also build nests on the eaves of roofs and under decks.  Often you won’t see their nest until autumn when the leaves fall off and reveal the nest hidden within. By this time most of the hornets will be dead or dying, leaving only the queen to hibernate and live through the winter. In contrast, yellow jacket nests can often be found either close to the ground, underground, or inside any loose structure they can find, such as between the inner and outer walls of a house or even inside an old mattress. Some wasps that build nests high above the ground are incorrectly called hornets. The North American bald-faced hornet (Dolichovespula Maculata) is actually a species of wasp, as is the Australian hornet (Abispa ephippium), which is a subspecies of the potter wasp. Hornet colonies can have as many as 700 members. If the nest is significantly larger, one you think contains thousands of members, odds are you are looking at a yellow jacket nest. So keeping a close eye – from a distance – is key to knowing whether they are hornets or yellow jackets. Whether the nest is small or large, the way to handle the nest is to call in professionals. These people will need to know...

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Знайте, как выглядит гнездо шершней. Поищите гнездо на улице в прикрытом сверху месте. Оцените количество насекомых.


While it’s okay to give your man the benefit of the doubt, many men cheat on their wives just for sex. If you’re having sex with him, he has both his family and you. This isn’t fair to you or them, so don’t continue to sleep with him unless he fully commits to you. Tell him, “I still want to be with you, but I can’t keep being the other woman. I’m not going to sleep with you again until you commit to me.” It’ll likely be hard for you to distance yourself from him, but it’s for the best. It shows him that you’re serious about wanting him to leave his wife. Additionally, it gives you space to make yourself happy. Stop making plans with him and avoid being with him alone. You might say, “I’d love to go out to dinner, but you know that’s not an option for me. You’re still with her, so I have to protect myself.” It might be hard to understand why he keeps going back to her, and you might wonder what she has that you don’t. However, there are many reasons why he’s staying with her, and they don’t have anything to do with you. When you find yourself thinking about her, turn your focus to your best qualities and what you love about yourself. Then, list the things in your life that are going well.  You could tell yourself, “I love my eyes, how creative I am, and how much I care about animals.” You might be grateful for your family, your pets, and your great job. When you’re dating a married man, it’s easy to get caught in limbo. You want him to start a future with you, but this might not work out. While you don’t have to give up hope, set goals for the future and start taking steps toward them. This will help you have a great life, even if it’s not meant to be with your man. For example, you might set a goal to get your master’s degree. You could start by enrolling in college. You deserve to be happy now, so don’t put your life on hold while you’re waiting for him to leave. Continue to enjoy your favorite things, and spend time with the other people in your life. This will help you focus on your happiness while you’re...

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Прекратите заниматься с ним сексом, чтобы он был вынужден принять решение. Ограничьте времяпрепровождение с ним, чтобы он почувствовал ваше отсутствие. Не сравнивайте себя с его женой — это лишь причинит вам боль. Сосредоточьтесь на построении своего будущего вместо того, чтобы беспокоиться об этом мужчине. Преследуйте свои цели и интересы вне этих отношений. Подумайте о том, чтобы ходить на свидания с другими мужчинами, пока он не согласится быть только с вами. Расстаньтесь с женатым мужчиной


While it’s sad to see any relationship go — whether it's a friend or lover — sometimes the betrayal is a wake up call and a sign that there are many fish in the sea. Looking at the relationship as a whole should help you decide whether you want to regain trust in the person or whether you'll probably want to move on.  What was the relationship like before the incident? Did you have fun and laugh frequently? Or did you feel like it was a constant chore and you were doing most, if not all, of the work. Did you feel listened to? Was your word as important as theirs? Were lines of communication free and open, or closed and constrained? Did you feel that you could rely on this person? Was the relationship balanced or was it one-sided and not in your favor? Was the betrayal out of character or, in retrospect, might you have seen this coming? Does the person have a history of breaking the trust of their friends or lovers? This is another important exercise in self-discovery you should try to complete before you decide to allow yourself to trust the person who betrayed you. After all, if you're looking for the right things in the wrong places, you might do better to ditch this person and find someone else. It's hard to say, but it's tough medicine.  Are you in a relationship because you need someone to complete you? This may be a problem. Asking someone to complete you is an impossible task. Only you can do that. If you're in a relationship because you need one in order to feel "whole", you should probably consider taking a break from dating. Are you asking for people to hurt you? Do you always date the same kind of person — the person who ends up hurting you in a fiery, dramatic spectacle? You might subconsciously be asking to be hurt because you don't think you deserve better. Well, you do. Improve your self esteem and don't settle for the kind of person you know will hurt you. Sure, grading someone sounds callous, but it is an effective and honest way to assess whether or not this person meets your needs. Besides,...

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Начните с оценки взаимосвязи. Подумайте, почему вы были в этих отношениях. Поставьте оценку своим отношениям. Проанализируйте предательство самостоятельно. Оцените тяжесть предательства.