Even if you don’t mean to hurt anyone, you’ve probably said something that another person felt hurt or offended by. When you speak, consider how the other person might interpret your words. Acknowledge their feelings when they react or respond. If you’re saying something sensitive, do so sensitively. Your words are powerful, so use them wisely. For example, if you need to cancel on plans and you know the other person will be upset, acknowledge their feelings when you cancel. Say, “I’m so sorry I have to cancel, I know you will feel disappointed. I’ll do my best to make up for it soon.” Be sure to make requests of people and not demands. Having good manners is as simple as saying "thank you" and "please" when you're requesting something from another person. Having good manners shows that you respect their time and effort to help you.  Brush up on some skills that show good manners. For example, excuse yourself if you interrupt a conversation, offer someone a seat at a meeting, and wait your turn in line. Remember that common courtesy can help you to show respect and have positive interactions with strangers as well. . Give your full attention when someone is speaking. Instead of planning your response, really listen and hear what they are saying.  Limit the distractions around you by turning off the television or silencing your phone. Practice focusing solely on the other person and not on yourself.  Make neutral statements to demonstrate that you are listening, such as “Yes,” “Go on,” and “I see.” If you find that your mind has wandered, ask them to repeat what they just said, so that you can be actively involved again in the conversation. If you constantly nitpick, criticize, belittle, judge, or demean a person, they may not be open to your words, and instead feel as if you are bullying them. If you have something to say, do so in a way that encourages them.  For example, if your roommate has a bad habit that drives you crazy, point it out gently or make a request. Instead of saying, “I can’t stand when you...

TL;DR in Russian:

Проявляйте деликатность к чувствам людей. Относитесь к людям вежливо и обходительно. Внимательно слушайте Отпускайте комментарии в позитивном ключе. Делитесь своим мнением, когда вас об этом просят.


Even if you feel comfortable with physical affection or physical demonstrations of familiarity, do not assume that the people around you feel the same way. Even in informal situations, stick to a simple bow and maintain a healthy distance. This is particularly important as people of different sex and gender identifications as it maybe be considered inappropriate and impolite to exchange physical contact in public, not because of queer identification, however, because traditionally on a binary system individual of different sex/gender identification do not engage in excessive physical contact. In more informal situations, you can make eye contact, but do not hold it for an extended period of time. Instead, allow your gaze to linger for a matter of seconds before moving to another focal point. Follow the lead of the person with whom you are associating. If they do not initiate eye contact, you should follow suit. Even in informal situations, you should offer a bow as a form of greeting. The depth of your bow will determine how much reverence or respect you are offering, so a small bow from the waist or a gentle dip of the head will suffice for an informal setting. If you do not know the people to whom you are bowing, engage in a more pronounced bow and reserve gentle nods for acquaintances or known colleagues. In an informal setting, feel free to offer up a handshake, but do not be too firm or aggressive. Instead, keep your hand loose. Handshakes are also not held as long in Japan as they might be in Europe or the United States. Rather than holding a firm handshake for ten seconds or more, grasp hands for a maximum of five seconds before letting go. Large displays of emotion are not common in Japanese culture, so don’t be surprised if you do not encounter a lot of friendly smiling. If you are familiar with someone, however, don’t feel you have to shy away from smiling or grinning.

TL;DR in Russian:

Избегайте прямого контакта. Удерживайте только краткий зрительный контакт. Слегка поклонитесь или склоните голову. Пожмите руки. Улыбнитесь.


Even if you feel desperate, you shouldn't let your ex think you are. Keep your dignity throughout the process, and don't make it seem as though your ex will be doing you a favor by agreeing to get together again. Emotional strength and maturity are naturally attractive to both sexes. Begging either comes across as being weak or manipulative, and neither attribute is an especially alluring one. You need to let your ex know that their needs come first, but if your ex becomes too demanding and unreasonable, you need to know when to walk away.  Remember your own self-worth. Even if you messed up before, it doesn't give your ex the right to take advantage of you. An ex who treats you like a doormat will usually only use you and eventually throw you away. Even if your ex does come back to you under these conditions, he or she won't respect you, and the relationship won't be a healthy one. Don't make it seem as though your ex was the only good thing in your life. It's okay to feel upset about the breakup and to let your ex see it, but you also need to show your ex that you are capable of surviving without them.  Don't continually post sad updates to all of your social media accounts or make a show out of letting everyone around you know that you feel miserable. It's better to show your ex that you're getting your life back together after the destruction of the breakup. Remember that emotional strength and resilience are attractive qualities. You might think that things are permanently over when your ex starts seeing someone new, but this isn't necessarily true. Panicking over the change in your ex's relationship status and attacking him or her for it will drive your ex further away, though.  If your ex starts to date someone else immediately after your breakup, that relationship is probably a rebound and usually won't last for very long. On the other hand, it's also possible that your ex ended things with you to be together with this other person. In this case, getting back together with your ex is probably a bad...

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Никогда не умоляйте бывшего партнера вернуться к вам. Не будьте бесхарактерным человеком. Не пытайтесь казаться слишком несчастным человеком. Не переживайте, если ваш бывший партнер начинает встречаться с кем-то другим.


Even if you feel like you don’t have to go, try and use the bathroom whenever you have a break and between classes. This may help ensure that you don’t experience any flare-ups during class or another inconvenient time. Give yourself the time you need in the bathroom. If you’re late for class, explain to your teacher that you’re sick and have to use the bathroom more frequently.  Let your teacher know why you’re late. Ask your teacher if you can talk outside of the classroom if you are embarrassed. Remember that teachers are there to help you and letting your instructor know what’s going on can prevent further uncomfortable situations. For example, you could say, “Mr. Newman, could I please speak to you outside about something important?” Once you get out of the classroom, tell the teacher, “I’m very sorry, but I’m having terrible problems with my stomach today. I may need to get up and use the bathroom during class.” Put your own health first. If you're having trouble communicating with your teacher or are not receiving the help you need, do not hesitate to put your own wellness first. Do what you need to do in order to manage your diarrhea. You should minimize disrupting your classroom and school environment, but your health should be your first priority. If you have to go to the bathroom often, let your teacher know what’s going on and ask if you can sit next to the door. This allows you to slip out if you feel ill without disrupting the class or drawing attention to yourself.  Consider asking to sit on the floor next to the door if necessary. If anyone asks, you can easily say “my back is killing me today and sitting on those chairs makes it worse.” Avoid making a commotion if you do leave. Get up as gently as possible and quietly open the door to avoid drawing attention to yourself. Use the bathroom during breaks, even if you don't think you have to go. These preventative trips to the bathroom might prevent you from rushing to go in the future. If you have severe diarrhea, you might consider wearing...

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Ходите в туалет во время перерывов. Сядьте возле двери. Наденьте специальное белье. Возьмите с собой запасную одежду. Ведите себя уверенно. Мойте руки.


Even if you fight with your brother, at the end of the day he is still family. If he feels loved and cared about, he will be less likely to start conflicts with you. Tell him you love him with your words or actions. When your brother does well in school, or helps you in some way, give him a compliment. This will help create a relationship of support between the two of you. Spending time together can strengthen your relationship and make him feel like he is getting proper attention from you.  Schedule a regular "hang out" time with your brother. This is a good way to show him he is loved and supported. He will also be more likely to give you privacy when you need it if you have a specific time set aside to play. Offer your help with homework or other projects. Your little brother probably looks up to you and helping him is a good way to show you are there for him. You are an important role model for your brother. He makes choices about how to behave based on what he sees you do. If you are angry and combative with your brother, he will treat you the same way. If you are patient and kind with him, he will learn to be patient and kind with you.

TL;DR in Russian:

Проявляйте свою любовь. Хвалите брата за достижения. Планируйте совместное времяпрепровождение с братом. Служите примером.


Even if you find an amazing deal on an item, it might be offset by what you have to pay to ship it. If the shipping costs are outrageous, ask yourself if it's worth paying to ship as opposed to getting it from the store downtown.  Compare the costs of different shipping methods. If you don't need it immediately, you could save yourself a lot of money by picking a slower shipping method. Be especially wary of shipping costs from auction sites. These are set at the discretion of the seller, and unscrupulous senders may hike up shipping to take advantage of customers. If you are purchasing multiple items, try to do so all from the same vendor, and in one purchase. Most vendors will group these into one shipment and many will ship for free over a certain purchase amount. Refurbished items are often sold for close to the amount of a new one, but have been repaired to be resold. While you may be able to find good deals this way, avoid it if possible. If you are going to be buying refurbished, check the warranty and ensure that the coverage is good in case it fails again. One of the biggest differences between buying from a brick-and-mortar store and an online retailer is dealing with returns. Make sure that the retailer you are buying from has a comprehensive return policy, and that you understand what you will be responsible for. Many retailers charge restocking fees to process returns. This may be taken out of the amount returned to you. Many retailers will have a field where you can enter promotional codes. These may be store-wide discounts or special deals on specific products. Before you make you purchase, do a web search for coupon codes for that retailer and input any that you find that are relevant to your purchase.

TL;DR in Russian:

Уточните расходы за доставку. Покупайте несколько вещей сразу, чтобы свести стоимость доставки к минимуму. Избегайте по возможности отремонтированных вещей. Прочитайте политику возврата товара. Поищите скидочные купоны.


Even if you have a bare-bones newspaper, you may still incur costs for printing and distribution. An 8-page school newspaper printed monthly can run $6,000 per year, budgeting for paper, ink, incidentals (supplies for reporters, etc.), a camera for a photographer, and other costs. Putting together a newspaper takes time. Think about how many articles you’d like to publish and how long it will take for these articles to be written and edited. Consider too how long you’ll need to design the newspaper issue, and how long you’ll need for printing. Establish a schedule so you know when to start working on an issue.  Start with the date that you’d like to release your paper on, and work backwards from there. You will also have overlap between one issue and the next issue, so keep this in mind as you plan your schedule. Journalistic ethics are a code that guides how you practice journalism. Consider how objective and responsible your paper will be, and think about what lines you will absolutely not cross. Be sure to get these in writing and enforce these guidelines with your staff. The Society of Professional Journalists, a professional organization with regional chapters all over the United States, has good guidelines for journalistic ethics on their website. Newspapers are a lot of work and can be more effectively produced when you have a team of people working on them. You can publish a newspaper by yourself, but you may be strapped for time or money in the process. Find people who share the same vision and passion as you for the newspaper.  Think about different positions you’ll need to fill. These might include writers, editors for each section, photographers, designers, web designers, and ad sales representatives. If you can afford it, pay your staff. Even if it isn’t much, a little bit of money helps to validate their professional contributions. If you want local businesses to advertise in your newspaper, you will need to ask them to do so. Make up a rate sheet, which is a table that tells them how much...

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Рассчитайте бюджет. Создайте расписание публикаций. Соблюдайте журналистскую этику. Наберите людей в свою команду. Задумайтесь о том, как рекламировать свою газету. Проконсультируйтесь с адвокатом.


Even if you have a filter, you need to switch out some of the water. Each week, change 20% of the water in the tank. Siphon the water from the bottom of the tank to help remove debris. Replace the same amount of water that you took out with dechlorinated water. If you don't have a filter, you need to switch the water every day or two. Newts are not pets that you take out and hold, but you may find that you need to hold it for some reason. If you use your hands, make sure to wash them well with soap first and rinse them extremely well, making sure all soap is off your hands. Wash your hands immediately with soap and warm water after handling your newt.  Never eat food from your hands or touch your face after handling any newt without washing your hands. Never grab a newt by the tail. Lift it underneath its belly with a cupped hand instead. It's not a good idea to handle your newt while standing, unless your hands are over its tank.  Sometimes newts will jump or wiggle unexpectedly and a fall to the ground can be disastrous. Newts can be fed live or frozen foods. They don't need to be fed every day, but can be fed every other day. You can feed your aquatic newt the following foods:  Frozen or fresh brine shrimp. Worms, like earthworms, white worms, black worms, bloodworms,  phoenix worms, mealworms, leaf worms, red wigglers, or nightcrawlers. Daphnias, flightless fruit flies, and crickets. If you are feeding your newt live insects, you can keep them in a container. Worms generally come in containers with dirt that they can live in for around seven to ten days. For other insects, you can keep them in a jar with small holes punched in the lid for ventilation. A clean tank helps your newt stay healthy and live longer. You should do a full tank cleaning every one to two weeks. Place your newt in a container filled with dechlorinated water while you clean the tank. Scrub with water, or if something is really dirty, soap and water. Make sure to rinse the soap away completely before placing your newt back inside. ...

TL;DR in Russian:

Раз в неделю меняйте в аквариуме часть воды. Правильно берите тритона на руки. Давайте своему питомцу подходящий корм. Регулярно чистите аквариум.


Even if you have a normal or healthy bone density score, you may wish to discuss ways to protect and promote bone health through diet, exercise, and calcium supplements or multi-vitamins.  Men and women ages 18 to 50 need an average of 1000mg of calcium and 1000 to 4000 IU of vitamin D each day. Women over 50 and men over 70 should up their calcium intake to 1200mg per day through supplements or a targeted diet. Get calcium from supplements or green leafy vegetables, low-fat dairy products, canned fish with bones, and fortified juices or cereals. Vitamin D is necessary for your body to absorb calcium; your daily needs can be met through sunshine and supplements or fortified foods such as dairy or orange juice. If you have relatives with osteoporosis or who frequently experience bone fractures, or if you are otherwise at risk for bone density loss, it is important to discuss bone health with a professional while you are still healthy. Be sure to reach your recommended daily intake each day and participate in regular exercise to promote bone health. With early steps toward bone density maintenance, many individuals can prevent osteoporosis in old age. If your Z-score is very low or if you only received a peripheral screen that indicated bone density loss, discuss what type of further testing you may need.  If you have very low bone density, your doctor may recommend tests for hyperparathyroidism or another bone scan to confirm osteoporosis. Hyperparathyroidism may result from too much calcium in the blood or a second condition causing a calcium deficit in your whole body. Depending on your dietary habits and other health information, your physician may check for vitamin or mineral deficiencies.

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Спросите, как предотвратить потерю плотности костей. Обсудите здоровье костей до того, как появится такая необходимость. Спросите, необходимо ли дальнейшее обследование.


Even if you have backup power, you should be warned that your basement does flood.  Home alarm and security companies can provide you with an alert to your cell phone or pager when your power goes out or if your basement floods. Stand alone water alarm units exist that don't require a full security system.

TL;DR in Russian:

Купите систему оповещения. Всегда держите у себя на телефоне номера сантехника или электрика на случай получения сигнала тревоги.


Even if you have natural artistic talent, it's a good idea to go to college and take art courses, or even major in art. If you're certain that you want to become an illustrator, you may want to look into going to an art school. Learning from professional artists is an invaluable experience. Your work will be critiqued, which will give you a chance to hone your skills and develop as an artist.  Take courses in  drawing, painting, sculpture, ceramics,  graphic design, and art history, as well as any specialized courses that interest you. Learn as much as you can about as many mediums as possible before you settle on a favorite to focus on. You'll learn more if you're open to feedback. Take critiques with a grain of salt, but don't entirely dismiss them over hurt pride. The point of critiques is to help you improve as an artist, and without them you wouldn't be getting your tuition money's worth. If art school or college isn't an option, find other ways to gain an art education. Take art courses at your local community college, seek out an apprenticeship with a local artist, or try to land an internship at a museum or studio. You may also take instruction from books, online tutorials and other resources. Most modern illustrators have a strong background in graphic design. Even if you don't create your art online, you'll still need to know how to use software to format it according to the specifications required by the client. Get familiar with the following graphic design software:  Adobe Photoshop. This is considered the industry standard for photo manipulation, which is often a part of illustration projects. Adobe InDesign and Illustrator. These programs are used for manipulating images and laying them out with text. Corel Painter. This is the industry standard for digital painting and drawing. While many illustrators today work with computer programs such as Photoshop, Illustrator or Freehand, there is still a market for more traditional media such as pen, pencil, watercolor, oil paint, chalk, wood and...

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Первым шагом могут стать курсы изобразительного искусства в школе или университете. Научитесь обращаться с программами для графического дизайна. Определитесь с областью, в которой хотите специализироваться. Определитесь, иллюстратором в какой области вы хотите стать.


Even if you have other children, it is essential to spend alone time with each child on a regular basis so that they know how much you value them as an individual.  Carve out time to play one-on-one with your baby girl however she likes, as often as possible, and treat her to little surprise kisses or signs of affection. As your daughter ages, take her on mother-daughter shopping days, haircut days, or other activities that allow the 2 of you to spend time in just each other’s company on a regular basis. When something good happens at work, dance with your daughter to celebrate. If someone passes away in the family, talk to your daughter and grieve with her. Sharing your emotions and experiences with your daughter teachers her that you value her in good times and in bad, and shows her that your mother-daughter bond is strong enough to share in triumphs as well as in sorrows.

TL;DR in Russian:

Постарайтесь, чтобы ваша дочь чувствовала себя особенной. Разделите свою жизнь с ней.


Even if you have perfect vision, you will need to have your eyes fitted for contacts. There are different eyeball shapes, and wearing contacts with the wrong shape can be painful. Sometimes, your eyes might not be compatible with contacts. Other times, the doctor may prescribe a special type of contacts for you, especially if you have dry eyes. You get what you pay for, especially when it comes to contacts. In this case, it might be better to spend more on a pair of contacts and be safe, rather than buy a cheaper pair and be sorry later. Eyes are delicate, and a badly-made product can permanently damage them.  The best place to get contacts is at an eye glass shop or from an optometrist. Tinted prescription lenses are also available for those who have poor eyesight. Some contacts can only be worn once, while others can be worn several times. Because tinted lenses tend to be more expensive than regular ones, this is something you should keep in mind. Here are the different types of lenses that you can get:  Disposable lenses can be expensive. Some can only be worn once. If you plan on wearing the contacts for just one or two occasions, keep these in mind. Daily wear lenses need to be taken out at night. How often you replace them will depend on the manufacturer. Some need to be replaced once a week, while others can last for up to a month, if not longer. Extended wear lenses can be worn even while you sleep, although this is not recommended. The longer you keep your contacts in, the more likely you are to get an infection. Like daily wear lenses, extended wear lenses need to be replaced depending on the manufacturer. Some can last for only a week while others much longer. You can also get these if you just want to enhance your natural eye color (even if you have dark eyes). Because these lenses are translucent, they are not recommended for those who have dark-colored eyes. The color simply won't show. Like the name implies, these contact lenses are opaque, and can completely change your eye color. You can get...

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Сходите к врачу за рецептом. Купите линзы в проверенном месте. Решите, как часто вы будете носить линзы. Купите линзы с легким оттенком, если у вас светлые глаза, и вы хотите лишь слегка скорректировать тон. Купите непрозрачные линзы, если хотите получить совершенно другой цвет или если у вас темные глаза. Помните о возможных эстетических проблемах. Помните о возможных проблемах со зрением. Следите за чистотой линз. Не носите линзы дольше, чем следует, и всегда доставайте их вовремя.


Even if you have used vegetable or coconut oil to season and restore a non-stick pan, it's still a good idea to do a quick seasoning of the pan before each use to lubricate it and protect the non-stick surface. Make sure your pan is clean and completely dry before seasoning. Pour about 2 teaspoons (9.46 ml) of a neutral-tasting oil such as vegetable or canola onto a paper towel. You can also use butter if you prefer by placing a few shavings of butter inside the pan. You only need a small amount of oil, which is why it's best to apply it first to the paper towel instead of putting it directly into the pan. Use the paper towel to rub the oil or butter around the bottom of the pan and absorb any with the paper towel so that what you are cooking isn't affected. Then use your non-stick pan to cook as usual.

TL;DR in Russian:

Почистите и просушите сковороду. Налейте немного масла на бумажное полотенце. Разотрите масло по сковороде.


Even if you haven’t spoken in a while, talk to him casually to reopen the doors of communication. This will put you in his mind again, as well.  Say “Hey Greg, nice shirt” when you see him passing you in the halls at work or school. You can even send him a quick text saying something like “Even though they’re not my team, congrats on Carolina winning the National Championship. I know you’re excited!” A major part of sparking his interest again is actually seeing him. If you can, find out places he might be and show up there every so often. Make sure that when you do, you’re looking your best. You can even bring friends along with you if you don’t want to be alone.  For instance, you might go to the same gym, a party you know he’ll be at, or a coffee shop he likes. Only do this once or twice. You don’t want to seem like you’re following him. When you do see him, greet him with a smile. As you’re talking, mimic his body language to show that you’re engaged in the conversation. This can be something as simple as putting your hand on your chin or tilting your head to one side. If you and this guy used to really like each other, you likely had some fun times together. Bring up some of those times when you see or talk to him. These might include an awesome trip to the beach that you took or even an inside joke that only you two share. For instance, if you see him and you start chatting, you might say “Hey, did you see that they’re making a new “It” movie? I remember that time we watched the original and I was terrified!” If you know you’re going to see him, be prepared. Maybe he used to tell you that he loves when you wear blue or that he likes a certain perfume you wear. Put both on that day and he’ll start remembering all the other little things he likes about you. If you two are still friends on social media, why not show him what he’s missing? Post a cute picture or two weekly. You can post selfies or take pictures out with friends. Try to post pics that are of you out on the town or doing exciting things every...

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Начните переписываться с ним. Найдите место, где вы сможете встретиться. Подражайте языку его тела. Поговорите. Наденьте вещи его любимого цвета или надушитесь его любимыми духами. Опубликуйте красивые фотографии в социальных сетях. Обеспечьте парню достаточно личного пространства.


Even if you joke about it, it makes you appear that you are desperate for any date. This might not only make you look desperate but also make you look like you do not respect your friends who are in relationships.  Avoid complaints such as:  ”You're so lucky to have a boyfriend; I wish I could have what you have.” ”I hate being single! I wish I could get a boyfriend.” ”I don't want to be the third wheel; it sucks being single.” Fishing for compliments means that you are trying to get other people to say good things about you.  You fish for compliments by saying something negative about yourself and expect to someone to disagree with you. Don't fish for compliments from the person you are interested or your friends. This makes you look insecure, insincere, and desperate. Avoid statements like:  ”I'm so fat. I will never get a man.” ”I'm so dumb!” ”I look awful today.” ”Do you think this shirt looks good on me?" Do not neglect your supportive network to try and make yourself look better. This will breed resentment and make you lose friends. Try and avoid saying or doing things like:  Telling an embarrassing story about your friend to make yourself look better. Ignoring your friends while you try and attract the attention of a cute boy/girl. Making negative remarks about your friends to make yourself look better. (I.e. "Oh, Stacy isn't into basketball. Not like me." The truth will always prevail; embellishing your attributes to catch the attention of another is a desperate maneuver that will most certainly come back to haunt you. Lying is commonplace when dating.Some common lies include:  Lying about occupation. Lying about salary or money. Lying about age. Lying about relationship status. You must learn to be happy with yourself in order to be happy with another person. If you are trying too hard to be someone that you are not naturally, you are going to add strain on your own life and the life of your partner. Some ways you may try too hard in a relationship may include:  Over-pleasing -- Trying to make your...

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Не стоит постоянно жаловаться на свой одинокий статус. Не напрашивайтесь на комплименты. Не игнорируйте своих друзей. Не лгите и не приукрашивай правду. Не лезьте из кожи вон.


Even if you learned of someone's death over social media or email, it's more thoughtful to send a card in the regular mail. Either buy a sympathy card from the store, use a blank card with an appropriate picture, or write your note on nice stationary. The note should be handwritten or typed in blue or black ink.  Don't express condolences over text message. If you do express condolences over social media or by other means, send a card, too. Even if the flowers come with a short note card, send a separate sympathy card with enough space to express your heartfelt condolences. This allows you to write the note and sign it yourself, rather than having it printed by a flower shop. It's best to send a card as soon as you hear about a person's death, which will usually be within a few days or weeks of the person's passing. However, you should still send a card even if many months, or even years, have passed without you knowing about the death. If you don't send a card, the person may wonder whether you care. Even if it's a little awkward to send a card late, it's definitely better than not sending one at all. Saying "my prayers are with you" is completely fine, but copying bible passages or expressing your religious beliefs in other ways isn't appropriate for a sympathy card. The person receiving the card may not have the same beliefs, and you don't want to push yours on him or her at such a delicate time. Stick to universally accepted expressions of love and sympathy, rather than those specific to your religion.  For example, saying "I know he's in heaven now" may not be appropriate, because the person may not believe in heaven. However, if you and the person are members of the same religious group, it's perfectly fine to write a note taking that into account. Trust yourself to write a message that expresses your true desire to show the recipient you care. The very act of sending a card is a thoughtful gesture that will be appreciated. Do your best to write a note that is sincere and sweet. If you find it difficult...

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Отправляйте открытку, а не сообщение, на электронную почту. Отправьте открытку, даже если вы высылаете цветы. Отправьте открытку, даже если прошло много времени. Избегайте чрезмерного религиозного содержания, если только человек не разделяет ваши убеждения. Не бойтесь написать что-то не так.


Even if you only have mild liver pain, you should consult a doctor about it if it is ongoing. Your doctor will discuss your symptoms with you and will do a physical exam. The physical exam will typically include testing your basic vital signs and feeling the liver for inflammation.  Women over the age of 40 should see if their doctor to check for gallbladder disease. Overweight women are at higher risk. Get immediate emergency medical care if the pain is severe and combined with nausea, dizziness, or hallucinations. This could signal a life-threatening condition. If your doctor suspects a problem with your liver, they may do a variety of tests on that specific organ. These tests may include a combination of liver function tests and imaging of the organ. If preliminary tests do show an issue with the liver, your doctor may then order a liver biopsy to inspect the cells of the organ. If you are having ongoing liver pain, it is important to discuss how to eliminate or minimize the pain in the future. Your doctor may be able to prescribe you a pain reliever that is safe for your liver and give you tips about how to minimize the pain with lifestyle changes.  It is likely that you will need both medication and lifestyle changes, such as weight loss or a special diet, to treat your liver pain. Your doctor may tell you to take over-the-counter pain relievers. Be sure to follow their recommendations for dosage, as exceeding recommended doses could tax your liver. If you are having liver pain that is due to a specific illness, treating the illness effectively will likely minimize your pain. Follow your doctor's suggestions for treatment and keep them up to date with changes in your condition. Your medical treatment will vary depending on what is causing your pain. If you have a less serious illness, such as non-alcoholic fatty liver disease, it may be managed exclusively by making your diet healthier and reducing your cholesterol. More serious illnesses, such as liver cancer, will have more serious and invasive...

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Обратитесь за медицинской помощью, если боль не проходит. Проверьте печень. Обсудите с врачом, как унять боль. Вылечите основное заболевание.


Even if you only intend to engage in a sexual relationship with one boyfriend, prepare for the possibility that temptation may overcome your intentions in the heat of the moment.  Remember that not all contraceptives prevent sexually transmitted diseases (STD). You owe it to yourself and to your boyfriends to ensure that everyone remains healthy. Always, always use a condom. Schedule regular physical exams as an additional safeguard. Never place your partners' physical health in jeopardy. If you discover you've contracted an STD, your partners need to know even if it means spilling the beans to one about the existence of the other. The human brain is wired to tell the truth. Secrets especially those we perceive as negative can stress the part of the brain charged with sharing information. To cope with this burden your brain produces stress hormones that can impact your memory, blood pressure, gastrointestinal tract and metabolism.

TL;DR in Russian:

Если в ваших отношениях есть секс, подумайте о подходящей защите. Помните, что бывают случаи, когда нужно поговорить. Признайте тот факт, что попытка держать все в секрете может негативно влиять на ваше эмоциональное состояние.


Even if you researched the company before you applied, once you're granted a phone interview it's time to dig deeper. Get to know what's happening in the company as well as the general industry.  Look up news items and go to the company's website to read press releases and find out what new products or services the company has coming out soon. Make notes about things you might want to ask your interviewer about. You also want to get a handle on the activities of the company's key competitors. Read about the overall industry as well, so you understand the strengths of the market. When you're giving a phone interview, the interviewer won't be able to see you. Use this to your advantage by drafting some quick notes to help you if you get asked particularly difficult questions. For example, you're probably going to be asked to identify your strengths and weaknesses. Your answers to these questions should be organized and concise, and should relate to a work-related trait, not a personal one. Doing an interview over the phone is nothing like chatting to friends and family. Especially if you haven't had a good deal of experience using the telephone professionally, try to get on the phone as often as possible in the days leading up to the phone interview.  When you talk on the phone, you lack visual cues that can tell you when a person has stopped talking, or when it's time for you to respond. Practicing phone conversations can help you adjust so the conversation runs more smoothly. If you don't have any real reasons to use the phone, ask a friend or family member if they'd be willing to practice with you. Arrange for them to call at a specific time, and treat it just like an interview. Set up an area at home or in a quiet environment where you have control over the background noise and activities going on around you. If you're using your mobile phone, make sure you get a good signal in that location. If your home is a noisy place with kids or roommates coming in and out, find somewhere else with relative privacy....

TL;DR in Russian:

Соберите информацию о компании перед собеседованием. Набросайте на листочке ответы на типичные вопросы. Потренируйтесь говорить по телефону. Выберите тихое место для разговора по телефону. Отключите уведомления на электронных устройствах. Соберите документы. Попробуйте сделать дыхательные упражнения за несколько минут до ожидаемого звонка.


Even if you start with a freshly washed face and apply minimal makeup, oil will accumulate on your face, making it shiny by the end of the day. To keep the shine to a minimum, pack some oil blotting papers in your backpack or locker. Take a minute and gently blot them over your face to remove excess oil. Most oil blotting papers are designed to leave your makeup intact. If you choose to go the no-makeup route, you might enjoy brightening your skin in the middle of the day. Simply spray a face mist to hydrate your skin or apply moisturizer to give it a little glow. Some face mists are antibacterial which can help fight acne. Several makeup sticks provide all-in-one coverage, so you can freshen up your eye makeup, lip color, and cheeks, all with one product. Lip gloss or lipstick is often one of the first things to wear off, so reapply it throughout the day. If you're short on time, keep a tiny mirror in your backpack and apply it while walking to your next class. Think twice before adding another swipe of mascara. It will start looking caked on and dull. Instead, add a layer of clear mascara which will add a glossy shine to your existing mascara, without adding weight to your lashes.

TL;DR in Russian:

Промакивайте лицо салфетками, которые убирают жирный блеск. Нанесите на лицо мист или увлажняющее средство. Используйте многофункциональный карандаш для макияжа. Освежите свой внешний вид, используя губную помаду или блеск для губ. Избегайте повторного нанесения туши.


Even if you suspect that you have OCD, never try to diagnose yourself. Psychiatric diagnoses can be quite complex and are intended to be used by mental health professionals to help their patients.  If you have been unable to work through problems related to obsession or compulsion by yourself, consider seeing a psychologist or practicing mental health professional for diagnosis and treatment. Ask your doctor for a referral if you are not sure where to start. Psychotherapy for OCD involves talking to a therapist about your obsessions, anxieties, and compulsions during regular scheduled appointments. While psychotherapy may not cure your OCD, it can be an effective way to cope with your OCD symptoms and make them less noticeable; therapy may be able to cure about 10% of cases, but it can improve the symptoms in as many as 50-80% of patients.  Therapists and counselors use different techniques when working with OCD patients.  Some therapists use exposure therapy, in which patients are gradually exposed to whatever conditions cause the most anxiety for the client, such as purposely not washing one’s hands after touching a doorknob. The therapist will work with the patient in this way until the patient’s anxiety about that situation starts to decrease.  Some therapists use imaginal exposure, which uses short narratives that are meant to simulate situations that cause the most anxiety for the client. The goal of imaginal exposure is to have the clients learn to manage anxiety about a situation and desensitize them to their anxiety triggers. There are also several prescription drugs that have been shown to help with the short term obsessive thoughts or compulsive behaviors associated with OCD. Keep in mind that such drugs treat the symptoms without actually curing the disorder, so it is better to combine drug therapy with talk therapy to treat OCD than to use drug treatment alone. Some of these drugs include:  Clomipramine (Anafranil) Fluvoxamine (Luvox CR) Fluoxetine (Prozac) Paroxetine (Paxil, Pexeva) Sertraline...

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Обратитесь к специалисту, чтобы он поставил точный диагноз. Подумайте о психотерапии. Обсудите с психиатром, нужно ли вам принимать рецептурные препараты. Заручитесь поддержкой окружающих, которая поможет вам справиться с ОКР.


Even if you think that you can run this on your own, there are good reasons to put together a team of friends, volunteers or even a paid staff to help you run things. You need the insight and expertise of other people, and you also need to show your constituents that you can work well as part of a team.  While you should definitely consider bringing people on board who have former experience with campaigning, don't worry too much about experience.  Pick people who share the same vision as you, who aren't afraid to take risks, and who can bring fresh insight to the challenges you'll face. A natural starting point when you're looking to find a team is your inner circle. Go to the people who know you best, and who love and care for you, and see if they are willing to help you achieve this important goal. If you need skilled and passionate help for your campaign, you may be able to find excellent team members at nearby colleges and universities. Check in with the heads of academic departments to see if they can recommend any students who may be in need of work experience.  Good departments to check in with are Political Science, History, Business Administration, Philosophy, and/or Journalism. Many of these students may hope to one day become involved in politics, run for office themselves, or hope to write or report about current issues.You can offer them valuable resume-building experience. If you need IT help with the technical aspects of your campaign, you may also want to look for students who are enrolled in Computer Programming courses. What groups or associations do you belong to? Are you a member of the local Humane Society? Do you attend church or religious services? Are you a member of any political clubs? If so, don't forget to overlook these groups who have members with shared interests. You may be able to find like-minded, passionate and talented help. There's a good chance that the local branch of the Republican, Democratic, or Libertarian Party may have an established list of volunteers who are...

TL;DR in Russian:

Наймите или пригласите добровольцами способных, творческих людей. Обратитесь за помощью к друзьям и семье. Набирайте команду в учебных заведениях. Набирайте сторонников среди членов объединений и групп. Свяжитесь с местными отделениями политических партий. Продолжайте привлекать сторонников во время предвыборных мероприятий. Делегируйте обязанности.


Even if you think you want to be friends with your ex, it's important to give yourself some time away from him or her. You must fully heal before you can begin spending time with your ex again.  If you don't allow for any healing time, you may continue to think of your ex as your partner because your bond as a couple will not have been broken. Take a moment to think about why you want to be friends. If it's because you're scared about living your life without your ex, you may be using it as a way to avoid dealing with the grief of the breakup. Most people do not end up being friends with their exes. Don't feel bad if it just doesn't feel right, even after you've had your time to grieve. If you find yourself thinking about your ex whenever you look at the watch he got you for Christmas or the DVD collection you bought together, it might be time to part with these things.  If you don't want to throw items away, consider donating them to charity. Remove any pictures of your ex from your house. If you lived together and you can't get rid of all of your shared belongings, it might help to revitalize your space with some new energy by changing the paint color or reorganizing the furniture. This will help it feel like your own place instead of the place you shared with your ex. You will never be able to stop thinking about your ex if you are getting status updates about him or her on your phone all the time. Even if things did not end with animosity, it may be a good idea to unfriend your ex on social media. Similarly, it's a good idea to stop driving past your ex's house on your way to work or asking your mutual friends about how your ex is doing. People often develop a routine with their significant others, and following the same routine after you break up can emphasize feelings of loneliness and trigger thoughts about them. Create a new routine all your own. Instead of making your signature Saturday breakfast, try taking a walk and trying out a new cafe.

TL;DR in Russian:

Не общайтесь с бывшим партнером. Избавьтесь от общих вещей. Не следите за бывшим партнером. Измените свой распорядок дня.


Even if you want to be more physically affectionate, your significant other may not feel comfortable with touch. Listen to them when they tell you what they like and don't like, and when they feel physical affection is appropriate. Ask if there are other demonstrations of physical affection that they would be more comfortable with.  For example, if you like to hold hands when the two of you are out in public, but your significant other prefers their hands to be free, they might not mind if you placed your hand lightly on the small of their back, or wrapped your arm loosely around theirs. If your significant other doesn't appreciate any physical affection, talk to them to try to understand why. Find out if they want to be more physically affectionate. You may be able to help them overcome whatever is standing in their way, and that could bring you closer together. Pushing your significant other to accept physical touch that crosses their personal boundaries is disrespectful and will push them away from you. Affection isn't confined to hugs, kisses, and other physical displays. Verbal affection will also warm your partner and bring them closer to you. Let them know how much you adore them by telling them directly. When your significant other does something for you, thank them for it rather than taking it for granted.  If you know your significant other has something major coming up, such as a big test at school or a presentation at work, send them a little note or text message that says something like "You've got this! I believe in you!" Write little love notes and hide them around the house, or in your significant other's bag or clothing. For example, you might put a small note in their pants pocket that says "I'm thinking about you" or "You always bring a small to my face." Anytime you're with your partner, be with your partner – not scrolling social media on your phone or texting with other people. Let them know that when you spend time with them, they are your primary focus.  If you have to check your...

TL;DR in Russian:

Уважайте границы партнера. Используйте небольшие, спонтанные проявления чувств. Во время встреч дарите партнеру свое безраздельное внимание. Периодически выполняйте вместо партнера задачи, которые он терпеть не может. Говорите партнеру о том, что вы цените в нем.


Even if you want your goatee to grow out, it should still look clean around the edges. Shave every day, and don’t let the edges of your goatee grow out in every direction.  Using an electric trimmer ensures that your goatee is symmetrical and neat. Also, the built-in length selector enables you to select the length of the hair rather than guessing with a pair of scissors. Most trimmers give you several different length choices. A nose hair trimmer can be a useful tool for giving the edges a finer shape. Trimming the part of the goatee where your chin meets your neck can be quite awkward, so position your mirror below head height, and pull your chin into your neck to get a better idea of how it looks. If you are including a moustache with your goatee, trim the top to make sure those hairs don’t connect with your nose hairs. That is not a look you want to have. A goatee generally looks best when the rest of your face is clean-shaven, so make sure you get the rest of your face clear. Clear shaving gel is better because it allows you to see the edge of your goatee more clearly when shaving. When you are shaving near your goatee, make sure to move your razor away from the goatee. You don’t want to accidentally move too close to the goatee and shave part of it off. Wash your goatee on a regular basis with shampoo and conditioner. You want to help prevent your beard from becoming oily or unruly. This allows oils to get trapped in it, causing acne and other skin problems. Use shampoo instead of bar soap, as it will help keep your skin and beard moisturized.  Remember to dry off after washing. Gently pat and wipe your beard dry with a clean towel.  Consider using beard oil as well. These oils can be better than moisturizer because they are specially designed for cleaning beards and protect the skin underneath. Rubbing in a few drops of oil daily while your beard is still a bit damp should be enough to keep your beard clean and prevent acne forming under the hair.  Be mindful of the fact that when you eat, food can and...

TL;DR in Russian:

Регулярно стригите бороду. Брейте оставшуюся часть лица. Мойте бороду. Следите за здоровьем.


Even if you weren't awarded work study when you first applied to your school, you may be able to apply now. Make an appointment at the financial aid office to see if you can still apply (or reapply, if your financial situation has recently changed). There are all sorts of jobs available on campus, from working in the dining halls, to performing administrative work in academic departments, and even working at campus theaters, where you'll have access to free performances or movies! This program provides part-time work opportunities for students with financial aid, and guarantees that you'll be paid at least the federal minimum wage. Whenever possible, the positions available are relevant to your area of study and are civic-minded, aimed to serve the public interest. If you live in the dorms, are an active participant in dorm and campus activities, have a good grade point average, and enjoy working with and counseling others, then becoming an RA (resident assistant) could be a great opportunity for you. While you may not bring home an additional pay-check for being an RA, you'll usually get either free or greatly reduced room and board, which will then free up money for your other expenses. At some schools, though, you may receive a stipend as an RA. Scope out bulletin boards on campus for advertisements looking for volunteers for psychology studies or medical experiments. These usually pay a flat rate, though at some schools, you could make up to $20 an hour doing something as simple (and possibly as interesting!) as filling out questionnaires. Before you agree to participate, make sure that the experiment was approved by an Institutional Review Board or a Human Subjects Participant Program. This will help ensure that your rights and physical and mental well-being are protected. If you can't find opportunities to participate in research on campus, go to the US Government's official clinical trial website to find legit trials in your area. You can also visit the webpages of local hospitals to see if they are...

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Подайте заявление на программу «Учись и работай». Выясните, участвует ли ваш колледж в Федеральной программе «Учись и работай». Станьте завхозом на этаже в своем общежитии. Станьте подопытным кроликом. Удостоверьтесь, что эксперимент является безопасным. Займитесь поиском научно-исследовательских центров за пределами колледжа. Продайте свои учебники в конце семестра. Станьте гуру по поддержанию порядка. Предложите свои услуги, занимаясь уборкой и стиркой. Откройте салон красоты в своей комнате (или посещайте клиентов на дому). Откройте небольшую закусочную. Откройте центр по переработке мусора на этаже, где находится ваша комната в общежитии.


Even if you're eating enough food every day, it's possible you're not eating the right kinds of food. Dietary deficiencies are one of the most common causes of low energy levels, and protein in particular plays a big part in your daily energy levels.  Protein is essential to  increase energy levels. But not all protein is good protein. Some meats, for example, are high in protein but also come with high sodium or saturated fat levels.  Medical professionals recommend that adults consume at least eight grams of protein for every 20 pounds of body weight (or 0.8 grams of protein for every kilogram of body weight) every day.  Optimal sources of heart-healthy protein include salmon, eggs, and legumes like beans, lentils, and tofu. Starches and carbohydrates are an essential part of a healthy diet. They provide us with energy to complete all manner of activities, from running to breathing. But there are good carbs and bad carbs, and if you're feeling fatigued it's important to choose healthy carbohydrates that will help fuel your body throughout the day.  Eat four to eleven servings of grains each day, and opt for whole grain foods instead of processed or refined grains. Whole grain or wholemeal sources of starch and carbohydrates release energy gradually throughout the day, helping you feel more energetic. Choose whole grain, complex carbohydrates rather than simple carbs, which can cause an energy crash shortly after eating.  Some sources of energy-boosting, complex carbohydrates include vegetables, legumes, and whole grains like bran and germ.  Choose breads and pastas made from whole grain whenever possible. Fats act as a source of energy as your body begins to run low on carbohydrates. Your body needs some dietary sources of fat, but it's important to choose the right kinds of fat.  The four basic forms of fats are monounsaturated fatty acids, polyunsaturated fatty acids, saturated fats, and trans fatty acids. Of these, saturated fats and trans fats are the worst fats. Choose a diet high in monounsaturated...

TL;DR in Russian:

Включайте в свой рацион больше белка. Включайте в свой рацион сложные углеводы. Выбирайте полезные источники жиров. Включайте в свой рацион сырые фрукты и овощи. Пейте много воды. Исключите из своего рациона сахар.


Even if you're just planning on running a vacuum over the keyboard, unplugging your keyboard first is probably a good idea. This will help reduce the chance of electrostatic discharge damage. You can perform a quick clean of your keyboard by running the tip of the vacuum over they keys. Press the keys in so that you can reach all of the crevices. Hold your keyboard upside down over a surface that's easy to clean or that you don't care about (such as outside). Run your hand over the keys while holding the keyboard upside down and shake it while you do so. You should see lots of debris shaking out. If you want to do a deep clean on your keyboard, you'll need to remove each of the keys so that they can be cleaned and you can access the innards of the keyboard. Removing keys is a little tedious, but can save you from needing to replace your keyboard when it gets bad.  To remove a key, press the key in front of it down. Insert a flat object such as a car key or flathead screwdriver under they key you want to remove. Gently pry the key up until it pops off. Repeat this process until all of the keys have been removed. Space bars can be tricky, so you might want to leave the space bar attached. Take a photo of your keyboard before removing the keys so that you have an easy reference for where they're supposed to go back to. Once you've taken all of the keys off, you can take the keyboard housing apart. Flip the keyboard over and unscrew all of the screws holding it together. Separate the various parts, making sure that you note where everything was connected. Different keyboards come apart in different ways, and some keyboards may not be able to be disassembled. Once the keyboard has been disassembled, you can start washing most of the components. Anything that is just plastic can go through the dishwasher or be hand-washed. The keys can be washed individually by hand, or you can put them in an enclosed dishwasher basket.  Most keyboards will have a rubber contact mat that gives the keys their spring. This is...

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Обязательно отключите клавиатуру. Используйте пылесос для быстрой чистки клавиатуры. Переверните клавиатуру (так, чтобы клавиши «смотрели» на землю). Удалите клавиши, если вам нужно тщательно очистить клавиатуру. Разберите клавиатуру. Помойте пластиковые компоненты клавиатуры (вручную или в машине). Соберите клавиатуру (только после того, как все ее элементы высохли).


Even if you're not doing elaborate braids or involved up-dos, it's nice to put at least a bit of effort into making your little girl's hair look nice. You can do this quickly and easily using styling tools like flat irons, curling tongs and crimping irons.    Flat iron: If your little girl tends to have curly, wavy or frizzy hair, straightening it with a flat iron can totally transform her appearance (for special occasions). In addition, it is often a good idea to straighten her hair before you attempt certain up-styles or braids, as sleek, straightened hair can be easier to work with. Make sure to use a generous amount of heat protection spray before you start and remember to work in small section. You can find more detailed instructions on flat ironing hair.  Curl: Little girls look so pretty with curls in their hair. You can go for tight, ringlet-y curls, soft pretty waves or just a simple flick if the ends, all with the help of a curling iron. You can find more information on how to use one here. If you prefer not to use heat, you can try scrunching her hair with a little mousse or making rag roller curlers.  Crimp: A third option is to crimp her hair -- this is more interesting than plain, straight hair and a little funkier than curled hair. You can buy a crimping iron online or at beauty supply stores quite cheaply. The process itself is very easy -- you simply clamp the iron over a section of hair and hold it for 10-20 seconds before releasing. If you don't want to use heat, you can achieve a similar crimped effect by putting mini braids in her hair while it's wet (8 to 12 total), then taking them out once it's dry. A cute and easy way to add a bit of interest to your little girl's hair is to twist back the front sections and secure them with a cute barrette or alligator clip.   To do this style, part her hair down the middle or slightly off center -- whichever you prefer. Then take a small front section of hair from one side and twist it towards her head. Secure with a barrette, then repeat on...

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Сделайте волосы волнистыми, накрутите локоны или выпрямите их. Зачешите передние пряди назад. Попробуйте завить волосы с помощью узелков банту.


Even if you're on relatively good terms with the person to whom you're writing, Spanish letter writing uses more formal and polite language than you might use if you were writing the letter in English.  In Spanish, formal writing tends to be more passive than language you might be more accustomed to using in English. Speak conditionally (quería saber si ustedes estarían disponibles or "I wanted to know if you would be available") and use the formal "you" (usted or ustedes) unless you are on close personal terms with the person. If you're unsure how formal your letter should be, err on the side of formality. You are less likely to offend someone by being overly polite and formal than by being too casual or overly familiar. If you've met the person several times before, or if you're responding to a letter they've written you, use those previous exchanges to guide your formality. You should never be less formal than the other person was to you. Even if you're writing an email, colloquialisms or slang and abbreviations used in texting or casual conversation on the internet are not appropriate to use when you are writing a letter in Spanish. For the body of your letter, state your points or information in decreasing order of importance. Aim to write in a clear, concise way so that your letter ends up being no more than a page long.  A personal letter, such as a letter to a friend describing your experiences on vacation, can be as long as you like. But for a business or other formal letter, be respectful of the receiver's time. Avoid going off on tangents that are unrelated to the purpose of the letter. You will impress the person more with your ability to write a formal letter correctly. It may help to outline your letter briefly before you start writing, so that you know exactly what points or statements you want to make, and how you want to make them. Having your organization down ahead of time makes writing easier, especially if you're not writing in your first language. Your letter should be single-spaced,...

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Придерживайтесь формального стиля. Начните с главного. Разбейте свое письмо на несколько абзацев.


Even if you're trying to grow it out, it needs regular cuts to stave off split ends. You can visit a professional stylist, or cut it yourself. Either way, consider these schedules:  If you prefer to keep your hair short, aim to have it trimmed every 2 to 3 weeks. Make sure that you or your stylist shaves the hair that grows down the back of your neck. If you're growing out your hair, have the ends trimmed every 4 to 6 weeks. Even if it's going to be covered, take care to shave the hair that grows down the back of your neck. Washing hair every day works for most guys, but you could stretch it to every other day if your hair is particularly dry.  Find a shampoo and conditioner that are designed for your hair type - dry, greasy, etc. Buy separate shampoo and conditioner - products that combine shampoo and conditioner don't work as well Ask your hairdresser's advice - they are experts! If you buy shampoo and conditioner from them, they may be more expensive than regular ones but are probably higher quality. You don't have to use a product to style your hair, but many men do. It can help your hair look shinier and healthier, as well as providing more hold and control. Here are some common products used to style men's hair:  Serums or creams. These can help you tame fly-aways or de-frizz curls without making your hair stiff and immovable. Mousse. Use hair mousse to add volume and shine to your hair, with minimal hold. For best results, apply to wet hair and allow to dry. Pomade, hair wax or hair clay. Use these products to mold your hair into difficult-to-achieve shapes, such as pompadours or curls (for naturally straight hair). Be aware that it can take several washes to remove these products, so apply them lightly. A pea-sized amount should be plenty if you have short, medium or thin hair. Use pomade or hair wax for a shiny, wet look; use hair clay for a matte, natural tone. Gel. Unlike pomade, gel contains alcohol that dries out hair and makes for a stiffer hold. For the strongest hold, apply gel to wet hair....

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Регулярно причесывайте волосы. Часто мойте голову. Используйте средства для укладки волос (по желанию). Укладывайте волосы так, как идет вам. Боритесь с облысением (если нужно).


Even if your band is starting out by mixing unique music with covers, you should have already developed a band brand that people can recognize. What are the things that make your band stand out from the rest? What makes your band unique and authentic? ” These days, most bands are all either covered in black and eyeliner, piercings, or as indie fashion victims. Find something original and make it your trademark. Remember how you recognize KISS? For example, the female in your band could take on a schoolgirl look, whilst the singer takes on a glam rock look, etc. Make sure you’re remembered!

TL;DR in Russian:

Создайте свой стиль. Продумайте «сценический образ».


Even if your bathtub doesn't have a shower head, then bath your dog outside with a hose on an easy setting. Never fill it up with water as this will dry the dog's skin. Keep your hand in the water to make sure the water temperature remains correct. Lift your dog gently into the tub if he can't get in on his own. Work from the front to back of the body, but save the head for last so shampoo doesn't have time to drip into his eyes. Work the shampoo into a gentle lather, moving from the neck down the back to the rear, then on to the belly and legs. Make sure to get between the pads and toes and over the tail and genitalia. Combine your rubbing with soothing praise — your dog should be enjoying your caring touch! Skin problems can often indicate more serious health concerns, so take this hands-on opportunity to inspect your dog. Look for strange marks on the skin, rashes, flaking, redness, lumps or bumps, hair loss, or change to skin color. Your vet can perform tests to figure out if these things are skin issues, or whether there may be internal problems. If you're using a kitchen sink, you can use the spray attachment if you have one. Never use a cup or bucket to rinse as it's not effective enough to get under the coat of a long-haired or double coat dog. Either way, use a wet washcloth on the face so you don't overwhelm the dog. If you can still see bubbles on the dog, you need to rinse a couple more times. Any soap, shampoo or conditioner residue left on the dog will attract dirt, defeating the purpose of the bath. Soap residue can also irritate your dog and cause itching. To check if residue is still there, gently pull some fur in between your fingers and if it feels squeaky then you are done.  A dog conditioner is a good idea for dogs with long fur. Apply after thoroughly rinsing out the shampoo and follow the instructions on the bottle. You can buy a bathtub spray attachments at the pet store or online. Make sure you're using a toothpaste formulated for dogs, not humans. If a dog swallows human toothpaste,...

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Наполните ванну или раковину достаточным количеством воды. Тщательно намыльте собаку шампунем. Внимательно осмотрите собаку. Тщательно ополосните мех собаки от шампуня. Почистите зубы собаки (не обязательно). Почистите уши собаки ватными шариками, пропитанными средством для чистки собачьих ушей (не обязательно). Высушите собаку. Поощрите собаку за успешную процедуру купания. Позвольте меху собаки полностью высохнуть, прежде чем пытаться расчесать ее.


Even if your boss becomes emotional, you want to maintain your professional manner so that he cannot use anything against you. Note that your boss may become even more aggravated by your calm and professional demeanor, and if this is the case, explain to your boss that you would like to continue the conversation, but the last thing you want is to upset him, so suggest picking up the issue at a later time. If you lose your cool, your boss can blame you, even if you’re upset over something completely legitimate.  If you find yourself getting emotional in the middle of a conversation, excuse yourself and ask to resume the conversation at a later time. If you hear yourself raising your voice, stop, slow down, and take a few deep breaths. If you can’t keep the conversation at a normal level, then you should resume it later. Of course you have issues that you may want to discuss personally, but if he feels that you are criticizing him, he may turn the tables and place the focus on you. If this is the case, be professional. Listen to his concerns and tell him that you appreciate his feedback and that you will work on the issues, and then politely return to the problems you have. Don’t get defensive or ignore anything he is telling you.  In fact, it can be helpful to ask yourself if you’re doing everything you can correctly before you start a conversation with your boss. You may be having problems with your boss because you have been doing something wrong without realizing it. It’s best to anticipate anything your boss might say, such as the fact that you’re always late or that your reports need to be proofread more, before you start the conversation. Otherwise, you may be taken aback. Don’t interrupt your boss and wait for him to finish giving his feedback. You don’t want him to think that you’re above listening to him. A difficult boss will be at their worst when you've made a major mistake, but you may be able to partly salvage the situation by handling failure at work with honesty and integrity. If your boss is...

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Воздержитесь от эмоций во время любых переговоров с вашим начальником. Будьте готовы критично себя оценить при общении о проблемах с трудным боссом. Поймите, что вы не можете изменить своего начальника. Сохраняйте профессионализм, когда спорите с боссом, даже если чувствуете, что ваша кровь закипает. Никогда не идите на голову выше своего босса, если можете это избежать.


Even if your cat is an indoor cat, you should still start looking outside your house if you can't seem to find it indoors.  Start looking in the area immediately surrounding your house before searching your neighborhood.  Check under any bushes or plants that might be by your house. Try looking under your car or even under the hood of your car. If you have any trees near your house, try checking if your cat may have climbed them. Always call out for your cat as you search. Try bringing your cat's favorite treats out with you, shaking the bag as you search. House cats won't often wander too far from home, generally only straying around 500 feet from their home. If you cannot find your cat either in or nearby your home, it's time to expand the area of your search.  You will want to start searching your neighborhood and asking if your neighbors have seen your cat.  Start your search by foot.  This will allow you to search areas close by in more detail. Ask your neighbors if they have seen your cat or to let you know if they do. As you expand your search, you may want to slowly drive around your neighborhood. Keep calling out to your cat as the sound of your voice may cause them to approach you. Do not trespass.  If you want to search a neighbor's property for your cat, ask permission first. If you can't find your cat nearby your house, you will want to create an “lost pet” flyer for your cat.  This flyer can be posted in approved public locations to alert and inform your community.  Follow some of the following tips to make a clear and informative flyer:  Stick to one style or design to avoid confusion. Make the purpose of the flyer obvious.  Try writing “LOST CAT” in bold letters at the top. Include a photo of your cat if you can.  Make sure the photo is a good representation of your pet. It's critical that you list details about your cat.  Name, age, breed, weight, color, sex, and any other distinguishing marks. List two phone numbers at which you can be reached directly.

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Переходите к поискам на улице. Расширьте поиски. Напечатайте объявления о пропавшей кошке.


Even if your hands don't seem dirty, it's important to wash them if you're going to touch your eye. You don't want to remove an object from your eye only to infect it with something worse.  Wash your hands thoroughly with soap and clean water for at least 20 seconds. This ensures that you don't get bacteria or other contaminants in your eyes. Eyes are quite vulnerable to damage and infection.  Make sure you rinse all the soap off your hands so you don't get it in your eye. Move your eye back and forth to locate where the object is. Move your eye from left to right, as well as from top to bottom. You may be able to see or feel the object.  Looking in a mirror may be helpful if you can't tell exactly where the object is. A bright light will help shed some light on the situation. Use it to make your inspection easier. Turn your head left and right and tip it up and down to move your eye while looking at it in a mirror Have a friend or family member do the inspection for you if you are having trouble. Pull your own eyelid down and look up, slowly enough that the inspector has a chance to examine your eye.  If this doesn't reveal the object, repeat, this time pulling your eyelid up and looking down to allow for inspection of your upper eye. To examine underneath the eyelid, place a cotton swab right above the upper eyelid. Flip the lid over the cotton swab. This will allow you look for any object lodged in the eyelid itself. If you can't locate the object or can't remove it, call a doctor. Seek medical attention right away if you experience any of the following:  You cannot remove the item from your eye The item is embedded inside your eye You experience abnormal vision Pain, redness, or discomfort continues after removal of the object from the eye It is possible to get a toxic substance in your eye. This can have very serious health consequences. Call poison control at (800) 222-1222 and seek medical attention immediately if you experience any of the following:  Nausea or vomiting Headaches or lightheadedness...

TL;DR in Russian:

Вымойте руки. Найдите попавшую в глаз соринку. Обратитесь за помощью. Обратитесь за медицинской помощью. Обратитесь за помощью при подозрении на токсичное вещество.


Even if your period of self-harming is behind you, seeking help can make the recovery and coping process much easier. Speak to your doctor about your options (which may include counselling or cognitive behavioural therapy), and consider whether there might be contributing factors that caused your self-harming behaviour in the first place, like an eating disorder or sexual abuse. Coming to terms with the behaviour and understanding it may change the way you view your scars, and how you wish to cover them. As part of your recovery process, you may wish to hide your self-harm scars with thick, camouflaging makeup. Choose a green-based concealer, which will cover the red undertones of your scars effectively. Dab the makeup over the scar until you are happy with the coverage, then pat the surface of your skin with a powder foundation. For best results, choose a concealer that closely matches your skin tone and avoid any that have brightening properties, which will draw attention to your scars. Book a consultation with a reputable tattoo artist to discuss the possibility of tattooing over a scar (or scars) left behind from your self-harming period. Bring a design to the consultation, or have a clear idea of what you want to have as a tattoo before meeting with them. Be sure that you are ready for the commitment of having a tattoo, taking into consideration how you might feel about it in the future.

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Обратитесь за помощью, чтобы справиться с проблемой самовредительства. Пользуйтесь маскировочной косметикой. Сделайте татуировку.


Even if your puffy eyes are caused by crying, other factors can determine their severity. Get at least eight hours of sleep each night to reduce swollen or baggy eyes. Children, teenagers, and older adults may require different amounts of sleep. Ask your doctor for a recommendation. Salt buildup around your eyes can increase fluid retention, causing puffiness. Drink plenty of water to counteract this. Cut down on your consumption of salt and caffeine, which dehydrate you. . Mild allergic reactions to pollen, dust, animals, or food can cause swollen eyes. Avoid any foods that make you feel itchy, puffy, or uncomfortable. Take allergy relief medication when you can't avoid exposure. Visit a doctor for more advice. If you frequently get puffy eyes, there may be an underlying cause. An optometrist can check your vision and possibly prescribe glasses or contacts to reduce eye strain. An ophthalmologist can examine your eyes for medical conditions. When looking at a computer, phone, or book, take breaks every twenty minutes. During these breaks, focus your eyes on something across the room. While eye strain is not the most common cause of puffy eyes, this is recommended anyway for general eye health.

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Уделяйте достаточное время сну. Пейте достаточное количество воды. Лечите аллергию. Обратитесь к доктору, который занимается глазами. Отдыхайте от экранов и книг.


Even if your summer camp experience is like paradise, it won’t come without some discomfort. The best thing you can do is accept it and learn to live with it. Yes, there will be more mosquitoes than there are in your bedroom at home. Yes, it may be harder to sleep with twenty other people in the cabin with you. Yes, some days you may just want to take a break and read a magazine or watch TV and that may not be possible. However, once you let go of the fact that some of the negative aspects of camp are outside of your control, you’ll be able to accept them and will embrace all of the positive things that camp has to offer. Sure, no one likes mosquito bites, but complaining about them won’t make them go away, either. Instead, look for practical solutions, such as bug spray or mosquito netting, to make them less likely to bother you and move on from there. Unfortunately, there are times when camp can feel just as catty as middle or high school. Some girls like to be part of cliques, make fun of others, and start gossiping on occasion. Though this shouldn’t be the norm at camp, if you find yourself in one of these situations, do your best to stay out of it and to not pick sides. If your friends are gossiping or spreading rumors, excuse yourself from the drama and spend more time with positive people who have nice things to say about other people. If you’re the target of the drama, then you just have to learn to keep your head up and not let it get to you. Don’t fight fire with fire by starting more rumors about the people who spread them and work on brushing the bad vibes off your shoulder and finding people who make you feel good about yourself. If you’re having a bad day or week at camp or just feel like you can’t get along with anyone, then you need to remind yourself about all of the amazing friends who care about you back home, even if they’re far away. Read letters they wrote you, write them letters, or even make a phone call to them if it’s allowed, to see that there are plenty of people who do think...

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Привыкайте к дискомфорту. Не дайте вовлечь себя в скандал. Вспомните о старых друзьях. Будьте более активным. Уважайте людей, наделенных властными полномочиями. Если вы очень сильно скучаете по дому, то помните, что это совершенно естественно. Помните, что лагерь сделает вас лучше.


Even if your teacher doesn't do anything to latecomers, it is disrespectful and you might miss something. Get up early to prepare for class.  If you tend to lose track of time, set an alarm for when it's time to leave. This can help you track your assignments, appointments, and other to-dos.   You may decide to use an app like Habitica or ToDoIst to track what you need to do. Digital calendars can help you track things. While some professors don't take attendance, showing up is still important to your grade. Your professor may talk about things that aren't in the textbook, and will show up on the exam. They may also explain things better than the textbook does.   If you're sick, email a classmate to ask for the notes. You can also show up during office hours later to ask about what you missed. It's silly to spend thousands of dollars on school, and then not show up. That is a waste of your money. if you have a disability. Many professors are happy to accommodate your needs. You can give them a heads-up after class or during office hours at the beginning of the school year.   Your school's disability center can help get you accommodations, such as a private room for tests, extra time on tests, a sign language interpreter, or seating up front. "Disability" doesn't only mean blindness or needing a wheelchair. Anxiety, ADHD, depression, chronic fatigue, Tourette syndrome, autism/Asperger syndrome, dyslexia, and more count as disabilities you can get accommodations for. Don't be afraid of getting accommodations. They're meant to remove barriers so that you can succeed just like the other students can. A lot of teachers plan out the material ahead of time, so you can keep track of assignments more easily. Find out what textbooks you need ahead of time, so you aren't stuck with ridiculous college store prices or waiting on shipping. Some teachers are ruthless about having the textbooks on time. This time should be for studying and homework. Procrastination will be your downfall. Figure out if you work best in short...

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Не опаздывайте. Заведите себе ежедневник для планирования. Не пропускайте занятий. Сообщите преподавателям, если у вас есть какие-то ограничения, затрудняющие учебу. Пользуйтесь программой курса. Получите необходимые материалы. Отведите специальные часы для учебы. Узнайте, как правильно вести конспекты. Не используйте на занятиях технических устройств, отвлекающих внимание.


Even if your tux costs you $2,000 for a night's rental and was worn by Christian Bale at the Batman premiere, if it doesn't fit, it doesn't work. This is primo to being Bond-esque. If you're wearing what clearly looks like someone else's suit, you're not owning the clothes. Bond is all about refined manliness. The suit that you wear should give your torso a definite V shape, if at all possible. If you can, go to your tailor and get the button placed at the narrowest place on your waist. That will make those manly shoulders look as broad as possible. If you have the druthers and ability to do so, find a suit that's made of the right stuff. You'll be best off with a material that's 9 to 11 oz in weight -- it's not so heavy that you'll be sweating even before the girls arrive and not so light that it loses its shape when you start taking down ninjas. You'll also want fabric that's Super 100-120 superfine wool or wool-blend. Anything too coarse and you won't be touched by the ladies and anything too fine and you'll feel the heat from that explosion you set off. As for color, you want to stick to black or at the most colorful, midnight blue (that's dark, dark blue). But black is your standard, is the safest, and is the most classic. Midnight blue might be used as dinner ensemble and that's about it. Patterns are a no-no. A big no-no when it comes to jackets and trousers. You may have a faint pattern in your cummerbund or bow-tie, but that's it. You'd think this would be simple, but there's even detail to getting the white shirt right. You want a shirt that's clean, pressed, and not a button-down collar. Both single and double cuffs are okay, so long as they stick out just a twitch from beneath your suit jacket. Daniel Craig is often found sporting a shirt with a high neck. This is a good look, but a lower neck is fine, too (Craig doesn't have the longest neck in the world). And speaking of the collar, it should either be point or wing. Alright, so you know what color, what material, and the general basics of what...

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Возьмите темный костюм или смокинг, который  хорошо на вас сидит. Выбирайте качественные ткани. Возьмите черный или синий костюм. Найдите правильную белую рубашку. Подберите правильные детали. Выберите туфли оксфордского фасона. Сведите творческий подход к минимуму.


Even if you’re determined to  get your ex back right this second, you’ll need to step back to get a bit of distance and perspective first. One important reason to do this is that, if your ex is really saying you’ll never get back together, you probably shouldn’t try to force it or you’ll only make the situation worse. Getting some distance from the situation will also help you have a better sense of what went wrong and how you can fix it.  Take at least a week or two to cool off and to be able to think more rationally about the situation instead of acting with your emotions. Take this time to be on your own, write in your journal, and deal with your feelings. This can help you approach the situation with more of a plan and less intensity. Once you take some time away from your boyfriend, you need to ask yourself whether or not getting him back is really what you want. If he’s really saying you’ll never get back together, he may have a good reason for it, whether it’s because you did something to break his trust or he’s just not really there emotionally. Whatever the reason, you have to understand that if you really want to get someone who is saying never back, that you’re setting yourself up for quite a challenge and that it has to be worth it.  You don’t want to sign yourself up for a failing mission. If you really think there’s absolutely no chance that you’ll get your ex back, then you have to ask yourself if you’re just setting yourself up to get crushed again. However, if you really think your ex and you are meant to be together and that you were driven apart because of a misunderstanding, then you should get ready to make things work again. If you want to win your ex back, then you have to understand whatever it was that made the relationship go sour in the first place. Maybe you had intimacy issues, maybe you were too flirtatious, maybe your boyfriend had trouble communicating—whatever the issue, you have to make sure it’s not an irreconcilable difference but something that can be fixed. Until you...

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Отдалитесь от парня. Убедитесь, что вам это нужно. Определите, что пошло не так. В первую очередь постарайтесь стать лучше. Обратитесь за советом. Подождите, пока бывший парень будет готов разговаривать с вами.


Even if you’re feeling really sleepy, try to look like you’re listening to the teacher at the start of class. Take out a pencil and paper and take a few notes. Make eye contact with the teacher and try to answer a question or two.  This will give the teacher will have the impression that you are paying attention through the whole class, even when you’re asleep. Don’t call too much attention to yourself or it will seem really obvious when you stop responding. At the beginning of class, tell your neighbors that you’re really tired and might try to take a quick nap. Ask them if they wouldn’t mind waking you up if something important is about to happen.  You could say, for example, “Hey Alex, I was up super late last night and I’m exhausted. If I fall asleep, will you wake me up if we start the lab or do partner work?” This is best if you are friends or at least acquaintances with the person next to you. If you don’t like each other, you probably can’t rely on them to wake you up, and they might even report you to the teacher. Don’t get into such a deep sleep that you won’t wake up when it’s time to change classes or go to lunch! Try to just relax and drift off without allowing yourself to go all the way into a deep sleep. Train yourself to sleep lightly by forcing yourself to open your eyes every few minutes or asking your friend to tap you on the shoulder once in awhile. You might sleep better if you can tune out the noise of your classroom with music, but wearing earplugs or earbuds in class is a big warning sign to your teacher. It might also make it harder to hear the bell ring or the teacher’s voice if they call on you.

TL;DR in Russian:

Попробуйте быть внимательным в начале урока. Попросите одноклассника, сидящего рядом с вами, разбудить вас, если это понадобится. Убедитесь, что вы сможете проснуться, когда зазвенит звонок. Не используйте беруши или наушники.


Even if you’re in a close relationship with a woman, you’ll have a hard time understanding her completely if you’re not present and paying attention. You don’t have to be fully focused on her 24/7, but give her your attention when you’re spending quality time together. Put away your phone and other distractions, and really listen to what she has to say.  When you’re conversing, try to understand what she’s saying before you respond. Follow up what she says with questions. If she feels that you are really paying attention and making an effort to understand her, she’ll be more likely to do the same for you. You’ll understand your partner better and get more out of your relationship if you take at least a little interest in the things that are important to her. Ask her about what she likes to do, what her goals and dreams are, and what causes and beliefs are most meaningful to her. Look for ways to participate in some of her favorite hobbies.  This could be as simple as watching her favorite show with her or joining her occasionally when she plays her favorite video game. Ask her questions about the things she’s interested in. For example, “What do you like best about this book?” or “How did you get into rock climbing?” Getting to know the things she cares about will not only bring you closer together, but will also give you more insight into who she is as a person. If your partner does something you don’t understand or don’t agree with, don’t rush to complain or make accusations. This will put her on the defensive and will make it harder for you to see her perspective and resolve the situation. Instead, communicate with her about how you feel and calmly and respectfully ask her to explain her behavior.  For example, you might say, “I felt really hurt and confused when you made that comment about my brother. Why did you say that?” Avoid using language that makes accusations or assumptions. For example, don’t say, “You’re always trying to put me and my family down just so you can feel better about yourself!” If...

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Уделяйте партнеру все свое внимание, когда вы вместе. Проявляйте активный интерес к вещам, которые ей небезразличны. Не обвиняйте и не делайте поспешных выводов во время споров. Интересуйтесь, как у нее дела. Разберитесь со своими мыслями и чувствами.


Even if you’ve bought pots from the store, it’s important to sanitize them completely before planting. Add a squirt of dish soap into each pot and then fill it up with hot water. Let it soak for a minimum of 5 minutes before completely rinsing it out with fresh water to remove all soap residue. Then let your pots dry completely before you use them.  Cleaning your pots helps to reduce the possibility of harmful bacteria or insect eggs infecting your new plants. Repeat this process every time you plant something new in a pot. Purchase an all-purpose potting soil at your local gardening center. While you are there, buy a bag of vegetable fertilizer as well. Follow the directions on the fertilizer bag and mix it into the potting soil. Don’t ever plant using soil directly from the ground. It could contain bacteria or pests that might damage your tomato plants or seedlings. Get a small roll of fiberglass or plastic window screening from your local hardware store. Use industrial scissors to cut a piece out of the screen. It should be slightly larger than the size and shape of the bottom of your pot. Then, position the screen inside the pot. Adding a screen to the bottom of your pot will keep the soil from draining out with the water. This keeps more nutrients close to your tomato plant's roots, too. Add them in until you’ve created an even layer in the bottom of your saucer. Then, place your pot on top of the saucer and rocks. Check to make sure that your pot is level and sturdy. The rocks create air gaps in between the underside of your pot and the surface it sits on, which allows water to drain out more thoroughly. For a 15 US gal (57 L) pot, you should cover the bottom 6 to 8 inches (15 to 20 cm) with soil. This leaves plenty of room for you to place the plant and then surround it with additional soil. If you add too much soil initially, you may expose too much of your plant to the sun, which can harm it. If you are planting tomato seeds, add potting soil until you get .5 in (1.3 cm) from the top of the pot....

TL;DR in Russian:

Как следует вымойте горшки горячей водой с мылом. Смешайте почву и удобрение для овощей. Постелите на дно горшка стекловолокно. Насыпьте в поддон для горшка гальку. На 1/3 заполните горшок почвенной смесью.


Even if you’ve grown up in a more casual environment where you usually call your friends’ parents by their first names, you shouldn’t assume that all older people are comfortable with that kind of informal title. Some elderly people may be more traditional, and prefer that you call them Mr./Mrs. So-and-So.  Always ask what name they prefer you call them. Use sir or ma'am when you don't feel comfortable asking. If they ask you to call them by name, then respect their request and do so! Continuing calling them by something else would be disrespectful. People can often lose strength, balance, and agility as they age, which can make some everyday activities that we take for granted more difficult. Providing even the smallest assistance may help make their day a little easier, and demonstrate your respect in a courteous, thoughtful manner.  It’s always polite to hold the door open for the people behind you, but it can be especially helpful for older people with canes or walkers. When you’re on public transportation, such as the subway, train, or bus, consider offering your seat to an elderly person, who might need to rest more than you. If you’re at the store, offer to reach for items on shelves that might be too high or low for an older person to reach. You might also offer to carry an elderly person’s bags to the car or unload their cart into the trunk. Older people usually don’t move as quickly as they used to when they were younger, which means it can take them longer to do even the simplest of tasks, such as crossing the street. Be respectful by showing some patience when you encounter them instead of trying to hurry them along.  If an elderly person is slow to get off the bus, subway, or elevator, or just walking down the street, don’t push past them. Let them take their time, so they are comfortable and don’t injure themselves. Don’t huff and puff if an older person on line in front of you at a store takes a little longer to pay for their items. Instead, try to be understanding -- you might even offer to...

TL;DR in Russian:

Обращайтесь к пожилым людям уважительно. Предложите помощь. Будьте терпеливы. Не стоит относиться к пожилому человеку как к инвалиду.


Even if you’ve raised 15 children successfully and feel like you know everything there is to know about parenting, you’re going to have to seal your lips unless you’re asked for advice. Your child and his or her spouse may have some different ideas about how to raise children, and they may not want to hear every little thing you have to say about the subject. Of course, they may call upon your expertise, but you shouldn’t assume that you’re going to tell them how to do every last thing, from how to change a diaper to how to help their child grow into a responsible adult. If you give the parents too much advice, they may pull back from you, leading to a more tense relationship between you and your grandchild. To succeed as a grandparent, you should accept the fact that you are the grandparent, not the parent in the child’s life. Your role is to spend time with your grandchild, give advice and help to the parents when it’s needed, and to be there for the new addition to your family. The sooner you accept that you are not the grandchild’s mother, the sooner you can be on to enjoying your own unique relationship. You shouldn’t focus on disciplining your grandchild and teaching him or her how to be an adult. Focus more on giving love, care, and support. You may think that you should drop everything as soon as your grandson or granddaughter arrives, but the best thing you can do is to maintain your own life while helping out the parents of the grandchild as much as you can. You want to continue having your own friends, your own social commitments, and your own hobbies if you want to succeed as a grandparent. If you drop absolutely everything to be with your grandchild, then you will be putting too much pressure on the parents. Find a way to fit spending time with your grandchildren into your schedule without making your schedule entirely revolve around your grandchildren and the whims of their parents. Of course, there may be times when they need some last-minute help, but you shouldn’t leave your schedule wide...

TL;DR in Russian:

Не советуйте, пока вас об этом не попросят. Примите свою роль в жизни внуков. Занимайтесь собственной жизнью. Помогайте родителям по дому. Дайте родителям ваших внуков возможность побыть вместе.