Ask mutual friends about the boy’s hobbies or favorite past times. Snoop on his social media to find out his favorite music, movies, and television shows. Pay attention to any sports he plays at school or when he is around friends. For example, you may ask his mutual friends, “What is his favorite thing to do outside of school?” or “Can you tell me what his favorite television show is?” Find him on social media platforms like Instagram, Snapchat, Twitter, and Facebook. Follow him so you can get to know him better through social media. If he follows you back, this can help to build your friendship. You can also use social media to learn more about his interests as well as a direct line of communication. This may help you feel more comfortable with talking to him and help your friendship blossom. People are generally attracted to others with similar backgrounds and it will be easier for him to connect with you if he sees these similarities. Think about interests you have in common with the boy, such as a favorite television show or sport. Then, use these shared interests as icebreakers for your first conversations.  For example, you may find out that you both like action movies. Or you may discover that you share a common interest in video games. Do not pretend to like things the boy likes just to become friends with him. You will likely find at least one thing you have in common with him so you do not have to fake it. If you have not had a lot of interaction with him, you may feel more comfortable getting to know him within a group. If you have mutual friends, ask them to help facilitate an introduction when you’re all together. If you do not have mutual friends, you could consider becoming involved in a group or club that he attends. This will not only aid in increasing your interaction with him, but will also create an instant common ground that may feel more natural. When you are around the boy, try to project an open, friendly demeanor. Avoid aggressive body language such as clenching your fists and...

TL;DR in Russian:

Выясните, какие у него интересы. Подпишитесь на него в социальных сетях. Сосредоточьтесь на общих интересах. Обратитесь к нему в компании людей. Поддерживайте открытый язык тела рядом с ним.


Ask one of your friends or a friend of the guy who likes you to try talking to him about how you’re not interested and he should give it up. He might listen better when it comes from someone else. Also ask your friends or his friends to stop making jokes about the two of you getting together, or any other encouragement they try to give him. The guy that likes you might just want the attention or be pursuing you because his friends egg him on. If you feel really annoyed or threatened by him, it’s a good time to talk to a parent or other adult for more help. Just tell them that there’s a guy who likes you and won’t leave you alone. The adult can offer you more advice, or talk to the guy or his parents. If you feel uncomfortable talking to a parent or other adult, try writing down what you want to say first before you say it. Also decide what you want from the adult beforehand so you can ask them. Say, “I just want you to help me figure out what to do about something,” or, “I need you to talk to someone’s parents for me.” If a guy still persists with unwanted attention in any way after you’ve made it clear with your speech and actions that you aren’t interested, talks or sends messages in a way that is threatening, or shows up at your house or somewhere to see you uninvited, speak up and tell the police.

TL;DR in Russian:

Поговорите с другом. Поговорите с родителями или со взрослыми, которым доверяете. Обратитесь в полицию, если ситуация ухудшается.


Ask people close to you for advice on how to achieve your goals. They may have ideas and resources that can help you move closer towards doing what you want, and they will be by your side for the long run. By joining communities filled with like-minded people, you can build connections and relationships that will help you figure out the best way to achieve what you want to do. This is one way to begin networking which can lead you to new opportunities. If someone is offering to help you in whatever way possible, be humble and accept it. Do not feel ashamed to accept assistance from those who are willing to provide it.

TL;DR in Russian:

Попросите поддержки у друзей и родственников. Найдите онлайн-сообщества. Примите помощь других людей, которые заботятся о вас и поддерживают ваши мечты.


Ask people in the neighborhood if they need a dog walker.  Imagine, you get paid for hanging out with a cool dog!  Girls love guys with dogs, so there can be other benefits too. Do you like getting paid to play in dirt and mud?  Ask around, especially older people often need garden help.  Mowing lawns is pretty traditional, but can be boring. Planting flowers may sound a bit girly, but its fun. Many gardens need rocks moved or fences fixed. Shoveling snow. Summer camps may need counselors. After school/day care places may want a teen to come run kids around. There are a couple ways to do it.  Easiest is to get a job cleaning a mom's minivan.  They will take what they can get.  Washing a middle aged dad's sports car can be tougher, since they are so demanding.

TL;DR in Russian:

Совершайте прогулки с собаками. Поработайте в саду и на подъездных дорожках к нему. Станьте воспитателем в детском лагере. Займитесь мытьем машин.


Ask questions if you need to better understand.  If one parent has shared this news you should make sure the other parent is aware of the decision before you say anything. It is not your place to inform the other parent. You may have to be firm but they should be the one who informs the other parent of their wish to divorce. Don't blame them for not wanting to have the discussion but do not agree to have it for them. Realize the decision to tell the children was very difficult and probably a major point in the process. Be sensitive. You probably have not lived with them for some time and are not aware of all the issues that have developed If your siblings or step-siblings do not know, wait until your parents have had time to discuss it with each of them. Make sure your parents inform your other siblings as soon as possible. You don't want them finding out the wrong way from the wrong person. You will need to work on this as a family and that means the family being informed. Consider how far you live from your parents, siblings and other relatives. If they are at risk from learning this information from another relative or family friend you should make time to have a family meeting and share the news. Explain to your children that you will be helping your parents as much as possible and your attention may be divided. Explain that it doesn't change who their grandparents are, they will still be grandmother and grandfather. Encourage them to still speak and interact with them individually. Consider the maturity of the child and their closeness to their grandparents. Maintain a solid line of communication with them. Agree to discuss things openly and honestly. Agree to not take sides but to share information and help each other and your parents get through this tough time. It will be natural for everyone to take the side and look out for the best interest of the birth parent. At least try to be objective and keep the lines of communication open with your step-siblings. Try to be supportive and let them know you...

TL;DR in Russian:

Поговорите с родителями. Выясните, кто еще знает о намечающемся разводе. Поговорите с родителями, супругом (супругой), братьями, сестрами и попробуйте найти подходящее время, чтобы сообщить своим детям о разводе дедушки с бабушкой. Обсудите ситуацию с братьями и сестрами. Обсудите ситуацию с приемными братьями и сестрами, если у родителей это не первый брак.


Ask someone today's date by saying or writing Quelle est la date aujourd’hui?  Aujourd'hui means "today." Optionally, you can use d'aujourd'hui ("of today") to use the word as a noun instead of an adverb. Both are widely used. To ask for the day of the week, say Quel jour sommes-nous aujourd’hui? or Quel jour est-on aujourd’hui? If someone asks you one of the above questions, be prepared to answer:  To answer with "Today is Monday, November 15th," write Aujourd'hui, c'est le lundi 15 novembre. To answer "Today is Sunday," say Aujourd'hui, c'est dimanche. or simply C'est dimanche. Use this word to write "in July" (en juillet), "in 1950" (en 1950), "in April 2011" (en avril 2011), and so forth. This phrase can go at the front or the end of a sentence. For example:   J’ai un rendez-vous chez le médecin en mars. = I have an appointment with the doctor in March.  J'ai vécu à Paris en 1990. = I lived in Paris in 1990.

TL;DR in Russian:

Спросите, какой сегодня день. Спросите про день недели. Скажите, какой сегодня день недели. Используйте предлог en.


Ask the average person what a "smooth guy" is like and you'll probably get an answer along the lines of, "He's impeccably handsome, cool, confident, and well-dressed, with tons of masculine hobbies and interests." While the first four items in this list can certainly be a big help in the dating game, the last is hardly the end-all-be-all it's often made out to be. Don't feel a need to conceal or lie about the things you like to do. If you're geeky, be unabashedly geeky. If you like to do something really bizarre, like watch syrupy French romance films from the silent film era, don't hide this fact — it's super cool to like something unique! Being 100% honest about how you like to spend your time makes you seem genuine and confident and distinguishes you from everyone else around you. Clubs, singles bars, and other traditional dating "hot spots" are great for people who are in their element when the music's blaring loud and everyone around them is drunk. For everyone else, it may be much easier to meet people elsewhere. For starters, try meeting women at places and events that you naturally enjoy attending. For instance, if you like exercise and the outdoors, you might want to try running in a popular park. By using this approach, you're more likely to meet women that you have things in common with than you would be simply visiting a local club. We've all heard it before: "Be yourself and you'll go far." This age-old advice is a little cheesy, but when it comes to smooth operators, it's completely true. Smooth guys don't follow others when it comes to defining themselves — they do what they want to do and present themselves how they want to be presented and let others judge them as they see fit. Having your own unique personal style makes you hugely more interesting and memorable than trying to be someone else's idea of "cool", so being yourself isn't only easier than being trendy, it's also smarter if you're trying to win people over. One way to immediately and visibly differentiate yourself from other people...

TL;DR in Russian:

Не стыдитесь своих интересов. Знакомьтесь с женщинами в привычных для себя местах. Сформируйте собственный стиль. Ведите себя искренне и открыто. Полюбите себя, прежде чем полюбить других.


Ask the bartender for a shot of whiskey and a short glass full of water, then bet your friends you can switch the liquid in the glasses without using a third glass, and without putting either of them in your mouth. If you can't do it, the next round is on them. The trick is, you'll be able to do it every time.  Use a business card, a playing card, or a coaster and cover the water-glass tightly with it. Turn it upside down, and put the water glass on top of the whiskey with the card separating them. Line them up carefully, then slowly pull the card out, so a little space remains. If you watch closely, the different densities of the liquids will cause them to switch places gradually. The water will flow down into the whiskey and the whiskey will rise, until both glasses are eventually switched. Order two shots and then bet a friend for the next round that there's no way they'll be able to repeat after you and drink their shot exactly the way you drink yours. To complete the trick, you'll need four coins, two given to each participant.  Tell your friend to do exactly what you do. Put your shot glass on a coaster and let your friend repeat it. Then, put one coin to one side of your shot glass. When your friend does the same, put another coin on the other side. Your friend should be feeling quite confident now. Pick up the glass and take the shot, but do not swallow all of it. Hold some of it in your mouth, but swallow some of it to make it look like you took the whole thing. Your friend will be trained in repeating after you, and will down the shot. When he looks at you expectantly, spit out the rest of your shot back into your glass. Since he's taken his, he won't be able to repeat after you, meaning that you win! Bet a friend that you can drink two pints of beer before they'll be able to take two shots of whatever liquor they favor. The only rules are that you're not allowed to touch the other's glasses and that you both have to wait to pick up the second glass until you've both put your first glasses down....

TL;DR in Russian:

Поменяйте местами воду и виски. Выиграйте пари "повтори за мной". Всегда выигрывайте спор 2 x 2. Заставьте пальцы дымиться. Соберите 17 монеток и выиграйте. Сделайте, чтобы стакан сам пил.


Ask the student to point and repeat the name. The movement creates a link between the child's mind and body because the name is processed from thought into action, which increases the chances of retaining the name in the child's memory. This will help the child learn how the name of each body part is spelled. In this game, you ask the students to perform different tasks involving parts of their body. For example, you could ask them to touch their nose or lift their leg. Explain the game to the students and make sure you say, "Simon says" when you want them to do something otherwise they will not do it (this is the main rule of the game). 1 of the most popularly used songs is James Weldon Johnson's "Dem Bones" (also known as "Dry Bones" and "Dem Dry Bones"), which describes how different parts of the body are connected to each other. Here are some more songs you may want to sing with the children.  The Bone Dance" by Hannah Montana and Miley Cyrus. The Bone Bounce" by Lucy Jensen. The Parts of You and Me" by The Little Blue Globe Band (Toddler World TV) The Bone Song" by Animaniacs (this song describes the importance of each body part in relation to the rest of the body). Dancing is a fun way for children to learn preschool anatomy. Then ask the students to name which parts of their body are ticklish - preferable places are the sides, belly, armpits, collar and knees.

TL;DR in Russian:

Покажите ребенку, где находится каждая часть тела, показывая и называя ее. Произнесите название части тела вслух и попросите ребенка пошевелить ей. Попросите ребенка соотнести изображения различных частей тела с их названиями. Поиграйте в игру "Саймон говорит". Пойте песни, которые помогут детям узнать об анатомии. Включите музыку, которая нравится детям, и попросите их потанцевать, двигая определенными частями тела. Пощекочите ребенку различные части тела и попросите назвать ту часть тела, которую вы щекочете.


Ask them about their available recycling services, as well as any recycling centers in your area. Ask them for details on what can and cannot be recycled. Different areas have different policies on what they can accept, but here’s what generally will and will not be taken:  What you can recycle: Newspaper, magazines, maps, packaging (except frozen food), envelopes, cardboard. What you can’t recycle: Waxed paper, laminated paper, pet food bags, food-soaked paper, frozen food boxes. If your waste management company offers recycling, then take your sorted recyclables out to the curb in the recycle bins on trash day. If your local sanitation company doesn’t support recycling, or you have too much to fit into a bin, pack up your recyclables and take them to your local recycling center.

TL;DR in Russian:

Свяжитесь с вашей местной службой по переработке. Знайте, что можно, а что нельзя перерабатывать. Рассортируйте и выставьте бумагу на тротуар. Отнесите вашу старую бумагу в центр переработки.


Ask what a ring is made of before you buy it. Rings made from an alloy—multiple metals combined—rather than a pure metal are more prone to staining your finger. Copper and copper-alloys are the metals most likely to oxidize and turn green. Seek out rings of these metals, which are less prone to oxidation and deterioration. They're also less likely to cause skin allergies or rashes. Lots of online retailers specialize in jewelry for sensitive skin in these metals. Opt for jewelry that encounters less everyday wear than a ring. You use your hands a lot, which means your rings are exposed to lots of abrasive hand washing, lotion, and sanitizers. Earrings and necklaces are less likely to stain because they encounter less. Forego metals altogether in favor of jewelry that wears tougher. Leather, beaded silk, and even plastic can all endure a lot more abuse than some alloyed metals.

TL;DR in Russian:

Избегайте меди, серебра и других легированных сталей. Выберите кольца из нержавеющей стали, родия, желтого или белого золота. Носите ожерелья и серьги вместо колец. Вместо металлов отдавайте предпочтение украшениям из кожи и бисера.


Ask your child where she thinks the monsters are — under the bed, in the closet, and so on. Then look for the monsters together, and show your child they don’t exist. You don't want to just say, "There's nothing there; go to sleep," nor do you want to encourage the fear by pretending the monsters are there and you can remove them. The best way to tackle the fear is to actually show your child that the monsters aren't real and they have nothing to fear.

TL;DR in Russian:

Поищите монстров.


Ask your date questions without “yes” or “no” answers so that they don’t feel like they’re being interrogated. Get to know your date’s personality and lifestyle. Does this person seem like someone who shares your goals and complements your personality? See if your date likes the same things that you do, or if your date could introduce you to something you’ve always wanted to try. Here’s a list of questions to get you started:  What do you like to do on weekends? What is one thing on your bucket list? What’s the best book you’ve read in the past six months? What in your life are you proud of?  “What do you do? Do you enjoy your job?” “What is your best friend like?” “Do you want to try some of my food?” “Are you a morning person?” “Do you have roommates? Who are they?” Give your date realistic information about yourself, your life, your interests, and your thoughts. Your date is here to get to know you. Don’t dominate the conversation, but do express yourself as you would in typical conversations with friends or potential partners. Find connections between your date and yourself. Make eye contact with your date. Smile. Practice good posture. Nod at what the other person is saying. Occasionally, summarize what the other person says and show an interest in the other person’s interests.  For example, you could say, “It sounds like you have a great relationship with your mother! When was the last time you saw her?” Or, “You seem like you really love your job. How did you get interested in public service?” Tell your date if you want to see them again. Get their number and call them within a couple of days. If you don’t want to see your date again, tell them that you had a nice time and that you hope they have a good rest of their evening. Don’t be overtly cruel about rejecting someone, but don’t feel as though you have to give them false hope by saying you want to see them again when you don’t.

TL;DR in Russian:

Задавайте открытые вопросы. Расскажите о себе. Практикуйте навыки активного слушания. Честно заявите о дальнейших действиях.


Ask your doctor if you should take an NSAID, such as aspirin or ibuprofen, and ask them to recommend a dosage. Taking NSAIDs relieves intestinal inflammation, which interferes with bowel function. Additionally, NSAIDs can reduce the need to take narcotic pain relievers, which make it more difficult to pass gas and go to the bathroom. Since you’ll be prescribed narcotic pain relievers, you’ll need to consult your doctor about the right dosage and type of NSAID medication to avoid harmful drug interactions. Alvimopan is a medication that reduces stomach pain, bloating, nausea, and vomiting that opioid pain relievers can cause after surgery. If you're having trouble passing gas, your doctor might prescribe 2 oral doses per day for up to 7 days or until you’re discharged from the hospital. Before taking alvimopan, tell your doctor about any medications you take and whether you have a history of kidney or liver disease. Your doctor might have to adjust your dosage or monitor for adverse side effects if you take a calcium channel blocker, antibiotic or antifungal medications, or medication for irregular heartbeat. Depending on the type of surgery you had, your doctor might recommend an over-the-counter stool softener and a mild laxative. Take these and any other medications according to their instructions. Don’t take a laxative without asking your doctor.

TL;DR in Russian:

Обсудите с врачом прием обезболивающих — нестероидных противовоспалительных препаратов (НПВП). Расспросите своего лечащего врача об альвимопане. По назначению врача принимайте средства, размягчающие каловые массы и слабительные препараты.


Ask your doctor to identify your particular kind. It is important to know which particular type you have had, so you can work on specific ways to prevent it from recurring. Ensure your doctor checks your parathyroid to rule it out as a factor in the formation of kidney stones.  Calcium stones are caused by unused calcium not flushed out in urine and is collected in the kidneys. They then combine with other waste material to form stones. The most typical and overall most common kind of calcium stone is calcium oxalate. Calcium phosphate stones are not as common, but they are more problematic because they tend to be both larger and harder, making them more difficult to treat. Struvite stones can form after a urinary infection. They are made of magnesium and ammonia. Uric acid stones are caused by having too much acid in the body. Cutting back on meat in your diet will help stop the formation of uric acid stones. Symptoms are often associated with gout, and are treated with similar remedies for gout. The formation of cystine stones is not common and tends to runs in families. Cystine is an amino acid, and certain people inherit large amounts of it. Because you have had a kidney stone in the past, you are at a higher risk for recurrence. See if there are risk factors you may not be aware of. Download the following app to assess your risk (http://www.qxmd.com/calculate-online/nephrology/recurrence-of-kidney-stone-roks). You should talk to you doctor more about your risk factors. Your doctor can help you develop a plan to reduce your risk of more kidney stones, depending on the type of kidney stone you passed and your age, gender, and family medical history. Most will include dietary changes, an increase in intake of liquid, and in very specific cases, medication or even surgery.

TL;DR in Russian:

Определите, какие именно камни в почках у вас были. Определите возможные риски. Проконсультируйтесь с врачом.


Ask your doctor to provide a regimen of hormones starting about 8 months before you would like to start nursing. Your doctor will prescribe estrogen or progesterone to mimic the effects of pregnancy on your body. Take these hormones for six months or longer, and then switch to pumping. Your doctor will prescribe estrogen and progesterone to mimic the hormones present in your body during pregnancy. Two months before you would like to start breastfeeding, begin using a breast pump. The breast pump will stimulate the hormone prolactin, which causes your body to produce milk.  Begin by pumping 3 times a day for 5 minutes at a time. Do this for at least two days.  Slowly increase the frequency of your pumping until you are pumping for 10 minutes every 4 hours. Set an alarm so you can pump at least once during the nighttime. Once you feel comfortable with this, increase the frequency slowly until you are pumping every 2 to 3 hours for 15 to 20 minutes. If you don't have time for hormone therapy, you may be able to take other medications. Medicines that stimulates prolactin are called "galactogogues." Your doctor may prescribe Metoclopramide or Domperidone.  The effectiveness of these drugs is variable.  Don't use Metoclopramide if you suffer from depression or asthma. If you live in the United States, your doctor may not prescribe you Domperidone, as it is not FDA approved. With induced lactation, you probably won't come up with quite enough breast milk to nourish a child, especially during the first few weeks. In between nursing, feed your child with formula or breast milk you have pumped. You may also use pasteurized milk from a donor.  Whenever you do bottle feed, use your breast pump. This will encourage your breasts to continue producing milk. Ask your doctor about getting a device that attaches to your breast but delivers donor milk or formula. Like a breast pump, this will help stimulate milk production.

TL;DR in Russian:

Начните гормональную терапию за 8 месяцев до начала грудного вскармливания. Стимулируйте приток молока с помощью молокоотсоса. Спросите у врача, нужно ли вам принимать какие-либо препараты, стимулирующие лактацию. Замените свое грудное молоко детской молочной смесью или сцеженным грудным молоком.


Ask your friend if she has a cell phone and what her number is. Text her first one day and see how she responds. If she texts back and asks questions, she is probably interested in developing the friendship. If she does not text back or gives you one word answers, she may not be interested.  Texting is also a good way to have conversations if you are shy or get nervous in person. You can get to know the person, so it is easier to talk in person. If you text her and she never responds, do not continue to text her. Wait to see if she will text you first. You should not always be the person that initiates conversations. It will take time to go from being friends to becoming best friends. You have to get to know the person really well and allow the person to get to know you. It may take many months before someone becomes your best friend.  Some friends are not meant to be your best friend. There is nothing wrong with staying regular friends. Over time, you should be able to tell if the person wants to be your best friends as well. They will put time and effort into your relationship. A best friend is someone that you can trust. You must also show this person that you are trustworthy. Do not talk about your friend to other people. If your friend tells you a secret, do not tell anyone else.   If you are ever worried about something your friend tells you, let your friend know that you are worried and suggest the two of you talk to an adult that you trust. If you and your friend get into an argument, work it out with your friend and do not tell other people. Doing new activities with someone else will create a bond between the two of you. It is even better if the activity is something that neither one of you has tried before. You can then create a special memory for just the two of you. If you do not see your friend on a regular basis, it will be hard to take your friendship to the next level. How often you spend time together will depend on both of your schedules. Try to make plans in person.   Do not be too pushy...

TL;DR in Russian:

Обменяйтесь телефонными номерами. Будьте терпеливы. Постройте доверие. Займитесь чем-нибудь вместе. Чаще проводите время со своей подругой. Сконцентрируйте внимание на общих интересах.


Ask your friends and family what they think about your relationship. Mind you, not everyone will see things clearly. As a whole, though, the people closest to you should be able to approve of your relationship. They have a more objective perspective than either you or your partner, so to some degree, they can see things for what they really are.  If someone you trust is urging you to get out of a relationship, you might want to take those pleas seriously. On the other hand, you also need to consider the source of the complaints. Someone who loves drama or is otherwise possessive of you may not make the greatest judge. Someone who wants you to be happy and has never caused problems for the sake of causing problems can usually be trusted, though. You don't need to love all of your partner's friends or family members, nor do you need to spend time hanging out with his or her buddies. The people one chooses to be around is a reflection on the person as an individual, though. If you absolutely cannot tolerate the vast majority of your partner's social circle, you may need to reexamine your partner and figure out what those friends say about him or her. For example, if you think that all of your partner's friends are troublemakers, you might want to ask yourself if your partner is really the little angel he or she seems to be in front of you. Both of you should want to spend as much time together as possible without completely falling apart when the other isn't there.  Spend a few days or weeks apart and gauge how it feels. If you're completely unable to function, that might be a bad sign. If you can function but eagerly await the day when you two can meet again, that's generally a good sign. You should be able to have separate friends and interests, but if you feel happier pursuing these things than you feel when you're with your partner, your relationship is off to a bad start.

TL;DR in Russian:

Проведите опрос. Относитесь хорошо к его социальному окружению. Проводите время вместе и порознь.


Ask your hairstylist to thoroughly rinse your hair for 5 minutes. Your stylist will most likely use a clarifying shampoo to help remove any silicone or chemical buildup prior to adding the neutralizer. This will help ensure that your hair is properly cleaned before the chemicals are applied, which may eliminate some of the chemical smell left in your hair by the perm process. Washing your hair with a clarifying shampoo may help reduce some of the chemical smells that have soaked into your hair. These shampoos help eliminate mineral deposits, chlorine, and other chemicals that have accumulated in your strands.  Once a week, scrub your hair with a clarifying shampoo and rinse. Follow-up with a conditioning treatment. Leave-in or deep conditioners will help your hair lock-in moisture, protect your curls, and will leave your hair fragrant and perfumed. Washing your hair immediately after receiving a perm can release the newly set curls, so it is best to wait 2 to 3 days to wash your hair. Coconut oil can be found in your local grocery store. It has great conditioning properties, and its sweet, fragrant smell can help mask your perm’s chemical smells. Coconut oil also has antimicrobial properties, which may also help lift some of the odor from your hair.  Once a week, after washing your hair, comb the coconut oil through your hair and massage your scalp with your fingertips. Once you have distributed the oil, wrap your hair in a towel and leave the oil on for 30 minutes. Wash, condition, and rinse your hair afterward.  There are a number of coconut oil hair care products and masks that can help cleanse your hair and lessen your perm’s chemical smell. A coconut cleansing oil can help remove dirt and buildup, while a curl defining cream can help boost your curls definition while leaving them smelling sweet. Visit your local beauty shop to find these products or ask your hairstylist for recommendations. Using an essential oil such as lavender and rose will leave a pleasant aroma locked in your hair. Visit your local...

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Промойте волосы перед тем, как нанести нейтрализатор. Помойте дома голову очищающим шампунем. Нанесите маску для волос из кокосового масла. Сделайте маску для волос с эфирным маслом.


Ask your host for appropriate cleaning supplies if you need them. If your host provided a pillow, blankets, a towel, or a floor mat, ask where to put them. Return any items you borrowed. Don't leave anything behind besides gifts. Toss out all your trash, and offer to take the trash out if you filled it up. If you had a great time, say so. A good review will help your host find couch surfers that match her interests and attitude. To describe your experience with the host, visit the host's profile and click on the ... symbol, then "Write Reference." Write an honest reference that describes your host's attitude, plus a couple specific things your host did that made (or broke) your trip. Mention anything you found surprising, even if it was pleasant; other couch surfers will appreciate being told in advance. Not all surfers and hosts will make friends every time, but if you did find a friend, trade social media or email contacts. Say hello once in a while and let your hosts know how the rest of your trip is going.

TL;DR in Russian:

Уберите после себя. Оставьте хозяину отзыв. Поддерживайте связь.


Ask your husband out. Take him to dinner, or dinner and a movie, or dancing. Pack a picnic for two. Ask him to meet you for lunch on a workday, or bike to brunch together on a sleepy weekend. Make it clear that it's a date: nobody else is invited, even the kids. Dress up. Plan events that will require you to change out of your ordinary clothes. This could mean going to an elegant dinner, a dance class, or a themed event. It could even mean going swimming. Couples fall out of the habit of regular sexual encounters for a million reasons. The ways that you got together early in a relationship don't necessarily teach you how to maintain your sex life later on. Plan times and ways to have sex. If you always used to have sex at night, but are too tired now, find other times during the day.  Shower together, or fall in bed before dinner. Please yourself. Be honest about what makes you orgasm, and what hurts or bores you. Ask for what you want: being selfless kills sex.  Ask him what he wants in return, and take turns satisfying one another's desires. Make a date with him, and plan some creative details together (candles, costumes, trying something new.) Having a plan will get you excited ahead of time. Stick to it! Plans are useless if you don't follow through. The intimacy built by physical contact cannot be underestimated. Whether or not your sex life is flourishing, your bodies should find their ways to one another. Hug him when he comes in the room, when he wants reassurance, or just when it occurs to you. Trade back massages, or offer to massage any part of him that is sore.  Kiss goodbye when one of you leaves the house, and kiss hello upon return. Groom one another. Offer to brush his hair, or put his lotion or sunblock on. Ask for him to help you with your zipper, and offer to tie his tie. Make eye contact when you talk. It is a powerful form of sensory connection. Getting out of your ordinary spaces will allow you to break your ordinary habits and be more romantic. Go on a vacation together, without anyone...

TL;DR in Russian:

Устраивайте свидания. Запланируйте (лучший) секс. Прикасайтесь друг к другу. Съездите куда-нибудь вместе.


Ask your instructor's permission before recording any part of your class sessions. With his or her permission, use an audio recording device during class. If you're using a digital recorder, convert the file into an mp3 and listen to your lecture while you're commuting or working out in the morning. Write down important ideas, concepts, names, and dates, rather than trying to take down every single word your instructor is saying. This should be done immediately after class, if possible. If you cannot study right after class has ended, studying as soon as possible that day is crucial, as most in-class information is forgotten after 24 hours.  Read through each line of notes slowly and carefully. Ask your instructor about anything that doesn't make sense or is unclear to you. This will allow you to compile the most vital information in one place, and can help you make more sense of the notes you took in class. But don't just copy the material mindlessly! Rephrasing class notes in your own words will also help you understand the material beyond simply re-stating what you've been told. This will help reinforce the things you learned that week, and may help you contextualize each day's lesson better within the framework of the entire week's lesson plan. Color-coding your notes by lesson or topic may be helpful, or try using a series of folders to create an orderly system. Try different organization methods until you find one that works right for you. This may include organizing handouts separate from notes, or organizing everything by date, by chapter, or by topic. Flashcards can help you memorize important names, dates, places, events, and concepts. They can be used for nearly every single subject taught in school.  Choose the most important names, dates, concepts, etc. Write the name on one side and the definition on the back. For math formulae, write the equation on one side and the solution on the back. Quiz yourself. Once you've mastered giving the definition or solution based on the front of the card, try...

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Запишите лекцию на диктофон и прослушивайте запись дома или в пути. Делайте пометки в тетради во время лекции. Перечитывайте конспекты каждый день. Перенесите пометки, сделанные на занятии, в отдельную тетрадь для конспектов. Повторите пройденный за неделю материал в выходные. Организуйте свои пометки. Используйте карточки. Учитесь с помощью гаджетов.


Ask your interviewee to tell you when and where the best place is for them to meet. If they give you a choice, ask for a quiet place where you will be relatively undisturbed for the duration of the interview.  Schedule about 30-45 minutes with this person. Be respectful of their time and don’t take up their whole day. Be sure to confirm the date and time a couple of days ahead of the scheduled interview to make sure the time still works for the interviewee. If your interviewee needs to reschedule, be flexible. Remember, they are being generous with their time and allowing you to talk with them, so be generous with your responses as well. Never make an interviewee feel guilty about needing to reschedule. If you want to observe them doing a job, ask if they can bring you to their workplace. Asking if your interviewee will teach you a short lesson about what they do can also be excellent, as it will give you some knowledge of the experience to use when you write. Do research ahead of time to ensure that you are asking the most compelling questions. Have a long list of questions to keep the conversation flowing. Know your interview subject’s background and experience, as well as their views on the subject that you’re interviewing them about. The direction of the interview should not be a surprise to the interviewee. Giving them the questions before the interview will help them be able to give more thoughtful answers. Your interviewee’s time is valuable, so you don’t want to waste the appointment rushing in and catching your breath. Get to the interview site early. Set up your audio recording equipment and test it out. Make sure you have extra pens and paper. Use an audio recorder for the interview, but take notes throughout as well. There is always the possibility that your recorder will run out of batteries or memory.  Be sure to ask your interviewee if it’s okay to audio-record the interview. If you plan to use the audio for any purpose other than for your own purposes writing up the article (such as a podcast...

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Выберите время и место, которые удобны вашему собеседнику. Подготовьтесь к интервью. Заранее предоставьте собеседнику список вопросов. Приезжайте заранее. Запишите разговор на диктофон. Повторно уточните личные сведения. Задавайте открытые вопросы. Активно слушайте. Задавайте уточняющие вопросы. Сделайте заметки сразу после интервью. Сделайте расшифровку интервью. Отправьте собеседнику благодарственное сообщение.


Ask yourself a series of questions about how you performed over the semester in order to analyze what went well and what didn’t go so well.  What did you end up doing differently after deciding to raise your grades?  Did any of it work?  How much did your grades improved, if at all?  What did you find worked really well for you, and what did you find worked really badly for you?  Is there anything you’d like to do differently next time? Think about the study methods you took on that really helped and make sure you build them into your permanent repertoire. Think about what didn’t work and why it didn’t work.  Maybe you tried to study at home and found it was more distracting than you’d like, etc.  Make sure to avoid these items in the future. Buy yourself an academic calendar and/or a large wall-mounted white-board calendar.  Clean up the space you intend to use for studying, remove anything you don’t need (books, magazines, comics, etc.) and organize the things you do need (pens, pencils, highlighters, sticky notes, etc.)  Make your study space a distraction-free zone.  Organize your study materials in a way that makes sense to you and allows you to find things quickly.  Have a separate notebook or binder for each class you're taking and label them appropriately. Have pens and highlighters of different colours to signify different things in your notes and textbooks.  For example, blue might mean examples, whereas yellow means definitions. Turn your cell phone or tablet off while studying.  And if you're not using it, turn the wi-fi off on your computer while studying.  Don't give into the temptation to check your email or text messages! If you’re serious about improving your grades, your teachers will help.  Ask them their advice on what to focus on in their class and what methods of studying work best for their material.  Ask them if you can review assignments with them before you hand them in.  Keep track of your teachers’ contact information and office hours in a centralized location.  Each week review...

TL;DR in Russian:

Оцените свои успехи в этом семестре. Наведите порядок. Поговорите со своим преподавателем заранее. Попробуйте заниматься в группе. Следите за состоянием своего организма. Занимайтесь с репетитором.


Ask yourself honestly how you feel about the prospect of going out. Do you feel excited and invigorated about getting out of the house? Do you feel anxious and a little exhausted with the idea? Tune in to your feelings and try to listen to them. If going out does not sound appealing, stay in. In some cases, alone time can increase productivity and boost mood. However, if you're spending time alone when you want to connect with others, being alone can have negative effects. You may end up feeling lonely, stressed, and unhappy. Think about whether you genuinely want to spend time alone.  Think about your interactions with people lately. Have you been craving human connection? Have interactions been sparse or negative? If you're craving interactions with others, spending time alone could make you unhappy. It may be best to go out and see others. However, if you've been spending a lot of time with people lately, you may benefit from a night alone. If you're not strongly craving companionship, going out may just stress you out more. In this case, you may want to stay in and do something on your own, like reading a book or watching a movie. If you've had a long week, you may be feeling tired. If you're already exhausted, you may not last long at an outing. If you're just going to end up turning in early, going out may not be worth it. However, if you're relatively energetic, you may enjoy spending an evening outside of your home. For example, if you've been working overtime you may not have the energy to get dressed and go out. If it's a been a normal week, however, it may not take too much motivation to throw on some clothes and head out the door. Going out can be a wonderful opportunity to make new friends. Meeting people is one of the major draws of leaving your apartment. Think about whether you're in the mood to mingle.  Have you been stuck in a rut lately in regards to your social circle? If you've been craving new friends and new experiences, try going out and chatting with new people. However, you may not...

TL;DR in Russian:

Подумайте, как вы относитесь к тому, чтобы посетить некое мероприятие. Оцените свои чувства по отношению к вечеру наедине с собой. Обратите внимание, насколько вы полны сил. Подумайте, хотите ли вы расширить круг своего общения. Подумайте, хотите ли вы наряжаться.


Ask yourself if the leap of faith you're about to make is motivated by fear or love. Decisions motivated by love are usually easier to follow through on. Every leap of faith will bring a little fear with it, but fear must not be the only thing pushing you forward. Ask yourself one simple question: if no one else were around to watch you or remark on your decision, would you choose to take this leap or not? The option you would take with no audience is probably the decision you would make based on love. Emotions fade with time, but facts and reason remain consistent. There will always be something risky about a leap of faith, but there should also be some factual evidence to support the possibility of success.  Jumping from a bridge or an airplane would be suicide, but putting on a bungee cord or a parachute turns the experience into a risk you can probably walk away from. If you'll definitely fall without divine intervention, don't make the leap. If you have enough support to at least break your fall, however, you can consider the leap. Even the simplest of everyday tasks has a risk factor. Think about the daily risks you take that you have grown accustomed to. The possibility of things going wrong might seem slim with these risks, but recognizing the risk involved can help you see that you are already capable of confronting potential hazards. For example, even getting in your car and driving to work in the morning presents some sort of risk. Your car could break down, another car might hit you, or something gravely unpleasant could happen to you once you arrive at the office. Since these risks are all fairly unlikely, you usually don't think about them, and even if you do, you don't let them stop you from going to work as usual each day. There will be many people who try to talk you out of your leap of faith, and most of these people will be well-meaning individuals who love you and are concerned for your well-being. Learn to appreciate their concern without letting it stop you.  Think back to a time when...

TL;DR in Russian:

Определите, какая у вас мотивация. Обратите внимание на факты. Примите то, что вы все время чуть-чуть рискуете. Реагируйте на доброжелательную критику. Посмотрите на оба пути. Будьте о себе хорошего мнения.


Ask yourself if you ever put up walls to avoid getting hurt. Opening up to someone can feel risky, and it’s okay if you’ve ever been afraid to let someone get too close. Falling in love involves making yourself vulnerable, and understanding your defenses is the first step to lowering them.  If you’ve had relationships in the past, think about times when you avoided getting close to your partner. For instance, maybe you didn't tell them how much you liked them out of fear that they wouldn't feel the same. It’s tough to think about defense mechanisms, especially since they’re usually related to getting hurt in the past. Try to be honest with yourself, and remember that everyone has insecurities and fears. Remember that no one’s perfect, and accept yourself for who you are. Embracing yourself can help make it easier to open up to a romantic partner and fall in love with them.  That said, there’s always room to grow. For instance, you can't make yourself taller or shorter, but you can work on eating healthy and exercising to be your healthiest self. Remind yourself that you’re a great person, and you have a lot of wonderful qualities! Look in the mirror and tell yourself, “You’re a good person, so don’t be afraid to be yourself! Let your guard down, and allow yourself to fall in love.” Everyone has an inner critic, and sometimes self-critical thoughts can become irrational and unrealistic. If you notice yourself thinking things like “You’re no good” or “They’ll never love you,” stop the thought process and remind yourself to stay objective. Playing hard-to-get and withholding feelings are common practices in today’s dating world. However, it’s better to be honest about your feelings. While you don’t have to share every little detail on the first date, try to be authentic instead of playing games.  For instance, if you went on a date with someone and had a good time, tell them. If you want to text, “Thanks for a fun night! I had a great time,” do it. Don’t feel like you have to wait 3 days before calling or...

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Распознайте свои защитные механизмы. Примите личные аспекты, которые нельзя изменить. Изменяйте чрезмерно критические мысли. Не играйте в игры. Не бойтесь отказа.


Ask yourself if you love what you do enough to lose track of time when you get started. If not, determine whether or not you can introduce tasks into the work that would accomplish that effect.  Being able to get lost in what you're doing is a good indication that you find the work itself to be fulfilling and engaging. In your current job, whatever it might be, try to find tasks that challenge you. Make sure that you can accomplish them without failing as long as you put the effort in, though. Do not expect to get things right on the first try. Let yourself move from one position to the next, tweaking your steps slightly as needed until you find the right fit. The career of Vincent Van Gogh provides a good example of what this looks like. He started as an art dealer before moving on to teaching. From there, he worked as a bookseller, then as an evangelical preacher. He did not discover painting until he was in his late twenties. If you realize somewhere down the line that the career path you are walking is completely wrong, do not be afraid to step off and try something entirely new. Return to the beginning of the process and figure out another passion to pursue. The important thing to remember is that the entire experience of finding fulfilling work is little more than a life-long experiment. With this in mind, enjoy the present journey instead of becoming anxious about reaching the end of the trek.

TL;DR in Russian:

Забудьте обо всем. Идите на повышение на своей должности. Не зацикливайтесь на одной сфере деятельности или профессии. Относитесь к поиску работы как к эксперименту.


Ask yourself if you want to know whether it’s the right time to have sex because you’re really ready to be sexually active with your partner or because you feel pressured to do so because you’ve been together for a while, because your partner keeps asking about it, or even because everyone you know is asking if you’ve done it yet. You should have sex because you want to, not because anyone else wants you to.  Of course, if your partner really wants to have sex with you, then this has probably come up. But if you feel inappropriate pressure to do something you’re not ready for, then you should ask yourself if your partner really cares for and respects you. Just because all of your friends might have had sex already or might have slept with their partners much sooner than you’re considering does not mean this is the right path for you. You have to follow your own ideas of what is appropriate. Now, if you’ve never had sex before, then you may be especially nervous about knowing when it’s the right time to take the plunge. Yes, having sex for the first time is likely something you’ll remember forever and you probably won’t ever fully forget the first person you had sex with. That said, you shouldn’t put so much pressure on yourself to find the perfect moment and expect it to be magical; instead, you should do it when you feel the time is right, not after you’ve been led to a bed with rose petals on it.  If it’s your first time, then you should let your partner know, even if you’re embarrassed about it. Your partner will see that this is a big deal to you and will understand that you need to be on the same page. If you want losing your virginity to mean that you really care for the person you have sex with, then you have to make sure the person cares for you. That said, if you feel like your virginity is an albatross around your neck and are ready to get frisky without it meaning you’ve found your soulmate, then that’s fine, too. You don’t have to want the first time to be absolutely meaningful. If you have that...

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Убедитесь, что вы не испытываете давления. Убедитесь, что вы готовы, если это ваш первый раз. Убедитесь, что ваше тело готово к этому. Обязательно прислушивайтесь к своей интуиции. Убедитесь, что вы оба трезвые. Убедитесь, что разум и тело находятся в согласии.


Ask yourself if you will be chatting mainly with friends or mainly with strangers. There are different chat programs and services that are suited for different types of chatting. Are you going to be chatting one-on-one with friends and family? Are you more interested in chat rooms that anyone can join, or chatting directly with strangers? How anonymous do you want to stay? The most important thing to consider when you want to chat with people you know is what program they use. In order to chat with someone, you’ll need to use the same program or service that they do.  Chances are your friends and family use Facebook, which comes integrated with a chat program. You can use this chat to talk with other Facebook users on their computer on through mobile phones. You will need to be Facebook friends with the person you want to chat with.  Skype is one of the world’s most popular direct chat programs, and offers a little more anonymity than Facebook. You don’t have to use your real name to sign up for a Skype account. Skype has recently absorbed MSN, another popular chatting app, making MSN users Skype users. There are a variety of direct chat apps available for smartphones. Some of the most popular include Kik, SnapChat, and WhatsApp. You will need to add other users to your contacts before you can chat with them.  AIM (AOL Instant Messenger) is another chatting program that has declined in usage over the years but still remains popular. You will need to add other users, but you don’t have to use your real name. There are a huge number of chat services that you can access through your browser. These are typically anonymous in that you have a username that you use instead of your real name. Popular sites include:  Omegle and Chatroulette are both is a direct chat programs that connect you with another random user. This programs use your webcam if it is attached. You don’t have any control over the person that you are about to talk to. There are a variety of websites that host chat rooms. These include video chats...

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Подумайте, что вам нужно от чата. Чат-клиент для прямого обмена сообщениями с друзьями и семьей. Чаты с доступом из браузера. Чат-клиент для подключения к чат-комнатам. Прочие способы.


Ask yourself what data you require and how you will use it. This will help you come up with useful questions, as well as the order in which you will ask them. Begin with a broad span of questions, then narrow them down until each one relates to your goals in some way. Keep questions and answers simple, using as few words as possible. You may want to rely on open-ended questions, closed-ended questions, or a mix of the two. Closed-ended questions have a specific range of options respondents can choose from.  These questions may be yes-or-no questions, true-or-false questions, or questions that ask the respondent to agree or disagree with a statement. Closed-ended questions may look like open-ended questions, but will have only a few options respondents can use to answer. Closed-ended questions might look like these:  "Have you shopped here before?" "If so, how often do you shop here?" (This question would have a few explicit answers from which respondents could choose--"once a week" to "once a month," for instance) "How satisfied were you with your experience today?" (Likewise, this question would have limited responses--"very satisfied" to "very dissatisfied") "Would you recommend this store to a friend?" Open-ended questions solicit answers that you may not anticipate, and do not have a specific range of answers to choose from. Open-ended questions are a chance for respondents to communicate their specific experience or expectations. Such questions might look like these:  "How will you use your purchase?" "Where else do you normally shop?" "Who referred you to this store?" Open-ended questions are good for clarifying a previous answer--"Why do you feel this way?" Avoid leading questions especially; Leading questions indicate that the asker is looking for a certain answer and will limit what answers your responders are comfortable supplying. Either tailor possible answers or change the wording of your question so as to avoid leading your respondents to answer in a particular way.  Questions should be worded...

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Решите, что вы хотите узнать, проведя опрос. Спланируйте вопросы, которые помогут вам получить необходимую информацию. Используйте вопросы, не требующие развернутого ответа, чтобы получить конкретные ответы. Используйте вопросы с открытым ответом, чтобы получить замечания и предложения. Задавайте вопросы в понятной форме и так, чтобы невозможно было дать уклончивый ответ.


Ask yourself what you have to gain by pointing out that he is wrong. If it is not much, consider not saying anything at all and saving your confrontational effort for battles that actually matter.   For example, if you and your significant other alternate on who does the dishes and he says he did them last but you know he is wrong, it may not be worth an argument over such a small thing. However, if it is a repeated habit of his to not remember such that you are regularly contributing more than he is, then it is more worth bringing up. Other situations that likely aren't worth it include his being wrong about something very trivial, such as if he said something happened about four days ago when you know that it happened two days ago exactly. If it will not change the future course of the conversation in a meaningful way it is often best to let things like that go. If it is a particularly emotional issue and you find yourself having trouble thinking straight about the pros and cons in your head, make a list with a pen and paper. No one likes to lose face in front of a crowd; if you are going to tell him he is wrong, pull him aside and do it privately. This means that sometimes you will have to wait for a more opportune time; it may not always be the best decision to confront him right on the spot.  If you bring up issue later once the conversation is private, be sure to frame it in a neutral way to get the conversation off to a good start. For example, rather than saying something along the lines of "hey, remember that thing you were wrong about earlier? I need to talk to you about that" or "remember that silly thing you said earlier? What is with that?" try to use more neutral language such as "hey remember that thing we were disagreeing on earlier? Can we chat about that for a minute?" Even if you have a lot to gain or even if it will feel great to tell him he is wrong, be sure to tell him with a level head. You do not want to put him on the defensive or get him upset, unless that is actually your goal, it...

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Взвесьте все "за" и "против". Выберите правильное время. Сохраняйте спокойствие. Подготовьтесь. Оставайтесь беспристрастным. Учитывайте точку зрения собеседника. Узнайте, с кем вы имеете дело.


Ask yourself what you want to achieve, and write it down clearly and in as much detail as possible.  Also write down what inspires you to make this change in your life, i.e. why you want it. Keep this around throughout your process of achieving it as a positive reminder of why you wanted to start in the first place. Include what you think the positive outcomes for your life will be if you achieve this goal, but also the great things you already have to fall back on in case you don’t achieve it. For example, you could write down: “Getting better at soccer will give me a good chance at getting a college scholarship, which would make me happy and allow me to keep playing it at the next level. But I’m already really happy with my performance in the junior league, and I love my team.” Take a big goal or project and break it down into several smaller ones that seem more manageable and easier to find daily inspiration for, like “Exercise for 30 minutes three times a day this week."  Use smaller goals to build up to something larger. Set a goal for each day or week (and it doesn’t have to be the same from one to the next), like producing one new piece of art or writing. Soon, you'll have enough work for the portfolio you're ultimately working towards. Try breaking down smaller goals even further by setting time limits, like “work on this for one hour” instead of the more general “work on this today.” Picture yourself completing your goal more easily by reminding yourself of all the things related to it that you’ve already achieved, or even accomplishments that are totally unrelated but have brought you great joy or inspiration.  Try making a list of the hardest things you’ve ever done, whether physical, intellectual, or emotional. This may help you recognize that your current task is achievable after all you’ve done, and it may not be so hard to handle after all. If you’re having trouble coming up with specific achievements to write down, simply make a list of things that make you happy or feel good when you do them....

TL;DR in Russian:

Установите цели для достижения своего вдохновения. Разбейте цель на маленькие части. Создайте список того, чего вы уже добились.


Ask yourself whether you are really interested in this guy, or if you're just flattered that he took an interest in you. If you touch base with your feelings and find that you're a wholehearted "Yes!!" on this guy, then feel free to accept his offer. If you're lukewarm about him, but you feel bad saying no, consider whether it will be easier to reject him now or later. Some guys will ask you out on a first date to a park, a dance, or the movies just to spend time with you and get to know you better. Especially if you're in elementary school, middle school, or high school, guys might ask you to be their girlfriend without arranging a "date". This could mean that he wants to eat lunch together, or walk home together, or hold hands, or more. Some guys might just ask you to be their date to a dance or another event.  Don't be afraid to ask him what he means. If you like him, but he isn't clear about what he wants from you, it is completely your place to inquire further. If he says something as vague as, "Will you go out with me?", you can say, "Sure! What did you have in mind?" If it's a group event, make sure that he is inviting you explicitly as his "date". If he invites you along with him and his friends, it probably means that he likes you, but it doesn't necessarily mean that he's asking you to be his girlfriend yet. It might be a way for him to get to know you better, or to gauge whether you like him back before he makes a big move. Your exact response depends on his question. Think about what exactly he is asking you to do, and accept his request if you feel comfortable with it. If he asks you to a specific event, all you need to do is agree to go. If he asks you to a dance, for instance, just smile and say, "Yes, I'd love to." If the guy asks you out on a first date, make sure that you get the time and place. Figure out whether he is going to pick you up, or whether he plans to meet you there. Find out if it's a group event or just the two of you. Make sure that you're available on that day, at that time,...

TL;DR in Russian:

Убедитесь, что вам нравится этот парень. Узнайте, чего он ждет. Скажите “Да”. Уточните детали.


Ask yourself whether you want to continue spending time with a fake friend. Think hard regarding how you feel when you're with this person. See if they are adding anything positive to your life at all. If they are not, it may be in your best interests to call it quits. You might also consult with other people you trust. Ask a parent, older sibling, or trusted friend whether you should  break up with a fake friend. Tell your fake friend what you've been noticing about their behavior. Be clear about how their actions have affected you. Then, use how they react to help guide your decision. For instance, if they seem apologetic and strive to change, you may give them another chance. However, if they deny their behavior or become hostile, letting go of the friendship may be a wise idea. To avoid dedicating too much of your time and energy to false friendships, change your expectations about certain people. By lowering your standards, you won’t have to constantly feel let down or ignored. You might continue to have these people in your life, but not put too much time or effort into the relationship. For example, you might simply place this friend in a new category, such as “acquaintance.” If you start thinking of them as an acquaintance, it may not matter so much if they don’t call for your birthday. Meet new people that have the same interests as you by starting a volunteer commitment, taking a new class, or joining a club. When you’re hanging out with new people, pay attention to how they engage to see if they also have the same values as you.  For example, if you make your friends a priority, notice if this person emphasizes in-person interactions over virtual ones—i.e., they aren’t constantly distracted by their phones. If you value honesty, notice if a new friend lies or withholds information about themselves. Turn new acquaintances into deeper friendships by making self-disclosures. Do this carefully and gradually, though. You don’t want to risk sharing something too intimate with someone who won’t be a true...

TL;DR in Russian:

Пересмотрите свои отношения с фальшивыми друзьями. Поговорите с другом. Снизьте планку своих ожиданий, чтобы избежать боли. Общайтесь с людьми, с которыми у вас есть общие интересы и ценности. Будьте осторожны, делясь личной информацией с новыми друзьями.


Ask yourself which of your personal qualities make you a great friend. Perhaps you’re funny, a good listener, or able to find something nice to say about everyone. Make a list of these traits and refer to it when you’re feeling shy or self-conscious. If you’re struggling to think of traits, ask family members, friends, or loved ones to help. You might be surprised at the positive way they see you. Work on developing your skills and interests in your free time. Whether you’re into sports, art, or animals, having hobbies will give you things to talk about with other people, which can help you feel less shy. Being good at something will also help you develop strong self-esteem.  Hobbies can also give you a reason to get involved in clubs or groups, which is a good way to meet new friends. Another way to develop hobbies and meet similar people is to start groups. Do you like chess, for example, but there isn’t a place to play at school? Maybe you could start a chess club at lunch. Even if you’re shy, you don’t need to turn into a different person to make friends. Embrace your real personality, whether you’re reserved, goofy, or caring. Being genuine will help you make friends who appreciate your true self, shyness and all.  Being yourself doesn’t mean refusing to work on your negative traits. It just means owning and appreciating what makes you unique. It also means that you don’t need to compare yourself with others. Try to catch yourself if you notice that you’re trying to emulate other people. Positive visualization and self-talk can help you feel less nervous about getting out and meeting new people. Imagine your encounters going well, and talk to yourself in an encouraging way, even if you mess up occasionally.   For instance, before you introduce yourself to someone, tell yourself, “I bet this person is friendly,” instead of, “I’m always awkward when I introduce myself to someone new.” Visualization helps you practice navigating different social scenarios before you actually encounter them. Everybody gets...

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Поразмышляйте о своих хороших качествах. Занимайтесь тем, что у вас хорошо получается. Будьте самим собой. Мыслите позитивно. Поразмышляйте о ситуациях, когда вы сталкивались с отрицательной реакцией людей.


Ask yourself why you are attracted to girl. For example, she might sense that your interest is purely physical or superficial, and avoid you. If this is the only type of attention she receives from guys, then she might be jaded or feel under-appreciated. Before approaching her, step back and determine what you look for in a relationship. Next, ask yourself if she is good relationship material based on these qualities:  Integrity: is she honest with both herself and others, trustworthy, and dependable. Can you be upfront with each other about your thoughts and fears. Emotional maturity and self-esteem: no one is perfect, but a willingness to reflect on and learn from the past (and demonstrate what you've learned) is a key feature of emotionally mature people. Emotionally immature girls are those that are dependent on others for their self-esteem and well-being, and let their emotions control their actions.  Supportive and committed to personal growth: she has her own interests and actively pursues them, has a general positive attitude about life (even when faced with difficult circumstances), and she maintains good relationships with family and friends and encourages those around her. However, someone that constantly puts their own interests above others, and are overly competitive or judgmental do not make good partners. One of the ways to get a girl to notice you is to make yourself more attractive in how you look and act. By making small changes, you can not only make yourself more attractive to women, but also improve your self-confidence. It is often the little things that will make you stand out, such as practicing good hygiene and doing something nice for others (even when she isn't around).  Clean-up your appearance: this shows you have self-respect and take care of yourself. Make sure you wear clean and unwrinkled clothing, shower everyday, keep your hair combed and groomed, and your beard shaved or trimmed short.  Practice good oral hygiene, brushing your teeth twice a day and avoiding foods that...

TL;DR in Russian:

Подумайте, почему вы хотите понравиться девушке. Будьте привлекательным для женщин. Поговорите с девушкой, которая вам нравится, даже если она не проявляет интерес к вам. Не посылайте противоречивые сигналы о своих чувствах. Будьте хорошим другом.


Ask yourself why you are thinking about your girlfriend's past relationships. Identify whether you are thinking about them due to her behavior or your own. Is your girlfriend constantly bringing up her exes in conversation? Or perhaps you are creating this problem for yourself, by comparing yourself to the ex in your mind? To help you figure it out, try writing a list of what comes up. Next to each item on the list, write what was happening right before, what you did as a result, and what you could do differently. In the past when you have talked about her old relationships or been overwhelmed with thoughts about them, see if you can pick out any patters or themes. Identifying any themes or patterns may help you determine why it is bothering you, or why it keeps coming up in conversation. When her past relationships come up, what are the usual topics?  Is it more often focused on her sexual experiences with her exes? Perhaps there is something in your intimate relationship that you or she would like to work on or change. Does it have to do more with how she felt or feels about her exes? Maybe you are feeling insecure about your relationship, or she is feeling disconnected from you and is craving closeness. It is about how her family felt about a past relationship? Possibly you do not feel comfortable around her family, or she is experiencing some anxiety about introducing you to them. When you are thinking about your girlfriend's past relationships, how are you feeling? The emotions you experience may help guide you to what the real issue is. Here are some examples of how identifying what you are feeling can lead you to a deeper issue.  Do you find you are comparing yourself to her exes? You might be feeling inadequate of down about yourself. Consider your self-esteem and whether it could use a boost! Are you worried that your girlfriend will "go back" to her ex? You might be feeling anxious. Consider the trust between you both and see if you could address any issues. Do you get upset or angry when you hear...

TL;DR in Russian:

Попробуйте понять, когда и почему у вас возникают мысли о бывших партнерах вашей девушки. Попробуйте выделить определенные темы в своих мыслях и в ваших с ней разговорах. Разберитесь, что вы чувствуете. Оцените влияние на ваши отношения.


Ask yourself why you can't look at yourself in the mirror. Did you do something that conflicts with your values and you're upset about it? Do you feel unhappy with your appearance? Before you can overcome, you must be honest with yourself about what it is that is bothering you. It’s important to separate your actions from who you are. Guilt or feeling badly about your actions shows that you are a good person who acknowledges a mistake has been made. You can deal with unproductive guilt by accepting you did something wrong, learning from your mistake, and moving on. Guilt and shame can and do occur together. Shame is feeling badly about yourself, unworthy or wrong. To eliminate shame, avoid relationships with people who cannot see your self-worth based on yourself and instead foster relationships with people who recognize your intrinsic value. It’s easy to allow negative thoughts to lower our self-esteem. It’s important to avoid seeing and dwelling on only negatives, putting yourself down, and dismissing your achievements. Take active steps to love and accept yourself. Doing so will help you to look at yourself in the mirror. There are a number of ways to help you love yourself for who you are:  Write down your strengths. Think about what you are good at. It could be that you are a nice person, that you are empathetic, or that you are great at tennis. If you are having trouble thinking of strengths, ask those around you what your strengths are. Speak to your best self.  Imagine that you are having a conversation with your best or ideal self. Think about what kind of advice your best self would give you. You may find that a part of you has intelligent, kind, thoughtful things to say to you. If you can't look yourself in the mirror because you did something you're not proud of, try to remind yourself that we all make mistakes. Although easier said than done, instead of beating yourself up for what you did, think about how you can avoid doing it in the future and how you can repair what you have done. Focus on...

TL;DR in Russian:

Выявите причину. Судите свои действия, а не себя. Боритесь с негативным мышлением. Постарайтесь больше любить себя. Простите себя. Прекратите сравнивать себя с другими людьми. Помните, что когда мы сравниваем себя с другими людьми, мы часто слишком идеализируем этого человека. Напоминайте себе, что каждый человек прекрасен и что жизнь – это подарок.


Ask yourself why you feel less confident about your beauty. In some cases, this may seem like a simple question because there is an obvious connection to your physical appearance. For example, someone may have made a comment to you directly about a specific feature. But in other cases, the connection may be more subtle. Media portrayals often narrowly define beauty, which can make people feel inferior.). There may even be an indirect connection to your decreased confidence. For example, uncertainty about the future may create anxiety. Because you cannot easily control or alleviate this anxiety, you focus more on other, smaller sources of anxiety that you can control, such as your looks. There are a number of different cognitive behavioral techniques to improve your “beauty self-esteem.” These techniques focus on evaluating the source of your self-esteem, questioning your negative opinion of your looks, and thinking about ways to think about your looks more positively. Take a good look at yourself in the mirror. Focus on sitting or standing up straight while looking in the mirror for maximum confidence while doing this exercise. Think about your favorite physical attributes and write them on a list. Write a sentence about each of these qualities, such as: “I have long curly hair. It looks so full and bouncy, especially just after I leave the hair salon.” This exercise also requires you to appreciate the qualities that are part of your personality or character. Write a sentence about each of these traits. For example, you might write, “I help others. I volunteer every week for a local charity and always call my friends back right away when they need to talk.” Combine your lists of personality traits and physical features. Rank the qualities, putting the one you think is your best or most important. This will help you determine which qualities are most important to you. Most people tend to rank personality features above beauty features. This emphasizes that that our self-esteem is influenced more about how we...

TL;DR in Russian:

Определите источник недостаточной уверенности. Посмотрите на себя в зеркало. Запишите три черты своей внешности, которые вам нравятся. Запишите три свои положительные черты характера. Расставьте эти шесть черт в порядке важности для вас. Посмотрите на себя и обратите внимание, какие мысли возникают в вашей голове. Подумайте, насколько ваши мысли верны. Уймите негативные мысли. Разговаривайте с собой в позитивном ключе.


Ask yourself why you think these things are awesome. Is it something you can attain yourself? If not, is there something different you could do? Remember that there is no standard set of things that everyone wants to be in life. For some, this may mean getting in shape. For others, it may be growing musical talent or reading more books.  Whatever aspect you decide to develop, create a plan and stick to it. If you want to learn to play guitar, sign up for guitar lessons and practice every day. If you want to read more books, create a TBR (to be read) list and set a monthly goal for the amount of books you will read. Keep at it! Quitters are never awesome, and you don't want to have a reputation of being someone who abandons a project. Others will see and admire your determination. Awesome people enjoy life, but they also have really tough days. When you are down, find the silver lining, but also find ways to make the situation better next time. Maybe you earned a poor grade on your math test. Instead of moaning about it, do your homework and find someone to tutor you before the next exam. Watch stand-up comedy or listen to comedy podcasts. Listening to comedy will help you see life in a more humorous manner and not take yourself too seriously. If you are naturally a negative person, finding the humor in situations you would normally be upset about is very important. Others don't really want to hang out with negative people. Work to try to create the awesome things you love. People will know instinctively that someone who creates things is awesome. You shouldn't need to tell everyone that you are totally awesome. Let your actions speak for you. Make sure the people in your life know they matter by showing gratitude and kindness.  For instance, if your teammate set you up for a great score in soccer practice, tell them how awesome they are and return the favor next time. Be generous with your time by helping others. If you see someone in your class struggling with the math homework and you are really great at...

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Составьте список качеств, которые на ваш взгляд делают людей потрясающими. Развивайте способности, которые не настолько изумительны. Сохраняйте положительный настрой. Добавьте в свою жизнь юмор. Будьте создателем. Верьте в себя, но не будьте слишком самонадеянным. Развивайте взаимоотношения с другими людьми.


Ask yourself why you want to break up with this person, and identify all of the things that make you unhappy in the relationship.  Make a list of the things that bother you. Is the distance the problem, or is your partner the problem? Consider whether you can change any of these things, or whether they are simply immutable side-effects of a long-distance relationship. If you are undecided, make a list of positives and negatives: reasons to stay in the relationship, and reasons to leave it. Consider the weight of each point; one very powerful negative may negate a long list of positive aspects. Consider whether you can resolve your frustrations by talking with your partner. If you are certain that you want to break up, then gather your resolve and make a plan. If you are tired of the distance, but you still love your partner, consider talking to him or her about the future. Long-distance relationships tend to work best when there is a light at the end of the tunnel: when you and your partner are planning to close the geographical distance in the near future. If you need to bounce your thoughts off of someone, but you aren't ready to speak with your significant other about the problems in your relationship, consider seeking the advice of a close friend, family member, or counselor.  Lay out your grievances and explain why you are thinking about a break-up. Ask your confidante if your reasons are reasonable. He or she may validate your thoughts or help you see your situation in a new light. If your confidante has experienced a long-distance break-up themselves, it may benefit you to ask for their advice. He or she may be able to give you valuable tips. Stop living under the shadow of a long-distance relationship. Open yourself up to the opportunities around you and consider what will make you truly happy.  If you think that you want to break up with someone, giving yourself a taste of life on the single side will help you make your decision. If you begin to disconnect from your long-distance partner, and you...

TL;DR in Russian:

Разберитесь в своих чувствах. Подумайте, действительно ли вы этого хотите. Поговорите о своих чувствах с близким другом или подругой. Живите дальше. Будьте порядочным человеком даже при расставании.


Ask yourself why you want to tell your parents you have an eating disorder. Is it so that they will treat you differently? Is it to ask for their support? Or do you need to ask if they will pay for you to see a mental health professional to help you overcome your disorder? When you have a sense of what your goals are, you can more readily steer the conversation in the way that you want it to go. Collect some reading material that explains what eating disorders are and how they are addressed.  The material should provide details about what people usually do in this matter. Print something off the internet or, if you have one, ask your counselor for some relevant pamphlets.  Your parents might not know much about what eating disorders are, so this way you can educate them with the most up-to-date information. Here is an option for some materials to review: http://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/find-help-support Have in mind a private and quiet spot where you can have the conversation. If you have siblings and don't want them to be a part of the conversation, think about times of the week that you are home with your parents when your siblings are away.  If you have trouble finding alone time with your parents, create it. Ask them to step aside into a quiet room in your home for a private conversation. If you don't have such a room, suggest that you go sit with them at a quiet park to have the conversation. Before you have the conversation, try to calm yourself down. You may find yourself getting nervous before such a serious conversation with your parents. Breathe in through your mouth for five seconds, holding your breath for a few seconds, and then exhale through your nose for six or more seconds. Repeat this process until you find yourself to be in a calm and relaxed state. If you have a friend who has gone through a similar situation, or who has had a difficult conversation with their parents, try asking them for advice or social support. At the least it may help reduce stress; at best you will gain some...

TL;DR in Russian:

Оцените свои доводы. Подготовьте материалы. Выберите спокойное место и подходящее время. Дышите глубоко. Поговорите с друзьями.


Ask yourself, “Why am I giving this speech?” “What am I trying to say by presenting this speech?” Often, the main purpose of a keynote speech is to reiterate or explore the theme of an event, program, or conference. You may also have knowledge about the theme that you can share in the keynote. If there is a theme of the event, you may use this as your purpose or inspiration for the speech. For example, if the theme of the event is “Social Responsibility,” the purpose of your speech may be to explore your experiences with social responsibility on a professional and personal level. Ask yourself, “Who am I speaking to?” “Who is my speech meant for?” Think about the age range of the audience as well as their background and level of expertise. Tailor the speech to suit the audience. For example, if your audience is within an age range of 20-30 and are social responsibility advocates, you may make the speech light, engaging, and full of specialized language that you know your audience will understand. A good keynote speech will have at least one to two key points, or takeaways, that the audience can engage with. Write down one to three key points that expand on the main purpose of your speech. These could be one to three terms that you are going to discuss in detail, or one to three ideas. For example, if you are writing a speech around the theme of social responsibility, you may focus on three key points: the history of social responsibility, the current state of social responsibility, and where social responsibility is headed next. To get a better sense of the style, tone, and language of a keynote speech, read good examples online. You can look at a list of the top keynote speeches online or search for keynote speeches presented on popular public speaking sites, like TedTalks. You can find the top keynote speeches of 2016 at https://www.bigspeak.com/best-keynote-speakers-of-2016.

TL;DR in Russian:

Определите цель и задачу. Определите интересы аудитории. Составьте до трех основных положений. Ознакомьтесь с примерами.


Ask yourself, “Why am I reading this?” or “What am I supposed to learn from reading this?” By understanding your purpose for reading the material, you will be able to stay on task and focus on the more relevant parts of the text. For example, if you keep in mind that you are reading the material for an exam, this will help you focus on important dates, events, and people. Become familiar with the topic by doing a quick Internet search. The more you understand and know about a particular topic, the more likely you will be able to make associations and remember the information better. For example, if you will be reading about Islam, type in “Islam” in your search engine. Then, click on an article, for example a Wikipedia article, and familiarize yourself with the basic tenets of Islam. Before reading the material, take note of headings, pictures, tables, blurbs, charts, and opening paragraphs. Focus on the important information that fulfills your purpose for reading the material. Skimming the material primes your memory, orients your thinking so you can focus on important information, and helps you formulate a bigger picture of the content, which makes it easier to remember important information. Reading when you cannot focus is a waste of time. Therefore, to maximize your focus, read in short segments. For example, read only a section, or read for only 10 to 15 minutes at a time. After you read the section, go over what you just read in your mind. Increase your reading endurance by steadily increasing the amount of time you read each day or week. For example, if you read in short segments of 10 to 15 minutes one week, read for 20 to 25 minute segments the next week.

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Определите цель, которую необходимо достичь. Ознакомьтесь с темой. Бегло просмотрите текст. Читайте небольшими фрагментами.


Ask yourself: What type of work am I reading? Is it information-based, like a newspaper, textbook, or manual? Or is it more creative/artistic, like a novel or short story? This matters!  For instance, if you’re reading to follow instructions (like a recipe or assembly guide), you’ll need to understand the exact meaning of each step. If you’re reading a text that has lots of information, like a textbook, then you’ll be reading most of all for new information on things you don’t know or understand. The reason why you’re reading has an impact on how you read. For instance, reading a novel for a class can be different than reading a novel for pleasure, since you’ll be expected to understand and remember the text rather than just enjoy the experience of reading it. Ask yourself: What am I reading for?  If you’re reading to gain information (for instance, to meet work or school requirements), you’ll probably want to try extensive techniques. If you’re reading to practice pronunciation, learn vocabulary, or study grammar, you’ll probably want to try intensive techniques. Whatever the purpose of your reading is, taking a few minutes to look the piece over is very helpful. Check and see how the work is structured and presented. These are easy ways to increase your understanding.  Does the work have a title? Is there a table of contents you can scan? Is the work divided into separate sections? Does the work have any “extras,” like bolded key words, illustrations, or graphs?

TL;DR in Russian:

Определите тип текста. Определите цель чтения. Просмотрите текст перед чтением.


Asking a girl out on a date can be frightening, but if you make a plan it might not be as scary. Think about when, where, and how you plan to ask her out. Try to work out what you want the moment to look like and spend some time visualizing a positive response. You want to look your best when you ask her out for the first time. If you are wearing your grubbiest shirt and haven’t showered in a couple of days, she will not have a good impression of you. But you don’t need to wear a tuxedo or get a makeover before you ask her out either. Just make sure that you are clean, wearing some flattering clothes, and that your hair and facial hair are groomed. Confidence is sexy, and one of the most confident things you can do is look her in the eyes when you ask her out. While it may feel more comfortable to look at the floor and mumble your question to her, this will not impress her. Look her straight in the eyes and hold your head up high to show her that you are confident. The way that you stand can also indicate how confident you are. If you are slumping or crossing your arms, she might interpret this as fear or nervousness. Instead, stand up tall with your arms hanging loosely at your sides. Keep your shoulders back and your chest puffed out a bit. This will show her your full height and breadth, which will be much more impressive than if you approach her in a hunched over position. There’s no need to talk to her for an hour before you ask her out. In fact, if you take too long to ask, you might lose your nerve. Instead, walk right up to her, give her a quick compliment, and then tell her that you’d like to spend some time with her. If you’d rather call her, that’s fine too, just don’t ask her out via Facebook or text message or she may think that you are too nervous to talk to her. Try saying something like, “Hi. You seem really cool! Listen, I am in a bit of a hurry, but I thought I’d see if you would be interested in going out with me sometime. Can I get your number?” Sometimes, despite your best efforts, a girl...

TL;DR in Russian:

Спланируйте свой подход к ней. Будьте хорошо одеты и ухожены. Поймайте ее взгляд. Держите осанку. Не тяните кота за хвост. Не расстраивайтесь, если она вам откажет.


Asking a suggestive question will excite him and get his imagination going. It also invites him to reply with something equally suggestive. You might ask any of the following:  “What's your secret fetish?” “Why do you make me so frisky?!” “Remember that time we (insert something naughty the two of you have done)? Game for round 2?” “I'm crazy flexible. All that yoga's really paying off...wanna see later?” “Want to play dare or dare?” Send a playful text that hints at something a little more naughty using relatively innocent language. This will remind him of how much fun you are to be around (and do things with!). Try these playful lines:  “You'd look so vogue wearing my panties. Fashion show later? Please!?” “I can't stop laughing at this sex scene I just watched—ha! We could do better.” “I can't stop thinking about naughty things. Can you help me with this?” “Hey, I'm trying to focus here, if you could stop thinking about doing dirty things with me that'd be great. 😉” Whether you're a soft romantic or bold vixen type, sending a candid text about how you feel about him will deepen your relationship. Super straightforward lines are especially effective if you know he likes it when you take the reigns. You might try:  “Your kisses really do something to me, like a lightning bolt.” “I can't sleep. All I keep thinking about is having you here next to me.” “Making love to you feels like I'm on another planet.” “I loved it when you ____ the other night, I've never felt that good before.” “Confession: I want you. Like, now.” Discuss what you plan to do to him, talk about what you're wearing, or make up a sexual scenario involving the two of you. Try to add as much detail as you can and be as bold or subtle as you feel comfortable doing. For example, you might text:  “First, I'm going to slowly run my fingers across your lips…” “I'm wearing those panties you like…” “You. Me. Naked. Kitchen counter. Dinner. Repeat.”

TL;DR in Russian:

Задавайте дразнящие и интригующие вопросы, чтобы заставить парня думать о вас. Покажите свое  чувство юмора, чтобы разжечь воображение парня. Напишите смелое  романтическое или недвусмысленное сообщение. Опишите чувственные подробности, чтобы разбудить  фантазию парня.


Asking about open positions in person is a little different than asking in writing. You won’t have time to revise what you say, so you should prepare ahead of time. Practice what you’ll say, including your education level, experience, and why you’re interested in that company. You might not get an interview right away, but if you have this information prepared, it can go a long way toward impressing a hiring manager. You should dress for these types of encounters the same way you would if you were going in for an interview. The first impression is the most important, and you want the hiring manager to take you seriously. It also shows that you’d reflect well on their company, since you dressed appropriately just to ask if there are any openings. Hiring managers are usually not out on the floor of businesses or stores. Ask the nearest employee—or the receptionist if there is one—if you could speak to the hiring manager. If they ask why, explain that you’re interested in any open positions at the company. If the hiring manager isn’t available, politely inquire when would be a better time to return to speak to them. In some cases, you may be able to procure an application from the employee you speak to. When the hiring manager comes out, act professionally. This means shaking hands, making eye contact, and being polite. Explain who you are, and why you’re there. The hiring manager may ask for your resume after they meet you. You should have at least one copy with you. If the hiring manager says there are no current openings, you can ask if you can leave your resume for future consideration. Carry your resume in a wrinkle-proof, waterproof case. Avoid handing over a resume that is folded, creased, wrinkled, or damp, as this makes a poor impression.

TL;DR in Russian:

Подготовьтесь к разговору. Оденьтесь соответственно. Попросить пригласить менеджера по подбору персонала. Пожмите руки. Возьмите с собой свое резюме.


Asking her friends is she likes you is a less bold way of basically telling her that you're interested in her yourself. Still, if you're feeling shy but really want to know how she feels without asking her directly, then just ask her friends how she feels about you. They probably won't tell you how she feels, but they'll make it obvious that she likes you by acting excited and saying that you should talk to her. They'll also tell her that you like her right away, so be careful. Her friends will, however, let you know if the girl doesn't like you and this will spare your feelings if she doesn't. If you're feeling brave and really want to date this girl, then just find a time when you're alone together, like by your lockers after school, and ask her how she really feels about you. You can even admit that you like her first (if you do) and wait for her to respond. Don't put too much pressure on her -- just casually say that you've noticed that she might like you and that you want to know how she feels. You can even complement her a bit to put her at ease. If she admits that she likes you and you like her too, you don't have to jump up and down for joy or you'll look uncool. Instead, just show her that you're excited that you both like each other and ask her if she wants to hang out some time. If she doesn't like you, don't be a jerk about it. Just say, "Cool, it's no big deal," and act cool and calm as you say goodbye. This will show her that you're comfortable with yourself and who knows -- maybe she'll change her mind about you in the future. Whatever happens, remember that you're in middle school. Relationships in middle school are fun, but they're usually short and shouldn't be taken too seriously. Just try to have fun and if it doesn't work out with this girl, someone else will definitely fall for you.

TL;DR in Russian:

Спросите ее друзей или подруг. Спросите ее сами. Реагируйте соответствующим образом.