Article in English: If you are feeling the urge to cut yourself, go somewhere it is harder to do. This can be some place public like a shop or the living room of your home with your family or your roommates. This will make it harder for you to give in to the urge to cut. It also might make you feel better, especially if you are around people who love and support you. If you're alone in your house or are unable to leave, call someone you like to talk with when you get the urge to cut. This can be a family member, a trusted friend, or a hotline. It might be helpful to create a phone list of people you can call. You can also program needed numbers into your phone.  There are many hotlines you can call for help. One is 1-800-273-TALK, a 24-hour crisis hotline for those who are about to self-harm or are in an emergency situation. You can also call 1-800-334-HELP, the Self Injury Foundation’s 24-hour national crisis line. Also try 1-800-DONT-CUT, which provides information about self-harm. If you hurt yourself or want to see a doctor, call 1-800-366-8288, which is S.A.F.E. Alternatives’ information line for immediate support and referrals to a local physician. If you are in the UK, you can call the Samaritans at 116 123, which is an agency that runs 24/7 and is dedicated to moments when you want to self-harm. You can also call Childline, a hotline for children and teens at 0800 1111. Both numbers are free from mobiles and landlines and neither will appear on your phone bill. One great way to avoid self-harm is to distract yourself. Not every distraction technique works for everyone, so you may need to try a few before you find which one works for you. Sometimes the trigger or urge can be different depending on your feelings or the situation, which means your response to prevent or stop self-harm will also be different.  Try the butterfly method. When you have the urge to cut, draw a butterfly where you want to harm yourself and name it after a loved one or someone that wants you to get better. If you cut, the butterfly dies. You have...

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Пойдите туда, где вы не сможете порезать себя. Позвоните кому-нибудь. Отвлеките себя. Не спешите делать порез.


Article in English: If you are feeling your emotions but don’t know or understand how to express them, study TV and movie actors. These are people who are trained to show emotions. They will exaggerate each emotion, which will give you a chance to understand the outward expressions associated with each emotion. The Notebook, Marley and Me, The Shawshank Redemption, Blood Diamond, and The Pursuit of Happiness are good movies with actors expressing a range of emotions. Writing down your emotions can help you become aware of them. Indicate how your body felt and how you outwardly expressed each emotion. For example, “I felt happy today after talking with my wife. To express my happiness, I smiled and gave her a hug”. Writing your emotions and outward responses can act as a ‘study sheet’ that you can review when you are having an especially difficult time expressing your emotions. Think about how you might react to events happening in your future, and brainstorm alternative emotional responses. For example, if you know you are going to a wedding, you might initially feel dread or stressed about meeting new people. But, consider other emotional responses, such as happiness for the couple’s new life and the opportunity to meet new people. Predicting how you will feel will help you be prepared to handle each emotion. If you prepare for emotional responses, you become aware of them as they happen. Empathy is critical because it allows you to be sensitive towards other’s feelings and emotions. Once you can feel for someone else, you can turn inwards, and express your own emotions. Listen to people, and really try to make a connection with them. Use your imagination to think about what someone else has been through and how they may have felt.  Volunteer at a homeless shelter, elderly home, or food bank and talk with people who have been through many struggles in their life. Take note of how they express their emotions, and keep that in mind when the time comes to express your own. Read a book and imagine yourself in someone else’s...

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Смотрите драматические фильмы и следите за своими эмоциями. Запишите свои эмоциональные реакции. Предсказывайте свои ощущения в предстоящих ситуациях. Сопереживайте. Тренируйтесь проявлять эмоции перед зеркалом.


Article in English: If you are finding your new schedule is ever-changing, and nothing is familiar, then you may be adjusting your life around your new partner.  Look for a few of the following tell-tale signs:  You haven’t talked to your best friend in a long time.  If you don’t know what your best friend is up to, what their latest news is, you’re definitely placing the new partner first. Normal hobbies are being put on the back burner.  Did you miss poker night or ladies night?  Ask yourself if your time with friends has been sacrificed. If you’ve skipped a family meal or get together for a new flame, chances are you’re altering your daily life for them. If you have been really moody lately, or have been easily upset, it’s understandable after a breakup.  If this has affected your daily life, however, enough that everyone is noticing, then you’ve likely changed emotionally.  Create some alone-time in your schedule.  Find time to just relax and steady your nerves.  If you can't change your attitude and be happy about your new partner, that's not a good relationship sign. Repeat positive affirmations daily.  Each day you tell yourself why you are happy with your partner.  If convincing yourself proves difficult, the relationship may just be a rebound. No matter what sappy romance movies tell you about the great love that’s been sitting under your nose the entire time, jumping straight out of a breakup into a relationship with a very good friend is a likely sign of a rebound relationship.  Immediately reaching out to date your best friend is not the best solution, it's just the easiest.  You run the additional risk of ruining the friendship if the relationship doesn't work out. Dating a good friend allows the uncomfortable stage of a relationship to be skipped. Romance and intimacy happens more quickly when the friendship is already established.

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Придерживайтесь привычного для вас распорядка дня. Обратите внимание на свое отношение и поведение. Избегайте романтических отношений с лучшим другом.


Article in English: If you are following a healthy diet, increasing your exercise, and making changes in your daily routine with no improvement, there may be a medical condition or medication that is causing the problem. If you believe you may have a medical condition causing chronic fatigue, it's important to talk to your doctor about how to identify and treat your condition. There are many different types of underlying medical conditions that can cause fatigue, including:  Anemia, specifically iron deficiency anemia  Depression, grief, or recent loss  Persistent pain problems  Thyroid gland problems  Sleep disorders such as insomnia, obstructive sleep apnea, or narcolepsy  Addison disease  Anorexia nervosa or other eating disorders  Arthritis  Autoimmune diseases such as lupus  Congestive heart failure  Diabetes  Fibromyalgia  Chronic bacterial infections  Viral infections such as mononucleosis (mono)  Chronic kidney and liver problems Some medications, especially psychiatric medications, can cause feelings of fatigue and exhaustion, but with your doctor's assistance, you may be able to adjust your dosage or replace your current medication with a different prescription. Never alter or adjust your medications on your own, as this can have serious consequences on your health, which may be fatal. Some medications that may cause you to feel overly tired or fatigued include:  Antihistamines  Antidepressants  Anxiety drugs  Sleeping medications  Blood pressure medications  Steroids  Diuretics If you feel consistently fatigued and don't seem to find any relief from sleep or dietary/lifestyle changes, you may have chronic fatigue syndrome.  Common symptoms of chronic fatigue syndrome include sudden onset of fatigue, especially after having the flu, low grade fever and chills, sore throat and swollen lymph glands in the neck and armpit area, muscle and joint aches, headaches, problems with concentration, and mood changes. Depression and added life stressors tend to cause chronic fatigue syndrome to linger and may cause symptoms that...

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Определите причину усталости. Поговорите с врачом о препаратах, которые вы принимаете. Узнайте о симптомах синдрома хронической усталости.


Article in English: If you are getting upset with a parent, take a time-out. Politely excuse yourself and walk into another room or outside for a breath of fresh air. Do some  deep breathing exercises to stimulate your body’s natural stress relief response. Inhale through your nose for 4 counts. Hold it for 7 counts. Then, exhale the air through your mouth for 8 counts. Repeat this technique until you start to feel calm again. Be respectful and use language that minimizes your chances of offending your parent(s) and getting into trouble. If you use statements that start with “you,” they can seem argumentative. “I” statements give you the chance to express how you feel and respectfully disagree with your mom and/or dad. Try this: “I feel mistrusted when you follow me in the car. I try my best to follow the rules, but it doesn’t help if you don’t try to trust me.” Or, “I’m feeling really pressured about having to go to your alma mater for college. Can I have more time to think this over?” One of the main reasons why you may fight with your parents is the neither of you feels heard. If, by this point, you have been allowed to express yourself, return the favor by listening to their points-of-view as well. Refrain from using any sarcasm when something is said that you don’t like or agree with. Follow these tips to listen effectively:  Put away any distractions, such as turning off phones or TVs Turn to face your parent(s) and make occasional eye contact Reflect open body language by uncrossing your arms and legs and leaning toward the speaker Wait until the speaker is done before replying Make clarifications by asking questions to ensure that you got the correct message If you’re a teen who finds yourself arguing with your parents, you may feel as if you are at war. No matter how difficult your relationship is with your parents and how rarely you see eye-to-eye, they love you and probably have your best interests at heart. Although it may feel as though you are on different sides, they just want the best for you.

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Сохраняйте спокойствие. Используйте Я-высказывания, когда говорите о своих чувствах. Практикуйте активное слушание. Помните о том, что они любят вас.


Article in English: If you are going from a dark color to a very light blonde, you can expect to do multiple treatments on your hair. Wait a few weeks between each treatment so that your hair has time to recover. Doing multiple treatments in one day will damage your hair. If you bleach your hair too often it can begin to fall out. Whenever you bleach your hair, an oxidation process is taking place, which removes the color from your hair. This is what leaves your hair a white or yellow shade, because the keratin (the protein your hair is made of) in your hair is naturally a pale yellow. Be prepared for your hair to suffer from dryness and brittleness as well as the fact that it will be more prone to breakage and split ends.  Because bleaching your hair is a serious process that can greatly damage your hair if done incorrectly, it is best to visit a professional if you are looking for a drastic color change. If you don't want to bleach your hair, you can use temporary color, demi-permanent, semi-permanent, or permanent color. These types of coloring only lightens your hair, so if you have very dark hair, it may not be very effective. However, the benefit of dyeing your hair versus bleaching it is that the dye won't strip your hair of color. It will still damage your hair somewhat, though, so you'll still need to take care of your hair in the same way that you would had you bleached it. If you are going from a very dark shade to a very light blonde, the process takes some time and during that time your hair will usually begin to develop an orangey tint. This happens because as you bleach your hair, cooler tones are lifted from your hair easier than the warmer, underlying pigments. So, as you remove color from your hair, the warm hues (reds and oranges) are what remain because they are trickier to lift from your hair. To counteract these warm hues you can add toner to your hair if you are going a very light blonde. This will counteract the remaining color in your air, thus removing those orangey, yellow tints in your hair. You can...

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Чтобы уменьшить повреждение волос, осветляйте их в несколько приемов. Будьте готовы к определенному повреждению волос. Будьте готовы к тому, что во время процедуры ваши волосы приобретут оранжевый оттенок. Как следует заботьтесь о волосах.


Article in English: If you are going into a situation in which you may become nauseous, prepare your stomach ahead of time. Eat a bland diet, like the BRAT diet, which consists of bananas, rice, applesauce, and toast. Avoid certain things like fried foods, spicy foods, or foods with strong aromas. Eat smaller meals to help your stomach digest less food.  Start eating or drinking ginger, like drinking ginger tea. Ginger can help settle the stomach.  For more information, check out How to Cope With Nausea. If you start to feel nauseous, taking deep breaths can help ease anxiety. Practice taking deep breaths when you feel anxious and nauseous. Use your breath as a way to relax your body and your mind. Wherever you are, turn your attention to your breathing, making it more purposeful. Increase the length of your inhales and exhales, breathing deeply for 3-6 breaths, until you feel calm. Notice how you feel before you breathe deeply, then notice how you feel afterward. Does your mind or body feel different? Are your thoughts the same? If you have specific fears around certain things (such as giving a presentation or taking exams), use visualization as a way to cope. Imagine yourself feeling confident as you deliver a flawless presentation or as you answer each test question with ease. Imagine the feelings you feel as you succeed or as you relax. When feeling anxious and nauseous, avoid turning your attention inward toward feelings of anxiety or feelings of nausea in your stomach. Instead, focus on your immediate surroundings with your senses. Look around you and see the little details of where you are. You can also have photos or pictures to look at that help you feel calm. Listen closely for any noises, perhaps the hum of the heater or birds outside your window, or put on soothing music. For smell, light scented candles or inhale the beautiful aroma of flowers. Taste an enjoyable food, and really savor each bite. For touch, wrap yourself in a soft blanket, pet a dog or a cat, or sit outside in the breeze. Engage your senses as a way...

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Съешьте что-нибудь, чтобы подготовиться к тошноте. Выполните технику глубокого дыхания. Выполняйте техники визуализации. Задействуйте свои чувства. Носите с собой гигиенический пакет.


Article in English: If you are going to be in a situation where your toddler will have to sit still, start preparing early. Let your toddler know what the situation will be and what kind of behavior you expect. Typical situations include:  Restaurant meals. Even more than meals eaten at home, meals eaten at restaurants demand good behavior. Don’t expect miracles – choose family-friendly restaurants – but let your toddler know that he or she needs to sit still and behave. Haircuts. If your toddler wiggles, fidgets, and jumps around, it will be very difficult to manage a good haircut. Explain this to your child in advance, and suggest that he or she sit as still as possible and watch the haircut in the mirror. Medical examinations. Children do need to sit still during medical exams, especially for blood tests and other lab work. Prepare your child in advance. During the exam, try to occupy your child as best you can. Distract by pointing out colorful paintings or drawings, and use your imagination: a drop of blood can be a ladybug or raspberry juice. Church, concerts, and theater performances. Again, prepare your child in advance. Understand, though, that your child may not be able to sit still for something as lengthy as a church service or a concert. Plan to take quick breaks, taking your child outside to burn off some energy. You cannot expect a hungry, thirsty, exhausted, or otherwise uncomfortable toddler to sit still and behave; it will not happen. Don’t attempt any event that requires sitting still without feeding your toddler and making sure his or her other needs are met. When your child needs to sit still, whether it’s during a meal or at a doctor’s appointment, it helps to offer a distraction. Have your child focus on a painting on the wall, his or her image in the mirror, a silly song or story – anything that works. If necessary, bring favorite toys, picture books, and snacks. In rare cases, you may want to break out a cartoon or electronic device. This can work when you really need your child to stay still – as at the...

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Подготовьте ребенка. Убедитесь, что основные потребности ребенка удовлетворены. Отвлеките ребенка. Оденьте ребенка в соответствии с занятием. Будьте авторитетом для ребенка. Дайте ребенку выбор. Хвалите за хорошее поведение.


Article in English: If you are going to be teaching yourself, you will need to know how to find good learning resources. There is a lot of information available that is not reliable, so be very careful about where you look. These guidelines apply to all media, including articles and videos.  Academic journals are a great source of reliable information. If you don't have access to any other databases, try doing a search on Google Scholar to find articles.  Look for websites that are published by reputable organizations, including major new outlets, government agencies, and professional associations. Avoid relying on personal blogs and web forums for information. If you have any doubts about the quality of your source, always verify the information by looking for another source. Look for non-biased sources. A source that appears to be selling a product may not provide objective information. There is a plethora of information out there for anyone who is willing to read it. No matter what you want to learn about, chances are there is a book or website that can teach you everything you need to know.  You can find information about pretty much anything online, so start searching for answers to the questions that interest you. You can access peer-reviewed published work through journal databases like LexisNexis and JSTOR. You need a subscription to access these databases, but they may be free for you if you are a student. Many classic works of literature are available for free on websites like Project Gutenberg. Your local library is a great resource for free reading material, so take advantage of it. While a lot of information is available online, not everything is. Reading isn't a great way to learn for everyone, but luckily it's not the only way to learn. There are tons of educational videos available online that can teach you how to do all sorts of things. Whether you'd like to listen to someone explain a concept or watch someone perform a task, videos can be very helpful learning resources.  YouTube is a great resource for...

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Научитесь находить надежные источники информации. Читайте книги и другие материалы. Смотрите образовательные видео по той теме, которая вас интересует. Наблюдайте за происходящим вокруг. Попрактикуйтесь.


Article in English: If you are going to be wearing this wreath over a hairstyle (such as for a wedding), get your hair into that style first and then measure your hair. Some hairstyles, such as French braids and braided crowns, can add bulk to your head. Try to use some thicker floral, like the kind that has paper around it. This will help the florist's tape stick better to it. Do not use scissors to cut the wire or you will dull them. Use wire cutters instead. The ring should hold its shape. If it is too floppy, twist two to three strands of wire together, and make the ring again. This should make it sturdier. You can also wrap some more tape around the entire wire ring. This will give you a base to work on. It will also make the color more consistent. Use scissors to cut real or dried flowers, and wire cutters to cut fake flowers. Try to cut all the stems down to the same length. This will make the crown neater in the end. Try using large, medium, and small flowers. This will give your crown some variety. Don't tape the flowers to the base just yet. You want to get your design down first. It is easier to make changes while the flowers are still on the table. Try alternating between different shapes, sizes, and colors. Here are some more design ideas:  Place the largest flowers in the top/front of the crown. Use smaller and smaller flowers as you go towards the back of the crown. Try having all the flowers pointing in the same direction, towards or away the top of the crown. The flowers don't have to be right up against each other. You can have them spaced as close together or as far apart as you want. Instead of attaching flowers all the way around the wire base, place them only on the top. Hold the flower against so that the stem is laying horizontally alongside the wire. Wrap some florist's tape around the stem and the wire. Start just below the bloom, and keep wrapping until you are ½ inch (1.27 centimeters) past the end of the stem. Cut the tape and press the edge down to seal it. Place it so that the bloom overlaps the...

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Измерьте обхват головы и добавьте к мерке 5 см. Отрежьте кусок прочной проволоки соответствующей длины. Сверните проволоку в кольцо, наложив ее концы друг на друга примерно на 2,5 см. Чтобы зафиксировать концы проволоки, смотайте их флористическим скотчем. Выберите цветы для венка и обрежьте их стебли до длины 2,5-5 см ниже бутона. Расположите цветы в том порядке, который вам нравится. Прикрепите к проволочному основанию первый цветок. Приложите второй цветок венка непосредственно за первым и закрепите его флористическим скотчем. Продолжайте прикладывать цветы к основанию венка и закреплять их скотчем. Подумайте о прикреплении к венку ленты. Примерьте венок и при необходимости внесите в него некоторые исправления.


Article in English: If you are growing plants outside, but you have to wait for spring, grow your seeds inside. Seedlings take between 4 to 12 weeks to sprout. If you let them sprout inside and then transplant them into your garden, the plants will grow 4-6 weeks earlier than if you had waited to plant the seed directly into the flower bed.  Gather a small group of containers that are 2–4 inches (5.1–10 cm) deep that have drainage holes. Avoid fertilizers. Instead, use a mix of peat moss and vermiculite inside the container. Let the plants set outside in their containers for a few hours each day. Do this for at least two weeks before you transplant them into the flower bed. This will help them acclimate to direct sunlight. The best plants to transplant are tomatoes, peppers, eggplants, and melons. Some plants, however, do not transplant well. These are zucchini, beans, beets, corn, spinach, turnips, and peas. Studies show that plants respond particularly well to being serenaded. When you are fertilizing the plant, talk or sing to the plant. Record your voice using a device such as a radio or tape recorder and play it to them while you're gone. This will help your plant grow faster.. Use a grow light if you are growing your plant indoors. The best grow lights are high-intensity discharge lights (HID). HID lights come in two types: metal halide (MH) and high-pressure sodium (HPS). MH bulbs cast the strongest light in the blue end of the spectrum, which causes a compact, leafy growth. HPS bulbs last longer than MH bulbs and produce light at the red/orange end of the spectrum. MH bulbs cause a flowering growth. Coffee grounds help plants grow faster because of their caffeine. If you drink coffee, put the grounds in your plant instead of throwing them away. The grounds are rich in nitrogen, which is a key nutrient in a plants diet. There have also been studies that suggest that caffeine helps the plant grow faster.

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Выращивайте саженцы внутри. Разговаривайте со своими растениями. Дайте ему свет. Используйте кофейную гущу.


Article in English: If you are having a hard time getting through an assigned book, consider using a study aid to help you get through the book. This may help you understand complex topics and actually learn to enjoy the book.  Most major works of literature have study aids. These have annotated comments that can explain difficult sections of the book. Talk to your instructor or boss if you’re having a difficult time. She may be able to suggest effective ways to read the book. If you don’t enjoy reading and realize that you have required reading for school or work, accept it and develop a plan to tackle the assignment. This will help you figure out how to strategically get through the activity.  Allot to each section of the reading a specified amount of time so that you don’t get mired on one part of it. For example, you’ll probably want to spend more time on the introduction and conclusion than the body of a text. Make sure to schedule breaks for yourself to refresh your brain and recharge yourself. It is never too early to start required reading. This can minimize your stress and help you retain information. You can read for 20-30 minutes a day to help you get through the text in a more effective manner. Working with smaller and more manageable sections can help you get through your required reading. This will ensure that you address every section of the reading, even if it’s not enjoyable.  Before you start, skim the entire text to get a basic idea of what it is about. This can help you from getting lost or confused by the work.  Pace yourself: allow yourself no more than an allotted time for each section. This may help motivate you to get through the text. People who have to read a lot of texts, such as academics, employ strategies to quickly “gut”—or get the most important information—reading assignments. Learning how to gut can help you more effectively and enjoyably get through the tedium of required reading.  The most important sections of any text are the introduction and the conclusion. Make sure to read these...

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Пользуйтесь вспомогательными пособиями. Продумайте план. Начните читать как можно раньше. Разбейте текст на небольшие части. Научитесь выхватывать из текста основное. Читайте вслух. Делайте пометки. Делите текст на части и обменивайтесь конспектами.


Article in English: If you are having a hard time with the idea of getting your blood drawn, you need to relax. Take a deep breath and focus all of your attention on breathing. Deep breathing activates the body’s relaxation response. Inhale slowly to the count of four and then exhale slowly to the count of four. Anxiety is just a feeling like any other feeling. Feelings only have control when you give them control. When you accept that you are anxious you take the power away from the feeling. If you try to get rid of the feeling it becomes overwhelming. Anxiety is a trick of the mind that has real physical consequences. Enough anxiety can produce a panic attack, which can mimic a heart attack. When you understand that your anxiety, no matter how little or big, is little more than a trick of the mind it helps reduce the pressure and responsibility of caring for yourself. When you are anxious, ask yourself several questions to determine exactly how bad the situation really is. Anxiety can increase the number of outrageous ideas you’re having while asking yourself specific questions that require realistic answers can increase your awareness. Ask yourself questions such as:  What is the worst thing that can happen when they draw my blood? Is what I’m worried about realistic? Can it really happen to me? What is the likelihood that the worst thing will happen? You will hear what we say to yourselves, even when you don’t think that you do. Talking out loud and repeating that you are strong, can handle the situation, and that nothing bad will happen will help to reduce your feelings of anxiety.

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Делайте глубокие вдохи. Примите тот факт, что вы испытываете беспокойство. Помните, что вас обманывает ваше сознание. Задавайте себе вопросы. Говорите себе хорошее.


Article in English: If you are having a reaction that goes beyond mere skin irritation, you should go to a doctor right away.  Some indications that you may need medical intervention include:  The rash covers a large portion of your body The rash gets worse, rather than better, with time and home treatments The rash lasts longer than 1-2 weeks You show signs of infection, including increased redness or pain, swelling, and drainage of pus Corticosteroids are a group of medications that help treat a variety of ailments. Derived from the natural corticoid hormone found in the adrenal glands, corticosteroids have an anti-inflammatory effect on the body and this makes them excellent at combating allergic responses. Corticosteroid creams, generally used to treat skin rashes, are a variety of topical steroid creams applied directly to the affected skin. Ask your doctor which corticosteroid cream might be right for you.  Only apply the cream to the area affected by the skin rash, and only as often as and where your doctor instructs you to apply it. Once or twice a day is usually all that is necessary. Apply the cream sparingly and ask your doctor approximately how much you should use. When side effects do occur, which they rarely do, it is generally from incorrect use. Many people are wary of corticosteroid creams because of the steroid factor, but this fear is mostly unfounded. Topical steroids are very safe when used correctly, and as they are not intended for longterm use the kind of dependency associated with other kinds of steroid use is uncommon. In rare cases, if your skin doesn’t respond to corticosteroid creams, your doctor might give you a pill or cortisone injection to help reduce the reaction. If your doctor prescribes an oral corticosteroid, you should take as directed.  If you take blood thinners or dietary supplements that have a blood-thinning effect, your doctor might recommend avoiding such medications before the injection.  When you receive your injection, you may have to change into a hospital gown depending on where...

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Обратите внимание на более серьезную реакцию. Спросите врача о креме с кортикостероидами для местного применения. Попробуйте принимать кортизон в таблетках или делать инъекции. Сдайте пробы на аллергены.


Article in English: If you are having a really tough time with bad skin and blackheads, pay a visit to your doctor or dermatologist for some advice. She will be able to examine your particular skin type closely and provide the best type of treatment for you, be it something from the store, pharmacy, or even a natural remedy. There are some products that dermatologists can prescribe if you have if you have acne that is not getting better with over-the-counter products. This is not for people who just have a few awkward blackheads on their nose every now and then. Your doctor may prescribe benzoyl peroxide. It is comedolytic (unclogs pores), anti-inflammatory, and also has been shown to reduce the bacteria thought to play a role in acne. It is possible that your dermatologist may prescribe you a course of antibiotics to take orally alongside a topical treatment if you also have inflammatory acne lesions alongside your blackheads. This will only be in the most serious cases.

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Если вы не можете избавиться от угревой сыпи и черных точек, обратитесь к врачу. Воспользуйтесь препаратом, отпускаемым по рецепту. Возможно, вам придется принимать антибиотики и пользоваться средствами для местной терапии.


Article in English: If you are having abnormal uterine bleeding, then see your physician as soon as possible.  Abnormal vaginal bleeding can be the result of many different conditions ranging from not serious to life threatening. Some possible reasons why you may be having abnormal uterine bleeding may include:  Celiac disease Certain types of cancer Endometriosis Gonorrhea Hypothyroidism Hyperthyroidism Polycystic ovary syndrome Pregnancy Stopping birth control pills Vaginitis Uterine polyps or fibroids A common early treatment for abnormal uterine bleeding is a low-dose contraceptive that contains synthetic estrogens and progestins. This medication should help to normalize your menstrual cycle and decrease your menstrual flow. Talk to your doctor about getting a prescription for a low-dose contraceptive if this option appeals to you. Keep in mind that low-dose contraceptives should be taken for a short time unless you want to use the drug to prevent pregnancy as well. If you have abnormal uterine bleeding that is heavy, then higher doses of estrogen may be necessary to normalize your cycle.  Keep in mind that there are significant risks associated with these drugs.  Do not use these medications if you:  Have recently given birth Smoke more than 15 cigarettes per day and you are over 35 years old Have a personal or family history of breast cancer, liver disease, blood clots, migraines, high blood pressure, gallbladder disease,  heart disease, diabetes, or high triglyceride blood levels. Progesterone (or a synthetic progestin) may be used on its own in women who cannot or do not want to take estrogens. Progesterone may also be used if a previous treatment using oral contraceptives did not help to control the bleeding or if lab tests show that progesterone levels are low.  Progesterone may be given in the form of a pill, an IUD intrauterine device) or as an injection. Keep in mind that progesterone alone will not prevent pregnancy. If you want to prevent pregnancy, then you will need to take another contraceptive as well. This...

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Обратитесь к врачу как можно скорее. Спросите врача о лечении низкодозированными пероральными контрацептивами. Если у вас сильное кровотечение, может потребоваться лечение препаратами, содержащими более высокие дозы гормонов. Узнайте у врача о лечении гормональными препаратами, содержащими только прогестерон. Узнайте о лечении препаратами транексамовой кислоты. Рассмотрите возможность лечения препаратами, содержащими андроген, если остальные лекарства не оказали нужного эффекта. Узнайте у гинеколога о процедуре медицинской абразии (дилатация и кюретаж). Обсудите с врачом необходимость гинекологической операции.


Article in English: If you are having difficulty identifying active woodworm in your home (as opposed to other damage to the wood, or damage from woodworm that is not longer active) look online for exterminators in your area. Read reviews online and ask friends or colleagues if they have recommendations for local extermination companies. Call different companies for quotes and assessments before booking an appointment. Identifying specific species' of woodworm is incredibly difficult, and can result in misguided treatment attempts that fall through. Ask an exterminator for a professional assessment of your problem. Inquire about pricing and potential treatments before agreeing to any services by the company. Treatments could range from water based treatments for less severe infestations to fogging – a treatment for floors that generally does not require furniture and carpets to be removed. Once an exterminator has identified woodworm in your home, consider having them treat the problem right away. Over time, woodworm can cause significant damage to wood as well as serious structural problems in a building. DIY measures can be ineffective and time-wasting if infested wood has been left untreated for too long, so be proactive about stopping the problem before it gets out of hand.

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Найдите дезинсектора. Попросите дезинсектора дать оценку проблемы. Избавьтесь от заражения.


Article in English: If you are having pain across these areas, it is most likely caused by an injury to the back muscles, not the kidneys. These are common areas of back pain and it is more common for back pain to spread across this whole region than for kidney pain to spread in this way.  An injury to the back muscles can impact the function and pain levels in a variety of muscles down the backside of the body, including the gluteus muscles. If you are having widespread pain, weakness, or numbness, especially down into your legs, it is important to get medical care immediately. Kidney pain is most often located on the side or the back in the area called the flank. This is the area at the back of the body where the kidneys are located. Pain in other areas of the back, such as the upper back, is not caused by the kidneys. If the pain in your lower back is accompanied by pain in your abdomen, then it is more likely that your pain is related to your kidneys. Back pain tends to remain on the back side of the body. Enlarged or infected kidneys can cause inflammation towards the front of the body in addition to the back. If you only have abdominal pain with no back pain, that is not likely to be related to the kidneys. In many cases, kidney pain is constant. It may decrease or increase a bit throughout the day, but it never goes away completely. On the other hand, back pain will often go away completely and then come back at a later time.  Most causes of kidney pain, including urinary tract infections and kidney stones, will not stop hurting on their own without treatment. The back muscles, on the other hand, can heal themselves and the pain can go away. Some kidney stones can pass through your body on their own without treatment. However, it is still important to get the cause of your kidney pain evaluated by a doctor. If you are having pain on just one side of your flank, then it is likely that it is caused by your kidney. The kidneys are located right along the flank and a kidney stone may only cause pain in one of your kidneys.

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Распознайте боль, распространяющуюся по пояснице и ягодицам. Проверьте, ощущаете ли вы боль между ребрами и бедрами. Распознайте боль в животе. Определите, является ли боль постоянной. Определите, чувствуете ли вы боль только с одной стороны поясницы.


Article in English: If you are having problems and no method has worked, you might consider seeing a physical therapist. She can give you specialized stretches and exercises that aid in healing a pinched nerve. Certain exercises relieve the pressure on the pinched nerve, helping to reduce pain. Many of the stretches used in this healing process must be done with a trained professional or partner, so don't do them on your own. As time goes on, your physical therapist may give you additional exercises that can be done on your own. Don't do any of the exercises alone unless she tells you to do so. This treatment, used mainly in treating a pinched sciatic nerve, can alleviate pain and help to heal the nerve. It involves a steroid shot to the spine and can only be injected by a doctor.  After being evaluated by your doctor for the degree and type of pinched nerve you have, she  may discuss this option with you. Epidural steroid injections can be a quick and effective means of getting relief from your pain. When this procedure is performed by a trained medical professional, any side effects and dangers are considered remote. However, rare side effects may include nausea, vomiting, diarrhea, backache, and bleeding from the site of injection. For significant pain or symptoms that are not improved with other treatments, surgery on the pinched nerve may be the best treatment. The surgery may be to relieve pressure or to remove the part of the area that is pinching the nerve. Surgery usually provides relief after recovery. Recurrence of the pinched nerve may occur but is typically rare.  A pinched nerve in the wrist may involve cutting muscle tissue to alleviate pressure in the area. Pinched nerves caused by a herniated disc may be corrected by removing part or all of the disc, followed by spinal stabilization. Even after symptoms have subsided, it is important to continue to properly exercise, maintain proper body mechanics and good posture, and avoid previously discussed risk factors. Recovery from pinched nerves will depend on a number...

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Обратитесь к физиотерапевту. Эпидуральная инъекция гормональных препаратов. Хирургическое решение проблемы. Стремитесь к продолжительному результату. Избегайте защемления нервов.


Article in English: If you are having sexual problems, you may want to go see a doctor. Many sexual disorders have an underlying medical cause. If you know the reason why you have a sexual disorder, you can bring this to your partner's attention.  Your doctor may perform a physical exam or additional tests to determine the underlying problem. Your doctor may also send you to a specialist or give you a referral to a sex therapist who can help you determine any causes for your sexual problems.  For example, diabetes can lead to sexual problems in both males and females. You may want to ask your doctor for suggestions on how to work on the sexual problems at home. There are various different sexual disorders that people can have. These disorders also vary depending on your gender. Men and women face different sexual problems which may specifically deal with their genitalia, or may have a mental or psychological disorder that affects the normal function of their sexual organs. Being able to tell your partner what your problem is can help you both figure out a way to deal with it.   Erectile dysfunction is a common sexual disorder for men. Men who have erectile dysfunction have trouble getting and maintaining erections. Men may also face premature, delayed, or inhibited ejaculation. Men can also face a low libido, leading to less interest in sex.  Women can face desire disorders (where they may not be interested in or have less desire for sex), arousal disorders (where they don't feel arousal), orgasmic disorders (where they have trouble having orgasms or feel pain during an orgasm), or sexual pain disorders, where they feel pain during or after sexual intercourse.  Aging and hormonal changes, including a reduction in estrogen in women and testosterone in men, can lead to sexual problems. Menopause in women can cause sexual problems, such as lack of lubrication.  Stress, anxiety, and depression can lead to sexual disorders.  Sex addiction is another sexual disorder. One good way to prepare for talking to your partner about your...

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Проконсультируйтесь с врачом. Определите свое сексуальное расстройство. Запишите свои мысли. Подумайте о том, как ваш партнер чувствует себя из-за вашего поведения. Займитесь самообразованием.


Article in English: If you are having the party at the honoree's place, you'll need to wait until they're not at home and decorate quickly. Choose decorations that are simple to put up. Ensure that the honoree won't be able to see the decorations before they walk in to the main party room. Keep decorations away from windows that the honoree could look into as they walk in. If you won't have much time to decorate, stick to decorating the main party room first and then you can decorate other rooms as you have time. If you're not hosting the party at the honoree's house, you can easily set up decorations in advance. You can decorate with the theme of the party, your honoree's favorite colors, or standard birthday decorations like balloons and streamers. Remember that the entrance to the party room should not give away the surprise, so avoid putting up banners or balloons in the entryway. Ask a few of the guests to help you set up decorations before the other guests arrive. Once guests have RSVP'd, call them or leave more detailed information on a social media page that the honoree can't see. To keep the party a secret, tell the guests where they can park, where to put gifts or food when they arrive, any costume or dress-code requirements, and an exact time to show up (usually about 30 minutes before the big surprise). Avoid giving out party details to too many people or to those who aren't coming to the party. This increases the risk that the honoree will find out about the surprise. Find a chaperone who will escort the honoree while you plan and set up the party. Pick a chaperone that the honoree feels comfortable with (such as a spouse or best friend). The chaperone can distract and redirect the honoree until it's time for the surprise party. Tell the chaperone that you may contact them if you need them to stall for more time or get the honoree to the party right away. The easiest way to distract the honoree is to plan a different event that they know about. For example, have the chaperone invite the honoree out to dinner or an...

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Оформите вечеринку в доме виновника торжества. Оформите вечеринку в другом месте. Предоставьте гостям детали вечеринки. Выберите сопровождающего для именинника. Запланируйте фальшивое мероприятие, чтобы сбить с толку виновника торжества. Пересмотрите список дел прежде, чем вечеринка начнется. Скажите гостям, что вы от них ожидаете во время сюрприза.


Article in English: If you are having trouble dealing with an embarrassing moment, try creating some distance between yourself and your feelings. This can especially help when you are feeling overwhelmed by your feelings and are having trouble thinking straight because of them  You can create some distance from your feelings by thinking about yourself in the 3rd person (i.e., he shouldn't be embarrassed because everyone does something embarrassing from time to time, so it's actually quite a normal thing) Give yourself some time to forget about the embarrassing thing you did. There are several ways you might distract yourself. You could:  Watch a movie. Read a book Play video games Go out with friends Volunteer for a charity Embarrassment is a thing of the past. It happened before now. The moment is gone. Although this is much easier said than done in the midst of an embarrassing moment, try to focus your attention on the present moment or future when dealing with embarrassment - you may find yourself less bothered by something that has already occurred. If you're really embarrassed, see if you can appropriately get yourself out of there. Say you need to use the bathroom or take an important call. This can give you a time to collect yourself after an embarrassing incident. If you think you are someone who gets easily embarrassed or socially anxious, or if you feel like you get embarrassed more than you would like to, it may be worth talking to a therapist about. She could help you change the way you think or react to embarrassing situations. There may be medications that are offered to you that could help to make you less sensitive to social anxiety, too.  To find a therapist, you can:  Google the terms "therapist + your city name or zip code." Use this link to find a therapist near you: http://locator.apa.org/

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Абстрагируйтесь от своих чувств. Отвлекитесь. Сосредоточьтесь на настоящем времени. Исключите себя из ситуации. Поговорите с психотерапевтом.


Article in English: If you are having trouble growing out your pixie cut, search online for hairstylists in your area, and schedule an appointment to get some assistance. Professional stylists can give you a great haircut as your hair grows out, and they can also offer tips and tricks to style your hair in between growth stages.  Growing out a pixie cut can be a frustrating process, and professional stylists totally understand your pain. They can keep you looking your best and offer support throughout the process! Opt for an undercut, so your hair is short around the back and sides but long in the top. This will let your hair grow into a bob naturally. Trimming your ends  keeps your hair healthy and prevents split ends from extending up your strands. Waiting awhile in between hair trims can cause your split ends to get worse, resulting in shorter hair cuts. To prevent this, trim your ends regularly so your hair grows as healthy as possible. You can get your ends trimmed at a salon. In addition, consider trimming your hair yourself. This will give you a unique, quirky look. If you are growing out your pixie cut and want to try something different, schedule a haircut for an asymmetrical style. With this style, the front of your hair is the longest, and your bangs are angled towards 1 side. This hairstyle is different yet flattering, and since your hair is longer in the front, you can easily grow this look out into a longer bob. This may require a bit of growth on top, but this makes a great, unique hair cut as you grow out your locks.

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Найдите парикмахера, который поможет вам привести волосы в порядок. Чтобы волосы выглядели лучше, подрезайте кончики каждые 6–8 недель. Сделайте асимметричную стрижку, если вам по душе интересные и смелые образы.


Article in English: If you are having trouble sleeping comfortably, you might benefit from trying a different position. Sleep positions normally fall into one of three categories: back, side or stomach. Sleeping on your side is most recommended for comfort and to reduce the chances of interrupting your sleep.  When sleeping on your side, bend your knees slightly toward your chest (similar to the “fetal position”). If you have back trouble, consider placing a pillow between your knees. This alleviates pressure on your hips and lower back, making sleep more comfortable. However, sleeping on your back may increase your chances of lower back pain. Doing so may also cause cases of apnea, which can interrupt your sleep. If you do choose to sleep on your back, try placing a rolled up towel or pillow under your knees to encourage the natural curve of your spine. Some feel that sleeping on the stomach is most comfortable. However, doing so can cause pain in the lower back and neck. Sleeping on your stomach may also cause you to toss and turn in discomfort.  If you sleep on your stomach, use a soft pillow or none at all to reduce the risk of causing neck pain. If you have underlying sleep problems, it is generally recommended that you do not sleep on your stomach.

Summary in Russian:

Спите на боку. Спине на спине, если вам удобно. Спите на животе с осторожностью.


Article in English: If you are having trouble using one of the methods above, you can always copy and paste your fraction from another document or from the internet. If the fraction you want to use appears somewhere else in the document, or perhaps in a different document, then you can quickly copy and paste it.  Highlight the fraction you want to use with your cursor. Right click on the highlighted text and click "copy". Click back to the document and place the cursor where you want the text to appear. Right click again, and click "paste". If the text doesn't match the format of the document you are working in, highlight the newly pasted fraction, and change the font and font size to that of the text in the document. If you do not have the fraction handy in a different document, you can find it on a web page by searching for the fraction + the word "fraction". For example, if you want to include 1/10, search for "1/10 fraction".  Click through the results until you find the fraction you are looking for. Then, as above, highlight the fraction, and copy and paste it into your document. If you need to change the formatting, highlight the fraction again and then change it to the correct font and font size. You may also need to make it bold (or regular) when necessary.

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Скопируйте и вставьте дробь. Найдите дробь. Найдите дробь в интернете.


Article in English: If you are having trouble with dry mouth you should talk to your doctor about possible causes and treatments. It's important to have enough saliva, so if home remedies and such are not working, get medical care for the problem. If you are taking a medication that causes dry mouth, talk to your doctor about alternatives. There may be another medication for your condition that won't cause the side effect of dry mouth. There are hundreds of medications that are known to cause dry mouth, including very common ones like benadryl, acetaminophen and claritin. In many cases, dry mouth that is serious enough to get medical care is related to a medical issue. It could be the side effect of medical treatment or caused by a medical problem. If your saliva production is especially low, your doctor may prescribe a medication that will increase it. There are several drugs that the doctor may prescribe, depending on your symptoms and any underlying health problems.  Salagen is commonly prescribed to help with low saliva production. Evoxac is a medication that is used to increase saliva production for those that have Sjögren's syndrome, which is a disease that causes dry eyes, mouth, and skin.

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Обсудите свои текущие проблемы с врачом. Не принимайте препараты, вызывающие сухость во рту. Устраните первопричину. Принимайте препараты для увеличения выработки слюны.


Article in English: If you are hearing an audible voice that is not your own, consult a mental health professional as this may be a sign of a more serious psychological issue.  One way to determine whether the voice is yours is to determine whether you are responsible for it. If you are not responsible for the voice (e.g., are you thinking, making, and saying the words consciously?) and if you have no clue what this voice will say next, this could be a sign of a mental disorder, such as schizophrenia, depression or psychosis. Other symptoms of a mental disorder include hearing more than one voice; experiencing non-verbal thoughts, visions, tastes, scents and touches that you didn’t call into existence; experiencing the voices as a waking dream that feels real; experiencing voices that are present all day and that negatively impact your daily functioning (e.g., you become isolated and withdrawn or the voices threaten you if you don't do what they say). If you are experiencing any of these symptoms during your periods of self-talk, it's important that you consult a mental health professional in order to rule out a psychiatric disorder that could be adversely affecting your life and health. What kinds of things are you talking to yourself about? Are you narrating the day? Are you planning what you need to do next? Are you talking about something that happened recently? Are you reciting lines from a movie? Self-talk is not necessarily a bad thing. Articulating your thoughts can help you organize them. It can also help you think through things more carefully, particularly when making a tough decision, like where to go to college or whether or not do buy this gift or that gift for someone. Positive self-talk can actually be good for you in situations where you want to feel highly motivated, such as a job interview or intense work out. Telling yourself “You’ve got this, you can do it!” can make you feel good and give you a positive boost of self-confidence before you do something important. You can be your own cheerleader! In this way,...

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Подумайте, вы разговариваете сами с собой чужим или своим голосом? Понаблюдайте за содержанием этой беседы. Оцените, позитивна или негативна та беседа, которую вы ведете. Оцените, какие чувства и ощущения вам приносит беседа с самим собой. Оцените, как окружающие реагируют на вашу беседу с самим собой.


Article in English: If you are hugging someone in a platonic way, you don't need to worry about being "too forward" or holding back. The goal here is to show someone how much you appreciate them – so make it a good hug. Wait for the right moment, then wrap your arms around the person and hold them close.  Most people appreciate a good hug. If you are genuine and comforting in your hugs, people will notice. Don't be afraid to share your love! This is especially important if you're hugging to comfort someone. The warmer you come across, the more loved your hugging partner will feel. This means that you shouldn't take a platonic hug too far. Don't squeeze so tight that the person is in pain or can't breathe. Don't touch any private parts or sensitive areas unless your hugging partner has given you permission. Don't put your face too close to theirs, or breathe heavily in their ear, or step on their toes. Use your best judgment, and lighten up your approach if the person seems uncomfortable with the situation. You don't need to think too much about it – the purpose of hugging family is to show a simple, platonic love, even if you don't terribly like the person. You don't need to hug them tightly, although solid hugs (both in firmness and duration) tend to show more affection. Stroke your hands quickly across the top of the other person's back, and smile when you let go.  Hugging female relatives should be mostly the same. Hug your mom like you'd hug your grandmother like you'd hug your sister. Hugging male relatives can depend on the context and the relative; some men may prefer a handshake, if you're a male. Understand how people hug in your family. Some families are big on hugging, while others tend to keep physical contact at a minimum. Watch how your other family members act with one another, then play to this hugging pattern to make sure that your relatives feel comfortable. If you're just giving a quick, playful hug, you can let go after a few seconds. If the moment calls for a long hug, however, you don't need to feel...

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Обнимайте тепло. Не причиняйте неудобства. Обнимайте родных. Не бойтесь продлить объятия. Обнимайте друзей.


Article in English: If you are in a face to face conversation, face the person, maintain eye contact and listen with an open mind to what they are saying. Likewise, if you are on the phone, listen attentively with an open mind. Try to just comprehend what they are saying.  If you are having a hard time concentrating, try repeating their words in your mind.  Rather than going on to offer unsolicited advice, you should continue trying to understand their situation in greater depth through active listening. Only offer advice if they directly ask you for it. To assure them that you are actively listening to their story, you can nod your head in affirmation. You could also say, “uh huh.” Where appropriate, you can offer affirmations such as “thanks for sharing” or “that makes sense.” If your intention is to make friends, perhaps you should try simply listening to the person. If you offer unsolicited advice, they may react negatively and it could defeat your purpose. Instead of offering advice, try listening and then making empathetic nods or making the following kinds of statements:  “I understand, tell me more” “That sounds hard, I’m sorry to hear you had that experience” After they have finished speaking, you could try making a comment or question for the purpose of recapping what they have said. This will ensure you have understood them correctly. Try recapping and then asking if your recap of their story is a correct interpretation:  “What I understand from what you have just told me is that you feel terribly about what happened to John and you want to do something about it. Do I understand you correctly?” “From what I understand, you really want to fix your relationship with Sue, which seems to have gone south since Christmas. And the issue seems to be partly the long distance but also these other things you were talking about. Am I getting this right?”

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Станьте непредвзятым слушателем. Демонстрируйте внимательность. Сопереживайте, а не советуйте. Задавайте уточняющие вопросы.


Article in English: If you are in a noisy setting, now is your chance to get people’s attention. You can do so with a carefully rehearsed shout, a clinking of a glass or an exclamation like, “Give me a thumbs up if you can hear me in the back.” . Start with a friendly and sincere tone. Answer the question, “Why are we all here?” Feel free to start with a quick, funny anecdote to set the mood. Recognize anyone who helped put on the event. If the producers of the event want to identify big donors, now is the time to sincerely thank them. From the time you start presenting until the event finishes, you should be in good humor and have a smile.

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Призовите всех к тишине и порядку.  Поприветствуйте собравшихся Представьтесь. Представьте людей, которые помогли с организацией мероприятия. Улыбайтесь.


Article in English: If you are in a physically abusive situation or feel as though you're at the end of your rope, the most important step is to get to a safe place where your family can't hurt you. If you're over 18, your parents and family members have no legal right to determine where you should live. If you aren't financially independent, determine whether you can stay with a friend or relative until you get on your feet. Once you're an adult, "disowning" your family primarily means ceasing all contact with them. Stop calling your family, and stop taking their calls. The same goes for email and other forms of communication. Don't give them your address, and instruct others not to tell them where you are.  You may want to change your phone number and email address to make it more difficult for your family to get in touch. Consider sending a written statement that you are cutting off contact. State that you no longer want to be in contact, that you are disowning them, and that if they try to contact you you'll take legal action. . If your family is physically abusive to you or your children, you may want to get a restraining order so they will be legally obligated to stay away. A Domestic Violence Restraining Orders (DVROs) may prevent your family from contacting you or coming within a certain distance of you.  Consider hiring a lawyer to help guide you through the process of filing a restraining order. The procedure varies from state to state, and you'll have a better chance of getting the protections you want if you have an expert helping you fill out the forms and navigate court appearances. Once the restraining order is in place, call the police immediately if your family members violate it. Another way to make sure your family has no way to influence you or your children is to explicitly state as much in your will. Hire a lawyer to help you write a will that dictates your wishes regarding your end-of-life medical decisions, the guardianship of your children, and the way you wish your property to be handled.

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Установите дистанцию между вами и вашей семьей. Оборвите все контакты. Получите судебный запрет. Вычеркните вашу семью из завещания.


Article in English: If you are in a relationship with someone who is abusive to you or you have a coworker who treats you with disrespect, talk to someone about it. If the relationship has become violent or you fear for your safety, ask for help to get away from the person. Do not attempt to deal with the person alone. Ask a friend or family member to help you. If you are a victim of domestic abuse, you can also call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. If the sociopath you are dealing with is not a family member or other loved one, disengage with the person. Continuing to spend time with the person may have a negative impact on your life.  Stop contacting the person, and avoid situations/places where you may run into the person, if possible. Let the person know that you need some space, and request that they refrain from contacting you. If the person does not cooperate and refuses to leave you alone, then you may want to consider changing your telephone number and other contact information. If they proceed to stalk you, then consider filing for a restraining order. If the person you are dealing with is someone that you cannot or do not want to cut out of your life, be cautious about the way that you confront them about their behavior. Before you confront a sociopath about their behavior, remember that sociopaths are by nature defensive, irritable, and potentially violent. Ask for help from friends or family members and organize an intervention to prevent the likelihood of a hostile reaction.  Avoid making accusatory statements or pointing out specific things that the person has done wrong. Rather, focus on the bigger picture and let the person know that you are genuinely concerned for their health. Start by saying something like, “I am worried about you and I want to help.” Avoid talking about your feelings or how the person has hurt you. Sociopaths are likely to be unresponsive to these types of statements.

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Поговорите с кем-нибудь о том, что вас волнует. Держитесь от такого человека на безопасном расстоянии. Будьте осторожны.


Article in English: If you are in a rut, chances are you've been doing things the same way for quite a while. Trying to change every aspect of your life overnight is just unrealistic, not to mention incredibly daunting. You'll find that success comes much more easily if you set an achievable goal to begin with.  If you have decided to make huge changes in your life, break them up into a series of goals. You are much more likely to succeed if you manage your expectations. For instance, if you want to go back to college, make it your first goal to research schools that offer the program you want to do. This is an easily accomplished, yet vital step in your journey! Making small changes, such as taking a new route to work or working out in the morning instead of the afternoon, can help introduce new stimuli and change your perspective. Start by making small changes with how you do things and you may notice a big difference. There are a number of ways you can do this, especially if you have a smartphone. Take a few minutes to download a helpful app, or stop by the office supply store for a calendar and some sparkly star stickers.  Looking back at your progress can really give you a boost!  It sounds counter-intuitive, but try not to brag about your big plans before you have actually achieved anything. According to research, talking about your intention to do something makes you less likely to really do it.  With that in mind, don't forget to congratulate yourself when you reach a milestone. If your main goal is to lose fifteen pounds, pat yourself on the back when you've lost five. Whether you are trying to make huge changes or just need a little pick-me-up, somebody somewhere has probably been through it too. Learning about the experiences of others can really give you some perspective and motivation. Depending on your situation, it might be helpful to join some type of community with other people who are in the same boat as you. This could be a traditional "support group," a group you set up with your family and friends, or even...

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Начните с малого. Следите за своим прогрессом. Прочтите книги или статьи о людях, которые добились того же, о чем мечтаете и вы. Не сдавайтесь.


Article in English: If you are in a situation where other people are shooting each other or someone is shooting at people that aren't you, your main goal should be to get as far away as possible. If you see that you can reasonably get away, do that as soon as you hear shots. If you don't know where the shots are coming from but you know there is a secure room very near by, go there. If you do not see a way to leave, then you will want to find cover. Get behind something that can stop bullets, preferably, like a very solid object. Thin walls or a door is not enough, though it can keep a shooter from realizing you're there. Cars are not bulletproof even though an engine block or some police car doors will stop bullets, even small calibers can penetrate a pair of doors or a trunk. Stay behind the cover, and if it is large enough get on the ground. Lying on the ground significantly reduces the likelihood of you getting shot. Do not stop to gather your belongings before fleeing an area. This can significantly impact the amount of time you have to get away and make a big difference in your ability to get away before the shooter realizes you're there. Just go. You're more important than your wallet. While taking cover or fleeing, be as quiet as possible. Breathe slowly and avoid crying. Alerting the shooter to your presence can put you in danger. Don't talk with people nearby or make phone calls. If you can, turn a phone on silent. Text if you want to get someone's help or attention. Once you are in cover, stay in cover. Do not move from one cover to another unless you absolutely have to. Staying put will also reduce the amount of noise you make and draw less attention to your presence. If you can take cover in a single, secure room, be sure to barricade the entrances. Lock doors, move heavy pieces of furniture to block the doors, cover windows if you can, and turn off lights and anything which makes sounds. Stay quiet and move as little as possible. Once you are in a relatively safe place, either barricaded or at least under cover,...

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Покиньте, если можете, место конфликта. Найдите укрытие. Оставьте вещи на месте. Не шумите. Замрите. Забаррикадируйтесь. Дождитесь прибытия помощи.


Article in English: If you are in a social situation, put away your phone, tablet, PC, and any other distracting electronic device. You cannot connect with others if you are constantly emerged in your devices. At a social engagement, give you full and undivided attention to the situation and people in front of you. You can connect with other people at a later time.  If you are an IPhone user, you can turn on the “Do Not Disturb function to prevent calls and text messages coming through until the function is turned off. This will prevent the temptation to check your phone. It is difficult to be present in a situation if you keep thinking about how excited you are to get out of your tight jeans or itchy dress. Wear clothing that is appropriate and comfortable, so you can focus on the present situation. When you are engaged in a conversation, do not think about how you will respond while someone is speaking. Instead, focus on what they are saying, and when it is your turn to respond, take two seconds before you're answering.   For example, if someone is telling a story about hiking with their dog, do not think of a story of you hiking with your own doggie as they are speaking. Fully engage in their story, then share your own. Empathize with the person’s story and share the same feelings with them. Say, for example, that you are as impressed as her, because this reminds you a similar event. To become present in situations, try being present with yourself. Try meditating by going to a quiet place, making yourself comfortable and focusing on deep breathing. Focus on how your body feels as you inhale and exhale. Repeat a single word or mantra or listen to repetitive music that calms you and clears your mind.  Spend at least five minutes each day doing nothing and being at peace with that.

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Отключите и отложите  в сторону все электронные устройства. Позаботьтесь о физическом комфорте. Прежде чем ответить, подождите хотя бы две секунды. Дома выполняйте упражнения на концентрацию.


Article in English: If you are in an invisible box, you can press the air out in front of you with your hands—first your palm and then your fingers. Act as if you are trying to find a way out of this invisible box by identifying its corners and sides. Run one hand across the "edges" of your imaginary box as you try to find the lid and your way out. If you want, you can eventually find the lid and flip it open dramatically with both arms in a triumphant gesture. Pretend to have a rope dangling before you and attempt to climb it. Slide down and clamber back up for best effect. Imagine and feel your full body weight.  Pretend your muscles are stretching and straining. Contort your face into a grimace. When you reach the top, wipe the perspiration off your brow. If you have never climbed a real rope, do so with supervision in a padded gym. Make mental notes of your actions and reactions. Grab at imaginary ladder rungs going up in the air.  Place the ball of one foot on the ground as if you were putting it on a ladder rung.  Pull down on the rungs while keeping your hands moving together. Alternate feet and hands each time you "climb." Keep your focus upwards, as though you were looking at the place to which you are climbing. Pretend to be leaning against a lamp post, wall, or a counter. It might sound easy, but it takes quite a lot of strength and coordination to "lean" on nothing. The basic lean has two parts:  For the top part: Hold your arm slightly away from your body with the elbow bent so that your forearm is parallel to the ground and your hand is near your torso. Now raise your shoulder as you move your chest towards your elbow (keeping the elbow at the same point in space). The bottom part: At the same time, bend your knee slightly and transfer your weight onto the bent leg. The net effect should be that your elbow stays where it is, but it looks as though your weight has settled onto the imaginary place where your elbow rests. Keep your opposite leg perfectly straight as this adds to the illusion. For a more active show of...

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Представьте, будто находитесь в ящике. Схватите канат. Взбирайтесь по лестнице. Прислонитесь к невидимому предмету. Сражайтесь с ветром. Изобразите трапезу. Придумайте сюжет.


Article in English: If you are in an unfamiliar situation, trying to solve a complex problem, or need to make an important decision, do some research or seek advice before letting your gut take over. Your intuition will work better for you if you use it along with practical knowledge, reasonable expectations, and an understanding of your options. Our brains are great at recognizing patterns. This allows us to come to decisions quickly and without much conscious thought. You have probably used this type of intuition while driving or riding a bicycle. Once you’ve practiced something a few times (like giving a speech, performing a musical piece, or playing a sport), try letting go and letting your intuition take over instead of referring to your notes, looking at the clock, or thinking about every step. Our gut reactions to other people are a survival instinct. If you find yourself in a situation where you feel fearful of or nervous about another person for no obvious reason, you may be picking up on subtle signs that are not apparent to your conscious mind. Be on guard when interacting with someone who gives you a bad feeling, even if you’re not sure why. If you feel like you are in immediate danger, remove yourself from the situation or seek help. You know your body better than anyone else. If you feel that something is wrong, even if it’s subtle or you can’t clearly explain it, seek medical advice or attention. If you still feel like your concerns have not been addressed after seeing a medical professional, get a second opinion. You may be picking up on something your doctor hasn’t. You may also develop a strong intuition about the health needs of people you are close to. If you are the parent or guardian of a child, or if you live with someone who has health problems, pay attention to your intuitive signals about their condition. You may get the sense that something is wrong even if they do not bring it to your attention or notice it themselves. If you’re faced with a big choice like making a major purchase, deciding which...

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Руководствуйтесь знаниями и здравым смыслом. Прислушивайтесь к интуиции в знакомых ситуациях. Замечайте инстинктивные чувства в отношении людей. Прислушивайтесь к инстинктам в отношении здоровья. Позвольте интуиции помогать вам принимать важные решения.


Article in English: If you are in any way unsure of your emotional state or are struggling to stay afloat amidst a depressive episode, seek therapy. A therapist can help you to understand your depression and help you find ways to cope and prevent future depressive episodes.Therapy is a highly effective treatment for depression, as it helps you to explore possible causes, overcome your negative feelings, and begin to feel and behave normally again. Cognitive-behavior therapy (CBT) is highly effective at treating depression. It helps you confront your negative thoughts and thought patterns into more positive patterns. You can learn to re-interpret your environment and your interactions in a more supportive way. For some, therapy coupled with medication can be helpful in treating symptoms of depression. Recognize that medication is not a cure-all and comes with risks.  Seek out your medical provider or a psychiatrist to learn more about antidepressant medication.  Discuss possible side effects with your prescriber and learn the risks of going on medication. If you experience an increase in suicidality due to medication, speak to your prescriber immediately. If you begin taking medication for your depression, do not stop taking it immediately upon seeing results. Use as directed by your prescriber. It’s important to feel loved and supported, but it is especially important if you struggle with depression. It can be easy to disengage from friends and family when you feel depressed, but spending time with friends can boost your mood. When deep in depression, make time for your friends, even if your body or mind wildly protest. You can also join a support group. Check out the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) at https://www.nami.org/ to connect to information about depression and how to find a support group. The benefits of exercise for treating depression are strongly supported by a growing body of research. Some studies show that exercise alone can help alleviate symptoms of depression and prevent onset for the future. It can...

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Найдите специалиста по психическому здоровью. Подумайте о консультации у психиатра. Не изолируйтесь от общества. Занимайтесь спортом. Управляйте стрессом.


Article in English: If you are in class and you feel tears coming on, ask to use the bathroom. You are much more likely to be alone in the bathroom during a class period. If you are at lunch or recess, move away from others. Try making an excuse by saying something about how you need to clear your thoughts or how you want to run around on your own. Once you are in the bathroom, make your way to a stall so that you can be alone. If you are worried about making crying noises, try running the faucet or flushing the toilet when you feel that you need to really let the tears out so people are less likely to hear you. If you are at lunch or recess, by moving away from others you will be less likely to be heard or seen crying. Once you are alone in the bathroom or you have flushed the toilet so no one can hear you, let yourself cry until you can't cry anymore. After you have let out all your tears and you think you are over your sad spell, give yourself a minute to recover.  If you are at lunch or recess, look around and make sure no one is too close by, then let it all out. Holding in your emotions can sometimes have negative consequences for your health, so consider letting out your feelings when you feel comfortable doing so. After crying, your face might be red or puffy. Before you head back to the classroom, wait a few minutes for evidence of your crying to disappear.  If you can without being seen, try speeding up the process by running cold water over your face. If your face is still red and/or puffy when you head back to class, try placing your hand in front of your face and scratching the top of your forehead as you walk back into class and take your seat. This way you will cover up most of your face and it will just look like you had an itch. When you enter the classroom, you can also do a fake yawn, which will scrunch up your face and help to hide that you were crying. You can try this alone or in combination with scratching your head. To wait around while at lunch or recess, do your best to stay as far away from your...

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Попросите разрешения выйти. Сократите вероятность того, что вас услышат. Выпустите чувства на волю. Подождите, пока лицо придет в норму. Сделайте так, чтобы никто не мог увидеть вашего лица.


Article in English: If you are in close enough proximity, don't assume a lady has taken notice of you. Instead, keep in mind that surprising a lady is not the best way to first approach her. If she looks your way and your eyes connect, return with a smile, a friendly signal that will work well in your favor. Even though you may be observant, men commonly miss important cues from ladies. You want to approach a lady who wants to be approached. If her interest is in her friends or her cell phone, then, rejection is imminent. Look for the ones who are standing with open postures and glancing around the area. Start off with saying "Hi," "Hello," or "Hey." All these options are great openers and usually invite a direct response with some intrigue. Keep in mind, if you approach a lady in a group situation, you are interrupting them with a simple "hey," so have a follow up ready once you insert yourself. A good conversation can start from what is right around you. If you are trying to approach a lady in a coffee shop, ask her what she's drinking or what she would recommend. If you approach a lady at a club, ask her if she knows when the place really gets crowded. Anyplace you can approach a lady has potential for immediate common grounds and interest. A good conversation goes a long way, and for women, it is a way to emotionally connect. Pay attention to what she has to say, and as you listen, think of follow up questions. It will make the conversation flow. Once getting to approach women becomes easier and more fun, take it a step further. If she interests you, ask her for a phone number, an email address, or any other way to contact her. This will achieve 2 great things. You will flatter her better than any compliment you can say, and this will make you feel much more confident about approaching a lady.

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Установите зрительный контакт. Наблюдайте за ее языком тела. Заведите непринужденную беседу. Используйте окружающую обстановку. Слушайте и задавайте вопросы. Получите ее контактную информацию.


Article in English: If you are in the market for a major life overhaul, you may want to start with some of your habits. Habit change is a serious undertaking. However, when you replace negative habits with positive ones, you will notice your life starting to change for the better.  Pick out a habit that has been holding you back from reaching your goals or being the best version of yourself. Poor habits may include swearing, lying, cheating, excessively drinking alcohol, smoking, watching too much TV, drinking too much alcohol, being late, or procrastinating. The best way to  break a bad habit is to find a positive one to replace it. For instance, if you want to stop watching so much TV, you might find another activity you could do during this time like reading, coloring, or working on a puzzle. Create a reward system so that you reinforce you choosing the other activity over TV.  For more serious habits like drugs, alcohol, or binge-eating, you may need to seek professional assistance. Suffering from burnout or lack of inspiration at work can lead to dissatisfaction in many other areas of life. If you don't like what you are doing for a living, come up with a feasible plan to advance in your chosen field or  switch fields altogether. Career counseling may help you narrow down a career path of interest. You might also learn information about your career aspirations by reexamining your values and the best possible future self exercise. If your hometown lacks opportunity, culture, or other features that are important to you, it may be time to relocate. Or, maybe you love your current job, but don't enjoy the daily commute. Talk with your family, partner, or close friends to help you decide whether moving could be the right choice for you. . If you feel like you are stuck in a style rut, pressing the reset button may include a makeover. It's up to you how big you want the change to be. If you feel like your wardrobe is out of date or colorless, go shopping for some newer pieces that flatter your body. Include some pops of color to...

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Откажитесь от вредных или непродуктивных привычек. Вернитесь к учебе или смените профессию. Совершите переезд на новое место.  Улучшите свой внешний вид Завершите токсичные отношения. Разработайте план финансового оздоровления.


Article in English: If you are interested in learning how to trim and care for your horse's hooves on your own, you might want to consider taking an instructional course.  These courses can help you learn the parts of a horse's hoof, how to clean them, and the best ways to keep them trimmed evenly and safely. There are some cases where it might be better to hire a professional to trim your horse's hooves, rather than attempt to do it by yourself.  Hiring a professional can reduce the risk of harm to your horse during the trimming and get your horse's hooves a perfect trim.  If your horse has an injury or health issue with a hoof, you should hire a professional. If your horse has unusual or uneven growth patterns to its hoof, a professional can work to make sure your horse's hoof is even. In some cases, your vet needs to do an X-ray to check your horse's bone placement within the hoof to make sure your horse's growth is balanced. If you have concerns, check with your vet to find out if your horse needs X-rays and to schedule the procedure. It may be tempting to try and trim all of your horse's hooves in one session but taking breaks and coming back to the task can be a better idea.  If you are just learning how to trim your horse's hooves the process can be stressful and tough on both you and your horse.  By taking breaks you can still get practice and make the task as enjoyable as it can be for both of you.  If you are new to trimming your horse's hooves, try trimming only two per session.  Trim either the front two or the rear two. If you get tired or annoyed while trimming your horse's hooves, take a break and come back to it later. Never lose your patience with your horse.  If your horse views trimming as an unpleasant experience, it will be less willing in the future to cooperate.

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Подумайте о том, чтобы пройти учебный курс по расчистке копыт. Поймите, когда лучше обращаться к профессионалам. При самостоятельном выполнении процедуры работайте медленно и осторожно.


Article in English: If you are into long range combat, then sniper rifles are the weapons that you should use. These weapons pact the highest damage, accuracy, and range of all the rifle classes in CoD Ghosts.  As per the in-game descriptions, the sniper rifles are:  USR. Bolt-action. Deadly from waist up with faster handling. Recoil Compensator reduces kick with each kill. L115. Bolt-action. Deadly from the knee up through center mass. Recoil Compensator reduces kick with each kill. Lynx. Semi-automatic. Lower mobility, deadly from the knee up through center mass. VKS. Semi-automatic. Integrated Silencer with highest ammo capacity and rate of fire in its class. There are certain techniques for how to become a pro sniper. Snipers are mostly independent players who kill at their own pace in their own space. That being said, it is important to know how to prepare yourself for the sniper role.  Use the Variable Zoom and Chrome Barrel attachments to put your damage, accuracy, and range at maximum. These are the attachments that are well-suited for ultra-long-range sniping. Use Motion Sensor to be warned of enemies approaching. Snipers are usually immobile in a hidden spot so it is vital for you to know what’s happening in your blind spot. Equip a burst secondary weapon just in case an enemy sneaks up on you from behind or you are forced to engage in a closed combat situation. Using a sniper rifle at close range is a no-no most of the time, unless your weapon is capable of quick-scoping like a marksman rifle. Equip the Stealth perks so that your location won’t be revealed easily even if you land a killing shot. You may appear on the radar but with Ghost or Off the Grid perks, you are virtually invisible to the enemies. Move away from the rest of your team mates and then find a well-hidden spot to camp from. From there, you can observe and wait until an enemy comes through your crosshair. After a kill, consider changing location so that the enemies will have a hard time searching for you. L115 seems to be the best sniper rifle when it...

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Усовершенствуйте свое знание снайперских винтовок. Используйте снайперские винтовки эффективно.


Article in English: If you are leaving for just a minute, turn off all the burners on the range. Going to the basement for a can of tomatoes, or running out to check the mail, going to the bathroom, answering the phone in another part of the house? Simply turn off all the burners. After all, you are just leaving for a minute. You can immediately turn the pot or frying pan back on when you return. Taking this simple step will prevent one of the most common situations that cause house fires: unattended cooking. When cooking with oil, keep a lid or flat cookie sheet close by. If flames appear, simply suffocate the fire with the lid and immediately turn off the stove or fryer to let it cool down. Do not try to move the pan. Do not use water. The super-heated water will explode into steam, and can cause severe burns, and oil can splash and spread the fire. Eat something already prepared, make a cold sandwich, and go to sleep. Cook your meal later, when you are fully conscious. Never hang towels etc where they may fail onto a flame or hot surface.

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Оставайтесь на кухне, когда готовите еду на плите. Не готовьте, находясь под воздействием алкоголя и наркотиков и в уставшем состоянии. Никогда не оставляйте на плите полотенца для посуды.


Article in English: If you are like many people, you may be guilty of too many details. Take an honest look at your kitchen. Is it too cluttered? You can easily sidestep this problem by taking a few things away or simply rearranging your storage system to keep the extras from view. A new kitchen may emerge just from this one step. If you have no choice but to display all of your appliances and dishware for a lack of storage, you're going to have to get some! Buy a cart, bring an extra piece in, or invest in some attractive bins and containers. If you stick to whites like a piece of rice, you risk ending with a kitchen that seems hospital-like and cold. Add a few accent colors that are bright and cheery to make it seem warm, lived in, and loved. Choose certain spots for your color. The seating? The lighting? An area of the countertop? In addition, do not feel pressure to stick to just one -- different hues of the same color work well together -- and remove the pressure to find the exact right tone. Plants and flowers add lively decoration to any room and are good for the environment. Add a functional decoration to your kitchen by creating a window box with fresh herbs, or replace fresh-cut flowers in a kitchen table vase every few days to keep it looking new.  Make sure they match your theme! A simplistic, neutral kitchen would benefit nicely from a simple Easter Lily or two while a kitchen with more pizzazz might look better with a bunch of carnations or daisies. What flower fits your kitchen's personality? Herbs are not grown in factories, you know. To kill two birds with one stone, grow them yourself in your kitchen window! What a cute little way to spruce up your kitchen and jazz up your meals. For those of us that don't have a massive budget to install gold-flecked countertops lined with rubies, a fun way to spruce up your kitchen's ambiance is to spice up your fridge! There are loads of fun choices available that you can cater specifically to your personality. Sometimes it's the little things in life. Buy a whole bunch of...

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Избавьтесь от лишних вещей. Раскрасьте кухню, чтобы сделать ее уютной. Добавьте живые цветы. Украсьте холодильник магнитами. Используйте текстуру материалов в свою пользу. Добавьте необычную  фурнитуру. Смените  кухонную утварь. Меняйте оформление в зависимости от времени года.


Article in English: If you are locked out of your iPad because you forgot the passcode, and you've never used iTunes to sync it, you can use iCloud to erase and restore it. This will not work if you were not signed into iCloud on your iPad, or your iPad is not connected to a wireless network. If this is the case for you, you'll need to use Recovery Mode to restore the iPad. Despite its name, this service works for all iOS devices, including the iPad. If you don't remember your Apple ID or password, you can reset it using the iForgot website. You'll see this at the top of the window. If your device cannot be located because it is offline, you'll need to use Recovery Mode to restore the iPad. You'll see this in the card with your iPad's details in the corner. Your iPad will immediately begin erasing and resetting. This may take a few minutes. You can monitor the progress on your iPad's screen.   Enter the password if one is required. This will restore your iCloud data on your iPad. If you're asked to sign in for a previous owner's Apple ID, you'll need to either sign in with their login information or have them remove the device from their account at icloud.com/find. You will not be able to use the iPad until the previous owner has removed it from their Apple ID.

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Откройте веб-браузер на компьютере или мобильном устройстве. Откройте сайт сервиса Найти iPhone. Авторизуйтесь с помощью идентификатора Apple ID и пароля. Нажмите Все устройства. Щелкните по iPad в списке устройств. Щелкните по Стереть. Нажмите Стереть. Подождите, пока настройки iPad будут сброшены. Прокрутите экран, чтобы приступить к настройке iPad. Выберите нужный язык и страну. Выберите беспроводную сеть. Авторизуйтесь с помощью идентификатора Apple ID и пароля.


Article in English: If you are lonely or have been single for a long time, it might be easy to settle or get desperate for anyone that shows interest. However, this could lead to a disastrous and unsatisfactory relationship. Maintain your personal standards by doing the following:  Look for a partner who will respect you and your interests. Being with someone who does not respect you shows desperation to be with anyone that shows interest. Look for someone you can talk to about your interests and who will not belittle you. Find a partner who enjoys spending time with you. If  you are in a relationship with someone who you only see when it is convenient for them, then you may just be desperate for any company rather than good company. Look for a partner who shares the same values or goals as you. You do not want someone who will disrespect you and your core beliefs. Although it is easy to identify desperate actions when looking for a relationship, desperation can manifest in ongoing relationships. Do not desperately hold onto a relationship that is no longer working. Consider ending a relationship if:  Your significant other is emotionally or physically abusive. This is not only dangerous to your emotional and physical health, but also something you do not have to live with. Your partner does not respect you, your friends, or your family. Do not be desperate to please others in your relationship; do not be desperate to get a guy that your mother would approve of. It is important to be in a relationship for reasons that work for you, not to desperately be in a relationship for the sake of not being single. Your partner is a negative presence in your life. Do not desperately make excuses for your partner in hopes that s/he will change. Supporting your partner is one thing, but making continual excuses is another. This will cultivate a negative body image and negative thoughts. Instead, list what your strengths and what makes you unique.  Identify what aspects of your life you compare yourself with others. Is it your looks? Your...

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Придерживайтесь личных стандартов. Не оправдывайте плохое отношение. Перестаньте сравнивать себя с другими. Окружите себя позитивными людьми.