Article in English: Consider why you think the girl is out of your league. Maybe you think she’s smarter, better looking, or kinder than you. None of these traits are fixed! The point isn’t to change who you are. It’s to improve on traits that you value, so that you feel confident and worthy.  For example, if you like a girl who’s really smart, find some books that you enjoy reading so that you’ll have something to talk about. You don’t have to get straight A’s, you just have to show you’re interested in learning new things. If you’re attracted to a girl who you think is really stylish, spend a little extra time picking out clothes that you think look good on you. If you like a girl who’s kind and gentle, work on treating everyone in your life with more kindness. If you want to date a model, try to pay extra attention to self-grooming, style, and your physical fitness level. Don’t try to be someone that you’re not. Embrace the best parts of your personality when you’re talking to her, and she’ll be impressed. If you’re silly, make her laugh. If you’re thoughtful, be sincere. If you’re loyal, talk about your friends or your family. Don’t be afraid to mention your funny quirks and nerdy hobbies. If she’s right for you, she’ll like you for who you are, and she’ll find your enthusiasm cute. You want to make her laugh, so it may be tempting to make a lot of self-deprecating comments. Sure, those can be funny, but they can also point at deeper insecurities and self-hate. If you really can’t do without self-deprecating humor, then stick to comments about things that don’t really matter, like how klutzy you are, instead of a comment about something more important like your appearance or personality. This is a tricky one, but it’s important to avoid bragging, so that you don’t look pompous, or like you’re trying too hard to impress her. Try to strike a balance so that you don’t negate the things you’ve done and are proud of. If she mentions something you’re good at, you can mention it, but do it casually, and don’t interrupt or dominate...

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Становитесь лучше в аспектах, которые вы оба цените. Показывайте свои лучшие качества. Не высмеивайте себя слишком часто. Ведите себя скромно, но не отрицайте свои достижения. Отзывайтесь о других людях с уважением. Не флиртуйте с другими девушками.


Article in English: Consider your thoughts on every political, cultural, religious, and scientific topic that you find interesting. Even if your only interest is something simple like video games or movies, explore that interest in your mind. By talking about information and opinions rather than emotions and relationships, you will be able to keep your cool and avoid painful topics, without alienating the girl as a friend. Because you are already enthusiastic about these topics, you will find it easy to talk about them when you have a captive audience – in fact, you may find it difficult to stop talking once you start. Obviously, a shared activity can be interpreted as a date by either party, so it is important to avoid planning things like going out for dinner together. Instead, have pastimes in mind for those times when you find yourself alone with the girl you like in your house, or hers, or in a car with nothing to do. Carry a deck of cards, or even suggest taking some time to help each other study. Just keep it pedestrian. The important thing is to avoid situations where mixed signals can enter the equation, such as cuddling together on a couch or stargazing on a country road. Remember, you want to get over her, not make things worse. Always have a backup plan to avoid this kind of “romantic” downtime. Meditation has several benefits, not the least of which is improved clarity of mind. Even a person who is experiencing a tumult of emotion on the inside can stay calm for long enough to have an evening out with a friend if he or she learns to focus ahead of time. At its most basic, meditation is as simple as breathing deeply and being still in a quiet place while focusing on yourself. Tell yourself that you will stay in control and remain focused on getting over your attraction, and carry that focus with you when you go to see her.

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Подготовьте темы для разговора. Всегда имейте занятие под рукой. Помедитируйте заранее.


Article in English: Considered the most effective treatment, you must have a prescription to take these drugs. Treatment usually lasts three months and your doctor may also prescribe a topical cream or ointment. You may also need to take periodic blood tests to monitor how your body is responding to the drugs.  Oral antifungal drugs work by replacing the infected nail with a new, healthy nail. You won't see results until the nail is completely regrown, which may take over four months.  These drugs can sometimes have severe side effects and are not recommended if you have liver disease or congestive heart failure. This remedy requires you to paint the infected nails and the surrounding skin once daily. At the end of the week, you remove the layers of polish with alcohol and begin the process over. This method can take up to a year to keep the infection at bay. Antifungal creams may be prescribed alone or in conjunction with another treatment, like oral drugs. To help the cream penetrate your nail, try thinning your nails first. You can either soak them in water or treat them overnight with a urea cream. Depending on the severity of the infection, your doctor may recommend surgically removing the nail. This allows topical treatments to be applied directly to your skin and to the new nail as it grows back.  If the infection is extremely painful or does not respond to treatment, your doctor may decide to permanently remove the nail. It may take as long as a year for your nail to grow back.

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Примите пероральное противогрибковое средство. Узнайте о лечебном лаке для ногтей. Воспользуйтесь рецептурными кремами и лосьонами. Удалите пораженный ноготь.


Article in English: Considering they work 60-to-80 hour weeks, one way to meet them is to work with them, near them or for them. If you have an M.B.A all the better as this will qualify you for jobs in many of the industries in which they work. Alternatively, consider areas in which they spend their money, such as the sale of art; antiques; luxury cars, jets, homes and yachts.  Also think of areas such as interior design, personal training, architecture, nursing, jobs at charitable organizations, and those at country clubs and so forth that will expose you to a large pool of wealthy men.  Stay away from jobs, however, in which you will wear a uniform as it can create a psychological barrier between you and the rich men you want to meet. Charity balls, silent auctions, golf tournaments, polo matches, and anything involving a cultural or medical institution are excellent places to meet rich men. Often the less familiar the cause the richer the donors as the filthy rich often take pride in supporting charities few have heard of. Now, because you often either have to be invited to these events or because tickets can cost over a thousand dollars, the way to get in is to volunteer, particularly in fundraising.  This provides you a sneak peek at the guest list, an invitation and the chance to meet people.  To find out about these events, search for charities online in your city or in cities nearby. To learn the largest donors to various causes, look at the Chronicle of Philanthropy. Men love sports. Rich men particularly love golf, polo, horse racing, sailing, skiing and tennis. Learn how these sports are played. Familiarize yourself with the best players, the most prestigious events and locations, and the current news in the sports. Also consider joining your local racquet club and learn to play tennis, get lessons in golfing, take boating lessons and so forth not only for exposure to the rich but also to show you know how to do the kinds of things the rich do. When rich men decide to dine, go out for a night on the town or travel,...

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Найдите работу в подходящей отрасли. Посещайте благотворительные мероприятия. Посещайте соответствующие спортивные мероприятия. Проводите время в первоклассных барах и ресторанах. Присутствуйте на открытии галерей. Станьте волонтером в стратегически важном месте. Зарегистрируйтесь на сайте знакомств для богатых, подключите подобное приложение или обратитесь к специалисту.


Article in English: Consistency is key when teaching your baby good sleep habits. Put your baby to bed at about the same time every night. This will help your baby to associate sleep with a specific time of night and make the process easier for both of you. For example, you might put your baby to bed at 7:30pm each night. Don’t change their bedtime on certain days of the week. Keep it the same every day, including the weekend. Something as simple as giving your baby a bath and getting them into their pajamas can help them to understand that it is time to go to sleep. Do this at the beginning of your baby’s bedtime routine so that they will associate these activities with winding down.  Use calming bath products, such as a lavender scented soap and lotion. You could also give your baby a soothing massage with baby lotion after their bath. Dress your baby in pajamas that are appropriate for the season, such as warm fleece pajamas in winter or lightweight cotton pajamas during the summer. After your baby is in their pajamas, don’t take them out of the bedroom or do anything to stir them up. Dim the lights, turn on a night light, and play some soft music to help your baby calm down. Ask other household members to keep quiet during your baby’s bedtime routine since noises in the hallway or in other rooms may disturb your baby.  After your baby is in their pajamas, avoid letting them play with stimulating toys or playing games with them. Keep your voice low and calm when you speak to them and don’t talk too much. Another way to start calming your baby down for bedtime is to read them a story and sing a calming lullaby while you hold them. Make this a standard part of your baby’s bedtime routine. Over time, your baby will begin to associate these activities with sleep. For example, you could read your baby Goodnight Moon and sing “Twinkle Twinkle Little Star” every night to help them get sleepy. While it can be tempting to rock and cuddle your baby to sleep each night, this may lead to sleep issues later on. Your baby will start to...

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Начинайте готовить ребенка ко сну в одно и то же время каждый день. Искупайте ребенка и переоденьте его в одежду для сна. Приглушите свет и избавьтесь от лишних звуков. Почитайте сказу на ночь и спойте колыбельную. Положите ребенка в кроватку, если он уже сонный, но еще не спит.


Article in English: Consistency is key when you’re trying to get rid of your muffin top and lose excess body fat. Whatever exercise plan you create, make sure that you can commit to exercising at least 3 days per week to ensure that you’re moving enough to fight off belly fat. While the amount of time will vary depending on your specific body type and goals, you’ll likely need to commit about 30 to 60 minutes each session. Belly fat can be stubborn and difficult to get rid of. Therefore, it’s important that you vary your workout routine to avoid hitting a progress plateau. As your muscles grow accustomed to a particular exercise, it will become less effective over time. By switching things up, you’ll keep work a wider variety of muscle groups and ultimately, burn more fat.  Varying your workouts can also help you ward off exercise boredom and keep you motivated.  For example, if you do a yoga class one day and a HIIT class the next, try to plan a different workout, such as a strength training session at the gym, for your next workout. While you can certainly do the same workout twice in a row, try to switch it up at least a 2 times per week. To make the most of your workout, try to incorporate several short bursts, about 20 seconds to 1 minute each, of high intensity cardio. While consistent, moderate-intensity workouts, such as walking and jogging, can certainly help decrease your body fat percentage, shorter, higher intensity cardio tends to be more effective at fighting belly fat.  Sprint intervals and HIIT (High Intensity Interval Training) classes are both great ways to burn fat and calories in a short amount of time. You can create your own high intensity cardio workout by doing sprint intervals on the treadmill. In order to get rid of your muffin top, you’ll need to decrease your total body fat percentage – not just the amount of fat stored in your stomach. Therefore, it’s crucial that you incorporate total body strength training into your training plan. Exercises that work your whole body help you build lean muscle mass,...

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Занимайтесь физическими упражнениями по меньшей мере 3 раза в неделю. Разнообразьте свои тренировки, чтобы избежать плато. Сосредоточьтесь на высокоинтенсивных интервальных кардиотренировках. Включите в программу тренировок силовые упражнения для всего тела. Выполняйте упражнения для мышц кора, чтобы сделать живот более рельефным. Постарайтесь больше ходить пешком. Занимайтесь йогой, чтобы уменьшить количество жира по всему телу.


Article in English: Consistent, daily interaction with your guinea pig is very important for their overall wellbeing. If you forget to play with your guinea pig or are not able to play with them until much later in the day (maybe you had to work late), they might become depressed or withdrawn because of the change in routine.  Toys are an important aspect of keeping your guinea pig happy. There are many types of toys that you can give your guinea pig, including nibblers, chew toys, and toy balls. In addition, you can make homemade toys out of toilet paper rolls, empty shoeboxes, and empty milk cartons. Although you may not interact directly with your guinea pig when they're playing with their toys, you can still spend time with them while they're playing with them.  Nibblers and chew toys are usually made of a sturdy natural material, such as wood. Not only will these toys keep your guinea pig busy, they will help your guinea pig keep their teeth filed down. Your guinea pig’s teeth can become dangerously long, so providing them with toys that they can nibble on will help maintain good dental hygiene.  Toy balls are also typically made of natural material and can easily be pushed around by your guinea pig.  Ramps and stairs are fun toys if your guinea pig is in a multi-level cage. Make sure that the ramps and stairs are solid. Your guinea pig’s legs are short and could get stuck in the wires of wire ramps or stairs, causing injury. Guinea pigs are not good climbers, so ensure the ramps are not too steep.   Exercise balls and wheels are not suitable toys for your guinea pig.  Their back does not bend like the backs of other pocket pets (mice, hamsters), so exercise balls and wheels can very easily lead to back injuries in guinea pigs.  Clean your guinea pig's toys on a regular basis. Plastic toys can go in the dishwasher. Wooden toys should be washed by hand with a towel and allowed to dry completely before being placed back inside their cage.  Put only a few toys in your guinea pig's cage at a time so that they still have room to...

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Запланируйте регулярные игры с морской свинкой в стенах дома. Позволяйте морской свинке играть вне клетки. Предоставьте питомцу разнообразные игрушки.


Article in English: Constant positive air pressure (CPAP) machines are meant to keep you breathing normally throughout the night. CPAP machines send a puff of positive pressure into your airway at the end of each breath in order to keep the airway open throughout the breathing cycle. as a result, apneas due to the airway collapsing as occurs in OSA are prevented.  Talk to your doctor if you are having problems using your CPAP machine. Do not stop using your CPAP machine without your doctor’s permission. Using your CPAP machine may improve daytime sleepiness, blood pressure, glucose levels, and quality of life.  If you do not use the CPAP machine regularly or use it for a while and then stop, you will lose any positive gains you made (such as improving your blood pressure). A dentist or orthodontist can make you a custom-made mouthpiece to keep your jaw aligned and your airways open as you sleep. While studies are very clear that CPAP is more effective than oral appliances, there is still strong evidence that oral appliances provide a significant treatment effect compared to nothing at all. Many patients find CPAP intolerable to use regularly but are able to wear oral appliances, and for these patients an oral appliance would be appropriate. Keep in mind that mouthpieces require regular adjustments by your dentist or orthodontist or they may stop working. Keep track of adjustments and change every three months or so. If you do not like sleeping on your side, then try sleeping on your back in a slightly upright position. You can use a foam wedge to prop yourself up while you sleep, raise your mattress if you have an adjustable bed, or use bricks to elevate the head of your bed.  Only a slight elevation of 2 – 3 inches is needed. To use bricks to elevate the head of your bed, place them under the feet at the head of your bed. You can also use sturdy pieces of wood.

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Пользуйтесь сипап-аппаратом. Используйте специальную капу. Обеспечивайте приподнятое положение головы во время сна или пользуйтесь клинообразной поролоновой подушкой.


Article in English: Constantly forcing yourself to mingle, chit-chat and cold-call will take its toll. Doing things that you hate on a regular basis is a surefire recipe for burnout. Don’t try to be someone you're not. Instead, try to develop a business model that fits the real you and learn to be comfortable with who you truly are. Most importantly, believe that you're as capable as any other person at succeeding in business.  Remember, there's nothing "wrong" with you. It's not bad to prefer one-on-one company over a party. It's not a character flaw to be a great listener. It's not a sin to be a deep thinker. It's not wrong to think before you speak. Keep in mind that, as an introvert, you have a series of character traits that are positive and can help you in business. Speak self-affirmations out loud. If you're feeling a bit insecure because you're an introvert, speak out some self-affirmations that will reinforce your belief in yourself. Introverts have many positive qualities. Use those qualities to your advantage in business.  For example, introverts might not be very outspoken, but they're often very good listeners. You'll find that listening can carry you a long way in your business with peers, employees, and partners. Also, introverts tend to be creative because they're inside their own head so much. That creativity can benefit you in business, especially when it comes to advertising. Your ideal office space is a private office where you can retreat, shut the door, and think about how to solve business problems. You'll work best in a quiet, away-from-the-crowd location. Avoid creating an "open office" environment where you'll be part of the crowd. That kind of workplace is suited well for extroverts, but not for an introvert like you.

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Не сопротивляйтесь своей природе. Подчеркивайте свои положительные качества. Создайте подходящую рабочую обстановку.


Article in English: Constipation can also cause stomach pain. Signs of constipation include having bowel movements less than three times a week, trouble passing stool, or hard and dry stool. Lifestyle changes can help resolve and prevent constipation. Some lifestyle changes that you can make include:  Adding more fiber to your diet. Fruits, vegetables, and grains are high in fiber. Drinking a lot of water (at least 8 – 13 glasses daily) Exercising regularly There are many OTC laxatives and fiber supplements; however, many laxatives may have side effects. Choosing the appropriate one may help relieve constipation. It is important to note that laxatives are not for long-term use. Alternative medications may help relieve constipation. Flaxseed is the most common herbal remedy. It has soluble fiber that can help with constipation.

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Определите, не страдаете ли вы запорами. Внесите изменения в свой образ жизни. Принимайте действенные препараты. Попробуйте принимать растительные средства.


Article in English: Constipation can come along with other symptoms. If you are experiencing any symptoms other than constipation, avoid taking Epsom salt or any other laxative until you call you doctor. Never take Epsom salt as a laxative if you are experiencing severe stomach pain, nausea, vomiting, have had a sudden change in bowel habits that has lasted two weeks or longer, are suffering from rectal bleeding, or have dark, tarry stools. There are certain medications that cannot be taken with Epsom salts. Do not use Epsom salt as a laxative if you are taking antibiotics such as Tobramycin, Gentamicin, Kanamycin, Neomycin, and Amikacin. If you are currently taking other medications such as corticosteroids, blood pressure medications, diuretics, pain relievers, antacids, or antidepressants, consult your physician before using Epsom salts as a laxative. There are some conditions that might be complicated if you take Epsom salt. Make sure you check in with your physician before using Epsom salt as a laxative if you have kidney disease, diabetes, high blood pressure, any known heart arrhythmia, or if you have an eating disorder.  Also ask your doctor if it is safe for you to use if you are pregnant or breast feeding. Also contact your doctor before using it if you have used another laxative in the last two weeks that has not worked for you.

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Откажитесь от соли Эпсома, если у вас наблюдаются определенные симптомы. Не используйте английскую соль, если уже принимаете определенные лекарства. Знайте — при определенных заболеваниях необходима консультация с врачом.


Article in English: Constipation causes fish to float on their sides. Deshelled peas (any variety) contain enough fiber to make them regular again. If your fish hasn't had a bowel movement in the past few days, feed them two to three fresh peas or thawed frozen peas each day. Mash them or let the chunks float to the bottom of the aquarium.  Avoid canned peas, as they contain sodium and spices that can hurt your fish. Soften the peas. You can do this by boiling them on the stovetop in filtered water for one minute. Allow them to cool down after you remove them from the  pan. Don't use a microwave, since this can destroy vital nutrients. Remove the skin by peeling it off with your fingers. Make sure you wash your hands first! Cut the peas into small pieces. First, cut them into halves if they didn't split naturally when you peeled them. Then, cut them into quarters. If your fish is small, cut the pieces even smaller. If your fish isn't constipated, they might have eaten too much. Overeating can cause a fish's stomach to bloat and force them to float on their sides. If your fish has had a recent bowel movement, don't feed them for three to four days. When fish sleep, they stop moving. For example, betta fish and goldfish sleep by resting on the bottom of the tank. Search online and read books about caring for fish to learn about your fish's sleeping habits.  Search for this information on veterinary websites or at your local vet's office. Visit your public library or pet store for informative books. If you have access to scholarly databases, search for articles in veterinary journals. Some fish like to play dead just to see you freak out. Be sure to double-check Chlorine, chloramine, and heavy metals in tap water can sicken and kill fish. Add water conditioner to the aquarium, following the instructions on the packaging. You can buy water conditioner at your local pet store.  Test your tank water for chlorine, chloramine, and heavy metal before adding conditioner. You can buy testing kits at your local pet store. Follow the...

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Вылечите запор с помощью лущеного гороха. При необходимости сократите объемы кормлений. Изучите вопрос того, как спит ваша рыба. Обрабатывайте воду для аквариума кондиционером. Следите за температурой воды.


Article in English: Constipation is often related to dehydration in your colon. Drinking 8 ounces of water 8 times a day to equal 2 liters may rehydrate you and relieve your constipation. Drink tap or bottled water. Avoid carbonated and flavored waters, both of which may make gas and bloating worse. If water doesn't relieve your constipation, consider switching to fruit juice. Drink 2-4 ounces (60 to 120 milliliters) of prune or apple juice with your meals. You may need to drink more if you don't notice a difference. Mix one part juice and one part water if the juice is too intense for you or your taste buds. You can also drink the juice over ice if you like. In addition to drinking water and/or fruit juice, eat foods high in fiber. This can loosen your stools and stimulate your bowels. Aim to eat 14 grams of fiber for every 1,000 calories you consume. Some foods high in fiber that may relieve your constipation, especially when combined with massage are:  Peas Prunes Pears Plums Peaches Broccoli Beans Brussels sprouts Flaxseeds Carrots Pineapple Whole grains Bran flakes Movement and physical activity can stimulate your intestines. Do some low-impact exercise to help relieve your constipation. Consider combining it with your abdominal massage to ease your constipation more quickly.  Recognize that any type of movement or exercise is good for relieving constipation. However, exercises with only a slight impact are best. Consider running, walking, biking, and swimming. Doing yoga may also relieve constipation.  Get as much movement as you are able. Even 15 minutes of exercise can help stimulate your bowels. There are differing opinions on using natural oils, laxatives, and enemas to treat constipation. They can cause chronic constipation, injure the muscles of your colon and anus, and create dependence on laxatives to move your bowels. Ask your doctor if any of these treatments are suitable and safe for you. A home remedy used for generations, castor oil acts as a natural laxative. It breaks down into a substance that stimulates...

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Пейте больше воды. Пейте фруктовые соки. Ешьте продукты, богатые клетчаткой. Больше двигайтесь. Будьте осторожны при использовании минеральных масел, стимулирующих слабительных средств и клизм. Пейте касторовое масло. Добавьте шелуху семян подорожника в свой рацион. Ешьте семена льна, чтобы стимулировать работу кишечника.


Article in English: Constipation is the difficult or uncomfortable passage of stools. The most common symptoms of constipation are a decreased number of bowel movements, smaller than normal stools, stool that is difficult to pass and pain or bloating in your abdomen. If constipation becomes chronic or long-term, it can be serious and you should consult a physician. Constipation commonly occurs because people don’t include enough fiber or water in their diet. Constipation can also be due to too little exercise or as a side effect of a number of different drugs. These include antacids, diuretics, narcotic pain relievers, antidepressants, and muscle relaxants. Constipation can also be caused by pelvic disorders or it can be a sign of irritable bowel syndrome (IBS), a form of which has both diarrhea and constipation.  It is important to remember and realize that constipation can be a symptom of a number of more serious medical disorders including diabetes, an underactive thyroid, inflammatory bowel disease, and some neurological disorders. Other causes of constipation are changes in your daily routine such as travel and not enough time to have bowel movements. This can happen if you have a particularly busy lifestyle or are busy helping spouses, partners, or children or are a caregiver to an elderly relative. There is not really a set rule to how frequently you should have a bowel movement.  Most people feel most comfortable when they have at least one bowel movement every day, but there is a wide variation for normal bowel movements. Some people have two to three bowel movements a day and this is perfectly normal. Other people have a bowel movement every other day, and this is normal for them. In general, at least four to eight times a week seems to be most common. The key is your diet and comfort level. People with more frequent bowel movements tend to have high fiber diets and are often vegetarians or vegans.  Those with fewer bowel movements tend to have a higher meat content in their diet.

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Распознайте запор. Узнайте, что вызывает запор. Следите за своими испражнениями.


Article in English: Constipation, or the difficult or uncomfortable passage of stools, occurs mainly because people very often don’t have enough fiber and water in their diet. Constipation can also be due to too little exercise or it can be a side effect of a number of different drugs. It is important to realize that constipation can be a symptom of a number of more serious medical disorders. Home remedies can be useful for dealing with constipation due to diet, not enough water, or medication side effects. However, if you are dealing with constant or recurring constipation and home remedies don't help, make sure you see your healthcare professional about your problem. There is really no set rule or norm when it comes to bowel movements. The abnormal is when you have constipation or diarrhea. Most people feel most comfortable when they have at least one bowel movement every day, but there is a wide variation with this. Some people have two to three bowel movements a day, and other people have a bowel movement every other day, and this is normal for them.  In general, at least four to eight times a week seems to be most common. The key is your diet and comfort level. People with more frequent bowel movements tend to have high fiber diets and are often vegetarians or vegans. Those with fewer bowel movements tend to have a higher meat content in their diet and lower water intakes. When you have pelvic floor dyssynergia, the muscles in your pelvic floor don’t relax to let out stool, which leads to constipation. If you have trouble knowing when you’re ready to have a bowel movement that’s another sign that you might have pelvic floor dyssynergia.Doctors can help treat you with biofeedback, a behavioral technique that helps retrain your muscles to work better.

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Узнайте о причинах запора. Помните о том, что не существует общей для всех нормальной частоты стула. Посетите врача.


Article in English: Constructive communication can help if you have trouble maintaining a relationship with a close friend, lover, or family member. Follow these steps in order to repair that connection: This kind of communication consists of:  Be proactive about repetitive disagreements. Recognize signs and triggers of a fight about to happen. Pause and re-orient yourself to being more aware of those old patterns of behavior. This will help you change your response and act more intentionally. Express yourself in a more compassionate, less confrontational way. Use "I" language rather than "you" language, such as "I'm upset by what you said," rather than, "You're being rude to me." Find ways to deal with your own emotions, such as practicing mindful breathing when you start to feel angry. You can do this by paying close attention to the sensation of your breath going in and out of your nostrils. It's not always easy to reach our highest aspirations in life. Use the technique of goal-setting to help you take things one step at a time. Here are some tips for how to set realistic and achievable goals:  Set goals that can be measured. This will help you feel accomplished and keep your motivation up when you see progress. Set goals that are challenging but also realistic. Try to find a balance with goals that are challenging but not impossible. If they're too easy then you might get bored, and you won't grow as much. If they're too difficult then you may become frustrated and give up. Keep your goals flexible. It's good to have a routine, but if your goals are too rigid, failing to meet them can be discouraging. Know that it's okay to go back and revise your goals. Also, missing a goal now and then is better than burning yourself out. Self-expression and creativity are integral to living a good life with no regrets. This can show up in many different ways, from more traditional avenues, such as performing as a musician or artist, to less conventional paths, like being a social worker or computer programmer. Creative expression is not...

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Восстановите разорванные отношения. Ставьте перед собой цели. Развивайте свои способы выражения. Держите свой выбор под контролем. Сосредоточьтесь на опыте. Живите в настоящем.


Article in English: Constructive criticism improves a person's behavior, encouraging positive changes. Whereas destructive criticism condemns and discourages the person.  Destructive criticism demeans, discredits and hurts people. In contrast, constructive criticism improves a specific behavior without personal attacks.Their self-esteem remains intact. Your reason for critiquing someone's work or behavior affects how you deliver feedback. If you have an ulterior motive besides wanting to help the person improve, thats come across as overtly negative. Reflect on whether the criticism you intend to impart will actually be productive.  Good intentions do not always get a positive response. For example, if your friend has gained a lot of weight since you last saw each other, telling her she should lose weight for her health's sake probably won't fall on receptive ears and, in fact, she may feel hurt. Criticizing is one of those domains where intentions are less important than what you actually say and do. Instead of acting on impulse, be thoughtful and ask yourself how it would sound if you told this person what you’re thinking. Are the words you choose appropriate? What about the underlying social politics? What about yourself? For example, if you want to criticize your friend about her weight and you're naturally thin, think about how she may feel to receive this feedback from you, someone who has never struggled to lose weight nor experienced weight-based discrimination. If someone requests feedback and is willing to change, then constructive criticism is warranted. Ask yourself if the person would be better off receiving constructive criticism. Would it have a positive impact on their life? Unsolicited criticism could be hurtful. If the issue is relatively minor, such as a situation where you don't like your friend's wardrobe because she wears too much pink and you want to tell her, it may best not to say anything...unless you feel this situation is disadvantageous to or hurting her in some way. It's important to use criticism...

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В чем разница между конструктивной и деструктивной критикой? Хорошие намерения. Оправдана ли ваша критика? Определите, будете ли правильным для критики человеком. Выберите время и место.


Article in English: Consult an almanac or a weather service to see when the last frost usually occurs in your area. If you’re unsure about the dates, plan to deadhead early in the autumn. Deadheading is the process of removing dead flowers, growth, or seed heads. This will help your plant grow new flowers next year. As the flowers begin to droop, fade, or die, cut them off at the base of the flower. You can also twist the stem and pinch the flowers or seed heads off. Throw them in a compost pile or in the trash. Seed heads are the top of the flower that contains the seeds after the petals have died or fallen off. Removing the seed heads keeps your verbena from spreading its seeds. If you want verbena to spread across your garden, don't remove the seed heads.  If you allow the verbena to propagate naturally, you won’t be able to control the spread of verbena, but the new seedlings may be hardier and more drought resistant than verbena grown from clippings.  Some people prefer to leave seed heads in winter because it helps liven up the winter garden. If you prefer this look, remove any seedlings when you cut back the plant in spring. While deadheading is useful in autumn, avoid doing any heavier trimming than that. This will help the verbena survive the winter. Save any additional pruning for early spring of the next year. Once you have finished deadheading, add a layer of mulch around the base of the plant. You can use a mulch that contains wood shavings, leaf mold, or compost. This will help protect the verbena in the winter.

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Обрывайте растения примерно за 4–6 недель до последнего мороза. Обрежьте мертвые или чахнущие цветы у основания. Удалите семенные шапки, если не хотите, чтобы вербена распространялась естественным путем. Не проводите сильную обрезку осенью, чтобы помочь растению выжить зимой. Рассыпьте мульчу вокруг растения, чтобы защитить его зимой.


Article in English: Consult with local veterinarians and shelters to find out if there is a nursing mother cat who may be able to take on the kitten. Mother's milk is best for any baby mammal, and prior to attempting to bottle feed a kitten with supplemental formulas, it is recommended to seek out nursing cat that could take the place of the absent or unable mother.  Be aware that even if you find a cat able to nurse the young kitten, she may not accept the kitten. Always remain present when the nursing cat interacts with your kitten; there is a risk that a queen might attempt to murder a kitten that she rejects. If you are lucky enough to find a foster mother, attempt to disguise the smell of the new kitten. Try stroking the foster mother's own kittens and then stroke your own kitten. This will help transfer the smell of the mother's own litter to your newborn kitten. A queen (the cat) is more likely to reject the kitten if it smells totally unfamiliar, so by "disguising" your kitten's scent, you're increasing the chance the queen will accept her. A newborn kitten can only digest milk, and more specifically the milk from a female cat. Feeding the wrong sort of milk, such as cow's milk, can have short-term and long-term effects, including diarrhea, dehydration, nutritional deficiencies and long-term health problems due to poor growth. You can purchase kitten milk replacement formula (KMR) at your local pet food store, vet's office, and even online. Reputable brands in the United States include Cimicat and Just Born kitten milk, but you can also consult your local vet for advice on a formula that he or she recommends and that is available where you live.  Kitten milk replacement milk comes in a tub or drum and is a dry powder or liquid. You use it in much the same way you use infant formula, in that you follow the directions on the packaging which guides you as to how many scoops to use to how much water. Be aware that milk sold in cartons as "cat milk" is NOT suitable. This is cow's milk with the lactose removed and is designed...

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Попробуйте найти другую кормящую кошку. Раздобудьте молоко. Если вы не можете быстро найти заменитель кошачьего молока, вам нужно иметь запасной план. Составьте график кормлений и распланируйте свое время. Знайте, что котенка на искусственном вскармливании можно отлучить раньше.


Article in English: Consult with the instructions that came with your pan to see how often, if at all, you should season your pan. Rinse and dry the pan completely. Rub a teaspoon of oil on the inside of the pan with a paper towel. Put the pan in an oven preheated at 300°F (149°C) for one hour. Once the pan has cooled, wipe off the oil with paper towels.  If your pan has a nonstick coating, it may wear off with use over time. Seasoning your pan can make it last longer. For example, you may want to completely season your pan semiannually. Rub it with a small amount of oil every time before you use it. Allow the pan to cool naturally after it’s been heated. Don’t run your pan under cold water while it’s hot, or vice versa. Sudden temperature changes can cause nonstick cookware to warp, preventing heat from evenly distributing in the future. Hang your pans to store them, if possible, with decent space in between. If you must stack them, do so away from hard corners and sharp objects. Put a paper towel in between your pan and other cookware. Padding your pan with a paper towel will help you to take the pan out without scraping it against other cookware.

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Смазывайте сковороду растительным маслом. Не подвергайте сковороду резким изменениям температуры. Бережно храните сковороду.


Article in English: Consult your doctor or dermatologist before trying hydrogen peroxide for your acne. Many experts don't recommend using hydrogen peroxide for acne due to its irritating and drying potential. Hydrogen peroxide (H2O2) is a chemical which can act as both a bleach and a disinfectant.  Our bodies actually produce small quantities of hydrogen peroxide to help attract white blood cells to areas where there’s an infection.  Because of its disinfectant abilities, hydrogen peroxide kills bacteria.  But it isn’t selective in what bacteria it kills, and our bodies contain a lot of necessary and healthy bacteria. You can use hydrogen peroxide to clear acne using one of two methods: in a cream, which contains a concentration of up to 1% hydrogen peroxide; and in “pure” liquid form, which should contain no more than a 3% concentration.  Hydrogen peroxide can come in concentrations higher than 3%, but those higher concentrations should never be used on your skin.  Hydrogen peroxide in a 3% concentration can almost always be found in a drugstore, near the first aid supplies.  If you are only able to find hydrogen peroxide in larger concentrations (normally 35%) you will need to dilute it with water before using it on your face.  To dilute a 35% concentration to 3%, you’ll need 11 parts of water for every one part of hydrogen peroxide.  If you use the cream version, follow the instructions on the package as to how to apply it to your face, and how often. If you have acne, this should include using a gentle soap and only your hands — not cloths or brushes.  Wash your face using warm water to help open the pores before cleansing and using the hydrogen peroxide.  Dry your face completely before applying the hydrogen peroxide.  Dry skin will absorb the hydrogen peroxide better than wet skin. Use a cotton pad, cotton ball or even a Q-Tip, soak it in the hydrogen peroxide, and move it over the affected areas of your skin.  Do not apply it to unaffected areas.  Leave it to soak into your skin for 5-7 minutes.  Try out a small amount...

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Сначала поговорите с врачом. Найдите перекись водорода в подходящем виде. Умойтесь так, как вы делаете это обычно. Нанесите перекись водорода на чистую кожу. Нанесите безмасляное увлажняющее средство.


Article in English: Consumer spending is the measure of all spending a nation's consumers make on good and services during the year. Examples of consumer spending would include the purchase of consumable goods like food and clothing, durable goods like tools and furniture, and services such as hair cuts and doctor visits. When economists calculate GDP, investment does not mean the purchase of stocks and bonds, but rather money spent by businesses to acquire goods and services to help or maintain the business. Examples of investments include materials or contracting services used when a business builds a new factory, equipment purchases and software to help a business run efficiently. Because GDP only calculates products produced domestically, imports must be subtracted out. Exports must be added in because once they leave the country, they will not be added in through consumer spending. To account for imports and exports, take the total value of exports and subtract the total value of imports. Then, add this result into the equation. If a nation's imports have a higher value than its exports, this number will be negative. If the number is negative, subtract it instead of adding it. The money a government spends on goods and services must be added to calculate GDP. Examples of government spending include payroll for public employees, spending on infrastructure and defense spending. Social security and unemployment benefits are considered transfer payments and are not included in government spending because the money is simply transferred from one person to another.

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Начните с потребительских расходов населения. Добавьте инвестиции. Добавьте разницу между импортом и экспортом. Добавьте правительственные расходы.


Article in English: Contact a doctor immediately if you have been bitten by a wild animal or any animal that may be at risk for the infection. If your pet was bitten, take it to the vet right away. Waiting even a day will give the infection time to spread. If it's going to be a few hours before you get medical attention, you'll need to take steps to clean the wound:  Wash the bitten area with soap and water. According to the World Health Organization, elimination of rabies virus at the site of infection by chemical or physical means is the most effective mechanism of protection. Put ethanol or iodine solution on the wound. These are antiseptic that works by killing sensitive bacteria. If you've never had a vaccination, doctors will administer anti-rabies immune globulin, which helps by inhibiting the spread of the virus from the bite. No matter what, you'll need shots administered at the proper intervals.  A person who is exposed and has never been vaccinated against rabies should get 4 doses of rabies vaccine with one dose right away, and an additional dose scheduled on the 3rd, 7th, and 14th day. They should also get another shot called Human Rabies Immune Globulin (HRIG) at the same time as the first dose.  If you have already been vaccinated, you'll get 2 doses of rabies vaccine, one taken right away and another on the 3rd day.

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Немедленно обратитесь за медицинской помощью, если вас укусили. Немедленно обработайте рану. Обратитесь в больницу.


Article in English: Contact dermatitis is a skin reaction to something that your skin has been in contact with. This means the distribution of the rash/reaction will be where your skin was in direct contact with the triggering substance or object. For instance, it may be where your skin brushed up against poison ivy, or where a certain triggering metal from a piece of jewelry was in contact with your skin. Signs and symptoms to be on the lookout for include:  Reddening of the skin Bumps on the skin (most often red in color) Dry, cracked, or scaly skin Swelling over the affected area Painful, tender skin over the affected area Sometimes a burning sensation of the skin over the affected area Sometimes blisters that may ooze fluid and subsequently crust over (in more severe cases) There are two types of contact dermatitis, irritant and allergic, plus a number of different conditions that may resemble contact dermatitis. Irritant dermatitis is caused by something that physically, mechanically, or chemically, which disrupts the skin barrier. Allergic dermatitis is caused by something that triggers an auto-immune reaction. Allergic reactions do not show up immediately after exposure — it may be 12 to 48 hours before you react, or it may take repeated exposures (sometimes over a period of years) for a rash to appear. There are many things that can cause a reaction, so it may be difficult at first to figure out what is causing the rash. If you look at the specific area of skin that is affected, you may be able to trace back the cause of your contact dermatitis. Think about objects or substances that have been in contact with the affected area of your body recently, that are unusual or "outside the norm" for you. It is possible that any of these things could be the offending agent.  Note that contact dermatitis often gets worse with time — that is, the more times you are exposed to the offending substance, the worse your rash/reaction will be. This is because it is an "adaptive immune response," meaning that your immune system stores the...

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Признаки и симптомы контактного дерматита. Ознакомьтесь с разными причинами контактного дерматита. Когда вы пытаетесь определить причину, подумайте о возможных недавних триггерах. Обратитесь к врачу, чтобы подтвердить диагноз и получить необходимое лечение.


Article in English: Contact dermatitis is one of the most common forms of dermatitis. This  type of skin inflammation is caused by exposure to an allergen or irritant such as poison ivy or poison sumac. Signs of contact dermatitis include a localized rash, red patches and bumps, and localized itching. More severe symptoms include blisters and swelling. Usually, symptoms begin very soon after you’re exposed to the allergen or irritating substance.   Allergic contact dermatitis is a rash triggered even by brief contact with the allergen, and may take up to 2 weeks after exposure to develop. Examples include poison ivy and poison sumac, fragrances, plants, and materials that you may be allergic to.   Irritant contact dermatitis is dry, damaged skin caused by repeated rough exposure or exposure to harsh chemicals. It’s commonly caused by washing your hands too frequently, but harsh soaps, detergents, or industrial chemicals can also be at fault. As soon as you notice a rash forming, rinse off your skin with lots of warm water to remove any irritants that may still be on the surface. Use a few drops of a gentle, unscented soap to avoid further irritation. Don’t scrub or rub too harshly or you could further aggravate your skin or potentially break the skin, which could lead to an infection. Identify the cause of your contact dermatitis so you can actively avoid being exposed to it. Cosmetics, perfumes, hair products, and metal jewelry are common causes of dermatitis, as are detergent, soap, or other household cleaning chemicals. Remove the cause of your exposure so you don’t have another outbreak. If you don't know the exact cause of your dermatitis, avoid all harsh and scented products and metallic jewelry as much as possible or switch to gentler and fragrance-free alternatives. If the cause of your dermatitis is a substance you work with or you can’t avoid being around it, a barrier can physically prevent the irritant from contacting your skin. Depending on the specific cause of your dermatitis, you can use different barriers such...

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Выявите симптомы контактного дерматита. Помойте раздраженный участок. Избегайте контакта с раздражителями. Защитите свою кожу от раздражителей. Принимайте пероральные антигистаминные средства. Регулярно наносите на кожу увлажнитель. Облегчите симптомы с помощью прохладных ванн. При сильном раздражении наносите на кожу кортикостероидную мазь. Если симптомы не проходят, обратитесь к дерматологу.


Article in English: Contact your doctor if your symptoms don't improve, if you develop a fever, have difficulty or pain when you urinate, have painful sex, or experience abdominal pain.  You should always inform your doctor when using natural treatments. Usually, you can take oral medications while using the natural treatments. Use a very mild soap and warm water to wash your genital area. Dry yourself with a clean towel or air dry. You can also try drying the area with a blow dryer set on cool. Avoid bubble baths, bath oils, talc, or powder (especially powder which contains cornstarch). These can irritate the area and provide food for infection-causing microorganisms. Use a mild and fragrance-free soap for washing your panties. It's a good idea to double rinse your underwear. This ensures that all the detergent is gone. Do not use fabric softeners or dryer sheets since they contain chemicals that may irritate your vagina.  Don't use feminine hygiene products, which can irritate the vulva. These include deodorant sanitary pads, all feminine sprays and deodorants, any products containing petroleum jelly, oils or greases. After using the restroom, use white, soft toilet tissue and remember to wipe from the front. This minimizes the risk of infection from bowel bacteria. If you use tampons during the day, replace them every few hours depending on your flow and avoid using tampons with fragrance. Do not leave tampons in overnight. Use sanitary pads instead. Choose white, 100 percent-cotton underwear. Cotton allows your genital area to stay cool and dry. The white underwear avoids irritants that may be in different dyes. Avoid underwear made with nylon, acetate or any synthetic fibers. You should also avoid wearing thong underwear which can irritate the genital area.  Once you feel comfortable with the volume of your discharge, consider sleeping without underwear. This can be especially helpful for if you get recurrent BV. Avoid scratching or rubbing your genitals. Avoid wearing pantyhose. These trap heat and moisture which can allow...

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Знайте, в каких случаях необходимо снова показаться врачу. Очищайте область влагалища. Не используйте моющие средства с отдушками и раздражающими веществами. Следите за гигиеной. Носите белье, которое не вызывает раздражения.


Article in English: Contacts are a medical device and should be treated as such.  This is true even if your eyesight is fine and you are only interested in turning your brown eyes into “baby blues” with colored lenses.  Taking the time to have a thorough eye exam by a licensed practitioner is the best way to ensure that you are suited to wearing contacts.  It also helps ensure that you get the type that will be most useful and comfortable for you, and that you will have access to proper guidance and care as needed. If you have dry eye or allergies, contacts may not be the best choice for you. Contact lens technology continues to advance at a rapid pace, but most contacts can basically be separated into the categories “soft” and “hard” (often called rigid gas permeable, or RGP).  Soft contacts are more flexible and fragile.  Some are meant to last only a day, while others can be used safely for months.  They are generally considered to be more comfortable to wear. Hard (RGP) contacts have a sturdier construction and are meant to last longer, even up to a couple of years.  They can be more uncomfortable and harder to adjust to at the start, but generally are considered to provide sharper vision. If having the sharpest possible vision is important to you, or you have specific eye needs, you and your eye doctor may lean towards RGP contacts.  Otherwise, most people are willing to sacrifice a tiny bit of vision clarity for the relative comfort and convenience of soft lenses. You may need to try different options to find what is right for you.  Your eye doctor should be more than willing to guide you through this process. Other categories of contacts include a rigid lens attached to a soft outer rim or skirt. When you find the contacts that work for you, the best way to make the adjustment period go smoothly is to closely follow all advice provided by your licensed provider and the instructions included with your particular brand of lenses.  Your eye doctor will want you to come in for a follow-up appointment to ensure that your eyes...

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Всегда обращайтесь за консультацией к специалисту. Сравните жесткие и мягкие контактные линзы. Соблюдайте правила и указания. Обратите внимание на распространенные проблемы привыкания.


Article in English: Containers for caterpillars can be found in hobby and pet shops, on the Internet, or you can fashion one from items around the home. Preferably this should be one made from wire mesh, to give the caterpillar something to cling to. An aquarium or a one-gallon jar can work, too, provided it's lined with a screen or cheesecloth tightened with a rubber band at the top.  Don't use jar lids with holes in them, however, as these don't provide adequate ventilation and can also cut the delicate caterpillars with sharp edges around the holes. Put a two inch layer of dirt and grass on the bottom of every container if you think your caterpillar may pupate below ground. If not, a layer of paper towels or newspaper will do fine. Instead of spraying or squishing the caterpillar, identify it (see Warnings) and capture it to grow into a butterfly. Butterfly season is from late spring to summer, depending on your region. If you don't know of a spot that caterpillars like to frequent, consult a local field guide to determine which plants are preferred "host" plants for butterflies, like the Peterson First Guide to Caterpillars, Caterpillars of Eastern Forests, or on the Internet. Make sure you're not capturing an endangered species, which could be illegal. Different types of butterflies prefer different hosts. Some common host plants include:  Milkweed - Monarch Butterfly Spice bush - Spice bush Swallowtail Paw-Paw - Tiger Swallowtail Thistle - Painted Lady Parsley, dill and fennel - Black Swallowtail Cherry - Cecropia Moth, Viceroy, Red-Spotted Purple If it's not caterpillar season, or you simply don't have time to go caterpillar searching, consider buying them from a caterpillar supplier. We'll discuss that in the last section.

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Подготовьте контейнер с хорошей вентиляцией. Поищите гусениц на растениях.


Article in English: Contemporary society tends to define success in terms of how much fame or fortune you have, but those measurements of success are not absolute. Even if your leap of faith doesn't allow you to live comfortably, it may still be a success in other ways. Focus on the positives in your life that disregard conventional ideas of success. You may feel very satisfied with your family life or social life. Even if nothing is quite the way you want it to be, you may still find fulfillment simply by pursuing your passions. As long as you feel spiritually nourished, your life is in a state of success. Don't compare your life to the lives of those you know. Everyone has different circumstances, so there's no real way to compare two different people in equal terms. One person's idea of happiness may not match your own, and even if it does, the timeline they follow to reach that point won't be the same as yours simply because you're starting from two different positions and taking different steps to get there. It isn't enough to simply accept failure as an option. Until you actually experience failure, you won't learn to confront it and you won't be able to harden yourself against it. Of course, this doesn't mean that you need to intentionally mess up a big break or engage in pointlessly reckless behavior. The idea here is simply to accept failure as a part of life. Instead of thinking that it's a necessary evil and trying to avoid it, accept that it will come and greet it when it does. Regardless of whether you fail or succeed, you need to maintain the momentum you've built up and continue on with your life. This might mean sticking with the path you put yourself on, turning around, or pursuing an entirely new venture.  If you fail, focus on your next move instead of the failure itself. Ask yourself if you need to retrace your steps, try harder along the same path, or pursue a new path altogether. If you succeed, celebrate, but don't linger and become complacent in your success. Figure out the next step you need to take on...

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Выведите свое определение успеха. Не смотрите по сторонам. Проигрывайте. Идите дальше. Рискуйте часто.


Article in English: Continually using polish can sometimes suffocate your nails and lead to a build-up of bacteria, fungus, and deposits. Remove your polish and then allow 2-3 weeks before reapplying. Watch to see if your nails improve. When you do decide to paint your nails again, go with a polish that is fortified with vitamin A and other nutrients. Small, white patches on your nails indicate a keratin build-up, which can be treated by giving your nails a polish break. It may seem counterintuitive, but keeping your nails trimmed can actually help them to grow in strength and length. Use a small pair of nail clippers to shorten your nails. Make sure that you cut to match the natural arch of your nail, not straight across. Then, file your nails in a gentle horizontal motion across the tips. Go slowly and apply even pressure until the nails begin to shorten.  Repeat every few days to keep your nails just skimming the edges of your fingertips. Use the soft side of the nail file to buff the surface of your nails. This can improve blood flow while also creating a surface shine. Apply a nail cream afterwards for even more pay off. Look for a nail-specific cream, serum, or gel. Apply it throughout the day, especially after you wash your hands. At night, rub on a generous portion of the moisturizer and then pull on cotton gloves or socks. The cotton will keep the nails moisturized overnight and will keep the air from drying them out. Washing your hands can dry them out. To protect your skin and nails, keep a bottle of hand lotion next to every sink at home and at work. Apply it whenever you wash your hands. In a medium bowl, add together warm water and a four teaspoons of sea salt. Place your hands in the solution and soak for up to ten minutes. Or, place your hands in a bowl or warm milk or olive oil. Apply a moisturizer directly to the nails afterwards to promote even more healing. Get a paper tea bag and cut out a small piece. Apply a clear basecoat to the damaged nail. Place the tiny teabag patch on top of the cut or injured area...

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Не красьте ногти несколько недель. Коротко стригите и подпиливайте ногти. Постоянно увлажняйте ногти. Делайте ванночки для ногтей. Сделайте накладку из чайного пакетика. Наносите масло чайного дерева.


Article in English: Continue cutting meat off the bones, and stop short of the keel (the cartilage breastbone). This is where the bone comes closest to the skin, so stop here for now. We’ll come back to this in a bit. There’s more bird to debone in the meantime. It'll be easier once you get rid of everything. Rotate the bird around, and do the other side. You can either rotate the bird around or rotate the cutting board with the bird on it. Start at the spine, and follow the steps above, removing the meat from the bones on the other side of the bird. Pop and cut through the wing and leg joints just as before, wiggling it around until you see the white joint and connective tendons. Lifting up the rib cage with one hand, carefully cut the meat away from the keel. Be very careful at this point not to cut through the skin. This is where the skin is very close to the keel bone. Separate the last point of attached bone from the meat, and lift it away. But don’t throw it away! You should use it to make stock. Grandma would be proud. You should now have a very large flattish piece of meat resting in front of you. Run your hand along the surface of the meat, and feel for small pieces of bone, cartilage, etc. that you may have cut away along with the meat. This is totally normal, and even happens to seasoned cooks. Cut these off and dispose of them. You can also debone the legs, if you like, but you don't have to. Some people prefer to leave the legs with the bones in for presentation. To remove the thigh bone, carve the meat away from the top of the thigh bone, and around the bone. Pop the joint between the the leg bones, cut through the cartilage, and remove the thigh bone. Again, this is very similar to what you did for the wings. The only difference will be the structure of the bone and how you’re able to grasp it.

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Продолжайте срезать мясо с костей. Очистите другую сторону. Аккуратно отделите кожу от грудной кости. Найдите и удалить мелкие кусочки кости. Очистите от костей ноги.


Article in English: Continue eating in a normal manner. You can use this journal as a baseline for changing your diet.  A food journal can let you see into your diet and give you clues about things you can change to lose weight. Take note of portion sizes, snacking, liquid calories or higher fat foods you typically eat. Star these items or make a list to help you get started with your diet plan. Continue to keep your food journal when you're trying to lose weight. Studies show that those who stick to their food journals are more successful with weight loss long-term. By reducing the amount you are eating, you can signal to your body to start using its stored fat for energy (including the fat stored in your hips).  To lose weight and reduce excess body fat in your entire body and in your hips, you'll need to cut calories. Reduced caloric intake over time will result in weight loss. Creating a deficit of 500 calories daily generally results in about a 1 pound (0.45 kg) weight loss each week. Health professionals consider this safe and healthy weight loss. Use your food journal to help you see what types of foods you can cut to result in a 500 calorie deficit. Following appropriate portion sizes in each of your meals will help you manage your calories and lose weight.  To help you measure portion sizes appropriately, consider buying a food scale or measuring cups. It's ideal to measure each meal and snack to make sure you're staying on track. Eyeballing portions can lead to over estimating portion sizes and underestimating your total caloric intake. Measure foods to the following sizes: 3 to 4 oz (80 to 120 grams) of protein foods (or about the size of a deck of cards), 1 oz of grains or about 1/2 cup (125 ml), 1 cup (250 ml) vegetables or 2 cups (500 ml) of leafy greens and 1/2 cup (125 ml) of chopped fruit or 1 small piece.  Include 1 serving of protein and 2 servings of a fruit or vegetable at each meal. It's recommended to consume about 2 to 3 servings of grains throughout the day. Another item to focus on to help you lose...

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Ведите дневник питания на протяжении одной недели. Понизьте свою суточную норму на 500 калорий. Соблюдайте подходящий размер порций. Выбирайте низкокалорийную пищу. Ограничьте употребление калорий с жидкостью. Ограничьте перекусы между основными приемами пищи.


Article in English: Continue self-care as long as your abscess is healing and doesn’t show signs that the infection is getting worse. Look for the following signs the abscess and infection are getting worse and seek immediate medical attention:  Your skin is getting more red or more painful. There are red streaks running from the abscess and surrounding area towards your heart. The abscess and surrounding skin feels very warm or hot to the touch. Significant pus or other fluid is running from the abscess. You have a fever higher than 101.5 °F (38.6 °C).  You have chills, nausea, vomiting, headache or muscle aches. In some cases, you may need medical attention, such as if you are over the age of 65. Let your doctor know how you’ve treated the abscess at home and any other information that may help them treat it. See your doctor for medical treatment if:  The abscess is on your spine or in the middle of your face, near your eyes or nose. The abscess does not drain on its own.  The abscess gets bigger or is very large or painful. You have diabetes or another chronic health problem such as kidney or liver disease. Let your doctor lance and drain your abscess with a scalpel or small needle if necessary. Opening and draining the abscess can remove infectious pus or liquid and relieve pressure. Keep any coverings your doctor places over the lanced abscess clean and dry.  Don't try to drain your abscess at home or you could cause the infection to spread.  Ask your doctor for a local anesthetic if you have a lot of pain.  Your doctor may pack the drained abscess with an antiseptic dressing to absorb extra pus and prevent further infection.  Your doctor may also take a sample of the drained fluid and test for antibiotic-resistant bacteria. Get a prescription from your doctor for an antibiotic if the abscess infection is especially severe. Follow dosage instructions your doctor gives and make sure to take the entire course of antibiotics. Taking and finishing an antibiotic can get rid of the infection and may minimize the risk of another...

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Обратите внимание на симптомы инфекции. Запишитесь на прием к семейному врачу. Абсцесс должен вскрыться. Примите курс местных или системных антибиотиков.


Article in English: Continue to cook and stir the breadcrumbs frequently until they become rich, golden brown. Then stir in kosher salt according to your taste. Watch the breadcrumbs closely while they're toasting since they can burn quickly.

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Обжаривайте панировочные сухари 3–5 минут.


Article in English: Continue to pick up extra hair before crossing the sections into your braid.  This incorporates the hair not already in the braid, creating a cohesive braid. Make sure you take even strands on each side of your head. This will ensure that your braid will be even and straight in the back. The braid should follow the center of your head, from the front hair line to the nape of the neck. If you have longer hair, run your fingers down each the section of hair to ensure that tangling does not occur as you go.

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Повторяйте процесс, чередуя левую и правую стороны. Готово.


Article in English: Continue to stir the spices as they cook. This will prevent them from burning, which can ruin the flavor of your chai. The spices are done toasting when they're fragrant. Try to avoid lifting the lid while it steeps. This prevents steam and heat from escaping. For a stronger, more flavorful chai, you can choose to leave the tea to steep for longer.

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Обжарьте специи на среднем огне в течение 3–4 минут. Накройте кастрюлю крышкой и заваривайте чай 10 минут.


Article in English: Continue to study and learn about your faith as you get older. Know that even adults still work on the tough questions.  Come to youth group with a heart that wants to learn. People will notice a change in your group. Start answering questions and step out of your comfort zone. Once you step out of your comfort zone, others will start to step out of theirs.  Spouting verse is all well and good, but understanding the deeper meaning behind it all, how it fits into the entire narrative of the Bible, is more important. You can say "God so loved the world that He sent His only begotten Son..." (John 3:16), but until you can show that same love to others, it's difficult for others to see the positive change caused by your faith. You could try to read a scripture a day. God’s word is vital to a Christian life because it provides guidelines.  You could also listen to podcasts or watch YouTube videos on your faith.  Ask questions. You won’t know everything. There are many Christians who have studied faith for their whole lives, but they still don’t know everything. Keep in mind that historical context, language, translation, context or meaning can matter when reading Christian teachings. Seek out older religious teachers and show them great respect, such as a pastor or priest or a Sunday school teacher. Ask them to help you learn more about your faith. Make sure that you keep involved in a Bible study, preferably involving kids your age. This is much more effective in helping you learn and relate to the Bible than attending only traditional worship services. as often as you can and go to church. You can simply start off by saying, “God, I do not know what to do, but I have this desire in my heart to make a difference.” God doesn’t care what you say to Him. He just loves to listen to you.  You could start a prayer journal so that you can remember what you prayed for and then see how God has answered your prayers.  Don’t forget to pray for others too, not just for yourself. You should attend church as much as you can...

Summary in Russian:

Непрерывно изучайте свою веру. Читайте Библию Молитесь


Article in English: Continue to water the plants regularly and fertilize them as needed. The plants will begin to grow tall, narrow stalks that reach high off of the ground.  Keep in mind that it will take a few years for the plants to put on a lot of growth. The stalks will grow rows of bright green leaves that are about 2 inches (5.1 cm) long. The plants will flower beginning in April or May and will continue to blossom through July or August. The yellow flowers are small and oval in shape.  The flowers hold capsules that contain 15 to 20 cardamom seeds. Some plants may take up to 4-5 years until they bloom. Although the plants flower early in the year, wait to begin harvesting until October or November, so the cardamom can ripen. Once the capsules of cardamom fruit begin to dry out a little, pull one to see if it breaks easily. If the fruit snaps off easily, you can begin pulling off all of the ripe capsules. Cardamom plants will continue to produce more cardamom seeds every year. Depending on how many capsules you want to dry, you can use a variety of drying methods. For small-scale drying, spread the cardamom in a single layer and allow the sun to dry the capsules. Larger, commercial harvests often dry cardamom using extremely hot kilns. Once the cardamom is dry, you can open the capsules and crush the cardamom to cook or bake with.

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Выращивайте растение, пока оно не достигнет 1,8–3 м. Начните собирать плоды через 2–3 года. Руками сорвите капсулы кардамона. Высушите капсулы.


Article in English: Contouring is a way of applying darker and lighter makeup to different areas of your face in order to highlight and de-emphasize certain features. For instance, you can use:  Darker makeup under your cheekbones to make your face look longer and thinner. Lighter makeup on top of your cheekbones to make them stand out. Darker makeup on your jawbone to make your face look narrower Both types of makeup to make your nose look narrower. Make your eyes stand out more.

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Разберитесь в том, что такое контурирование.


Article in English: Contours are the outlines of your drawings. There is no blending or shading yet, just lines. Drawing good contour lines is essential for your final drawing, as this is where you give your drawing its shape and proportions. In general, contour lines are the first thing you do in a drawing. This is often overlooked by beginning artists who dive right into the work, but it is incredibly important to get accurate drawings. For example, if you are drawing a large scene, start with faint lines that break your drawing up into thirds both horizontally and vertically. You should have nine small boxes on your page. These will help you to frame your drawing and put everything where it should be, giving you reference points as you work. Proportion is the difference in size between two objects. If you draw your arms and legs out of proportion, for example, your drawing will look crude and lopsided. Close one eye and line your pencil up with the subject. Your arm should be completely extended. Use your pencil as a ruler and mark the length of the object with your thumb. You can then compare this distance with other objects on your page, or even use your pencil to mark out the specific distance on the page for your drawing. You can also use your guidelines to help. What “box” of your guidelines does the subject fit into? Do they take up the whole page, or a third of it? There is no worse feeling than getting halfway done with a drawing and realizing that the arm of your character is much too short. Good drawers know how to avoid this by blocking out the drawing beforehand. Use simple shapes to mark the proportions of each object. For example, make an oval for a person’s head, a rounded rectangle for the torso, and longer elbows for each arm and leg. Keep adjusting these blocks until you feel confident in the pose and proportions of each item.  Make sure you make these marks lightly, so that you can easily erase them later. Make a small circle or dot for each joint to help you “move” arms and legs into accurate poses. Add a...

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Знайте, что контурное рисование состоит исключительно из линий. Создайте направляющие линии наброска. В первую очередь сконцентрируйтесь на пропорциях. Выполните базовый набросок, прежде чем двигаться дальше. Неторопливо прорисуйте детальные контуры рисунка. Сначала рисуйте крупные объекты, а потом переходите к мелким деталям. Работайте над перспективой, чтобы придать изображаемым сценам реалистичную глубину.


Article in English: Contracting the hepatitis virus is one of the main causes of jaundice in adults. Avoiding contact with the virus as much as you possibly can may minimize your risk for contracting not only hepatitis, but also jaundice.  You can prevent Hepatitis A with a vaccine. Anyone can get this vaccine.  Hepatitis A is spread when a person eats tiny amounts of fecal matter, most often in tainted foods. Be careful when traveling for food that hasn’t been properly cooked or cleaned.  You can also prevent Hepatitis B with a vaccine. Any person from newborns to adults can receive this vaccine.  There is no vaccine for hepatitis C.  Hepatitis B and C are spread through the blood and bodily fluid of an infected individual, but not through casual contact. Avoid reusing any type of needles—from tattoos to recreational drugs—to help prevent the spread of these viruses. Since your liver processes alcohol and is the source for jaundice, limit your alcohol consumption to daily recommended values. Not only can this help alleviate the symptoms of jaundice, but may also keep you from contracting alcohol-related liver diseases such as cirrhosis.  The recommended daily limit for women is 2-3 units of alcohol. For men, the recommended daily limit is 3-4 units.  As a reference point, one bottle of wine has 9-10 units of alcohol. Keeping your weight at a within a stable and healthy range can promote your overall healthy. But this can also keep your liver healthy, and in turn prevent jaundice.  Maintaining your is easy if you eat healthy, balanced, and regular meals. Food choices that are nutrient rich and contain moderate fat and complex carbohydrates, are best to promote your general health. Keep your daily calorie intake around 1,800-2,200, depending on how active you are. You should get your calories from nutrient-dense whole foods such as whole grains, fruits and vegetables, dairy, and lean proteins.  Exercise is important to maintaining your weight and promoting your overall health. Participate in low-impact, moderate intensity...

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Избегайте заражения гепатитом. Не злоупотребляйте спиртными напитками. Поддерживайте здоровый вес. Контролируйте уровень холестерина. Как следует кормите ребенка. Если вы кормите грудью, в течение первой недели жизни ребенка его следует кормить 8–12 раз в день.


Article in English: Contractors have devised a quick, easy system of determining how much concrete yardage is needed for a given pour. This method doesn't require you to use any volume equations - however, there are two stipulations for its use. First, it only works for rectangular prisms (basic "box-shaped" pours). This method is easiest for relatively shallow pours, but it's possible for all rectangular prisms. Second, it requires that your pour area's length, and width measurements be in feet and that its depth measurement be in inches. To convert any of your measurements to feet, use the conversion factors below:  1 yard = 3 feet 12 inches = 1 foot 1 meter = 3.28 feet 30.48 centimeters = 1 foot Square footage (written "sq. ft" or ft2) is a measure of 2-dimensional area typically used to describe floor space. To determine your concrete job's square footage, simply multiply the length and width of the area you're pouring into without taking into account its depth.  For example, let's say we're pouring into a rectangular prism that is 10 ft wide, 5 feet long, and 6 inches (0.5 feet) deep. Its square footage would be 10 × 5 = 50 sq. feet. We don't need to worry about its depth yet. Remember, this method only works for rectangular prisms. In other words, your pour area must have straight vertical edges. Now that you've found your square footage, all you need to do to find your project's concrete yardage is to divide the square footage by a certain number - the thicker your project, the smaller the number; the thinner your project, the larger the number. Below are coefficients for a few common thicknesses. If your project's thickness isn't listed below, don't worry - you'll learn how to easily figure out your coefficient in the next step.  If your project is 4 inches thick, divide your square footage by 81 to determine your yardage. If your project is 6 inches thick, "  "  "  "  "  54. If your project is 8 inches thick, "  "  "  "  "  40. If your project is 12 inches (1 foot) thick, "  "  "  "  "  27. If the thickness of your...

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Убедитесь, что вы будете вливать бетон в прямоугольную призму. Найдите площадь участка, который вы заливаете, в квадратных футах. Разделите площадь в квадратных футах на числовой коэффициент. Высчитайте другие коэффициенты вручную.


Article in English: Contrary to popular belief, fabric and furniture protectant sprays that are made for suede or leather aren’t always safe to use on velvet. Look for shoe or upholstery protectant sprays online or in general department stores. As you shop around, read the label to make sure that it’s suitable for velvet.  Look for a product that repels stains, waterproofs materials, or does both. Try products like Scotchgard or Vectra Furniture, Carpet and Fabric Protector Spray. Even if you find a product that you think won’t damage your velvet shoes, it’s best to try it out on a small, inconspicuous part of a shoe before spraying the whole thing. Spray just a little protectant onto the back of one of your shoes. Then, observe it to make sure that the spray doesn’t have a negative effect on your shoes, such as darkening the color or hardening the material. If you spray the protectant too close to the velvet, you may cause damage to your shoes. Hold it at least  6 inches (15 cm) away and then lightly mist the entire surface of each shoe. This may help to significantly minimize day-to-day staining and damage due to weather. Reapply the spray every 4-8 wears to get the best results. Set your misted shoes outside underneath a covering, such as a carport, for best results. This way, your shoes can dry thoroughly in the fresh air while being protected from the elements. Touch the velvet to make sure it’s totally dry before putting them on and wearing them out and about.

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Купите средство, которое можно использовать на бархате. Проверьте средство на небольшом участке. Распылите средство, держа баллончик в 15 см от обуви. Надевайте обувь лишь после того, как та высохнет.


Article in English: Contrary to popular belief, hypnosis does not put you to sleep, render you unconscious, put you under someone’s spell, or cause you to do anything you do not want to do. In fact, hypnosis is a state of mind where you are very focused on suggestions being made to you and you are more receptive to these suggestions. For hypnosis to be effective, you will need to have an open and uncritical attitude towards hypnosis. Avoid being resistant to the process, as the more skeptical you are, the less effective hypnosis will be on you. To use hypnosis to improve your memory, you will need to store information in your brain and be able to retrieve it while under hypnosis. This is similar to the memory palace method, which is a type of mnemonic, a learning device that can help you recall difficult information. You can picture your memory palace when you’re in hypnosis and use it to store information you may need to retain later. This will help you to relax and focus. You can also take off your shoes, put on loose clothing, and put a blanket on your legs. Use an object that you have a strain a bit to focus on, about five to seven feet away from you. This could be the corner of a picture frame on the wall, a smudge on the wall, a tree out the window, etc.  As you look at the spot, repeat these words silently to yourself: “My eyelids are becoming heavier and heavier. My eyelids feel as if they are being pulled down by a heavy weight. Soon they will so heavy they will close.” Repeat these words every 30 seconds and focus on your eyelids. You should feel them start to get heavy and close. Allow them to feel heavy and let the sensation of heaviness happen. Let your eyes close when they are ready to close on their own. As your eyes start to close, say: “Relax and let go.” Once your eyes have closed, take a deep inhale through your nose and hold the breath for 10 seconds. Then, exhale through slightly parted lips, making an ocean-like sound or a “whooshing” sound.  As you inhale and exhale, let your head fall towards your chest...

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Изучите технику гипноза. Сядьте в удобное положение в тихой комнате с приглушенным светом. Выберите предмет, на котором вы сосредоточитесь. Дышите глубоко. Сохраняйте информацию в памяти, погружаясь в более глубокий транс. Сосчитайте от пяти до одного, чтобы выйти из состояния транса.


Article in English: Contrary to popular misconceptions, dreadlocks require washing just as much as other hairstyles. You should aim to shampoo and roll your dreadlocks every three or four days when they're new. Once they've fully locked up, you can get by washing them once a week, or more often depending on your hair type and the amount of oil your scalp tends to produce.  Most people who wear dreadlocks wash them at least once a week. If you have particularly oily hair, or if you exercise, work outside, get dirty or sweat a lot, you may benefit from more frequent washings.  You can still bathe regularly between washings without having to shampoo your locks. Dreadlocks put a lot of weight on the scalp as they get heavier and pull. It's essential that you keep your scalp clean and moisturized in addition to your locks themselves. Whenever you're cleaning your locks, take a few moments to massage your scalp vigorously with your fingertips. This promotes proper blood flow and will strengthen the follicles, meaning you won't have to worry about your locks becoming brittle or falling out.  Itching and discomfort can be a sign that your scalp or roots are in poor condition. As your hair grows, keep your dreadlocks waxed and twisted to tighten up the new growth close to the scalp. Use a couple drops of tea tree, peppermint or rosemary oil along with your shampoo, or treat your locks with them separately. Essential oils moisturize, cut down on itchiness and irritation around the scalp and leave your hair smelling pleasant. They are far preferable to perfumes, spray-in fragrances and scented cleansers, as they won't damage your locks or leave behind any residue. Just a hint of essential oils can combat the “dirty hair” smell that naturally accumulates on thick dreadlocks. Conditioners are designed to soften and detangle hair, which is the last thing you want if you have a head full of dreads. In general, there should be no reason to condition your dreadlocks. You should also be cautious about any other products that contain oils, waxes...

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Регулярно мойте дреды. Ухаживайте за кожей головы. Освежайте дреды с помощью эфирных масел. Не используйте кондиционеры и схожие средства.


Article in English: Contrary to the rest of your PowerPoint presentation, your title slide should be completely devoid of content other than the title and subtitle. This is considered a professional must when creating a PowerPoint. If you're creating a PowerPoint presentation for which an elaborate title slide has been requested, ignore this step. Click the large text box in the middle of the first slide, then type in your title. You can change the font and size of text used from the Home tab that's in the orange ribbon at the top of the window. Click the smaller text box below the title box, then type in the subtitle that you want to use. You can also just leave this box blank if you like. Place your mouse cursor over one of the edges of a title box, then click and drag the box around the slide to reposition it. You can also click and drag in or out one of a text box's corners to shrink or enlarge the text box. It's at the top of the PowerPoint window. Doing so brings up a list of possible slide transition effects at the top of the page. Click a transition you want to use to apply it to the slide. This completes the title slide process; you can now move on to adding another slide for your presentation's main content. Placing your mouse over the transition will cause the slide to demonstrate what the transition will look like in practice.

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Подумайте, как должен выглядеть титульный слайд. Добавьте заголовок. Добавьте подзаголовок. Переставьте текстовые поля титульного слайда. Щелкните по вкладке Переходы. Выберите переход для титульного слайда.


Article in English: Contrary to what you may think at first, crab sticks are actually often made with imitation crab after than crab proper. The safest bet is to buy a pack of pre-sculpted crab sticks from the supermarket. If you're much more the DIY type, you can get bigger slabs to cut into the pieces yourself. Outside of a deep-frying oil, you thankfully won't need anything else to get this recipe started. You can of course, however, add spices and garnishes to your personal preference. Getting your deep fryer up to this temperature and bringing the heat up to a standard cooking level is a good thing to do first. This may be even easier if you have a specialized fry cooker handy in your kitchen; you can cook crab sticks in much the same way as you would fries. As with a lot of cooking, it's good to get your elements heated up while you're getting the other preparations looked after. Although it's totally optional, the crispy taste for crab sticks goes wonderfully together with a good homemade batter. Make a thick fix of corn starch, flour, milk, salt, baking soda and water, and mix thoroughly. From there, you can dip your individual pieces in before putting them in the deep fryer. Tempura batters also work really well when it comes to crab sticks. You can cut your crab sticks however it suits you. You may find that cutting them into long sticks (like fries) makes them easier to eat generally speaking. Keep in mind that bigger pieces will also incur a longer average cooking time. Once you've got everything ready, it's time to put it all in the deep fryer. It's better to cook crab sticks in batches rather than all at once. This will help ensure even cooking throughout. Wait until they're generally golden-brown, then take them out and insert a new batch. Repeat this process until you've made as many a you prefer.

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Купите в магазине крабовые палочки. Нагрейте растительное масло до 175ºС. Приготовьте тесто Нарежьте крабовые палочки. Положите крабовые палочки во фритюрницу.


Article in English: Controlling any jealously or possessive urges that you may feel could prevent unnecessary drama. Before you do or say anything, decide not to allow another person’s actions negatively impact you.  Sometimes your inability to maintain control may be the result of past experiences where you did not feel secure. If you have ever had someone cheat on you before, you may fear that it will happen again, which may cause you to feel jealous. Realize that your past is not your present and jealousy is not warranted in this situation. When you react to another person staring at your wife, you display a lack of trust in her and possibly even low self-esteem or low self-worth. Not allowing the stares of others to affect you will show that you trust your wife and those staring are not a threat. Remember that she chose to marry you and likely has a connection with you that she does not share with anyone else.   Building your relationship on love, trust, and respect can reduce feelings of jealousy and help you to maintain control when someone is staring. You must believe that your wife will not do anything to break your bond and know that what you have is special.  Most wedding vows include “forsaking all others,” so remember that your wife made a commitment to you that probably means a lot to her. Whether it is a confident walk or standing tall, presenting yourself with confidence when you enter a room can sometimes eliminate the problem because those observing will know that they cannot compete with you.  Feelings of inadequacy can sometimes create possessiveness because you want to control the person so that they do not leave you. Having confidence can alleviate that need for control. To build your confidence, you can make a list of all of the things that you like about yourself and perhaps even include the things that your wife likes about you. This exercise can help to remind you that you are in fact a great catch. It is not uncommon for a man to admire a woman. There were probably even times when you observed an...

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Применяйте самоконтроль. Доверяйте своей жене. Демонстрируйте уверенность в себе. Проявите благоразумие. Игнорируйте его.


Article in English: Controlling behavior may seem “normal” to you, but it is a form of abuse. Your boyfriend may say that he wants to know what you are doing all the time because he cares so much about you, but true caring involves trust. These are all signs of controlling behavior:  Demanding that you constantly check-in with him, even when it's unreasonable or inconvenient Wanting to know everything you're doing Refusing to let you hang out with people unless he's there Monitoring your phone, internet, or social media use Expressing unhappiness that you spend time with people other than him Demanding to check your texts or other messages Asking for your account passwords Trying to control how you dress, where you go, what you say, etc. It can sometimes be hard to identify a relationship as abusive, especially if what you think of as “abuse” (usually, physical violence) hasn't happened yet. However, considering how your boyfriend makes you feel can help you determine whether you're in a healthy relationship. You may feel like something is “off,” or like you are “walking on eggshells” and don't know what will set him off. You may feel constantly blamed for the problems in the relationship. Consider the following questions:  Do you feel accepted for who you are, or do you feel constant pressure to change? Do you feel embarrassed or humiliated around your boyfriend? Does your boyfriend make you feel guilty for his feelings or actions? Do you feel bad about yourself around your boyfriend? Do you feel like you need to “love” your boyfriend into changing? Do you feel exhausted or tired all the time when you interact with him? We all say things that we regret. Even in healthy relationships, people will not always speak to each other with kindness and respect. However, if you notice a consistent pattern of disrespect, belittling, intimidation, or humiliation, these are signs that you're not in a healthy relationship. Ask yourself the following questions:   Do you feel like your boyfriend constantly criticizes you, even in front of...

Summary in Russian:

Контролирующее поведение. Оцените, как вы себя чувствуете рядом с ним. Оцените, как он с вами разговаривает. Оцените, насколько к вам прислушиваются. Оцените, насколько парень берет на себя ответственность.


Article in English: Controlling people are often looking for a reaction. They also may not respond well to any resistance or criticism. If you, say, get aggressive or angry in return, this is likely to backfire. Instead of fighting fire with fire, try to remain calm.  For example, your live in boyfriend starts getting on your case about not hanging your towel in the exact place he wants it after a shower, then it would be important to assert yourself and open up a dialogue about the situation. Just try not to lose your temper. Try saying something like, "I understand you like the towels to be hung a certain way. However, I prefer it this way because _____. I am willing to hang it there if we change _____ or I can hang it where I want and leave that space for you." However, you may need to calmly stand your ground if the person is trying to change an already established boundary. For instance, "We agreed to_______ last week, remember?" While you should never excuse someone else's bad behavior, sometimes it can be helpful to at least see where they're coming from. People with control issues may have underlying emotional issues. Understanding this can help you figure out how to best address the person's need for control. In the moment, try to figure out what the person is actually getting at when they attempt to assert control.  For example, you live with your girlfriend, who tends to be very controlling. She sees that you left some wrappers out on the kitchen counter for a few minutes while you took a phone call. She says something like, "Why did you need to take that phone call before cleaning up your mess?" The mess is probably not really the issue here. Very often it is deeper, like a person who had a controlling parent, or anxiety, or a background that values a certain thing that a behavior represents. Try asking why the order of your actions was so important to her to get a better understanding of the issue and then give any information that might be necessary. The other person may not have seen something that you think is...

Summary in Russian:

Не реагируйте на неуместное поведение. Проявите сопереживание. Откажитесь от споров. Старайтесь держать себя в руках.