Article in English: If your dog is urinating around the house, it may simply be marking. However, inappropriate urination can sometimes be a sign of a more serious problem, like a urinary tract infection. If you’re not sure what’s causing your dog’s behavior, schedule a visit with your vet.  Let your vet know when the behavior started and tell them if you’ve noticed your dog acting sick or displaying any other unusual behaviors or symptoms. Tell your vet about any recent changes in your dog’s home environment or routine, such as a move or the addition of a new pet. Sexually mature dogs that aren’t spayed or neutered are much more likely to mark than dogs that are fixed. If you haven’t already done so, schedule an appointment with your vet to get your dog fixed as soon as possible.   The earlier you neuter or spay your dog, the more likely it is that you can prevent or eliminate marking behaviors entirely.  If your dog already has a habit of marking, neutering may help, but you’ll probably need to combine it with training. Anxiety is a common cause of marking behaviors in dogs. While the best solution is usually to deal with the cause of the anxiety, medications can also help. Talk to your vet about giving your dog an anxiety medication to help it stay calm while you work on modifying the marking behavior. Your vet may prescribe an antidepressant medication, such as a tricyclic antidepressant or an SSRI (selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor), to help calm your dog and reduce marking behaviors. If other treatment approaches aren’t working or you just aren’t sure where to start, ask your vet to recommend an animal behaviorist. They can help you get to the root of the marking problem and suggest strategies for changing your dog’s behavior.  Before taking your dog straight to a behaviorist, it’s a good idea to see a vet first. Not only can they recommend a reputable behaviorist, but they can help rule out possible physical problems that a behaviorist won’t be able to diagnose or treat.  A behaviorist can also help you determine...

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Обратитесь к ветеринару, чтобы исключить возможные проблемы со здоровьем собаки. Кастрируйте Расспросите ветеринара о препаратах для уменьшения тревожности у собак. Найдите контактные данные бихевиориста, если вам потребуется дополнительная помощь.


Article in English: If your dog or cat was the one responsible for the bite, enroll in a training program or work with your pet at home to teach it not to bite. Often, many animal rescues and shelters have training programs for aggressive pets. Call and ask if their programs are open to pets from the community, as well.  If you have a pet that is not easily trained, such as a snake, frog, or small mammal, make sure the pet is kept in proper housing with an effective locking mechanism. If you have a pet that requires certain equipment such as gloves to handle them, make sure to always use the equipment properly every time you handle your pet. Different types of animals have different signs that indicate they may be about to bite. Learn common signs of distress for typical pets such as dogs and cats to help identify potential bite risks.  Signs a dog is about to bite may include snarling, barking, growling, ears back, an aggressively wagging tail, repeated stress yawning, and more.  Signs a cat is about to bite or scratch include increased stiffness in the body and a twitching of the tail. Cats are especially prone to bite during tummy rubs, as well. If you do not know if a pet is friendly or not, err on the side of caution. Keep a safe distance from any pets you do not know until you’ve talked to their owners and have a better idea of the pet’s demeanour.  When you want to approach a new pet for the first time, ask the owner, “Is it alright if I touch your pet? Does your pet have any issues with temperament that I should be aware of while interacting with them?” Allow the pet owner to instruct you or demonstrate for you how to interact with their pet for the first time.

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Отучите вашего питомца кусаться. Укусу всегда предшествуют характерные признаки агрессии. Не подходите к незнакомым животным.


Article in English: If your dog vomits, but nothing comes up your dog may have a serious and life-threatening condition called bloat. Symptoms include repeated attempts to vomit without actually producing vomit and drooling strings of saliva (because he can't swallow it). Your dog needs emergency medical treatment for bloat, since this serious condition can kill within hours if it's not treated. Once your dog vomits, he may feel nauseous which prevents him from wanting to drink. This, along with vomiting up fluid, can cause dehydration if the amount of fluid he loses is greater than the amount of fluid he's taking in. If your dog is showing early signs of dehydration, give him an electrolyte drink mixed with water every few hours for a day. If the dehydration doesn't improve, get medical attention. Early signs of dehydration include:  Excessive panting Dry mouth, gums, or nose Visible lethargy (fatigue) Dry or sunken eyes Lack of skin elasticity (the skin won't fall back into place immediately if you pinch a little and release it) Weakness in the hind end (a later stage of dehydration) Unsteadiness when walking (a later stage of dehydration) If the vomiting is simple and straightforward, such as after scavenging garbage, then most times you can nurse the dog better at home by offering fluids, and withholding food. However, you should always watch for signs that your dog needs immediate medical attention. These include:  Retching with nothing coming up Vomiting once or twice with your dog still seeming dull and depressed Vomiting for more than 4 hours or not being able to keep water down Vomiting blood which could indicate a serious ulcer in the stomach wall

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Немедленно обратитесь к ветеринару для лечения вздутия. Обратите внимание на обезвоживание. Знайте, когда следует обращаться к ветеринару.


Article in English: If your dog was infected with either sarcoptic or cheyletiella mange, you will need to treat any dogs or other animals that your pet is in frequent contact with -- otherwise he could be re-infected. Talk to your vet about how to treat your other pets to avoid a recurrence of mange in your dog. If you suspect that a dog (or cat) in your neighborhood may have mange, you should keep your dog as far away from the animal as possible. Talk to the animal’s owner to let them know that you think their pet has mange or call animal control if the animal is a stray. Following treatment, you should bring your dog back to the vet for periodic check-ups. The veterinarian can analyze skin scrapings to confirm that the mites have not returned. Do not attempt to treat a recurrence of mange without consulting your veterinarian first because some treatments can be toxic if used more than once in too short of a time period.

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Лечите других животных, с которыми ваш питомец был в контакте. Держите свою собаку подальше от других собак, которые могут быть заражены. Проходите регулярные осмотры у ветеринара.


Article in English: If your dog's ears are often bitten by flies, apply a thin coating of petroleum jelly to the area. Squirt a small amount of petroleum jelly into your hand and rub it into both sides of your dog's ears. This will prevent flies from landing there again and give your dog's wounds time to heal. Open bite wounds can attract more flies, so applying petroleum jelly to your dog's ears is important to prevent more irritation. If you want to avoid spraying your dog with chemical repellents, mix 1 cup (240 ml) of apple cider vinegar and 1 cup (240 ml) of mineral oil with 1⁄2 teaspoon (2.5 ml)  of the following essential oils: citronella, lemongrass, bitter orange, eucalyptus, and clove. Finish the mixture with 2 cups (470 ml) of dish soap, then mix 1 part of the natural fly repellent with 5 parts water. Spray your dog with the fly repellent, targeting areas that flies often land on.  Keep in mind that this repellent isn't proven to be safe or effective. Hangable fly traps stay out of a dog's reach while catching any flies that may be in the house. If, for whatever reason, you are against fly traps, purchase a Venus flytrap or other carnivorous plant to naturally lower your fly infestation.  Venus flytraps can be grown outdoors or by a windowsill. They require routine care and maintenance to keep healthy. Citronella is a scent that's safe for dogs and that insects find repellant. If you would prefer not to kill flies, purchase several citronella candles and use them in the rooms your dog most often frequents.  Other citronella-based fragrances, like essential oils or cleaning sprays, can also repel insects but flies find smoke most repulsive. Never leave your candle unattended or low enough that your pet could knock it over. Not all fly repellents are pet-safe, so read the instructions carefully before purchasing one for your pet. Avoid buying fly repellents that are not explicitly made for dogs. Apply the fly repellent to your dog or its belongings daily or as instructed by the fly repellent to keep flies far from your...

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Нанесите вазелин на уши собаки. Приготовьте средство от мух, смешав уксус с минеральным и эфирным маслами. Развесьте ловушку для мух или купите венерину мухоловку. Зажгите в доме несколько свечей с цитронеллой. Купите химический репеллент, безопасный для собаки. Узнайте у ветеринара о рецептурных бальзамах и безопасных для собаки чистящих средствах. Не покупайте средства от мух, на которых не сказано, что их можно использовать на собаках.


Article in English: If your dog’s pregnancy is planned, take her to the veterinarian for a check-up before breeding her. Bring her in again about 30 days into the pregnancy. If the pregnancy wasn’t planned, take her to the vet as soon as you find out she’s pregnant.  If you plan to breed your dog, it’s recommended that you wait until she’s at least 24 months old. By that point she will be mature enough for any relevant medical problems to become apparent. Some dog breeds may be prone to genetic conditions like dental problems, dislocating patellas, hip dysplasia, spine problems, allergies, heart conditions, and/or behavioral problems. It’s important to be aware of these conditions before breeding your dog. Unless directly instructed by your vet, you should not give your dog medications unsafe for pregnancy. You also shouldn’t have her vaccinated.  Your dog should have been vaccinated before she became pregnant so she can pass the antibodies on to her pups. But if not, don’t vaccinate her while pregnant, as some vaccines can be harmful to developing fetuses. If using flea control, be sure to use a product that’s safe for use on pregnant dogs. Do make sure that your dog is on a deworming program. An untreated mother can pass on roundworms, hookworms, or heartworms to her puppies. The average gestation period for a dog is between 58 and 68 days. Try to accurately pinpoint when conception occurred so you can anticipate labor accordingly.  By 45 days into the pregnancy, your vet can use x-rays to detect the number of puppies in the litter. You may also notice nesting behavior and a tendency to want to withdraw or retreat; this is normal and to be expected. Most pregnant dogs who are not overweight should eat puppy food during the last third to the last half of pregnancy.  Puppy food typically has more calories than regular adult food, which the mother will need in order to pass on nutrition to the fetuses. Do not supplement her diet with extra calcium unless instructed by your veterinarian. Milk fever, or eclampsia, is common for...

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Покажите собаку ветеринару. Будьте осторожны с применением у беременной собаки лекарств и проведением вакцинаций. Поймите, каким должно быть нормальное течение беременности. Обсудите вместе с ветеринаром подходящее беременной собаке питание. Сделайте собаке рентген для определения количества щенков. Подготовьте для собаки гнездовой ящик. Начните подыскивать будущих владельцев для своих щенков. Заранее приобретите смесь для выкармливания щенков. Изолируйте суку за три недели до родов.


Article in English: If your dry mouth is persistent and at-home remedies haven’t done the trick, it is time to see a professional. Discuss your full medical history with your doctor. Numerous conditions, diseases, and syndromes can cause dry mouth, including:  Diabetes Parkinson’s disease Sjögren’s syndrome Sicca syndrome Certain forms of radiation therapy   Some dental surgeries, like having your wisdom teeth removed The use of some medications, including antihistamines, decongestants, painkillers, blood pressure treatments, antidepressants, and many others In some cases, your doctor may prescribe a medication designed to treat dry mouth. Currently, there are a few options:  Cevimeline is approved to treat dry mouth caused by Sjögren’s syndrome. Pilocarpine is approved to treat dry mouth caused by Sjögren’s syndrome as well as by radiation therapy. Amifostine protects against the damage of radiation, and studies show that it can reduce the severity of dry mouth for many patients. Since dry mouth is often caused as a side-effect of medications, you doctor should review any that you are taking. If your dry mouth is severe, he or she may be able to write a prescription for a different medication to eliminate one that is causing the problem. In some cases, the irritation associated with dry mouth outweighs the intended benefits of the medication. In many cases, your problem may be chronic or reoccurring. If you doctor tells you to take a prescription or to use a fluoride treatment for a period of time, follow his or her instructions even if your dry mouth goes away after a couple of days. Doctors try to treat root causes and their symptoms.

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Посетите врача или стоматолога. Попросите врача выписать вам стимулятор секреции. Сообщите врачу обо всех принимаемых вами препаратах. Следуйте указаниям врача.


Article in English: If your efforts to avoid them fail and they physically get ahold of you, you should seriously consider giving them your money or valuables so they don’t hurt you. The best-case scenario is that they just wanted to rob you and not hurt you. There is no good reason to put yourself in danger for some money or a piece of jewelry. Sign up with for a self-defense class. In these classes, instructors will teach you ways to defend yourself against attackers. Then, after learning self-defense, you’ll be able to make a choice as to whether you want to defend yourself or relinquish your valuables to an attacker.  Some common moves include kicking the assailant in the groin, striking them in the face with your open hand, or block their attack with your arm and then hit them back. Remember, physically defending yourself could increase the chance that you are injured during a robbery or another type of assault. Listen to what they say instead of talking. Do what the person instructs you to do. This is especially true if the person is threatening you with a weapon like a knife or a gun. In many cases, cooperating will reduce the chances that the person hurts you.  Don’t grab for the person’s weapon if they have one. Try to be deferential and don’t give them attitude.

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Отдайте преследователю деньги и/или ценные вещи. Обучитесь самообороне. Сотрудничайте с преследователем.


Article in English: If your equation in the form ax3+bx2+cx+d=0{\displaystyle ax^{3}+bx^{2}+cx+d=0} has a nonzero value for d{\displaystyle d}, factoring with the quadratic equation won't work. But don’t worry—you have other options, like the one described here!  Take, for example, 2x3+9x2+13x=−6{\displaystyle 2x^{3}+9x^{2}+13x=-6}. In this case, getting a 0{\displaystyle 0} on the right side of the equals sign requires you to add 6{\displaystyle 6} to both sides. In the new equation, 2x3+9x2+13x+6=0{\displaystyle 2x^{3}+9x^{2}+13x+6=0}. Since d=6{\displaystyle d=6}, you can't use the quadratic equation method. Start solving the cubic equation by finding the factors of the coefficient of the x3{\displaystyle x^{3}} term (that is, a{\displaystyle a}) and the constant at the end of the equation (that is, d{\displaystyle d}). Remember that factors are the numbers that can multiply together to make another number.  For example, since you can make 6 by multiplying 6×1{\displaystyle 6\times 1} and 2×3{\displaystyle 2\times 3}, that means 1, 2, 3, and 6 are the factors of 6. In the sample problem, a=2{\displaystyle a=2} and d=6{\displaystyle d=6}. The factors of 2 are 1 and 2. The factors of 6 are 1, 2, 3, and 6. Make a list of the values you get by dividing each factor of a{\displaystyle a} by each factor of d{\displaystyle d}. This will usually result in lots of fractions and a few whole numbers. The integer solutions to your cubic equation will either be one of the whole numbers in this list or the negative of one of these numbers. In the sample equation, taking the factors of a{\displaystyle a} (1 and 2) over the factors of d{\displaystyle d} (1, 2, 3 and 6) gets this list: 1{\displaystyle 1}, 12{\displaystyle {\frac {1}{2}}}, 13{\displaystyle {\frac {1}{3}}}, 16{\displaystyle {\frac {1}{6}}}, 2{\displaystyle 2}, and 23{\displaystyle {\frac {2}{3}}}. Next, we add the negatives to the list to make it complete: 1{\displaystyle 1}, −1{\displaystyle -1}, 12{\displaystyle {\frac {1}{2}}}, −12{\displaystyle -{\frac {1}{2}}},...

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Удостоверьтесь, что в кубическом уравнении есть свободный член d{\displaystyle d}. Выпишите множители коэффициента a{\displaystyle a} и свободного члена d{\displaystyle d}. Разделите каждый множитель a{\displaystyle a} на каждый множитель d{\displaystyle d}. Подставьте целые числа в кубическое уравнение. Воспользуйтесь методом деления многочленов по схеме Горнера, чтобы быстрее найти корни уравнения.


Article in English: If your error was very serious, or if you are well-known and hold a big position, you might want to think about your online presence when rebuilding your reputation. Don’t underestimate negative online info. To start, you will need to take stock of the situation.  You can get a quick sense of your online reputation by checking Google’s autocomplete. Just go to the Google homepage. What appears when you type in your name, or your company name? When you enter your name, for example, do you get something positive or neutral like “Harold Bing Brew Co. CEO” and “Harold Bing business award”? Or is it damaging, like “Harold Bing mugshot”? Look at online news stories or reviews about you or your company, if applicable. Check local sites or other social media. Set up a Google Alert in your name, so that you’ll be notified any time something new is posted. Programs like Google Suggest reflect real internet searches and should give you an idea of how people associate your name and reputation online. Did you find something unwelcome in your results? There are some things you can do.  Do not try to manipulate the results. While some people suggest this approach, using techniques like crowdsourcing, you might end up causing more damage. You might try acquiring the search term and building an optimized page to tell your viewpoint. That way, when someone types “Juliette Page embezzler” she is directed to your side of the story – that the charge is false, misunderstood, or not reported right. You can also request that the search engine take down the autocomplete. This is hard and usually only works with results that suggest hate or violence, porn, or personal information. Still, it may be worthwhile to try. Your online reputation could get out of control. Don’t despair, however. There are people and agencies who can help you manage this kind of situation, like Reputation.com or BrandYourself.com. The work will be pricy, but it may just salvage your working reputation.  Reputation managers won’t always be able to get rid of...

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Проверьте информацию о себе в интернете. Разберитесь с дискредитацией в Google. Наймите менеджера по репутации в сети.


Article in English: If your ex-boyfriend is intentionally trying to throw his new relationship in your face, giving him a jealous response will mean giving him exactly what he wants. Don't respond when he talks to you via email, texting, or social media. If he tries making you jealous in person, reply in as neutral a manner as possible before ending the conversation and walking away.  In addition to not replying to him directly, you also need to resist the temptation to post that vague, passive-aggressive status update on Facebook or Twitter, and avoid complaining to mutual friends who might let him know. Stay persistent. It's possible that he may put more effort into making you jealous initially, but if you're consistent, he should eventually get the message that it won't work. If he's especially stubborn and the behavior is really getting to you, respond by cutting him off. Unfriend, unfollow, and block him via social media. If things get really bad, block his phone number from your phone and mark his email address as spam. He might temporarily feel pleased upon realizing that he succeeded in making you upset, but now that he's unable to continue the behavior, he'll have no choice but to stop it. You might feel tempted to fight fire with fire--or, in this case, fight jealousy with jealousy--but this usually isn't a good idea. Getting into a new relationship just to make your ex jealous won't be fair to you or the new guy you start dating. Furthermore, flaunting around a new boyfriend you genuinely like can damage the new relationship, too. Using your boyfriend to get back at your ex keeps your focus on the old relationship--and adding fuel to the fires of jealousy will mean keeping the war between you and your ex alive indefinitely. You'll be much better off cutting ties with your ex and focusing on your attentions solely on your new sweetheart. Even if the opportunity to get back together with your ex comes up, and even if you're tempted to take it, don't. An ex who goes out of his way to make you jealous is clearly capable...

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Игнорируйте его. Ограничивайте его возможности. Не мстите. Сопротивляйтесь желанию возобновить отношения.


Article in English: If your expression is not already set up like a fraction, rewrite it this way. This makes it easier to follow all the necessary steps when dividing by a square root. Remember that a fraction bar is also a division bar. For example, if you are calculating 144÷36{\displaystyle {\sqrt {144}}\div {\sqrt {36}}}, rewrite the problem like this: 14436{\displaystyle {\frac {\sqrt {144}}{\sqrt {36}}}}. If your problem has a square root in the numerator and denominator, you can place both radicands under one radical sign. (A radicand is a number under a radical, or square root, sign.) This will simplify the simplifying process. For example, 14436{\displaystyle {\frac {\sqrt {144}}{\sqrt {36}}}} can be rewritten as 14436{\displaystyle {\sqrt {\frac {144}{36}}}}. Divide the numbers as you would any whole number. Make sure to place their quotient under a new radical sign. For example, 14436=4{\displaystyle {\frac {144}{36}}=4}, so 14436=4{\displaystyle {\sqrt {\frac {144}{36}}}={\sqrt {4}}}. , if necessary. If the radicand is a perfect square, or if one of its factors is a perfect square, you need to simplify the expression. A perfect square is the product of a whole number multiplied by itself. For example, 25 is a perfect square, since 5×5=25{\displaystyle 5\times 5=25}. For example, 4 is a perfect square, since 2×2=4{\displaystyle 2\times 2=4}. Thus:4{\displaystyle {\sqrt {4}}}=2×2{\displaystyle ={\sqrt {2\times 2}}}=2{\displaystyle =2}So, 14436=4=2{\displaystyle {\frac {\sqrt {144}}{\sqrt {36}}}={\sqrt {4}}=2}.

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Запишите дробь. Используйте один знак корня. Разделите подкоренные выражение. Упростите


Article in English: If your eyes are itchy and irritated, try putting a cold compress over your eyes. This can also help if they are swollen and red. Grab a soft washcloth or towel. Soak it in cool water and wring it out. Close your eyes and lean your head back, placing the compress on your face. Remove after about 20 minutes. Repeat as many times as necessary to prevent further itching. You can also lie down if holding your head back for that long hurts your neck. If your eyes are itchy and irritated, you may need to flush them out. This can also be necessary if you get an allergen, such as dust, in your eye. To start this, lean over a sink and turn on lukewarm water. Lean down slowly under a lightly running but not too harsh stream of water from the faucet. Let it run over your eyes for a few minutes, or until you think you removed all the allergens. You can also do this in the shower if leaning over a sink is too hard. Just make sure the water isn't too hot. You don't want to injure your eyes with too much heat. There are two different kinds of over-the-counter eye drops you can use. You can use antihistamine eye drops, which have allergy fighting medications in them that should relieve itching and redness. You can also use lubricating eye drops, also known as artificial tears. These help relieve itchiness by adding more moisture into your eyes and allowing them wash away allergens.  Popular brands of antihistamine eye drops include Alaway or Zaditor. Brands of artificial tears include Clear Eyes, Artificial Tears, and Visine Tears. You can also get prescription antihistamine eye drops from your doctor, such as Patanol. However, many experts believe that over-the-counter options work just as well for mild to moderate cases.  Try placing artificial tears in the fridge — cool drops feel better and can soothe burning itchy eyes. When you are suffering from itchy eyes, rubbing them is one of the worst things you can do. This most likely will just make symptoms worse. It puts pressure and rubs against the already irritated surface...

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Используйте холодный компресс. Промойте глаза. Используйте глазные капли. Не трите глаза. Защитите глаза. Воздержитесь от использования контактных линз. Принимайте антигистаминные препараты, отпускаемые без рецепта.


Article in English: If your eyes are itchy due to allergies, take an antihistamine regularly and avoid allergens. Additionally, you should try to manage any allergies you have, even if they don’t directly affect your eyes. Skin and food allergies might also cause eye inflammation and could be related to keratoconus. Diets low in calcium and other nutrients might contribute to or worsen keratoconus. Try to drink 2 to 3 glasses of milk per day to meet your daily calcium requirement. You can also ask your doctor about taking a daily 500 to 1000 mg calcium supplement.  Other sources of calcium include cheese, yogurt, spinach, kale, and soybeans. Talk to your doctor about any medications or supplements and take them as directed. A daily dose of 2,000 to 4,000 IU of vitamin D might help slow the progression of keratoconus. In clinical trials, patients took much higher doses of vitamin D than the recommended amount, so you’ll need to consult your doctor before trying a high-dose vitamin D regimen. Rubbing your eyes can damage thin corneal tissue and worsen keratoconus. If you have persistently itchy eyes, use saline eye drops or non-medicated artificial tears instead of rubbing them. Overexposure to sunlight might cause or worsen keratoconus. When you go outside, protect your eyes with sunglasses that block 99 to 100 percent of UV rays. Look for products labelled for UV protection or ask your doctor or pharmacist to recommend protective eyewear.

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Следите за возможными проявлениями аллергии. Пейте больше молока и принимайте добавки кальция. Попробуйте принимать добавки с витамином D. Не трите глаза. Носите солнцезащитные очки с защитой от ультрафиолета.


Article in English: If your fabric is prone to shrinking, you'll be thankful you did. Do this well before you start sewing -- the fabric needs to be completely dry.  Follow the washing instructions for that specific fabric. Whether it's machine wash, hand wash, or hang dry, the instructions should be followed. If you throw your fabric in the dryer and it comes out a little wrinkly, iron it. It'll be much easier to work with when you're sewing.

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Прогладьте или посадите ткань, постирав ее.


Article in English: If your face is oblong but tapers slightly from forehead to jaw, you may have an oval-shaped face. Oval faces tend to be about 1 ½ times longer than they are wide. Round faces are widest across the cheekbones, with rounded foreheads and jawlines. Another good rule of thumb is that the round face is typically about as long (measuring from hairline to chin) as it is wide (from cheekbone to cheekbone). Heart-shaped faces are widest across the forehead, and gradually narrow as you move down to the chin. The forehead should be wider than the cheekbones, and the jaw narrower than the cheekbones and the forehead.} If your face is long, widest at the cheekbones, and narrow towards the forehead and chin, you have a diamond-shaped face. Oblong faces are long, but also rounded at the top and bottom. They tend to be about equally wide across the cheekbones and jawline. Square faces tend to have a jaw that is about as wide as, or even wider than, the cheekbones. Square faces typically have a wide forehead as well. The slope from the corners of the jaw to the chin is gentle, and the chin is usually fairly wide, rather than pointy or rounded. Like round faces, square faces are usually about as wide as they are long. If you have a square jaw with a longer face, your face shape is rectangular rather than square. A square jawline can also be a feature of a triangular face. If your forehead and cheekbones are significantly narrower than your jawline, your face is triangular.

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Определите овальную форму лица по его плавным сужающимся очертаниям. Обратите внимание на широкие скулы, чтобы выявить круглую форму лица. Узнайте сердцевидную форму лица по широкому лбу и узкому подбородку. Обратите внимание на узкий лоб и такую же узкую линию подбородка, чтобы выявить ромбовидное лицо. Определите продолговатую форму лица по вытянутым очертаниям и слегка скругленным линиям лба и подбородка. Выявите квадратную форму лица по широким скулам и лбу. Обратите внимание на сочетание вытянутого лица и квадратной линии челюсти у прямоугольного лица. Выявите треугольную форму лица по более широкой линии нижней челюсти.


Article in English: If your fear and anxiety are getting out of control, you probably need help. One place to start is a counselor. Talking to someone – a professional – will help you learn more about what is making you panic, why, and how to reduce and control your symptoms.  Try your school. Many schools have counselors on staff to help students get through problems just like this. Ask to make an appointment. Talk to a trusted adult. Let an adult that you trust like a parent, teacher, close relative, or school worker know what is going on. They can help you look in your area for licensed social worker, therapist, or doctor who can help. A therapist might start you on a program of something called “Cognitive Behavioral Therapy” or CBT. You’ll have regular sessions, work to identify what’s behind the attacks, and get rid of your fears and anxieties. CBT will also teach you ways to deal with future attacks. Your friends may not realize that you’re struggling with anxiety and panic attacks. They may not know what is going on, if or when you get an attack. Let them know – good friends will try to understand and help.  Friends can support you and help you through this tough time. If you feel comfortable (and you might not), you might let your other peers at school or work know what’s going on, too. Having friends who know about your condition will help if you have an attack, as well. They can reassure you, calm you, and be there until you improve. You might also join a peer support group. There are lots of people like you who have problems with anxiety. It sometimes helps to see that you’re not alone and learn how to manage the condition from each other.  See whether there are local groups where you live. In the Britain there are charity organizations like Anxiety UK that focus on anxiety-related issues, for instance.  Support groups often have face-to-face meetings, where you’ll be able to talk about your problems in person. Other times, they can offer guidance in writing or over the phone. You might also need to talk to a medical...

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Поговорите с психологом или психотерапевтом. Поделитесь с друзьями. Группа поддержки. Медицинская помощь.


Article in English: If your fear of death has become so intense that it is interfering with your ability to carry out normal activities and enjoy your life, you should seek the help of a licensed mental health therapist. For example, if you start avoiding certain activities due to your fear of impending death, then it is time to get help.  Other signs that you may need to seek help include:  feeling disabled, panicky, or depressed because of your fear feeling like your fear is unreasonable dealing with the fear for more than 6 months A therapist can help you to better understand your fear of death and find ways to minimize it and hopefully overcome it. Keep in mind that dealing with a profound fear takes time and effort. It can take a while before your fears become manageable, but some people see a dramatic improvement in just 8-10 therapy sessions. Some of the strategies that your therapist might use include:   Cognitive Behavioral Therapy: If you are afraid of dying, you may have certain thought processes that intensify your fear. Cognitive behavioral therapy is a method that therapists use to get you to challenge your thoughts and identify the emotions associated with those thoughts. For example, you may think to yourself, “I can't fly because I am afraid the plane will crash and I will die.” Your therapist will challenge you to realize that this thought is unrealistic, perhaps by explaining that flying is actually safer than driving. Then, you will be challenge to revise the thought so that it is more realistic, such as, “People fly on planes every day and they are fine. I am sure that I will be fine too.”   Exposure Therapy: If you are afraid of dying, you may start avoiding certain situations, activities, and places that intensify your fear. Exposure therapy will force you to confront that fear head on. In this type of therapy, your therapist will either ask you to imagine that you are in the situation you have been avoiding or they will ask you to actually put yourself into the situation. For example, if you have been...

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Определитесь, нужна ли вам помощь психотерапевта. Подумайте о том, чего вы можете ожидать от психотерапевта. Поделитесь своими мыслями о смерти с окружающими. Посетите «кафе смерти».


Article in English: If your fear of driving is disrupting your life, you should get medical or psychological treatment. If you're unsure who to ask for help, contact your doctor who should be able to put you in touch with trained professionals. You may work with your doctor, a psychologist, a psychiatrist, or a counselor trained in phobias. If you're increasingly depressed by your inability to drive, make sure to seek help. Don't simply adjust to the fear that prevents you from driving this can cause other phobias to develop. You may work with a counselor or therapist on a one-on-one basis. In addition to relaxation techniques and exposure therapy, your counselor may simply want you to talk. Talking is an important way for your brain to learn how to handle fear. It will give you a chance to think about what's behind the fear and can treat your driving phobia. Don't expect your counselor to offer you advice. Many counselors simply listen and ask questions so you can give thoughtful answers and explore your fear. If you'd rather talk about your phobia with a group, find a local driving phobia support group to talk with. You may also find an online support group with people who experience similar symptoms. Just knowing that you're not alone can be helpful in overcoming your fear. You can also talk with friends and family. Share your fears with them and explain the challenges you face. It can help to know that you have friends and family who understand what you're going through.

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Вовремя обращайтесь к специалисту. Терапия. Ходите на встречи группы поддержки.


Article in English: If your fear of holes has become so intense that it is interfering with your ability to carry out normal activities and enjoy your life, you should seek the help of a licensed mental health therapist. For example, if you start avoiding certain activities due to your fear, then it is time to get help.  Other signs that you may need to seek help include:  feeling disabled, panicky, or depressed because of your fear feeling like your fear is unreasonable dealing with the fear for more than 6 months A therapist can help you to better understand your trypophobia and help you find ways to minimize its impact on your life. Keep in mind that dealing with a profound fear takes time and effort. It can take a while before your fears become manageable, but some people see a dramatic improvement in just 8-10 therapy sessions. Some of the strategies that your therapist might use include:   Cognitive Behavioral Therapy If you are afraid of holes, you may have certain thought processes that intensify your fear. Cognitive behavioral therapy is a method that therapists use to get you to challenge your thoughts and identify the emotions associated with those thoughts. For example, you may think to yourself, “I can’t go outside because I might see a flower that has holes in it.” Your therapist will challenge you to realize that this thought is unrealistic, perhaps by pointing out that the flower can’t hurt you. Then, you will be challenge to revise the thought so that it is more realistic, such as, “I might see a flower with holes in it if I go outside, but it can’t hurt me. I can always look away if it bothers me.”   Exposure Therapy If you are afraid of holes, you may start avoiding certain situations, activities, and places that intensify your fear. Exposure therapy will force you to confront that fear head on. In this type of therapy, your therapist will either ask you to imagine that you are in the situation you have been avoiding or they will ask you to actually put yourself into the situation. For example, if you have...

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Определите, нужна ли вам помощь психотерапевта. Знайте, чего можно ожидать от общения с психотерапевтом. Обсудите свой страх с человеком, которому вы доверяете.


Article in English: If your feelings of depersonalization are interfering with your daily life, you need to consult a medical professional. There are many types of therapy for treating depersonalization disorder. When finding a therapist, ask what type of counseling they provide and which type of counseling is right for you. Common forms of treatment for depersonalization include:  Cognitive therapy- works on changing your thoughts about feeling unreal Behavioral therapy- helps you to develop behavioral strategies to distract yourself from depersonalization symptoms Psychodynamic therapy- aims to resolve painful feelings and experiences that stimulate a need to detach from yourself and reality Grounding techniques- similar to those listed above, these tactics use the five senses to help you feel more connected to yourself and the world around you If you find a certain therapist to be unhelpful, you can always go to a different one. This will vary according to the severity of your depersonalization. Some people attend therapy monthly, weekly, and, in severe cases, daily. Your doctor will determine how often you should go to therapy.  Skipping out on therapy sessions will prevent you from getting the help you need; attend all scheduled appointments. If you do not have a scheduled appointment and feel like you need immediate help, call 911. If you are suicidal, call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255) This will greatly aid you in communicating about your depersonalization. Write down where and when you have any attacks, and record as much detail about the attack as possible, including your thoughts at the time. If you feel comfortable, show these records to your therapist, or bring them to therapy sessions as a reference. Be sure to take note if the symptoms of your depersonalization overlap with that of another illness. Depersonalization often accompanies serious mental illness such as schizophrenia, depression, and post-traumatic stress disorder. Tell your doctor if you are avoiding friends,...

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Обратитесь к психотерапевту. Не пропускайте сеансы терапии. Заведите дневник и записывайте в него свои симптомы. При необходимости принимайте медикаменты.


Article in English: If your feet seem to constantly be asleep and involve other symptoms such as pain, weakness, temperature changes or discoloration, then it's time to schedule an appointment with your physician. Your doctor will examine your feet and legs and ask questions about your family history, diet and lifestyle, and maybe even send you for a blood test (to check blood glucose levels and rule out the possibility of diabetes). Your family doctor is not a neurological or circulatory specialist, so you may need a referral to another doctor with more specialized training. Feet that fall asleep on occasion is not considered a serious medical problem, just more of an annoyance, but there are some serious conditions that can cause similar symptoms such as diabetic neuropathy, venous insufficiency (leaky vein valves of the lower leg), chronic compartment syndrome (swelling of the lower leg muscles), or Peripheral artery disease (PAD). As such, a medical specialist may be needed to properly diagnose your condition, such as a vascular surgeon, a neurologist or an orthopedist (musculoskeletal specialist).  Foot symptoms related to diabetic neuropathy include: numbness and tingling, reduced ability to feel pain or temperature changes, muscle cramps, burning pain, muscle weakness, painful ulcers that won't heal, pain from a light touch, toenail changes.  Risk factors for developing neuropathy include type 1 and type 2 diabetes, dyslipidemia, smoking, and hypertension. Cardiovascular disease at baseline is associated with double the risk of neuropathy. Common symptoms of venous insufficiency include: swelling in the lower legs and ankles, aching or tiredness in the legs, discolored leathery-looking skin on the feet and lower legs, numbness and tingling, stasis ulcers. Diagnosis is made on venous ultrasound with a reversed flow. Risk factors for venous insufficiency include: increasing age, family history, prolonged standing, increases in BMI, smoking, sedentary lifestyle, and lower extremity trauma. Vascular ultrasound is a painless...

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Посетите терапевта. Получите направление к специалисту. Обратитесь к ортопеду.


Article in English: If your first meeting was disappointing, it can still be worthwhile to maintain contact. Keep trying to get to know one another. There is no set script for reunions, and it can be a very challenging experience for both fathers and children. A good first meeting can lead to euphoria and a sense of immediate, intense connection. This sense of connection will not last, at least at this level of intensity. You or your father may need to pull back and reassess as the reality of who you are sinks in. Be ready to take a “time out” to sort through conflicting, confusing feelings and adjust the relationship. This is a normal part of the reunion process. Beginning with minimal expectations can help you both to build a stronger, more enduring relationship. You may need to take the lead in establishing those limits, because parents often bring greater expectations to reunions than children do.  For example, if you have children of your own, you might wait until you have gotten to know your father better before you introduce them to him. Be clear about what kinds of contact are welcome, and what kinds aren't. Perhaps you would like him to call before stopping by, even if you happen to live close by to each other. Or perhaps you would rather have a scheduled telephone call instead of a more casual relationship in which it's ok to call or text anytime. Any relationship needs time and space to evolve and deepen. If you and your father are both interested in staying connected, look for ways to spend low-key time together. You could schedule a monthly lunch or telephone call, for example, or attend sports or music events occasionally together. Although reconnection often carries great benefits, some people find that they do not want a lasting relationship with their father after all. Perhaps your values or lifestyles are too different, or perhaps he is not capable of maintaining a healthy relationship with you. Continue to maintain the good family relationships that you already have. The people who raised you might appreciate...

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Не позволяйте первой встрече, даже если она вас разочаровала, испортить отношения. Осознайте, что у вас может начаться фаза “медового месяца”. Установите границы в отношении жизни друг друга. Дайте время на развитие ваших отношений. Смиритесь с тем, что отношения могут не стать близкими, а могут и вовсе не получить продолжения. Не забывайте о семье, в которой вы выросли.


Article in English: If your fish needs to be isolated, you will also need to disinfect your tank to prevent the transfer of any health problems to other fish. You also should disinfect your tank before putting your fish back into it. Pour out water and remove all objects from the tank. These cannot be disinfected, so it is best to start with new plants if you use live plants or just use fake plants from the stores. If you have natural gravel at the bottom of your tank, remove all of this and bake it on a cookie sheet at 450 °F (232 °C) for one hour. Cool the gravel completely. Do not bake gravel if it is coated with any material, as this will melt. In this case, it is probably best to throw it away and start with fresh gravel. Use 1 part bleach to 9 parts fresh tap water and put it in a clean spray bottle. Use regular household bleach with no added detergents. Be careful to never add bleach when fish are in the tank, as this will kill fish. Spray your bleach solution on the inside of the tank. Let it sit for 10-15 minutes. You need to make sure that all of the bleach residue is rinsed out of the tank so it will not contaminate the water after you put the fish back in. Rinse several times, and then rinse it once more for good measure. Wipe the tank dry with a paper towel. ) in the bleach solution in a bucket or bowl. Let them sit for 10 minutes, and then rinse them multiple times before putting them back in the tank.

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Слейте воду из аквариума. Выбросьте живые растения. Достаньте гравий. Сделайте раствор из воды и отбеливателя. Промойте аквариум несколько раз. Положите все прочие предметы из аквариума (фильтр, пластиковые растения) в раствор отбеливателя в ведро или миску.


Article in English: If your fish's fin rot does not improve within a few days of cleaning and treating the tank, you may want to try antibacterial fin rot treatment. You can find this medication over the counter at your local pet store. Look for fin rot medication that is made for your type of fish, such as fin rot medication for a Betta fish or a goldfish. Follow the dosage directions on the label.  These medications often contain antibiotics to kill off the fungal infection, such as erythromycin, minocycline, trimethoprim and sulfadimidine. Make sure the fin rot treatment does not contain any organic dyes, as they can be toxic to certain fish. Popular types of fin rot treatment include Jungle Fungus Eliminator and Tetracycline. You can also use brands like Maracyn, Maracyn II, Waterlife- Myxazin, and MelaFix. An alternative to commercial medication is the use of tea tree oil and salt. However, tea tree oil is not considered a reliable treatment and should be used as a preventative measure rather than a cure. You may need to supplement the tea tree oil treatment with antibacterial medication or antibiotics.  You can add a one to two drops of tea tree oil to the tank water to keep the water clean and sterile. Make sure your fish do not react negatively to the tea tree oil before you add more to the tank the following day. Tonic salt, or sodium chloride, can also be used to prevent fin rot. Add 1 ounce salt per gallon of tank water. Only use tonic salt on salt-tolerant freshwater fish. When you treat your sick fish with medication, you should supply extra oxygen so your fish can breath. Medications tend to leech oxygen from the tank water so you will need to give your fish some supplemental oxygen to keep him healthy. Set up an air pump, an airstone, or aquarium housing in your tank to inject more oxygen into the water.  If your fish is a Betta, set the air pump on low so the current is not too high, as a high current can be stressful for Betta fish. You should only use the medication for the duration of time specified on the...

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Используйте антибактериальное средство от плавниковой гнили. Попробуйте использовать масло чайного дерева или соль. При добавлении в аквариум лекарственных средств используйте воздушный компрессор или распылитель воздуха.


Article in English: If your flame is hot and blue, twist the collar to close off the air flow and produce a yellow safety flame. Close the valve completely to cut off the gas supply. The flame should go out, and the valve will then be properly set for the next use. Turn the valve handle so it’s perpendicular to the gas line and hose. Before you leave the lab, double check the gas main to ensure you’ve turned off the gas. It should take about five minutes for the burner to cool. Even when it’s cool, remember to handle it only from its base to reinforce safety habits. When it’s cool, remove the supply hose, and return it and the burner to the proper lab storage area.

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Закройте отверстия подачи воздуха, чтобы получить холодное пламя. Поверните игольчатый клапан по часовой стрелке и закройте его. Выключите подачу газа из магистрали. Подождите, пока горелка остынет, прежде чем ставить ее на место.


Article in English: If your floor is very dirty or has not been washed in a long time, it can be helpful to use a granite-safe cleaning solution, such as Method Granite Cleaner Spray or Weiman Granite Cleaner. Never use “all-purpose” household cleaning products on granite.  Ventilate the area. If you choose to clean your granite with a store-bought granite solution, it likely will give off fumes from the chemicals. Open a window to maintain better airflow while you work.  Spray the cleaner on one tile at a time, wiping with a soft cloth. If you spray on many tiles at once and the solution is left standing, it may stain your granite.  Dry thoroughly with a soft cloth to minimize water stains. For deep or set-in stains, apply a poultice to draw the stain out of the stone. Mix baking soda and water until the mixture has the consistency of sour cream. Spread the paste on the stain and cover with plastic wrap. Leave it covered for 24 hours. After 24 hours, wash the paste off as you would normally clean your granite tiles, with soap and warm water. Grout is a magnet for dirt and dust. If dirty grout is making your tiles appear less clean, seek out a granite-safe grout cleaner, such as Granite Gold Grout Cleaner or Tile Lab Grout Cleaner. Many normal grout formulas are abrasive and will damage your granite tile. Use a toothbrush or other small brush to clean the grout between your granite tiles. This will ensure the grout cleaner is applied in a more targeted manner. Always avoid using harsh scrubbers of any kind on your granite tile.

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Возьмите безопасный для гранита чистящий раствор, чтобы выполнить более сложную работу. Попробуйте вывести въевшиеся пятна примочкой из пищевой соды. Очищайте межплиточные швы керамогранитной плитки с помощью безопасных для гранита средств.


Article in English: If your food, clothing, or other goods had to travel a long distance to get to you, it probably used a lot of water in doing so. The production of gasoline uses many gallons of water, so try to purchase local foods and merchandise to reduce your water footprint.  Shop for your food at a local farmers market, or find local boutiques where you can purchase clothing. Instead of heading to huge chain stores such as Walmart or Target, try to buy your goods from individual local businesses that specialize in what you need. Growing animal feed uses tons of water, not to mention the amount of water used in the rest of the meat and dairy production process. Learn to fish and hunt responsibly for more sustainable animal protein.  The more domesticated meat and dairy you eat, the more animals are needed to keep up with the demand, so try to limit your intake of such foods. Every step needed to process food uses lots of water. By eating fresher food, not only will you cut down on your water footprint, but you'll also feel healthier! Sugar cane uses much more water to grow than most other crops - cut out those sugary foods to help save water and stay healthier. All of those other beverages —wine, tea, soda, juice — took water to produce too. More water is used to help power the factory where the soda is made and grow the fruits and sugar used in juice than is worth the large water footprint it causes. Instead of drinking a soft drink, opt for plain water - the health advantages are in your favor as well as the Earth's. By carpooling to school, biking to work, or taking a bus to run errands, you'll cut down on energy use as well as water use. As stated earlier, it takes many gallons of water to produce one gallon of gasoline, so do your part and try to drive less. It takes hundreds of gallons of water to produce everything from a t-shirt to a ream of paper. Donate old clothes, furniture, or any other household items to charities or donation centers, and recycle your paper, plastics, and metals. Reduce, reuse, recycle is...

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Покупайте и употребляйте местные продукты. Ешьте меньше мяса и молочных продуктов. Сократите употребление продуктов высокой переработки. Пейте воду. Договаривайтесь о совместных поездках на автомобиле, пользуйтесь велосипедом или общественным транспортом. Находите повторное применение использованным товарам или сдавайте их на переработку.


Article in English: If your fraction contains a sum of two terms in the denominator, at least one of which is irrational, then you cannot multiply the fraction by it in the numerator and denominator. 42+2{\displaystyle {\frac {4}{2+{\sqrt {2}}}}} To see why this is the case, write an arbitrary fraction 1a+b,{\displaystyle {\frac {1}{a+b}},} where a{\displaystyle a} and b{\displaystyle b} are irrational. Then the expression (a+b)(a+b)=a2+2ab+b2{\displaystyle (a+b)(a+b)=a^{2}+2ab+b^{2}} contains a cross-term 2ab.{\displaystyle 2ab.} If at least one of a{\displaystyle a} and b{\displaystyle b} is irrational, then the cross-term will contain a radical. Let's see how this works with our example. 42+2⋅2+22+2=4(2+2)4+42+2{\displaystyle {\frac {4}{2+{\sqrt {2}}}}\cdot {\frac {2+{\sqrt {2}}}{2+{\sqrt {2}}}}={\frac {4(2+{\sqrt {2}})}{4+4{\sqrt {2}}+2}}}  As you can see, there's no way we can get rid of the 42{\displaystyle 4{\sqrt {2}}} in the denominator after doing this. The conjugate of an expression is the same expression with the sign reversed. For example, the conjugate of 2+2{\displaystyle 2+{\sqrt {2}}} is 2−2.{\displaystyle 2-{\sqrt {2}}.}  42+2⋅2−22−2{\displaystyle {\frac {4}{2+{\sqrt {2}}}}\cdot {\frac {2-{\sqrt {2}}}{2-{\sqrt {2}}}}} Why does the conjugate work? Going back to our arbitrary fraction 1a+b,{\displaystyle {\frac {1}{a+b}},} multiplying by the conjugate in the numerator and denominator results in the denominator being (a+b)(a−b)=a2−b2.{\displaystyle (a+b)(a-b)=a^{2}-b^{2}.} The key here is that there are no cross-terms. Since both of these terms are being squared, any square roots will be eliminated. 42+2⋅2−22−2=4(2−2)4−2=4−22{\displaystyle {\frac {4}{2+{\sqrt {2}}}}\cdot {\frac {2-{\sqrt {2}}}{2-{\sqrt {2}}}}={\frac {4(2-{\sqrt {2}})}{4-2}}=4-2{\sqrt {2}}}

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Изучите дробь. Умножьте числитель и знаменатель на бином, сопряженный двучлену в знаменателе. Упростите дробь (если возможно).


Article in English: If your frequent heartburn symptoms persist for more than two weeks despite efforts with OTC medications, then make an appointment with your doctor. Since recurrent bouts of heartburn are often indicative of gastroesophageal reflux disorder (GERD), your doctor may ask you to submit to some diagnostic testing to help determine the best way to treat you. These tests will also examine you for a complication of GERD called erosive esophagitis, which is when your stomach acid has done actual damage to your esophagus. Tests for the condition include:  X-rays to look at the shape and condition of both your esophagus and your stomach An endoscopy, which will check for abnormalities along your esophagus caused by long-term esophageal erosion due to stomach acid, especially if you are over fifty or have had GERD for longer than five years An ambulatory acid probe test, which measures when acid backs up into your esophagus and for what duration Your doctor may also biopsy some of the cells found in your lower esophagus to test for a condition called Barrett’s esophagus, which is a precancerous condition resulting from long-term GERD symptoms. However, this is only a small percentage of those with GERD. Both H2 blockers and proton pump inhibitors are available in prescription strength from your doctor. If OTC strengths of these drugs haven’t controlled your symptoms, then your doctor will likely first recommend a prescription option to control your symptoms. For GERD that isn’t controlled by medication and which has developed into erosive esophagitis, your doctor may even discuss surgical options with you. These options include:  Fundoplication, which is when your surgeon wraps a small section of your stomach around your lower esophageal sphincter, which helps strengthen the muscle, allowing less stomach acid to pass through it Inserting a device (such as a Linx) that is implanted along your lower esophageal sphincter to help strengthen it

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Обратитесь к врачу. Пройдите необходимые тесты и анализы. Узнайте у врача насчет рецептурных препаратов. Обсудите с врачом возможность операции.


Article in English: If your friend doesn't know that you have a romantic interest in them, tell them in a straightforward but non-threatening way. Explain that you are attracted to them and want to pursue a romantic relationship with them. Make it clear that you will understand if they don't feel the same way but that you wanted to be honest about your feelings either way.  For instance, say, "I have strong feelings for you and I want to be more than just a friend, but I will totally understand if you aren't interested in taking things to the next level." An unrequited crush can put tension on a friendship over time, so it is good to be honest regardless of the outcome. Moving from friendship to romance is a risk that may be challenging to take. Share any worries you have about losing your close relationship to see if they feel the same way. Ask if there are any other concerns about the situation that they have to get a clear understanding of what obstacles may be facing you both. For example, say something like, "You're my best friend and I'm not sure if my romantic feelings for you are worth losing you entirely." Communicate your romantic wants and needs clearly to your partner from the start. Avoid the assumption that they will intuitively know how what will be okay with you and make you happy. Be sure to outline any behaviour that you consider unacceptable from a romantic partner so they know how you want to be treated. For instance, say something like, "I believe in monogamy and I can't tolerate cheating in a romantic relationship." After transitioning from friendship to a relationship, you may think that you already know what your partner wants romantically. Always check with your partner to see what goals and desires they have as these may change over time, and in different situations. If you catch yourself guessing what they might like, stop and ask them about it to double check. They will appreciate your effort and concern about their feelings. For instance, if your partner noted in the past that they didn't want a...

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Сообщите о своем интересе, если вы все еще просто друзья. Поделитесь своими опасениями с лучшим другом, чтобы сохранить искренность в отношениях. Установите границы новых отношений, чтобы избежать недопонимания. Не стройте предположений насчет желаний своего партнера.


Article in English: If your friend has attached their real name to their YouTube account, you’ll be able to find them through the Search function. You can do this on the YouTube website or in the mobile app.  If you know your friend’s YouTube username, you can type that instead. To search in the mobile app, tap the magnifying glass icon to bring up the search box. This icon looks like a magnifying glass. Once the search is complete, a list of results will appear on your screen. On YouTube, your friend’s homepage is called a channel. If your friend has uploaded content, posted a comment, or created a playlist, they have a channel. Click “Filter” at the top of your search results and select “Channel” beneath “Type”. In the app, click the icon at the top right (three horizontal lines with vertical lines crossing through), then select “Channels” from the “Content Type” drop-down. If your friend has a common name, several channels may appear in the search results. Browse each channel by clicking the profile photo to the right of its name. Once you’ve located your friend, you can subscribe to their channel by clicking (or tapping) the red “Subscribe” button. This button appears at the top of the user’s channel.

Summary in Russian:

Введите имя своего друга в поисковое поле на YouTube. Нажмите или коснитесь иконки поиска в виде лупы. Отфильтруйте результаты поиска по каналам. Найдите канал своего друга. Подпишитесь на канал своего друга.


Article in English: If your friend has just been rejected, she may not want to hear the things she could improve on in order to improve her odds next time. While there may be things that she’s said or done that contributed to the rejection, or her even if her job loss or her relationship with the boyfriend wasn't ideal, unsolicited advice may be difficult for your friend to benefit from at this time.  For example, this isn’t the time to remind her that she spent a lot of time complaining about the job she just lost, or the man who just broke up with her. Rejection can hurt regardless of the circumstance, so being a good listener is an effective way to help a friend cope with this initial sting. If your friend says that she doesn’t know what she’s doing wrong, and asks you for help figuring it out, then you might offer a gentle suggestion. You don’t want to be too quick to talk about the “opportunity for growth” inherent in a rejection, but at the same time you might help your friend find ways to benefit from the experience. There are always positive aspects to any situation. Sometimes it takes a friend to help you find them.  For example, if she didn’t get the job she wanted, now she’ll be able to attend the family vacation she’d been looking forward to. Being single means having more freedom. Having a story rejected for publication means being able to submit it somewhere else. One way of supporting your friend is to help him navigate his pain. Ask him how he’s feeling, and affirm that his feelings are okay. If he knows that he can share painful things with you as a friend, without being rejected, this may help him feel better. Saying things like, “It sounds like you’re pretty broken up about things,” can help him feel supported. If your friend was deeply wounded by the rejection, she may not have words to articulate how she feels. She might just want to sit quietly with you. Being present and showing that you’re ready to listen when she’s ready to talk will be enough.  You can always offer a hug, or a gentle supportive touch....

Summary in Russian:

Не навязывайте другу свои советы, если он об этом не просил. Помогите другу переосмыслить отказ. Разделите с человеком его чувства. Будьте готовы побыть в тишине.


Article in English: If your friend is a child, it is imperative that you speak to an adult soon to help your friend escape an abusive situation.  It can be difficult for children to identify abuse at the hands of their parents or teachers, but other adults can help.  Tell a teacher if you believe your friend is being abused by their parents at home. Let your friend know that their parents should not be hurting them, and that there is help available. You cannot make the decision for your friend to leave; they must do it themselves.  As much as you may believe it’s the right thing, forcing the issue may make your friend stop speaking to you.  Instead, explain how important it is to you that your friend leave the abuser.  Describe how worried you are about your friend and what you fear may happen if they don’t leave. Encourage your friend to have faith in themselves and to seek a better life. You may need to contact the police if you or your friend feel that they may be in danger.  The police cannot solve the problem for your friend, but they can provide a safe way for your friend to leave.  Your friend may be uncomfortable discussing the abuse with the police, so you may need to encourage them to do so. Domestic violence is a crime, and the abuser may be arrested and charged if there is evidence of the abuse at the time they are called. If you witness an assault yourself, call the police and inform of them of what is happening.  Do not attempted to intervene yourself. Your support may provide your friend with the strength they need to escape an abuser.  Make sure they know that you will help any way that you can and that you are there for them.  If there are specific things you can do to help them escape an abuser, offer them to your friend.  Offer to help with child care if your friend needs someone to watch their children. Offer a place to stay until your friend can get back on their own feet. Making such a dramatic life change can be daunting and traumatic, but it’s important to keep reminding your friend that it’s for the best...

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Если ваш друг — ребенок, поговорите со взрослым. Придавайте ему духу для исполнения плана безопасности и прекращения отношений. Подумайте о привлечении правоохранительных органов. Предложите свою помощь при внесении изменений. Поощряйте друга оставаться сильным. Дайте другу пространство, но не отворачивайтесь от него.


Article in English: If your friend is addicted to drugs or alcohol, they may need serious counseling.  As a good friend, you want to support them in their fight against addiction but cutting ties in an act of “tough love” is often the only way to get them to wake up.  An intervention is a serious event where the addict’s loved ones and friends gather to confront the individual in question about their unhealthy habits.  The upshot of the intervention is an ultimatum that unless they sober up, they will have no-one left to turn to for friendship or financial aid, as you and the rest of their family and friends can no longer stand by and watch them self-destruct. Interventions are serious affairs and should be treated as such. Alternately, if your friend is a bad influence on you and encourages you to take up drugs and drink at the same rate they do, you should not continue to be friends with them.  Such an individual is not looking out for your best interests.  Ending a friendship with an addict who will not change is the best option to keep you healthy. A friend with a drinking problem can be a threat not themselves and others, but a burden as well.  You may find yourself worrying about them, or embarrassed to be associated with them  A friend like this should be let go to protect your own mental health and well-being. Maybe your friend is irritating.  He or she complains all the time.  They are like a broken record about some (ever-changing) problem or fixation -- a new girlfriend or boyfriend, a “totally sweet” car they want, or a rotten boss at work.  For instance, maybe your friend wants a “totally sweet ride,” and can’t tell that you aren’t interested in looking at yet another picture of it or hearing how fast it can go from zero to sixty.  A few days later, they do the same thing -- with another model car.  The cycle continues.  Being friends with annoying people is hard work -- sometimes, too hard.  Such a friend may not be worth the trouble and irritation they cause. Perhaps your friend calls or texts you nonstop.  They...

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Организуйте интервенцию. Докучающий друг. Насколько ваш друг заслуживает доверия. Друг, не признающий границ. Нападки со стороны друга. Как вы чувствуете себя рядом с другом / подругой?


Article in English: If your friend is going through a breakup, they may be itching to badmouth their ex or rant about it on social media, but this really won't do them any good. Try to convince them to take some time away from social media and to keep the details of their relationship private. This will also help them avoid seeing anything that their ex and/or friends may have posted about the breakup. A technology timeout may be appropriate for other kinds of heartbreak as well, especially if they are being overwhelmed by people expressing their sympathy. Some activities will just make your friend's pain worse, so try to identify destructive habits that get your friend upset and discourage them from doing those things. Let them know how you feel about this and encourage them to stop the behavior.  Make sure your friend is not harassing their ex after a breakup. If they keep calling their ex or asking everyone they know about what their ex is doing, let them know that you are concerned. If your friend just lost their job, discourage them from reading (or posting) negative reviews about their former company online. It can be easy to neglect your health when you're going through a tough time, so make sure your friend is not doing this. If you notice that they are not getting enough sleep, not eating properly, or have started drinking or taking drugs, express your concern and encourage them to make healthier choices.  Sit your friend down for a one-on-one intervention if you notice any of this behavior. They may not even realize what they are doing to themselves. If you are really concerned about your friend, talk to other people who can help you help them. This is especially important if your friend is a minor. Their parents need to know about their destructive behavior. There are mixed views on whether or not it is a good idea to get into a new relationship right after a breakup. If your friend is jumping into a new relationship right after breaking up with someone else, it may be a good idea to talk to them about their reasons...

Summary in Russian:

Предложите подруге взять тайм-аут от общения в социальных сетях. Не поддерживайте обсессивное поведение. Обращайте внимание на вредные привычки. Относитесь с осторожностью к новым отношениям вашей подруги.


Article in English: If your friend is in denial about his or her weight problems, or if your mate is simply not interested in changing diet or exercise habits, more overt efforts on your part are unlikely to influence him or her to make a commitment to lose weight. Do research on healthy, balanced diet or exercise programs and ask if your friend will join you in trying to follow the new plan. Frame the discussion as if your mate will be the one helping you stick to a commitment to be healthier, instead of the other way around. If you feel comfortable gently and directly addressing the matter, privately ask if he or she has thought about trying to lose weight.  If your friend is already trying, offer your support and encouragement. If your mate is offended at the idea or sees no reason to lose weight, consider discussing your concerns about his or her health or drop the matter for a month or two to give the idea time to take hold in his or her head. Chances are, your mate is privately aware of his or her need to lose weight and is simply embarrassed to discuss the matter or to realize that someone else is concerned enough to mention it directly.

Summary in Russian:

Оцените, насколько близкий человек готов к похудению. Предложите попробовать новую диету вместе. Спросите у близкого человека, подумывал ли он начать худеть.


Article in English: If your friend is regularly insulting or belittling you, or starting arguments over all kinds of things, they are not being a good friend. If your friend is doing this, confront them, and ask them to stop. If your friend doesn't, that is not a good sign.  Types of insults can include teasing, sarcasm, and cynicism, comments that may sound like jokes, but are meant to hurt you. Some insults are more subtle, like backhanded compliments (complimenting you for negative things) or guilt-tripping (where your friend blames you for their distresses and problems). In many cases, your friend may try to pass these insults off as humor, and ridicule you for taking them personally. It is possible that your friend doesn't know they are insulting you. If you are concerned, confront them. If your friend didn't know, they may apologize right away. If your friend doesn't like you, they probably aren't making much of an effort to stay in touch. This means not just talking, but emails, texting, or any other form of communication. If you and your friend aren't talking very much, it is hard to say that you are still really friends.  This reduced communication can refer to frequency or length. You may not talk as often as you used to. Or, if you do talk, your conversations are now very short, and you find that you don't have much to talk about. You can also see this if you are the one making an effort at communication. Friendship takes effort. If you are the only one trying to stay in touch, then your friend is probably not interested. Along with not talking much, chances are your friend won't have been keeping you up to date with changes in their life. Friendship takes effort, and you shouldn't learn new things about your friend only through other people or social media. If you try to make plans, and your friend says they are too busy but is later out with other friends during that time, that would be a sign of rejection.  People change, have new interests, and new friends. If your friend appears to be doing other things with new...

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Обратите внимание на любые проявления агрессии и негативных эмоций в ваш адрес. Обратите внимание на то, как часто вы общаетесь. Спросите себя, каким образом вы узнаете о новостях и изменениях в жизни друга? Стоит насторожиться, если ваш друг начинает игнорировать вас, чтобы провести время с другими людьми. Подумайте о том, каково это  — быть рядом со своим другом?


Article in English: If your friend isn't suffering from a major loss, then you can cheer him or her up by making a small joke or acting like a goofball. If they don't respond, don't push it! But if you give it some time and start trying to cheer your friend up through laughter, it may pay off. Laughter really is the best medicine, and if you can make a joke about the situation that isn't offensive, or just poke fun at yourself to distract your friend, it'll offer some temporary relief. Obviously, if your friend is absolutely devastated, then humor is not your best bet. Keep them as busy as possible. You don't have to drag your friend out to the clubs or put together an elaborate surprise party. You should come over to your friend's house with a movie and a big 'ole tub of popcorn. Go for a walk. Keeping your friend busy can take some of the pain away, even if your friend is resisting at first. They'll need some prodding, and some "fun patrolling," but that's what you're there for.  Your friend may say something like, "I don't want to hang out because I'm just going to be a major downer..." and you can say, "That's ridiculous! I love hanging out with you no matter what." Your friend may be hanging out in his cave-like bedroom. Just getting him or her out of the house and into some fresh air, even if you're only walking to the coffee shop down the street, will do him good physically and mentally. If your friend is really upset, then it's likely that he or she is neglecting his basic duties and chores. That's where you come in. If your friend is forgetting to eat, bring over some lunch or come over and cook dinner. If your friend hasn't done laundry in two months, bring over some detergent (you'll both be thankful for it). Pick up your friend's mail. If he or she is staying home from school, pick up his homework assignments. These little favors may not seem like that big of a deal when your friend is incredibly upset, but they do add up. They aren't a helpless little puppy, but they do need some coddling and support if they are...

Summary in Russian:

Заставьте вашего друга смеяться, если проблема не слишком серьезная. Отвлеките вашего друга. Сделайте что-нибудь полезное для вашего друга. Проверяйте вашего друга. Просто будьте рядом.


Article in English: If your friend means something to you, you should be sure that he or she is using you before you decide to cut all ties. You can do this by confronting your friend in a calm, rational way. Keep in mind that if deep down he or she is a good friend, he or she was not using you but was merely oblivious and will likely be willing to change. If your friend is using you and gets upset and you lose him or her as a friend as a result of the confrontation, that is probably for the best anyway. When you confront your friend, be sure to do it in a quiet spot so that he or she doesn't get agitated. Make sure you are in a place that you can both speak your minds freely without feeling overly self-conscious. Avoid places like crowded restaurants with tables close together. Try bringing up the conversation with your friend on a walk in a nice park. Do not bring other friends into the mix, even if they have the same complaint. Having other friends there could be overwhelming and could scare your friend off or make him or her especially upset. If one person criticizes you for something, you may be willing to take the advice and change. If several people criticize you at the same time, you may feel threatened and get offended; after all, it means that all those people had sat around and talked negatively about you, which could be frustrating. Explain your reasons for suspecting that your friend is using you and see what he or she says. Lay out specific details so that your friend cannot just shrug it off, call you accusatory, or a liar.  However, do not be too nit-picky in your examples; your friend could turn the tables on you and call you petty. Make sure you speak about your friend's actions and not his or her character. If you make it about specific actions, your friend will be less likely to get upset; if you call your friend a user, he or she may get upset and the conversation will quickly dissolve. For example, you could say something like, "I gave you rides when your car was being repaired last month. However, when my...

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Подготовьтесь. Найдите спокойное место. Поговорите с другом наедине. Говорите спокойно, но убедительно. Ждите извинений. Будьте готовы к разрыву отношений, если чувствуете, что вас использовали, и невозможно ничего сделать, чтобы продолжать дружбу.


Article in English: If your friend mistreats you or doesn’t show respect, letting that friend go is a good idea.  For instance, perhaps he or she fails to take your concerns and problems seriously when you share them with him or her, or maybe they are kind in private but belittle you in front of others.  Or, worse, they disparage you both publicly and privately.  A lack of respect toward you might be indirect, aimed at your work or your partner.  If your friend is constantly making negative comments about your wife or husband (“She’s not very bright” / “He’s not very good-looking”) you should reconsider having that person in your life. If you suspect your friend is talking badly about you behind your back, get as much information as you can.  Who heard the comment?  When and where did they hear it?  If the source is reliable, you should take what they reported seriously.  If more than one person overheard the comment, ask both separately what was said about you.  If the reports about what was said correspond with each other, they are probably telling the truth. With this information in hand, confront your friend about what they said.  If they deny it, give them the benefit of the doubt.  For instance, perhaps Sam heard your friend Joe call you stupid.  After asking Sam when and where he heard the comment, confront Joe about the situation.  Ask him if he was at the place Sam recalled overhearing the statement about you, and if he saw Sam there.  Finally, ask Joe if he said what was reported to you.  If he admits to making the comment, you should seriously consider ending the friendship.  Badmouthing a friend behind their back is not a sign of friendship. If you continually receive negative reports about things your friend said about you, it might be time to put an end to the friendship and stop believing their lies.  Friends who disrespect you are not worth your time and energy. Does your friend constantly make you feel dumb?  Are they critical of your point of view and unwilling to consider your opinions as valid?  Do they...

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Выясните, уважают ли вас. Поведение друга заставляет вас чувствовать себя недостойным человеком? Чувствуете ли вы свою важность для друга? Друг, который «динамит» вас. Возможно, ваш друг пользуется вами.


Article in English: If your friend only wants to talk to you or spend time with you when in need of help or advice, or if it is always about your friend's needs, then it's possible you're being used.   Does your "friend" ever call or text to hear about your day? Or does he or she only run to you when in need something? It could be a ride to the store, cigarettes, a bit of weed, a place to stay for the night, you're their fall guy when in need of a quick fix. Take note of whether this is a continued pattern of behavior. After all, helping out friends is a part of friendship; sometimes people get down on their luck and need help. But, if this is occurring all of the time, or it is the only context where you interact, then it is possible you are being used. A real friend does not betray your secrets, particularly in a way that could damage you. To assess whether your friend can be trusted, think back on whether your friend has leaked private information about you; especially if it is for personal gain. If so, it is possible that you are being used. Think about her relationship with her other friends. Does your friend betray the trust of his or her other friends or otherwise use them? If so, this is a sign that that your friend could be using you as well. Does your friend often exclude you from social events? A friend who is not using you would be inclusive and inviting, particularly among a group of friends that you both already know.  Keep in mind that friends do not need to invite each other to every social event that they attend; but if your friend never invites you to anything, and only reaches out when in need of something, your friend could be using you. If your friend mentions having plans with a group of friends that you also know, but you have not been invited, try asking if you can come too. Pay attention to the response. If there are no real logistical reasons why you could not attend and your friend still does not invite you, or makes up some flaky excuse for why you cannot attend, it is possible you are being used and...

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Обратите внимание, не вспоминает ли о вас человек только тогда, когда ему что-то нужно. Подумайте, можете ли вы доверять этому другу. Подумайте, не игнорирует ли вас ваш друг. Следите за действиями друга. Обратите внимание на игры на чувстве вины. Подумайте, нет ли у вашего друга склонности к контролю. Доверьтесь своим инстинктам.


Article in English: If your friend or family member just got news about bad grades, you could help cheer him or her up by planning a spontaneous trip. If you are able to drive, select an interesting destination that you can visit and return from within a day. If you are not driving, be creative and come up with a cool place you can visit around your community. The spontaneity of taking an unexpected trip can help get the person’s mind off poor academics temporarily. This can also be a great way to shake up a boring routine and have a little fun. As the old saying goes, “laughter is the best medicine.” Make your friend crack up and roll over with giggles, if only for a brief moment. Laughter is a terrific way to cheer a friend up after getting a bad report card. Plus, studies demonstrate that it soothes tension and is good for your overall health. Browse YouTube for hilarious videos of animals or babies. Or, turn on your TV and watch a comedy. The point is to help your friend lighten the load for a bit and take some of the stress away. Has your friend or family member been locked up in his or her room sulking over bad grades? A quick and cost-free way to lift his or her mood and provide a distraction is to simply go outside. Aim for somewhere green and natural rather than a cityscape, if possible. Research shows that walking in a natural environment reduces the amount of cortisol, or stress hormone, in the body. Help your friend move his or her body and generate some endorphins with an old-school dance party. Put together a playlist of your favorite songs and show up on his or her doorstep ready to shake your groove thing! Dancing can improve mood and boost self-esteem in addition to providing an excellent workout. Dancing can also offer a method of release. Your friend may be able to express anger, frustration, and disappointment more easily by channeling these emotions into body movements.

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Предложите совершить однодневное путешествие. Посмотрите комедию или смешные ролики. Сходите на прогулку. Устройте танцевальную вечеринку.


Article in English: If your friend or partner is often reaching out to talk, he probably misses you when you're not around. Everyone has different styles around communication, but frequent phone calls and messages are a good sign of investment in a relationship. When someone misses you, he will sound engaged and eager when you do speak. If your friend sounds distracted when you're catching up after a long time, it may be a sign that he didn't miss you. If you feel anxious or insecure when your partner is away, it's better to be honest about it. Asking, “Did you miss me?” or “Do you still love me?” is unlikely to address your real feelings. If your partner says, “Yes,” you might not believe her, while if she says, “No,” you'll feel even worse. Instead, ask directly for the reassurance that you need. For example, you could say: “I've had a terrible day and I'm feeling pretty lonely and insecure tonight. Can you indulge me with some extra support and tell me that you love me and miss me?” If your friend or partner shares images or links that made her think of you, it means just that: she's thinking of you. When you are not together, you are still in your friend's mind.  Presents are another way of demonstrating caring and engagement. Even if you don't always love the thing a friend or partner got you, recognize that this, too, is evidence that she was thinking about you when you were not together.  If he is eager to tell you about the details of his boring conference or flight connections, recognize that it's probably because he wants to keep talking to you. Sharing mundane details is a way of maintaining connection across distance and shows that he misses you when you are apart. If you are far apart, it may be harder to read the signs of affection in your partner's body. If you can talk by video, look for a tilted head and sustained eye-contact. Over the phone, a softer or higher tone of voice conveys intimacy. Pair bonding between couples means that separation can cause increased stress and anxiety. If she is especially worried...

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Обратите внимание на то, как часто ваш любимый звонит или посылает вам сообщения. Обращайте внимание на тон его голоса. Будьте честны, когда вы чувствуете себя неуверенно. Обратите внимание на то, делится ли с вами близкий человек информацией. Обратите внимание на невербальные знаки. Обратите внимание на признаки, которые могут указывать на то, что ваш близкий страдает от разлуки с вами.


Article in English: If your friends are constantly trying to make the group your only social outlet, you should think about leaving the group of friends.  They might also badmouth your other friends, family, or significant other in an effort to pressure you into spending less time with them.  Leave groups of friends like this as soon as possible. People often do what they see others do.  Whether for good or ill, friends are a major influence in your life.  If your friends engage in negative behaviors, you should leave the group of friends before you get yourself into trouble with them.  You should consider leaving your group of friends if they:  Steal goods from stores Abuse drugs and alcohol Vandalize public or private property Engage in other immoral or illegal acts If your friends often ignore you when arranging outings, you should think about leaving them.  This might be an indirect form of bullying (bullying by exclusion).  Friends who do this do not value your company, and are not friends at all. If you have a group of friends who only want to spend time with you when they need something, they are bad friends.  If you’re providing money, food, or a place to crash for your group of friends and your generosity is not being reciprocated, you are being taken advantage of and should leave the group. If your friends are always trying to one-up you, it’s time to leave that group of friends.  Avoid friends who try to minimize your accomplishments.  They are bad friends and not worth keeping.  For example, if you tell your friends that you got a 93% on your test, and they brag that your score is not that great because they got an even higher score, they are bad friends. Conversely, if you say that you’re having a bad day, and your friends insist that they are having even worse days, consider leaving the friend group. Spending time with friends should make us feel invigorated, refreshed, and energized.  If you find yourself making excuses to avoid your group of friends, they are probably not good for your mental health. Friends that...

Summary in Russian:

Друзья управляют вами. Друзья плохо влияют на вас. Друзья игнорируют вас. Друзья обращаются к вам только в беде. Друзья соперничают с вами. Общение истощает вас.


Article in English: If your friends insist on an explanation as to why you’re leaving the group, be honest no matter what your reasons are.  Do not, for instance, tell your friends that you are moving out of state just to avoid them or leave the group.  Instead, be open and honest about why you want or need to leave the group of friends. If it’s easier for you to express yourself in writing, there’s nothing wrong with sending an email or letter to a group of friends (or the ringleader of a group of friends) explaining your grievances. Sometimes the truth hurts.  Try to find a way to be honest and respectful at the same time.  For instance, if you’re leaving a group of friends because they no longer share your interests or if you find that they are very boring, try a diplomatic approach by explaining to them that, “I just have a hard time relating to you.”  Don’t rub the fact that you’re leaving the group in their faces.  Emphasize your own feelings and point of view, and avoid accusatory “you” statements like, “You are very boring.” Lies will only lead to more lies.  It’s best to be honest about your reasons for leaving a group. Sometimes vague answers work best, since they can be both honest and respectful.  For instance, “I’m busy,” or “I’ve been traveling,” may work as explanations for friends who want to know why you aren’t spending as much time with them. Friends — especially friends of long standing — will often try to pull you back into the group.  Be firm in your decision to leave the group.  Don’t give in to group pressure or bullying.  For instance, if someone tries to get you to remain in the group of friends, say, “I’m sorry, I am very busy.” Or “We've had some great times but I need some time apart from the group right now.” Be calm and graceful when declining invitations to hang out with the group of friends you wish to leave (or have already left).

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Будьте искренни Уважайте чувства друзей. Стойте на своем.


Article in English: If your friends know that you have feelings for a certain girl, its possible that they will tell their friends, then their friends will tell their friends and so on.  At some point, this knowledge will reach the very ears it was never meant to -- those of the girl you like. Write down all the thoughts and ideas you have about the girl you like in the diary.  Write down the things you’d like to say to her but aren’t ready to yet. Do not express your feelings on social media like Twitter or Facebook.  Even if you’re vague, it’s possible that someone could piece together what and who you’re talking about, and your cover would be blown. The more you focus elsewhere, the less you’ll be focused on her.  Your new hobbies will give you a needed distraction, and help you hide your feelings.   Find something that you enjoy and that engages your attention and energy in positive ways. Developing a skill will help you build confidence.  If you feel uncomfortable revealing your feelings to a girl you like because you doubt your ability to woo her, gaining confidence by learning new abilities can potentially solve your problem. If you’re not around her, there’s no way to reveal your feelings.  You’ll never be faced with a situation in which you inadvertently admit to your affection for her, or in which you just become so frustrated by not admitting how you feel that you spill the beans.  Further, you'll never have nosy friends picking up on your potentially unusual behavior when you're in the presence of your crush.  Spend time with family and friends instead of her. Avoidance includes online interaction and texting.  Do not browse her social media profiles or text her as an alternative to spending time with/around her.

Summary in Russian:

Не говорите никому о своих чувствах. Ведите дневник. Найдите новое увлечение вроде рисования, игры на музыкальном инструменте или катания на скейте. Не проводите с ней время.


Article in English: If your friends spend time around the guy in question, see if they'll help you figure out how he really friends. For instance, you could ask them to bring you up when you're not around, and see if he has anything to say.  For example, your friend might say, "I think Jamie looks really nice today. Sam, what do you think?" If he jumps on the chance to talk about you, he probably has a crush. If he rolls his eyes or says anything unkind, he probably doesn't. If you really want to know what he's thinking but you haven't quite worked up the courage to ask, try asking his closest friends. Of course, they're probably going to tell him as soon as they talk to him, but it can give you a little insight. You might try saying, "Hey, Stephen, I was wondering if Chris likes me. We hang out a lot, but I'm too shy to ask him." Chances are, if you ask a guy up-front about his feelings, he'll probably tell you. However, try to do it when it's just the two of you, because if he feels put on the spot in front of other people, he might feel too embarrassed to answer. If you're hanging out with a group of people, you might say something like, "Hey Damon, will you walk with me to get a drink?" When you're out of earshot, you could say, "Lately I've been wondering where we stand. Do you like me as more than a friend?" If you're ready to find out for sure what the guy is feeling but you don't want to just come out and ask him directly, find a time when the two of you are alone, and let him know how you feel about him. If you tell him that you like him, he'll probably tell you whether he feels the same or not.  If you'd rather keep things platonic, you might say, "Hey Josh, I just wanted to tell you... We've been hanging out a lot, and you're a really great friend. But, some of my friends think I have a crush on you, and I don't see you that way. I just wanted to let you know." If you like him, try saying something like, "So, I'm not sure exactly how you feel, but I like you a lot, and not just as a friend." Sometimes talking to...

Summary in Russian:

Спросите друзей, как парень отзывается о вас, когда вас нет рядом. Поговорите с друзьями парня, если вы не готовы задать ему прямой вопрос. Прямо спросите парня, чтобы получить определенный ответ. Признайтесь в своих чувствах. Напишите записку или сообщение, если вы стесняетесь.