Article in English: People may notice that you two aren’t friends anymore and ask you what went down. It’s okay to say something non-specific, like “we just kind of drifted apart,” but don’t get into the details. Talking trash about your former friend is mean and immature, no matter what happened to cause the friendship to fall apart. If your friend gets nasty, spreading rumors or gossiping about you on social media, try not to engage. There’s no point in dragging things out or defending yourself to someone you don’t even want to be friends with anymore. But most importantly don't do the same to her. If you talk behind somebodies back, word will most definitely come out. If anything, it shows that you made the right decision. Things might be awkward for a while, and your friend may be angry or hurt, but treat her with kindness and respect. Remember that this is someone  who was once your friend—maybe even your best friend—so honor what you had. Don’t do the look-of-death thing or straight-up ignore her. Just give her a small smile or nod of acknowledgment and move along. If she talks to you, turn it into a friendly conversation that won't lead into getting closer. Try to keep talks short until she feels as if you don't seem interesting. Ending one friendship may cause ripples if you’re part of the same group. Mutual friends may take sides, ask you to reconcile with her, or even get angry.  Try not to get upset if some of your mutual friends feel they need to take sides. This may happen, and it’s going to hurt, but those people are petty and looking for drama, and you don’t need them in your life.

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Не сплетничайте, если люди будут расспрашивать вас, в чем дело. Будьте вежливы при случайной встрече с бывшей подругой. Не втягивайтесь в скандал, если ваши общие друзья переживают за ваш разрыв.


Article in English: People may react initially to physical attractiveness, but studies have found that they will re-evaluate their perception of that attractiveness based on personality traits.  Listen to people when they talk. You don't have to be a doormat to listen to others and people will notice that you have taken an interest in their words. Kindness is one of the most important traits in rating attractiveness according to Yale psychologist, Paul Bloom. This means helping others out when they need it and not being judgmental about others (see steps above). Remember that beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder. Different cultural groups have different beauty norms. The obsession with thin being pretty only really began in the 1960s. Remember that the people in magazines and movies and t.v. shows have a whole army of hairstylists, make-up artists, lighting, and photoshop. Of course you don't look like them. They don't even look like them.

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Привлекайте людей своей добротой, уважением и приятным характером. Определите, как вы понимаете привлекательность.


Article in English: People more easily warm to someone who is authentic, honest, and genuine. Part of being yourself means staying authentic, even in the face of fads and trends. It's natural to experiment and try new things at any age to discover your likes, dislikes, and what makes you feel good and comfortable. People find braggers and conceited individuals to be less nice than humble folks. The more you appreciate others instead, the nicer your friend will think you are.  We often try to impress people to make them like us. Instead of playing the ‘how awesome can I make myself sound’ game, speak honestly and genuinely about yourself when asked but try to keep the focus on the other person, which will make him feel valued.  Be able to summarize what your friend is saying. This shows you are really listening and he will appreciate that. Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language and using it is the fastest way to build rapport.  Using someone’s name in conversation makes him feel important, valued, and respected, and makes a lasting positive impression. For a difficult name, ask the person to help you pronounce it. Don’t feel embarrassed by it – he will thank you for caring enough to ask. Being kind to others and open to the world naturally draws other people towards you.  Showing empathy and even some vulnerability may help someone bond with you on a more intimate level of humanity.  Show acceptance. Life comes in all walks, all races, all orientations, and the more accepting and, better yet, supportive and appreciative you are of other people, the nicer you will be seen.  Be polite and considerate and have good manners. Don’t try to fix other people. When you hear his problems, your friend will appreciate you asking questions to help him solve his own problems. Ask open-ended questions starting with “how” or “why” to get him thinking. Practice random acts of kindness. Even if no one is looking, you will feel better about yourself by being altruistic and studies show...

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Будьте самим собой. Проявляйте скромность в общении с другими. Называйте человека по имени. Научитесь сопереживать другим. Давайте другим и находите в этом радость.


Article in English: People often assume what they see is someone's personality, not a temporary reaction. If you see someone shouting, that is often the result of a bad day, not anger management issues. Psychologists call this the "fundamental attribution error" or "correspondence bias." People tend to think events are more about themselves than they actually are. If someone is acting stiff or rude, it's often because he's thinking of something else, not trying to offend you. If someone doesn't mention your new haircut, it's usually because he hasn't noticed, not because he wants to make you unhappy. Find something good you can say about the other person, and repeat it to yourself or out loud when you start complaining. If you don't know about any positive actions this person has done, compliment her on her clothing or her car. If she talks frequently about a topic, even if it's not one you are interested in, tell her you're impressed by her depth of knowledge on that topic. Get to know the other person by asking questions. Stay away from personal topics if you don't know him well, but follow up threads in the conversation by asking more about a person, place, or event that he mentions. Some people behave very differently in large groups or energetic environments than they do in one-on-one conversations or in quiet situations. If you would like to give someone another chance, try meeting them in a different context than you normally would. Invite them to a gathering with a different group of friends, or talk to a coworker over lunch in a cafe. If there's no hope for a friendship at this point, or at least a cordial acquaintanceship, move on to the next section.

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Не объясняйте поступки и поведение человека его личностными особенностями. Выясните, действительно ли поведение человека направлено именно на вас. Ищите плюсы. Задавайте вопросы. Попробуйте пообщаться с человеком в другой обстановке.


Article in English: People often develop the habit of lying from a very early age. Perhaps you learned as a child that you could get your way more often if you lied and you continued the practice as a teenager and beyond as a way to navigate the difficult situations we all encounter in life. Knowing the root cause of your lying is the first step to making a change.  Do you lie as a way to gain control over situations? When you can see a clear path to getting what you want through telling a lie, telling the truth is tough. Maybe you routinely lie as a way to make other people do what you want them to do. Do you lie as a way to make yourself look better? The pressure to compete inundates us from the moment we are able to comprehend what it means. Lying is an easy way to boost your status at work, in your social circle, and even with your loved ones  Maybe you lie as a way to comfort yourself. Telling the truth is often very difficult; it causes tension, awkwardness, and discomfort. Lying to others, and sometimes to yourself as well, prevents you from having to confront uncomfortable situations and feelings. Why stop lying when it makes life so much easier? If you don't have clear reasons for quitting, it's a lot harder to become a more honest person. Think hard about what effect lying has on your sense of self, your relationships, and the course of your life. Here are a few good reasons to stop lying:  To feel like an upright person again. When you lie, you distance yourself from reality. You hide parts of yourself and project something false to the world. Doing this repeatedly is going to have a negative effect on your sense of goodness and self worth. You deserve the relief of being able to tell the truth about yourself to the world. You are worth getting to know for who you really are. Regaining the ability to take pride in your true identity is probably the most important reason to stop lying. To  connect with others again. Lying to other people prevents true connection from taking place. Good relationships are based on...

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Выясните, почему вы врете. Определите, почему вы хотите остановиться. Дайте обещание остановиться.


Article in English: People often do not want to worry their loved ones, but it is imperative that they know what is going on if you suspect that you are having a heart attack. The situation could worsen to the point that you are unable to respond effectively. Inform them at the first signs of a heart attack so they can begin caring for you. If you are not around friends or family, try to inform anyone else who is around of your condition. It is important that someone knows what is happening to you. Aspirin is a blood thinner and can help in case of a heart attack. You should chew it, instead of swallowing it, because chewing it will cause it to reach your bloodstream more rapidly. Do not substitute the Aspirin for another painkiller.  A standard dose of approximately 325 mg should be sufficient. Evidence suggests that coated, enteric aspirin, which allows for slow absorption of the drug, is still beneficial to those suffering from a heart attack. There is reason to suspect, however, that un-coated aspirin are probably more effective.  Do not take aspirin if you are allergic to it, have stomach ulcers, recent bleeding or surgery, or another reason for which your doctor has told you not to take aspirin. Other painkillers like Ibuprofen, opioids, and Acetaminophen do not share the same properties and should not be administered in case of a heart attack. . To increase your chances of survival, call 911 within 5 minutes of when you first develop symptoms. Three minutes of even light chest pain is a good indication that what you are experiencing is, in fact, a heart attack and that you should seek emergency medical attention. If you are also experiencing shortness of breath, numbness, or severe pain, call immediately. The sooner you call the better. If you are behind the wheel, get off the road. You could lose consciousness and endanger the lives of others. If there are other people around you, do not ask them to drive you to the hospital. It is best to be taken by the EMTs.  Response teams can get you to the hospital more rapidly...

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Предупредите окружающих. Разжуйте таблетку аспирина. Вызовите скорую помощь. Не садитесь за руль. Примите нитроглицерин. Лягте и постарайтесь расслабиться. Попросите кого-то провести  искусственное дыхание.


Article in English: People often experience a funk after they have met a goal and suddenly find themselves without any specific purpose to motivate them. Set a short-term goal and long-term goal, complete with rewards if you meet your goals. Consider telling a friend about your goal so that she can serve as an accountability partner and help motivate you to achieve the goal. If you set a goal to run a 5K in two months and you tell your friend, she can ask about your progress in training and then ask how the race went. But if you tell no one, you'll find it harder to get out and train to meet your goal. If you find yourself surrounded by negative or cynical people, you can lose your motivation and lust for life because of their influence. Limit time with these people or ask them to be more positive for mutual benefit. Facebook and other social media are major sources of this type of input. Never before in history have we had so many social relationships that we utilize on a daily basis, even though the relationships are more often than not shallow acquaintances we don't actually know. If you find that your Facebook or Twitter feed is full of people who complain, criticize, or post depressing news routinely, hide or unfriend them. This type of consist negative input will not help you get out of your funk. Renew your connections with the people who are most important to you, especially those who bring out the best in you.  Reconnecting with people who have meant a lot to you throughout your life can help remind you of where you have been as an individual, how you have changed, and where you are going in life. Think about the friend who is guaranteed to make you laugh and feel alive and energized, and call up that person and ask to meet for dinner and dancing. Dress up, have fun, and let yourself really let loose.

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Установите цели. Изучите свои отношения. Позвоните старому другу.


Article in English: People often feel depressed or powerless after they have completed a hard-fought goal. Give yourself a few weeks to rest and then make new goals. Pick something small you have wanted to change and make it happen. Several small decisions can be as powerful as one large life decision. Good changes might include commuting by walking or biking, cutting back on alcohol or cigarettes, getting up earlier, going to bed earlier, reducing time on the internet or a device, scheduling time for yourself or trying a new recipe each week. Choose something you have to train for, such as a half-marathon or a Tough Mudder. Exercise teaches mental resilience because you learn to push through pain and see its benefit. In addition, being physically powerful may make you feel mentally powerful. Working toward something is the culmination of self-empowerment, because you must feel as though your actions will help you achieve something.  Try a short-term goal like exercising 5 times a week for a month or increasing your productivity at work in small increments.     Try a long-term goal like saving for a vacation or getting a certification.    Giving back to your community through a charity or a community organization will help you realize the power you have to affect the people around you. Schedule one hour a week or half a day each month to improve others’ lives and help them achieve their basic needs.

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Определите, чувствуете ли вы себя ослабленным в связи с тем, что вы недавно достигли цели, к которой так долго шли. Внесите изменения в свою жизнь. Посетите спортивное мероприятие. Поставьте краткосрочные и долгосрочные цели. Жертвуйте своим временем во благо другим.


Article in English: People often have a sleepover for their birthdays or just because they feel like having some friends together. However, if you want to be creative and get wacky props and costumes in the mix, then you can consider having a more elaborate theme for your sleepover party. Here are some fun examples you may want to try out:  A different time period themes, such as the 80s, the 70s, or the 60s Crazy hair day Backward day Dressing up as your idols Western day Hawaiian day Think Pink day Pop-Star day Twilight day Harry Potter day  The Clique day (based on a book)  Chocolate or a vanilla party based on what you like A tea party Play hide and go seek or sardines Dog day (you can dress as your favorite animal) Everyone dressing as their favorite celebrity A holiday theme like Easter, Valentine's Day, or Christmas. A Movie Night Divergent Day Backyard or indoor camp out (Sleep in a tent in the backyard or living room) Spa treatments Talk to your parents about the maximum number of people they will let you invite to your sleepover. Typically, sleepovers have around 2-8 guests, but it depends on what you're going for. Invite people who you want to hang out with, who make things more fun, and who will get along with each other. Also, try not to hurt any feelings by not forgetting someone in your group of friends. If you have a shy friend who doesn't know anyone else, you have to decide if that person will actually have a good time, or if you will spend the night worrying about including the person in all of your games. Try to invite people that know each other, so they will enjoy with each other and feel more comfortable. You can mail your guests, use email, call, text, use Facebook, or even tell them in person. Also, try looking for invitations that fit your party theme, so people get a general sense of what the party is about. Remember to include any special information, like what the guests may want to bring. Tell your friends in private, so other people don't feel left out.  You should tell your guests what time to...

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Придумайте интересную тему. Составьте список приглашенных. Составьте и разошлите приглашения. Запаситесь всем необходимым. Придумайте план для своего брата или сестры. Убедитесь, что у друзей нет ни на что аллергии (например, на шерсть животных).


Article in English: People often hold a lot of tension in this area of their body, and when you don't have time to do a full massage, focusing on the neck and shoulders can provide instant relaxation. To massage the neck and shoulders, use the following technique:  Use your fingers to grasp the side of the neck and gently press on the muscles and tendons. Knead with your thumb and forefingers. You can massage the head at the same time with your free hand. Rest your fingers over the shoulders and place your thumbs on the muscles located on either side of the neck. Squeeze the shoulders and press in with your thumbs. The motion should be slow and steady. You can also use your forearms to massage the shoulders. Rest your forearms on either shoulder and gently rock back and forth to loosen the shoulder muscles. Work down from the shoulders on either side of the back, rubbing the muscles as you go. When you get to the lower back area, knead the tight muscles there with your hands and thumbs. People who stand or sit for hours every day often develop pain in this area, so you might want to spend extra time loosening the muscles.  Remember not to exert pressure on the spine and other back bones. Focus on the muscles to either side of the spine. Go deeper by kneeling beside the person and placing the heel of your hand on the lower back muscle on the opposite side, with your fingers pointing away from the body. Place your other hand on top of your first hand and lean into the muscle. Knead the muscle this way for a few minutes, then switch to the other side. Use both hands to form a circle around the upper arm. Knead the arm muscles with your palms and fingers, working your way down to the wrists. Repeat with the opposite arm, then work on the legs, starting from the thighs and kneading the muscles until you reach the ankles. Have the person you're massaging turn over so that his or her face and torso are now facing up. Massage each hand between your thumb and forefinger, taking care to work the muscles in the palms, thumbs, and each...

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Начните с шеи и плеч. Массируйте спину. Работайте с ногами и руками. Массируйте ладони и ступни. Закончите массаж на лице и голове.


Article in English: People often reach for multi-symptom cold medications even when pain (like from a sore throat) is the primary complaint.  If pain is your main symptom, then a dedicated pain reliever is probably your best option.  Pain relievers like ibuprofen or acetaminophen can be quite effective in dealing with a sore throat and other pain associated with a cold.  Always follow the recommended dosing instructions.  Take special care if you are also taking a cold medication with a pain reliever, as it can be easy to exceed the recommended daily dose that way. Aspirin may also be effective, but it can lead to bleeding problems, so talk to your doctor particularly if you are taking blood thinners or have bleeding issues.  Children under age 19 should never take aspirin because of the risk of developing Reye's syndrome. Find an over-the-counter (OTC) cough suppressant or nasal decongestant (or combination), especially if your cough or stuffy nose is keeping you awake at night. Take it according to package directions until the symptoms go away.  Some people contend that honey (by the spoonful or in tea) is just as effective a cough suppressant as any OTC variety.  It can’t hurt to try it. Don't use cough suppressants or decongestants for more than three days, or your symptoms may return in a more severe form. Children under five should not use any OTC cold remedies without a doctor’s supervision. Remember, antibiotics treat infections, and therefore are useless against viruses like the common cold. Research into the cold-taming effectiveness of vitamin C is confusing and often contradictory.  Some people swear by it, while others think its use is worthless.  By and large, however, taking vitamin C to combat a cold is at worst unlikely to do harm.  There is some limited evidence that vitamin C may help reduce the length of the average cold by up to one day, if it is taken regularly for a long period of time (not just when you are sick).  Some claim that high doses of vitamin C can cut short an existing cold, but the evidence is...

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Облегчите боль. Лечите кашель и заложенность носа. Подумайте о том, чтобы принимать витамин C. Подумайте о том, чтобы принимать цинк. Попробуйте использовать другие растительные и натуральные средства.


Article in English: People often say "use it or lose it" about muscles, but the same can be applied towards the senses. The more you use your senses, the better you get! Learn how to describe smells. You might even want to keep an olfactory journal! For extra practice, have someone hold various things to your nose while you're blindfolded and see if you can identify the smells.  Next time you are drinking a cup of coffee take time to really breathe in the smell before you drink it. When you are about to bite into some strong cheese, be sure to smell it before eating it. If you regularly smell things before consuming them, you can help improve your sense of smell over time. As well as being more attentive to the smells you encounter in everyday life, you can go further and adopt a training regime for your sense of smell. Begin by simply choosing four smells that you are fond of, such as fresh coffee, banana, soap or shampoo, and blue cheese. Then each day take a minute to go through and smell each one individually to stimulate the receptors inside your nose. Try to repeat this four to six times every day.  There is evidence that visualizing smells can help to improve your sense of smell. Take a minute to imagine your favourite smells.  When you are trying to identify a particular smell you may find it useful to smell with a shallow sniff rather than a long deep inhalation. Studies suggest that our sense of smell is sharper after exercise. The causative link is uncertain, but it has been reported that the sense of smell appears to be better after exercise. Exercising enough to work up a sweat at least once a week has been connected to a lower risk of the sense of smell diminishing as you get older. This could be because exercise improves brain functions or because it contributes to better general health. If your sense of smell is impaired by obstructive disorders such as congestion or hay fever, allergies, sinus infection, or nasal polyps, it will be necessary to treat the underlying issue in order to improve your sense of smell....

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Обращайте больше внимания на привычные запахи. Проводите тренировки для носа. Регулярно занимайтесь  физкультурой. Поговорите с врачом о назальных спреях. Выбирайте продукты с высоким содержанием цинка и витамина B12. Обращайте внимание на свои ощущения после запахов.


Article in English: People often store vitamin and supplement tablets in their bathroom cabinets. Research has shown, however, that the humidity of bathrooms can lessen the effectiveness and potency of vitamin tablets over time. The degradation of vitamins in humid conditions is known as deliquescence.  This decreases the quality and shelf-life of the product, and could mean you're not getting all the nutrition you paid for. In addition, opening and closing vitamin and supplement bottles in a humid area traps a little bit of moisture into the bottle each time. Some vitamins might be especially prone to degrade in humid conditions, such as the water soluble vitamin B, vitamin C, thiamine, and vitamin B6. Vitamins and minerals may degrade in quality if you store them in the fridge. There is a lot of moisture inside your fridge, so although it is cool and dark, it is not dry. Only store vitamins and supplements in the fridge if the label specifically tells you to. The kitchen can be a good place to keep your vitamins and supplements, but there can often be moisture and vaporized fat in the air from cooking, which can settle on your pills. The temperature and humidity in the kitchen rises and falls as you use the oven and stovetop.  The kitchen sink is another area that will produce a lot of moisture. Look for a dry cupboard away from the stove and sink if you want to keep them in the kitchen. Your bedroom is perhaps the best place to store supplements, because there are few fluctuations in humidity, and the bedroom is usually cool and dry.  Make sure to keep them away from open windows and sunlight, which will degrade their potency. Don’t keep them near a radiator or any other source of heat.  Always keep them safe and secure, and out of reach of children and pets, even if they are in a childproof container. To help avoid moisture, you can keep your vitamins and supplements in an airtight container. Do not take them out of their original packaging, but put the whole package in the airtight container. An opaque container is good,...

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Не используйте шкафчик в ванной комнате. Не храните таблетки в холодильнике. Не держите их рядом с духовкой или раковиной. Можно хранить витамины и добавки в спальне. Используйте воздухонепроницаемый контейнер.


Article in English: People range in their ability to hear and understand language, and you have a greater chance of being heard and understood when you speak clearly. Practice with a recorder or ask a friend to help you learn to pronounce your words with more clarity. Things that can help include slowing down, lowering the tone of your voice, listening to and borrowing from actors whose accent or tone you like, etc.  Avoid using a monotone (no variances in your speech). This suggests that you don't have confidence in what you're saying and it tends to bore people after a short time. Avoid mumbling. People feel very embarrassed when they continually fail to "catch" what is being said and will soon find and excuse to get away from someone who is mumbling a lot. If you mumble as a result of shyness, it's important to address this cause; for example, see How to overcome shyness. Try to tone down any hint of aggression or loudness in your voice when talking to others. Loudness causes people to be on the alert and even on the defensive, and can set them on edge. As for aggressiveness coming through the voice, few people will miss this intent and will feel very uncomfortable.

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Четко произносите слова. Говорите тише.


Article in English: People read for a wide variety of reasons. Before you pick up a book, consider what you want to get out of reading. Some people like reading books that teach them new skills, from computer programming languages to skills for hunting or camping. Other people enjoy narratives, whether fictional or biographical, to transport them to other times, worlds, or situations. Think first about what you ultimately want to get out of reading. You are much more likely to learn to love reading if you connect with something that seems purposeful to you. If reading is just an exercise or something you feel you “should” like, it's not likely to have a meaningful impact. Once you know whether you want to learn, be entertained, or something else entirely, you can narrow down types of books based on your answer. For instance, knowing you want an entertaining story alone doesn't narrow between poetry, literature, popular fiction, memoir, and other types of writing, all of which could provide an entertaining narrative.  Try doing an internet search for popular books in the area that you've chosen. This can give you a list of suggestions where you might start. Consult with your local librarian. Librarians are usually delighted to make reading recommendations. Once you know what you're “looking for” from your reading, ask your librarian if s/he knows of any books that might suit. Talk with the employees at your local bookstore. Most people who work at bookstores love reading and love books. They can be a great source of recommendations. Chatting with people who are passionate about reading might even spark a little fire of your own! You can narrow down reading choices even more once you've picked a general type of writing by considering the genre you want. If you've decided on popular fiction, for instance, you can choose between horror, science fiction, historical, fantasy, romance, mystery, or more realist books that take a less whimsical approach to their characters and settings. As another example, if you decide to want to read...

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Подумайте, почему вы хотите читать. Определите для себя, что вы хотите прочитать. Выберите жанр, который будет вам по душе. В выбранном вами жанре определитесь с писателем. Проведите параллель между чтением и другими интересами. Не читайте книгу, которая вам не понравилась. Помните, что чтение – это личное занятие.


Article in English: People remember legends for what they do and the impact they have on lives. What do you do? What are you good at? Try to find your calling in life, your “vocation.” Take a good look at the natural talents you have.  Legends come in all shapes and sizes. Do you make people laugh? Perhaps you've got a calling in comedy. Are you good at lacrosse? Maybe your future lies in sports. Don't limit your idea of a legend to famous people. Teachers, doctors, religious figures, volunteers, and others live on, too, because of how they shape others' lives. You might try compiling a list. Think hard and put down skills you have, but also personal qualities. You might be good at math or languages, for instance, but also patient or able to handle stressful situations. Becoming a legend is about a calling – something that you do memorably and like no one else. Something you do because it makes you fulfilled and whole. To find out what your calling is, you should also try to take stock of your values in life.  Values are what we stand for and what guide our decisions. You might value creativity more than making money, for example. Competition could be important. Or, you might want to feel like you're helping society. Legends usually stand for something. Mother Theresa gave her life to the poor. Michael Jordan made competition his highest value and became a great basketball player. You may have a personal legend in mind who stood for something, too. Think of two people that you respect. Why do you admire them? What qualities do they have that you want? The answers will reflect your values. Think as well about a moment in life when you felt really satisfied. What made you feel that way? This, too, will reflect your values. You might try writing these down alongside your talents. Do you see any connection between the two lists? A calling isn't a job. It's something you would do in your spare time or without getting paid. You won't necessarily like it all the time, but it drives you. The key is to find a niche where your natural...

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Выявите свои таланты. Примите во внимание свои ценности. Ищите совпадения между талантами и ценностями.


Article in English: People seek testosterone treatments for a variety of medical conditions. Testosterone is commonly prescribed to treat hypogonadism in men  - a condition that develops when the testes don't function correctly. However, this is far from the only reason why someone might want testosterone. Below are just a few other reasons:  Testosterone is sometimes given to transgender people as part of their gender affirmation and transition. Some women receive testosterone as a treatment for androgen deficiency, which can occur after menopause. The most common symptom of androgen deficiency in women is decreased libido.  Finally, some men seek testosterone treatment to counteract the normal effects of decreased testosterone production that results with aging. However, this practice is still not well-studied, so many physicians advise against it. Some of the studies that have been done have given mixed results. Injection is a commonly-used means of administering testosterone to a patient. However, there are actually a wide range of alternative methods for getting testosterone in to the body, some of which may be preferable to certain patients. These include:  Topical gel or cream Skin patch (similar to a nicotine patch)     Oral tablets Mucoadhesive applied to the teeth Testosterone stick (applied under the arm like deodorant) Subcutaneous implant Because testosterone is a hormone that can  cause significant changes in your body's function, it is known to exacerbate or worsen certain medical conditions. Testosterone should not be administered if a patient suffers from prostate cancer or breast cancer. All patients considering testosterone treatment should receive a prostate exam and a screening for prostate-specific-antigen (PSA) before and after therapy to make sure prostate cancer is not present. Testosterone is a fairly powerful hormone. Even with safe, doctor-monitored use, it can have noticeable side effects. The most common side effects from testosterone treatment are:  Acne and/or oily skin Fluid retention Stimulation...

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Знайте, где и когда назначается терапия тестостероном. Знайте об альтернативных методах приема тестостерона. Знайте, когда тестостерон не должен назначаться. Побочные эффекты при терапии тестостероном. Проконсультируйтесь с врачом.


Article in English: People smile because they're happy. But did you know that smiling increases our happiness even more? This is because how we feel emotions isn't just limited to our brain but is affected by our bodies, as well. Using the facial muscles reinforces and even increases happiness.  Smiling should naturally make you want to smile more. This idea was actually first proposed by Charles Darwin, better known for his ideas on natural selection and evolution.  Try smiling, even if it means that you are faking it. Just using those muscles can put you in a more smiley state of mind. Like using our own facial muscles, there are certain things we can see that will make us more apt to smile. One of these is other people smiling. Although the reasons are still unclear, smiling is “contagious.” Humans have a deep drive to smile whenever we see others doing so.  To maximize this mood-builder, spend time with happy-go-lucky friends or family members. Got a funny aunt? Spend some time with her and let her mood rub off on you. Strangers work, as well. We get the same mood-boosting effect even from people that we do not know and with whom we have no connection. Try visiting a happy place to benefit, like a park, a zoo, or the movies. Somewhere you'll know you'll find happy people. Another way to increase your mood – and your ability to smile – is to think of a particularly happy moment in your life or of a loved one. Choose someone or something that gives you a warm, radiant feeling. It could be a childhood memory, it could be your mom or your grandparents, or it could be your spouse. It works!  Try to visualize the person or event. If talking to someone, pretend that the person is your smile-inducing loved one. This technique can work even if you are speaking over the phone or writing an email. Somehow, we can tell from a person's voice whether they are smiling even without seeing their face. The same might be true for emails, as well. Whether from shyness, embarrassment, or other feelings, some of us have a difficult time smiling....

Summary in Russian:

Создайте правильное настроение. Общайтесь со счастливыми людьми. Счастливые мысли. Примите свою улыбку.


Article in English: People sometimes accidentally swallow a bead or other part of their piercing when eating. Usually, the beads are small enough that they pass without complication. However, it's always a good idea to contact a doctor just in case. Even with proper precautions, infections do happen. The following are common signs of an infection:  White, yellow, or brown discharge. Swelling. Redness. Intense pain. A piercer may be able to help you out by recommending ointments. Call your piercer right away as soon as you notice signs of an infection so they can help you clear it up. If the infection is serious, the piercer may recommend you see a doctor to get it treated.

Summary in Russian:

Обратитесь к врачу, если случайно проглотите часть пирсинга. Следите за признаками инфекции. Проконсультируйтесь со своим мастером по пирсингу, если у вас возникнет инфекция.


Article in English: People steal for many reasons. Some people steal things because they feel wrongfully deprived, while others are trying to support a drug habit or pay off debt. Children and teenagers may steal to get attention or express negative emotions. Understanding your family member’s reasons for stealing doesn’t mean you should excuse their actions, but it does give you a starting point for making sure it doesn’t happen again. Addiction is one of the most common reasons people turn to stealing. If your family member was always honest and trustworthy in the past, it’s possible that an addiction could be making them act out of character now. Express your concern to them and help them find an addiction treatment program in your area. If your family member is abusing drugs or alcohol, approach them with kindness and encouragement. Tell them that you’re worried about them, not that you’re disappointed in them. If they feel like you’re judging them, they may not want to accept help from you. You may feel violated and mistrustful after someone has stolen from you, especially if the thief is someone you know. Talking to a counselor can help you work through your emotions and regain your sense of trust in other people. If your family member steals from you repeatedly, you may have no choice but to distance yourself from them. Though cutting ties with a family member can be very difficult, it may be less painful in the long run than letting them take advantage of you over and over.

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Рассмотрите причины кражи. Если у человека зависимость, то помогите ему пройти лечение. Обратитесь к специалисту. Прекратите отношения с человеком.


Article in English: People talk. The more people who know about your tongue piercing, the more likely it is that someone you don’t want to know will find out about it. Don’t tell anyone you don’t trust and avoid talking about your piercing in general if you want it to remain a secret. Tongue piercings can be difficult to hide because they are in such a visible area. Avoid opening your mouth too widely when you are talking or laughing. Avoid yelling, screaming, or singing (or other activities that require you to open your mouth widely) in front of people you want to hide the piercing from. Practice in the mirror to see what methods conceal your piercing the most. When possible, avoid the people you don’t want to know about your new piercing. It would be a better idea to take some days off work while your piercing heals than to go to work with an obviously swollen tongue.

Summary in Russian:

Не рассказывайте окружающим о вашем пирсинге. Будьте осторожны во время разговора. Держитесь подальше от тех людей, от которых вы хотите скрыть ваш пирсинг.


Article in English: People tend to base their decisions on the opinions of others. We read restaurant reviews before we dine out, and we read movie reviews and ask our friends’ opinions before we see a movie. This same “herd mentality” can be a helpful tool in getting someone to say yes to you.  If you’re attempting to sell a house, for example, using this technique would entail printing out ratings of the neighborhood available online, showing prospective buyers how elite the property is, and showing that the area has some of the city’s best schools, for example. This peer pressure through others’ positive reviews might seal the deal for you on the home sale. Similarly, if you’re trying to convince your parents to let you study abroad, for example, letting them know how exclusive the program is or how favorably other students and parents (and future employers!) have viewed the experience might persuade them to allow you to go. If you ask people for a favor without demonstrating a clear benefit to them, they might not be inclined to help you. However, if you give a reason, then they are more likely to say yes to you. It’s important to make sure that your reason is truthful and valid. Otherwise, if they determine that you’re lying, now you appear dishonest and they will be even less likely to agree to your request. For example, if you are waiting in a long line for the restroom and you can’t wait, you can try going to the person at the front and asking to cut in line. If you simply ask “I have to use the restroom. May I cut in line?” they are far less likely to agree than if you instead ask the same question with a reason given. Saying something like “May I cut in line? I have to use the restroom urgently because I have a digestive disorder” is far more likely to get someone to agree to your request. ” This psychological concept is based on that notion that once someone does something for us, we then feel obligated to reciprocate by doing something for them. For instance, if we covered a shift for a co-worker when they were sick,...

Summary in Russian:

Влияние сверстников. Убедительный довод. Принцип взаимности. Предложите редкую услугу или возможность.


Article in English: People tend to flock to those who have a good sense of self-confidence. They often admire them and want to be around them. Project self-confidence to others, even if you don’t have much, and you’ll likely attract more friends.  The key to effective and attractive self-confidence is to not come off as cocky or self-centered. Simply walk with your back straight, shoulders back, and head held high. Look people in the eye and smile when you talk to them.  Don't act like you're better than others by not speaking or ignoring them. Make everyone you meet feel like a million bucks. As much as it can be funny to make yourself the subject of a good joke, don't take self-deprecating talk too far. People don't want to be around someone who always talks about themselves too much--whether it's positive or negative.  For example, don't let your social group catch you saying negative things like "I'm fat" or "I look hideous." People want to be around people who feel good about themselves because that type of self-confidence can be contagious. Belittling yourself sends the message that you're secretly low in confidence. So, avoid such language at all costs. You can’t expect people to want to be your friend if you aren’t willing to put yourself out there. Strike up conversations with people whenever and wherever you can. You never know, you could find your new best friend in line at the grocery store. Practice what you are going to say to someone when you are alone. You could talk about the weather, the local sports team, outlandish celebrity news, or whatever you like to talk about. Having a topic prepared can help you feel more confident when you try to talk with someone new. If you want to meet new people and potential best friends, you’ll need to engage in new experiences. You’re not going to meet anyone if you aren’t willing to try new things. Finding people who are interested in what you are is a great start at finding true friends. Join groups or take classes that interest you. Doing so gives you a great chance of...

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Излучайте уверенность. Избегайте негативных высказываний о самом себе. Инициируйте разговоры. Вступите в определенную социальную группу, где можно знакомиться с новыми людьми. Будьте сами таким человеком, с которым вы бы захотели дружить.


Article in English: People tend to look left to right when they're searching for something. For this reason, it's best to choose a spot that's either above or below eye-level. This will help you choose a less obvious hiding spot and also help make your movements less noticeable. When you enter an area, pay attention to where your eyes fall naturally and pick out a place away from that zone. As soon as you decide on a hiding spot, crouch, stoop, or sit down and draw your arms and legs in. If you're tucked away in a narrow space, stand up straight and put your arms down at your sides. The less room you take up, the harder you'll be to see. It's still a good idea to get nice and compact even if your hiding spot offers complete concealment. If you're lurking behind a couch, for example, you're less likely to be spotted if you're curled up in a ball as opposed to stretched out. Once you get situated and you've shrunk down as much as possible, freeze yourself in place. Imagine that you're a statue or a piece of furniture. Do your best not to move until you know your pursuer is a safe distance away.  Resist the urge to scratch an itch or adjust your hair or clothing, no matter how uncomfortable you are. The human eye detects movement before anything else, especially when it's dark. All it takes is one wrong move to accidentally signal where you are. While you're in hiding, avoid making any unnecessary noise. Try not to cough, sneeze, clear your throat, or do anything else that might get you caught. Even rustling your clothes too loudly could give away your position.  Stifle your breathing by opening your mouth and taking deep, slow breaths. This is far less audible than panting nervously or breathing through your nose.  If you and another person are hiding in the same spot, don't talk. Not only will the sound carry, you may also be too distracted to notice if someone is approaching. You won't always be able to sneak into a closet or stow yourself under a table. When you're caught in an open space with no large items to hide behind, lie...

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Держитесь вне поля зрения преследователя. Старайтесь сжаться до минимальных размеров. Сохраняйте неподвижность. Соблюдайте тишину. Замаскируйтесь с помощью подручных предметов. Будьте готовы покинуть укрытие, если возникнет опасность быть обнаруженным.


Article in English: People tend to react more positively toward people they can relate to, including people who dress more like them.  The more you know about him, the easier it will be to appeal to what he likes.  Think of a few questions you can ask to learn more about his personality and style.  Ask where he grew up.  Certain regions have different styles.  Someone from Brooklyn may be more on the cutting edge of style than someone who grew up in the country in Montana. Ask what his hobbies are.  If he spends time in coffee shops and record stores, he is probably more of a hipster.  Someone interested in sports is probably more of a t-shirt and shorts type of guy. There are already enough unknowns in a first meet.  You want to appear confident.  Now is not the time to try to put together a new outfit.  Choose clothes you already really like, that make you feel good.  Think about what outfits you have gotten compliments on in the past. Choose comfortable clothing which fits well.  You don’t want to have to worry about adjusting yourself all night. Avoid wearing something that you think is too much of anything.  This could mean it is too short, too tight, too flashy, or too boring.  If you are already questioning it, don’t wear it. Save the daring choices for a later date when you want to spice things up. It’s sad but true that people react more positively to girls who are wearing makeup than bare-faced girls.  It’s a double-edged sword, because that respect can also be negated if you are wearing too much makeup.  Stick to just some powder, blush, mascara and lip color. Avoid excessive eye makeup or bold lip color for the first meeting. He may not be the type of person who puts a lot of thought, effort or money into his own clothing.  If this is the case, he is less likely to pick up on clothing cues or really care too much about what you are wearing. If he does spend a lot of money or time on his outfit, then he is probably just as worried about how he looks as you are.

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Прежде чем встретиться, узнайте о нем все, что можете. Будьте уверены в своем наряде. Выберите золотую середину. Нанесите макияж, но не переусердствуйте с ним. Не стоит слишком сильно переживать по поводу своего наряда.


Article in English: People that are very emotional can draw you into their drama and make it difficult to be totally emotionless. You don't need to cut anyone out of your life completely, but you may want to limit your contact with your more emotional friends. If you are out and run into an emotional friend of yours, always have an excuse ready to help you slip away without being rude. Simply tell them you have to go return some videos or something along those lines. A big part of looking emotionless is to not let anything bother you. Once you come to realize that you didn't have the power to change most of the things anyway, they might not bother you so much. If you can give up trying to control things that happen, you will have an easier time accepting it when things don't go as expected. Watching violent television shows or movies is the way most people desensitize themselves. While this is often debated as being harmful, evidence shows that watching violent shows can make viewers apathetic to human pain and suffering. If you are hoping to avoid being affected by those kinds of emotions, try watching more television. It may sound silly but looking at money tends to make people act more businesslike. Scientists have found evidence that looking at money makes us less likely to approve of outward displays of emotion or to use emotional words to express our thoughts. No matter how good you get at keeping everything inside, sometimes you will need to release all the emotions. Writing or playing music is a good way to get out emotional pressures, while other people may find getting out their frustrations by kickboxing works better. It doesn't matter what activity you choose as long as you can release any anxiety you have on your own terms instead of having a sudden meltdown in front of everyone.

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Не стоит проводить слишком много времени с эмоциональными людьми. Научитесь принимать неизбежное. Не нервируйте себя. Чаще смотрите на деньги. Найдите для себя отдушину, которая позволит выплеснуть свои эмоции.


Article in English: People that put others down may do it for several reasons. It is not always on purpose and may not always be meant to hurt you. Understanding what the person's motive is can help you determine how to deal with her.  Some people do it because they are insecure or jealous. They are trying to feel better about themselves by putting you down.  Some do it because they are trying to impress someone or get attention. For example, the coworker that criticizes your work in front of the supervisor. Others don't realize they are doing it or just don't communicate well. For example, the grandmother that says, “That's a nice shirt. It covers your stomach well.” Sometimes people aren't really trying to be mean or hurt your feelings. They may just consider it harmless teasing. For example, a friend that calls you "short stuff". Some comments are just annoying and you can ignore them. Other comments are truly mean and hurtful and should be addressed. Deciding where that line is for you will help you determine how to address the situation.  For example, when your brother puts you down it may be annoying. But you know he probably doesn't mean it and isn't actually trying to hurt your feelings.  You may not even want to address it with him unless it gets way out of hand. But, a co-worker that always makes rude remarks to you that are upsetting will probably need to be addressed. If the insults are discriminatory or happen a lot, the person is crossing the line and should be reported. People that don't know you  well, but put you down are probably doing it for a bad reason (or they could just be annoying). Don't cause a scene, but do let them know that it's not okay.  If possible, have the conversation in private. This cuts down her need to "put on a show" for other people and maintains the respect of both of you. You might say, “During the discussion you made some harsh comments about my idea. I appreciate constructive feedback, but not insults. Please don't do that again.” If she starts putting you down while you are trying to...

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Разберитесь, почему человек так поступает. Обозначьте границы допустимого. Поговорите с коллегами и сверстниками. Будьте более твердым с друзьями, братьями и сестрами. Будьте почтительны с начальством.


Article in English: People used to believe intelligence was fixed, and could not be improved through effort. Contemporary evidence, however, suggests this may not be the case; while an unintelligent person may never become a genius, it seems increasingly possible that anyone has the ability to strengthen her intellect to some degree. The process is not as simple as just learning some new vocabulary words, though. It takes time and effort to learn how to engage more deeply and critically with the world around you. People learn most effectively when they are passionate about their subject matter. If you are passionate about something, you are bound to want to understand it more deeply; it is this kind of focused, sustained investigation that leads to increased intellect. True intelligence involves deep mastery of a few subjects, rather than a shallow understanding of a broad range of them. Was Albert Einstein equally gifted in physics, anthropology, linguistics, geology, animal behavior, and literary criticism? Of course not. To be a proverbial jack-of-all-trades is to be a master of none; if you try to learn a little bit of everything, you may wind up understanding a whole lot of nothing. If you’re not struggling, you’re not pushing yourself. Learning shouldn’t be torture. It should be rewarding, though, and it probably won’t be if it doesn’t require much effort. Push yourself to master new ideas and enter unfamiliar intellectual territory. This is called “metacognition,” and it is something intelligent people excel at. Metacognition allows you to understand how you learn, and to apply those strategies from one context to another. If you realize you learn most effectively when you study on your own, for example, you will know not to join a study group in preparation for a final exam. People sometimes forget that the brain is a physical organ like any other. Just as you skin is healthier if you bathe and your lungs are healthier if you don’t smoke, a physically well-cared-for brain functions at a higher level than a neglected one....

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Старайтесь непрерывно учиться. Следуйте своим увлечениям. Бросьте себе вызов. Подумайте о том, как вы думаете. Заботьтесь о своем организме. Выучите новый язык. Научитесь играть на музыкальном инструменте. Читайте новости. Меньше полагайтесь на технологии. Будьте открыты новому. Не бойтесь выглядеть глупо.


Article in English: People who are always available leave little room for mystery or deception. Instead of waiting by the phone to engage in conversation, let her think you are busy.  If she is excited to text you in the morning with a flirty greeting, do not send one back until hours later. This will leave her wondering where you are and who you might be with. The same goes for a phone call. If she calls you, do not answer it. Call her back hours later, or maybe even the next day. Your unavailability will leave her guessing. When it is just the two of you hanging out, let the sparks fly. Show her that that you two have great chemistry, and something special may come out of this relationship. Then, we you two come around other people, show some flirtatious attention to other girls. This will surely mess with her mind. Engage in fun conversations with other girls by telling jokes and making them laugh. Maybe you two have been spending a lot of great time together, and things seem to be heating up. Throw her off course by not speaking to her for a few days. If she calls or texts you, asking you to meet up or just chat, simply send her a text that explains you are busy. Be vague, and tell her that you will call her in a few days when you get a chance. If your significant other somehow lets you down, or disappoints you, tell her that everything is fine and you understand, but then act upset. This will surely play games with their mind If your significant other cancels plans with you, say, "Don't worry about it, I totally understand. We can reschedule for another time." Then, when you two speak or hangout next, act very reserved, limit your laughter and smiles, and seem on the sad side. When she asks you if something is wrong, say, "No, everything is fine."

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Не спешите отвечать на сообщения и телефонные звонки. Флиртуйте с другими. Исчезайте на несколько дней. Говорите, что все в порядке, когда это не так.


Article in English: People who are graceful are known to be in control of their bodies. They don’t tend to trip over their own feet or to let their limbs wildly flail, knocking over vases or cups of coffee. They carry themselves well and are comfortable in their own skin. If you want to be graceful, then you have to work on being aware of what your body is doing and where it is going at all times. This may sound easy to do, but you’d be surprised by how often people get distracted and don’t realize that they are invading another person’s space or sitting in an awkward position. You don’t have to be a bodybuilder to be in control of your own body or to feel comfortable in your own skin. Still, working out, whether you’re running or rock climbing, helps improve your strength and stamina and lets you get in touch with your own body. If you want to be graceful, then you have to stand up tall and proud and maintain a straight back even when you’re sitting. It can be tempting to slouch if you’re tired or just want to relax a bit, but if you get in the habit of having a straight back, you won’t even be bothered by having proper posture after a while. Even if the people you’re talking to tend to slouch, you shouldn’t follow suit just to mimic them. Work on standing tall and keeping your eyes straight ahead instead of looking at the ground if you’re walking and you’ll instantly look more graceful. Having correct posture also helps you have confident body language. People who are graceful are also known to be confident because they’re proud of what they have to bring to the world. Slouching or curling up makes it look like you’re trying to hide, even if that’s not the case. Not only does this look and feel better, but it also improves your cognitive functions. Be mindful about your breathing and feel aware of your body as you breathe in and out. If you feel yourself getting stressed or overwhelmed, make a point of taking deep breaths until you feel yourself calming down. As you may know from yoga, breathing in and out, and focusing on...

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Будьте в ладу со своим телом. Скорректируйте вашу осанку. Дышите глубоко. Развивайте гибкость. Изящно одевайтесь. Пользуйтесь косметикой (если вам это нравится). Ходите целеустремленно. Изящно сидите.


Article in English: People who are mean and intimidating do not give in to other people or let them walk all over them. You have to be ready to assert yourself and to say no to people who dump too much work on you, ask you for ridiculous favors, or just put more pressure on you than you're comfortable with. People who are truly intimidating are more interested in getting people to do what they want than in giving in to the needs of others.  If something seems ridiculous or un-doable to you, then say so. This is the new you, remember? It's a matter of getting the respect that you deserve. People won't respect you if they know you'll say yes to anything they want you to do. If you want to get the right attitude, then you have to remember that you deserve the things that you want, and that you don't have to spend your life settling for the second rate. You could want to move up in the career ladder, or for some annoying people to give you some space at school. Whatever you want, write it down, and see that you really deserve nothing but the best. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. You have to really know what you want to know if you're settling. Take some time to think about what you want out of life -- and what you hope to achieve by being mean and intimidating. People who are mean and intimidating have their own ideas about how life should be lived and they do not give in or conform to others' notions of success or the right thing to do. This doesn't mean that you should set your house on fire, but it does mean that you should stay true to your beliefs and not care too much about what anyone thinks. If you want to go to a concert but no one else likes the band, go by yourself. If you walk into a classroom and don't know anyone there and don't feel like being social, take a seat and do what you want. Stop the desperation of trying to look like you fit in, and stop surrounding yourself by people you don't really care about just so you look cooler. Stop thinking about what the world hasn't given you or what it has kept you from...

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Не бойтесь сказать нет. Не соглашайтесь на меньшее, чем вы заслуживаете. Будьте спокойны, занимаясь своими делами. Смотрите на мир как ваша устрица (т. Пусть ваше признание исходит изнутри. Имейте четкое ощущение, чего вы хотите. Имейте твердое мнение. Контролируйте. Излучайте уверенность.


Article in English: People who are not serious about a committed relationship usually don’t let you meet their family and friends. They are not interested in mixing their dating life with their family or social life. The set up boundaries where they don’t have to explain their actions to you.  If the person won’t introduce you to their family or friends, even after you’ve been dating for awhile or you bring it up, they may be a commitment phobe. Suggest to the person, "I thought it'd be fun to go to dinner with your family" or "Let's invite your friends over for dinner and drinks tonight." A commitment phobe may always want to go to your place. Try suggesting that you go to their place. If they hesitate or don’t want you to come to their place, try to see if there is a good reason. If they don’t have one, they may be a commitment phobe and not want you in their personal space.  If you do get to go to their, check out what it looks like. Sometimes, commitment phobes have sparsely decorated homes because they spend very little time at home. Try saying, "My place is too far. Why don't we go to yours?" or "My roommate has a bunch of people over. Your place would be much more quiet." Some commitment phobic people won’t friend or follow you on social media. They don’t want you invading their space and having a way to contact them if they don’t want you to. Letting you on their social media may be too much of a commitment. Ask to friend them on Facebook or follow them on Instagram and see their reaction.  Some people may allow you to connect with them because they want more followers and the extra attention. Ask, "Let's follow each other on Instagram. I'd like to see your photos" or "I friended you on Facebook." Depending on how long you have been together, you may want to talk to the person about their level of commitment. Ask them if they are interested in taking your relationship to the next level or if they are serious about you. Pay attention to how they react.  If you have brought up an uncomfortable situation, the commitment...

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Предложите познакомить вас с родными и друзьями. Предложите человеку сходить к нему домой. Социальные сети. Обсудите ваши отношения и взаимные обязательства.


Article in English: People who are passive-aggressive enjoy making other people get angry and lose their cool, but the passive-aggressive person will stay calm and act as though he or she is not doing anything wrong. If you feel as though someone is trying to upset you and the person seems friendly and calm, then you may be dealing with someone who is passive-aggressive. For example, perhaps you have noticed that your roommate has been using your makeup even after you have asked her not to. It might be passive-aggression if you confront her about it and your roommate plays dumb. She might pretend that she did not know it bothered you and she may even seem take pleasure in upsetting you. Someone who is passive-aggressive might give back-handed compliments. Back-handed compliments are compliments that are actually insults in disguise. The recipient of a back-handed compliment may not even recognize the insult, but the person delivering it will feel satisfaction from delivering the back-handed compliment. For example, a passive-aggressive person might compliment a rival co-worker who has just been promoted by saying something like, “Congratulations! It must feel pretty good to finally get promoted after trying for so many years.” This compliment suggests that the person who has been promoted is less successful because it took so long to get the promotion. Passive-aggressive people often make commitments, but then later go back on their commitment as a form of payback. Someone who is passive-aggressive may often break promises or commitments as a way to frustrate other people. For example, a friend might agree to help you with a chore at your house, but then text you that morning to say she isn't feeling well and can't help. While this might be understandable if it’s a one-time thing, a friend who consistently has excuses for why she can't help may be using passive-aggression. Passive-aggressive behavior is marked by a refusal to talk about things that are upsetting. A passive-aggressive person claims to be ok, but is actually...

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Подумайте, пытается ли человек вывести вас из себя. Научитесь узнавать оскорбления, замаскированные под комплименты. Поразмышляйте о нарушенных обещаниях. Попробуйте разобраться, скрывает ли человек свои чувства и пытается ли он избегать разговоров. Проанализируйте то, как человек обращается с другими. Обратите особое внимание на сарказм. Ищите закономерности.


Article in English: People who are recovering from an addiction need guidance and treatment. Counseling can offer you the support you need to remain drug free when giving up or recovering from an addiction.  Behavioral treatment, such as cognitive behavioral therapy, is very effective in helping people who use drugs manage their urges and stop their drug use. Family therapy can also be helpful, particularly if your family dysfunction is contributing to your drug use. Contingency management uses positive reinforcement, such as rewards, for staying off drugs. There are benefits and drawbacks to inpatient or outpatient facilities. Inpatient facilities enable close monitoring, remove the potential for drug use, and the detox process is fairly accelerated.  However, these can be quite expensive and may limit other activities, such as work. Outpatient treatments cost less and have less of an impact on the individual's life, but may not be as effective due to the potential for access to drugs due to being outside of the facility.This has the advantage of being less disruptive to the patient's life and less expensive. The best setting depends on a variety of factors, including the drug of abuse, the drug user's amount and length of history of abuse, the patient's age, and co-existing medical and/or psychiatric conditions among others.   To find a detox center, search here: https://findtreatment.samhsa.gov/  People with serious drug use problems, a long history of drug use, involvement in criminal activity, or trouble with social functioning due to drugs are often helped by residential treatment at a detox facility. Many peer-based support groups assign sponsors to new members. The sponsor is a recovering addict who will help you through the steps of the recovery program. A good sponsor will:  help you to grow, to become more productive, by your definition. help you become more autonomous, more loving of yourself, more excited, less sensitive, more free to become the authority for your own living. not be a crutch or be around you if you...

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Ходите на консультации к психотерапевту. Обратитесь в реабилитационный центр. Найдите поручителя.


Article in English: People who are refined have opinions, but they tend to keep them to themselves when they involve other people in a negative light. If you want to be refined, then you should be above gossiping about other people, starting rumors, or asking if your two co-workers or classmates are hooking up. If you have the reputation of being a gossip, then people won’t think of you as refined at all; instead, they’ll see you as an unsophisticated, immature person. To be truly refined, you should be positive if you plan on talking about a person who isn’t in the room.  Instead, practice saying nice things about people “behind their backs.” Say nice things about people who aren’t in the room and it will get back to them. Refined people don’t pick fights with people and don’t make a big deal about it if they disagree with something. They are still comfortable stating their opinions, but they don’t do so to make other people feel bad or to look superior. If you find someone challenging your ideas when you’re having a conversation, then you should be polite about disagreeing, and not resort to name calling. Refined people should be easy to get along with, and are easygoing and tend to go with the flow instead of being prickly or confrontational.  If you’re asked to settle an argument and know the answer — lets say people are debating about whether a quote is attributed to The Bible or Shakespeare — then it’s best to say you’re not sure of the answer even if you do. There’s no need to cause conflict. If someone is trying to tell you your opinions are worthless, do not engage. Take the high road and exit the conversation instead of being determined to prove the person wrong. Refined people are knowledgeable and interesting, but they don’t need to brag to make it known. Even if you’ve memorized every scene in every Goddard film or speak eight foreign languages, you shouldn’t go telling everyone you know. Instead, wait for your areas of interest to come up in conversation so that people can be impressed by how much you know instead...

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Не сплетничайте. Соглашайтесь с людьми. Не хвастайтесь. Общайтесь с благородными людьми. Не доминируйте в разговоре. Вы должны обладать хорошими манерами. Ведите себя культурно. Будьте тактичны.


Article in English: People who are self-absorbed are usually waiting for people to compliment them. If you not only love compliments but live for them, then you may be self-absorbed. It's normal if you take a compliment as an unexpected delight or surprise, but feeling that you’re owed a compliment because you're so great is characteristic of self-absorption. Compliments should be happy “extras” that give you a boost, not expectations. If you have trouble accepting other ways of doing things, you may believe that you are the only one that knows best. Whether you’re planning a project at work or organizing a dance at your school, if you think that you know exactly how to do things and hate it when other people take the reins, then you may need to work on becoming more flexible.  You might hate not being able to take the credit for something or admitting that someone else was right, but doing so can help you become more open. For example, if you find yourself feeling angry, annoyed, or even livid that someone else is trying to do things a different way, even if it’s just a lab partner who has a new idea for a project, your ego may be getting in the way of your progress. People who are self-absorbed may have trouble feeling happy for others who are receiving praise or recognition. If someone in your circle receives praise, whether it’s your sibling getting praise for a good grade or a co-worker for wrapping up an amazing project, then your natural reaction should be to feel happy for the person. If you find yourself feeling jealous, angry, or confused about why you’re not the one getting the credit, then you may need to work on becoming less self-absorbed. If you routinely forget birthdays, high school graduations, promotions, or other important events in your friends' lives, but still expect others to remember personal milestones, then it may be because you’re too focused on yourself. While we all get busy and miss the occasional milestone, consistently forgetting important events of your friends is a sign of self-absorption. Ask...

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Прекратите ждать и рассчитывать на похвалу. Будьте сговорчивее относительно разных путей решения задач. Отпустите зависть к достижениям окружающих. Проверьте, помните ли вы дни рождения, важные даты и другие значительные события из жизни других людей. Заводите дружбу с людьми разного характера. Будьте добрее ко всем.


Article in English: People who are self-confident are not a wild success at everything they try. But the people who are self-confident do embrace failure and learn from their mistakes instead of giving up on anything that doesn't go their way. The next time you don't do well on a math test, don't get hired after an interview, or get rejected by a date, don't let this discourage you from asking yourself what went wrong and how you can learn from it. Of course, some of the time, you may just be a victim of bad luck, but it's important to feel as in control of every situation as you can so that you can do better the next time.  The mantra, "If at first you don't succeed..." really is true. Think of how boring life would be if you were the best at everything you tried. Instead, look at failure as an opportunity to prove yourself the next time around. The important thing is to learn where you went wrong along with accepting when something was just dumb luck. Though exercise alone won't make you feel like a million dollars, getting in the habit of exercising for at least 30 minutes daily, or just a few times a week, can go a long way in making you feel both mentally and physically better about yourself. Exercise builds endorphins and will physiologically make you feel better about yourself and the world, while also providing your body with valuable benefits. It's a win-win situation, and making a goal of exercising as much as is comfortable for you can help you feel more self-confident. You can even use exercise as an opportunity to step out of your comfort zone and to try something new. Maybe you've been scared about trying yoga or taking a Zumba class, but once you sign up, you'll find that it wasn't as scary as it sounded. It's been proven that smiling will not only make you happier, but it will make the people around you react more positively to you. Smiling, even when you feel like it's the last thing you want to do, can also make you feel more confident when you approach people and go about your day. Smiling will also make...

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Учитесь на ошибках. Занимайтесь спортом Улыбайтесь как можно чаще. Не бойтесь обращаться за помощью. Учитесь жить настоящим.


Article in English: People who are sexually active, especially having unprotected sex and with multiple partners, are at risk for contracting chlamydia. Chlamydia is caused by the bacteria ‘’Chlamydia trachomatis’’ and is contracted through vaginal, oral, or anal sex when mucous membranes come in contact with the bacteria. Anyone who is sexually active should get regular STI tests, including testing for chlamydia.  You are at higher risk if you have had unprotected sex with someone who has chlamydia or another STI. Chlamydia can be prevented by using latex condoms and dental dams. Younger sexually active people are at higher risk. Men who have sex with men are at a higher risk of getting chlamydia. You are at higher risk if you have been diagnosed with other STIs. Transmission through oral sex is less likely than vaginal or anal sex. Mouth-to-vagina or mouth-to-anus transmission is not known to occur but mouth-to-penis and penis-to-mouth is definitely possible. It is possible to have a latent infection and not know it, so it is a good idea to get tested regularly, especially if you have unprotected sex.  Men who go untreated may develop a condition known as nongonococcal urethritis (NGU), which is an infection of the urethra (the tube that men pass urine through). Men may also get epididymitis, which is an infection of the epididymis, which is the tube that carries sperm away from the testes. Chlamydia can damage a woman’s body even if she isn’t experiencing any symptoms. Untreated infections cause pelvic inflammatory disease, which can eventually lead to scarring and infertility for your female partner. This is the main reason why screening is important. If symptoms do occur, they usually appear within 1-3 weeks after infection. Even if you are not symptomatic, if your partner discloses that she has chlamydia, get tested immediately. Contact a local health clinic, your doctor, a Planned Parenthood clinic, or other agency that offers STI testing. In many cases testing is free. Testing usually occurs in one of two ways. A swab...

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Узнайте, относитесь ли вы к группе риска. Не ждите, пока проявятся симптомы. Пройдите обследование. Немедленно приступите к лечению.


Article in English: People who are taller than 5'8" may be able to use the string right out of the package. However, for those that are shorter than 5'8", shortening the string is necessary for easy and skillful play. Here's how:  Unwind the yo-yo, dropping it to the floor, holding it in front of you. Put your forefinger on your belly button and wrap the top of the string around your forefinger at that point. Tie a knot in the string, making a new loop. Carefully cut off the excess string and throw it away. There is no "correct" string length, but belly button length is a good guideline. Some players prefer a slightly shorter string, while others prefer a string that's a little longer. Experiment to find the length that suits you.

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Подрежьте веревку на нужную длину.


Article in English: People who are trying to quit smoking will often be irritable. Know that your boyfriend’s behavior is not about you. However, you certainly have the right to call him out on rude or unkind behavior and to get away from him entirely if this irritability becomes full-fledged abuse. This is especially important if you live together. If your boyfriend’s behavior exposes you to second-hand smoke, both of you are at risk for serious health problems. Moreover, people who don’t smoke at home are likelier to quit. Don’t keep lighters or ash trays in your home, either—this will just remind your boyfriend of what he’s avoiding. This will not only further protect your own health, but also—by eliminating potentially triggering settings—help your boyfriend avoid the behavior. How important is it to you that your boyfriend quit smoking? While there are steps you can take to help him quit, you will need to think about how you will proceed if he has no interest in doing so.  Think about whether his smoking outweighs all of his other good qualities. Most people have serious flaws, and some experts suggest that having dealbreakers is not really conducive to happiness.  The exception here is a serious moral or ethical shortcoming. Smoking does not really fall into this category, but it can prevent a long and healthy life. If losing your boyfriend to health problems down the road sounds too painful, smoking might just be too much for your relationship to overcome. If his smoking is a dealbreaker, he needs to be aware of it. It's not fair giving him an ultimatum he doesn't know about. Tell him that you cannot be with a smoker, but that you are confident he can quit and want to help him do so.

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Не принимайте это на свой счет. Позаботьтесь о том, чтобы в доме и в автомобиле не было запаха сигаретного дыма. Избегайте мест, в которых курят. Помните о пределах своих возможностей.


Article in English: People who attempt suicide are more likely to be suffering from a serious mental condition, such as depression, and can get help for it. These steps can help you work to get to the root of why you considered suicide. If your suicidal feelings were brought on by a specific event, like the grief of being jilted, job loss, or becoming disabled, remember that this kind of situational depression can still be helped by treatment.  Be sure to take any prescribed medications according to your doctor’s recommendation.  Never stop taking medications without speaking to your doctor first. Be sure to attend all of your scheduled counseling sessions.  If necessary, have someone reliable scheduled to take you every week to have an extra layer of accountability for going. If you are religious (or even perhaps if you are not) and have access to a spiritual leader, try talking to him or her. Those called to religious ministry are trained in helping people in crisis, including those in despair and suicidal. He or she can help you ease the pain by offering a new perspective and giving you some things to think about.  Many hospitals in the United States have chaplains. Like chaplains in the armed forces, these individuals are typically people of faith, trained and experienced in working with people of many beliefs, and sometimes none at all. There is no charge for this service and can be worth looking into. A man or woman of faith may not be for everyone. Especially if you are atheist or have a philosophical or experiential issue with religion. You may only find a spiritual leader helpful if you are already involved in that particular spiritual or religious community. Although this article is pointing out resources you may find helpful in this critical time, this may or may not be a good resource for you. There may be support groups, both online and in your community, where you can find comfort by talking to other people who have suicidal thoughts or who have attempted suicide in the past and set up a social network of...

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Обратитесь за помощью к квалифицированному психиатру. Поговорите с духовным наставником. Запишитесь в группу взаимопомощи. Избавьтесь от провоцирующих факторов. Старайтесь не оставаться в одиночестве. Определите порядок действий по обеспечению безопасности.


Article in English: People who break knuckles often report feeling a popping or snapping sensation in their hand the moment the break occurs.  The snapping feeling can be caused by the actual breaking of the bone or pieces of the bone popping out of their original place.  If you feel this occur, it is a good idea to stop what you’re doing and examine your hand. The popping sensation isn’t always present when a knuckle is broken.  Whether or not you’ll experience a popping feeling depends on the severity of your fracture. A broken knuckle is often referred to as a “boxer’s fracture” because it occurs most often when a person punches a hard surface.  When your injury happened, were you punching a wall or some other immovable surface?  Maybe you were involved in a fist fight.  If you have been hitting something solid, there’s a good chance you may have broken your knuckle.  There are other possible ways to break your knuckle that are not as common.  You can break your knuckle while falling down, working with machines or doing any activity that exposes your hand to trauma. Some doctors now call a broken knuckle a “brawler’s fracture” instead of a “boxer’s fracture” because boxers prevent broken knuckles by wearing protective gear.  You’re more likely to break a knuckle hitting something with your bare fist. A broken knuckle will be accompanied with severe, immediate pain.  Right when the injury occurs, you will experience a sharp pang in your hand which will be followed by an intense throbbing feeling.  Depending on your body’s tolerance for pain, the feeling can be debilitating and force you to stop whatever you’re doing. If your knuckle only has a minor fracture, the pain may not be as severe.  However, you should still stop using your hand as you could further injure your knuckle. The moment you break your knuckle, the blood will start flowing towards the area of the fracture causing your hand to get hot.  Check the temperature in your injured hand and then your other hand.  If your injured hand feels much warmer than the other...

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Обратите внимание, почувствовали ли вы щелчок. Определите причину травмы. Обратите внимание на немедленную боль. Оцените температуру ладони.


Article in English: People who do not exercise face an elevated risk of back pain. A lack of exercise can make your back muscles weak and stiff, restricting movement, increasing stress on the back, and increasing the likelihood of a herniated disc. Exercising will strengthen the muscles that support your spine as well as the muscles in your back, stomach, and legs. It can also help to relieve back pain. Try to get 30 minutes of exercise at least five days per week. You can do anything you like, such as walking, biking, swimming, or dancing. Perform strength training exercises at least twice per week. Choose exercises that target your back, stomach, and legs to increase the strength and flexibility of these muscles, and reduce the risk of a herniated disc. Try partial sit-ups or crunches, pelvic tilts, bridging exercises, and plank exercises.   Crunch. To do a crunch, lay on your back. Keeping your knees bent, raise your shoulders about 3–6 inches (8–20 cm) off the floor, exhaling on the way up and inhaling on the way down. Do this slowly 8-10 times with your arms crossed over your chest.  Pelvic tilt. To do a pelvic tilt, lie on your back with your knees bent and feet flat on the floor. Then, tighten the buttocks and pelvis so that they tip up slightly, pressing your lower back to the floor. Hold for one second and then relax.  Bridging exercise. A bridging exercise is an advanced progression of a pelvic tilt. To do a bridging exercise, lie on your back with your knees bent. Tighten the buttocks and raise your buttocks off the floor. Hold the position for 10 to 20 seconds and lower back to the initial pelvic tilt position. Repeat four more times  Plank exercise. A plank exercise is one of the best exercises to strengthen the core. To do a plank exercise, lie on a floor or bed. Lift your upper body over your elbows while getting on your toes. Hold your body in a straight line and tighten your stomach muscles. Hold the position for 10 to 20 seconds. Lower your body, rest, and repeat four more times. Aerobic exercise increases...

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Регулярно занимайтесь спортом. Выполняйте силовые упражнения. Регулярно выполняйте аэробные упражнения с умеренной нагрузкой. Не перегружайте себя и выполняйте все упражнения правильно. Всегда обувайте подходящую обувь. Следите за своим весом. Бросьте курить.


Article in English: People who do not get enough sleep have trouble sticking to exercise schedules. This can be due to increased fatigue. If you tend to skip out on quality sleep, this can be a barrier to weight loss. You need about seven to nine hours of sleep a day.  You may feel the need to unwind after a night shift. However, if you get home at 3am and play video games until 5am, you may end up skipping out on high quality sleep. Set a bedtime for yourself and stick to it. Even if it's difficult, having a set bedtime can help you manage your schedule and help stave off weight gain. Working the night shift can be exhausting. However, bingeing on caffeine late at night can make sleep impossible. Avoid going for coffee and energy drinks towards the end of your shift so you don't go home wired and unable to sleep. If your mind is racing with thoughts from work, you need to find a way to shut your brain down. Make a relaxing bedtime ritual for yourself. This can help you wind down and fall asleep.  Something you find personally calming can help. For example, taking a warm bath may be a good idea. Reading can also take your mind off of the moment, promoting sleep. You should stay away from electronic screens before bed. The blue light that comes from a laptop or phone stimulates brain activity, making sleep difficult. Stay consistent. If you engage in the same ritual every night, your body will learn to associate that routine with sleep. This will help encourage your brain and body to shut down for rest.

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Хорошо высыпайтесь ночью. Ограничьте потребление кофеина ближе к концу смены. Найдите способ отключить сознание после работы.


Article in English: People who enter into emotional affairs sometimes engage in behavior that can be considered problematic or dramatically different from how they usually act. These behaviors can take various forms. Look for anything that is too intimate or personal between your partner and the other person.  For example, your partner may text the person often. They may also call the other person. This often happens at night, and may even be done secretly. Look for anything that your partner shouldn’t be doing with someone. You may also notice changes in your partner’s behavior such as staying up later, going into work earlier, spending more money, or drinking alcohol more often. Emotional affairs often give people an outlet to be different or act differently than they do around their partners. If you have contact with your partner and the person you suspect they are having an affair with, watch their interactions. Look for any differences from the way they act with you. For example, your partner may feel emotionally distant from you due to everyday stresses like bills, work, and home responsibilities. With this other person, they may be able to laugh, be relaxed, and be more playful. However, they might also because anxious or uncomfortable when they are around the person in your presence. As an emotional affair progresses, your partner may start comparing you to the other person, or they may start to express frustration with things about you that they have never mentioned before. The comments may be random and not meant maliciously, but they may still point to your partner thinking about the other person. For example, your partner may say, “They think my jokes are funny,” “They like the same kind of movies I like,” or “They can run at the same pace as me.” Start noting if your partner says things like this and how often.

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Обратите внимание на неуместное поведение и на изменения в привычном поведении. Подумайте, не стал ли ваш партнер вести себя иначе в присутствии человека, которым он может быть увлечен. Прислушайтесь к тому, что ваш партнер говорит о человеке, которым он увлечен.


Article in English: People who exercise feel better about their appearance even if they don’t lose weight.  Take baby steps. If you can’t bring yourself to turn off the TV and to go outside for a walk, at least stand up and walk in place for a few minutes in front of the TV. Any exercise is better than none at all. And once you develop the habit (which can take about two months), you can build on your success. Do aerobic and strength training exercises. Both kinds of exercise can help burn fat and improve muscle tone. Don’t go on a crash diet with the intention to lose weight fast. Instead, modify your eating habits. The latter approach will help you avoid feeling like you've failed (if you don’t lose weight as quickly as you would like). Cycles of losing and then gaining back weight have also been found to be unhealthy  When evaluating a weight loss plan, make sure it includes foods from all major food groups so you don’t miss out on essential nutrients.  Make sure your weight loss plan fits your lifestyle and budget. If you can’t afford or find the foods you plan to eat in your local store, or if the plan requires a lot of cooking (and you don’t like to cook), you are less likely to reach your weight loss goal. Maintain your appearance and feel more comfortable naked by taking care of your body. This includes bathing, trimming or removing body hair, and taking care of your skin, nails, and teeth. Many cosmetic procedures are available to change your appearance, from spray tans to waxing to cosmetic surgery. Some of these procedures can have negative effects on your health (e.g. long term use of tanning booths), so make sure to learn about and weigh the potential risks if you choose to undergo one or more of these procedures. You can modify your appearance by altering the way you stand and how you carry yourself.  Stand up straight. This is the most effective way to communicate confidence, and it can also affect how you body looks. Although it may feel natural, especially if you’re naked, don’t cross your arms - others will...

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Занимайтесь спортом. Скорректируйте питание. Следите за личной гигиеной и ухаживайте за собой. Следите за своими жестами и походкой.


Article in English: People who experience hallucinations may not openly talk about what they sense. In these instances, you will need to know how to identify less obvious signs of hallucination.  Someone with auditory hallucinations may seem unaware of his or her surroundings and may excessively talk to himself or herself. That individual may seek isolation or obsessively listen to music in an attempt to drown out the voices. Someone who visually fixates on something you cannot see might be experiencing a visual hallucination. Scratching or brushing away seemingly invisible disturbances can be a sign of tactile hallucinations, while holding one's nose can indicate smell-based hallucinations. Spitting food out can be a sign of taste-based hallucinations. If you need to treat or help someone else suffering from hallucinations, it is important to remain calm throughout the entire process.  Hallucinations can become sources of severe anxiety, so the patient might already be in a state of panic. Adding more stress and panic to the situation will only worsen things. When someone you know suffers from frequent hallucinations, you should also discuss what happens during a time when he or she is not actively hallucinating. Ask about what is most likely to occur and what the patient needs you to do to offer support. Calmly explain to the patient that you are unable to see, hear, feel, taste, or touch the sensation he or she is describing.  Explain this in a straightforward and non-accusatory manner to avoid upsetting the patient. If the hallucinations are mild to moderate, and if the patient has had past episodes of hallucinations, you may also try to explain that the sensations he or she is experiencing are not real. Patients who experience hallucinations for the first time or those with severe hallucinations may not be able to understand that they are hallucinating, however, and may lash out if they are questioned or doubted. Depending on the circumstances, it might be helpful to distract the patient by switching topics of conversation...

Summary in Russian:

Научитесь распознавать симптомы. Сохраняйте спокойствие. Объясните, что происходит на самом деле. Отвлеките больного. Уговорите человека обратиться за профессиональной помощью. Продолжайте следить за ситуацией.


Article in English: People who fulfill their dreams tend to have a strong foundation. This means people who help you when you ask, people who encourage you, people who can act as your mentor, and so on. Without connecting with people you are far less likely to have the opportunities that come with community.  Networking is a big way to make things happen. It can lead to a job, to your book being published, to discovering a new dream. Take advantage of opportunities to meet people in your chosen area. For example, if there's a journalist convention in town and your dream is to be a journalist, make sure you go to it and talk to people.  Look at every interaction as an opportunity. You have no idea where your next connection might come from. It might be that girl you met on the plane, it might be your boss at work. Talk to people, let them know what you're interested in, and make sure you return that interest by paying attention to who they are and what they do. Build community. This means that you have a strong support group, which makes it easier when you have setbacks while fulfilling your dreams. It means that while you are focusing on your dreams, you are also focusing on benefiting and connecting with other people on a personal level. No one who has ever attempted to achieve their dreams has gotten a free ride. There are lots of obstacles that can crop up. Being prepared and being flexible can help you a lot when dealing with them.  One of the obstacles to fulfilling your dreams is the need to do everything perfectly. Perfectionism is going to make you unlikely to ever get started on your dreams. It's usually an excuse for procrastination. "I'll wait until I get my promotion..." "I'll wait until the kids are grown up..." "I can't start until I know exactly what I'm doing..." Another obstacle is fear. You're afraid to fail, you're afraid that you'll find out down the line that this isn't what you wanted after all, you're afraid other people will think your dreams are stupid. Letting go of fear is the same as letting go of...

Summary in Russian:

Ищите единомышленников. Давайте отпор проблемам и препятствиям. Будьте реалистом. Не забывайте о мотивации. Рискуйте.