If you want her to really start trusting you, then you should confide in her. Tell her about what’s on your mind, what your fears are, what your childhood was like, what drama you’re having with your friends, or really anything else you’ve been thinking about. If you open up to her, then she’ll see that she has more reason to trust you, because you’re willing to open up to her. You don’t need to freak her out by revealing incredibly person details when you’re just getting to know each other, but the more time you spend with her, the more you should open up.  If you talk to her about the things that really matter to you, then she’ll see that you really do think she’s special and that you like her. The more you confide in her, the more she’ll be comfortable confiding to you back. That said, she may not be comfortable confiding at the same pace, so don’t put pressure on her to reveal more to you than she’s ready for. If you tell her things you’ve never told anyone, then she’ll really see that she means a lot to you. Of course, you should only do this if you want to. If you really want to gain her trust, then she has to see that you’re not just there for the good times. If she’s in a fight with her best friend, having a rough week at work, or just not feeling so great, then it’s up to you to be there for her. If she thinks you’re only around for the kissing and the fun dates, then she’ll see that she can’t really trust you. Show her that you’re there for the sunshine and the rain.  If you want her to see you as someone she can truly depend on, then you should support her when she’s upset. Don’t just get frustrated and act like she’s getting upset over nothing or like you’re just waiting for her to be in a better mood. If you really want a long term thing with this girl, then you have to be prepared for the fact that she won’t always be in a good mood. The same is true for you, right? Another way to gain her trust is to actually take the time to listen to her. Look her in the eyes, don’t interrupt her, and let her...

TL;DR in Russian:

Доверьтесь ей. Будьте рядом в тяжелые для нее минуты. Слушайте ее. Покажите заинтересованность. Приложите усилия, чтобы понравиться ее семье и друзьям. Выполняйте свои обещания.


If you want powder foundation to last for the day, primer is key. Primer is liquid makeup you apply underneath foundation. Primer makes your foundation look more natural and helps prevent it from creasing. It can also help keep foundation on all day long. When using powder foundation, make sure to apply a layer of primer first. When applying primer, start from the inside of your face and work out. Dab a few dots of primer on your nose, under your eyes, and on your cheek and chin. Then, use your fingers to spread the primer evenly across your face. Mineral or light foundation is for light to medium coverage. If you want more coverage, go for pressed powder, which tends to go on darker. You may also choose to apply a layer of mineral foundation and target problem areas with pressed powder. To see if a foundation is a good color match for your skin, dip a q-tip into the foundation. Draw a line along your jawline area on the side of your face. If the line is invisible, this makeup is a good match. If you can see this line, you'll want to try a different shade. You may have to experiment with several different colors before you find a shade that works. Try asking someone working at a department store makeup counter to help you find a match. This way, you can try out makeup on your skin before making a purchase. You should always use a sponge or brush when applying powder foundation. Using fingers tends to make your makeup look caked on, and your fingers will provide far less precision than a solid makeup brush or sponge.

TL;DR in Russian:

Не пренебрегайте праймером. Выбирайте правильную плотность покрытия. Подберите правильный оттенок. Не наносите тональную основу с помощью пальцев.


If you want the girl to miss you when you're not together, then you can't spend too much of your free time with her. You should hang out with her enough to make her see how awesome, fun, and interesting you are, but not so much that she starts to take you for granted or feels like you've run out of things to say to each other. Make an effort to see her once or twice a week, but make sure she's not the only thing on your social calendar, or she'll begin to think that she can have you whenever she wants.  If she wants to hang out with you, she should make plans with you at least a few days in advance. You don't want it to look like you're at her beck and call.  When you do hang out with her, don't spend the entire day with her, but leave to do something else after a few hours so she really relishes the time you do spend together instead of getting too comfortable with you. This may feel a little strange, at first, but hey, it's part of playing hard to get. If you and the girl you like talk on the phone, make sure you keep your conversations relatively short so she doesn't think you have nothing better to do than to talk to her all the time. You can talk to her to set up plans or to see how she's doing for a few minutes, but you shouldn't let the conversation drag on so long that you've run out of things to say. To keep her interested, you want her feel like she can never run out of things to say to you.  Don't tell her everything that you're thinking or everything that's going on in your life over the phone. Save some of it for when you actually hang out in person. Make the time count. If you only talk to her on the phone for a few minutes, make sure you bring your A game and charm her, make her laugh, and make her feel special. Don't talk to her while also watching the Jets game; make her feel like you do value your conversations. To make a girl miss you, you can't make her feel like you're at her beck and call. If she texts you and you're busy, don't go out of your way to give her a lengthy response ASAP,...

TL;DR in Russian:

Ограничьте количество времени, которое вы проводите вместе. Ограничьте число ваших разговоров с девушкой по телефону. Не бросайте другие дела, чтобы поговорить с девушкой; в противном случае она будет думать, что вы у нее на побегушках. Не бросайте ваши любимые занятия (увлечения) ради того, чтобы встречаться с девушкой. Не забывайте о друзьях. Позвольте ей строить догадки.


If you want the girl to miss you when you're not together, then you have to remind her of your presence from time to time. Send her a text to say hi or to see how her day is going, or give her a quick call to tell her about what you've been up to. You can also send her an email from work or shoot her a quick text when you're away with your friend for the weekend. Make sure you talk to her just enough that she doesn't forget about you, but that she also doesn't feel smothered by you, either.  If you're apart, make sure you're not always the one getting in touch first. You can call or text her from time to time, but you shouldn't make her take you for granted and feel like you'll always call even if she doesn't. If you know she has something important coming up, such as a job interview or a volleyball game, then check in with her to wish her luck. If it just happened, check in to see how it went. This will show her that you care and that you are paying attention, even if you're not always around. One trick to getting the girl to miss you is to make sure you're on her mind as she's getting ready for bed. You can send her a sweet text or plan your phone calls so you talk to her later in the evening, so she thinks of you as she goes to bed and maybe even dreams about you. She also may wake up thinking about the great conversation you had—and will miss you even more as a result.  Talking to her before she gets ready for bed will give you a better chance of really capturing her attention. She'll be winding down and will be able to focus on you more easily instead of talking to you while having a million other things going on at the same time. Of course, make sure it's okay for her to talk on the phone late at night—you don't want her to get in trouble with her parents. Another way to make sure that the girl misses you is to give her something that makes it so you're never far from her mind. It can be a necklace you gave her for her birthday, a letter you wrote to her, a sweatshirt that smells like you that you let...

TL;DR in Russian:

Время от времени связывайтесь с девушкой. Сделайте так, чтобы засыпая она думала о вас. Подарите ей что-то такое, что будет напоминать ей о вас. Напишите девушке романтическую записку о том, как вы любите ее. Задавайте девушке вопросы о ее жизни. Относитесь к девушке хорошо, когда вы вместе. Заканчивайте разговоры на хорошей ноте.


If you want the healthy omega-3 fats but can’t stand fish, you can simply take fish oil supplements containing omega-3s. These supplements have been shown to lower triglyceride levels in adults. EPA and DHA are the fish oils you want to maximize omega-3s. Take as directed. If you have trouble packing enough fiber into your daily routine, then you can add a psyllium supplement. Psyllium is a water-soluble form of fiber, and it is available in several forms, including pills and powders that you stir into a glass of water (such as Metamucil). Studies have shown that high-fiber diets including psyllium lead to lower levels of triglycerides. Soy protein supplementation is most commonly available in a powder form that you can mix into a variety juices, smoothies, etc. Many studies have shown that soy protein supplementation can lower triglycerides, as well as having an overall positive effect on your cholesterol levels. Take as directed. Studies have shown that whey protein can also positively affect triglyceride levels.

TL;DR in Russian:

Принимайте добавки с рыбьим жиром. Ежедневно принимайте псиллиум. Добавьте в свой повседневный рацион соевый белок.


If you want to add some flavor to your chicken, squeeze some lemon or lime juice over it. This will give it a mildly citrus flavor.  If you use lime, use mint to compliment the flavor. Try sprinkling some fresh herbs over your chicken to compliment a lemon flavor. Mustard goes well with chicken. You can spread some dijon or plain mustard over a chicken breast before serving it. If you're having chicken breast on a sandwich, add mustard to the sandwich. . You can use your chicken breast to make chicken kabobs. Cut your chicken into small slices and then stick small wooden sticks through them. You can also add things like roasted red peppers and other vegetables to your kabobs for a quick, healthy snack or meal. You can chop up chicken breast and add it to a salad. This can be a quick and healthy lunch or dinner.

TL;DR in Russian:

Добавьте лимон или лайм. Смажьте куриное мясо горчицей. Приготовьте кебаб с курицей. Добавьте курицу в салат.


If you want to be a better boyfriend to your girlfriend, then you have to work on being more of a gentleman. This doesn't mean you have to turn into Cary Grant or pick her up in a horse-drawn carriage, but it does mean that you should try to treat her with a bit more attention and respect. Open doors for her, whether she's getting into your car or walking into a restaurant. Pull out her chair before she sits down. Give her your coat if she's cold and avoid being overly vulgar in her presence. Don't worry: being a gentleman doesn't mean acting phony or over the top. Just treating your girlfriend with more care and attention will make her see that you're a true gentleman. Many boyfriends are notoriously bad at communicating their needs. If you want to be a better boyfriend, then you have to work on being able to honestly but kindly tell your girlfriend what you're feeling, how to have a conversation without getting angry, and how to learn to compromise instead of being upset when you don't get what you want. If you develop stronger communication skills, your relationship will flourish.  When your girlfriend is upset, you should work on understanding what she's really angry about and try to address her concerns; if she's mad at you for being late for a date, for example, it may mean that she's mad because she feels like you don't put enough effort into the relationship. Timing is also important if you want to have a serious conversation. If you want to have a big talk with your girlfriend, try to pick a time when she won't be too tired or distracted to have the conversation. If you want to be a better boyfriend, then you have to make yourself more available to your girlfriend. This doesn't mean you should be free 24/7 and have to bend to her will at any given moment, but it does mean that you should make enough time to keep your relationship going strong, from time to weekly date nights to time to talk on the phone or watch a movie with her. If you're never around or always prefer hanging out with your buddies...

TL;DR in Russian:

Будьте джентльменом. Улучшите навыки общения. Уделяйте своей девушке больше времени. Уважайте ее независимость. Будьте любезным с друзьями и родственниками своей девушки.


If you want to be a fair teacher, then you have to make it clear that you respect the opinions of ideas of all of your students. If you only call on the same three students or dismiss the comments of a student who is struggling more than the rest, then you may develop a reputation of not being fair. If you don’t let students who are more shy or more problematic have a turn at speaking, then they’ll be discouraged from participating in your class, because they won’t feel that you’re treating them fairly.  Keep in mind that allowing a diverse range of opinions into your classroom also makes for a better learning experience for all students, even the ones who don’t contribute much. It’s not fair to let only a few of your favorite students express themselves. Practice calling on students who haven’t raised their hands and asking what they think. Though you should proceed with caution with students who are more reserved, setting this standard can make students feel more accountable in the classroom. You may think that you’re fair in the classroom, but when you take a step back, you may see that you don’t react fairly to every student. Ideally, you should be receptive to what every student has to say, pause to wait for an answer from every student, and give positive feedback and encouragement to all of your students. When you go home, ask yourself how you reacted to each student and see if there’s anything you could have done that was more fair. You can even ask another teacher to observe you to give you honest feedback. You may find that you’re spending twice as much time with some students and are neglecting others. Though some students do need more help than others, it’s only fair to give all students some of your time and attention. If you really want to be fair, then you have to learn to see the good in each and every student. You may have a student who does so poorly in the classroom that you may feel like all you can do is offer criticism, but you should work extra hard to find something to praise about that...

TL;DR in Russian:

Позвольте высказаться каждому ученику. Относитесь ко всем ученикам одинаково. Найдите что-то, за что можно похвалить каждого ученика. Ставьте оценки справедливо. Справедливое отношение к ученикам не всегда означает одинакового отношения к ним. Не заводите «любимчиков».


If you want to be a good boy, then it’s important to treat other people with respect. Whether they are your parents’ friends or your dentist, it’s important to be nice and respectful to the people around you and to treat them with basic kindness. Respect their space, ask them how they’re doing, and avoid asking overly personal questions. Being respectful is an important quality of a good boy as well as a good man.  Good boys are respectful, especially of their elders. Make sure to treat people who are older than you with the utmost respect, even if you may disagree with them sometimes. When you’re in public, make sure you’re not too loud and avoid not cleaning up your mess. A restaurant or movie theatre isn’t your bedroom, and you need to be aware of the people around you. Another way to be a good boy is to be nice to your neighbors. Avoid making too much noise, accidentally getting on their property, ignoring them, or generally not treating them kindly. Your parents will want you to be nice to them to help make a good impression for your family, and being nice to them will make your living situation much easier. Even if you feel like you don’t have a lot in common with them, it’s always important to be nice. Just making polite small talk can make a big difference. When you see your neighbors, just say, “Hi, how are you?” You don’t have to get wrapped up in a long conversation with them, but take the time to acknowledge them. One of the most important parts of being a good boy is treating girls with the kindness and respect they deserve. Be nice to them, make an effort to get to know them, and only tease them if you’re both being playful. Don’t ever make demeaning or nasty comments to a girl or make her feel bad about her looks or who she is. Even if the other boys around you aren’t mature enough to be nice to girls yet, it’s important that you break this mold and make an effort to treat them with care and kindness.  When you see a girl, be friendly and ask how she’s doing. You can even compliment her new...

TL;DR in Russian:

Относитесь к другим с уважением. Относитесь по-доброму к своим соседям. Относитесь хорошо к девочкам. Будьте вежливы. Помогайте другим. Делитесь своей положительной энергией.


If you want to be an effective communicator, and ensure that people listen to what you have to say, it’s important to understand who you are talking to. If you are trying to engage people on a subject completely alien to them, it’s going to be a difficult task. Ask yourself the following questions about your audience:   Who are they, and what do they do? How can the audience benefit from listening to you? What do they already know about the topic? What is the relationship between you and the audience? What are your audience interested in? What impact will what you say have on the audience? Asking the audience simple questions will help you to answer these questions. For example, if you are talking about a recent report, you could ask “how many of you have had time to read the new report yet?” Being a good listener is an essential part of being a good communicator. Whether it is a serious conversation with a significant other, or a business discussion with some colleagues, making the effort to listen and understand the concerns of other people will really help. If you feel like the person you are talking to is not properly responding to you, stop for a moment and just listen. Maintain eye contact when the other person is speaking, and try to concentrate and empathise. Try to practice active listening by following these basic rules:  Try to understand before you try to be understood. Be non-judgemental. Give the speaker your undivided attention. Use silence effectively, and don’t interrupt unless necessary. If you want to get people to listen to you and take your ideas on board, it can be very helpful to try and find some common ground with your interlocutors. Your audience may be more receptive to what you have to say if you can frame it in a way that is more inclusive and connects directly with their concerns.  For example, if you are explaining a problem you have had, you could try and introduce it by relating it to something that happened to the person you are talking to. You may be more likely to form...

TL;DR in Russian:

Оцените своих слушателей. Слушайте. Ищите точки соприкосновения. Распознавайте невербальные сигналы.


If you want to be modest, then you have to look the part. Don't hover over people, wave your hands wildly when you gesture, touch people you barely know with too much confidence, or stand with your hands on your hips and a giant maniacal smile planted on your face. Just stand with good posture, smile when the occasion calls for it, and keep your hands at your sides. You don't have to hunch over or look at the ground to be modest. Just don't go so over the top with your body language that people think you're full of yourself. If you're modest, then you shouldn't march right into a room like you own the place and start chatting away like the belle of the ball. Stride into a room with confidence, and calmly greet people or give them hugs, but don't show up and throw your hands in the air and cry, "The party's here!" The way you carry yourself, especially when you enter a new environment, can influence how modest you really look. This doesn't mean that you should dress like you just arrived to America on the Mayflower. However, if you want to be modest, then you should avoid clothes that are too flashy and which draw too much attention to you. Wearing obscene graphic tees, neon colors, or zebra or leopard print patterns may not be your best bet. Wear something that accentuates your best features without putting it all out there. Women should define what dressing with modesty means to them. There's no harm in showing off a little cleavage as long as you've got it under control. Part of being modest means not acting or looking like you're better than everyone else. So, that $1000 Prada purse or those expensive diamond earrings may have to go if you want to look modest in front of other people. It's okay to own some nice things and to bring them out from time to time, but if you're rolling in with $5000 worth of electronics, jewelry, watches, shoes, and any other accessories that you can think of, then other people will raise their eyebrows. Maybe you worked hard for that $1000 Prada purse. It's okay to wear it. But...

TL;DR in Russian:

Существует язык тела, показывающий сдержанность. Входите в комнату скромно. Одевайтесь скромно. Избегайте роскошных аксессуаров. Не забывайте о том, чтобы не выглядеть «слишком» скромными.


If you want to be perky, you'll need to have a high overall energy level. Work on maintaining a regular sleep schedule. This will help you get a better night's rest.  Go to bed and get up on roughly the same time each day. Your body runs on a circadian rhythm that adjusts to a regular schedule. If you set your bedtime for 11 PM each day, and your wake-up time for 8 AM, your body will wake up and fall asleep naturally at those times.  Have a bedtime ritual. This can help signal to your body that it's time for sleep. Do something relaxing before bed. Take a warm bath, read a book, or have a small snack.  Avoid going on your computer or phone close to bedtime. The light emitted by electronic screens stimulates brain activity, making sleep difficult. Magnesium is an important vitamin to a balanced diet. Upping your magnesium levels can increase your overall energy. It can increase your heart rate and oxygen levels, resulting in higher overall energy.  Women should get 300 milligrams of magnesium a day. Men should strive for 350 milligrams. You should talk to your doctor about healthy ways to reach these levels.  Foods high in magnesium include hazelnuts, cashews, whole grains, and bran-based products. Halibut is also high in magnesium. If you feel tired during the day, take a short walk. This can increase your energy level, leaving you perkier. At work, take a 15 minute break to take a brisk walk around the block. Taking short 10 to 15 minute walks throughout the day can help boost your energy level. You should also strive for regular physical activity.  Try to exercise for 20 to 30 minutes at least 3 times a week.  Pick a form of exercise you enjoy. If you loathe running, you'll struggle to stay on a schedule. If a long bike ride is incredibly relaxing for you, try biking instead. Talk to your doctor before starting a new exercise regimen. You want to make sure you do not strain yourself. Many Americans skip breakfast, but if you want to be perky, breakfast is a must. Low-energy and poor performance at work and...

TL;DR in Russian:

Регулярно высыпайтесь. Потребляйте больше магния. Старайтесь больше двигаться. Завтракайте. Постарайтесь избавиться от стресса. Пейте больше жидкости. Отказывайтесь от сахара и заменяйте его цельнозерновыми злаками.


If you want to be really good at something you need to practice, right? Well, smiling is no different. If you're not a person who smiles a lot naturally, you will need to get used to what smiling feels like and learn how to replicate that feeling more naturally. Practice by smiling when no one else is around, in the bathroom, in bed, in your car. That way, you will feel less self-conscious.  Every morning, try to look in the mirror and smile at yourself. Concentrate on making the smile look natural, by extending it to your eyes. A slight upturn of the mouth isn't going to convince anybody. Find a smile that you like the look of and try to memorize how your face feels when you make it. That way, you will be able to replicate that exact smile in everyday situations. It's no secret that being happy makes you smile, so why not take advantage of that fact? If you find yourself in a situation where you know you'll have to smile and you want it to look natural, take a moment to conjure a happy memory or the face of a person you love. These positive mental images will automatically boost your mood and help you to smile more naturally. Bottom line: think happy thoughts! Everybody knows at least one person to whom smiling it the easiest, most natural thing in the world. Someone who'll smile at the drop of a hat, at everyone and everything. Chances are this person is well-liked, and is known for being approachable and trustworthy. Such are the powers of a great smile. Take some time to interact with this person, one-on-one, in a sociable setting and observe how and when they smile.  Make a mental note of how often they smile, along with the things they smile in response to. Do they smile when you say something funny? Or even when you don't? Are they smiling to be polite, or just because they seem genuinely happy? Now you've seen how a natural smiler navigates normal conversations, you will feel more confident about adopting similar behaviors and incorporating more smiles into your daily interactions.. In situations like...

TL;DR in Russian:

Тренируйтесь перед зеркалом. Подумайте о счастливом событии или о любимом человеке. Наблюдайте за улыбающимися людьми. Найдите партнера. Выберите то, что будет заставлять вас улыбаться. Улыбнитесь незнакомцу. Ведите дневник улыбок. Работайте мышцами вашего лица. Притворяйтесь до тех пор, пока улыбка не станет настоящей.


If you want to be sophisticated, then you can’t just look and sound sophisticated—you have to be able to do sophisticated things. There are a number of sophisticated hobbies and interests that you can take up, and you should pick something—or a few things—that really mean something to you, that you enjoy doing them, that is. Having sophisticated hobbies will not only make you more sophisticated, but it will make you more likely to meet other sophisticated people and it will give you something sophisticated to talk about. Here are some hobbies of sophisticated people:  Tennis Badminton Golf Collecting records (Especially vintage vinyl, but may include classical music or jazz) Cooking fine cuisine Collecting fine wines Travelling Reading Watching films (especially classic, foreign, or art films) Going to museums Ballroom dancing Sailing Gardening Antiques Yoga Martial Arts Running / Marathons Rowing/Crew Horses Theater - Broadway, opera, ballet, local and dinner theaters, Shakespeare If you want to be sophisticated, then you have to know what’s going on in the world. You have to be updated on current events so you have a sense of how the world works on a daily basis and so that you can contribute to conversations about changes in politics, arts, media, or local government. Make sure you watch the news for at least 15 minutes a day, or better yet, that you make an effort to read the news for at least 15-30 minutes a day, whether you do this in the morning, at work, or during your commute.  Get your news from as many sources as possible. If you only get your news from The New York Times or The Wall Street Journal, then you are less likely to get an objective perspective. If you’re really busy during the week, make an effort to read the Saturday or Sunday paper pretty thoroughly so you have a sense of what you missed. Being well-read is a must if you want to be truly sophisticated. Having some knowledge about classic works of literature as well as contemporary works will make you a more well-rounded, interesting,...

TL;DR in Russian:

Выберите изысканное хобби. Следите за новостями. Активно читайте. Любите и цените другие культуры. Цените искусство. Путешествуйте так много, как только можете. Научитесь ценить вино. Оставайтесь собой.


If you want to be taken seriously, confidence is just as important as intelligence. Keep your chin up, and stand up straight with your shoulders back. Maintain eye contact with the person you're talking to, or look from face to face when presenting to a group. Many people with low self-esteem or fear of public speaking will undermine themselves by adding "I don't know," "I guess," "I think," "I'm not sure," or "maybe" to their sentences. Cut these out of your speech, and you and your audience will both have more confidence in what you're saying. . Active sentences sound more confident than passive sentences, especially when you use the word "I." For example, instead of "The email will be sent out tonight," say "I will send the email tonight." . Smile while you listen or talk to someone, when appropriate. Use an occasional hand gesture, shrug, or head movement to show that you're paying attention. Try not to fidget, shift from one foot to the other, or tap your fingers. If you can't shake the habit completely, switch to something less noticeable, like wiggling your toes inside your shoe. People often judge you based on outward appearance before you even start talking. Wear presentable clothing and pay attention to personal hygiene, especially when you're preparing for an important event. Glasses are stereotypically associated with intelligence. Wear them instead of contacts if this is the look you want to present. Note that wearing "vanity glasses" with no prescription can backfire around people who know you don't need them.

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Примите уверенную осанку. Не позволяйте мешать вам. Используйте активные предложения. Используйте дружелюбный язык жестов. Приоденьтесь.


If you want to build muscle, you must include strength training in your workout plan. Lifting heavy weights 3-4 days per week should be sufficient to build muscle. There is no need to strength train every day. Your muscles need time to rest and recover, anyhow.  Some key exercises to include in your weight lifting regimen are bench press, overhead press, deadlifts, and squats. When lifting weights, focus on 1-2 areas at a time. For instance, work on chest and back one day, legs and glutes another day, and triceps, biceps, and shoulders on yet another day. Doing some cardio can be beneficial for preventing fat gain while building muscle, but too much cardio can actually hinder muscle development.  Limit cardio workouts to just once or twice a week when working to build muscle.  It’s also a good idea to schedule your cardio workouts for a separate day when you are not strength training. Combining cardio and weight training can put your body into a catabolic state in which muscle tissue is burned for energy instead of fat.  To maintain cardiovascular health, you should do 75 minutes of vigorous or 150 minutes of moderate cardio activity each week. Always give your muscles time to recover after each workout. So, for instance, if you worked on the chest and back one day, then you’ll want to wait a few days before working those muscle groups again. Muscles need time to recover and repair so that they can continue to grow. Overtraining can hinder your muscles’ ability to recover, which can prevent them from growing. This will not help you build muscle. Getting enough sleep each night is essential to building muscle without fat. Muscle tissue grows and repairs itself while you are sleeping. A lack of sleep, on the other hand, can lead to weight gain. Not getting enough sleep is counterproductive to building muscle without fat.

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Прибегните к силовым тренировкам. Ограничьте кардиотренировки. Не перенапрягайтесь и позволяйте мышцам отдыхать в промежутках между тренировками. Обеспечьте себе ежедневный восьмичасовой ночной сон.


If you want to change who you are, consider the habits you do every day. What habits do you want to change? Developing new habits means letting go of old habits. For example, if you would like to make friends, but are shy and rarely go outside your ordinary routine, you might need to consider finding new habits that include other people.  If you are typically anxious and fearful, consider how your habits might contribute to your fears. Many people report that taking a break from social media results in more happiness. Start small. It will be easier to make small changes than large ones. If you want to be healthier, change a habit that brings multiple benefits. For example, if you want to be healthier, a good habit to change would be to stop smoking. This will help you be healthier, allow for easier exercise, and you'll spend less money.  You can replace a bad habit with a good one. If you notice yourself starting to engage in the negative behavior, no matter what it is, consider what you can do instead. Consider the kind of person you want to become, then think of all the habits that this new person might want to include in their life. What would be an easy habit to change? This might be a good one to start with. The basic rule to remember is that you should start either with an easy habit to change or with a habit that's causing a great deal of negativity. You can decide which one to start with. No matter how good your intentions, if you're trying to use motivation and memory to pick up a new habit, you won't get far. A good reminder doesn't rely on motivation or memory, but rather piggy-backs on an existing good habit. So, if you're trying to improve your skin by moisturizing before bed every night, start moisturizing right after you wash your face, something you already do each night. Soon, the act of washing your face will trigger you to apply your moisturizer. It can take a long time to learn a new habit — from 15 days to 254. Repetition is necessary to make a new habit stick. Even if you become...

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Определите желаемые изменения. Установите очередность изменений. Используйте напоминание для новой привычки. Повторяйте новую привычку как можно чаще. Меняйте привычку день за днем. Не торопитесь. Не усложняйте. Дайте обещание другому человеку. Система последствий и поощрений. Запаситесь терпением.


If you want to copy an entire site, or a large number of pages from a site at once, you'll want the help of an automatic site downloader. Trying to manually save each page would be a much too time-consuming task, and these utilities will automate the entire process. The most popular and powerful website copying program is HTTrack, an open source program available for Windows and Linux. This program can copy an entire site, or even the entire internet if configured (im)properly! You can download HTTrack for free from www.httrack.com. Once you’ve opened HTTrack, you’ll need to set a destination folder for the website files. Make sure to create a dedicated folder for your website copies, or you may have difficulty tracking them down in the future. Give your project a name to help you locate it. HTTrack will create a folder in your destination directory with your project name. This will ensure that HTTrack will download all of the content from the website, including any pictures or other files. You can enter in multiple websites if you'd like to copy multiple sites in the same project directory. By default, HTTrack will grab every possible link from that website that stays on the same web server. If the website you want to copy requires you to log in, use the “Add URL” button to enter the website address as well as the username and password. Once you have entered your URLs, you can begin the copying process. Depending on the size of the website, the download process can take a significant amount of time and bandwidth to complete. HTTrack will show the progress of all the files you are copying to your computer. Once the download is complete, you can open the copied website and browse it directly from your computer. Open any of the HTM or HTML files in a web browser to view the pages as if you were online. You can also open these files in a web page editor to see all of the code that makes them work. The files will be localized by default so that links point to the downloaded files and not to the website. This...

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Скачайте и установите HTTrack. Запустите HTTrack и укажите папку, в которую скопируется сайт (его файлы). В выпадающем меню выберите «Скачать веб-сайт(ы)». Введите адрес копируемого сайта. Запустите копирование сайта. Проверьте скопированный сайт.


If you want to decrease your risk for breast cancer you may choose a nut that has been shown to do just that. You could also buy a mix of nuts or create your own based on dietary objectives. There were very impressive results of a review of the evidence linking nuts and lower risk of coronary heart disease, published in the "British Journal of Nutrition", by Kelly JH, and Sabate J. In this study, researchers looked at four large studies—the Adventist Health Study, Iowa Women's Study, Nurses' Health Study and the Physician's Health Study. When evidence from all four studies was combined, subjects consuming nuts at least 4 times a week showed a 37% reduced risk of coronary heart disease compared to those who never or seldom ate nuts. Plus an additional serving of nuts per week was associated with an average of another 8.3% reduced risk of coronary heart disease, for your health! Walnuts are extremely healthy nuts having multiple benefits for consumption. They have almost as much omega 3 fatty acids as salmon and more than is recommended for a daily serving of linoleic acid and alpha linoleic acid (omega 3 fatty acids). These fatty acids have been shown to increase brain function, protect against Type II Diabetes and decrease risk of cardiovascular disease. In addition to omega 3 fatty acids, walnuts contain high amounts ellagic acid, which promotes immune health, and vitamin B6. In clinical research, walnuts slowed the development of breast cancer in mice. Peanuts, although technically not a nut, but a legume, have the highest amount of protein at 7 g per oz. They have also been shown to keep cholesterol levels low and protect against cardiovascular disease. A unique nutrient in peanuts is resveratrol, the antioxidant found in red wine with anti-aging properties. Roast peanuts to increase their health benefits! Research conducted by a team of University of Florida scientists, published in the journal Food Chemistry, shows that peanuts contain high concentrations of antioxidant called polyphenols, and that...

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Подбирайте разные орехи для своих целей, в зависимости от их питательной ценности. Грецкие орехи отличаются лучшим общим оздоровительным эффектом. Если для вас важно здоровье сердца и много белка, выберите арахис. Если для вас важно ощущение сытости, выбирайте фисташки. Лучшей защитой от рака служит миндаль. Для лучшей защиты от рака груди подойдут бразильские орехи. Здоровью сердца способствуют макадамия, орехи-пекан и кешью. Если вы беременны или в возрасте, подходящем для зачатия ребенка, ешьте фундук. Вам подойдет смесь орехов, если вы хотите получить все полезные преимущества при удобстве использовать их готовыми.


If you want to dry the leaves more quickly, you can go ahead and remove the leaves from the stems. Discard the stems along with any leaves that are bruised or broken. Rinse them gently in water, then set them on paper towels and gently pat them dry. Basil leaves dry beautifully in either an oven set to very low heat or a food dehydrator.  If you're using the oven, set it to the lowest temperature - 200 °F (93 °C) or lower.  If you're using a food dehydrator, ready it for operation according to the manufacturer's instructions. Either spread them on a baking tray or the food dehydrator tray. Make sure none of the leaves overlap. They should be arranged in one thin, even layer. The leaves should be dried over the course of 24-48 hours until they are no longer moist; they should crumble easily when pinched between your fingers.  If you're using the oven, place the tray of leaves inside the preheated oven and let them bake for 20 minutes. Turn off the oven and leave the leaves inside overnight. In the morning, they should be sufficiently dry.  If you're using the food dehydrator, place the tray of leaves inside and operate the food dehydrator for 24-48 hours. You can store them whole in plastic food storage bags or bins, or crush them and store them in spice bottles.

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После сбора базилика, отрежьте листья от стеблей. Помойте листья и высушите их. Подготовьте духовку или дегидратор. Разложите листья тонким слоем. Высушите листья до нужного состояния. Уберите высушенные листья базилика на хранение.


If you want to effectively manage conflict with your loved one, then you need to avoid the four forms of negativity that are so lethal to relationships that they are sometimes called "the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse": criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. After observing a couple for only a few hours, scientists can predict with over 94% accuracy whether they will stay together or get divorced if these negative behaviors are not changed. If you find yourself using any of these approaches toward your partner, decide to do something about it before it erodes your love.  Avoid criticizing your partner just to get rid of some built-up resentment. Instead, complain without blame by stating a positive need. Talk about your feelings using I statements and then express a positive need. What do you feel? What do you need? Avoid having contempt for your partner by building a culture of appreciation and respect in your relationship. Avoid being defensive, and be open to your partner's comments and suggestions. Don't focus on trying to prove that you're right and work on finding a solution with your partner. Accept responsibility, even if for only part of the conflict. Stonewalling, or refusing to listen to your partner or to give in to their demands even one bit, is one of the worst things you can do in a relationship. The antidote is to practice physiological self-soothing. The first step of physiological self-soothing is to stop the conflict discussion. If you keep going, you'll find yourself exploding at your partner or imploding (stonewalling), neither of which will get you anywhere. This will help you and your partner keep things positive while solving a problem together instead of blaming each other, yelling, or hurting each other through comments you don't really mean. You can maintain this ratio of positivity during an argument by avoiding saying things like, "You never..." or "You always..." Don't think in absolutes and focus on the positive aspects of the situation, not the negative, if you...

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Избегайте четырех самых распространенных убийц взаимоотношений. Поддерживайте соотношение позитивных и негативных взаимодействий в процессе обсуждения конфликта - 5:1.  Разбирайтесь с вечными проблемами. Поднимайте конфликтные темы крайне тактично. Учитесь искать компромиссы. Приносите извинения, когда неправы.


If you want to ensure that you write every day, schedule specific writing time. Maybe you’ll like to write first thing in the morning about the day before, or maybe writing in your diary at the end of the day is a good way for you to decompress. When you write is not as important as making sure that you write every day. To make sure you stick to your writing schedule, you can use a smartphone, your watch, or your computer to set a reminder to write every day at the same time. On some days you might find it hard to write and other days you might have so much to say you feel like you could write all day. Setting a time limit can give your writing structure and make it easier to turn into a daily routine. Start with ten to fifteen minutes per day. If you find you are always running out of time, you can always increase the amount of time you spend writing. Setting a timer can help you write within the time limit without having to check your watch every few minutes. Writing in the same location every day can help you stay committed to writing regularly. If you’re going to the same location every day to write, it will create a pattern and give your writing even more structure. It doesn’t matter where you write – it can be at a coffee shop or a room in your home – as long as you always write in the same place. Take things further. If you are writing at home, sit in the same armchair or at the same table each time. It can be easy to give up on keeping your diary if you put too much pressure on yourself. It’s okay if you occasionally skip a day or two – once you get back into writing, simply jot down short summaries of the days you missed.

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Придумайте график. Определите временные ограничения. Выберите подходящее место. Не бросайте вести дневник.


If you want to fake a barbell facial piercing, your best bet is to buy an actual barbell piercing. You can get these piercings at a tattoo shop where they also do piercings, or at a jewelry store such as Claire’s.  Barbell piercings usually come with rounded silver studs. But, you can choose from different colors and shapes. Decide whether you want a straight or curved barbell. This may be dependent on where you want to place the fake piercing on your face. Barbell piercings are usually used for eyebrow, bridge, and septum piercings on the face. The middle bar pierces through the skin and the two studs or “bells” at either end are visible outside of the skin. Sometimes the actual bar can be visible as well, depending on whether it is straight or curved.  Bridge barbell piercings are located at the top of your nose, between your eyes. Eyebrow barbell piercings can be both vertical and horizontal. With an actual barbell piercing, the bar would be going through your skin. Since this is a fake piercing, you need to cut the barbell into three parts.  Use diagonal cutting pliers to cut the barbell. Do not just cut it in half. You want to be able to make an illusion that the barbell is going through your skin. Cut the barbell closer to each end stud, instead of right down the middle. This will leave you with three parts.  The middle piece is the part of the barbell that would have been in your skin. The two end pieces are what you are gluing to your skin to make your fake barbell piercing. Apply a small amount of eyelash glue to the ends of of both pieces of barbell. Eyelash glue is the best adhesive for fake facial piercings because it is already made for the skin, so it will last the longest and not be harmful.   Choose an eyelash glue with a small applicator. Let the glue set on the ends for 20-30 seconds before applying to the skin. Tweezers are the most effective when handling these two barbell pieces. You will be able to hold them steady and not get any glue on unwanted areas of your face. Place your two...

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Купите серьгу для пирсинга в виде штанги. Решите, где должен располагаться пирсинг. Разрежьте штангу кусачками. Нанесите клей для ресниц на концы штанги. С помощью пинцета приложите оба конца штанги к тому месту, где должен располагаться пирсинг.


If you want to form a very rough idea of whether water is cold, lukewarm, or hot, first hold your hand above the water. If you feel heat radiate off of the water, it is hot and may burn you. If you feel no heat, the water will either be room-temperature or cold. Do not stick your hand directly into water—either in a kitchen or in nature—without first holding your hand above it to gauge the temperature. If the water container is large enough, dip one of your elbows into the water. This will give you a rough idea of the water’s temperature. You’ll be able to instantly tell if the water is hot or cold. Avoid putting your hand into water of an unknown temperature, as you could scald yourself. If you leave your elbow in the water or 5–10 seconds, you’ll be able to form a rough idea of the water’s temperature. If the water feels slightly warm, but not hot, it’s around 100 °F (38 °C).

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Подержите ладонь над водой. Опустите локоть в воду. Определите температуру воды.


If you want to get a girlfriend through Facebook chat, then the first thing you can do is to make sure she’d be open to your advances. Of course, it may sound pretty obvious to say that you should click on her profile to see if she’s single, but it may not be as simple as that. You may have to do a bit more digging than that. For example, she may be dating someone who isn’t on Facebook and may not list her relationship status, she may be “married” to one of her female friends as a joke while dating someone, or she may be very clearly into someone else. How do you find that out? Here are a few tips:  Scroll through her pictures. See a lot of photos of her with some other guy? Do people comment about how “cute” the photos are? If so, then she may be off the market. Check out her wall. Is there a guy whose wall she posts on a lot, or a guy she seems to be in conversation with a lot? If so, then this may be the guy she’s dating. See if she posts a lot of mysterious messages that allude to the fact that she’s dating someone. She may post love songs, have winking emoticons, or make comments about liking someone that seem a little bit confusing. This may be a sign that she likes someone or is dating someone but she doesn’t want to be open about it. Then again, if it seems like she’s not dating someone but that she may just have a crush on someone, then nothing’s stopping you from trying to swoop her up! Whether you know the girl or not, it’s important to have a profile that is interesting and up-to-date. If she gets in the habit of chatting with you a lot, or commenting on your Facebook posts, then chances are that she’ll be taking a peek at your profile. If that’s the case, then you should make sure you have fun, flattering photos, an interesting profile, and some comments that make her laugh. Here are some ways to make sure your profile makes you appealing to the girl you’re chatting with:  Have a profile photo that isn’t too cocky and actually shows what you look like. Girls want guys who are real, not posers....

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Убедитесь в том, что у этой девушки нет парня. Просмотрите свой профиль: Не пишите ей в ту же секунду, как только она появится «онлайн». Напишите ей что-нибудь простое. Найдите интересную тему. Попробуйте установить с ней связь.


If you want to get drunk fast, you need to know your limits. You do not want to end up getting sick. Be aware of how much you can drink and still keep yourself in check.  You may know your limits from previous experiences drinking. For example, you know you start to feel sick and lose memory around the four drink mark. If you're new to drinking, you may be unsure of your limits. Try to be aware of what you're feeling. If you start to feel physically ill, or very dizzy, this is a sign you should stop. You can also ask a friend to look out for you, and let you know when you seem to be losing control. You want to remain in control of the situation, even if you're drunk. This can be harder to do if you're attempting to get drunk fast. If you feel yourself becoming very inebriated, take a break for a bit. You do not need to keep chugging alcohol throughout the night to keep your buzz going. You should stop once you feel drunk. Many people avoid food before drinking in order to get drunk faster. This is never a good idea. Always eat something, even something small, prior to drinking. You should also snack throughout the night. Go for high protein foods, like nuts or cheeses. Getting drunk once in awhile can be fun, especially in a social event. However, in the long run, alcohol abuse can cause damage to your overall health. During most events, stick to one or two drinks. This will keep you safe and healthy. Alcohol can interfere with certain medications. If you're going to be getting drunk, check the labels of all your medications. Make sure they do not interact poorly with alcohol. Avoid taking painkillers after a night of drinking. These can interact poorly with alcohol and cause damage to your liver and other organs. Painkillers with acetaminophen can be particularly dangerous.

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Знайте свою норму. Не пейте на голодный желудок. Соблюдайте умеренность. Прежде чем пить спиртные напитки, вспомните о том, какие лекарства вы принимаете.


If you want to get rid of your boyfriend, don't return his phone calls or answer back when he texts. If you do talk to him, say you don't have time to spend with him. Make sure you also don't call him or text him first. If you make plans, break them at the last minute. He will get the hint that you don't want to spend time with him and will eventually break up with you. Or you can try not talking to him.   When you are together, make no attempt to have deep conversations with him. Make your interactions stilted and uncomfortable. You can even look bored or like he bugs you when he's around.  If he calls you on your behavior, you can either ignore him or tell him something like "I've just been really busy recently." If he asks with what, ignore or deflect the answer. If you want to be subtle about this, you can do this slowly over time. Don't cut off all contact at once, but slowly spend less time with him. If you were texting him multiple times a day, text him less and less. Eventually he'll notice you've cut back on your interactions. Whenever you are with your boyfriend, pick meaningless fights with him. Turn everything he says against him, making it into an argument. If he is slightly late for something, tell him something like "You are always late. I have been waiting forever for you. Can't you ever be on time?" He will likely get frustrated and break up with you.  You can also say negative things about everything he does in order to get him to start a fight with you. If he explains something to you, tell him "You are so wrong. What an idiot." It will eventually get to him enough that he breaks up with you. Subtly give him hints that you don't think there is a future for the two of you. If he is trying to make plans for a date, don't agree to anything concrete or evade the question. If he asks you about going to a concert or event a few months away, tell him "We'll see. I don't know what I'll be doing then." He'll eventually understand that you don't see a future with him.  You can also get annoyed when...

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Отдалитесь. Инициируйте ссоры и конфликты. Не стройте планы на будущее. Не говорите парню, что любите его. Постепенно уходите от близости с ним. Скажите, что вам нужно личное пространство. Начните его во всем контролировать. Будьте эгоистичны.


If you want to get your girlfriend's attention, then you have to make her see that you really do care about her. While superficial compliments about her appearance or compliments that are only calculated to make her like you won't get you very far, giving her a meaningful compliment at the right time can show her that you really care. If you're worried about getting her to love you more, then chances are it's because she's not feeling the love back, so let her know you care by telling her what makes her so special.  You can compliment an impressive aspect of her personality. You can say something like, "It's really awesome that you can strike up a conversation with almost anyone. How do you do that?" Or, "You're such a hard worker. I wish I could study for as long as you could." You should pay attention to her and notice when she's wearing something new or when she got a new haircut. Say, "I love that new sweater on you. It really brings out your eyes," and she'll be impressed that you're paying attention. Another way to make your girlfriend feel special and to win her over is to do some favors for her to show her you care. This could mean bringing her lunch when she's had a busy day, giving her a ride when she needs it, or helping her clean up her place after a party. Just taking the time to make her life a little easier will make her appreciate you more. Of course, you don't want to be her puppy dog and make her think she can take advantage of you, but you should help her out when you can, provided she does the same for you. She may protest when you ask her if she needs help, but if you see that she really does need some help from you, you should help her out as much as you can. If you want to make your girlfriend feel special, then you can't just treat her like arm candy. You have to care about the things she cares about and want her to succeed. If she's really into soccer, you should go to her games when you can. If she's trying to find a new job, you can help her by setting up a mock interview. Let her...

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Делайте ей больше комплиментов. Оказывайте ей помощь. Поддерживайте ее цели и интересы. Расспросите о ее жизни. Не забывайте интересоваться ее делами. Будьте нежным. Слушайте свою девушку внимательно.


If you want to have a healthy marriage, then you have to make your spouse feel like your equal and take their feelings into account whenever you’re making a decision or just going about your day. If you treat your spouse like their opinions don’t really matter or like you always have the final say, then you’re bound to have an imbalance in your marriage. Make sure that you give your spouse’s views the same seriousness that you give your own and that you take the time to listen to your spouse and make them feel like you care.  Work to be kind, loving, and understanding to your spouse. If you’re having a bad day and snap out a comment or response, make sure you apologize; give your spouse the basic respect they deserves instead of thinking you can do whatever you want because you’re married. You should also respect your spouse’s privacy. Don’t go snooping through their phone, letters, email account, bank statements etc if you expect them to feel respected. If you care about your spouse and want to have a healthy and productive relationship, then you should avoid getting hung up on past mistakes you both made or keep reminding your spouse of their failures; instead, work on reinforcing positive behavior, enjoying your present time together, and thinking of all you have to look forward to. If you really care about your spouse, then you will be considerate of their feelings and won’t bring up the past just to get a reaction. Though it’s not always easy to let go of the past, you shouldn’t bring it up out of spite. Remember that your spouse is a living, breathing person too and that you shouldn’t bring up the past just to hurt them. Listening is one of the best ways to be considerate toward your spouse. Don’t just zone out when your spouse is talking about their day or wait for them to finish talking so you can say what you want to say; make an effort to really hear them out and to care about what you are being told. When you’re having a real conversation, put away your phone, make eye contact, and be considerate...

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Уважайте супруга. Живите в настоящем. Слушайте друг друга. Ставьте партнера на первое место. Обсуждайте все вопросы. Не разглашайте личные тайны партнера и не используйте их как оружие в споре. Учитесь понимать настроение партнера.


If you want to have a knockout conversation with the girl, then you have to start strong. When you see the girl you want to talk to, whether it's a girl you've been crushing on for a while or a cute girl you just spotted at a party, you should let her notice you for a few minutes. Let her see you have fun with your friends and not paying too much attention to her. Then, when you lock eyes, stride over to her with confidence. Keep your head up high and look straight ahead.  If you don't know her, then introduce yourself. Just say, "Hey, I'm Brian. What's your name?" This is simple but effective. If you do know the girl, just say, "Hi, How are you?" or "What have you been up to?" You don't have to be too elaborate here -- you just want to walk up to her like it's no big deal. Fake it until you make it -- even if you're terrified of talking to girls, just pretend like it's no big deal. There's no need to prepare an elaborate joke or a pick-up line or to do a backflip to get the girl's attention. Just say something that will make the girl want to talk to you more, and to get to know you a bit. This is not the time to discuss your grandmother's funeral or to talk about your goals for the future. Just talk to her about something you saw on TV, about something your dog did, or about something cool that you did over the weekend. Don't put too much pressure on yourself and start with a light opening line. Try something like this:  "Man, my weekend was crazy. I had to help my dad build an addition to the house and I can barely move my arms. How about you? Did you do something more exciting with your time?" "Look at this scratch on my hand. My cat is nuts when he's hungry. How about you -- do you have any pets?" "Can you believe how hard that math test was? I'm pretty sure I got every question wrong. How about you?" As you start talking to the girl, you should get a sense of what she wants from you. Every girl is different. If she's more shy, then she'll need you to draw her out, ask more questions, and to do more of...

TL;DR in Russian:

Будьте уверены в себе и уравновешены. Начните разговор с ненавязчивой темы. Узнайте ее характер. Начните с болтовни ни о чем. Делайте ей ненавязчивые комплименты.


If you want to help your child get over a fear of the dark, then you have to show them that there’s no such thing as monsters under their bed or scary men in their closet. Don’t humor them and say, “Let me make sure there are no monsters in the closet tonight!” Instead, make it clear that it’s impossible for any monsters to ever be in the closet at all. This can help your child see that the fear is irrational.  If you play into the fear, then your children will think that there really is a chance that a monster or bad guy can be in the darkness a different night. You may think that this may be helping your child in the short term, but really, it’ll only be confirming their fears. You won’t always be there to “check under the bed” for your child; instead, you teach them to check for themselves. This will help them learn to refute the fear on their own, and eventually master it. Another way to help your child get over a fear of the dark is making sure that the child’s bedtime routine is relaxing and soothing. Make sure you have reading time before bed, avoid giving your child late-night soda or sugary treats, and help your child avoid seeing anything disturbing on the news or a late-night program that could get their imagination moving in the wrong direction. The more relaxed your children are before they go to bed, the less anxious they’ll feel about the dark.  Help your child take a warm bath or talk about relaxing topics instead of things that make your child excited. If you have a kitty, spend some time petting your favorite critter with your child so he can calm down. Work on softening your voice and speaking less emphatically. Slow down the pace of things to help get your child ready for sleep. Read a bedtime story that has a happy, positive outcome. Start dimming the lights. Make sure you really listen to your child and hear what it is that’s actually scaring him; it could be a general fear of darkness, or it can be a fear of an intruder, for example. The more you know about what’s scaring your child,...

TL;DR in Russian:

Не лейте воду на мельницу страха. Придумайте для ребенка успокаивающий порядок действий перед сном. Разговаривайте с ребенком о страхе темноты. Способствуйте чувству безопасности и комфорта ребенка. Убедите ребенка, что в кровати безопасно. Обратитесь за помощью.


If you want to house your tortoise indoors, then you have to think about what kind of an enclosure you want, whether it's a glass aquarium or a terrarium. Just keep in mind that you should have at least 3 square feet available for a baby tortoise. A 10–20 gallon (37.9–75.7 L) tank can work for a baby, but it will outgrow it pretty soon, and you'll need to make sure your creature has enough room to grow.  You can use glass, but tortoises get frustrated because they try to walk through the glass. You can tape paper to the outside of the tank to keep them from getting confused. You can also use a plastic sweater box or a cement mixing tub for a baby tortoise. They have the bonus of having foggy sides that won't frustrate tortoises as much as glass. The enclosure should be high enough so that the tortoise won't escape. If your tortoise is outdoors, then you don't need to worry about him or her having enough light. But if your favorite creature is indoors, then you'll need to make sure your tortoise gets enough light, and therefore Vitamin D, to be healthy. Here are some things to consider as you find proper lighting for your tortoise:  You should either use a desk lamp, which should have at least 100W of power for heating, and another UV light for your tortoise to bask in, or even a single mercury-vapor lamp to provide your critter with both heat and UV light. The lamp's temperature should be between 30–35 °C (86–95 °F), but this changes, depending on the species. Make sure you position the lamp correctly so your tortoise is able to soak up the heat and cool down at separate parts of their enclosure. Not only is providing your tortoise with heat and UV light essential to his or her health, but it's also helpful for your creature's happiness. They actually love basking in the light! The substrate will cover the floor of your tortoise's environment and will need to have proper composition to ensure the health and safety of your tortoise. The most important thing, whether your tortoise is outdoors or indoors, is to...

TL;DR in Russian:

Подберите подходящее жилье. Обеспечьте своей домашней черепахе соответствующее освещение. Обеспечьте правильную подстилку для вашей черепахи.


If you want to improve your writing, then ask the teacher or a tutor for extra help. Your teacher will appreciate that you took the initiative to ask for help. Being proactive about your grades will work in your favor. Take notes on what your teacher is saying so you can reference them later. Pay particular attention to anything the teacher writes on the board or shows on an overhead projector. Don’t play games on your phone or check social media. It is rude and will irritate your teacher. Maintaining eye contact and putting down your phone shows your teacher that you are listening. Get a planner or agenda to keep track of your assignments and due dates across classes. Use your planner also to schedule extracurricular activities around your scheduled homework times. Give yourself reasonable deadlines to meet them, and check them off when done. Put these tasks in the order of most important to least important, and work on them in this order. Having them prioritized like this will help you with your homework time management. You may find that you feel a sense of accomplishment when you check off finished tasks. This can help motivate you to continue working. Seek out friends in your English class and set up a study or reading group. If your teacher allows it, share your essays with your classmates ahead of time and ask for comments/feedback from them. Just make sure that you don't copy their comments or plagiarize their work when you edit your paper afterwards. Almost every high school English class will require you to write essays. The requirements for these assignments will vary by teacher, so you will want to ask your teacher specifically what they are looking for. How many pages do they want your essay to be? Do they want citations at the end? Do you get to pick your topic or will a topic be assigned to you? Which of the three standard types of essays (expository/argumentative, narrative, or descriptive) are you writing?  For an expository or argumentative essay assignment you will be asked to investigate a...

TL;DR in Russian:

Останьтесь после занятий, чтобы получить дополнительную помощь. Берите на занятия тетрадь и ручку. Будьте внимательны на уроках. Записывайте все сроки в календаре или планировщике. Ведите дополняемый список задач и целей. Не пытайтесь делать все самостоятельно. Обратитесь за помощью при выполнении серьезных заданий.


If you want to introduce people to each other, then it's important to get the timing right. You don't want to end up having blundered before the introductions have even begun by introducing the wrong people to each other or by interrupting a fantastic conversation just to get the details out of the way. Here's what you need to know:  If you find yourself in conversation with two people who don't know each other, try to introduce them as soon as possible. This can get a little tricky. Let's say you're with your college roommate, Amanda, when you run into your friend from high school, Jake, who launches into a story about a mutual friend. Poor Amanda will be standing there feeling awkward and bored while Jake rambles on. It's important to find an opening so that you can include Amanda into the conversation. You should avoid introducing someone to people who are in the middle of a serious conversation. Maybe you're at a work event with a client, and you've been eager to introduce him to your boss. While this is an important introduction that should be made, you should avoid doing so if your boss seems to be entangled in a deep conversation with another person. You should wait for an opening, when your boss doesn't seem extremely absorbed; making introductions at the wrong time can lead people to not hit it off as well as they could. This is important to know because the person of lesser rank or authority should always be presented to the person of higher rank or authority. In general, in a social setting, gender is the "trump card" and determines the higher rank; women are always ranked over men, unless the man is significantly older than the woman. After that, age is the next determining factor; an older person ranks over a younger person, which can be a helpful distinction if both people are of the same gender. Here's what you need to know:  Your 70-year-old mother-in-law is of greater seniority than your brand new boyfriend. Great age takes precedence over most rank or authority, out of courtesy and respect....

TL;DR in Russian:

Дождитесь удобного случая. Выясните, какое из двух представляемых лиц имеет более высокий статус или положение в социальной среде. Выясните, какое лицо из двух в деловой обстановке имеет более высокий статус или авторитет. Всегда называйте имя человека, обладающего высоким статусом, и представляйте ему человека более низкой должности. Предоставляйте справочную информацию, чтобы помочь людям начать разговор.


If you want to keep a row of data visible at all times, even when you've scrolled down the sheet, you can freeze it. You can set this row to print on all pages as well, which can be very useful for spreadsheets that span multiple pages. See the next section for details. You can set Excel to freeze rows and columns so that they are always visible. To do this, you'll want to select the cell in the corner of the area you want to keep unlocked. For example, if you want to keep the top row and the first column locked on the screen, highlight cell B2. All columns to the left will be frozen, and all rows above will be frozen. This will lock the rows above your selected cell and the columns to the left of your selected cell. For example, if you had cell B2 selected, the top row and the first column will be locked on the screen. Create a visual contrast for this row by centering the text in these cells, applying bold text, adding a background color, or drawing a border under the cells. this can help the reader take notice of the header when reading the data on the sheet.

TL;DR in Russian:

Перейдите на вкладку меню "Вид". Определите зону таблицы (колонку и ряд), которая должна все время оставаться видимой. Нажмите на кнопку "Закрепить области" и еще раз выберите "Закрепить области" в появившемся списке. Выделите заголовок (необязательно).


If you want to lay a troubled spirit to rest, you should use this method.  Take a metal container with a tight-fitting lid and cover the bottom with a layer of soil taken from hallowed ground, such as a church or cemetery. Leave the container open at the location where you found the ghost. The sanctified soil will draw the spirit in. Once you have used your ghost-detection apparatus to confirm that the spirit has entered the container, slowly and gently replace the lid, then sprinkle a pinch of salt on top. Bury the container in hallowed ground. The candle method is good for trapping pesky spirits who are causing trouble around the home.  Take a large glass jar, open the lid and place a candle inside. At midnight, light the candle and place the jar in a central point at the haunted location. The ghost will be attracted by the energy emitted by the burning candle, but this energy will also trap the ghost inside the jar. Once you have confirmed the ghost's presence inside the jar, tightly replace the lip. The candle will burn out on its own. Keep the jar tightly sealed as long as you wish to hold the ghost captive. If the jar is opened or broken, the spirit will be released and might come to exact revenge on its captor!

TL;DR in Russian:

Используйте коробку и метод захоронения. Используйте метод свечей.


If you want to let someone down easy, timing and location matter. If you're seeking to let someone down in an empathetic matter, take some time to consider the proper location and timeframe to talk to them.  Face-to-face is ideal for difficult conversations. Humans evolved to pick up on non-verbal cues and signals that are reassuring during difficult conversations. An impromptu pat on the shoulder, for example, can reassure someone he or she is essentially lovable even if this one relationship did not work out. A look of sadness on your face can help your partner see you truly care about his or her feelings, despite the fact you feel the relationship should end.  If possible, choose to have the talk at a place where your significant other feels comfortable. Choose to stop by his or her apartment to talk, for example. It may feel uncomfortable for you but giving someone a slight sense of power during a difficult conversation can help him or her digest bad news.  If you anticipate a long conversation, try to choose a time where the conversation will not be cut short by external factors. Do not, for example, break up with your longterm boyfriend an hour before he has to leave for work. Instead, choose to stop by his place shortly after dinner on a weeknight. This will allow any lingering loose threads to be addressed. If you're letting someone down easy, you need to take full responsibility for your decision. Oftentimes, people feel it will be easier if their partner initiates the breakup. However, you are the one whose feelings have changed. It's your responsibility to start the breakup conversation. Trying to lead your partner to the conclusion, that you want to break up, through subtle cues is not only dishonest it can be confusing. Your partner may not get the message and begin to question him or herself as you subtly pull away. For example, if you become less physically affectionate in order to show your partner you're losing interest your partner might question his or her own attractiveness. If you want to...

TL;DR in Russian:

Выберите наиболее подходящее время и место. Возьмите на себя ответственность. Будьте открыты и откровенны в своих чувствах. Не растягивайте разговор. Если хотите, предложите остаться друзьями.


If you want to live in the wilderness, you need to learn specialized skills to help you survive. You can take a class on wilderness survival or read wilderness survival manuals, outdoor magazines, and nature blogs. Go the library to use their computers or books for free. Research the dangers of your region as well. Important skills to learn  include:  Building a fire Cooking food Healing minor injuries Foraging for safe foods Fishing No matter where you are going or how experienced you are, you should carry basic medical supplies at all times. Keep your supplies in a waterproof container. A good first aid kit should include:  Gauze and waterproof dressings Adhesive bandages Tweezers Antibiotic cream Ibuprofen or acetaminophen Any required prescription medications What you wear is one of the most vital aspects of survival. Make sure that your clothes are right for your local climate. As a general rule, always wear one more layer than you need.  Choose fabrics that will dry quickly and which will provide warmth even if wet. Go with wool if you can. Avoid cotton. Keep a waterproof shell, jacket, poncho, or raincoat in case of rain or snow. Wear sturdy shoes. Make sure to have warm socks on underneath. If you live in a place with cold winters, you will need insulated and layered clothing. Cover every part of your body, including your hands, head, face, and neck.  Visit thrift stores, clothing donation sites, and charities for cheap or free clothing for all seasons. You can even find winter coats at low cost. If there is a storm, snowstorm, tornado, or other dangerous weather, you will need to make sure you can survive it. This means that you may need to find alternate shelter during these events.  If you are living near an urban environment, you might go a public building to wait out the storm. Find a ditch or a low-lying crevice if there is a tornado. Rockwall and boulders can provide shelter from the wind. Avoid tall structures during lightning storms. In the woods, go to a low-lying area or find shelter under...

TL;DR in Russian:

Освойте навыки выживания Возьмите аптечку. Одевайтесь соответствующим образом. Защитите себя от непогоды. Составьте план на случай чрезвычайных обстоятельств.


If you want to look taller without the obvious addition of heels, elevator shoes are the choice for you. They look like regular dress shoes, but contain an extra insert inside, either attached to the shoe or removable, that can add anywhere from 1-6 in (2.5-15.2 cm) of height. You can buy the inserts, known as shoe lifts, separately. Place them in any dress shoe or lace-up boot for a few extra inches of height. Another low-key way to boost your height, low-heeled men’s boots are clomping their way back into fashion. You can buy them in leather or suede varieties for a retro or classy feel.  Don't be afraid to take a look at women's boots too! Some of them look more masculine while others look more feminine. If you choose women's boots, be aware that they might be more narrow than you're used to. Consider a pair that's labeled "wide." It'll be more comfortable. If the high heeled look is what you’re after, start out with lower or thicker heels. Look for heels that are an inch-high or smaller, with a thick heel or even a platform sole. These platforms are known as wedges, which refers to the solid block, or “wedge,” that runs from heel to toe and supports the foot while adding height.  A low-heeled boot can also be a great way to ease into wearing higher heels, for your own physical comfort as well as subtlety. If this is your first time wearing heels, choose lower heels or wedges for your first pair. The next set of heels can be the height you want, such as sky-high stilettos. Stilettos have the classic thin, high, tapered heels. They’re gorgeous, but notoriously difficult to walk in! If you’ve walked in lower heels before and feel up to the challenge, buy a pair and try them out. Don't give up if you can’t manage the height. Keep practicing, and you’ll be rocking them in no time.

TL;DR in Russian:

Купите туфли со скрытым подъемом или вкладки в обувь, чтобы незаметно добавить себе роста. Если хотите выглядеть модно, купите ботинки на невысоком каблуке. Носите обувь на небольшой платформе или каблуке, чтобы выглядеть модно и при этом чувствовать себя комфортно. Выбирайте шпильки, если у вас есть опыт в ношении обуви на каблуках и если вы уверены в себе.


If you want to maintain a post or picture's Likes and comments when you repost it, you'll need to comment on it. You can comment on someone's post or picture.  You can also use this method to repost an old post made by you or a friend. Find the original post (you may have to go back through their Timeline) and then read on. This isn't exactly "reposting", but it is the only way to bump a post to the top of people's feeds without losing the Likes and comments. If you use the "Share" feature on a post, it will make a new post and remove the likes and comments. This will send it to the top of your feed, which will show up on your friends' feeds. You can do this for old posts that you want to bring back to the top, or with posts that your friends might not normally see. You can also Like the old post, but this is less likely to send it back to the top. This will make a new post with the same content on your own feed. It won't keep the original comments and Likes, but you will control the post.

TL;DR in Russian:

Найдите контент, который вы хотите повторно опубликовать в своей ленте. Оставьте комментарий на пост или картинку, которую вы хотите повторно опубликовать. Не пользуйтесь кнопкой «Поделиться» в том случае, если хотите сохранить комментарии и «лайки».


If you want to make friends, there are a few tips you can follow to increase your chances of success. In general, people like to talk about themselves. So, as a rule-of-thumb, you can connect with others by asking them their stories. Opt for open-ended questions or statements that allow the person to share as much as they like as opposed to questions which lead to simple "yes" or "no" answers. You might ask at an event, "So, how do you know the host?" or "What kinds of things do you do for fun?" In addition to being able to strike up the conversation and get people talking, you also need to be an active listener. Make occasional eye contact, nod in agreement, and use sounds to prompt the person to continue talking.  Engaged listeners make great friends because many people often want to vent their problems or share their points of view. Practice being fully engaged while you are listening and be ready to respond with a statement that summarizes what you just heard. For example, you might say, "It sounds like you had a really rough day" to sum it up after the speaker is done talking. Vulnerability is a necessary and truly beautiful ingredient in a friendship. Self-disclosure is one of the many things that distinguish friends from acquaintances. You might tell your friend about your parent's divorce, but you may not share that info with a random person. Make a minor self-disclosure to show the person that you trust them. Think of something small you can share with the other person about yourself like "I had a pretty rough term last school year. My parents got divorced." Then, see how they handle it to determine if the friendship goes any further. If you're ready to take your connection with someone to the friendship stage, you'll have to be willing to take a risk. If you and a potential friend have been hanging out in a group setting, invite the person to a one-on-one outing. This shows that you would like to get to know them beyond the group. Say, "Hey, you seem really cool. Would you like to catch a movie...

TL;DR in Russian:

Ведите себя заинтересованно. Будьте активным слушателем. Расскажите собеседнику что-то личное. Рискуйте и помните, что можете потерпеть поражение.


If you want to make high waisted shorts, then you have to find a pair of jeans with the right waist height.This could be an old pair of jeans in the back of your closet, a pair of jeans given to you by a friend, or one that you snagged at Goodwill. It doesn't matter where the jeans came from as long as you don't mind cutting them up.

TL;DR in Russian:

Найдите пару джинсов с завышенной талией.


If you want to make sure you find out what your true belt size is with no mistakes, find a professional tailor (or clothing store employee) to help you determine your measurements. A trained tailor will be able to help you get an accurate measurement for your belt size with no margin for error.  Ask people you know for recommendations for a good tailor. Search the internet for tailors in your area. If that doesn’t work, try going to a clothing store and ask an employee to help you. Make sure you wear pants that fit snugly when you go to get measured. You don’t want any loose material adding inches to your measurement, as this will cause your belt to be too loose as well. You also don’t want to wear pants that fit too tightly because this can also make you end up with a belt that doesn’t fit properly. Let the professional tailor measure your waist with a fabric tape measure. They will tell you how to stand and help you find the right measurement for your belt.  Be sure to stand normally and breathe normally so that the tailor can get an accurate measurement. Use the measurement number the tailor gives you to order a new belt that fits properly.

TL;DR in Russian:

Обратитесь за помощью к портному. Выберите брюки подходящего размера. Узнайте свой размер.


If you want to make your attempts to ignore your guy a little subtler, one great option is to wait a few days to agree to hang out. If he wants to go meet up outside of school, you can let him know that you are interested, but that you need to figure out when you're available.  When he asks you to hang out, let him know that you have to get back to him. Wait anywhere from one to three days to confirm. If the guy you like wants to spend time with you, make him work around your schedule. Don’t change your life to accommodate him. This is an excellent way to play hard to get and ignore your guy in a subtle way.  In order for this to work, you've got to stay busy. Fill your time with regular activities, such as a weekly date to do your nails with your friends or weekly trips to the bookstore to look at new books. Another effective way to ignore your guy is to pay some attention to somebody else. Making your guy a little bit jealous can be an excellent way to remind him how much he values you, and push him to give you the attention you deserve.  You can make him jealous by texting or writing notes to someone else. Another method is just to let him see you talking and having fun with others. Be careful not to take this too far. You only want to make him a little bit jealous, not drive him away. If you are already going out with this guy, but he isn’t treating you the way you would like, you may want to drop some hints that you’re looking for the door. If he really cares about you, he will step up and make sure you stay.  Talk about your plans for the summer (as if they do not include him). Perhaps you are thinking about going away to a summer camp, or on a long road trip with family. When you talk about the future (like where you will attend high school or college), try dropping a line like, “Well, we don’t really know what is going to happen with us.”

TL;DR in Russian:

Подождите несколько дней перед тем, как ответить на его вопрос или приглашение. Заставьте парня подстроиться под ваш график. Заставьте его ревновать. Можно слегка намекнуть парню, что вы сомневаетесь, стоит ли продолжать ваши отношения.


If you want to monitor your portion sizes when eating at restaurants, knowing how to visually identify a tablespoon is a valuable skill. As a reference, keep in mind that a ping pong ball generally represents two tablespoons. While this may be difficult to identify with liquids, solid substances will make the comparison pretty straightforward. As a general rule, the tip of your finger should measure about 1 teaspoon while the tip of your thumb should equal about a tablespoon. Hold your thumb next to whatever you are measuring to portion out a similar amount. Adjust the amount slightly if you thumb is larger or smaller than average. As a general rule, a cupped hand will hold about 2 tablespoons of liquid. If you do not have any measuring spoons or cups, you can approximate a tablespoon of liquid by filling up your cupped hand halfway. If your hands are especially small or large, you may add or omit liquid accordingly. Some foods have consistent portion sizes and can be broken down to a tablespoon easily. Keep these in mind for fast measuring the next time you are cooking, baking, or calorie counting. One tablespoon of sugar, for instance, is equal to 3 single serving packets of sugar, or 3 sugar cubes. As another example, a stick of butter is 8 tablespoons, so 1/8 of a stick of butter always equals a single tablespoon.

TL;DR in Russian:

Запомните: Сравните размер кончика вашего большого пальца с измеряемой порцией. Сложите ладонь горстью. Запомните размер порции еды, равной объему одной столовой ложки.


If you want to move on, you should have a plan. Research, and, if possible, visit new destinations you might be interested in settling in. Consider what career and educational choices might be necessary to make it to where you want to be. Set a plan to reach those goals.  College is often a great opportunity to settle in a new town. Consider what colleges are around destinations you are interested in. Research what grades and test scores you will need to be accepted. Generally, more desirable destinations are expensive. To afford life in a big, interesting city, you might need a better job and more qualifications. Research what the major industries in your town of choice are and what qualifications are necessary to get a job in those industries. In the long run, a job can give you the the work experience and the money necessary to move away to a new destination. But, money can also make even a small town more interesting. Since you will be busy, you won’t be as bored. You can use your new found resources to buy a car and commute somewhere with more entertainment options. You can even save up for a vacation. A boring town has few distractions to keep you from self-improvement. If you are young, use this as an opportunity to work hard to get into a good college. In the long run, this can take you some place more interesting.  Keep your grades up. This will be important for ultimately establishing yourself elsewhere. Get involved in extracurricular activities. Being involved in sports and clubs will not only keep you occupied, it will help you get into college. Develop your skills. If you dream of living in Paris, France, study French. If you dream of being the next Bollywood star, you will need to learn dramatic skills, singing, dancing, and so on.

TL;DR in Russian:

Поставьте перед собой цели. Найдите работу. Подготовьтесь к будущему.


If you want to open Gmail on a computer, you can do so from any web browser (e.g., Firefox, Safari, Chrome, etc.). If you want to use Google-specific features of Gmail, such as offline mail, you'll need to open Gmail in Google Chrome. Go to https://www.gmail.com/ in your web browser. This will open the Gmail login page. Type your Gmail email address into the "Email or phone" text box in the middle of the page. It's a blue button below the "Email or phone" text box. This will take you to the password entry page. Type in the password used to access your Gmail account. It's below the "Password" text box. As long as your password matches your username, doing this will open your Gmail inbox.

TL;DR in Russian:

Откройте веб-браузер. Откройте Gmail. Введите свой адрес электронной почты Gmail. Щелкните по Далее. Введите пароль. Щелкните по Далее.


If you want to open Word files in Google Docs, use this method. You will need to have the Google Chrome web browser installed on your computer. If you use the Google Docs app, you don’t need to install or configure anything special to open Word files. Just double-tap the file to open it in Google Docs. This Chrome extension must be installed for this process to work. ” ” Once you click this link, the installation will begin. When the installation process is complete, the installation screen will disappear. Whether the document was emailed to you as an attachment or saved to your Google Drive, you will now be able to open and save the file in its original form. If the file is on your computer, you should upload it to your Google Drive first.

TL;DR in Russian:

Запустите Google Chrome. Откройте страницу расширения «Редактирование файлов Office» для Chrome. Нажмите «Установить». Нажмите «Установить расширение». Дважды щелкните по файлу Word, чтобы открыть его в Google Документах.


If you want to permanently rotate your screen (a retro arcade, perhaps?), the easiest way to do so safely is by using a wall mounting kit. These will not fit all screens, so check that the kit is compatible with your monitor's make and model. There are several monitors available that you can rotate at the base. This lets you easily rotate the monitor 90°. Note that when you rotate your monitor manually, you will still need to adjust the orientation through your video card settings. There are stands that you can purchase that may allow you to rotate your existing monitor without too large of an investment. Just make sure that it is compatible with your monitor model. Some monitors have stands that allow you to tilt the monitor up or down. This is especially useful if you have an LCD monitor, as they are best viewed from specific angles. You can usually tilt your monitor by gently grabbing both the top and bottom and then pulling the bottom or pushing the top. Many monitors are not designed to be turned, especially old CRT monitors. Any time you rotate your monitor, it should be well supported by either a stand or a mount. Using other objects to support the monitor could cause it to be unstable or lead to it overheating.

TL;DR in Russian:

Настенный экран. Купите монитор, который вращается. Проверьте, можно ли ваш монитор наклонять. Избегайте простого поворачивания монитора без опоры.


If you want to play hard to get, then you can't be too open about how much you like the girl or let her know exactly how you feel. Instead, you have to keep things fun and interesting by teasing her, being playful, gently bumping into her, and just generally keeping things light and fun without letting the girl know where you stand. Keep her guessing about your true feelings by teasing her a bit, but then pulling away if things get too friendly. Make her wonder how you really feel while encouraging her enough to keep her interested. To keep her on her toes, you can call her out in a joking way, by saying things like, "How much pink can one person really wear?" Or, "I've never known anyone who is so obsessed with her cat." Joke around with her and let her see that you appreciate her without all-out complimenting her, and you'll only intrigue her further. If you want to play hard to get, then you don't want the girl you like to feel like you are at her beck and call. If she calls you, don't pick up on the first — or even the second or third — ring. Let her feel like you have something more important to do. Though you don't want to look like you're too booked to care about her, you may not want to pick up the phone every time she calls, either. Give it a few hours to let her see that you have a lot going on.  Don't hang around the phone and annoy the girl you like by texting her what you ate for breakfast or asking what she thinks is the meaning of life. Who says you have to focus on talking to just one girl at a time? Instead of lingering over one person, use this time to be free and explore your options. Don't respond right away when your interest texts you. Go make a sandwich and wait fifteen minutes to respond, even if it's hard to wait. If she calls, let it go to voicemail and wait a few hours to call her back. If you really want to answer the phone, at least wait until the third ring. Of course, she may not do so, expecting you to make the first move. After a certain amount of time has passed, you will...

TL;DR in Russian:

Держите девушку в тонусе. Когда дело доходит до звонков и сообщений, будьте прохладны. Когда обменяетесь номерами телефонов, пусть она позвонит вам первой. Не рассказывайте о своих чувствах слишком быстро. Пусть она не думает, что вы свободны в любую минуту. Не нарушайте границу прикосновений слишком быстро. Не задерживайтесь надолго.


If you want to re-start your relationship, you’re going to first need to take responsibility for what you may have done wrong the first time around.  Sit down with each other and agree to have a calm, adult conversation about past grievances. Take responsibility for your own mistakes, and own up to them openly. Don’t try to minimize or deny things you did wrong; instead, show that you recognize what you did wrong and want to avoid similar mistakes in the future. For example, you might say something like, “I know I wasn’t a good listener and that’s my fault. I was too busy worrying about work (or school or whatever) and I didn’t give you the attention you deserved. I’m sorry and I want to change that.” This applies whether you get back together with your ex-girlfriend or not.  If you do succeed in getting back together, don’t dwell on past wrongs or spend time blaming each other for what went wrong. Instead, focus on discussing what each of you needs from the relationship and discuss how to help each other get it. Focus on what you want moving forward rather than on what you did or didn’t do in the past. For example, you might explain, “I felt like you got annoyed with me when I went out with my friends, and I think it might have been because I didn’t let you know about my plans far enough in advance. Is that right?” Then suggest ways of resolving the problem going forward, like agreeing to give at least 5 hours notice before going out on weeknights, etc. If you don’t succeed in getting back together, don’t obsess over your failures or over what she did to wrong you. Learn what you can from what worked and what didn’t work in the relationship and start to move on. If the two of you decide to give the relationship another try, have a clear game plan in place to help you move forward.  Determine specifically what each of you needs and wants from the relationship. Ask, “What do you feel like you weren’t getting before?” and “What can we do to help you get that from the relationship?” Similarly, tell her what it...

TL;DR in Russian:

Возьмите на себя ответственность. Сосредоточьтесь на будущем, неважно будете ли вы вместе или нет. Составьте план.