Article in English: If you allow yourself to focus on revenge, you'll be dragging around the pain of this situation for years to come. Instead, accept that pain is an inevitable consequence of your current situation.  As you move forward, you'll be able to learn from your experience, and grow as a person. Work towards feeling compassion toward the person who's disappointed you. Though you may not understand the other person's decisions, you can try to accept them. If it helps, use daily affirmations, or post reminders in areas you're likely to see them. Just because you've been in love with the wrong person, or have been frustrated because it's the wrong time to develop a relationship, doesn't mean that you don't have value. Remember, your life is made up of a series of experiences and encounters, not just this one.  You are exactly the right person at the right time, for someone else. You may find that you're able to use this experience in rejection as a lesson in finding the right person for you. When you’re in love with the wrong person, it’s easy to feel sorry for yourself. It’s a sad situation, and feelings of self-pity can provide a temporary solace. The first step is to decide that you’re going to implement a zero tolerance policy towards self-pity in your life.  If you notice feelings of self-pity creeping in, remind yourself of something that you feel good about. You’ll probably slip into self-pity as you try to quit, because of ingrained patterns of thinking. Don’t get angry at yourself; just notice when this happens, and turn your attention to something more positive. When you start to realize that self-pity isn’t a solution to your problem, you’re ready to try new things. Forcing yourself to pay attention to the good things in your life which you might otherwise take for granted will help you counter your feelings of sadness. The best practices in keeping a gratitude journal include writing in detail about particular people you’re grateful for, and recording events which were surprising or unexpected.  Write without...

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Постарайтесь принять эту ситуацию. Постоянно напоминайте себе о значении своей собственной жизни. Перестаньте жалеть себя. Ведите дневник благодарности.


Article in English: If you already have a job, but you need some extra cash before your next payday, you may benefit from a payday loan. These are short-term loans that are offered for relatively small sums of money, either online or at brick and mortar locations. Be cautious with these kinds of loans, as they carry extremely high interest rates. They are best used for absolute emergencies only. Many credit card companies will send you checks in the mail that you can write for cash or give you the option of withdrawing money from an ATM using your credit card. Like payday loans, cash advances typically come with high interest rates, which makes them a costly option. Be sure to read the fine print carefully so that you understand exactly how much this kind of lending will cost you. Banks and credit unions offer a wide variety of loan products. Some loans, like home equity loans, require you to offer your personal assets as collateral if you are not able to repay the loan. If you do not have a home or other assets, you may still be able to qualify for a personal loan, depending on your financial circumstances. Be sure to compare rates terms at multiple institutions before you commit to a loan. Credit unions often offer lower interest rates than banks. Borrowing money from people you care about can be complicated because your relationship may be at risk if you can't pay the money back. If you choose to borrow from friends or family, be sure to be honest with them about how long it will take you to pay them back.

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Получите кредит до зарплаты. Получите аванс по своей кредитной карте. Получите кредит в банке. Одолжите у друзей или родственников.


Article in English: If you already have the Should I Answer app, skip this step. To download it:  Open the Google Play Store. Tap the search bar. Type in should i answer  Tap Should I Answer?  Tap INSTALL  Tap AGREE Tap OPEN on the right side of the Google Play Store page, or tap the Should I Answer app icon in your Android's App Drawer. Both CONTINUE options are at the bottom of the screen. Doing so will take you to the main page. It's at the top of the main Should I Answer page. This area is near the bottom of the page. It will change color which means that Should I Answer will block incoming calls from restricted or anonymous numbers. You can close Should I Answer after this point—your settings will be saved and Should I Answer will remain on in the background.

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Скачайте приложение «Не бери трубку». Запустите приложение «Не бери трубку». Дважды щелкните по Продолжить. Щелкните по вкладке Настройки. Прокрутите вниз до раздела «Блокировать входящие звонки от». Щелкните по серому ползунку у опции «Скрытые номера».


Article in English: If you always have your journal and recorder, you'll be prepared for any time time inspiration strikes. Jot down a note whenever an idea comes to you, or record interesting dialogue you overhear. Then, go back through your notes or listen to your recordings when you have some free time, and see if you can turn them into a story.  If you meet someone interesting, ask them if you can sit down with them for an interview, then ask them about some of their most memorable experiences. This is a great technique if you need inspiration for a blog. Write down or record all of your ideas while you’re going about your day, then develop them into posts. That way, you’ll always have a stream of new content. If you prefer creative writing, let your imagination roam when you’re out in public. If you hear a little fragment of a conversation, try to imagine the back story. For instance, you might hear someone say something like, “Then, he had the nerve to ask for another slice of cake!” Create a scenario in your mind where this would be an outrageous request, then use it in a story. Switching up your environment can boost your imagination and loosen up ideas. This might be anything from sitting at a different table while you’re writing to going on a trip somewhere you’ve never been before. Sometimes, this is all it takes to give you a fresh perspective and offer new ideas.  If you normally write from home, you might work in another room of your house, visit a nearby coffee shop, or go outside and write. Even something as simple as changing your desktop background might help. This can be helpful if you have writer’s block while you’re working on a report for school or work, as well as for more personal forms of writing. If you’re having trouble thinking of something to write about, try looking around at your environment. No matter where you are, you can pick an item, a person, or a situation that you can observe, then write about it. Include details on who, what, why, how, and when, and try to include as much detail as...

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Всегда носите с собой блокнот или диктофон. Смените обстановку для свежих впечатлений. Пишите о своих наблюдениях. Посетите людное место и наблюдайте за людьми. Прислушивайтесь к чужим беседам.


Article in English: If you and your brother have been fighting a lot lately, or if he has been doing things that annoy you, you should have a conversation with him to let him know how you feel.  Make sure that you don't make him cry. Try not to talk down to him in a bossy way, or tell him what to do. Let him participate in the conversation and tell you how he's feeling as well. Try using "I-statements" to explain how you feel. Instead of blaming him by saying things like "You are always so nosy and rude!" you might say, "I feel frustrated when you come in my room without knocking. It makes me think you don't respect my privacy." You have probably picked on your brother or yelled at him when he was annoying you. Tell him you are sorry for those times and that you want to have a better friendship with him. Try saying, "I'm sorry that I've been mean to you and yelled at you. I don't know why I do that sometimes, but I want to try to be nicer to you." You both are probably guilty of annoying and being mean to each other. Write down what you wish your brother wouldn't do, and ask him which things he doesn't want you to do.  Keep the list short and focused on the most important things-- try for two or three things each.   You might ask him to not interrupt when you have friends over, knock before coming into your room, and not borrow your toys without asking. Agree with him that you will both work on not doing the things that annoy each other. It can be hard to have a serious conversation with a little brother. If he is making rude noises or making faces while you talk, simply stand up and say quietly, 'I tried to talk but...', and walk away. If he calls you back look at him (without saying anything) and wait until he speaks. When he does, sit down beside him and finish your conversation. When he is done talking, hug him and remind him that you love him, even if you two fight sometimes. Even if you sit down with your brother and agree to get along better, you will still have some fights in the future. If you think you will start...

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Сядьте и поговорите с ним по душам. Принесите извинения за ситуации, когда вы плохо вели себя по отношению к своему брату. Составьте список того, что вам обоим необходимо изменить. Сохраняйте спокойствие, даже когда ваш брат ведет себя незрело. Выслушайте своего брата и покажите, что вам не все равно, что он думает. Научитесь правильно вести себя в конфликтных ситуациях, когда назревает драка.


Article in English: If you and your crush talk often or hang out in or outside of school, pay attention to changes in their attitude. If they used to be friendly and playful but suddenly start acting distant and moody, it’s possible that they are having conflicting feelings. If this is happening, try to not get super clingy. Give your crush a little bit of space so they can figure out how they feel. It could be a good time for you to evaluate your feelings, too. Look out for signs like your crush no longer saying “hi” to you in the hallway or waiting to walk to class with you. If you had normal interactions with your crush on a daily basis and they start to diminish, your crush might have changing feelings. Being ignored outright is a clear sign that your crush doesn’t feel the same way anymore. Especially if this change correlates to them starting to treat someone else more affectionately. If you and your crush are friends and hang out regularly, pick up on times when they bail on plans or ditch you. This is a pretty good sign that there might be something or someone else they are hoping to spend time with. Similarly, if your crush suddenly becomes hard to pin down or avoids making plans with you, it could be a sign of a similar situation. If you’re used to quick responses and frequent messages with your crush and that suddenly slows down or stops, there is probably a reason for it. It’s possible that something else is going on, but if this change is consistent for several weeks it might be because they are busy messaging someone else. You could also ask them directly if everything is okay. Maybe they’re having a hard time or are overwhelmed with school or work. If you’re close friends, it could be worth bringing it up. If your crush is continually talking about a new person, it could be because they are attracted to or interested in them. If the same name keeps creeping up every time you interact, pay attention—this could be the sign you’re looking for. It’s totally possible your crush doesn’t even realize they’re doing this....

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Следите за переменами в его настроении при совместном времяпрепровождении. Как он ведет себя во время ваших личных встреч? Рассматривайте отмененные планы, как признак того, что ваш любимый человек испытывает чувства к кому-то другому. Как быстро (или медленно) он реагирует на ваши сообщения? Как часто он называет определенное имя во время ваших разговоров?


Article in English: If you are a chronically jealous person, then the chances are that you feel that you are not a person who is worthy of admiration because you are not exciting, interesting, or dynamic. It's time to work on making yourself into a person who has no reason to be jealous because you're so happy with who you are.  Here's what to do:  Develop your self-confidence. Write down all the things you love about yourself and make a list of your flaws. Work to address as many flaws as you can, and you will start feeling better about who you are. If you feel better about being in your own skin, you will be much less likely to be jealous. One of the most common reasons to be jealous is for material reasons. If you're jealous of a friend who has a lot of money, or whose family has a lot of money, while you do not, you should accept that you won't be able to buy all of the things she can. Instead, make your money count. Save up your money to buy just a few key items for your wardrobe or apartment that will make you feel good about what you have. Work on your body. If you're jealous of your friend because of his rock-hard abs, start hitting the gym more often in order to reach that goal. Remember that, while everyone is born with a unique body, you still have a lot of control over how that body looks. However, if you think that everyone around you looks better than you do and that there's nothing you can do to change that, then you may have body image problems and should seek help from a doctor. Remember to be yourself. You won't beat your jealousy if you're obsessed with doing what your friends do, looking like your friends, or having the same relationship your friend has. No two people are alike, and you'll only feel worse if you're trying to emulate someone else. Though different people should inspire us in different ways, don't forget that you are a unique individual and never compare yourself to anyone else. You may be jealous of others because you can't stand the things you do on a daily basis. To avoid this, you should be...

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Сделайте себя лучше. Все, что вы делайте, старайтесь делать хорошо. Улучшите свои отношения с людьми.


Article in English: If you are a complete beginner, you can start by purchasing an inexpensive plastic recorder. Plastic recorders are usually used for teaching school children, as they require very little effort to maintain.  Once you have mastered the basics and you are still interested in playing, you can consider upgrading to a more expensive, wooden version. Wooden recorders tend to have a more pleasant tone than their plastic counterparts, but are considerably more difficult to care for. Both wooden and plastic recorders can be found at good musical instrument stores, or online. Recorders usually come in three parts, the top part which has the mouthpiece, the middle part with finger holes and the bottom part which has a bell shape. Gently twist the pieces together.  The bottom piece should be turned so the hole is slightly to the right when viewed as you would play it. Some recorders, typically those used in schools, are only one piece. Pick up the recorder and place the mouthpiece on your lips. Gently hold it between your lips and balance it with your fingers. Remember to put your left hand at the top.  The back side with one hole should face you. The front side should face away from you. Do not bite the mouthpiece or allow it to touch your teeth.

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Купите блокфлейту. Соберите блокфлейту. Научитесь держать блокфлейту.


Article in English: If you are a supervisor or owner of an organization, you should take steps to make your workplace drug free. Create rules and regulations that are discussed with each employee. This way, when you do have a situation with an employee, you have clear steps in place to deal with the issue. One issue to think about is whether your workplace will engage in drug testing to be sure that employees are drug-free. These rules should be clearly stated and should include information about:  How employees will be terminated if they are caught with drugs in the office. How employees are not allowed to drink or smoke anywhere on the premise, unless at a company function that allows for those substances to be consumed. How employees will be terminated if they come to work while under the influence. One way to ensure that you office is a drug-free workplace is to set up random drug tests. When a person is hired at your company, alert them to the fact that random drug tests can occur and that they will be asked to leave the company if any illegal drugs are found in their system. Wait a few weeks before enacting this rule. This time will allow any current drug users to amend their ways and seek help if needed. The consequences of abusing drugs must be made clear to all employees and should be implemented without exception. Of course, the punishments will vary, depending on your company, demands, environment, etc. Try to create consequences that are fair but serious.  For instance, you may ask a person to resign as a harsh consequences of drug abuse. On the other hand, you may choose to cut a person’s salary if they are found with drugs. To help keep your work environment safe, teach your employees how to recognize the signs that someone is abusing drugs. You could run seminars for your employees, or hang up signs with the major signs that may mean that someone is abusing drugs. Stress is one reason that may lead someone to begin to abuse drugs. Because of this, it is important to teach your employees stress management as a way...

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Составьте правила об употреблении наркотиков. Возможно, вы захотите создать программу, проверяющую на употребление наркотиков. Четко обозначьте последствия. Расскажите работникам о признаках употребления наркотиков. Научите сотрудников справляться со стрессом.


Article in English: If you are a teenager who has sore breasts, you are more than likely going through puberty. This means that your breasts are growing and your menstrual cycle is getting under way. It is normal to experience sore breasts at this time. Common symptoms include:  Tenderness in your breast, especially in the nipple area. This can be caused by hormonal changes and by wearing a bra that is too tight, or sleeping with a bra on. Feeling like you have heavy breasts. As fat and duct cells increase in your breasts, their tissue content also increases. Experiencing a warm feeling in your breasts. This occurs because multiple reactions are occurring at the cellular level, when hormones act on the glands and cells. See your doctor if the pain is very sharp or constant, is getting worse, or interferes with your daily activities. Doctors do not normally require full breast examinations until after the teenage years. However, it is a good idea to get in the habit of performing self-examinations of your breasts, especially if you experience soreness in the area. An exam will help you discover the issue in the rare event that you have a major problem. Sometimes you might feel a lot of lumps in your breast; this is caused by estrogen during your period. During puberty, you may also notice harmless lumps (such as breast buds) that are a normal part of your breast development. If you find a hard, unmoving lump, however, or if you are concerned, see your doctor for an examination. If you notice any pus or blood coming from your nipple while you are also experiencing sore breasts, you should go to a doctor. Pus or blood suggests an underlying infection, usually treatable with antibiotics. If there is localized (meaning in just one spot) tenderness and warmth in any part of your breast, it could mean you have an infection. This localized tenderness does not necessarily need to be accompanied by pus or blood. Instead, you may notice a part of your breast that is red, painful, or swollen. Antibiotics are prescribed to combat infections,...

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Научитесь различать симптомы боли в груди, вызванные половым созреванием и менструальным циклом. Регулярно проходите осмотр молочных желез у доктора. Обратитесь к врачу при обнаружении уплотнения внутри груди. Обратитесь к врачу при гнойных или кровянистых выделениях. Распознайте другие признаки инфекции. При обнаружении инфекции вам придется принимать антибиотики. Обсудите с врачом или родителями возможную беременность.


Article in English: If you are a woman and you have reason to suspect you may be at risk for gonorrhea, get tested. Many women who are infected do not have any symptoms, or symptoms so non-specific as to be mistaken for other conditions. Gonorrhea requires medical treatment. If left untreated, it can cause numerous serious health problems, including chronic pain and infertility in both men and women. Eventually, untreated gonorrhea can be spread to the blood and joints, which can be a life-threatening condition. Your medical provider will take a urine sample or will swab your cervix, vagina, rectum, urethra, or throat — wherever gonorrhea is suspected. There are several tests that can be done, all of which look for the neisseria gonorrhoeae bacteria. If you are giving a urine sample, be sure not to urinate for at least 2 hours prior to the test. You want to make sure that the bacteria hasn’t been flushed out before taking the test. Most tests can be completed in a couple of days. In some cases, gonorrhea can have lasting effects. Women may experience cervicitis, tubo-ovarian abscesses, or even ectopic pregnancies. Men may face continued pain along their epididymis (the duct that connects the testicles to the vas deferens) for up to six weeks after initial infection. The standard treatment for gonorrhea is a 250 mg  injection of ceftriaxone along with 1g of azithromycin, which is taken orally. A 400mg single dose of cefixime may be given along with 1g of azithromycin if ceftriaxone is not available.  Since some strains of gonorrhea have become resistant to these medicines, you may receive additional antibiotics to treat gonorrhea. You will need to get tested for gonorrhea again in about four weeks to determine if the treatment worked or if you need to be treated with another type of medicine. You will also need to be retested every time you change sexual partners. You want to be certain that the disease has cleared your system to avoid further transmission.

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Пройдите врачебный осмотр. Сдайте анализы. Узнайте у врача о возможных осложнениях. Пройдите курс лечения. Воздержитесь от половых актов хотя бы в течение семи дней после окончания лечения.


Article in English: If you are a woman seeking to prevent pregnancy without using a condom, one of the most common options is to take hormonal birth control pills. These are available from your family doctor; the pills are composed of either a blend of estrogen and progesterone, or just progesterone. You normally take one per day for 21 days followed by seven days of "sugar pills" (during which your body experiences a "withdrawal bleed" in place of a period).  There are a variety of different birth control formulations, and you can speak to your family doctor about the different options to determine which one is best for you. The advantage of taking birth control pills is that they are 91% effective in preventing pregnancy (and even more effective when used at exactly the same time every day without missing any doses). If you are a man having sex with a woman and not wanting to get her pregnant, you can ask her if she is regularly taking birth control pills. The downside of this method of contraception for men, however, is that you are relying on taking the woman's word for it, and also trusting that she has been taking them daily and not accidentally missing doses. An IUD is a small, T-shaped device that is inserted through your vagina into your uterus (where it sits for the next number of years and functions as birth control). They are over 99% effective at preventing pregnancy.  IUDs available include: the Mirena, Skyla, and Lilletta IUDs, and the Copper IUD. The Mirena IUD is hormone-based. It is more expensive and lasts up to five years; however, the benefit is that it decreases menstrual cramps and bleeding. Skyla, and Lilletta IUDs are also hormone based and these last up to three years. The Copper IUD is not hormone-based. The pros are that it is cheaper and lasts up to 10 years; however, the downside is that your menstrual cramps and monthly bleeding may be increased. You may receive a prescription for an IUD from your family doctor. Your doctor can then set up an appointment to have it inserted, which usually only...

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Принимайте гормональные противозачаточные таблетки. Вставьте ВМС (внутриматочная спираль). Попробуйте другие гормональные варианты противозачаточных средств. Попробуйте спермицид. Используйте барьерный метод, такой как маточный колпачок или диафрагма. Подумайте о стерилизации.


Article in English: If you are afflicted by esophagitis, you should consider how your diet is contributing to the condition. Making some changes to your diet may help you overcome your esophagitis. Try the following strategies:  Eat several small meals during the day. Eliminate chocolate, mints and alcohol. Don’t eat any foods that give you an allergic response. Avoid foods high in acid and other foods that trigger your heartburn. Avoid stooping over or bending immediately after meals. This increases the pressure in the stomach and triggers reflux. Wait for at least three hours after eating to lie down or go to bed. Too much excess body weight can contribute to pressure on your abdomen. Talk to your doctor to determine a healthy weight for your body frame. Maintaining this weight will reduce pressure on the stomach and the lower esophageal sphincter. . Smoking can contribute to your chances of developing esophagitis. Give up smoking by making a plan to quit and using products to help you quit (such as nicotine gum or a nicotine patch). When your clothes are too tight, you may be putting added pressure on your stomach and lower esophageal sphincter. Go for clothes that fit properly or slightly loosely. Find pants that fit your waist comfortably instead of pants with a tight waistband. Taking medications without drinking plenty of water with them can cause irritation to the lining of the esophagus and trigger esophagitis. Some of these medication include tetracycline, doxycycline, alendronate, ibandronate and vitamin C. Take all medication with plenty of water to reduce the irritation to the esophagus. When you elevate the head of your bed, your head will be higher than your chest, causing acid to stay in your stomach. Place wooden blocks under the head of the bed to elevate it. Do not use pillows to elevate your head. This causes you to bend in the middle, both increasing the pressure on the abdomen and increasing the potential for back and neck problems.

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Измените свои привычки питания. Следите за своим весом. Бросьте курить Носите удобную одежду. Запивайте лекарства достаточным количеством воды. Спите с приподнятой головой.


Article in English: If you are an adult living at home, it can be difficult to balance your independence with your parents authority. Make it easier on yourself by honoring that they have the final say within their own house. This will ease any tension and keep your parents happy.  Help them around the house. You are an adult and should pull your own weight. Wash clothes, do yard work, or clean up the kitchen without having to be told. Respect house rules. If you know your parents would be uncomfortable with you doing something in the house, then opt to not do it. If they do not like your significant other staying over, then do not invite he or she over after a date. If they do not like alcohol in the house, only drink when you are not home, etc. You will not always agree with your parents way of doing things, but you must respect it. Do not force your way of doing things on them in their own home. This will just create problems. If you feel yourself getting frustrated, leave the situation before it escalates.  Talk to you parents after you have cooled off. If you try and talk to them during the heat of the moment, it could become a big problem. Wait until everyone has calmed down before you try and resolve any problems. Take responsibility for your wrongs. It is easy to blame the other person for doing something to you, but you also must consider how you contributed to the problem. You have to be mature and own up to your mistakes. Being able to do this will keep a happy relationship between you and your parents. Your parents spent many years raising you. Now, they probably want some time to themselves. A healthy sense of space from you will keep your parents happy while parenting you as an adult. If they are in a main room watching TV, let them have their alone time. Go to your room and shut the door so they can have their full privacy. Get out the house so they can have it to themselves. Being able to relax when nobody is around is a treat that they might not be given often. Stay overnight at a friend’s house to give them...

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Уважайте родителей. Не спорьте. Уважайте личное пространство родителей. Подружитесь с ними. Извинитесь, если переступили черту.


Article in English: If you are an artist or you love to paint, you can use a toothbrush to introduce a new and unique texture into your work using your toothbrush as a paintbrush. This can be done with watercolors and acrylics. ” If your toothbrush has a hole in one end, you can remove the bristles, and use the remaining portion as a needle, of sorts, to thread runaway laces back through waistbands. You can take this one step further and create a large-scale needle by sharpening the end furthest from the hole. ” Attach your toothbrush's head (removed from the “stick” of the toothbrush) to a vibrating pager motor and watch as it crawls around. You could even make several bots, and conduct races with your friends or family.

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Создавайте необычные художественные штрихи. Сделайте большую «иглу». Сделайте «щетинистого робота».


Article in English: If you are angry about something that one of your step-siblings has said or done, it is important to calm yourself down before you approach him or her. Otherwise, you may end up saying or doing something that you do not mean to, or even engaging in physical fighting with your step-sibling. You can use relaxation techniques to help yourself calm down, such as:  Doing deep breathing exercises. Imagining a calm place, such as a sunny beach or a lush forest. Doing some relaxing yoga poses. If you are upset about something that one of your step-siblings has said or done, then it is important to address the issue in a constructive way. You can do this by using direct, assertive communication. Simple things like arranging a time to talk and using “I” statements can help you to communicate more assertively with your step-sibling.  Ask your step-sibling when would be a good time to talk. Try saying something like, “Hey, I have something kind of important to discuss with you. Do you have some time to talk after dinner tonight?” Use “I” statements when you share your concern. Using “I statements will help to take the focus off of you step-sibling and this may prevent him or her from becoming defensive. For example, you might say something like, “I felt a little hurt by what you said to me at school today. I heard you tell someone that I was ‘annoying’ and that hurt my feelings.” Avoid accusing your step-sibling of trying to hurt you. Just explain how the event made you feel. Focus on your perspective, not your step-sibling’s perspective. After you have shared your feelings with your step-sibling, it will be your turn to listen. Make sure that there are no distractions by turning off the TV, closing your laptop, and putting away your cell phone.  Use your body language to show you are listening, such as by facing your step-sibling, making eye contact, and leaning in towards him or her. You can also show you are paying attention by nodding your head and asking questions if something is confusing. For example, you might...

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Успокойтесь перед разговором со сводным братом или сестрой. Решайте вопросы прямо и убедительно. Выслушайте аргументы сводного брата или сестры. Поделитесь своими ожиданиями. Не деритесь и не обзывайтесь.


Article in English: If you are asked to interview via Skype, it means that the admissions committee finds your application promising. If you treat the interview as a sign that you’re doing well, it will be less stressful. Most candidates where a shirt and tie or a simple blouse, but if you feel more comfortable in a full suit or business casual, that is fine, too. The most important thing is that you are comfortable, which will help you to relax and give a good interview. Make sure the background behind you is neat and orderly. If the room you are in is a mess, it will leave a bad impression with the interviewer. A few well-chosen books on the shelf behind you, on the other hand, can reinforce your image as a serious student. The interview is meant to be conversational, so scripted answers will not help you. Please, don’t memorize anything, but it is a good idea to have a basic idea about how you will answer some typical questions:  Why do you want to go to law school? What attracts you to Harvard Law, in particular? When did you decide to go to law school?  What do you see yourself doing when you graduate? The point of the interview is to learn about you as a person, not about your accomplishments. Avoid talking about your resume or listing examples found in your personal statement. You will score the most points with your interviewer if you come across as intelligent, curious, and fun to talk to. At some point, your interviewer will probably ask if you have any questions. You’ll need to have some ready, and because it’s important to have researched Harvard Law in advance, they shouldn’t be things that can be easily answered simply by browsing the University’s website. So instead of asking “what opportunities are there for gaining practical experience,” you might ask “I’m really interested in the Transactional Law Clinics; can you tell me more about how they work and build on classroom instruction?” The point of the question is not only to gather information, but also to show that you are intelligent and inquisitive.

Summary in Russian:

Расслабьтесь. Оденьтесь прилично. Приберитесь. Подготовьтесь, но делайте это в разговорной форме. Не стоит повторять то, что написано в вашем резюме. Задавайте умные вопросы.


Article in English: If you are at the point where you are trying to save your relationship, it's a good idea to call in professional help. A counselor can help you decipher what problems you have, especially if you can hardly stand to be in the same room together anymore. Being honest is a kind of vulnerability, and by being honest with your partner, you show that you trust him or her. Try opening up about what you're thinking and feeling. When you're vulnerable, you're inviting your partner in and asking him or her to be equally as honest. However, it's important to continue using "I" statements to tell how you feel instead of blaming the other person. For example, when you're talking to your partner, you shouldn't say, "You never put me first." Rather, you should say, "I sometimes feel neglected in the relationship." That way, you're telling how you feel rather than pointing fingers. Instead of each taking one side of an argument, it's important to work together. You should work together in your relationship, treating each other as teammates rather than enemies. However, you also need to work together when trying to solve problems. That means first agreeing on what the problem is.  Once you agree on what the problem is, you also need to talk about what both you are concerned about underneath the surface. That is, you may both have an idea in mind of what winning looks like, but if you are both set on winning, no one will win in the end. Instead, discuss why you want the solution you do.  You should also look for common ground in the problem and the solution. That is, if you're disagreeing about who should do what housework, at least you agree that the house needs more attention. That's a starting place. This step may be the hardest part, coming up with solutions you both can live with. That means agreeing on what you think the main problems are in the marriage and coming up with ways you can both work to make it better. Basically, you need to compromise. Blaming each other isn't going to help, as you've both contributed to the...

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Проконсультируйтесь с психологом. Будьте честны друг с другом. Работайте совместно над решением проблемы. Примите решение. Научитесь прощать. Определив проблему, будьте готовы двигаться дальше. Установите границы.


Article in English: If you are avoiding sexual contact and the thought of having sex causes you to feel excessive and unreasonable anxiety or panic, you should seek help from a professional therapist. This may be signs of a phobia rather than a normal fear response.  The physical symptoms of a phobia include: sweating, shaking, feeling lightheaded, and having difficulty breathing. A counselor can help you manage these symptoms and the condition. See a therapist if you have sexual abuse in your history, which may hinder your enjoyment of sexual activity. Talking with a counselor and processing those traumas will lead to a positive relationship with others. When everyone relaxes, everyone benefits. Approaching an intimate situation with a sense of calm will stave off fear, and enhance your enjoyment.  Relaxation techniques include guided imagery, biofeedback, and breathing exercises. These will help you lower the stress and fear you feel. Use these techniques prior to interacting with someone. Guided imagery involves focusing on calming images and can be done by yourself or with help from a therapist. Biofeedback is a technique that trains you to lower your heart rate and blood pressure, which are associated with fear. Breathing exercises help to calm the nervous system associated with the fight-or-flight response, which is triggered when you feel fear.  If fear takes a hold of you when you are with someone in an intimate situation, pause and take a minute to breath and tap into the relaxation skills you have learned. Your thoughts affect your emotions. There is a tendency to overestimate the negative outcomes before you experience them, and underestimate your ability to cope with and manage a situation. These thoughts are imbalanced and need to be challenged.  For example, you are extremely nervous and afraid that you will throw up on your date when you are kissing. Challenge the thought by saying, “You cannot predict the future and you have never thrown up on anyone. If you feel nauseous excuse yourself and go to the bathroom....

Summary in Russian:

Запишитесь к психологу. Освойте методы релаксации. Боритесь с негативными мыслями.


Article in English: If you are avoiding social contact or feel excessive and unreasonable amounts of anxiety or panic, consider seeking help from a professional therapist. There are times when a normal fear grows into a phobia and must be addressed. Consider selecting a therapist who practices treatment methods such as:  Systematic desensitization: A form of classical conditioning that removes a fear response and replaces it with a relaxation response.  Hypnotherapy: A form of communicating during hypnosis that facilitates a person’s imagination to alter thought patterns, feelings and sensations.  Neuro linguistic programming (NLP): An approach that explores the interplay between your mind, language and how it affects your body and your behavior.  Cognitive behavioral therapy: An approach that allows you to examine your thoughts and behaviors to determine ways to balance inaccuracies. It has been shown to be effective with managing anxiety and depression related to phobias. Relaxation helps lower your stress and fear. If fear takes a hold of you prior to or when you are in a private, work or social situation, pause and take a minute to breathe and tap into the relaxation skills you have learned. Relaxation techniques include:  Guided imagery: This involves focusing on calming images and can be done by yourself or with help from a therapist. Biofeedback: A technique that trains you to lower your heart rate and blood pressure, which are associated with fear. Breathing exercises: These help to calm the nervous system associated with the fight-or-flight response, which is triggered when you feel fear. Real change does not occur without identifying the emotional underpinnings of your behavior. Are you struggling with anxiety, stress, or depression? Work with the counselor to peel back the layers of events and emotions that have gotten you into the struggle.  Your fear may be anchored to a trauma that you experienced as a child or as an adult. Talking with a counselor and processing the trauma will help to re-frame and manage your...

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Запишитесь к специалисту. Изучайте методы релаксации. Установите первопричины. Распознавайте эмоциональные триггеры. Ставьте терапевтические цели. Измените свои взгляды на беспокойство.


Article in English: If you are being asked to do a critique of non-fiction work, it is usually with an attention to scholarship and detail. Detail the work, author and subject area. You may want to include initial dates of publication and any changes that were later made to the work that should be taken into account. Suggest what you think the thesis statement the author conveys. Add what evidence is used and what the purpose of the article is. In 3 or more body paragraphs you should refer to the following subjects:  Explain what the author's credentials are. Establish whether you think the author is reliable in the treatment of the evidence. For example, perhaps the author makes a leap that is outside of his expertise or establishes himself as a foremost expert with this work. Evaluate the evidence given. Do not be afraid to do this over several paragraphs, if the author uses different types of evidence or studies. Write about the author's argument. Answer whether it follows a logical path. Decide whether the author was successful. Outline any counter arguments that the article or book inspired. Detail any possible newer research, changes or holes in the evidence. The critique should be based on research and reading; however, it should ultimately say whether you agreed with the author and why. Try to avoid overly-emotional reasoning and stick to facts about the writing and argument.

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Начните писать критическое эссе на текстовом процессоре. Сделайте выводы в первом параграфе эссе. Резюмируйте произведение. Пересмотрите основную часть работы. Завершите критический отзыв общим впечатлением от произведения.


Article in English: If you are being bullied, it's important to tell somebody you trust. Talk to a teacher, a coach, or a parent. It's their job to step up and help you deal with a bully, so tell them what you know. It's always good to talk to an adult. However, it's especially important if the bully has already gotten physical with you or you think the person might be violent towards you in the future. The adult should help to stop the bully. However, the adult should also be able to help you make a plan about how to deal with the situation. Ask them to walk you through ways to deal with a bully. For example, an adult may be able to assist you in finding ways to not be alone in the hallways. Bullies often isolate people to bully. If you're often alone, it makes you more of a target. Try to walk to classes with friends, or stay in places where teachers are on guard. Stay away from places you know will be empty. For instance, if you know the gym is usually empty after school, try going to the library instead. Making friends can be difficult if you're not very outgoing. It's okay to feel shy when you're trying to make new friends. Having friends, though, can make you less vulnerable to bullying, and it gives you someone to pal around with between classes.  Try talking to someone in your classes or in a club you're in. You can use what you're doing to start a conversation. For instance, you could say, "Hi, I'm Kay. This problem we're doing is really hard, don't you think?"  Make a habit of talking to the same people. Over time, you'll get to know that person more. For instance, if you see the person in the cafeteria, ask if you can sit with him or her. You could say, "Hey, we're in math together. We were talking about that awful problem the other day. Do you mind if I sit with you?" One way to get to know a person is to get them talking about themselves. The best way to do that is to ask questions. You can ask about what they like or what their family is like. You could ask what their favorite subject is or what they like to do for...

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Сообщите взрослому человеку. Попросите его составить план действий. Находитесь в коллективе. Заведите друзей. Попросите перевести вас в другую школу.


Article in English: If you are building a computer lab on a budget, it is a good idea to start by calling local businesses to see if they have old computers. When companies update their computer systems they are usually willing to donate their old computers to a good cause. To encourage donations, let companies know that they can use their contribution as a tax deduction. Similar to asking businesses, you can also go directly to friends and family. Many people just store the old computers in the basement when they buy new ones. These old computers can be repurposed for your computer lab. Your friends will probably be happy to get rid of those old computers. If you have a bigger budget, you can purchase new computers. You should be able to negotiate a good deal because you will be buying the computers in bulk. You probably don’t need a top-of-the-line computer, but a mid-range high-performance computer would be appropriate.  Shop around a few different places to get the best deal. Remember to get a compatible keyboard, mouse, and monitor for each computer. Before using old computers for your lab, you need to reset them to factory settings. This will improve their performance and erase all information that may have been left on them. Resetting the computers will depend on the type of computer you have. A quick online search of the computer should yield the proper procedure. The type of computer purchased for the lab will affect the type of operating system used. Linux is an open-source free operating system that is a great option for a budget computer lab. Other operating systems include Microsoft Windows and Apple OS X. There are many classes available to take on the use of any of these operating systems. Whole communities of people will be willing to help you get started with whichever one you choose.

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Обратитесь за помощью в местные компании. Попросите забрать старые компьютеры друзей и родных. Купите новые компьютеры. Выполните сброс старых компьютеров до заводских настроек. Выберите операционную систему.


Article in English: If you are building the fort in a hallway, closet, or other small space, then you can use an extendable shower rod as a support for the ceiling of your fort. Extend the curtain rod over the center of where you want the fort’s ceiling to be. Then, drape your blanket or sheet over the curtain rod. Use smaller pieces of furniture to support the lower portion of the sheet or blanket.  This fort is nice if you want to create a ceiling that is high enough to walk under. Make sure that the blanket or sheet you use is long enough to reach the floor. Avoid draping the blanket’s edges over any furniture that could easily fall over, such as small end tables. If you want a large, long fort, then try stringing a clothesline from 1 end of your living room or bedroom to the other. Then, drape blankets and use smaller pieces of furniture to keep the blankets from caving in. This will allow you to create a fort that can span the entire length of a room.  Make sure to hang the ends of the clothesline from something sturdy, such as a doorknob. You could also extend 2 clotheslines running parallel to each other for a wider fort. A quick and easy way to make a fort is use a table as your base. Pull the chairs away from a 4-legged table and drape a large blanket over it. Your fort is complete!  Make sure to choose a table that is high enough for you to fit underneath. Use a blanket that is large enough to cover all 4 sides of the table.

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Используйте раздвижную штангу для штор, чтобы обеспечить опору для потолка крепости в ограниченном пространстве. Протяните через комнату бельевую веревку, чтобы создать очень большую крепость на ее основе. Накиньте одеяло на стол с четырьмя ножками.


Article in English: If you are buying ducklings instead of raising them from eggs, buy about two to four.  You will be able to care for a smaller number better, especially if raising ducks is a new experience for you, but you should also have more than one duckling to prevent that duckling from feeling lonely. Ducks need to socialize with other ducks. Oftentimes, if you buy from a hatchery, you will be sold 10 to 15 ducklings at minimum. This amount can be overwhelming, so consider pawning off some of the ducklings on responsible friends and relatives. If you buy ducklings instead of hatching them. You should dip the tip of each bill into shallow water or sugar water to hydrate them. If using sugar water, use 1/3 cup (80 ml) sugar per 1 gallon (4 L) of water. Water makes it easier for ducklings to swallow food and clean their beak vents. You should give ducklings access to water for a minimum of one hour before and after feeding.  Chick fountains and shallow bowls are recommended for ducklings. Be prepared to clean the area often, however, since ducklings enjoy splashing around in the water. A week-old duckling will drink about 1/2 gallon (2 L) of water weekly. By the age of seven weeks, ducklings drink 1⁄2 gallon (1.9 L) (2 L) of water daily. Make sure that the water is no deeper than 1/4 inch (6.35 mm) to prevent the ducklings from drowning.  Be aware of the fact that ducklings do not produce waterproofing oil until they reach four weeks old. Mother ducks apply it to the ducklings before this in the wild, but domestic ducklings cannot be allowed to swim before this age since they will not have developed any oils of their own. Until ducklings reach the age of one month, they should only be allowed to enjoy short swims under close supervision. You can do this by filling a small plastic tub with warm water and letting them splash around for 2 to 5 minutes. Dry them off before returning them to the brooder. Keep your ducklings safe and warm in a brooder to shield them from predators, drafts, and diseases.  You do not need anything...

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Купите всего лишь двоих утят. Окуните клювы утят в мелкую посудину с водой комнатной температуры. Всегда давайте утятам достаточно воды. Установите брудер для утят. Поддерживайте в брудере теплоту. Обеспечьте жилье своим утятам. Кормите утят регулярно. Часто берите утят на руки.


Article in English: If you are close to the guy, then you’ll already know what sports or hobbies he participates in. Determine what he likes the most, or something that he may not have all the equipment for and then think of gift ideas around it. It’s okay if your gift isn’t overly sentimental or meaningful. Some men prefer practical gifts.  If he plays a sport, new equipment, a signed piece of memorabilia, or tickets to a game are perfect gifts. If you're younger, you could give him baseball cards or a new football. If he’s into art or music, then art supplies or music equipment make for great gifts. You can even buy him a song on iTunes, or make a playlist if you are on a budget. If he’s more of the gamer type, maybe getting him a new game or a new piece of hardware for his system or computer would be greatly appreciated. Artists always need art supplies, so if he’s the artistic type, new brushes or paint would be great gifts. Musicians are always in need of new gear, whether it be an extra strap for a guitar, cords for  a DJ, or strings for a violinist. If you regularly talk to the guy that you’re getting a gift for, you can ask him in casual conversation for things that he wants. Some guys are more open and these guys will likely make their opinion known on things that they don’t have. However, in some friendships, candor can be limited, so make sure the conversation is organic so you don’t send mixed signals, or tip him off to your intentions.  You can bring up something you plan on getting him and get his opinion on it without giving away the fact you plan on gifting it to him Make a mental note of anything that he said he wishes he had in other conversations. A good place to find good ideas for gifts are blogs, forums, and magazines. On blogs and forums, you’ll find people who are into the same interests as the guy you plan on getting the gift for. This will give you a heads up about the hottest new product or upcoming event.  You don’t need to create an account or post anything on the forums. Concentrate on reading up on...

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Составьте список увлечений или видов спорта, которые ему нравятся. Обсудите с ним его интересы. Читайте блоги или журналы, посвященные тому виду подарка, который вы хотите сделать. Сократите список потенциальных подарков до трех. Купите аксессуар для парня, у которого все есть. Активно проводите время вместе.


Article in English: If you are comfortable doing so, talk with trusted friends and family members about how you are feeling. You can also seek out help from a counselor, therapist, or other independent health professional. If you can't afford it, search online for advice about free services or budgeting (try googling free therapy + your city name). There will always be something available to help a person in distress.  Another option is to talk with other people who self-harm; they may provide a unique sense of social support that helps calm you down. You can reach out to various hotlines such as the National Suicide Prevention Hotline (1-800-273-TALK) or the Self Injury Foundation (1-800-334-HELP) or the National Hopeline Network (1-800-SUICIDE) – 24-hour crisis hotlines available for people who are considering self-harm or suicide. Find a hobby, activity or pursuit that lets you shine. Keep involved in it regularly. This may help you to feel better about yourself and distract you from thoughts of self-harm.  To find a hobby you like, try out several until something you like sticks. You can try this website for ideas: http://discoverahobby.com/  You can also ask friends or family what their hobbies are; sometimes it is funner to do a hobby if others you know do it as well. You might become calmer merely by smiling, even if you don't feel like it. This is called the facial feedback hypothesis; it suggests that the relationship between emotions and the face is bi-directional: that although we typically smile when we feel happy, smiling might actually cause us to feel happier or otherwise help us to be less distressed. Rather than thinking about what is distressing you, try cooling off by watching a movie, reading a book, or hanging out with friends. If you do take in media, do your best to avoid anything that makes self harm look acceptable or cool. Although this is no substitute for treatment from a mental health professional, you can still try this technique and the others on your own as a way to calm your thoughts of...

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Общайтесь с людьми в напряженные моменты. Займитесь тем, чем вы можете гордиться. Улыбайтесь. Отвлекайте себя. Когнитивное переструктурирование. Метод Сократа. Метод замены. Метод "противоположного действия". Найдите группу поддержки.


Article in English: If you are constantly on the go, it can help to prepare some healthy snacks so you can reach for them easily and quickly. Having healthy snacks on hand means you will less tempted to get fast food to go or opt for a prepackaged meal.  Cut up fruit like apples, pears, and oranges the night before and pack them in plastic bags or tupperware. Fruit makes a great, easy snack that is also good for you. Nuts like almonds and cashews are a great source of protein that won’t make you sleepy or drowsy throughout the day. Put a handful of almonds or cashews in a plastic bag and stash them in your purse or bag so they are easy to get to when you find yourself craving a snack. If you tend to crave something crunchy, go for homemade popcorn, tossed with sesame oil and sesame seeds, for a healthier alternative to potato chips. Rather than overhaul your entire diet, focus on choosing the healthier option for at least one meal a day. Choose a salad and a smoothie over a burger and fries for lunch or go for a healthy stir fry with vegetables over steak and potatoes at dinner. Try to be consistent about going for a healthy option for at least one meal a day to reduce your calorie intake and stay health conscious. Artificial sugars can be found in many prepackaged foods, such as baked goods, candy, sauces, and dips. Many artificial sweeteners for coffee and tea can also lead to health issues.  If possible, substitute artificial sugar in your meals with natural sugars like maple syrup, honey, or agave nectar. These natural sweeteners contain minerals and nutrients that are good for you and can taste as good or better than artificial sugars. Rather than have a prepackaged cookie or candy, have a piece of dark chocolate. Dark chocolate contains antioxidants and contains less sugar than milk chocolate or other sweets. Try to integrate natural sweeteners like honey, agave, and maple syrup into your baking. This will help you to avoid processed and artificial sugars and ensure your baked goods are healthy alternatives to store bought...

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Берите с собой полезную еду. Ужинайте и обедайте полезной пищей. Ешьте меньше добавленного сахара. Пеките десерты из натуральных продуктов и используйте натуральные подсластители. Готовьте по меньшей мере один раз в день. Пейте воду вместо сладких газированных напитков.


Article in English: If you are constructing an altar for a specific purpose or holiday, you might want to look up details of that tradition online before you begin. Searching for photos and examples of similar altars is a great way to get started. Many people mix and match components of different religions, spiritual traditions, and cultures that have personal importance to them.  Day of the Dead altars typically include pictures of saints and deceased relatives; candles; flowers, food, and drink. You can make a similar altar in homage of a deceased friend or relative, using food and toys that person would enjoy. St. Joseph's Day Altars are constructed in many places on March 19th. They are usually constructed in three tiers covered with food and decorations, surrounding a statue of St. Joseph. You can construct a similar altar to celebrate another holiday. After honoring the saint or holiday, eat the food with friends and family or give it to people in need of food. If you plan to quietly meditate or pray, select a quiet location out of the way of passers-by. If you wish to keep your altar as a central focus point or use it for group ceremonies, place it in a larger room. If space is limited and you travel a lot, consider making a portable altar. This can be a collapsible table, a tray, or even a cloth that can be packed in a suitcase along with a few altar decorations. Your altar may be located anywhere you choose for example it could be a stack of stones in your garden, on shelves on a glass-protected cabinet, on a cloth on the floor, on your kitchen table, in a designated room, or any place that you feel it should be.  If you plan to use the altar for rituals that require table space, for instance grinding herbs or burning incense, make sure it is large and flat enough for that purpose. Also, you may choose to place a cushion or chair in front of your altar for meditation or prayer. If there will be children or people shorter than you using the altar, consider whether you need to add an additional lower surface that everyone...

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Узнайте о традициях алтаря (необязательно). Выберите место. Выберите или постройте поверхность алтаря. При необходимости, добавьте к алтарю другую мебель или полки. Ритуально подготовьте пространство (не обязательно).


Article in English: If you are experiencing itchy gums and home remedies don’t help after seven to 10 days, schedule an appointment with your dentist. She can figure out the cause of your discomfort and find the right treatment for it.  Itchy gums may be a product of fungal, viral, or bacterial infections; certain medications; nutritional deficiencies; improperly fitting dentures; teeth grinding; allergies; stress, or periodontal disease. Schedule your appointment as soon as possible. You may not notice any changes to your gums or mouth with some oral conditions. Tell your dentist when the symptoms started, what treatments you’ve tried, and what relieves or makes symptoms worse. Let your dentist know any medical conditions you have and medications you are taking. If you’re itchy gums, your dentist may check and test for gingivitis, which is a mild form of gum disease with a variety of causes. Once she’s determined a cause for your itchy gums, your dentist will develop the best treatment plan for you.  Your dentist may be able to diagnose gingivitis or the cause of your itchy gums by examining your teeth, gums, and oral cavity. She’ll especially check your gums for redness, puffiness, and easy bleeding, which are symptoms of gingivitis.  Your dentist may refer you to another doctor such as an internist or allergist to rule out underlying conditions. Depending on your diagnosis, your doctor may suggest or prescribe medication to relieve the itching sensation. You may also need medication or treatment to treat underlying oral or medical conditions. In many cases, itchy gums and gingivitis are caused by a buildup of plaque and tartar. Having your teeth deep cleaned can remove the cause of your itchy gums and promote your overall oral health. Your dentist may clean your teeth using one of the following procedures:  Scaling, which removes tartar above and below the gum line Root planing, in which the dentist scales the root surface of the tooth, getting rid of bacteria and infected areas. This process leaves a polished surface for...

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Запишитесь на прием к стоматологу. Врач назначит вам анализы и поставит диагноз. Начните лечение. Всегда соблюдайте гигиену полости рта и вовремя чистите зубы. Рассмотрите возможность антисептических процедур. Принимайте антибиотики внутрь (например, в форме таблеток). Возможно, врач посоветует принимать антигистаминные препараты. Купите леденцы или спрей, в котором содержится анальгетик. Используйте антибактериальные жидкости для полоскания рта. Возможен вариант хирургической операции на пародонте.


Article in English: If you are feeling like you can't accomplish something, take a step out of yourself for a moment and imagine you are a completely different person. Think about what you would tell another person in your situation. For example, if you're nervous about going to a party where you don't know a lot of people or are interviewing for a new job, think about the advice you would give a person in a similar situation. If you look at it this way, you'll see that there's nothing to be scared about and that you will succeed if you put your mind to it. Write down all of the things that you are worried about, and all of the factors that make you feel like you can't accomplish a thing. Read them over and ask yourself how many of them are rational, and how many are just a product of negative thinking. Take the time to really think of what's at the root of your fears -- whether it's making a fool of yourself, disappointing your parents, or not having the life you want. See how many of your fears you can tackle, and how many positive solutions you can think of for all of the things that are worrying you. It's perfectly natural to be afraid of failure or of coming off looking bad. Everybody has these fears from time to time. It's unnatural, however, to be so plagued with worry that you feel like you can't get a single thing done. Instead of focusing on all the times you embarrassed yourself, failed at something, or just looked silly, you should take a long hard look at all the times that you've done really well. Think of the success you've had in school, the great friendships you've maintained, or just of random times when you made a group of people crack up because of your winning sense of humor. The more great times you remember, the more confidence you'll have that you can have more of them in the future. It can be helpful to write down each of your successes after they happen. Keep a success journal at your desk and fill it up with proud achievements and fond memories. When you feel incapable of anything and feel like you...

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Стремитесь сохранять объективность. Запишите свои страхи. Вспомните все свои успехи. Спросите себя: Теперь спросите себя: Вспомните свои положительные качества. Используйте позитивный внутренний диалог. Задумайтесь, почему вы говорите себе «нет».


Article in English: If you are feeling the urge to self-harm, consider going somewhere to be around people. This could be as simple as going into the living room to be with your family or roommates.  You might choose to go to a public place, like a coffee shop or a public park. Whatever you're doing, wherever you are, decide to stop before you harm yourself. Make sure to surround yourself with people. If you're alone in your house or are unable to leave, call someone to talk with. This could be a family member, trusted friend, or a hotline. Many hotlines are available featuring information for people struggling with self-harm, and resources for help.  It is helpful to create a phone list of people you can call. Make sure these numbers are in your phone:  1-800-273-TALK: This is a 24-hour crisis hotline if you’re about to self-harm or are in an emergency situation. 1-800-334-HELP: This number is the Self Injury Foundation’s 24-hour national crisis line. 1-800-DON’T-CUT: This number provides information about self-harm.   You can even try talking to an inanimate object, a pet, a photograph, or a poster. These objects can give you somewhere to aim your voice and won’t judge you for your actions. Remember that different helplines are available in different countries, and calling a helpline abroad may result in additional charges. If you are thinking about suicide, get help immediately. Call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency response (call 911). The following are some signs to look for:  Talking about wanting to die or to kill yourself. Looking for a way to kill yourself. Making statements about being hopeless. Talking about having no reason to live. If you find your thoughts continually drifting back to harming yourself, one alternative is to draw on your body with a marker. Draw on the place where you are thinking of harming yourself. Ink won’t leave a scar. . Distraction is a way to prevent self-harm once you feel the urge or stop self-harming once recognize you are self-harming. It is important to figure out what...

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Старайтесь окружить себя людьми. Позвоните кому-нибудь. Обратитесь за помощью, если вас преследуют суицидальные мысли. Рисуйте по телу маркером. Попытайтесь отвлечься. Переждите. Придумайте для себя напоминания о своих поступках. Уберите из дома все инструменты, которыми вы могли бы нанести себе раны.


Article in English: If you are feeling unhappy with being alone, there is a reason for this feeling. People may feel negative emotions when there is something wrong with their environment. Thus, perhaps you are sad because you are alone and should work toward being less alone, or feeling better when you are alone. Trying to convince yourself of something that isn't true (that you are happy being alone) will probably not work and can even lead to you feeling worse. Instead of trying to convince or lie to yourself that you are happy, work toward actually feeling happy. Look at your feelings as useful information. The next time you are feeling unhappy with being alone, trust this feeling. Tell yourself, "I trust my feelings. I am unhappy being alone. I can try to fix this." Your values dictate your behaviors. If you understand your personal values you can be more in tune with yourself, which can increase your ability to feel comfortable being alone.  Pay attention to your culture and traditions. If you engage in spiritual or cultural traditions, think of ways you can do these activities when you are alone. Make a list of things you value in life (ideas, material possessions). This list might look like: family, friends, home, trust, honesty, love, respect, culture, and religion. Consider ways that you can honor these values even when you are by yourself. Are there goals you can work toward in regard to your family, home, or religion? In order to feel happy with being alone you may first need to accept and love who you are. If you are uncomfortable with yourself, you may not like spending time alone and may feel you need other people to distract or validate you. You are an interesting and unique individual. Take the time to get to know yourself and improve your self-confidence.  Knowing who you are is about owning your personal identity. Try writing down the many positive characteristics you have such as: an outgoing personality, kindness, compassion, enthusiasm, passion, love, and empathy. Do something to express yourself. Maybe...

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Доверяйте своим чувствам и ощущениям. Знайте, в чем заключаются ваши ценности. Узнайте себя получше и научитесь самовыражению. Поставьте перед собой позитивные цели. Поймите разницу между одиночеством и уединением.


Article in English: If you are fine with chemical treatments, then a pre-emergent herbicide should be applied to the area just before new growth would be expected to form. This is especially important if you have had problems with foxtail already.  A few standard chemical options include dacthal, balan, and pendimethalin.  For an organic pre-emergent herbicide, try corn gluten meal. Sprinkle the product after your new lawn begins to grow to prevent foxtail and other weeds from taking root. Do not use it before growing your new lawn, though, since it could also prevent the desired grass from growing. Apply a pre-emergent herbicide treatment in the spring. If you apply it too early, though, they can lose their effectiveness. For best results, apply the herbicide once the weather warms up and stays warm. Lay it down just before you would expect the fox tail to pop up. The soil conditions need to be ideal for other plants. If other plants can thrive in the soil, they will grow and absorb more nutrients, making it harder for the foxtail to find enough nutrients to survive.  The exact pH your soil should be will vary depending on the type of vegetation you have there. The fertilizer and other soil amendments you use on the area will affect the pH. Note that such amendments generally have a greater impact on the pH if they are worked into the soil instead of spread on top. Herbicides can affect the pH, as well. As a general rule, if you add an acidic herbicide, balance it out with an alkaline substance afterward, and vice versa. Have a sample of your soil analyzed for pH at a lab. When an area of land is crowded by too much vegetation, some of the vegetation will inevitably die off once the roots begin to compete for nutrients and resources.  You could also replace the grass entirely with sod. When choosing vegetation to plant in the area, opt for a solid-stand crop like legumes or grass hay. Row crops, like soybeans and corn, offer too much space in the soil and are not effective at stopping foxtail growth. If you plant other forms of...

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Попробуйте довсходовый гербицид. Контролируйте кислотность почвы. Заполните участок другой растительностью. Косите ваш участок.


Article in English: If you are getting to a point where you notice that he lies to you about seeing other girls, isn’t straight with you about his true feelings for you, or keeps making excuses for why he is busy, don’t continue to act like you believe him. You should stop the game, and have a talk with him. Make a plan to talk to him, and think about what you want to say before the situation arises. For example, if you think he will probably end up canceling a date with you at the last moment, think about your response in advance. Then when he calls and makes the excuse that “Something came up” respond to him by simply saying “Okay, we need to talk soon.”  Sometimes guys who are players are attracted to girls who don’t put up with their games. Be prepared for this, and if he seems more interested in you than before, don’t give into his manipulation. You don’t want to be with someone who likes you just because you call him out on his lies. Your response shouldn’t turn into a guilt trip or a fight. Don’t try to make him feel guilty because you won’t be able to change him by calling him out or fighting. Remember that the only person you can control is yourself. If you are pretty sure that you will crumble if you argue with him, think about how you can distance yourself from him indirectly and quietly. The most important thing is to get out of the situation as soon as possible It is tempting to call out the guy you like when you feel like your emotions are being played with. But if you are dealing with a guy who has been lying to you about his intentions already, you shouldn’t ask him about his intentions because he will most likely lie to you about how he feels again when put on the spot. Instead, you should tell him where you are with the relationship and why you want to leave.  For example, you could say something like, “I’ve noticed that I am more into this relationship than you are, and I want to stop seeing each other because I realize I need more.” Depending on how close you were, you can tell him you want out of the...

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Не делайте вид, будто вы ему верите. Скажите, что вы не хотите больше встречаться. Говорите честно и прямо. Приготовьтесь завершить разговор.


Article in English: If you are going by a project basis, you will need to be able to say "That is beyond the scope of the project," so that you are not offering services for free if a client changes their mind. If a client wants to change the scope, build in a renegotiation process so that you aren't doing work you are not working on something for free. It is better to break into your consulting field by taking this 1-time hit in payment, than to set low rates. Your client will appreciate the discount, but understand when they are billed in full next time. You want to be able to bill at the higher rate, but if you feel that you want the client to be extra-pleased with your work, you have the freedom to bill for fewer hours than you worked. It is not a good idea to do this very often, but it is better than setting a low figure at the start. You want the client to see the value in employing you on larger projects, so raise your rates for small projects, and then offer to discount them if you take a larger role. If you are brand new, you can start high and send out proposals until you find a "sweet spot" where your services are billed at the right level. You may find that this level is higher than you expected.

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Установите процесс  для определения объема каждого проекта или контракта. Рассмотрите вариант бесплатных консультаций или скидок для клиентов, обратившихся в первый раз, чтобы оживить бизнес. Добавьте несколько лишних, неоплачиваемых часов, чтобы предоставить клиенту дополнительные преимущества. Немного поднимайте свои тарифы на кратковременную работу. Экспериментируйте с тарифами.


Article in English: If you are going to a big school or college, it’s really useful to know where all your classes are. Print out a map and highlight where your classes are. This will stop you from having to search for them on your first day.   Don't be scared about being late to your classes or not knowing where your classes are. On the first day of school teachers understand that you don't yet know your schedule and will be understanding if you are late. If you are having trouble finding your classes, ask a staff member for help. You will be able to find a map of your school on their website. Take the map to school with you so that other people can point you in the right direction if you get lost. Some high schools and colleges have websites where students can log in and find messages and materials from their teachers. Log into your school’s website before the first day to see if there are any messages or special materials you will need to review. For example, your teacher may have posted the syllabus for the class online. This will tell you more about the class, including your required textbooks, assignments, and the teacher’s policies. On your first day of school, you will most likely be asked to participate in icebreaker games. These are a great way to get to know other people in your class but can be a bit nerve-wracking if you feel shy. Practice saying your name, 2 facts about yourself, and where you are from. Say it a few times in front of the mirror, or practice saying it to your parents. This will help you feel more confident about talking in front of your class. If you already know someone at your school, ask if they have any of the same classes or lunch periods. If they do, organize to meet up before class or lunch. Having someone you know will help you to feel more comfortable in a new environment. Send your friends a picture of your schedule so they can compare it with their own. This will give you less time to worry about the next day. If you have a good sleep you are more likely to feel alert, energized, and...

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Узнайте, где находятся кабинеты, в которых вы будете заниматься. Просмотрите сайт вашей школы, чтобы получить информацию об уроках. Подготовьте несколько ответов на вопросы, которые обычно задают при знакомстве друг с другом. Узнайте, будут ли в вашем классе знакомые и друзья. Отправляйтесь спать раньше накануне первого учебного дня.


Article in English: If you are going to be putting your hands near an open cut, whether on you or someone else, your hands should be clean. Wash with soap and water, and dry off before handling any bandages or ointments.  If you don’t have water, antibacterial cleanser will do the trick in a pinch. Water is better, but the important thing is to keep your hands clean to avoid infecting the wound. If disposable protective gloves are available, go ahead and use them. They aren’t necessary, but anything to help prevent infection is a good idea. Make sure the cut isn’t bleeding anymore before you start to put on any ointments or bandages. Hold a sterile bandage or clean cloth on the cut until it clots and the bleeding stops.  If the cut is really small, a tissue might be enough to soak up the blood. If you can get a clean cloth, though, that is better. Don’t pull off the cloth or gauze to check on the wound until the bleeding has definitely stopped. That can cause the bleeding to restart.  If blood starts to seep through, and the cloth or gauze has gotten soaked, don’t remove it from the cut. Simply add more on top, and keep up the pressure. Use water to rinse out the cut, and use soap to help clean the area around the cut. Try to keep soap out of the cut.  Washing the cut is also important because it will let you see how big it is. If it is especially large or deep, contact a doctor before trying to apply a bandage on your own. Spread a thin layer of antibiotic cream over the cut to help prevent further infection. Something simple like Neosporin or Polysporin should be more than enough.  Some people are allergic to certain ointments, which cause a mild rash to appear on the skin. If the person starts to get a rash, stop using the ointment. You can either apply a band-aid, or hold a piece of gauze there and wrap with medical tape or a larger bandage. This will help keep the wound clean and keep bacteria out.  Make sure your bandage covers the entire wound. If there are parts that the bandage can’t cover, use another one. If the wound...

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Вымойте руки. Придавите порез, чтобы остановить кровотечение. Промойте порез. Используйте антибактериальную мазь. Наложите на порез повязку.


Article in English: If you are going to talk about the state of your relationship, you should find a time when you two can hang out alone together. Ask him if he’s free one weekend and invite him over to your place. If he doesn’t agree or tries to avoid coming over, it might be a sign that he’s not interested. Don’t ambush him right away with the big question. Do something fun that you two have always enjoyed together. Play a video game, watch a movie, or discuss sports. When you feel the time is right, pause the video game or movie. You can even wait until just before he goes home. Ask him if you can have a few minutes to talk. Reassure him that you don’t want to make things awkward, but that you want to clear up some confusion about your relationship. You don’t have to reveal if you like him or not yet.  You can try saying, “Hey, do you mind if we have a quick chat? I want to discuss something with you. I’m confused about the state of our relationship, and I want to clarify what we are.” A conversation like this can be awkward, and you want your friend to be as comfortable as possible. Tell him how much you value your friendship. You can say, “Your friendship means so much to me, and I want to make sure that nothing happens to it. At the same time, I want to make sure that we are both clear in what we want from each other.” The question itself can be difficult. You might want to practice beforehand with a friend or counselor to help you. There are a number of ways you can phrase the question.   “How do you see our relationship?” “Do you ever see us being more than friends?” “How do you feel about me?” He may react by being shy, bashful, embarrassed, or nervous. Allow him some time to think and phrase his answer. Don’t interrupt him. Wait until he is finished speaking before you say anything. If he says you are like a sister, a friend, or “one of the guys,” it’s a sign that he values your friendship but doesn’t want anything more than that. React gracefully. Tell him that it is fine for him to feel that way and that you are...

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Проведите время вместе. Занимайтесь тем же, чем и обычно. Спросите его, можете ли вы поболтать наедине. Заранее скажите, что несмотря ни на что вы останетесь хорошими друзьями. Спросите друга, что он думает о ваших отношениях. Дайте ему достаточно времени на ответ. Отнеситесь к его ответу с пониманием. Если парень признается вам в чувствах, скажите ему, что сами чувствуете к нему.


Article in English: If you are going to the beach and just plan to wade in the water, you probably need to know the basics of swimming. However, if you want to really swim out far into the ocean, you need to make sure you are a strong swimmer. Waves can be difficult to swim in, and the tide can often carry you far away from your original location, so be prepared to work hard while swimming. If you don't feel confident in your swimming skills to swim out in the ocean, take some time to practice in a local pool. Make sure you have the basic motions down, and you can learn a few strokes as well. The stronger swimmer you are the easier and more enjoyable it will be to swim in the ocean. When you swim out into the ocean and are only surrounded by blue water, it can be easy to lose sight of where you started. Before you go out to swim, try to choose a large landmark so that you'll know what to swim back to. You'll likely drift with the current, so it's important to remember how to get back. Before you go to a beach to swim, it's wise to check what the weather forecast is for the day. If it is mostly sunny you are safe to swim at the beach. However, if the forecast shows thunderstorms or lots of rain, today might not be the best day to take a swim. You can usually visit a beach if it's light rainfall all day, but keep in mind that it may be harder to see while you swim, so it could be dangerous. Beaches often place signs out to instruct swimmers and guests of the current conditions at the beach. For example, a beach may have a sign explaining that there is a lot of seaweed recently, that the tides are higher, the riptide is stronger than usual, or that there have been shark sightings. It's good to take a look at these signs so you are aware of the conditions of the water at the beach and so that you can follow the rules set. Another good reason to read the signs is they may share information about where it is safe to swim in the water. Before visiting a beach, it may be good to look up the location on the internet. Many beaches,...

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Прежде чем идти на глубину, научитесь превосходно плавать. Выберите ориентир во время заплыва. Посмотрите прогноз погоды. Обращайте внимание на знаки, прежде чем заходить в воду. Знайте, что означают флаги на пляже. Узнайте, есть ли на пляже спасатели. Знайте, что делать, если вы попали в обратное течение. Плавайте по возможности с другом. Уменьшите риск нападения акулы. Остерегайтесь медуз.


Article in English: If you are handwriting the recipient’s information on the envelope, do this before you insert the letter so that you don’t leave dents in the paper.  If you want your letter to look more professional, you can use your printer to print out the address on the envelope. You should write the recipient’s address on the front of the envelope in the center (e.g.  if you are in the US: name, address, city, state, and zip code), as well as the return address (your name, address, city, state, and zip code) in the top left hand corner. Before you fold the letter, check that the address on the letter and the address on the envelope correspond. Double check that you have signed the letter. The text should be facing up towards you as though you were reading it. Take the bottom edge of the page. Fold it up and over so that the bottom edge lines up about one third the way up the page. If you aren’t sure how much this is, take your envelope and place it underneath the middle of your letter to use as a guide. Before you crease the fold, make sure that the outside edges of the letter all line up perfectly to avoid crooked creases.  If the edges aren’t lined up properly, your fold will be crooked and your letter may not fit into the envelope. Once you are sure they are lined up, use your finger to crease the fold carefully. Now take the top part of the letter and fold it downwards so that there is about half an inch (about 1 cm) of space between the bottom crease and the top (folded down) edge of the letter. Again, use your envelope as a guide if you aren’t sure. When your envelope is lying underneath the letter you can check to make sure that it will fit inside by lining up the top and bottom creases of the letter with the top and bottom of the envelope. Don’t forget to line up the top part of the fold with the edges of the page. This will give you a nice clean and straight fold. You can hold a ruler sideways between your fingers and slide the thin edge of the ruler along the paper to create a flat and crisp crease if you want...

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Подпишите конверт. Положите письмо на стол перед собой лицом вверх. Загните нижнюю треть письма вверх. Убедитесь в том, что боковые края бумаги совмещены. Загните вниз верхнюю часть письма. Промните верхний сгиб. Вложите письмо в конверт.


Article in English: If you are happy with the way your drawings turned out, the only major edit you will need to make will be to speed the video up. "Draw My Life" videos generally are sped up so the video doesn't drag during the drawings. Use editing software like iMovie or others to speed the video up. You may also wish to cut scenes that you don't think fit within the video. If you don't feel comfortable with a scene, cut it out. If you think a scene is unnecessary, cut it out. Use your editing skills from previous videos you have made. Make sure you're in a place where no one will disturb you. It is much easier to talk over the video rather than trying to talk while drawing. Use the loose script you made earlier and try to edit the audio so that it is succinct and describes the events you are drawing in a focused manner. Speak clearly and concisely so your audience will be able to understand you. Be sure what you are talking about properly lines up with what you are presenting through your drawings. This will be the step that is most arduous in terms of editing. Or you can keep it for yourself and watch it when you grow up. Take any negative comments in stride and try not to let it affect you.

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Загрузите видео на компьютер. Отключите в видеозаписи звук и запишите свои комментарии к видеоролику. Синхронизируйте аудио и видео потоки. Когда вы будете довольны получившимся результатом, то загружайте видеоролик на свой канале YouTube!


Article in English: If you are having a panic attack in a crowded hallway or class, calmly, but quickly, give your teacher the cue and then make your way to the nurse's or counselor's office or the restroom. When your body is experiencing panic your heart starts beating rapidly, you may feel a pain in your chest, your hands may shake, you may feel short of breath and you may start sweating among other signs. Getting control of your breathing can help you to calm down and reduce panic.  Sit on a chair, the closed lid of a toilet, or on the floor with your back up against the wall. Place one hand on your chest and one on your belly. Take slow, controlled breaths in through your nose and out through your mouth. As you inhale the hand on your belly should expand, and it will collapse with each exhale. The hand on your chest should move only a little. Breathe in while you count to four, hold your breath for a few seconds, and then release the air as you count down from four. Keep repeating the cycle of inhaling and exhaling until you start to feel calmer. Sometimes, you can control feelings of panic with distraction techniques. These strategies allow you to take your mind off of panic until the symptoms subside. A few distraction techniques you can try to relax include:  Counting. You can count square tiles on the bathroom wall. You can try counting backwards from 100, or work out the multiplication table in your head (e.g. 1x1=1, 1x2=2, and so on). Reciting. You can make up or recite the words to a poem, or go over the lyrics to a favorite song in your head. Visualizing. Use your mind and your senses to picture a place that makes you feel safe. This place can be a cabin on a lake, grandma's house, or an exotic waterfall. Call to your mind different sensations about the place. How does it sound there? What does it look like? What smells are associated with this place? When you are feeling panicky, it's common to expect the worst. You can help yourself to overcome negative thinking and minimize your anxiety by thinking positive...

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Отправляйтесь в оговоренное место. Дышите глубоко. Отвлекайтесь Говорите с собой. Обратитесь за помощью, если  тревога не отступает. Вернитесь к урокам, когда приступ завершится.


Article in English: If you are having pain and discomfort from piriformis syndrome, then one of the best things you can do is rest your body. Piriformis syndrome may be the result of irritation or injury from exercise or other forms of strenuous activity. If you have a physical job or you like to exercise every day, then this advice may be a challenge for you. But it is important to rest to avoid further damage or irritation to the piriformis and to allow it to recover. Heat therapy is an effective way to help soothe pain and discomfort caused by piriformis syndrome. Heat therapy is also an effective way to warm up your muscles before stretching them. Try using a heating pad on the affected area or take a warm bath to cover more areas at once. Certain stretches have been found to be effective at relieving some of the pain and discomfort associated with piriformis syndrome. For best results, you will need to perform the stretches three times per day.  To perform a piriformis stretch, you will need to lay on the floor with your knees bent and both of your feet flat on the floor. Then, pull your right leg in towards your chest and use your left hand to pull the leg over to the left side of your body. Hold the stretch for five to 30 seconds, depending on your abilities. Repeat the stretch on the other leg. After stretching, applying ice can be an effective way to reduce pain and swelling associated with piriformis syndrome. To use ice, wrap an ice pack or bag of frozen vegetables in a thin cloth or paper towel. Then place the ice pack on the most painful area. Leave the ice pack in place for about 20 minutes and then remove it. Wait for at least 2 hours to reapply. Piriformis syndrome may be agitated by sitting or standing in certain positions, so you will need to make sure to avoid these positions. Do what you need to do to make yourself comfortable while sitting and standing. Try sitting on a cushion or comfortable chair if sitting feels painful to you. If you have trouble standing, consider using crutches or a cane to help...

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Дайте мышцам отдохнуть. Используйте тепловую терапию. Выполняйте упражнения на растяжку грушевидной мышцы. Прикладывайте лед. Позаботьтесь о том, чтобы вам было удобно.


Article in English: If you are having trouble clearing notifications or an incorrect badge count for an SMS or MMS message, try this method. The messaging app will usually be at the bottom of the home screen. The options vary by messaging app. The location will vary, but it'll usually be at the top-left or top-right corner of the screen.  The location may vary, but you'll usually have to select an option for Text Messages first. This will display a list of messages stored on the SIM card. You can usually do this by tapping and holding one message and then tapping additional messages. This will remove the selected messages from your phone's SIM card, which will hopefully prevent them from displaying notifications on your Android.

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Запустите основное приложение для обмена сообщениями. Откройте меню приложения для обмена сообщениями. Коснитесь опции Настройки. Найдите и выберите опцию Управление сообщениями на SIM-карте. Выберите сообщения, которые хотите удалить. Нажмите Удалить или Удалить сообщения.


Article in English: If you are hoping to build close friendships, don’t worry yourself with external characteristics, such as how the person looks or how much money he has. Instead, dig deeper and pay attention to internal signs of a healthy connection. Ask yourself the following about a potential friend:  Do I feel safe around this person? Can I be myself around him or her, or do I have to tiptoe around eggshells when we’re together? Does this person treat me with respect? Is he or she supportive of my ideas and goals? Can I trust this person? Is this person overly critical of me? Does this person take my kindness for granted? Good friends may discourage your participation in unhealthy lifestyle habits, such as excessive drinking. However, the reverse is also true. Friends can impact our choices and even unconsciously sway us to pick up unhealthy habits.  In University of Liverpool study, when one friend ordered an alcoholic beverage, 80% of the time, the other friend followed suit. Friends even matched how heavy the other friend drank, without even knowing.  If a potential friend has unhealthy habits or negatively influences your life, you may need to assess the value of that friendship. While drinking may not be a make or break for a new friendship, drug addiction or criminal activity might be red flags for you to stay away from a fledgling relationship. Deepening and maintaining a relationship requires continuous nurturing and attention.Therefore, a successful friendship must exhibit both giving and receiving of time, attention, and effort.  The give and take in a friendship may not always be equal. For example, your friend might be really stressed over her parents’ divorce and require more support for a time. However, if the friendship is always one-sided, and you are constantly giving of yourself or acting against your own needs or values, this may not be a friendship you choose to continue.

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Подумайте, какие чувства вызывает у вас этот человек. Подумайте о привычках своих новых друзей. Выясните, ценит ли другой человек вашу дружбу.