TINJAUAN ‘URF TERHADAP PRAKTIK NGELANGKAHI DI DESA BAWU BATEALIT JEPARA
Authors: Lestari Sri Puji 
Published: May 2022

This study aims to understand the tradition of ngestepi marriage carried out by the people of Bawu Village which is usually carried out every time a sister's marriage precedes her brother, in addition to understanding clearly from the perspective of 'urf whether the law of the tradition of skipping marriage is contrary to Islamic Shari'ah or not. This study uses a juridicalsociological approach, using a qualitative research type using field research methods. To obtain the data used the method of observation, interviews and documentation. The results of this study state that, first, the implementation of the marriage is carried out in the morning before the bride and groom carry out the qabul consent. Before the procession begins, the whole family and all family members perform prayers. After that, the bride-tobe sungkeman to her sister, then the bride-to-be's sister expresses her sincerity to be willing to be stepped over, and the bride-to-be (sister) hands over the money or goods to her sister. Then the older brother holds the wulung sugarcane tied with roasted ingkung while holding hands with the younger brother then both of them step over the tumpeng golong three times. After all the wedding processions are over, it is followed by eating with family and relatives. Second, based on the perspective of 'urf, the tradition of skipping marriage in Bawu Village has become a custom that applies in the community and has been in effect for a long time and has no conflict with the texts of the Qur'an and Hadith, then these customs are permissible and permissible. Can be done as long as it does not conflict with Islamic law Penelitian ini bertujuan untuk memahami tradisi pernikahan ngelangkahi yang dilaksanakan masyarakat Desa Bawu yang telah biasa dilaksanakan setiap ada pernikahan sang adik mendahului kakaknya, selain itu untuk memahami secara nyata berdasarkan perspektif ‘urf apakah hukum tradisi pernikahan ngelangkahi berlawanan dengan Syari’at Islam atau tidak. Penelitian ini menggunakan pendekatan yuridis-sosiologis, menggunakan jenis penelitian kualitatif dengan menggunakan metode lapagan (field research). Untuk memperoleh data digunakan metode observasi, wawancara dan dokumentasi. Hasil penelitian ini menyatakan bahwa, pertama, pelaksanaan pernikahan ngelangkahi dilaksanakan pagi hari sebelum calon pengantin melaksanakan ijab qabul. Sebelum prosesi dimulai seluruh keluarga dan seluruh anggota keluarga melaksanakan do’a. Setelah itu, calon pengantin sungkeman kepada kakaknya, kemudian kakak calon pengantin mengutarakan keikhlasannya untuk bersedia dilangkahi, dan calon pengantin (adik) menyerahkan uang atau barang pelangkahan kepada sang kakak. Kemudian kakak memegang tebu wulung yang diikat dengan ingkung bakar sambil berpegangan tangan dengan adik kemudian keduanya melangkahi tumpeng golong sebanyak tiga kali. Setelah semua prosesi pernikahan ngelangkahi selesai, dilanjutkan makan bersama keluarga dan kerabat. Kedua, Berdasarkan perspektif ‘urf tradisi pernikahan ngelangkahi di Desa Bawu sudah menjadi adat kebiasaan yang berlaku di masyarakat dan sudah berlaku sejak lama serta tidak memiliki pertentangan dengan nash Al-Qur’an dan Hadits, maka adat istiadat tersebut memiliki hukum mubah (boleh) dan boleh dilakukan asalkan tidak bertentangan dengan syari’at Islam.