num_pages: 192
description: Nautilus Book Awards' Better Books for a Better WorldA ride-or-die chick is a woman who holds down her family and community. Shes your girl that you can call up in the middle of the night to bail you out of jail and you know shell show up and wont ask any questions. Her ride-or-die trope becomes a problem when she does it indiscriminately. She does anything for her family friends and significant other even at the cost of her own well-being. No is not in her vocabulary. Her self-worth is connected to how much labor she can provide for others. She goes above and beyond for everyone in every aspect of her lifework family church even if its not reciprocated and doesnt require it to be because shes a strong Black woman and everyones favorite ride-or-die chick. To her love should be earned and theres no limit to what shell do for it. In this book author adjunct professor of sociology and former therapist Shanita Hubbard disrupts the ride-or-die complex and argues that this way of life has left Black women exhausted overworked overlooked and feeling depleted. She suggests that Black women are susceptible to this mentality because its normalized in our culture. It rings loud in your favorite hip-hop songs and it even shows up in the most important relationship you will ever havethe one with yourself. Compassionate candid hard-hitting and 100 percent unapologetic Ride or Die melds Hubbards entertaining conversations with her Black girlfriends and her personal experiences as a redeemed ride-or-die chick and a former captain of the build-a-brother team to fervently dismantle cultural norms that require Black women to take care of everyone but themselves. Ride or Die urges you to expel the myth that your self-worth is connected to how much labor you provide others and guides you toward healing. Using hip hop as a backdrop to explore norms that are harmful to Black women Hubbard shows the ways you may be unknowingly perpetuating this harm within your relationships. This book is an urgent call for you to pull the plug on the ride-or-die chick. 
language: English
title: Ride or Die: A Feminist Manifesto for the Well-Being of Black Women
publisher: Legacy Lit