num_pages: 80
description: Gender roles today are not clearly defined as they were 50 years ago. Therefore, the old rules to dating, marriage and relationships simply don't apply anymore. Fortunately, today's society offers us the opportunity to achieve a different level of love, since we are not dependent on our mate for survival. This gives us the opportunity to choose a mate for the right reasons. The answer is broken down into 14 Tools and are for both men and women. These tools successfully remove the chaos and confusion that surrounds dating relationships today. The first (3) tools help us to recognize, first of all, if we ourselves are even ready to begin the process of finding our soulmate. Are we Happy and Whole in ourselves, enough so that we can give happiness to another person (soul mate, children, community, etc.) It is critical to develop one's own self first before even seeking a soul mate. Next, assuming we are Happy and Whole, Tools 4 through 8 help us to recognize the "Intentions of Another". This is so important and this is where most of the confusion and chaos exists today. Misleading advice on relationships, using "old school" thinking in a world that is so different from 50 years ago, has made the courting experience very confusing. Both men and women need to learn the "signals" that clearly indicate the interest level and intentions of the person we just met. It is critical to learn one's intentions early on so we don't spend years in a dead end relationship. Finally, once we are in a happy relationship, tools 9 through 14 show us how to maintain a healthy balance in day to day tasks so resentment does not grow resulting in break-up and/or divorce. Given the overlap in the "breadwinner" role today, we need to re-define the balance between "breadwinner" and "domestic" roles so resentment does not build. In particular, Tool #10, the Balance Matrix, helps us to actually quantify balance so resentment does not grow out of control. The best way to use this book is to share it with a potential partner. Just say,"I got this book. Let me know what you think". By having the person you are dating read this book, they will know that you see certain signals as good or bad. They will know that you can recognize bad intentions. Sharing the book will also stimulate conversation and you will learn how the other person thinks. Now, be aware, that he or she may run from this relationship if they are not looking for their soul mate. On the other hand, they will be very intrigued and then you'll know you have someone worth investing your time with. Let's seize the opportunity we have today to develop healthy relationships that are happy and last. Enjoy! Eileen Clarke
language: English
title: The Rules to the Dating Game Have Changed: Relationships in the 21st Century
titlecomplete: The Rules to the Dating Game Have Changed: Relationships in the 21st Century
publisher: Rivercross Pub