num_pages: 278
description: Who listens to you?New York Times contributor Kate Murphy asked people on five continents this question and the response was typically a long awkward pause. People struggled to come up with someone anyone who truly listened to them without glazing over glancing down at a phone or jumping in to offer an opinion. Many admitted that they themselves werent very good listeners and most couldnt even describe what it meant to be a good listener.Despite living in a world where technology allows constant digital communication and opportunities to connect it seems no one is really listening or even knows how. And its making us lonelier more isolated and less tolerant than ever before. A listener by trade Murphy wanted to know how we got here.In this illuminating and often humorous deep dive Murphy explains why were not listening what its doing to us and how we can reverse the trend. She makes accessible the psychology neuroscience and sociology of listening while also introducing us to some of the best listeners out there (including a CIA agent focus-group moderator bartender radio producer and top furniture salesman).While listening is often regarded as talkings meek counterpart Murphy discovered its actually the more powerful position in communication. We learn when we listen. Its how we connect cooperate empathize and fall in love. Listening is something we do or dont do every day. While we might take listening for granted how well we listen to whom and under what circumstances determines who we are and the paths we take in life.Equal parts cultural observation scientific exploration and rousing call to action thats full of practical advice Youre Not Listening is to listening what Susan Cains Quiet was to introversion. Its time to stop talking and start listening.
language: English
title: You're Not Listening: What You're Missing and Why It Matters
publisher: Celadon Books