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description: The desire for romantic love in marriage is deeply rooted in our psychological makeup. Almost every popular magazine has at least one article each issue on keeping love alive in a marriage. Books abound on the subject. Television and radio talk shows deal with it. Keeping love alive in our marriages is serious business. With all the books, magazines, and practical help available, why is it that so few couples seem to have found the secret to keeping love alive after the wedding? The problem is that we have overlooked one fundamental People speak different love languages. Your emotional love language and the language of your spouse may be as different as Chinese from English. No matter how hard you try to express love in English, if your spouse understands only Chinese, you will never understand how to love each other. We must be willing to learn our spouse’s primary love language if we are to be effective communicators of love. My conclusion after twenty years of marriage counseling is that there are basically five emotional love languages—five ways that people speak and understand emotional Seldom do a husband and wife have the same primary emotional love language. We tend to speak our primary love language, and we become confused when our spouse does not understand what we are communicating. We are expressing our love, but the message does not come through because we are speaking what, to them, is a foreign language. Once you identify and learn to speak your spouse’s primary love language, I believe that you will have discovered the key to a long-lasting, loving marriage. Love need not evaporate after the wedding, but in order to keep it alive most of us will have to put forth the effort to learn a secondary love language. We cannot rely on our native tongue if our spouse does not understand it. If we want him/her to feel the love we are trying to communicate, we must express it in his or her primary love language. —Taken with permission from The Five Love Languages , Northfield Publishing, Copyright © 1992, 1995, 2004 by Gary D. Chapman. We can learn a lot about loving our spouses, and others, from the way Jesus loves us. He speaks all the love The greatest act of love ever performed was Jesus’ death on the c
language: English
title: Holy Bible: English Standard Version
titlecomplete: Holy Bible: English Standard Version
genres: Faith, Religion, Reference, Spirituality, Nonfiction, Classics, Theology, Christian, History, Christianity
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publisher: Crossway Bibles