num_pages: 252
description: We are born with tendencies of temperament that become the four cornerstone traits of our personality. Like the four cornerstones of a building, each trait has its diagonally opposite CrossTrait. Part One of this book is a guide to these four basic personality traits which form the foundation of well-adjusted, trusting personalities. It includes a brief self-quiz of your four basic traits and explains how they influence your attitudes toward people and work. When one trait is significantly weaker than its inverse trait, our personality tilts out of balance. Since a person's primary needs, values and goals come from their dominant personality traits, unbalanced traits create a potential for mis-matched traits. Personality conflicts arise when we confront other people whose traits conflict with our own. Conflicts become severe--and we start driving each other crazy--when anxiety, fear and distress push weaker traits farther off balance, stressing them -the less assertive person turns passive and avoidant -the less agreeable person turns controlling and headstrong -the less conscientious person turns distractible and careless -the less open person turns rigid and intolerant. Part Two, "The Psychopathology of Everyday How Trait Extremes and Negative Emotionality Affect the Way We Deal With People, Things, and Tasks," delves into the power of fear and emotional pain, and into the insidious ways chronic unhappiness undermines our feelings about interpersonal relationships and work. It also explores why the destructive, often violent, combination of severe emotional distress and unbalanced CrossTraits devastates individual lives, families, and communities. Finally, Part Two explores the difficult choices that must be faced when we love a person who is emotionally or socially maladjusted. What can we do when everything we try seems to fail? Where should we draw the line?
language: English
title: CrossTraits: Why We Drive Each Other Crazy
titlecomplete: CrossTraits: Why We Drive Each Other Crazy
ratings_count: 1
publisher: X-Traits Press