num_pages: 256
description: The White Fragility for transracial adoption--practical tools for nurturing identity unlearning white saviorism and fixing the mistakes you don't even know you're making.If you're the white parent of a transracially or internationally adopted child you may have been told that if you try your best and work your hardest good intentions and a whole lot of love will be enough to give your child the security attachment and nurturing family life they need to thrive.The only problem? It's not true. What White Parents Need to Know About Transracial Adoption breaks down the dynamics that frequently fly under the radar of the whitewashed happily-ever-after adoption stories we hear so often.Written by Melissa Guida-Richards--a transracial transnational and late-discovery adoptee--this book unpacks the mistakes you don't even know you're making and gives you the real-life tools to be the best parent you can be to the child you love more than anything.From original research personal stories and interviews with parents and adoptees you'll learn:  What parents wish they'd known before they adopted--and what kids wish their adoptive parents had done differently  What white privilege white saviorism and toxic positivity are...and how they show up even when you don't mean it  How your child might feel and experience the world differently than you  All about microaggressions labeling and implicit bias  How to help your child connect with their cultural heritage through language food music and clothing  The 5 stages of grief for adoptive parents  How to start tough conversations work with defensiveness and process guilt
language: English
title: What White Parents Should Know about Transracial Adoption: An Adoptee's Perspective on Its History, Nuances, and Practices
publisher: North Atlantic Books