The Sun.
London, England, 1859-09-07 00:00:00

MEN AND WOMEN AT HOME.

A lady of my acquaintance gives it as her sine
qua non of domestic felicity, that the " men of the
family" should always be absent at least six hours
in the day. And truly a mistress of a family, how-
ever strong her affection for the male members of
it, cannot but acknowledge that this is a great boon.
A house where " papa" or "the boys" are always
" pottering about," popping in and out at all hours,
everlastingly wanting something, or finding fault
with something else, is a considerable trial to even
feminine patience. And I beg to ask my sex gene-
rally—in confidence, of course—if it is not the
greatest comfort possible when, the masculine hull
of the family being cleared out for the day, the
house settles down into,regular work and orderly
quietness until evening ? Also, it is good for them
as well as for us, to have all the inevitable petty
domestic "bothers " got over in their absence ;
to effect which ought to be one of the prin-
cipal aims of the mistress of a family. Let
them, if possible, return to a quiet smiling
home, with all its small annoyances brushed
away like the dust and cinders from the grate
—which, en passant, is one of the first re-
quisitions, to make a fireside look comfortable. It
might be as well, too, if the master himself could
contrive to leave the worldly mud of the day at the
scraper outside his door ; however, as these chapters
do not presume to lecture the lords of creation, I
have nothing more to say on that score. But she
who, the minute an unfortunate man comes home,
fastens upon him with a long tale of domestic grie-
vances, real or imagined—how the butcher will
never bring the meat in tine, and the baker keeps
a false account of loaves—how she is sure cook is
given to drink, and that Mary's " cousin" had his
dinner off " our" mutton yesterday—why such a
lady deserves all she gets; cold looks, sharp speeches,
hasty plunges into the convenientinewspaper ;. per-
haps an angry cigar—a walk, with no invitation for
her company—or the club. Poor woman ! sitting
crying over her lonely fire, not owning that she is
wrong, but only that she is unhappy, and very much
ill-used, might one recommend to her notice one
golden rule ? " Never pester a man with things that
he cannot remedy and does not understand." Also,
for her own benefit as well as his, a harmless rhyme,
true enough of minor vexations, whatever it may
be of the greater griefs, is so philosophically dis-
p;%es of :

" For every evil under the sun,
There is a remedy or there's none.
If there is one, try and find it ;
If there isn't never mind it."
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And when he comes again, honest man! perhaps;
a little repentant, too, there is but one course og
conduct which I recommend to all sensible tomen;,
viz., to put her arms round his neck, and—hold her
tongue.-- Woman's Thoughts about Women.

held a°T.—On Friday after
inquest at the London
FATAL ACCIDENT TO A PILOT,—On
aged 60 years, a pilot.,
noon Mr. J. Humphreys
leceased on the
Hospital on the body of Ralph Denal
It appeared from the evidence thaei
under the wheels of
driverun had time to stop
afternoon of the 22d was proceeding alongedOld Gravel-lane,
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the horses the deceased received compound fractures
expired
of both
legs. He was removed to the hospital, where
on Wednesday from mortification of the injured parts_and
injury to the head. The JUFY returned a verdict of acci-
dental death.

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THE SUN, LONDON, WEDNESDAY EVENING, SEPTEMBER 7, 1859.