The Sun.
London, England, 1859-09-07 00:00:00

211 EN AND WOMEN AT HOME.

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A lady of my acquaintance gives it as her sine
qua non of domestic felicity, that the " men of the
family" should always be absent at least six hours
in the day. And truly a mistress of a family, how-
ever strong her affection for the male members of
it, cannot but acknowledge that this is a great boon.
Al house where " papa" or " the boys" are always
" pottering about," popping in and out at illl hours,
everlastingly wanting something, or finding fault
with something else, is a considerable trial to even
feminine patience. And I beg to ask my sex gene-
rally—in confidence, of course—if it is not the
greatest comfort possible when, the masculine half
of the family being cleared out for the day, the
house settles down into regular work and orderly
quietness until evening ? Also, it is good for them
as well as for us, to have all the inevitable petty
domestic " bothers " got over in their absence;
to effect which ought to be one of the prin-
cipal aims of the , mistress of a family. Let
them, if possible, return to a quiet smiling
home, with all its small annoyances brushed
away likc the dust and cinders from the grate
—which,. .en passant, is one of the first re-
quisitions, to make a fireside look comfortable. It
might be as well, too, if the master himself could
contrive to leave the worldly mud of the day at the
scraper outside his door ; however, as these chapters
do not presume to lecture the lords of creation, I
have nothing more to say on that score. But she
who, the mistute an unfortunate man comes home,
fastens upon him with a long tale of domestic grie-
vances, real or imagined—how the butcher will
never bring the meat in time, and the baker keeps
a false account of loaves—how she is sure cook is
given to drink, and that Mary's " cousin" had his
dinner off "our" mutton yesterday—why such a
lady deserves all she gets; cold looks, sharp speeches,
hasty plunges into the convenient newspaper; per-
haps an angry cigar—a walk, with no invitation for
her company—or the club. Poor woman ! sitting
crying over her lonely fire, not owning that she is
wrong, but only that she is unhappy, and very much
ill-used, might one recommend to her , notice one
golden rule ? " Never pester a man with things that
he cannot remedy and does not understand." Also,
for her own benefit as well as his, a harmless rhyme,
true enough of minor vexations, whatever it may
be of the greater griefs, is so philosophically dis-
p:.,ses of :

" For every evil under the sun,
There is a remedy or there's none.
If there is one, try and find it ;
If there isn't, never mind it."
And when he comes in again, honest man ! perhaps
a little repentant, too, there is but one course of
conduct which I recommend to all sensible women,
viz., to put her arms round his neck, and—hold her
tongue.—
Woman's Thoughts about Women.

of Ralph Dalleal
—On Friday FATAL ACCIDENT TO A P
body
evidence thate
after-
noon' Mr. J. Humphreys helda". inquest at the London
aged 60
inteasppiptealarz tfhreombofit years, a pilot.
afternoon of the 22d was proceeding al the deceased on the
St. George's-in-the-East, when he felrill
under
Gravel-lane,
a timber waggon, and before the driver hader the wheels of
the horses the deceased received compound time to stotK
fractures
legs. He was removed to the hospital, where he °fix'
expired
on Wednesday from mortification of the injured parts and
injury to the head.- The jury returned a verdict of acci-
dental death.