conv: After my 4th child was born_comma_ I had friends sign up to bring dinner for us for 2 weeks. I had a c section and was really limited in what I was able to do_comma_ so I was very grateful.  I usually hate to ask for help_comma_ so when my friends all surprised me by taking turns bringing us meals for 2 weeks after my 4th child was born I was blown away. I was so relieved to have help.  Wow_comma_ 4 children my first is on the way and I'm freaking out. You must have great friends.   That is so exciting_comma_ congratulations! We moved 17 hours away from family_comma_ so having a great group of friends is really important to us.  Thank You. That is our next step we are moving from NYC to Miami after the baby. How can we find friends like yours?  Get involved in something. Church_comma_ a social club for interests you are in. I don't recommend parent groups_comma_ for some reason they get really nasty. Just find a way to connect with people. Having children is so much harder without a support system! I see what you mean about a parents group. I joined a dads group in facebook and it's full of people who complain non stop about  being an adult. 