conv: WHen my ex boyfriend of over 4 years suddenly just up and left me for another woman I didnt know what to do with myself.  I was so used to doing everything with him all the time and it was really hard for me. I found myself suddenly by myself and it seemed as if all the people I had become friends with were no longer wanting to still be friends.  I mostly met all of them through him when we got together_comma_ and when he left me he told them not to speak to me anymore and they listened. That's sad. But I'm sure they stil want to be firends with you too I dont think they do.  He was an abusive guy and he didnt want me to have them as friends and he would make up lies about me .  I dont think it was so much the lies he made up because they knew they were not true.  I think they were just loyal to him. Posibly. Sounds like you are better off without him though