conv: My girlfriends aunt recently died.  Although I never met her due to a falling out with that side of the family my girlfriend and her sister were devistated. My girlfriends aunt just died.  She wasnt close to her but is still devastated because of the impact it had on her sister.  I'm doing whatever I can to help them both. Sometimes deaths affect us even when we're not really close. Thats very true.  I know she feels bad for not keeping as close contact as she could have with her aunt now. Guilt can be a terrible thing to live with.