conv: I have been married for almost ten years. It takes a lot to stay in a marriage that long. I have been married for ten years. Since we aren't swingers_comma_ I'm a one man kinda lady. That's cool. I am not a swinger either. Staying with the same guy day in and day out over a long period of time can be tough. How did you do it? It's a commitment to stay with just one person.