history: I was devestated when my grandmother passed away, I still am not over that I was devestated when my grandmother passed away_comma_ I still am not over that Sorry to hear that. I have lost all my grandparents so I know the feeling. 
current: Wow that is even worse, I cannot even fathom that, I am so sorry
next: Yeah, it takes a long time to get over .  And it's never easy.