history: I was devestated when my grandmother passed away, i was unsure what to do with myself for a long time after I was devestated when my grandmother passed away_comma_ i was unsure what to do with myself for a long time after It can be hard. I went through that myself.
current: It certainly can be, I wish life was not like that, but there is no fixing it now
next: We have to deal with it and try to move on. 