history: An old friend wanted to get together. It would have been fun, but he is a guy and I knew it would bother my husband so I didn't meet him.  An old friend wanted to get together. IT was a guy_comma_ and he was someone I was involved with. I knew it would bother my husband so I didn't meet with him.  That's the best decision. I know mine wouldn't either. If he is a good guy_comma_ he will understand.
current: I didn't want to make my husband uncomfortable, even if it would have been nice to catch up. But I have to respect him. 
next: That's good. No sense in rocking the boat.