history: An old friend wanted to get together. It would have been fun, but he is a guy and I knew it would bother my husband so I didn't meet him. 
current: An old friend wanted to get together. IT was a guy, and he was someone I was involved with. I knew it would bother my husband so I didn't meet with him. 
next: That's the best decision. I know mine wouldn't either. If he is a good guy, he will understand.