history: I feel so bad when I think back to times that I yelled at my kids for no real good reason. I feel so bad when I think back to times that I got angry and yelled at my kids for no real good reason -- just a combination of the day's events and feeling irritated_comma_ really.
current: We get carried away with our emotions sometimes. Did you explain it to them?
next: Yes! THAT I feel good about! Making a point to use it as an opportunity to talk. I've definitely used it when it comes to the way others might act -- emphasizing that it's not about *them*, it's really about the person and where they're at.