Debate: Should people use the word "Gay" as a derogatory adjective?
Side: no, its disrespectful an drude

You've done a good job of clarifying your questions, and I think most of your points are very well thought-out. I'll respond to a few points and answer what I perceive to be lingering questions or disputable statements."I think we both can agree that the issue at hand is not a matter that is resolved by word meaning. The issue we are attempting to address is more appropriately resolved by not investigating the terms themselves, but rather by addressing the intent of the person using the terms.""The term ‘gay’ is not derogatory. Only the intent of the speaker is derogatory when the term gay is used outside its meaning. Yet, if someone does use the term outside of its meaning we cannot universally infer that derogation is intended."That is fair, and I agree with you on these points. I also appreciate you having clarified the issue."My answer to my questions: Some homosexuals are easily offended by the illiterate usage of the term ‘gay’. Heterosexuals are not offended by the illiterate usage of terms that definitively denote their sexual behavior."This point I have to dispute not because I think the statement is false on its own terms, but because I think it implies a falsehood and is therefore itself not applicable. While ""Some homosexuals are easily offended by the illiterate usage of the term ‘gay’" is clearly true, "Heterosexuals are not offended by the illiterate usage of terms that definitively denote their sexual behavior"" seems to imply that there are a significant frequency of cases when people use words that denote heterosexuality in a way that can be perceived as illiterate or offensive usages.This does not seem to be the case, as it is not general practice for any group, gay or straight, to use words like "straight" or "heterosexual" in such a way. A brief proof to show this more clearly:Let 'O' be an instance where a straight person is offended by an illiterate usage of the word "straight"Let 'I' be an instance of someone illiterately using the word "straight" in an offensive way.1. If 'O', then 'I'. (premise)2. not-'I' (premise) (such cases don't happen with significant frequency)3. Therefore, not 'O'. (Modus Tollens, 1,2)So, the reason straight people are not offended is because there is nothing to be offended by. Hopefully I expressed that clearly, let me know what you think."Gays are accepting of heterosexuals until they can no longer accept the consequences of the heterosexual nature which negatively impacts the wishes of the gay populace. Yet, the heterosexual is the only party at fault."This is an interesting point, but I don't think that it's necessarily accurate. First, the thesis that accepting the wishes of gays is antithetical to the very nature of heterosexuals is easily disproved by the existence of many straight advocates of gay rights. Many of these so-called "straight allies" exist, including myself as an example. To cast the debate as "straights versus gays" is an inaccurate characterization of the situation.Secondly, your argument could just as easily have applied to civil-rights era disputes over Black rights. In that case, enough of the dominant group (Whites) was eventually convinced of the value of the oppressed group's arguments to allow social progress to occur. While I am not saying that the gay rights movement is exactly the same, I think the historical precedent is enough to show that the conflict may not be as "irreconcilable" as you suppose. There was a time when the very idea of Black rights was laughable to almost all Americans. If things can progress from that point, than we should have reason to hope that things can go similarly with the less severe oppression faced by homosexuals compared to slavery-era Blacks."As a culture, we accept the oftentimes very humorous jokes about dumb-blonds, but it is a taboo to consider the humor of gay-jokes. If gays can learn to laugh at themselves concerning blond-jokes, then gays can too learn to laugh at themselves concerning gay-jokes."I like this point, but I have to add a qualification. Humor is an important sign of maturity, especially when one is willing to laugh at himself or herself. I don't know, but I suspect that a lot of gays do laugh at gay-jokes, but probably more so when the joke is made by another gay person. Not to labor the point, but I have to refer again to the long history of murder and genocide faced by homosexuals and the lasting impact that must necessarily have on what is funny or not funny. Just as many who lost ancestors in the holocaust probably don't find Jew jokes very funny, especially when uttered by non-jews, Gays are probably a little less willing to laugh at gay jokes coming out of the mouths of straight people, who have (historically speaking) treated them in a way entirely analogous to the way Nazis treated Jews.