And so, we end up with a view like this of ourselves. (Laughter) Our mistake as teachers, as mentors, as employers is that, instead of working with this positive image that people so effortfully maintain, we try and put a clear mirror in front of them. We tell them: "You know, the image is just going to get worse and worse and worse." And it doesn't work. It doesn't work because the brain will frantically try to distort the image, using Photoshop and fancy lenses, until it gets the image it's happy with. But what would happen if we went along with how our brain works