 men are from mars, women are from venus is a book written by an american author and relationship counselor john gray. it has sold more than 50 million copies and according to cnn it was the "highest ranked work of non-fiction" of the 1990s and spent 121 weeks on the bestseller list. the book and its central metaphor have become a part of popular culture and the foundation for the author's subsequent books, recordings, seminars, theme vacations, one-man broadway show, tv sitcom, workout videos, podcast, men's and ladies' apparel lines, fragrances, travel guides and his-and-hers salad dressings. the book states that most of common relationship problems between men and women are a result of fundamental psychological differences between the genders, which the author exemplifies by means of its eponymous metaphor: that men and women are from distinct planetsâmen from mars and women from venusâand that each gender is acclimated to its own planet's society and customs, but not to those of the other. one example is men's complaint that if they offer solutions to problems that women bring up in conversation, the women are not necessarily interested in solving those problems, but want mainly to talk about them. the book asserts that each gender can be understood in terms of distinct ways they respond to stress and stressful situations. ==content== gray writes that men and women each monitor the amount of give and take in relationships, and if the balance shifts, with one person feeling they have given more than they have received, resentment can develop; that is a time when communication is very important in helping to bring the relationship back into balance. he further states that men and women view giving and receiving love differently, as regards the "tallying" of individual acts of love. according to gray, women and men are often surprised to find that their partners "keep score" at all, or that their scoring methods are different. he says women use a points system that few men are aware of, where each individual act of love gets one point, regardless of magnitude; men, on the other hand, assign small acts fewer points, with larger blocks of 
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