  ==introduction== families and how to survive them is a bestselling self-help book co-authored by the psychiatrist and psychotherapist robin skynner and the comedian john cleese. it was first published in 1983, and is illustrated throughout by the cartoonist j. b. handelsman. the book takes the form of a series of dialogues between skynner, playing the role of therapist, and cleese, who adopts the role of inquisitive lay person. the book, among other things, is a description and analysis of how and why we fall in love, how we develop from babies to adolescents to adults, and how during this development we so often become "stuck" in childlike behaviour, and how all these things are influenced by previous generations in our families. the authors themselves have said that the aim of the book was "to make intelligible and accessible the psychological aspects of how families behave and function; what makes some work and others fail; and how families can move up the scale towards greater health and happiness", and that the motivation behind it was to "make available to the general public, in a way that was easy to absorb, those aspects of psychological knowledge we had found most helpful ourselves towards making life more understandable, meaningful, and enjoyable".life and how to survive it, introduction families and how to survive them may be said to have arisen from two sources - an earlier book, one flesh, separate persons: principles of family and marital therapy (1976) by skynner, and work carried out by skynner at the institute of family therapy in london in the 1970s. cleese, who attended a lengthy course of group therapy at the institute in the mid seventies, was so impressed by what he experienced that, motivated by a desire to spread what lay behind the therapy to a wider audience, proposed to skynner that they write a book summarising and outlining the principles involved. families and how to survive them is generally acknowledged as being one of the best books for the lay person on family relationships and the social development of children. it was and remains a huge success, and is viewed as being both educational and amusing, as well as making a significant contribution towards the demystifying of psychological illness. the british journal of psychiatry described it as being "of paramount importance". people who read the book often speak of it as being "a complete eye opener" and of a desire to rush out and buy a dozen copies for 
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