gufuhira umukunzi wawe ugakabya uburwayi menya wabyirinda
inzobere rukundo zigaragaza ukunda ugomba kumufuhira ariko gufuha bikabije bibi kuko bigira ingaruka mbi nyinshi rukundo rwanyu inzobere by’imitekerereze n’imibanire zivuga gufuha ugakabya uburwayi abakundana umwe agira ingeso gufuha cyane bikabije buryo adaha mugenzi amahoro hari uburyo bworoshye wakoreha ubyiyizihomaze bikagenda bigabanuka kuko n’ubusanzwe mumaro wabyodore bishobora gutandukanya abakundana inzobere rukundo zigaragaza ukunda ugomba kumufuhira ariko gufuha bikabije bibi kuko bigira ingaruka mbi nyinshi rukundo rwanyu inzobere by’imitekerereze n’imibanire zivuga gufuha ugakabya uburwayi abakundana umwe agira ingeso gufuha cyane bikabije buryo adaha mugenzi amahoro hari uburyo bworoshye wakoreha ubyiyizihomaze bikagenda bigabanuka kuko n’ubusanzwe mumaro wabyodore bishobora gutandukanya abakundana kwizerana ukundana n’umuntu ukaba umwiyumvamo by’ukuri kandi ukizera agukunda by’ukurintabwo wajya guhangayikishwa kumufuhira umukekera n’ibyo udafitiye gihamyaniyo mpamvu uba ugomba kwizera umukunzi wawebikagufasha kumva wundi areba utari woweugahorana cyizereaho guhora umuhangayikiye kwirinda kumva amabwire ntukwiye kumvirana abantu bakubwiye ubisamire hejuru uhite wumva ukuri byose kuko kimwe byatuma uta umutwe ugatangira gufuhira umukunzi waweahubwo ufata umwanya kubanza gutekereza neza bakubwira ukamenya ukurinibiba ngombwa ubimubaze witonze kandi wirinde byagusaza irinde kugaragaza uburakari hari ukuntu kwiyumvamo ifuhe cyangwa se ukaba ufite amakuru y’uko umukunzi wawe ashobora kuba aguca inyuma cyangwa afite bakundanantugakore ikosa ryo guhita umwereka uburakari bukabije kuko wafushye ahubwo ushobora kubimubaza wiyoroheje burakari umuzanyehoya ngeso kugaragaza ifuhe igenda ishira buhoro buhoro ntukamugenzure cyane si byiza uhora ugenzura umukunzi wawe wumve udatuje utamenye n’icyo gukora kuko hari bamwe usanga barashyizeho n’ ingenza zitanga amakurukandi si byiza kuko hari n’abaguha amakuru kugira babashwanishe bakakubwira ibibi gusa kugira umurakarire irinde ishyari ukunda kugira ishyari gufuha bituruka ugasanga uhora wumva uvuganye n’umukunzi wawe wese badahuje igitsina baganira kuguca inyuma cyangwa ashaka kumugutwaraugasanga ugirira ishyari umuntu wese bavuganye kandi akenshi uba wibeshyakuko ntabwo umuntu yavugana n’abantu bamwe gusanawe ujye ubanza wirebeho nta mpamvu kugirira ifuhe rikabije umukunzi wawe kuko bishobora kuba intandaro gushwana cyangwa mugatandukana burundu kubera gufuha kandi hari uburyo wabyirinda urukundo rugasagamba nubwo bamwe bajya bafuha bitwaje ukunda umufuhiranyamara ntabwo biba ngombwa ukabya ugasanga umukunzi wawe waramuhahamuyenukurikiza nama tuguhaye uzagenda ubikira buhoro buhoro inzobere mitekerereze muntu psychologie ndetse by’imikorere n’imihindagurikire ijyanye n’ibitsina sexologie albert gakwaya avuga gufuha ibintu bisanzwe ariko hakaba n’igihe bigeraho bikaba indwara kandi habaho ikintu gisanzwe bita gufuha bantu bakundana cyangwa ukunze ukumva wakigenzura ati hakabaho gufuha bihinduka indwara bimwe umuntu abuza amahoro bigaturuka kizere gikeya nyir’ugufuha yigiramo bituma yumva atari rugero kuba yaba kumwe wawundi afuhira ibyo bikabije bigeraho bikaba bibi bikica umuryango cyangwa umwe bagize umuryango akabera umutwaro akomeza asobanura ni uburwayi buturuka gufuha bukunda kugirwa n’abantu bataye ikizere ubwabo hari ugufuha kurenze buryo bigira nyir’ubwite umurwayi mutwe bikamutera kujya arota cyangwa yibwiriza mugenzi hari ukundi kuntu bigenda ruhande batari kumwe albert gakwaya avuga akenshi kenshi biba muntu udafite umutuzo bw’utuntu agira ruhande nk’umuntu uca inyuma mugenzi noneho akaba afite ishusho mutwe y’uko abikora akibagirwa y’uko bibaho gusa akibwira mugenzi akora nk’uko nguko ati icyo gihe amubonye asuhuza bihita bimwibutsa kajisho areba muntu abigenza atekereza afite mutwe akabishyira wundi bityo bikaba byanaba n’ ubumuga icyo gihe rugo biba byatangiye kumera nabi iyo umuntu afushye akenshi kenshi rimwe biza byizanye ibisanzwe avuga kandi hari ibituruka umuntu yabayeho myaka ibiri mbere akivuka hari igihe umwe babyeyi yitwara nabi ntafashe wabmwana kuzigiramo ikizere noneho bikazatuma wabmuntu agira ikibazo gikomeye agira inama ababyeyi gihe bonsa abana bajya babaterura buryo babareba maso bakabaganiriza bakabitaho buryo bwose bashoboye buryo nibagenda bakaza kugaruka bongera kubikora bityo bakarema ikizere mo umwana akumva yizeye kugenda k’umubyeyi bidatuma amutakaza burundu ahubwo agaruka akiri uwe abitandukanya mubyeyi wonsa umwana yiruka atamwitayeho akagaruka atinze atanamwitayeho akavuga mwana akurana impamyi kumva ugiye wese amukunze atari bugaruke akumva azaba afiteho uruhare wese azamurinda kugirango atamuhomba nk’uko yabuze umubyeyi