mu mpamvu nyamukuru ziri gutera gatanya harimo izitangaje
buri wese agira impamvu ze bwite zituma ahitamo gutandukana n’uwo bashyingiranywe gusa hari impamvu zigenda ziza isonga gutera gutandukana hagati y’abashakanye tugiye kuvugaho nkuru buri wese agira impamvu ze bwite zituma ahitamo gutandukana n’uwo bashyingiranywe gusa hari impamvu zigenda ziza isonga gutera gutandukana hagati y’abashakanye tugiye kuvugaho nkuru mu mibanire y’abashakanye ibintu ntibihora bigenda neza habaho ibiza bene bagafatanya kubicyemura cyangwa bakitabaza inshuti n’imiryango bakicara basasa inzobe ikibazo kigashakirwa umuti gusa nanone hari igihe kwihangana k’umwe bashyingiranywe kugera iherezo bikaba ngombwa habaho gutandukana uwahoze umugabo n’umugore buri wese akajya kubaho ubundi buzima bamwe bahitamo kongera gushyingirwa abandi bakigumira gucana inyuma impamvu iza isonga zitera gutandukana hagati y’abashakanye ugucana inyuma nubwo gucana inyuma ijambo bamwe basobanura ukundi ariko hano turashaka kuvuga ibintu byose by’ishimishamubiri ukorana n’uwo mutashyingiranywe nubwo buri wese ashobora kwerekana impamvu yamuteye kubikora ashaka kwirengera ariko guca inyuma mwashyingiranywe akabimenya biri isonga bitera gutandukana umutungo umutungo mpande zose zishoboka nawo bitera gatanya byaba kuba umwe yinjiza amafaranga menshi kurenza yaba kuba umutungo mwari mufite wazamutse cyangwa wamanutse ndetse kuba umwe bashyingiranywe awusesagura cyangwa ashaka kuwikubira nabyo byose biri mpamvu zitera gutandukana kutaganira ibiganiro byiza ishingiro ry’urugo rukomeye kutaganira bituma buri wese akora ibye abyumva bityo ugasanga gushyira hamwe biragabanyutse unaniwe kubyihanganira agahitamo gusaba gutandukana niba ikiganiro mugirana intonganya gusa cyangwa se kuvuguruzanya werekana ibyawe bizima gusa urugo rwanyu ruri manegeka kuko hakenewe ibirenze kuganira mikoreshereze y’umutungo bitagenda neza mudatongana mishinga n’imigambi mufite nibyo bikenewe intonganya buri gihe byaba gutonganira imyenda yapfubye cyangwa watashye bwije cyane ikintu cyose kirimo intonganya kandi zihoraho cyangiza umubano ntabwo abantu bihangana bingana hari unanirwa kubyihanganira hagakurikiraho gutandukana umubyibuho ukabije nubwo ushobora kumva bishekeje cyangwa se bitumvikana ariko kwiyongera ibiro bikabije mugore bishobora gutuma umugabo atongera kumwishimira mugabo bishobora gutuma ubushobozi gukora imibonano bugabanyuka kandi byose bishobora gusenya urugo kubura wifuzaga bamwe bashyingirwa bafite mutwe wabo bifuza kuzabona bageze rugo marriage ideal kenshi agera rugo akabona ibihabanye n’ibyo yatekerezaga urugo kumubera umugisha rukamubera ikigeragezo niba warifuzaga umugabo muhora muganira ugasanga uwawe avuga amagambo abaze ugasanga wifuzaga umugore uzi guteka neza yahagera ugasanga n’ibishyimbo arabipfubya kudasabana kutumva wowe n’uwo mwashyingiranywe mwabaye umuntu umwe nabyo biri bisenya ingo hamwe muba mutameze nk’umugabo n’umugore ahubwo mwimereye nk’ababa nzu gusa uku gusabana hanazamo imibonano mpuzabitsina igihe cyose mutagira igihe gihagije gukina guseka kwishima gutemberana agatoki kandi kuryoherwa n’imibonano mpuzabitsina biba bikurura ubwigunge kandi buje haba hari abandi ruhande biteguye kubumara uwabugize bityo gusenyuka k’urugo kukaba kubura ubwuzuzanye abanyarwanda bati ngizi yigira no rugo niko bimeze hakenerwa ubwuzuzanye hagati y’umugabo n’umugore bikorwa byose gahunda zose zireba urugo kuganira mujya inama y’icyakorwa kuganira bindi binyuranye kandi hagafatwa umwanzuro wumvikanyweho ingenzi babana gushaka utiteguye wateye cyangwa watewe inda imiryango se ibigushyizemo zimwe mpamvu zishobora gutuma ushaka utiteguye uku gushaka utiteguye bishobora gutuma ushaka utishimiye cyangwa udakunze ahubwo kuko ubuze ugira cyangwa ubuze andi mahitamo hari n’abashaka kuko hari inyungu runaka bakurikiye ariko buryo wamubaza azi agiye gukora rugo ukaba wasanga atazi agiyemo guhohoterwa nubwo ihohoterwa ryahagurukiwe ariko ntitwavuga ryarandutse guhozwa nkeke gutotezwa gukubitwa gukoreshwa imibonano mpuzabitsina ngufu zimwe ngero z’ihohoterwa rikorerwa ntabwo twashinja uwahohoteye mugenzi kuba umuntu mubi ahubwo amarangamutima ashobora kwangirika bitewe n’akantu gato kaba akavuye kuwo babana cyangwa se ahandi ndetse n’indwara mutwe zishobora kubitera