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urugero nko kugira birinde kurwana bitari bayikoze ukubera urukundo gukomeza umubano urushungiyeho ikindi kandi abagabo bumva batewe igitutu kuba basabwa guhora biteguye gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina ndetse kuba bagomba gufata iya mbere gikorwa hari kandi n’impamvu zishingiye mikorere y’umubiri w’umuntu uko umugabo asaza amaraso atembera mubiri muvuduko muto indwara nk’agahinda gakabije kwiheba depression’ cyangwa imiti y’indwara nk’umuvuduko ukabije w’amaraso cyangwa kumva adatuje byose bishobora kugabanyiriza abagabo ubushake n’agatege kubaka urugo buriri izi mpinduka z’umubiri kandi zishobora gutera amarangamutima y’umuntu guhungabana iyo umugabo agize ikibazo gutinda gushyuha by’umubiri bashakanye erection cyangwa adashobora kubigenzura bikamubaho buri mwanya akandi hose bimutera gutangira kwisuzugura kwiyanga buryo benshi bafata umwanzuro kureka kuba bafata iya mbere bakore imibonano mpuzabitsina n’abo bashakanye nkuko michael a perelman umuyobozi weill cornell medicine’s human sexuality program abivuga ku bagabo busanzwe badakunda gukora kwiterereza bumva badashobora gukora bazihunza inshingano gutera akabariro kuko bumva bibateye isoni cyane kumva batazanyura bubakanye bitandukanye n’abagore abagabo batakaza ubushake gutera akabariro igihe batishimye cyangwa bumva mutekano bafite nkuko dr laumann abivuga guhangayikira kuzamurwa kazi guhangayikira urubyaro kwibaza bizagenda nyuma kujya kiruhuko cy’izabukuru byose bigabanya ubushake ubushobozi n’akanyabugabo ke umugabo buriri nkuko dr laumann abisobanura ikindi rimwe rimwe kibazo bagabo gikomoka mibanire n’uwo bashakanye gutera akabariro bishobora kuba umugenzo uhoraho hagati y’abashakanye biyemeje kubana igihe kirekire babana nyamara si bimera bashakanye batabana umunsi munsi hari umugabo akuza ibyiyumvo bye mugore bitewe n’ibintu akura mugore cyane cyane amafaranga umugabo nk’uwo nkuko barry mccarthy umwalimu w’imitekerereze america university abivuga abona umugore nk’umuntu mwiza nyina w’abana umufasha n’umuterankunga ariko ntamubone nk’umukunzi uteye amabengeza bashobora kwishimirana bihagije baramutse bubakanye urugo cyumba cyabo cy’umwihariko ese habuze ubushake gutera akabariro mugabo cyangwa umugore urugo rurasenyuka igisubizo kibazo hoya si ngombwa iteka hari umwe bubatse urugo ubura ubushake cyangwa ubushobozi gutera akabariro buryo bunoze bashakanye biba intandaro gusenyuka k’urugo rwabo gusa bibayeho abashakanye bagomba kwicara bakaganira wugize ahisha kugira bamenye neza ikibazo gihari bafatanye kugishakira igisubizo kandi birashoboka cyane kumva udashaka umubano ushingiye bitsina n’uwo mwashakanye ikimenyetso cy’uko atari umuntu mukwiranye gihe nkuko umwalimu by’imitekerereze ishingiye mibanire y’abantu kaminuza herzliya israel madamu gurit birnbaum abivuga birashoboka kutabana kumwe byatumye umwe ajya kure cyane y’undi ntabe akimwiyumvamo cyangwa intego zanyu n’ibyo mwakundaga kimwe bikaba byarahindutse nkuko madamu gurit birnbaum abisobanura umubiri wanyu ushobora kuba 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