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gukundwa gukunda usanga bikenewe abantu benshi hari bamwe usanga bazerereza inkundo usanga ahinduranya nkuhindura imyambaro birababaza kandi birashoboka umuti waboneka ese biterwa n’iki kuba wumva buri gihe wakundana n’undi ukareka ufitekubikira birashoboka psychiatre j-d nasi kubwe yemeza cyane uburyo guhunga ukuri rukundo usanga akenshi kumera gutyo hari uba ubiterwa guhunga ukuri buzima harimo nko gukora kuvunika kugoka ubeho n’ibindi kuri kibazo psychologue jean-jacques moscovitz avuka ushobora kugiterwa kuba utarabayeho neza bita complex d’oedipe aha usanga biterwa kuba nk’umukobwa agenda ashakisha ise basore akundana nabo yumva yifuza umusore umeze se bityo kuko ntawe ajya abona akajya ahora ahindagura arebe wenda hari yabona kumusore ahindagura ashaka azabasha gukunda nyina kandi bidashoboka kudafatisha buzima bishobora gutera kugubwaho n’iyi myitwarirejacques cosnier psychologue avuga gukunda gukundwa usanga bikenewe ahantu hose haba muryango kazi mur i societe n’ahandi hose umuntu akandagiza ikirenge birashoboka kazi wirirwa rukundo uhabona ibyo bizatuma urukundo n’abandi kuguha rwose urwifuza mukunzi wawe kandi kintu atagishoboye ese wakora gihe usanze uhora wifuza guhindagura abakunzireba amateka yawe nk’uko twabivuze haruguru guhora unanirwa gukundana n’umukunzi umwe bishoboka kuba biterwa n’uburyo wabayeho igihe complexe d’oedipe ibaze utiese njyewe n’umubyeyi wanjye tudahuje igitsina twabanye dute gihe cy’ubwana bwanjye ese yarankunze koko ese n’amukundaga nte ese nabashije kumusezerera mutima urukundo rw’umuraza nitoze kuba naruha cyangwa niwe ngishakisha itoze kubona ukunda atari igikoresho gukemura utubazo wifitemo uwo ukunda mwubahe kandi wumve waragwiririwe n’icyo kibazo guhora wumva wahindura abakunzi bitewe kumva udakunzwe neza reka kumva ikosa ry’uwo mukundana uwo mukundana hari ashoboye n’ibyo adashoboye bityo mwakire kandi witoze kunyurwa kwakira urukundo rwe hinga urukundo n’ahandi hatari mukunzi gusa haba muryango kazi ishuri kuba wirirwa cyangwa umara umwanya mwinshi udakunzwe ushobora kuba ubifitemo uruhare niba udakunzwe hose birashoboka urukundo bataguha wakwifuza umukunzi wawe azaruguha wenyine ikizamini atabasha gutsinda ese wakora ukundana n’umuntu umeze gutyo gukundana n’umuntu nk’uwo birashoboka ndetse ukaba wanamufasha gukira akibagirwa gushakisha abandi bakunzi birahagije kumukunda neza buryarya kandi ugaharanira kudatuma urukundo rukonja aha harimo nko kumwitaho kumukorera twa surprise mbese buri gihe ukajya uhora umeze nk’uri kumutereta bizatuma ageraho agatuza mugatuza mugatunganirwa nzira y’urukundoyanditswe sarongo richardmuhaburarw