uko wakongera gukunda ukishima gihe wababariye bikomeye rukundo rwawe ruheruka
iyo rukundo ukunda ugakundwa nk’aho uba ijuru rito bavuga uba wumva ibinezaneza bikuzuye umutima wumva ukeye noneho bikaba agahebuzo mukundana mubihamirije inshuti n’imiryango mukambikana impeta mukemeranya kubana nk’umugore n’umugabo bashakanye icyakora nyuma y’ukwezi buki utangiye kumenya neza mwakundanye hari byiyumvo kwishima bitangira kugabanuka ibintu bitangira kugenda nabi mubano wanyu ukarwana cyane ubishyire murongo nyamara bikanga ukabona mukundana ntacyo bimubwiye ahubwo bijya irudubi akenshi urukundo rwanyu rwakayutse cyangwa rwarangiye ntuba ushobora kubibona ubyibwire ariko gihe umenye garuriro rihari umutima wawe urababara agahinda kakakwica buryo hari n’abicuza impamvu bakunze cyangwa se bamenye uwabababaje waritanze wese rukundo umutima n’amarangamutima byawe ubiharira umuntu aragutenguha kubera ntibyoroshye kuzagira ufungurira umutima wawe birasa n’ibidashoboka icyakora nubwo urugendo rutoroshye kongera gukunda gihe umutima wawe washavuriye rukundo kandi wowe warakoze ibishoboka byose rusagambe birasoboka kongera gukunda ndetse ukishimira cyane umubano wawe n’umukunzi mushya muri nkuru rwandamagazine irakugezaho ibintu birindwi wakora kugira wongere wishime igihe ubona usa n’aho watakaje imbaraga zose rukundo rwawe mbere ihe umwanya ubanze ukire ibikomere buriya ab’igitsina gore bababariye rukundo bagira uburyo butandukanye kandi bwinshi kwikura gahinda kurusha abagabo hari abashaka kwiyibagiza agahinda bagize bakundana n’umugabo umwe gihe abandi bumva gusohokana gucudika n’abagabo batagira ingano byabafasha kwibagirwa ubuhemu bagiriwe nyamara inzira iboneye kongera gukunda ugakundwa ukabyishimira bisesuye ukubanza ugafata igihe ukikunda wowe ubwawe mbere byose ntukirukankire rukundo rushya u gihe wumva utari witegura bihagije ahubwo ukwiye kwibanda kubanza kugera wumva ukwiye gutangirira bundi bushyaibi nubikora uzaba wumva witeguye guha urukundo andi mahirwe wiheranwa n’amateka agenge ejo hazaza hawe rukundo ni rwose birasanzwe ndetse birumvikana cyane wagira amakenga gushidikanya gihe umugabo cyangwa umugore wumvaga muzamarana igihe cyose cy’ubuzima bwanyu musigaje aguhemukiye kandi waramwihariye ukamukunda bizira imbereka icyakora none kudashobora kugira icyizere wumve byose bishoboka kandi ibyiza biri imbere bizakubuza amahirwe kongera kubaho mubano usesuye n’undi muntu ni ingenzi kujya rundi rukundo utabunza imitima kuko si buri mugabo cyangwa umugore waremewe kuguhemukira abantu si bamwentugatume ibyakubayeho gihe cyahise bikubuza kunezerwa bihe bizaza igira makosa y’ahahise rimwe rimwe buzima hari biba ngombwa unyerera ukagwa kugira wige uzahaguruka ugahagarara wemye udahungabanywa n’imiyaga ibi akenshi bigenda rukundo tekereza masomo wigiye mutima wawe umenetse ubundi bigutere icyizere rugendo rushya ugana imbere kwigira makosa wakoze mbere bizakubashisha kubona gukundwa urukundo ukwiriye ntukemere rimwe kuguma kababaro ujye uhora ahubwo wibuka burya ikitakwishe kigukomeza kurushaho igarukire wishime unishimire wenyine mu gihe mukunzi w’umwihariko ufite ntibikwiye kukubuza kwishima ukwiye kwishima rwose nubwo wawe ufite mwishimana by’umwihariko ukuri n’i nyagasambu rirema niba hari inshuti yawe igutumiye musohokane muganire ntukiteshe mahirwe shaka akanya umarane igihe n’inshuti zawe n’abandi musanzwe muziranye ni igihe cyawe kwishimira ubwisanzure bwawe ugakora wumva bisanzwe bikunyura umutima ukishima ushoboye ibi ntibizatuma wumva gusa wisanzuye ahubwo bizanakurinda ubwigunge bushobora guterwa n’uko mukunzi ufite boroka block umukunzi wawe mbuga nkoranyambaga zose mushobora guhuriraho kwikomereza gufungurira mukunzi umutima wawe ntibyakorohera akenshi hari ufite ugihurira n’uwo mwahoze mukundana akakubabaza n’aho haba mbuga nkoranyambaga icyakubaho hano ugukomeza kumubona yikomereje n’ubuzima bwe wenda bwiza binyuze ashyira mbuga nkoranyambaga umunota wundi gihe wowe ukiri gahinda katewe n’umubano w’urukundo rwanyu utaragenze neza gato kuguma facebook instagram cyangwa snapchat ubona umukunzi wawe kera ashyiraho bishobora kugusubiza inyuma ndetse bikadindiza intambwe umaze gutera rugendo rw’urukundo rushya kuboroka umukunzi wawe kera mbuga nkoranyambaga bizatuma utongera kubona posts’ ze zigushengura umutima ndetse bitume ushyira mbuga nkoranyambaga ibituma wumva wishimye nuhitamo ibyishimo uzagira kandi n’uwo ugomba ibisobanuro byishimo byawe tangira ushake umukunzi mushya aha ho hakomerera benshi bagore ndetse n’abagabo nyuma kubabarira rukundo mbere nyamara si byakagenze nubwo utagomba guhita wirukankira gukunda none ngombwa kwidagadura ukajya abandi bigire inshingano yawe guhura n’abandi bantu gusura ahantu nyaburanga kwishimira ubuzima binyuze gutembera uku uzabona umukunzi mushya tangira buhoro buhoro ndetse nubishaka buryo budakabije ube wowe wishotorera abantu gusa ntukabye mbese ushabuke ariko wirinda kuba umwasama icyo ugomba gukora wowe gusa ukwigirira icyizere kandi ukihuza n’uwo wese ntacyo wishisha mu gihe gikwiriye kandi kidatinze umuntu wawe uzajya kubona ubone araje yinjire buzima bwawe cyane cyane igihe utabitekerezaga umva byose bishoboka ntute icyizere mu gihe mukunzi ufite ukwiriye guha urukundo amahirwe ntibyoroshye ariko ushaka bigenda neza ukwiye kwirekura ushaka kubona uhuza n’umutima wawe iyo ugize icyizere ugaha abantu amahirwe uba wifungurira umuryango w’amahirwe ntukibagirwe gukundwa kandi bizabe bigutera imbaraga kongera kubona guhabwa urukundo ukwiriye ni ibisanzwe rwose kumva ushidikanya gihe wumva ushaka kongera gukunda gihe ibya mbere bitagenze neza nyamara cyiza nko kwiyemeza gushira ubwoba ugafata icyemezo kigoye nyamara kizera imbuto nziza z’urukundo ubundi se kwiyemeza kujya rukundo si ukwiyemeza gusanga kwakira amahirwe atagira asa umwanzuro iteka ujye wita kureba uruhande rwiza rw’ubuzima kandi wigire byakubayeho gihe cyahise n’ubwo byaba gutandukana n’uwo mwakundanaga nubwo bitoroshye ndetse bisa n’ibidashoboka kongera gukunda ukishima kandi ntako utari waragize mubano w’urukundo mbere nukurikiza inama tukugiriye bizakorohera kurusha ubitekereza bisaba gusa gutera intambwe mbere kandi ugafunguka bundi bushya nubwo byumvikana nk’ibigoye cyane nshuti yanjye nyizera wabishobora ukongera ukishimira urukundo ugakunda ukanakundwa