impamvu zishobora gutuma umugore ataryoherwa n’imibonano mpuzabitsina
mu buzima bwacu hazamo n’ubuzima bujyanye n’imyororokere ubu buzima ahanini bushingira mibonano mpuzabitsina igikorwa kiba kireba impande zombi ukuvuga umugabo n’umugore nyamara usanga abagore bamwe bavuga batajya baryoherwa n’iyo mibonano ugasanga umugore arinze abyara gatatu atazi kurangiza ndetse anakora imibonano kuko umugabo abimusabye gusa ibi si ibintu byiza kuko imibonano igikorwa gihuza abantu babiri kandi bagomba kunezezwa kuryoherwa n’iyo mibonano hano twaguteguriye impamvu zinyuranye zitera kutaryoherwa n’imibonano ndetse turasoza turebera hamwe uburyo wabikosora noneho ukarushaho kwishimira gikorwa kugirango unezezwe unaryoherwe n’imibonano bisaba uba witeguye haba mubiri mutwe ndetse byiyumviro ubusanzwe umugore yiteguye gukora imibonano gitsina mabere hiyongeramo amaraso bikamutera kumva ubushake bwiyongereye ndetse ubwe akaba yanakwisabira mukora imibonano usanga abagore bamwe babikora batateguwe cyangwa batiteguye bikaba bishobora kubatera gukomereka kuko gitsina bubobere buhagije buba burimo ibi kubikosora bireba umugabo n’umugore mbere gukora imibonano bakabanza kwitegura bihagije bakoresheje gukorakorana kuganira utugambo turyoshye kuba badafite ikibatandukanya minsi ndetse kibabangamiye ako kanya ibi ahanini bireba abakora imibonano batarashyingirwa uretse binareba abagore bamwe niba ugiye gukora imibonano wowe wishinja icyaha ukoze wishinja guhemuka gukosa se cyangwa se hari ikosa wakoze utarasabira imbabazi ntabwo uzaryoherwa niba uzi guca inyuma mwashakanye nayo izaba impamvu ituma utaryoherwa kugirango ubikosore biragusaba kubanza kumva wafashe umwanzuro gukora imibonano utari ukwiye kugira ibindi wibaza ruhande niba koko wumva ukwiye kutabikora byiza kubireka kubikora utabyishimiye ibi hari igihe ushobora kutabyiyumvisha ariko ushobora kuba wemeye gukora imibonano atari ubishaka cyangwa witeguye ahubwo ukubera indi mpamvu ushobora kubikora kubera inyungu ubikuramo ushobora kuba warikuyemo muntu ariko yagusaba ugapfa kumuha kubura ugira ushobora kuba witeguye ariko yakuramo ugasanga wenda ntiyogoshe insya ugasanga se wenda ntasiramuye ubwa mbere muhuye cyangwa se afite igitsina kitangana ushaka gito cyangwa kinini mushobora kuba mwarakaranyije ariko mutariyunga nayo yaba impamvu ibi kubikosora bigusaba kujya gukora imibonano wumva ibyishimo mwembi kandi ukaba wiyumvamo koko mugiye kuyikorana iyo umwiyumvamo niyo agusomye gusa uhita ubishaka kandi kubishaka bikurikirwa kuryoherwa muri minsi kubera iterambere n’ikoranabuhanga hari igihe abantu bakundana batarabonana amaso maso bagahura biteguye gukora imibonano hari igihe uba waramuhaye udufoto duhanaguye neza ndetse twacyeshejwe nyamara atari usa neza nuko mwahura ukumva wowe ntiwisanzuye kuko amafoto yakubeshye si gusa ushobora kuba ufite umugabo yaragiye kure yaza agasanga wenda warabyibushye cyane cyangwa warananutse birenze yagusize ukumva ntiwisanzuye kuko wahindutse cyangwa se ukaba utwite ukumva biragutera ipfunwe ungana buryo buriri wumva utisanzuye umuti wundi ukwiyakira kwirinda gukoresha amafoto akugira ukundi utari ibi bituma wishimira waba uteye nabi cyangwa ukundi bikakunyura nubwo ubusanzwe gukora imibonano ukarangiza birwanya stress ariko nanone kuyikora ufite stress nyinshi bishobora gutuma utaryoherwa ibibazo kazi rugo se umwana urwaye cyangwa udahari kubura akazi cyangwa kwirukanwa n’ibindi byinshi biri bitera stress ibi nkuko twabibonye ngingo mbere bituma ubikora kubura ugira kuko mutwe ntuba witeguye niyo mpamvu byiza kubanza kwikuramo ibitekerezo bindi ugakora imibonano utuje kandi witeguye niba byose tuvuze haruguru habuzemo kimwe kigutera kutaryoherwa n’imibonano bivuzeko hari uburwayi runaka ufite gusa nanone burwayi busanzwe ushobora kutaryoherwa ariko bwakira ukaryoherwa ariko burwayi ufite uzi hari ikibazo cyane cyane mikorere y’imisemburo yawe akenshi utwite wonsa cyangwa gucura usanga imisemburo estrogen testosterone ihindagurika bikagira ingaruka kugira ubushake bw’imibonano iyo utari bihe bikakubaho byiza kwegera muganga akagusuzuma akamenya wakora wongere uryoherwe n’imibonano si gusa kuko ushobora kuba hari imiti gufata cyangwa ufite uburwayi buhoraho nabyo bigatuma utaryoherwa aha bireba noneho umugabo kuko hari uburyo ashobora gukoramo imibonano umugore ntaryoherwe si uburyo gusa ahubwo n’ahantu yateguye umugore igitsina cye kingana ndetse n’isuku ibi byose bitari umugore ashaka byiza kubihindura kandi bikaganirwaho bwisanzure niba umugore adakunda kubikora ahantu hasakuza ubyubahirize yaba adakunda umugabo ufite insya uzogoshe niba adakunda kumujya hejuru cyangwa kumwicaza byose ubimenye kutaryoherwa n’imibonano bagore bigira ingaruka bagabo kuko abikora akabona utabyishimiye bimutera kumva ntacyo akoze ndetse rimwe rimwe akaba yacyeka ibintu bitari byiza nko kuba hari ahandi ujya kuba se utamukunda cyangwa kuba atazi kubikora neza niyo mpamvu byiza gukosora ikibazo gihari ukaryoherwa