Do not spend your money at Jenny’s place unless you want to be harassed. Throughout my stay, Jenny harassed and violated my boundaries by giving unsolicited advice and making abusive comments. I have not felt respected or welcomed continuously throughout my stay (12 days). When I asked to meet with her to discuss how disrespectful and unwelcoming her comments were, she avoided meeting with me for long as she all of the sudden became too busy. Luckily I was able to find another AirBnB to stay in.
Some the interactions between Jenny and I include:
1. When I first moved in and met her, I told I was going to get my luggage from my other place. I came back later in the day around 8:30 pm and as I was struggling with my luggage and opening the door (she has unique doors that have different ways of opening them and I have never used them before) she sat on her computer and didn’t help. But when I knocked on the door telling her I was having trouble getting in, she rudely said, “no one else has had problem using those keys. And be careful about bumping my door glass.” Then she followed me up the stairs and said, “you should probably remove some clothes out of your suitcase because you’ll probably have to carry your suitcase. You break it, you buy it. It’s in my rules.”
2. Then the next day, I had issues locking her unique door when I was leaving and In her rules, it says if you leave the door unlocked, you get kicked out of the house. So I was concerned and wanted to make sure I locked the door right. So I ended up knocking on her bedroom door to wake her. She didn’t even answer my question but complained she was going back to bed because she was tired.
When I returned later that day, I apologized for moving in later and also for waking up and she said, “yeah, because you woke me up, I couldn’t go on my schedule bike ride..” Then she says, “you are going to have to practice opening the door. You seem intelligent, I don’t understand why you are having so much trouble.”
3. Then she started making signs in the house to remind me to be more green—like being careful about using too many paper towels and what is recycled and not. Then I tell her I make tea in the morning and she was like use my kettle, it is quicker and less noisy. I tell her the only issue is the kettle has tap water and I use spring water. So she storms out of the room and says, “Yeah, well that’s absolutely ridiculous! I drink tap water and I’m just fine. I would be more concerned about the BPA in the plastic the spring water is in if I was you!”
4. Then the next day, she sends me a message that she wants to teach me how to recycle and compost. I’d like to add that I know the basics of recycling but the way she is treating me, she is acting like I don’t know anything. She ends up explaining that paper towels cannot be recycled with food grease on them and that my tea bag paper cover cannot be recycled because the ink is made of wax. She tells me whenever guests come, she feels it is her duty to educate and she knows she doesn’t walk the talk of being green completely because she still drives cars and used airplanes. I thanked her for the education and thought her micromanaging was over.. but then I get home from work the next day and open my door and see sheets of paper put underneath my door with examples of what to recycle and compost.
5. Jenny’s responses when I tried to meet with her these past two days have made me feel very unwelcome and disrespected. See her messages below: “This is my only free evening this week, and I prefer not to have to set up an appointment during my time to rest and relax. I would prefer that you message me here.” “I can meet with you at 10:15 AM tomorrow for 5 minutes. The only things I can imagine necessitating a private, scheduled meeting with me, as your host, would be allegations of sexual abuse by a resident, or, as I had worried, pest infestation, which you let me know yesterday night, was not a problem. I am ridiculously busy right now with work and I also have social events I am helping organize the next two evenings. I simply do not have time for this kind of mysterious bullshit drama.” “I am sorry you feel that way...As I have previously explained, these are my busiest few weeks of the entire year, and changing my schedule at the last minute is very hard. You asked me what time I could meet today and I gave you a time, but now that does not work? I work tomorrow from 7:30 AM to 4 PM and will be going to an event for my bike club shortly after I finish work. I could meet for a couple of minutes at 4 PM. I'm afraid that is the only time I have available tomorrow.”