I usually only get entire places in Airbnb — I haven’t done a room only option in years. But I was in the city for a wedding and only needed a place to crash so decided to save some money. And Ian had pretty positive reviews so I decided to go for it.
The check-in was simple and the room was clean. Ian was communicating pretty well throughout the check-in.
He was aware I was coming home late after the wedding. After getting home at midnight, I saw him and his friend hanging out in the living room. My bedroom was next to the living room and I had to cross through the common space to also go to the bathroom. I didn’t quite feel comfortable changing into my pj’s and crossing through that space to brush my teeth and all because I would have preferred some privacy. So I didn’t. But that wasn’t a big deal. Then I went to bed. And I think they left shortly after. A neighbor either below us or next door was on the phone for about an hour. So I couldn’t sleep for that hour. I was starting to grow frustrated.
I finally fell asleep but woke up at around 2 am because Ian and his friends (now a guy and two girls) came back home from a bar and were drinking, chatting, and playing the guitar. I also had no idea he’d be having people over. As a female being alone in a space occupied by multiple strangers, I didn’t quite feel safe to come out and ask them to be quiet. It was 2 am so it wouldn’t have been an unreasonable ask. About 30 min later, I decided to message Ian through the app to ask when his party would end. After I didn’t get a response for 20 min, I decided to pack my bags and leave.
I left at 3 am to look for a hotel. Some might say I could have just asked them to be quiet and it would have been okay but: 1) I’d imagine as Airbnb host and decent considerate human being, he should have known not to cause noise at 3 am. 2) if a host has people over after the bar, he should have communicated it to me upfront. He did not. 3) being a woman in an unknown space where there’s multiple people, I know better not to cause trouble and confront people, especially intoxicated people.
I should mention that Ian was apologetic the next day but I still think that his behavior was deeply inappropriate.