On our 2nd to last day, we had a meal in Sally's kitchen, at around noon. Sally was on the phone and said it was a professional call. I misinterpreted and said we were fine with that. What she had meant was that we were not supposed to be around. She asked if I hadn't read the listing, but before I could answer, she had left the flat, upset. At that time it said in the listing that Sally used the kitchen for working purposes. Sally has now changed the text, making clear that guests are supposed to have their meals, except from breakfast, in their room. So we sat there feeling very clumsy and intrusive. I wrote her a note saying I was really sorry, suggesting we had a talk, face-to-face next morning. In her response it was clear that she took my apologies to be ironic. She wrote that there was nothing to discuss and refused my apologies. We didn't get to see her again. I felt terrible for having stepped over another person's privacy line in this way, but on the other hand, I think this situation could have easily been avoided with a clearer communication. Sally only hinted indirectly at what she could have simply said straightforward. "Would you mind having your meal in your room, during the day?". Of course sometimes other people do things they should have known were inappropriate, and this can make you angry, and not think straight. I acknowledge this, but I also feel it's out of proportion to refuse an apology, and to refuse any further discussion. After all, what we have done wrong was to be in the wrong place at the wrong time. We were left with a feeling that the whole setup, with a shared kitchen, which is also the hosts office, and her bedroom, wasn't really a comfortable setup for the host and - since it's not comfortable feeling intrusive - neither for the guest. At least this would require better communication.