We had a very bad and stressfull experience with this host.
The incident:
Initially, we booked said room from the 2nd till the 5th of september, 2021.
In the morning of the 3rd of september, I received a text message on my phone from the host asking if the sanitary napkins in the bathroom and toilet trash can belonged to my girlfriend. We confirmed this (we atleast assumed it was hers, but it turned out it actually could have been someone else entirely as there were more female guests in the house at the time of our stay) and asked if there was a problem. He replied with: "what do you think". He proceeded to give us a rant about how women in his social environment place the sanitary napkin inside a special plastic bag before throwing it away, and complaining about the horrid smell. He attributed it to my girlfriend maybe being too young to know (she is 23 and on top of that a very well mannered and hygienic person) .To our knowledge very few women actually buy extra plastic packaging for sanitary napkins. We were embarrassed, angry and confused, but we just apologized, said we didn't know that an extra plastic package was needed, and went to retrieve the sanitary napkins. Underneath the garbage Farit had dumped on top of the sanitary napkin we were asked to remove, we confirmed that my girlfriend had wrapped her sanitary napkins in the plastic packaging of her new sanitary napkin like most well-mannered women. Furthermore, the only thing that smelled horribly was the trash we had to remove out of the bin to retrieve the napkin.
Afterwards, we went outside to grab our bikes, but because we were anxious we had not left the trash correctly and would receive another weird message, I made a run back to the kitchen to verify if everything was left clean. While checking, I forgot to take off my shoes, and thus broke one of the house rules.
Later that day, around 21:00, we were relaxing in the city centre when I received a call that the Firat wanted to stop hosting us. We were asked to return at once and evacuate the room. My girlfriend was literally shaking. Why? What had moved the host to make such a drastic decision? Are we even going to have enough time to find a place to sleep tonight?
We found Firat back at the house, where he once again requested that we leave his residence at once and that we should cancel the reservation if we wanted our money back. We were shocked when he did not even want to explain what we had done wrong. The sanitary napkins and the short walk to the kitchen were the only things we could (and still can) infer. In the polite but very tense conversation that followed, he mentioned we were too arrogant for him to host us, yet he didn’t want to explain how he thought we were arrogant. Moreover, he was not comfortable with hosting us because of our age, and then asked us our age to prove his point. For the record we are both well above 18 (both 23) and thus allowed to book airbnb residences, and is a host even allowed to ask us that sort of thing? Combined with the previous comment that my girlfriend was probably too young to know any sanitary manner, he was definitely insinuating we were too young to have any manners. But again, when asked to enlighten us as to why he thought so, he just insisted we leave his house and that we could speak to Airbnb for further details as to why he was kicking us out. When we asked Airbnb support, it turned out he never gave the exact reasons to Airbnb.
We also have reason to believe that he has been constantly monitoring our activity and our conversations. He randomly mentioned in his last text message that I might have forgotten that people from Flanders understand Dutch too, insinuating that he knew we were talking about him and the bizarre situation in Dutch when we were alone (we only spoke English with Firat). Also, when I forgot to take off my shoes, Firat was not present, yet he knew about it. Because of his complete lack of interest in us or our journey upon arrival, we didn’t feel welcome or safe in our room to begin with.
Overall, we were humiliated, insulted, discriminated against for our age, and possibly had our privacy violated by a cold and uncaring host. Firat has been given an official Airbnb warning as a result of this incident.