The apt was as pictured and comfortable, but for this host it is less about hospitality for the guest and more about pushing her own agenda.
There was a curtain in the livingroom that was down before we arrived. It wasn't hurting anyone, least of all us. I had msg her on the app earlier in the day and, after not hearing from her for three hours, we stopped looking assuming she wasn't replying or the app want working again. I was taking my son to the Opera that evening as a special gift for his graduation. We had very expensive box seats and were on our way out with plenty of time when there was a knock and a man wanted to hang the curtain.
Normally I would say yes, but I hadn't heard from host about him coming, we were on our way out and our documents and valuables were not locked up nor did we have time to lock them and we couldn't take big bags to the Opera. So, I asked him to please come in the morning since we are checking out early- well before check out time. He calls her and she insists I speak with her even after he explained everything and despite my telling her again while I am on the phone she demands that it must happen NOW.
By this time we are nearly late. And upset. But we didn't have time to argue. We ran for the door and the Uber we had waiting, but in our upset and haste we left the tickets. What was supposed to be a pleasant, relaxed evening was marred by the host's behavior and the fact that we had to watch the first 2/3 of the Opera on a TV screen in another room instead of from our box seats.
Which is more important? That you have a curtain hanging up? Or that you have consideration for your guests?
She could have texted me when I didn't respond (I gave her my#earlier and told her I was having trouble with the app there), she could have asked when was a convenient time for us instead of just sending someone over, and when she heard that we had opera tickets and we would be late for it she could have been accommodating instead of bullying and pushing her own agenda.
I absolutely understand wanting to take care of things, but could the curtains have waited? Could she have done so many things in a more considerate way. I believe so. I think if you stay here and don't need anything from her you'll be fine, but if it comes down to a choice between what you need and what she wants, she will likely pick the latter like she did with us.